Hard if live or work with them 😢 but possible with a good support network.. and not to hurt 😢 as said.. so not to become as them.. why? Would we want to intentionally hurt another human being struggling in the pea soup we all live in.. ❤❤
"If you have been brutally broken, but still have the courage to be gentle to other living beings, then you’re a badass with the heart of an angel." - Keanu Reeves
An empath can't change , no matter how badly abused 😢 We go quiet 🤫 😌 God made us differently 🙏 And with His help, we heal and move forward to help other's. DANISH IS DE BOMB AT THIS !!!! ❤ BLESSINGS
Same in here...deeply hurt but empathic and putting the blame on myself...such a narcissist Now he and his family think its my fault eventhough they know what he did!
@ blaming yourself is the opposite of empathic. If you’re empathic you have a good ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes so you definitely wouldn’t think it’s you. This is shane and co-dependence. I lease get therapy
Is it true that empaths always go quiet when being hurt? A normal response to most people is to give back when being slandered abused and hurt in different ways either aggressive, passive aggressive or with silence. Every body react in different ways. I believe you can be an empath but still react when someone abuse you. You are not a bad person when you give back with words and feel revenge. Thats normal. And you can have a heart of gold even if you do ❤
No contact is empowerment! They can respect your absence . The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker. The best way to end all contact is no contact. Rejection is protection. Complex PTSD From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker Your Upbringing Isn't Always Responsible For Your Relationship Problems - Ken Reid podcast 🌞 Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞 What You Need To Do In Order To Recover Off The Back Of A Bad Breakup -Ken Reid podcast ♥️ Healing From A Breakup-Ken Reid podcast ♥️ From Self Love To Self Healing -Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️ Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
@@laurolima152 The fact that someone's absence brings peace and joy says a lot about who they are. I used to say this growing up when I didn't hear or see either of my parents. Everytime away from them I realized how vibrant, enthusiastic and creative I was because they weren't around. As soon as I started to try and form a relationship they would give me another reason to stay away from them.
THIS.. we don't have to walk on eggshells. We can joke around without worrying he'll find something to intentionally take in an offensive manner to make it about him.. or the focus can actually be on the kids without him finding ways for it to be on him by forcing them to listen to every single interaction he's had with people that make him feel smart and special... It's extremely annoying that he can't let the kids have the attention as kids. He doesn't view them as real people.. he'll talk over them, interrupt them, brush off their feelings without a second thought. I am so over it atp.
After I walked out on my narc husband after 44 years our grown sons stopped talking to him…they had been waiting for me to leave him…we now enjoy special occasions without his attention mongering
When my narc parents leave I get energy to bath and clean my room and I feel like I have more time. When they here I always feel tired and I neglect myself.
The issue is when you're a naturally defiant and slightly combative person while being sensitive makes it so fuckin hard to not get pissed. I can drop a pencil and get annoyed lmao.
Yes and dont give them the chance to control you. Create a setting where you are in control over them which means to have firm boundaries and not be available too much
36 hrs of marriage to a Narcissist and I finally divorced him after 36 years of lies,betrayals, verbal,emotional and mental abuse that ended in physical violence towards me and physical violence to my home… I and my youngest daughter ended up getting a permanent restraining order from the Judge and he is still… after 7 year enraged about it. His problem not ours… his behavior warranted a restraining order and thinking he is above the law… he broke the restraining order and I reported it and he was put on probation for a yr, not allowed to leave the state and had to successfully attend and finish an anger management course and DV coursework. Of course he has denied all of it to our 2 oldest daughters but our youngest was here, witnessed it and called the police! So grateful to be done with him and his deceit and abuse. 🙏🙏🙏
Yes exactly.but the narc abuse is worse than anything ever experienced to mankind.i still feel that I am in a brain fog even after leaving that pathetic shit.i don't even know if I loved him ,or anything with that matter.after being with him ,I became a narc myself,isolated .I cried myself that he is not being held accountable because he is kind to everybody.he is so sweet and helpful,no ego at all.but I know his gaslighting and manipulation just because I kept boundaries.i came back to my empathetic self after leaving that pervert.
Becoming indifferent was actually the easiest part for me. Realizing that someone is mentally disturbed, evil and hates me have it easy. The hard part (which I'm still dealing with) is dealing with myself and trying to come out of the cocoon I made for myself while healing. Best of luck to all. We won bc we found the answer- many have not.
Yes, I went through the grieving and have now become indifferent. Watch out, though, because with indifference comes the temptation to be hard and/or bitter.
"You wait for their words to match their actions." Such a hard lesson to learn, when you are gaslit for your entire childhood. But I'm glad to learn it 52 years later.
Exactly. I am still the same soul, just far, far, distance . No way he was ever going to change me but the fog you rise up above is difficult after you leave. In every way. BUT he did not change my soul or purpose.
The indifference is hard as I know his childhood w/narc Dad n 4 Sisters all 10,12,14 16 when he was born. Abused & made to not even know who he is. ADHD/hoarder/ Diabetic/ drinks less, loner & confused. So set boundaries & keep them!!!
Wow is all this true? If so, then I definitely am successful. The last time he saw me he tried to offload his poor behaviour on to me. I then said, I like myself. I love I care and I am compassionate. Nothing you do will ever change that. I feel sorry for you and .... you need professional help". And slammed my door closed. Amen.
That's right! We are still here surviving and thriving! He tried to break me and couldn't! Oh that's why he has a new gf/fwb/ new supply within less than a month of our break-up! Forget clown he's an entire disfunctional circus! 😂 Love wins! Positivity wins and negativity loses! 💯💪🏾🔥💜
I totally agree. Absolutely right. I see through the narcissist. I am kind, I'm not abusive, I still choose love, I cannot be played with, I do jot wear my heart on my sleeve, I still choose to be vulnerable with others.
Thank you Danish 💖 I feel like I'm getting there slowly. I don't wish any harm on them. It would still hurt me to see them hurt. That's why i don't want to look at them. I'm pretending to be indifferent to her for now. She doesn't have to know the truth. It's really uncomfortable. I don't want her to think she's getting to me. Trying to get through the feeling of being a bad daughter. I just remind myself she's a bad mother so we're even 😂
After I was discarded by the ex I worked in a surgery and cared so much for the patients. I loved them and they loved me and they became a huge family to me.
Thats how they drain us and make us feel, its mind game and war kike situation, where you need strategies and personality skills. Jindgi ki talash m moat k kitne krib aa gyr 😢
I think that's me right now. He can't antagonize me anymore. I know who he is. It became very boring to him. He knows I don't care whatever happens. I do my own thing. I don't entertain his BS.
All 5 of these are spot on. I have been working through healing from a narcisstic marriage of 16 years. I recently am on the other side of this process and it feels good. I was able to do all 5 of these and haven't felt this good in years.
This validated that I'm right where I need to be and I should give myself a pat on the back which I will cause I don't expect anyone else to pat me on the back and I'm practicing self love. As a result of narcissistic individuals I am still suffering in the aftermath, and struggling with self acceptance. I feel like a child that is upset because they took her life when they saw her future and never allowed her to grow up into a beautiful woman. That is how I feel. Like my growth has been stunted. This goes deeper, so much damage has been done I don't believe my life will get better cause the truth is it won't. I'm done lying to myself.
But, keep wanting it. It’s like prayer, only real. It took me to 70 years old and still worth it. Folks like Danish are helping us; he is the most loving. We are lucky to know him. Don’t lose heart. 💛
EMDR helps. No contact and grey rock works. After two years no contact he hunts me down with a ruse. Our kid invites us for dinner. He suggests we get married. Weird. "is this another bait and switch?" He called to disparage our grown child who wants nothing to do with him since last Xmas. Have not heard a peep. Sociopath, verified by my psychiatrist dad.
This became really apparent at the end when he started hurling my positive qualities at me like they were insults. I have never heard anyone else talk about this point and I was completely stunned.
So needed to hear this. My Narc. Neighbour used his son to cort me for his benefit. Lucky I could see threw this. I would have been in a flood of tears. Narc:s. They set the illusion then reality jumps in. I've chosen to ignore these Narcs and flying monkeys
Thank you Danish. Just this morning I was flat on my face on the carpet crying and praying. Sometimes I even wish I could be unkind but it is not in my makeup. I can only pour love, compassion and forgiveness on others. I have a grandmother and 3 granddaughters living with me. The youngest one became an irritation to me so I prayed for wisdom and love to handle her and it came to me, so thankful. My narc is living and working on site at a building project where there’s ample supply for him. Luckily for fear of being caught out he doesn’t demand I stay there with him. He gives me enough monthly income to get through so I’m thankful. I’ve thought of getting a divorce often but for the sake of others depending on my help I cannot but now God gave me help and support in this situation
It's so reassuring and heart-warming to read that God is actively helping people who have been consistently abused by narcissists. I have been through a personal hell for years, but it truly ramped up over the last few months, and I prayed to God/Christ Jesus for insight, righteous wisdom, and reasoning to aid me in this hellish battle with four narcissists in my home, as we share our home. God has given us peace and calmness recently. Prior to that, my kidney's adrenals were suffering, and I was a shaking, nervous, highly stressed individual because of their devious antics they employed to shake the foundations of my security. The devil is the chief narcissist, and his demons enjoy using individuals who are not in alignment with Jesus to create extreme havoc in Christians' lives. I have been praying more than ever before, but fasting, reading the Bible more, and praying in your mind, quietly, daily, is what will bring about great changes to improve your life. Even though these narcissistic individuals go to church, sometimes, it's only to be seen and to network for business and their fans/support, but back at home, they are truly callous, malicious individuals. I have forgiven them to God, but everything is always a work in progress, and I always have to remain alert, humble, and not be taunted to feel or even think badly against them, but to see them as pawns for the evil spirits that take pleasure in using these folk against myself and my little family with our beloved pets.
The victim of a narcissist has the right to be unkind without being labeled monster, irracional and abusive. Who cares how the narcissist feels about that. They don't get to vote anymore. It seems that even the people who are supposedly there for the victim end up telling them that, if they're not good girls, they are not worth of approval and validation.
Took me a couple years of hard work with your help, but I feel like my old loving self again but indifferent to them at the same time. I made it!! And thanks for all your guidance 💚
I have been destroyed beyond repair, and I am still kind and caring towards others, i can't help it. That is ME. The part nobody can change. I do wait and see if peoples words meet their actions. After figuring out that nobody was going to be there and give me support. They believed the evil narcissistic demons lies. I have become indifferent towards everyone. I don't care if people are there or not. I am learning to love myself again. Protecting my heart against all evilness. I have learned to see through peoples masks. I don't trust anyone now.
Same. Danish really resonates with me. I feel him even more than Dr. Romani. While like her as well, I really FEEL Danish. He brings a very personal perspective to this subject, less clinical. Very real & heartfelt. 🎉
Twelve years of being used and abused finally over. Two years of therapy and he has zero hold over me finally. Whoop whoop!!! We are survivors not victims and they fall while we stand back up!!!
These videos have been extremely helpful by validating my thoughts & feelings. These sites have kept me strong & on the right path. I appreciate you very much. Best wishes to everyone going through this positive journey.
I've been through Hell with narcissist's in my life, I STILL CHOOSE LOVE...Why?. I refuse to become like them giving the devil victory over me. I belong to GOD,JESUS & HOLY SPIRIT since childhood. My parents deserved prison for what they did to us 3 kids.They passed away, now to answer to GOD.
Thank you so much for this video I wish you would do some more videos like this I am in this situation thank you I watch you all the time You are a very empathetic and professional person keep your videos up You have great information to give us I have been with this man for 47 years I left him and I took him back after 6 years that is the biggest mistake I ever did I went back to my vomit please help me thank you
I love this kind of realistic thinking. So difficult to understand. Right on Danish. You are so great at explaining this non sensical aberration. I wrote a song, "My Heart is beating ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow, ow out on my sleeve now Got a beat now... Fairy tale n tall talk of Beanstalks and ends Merry go round the Grail again Don't stop being friends Broken hearts mend Love in your heart is worth more than anything..."
Agree with your message with one comment : I don't want to "hurt that narcissist" ,(or anyone!). They were a blessing! I finally woke up and I choose love, but I HAD to learn to LOVE MYSELF (took my whole life! It's recent and it's because of the person's coldness and actions to me!) Set those boundaries, people! Love Creator, Source, God Almighty, Lord Jesus , the Angels--- whatever you call a higher power ! We all deserve our good. Claim it! Believe ! Have faith. Do not Fear, Only Believe, said Mark in the Bible. - Mark - 5:31 🕊️💖🕊️
Number 4 really hit me the hardest because for some reason when i firgure people out for who they are, they either lash out at me, start cursing for no reason or gets nervous and uncomfortable. To top it off with all of that they rather leave and blend with the rest of the crowd. I just shake my head at them and pray for them.🙏🏽🤦🏽♀️
Thnk you for highlighting our path, past, present, abd help us look towards a brighter future. Thank you for teaching me about the growth and lessons i hve gained from these experiences. May the lord bless you 🙏❤
All correct. I'm almost there. I appear to be indifferent but actually, I'm not. I feel sad that this relationship with narc MIL cannot be repaired . Going against my grain hurts only me.
Love love love loooovvvveee… yes I haven’t become an unkind person at all. I am not even apprehensive about being kind to others. I am still kindness incarnation.
"The greatest vengeance is to not become like thyne enemy" -- Marcus Aurelius.
🎯🎯🎯
Thanks. I love that. I actually have a small book of M.A. philosophy. I’ll have to get it out & revisit it. 💛
I like that. And another one: "the best revenge is to live a good life" (don't know the author)
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Vengence is mine Saith the Lord. They will pay!! ❤
No contact and no response worked for me. Takes away their power...
Hard if live or work with them 😢 but possible with a good support network.. and not to hurt 😢 as said.. so not to become as them.. why? Would we want to intentionally hurt another human being struggling in the pea soup we all live in.. ❤❤
@DrineThePoet heck yeah! Work well for me!
"If you have been brutally broken, but still have the courage to be gentle to other living beings, then you’re a badass with the heart of an angel."
- Keanu Reeves
I told my specific narcissistic person that they showed me how to be independent and not need them.
An empath can't change , no matter how badly abused 😢
We go quiet 🤫 😌
God made us differently 🙏 And with His help, we heal and move forward to help other's.
DANISH IS DE BOMB AT THIS !!!! ❤ BLESSINGS
I’m an atheist and yet I still agree with you in my own way
Same in here...deeply hurt but empathic and putting the blame on myself...such a narcissist
Now he and his family think its my fault eventhough they know what he did!
@ blaming yourself is the opposite of empathic. If you’re empathic you have a good ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes so you definitely wouldn’t think it’s you. This is shane and co-dependence. I lease get therapy
Empath is a myth.
Is it true that empaths always go quiet when being hurt? A normal response to most people is to give back when being slandered abused and hurt in different ways either aggressive, passive aggressive or with silence. Every body react in different ways. I believe you can be an empath but still react when someone abuse you. You are not a bad person when you give back with words and feel revenge. Thats normal. And you can have a heart of gold even if you do ❤
I ignore him. I don't care.
Right there with ya!
Same to you dear ❤
THATS DUMB 😂IGNORING ND NOT CARE WHY BE AROUND THEM 😂ON MY END LEAVING WAS THE BEST REVENGE😊FINALLY WITH PEACE 😊
No contact is empowerment!
They can respect your absence .
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker. The best way to end all contact is no contact. Rejection is protection.
Complex PTSD From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker
Your Upbringing Isn't Always Responsible For Your Relationship Problems - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
What You Need To Do In Order To Recover Off The Back Of A Bad Breakup -Ken Reid podcast ♥️
Healing From A Breakup-Ken Reid podcast ♥️
From Self Love To Self Healing -Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
Took a long time.... People need to know ... kind hearts....pure love ...
God's grace is sufficient...
Knowledge is power❤
"Presence or absence doesn't matter", but me and my kids enjoy more with her absence. The mood is lighter.
@@laurolima152 The fact that someone's absence brings peace and joy says a lot about who they are. I used to say this growing up when I didn't hear or see either of my parents.
Everytime away from them I realized how vibrant, enthusiastic and creative I was because they weren't around. As soon as I started to try and form a relationship they would give me another reason to stay away from them.
THIS.. we don't have to walk on eggshells. We can joke around without worrying he'll find something to intentionally take in an offensive manner to make it about him.. or the focus can actually be on the kids without him finding ways for it to be on him by forcing them to listen to every single interaction he's had with people that make him feel smart and special... It's extremely annoying that he can't let the kids have the attention as kids. He doesn't view them as real people.. he'll talk over them, interrupt them, brush off their feelings without a second thought. I am so over it atp.
After I walked out on my narc husband after 44 years our grown sons stopped talking to him…they had been waiting for me to leave him…we now enjoy special occasions without his attention mongering
When my narc parents leave I get energy to bath and clean my room and I feel like I have more time. When they here I always feel tired and I neglect myself.
The fact that you remain diplomatic and unfazed by their drama and chaotic behavior makes them feel defeated,,lol
The issue is when you're a naturally defiant and slightly combative person while being sensitive makes it so fuckin hard to not get pissed. I can drop a pencil and get annoyed lmao.
Thank you for your clear and common sense teachings about narcissists.
Thank you for teaching all of us these lessons you are highly appreciated❤
Yes and dont give them the chance to control you. Create a setting where you are in control over them which means to have firm boundaries and not be available too much
Say few words so they can’t get a “handle” on you.
Indifferent
I can not be played
Not overly vulnerable
Win win 🙌🎉
36 hrs of marriage to a Narcissist and I finally divorced him after 36 years of lies,betrayals, verbal,emotional and mental abuse that ended in physical violence towards me and physical violence to my home… I and my youngest daughter ended up getting a permanent restraining order from the Judge and he is still… after 7 year enraged about it. His problem not ours… his behavior warranted a restraining order and thinking he is above the law… he broke the restraining order and I reported it and he was put on probation for a yr, not allowed to leave the state and had to successfully attend and finish an anger management course and DV coursework. Of course he has denied all of it to our 2 oldest daughters but our youngest was here, witnessed it and called the police! So grateful to be done with him and his deceit and abuse. 🙏🙏🙏
@@loiswilliamson2635 Younger Daughter learning to be wise & courageous.
The spirit of the lord is upon you.
The lord taught me this when I was going through narcissistic betrayal and a gangup
maybe they were sent into our lives as training programs...
I also feel like that
Or maybe we are being tested by God.
@@susansupino4011 so that we can learn to give unconditional love
@@susansupino4011 so that we can learn to give unconditional love
Yes exactly.but the narc abuse is worse than anything ever experienced to mankind.i still feel that I am in a brain fog even after leaving that pathetic shit.i don't even know if I loved him ,or anything with that matter.after being with him ,I became a narc myself,isolated .I cried myself that he is not being held accountable because he is kind to everybody.he is so sweet and helpful,no ego at all.but I know his gaslighting and manipulation just because I kept boundaries.i came back to my empathetic self after leaving that pervert.
SO TRUE, MARCUS WAS A SMART MAN. NEVER LEAVE BITTER, LEAVE SMART. GOD WILL BLESS YOU. 😊❤❤❤
Very well said. #3 I've become totally indifferent towards them. I don't care, presence, or absense. They BOTH mean the SAME to me 😂
I choose me. Over that narc every time. Xx
Hoping they see n try to change starting with a sincere apology..😅😅😅😅
Yes! When love doesn't work, walk away.
4 out of 5. Not indifferent to him yet, still grieving/processing, but I’m on my way. Thank you, Danish, and good luck to you all. 🙏🏼❤️🩹🙏🏼
Same with me, still hurts but I'm not crying every day ❤
I needed this so much, thank you 💚❤️
Becoming indifferent was actually the easiest part for me. Realizing that someone is mentally disturbed, evil and hates me have it easy. The hard part (which I'm still dealing with) is dealing with myself and trying to come out of the cocoon I made for myself while healing. Best of luck to all. We won bc we found the answer- many have not.
Yes, I went through the grieving and have now become indifferent. Watch out, though, because with indifference comes the temptation to be hard and/or bitter.
@@stingray0033, ditto. The healing takes a long time.
This man is sooo right, kindness kills those types of people I'm doing it as he speaks. Love always wins ❤.
Actually,there's no way this guy can be this wrong.If you want to know the facts,this guy is posting videos that are in contradiction of each other,
"You wait for their words to match their actions." Such a hard lesson to learn, when you are gaslit for your entire childhood. But I'm glad to learn it 52 years later.
Oh my goodness.. me too. I'm 52 aswell 😮 innit??
Exactly. I am still the same soul, just far, far, distance . No way he was ever going to change me but the fog you rise up above is difficult after you leave. In every way. BUT he did not change my soul or purpose.
The indifference is hard as I know his childhood w/narc Dad n 4 Sisters all 10,12,14 16 when he was born. Abused & made to not even know who he is. ADHD/hoarder/ Diabetic/ drinks less, loner & confused. So set boundaries & keep them!!!
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I FELT LIKE YOU WERE TALKING DIRECTLY TO ME ❤❤❤
I know the feeling. Very personable and kindness with strength. Thank you for sharing.
This is the TRUTH! I listened to this 15 times.
I still wear my heart on my sleeve. I won't let them take my tenderness away. Thank you, Danish.
Wow is all this true? If so, then I definitely am successful. The last time he saw me he tried to offload his poor behaviour on to me. I then said, I like myself. I love I care and I am compassionate. Nothing you do will ever change that. I feel sorry for you and ....
you need professional help". And slammed my door closed. Amen.
That's right! We are still here surviving and thriving! He tried to break me and couldn't! Oh that's why he has a new gf/fwb/ new supply within less than a month of our break-up! Forget clown he's an entire disfunctional circus! 😂 Love wins! Positivity wins and negativity loses! 💯💪🏾🔥💜
You are precious I'm proud of you. Spot on🎉
I totally agree. Absolutely right. I see through the narcissist. I am kind, I'm not abusive, I still choose love, I cannot be played with, I do jot wear my heart on my sleeve, I still choose to be vulnerable with others.
OMG! The best answer to the question I have been asking myself. All 5 got checked as correct. This is after 18 months of separation. Thank You!!
EXACTLY 🔥🔥🔥See right through the narcissist 😳
thank you my Lord god 🙏🏽💞✝️ all glory n praise to you ❤❤❤
Thank you Danish 💖 I feel like I'm getting there slowly. I don't wish any harm on them. It would still hurt me to see them hurt. That's why i don't want to look at them. I'm pretending to be indifferent to her for now. She doesn't have to know the truth. It's really uncomfortable. I don't want her to think she's getting to me. Trying to get through the feeling of being a bad daughter. I just remind myself she's a bad mother so we're even 😂
That last one, especially, takes time. Thanks so much, Danish Bashir.
I love the wind in your hair! 😂😂 its so dramatic, cinematic ....awesome❤
Thank you, Danish. You are describing me. I feel like I just received a diploma. 💛
Agreed! Be blessed. 🙏
After I was discarded by the ex I worked in a surgery and cared so much for the patients. I loved them and they loved me and they became a huge family to me.
Thank you for your insight ❤ it means a lot 🥹 to me to validate my feelings and I felt like you understand.
Thats how they drain us and make us feel, its mind game and war kike situation,
where you need strategies and personality skills.
Jindgi ki talash m moat k kitne krib aa gyr 😢
I think that's me right now. He can't antagonize me anymore. I know who he is. It became very boring to him. He knows I don't care whatever happens. I do my own thing. I don't entertain his BS.
Amen best way to be
Presence...NO CONTACT.
All 5 of these are spot on. I have been working through healing from a narcisstic marriage of 16 years. I recently am on the other side of this process and it feels good. I was able to do all 5 of these and haven't felt this good in years.
Absolutely, worked out our karma with that person, moving on with a forgiving attitude
This validated that I'm right where I need to be and I should give myself a pat on the back which I will cause I don't expect anyone else to pat me on the back and I'm practicing self love. As a result of narcissistic individuals I am still suffering in the aftermath, and struggling with self acceptance. I feel like a child that is upset because they took her life when they saw her future and never allowed her to grow up into a beautiful woman. That is how I feel. Like my growth has been stunted. This goes deeper, so much damage has been done I don't believe my life will get better cause the truth is it won't. I'm done lying to myself.
You're life will get better...you just need to believe. God loves you infinitely and He is always only a prayer away!
#JesusLovesYou
#John316
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But, keep wanting it. It’s like prayer, only real. It took me to 70 years old and still worth it. Folks like Danish are helping us; he is the most loving. We are lucky to know him. Don’t lose heart. 💛
Pat on the back, gold stars on your forehead and a big virtual hug for you! Reflect!
EMDR helps. No contact and grey rock works. After two years no contact he hunts me down with a ruse. Our kid invites us for dinner. He suggests we get married. Weird. "is this another bait and switch?" He called to disparage our grown child who wants nothing to do with him since last Xmas. Have not heard a peep. Sociopath, verified by my psychiatrist dad.
This became really apparent at the end when he started hurling my positive qualities at me like they were insults. I have never heard anyone else talk about this point and I was completely stunned.
So needed to hear this. My Narc. Neighbour used his son to cort me for his benefit. Lucky I could see threw this. I would have been in a flood of tears. Narc:s. They set the illusion then reality jumps in. I've chosen to ignore these Narcs and flying monkeys
Thank you Danish. Just this morning I was flat on my face on the carpet crying and praying. Sometimes I even wish I could be unkind but it is not in my makeup. I can only pour love, compassion and forgiveness on others. I have a grandmother and 3 granddaughters living with me. The youngest one became an irritation to me so I prayed for wisdom and love to handle her and it came to me, so thankful. My narc is living and working on site at a building project where there’s ample supply for him. Luckily for fear of being caught out he doesn’t demand I stay there with him. He gives me enough monthly income to get through so I’m thankful. I’ve thought of getting a divorce often but for the sake of others depending on my help I cannot but now God gave me help and support in this situation
Amen! God will *ALWAYS* carry you through the storm! 🙏 🕊
It's so reassuring and heart-warming to read that God is actively helping people who have been consistently abused by narcissists. I have been through a personal hell for years, but it truly ramped up over the last few months, and I prayed to God/Christ Jesus for insight, righteous wisdom, and reasoning to aid me in this hellish battle with four narcissists in my home, as we share our home. God has given us peace and calmness recently. Prior to that, my kidney's adrenals were suffering, and I was a shaking, nervous, highly stressed individual because of their devious antics they employed to shake the foundations of my security. The devil is the chief narcissist, and his demons enjoy using individuals who are not in alignment with Jesus to create extreme havoc in Christians' lives. I have been praying more than ever before, but fasting, reading the Bible more, and praying in your mind, quietly, daily, is what will bring about great changes to improve your life. Even though these narcissistic individuals go to church, sometimes, it's only to be seen and to network for business and their fans/support, but back at home, they are truly callous, malicious individuals. I have forgiven them to God, but everything is always a work in progress, and I always have to remain alert, humble, and not be taunted to feel or even think badly against them, but to see them as pawns for the evil spirits that take pleasure in using these folk against myself and my little family with our beloved pets.
She's blocked and ghosted from my life I still pray for her and her kids
The victim of a narcissist has the right to be unkind without being labeled monster, irracional and abusive. Who cares how the narcissist feels about that. They don't get to vote anymore. It seems that even the people who are supposedly there for the victim end up telling them that, if they're not good girls, they are not worth of approval and validation.
Took me a couple years of hard work with your help, but I feel like my old loving self again but indifferent to them at the same time. I made it!! And thanks for all your guidance 💚
Exactly 💯. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You are always point on! And it makes me laugh now… maybe another sign of recovery! 😂
I have been destroyed beyond repair, and I am still kind and caring towards others, i can't help it. That is ME. The part nobody can change. I do wait and see if peoples words meet their actions. After figuring out that nobody was going to be there and give me support. They believed the evil narcissistic demons lies. I have become indifferent towards everyone. I don't care if people are there or not. I am learning to love myself again. Protecting my heart against all evilness. I have learned to see through peoples masks. I don't trust anyone now.
I love ❤️ this! I’ve already listened to it over and over!
I’m holding on tight to this one!
Thank you Danish! 😊
Same. Danish really resonates with me. I feel him even more than Dr. Romani. While like her as well, I really FEEL Danish. He brings a very personal perspective to this subject, less clinical. Very real & heartfelt. 🎉
So, *SO* Much truth in this!!
Stay strong!!
Twelve years of being used and abused finally over. Two years of therapy and he has zero hold over me finally. Whoop whoop!!! We are survivors not victims and they fall while we stand back up!!!
These videos have been extremely helpful by validating my thoughts & feelings. These sites have kept me strong & on the right path. I appreciate you very much. Best wishes to everyone going through this positive journey.
Thanks!
#3 "presence or absence both mean the same to me" Yes! 💯
I've been through Hell with narcissist's in my life, I STILL CHOOSE LOVE...Why?. I refuse to become like them giving the devil victory over me. I belong to GOD,JESUS & HOLY SPIRIT since childhood. My parents deserved prison for what they did to us 3 kids.They passed away, now to answer to GOD.
💯🙏I won that way from my narcissist husband.. He saw my victory over him before his death.. Thank GOD❤
I needed that message tonight. Thank you ❤
Thank you so much for this video I wish you would do some more videos like this I am in this situation thank you I watch you all the time You are a very empathetic and professional person keep your videos up You have great information to give us I have been with this man for 47 years I left him and I took him back after 6 years that is the biggest mistake I ever did I went back to my vomit please help me thank you
Thank you so much for your insights. They are so on point and so empowering. THANK YOU!
Organically I see whether actions match word. I sure can see thru people effortlessly. Yes, I am in a good place now.
💯 I am finally here!I thank God .
My heart. Still chooses love.
I match every one of these signs. Yay!
You are telling TRUTH my friend! ❤
Please keep giving us your way out how to treat narc & support words. We desperately need that.
I love this kind of realistic thinking. So difficult to understand. Right on Danish. You are so great at explaining this non sensical aberration.
I wrote a song,
"My Heart is beating
ow, ow, ow, ow,
ow, ow, ow, ow,
ow, ow, ow, ow
out on my sleeve now
Got a beat now...
Fairy tale n tall talk of
Beanstalks and ends
Merry go round
the Grail again
Don't stop being friends
Broken hearts mend
Love in your heart
is worth more than anything..."
He projects so much - he told me today I was the devil or a demon- he knows I love God & simply wanted to hurt me. He succeeded at doing 😞
Thanks man... This made me feel sooo good... I'm there!
Thank you, thank you so much for being here. ❤❤
Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou soooooooooo much for posting this video. God bless you
Agree with your message with one comment :
I don't want to "hurt that narcissist" ,(or anyone!).
They were a blessing! I finally woke up and I choose love, but I HAD to learn to LOVE MYSELF (took my whole life! It's recent and it's because of the person's coldness and actions to me!)
Set those boundaries, people! Love Creator, Source, God Almighty, Lord Jesus , the Angels--- whatever you call a higher power !
We all deserve our good. Claim it! Believe !
Have faith. Do not Fear, Only Believe, said Mark in the Bible. - Mark - 5:31
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I just made the narcissist disappear from my mind forever.
I love #3😂😂😂😂
Absence or presence both mean the same.
This was great. I know that I am now completely out of his reach🎉. Time to celebrate 🎉
Thank you, ur words helps me a lot.
Every evil returns to sender Amen
Number 4 really hit me the hardest because for some reason when i firgure people out for who they are, they either lash out at me, start cursing for no reason or gets nervous and uncomfortable. To top it off with all of that they rather leave and blend with the rest of the crowd. I just shake my head at them and pray for them.🙏🏽🤦🏽♀️
I believe they actually thought I would die.
Thnk you for highlighting our path, past, present, abd help us look towards a brighter future. Thank you for teaching me about the growth and lessons i hve gained from these experiences. May the lord bless you 🙏❤
All correct. I'm almost there. I appear to be indifferent but actually, I'm not. I feel sad that this relationship with narc MIL cannot be repaired . Going against my grain hurts only me.
Well said. Respect.
Too bad that hurt doesn’t make them stop coming for us…
The power of wind makes you look amazing, as if you are flying, very smart way to harness the element of air, very nice, I digs it!!!! 😊
I see them or not makes me no difference. And I chose to love the people that reciprocate it back to me
100 percent correct!
You are so correct again, Danish! Bravo! You ROCK, bruh. 🎉
And after all they did, me still keeping my essence and being happy is making their wound a grievous one; the icing on the cake! 🎂❤️
You got that right! 💯❤️🎉
@@memmemayer9622 🫸🏻*clap*🫷🏿
Your videos are genuinely helpfull❤❤
Thank you 😊 I guess I have successfully dealt with one with your motivation.
I have watched your video, all are relateble to and helped me a alot. Thank you sir❤❤
Almost reached to this stage
Thank you Danish 🙏 I really appreciate this advice.
Love love love loooovvvveee… yes I haven’t become an unkind person at all. I am not even apprehensive about being kind to others. I am still kindness incarnation.