How to Stop Intrusive Thoughts and Overthinking
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Intrusive thoughts often seem to pop up out of nowhere and can be very upsetting, and sometimes even disturbing when they do. Also, often when we have intrusive thoughts we can get into a pattern of overthinking those thoughts - what they mean and why were having them in the first place - and this can cause a lot of extra stress and anxiety. None of which are great for our mental health. Here I teach you some effective skills to help you stop your intrusive thoughts when they show up.
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I struggle with overthinking many things. It's a real challenge. It's good to know that others also deal with it and that it's not unique to just me.
I wish there was a switch to turn it off
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My hugest struggle is I wake up wondering if anxiety will kick in today and then it starts... I never had anxiety this bad till recently...
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Me too. I think it’s very common
I. No what you saying. Bin to hospital 2. Times. Thought it was my heart but not its angzerty. Now I just switch off the mind. Nothing else a con do. Good luck my friend. From Lancashire England UK pendle witches country 🇬🇧🙏🧙♀️
Thank you, Julia Kristina! I very much struggle with intrusive thoughts, overthinking, ruminating about the past, and projecting into the future. I need to work the tools that you presented today. Thanks for the ’10-Minute Guided Mindfulness Audio’!
Having gratitude and practicing to keep my thoughts in the day truly helps me.
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Even I go through the same thing.. so irritating
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A lot of liking drama means we can get involved and forget what's going on with us personally
Such good information here. My gf has to remind me to stop over thinking everything. To take what she says/writes for what it is. No other meaning behind it. She says I overanalyze too much. I can’t seem to help it. I’m currently in therapy and working on it. Over a year now and it is helping. It’s almost like a thought process reset. I think of it as a ‘hard reset’ on an iPhone. The visual I get from that helps me to remember; my thoughts are not always what’s really happening or what’s really being said.
I have these almost everyday most of the day and its so hard. I feel like crying sometimes or most of the time.
i can relate it is hard have you tried mindfullness meditation?
I'm too scared to cry when I get these intrusive scary thoughts. When they get less then I feel like crying. Happens normally in public places. On the train back from my parents and been off medication for a while now but I can't go back to square 1 again. I just can't!
I haven’t watched this all yet but I’m 1000% going to. Obsessive/intrusive thoughts are some of my biggest OCD struggles.
It’s debilitating more often than not so I always appreciate these types of videos.
People don’t realize that a lot of the struggles with OCD are internal so to speak, and not SEEN.
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This is so true. When the ruminating and obsessing kicks in, I feel like I should look like Megamind by the end of the day
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No matter what trick we use, it is NOT NOT NOT effective to keep saying thoughts are without any evidence or baseless!!! When are ppl ever going to understand this. Thoughts arise because SOMETHING ACTUALLY HAPPENED TO US. It’s NOT just something we conjure up in our heads!!! I was a completely healthy and happy individual but now I cannot even smile, have crippling anxiety ( I throw up sometimes) For years!!! All thanks to the relentless narrative of how thoughts are baseless and don’t believe them. This narrative is even adopted by people who are supposed to heal! Acknowledge yourself more, do not dismiss without really finding out what’s the reason you are having a thought. Some thoughts are baseless, I agree. Bit so many are NOT. The overthinking happens because we fail to validate our own pain and keep feeding ourselves with the narrative “It’s all in our heads!”
So helpful, thank you!
I have a totally different view on intrusive thoughts. I had looping ocd intrusive thoughts ptsd triggers. we can fully recover from them. it just takes repetition and clarity. it goes against traditional methods because it's counterintuitive. when we get into an anxious state of fight or flight because of life situations that keep us in a high stress level. it gets hardwired to our new baseline so it's normal for the brain to send out alarms ⏰️ of physical symptoms and intrusive thoughts/ocd/anxiety it's perceiving danger that isn't there. it find everything to be a threat. our limbic system is our security system and it's job is to keep us alive. that's the priority it doesn't care if your suffering as long as your alive. it sends out alarms and asks questions later. it's a mal adaptive stress response. it acts like there is a tiger 🐅 near by when there isn't. when we react in fear and and run around fighting our thoughts or body sensations the brain thinks your In danger and backs you up for support by sending alarms of fear and thoughts to get you to urgently fight or Flee. what I did was Allow the thoughts to be. let then run wild and burn 🔥 it's energy out. invite them in. ask for more. picture the thought as a cloud passing through your chest and throat and let it be. sit in the fear and let it do its thing. it will dissolve and lift. the key when allowing the thoughts to float through you is to not ruminate the thought. this is key. do not try to figure it out or try to fix it because you will never win. it's like pouring gas on a fire. just allow the thought(fear emotion) to be acknowledged. when you resist them or try to distract they become bigger and louder. what we resist persists. it's like saying don't think about purple tigers. the content of the thought..is IRRELEVANT. you will notice that after you processed the emotion behind the thought that you will forget what the thought was about. the thought is supposed to bring you into the emotion. the emotion needs to be acknowledged. when emotions like fear aren't acknowledged then they become bigger and you get triggers. emotions send thoughts to bring you in. that's its job.the thoughts are supposed to be scary to get your attention. that's the point. if they weren't scary then they wouldn't be able to get your attention to the fear emotion. trying to count backwards or forcing your self to be in the present moment is resistance and doesn't work. it's a coping mechanism that makes things worse. anxiety can find you in the past..in the future and definitely in the present moment. it doesn't matter. we shouldn't be limited to the present moment to avoid or resist thoughts. that feeds them. what we do is 1. allow the thought..
2. don't ruminate or try to figure it out. don't white knuckle or rush the thought away because that tells the brain you are resisiting and in danger.
3. engage in life. do something you enjoy. engaging is different then distracting because you allow the thought to do its thing and you allow it to come along. taking the fight away from intrusive thoughts calms your limbic system with repetition and time. you also build new neural pathways and eventually the invasive thoughts will be in the background like all the other 70 thousand thoughts. at first you will need to practice this method and process each thought but eventually they get less sticky. you will be able to scroll on from your thoughts just like we do when we see something we don't like on fb feeds. we just scroll on. it's also a form of exposure. eventually the thoughts become numb. they go from a 10 to a 6..to a 5...3..numb. this works with triggers also. I used to loop on 1 single thought for weeks at a time. now I'm free and have my brain back. I use the present moment to engage in life not to distract but to savor the moments and elevate my mood to hardwire Happyness. being mindful is allowing your thoughts and not judging them or fixing them. observing them and allowing them to be and redirecting to life. I hope this helps ...it's not a new approach..clair weekes wrote about this over a century ago. you won't find it much on you tube. it's a simple approach but it works. 👍❤️
also if you want this process to go quickly...after you did the last step and engaded for 20 min in something you liked...go back to the thought. hunt it! ask for more. and repeat the steps. then engage again. do this through the day and one by one the thoughts (alarms)get numb. it might seem difficult to run towards your thoughts but whats the other option? fighting them is worse and keeps you stuck. the other way is hard but you recover. it's actually not as bad.
I took a screenshot of your advice. I'm going to try to incorporate this in my daily life. Thank you for taking the time to share this. 😊
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hi does this work for healing or getting intrusive thoughts about a certain person to stop
I love you, Julia. Please don't send out your husband to beat up those who express love to you!. The proper abbreviation of FEAR is - Fake, Evidence, Appearing, Real!
Needed this today, thanks!
Thanks Julia,
Great video topic for me,
Amen on the news Julia! I recently realized it can actually be addictive. The boycott is on! Feeling the peace!
Very grounding to hear first thing this morning. Thank you
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Thank you for your video, it resonated so deeply with what I have been going through. I recently started looking up counseling videos as it is so hard to access mental health resources urgently without hospitalization or sometimes you make all the effort to be seen and end up not liking the provider because you have never met them. I have found so many professional counseling videos on RUclips. It’s nice to sample or get a taste of the providers dedication and passion for the subject. You seem so genuine I instantly subscribed. Your words were very powerful, truly helpful. Thank you sincerely. ❤️
You really nailed this! Thank you!!! You said it in a way that I can apply thank you❤️
Love this, u are explaining me, u are the first person to understand me!
Thank you for helping me with my struggle...
Every time I listen to these videos they really help me to ease my anxiety
You are the best Julia Kristina!! Every video I've watched hits the nail right on the head each time!! Thank you so much!!
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It was all great. I needed this right now. Thank you!
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I need you in my life! Thanks so much!❤
I need to listen to this over and over until I get it apply it to my life
I really appreciate you Julia and your teachings are absolutely wonderful
Thank you
OMG !! Thank you sooo much !!
Im noticing that all of your videos are so helpful and informative for anyone who have been through traumatic experiences and want to turn it around and actually enjoy life and thrive!! I LOVE that you actually took the time to figure all of this information about our brains out !!! Im blown away !!! 🤯🤯😱😍❤️💯
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Great channel, glad I have stumbled upon it. Greetings from Rome, Italy
This came at the right timing
all Julia's posts are so good... I like them immediately just so I can keep track of the ones I've seen vs revisiting!
pro self-health TIP! hehe
Hi Julia. My name is Melissa. This video could not have come at better time. I just had a huge disagreement with mom that essentially revolves around how much her and I struggle with this exact topic. It's caused a lot of tension between her and I recently but my hope is that with us finally getting things out in the open, we can heal and move forward in a positive direction. Thanks for all your great videos!!
THANK YOU!!!!!
Nice to see you again.
This post is yet another reminder that what goes on in your head, someone else's head, and what goes on in the general world is three different things.
Thnx for the present! Have good weekend all! Party in the ethos! Have fun be safe
My psychiatrist said that i am hyper vigilant. Please make video on it.
Thank you for this and the codependency vid. You rock!
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This was So informative and I got a lot out of it especially overthinking about everything, assuming that things are going to happen when I have no idea about them. Living in the present moment is key
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Thank you for opening my eyes
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It’s so helpful Julia
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My name is Heidi and I’ve really been struggling with crippling anxiety and panic however it’s gotten significantly worse over the last few months. I would love to connect with you for help because this really is crippling and feels like it will never end
Thank you Julia
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Thanks so much for all the wonderful work you and your content offer. New points always jump out and hit me in the 👃 nose when I review your works Julia. I will be a life long ( my life) fan and follower of you and your work. All the best to you and your family.
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I really appreciate psychology. I hope it is OK with you, that I tune in.
This was surprisingly more insightful than I expected
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Thanks you very much.
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Very insightful . These are the basis of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. CBT helped save my life 30 yrs ago and I use some part of it everyday
Thanks for the great video ! Something I suffer from greatly . I'll be watching this often to let it sink in ..... Ha ! the osmosis method .... :D
I often fight with some of people in my thoughts. This is why I ask from time to time "Am U insane or something?"
There's a buddhist monk on youtube named Ajahn Brahm that says to write these negative things on toilet paper, preferably in brown and then flush it down the toilet. It's a great option for everyone that does not have a fireplace to burn the paper. It also has extra symbolism for getting rid of the sh*%.
Yes exactly i struggle it all the time being an empath is super hard
Wow this is helpful
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I guess I say all of this because out of the 7 videos I’ve seen, I cut them off short because by the time the help comes, it takes so long to get there. Thanks
Hi Julia! Shifter here! Great video. I love these reminders. Things that we have learned in the Shift Society.
Also one helpful tip that I have learned from you that I would like to share is to ask ourselves, "Is this thought healthy, helpful, producitive or serving?"
And I admit, you know me, I have a doomsday fear mindset so that resonating with me. We can't control what we can't control in the world, so why spend time worrying about it.
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• Our brain thinks about the past or what could happened in the future.
• We are thinking about things that other people may be thinking.
• Low sense of self usually struggle what others think.
• After leaving social event and you think about "What if I said the wrong thing or they
took that the wrong way…" etc
• Drawn to drama, fear and doom. (Scrolling social media and news)
• We can only anticipate the past the future other than in our thoughts.
How to Stop them:
1. Recognize the only way we can experience the past or the future is in our thoughts.
Say, "I noticed that I am having the thought that…" and "This is not a truth or fact… but
even if it is, it isn't helpful to allow my brain to keep going over and over it. " …etc…
2. Call out the intrusive thoughts as an intrusive thought, "I am NOT my thoughts, I am the THINKER of my thoughts. I am the being thinking of my thoughts." "This is the thought that's coming in…it is an intrusive thought"
3. Dispute the thought. "Is this thought 100% true, 100% of the time?"
Take a step back and ask ourselves, is this true?
4. Do a Sucky First Draft - a brain dump journal. Just write down every thought - don't worry about grammar or even disputing them just dump them out.
5. Then take that piece of paper of all the unhelpful thoughts about life or yourself and then rip it up or throw it in the fire (safely lol) a symbol of disposing these thoughts. You don't have to keep thinking these unhelpful thoughts.
Thanks Coach!
To those who are reading this, remember always what a worthy and valued person you are. ❤
Chrisdigitalartest .hello me I have been reading everything you wrote I'm watching Julia s video now and listening this video topic is very helpful advice and comforting I struggle with this I have intrusive thoughts I think about and worry about Meany different things good to read your advice aswell 🙂
@@nikkimckay860 Hi there! Yes these are great tips Julia shared. 👍
@@chrisdigitalartist how have you been doing?
@@nikkimckay860 I am doing okay. Thanks for asking. I hope you are too.
@@chrisdigitalartist that's good glad you are doing ok no really iv been really struggling with my mental health sleep issues stress negative thoughts and suicidal thoughts bad depressive episodes hopefully getting a phone call tomorrow from mental health about when I'm starting therapy thank you for asking take care chris
I'm stuck with unemployment for a few months now and my generalized anxiety and depression always make sure I feel either way every day. Taking meds help but I over think it to the point that I'm unproductive some days, completely.
I will try iy
I feel like you should go on a Ted Talk at least once. Your contents is worth spreading
Thank you so much for your videos. Their very helpful. I struggle with intrusive thoughts expecially after the mass shootings going on in the world. I know their just thoughts but they keep replaying making me worry.
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I think that is what drew me to Facebook... All of the drama there ...no more of it for me!!
I wake up in the middle of the night not knowing why but right before I wake up, I have some thought of something that I didn't like about how the day before went. Once I'm awake, I forget about it, but my brain must be trying to work it out.
God I want so badly to stop this and stop feeling this way. It's so hard and it has ruined so many relationships. Especially the relationship with myself which is pretty much non existent but I'm trying to learn. Feel so broken alot and not worthy .
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👋🏽 Hello new friend 😊 i am a new subscriber I really appreciate you and your content your video are very helpful ❤️
Ok. The video starts at 15:40. Thanks!
Facebook was judging every single thing I did!!
yes back again, My Name is Nick this thank you for telling me im not alone , you actually sank my battle ship, lol best wishes!
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Thank you , i have this intrusive thoughts always , i will write it down and burned it lol
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Hi, thanks for the videos! It’d be even more helpful if you’d provide fewer examples and more of the practical how to stop it. I’ve seen lots of videos of yours and am a new subscriber as of a few days ago. So, maybe if you can keep this in mind, that’d be great! I don’t have much time for long videos, but the short videos that give tips to change and stop the intrusive thoughts, or whatever the topic is, would be super. I appreciate it!
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I permanently deleted my Facebook account because the anger it caused me led me to a trip to the ER today and almost a Heart Attack or Stroke!!
What about grief. Did this work with grief? My daughter and grandkids are moving 400 miles away and I’m used to seeing them often. I’m single and they are a huge part of my life. Every time I think of them I go right into emotional pain and tears. They are leaving next week and I have never experienced this type of grief before. I’m thankful it’s just a move but it’s not something I am coping well with. Will this work because it’s a family situation. I have another daughter here and grandkids but they are not home much and not as involved in my life. I have centered my world around my family as they bring so much joy.
Where is the waitlist I never see it
I’m such an over thinker
I've always known the difference between false accusations and the true intrusive thoughts I've been struggling with for years I have schizophrenia and depression I'm taking meds for I don't believe the negative thought but I want to change them and become mentally more who I know I really am
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I tried brain dumping a couple of days ago in my journal.. it didn't make me feel better. Am I doing something wrong?
Does peri menopause trigger intrusive thoughts of the past? I never had this problem before until I started having hot flashes a few weeks ago🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
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But what about all of the random thoughts you have that are possibilities for the outcome of something that you did wrong?
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My emotions are in a wooden crate inside me. They can't get out but they keep yelling at me. And crying. Lots of painful crying going on.
What you do with feelings and dreams that come true?
How do you get the links you below I don’t see them
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Priscilla Anderson, haven't listened for awhile
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Can you talk about when famous people commit suicide and how that may affect us. For example, the recent death of Naomi Judd or someone like Robin Williams. It scares me when they do this because if they can't survive, how will I.
Because everyone is different. Just because, tragically, they could not get past their issues, does not mean that you cannot. Please don't compare yourself to them, or anyone else.
What was that? Light it on fire and throw it on the carpet? Or, did you say take it to your neighbor's house with a can of gasoline? Am I getting this right? I can't wait to practice this! I should feel so very much better!!!!
If we are listening to this.. we All have a," human brain 🧠🙄"...lol
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Maybe your presentation didn't suck, maybe there jealous cause it was so awesome that it made them look bad cause they been there way longer than you but they got complacent and their presentations are genuinely bad!
this is just a tot about the past, fut.
u r nt ur tot
is this true all e time?
write n throw away bad tot
You're very beautiful.
She rambles a lot in and all over the place. I suggest starting towards the end of the video
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Real Recognize Real. JK is the truth!
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struggling with intrusive thoughts, I am a new mom, scared of harming my child
Get off RUclips and go speak to your doctor if you are having intrusive thoughts about harming your child. As a new mother you could have post partum related problems - please don't delay when it is for the safety of your child.
Hey Amanda. I am a PTSD. My baby is two years now. I had PTSd when he was 3 months old. I got help and became fine. I am just scared of relapsing. We are doing fine accept for the intrusive thoughts that started recently. I will definitely find help. I have been booked for a therapist on the 10th. Thanks for caring
Love your gift Julia! Thank you for such enlighten insight🙏🏾… your presentation is sosososo relatable… my shish draft needs revision, before your video, it consisted of all the catastrophising shish crap I need not pound my brain with, working on it♥️🏜
💭Anxious😬overthinking going on over here rn👈🏻!🤍