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I don't know if I can speak for all women on this, but I know for shy women (*cough* me *cough*), I can barely speak to the guys I like. It's like opposite flirting - I'm warm and friendly with guys I have no interest in, and can barely form sentences with guys I'm interested in. Also, if the girl in question is a joker or is particularly sarcastic (again *cough* me *cough*), ribbing or poking fun is probably a good indication of flirting. Humans are confusing. How the species has progressed to this point is beyond me.
That's like exactly me, but then I get the wrong message across. The guy I like thinks I'm a bit rude and that I don't like him, and the guy I don't care about thinks I do and just starts acting weird around me and I'm like "no offense but stop pls"
Madelaine - That is totally me! Maybe that is why I'm still single at 30? I get tongue tied and start stuttering so bad that the guy ends up just raising one eyebrow with somewhat of a concerned look on his face.....or at least that is how I feel:/ Will I ever find someone I'm comfortable with????
Madelaine McLaughlin i'm the same way if I'm not really interested in the guy or I don't see him as a challenge then I'm carefree and open but if I really really like the guy I think he's awesome or I am intimidated by him I can barely speak or say anything I'm shy I lock up
1) Stands with shoulders back and hands on hips 2) Adjusts his clothes 3) He raises his eyebrows and smiles 4) He gets way to animated on things you have in common 5) Tries to get close to you 6) Physical contact 7) Extends the conversation 8) Wants to find out if you're dating someone 9) Tries to protect you and anticipate your needs 10) Zones out when he is talking with you
I just realized why I like watching your videos... you often raise your eyebrows, make imaginary eye contact and smile. In other words, you're flirting with me! hahaha
As a woman, I have some of those same flirtation responses: smile, laugh, touch. I will make eye contact, and look down shyly sometimes. But if I admire a guy a lot, I am more likely to share openly and have a discussion with him. By the way, men often try to appear taller when they're near me...they stand up straight and extend their necks. It's usually because they're taller than the average man and have never had a woman look them in the eyes before! But that's not necessarily a flirtation; sometimes they're just uncomfortable! :D
That's what irritates me the most. I feel you. I guess he's waiting for you to ask on a date - which in my opinion is really annoying - OR he's just waiting to be sure about going out with you. I don't know honestly
we both know that i would never ask him for a date so i think he is a player or he might already have a relationship... anyways i think that i'm a good looking smart woman and i deserve much better than waiting for a guy who can't assume his attraction for me so i decided to let him know that i am not no longer interested by being more distant and even avoiding him
Rania Mansour that's what I usually do when it comes to relationships that make me think I deserve more and I'm glad to see someone else does like that too!
R M you're absolutely right! you deserve much more than someone who's unsure! attracted to you or not, he needs to have his head right for you to even consider him
It's so cool how instead of you just making another boring dating advice video, you incorporate a comedic vibe into the video. Even though I'm a guy I still enjoy watching your videos. You are literally a genius man 😃
A secret way women flirt is biting their lip more than they usually do, because women too can image what it be like to kiss you, hold you and get intimate with you. Women do quite a few of the same flirting secrets as men. Thank you so much Matt for all of your videos, I absolutely love them . XOXO
I really like this tut. Just hearing about the signs of a man flirting is so beautifully sweet...(and thank you Mat Boggs for conveying this so artfully with the tenderness and joy it deserves). It shines a whole new light on your guy and on men in general. Married, single, dating... that chivalry for ladies NEVER GETS OLD!!! It's beautiful every time!🌻
When I like a guy I start shaking when I see him, my knees are weak and my hands are shaking. I get really awkward and I can barely look at them 😂 so there, there's my sign. No wonder I'm still single
BTW is this mainly for American guys? I think I'm pretty good at noticing signs and I think sometimes culture plays a role. like some cultures are more touchy feely than others.
I was told by a few people that it's my eyes, they are naturally flirtatious and when I was told this by a certain person I stopped doing it because I was in a relationship and I didn't want to be giving off the wrong signals to other guys that I was potentially interested
No problem .... i do a little coaching help lady understand how man r wired ... it really help them understand that it not so personal and to enjoy the experience
foranimalwelfare yes....true sister so true...we want to know that you have something you are thriving for or already have for yourself.I want to be a biomedical engineer and my crush is a paramedic...he is 22 im 18 and he has even bigger dreams.He wants to be a doctor😊😊
To be honest, I watch too much of this kind of video about body language, but I counteract everything I learn. When girls like someone, they subconsciously raise the pitches of their voice, so what I'd do is I'll speak from the deepest of my voice. My crush will never know. And I, I'll be forever alone.
i recently had a man flirting with me and i did not even think he was, but now that i watched your video i realized that he was flirting. the smile and raised eyebrows, and extending the conversation were spot on. im use to having guy friends and this helped me open my eyes a lot.
You'll never see any of these from the shy introverts, just so you know. You have to really dig to get to know those types of guys but we tend to be the best, the diamonds in the rough so to speak.
Number 10 had me dying. I have a guy friend that does this. He finally did something the other day that made it obvious he was interested. It's so awkward sometimes though cause I'm usually super confident and I'm sure he is too but we both act like awkward idiots around eachother. Lol
I love when a guy is showing empathy and affection towards people. He is feeling hurt when you tell a story of yours that is sad and depressingly sound like. He is doing this because he feels your pain and you feel him feeling that! I love those men. Also he is a good listener and doing with genuinely.
For girls you know we like someone when that person comes in the room and we sit up, our mood becomes better even when we are upset and our eyes light up
I did too. I was thinking men just weren’t listening so I’d just stop talking lol... then he’d say what were you saying, then I’d be thinking “why? You weren’t even interested in what I was saying.” Lol he was zoned out!
I smile, laugh and make eye contact with a guy that I like and try to be more approachable. I also like to admire his accomplishments and allow him to come closer to me if I feel comfortable with the conversation and connection. I also try to feel the vibe and energy he brings when we talk.
Signs I am flirting: I smile, I laugh at what they say, I compliment something about them like their shirt or admire how they handled a situation or how they are growing their company. I let them know I like how they think.
I work in customer service with the public. I am in a culture where calling each other Love, Hun, Doll, Dear,..... is normal. As is winking and smiling. This makes flirting difficult to pick up on. I have learned to pay attention to the energy of the men I am constantly coming in contact with. I find a way to mirror their energy if I can. I have no problem passing my number. We can iron out the details later. Rejection is a part of life. I don't let it get to me. However, you'll know I like you cause I run into stuff, fumble, trip, blush, QUEEN AWKARD.
For Me, flirting/Crush only works/Comes the most, when I am super Calm, especially when the environments is not noisy or crowded. For woman to look for supperDeadly signs which are not our common Flirting habits ARE # 50%50 we narrow and wide our eyes with deep gaze at her #Have wide and straight posture, hands on the hips too #scratching our neck and down to the chest. Just to draw the attention towards upper body, Shoulder,neck,chest! #Deep voice 100% This only happens which Lady gives the sign.
Okay, so, let's start from the fact that as a shy girl, I'm not really into openly flirting, you know (at least no more, when i was a child i used to tell my crush instantly i liked them and kept "flirting" lol). But there are so many ways you can understand I'm into you, by my body language. When I'm nervous around my crush, I tend to say "normal things" 'cause I don't want to say anything stupid so I don't risk. I laugh a lot and I smile a lot. I may be even stuttering a little bit. Everytime he talks to me, I'm surprised by that (positively surprised), and I raise my eyebrows. My body is always towards him, even tho I'm supposed to seat correctly, if he's like on the other side of the room, my legs will be directed towards him... what else? I probably turn red too, I'm visibly shy and a little bit nervous, and I always try to say something whatever I can, 'cause I want to talk to him of course but I'm way too shy to flirt!
I got all amped up like I was on something - feeling really happy. I wasn’t on anything except excitement - that he was around and seeing him. Haven’t had that happen in awhile but it felt great!
Matt, when my crush approaches me (and he comes by my desk every day) I make eye contact, give him a brilliant smile, and speak. He does talk with plenty of other women in the office, and so far no dates.
I don't know if my best friend is flirting with me or not but he always do the things that make me feel he's attracted to me. He is very touchy and speaks very kind to me. Maybe it's just my assumption but I can't help myself, I don't want to fall for him.
I have to tell you. I could not stop laughing during this video, and it wasn't the content or you. But I do love how you're animated, through accents and body movements. You're actually funny and have quality material. Cheers to you, keep rocking
#1: Stands with shoulders back and hands on hips: 0:06 #2: Adjusts his clothes: 0:23 #3: He raises his eyebrows and smiles: 0:41 #4: He gets way to animated on things you have in common: 0:59 #5: Tries to get close to you: 1:12 #6: Physical contact: 1:27 #7: Extends the conversation: 1:45 #8: Wants to find out if you're dating someone: 2:20 #9: Tries to protect you and anticipate your needs: 2:52 #10: Zones out when he is talking with you: 3:21
I remember one time I was in the middle of getting dressed and thought of something I needed to tell my boyfriend. So I threw the first thing I found which happened to be the white t-shirt I'd slept in, no bra underneath. I went out to the living room to tell him what I needed to tell him and in the middle of my message I noticed he was completely zoned out. So looked up to see what was distracting him and saw his focus was on my chest and how my breasts looked under the thin white tshirt. At 60 and being together 20 years I took that as a supreme compliment.
The one thing I do, is to try to put an extra effort into my appearance, whenever there is a chance I might meet the guy I like on a certain day. While on other days I don't always bother with using make-up. Also I smile a lot, give him my undivided attention in a conversation and make physical contact (but I'm a touchy-feely person in general). Second thing - this must be just me - I start to be pretty protective towards the guy, always keeping an eye on him and checking if he's doing alright, when he's amongst the group of people I'm out with. Might be because I grew up as the big sister of two younger brothers in a kinda tough neighborhood...
Me too. Except for one day I was dressed to do yard work and looked atrocious. Had to return a hose attachment to the store so I just went to the store in my grass cutting clothes. And in he walked! I tried to bury my head in my shopping bag like I was looking for something hoping he didn't see me. Then when I turned around he was bent down looking at some merchandise and turned his head and looked right at me. Of course he did. I was so embarrassed at the way I looked that I didn't say anything and he just turned and walked away. Have never seen him out and about like that before so of course when I look my absolute worst, there he was.
Men have accused me of flirting with them when I just thought I was being nice. I was doing most of these things and didn't realize how I was coming across. Ty for this video
Okay I might be weird but sometimes if I like a guy then I really don't want to make it obvious so I overshoot in the other direction and I may come across as rude. Like I might just randomly tell them off in front of people. (not good I know, but somehow it has worked out so far with the guy I like) - maybe he's a bit like me in that way too :) Also yeah I'd try and talk to people that were near him so that he might talk to me. I tried to give a lot of eye contact from afar but sometimes I found the eye contact intimidating and had to break it. I guess also I try to seem interesting or funny around him. Like talking to someone else near him and trying to have an interesting conversation or a funny one. Sometimes behind the scenes I've worked whole scenarios out with friends so that my crush and I would be in the same place. Hahahah but yeah these are real secrets beyond subtle. I guess maybe the more obvious is that if he asked me a question I'd try to be really attentive and thoughtful about it. Also I'd ask him to do a favour - just to check how interested he might be. Yeah and make dumb excuses to talk to him or try and make fun of him.
Hi Mat, You totally read my mind! I really like my new co-worker, but can't tell if he's interested in me because: 1) he doesn't compliment me 2) he mentioned recent dates (not how he felt about the women just the date itself) and 3) he was kinda standoffish the other day. So out of frustration, I avoided him just to see how he'd respond. Only saw him twice last week during meetings, which was disappointing. Maybe I got it all wrong. Then, he showed up unexpectedly at my office on Oct. 31 and we talked for over an hour. 3 months of working together and I can identify all 10 signs to one degree or another. how I get my flirt on: I smile, sit next to him during meetings, stop by his office to say "hi", toss my hair, lots of eye contact, good posture, wear cute outfit/heels, and ask for help or tell him how great his suggestion/idea was.
You should mention somewhere in the title or early on in your video that these 10 signs apply exclusively to situations that are happening in person. In a long-distance situation, only the "conversation stretching" thing can truly apply.
I Smile Back if I like somebody and want them to engage me more. I look at them longer.. usually because I am curious to see what's going on over there and not just physically. I'm a subtle flirt which is why I don't get a lot of action. I just try to mimic/reciprocate their behavior and hope they continue until they decide to ask me out or spend more time getting to know me. If I'm very into somebody I might say something stupid and giggle like a dingleberry. I automatically look for them when I know they're around and will be watching occasionally to see what they're up to and what they're doing to get an idea of who they are and what their energy is but not long-term staring like a creeper lol.
Cues that I'm flirting: will compliment a guy (for whatever) 😉 #1 Will crack a joke/ ruff him up a little, to get him to loosen up #2 If I'm about to encounter him, will fix my clothes & posture #3 While speaking to him and smiling, will give him a nose wiggle/wrinkle 😜 #4 Voice my gratitude for even the smallest gesture 😻
When I lie a guy I'll look down when he's talking but sneak peeks at him. Sometimes I'll dare to look at him and just go into a trance Play with my hair Scratch my face My mouth will go dry Pretentious I understand what the f he's saying and end it with a "I know,,me too😁😳
When I like a guy I treat him how I want to be treat by him. I try to become my best self. But still am myself. Pointless trying to fake who I am. Took me a while to find the confidence to be just me. If he's for me then it'll happen. If not it won't.
There is a man currently in my life whom I would love to have a relationship with. Currently, we are just friends and I don’t know if it will ever go further than that because I don’t know how he feels. But because of how I feel about him, my act of love for him is, Service. I love to cook for him, help him clean his home, help him take care of his animals, and do anything I can do to help ease his workload. He is a very hard worker and gets easily fatigued, so I do whatever I can to help him, when I can!
as a women if we found man attractive we do these; - teasing and joking - continuosly watching them, if they see us staring then we quickly look away. - If its just two of us then eye contact is easy to keep going - asking many questions - compliments - sometimes it becomes hard to talk, when thinking that he's so gorgeous and overthinking what to say - mimicing - absolutely brainless brain activity - adjusting our clothes and hair and make up and keeping lips moisturised - smiling - starting conversations / phone calls / messages - tendency to be near him - sometimes if he offers to pay there is a need to be independent especially if something expensive - trusting them 100% - helping them whenever possible
As a male, i'm going to use this videos advice to realize when i'm giving myself away... i'm going to avoid asking a woman about her relationship situation ... or "who did she go with"
I remember staring at my crush's eyes while he's talking , I zoned out he noticed raised his eyebrows and gave a shy smile. yeah time stopped I'm smitten HAHAHAH
When I like a guy, or am interested in a guy I always start praying for them ... AND especially when I wake-up or go to bed almost every single day (so on a weekly basis,) and especially when I'm around them!!! :) I never tell them that I'm doing that ... Soo they have no idea that, that's what's going on!!! :) ... But it's like the best thing ever!!! :) God is Good All the Time ... And All the Time God is Good!!! :) ... Soo Lord Jesus Open the Door that No Man Can Shut, an Shut the Door that No Man Can Open!!! AMEN :)
He offered to give me his jacket after the school dance when it was freezing and the cars were backed up because of all the people that came during the winter. Then he thought (maybe he zoned out) that my friend that is a girl was supposed to drive me home, when i was going to be taken home by my parents, so he started literally running around all the kids left shouting her name, then offered to take me home once he couldn't find her because she already left. Once I told him my parents were taking me home, he was like "oh". I declined wearing his jacket because I was worried if my parents would see me and get all upset. They think I'm too young it date, but I told him i liked him last week and now he wants to meet up and talk. We already hangout outside if school, but we are currently setting up a time, I'm really wondering what he has to say. I think we are meant to be.
If I'm interested in a guy, I will sneak glances at him when he's not looking. I'll find reasons to draw nearer to him in hopes of a conversation. I'll find reasons to catch his eye and say hi or smile. I sometimes obviously try to find extra things to say and extend our conversation further too. Great video!
Quick question Mat: On point #8-Checking to see if you're seeing anyone. What If I was sitting at a bar, and the guy I'm interested in is just walking around. Yet, there's a different guy who sits next to me and chats me up. On another night, I find out that the guy Im interested in, tells one of our mutual friends that he saw me getting picked up by that different guy and came to the conclusion that we left together. (That situation didn't happen). Could that be a possible sign that he might be interested?
I blush/smile incessantly, I touch him a lot, my mind goes blank, I ask a lot of questions, I look directly at him, I listen to his every word, my wit is elevated...
@@jennifurrr1625 I'm not seeing anyone right now. That's what I've done in the past. I'm taking a step back from dating right now. Working on my own emotional and spiritual well being. Watching these videos to gain perspective that's all.
When we like someone you laugh at everything they say even if it’s corny. Today you may openly tell someone you like them, you don’t want them wondering but if if it’s early you always want to be around them so they notice you.
Mine always ties his shoes and it friggin kills me, it’s hilarious. Never fails; if he wants to talk he bends down and fix his socks and ties his shoes, I’ve never seen someone so concerned about their shoelaces in my life 🤣
When i like a guy, for instance if i have a crush on one in my class, i feel the need to stand in front of him or beside him in the hallways, if the classroom is locked and the teacher hasn't walked in yet. It increases the chance of conversation or he might even glance at at you (if he hasn't noticed you yet)
I freeze when I really like someone so that they don't think I like them. fear of rejection I suppose. I've also found myself acting really professionally. I do alot of hair tossing also. Maybe zone out aswell cos like the man you are thinking other things. When you've liked someone a long time you want everything to be perfect... and keep putting it on the back burner til the time is right to give it your best shot. also the fear of rejection is horrendous and sometimes it is better to have the fantasy than nothing at all.
I find myself bringing up "guy topics" so he doesn't pigeonhole me as a "typical girl." I actually love cars and planes, including going to shows. So if I'm interested, i look for a chance to talk about something that he might find exciting, too.
I smile at the guy I'm interested in, doing the 3 second look. I don't go around flirting with a bunch of men when I have my eye on the one I'm crushing on.
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when i like the guy, i avoid him at all costs.
Me toooooo coz I fear he'll find out
Me too. I can't help it it's just natural instinct.
Same here 😭
Me lol
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I don't know if I can speak for all women on this, but I know for shy women (*cough* me *cough*), I can barely speak to the guys I like. It's like opposite flirting - I'm warm and friendly with guys I have no interest in, and can barely form sentences with guys I'm interested in. Also, if the girl in question is a joker or is particularly sarcastic (again *cough* me *cough*), ribbing or poking fun is probably a good indication of flirting.
Humans are confusing. How the species has progressed to this point is beyond me.
Madelaine McLaughlin Meet your twin!!!. 🤐🤐🤐😅😅
That's like exactly me, but then I get the wrong message across. The guy I like thinks I'm a bit rude and that I don't like him, and the guy I don't care about thinks I do and just starts acting weird around me and I'm like "no offense but stop pls"
Madelaine - That is totally me! Maybe that is why I'm still single at 30? I get tongue tied and start stuttering so bad that the guy ends up just raising one eyebrow with somewhat of a concerned look on his face.....or at least that is how I feel:/ Will I ever find someone I'm comfortable with????
Yep, me too! Atleast, we're not alone. lol
Madelaine McLaughlin i'm the same way if I'm not really interested in the guy or I don't see him as a challenge then I'm carefree and open but if I really really like the guy I think he's awesome or I am intimidated by him I can barely speak or say anything I'm shy I lock up
lolo... omg you breathe air too?? #soulmates 😁
Maya's Channel lol
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Maya's Channel so you got a crush on him
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lol right? #soulmates4ever
1) Stands with shoulders back and hands on hips
2) Adjusts his clothes
3) He raises his eyebrows and smiles
4) He gets way to animated on things you have in common
5) Tries to get close to you
6) Physical contact
7) Extends the conversation
8) Wants to find out if you're dating someone
9) Tries to protect you and anticipate your needs
10) Zones out when he is talking with you
He got 3/10 right
idk if its all females but, I get like extra hyper and nervous and all smily and whatnot lol
Janessa Cara my hands start to tremble a little bit but you don’t really notice
I just make a complete fool out of myself😂
i do too
Same
Mood
I just realized why I like watching your videos... you often raise your eyebrows, make imaginary eye contact and smile. In other words, you're flirting with me! hahaha
As a woman, I have some of those same flirtation responses: smile, laugh, touch. I will make eye contact, and look down shyly sometimes. But if I admire a guy a lot, I am more likely to share openly and have a discussion with him. By the way, men often try to appear taller when they're near me...they stand up straight and extend their necks. It's usually because they're taller than the average man and have never had a woman look them in the eyes before! But that's not necessarily a flirtation; sometimes they're just uncomfortable! :D
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what if you noticed all these signs but he doesn't ask you for a date?
That's what irritates me the most. I feel you. I guess he's waiting for you to ask on a date - which in my opinion is really annoying - OR he's just waiting to be sure about going out with you. I don't know honestly
we both know that i would never ask him for a date so i think he is a player or he might already have a relationship... anyways i think that i'm a good looking smart woman and i deserve much better than waiting for a guy who can't assume his attraction for me so i decided to let him know that i am not no longer interested by being more distant and even avoiding him
Rania Mansour that's what I usually do when it comes to relationships that make me think I deserve more and I'm glad to see someone else does like that too!
R M you're absolutely right! you deserve much more than someone who's unsure! attracted to you or not, he needs to have his head right for you to even consider him
thank you for your encouraging comments ladies
It's so cool how instead of you just making another boring dating advice video, you incorporate a comedic vibe into the video. Even though I'm a guy I still enjoy watching your videos. You are literally a genius man 😃
A secret way women flirt is biting their lip more than they usually do, because women too can image what it be like to kiss you, hold you and get intimate with you. Women do quite a few of the same flirting secrets as men. Thank you so much Matt for all of your videos, I absolutely love them . XOXO
I really like this tut. Just hearing about the signs of a man flirting is so beautifully sweet...(and thank you Mat Boggs for conveying this so artfully with the tenderness and joy it deserves). It shines a whole new light on your guy and on men in general. Married, single, dating... that chivalry for ladies NEVER GETS OLD!!! It's beautiful every time!🌻
Me : “I’m cold.”
Him : “Take my coat,”
Me : “I’m always cold. I’ll never give it back.”
Him : “Kay.”
Me : - Runs away with coat -
OMGoodness! So me gurll
Free coat!
I'm a girl and I do the hands on the hip thing LOL guess i want to look powerful
Me
Me too!
same bruh hahaha
porcelain SAMEEEE
When I like a guy I start shaking when I see him, my knees are weak and my hands are shaking. I get really awkward and I can barely look at them 😂 so there, there's my sign. No wonder I'm still single
I can relate to that. OMG! same reactions. Hahahaha.
SAMEEEEE I ALWAYS BLUSH MADLY AND WHEN I STARE AT HIM IN THE EYES I BACK DOWN SO QUICKLY AND HE JUST LAUGHS AT ME
lol. not a bad sign. just need the right guy to know what that means.
The right man wouldn't give a fudge
@@lydiaperera3776 The 'right man' would think she is not interested. The man who wants sex would risk it.
BTW is this mainly for American guys? I think I'm pretty good at noticing signs and I think sometimes culture plays a role. like some cultures are more touchy feely than others.
I was told by a few people that it's my eyes, they are naturally flirtatious and when I was told this by a certain person I stopped doing it because I was in a relationship and I didn't want to be giving off the wrong signals to other guys that I was potentially interested
omg !! WE both r air breathers!!! we have so much in common . . . . lol could really one say that
as a woman , i find that keep looking at him check his reactions and get closer to him . take time to hear his understanding on subjects
No problem .... i do a little coaching help lady understand how man r wired ... it really help them understand that it not so personal and to enjoy the experience
Hii
Can you give me some tips about married women sign?
When we like a guy we sometimes agree with everything you say or we draw a lot of attention to your accomplishments.
THAT IS SO TRUE!👁👅👁
and laught at all his jokes even if it is not so funny or if we don't get it
Аюна Шералиева 😂😂😂 yes
i just caught myself doing this
foranimalwelfare yes....true sister so true...we want to know that you have something you are thriving for or already have for yourself.I want to be a biomedical engineer and my crush is a paramedic...he is 22 im 18 and he has even bigger dreams.He wants to be a doctor😊😊
To be honest, I watch too much of this kind of video about body language, but I counteract everything I learn. When girls like someone, they subconsciously raise the pitches of their voice, so what I'd do is I'll speak from the deepest of my voice. My crush will never know. And I, I'll be forever alone.
i recently had a man flirting with me and i did not even think he was, but now that i watched your video i realized that he was flirting. the smile and raised eyebrows, and extending the conversation were spot on. im use to having guy friends and this helped me open my eyes a lot.
I never knew any of these. Wow. I will have to watch closer now. Thank you!
You'll never see any of these from the shy introverts, just so you know. You have to really dig to get to know those types of guys but we tend to be the best, the diamonds in the rough so to speak.
Number 10 had me dying. I have a guy friend that does this. He finally did something the other day that made it obvious he was interested. It's so awkward sometimes though cause I'm usually super confident and I'm sure he is too but we both act like awkward idiots around eachother. Lol
how did it go?
I love when a guy is showing empathy and affection towards people. He is feeling hurt when you tell a story of yours that is sad and depressingly sound like. He is doing this because he feels your pain and you feel him feeling that! I love those men. Also he is a good listener and doing with genuinely.
no matter how moody I am that day, he always knows how to make me smile or laugh. just looking at him makes me smile a lot
you should make a video about Canadian men. Step one check for breathing, step two check for pulse, step three are his eyes open.
Canadian or Italian? :D
Sienna Venezia omg u guys are terrible
Sienna Venezia haha so lame I know!!!! Blahhh:-/ wah wahhhhh
Same for guys from the U.P. Must be the cold.
Canadian guys think taking you for a coffee at Tim Hortons is a date.
For girls you know we like someone when that person comes in the room and we sit up, our mood becomes better even when we are upset and our eyes light up
I like your zoning out part very much Matt.. :D
me too. this guy I have a crush on is the most adorable thing ever. I can't think.
That was the funny part!
i know right? he's adorable
I did too. I was thinking men just weren’t listening so I’d just stop talking lol... then he’d say what were you saying, then I’d be thinking “why? You weren’t even interested in what I was saying.” Lol he was zoned out!
I come around a lot to have a conversation with him whether its short or long conversation and I would smile a lot and making eye contact at all times
I smile, laugh and make eye contact with a guy that I like and try to be more approachable. I also like to admire his accomplishments and allow him to come closer to me if I feel comfortable with the conversation and connection. I also try to feel the vibe and energy he brings when we talk.
Omg my male colleague who sits next to me does all of these things!
So, two years later. How did that go?
Give us the neeeeews
Tell us bish!!!!
Spill the tea girl!
TELL US PLZ... DONT LEAVE US HERE TO DIE IN CURIOSITY 🥺😩
Signs I am flirting: I smile, I laugh at what they say, I compliment something about them like their shirt or admire how they handled a situation or how they are growing their company. I let them know I like how they think.
Definitely touching our hair. Touching on the arm or shoulder.
I work in customer service with the public. I am in a culture where calling each other Love, Hun, Doll, Dear,..... is normal. As is winking and smiling. This makes flirting difficult to pick up on. I have learned to pay attention to the energy of the men I am constantly coming in contact with. I find a way to mirror their energy if I can. I have no problem passing my number. We can iron out the details later. Rejection is a part of life. I don't let it get to me. However, you'll know I like you cause I run into stuff, fumble, trip, blush, QUEEN AWKARD.
For Me, flirting/Crush only works/Comes the most, when I am super Calm, especially when the environments is not noisy or crowded.
For woman to look for supperDeadly signs which are not our common Flirting habits ARE
# 50%50 we narrow and wide our eyes with deep gaze at her
#Have wide and straight posture, hands on the hips too
#scratching our neck and down to the chest. Just to draw the attention towards upper body, Shoulder,neck,chest!
#Deep voice 100%
This only happens which Lady gives the sign.
Okay, so, let's start from the fact that as a shy girl, I'm not really into openly flirting, you know (at least no more, when i was a child i used to tell my crush instantly i liked them and kept "flirting" lol). But there are so many ways you can understand I'm into you, by my body language. When I'm nervous around my crush, I tend to say "normal things" 'cause I don't want to say anything stupid so I don't risk. I laugh a lot and I smile a lot. I may be even stuttering a little bit. Everytime he talks to me, I'm surprised by that (positively surprised), and I raise my eyebrows. My body is always towards him, even tho I'm supposed to seat correctly, if he's like on the other side of the room, my legs will be directed towards him... what else? I probably turn red too, I'm visibly shy and a little bit nervous, and I always try to say something whatever I can, 'cause I want to talk to him of course but I'm way too shy to flirt!
If I like a guy I make more of an effort to talk to them. I also might touch his arm briefly if I get the vibe that it would be okay to do.
I too use special effects instead of having actual girls in my videos. It gives me a sense of manliness
I got all amped up like I was on something - feeling really happy. I wasn’t on anything except excitement - that he was around and seeing him. Haven’t had that happen in awhile but it felt great!
Matt, when my crush approaches me (and he comes by my desk every day) I make eye contact, give him a brilliant smile, and speak. He does talk with plenty of other women in the office, and so far no dates.
I don't know if my best friend is flirting with me or not but he always do the things that make me feel he's attracted to me. He is very touchy and speaks very kind to me. Maybe it's just my assumption but I can't help myself, I don't want to fall for him.
I have to tell you. I could not stop laughing during this video, and it wasn't the content or you. But I do love how you're animated, through accents and body movements. You're actually funny and have quality material. Cheers to you, keep rocking
Love the zoning out part, Mathew! It just made me, giggle and smile a lot. I just felt, as if I was being solely paid attention to and admired. :)
#1: Stands with shoulders back and hands on hips: 0:06
#2: Adjusts his clothes: 0:23
#3: He raises his eyebrows and smiles: 0:41
#4: He gets way to animated on things you have in common: 0:59
#5: Tries to get close to you: 1:12
#6: Physical contact: 1:27
#7: Extends the conversation: 1:45
#8: Wants to find out if you're dating someone: 2:20
#9: Tries to protect you and anticipate your needs: 2:52
#10: Zones out when he is talking with you: 3:21
You breath air? lool
laugh out out loud
I get nervous , fidget ,tremble and just feel that inner happiness and shyness.
I get real giggly when I'm flirting.
Seriously the best video I’ve seen on this topic! Super clever and I recognize myself in a lot of these points😂 especially the zoning out part haha!
I remember one time I was in the middle of getting dressed and thought of something I needed to tell my boyfriend. So I threw the first thing I found which happened to be the white t-shirt I'd slept in, no bra underneath. I went out to the living room to tell him what I needed to tell him and in the middle of my message I noticed he was completely zoned out. So looked up to see what was distracting him and saw his focus was on my chest and how my breasts looked under the thin white tshirt. At 60 and being together 20 years I took that as a supreme compliment.
oh boy 😳
my colleague really is flirting with me.
he has done 8/10 so far…
with the exception of touching and asking questions about my love life.
The one thing I do, is to try to put an extra effort into my appearance, whenever there is a chance I might meet the guy I like on a certain day. While on other days I don't always bother with using make-up. Also I smile a lot, give him my undivided attention in a conversation and make physical contact (but I'm a touchy-feely person in general).
Second thing - this must be just me - I start to be pretty protective towards the guy, always keeping an eye on him and checking if he's doing alright, when he's amongst the group of people I'm out with. Might be because I grew up as the big sister of two younger brothers in a kinda tough neighborhood...
Me too. Except for one day I was dressed to do yard work and looked atrocious. Had to return a hose attachment to the store so I just went to the store in my grass cutting clothes. And in he walked! I tried to bury my head in my shopping bag like I was looking for something hoping he didn't see me. Then when I turned around he was bent down looking at some merchandise and turned his head and looked right at me. Of course he did. I was so embarrassed at the way I looked that I didn't say anything and he just turned and walked away. Have never seen him out and about like that before so of course when I look my absolute worst, there he was.
I like to tease him, and I get more confidence on myself when I'm around him, so I think the signs are very different in every woman
‘physical contact is a good sign...’ *coronavirus has entered the chat*
Men have accused me of flirting with them when I just thought I was being nice. I was doing most of these things and didn't realize how I was coming across. Ty for this video
I love the zoning out segment. That was adorable. Now whenever a guy does that I won't be offended, but I'll be smiling on the inside 😊
The scene at the end was hilarious 😂
Okay I might be weird but sometimes if I like a guy then I really don't want to make it obvious so I overshoot in the other direction and I may come across as rude. Like I might just randomly tell them off in front of people. (not good I know, but somehow it has worked out so far with the guy I like) - maybe he's a bit like me in that way too :)
Also yeah I'd try and talk to people that were near him so that he might talk to me.
I tried to give a lot of eye contact from afar but sometimes I found the eye contact intimidating and had to break it.
I guess also I try to seem interesting or funny around him. Like talking to someone else near him and trying to have an interesting conversation or a funny one.
Sometimes behind the scenes I've worked whole scenarios out with friends so that my crush and I would be in the same place.
Hahahah but yeah these are real secrets beyond subtle.
I guess maybe the more obvious is that if he asked me a question I'd try to be really attentive and thoughtful about it. Also I'd ask him to do a favour - just to check how interested he might be. Yeah and make dumb excuses to talk to him or try and make fun of him.
So, two years later, how did that go?
Right spot,right passion,ride rain
Omg I love this!!! A lot of things are adding up now!!! Thx Matt :)
Hi Mat,
You totally read my mind! I really like my new co-worker, but can't tell if he's interested in me because:
1) he doesn't compliment me 2) he mentioned recent dates (not how he felt about the women just the date itself) and 3) he was kinda standoffish the other day. So out of frustration, I avoided him just to see how he'd respond. Only saw him twice last week during meetings, which was disappointing. Maybe I got it all wrong. Then, he showed up unexpectedly at my office on Oct. 31 and we talked for over an hour. 3 months of working together and I can identify all 10 signs to one degree or another.
how I get my flirt on: I smile, sit next to him during meetings, stop by his office to say "hi", toss my hair, lots of eye contact, good posture, wear cute outfit/heels, and ask for help or tell him how great his suggestion/idea was.
You should mention somewhere in the title or early on in your video that these 10 signs apply exclusively to situations that are happening in person. In a long-distance situation, only the "conversation stretching" thing can truly apply.
LOL the last thing with the guy zoning out with a conversation in his head I've done that so many times and have witnessed it many times HAHAHA!
Who else is squealing and smiling because you realize the guy you like is doing all of these things :)
To show that I’m into a man I linger on his every word. When he’s talking, he has my full and undivided attention and I smile.
We both breath air????? Omg !!!
Your examples were really good and funny. It helps to remember your points. Thank you for sharing😁
number 10 is so cute:) i love men for that:)
I will go out of my way not to touch them, but try to say within touch distance. I will also find reasons to ask them ask them questions.
I Smile Back if I like somebody and want them to engage me more. I look at them longer.. usually because I am curious to see what's going on over there and not just physically. I'm a subtle flirt which is why I don't get a lot of action. I just try to mimic/reciprocate their behavior and hope they continue until they decide to ask me out or spend more time getting to know me. If I'm very into somebody I might say something stupid and giggle like a dingleberry. I automatically look for them when I know they're around and will be watching occasionally to see what they're up to and what they're doing to get an idea of who they are and what their energy is but not long-term staring like a creeper lol.
Cues that I'm flirting: will compliment a guy (for whatever) 😉
#1 Will crack a joke/ ruff him up a little, to get him to loosen up
#2 If I'm about to encounter him, will fix my clothes & posture
#3 While speaking to him and smiling, will give him a nose wiggle/wrinkle 😜
#4 Voice my gratitude for even the smallest gesture 😻
When I lie a guy I'll look down when he's talking but sneak peeks at him. Sometimes I'll dare to look at him and just go into a trance
Play with my hair
Scratch my face
My mouth will go dry
Pretentious I understand what the f he's saying and end it with a "I know,,me too😁😳
Oh my gosh you breathe air?! I breath air to!!! 😂😂
When I like a guy I treat him how I want to be treat by him. I try to become my best self. But still am myself. Pointless trying to fake who I am. Took me a while to find the confidence to be just me. If he's for me then it'll happen. If not it won't.
There is a man currently in my life whom I would love to have a relationship with. Currently, we are just friends and I don’t know if it will ever go further than that because I don’t know how he feels. But because of how I feel about him, my act of love for him is, Service. I love to cook for him, help him clean his home, help him take care of his animals, and do anything I can do to help ease his workload.
He is a very hard worker and gets easily fatigued, so I do whatever I can to help him, when I can!
I am a man and these signs are true as hell lol
Love how you got straight to the point
Sometimes we will avoid the guy we like if we're shy 😊
as a women if we found man attractive we do these;
- teasing and joking
- continuosly watching them, if they see us staring then we quickly look away.
- If its just two of us then eye contact is easy to keep going
- asking many questions
- compliments
- sometimes it becomes hard to talk, when thinking that he's so gorgeous and overthinking what to say
- mimicing
- absolutely brainless brain activity
- adjusting our clothes and hair and make up and keeping lips moisturised
- smiling
- starting conversations / phone calls / messages
- tendency to be near him
- sometimes if he offers to pay there is a need to be independent especially if something expensive
- trusting them 100%
- helping them whenever possible
Women loveeee to talk a lot.Like we will not shut up when we are with someone we like 😂
As a male, i'm going to use this videos advice to realize when i'm giving myself away... i'm going to avoid asking a woman about her relationship situation ... or "who did she go with"
Where are these men you speak of? I seem to keep missing them. :)
I'm a guy and have only seen a few men act this way. I would say a vast majority of men don't do this.
Oh... I was watching this thinking about one guy and then realized another guy does all these things with me. That's some new information right there
I remember staring at my crush's eyes while he's talking , I zoned out he noticed raised his eyebrows and gave a shy smile. yeah time stopped I'm smitten HAHAHAH
my friend does this alot, but honestly that's his personality
When I like a guy, or am interested in a guy I always start praying for them ... AND especially when I wake-up or go to bed almost every single day (so on a weekly basis,) and especially when I'm around them!!! :) I never tell them that I'm doing that ... Soo they have no idea that, that's what's going on!!! :) ... But it's like the best thing ever!!! :) God is Good All the Time ... And All the Time God is Good!!! :) ... Soo Lord Jesus Open the Door that No Man Can Shut, an Shut the Door that No Man Can Open!!! AMEN :)
Thank you for sharing! Appreciate the information, Matt!
He offered to give me his jacket after the school dance when it was freezing and the cars were backed up because of all the people that came during the winter. Then he thought (maybe he zoned out) that my friend that is a girl was supposed to drive me home, when i was going to be taken home by my parents, so he started literally running around all the kids left shouting her name, then offered to take me home once he couldn't find her because she already left. Once I told him my parents were taking me home, he was like "oh". I declined wearing his jacket because I was worried if my parents would see me and get all upset. They think I'm too young it date, but I told him i liked him last week and now he wants to meet up and talk. We already hangout outside if school, but we are currently setting up a time, I'm really wondering what he has to say. I think we are meant to be.
If I'm interested in a guy, I will sneak glances at him when he's not looking. I'll find reasons to draw nearer to him in hopes of a conversation. I'll find reasons to catch his eye and say hi or smile. I sometimes obviously try to find extra things to say and extend our conversation further too. Great video!
Quick question Mat: On point #8-Checking to see if you're seeing anyone. What If I was sitting at a bar, and the guy I'm interested in is just walking around. Yet, there's a different guy who sits next to me and chats me up. On another night, I find out that the guy Im interested in, tells one of our mutual friends that he saw me getting picked up by that different guy and came to the conclusion that we left together. (That situation didn't happen). Could that be a possible sign that he might be interested?
Personally I guess he is but you should hurry up to make the situation clearer or he will try dating someone else.
I blush/smile incessantly, I touch him a lot, my mind goes blank, I ask a lot of questions, I look directly at him, I listen to his every word, my wit is elevated...
wow, wish I was as brave as you. What questions do you ask?
@@jennifurrr1625 I ask abt his work, family, childhood, what he thinks abt current events etc.
@@simonewright1120 and has it worked?
@@jennifurrr1625 I'm not seeing anyone right now. That's what I've done in the past. I'm taking a step back from dating right now. Working on my own emotional and spiritual well being. Watching these videos to gain perspective that's all.
😂 you are so funny Matt.
When we like someone you laugh at everything they say even if it’s corny. Today you may openly tell someone you like them, you don’t want them wondering but if if it’s early you always want to be around them so they notice you.
Mine always ties his shoes and it friggin kills me, it’s hilarious. Never fails; if he wants to talk he bends down and fix his socks and ties his shoes, I’ve never seen someone so concerned about their shoelaces in my life 🤣
When i like a guy, for instance if i have a crush on one in my class, i feel the need to stand in front of him or beside him in the hallways, if the classroom is locked and the teacher hasn't walked in yet. It increases the chance of conversation or he might even glance at at you (if he hasn't noticed you yet)
I freeze when I really like someone so that they don't think I like them. fear of rejection I suppose. I've also found myself acting really professionally. I do alot of hair tossing also. Maybe zone out aswell cos like the man you are thinking other things. When you've liked someone a long time you want everything to be perfect... and keep putting it on the back burner til the time is right to give it your best shot. also the fear of rejection is horrendous and sometimes it is better to have the fantasy than nothing at all.
Yes! It’s better to have the fantasy than nothing at all 😞
Thank you for making this video! I appreciate all of the advice. Keep up the good work!
I find myself bringing up "guy topics" so he doesn't pigeonhole me as a "typical girl." I actually love cars and planes, including going to shows. So if I'm interested, i look for a chance to talk about something that he might find exciting, too.
smile,touch,listen
😂😂😂 im so bad at this kinda stuff. He can do all these things and I'll still be wondering if he likes me
I smile at the guy I'm interested in, doing the 3 second look. I don't go around flirting with a bunch of men when I have my eye on the one I'm crushing on.
I smile, touch & talk... a lot! Lol