Depending on where this story took place, exposing someone to stuff they're allergic to, fully aware of their allergies, qualifies as bodily harm, or even a--ault. OP should've totally pressed charges. The fact that the father doesn't seem to care that the mother did that to OP is the only red flag she needs to see. He's an enabler.
@@nightminer2111 THIS. If it's a deadly allergy, and she KNEW it was enough to possibly kill her, it's attempted murder. Premeditated. And the fact that she said ^THAT honestly makes me think she really WAS trying to kill her.
The flower thing was absolutely attempted murder. Also, OP needs to sue the florist so she doesn't have to pay for a hall full of flowers that nearly KILLED her.
@@DraxXThanos Mom's apology: "Sorry, I got carried away making a move on my daughter's husband (to be wed at the time) and attempted to murder my daughter." Dad: "I don't know... that ultimatum needs thinking over about after my wife tried to murder my daughter and also made a move onto another man. I guess I'll attempt to dillydally and hope that not making a decision means I can stay in both of their lives."
She put OP in the hospital then tried to run off with a 29 year old and this dad is still sucking down excuses like "I got carried away". Bro she tried to murder your daughter and run away with her husband, that's not "I got carried away", that's "I woulda got away with it if not for you meddling kids".
@@DraxXThanos Still not an excuse to just lay there and let it happen. The bystander knowing what's going on and not going anything is as bad as the abuser. He may have his own shit but homie is still awful cause he didn't do anything to stop it or do anything but give excuses for his wife.
Dad got some nerve to be shocked when OP went NC with him. He watched his wife aɓuse their daughter under their own roof ever since she was born, and not only wasn't he man enough to put an end to it, he also entertained the idea to give his wife another chance after their daughter got hospitalized bc of Momma's antics. I'm not surprised OP had enough and told her Dad he can kick rocks, as well.
What is sad is that, given his generation, the mentality might be "you need to be man enough to stick by your wife no matter what. Else you'll be shunned as a failure" If so, he'd feel trapped in a lose lose situation, with a daughter pushing him to an edge rather than giving him reassurance or understanding. What her mom did was crappy, but OP's apathetic view towards her dad was just as bad
Apathetic? There's absolutely no reason tp try and kill your kid. I'm pretty sure he's already failed by his generation's standards considering he's allowed his wife to try and kill their daughter just so she can cheat on him with her widower. @Maninawig
@@brianaschmidt910 the apathy I spoke of is how she told him to choose. She claims to understand the depth of his struggles, but offers him an ultimatum over support. Think what kind of life he can look forward to if he chooses his daughter: one possibility ostracized from his friends, isolated in the solitude of his home, and all for a bit of respect and 1 day a year spent with his daughter? If you want someone in what I presume the dad's position to be to take the dip, it is much better to ask with reassurance that they will be welcomed warmly, accepted and respected... ask them to move in with you or possibly an in-law so they can socially find their footing in the wake, and let them know that you'll be a part of their lives... That little bit to reassure them they won't be alone is often all it takes.
@Glitche0275 Yes, she was. A confirmation email was sent AND NOT RELPIED TO. That means it wasn't confirmed. That means no changes should have been made without checking again that she didn't misunderstand the change in order over the phone.
The florist has no excuse. The confirmation text is literally the deciding factor. If they don't confirm then don't change anything. If they complain that nothing was changed just say we sent you the confirmation text and we don't change anything unless it is confirmed in writing.
I kinda love this one. It's truly refreshing to see the mom as the bad guy for once and with the MIL even being kind of the hero of the story... nice one!
Did the OP seriously put all of her attention onto her mother trying to get with her husband and NOT the fact her mother intentionally tried to kill her knowing full well how sever her allergy is? The OP hadn't mentioned at any point that the literal intentional threat to her life might have been a bigger thing to worry about than the attempted husband stealing. I understand that it was a massive issue, but the OP really seems to be overlooking that part a lot especially when she was talking to her Dad. "She tried to cheat on you..." and take your daughter's life sweety, that's a bit more important than the cheating part IMO.
I don't know if he is dumb or scared. Given his age, it could be that the only thing keeping his marriage together is a fear of being seen as a failure. I also noted she mentionned his lack of social cues, which could be an indication of neurodivergence amplifying the fear.... but OP is too self-involved to actually consider the situation from her dad's point of view.
@@Maninawig Staying with the woman who tried to *murder* their own daughter, because of neurodivergence? JFC, I'm autistic and I can see that, what's his excuse?
@@MK-ophelia I too am neurodivergent, but I do know the history of marriages not too long ago. So let me clarify: fear is the reason, neurodivergence is the amplifier to fears. Treat them as seperate. Back just a couple of generations ago, there was a very strong stigma about either partner who leaves their marriages, not just wives. There were even documented cases of men ostracized from society for "allowing and leaving" their wives who did much worse, as it was considered their duty to help them correct such behavior or be part of the problem. Now add something like ADHD's tendency to catastrophize situations or severe Social Anxiety, and that fear of social isolation can chain them into staying even when you say "we no longer live in those ages." I remember a quote that went "the greatest prison ever built is the one in our own minds."
So her dad was getting cheated on through out their marriage and he wanted to stay? Well he gets what he deserves. And that 'separation' is irrelevant since they were still married.
She tried to kill you. I don't care it was the wedding day. Call the cops. And what the hell is there for dad to think about she tried to kill u. Nevermimd the attempted cheating.
There would be a lack of evidence, as there is nothing concrete to prove the Mother actually impersonated her to switch the floral arrangements. Even if there was, their voices are apparently so similar that even her own dad has trouble distinguishing them.
OP letting things go just because she doesn't want the drama and not calling the cops after her mother tried to kill her is very telling. Accepting the blame for her flowers being changed...which I find odd because if I were deathly allergic to a certain flower, my wedding florist would certainly know about it.
"I wish I was as strong as everyone in the comment section is", nah they aren't stronger, it's just very easy when you aren't involved emotionnaly and won't have to live with the consequences to say what you should do in that situation.
It is absolutely easier to make the call when you have no skin in the game and the internet is way too eager to cut people out in general. The comments were seemingly saying that ANY hesitation on the dad's part is reason enough to cut him off, which I don't agree with, because it's only human to hesitate on a big decision like that. That said, her mom is completely psychotic. Speaking as someone who has cut out family, and so I do understand the consequences of doing so; if someone intentionally triggered an allergic reaction in my daughter, tried to steal my daughter's fiancé, AND tried to cheat on me in the span of a few hours, it wouldn't take me weeks to decide on whether that person was going to continue to be a part of my life. Any single one of those things is reason enough to remove them. It's just not reasonable to be "unsure" of what to do in that situation for more than a handful of days. Her father is very clearly stringing her along and probably just hoping the situation changes before he actually needs to make a decision. Or his decision is to stand by his psychotic wife and he just doesn't want to openly admit it, and it's quite telling that the OP seems to think that is the case in the end.
I just made a realization recently that my family is toxic. It's heartbreaking to know that despite how much they care about me, I may have to go NC for my own mental health.
I don't disagree, but when you have a parent that psychotic you just desperately want to wipe your hands of them. My mom had an aunt so vile that she tried to even physically assault her, we wondered why she didn't press any charges, but by that time she was just so emotionally exhausted with dealing with her that she literally was fine with not pressing charges as long as it meant she never had to see her again. ETA: It would've been hard for OOP to prove that her mom had been the one to change the flower order given she admitted their voices sounded the same. Without legit proof and/or admission from her mom on camera there's no way she would've won.
You’ve clearly never been abused and emotionally manipulated by your own parents. Yes victims of parental abuse tend to be weak because we didn’t have… you know… good parents to teach us proper boundaries and give us good examples of emotional strength and regulation. You have no idea how hard it is to turn your back on your own life giver yes even if they are 1000% human trash. Trust me I have lived through this and axing my own dad and coming to the conclusion that he serves nothing in my life literally destroyed me for nearly 3 years. I’m stronger now but I had to build my emotional strength and stability all on my own from absolutely nothing! You sound like you were lucky because you were being taught those very basic life skills while you were learning to walk. Imagine having to figure that out as a mature teenager!
When it comes to family or when it comes to people that you hate you pray nothing bad on them because then something bad could happen to you.. please don't be like them and hate..
Have a password for major events like weddings, even if you don't foresee a reason to have one. You can't un-crazy your mom, but you can prevent her assassination attempt by just having your decorators/caterers/whatever just ask for you to say the secret word before any changes to your requests can be made. Even something as innocuous as a teenager's prank could totally upend your wedding if you don't have any precautions.
She left her info left out on her desk, so there was a more than 0% chance she might have wrote it down (Shes forgetful) and left it out, leading to the same result.
@@Lichor2369 Well yea, security checks have to have some level of idiot-proofing to work. Don't write down your passwords and leave them in clearly visible places, that's just a good piece of advice in general.
If your dad really is that oblivious, I feel like it might be possible that he hadn't picked up on that she purposely swapped the flowers ahead of time. Try laying it out for him item by item. Sounds like he's got Asperger's, and people with Asperger's can be wicked smart, but we effectively are born without the sense to determine subtle social things.
I hate these kind of OPs. The " i didnt do A or B just to avoid the drama" like, girl, your mother tried to kill you and f your husband. Grow a spine and take action.
..... Why does op keeps setting aside the fact that her mother tried to kill her ? "She's out of the picture" DUUUUUDEE IT MEANS EXACTLY WHAT IT MEANS !!! PLUS SHE NEVER TRIED TO APOLOGIZE FOR HER BEHAVIOR, if she really "only got carried away" she'd regret it and apologize to her daughter and her son in law, which she didn't do. The father sucks as well. Who the hell lets anyone get away with trying to harm their child and even make excuses for the perpetrator ?!!
Win for the husband though, filled some of the space with balloons. Balloons are fun and a celebratory decoration piece, OP obviously chose a very good man to marry, he was hit on by his MIL and still managed to salvage what he could of their wedding decor. I hope they remain happy and healthy together!! OP's dad is an enabler plain and simple, it's totally reasonable for OP to need to put distance between her married family and her awful mother. Unfortunately her dad come into that because he doesn't seem to care at all that the mother could have seriously hurt their child or worse, or that she then hit on their son in law. That's so weird. I understand it isn't easy, but surely hurting your child is a major issue that would cause you to rethink everything.
Tbh I just feel bad for the dad. He definitely knows what his wife did was messed up but he’s been fed so much craziness from her for so many years he can’t even imagine a life without her anymore. It’s a very sad situation.
What are you talking about?? How is it weird to have a friend in another state? The internet exists. You'd think you would know that, since you literally had to use it to post this comment 😂
@@elithluxe7568 Is it impossible to happen to know a random florist in another state? No. Is it more likely to randomly generate a weird plot point, yeah.
She got carried away by attempting to kill her own daughter and get with her husband? The attempted murder is the bigger fish to fry here. The dad still wants to stay with her? They both can rot. Jesus Christ.
Why is she focusing so hard on her mom trying to cheat on her dad? Severe asthma attacks are no joke. What if she couldn't find her inhaler? She went to the ER. THAT should be why her dad would want to divorce the mom. WTF, am I the only one thinking this?
"I wish I were as strong as people in the comments" They aren't, commenters have little to no life on their own and are just commenting on a situation they havent and wont ever experience
I don't like to perpetuate stereotoes.... But any man who stands by his wannabe-cheating spouse who critically injured his child...because she apologized? There's weak, there's simp, and then there's dirt. Dad is lower than dirt.
Lack of imagination. You would not expect your own mother to change the floral arrangements to intentionally trigger an Asthma attack. Although, it would of been avoided if she had read the confirmation text from her florist on the floral arrangement changes. But of course, you would typically have no reason to suspect such a thing. So to have no sympathy because she did not protect her wedding planning is not exactly fair..
How the fuck does the mother manage to unlock her phone anyway? Imagine 2 people not getting along with low contact for years and somehow one of them can easily unlock the other's phone to mess around.
It's a bit different when it's 19 and 25 than 25 and 31, she's barely been allowed to vote for a year while he's been drinking for 4. That said, age gaps when the parties are both legal adults are the crime in and of themselves- it's just a potential warning for potential issues behind the scenes.
I think her dad has more issues with divorce than he does with his wife. Christians would call him an Ahab; weak and consistently allowing injustice to come to his loved ones instead of protecting them.
Her dad really lacks self respect jesus fucking christ. He witnessed his wife putting his own daughter into hospital and then saw her try to cheat on him with his own daughter's fiancé right in front of him and others, and yet still can't make himself to divorce that woman. Also the fact he was shocked when he should have seen that one coming when he didn't come to the conclusion when he had 2 weeks of time to come to it makes me hate him even more. My man, your wife nearly killed your daughter and tried to cheat on you with your own daughter's fiancé. It shouldn't take too much time to come to a conclusion and divorce her
I never understood the concept of making somebody choose for somebody else’s actions…. I get OP’s dad is dumb. I’m not a fan of ultimatums… And I don’t think that’s right
Ops "mom" definitely is the type that peeked in high school like my skin crawled when she tried to get with ops husband like gross lady gross like I'm assuming she's in her late 40s early 50s and she's trying to get with someone just going on there 30s
Very fake sounding. Especially the part about the florist. It doesn't matter if you sound just like your mom, you would have discussed the allergy with the florist beforehand. This reeks of made up story. Florist can be held liable for this, which is why it would have been a discussion point beforehand.
Whoever wrote this should know that they sound like a spoiled little brat that didnt get their way. Yeah your mom sucks but giving your dad an ultimatum is beyond rediculous. He simply doesnt want to be alone and u require him to cut off the person who lived with him while u are also going on to live your own life regardless if he cut her off or not. He deserved a better wife and a better child.
No, the mother tried to KILL her, and clearly assumed she had succeeded saying "Now she's out of the way" Insisting the father divorce her is more kind than sending her to jail which is what she deserves.
As much as I know it probably won't happen I hope this comment finds the original poster, I have been in a situation that is almost a spitting image of what you have described here so let me be perfectly honest with you you are twice of a horrible person than your mother is if you turn around and kick your father out of your life because he can't let go of her, yes from what you've explained your mother's a horrible person but your father still loves her and letting go of love is not something that can be done easily and if it's that easy for you to just let go like this I would honestly tell you to go get in therapy you might need it
I get that what OP’s mother did is nothing short of extreme but I don’t really feel right about her giving her dad an ultimatum. I can understand it because she is naive but I don’t know I hope life brings her back to her dad one day and they can reconcile. That’s a really tough one. I hope life also teaches her dad that he deserves a woman that loves him the way he deserves too. His wife is clearly not loving him right.
Op was too hard on her father. 2 weeks is nothing. Also she said he has trouble with social cues which could be why he's having a hard time. He never once said he condoned what the wife did. She's too busy feeling sorry for herself.
Ultimatums make you the ass espically when its life changing ones and expect an answer right then and there. Doesnt sound like you have actually had a real conversation with him other then the ultimatum either.
No matter what your mom did, giving your dad an ultimatum is out of line. You should stay out of their relationship . There is no reason you can't have a relationship with your Dad, no matter what he decides.
Ainda acho que a op deveria olhar o celular do marido, pq a mãe ia ficar tão confortável em fazer tudo isso com o marido da op se ele nunca quis ela???
13:00 "I'm not gonna tell him what to do, it's his decision", right after telling him what to do. Y'know, she could easily cut her mom out of her life, especially since her parents live seperately again and give him some time to process it while keeping in touch only with him, but no. Ultimatum it is.
Ops is so self involved she doesnt care about the ultimatum pf a DIVORCE, throwing it around like its nothing. If you gave your dad an ultimatum then give your husband an ultimatum seeing that he nearly cheated with your mon regarding of him being seduce.
To be fair, you would expect the Dad to divorce the mom after the mom intentionally switched the floral arrangements to trigger a potentially deadly asthma attack on his daughter just so his wife (the mom) could try to seduce his future son-in-law.
Depending on where this story took place, exposing someone to stuff they're allergic to, fully aware of their allergies, qualifies as bodily harm, or even a--ault. OP should've totally pressed charges.
The fact that the father doesn't seem to care that the mother did that to OP is the only red flag she needs to see. He's an enabler.
And she should sue the florist.
Tbh it sounds like atempted murder "now that she is out of the picture"
@@nightminer2111 THIS. If it's a deadly allergy, and she KNEW it was enough to possibly kill her, it's attempted murder. Premeditated. And the fact that she said ^THAT honestly makes me think she really WAS trying to kill her.
Why did you sensor assault?
@piersnivans5983 Maybe they are worried about it being deleted. I've had tons of comments just disappear for no logical reason.
The flower thing was absolutely attempted murder. Also, OP needs to sue the florist so she doesn't have to pay for a hall full of flowers that nearly KILLED her.
Dad seemes okay with his wife trying to kill his daughter... Protect yourself & go NC.
You really think he wasn't trying to grasp everything that was just said? Like she gave him an ultimatum after drooping g a bomb on him.
@wageshokhayamogomane nahhhh he was trying to stall forever until " op cools off so she forgives her mom" ..dude is a spinless worm. ...
@@thetruth12232 weeks is not forever. It's really nothing in the grand scheme of things.
@@oonachestnut509 shouldn't have taken more than 2 minutes.. 2 weeks = he's stalling....
@@DraxXThanos
Mom's apology: "Sorry, I got carried away making a move on my daughter's husband (to be wed at the time) and attempted to murder my daughter."
Dad: "I don't know... that ultimatum needs thinking over about after my wife tried to murder my daughter and also made a move onto another man. I guess I'll attempt to dillydally and hope that not making a decision means I can stay in both of their lives."
She put OP in the hospital then tried to run off with a 29 year old and this dad is still sucking down excuses like "I got carried away".
Bro she tried to murder your daughter and run away with her husband, that's not "I got carried away", that's "I woulda got away with it if not for you meddling kids".
Yeah but she has no right to give a dad that kind of ultimatum.
@@DraxXThanosThe thing is there shouldn't even be an ultimatum. He should've immediately cut all ties with the mother
@@SpooqySqarySqeletons I really hope you were to be in his shoes then maybe you'd realise its not easy.
"Carried away" is being unable to control your passions in the heat of the moment. This was premeditated
@@DraxXThanos
Still not an excuse to just lay there and let it happen. The bystander knowing what's going on and not going anything is as bad as the abuser. He may have his own shit but homie is still awful cause he didn't do anything to stop it or do anything but give excuses for his wife.
Sounds more like atempted murder "now that she is out of the picture"
Dad got some nerve to be shocked when OP went NC with him. He watched his wife aɓuse their daughter under their own roof ever since she was born, and not only wasn't he man enough to put an end to it, he also entertained the idea to give his wife another chance after their daughter got hospitalized bc of Momma's antics. I'm not surprised OP had enough and told her Dad he can kick rocks, as well.
What is sad is that, given his generation, the mentality might be "you need to be man enough to stick by your wife no matter what. Else you'll be shunned as a failure" If so, he'd feel trapped in a lose lose situation, with a daughter pushing him to an edge rather than giving him reassurance or understanding. What her mom did was crappy, but OP's apathetic view towards her dad was just as bad
Apathetic? There's absolutely no reason tp try and kill your kid. I'm pretty sure he's already failed by his generation's standards considering he's allowed his wife to try and kill their daughter just so she can cheat on him with her widower. @Maninawig
@@brianaschmidt910 the apathy I spoke of is how she told him to choose. She claims to understand the depth of his struggles, but offers him an ultimatum over support. Think what kind of life he can look forward to if he chooses his daughter: one possibility ostracized from his friends, isolated in the solitude of his home, and all for a bit of respect and 1 day a year spent with his daughter?
If you want someone in what I presume the dad's position to be to take the dip, it is much better to ask with reassurance that they will be welcomed warmly, accepted and respected... ask them to move in with you or possibly an in-law so they can socially find their footing in the wake, and let them know that you'll be a part of their lives... That little bit to reassure them they won't be alone is often all it takes.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but can’t she still press charges even days later? It doesn’t change the fact that the mom went through with it.
The mother straight up tried to kill her daughter.
Make sure to take the flourist to court for medical costs and to get back any money you already paid her
The florist wasn't at fault.
@Glitche0275 Yes, she was. A confirmation email was sent AND NOT RELPIED TO. That means it wasn't confirmed. That means no changes should have been made without checking again that she didn't misunderstand the change in order over the phone.
The florist has no excuse. The confirmation text is literally the deciding factor. If they don't confirm then don't change anything. If they complain that nothing was changed just say we sent you the confirmation text and we don't change anything unless it is confirmed in writing.
Exactly. I’d sue the hell out of the florist.
"she apologized to him"
But he's not the one who ended up in the hospital.
Call the cops on her. She tryed to kill you.
I'm surprised no one else said this
I don't wanna be that guy, but, tried*
OP's mom should be charged with attempted murder.
I'd sue the mother for switching out the flowers, knowing how it would affect op.
I kinda love this one. It's truly refreshing to see the mom as the bad guy for once and with the MIL even being kind of the hero of the story... nice one!
Did the OP seriously put all of her attention onto her mother trying to get with her husband and NOT the fact her mother intentionally tried to kill her knowing full well how sever her allergy is?
The OP hadn't mentioned at any point that the literal intentional threat to her life might have been a bigger thing to worry about than the attempted husband stealing. I understand that it was a massive issue, but the OP really seems to be overlooking that part a lot especially when she was talking to her Dad.
"She tried to cheat on you..." and take your daughter's life sweety, that's a bit more important than the cheating part IMO.
She is basically her dad. Unable to do what is right because it doesn't feel good.
Goddamn, this mom has been watching too many maroon 5 music videos 😭
The reference☠️☠️☠️
stop 🤣
The Dad is so dumb his Wife cheats on him and he is willing to forgive her in no time
I don't know if he is dumb or scared. Given his age, it could be that the only thing keeping his marriage together is a fear of being seen as a failure. I also noted she mentionned his lack of social cues, which could be an indication of neurodivergence amplifying the fear.... but OP is too self-involved to actually consider the situation from her dad's point of view.
@@Maninawigexactly!
@@Maninawig thats a good answer I didn‘t think of that
@@Maninawig Staying with the woman who tried to *murder* their own daughter, because of neurodivergence? JFC, I'm autistic and I can see that, what's his excuse?
@@MK-ophelia I too am neurodivergent, but I do know the history of marriages not too long ago. So let me clarify: fear is the reason, neurodivergence is the amplifier to fears. Treat them as seperate.
Back just a couple of generations ago, there was a very strong stigma about either partner who leaves their marriages, not just wives. There were even documented cases of men ostracized from society for "allowing and leaving" their wives who did much worse, as it was considered their duty to help them correct such behavior or be part of the problem. Now add something like ADHD's tendency to catastrophize situations or severe Social Anxiety, and that fear of social isolation can chain them into staying even when you say "we no longer live in those ages."
I remember a quote that went "the greatest prison ever built is the one in our own minds."
she should sue her parents
Ok boomer
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Op needs to understand that her dad is not a good person like she thinks. He poots his crazy wife over his kid, which is not good.
So her dad was getting cheated on through out their marriage and he wanted to stay? Well he gets what he deserves. And that 'separation' is irrelevant since they were still married.
She tried to kill you. I don't care it was the wedding day. Call the cops. And what the hell is there for dad to think about she tried to kill u. Nevermimd the attempted cheating.
There would be a lack of evidence, as there is nothing concrete to prove the Mother actually impersonated her to switch the floral arrangements. Even if there was, their voices are apparently so similar that even her own dad has trouble distinguishing them.
OP letting things go just because she doesn't want the drama and not calling the cops after her mother tried to kill her is very telling. Accepting the blame for her flowers being changed...which I find odd because if I were deathly allergic to a certain flower, my wedding florist would certainly know about it.
Your father hasn't done anything for you.
Ok boomer
"I wish I was as strong as everyone in the comment section is", nah they aren't stronger, it's just very easy when you aren't involved emotionnaly and won't have to live with the consequences to say what you should do in that situation.
It is absolutely easier to make the call when you have no skin in the game and the internet is way too eager to cut people out in general. The comments were seemingly saying that ANY hesitation on the dad's part is reason enough to cut him off, which I don't agree with, because it's only human to hesitate on a big decision like that. That said, her mom is completely psychotic. Speaking as someone who has cut out family, and so I do understand the consequences of doing so; if someone intentionally triggered an allergic reaction in my daughter, tried to steal my daughter's fiancé, AND tried to cheat on me in the span of a few hours, it wouldn't take me weeks to decide on whether that person was going to continue to be a part of my life. Any single one of those things is reason enough to remove them. It's just not reasonable to be "unsure" of what to do in that situation for more than a handful of days. Her father is very clearly stringing her along and probably just hoping the situation changes before he actually needs to make a decision. Or his decision is to stand by his psychotic wife and he just doesn't want to openly admit it, and it's quite telling that the OP seems to think that is the case in the end.
I just made a realization recently that my family is toxic. It's heartbreaking to know that despite how much they care about me, I may have to go NC for my own mental health.
This is why there are pass codes on phones and sucirty locks
The fact she didn’t sue her mother in anyway is crazy. I know she trying to deal with this in a manner but she’s weak.
I don't disagree, but when you have a parent that psychotic you just desperately want to wipe your hands of them. My mom had an aunt so vile that she tried to even physically assault her, we wondered why she didn't press any charges, but by that time she was just so emotionally exhausted with dealing with her that she literally was fine with not pressing charges as long as it meant she never had to see her again.
ETA: It would've been hard for OOP to prove that her mom had been the one to change the flower order given she admitted their voices sounded the same. Without legit proof and/or admission from her mom on camera there's no way she would've won.
You’ve clearly never been abused and emotionally manipulated by your own parents. Yes victims of parental abuse tend to be weak because we didn’t have… you know… good parents to teach us proper boundaries and give us good examples of emotional strength and regulation.
You have no idea how hard it is to turn your back on your own life giver yes even if they are 1000% human trash. Trust me I have lived through this and axing my own dad and coming to the conclusion that he serves nothing in my life literally destroyed me for nearly 3 years.
I’m stronger now but I had to build my emotional strength and stability all on my own from absolutely nothing! You sound like you were lucky because you were being taught those very basic life skills while you were learning to walk. Imagine having to figure that out as a mature teenager!
When it comes to family or when it comes to people that you hate you pray nothing bad on them because then something bad could happen to you.. please don't be like them and hate..
The husband is still sus
I would like to see what happened if the mother in law didn't show herself and separated them
The dad is the worst of them all! He’s so whipped! If it were me I’d pick my kid
Have a password for major events like weddings, even if you don't foresee a reason to have one. You can't un-crazy your mom, but you can prevent her assassination attempt by just having your decorators/caterers/whatever just ask for you to say the secret word before any changes to your requests can be made. Even something as innocuous as a teenager's prank could totally upend your wedding if you don't have any precautions.
She left her info left out on her desk, so there was a more than 0% chance she might have wrote it down (Shes forgetful) and left it out, leading to the same result.
@@Lichor2369 Well yea, security checks have to have some level of idiot-proofing to work. Don't write down your passwords and leave them in clearly visible places, that's just a good piece of advice in general.
If your dad really is that oblivious, I feel like it might be possible that he hadn't picked up on that she purposely swapped the flowers ahead of time. Try laying it out for him item by item. Sounds like he's got Asperger's, and people with Asperger's can be wicked smart, but we effectively are born without the sense to determine subtle social things.
Omg 😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏 tf that title
I hate these kind of OPs. The " i didnt do A or B just to avoid the drama" like, girl, your mother tried to kill you and f your husband. Grow a spine and take action.
OP’s dad is a major simp
Mother is tired of old bull. Now she wants the young calf.
She really should of called the cops regardless since it was an attempt on her life. Her safety should be more important instead of the special day
OP really wasted a moment to get mother out of both her dad's and her life. Should have forced him into therapy.
Hope OP had a very successful honey moon and that as a result her father realizes how bad he messed it.
..... Why does op keeps setting aside the fact that her mother tried to kill her ? "She's out of the picture" DUUUUUDEE IT MEANS EXACTLY WHAT IT MEANS !!! PLUS SHE NEVER TRIED TO APOLOGIZE FOR HER BEHAVIOR, if she really "only got carried away" she'd regret it and apologize to her daughter and her son in law, which she didn't do.
The father sucks as well. Who the hell lets anyone get away with trying to harm their child and even make excuses for the perpetrator ?!!
Surely you sue your mum and get another wedding at no extra cost to yourself.
Win for the husband though, filled some of the space with balloons. Balloons are fun and a celebratory decoration piece, OP obviously chose a very good man to marry, he was hit on by his MIL and still managed to salvage what he could of their wedding decor. I hope they remain happy and healthy together!!
OP's dad is an enabler plain and simple, it's totally reasonable for OP to need to put distance between her married family and her awful mother. Unfortunately her dad come into that because he doesn't seem to care at all that the mother could have seriously hurt their child or worse, or that she then hit on their son in law. That's so weird. I understand it isn't easy, but surely hurting your child is a major issue that would cause you to rethink everything.
That's attempted murder!
Tbh I just feel bad for the dad. He definitely knows what his wife did was messed up but he’s been fed so much craziness from her for so many years he can’t even imagine a life without her anymore. It’s a very sad situation.
This is more like Attempted Murder.
i thought florists had to have confirmation from the client to change things?
Only an AI would think that it is possible/likely that a mother would be friends with an out of state florist that is flight distance away. Whatever.
What are you talking about?? How is it weird to have a friend in another state? The internet exists. You'd think you would know that, since you literally had to use it to post this comment 😂
This is such a weird comment that it must be AI. Can’t believe you’re basically saying one can’t have friends that live in another state
@@elithluxe7568 Is it impossible to happen to know a random florist in another state? No. Is it more likely to randomly generate a weird plot point, yeah.
She got carried away by attempting to kill her own daughter and get with her husband? The attempted murder is the bigger fish to fry here. The dad still wants to stay with her? They both can rot. Jesus Christ.
Why is she focusing so hard on her mom trying to cheat on her dad? Severe asthma attacks are no joke. What if she couldn't find her inhaler? She went to the ER. THAT should be why her dad would want to divorce the mom. WTF, am I the only one thinking this?
Wtf is the title of this video💀
"I wish I were as strong as people in the comments"
They aren't, commenters have little to no life on their own and are just commenting on a situation they havent and wont ever experience
Wow OP is making excuses for everything. Remove the rose coloured glasses.
This can't be real......
But you also can't make this sh*t up......
I don't like to perpetuate stereotoes....
But any man who stands by his wannabe-cheating spouse who critically injured his child...because she apologized?
There's weak, there's simp, and then there's dirt.
Dad is lower than dirt.
her parents flew to the wedding but the mom was friend with the florist? how?
So, she knew the spawner was nuts, she uses Reddit, yet didn't put any security in place or password protect her wedding suppliers? No sympathy.
Lack of imagination. You would not expect your own mother to change the floral arrangements to intentionally trigger an Asthma attack.
Although, it would of been avoided if she had read the confirmation text from her florist on the floral arrangement changes.
But of course, you would typically have no reason to suspect such a thing. So to have no sympathy because she did not protect her wedding planning is not exactly fair..
How the fuck does the mother manage to unlock her phone anyway? Imagine 2 people not getting along with low contact for years and somehow one of them can easily unlock the other's phone to mess around.
6 years is ok age gap
For that age, yes. But it gets to be a problem when they're younger, lol. Everything is relative.
It's a bit different when it's 19 and 25 than 25 and 31, she's barely been allowed to vote for a year while he's been drinking for 4.
That said, age gaps when the parties are both legal adults are the crime in and of themselves- it's just a potential warning for potential issues behind the scenes.
Push over OP is a push over.
I think her dad has more issues with divorce than he does with his wife. Christians would call him an Ahab; weak and consistently allowing injustice to come to his loved ones instead of protecting them.
Her dad really lacks self respect jesus fucking christ. He witnessed his wife putting his own daughter into hospital and then saw her try to cheat on him with his own daughter's fiancé right in front of him and others, and yet still can't make himself to divorce that woman. Also the fact he was shocked when he should have seen that one coming when he didn't come to the conclusion when he had 2 weeks of time to come to it makes me hate him even more. My man, your wife nearly killed your daughter and tried to cheat on you with your own daughter's fiancé. It shouldn't take too much time to come to a conclusion and divorce her
19 & 25 isn't that big a difference.
I never understood the concept of making somebody choose for somebody else’s actions…. I get OP’s dad is dumb. I’m not a fan of ultimatums… And I don’t think that’s right
Ops "mom" definitely is the type that peeked in high school like my skin crawled when she tried to get with ops husband like gross lady gross like I'm assuming she's in her late 40s early 50s and she's trying to get with someone just going on there 30s
The random voice in the middle was soo weird
Very fake sounding. Especially the part about the florist. It doesn't matter if you sound just like your mom, you would have discussed the allergy with the florist beforehand. This reeks of made up story. Florist can be held liable for this, which is why it would have been a discussion point beforehand.
Damn never been this early
I think Her husband and her mom probably had affair
Whoever wrote this should know that they sound like a spoiled little brat that didnt get their way. Yeah your mom sucks but giving your dad an ultimatum is beyond rediculous. He simply doesnt want to be alone and u require him to cut off the person who lived with him while u are also going on to live your own life regardless if he cut her off or not. He deserved a better wife and a better child.
giving your father an ultimatum is wild
Dad has his own life, she shouldn't have demanded he leave her. Just tell him NC with Mom.
No, the mother tried to KILL her, and clearly assumed she had succeeded saying "Now she's out of the way" Insisting the father divorce her is more kind than sending her to jail which is what she deserves.
Dads an enabler
As much as I know it probably won't happen I hope this comment finds the original poster, I have been in a situation that is almost a spitting image of what you have described here so let me be perfectly honest with you you are twice of a horrible person than your mother is if you turn around and kick your father out of your life because he can't let go of her, yes from what you've explained your mother's a horrible person but your father still loves her and letting go of love is not something that can be done easily and if it's that easy for you to just let go like this I would honestly tell you to go get in therapy you might need it
I get that what OP’s mother did is nothing short of extreme but I don’t really feel right about her giving her dad an ultimatum. I can understand it because she is naive but I don’t know I hope life brings her back to her dad one day and they can reconcile. That’s a really tough one. I hope life also teaches her dad that he deserves a woman that loves him the way he deserves too. His wife is clearly not loving him right.
fake bs
Op was too hard on her father. 2 weeks is nothing. Also she said he has trouble with social cues which could be why he's having a hard time. He never once said he condoned what the wife did. She's too busy feeling sorry for herself.
Ultimatums make you the ass espically when its life changing ones and expect an answer right then and there. Doesnt sound like you have actually had a real conversation with him other then the ultimatum either.
Well well. She cut her dad out cuz her mom is crazy. What kind of logic is this? Ungrateful woman toward her father.
Why didn't you put passwords in place with the vendors so nobody could change any arrangements without ur approval?
No matter what your mom did, giving your dad an ultimatum is out of line. You should stay out of their relationship . There is no reason you can't have a relationship with your Dad, no matter what he decides.
Ainda acho que a op deveria olhar o celular do marido, pq a mãe ia ficar tão confortável em fazer tudo isso com o marido da op se ele nunca quis ela???
13:00 "I'm not gonna tell him what to do, it's his decision", right after telling him what to do.
Y'know, she could easily cut her mom out of her life, especially since her parents live seperately again and give him some time to process it while keeping in touch only with him, but no. Ultimatum it is.
Ops is so self involved she doesnt care about the ultimatum pf a DIVORCE, throwing it around like its nothing. If you gave your dad an ultimatum then give your husband an ultimatum seeing that he nearly cheated with your mon regarding of him being seduce.
You do know her mom almost murdered her, right?
To be fair, you would expect the Dad to divorce the mom after the mom intentionally switched the floral arrangements to trigger a potentially deadly asthma attack on his daughter just so his wife (the mom) could try to seduce his future son-in-law.
@@nerobernardino88 yeah and ? She was just selfish to give her dad an ultimatum.
@@phasorthunder1157 yeah but you think coming to that decision of divorcing your wife is easy especially when you've been issued an ultimatum?
@@DraxXThanosSo... You think almost dying isn't worthy of an ultimatum?
People in the comment section is not strong they just don't have a personal ties and I'm like you do Dale just Basin it all on logic
The MIL is pure evil. The first part sounds like the story in a Dhar Mann video I saw once. The MIL used honey in the ham 🫨🫨🫨
Huh... you mean the mother, right? The MIL actually exposed the mother's actions.
@@DarkEinherjar oh yeah mb