Red talks with BOX VAN DEE about Depression and Suicide
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- Опубликовано: 7 апр 2021
- I was honored to be able to talk with Dee about depression and suicide- this was off the cuff and not planned ahead. I wanted to do these videos on mental health because of Lee MacMillan from the RUclips channel "Life With Lee" She passed away March 26, 2021 #SpeakUpForLee
Many Thanks to Box Van Dee for doing this with me. / boxvandee
And Tanya of Van Life Voyages who filmed and edited this! (I don't know how to edit yet)
/ vanlifevoyages
My live on Tuesday April 6th on this same subject -with Lorraine of Traveling with Special Abilities:
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I feel so alone.......I never thought I’d be in this place -I feel they’re so cold -they don’t care -why should I? I’m holding on by a thread -maybe I should just let go? And I wanna get out of here so bad but how do I know it will be any different anywhere else? I guess I’ll hold onto that thread of hope that it will be and I’ll just try to hold on one more day -maybe I should go back on an anti-depressant?
#RedheadedWritingHood
#REDPOEMS
Please hold on just one more day
One more morning cup of coffee on the porch with my doggie
One more dish to wash
Sing a song, write a poem
One more earring lost,
Send one more text,
Tell another joke, laugh again
Listen to that new song by Taylor or Billie
Or that old Beatles one,
Maybe you'll take another trip
Finally across the sea,
Or the little grand canyon where they went without me,
Flirt one more time,
Love one more time,
One more minute, one more hour,
One more month, one more year,
One more tear,
You'll make it,
You are enough!
#RedheadedWritingHood
#REDPOEMS 
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You should have cut me off, Lol. I never shut up.
DEE ❤️Now you need to shush! 😂 Thank you so much!!!! You are awesome! ❤️ you -RED
Dee, we could listen to you ALL day. No-one wants you to shut up :)
Dont say that Dee...loved your words of healing....I love you and I am so happy we all can talk about this now...it was so taboo back then and now I am thankful things did change. Your story is so much like mine...I would walk in the valley, cry, talk to God...I felt that my Dad and moms divorce was because of me ...it was times.. Thank you for this videos🤗❤
Thank you Red for this video...I was in a bad place today and really had I came across this one.. Been trying to get caught up on videos and getting to know you all more...I am so thankful I have been meeting more of the same people..who can help and that we can help others❤🙌 love you🤗
@@TraceyKorol Love you too Tracey! Dee and I both wanted to put something helpful out there- so we are both happy to hear. It has been helpful Thanks! ❤️
Thanks to both of you. I honestly think us men go through it just as much as women do. I just think we hide it more. Thanks for the inspiration.
They do and it's harder for them to talk about it.. Thanks Ron!
Red, this was a great interview you did with Box Van Dee. Dee is awesome and so inspirational to so many people. Thanks to both of you for sharing your stories with us and some of the ways you have dealt with depression. Good luck to you on your journey, Red. God Bless both of you.
You are so welcome!!! It was totally impromptu but came out great. Some of the best things are unplanned. many Thanks to Dee and Tanya (Vanlife Voyages)!
I thought that I was connected to your channel. But darn it I wasn't. I fixed and corrected that. I clicked on this one video because it hit home with me. I myself have suffered depression and anxiety attacks. I use to think people made this stuff up. But it's very real. After being diagnosed with a rare nerve disease called RSD/CRPS. And saw what my future hold. I was scared and depressed knowing that things that I once cherished to do were gone. My life was turned upside down. Then after so many days and times praying. I knew that I wanted a way to help others. Something that brought meaning to my life once again. That's when I started doing RUclips. Trying to uplift someone so they don't head down the path I was going. Dee is such a inspiration to everyone. I always told Dee that I hope that I can inspire people like she does. Wonderful interview there. I was in tears at times. Bless you both. See you at Mayberry
Hi Susan! Sorry for the late response to your comment! I did not know about "comments held for review" Thanks for connecting! Yes Dee, Tanya and I were on the same page in wanting to inspire/help/give hope to people who maybe struggling with depression. And yes, Can't wait to meet you at Mayberry! 😁
I think that Nomad Life helps keep people happy because you’re forced to be outside a lot. Having a dog helps too because you have to walk the dog every day, and that gets you outside a lot. There’s something healing in nature and all we have to do is get up and go outside.
That's true Sandra!
👍Great interview 👍! Loved it! Very inspiring 👍
Thanks Naj!
Such a sweet, strong woman. Love her dearly. 💕👍🥰🙏🐕
Thank you Jim!!! I know right? We love Dee!!!
Loved this interview. Love Dee's raw honesty and openness. Regarding going alone into nature, my mom always said,"to blow my mind."😆
I go to the beach to blow my mind. Sometimes all I can do is sit on the
trailer stairs and watch the palm trees blow. Just to touch nature.
Years ago my therapist told me i had to have a depression schedule. I got 15 minutes to lament every 3 hours, so i had this schedule. I would feel something come up and look at the schedule, Oh, gotta wait till 11:15 to cry over this. Then 11:15 came and I couldnt get into the lamenting mood. So after 3 days of trying to schedule my sorrows, it just seemed silly, I didn't bother with it anymore and just pushed every feeling till another time. It suddenly seemed not worth the time invested. I use that today when things overwhelm me.
Ever since I saw her being interviewed by Bob Wells I've always liked Dee.
To see this openly discussed is hugely important, especially because so many people find it particularly difficult to do so.
I've always felt that it was very courageous for people to be able to speak about their experiences.
Hello Felix Cat!!! Thanks so much for your support! Yes- Dee is a beautiful soul and an icon now of the Nomadic community ❤️ I had just met her in person and we spoke on the upcoming live I was about to do on this subject and Dee and Tanya of @VanLifeVoyages helped me with this! I was totally blown away by their actions!!! We all knew what an important topic this is and we came together to do this video!!! I'm in love with this Nomadic/Vanlife/Travel community on RUclips They are all so awesome! RED ❤️
Lots of wisdom there. Great interview.
Thanks Doreen!
Thank you for this interview
Thank you for watching! Let’s be a part of the healing! ❤️🙏😁
Excellent conversation. The points both of you made were absolutely spot on. TY! 💞 LUCRETIA
Thanks LUCRETIA
We love Box Van Dee. It is so great that got to meet her and interview her.
Yes we do love her!!! It was awesome Bill and totally 'off the cuff' 😀
very heartfelt conversation Red and Dee
Thank-you!
Wonderful interview. Straight from the heart and so helpful to know that today’s life style is for many, impossible to maintain. So much dysfunction and sadness. Nomad living takes the money out of the equation of how to live a quality life. Nature is a great healer for those who have been battered and beat up.
Thank-you!
Red, you really worked some magic with putting Dee at ease. I'm not sure I've seen her speak so well for so long since her stroke.
In 1990, I caught a glance of a car parked next to the woods along the side of a neighbor's long and isolated driveway, off the long and isolated private road I was living on, a dead end with only 5 houses. Nobody ever parked there. 2 months earlier, right after Christmas, a friend at work, who was moonlighting as our handyman after work at a city water department, told me he was on duty on Christmas day when his partner spotted a hose going from a car's exhaust pipe, into the car as a suicide attempt, and how they saved the person. So during the 1 second I had to take a good look as I drove past, I looked at the exhaust pipe. HOSE! I jumped out and told my wife to go home and call the ambulance and cops, car exhaust suicide in progress. The car was locked, but the hatch lock wasn't engaged due to the hose, so I crawled through the hatch to unlock the door, then went around and pulled out an unconscious 19 year old girl in her pajamas, and set her on the ground. Her skin was completely gray. I managed to hold her head where I could hear her breathe, though when the cop arrived with oxygen it turns out I wasn't holding in in the best position to prevent choking on saliva. Anyway, she was breathing and still unconscious, limp like a rag doll. After the ambulance arrived and took her away, the cop asked what I thought of the suicide note. I'd been too busy to look for a note, hadn't seen it. He apologized that he wasn't allowed to say what it said. So I wondered if it was really bad, and she'd try suicide again. Fast forward 2 years, a car pulls up next to me at a red light 5 or 10 miles from home, and it was that car and that girl, singing and drumming on the steering wheel to the music. What a relief to see she was healthy and happy enough to be singing along with the radio! My girls were in the car with my wife and I during the ordeal, but were only 2, so don't remember it thankfully. I often wonder how her life went after that.
P.S. to Red,
You happen to look very related to two first cousins of mine. It almost makes me wonder if my aunt had 3 kids rather than 2, only half joking. Facial features, voice, tone, speech patterns. We were all born and raised in NJ. My grandparents raised those two after my aunt died at age 40 in 1965. Her husband had earlier left them.
Wow what a story! Yes -sounds like she got better and thats great! 🙏
Thanks! - *Keep Climbing Dee* ! I'm loving these updates... 🇺🇸 ❤️
God bless you Dee and prayers for anyone who is in a dark place. God is my light and I encourage everyone to call on Jesus who in your intercessor. Thank you.
Most awesome video!! Thank you!💙💜
Glad you enjoyed it Cliff.
Definitely one of the reasons I work so much..keeps a person from staying in their own head so much
Hello! Yeah, Everyone should do what works for them.
This is video gold. Wow ladies great job. Thank you.
Thank-you Evening Shade!
Hi Red 🤓🌴. Thank you and BOX VAN DEE for sharing your experience, strength and hope dealing with depression and hopelessness. I appreciated hearing that nomad life actually helped lessen depression. As I plan for nomadic life, this has been one of my concerns.
Please say a 🙏 for the family of LIFE WITH LEE. She lost her battle with depression last Friday, 4/2/21. She was only 28.
You are welcome Kim! Yes I did my live on April 6th because of Lee and then this interview just happened with Dee when I met her and Tanya and Derec of VanLife Voyages on April 3rd Lee actually took her life on March 26th and she's just one reason why I decided to do these videos. Yes lets continue to talk about these things and pray for all those affected by depression and suicide!
Nothing but love and admiration for you lovely ladies 🤠🐕🙏🇺🇸❤👍
Michael and Bella Thanks so much! 💖
Thanks for this!
You're welcome Lady Bugout!
🌼 I enjoyed the interview. Thanks!
You are welcome Shanna!
A vert good topic Red and Dee.. Thank you both for sharing
Your Welcome Gracie! Thanks for watching! ❤️
Great conversation 👍 I could have listened to your conversation for hours 💗
Thank-you Roaming Ruca!
Omgoodness I love you See, and I'm just getting to know you!!! You are a beautiful soul. Many many blessings to you!!! Red, this was a heartfelt interview!!! Great job!!!! Much love to you both. (Emilie)
Awwwwww Emilie. Thanks so much! Red loves you tooooooooo ❤️
What a great interview! I am so happy I subscribed!
Awesome! Thank you!
Thank you to both of you beautiful ladies. This really struck home with me. This was such a blessing and came exactly when i needed to hear it. ❤
I am so glad to hear! And it was 3 years ago but as important as ever and I don’t hang out with Dee and Tanya anymore but they are good people and I’m glad we came together for this important issue! 😊 👍
I really enjoy listening to each of your stories as I have battled depression for many years myself, I learned some much from this discussion, thank you ladies, and I agree that nomadic life and staying busy helps in the healing process.
Hi Apryle! Thanks! Yes nomad life helps and it’s also helpful that’s it is discussed more readily these days. Thanks for listening 😊
Great interview Red...
Thanks Charlie!!!
Love Yaa Red. Your truely amazing !! So Brave for covering these touchy topics on youtube.
Thanks
Thank you for sharing your story Box Van Dee
There is an expression that the universe is always on time. Without going into detail, I witnessed an I incident a few days ago around this topic that didn't exactly go well. This honest, raw discussion puts it onto perspective. Thank you both for the balance.
Thank you so much Margaret. Dee and I (and Tanya who filmed) just hoped to be of help to people who are dealing with this issue. 🙏
I'm in tears as I listen . I can see that laddies are set-up for this because you are wired to solve not only your problems and you fill as if those people around you need help to solve thiers. Thank you for being so open. and helping conversation. ive watch box van when she live in the car.this is very good therapy for people who are struggling.my self fault the words you are nobody and never will amount to anyone. but eat 14 this girl seen me sitting alone at skating rink. Skated by said hello. The the time come for couples to skate no asking she took me by my hands said let's go. It was the first time I felt strong inside. Thanks very much laddies.
Awwwwwwww Thank-you too. This was totally unplanned and I was so grateful for Dee and Tanyas help and their hearts to encourage others to hold on! 😊 And That’s a beautiful story Teddy! That was your wife- Right? 😉 RED ❤️
Yes she as you know 41 married and 45 together thanks Red I'm glad I have watched and been a part of your youtube.
@@oldcarjunky me too! 😊
Thank you for sharing this. We are in rough times.
Hello Lily. We are. You are welcome. I felt lead to do it after the death of Lee (Life with Lee) last year. 🙏
Yes allow yourself to feel those feelings🙌
absolutely Tracey!
GOD BLESS...IM A 12 YEAR SURVIVOR
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Red that’s so cool you got to hook up with Box Van Dee I’m so jealous you guys had a great conversation love this video. Running all your videos now. 💕💕
It was so cool and unexpected, Renea. Dee and Tanya of Vanlife Voyages are so nice and down to earth! They both helped me with this video (Tanya filmed and edited). I am so grateful because it is an important topic that should be talked about.
I believe there are 1000’s of hurting souls out there.
but I also believe the world is changing . If we keep it real, with no judgment on others….just like u ladies are doing right in this video we can all help to grow & heal together . 💫🙏🏼❤️💫 thank u for sharing ladies .
Hi Victoria!!! You are so welcome! It was so great to get to know you and Terry at Gina's!!! Yeah the world IS changing and there is a depression pandemic also!!! The world is hurting and we should try to do all we can to help people and offer them HOPE which is why I'm so looking forward to your channel and following your journey! It's always an honor to meet people like @BoxVanDee and Tonya of @VanLifeVoyages who have the same ❤️ to HELP, HEAL and offer HOPE ❤️ Red
@@RedheadedWritinghood ❤️❤️❤️
great interview and perspectives
Thanks Linda!
Dee sent me. Great interview Red. I love listening to Dee.
Hello Becky!!! I love listening to her too! She's full of wisdom!!! Thanks for coming over!!! ❤️
Excellent and very honest vlog. We are all different with complicated feelings and emotions, also brain chemistry plays a role as well. However, we all have a common thread and thats the need to be loved. Finding what heals you is definitely the key to finding inner peace and joy. Life gives us hurdles and mountains to climb, the trying times are part of our life lessons. it's figuring out how to deal with those challenges is the hard part, and as Dee said, these things tend to pile on. I highly recommend a good therapist to help with coping skills, and trust worthy friends that are good listeners are priceless as well. However, stay mindful and understand they are coping with their issues as well. May God bless both of you!
Hi Adventurous Spirit! It was so great meeting you! You are right but I have had a difficult time through the years to find a good therapist. I've had two that were good who actually just moved their practices with barely any warning and one I had recently was actually the best and very helpful was only temporarily working at the health department for an internship as she was still in college- so it was also free! After my divorce I no longer had health insurance and for a time could not afford therapy. So the free person was such a blessing. 😀
@@RedheadedWritinghood It was wonderful meeting you as well. It's very unfortunate your experience with therapist wasn't the best however, you're thriving and you are a pleasure to spend time with. Enjoy your vacation! 🧘♀️
Box van dee is a great Lady.
Hello Billy! Yes she is! Thanks for watching!
i tottly forgot about this video. rewatching now
Thanks for watching!
hi, thought I'd check you out after see you on Greg live stream, depression is on the rise, but it real hard to see though, but activity is a great help hobbies help too, talking is a great help, good video, catch you again
Hello Captain! Thanks for listening ❤️
@@RedheadedWritinghood NP, and your welcome at thecaptainshow
Great topic.
Thank-you Katie! 😀
@@RedheadedWritinghood I saw you last night @GLOWLive you have a good channel and I subbed. I look forward to watching more🥰
Thank-you so much! 😀
God bless God bless
Thanks Camile! 😀
My Mom Did CS at age 81. I think she should have spent more time in the outdoors !! . But it's been a long time 2002.She was Bipolar and went off her meds. God calls us When it's time and these ladies are working life.❤
I’m so sorry Nanci BiPolar is a disease that needs to be managed like diabetes or anything else! My brother who I mention in this video had it. Sadly it is often fatal 😞
And I also have it (BiPolar) only mine is thankfully mild and very manageable
Hi red nice introduction god bless you all
Thanks Butch and Lucy!!!
I think we as women have things tht do bring us down and we learn to lock it away and then something else happens and we do the same thing and after awhile this has built up and for some, unfortunately the journey ends and then there is others tht even end up locked up somewhere and then some learn to start letting it go a little at a time. We learn to live/deal with things in our own way. Some find music, art, etc. Then others stay locked in silence forever. We all have a path, how we walk it is up to us 🤗♥️🙏
That's true Laura, Thanks for sharing.
Uh oh...this was supposed to Premiere today for the Raid Parade. Great interview nonetheless ❤
Yeah I had trouble getting it off FilmoraGo from my phone. Derec and so it downloaded yesterday and then I made it private to go today at 11:15 am but I didn't know it couldn't "premiere" twice. Thanks to Tanya for all her help! She's a KEEPER Derec! ;-)
Lauren Daigle is from my home county of Aroostook County Maine
❤️ Lauren! 😊 She came with her army and RESCUED ME ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ RED
@@RedheadedWritinghood 💕💖
Gotta correct that... Different Lauren....🤭🤭🤭soooo embarrassed
@@mommas2470 No worries 😉
Thanks for subbing and watching happy hour!
Your welcome and Thank you!
Tfs your stories. ❤
Thanks so much!!! Im all about the stories!!!!! 😊
Some find help writing just 5 positive things that happened that day even if it's a thought. It's a start.💝 Also have your hormones checked, not just female hormones. Plus on the road you don't have to listen to annoying leaf blowers, you can listen to the birds, the ocean, wildlife, meet people who care, change your surroundings when you need and want to. 🤗
Hello Christine! Very good tips!! I do have a thyroid issue too. And I write (hence the name) to vent and yes being in nature is sooooooo healing!!! I have never been this happy in all my life! I'm so grateful! Thanks for watching! RED ❤️
Duloxetine helped me !!! It worked
Xoxxo