Derrick, thank you for not describing a woman who is wife material as someone who cooks and cleans but rather someone who puts effort into making the relationship a success.
I can guarantee you guys that when a woman gets to the point of initiating divorce, she more than likely already tried everything there is out there.... A lot of men just don't want to admit or fix when anything is wrong.
I wish, my husband had treated me life his wife when he could. This hurts watching because I am that wofe, currently and I married..a person who didn't know how to be a husband. I have a feeling I'll get an apology some Time when I'm doing good and he's in a new bad relationship
1. She’s an asset. 2. In an argument she knows how to control her tongue, she has tact. She knows how to come to you with respect. Comes to you like an adult, Seeks to build you up. She’s not cussing you out and tearing you down. 3. Knows how to conduct herself even when she’s not around you. 4. She gives 100% of her loyalty. If the relationship is toxic, she will also walk away.
@@bernardvining4157 i always try to figure out why it says god made females for men (mate) but i dont have one i cant date a dog cat horse only human (females) the bible might be wrong im single
I forgot that existed like literally that part of Proverbs I forgot that existed at all makes me wonder actually read that part of the book so I can look into myself and make sure I present myself in this manner of like being a strong and wife material type of woman for wedding ready for a relationship after I finished healing
She is a wife when you see mother qualities in her: she is loving, nurturing, kind and gentle. She is clean and supports her husband. She enjoys taking care of others.
Exactly. It's the same for men and women, just a different kind. Women should be the typical feminine nurturer, care giver. Men should take care of a woman in the way of being financially stable, showing appreciation, providing safety.
What bothers me. is I see a lot of guys let down wife material and try to change a bad b*tch into a wife Then got the nerve to go on social media and say they want a queen..Men are just confusing to the point I don't think they really want to be husbands,but want the benefit
You're so right. I'm starting to see that many males love drama. They talk a good game about needing a good woman, but when they get one, they start chasing some mean ass women...and most of the time these crazy ass women are not cuter nor have more to offer, just drama.
coco chanel they’re not confused my sister, they just don’t know how to know a good woman, that’s all. It takes a man that has had a strong mother figure in their lives to recognize and be with a wife material!
You're "on point" with the "wife material." Yep. Loyal, dedicated, setting and enforcing clear boundaries, treating you well, working on the relationship AND will leave you if you're perpetually neglecting her, not treating her well, cheating on her, the relationship has become unhealthy and you're not working on it...even if she still loves you. Why? Because wife material wants a healthy committed romantic relationship, not a fiasco.
This is why i walked away from my 10yrs of marriage we have 3 kids but. He was entering other females and not helping anymore in the house and stopped making me feel special as his wife. So I dated after end up with 2 relationship that i left cause they was toxic and not husband material. My man I am with is husband material he shows me this by his words and actions
when you said wifey material will leave if the man doesn't meet that bar that was set that was the icing on the cake. real shit man i had to leave someone that i have known for 15+ years bc he ended up being disrespectful and verbally abusive. no matter how good i was to that man and how much i loved him, and the fact that we have a son i still left and i am enjoying the peace ;)
tnwilliams52 I feel you.There really is nothing better than having peace of mind. Men can bring so much drama to ones life. And good on you for realising your worth and that you can do so much better by yourself.
Omphile Moerane yes honey nothing better than being alone and at peace...some people are stuck "in love" but it takes mucy more than that! 2 weeks after he left my house he moved in with another woman lol that was my confirmation right there!!
tnwilliams52 I'm happy that you made the decision to love yourself and put your worth first. Certain women use their children as an excuse, which is understandable. However, there is a such thing as being too disrespected and knowing when to leave . I'm happy for you 💞
A women worth making a wife is someone willing to tell you the truth even if it hurts. Why? The pain from honesty allows us to see ourselves. When we see ourselves unfiltered, we grow.
wonderfullee 123 a wife material is a woman that can be accountable for are wrong doings rather being defensive “you’re the reasons I’m this n that” no being accountable for what you did or not doing to make the relationship a successful one
"Wife material is a woman that'll walk away from a relationship even if she still loves you when she realizes there's no more respect" - I busted out crying. Just found your channel today. You're funny, entertaining, and keep it real. Thanks for keeping me company on a Friday night!
I do appreciate your video on this subject. A lot of us men can really learn from own short comings and what we are really looking for in a woman. There's somebody for everybody and as long we are equally yolked the sky's the limit of what we can accomplish together, that called building a foundation. Keep bringing more encouraging videos like this my brother from another mother, God bless you.
Its a term most Christians use to describe let's say a married couple as "equal" I'm not really sure how to explain it but from my interpretation of the scripture it seems to mean either not to marry or not associate with non believers.
Wife Material only gives up & leaves when the dude is Not husband material. When it's like that- there's no foundation to build upon & they're simply unequally yoked🙁. She will be better off waiting for Mr. Right instead of wasting her time & energy on the wrong one💔.
@@Jennily90 Any guy would leave you if they aren't sexually happy with you. Girls are first emotionally attracted then slowly the physical attractiveness increases when they get closer to the guy emotionally. It's the opposite for a guy. A guy is physically attracted first and then gets emotionally attracted when getting to know the girl more. A girl would leave a guy if he is only physically attracted to her and doesn't show her love and care. A guy would leave a girl of she's only emotionally attracted to him and doesn't want try out different intimate or sexual attractivities or fantasies. Both the girl and boy needs to understand each others likes and kinks and give it to them when they ask as and act of love. If you don't do that and he breaks up with you cause he found someone else that would provide him that then it's your fault and you need to take the blame and improve before you get to your next relationship. If he left because he wasn't serious and only wanted a temporary pleasure with you then it's his fault. He would find a girl that will give him that.
I know my girl is wifey material. During the first real talk conversation we had while dating, I told her I was looking for a queen, not a self described queen that behaved like a spoiled princess. She looked me in my eyes and said "Im a queen in training." I impulsively grinned and hugged her dread-headed ass. 😊
Build up... yes. I believe women must be comfortable being alone until they meet a man who knows how to value "wife material." I had to learn this. A couple of times I settled for men who viewed my kindness as weakness, that can be frustrating. As you said... walk away when the respect leaves. And my new motto... wait for the right person.
I am starting to really like this guy's videos now. At first, I was playing devil's advocate big time and making Derrick to be a man basher. But now, I truly see the value in his videos. When I watch them it makes me appreciate my girlfriend more and see that I can be at peace of mind if I show her through my actions and patterns that I love her and want to grow with her. Keep up the great work!
Josh McIntosh - I commend you! I pray that there are more men such as yourself that see the value in Derricks videos and can truly appreciate the content and growth in them, single or in a relationship it's all appreciated.
Dark Caesar well of course we know that men and women can be equally trifling, however they can also be equally incredible, mature, trustworthy, and the best absolute version of themselves. I think Lyfe Jennings said it best when he wrote, "Be the person you want to find, don't be a nickel out here looking for a dime". That always resonated with me and that is how I handle myself.
The Obsidian Media Network 2 - For me personally I don't think that you have to be married in order to know what should be already be in place in order to make a marriage. This is what he feels and these are the thoughts that have been instilled in him. And not for nothing, he hits a lot of these issues dead on. DJ isn't saying anything wrong. He advocates for both men and women. This man is the truth! But again he does say that this is how he feels. And there are tons of people that consign his authenticity and realness. Even in this post, he is absolutely right!
I know it's plenty of men watching this video but won't like or comment on this video BUT *take notes cause we out here patiently waiting for our king*
Ikr lol....There needs to be a male seminar for men to hear this wisdom bc there's a lot of men that are regretting each day of letting "the wifey material" go so dudes should hear things like this to avoid this future regret 🤦🏽♀️
I stay getting cheated on and it pushed me to the point were I disrespected women every chance I could . I had to realize that I had to love myself before loving another being and it's still a book being written but you my friend lifted me up made me open my eyes to a lot in all of your videos . Thank you - Jr.
Lol the fact that most women in the comment section latched on to that saying while negotiating everything else she said speaks a lot why you women can't get into a successful relationship
Give him 100% friendship, loyalty, to build together. When he takes her for granted & disrespects her , she walks out with her dignity and never resorts to conflicts , she walks out in peace. May he find his type that’s all she wishes him , that’s love , love is the highest vibration , everyone should be blessed with such a beautiful energy of Love. No bitterness , no dramas .she heals from a heartbreak and evolve into more compassionate and empathetic being. She trust the process. Divine will bless her with her vibrational match. That’s why it’s so important to heal and recenter ourselves then balance and stability will be inevitable. Be kind , be compassionate Much love to all Stay blessed 💗
Great content but by the time most realize they had wife material all along its already too late.Its always after you leave they talk about how much they really love and need you.If you keeping entertaining their nonsense they will take you for granted. Sometimes it has to take something drastic for them to realize that.Like a break up.
There are plenty of women out there who messed it up for women like myself who's loyal & want to be in a committed, happy, healthy & respectful relationship/marriage with a decent man. But, he's been hurt and so it takes a lot of patience for both parties to come together & build a foundation for him to even put a ring on it due to his past relationships!ijs
Hence why no woman is ever wife material. Getting married is just one big game of Russian Roulette. Saying that cliche of "Not All Women are Like That" is like saying "go ahead, pull the trigger, not all chambers are loaded".
You can do EVERYTHING allegedly correct in marriage, and still be left paying a serious amount of your income to a woma, when she is no longer earning it.
@Chassity Taylor Look who's talking. You sound hurt as well. The difference is that the system only holds men accountable to be faithful, most of the time, and gives women a perverse incentive to betray their husband.
Brought tears to my eyes the last 2 minutes, sir. Heartbreaking the situation Im in right now. Married 15 years but I cant take the emotional abuse any longer. It hurts my soul to know that despite my best efforts from the bedroom to the kitchen, he will NEVER give me the only thing I ask: Respect. God bless you and thank you.
When Derrick is describing you😊 I had to leave my ex after 12 yrs because the respect he had for me as his lady changed and I knew he was looking for away out and now the grass ain't always greener on the other side
Lol the fact that most women in the comment section latched on to that saying while negotiating everything else she said speaks a lot why you women can't get into a successful relationship
I agree but I would add compatibility mentally, intellectually, dietarily, spiritually, consciously, morally and ethically. All the other stuff like bedroom skills, cooking ability, physical appearance is icing on the cake. Oh yeah- hygiene!!!
Yaffa Ellington I don’t think it’s icing on the cake. You can have all of the above and lose a relationship when the sexual or physical attraction is simply not there. It all matters.
You really hit the nail when you said "you got all these women and have nothing to show for them" I've been preaching that around my way for a while now once my eyes started to open
Thank you you made me see my self we as women got to make sure we have our life together we need to get rid of all the old baggage before going into any relationship love you Cynthia
Wow. It's like you know my history. A few years back my ex-husband, that I've known since Jr. High, slept with his brothers girlfriend. I left him. I was really in love with him and treated him like King. We had a great sex life. He's sooo sorry and regrets it. I'm dead inside for him tho.
Man, you speak like a father. I never hear people talk about stuff like this and I don't think to research, so of course I never know until you bring it up. Thank you so much.
Happy wifey here 8 years married and 18 years together. I waited for the right man (married at 40) I took those vows very seriously. He’s been nothing but amazing. I got breast cancer and he’s been by my side through a year of treatment. We 50/50 and still madly in love
Girrrl, I hear so was I 💯% wife material & was there in the bad & good but he didn’t deserve me, so I left his ass. A man that doesn’t want to grow up side by side with a mature woman such as myself will not waste my time...either your in or your out LOL 😂
I got called a “bad woman” because I wanted a healthy relationship, i left not because I didn’t love him but because i know it won’t change and I want a future husband not another heartbreak 👍🏻 stay strong
Omg thank you!!!! Everyone expect you to stay in a bad relationship because "second chance" or "I love him/her" bullshit, when u break my trust it's the same as cutting my head off, u cant glue that shit together back to make me feel alive... so no even if I love you I will still leave that person
You're on point brother. I was just dealing with a female that was entertaining other men and when I pointed it out to her she would get aggressive and put her hands on me. You're spot on
Thanks. I actually agree. Boundaries, loyalty, and respect. Too many women also have side dudes, or dudes waiting in the wings, and think that this is acceptable in a relationship.
I am going to spare you all of the protocol, saying that you have a great channel/website, you come real with your advice, and that you are cute. (I mean, that is common knowledge). What I will say is that you have the heart of a father when you advise young men and women on true relationship issues and matters of the heart. Every time I watch one of your videos, I feel like I have been counseled by one who truly cares for me. And even though I don't know you, and have never met you, I believe you are going to make your future son or daughter a wonderful and extremely wise father someday. I hear my fathers' voice in your advice. Thank you. It's nice to have big brothers in various places.
I’ve been healing for a year now about finally leaving behind once and for all a relationship with a narcissist, I’m finally healing and slowly loving myself again. What you said about wife material women that go through way too many bs relationships before meeting their king made me emotional, I can but can’t wait to meet that man. Your words and thoughts are so important, I love the content you make, thank you.
On point Jaxn. I am a good woman cause I don't waste time on bad men. It is an investment to be good. It takes time, effort, study and virtuosness. Bless recognize.
Sounds about right to me! True about leaving a man who you are madly in love with once the trust and/or respect is broken. You can't give 100% anymore when he shows that he doesn't value you or your relationship.
can you (or anyone) explain to me the logic behind "you made me a better man/woman" or "i wanted to be a better person because i met you". I've always been skeptical about that phrase. I'd prefer a man to want to be a better person for himself first and not "because of me" or "because he doesn't want to lose me" ... like intrinsic motivation to be a better human whether he were to meet me or not...
Naomi What I get from the statement, "you made me a better woman /man" is a matter of maturing in a relationship. It's not to say that you and the other person are not mature individually. With any relationship you have; work, friend, family, and intimate partner there is always a need for each person to be willing to grow in order for the relationship to be successful. You don't expect a child to remain a child forever. Communicating, being open to consider the issues that are being brought forth, and not having to "win" every disagreement (because you are on the same team) are things couples struggle with. It's not about tolerating him/her. The more your relationship matures the deeper the affection is. That person should be your compliment.
Naomi At least personally, I had someone come into my life and point out all these qualities that I let lay low and he stirred it all up. Also, I saw a lot of me in him and let it shine through. But of course, because I am, indeed, a real one, he decided to keep on with his usual tiny and pretty for nothing.
Naomi Perhaps you have standards that he is willing to live up to in order to be with you. I remember having a guy in my life who, although he seemed to have his shit together, i felt as like I needed to get mine together. He helped me at the time because he liked me but I needed to change. He always supported my business. He was a true friend. We split because we had our differences but I never forgot what he said to me. I went back to college, earned 2 degrees and I'm doing alright. We are still really good friends and I have told him how he motivated me to be a better person.
Thanks Derrick, I can tick every box including the one where I've been messed around by my ex as he was setting other women and trying to meet up with them and sending naked pics..... I stayed for almost 4 years.... I realised I was busy being a wifey when he wasn't even being a boyfriend..... so that was it i walked even though I loved him soooo deeply but why should he have that when he blatantly shows disrespect for the relationship we had? but now I have a man who gives the same as I do....
The men you speak of are around every corner in every building. Women need to start accepting when they make a bad selection because of her ridiculous criteria list and stop thinking good men are so rare
Watching your videos brings back my faith that good men exist. You are a perfect man in my eyes. Love your voice and energy. Your wife is a lucky woman 😊
Derrick, thank you for not describing a woman who is wife material as someone who cooks and cleans but rather someone who puts effort into making the relationship a success.
Omphile Moerane True that. That's a good point
Omphile Moerane Yes!!
@TheHolyGhost 🤣🤣🤣
Omphile Moerane exactly
Omphile Moerane AMEN! Cause when/if the sickness hits in marriage, cooking and cleaning alone ain’t gonna cut it.
wife material is a woman that'll walk away from a relationship even if she still loves you when she realises there's no more respect/trust/
Why do women always talk about ending relationships irrespective of the topic? No wonder divorce rates are high
How is that wife material? Sound like thats just commom sense to me, nothing to do with "wife material"
I can guarantee you guys that when a woman gets to the point of initiating divorce, she more than likely already tried everything there is out there.... A lot of men just don't want to admit or fix when anything is wrong.
Mercy Timothy I did that I walked 😢💔
What you just said made no sense at all.
A wife wants to bless her husband.She also helps her husband purpose grow. She is ready to maintain peace. Most of all she respects her relationship.
Kassandra Queen truer words have never been spoken. A true woman and wife will stimulate her mans mind and feed his soul
Kassandra Queen, very well said!👏
I wish, my husband had treated me life his wife when he could. This hurts watching because I am that wofe, currently and I married..a person who didn't know how to be a husband. I have a feeling I'll get an apology some Time when I'm doing good and he's in a new bad relationship
Come here girl
Kassandra Queen yes ma'am
My motto is when my man isn’t around I represent him, when I’m not around he represents me. Now if we live by this we’ll be A-ok 👌🏾
Except not not under the ok symbol. Sounds good otherwise 🙌
Yup. I always tell my husband “I respect u more, behind your back”
Exactly I do this too
Damn where you at? I always get women how are angry and victims of life.
Love this ❤
1. She’s an asset.
2. In an argument she knows how to control her tongue, she has tact. She knows how to come to you with respect. Comes to you like an adult, Seeks to build you up. She’s not cussing you out and tearing you down.
3. Knows how to conduct herself even when she’s not around you.
4. She gives 100% of her loyalty. If the relationship is toxic, she will also walk away.
This is a mythical being
Tone Waf 💀💀💀 seems like it huh? That’s why I’m just patiently waiting for one to come along. Until then, I’m steady building/adding to my foundation💯
Joshua Champion Im here baby 🤷🏻♀️
X X girl you prolly a 1000 miles away talkin bout I’m here baby🤦🏾♂️
Joshua Champion probs more than that but okay baby 😢
I hear you.. Am a good woman, but after listening to you, I am going to work on my self to be a better woman. Thanks.
Tina Ikujegbe we'll get there sis
Same.
I belive in you! (*^* 👍)
We all got things to work on.
Humility uplifts, society teaches otherwise
The lies you tell 😂
PROVERBS 31:12 SHE WILL DO HIM GOOD & NOT EVIL. ALL THE DAYS OF HER LIFE!!!! WIFE MATERIAL IS NOT LOOKING, SHE'S PREPARING!!! PROVERBS 31.
@@Jambuc829 everything in the bible is true but no woman have them characteristics 💯💯
@@bernardvining4157 i always try to figure out why it says god made females for men (mate) but i dont have one i cant date a dog cat horse only human (females) the bible might be wrong im single
janelle henderson 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️
Come on somebody!!!
I forgot that existed like literally that part of Proverbs I forgot that existed at all makes me wonder actually read that part of the book so I can look into myself and make sure I present myself in this manner of like being a strong and wife material type of woman for wedding ready for a relationship after I finished healing
We need to clone this man a million times
lol yes please! and sen me 1 lol
Tacole Ellison
Forward some on to the UK too!
Tacole Ellison haha!! Dude, there are millions of these guys oit there....where you lookin?
I got acces to a lab ;)
A BILLION TIMES !!!!!!! 😉
Somebody done taught this young man!!!👏👏👏👏👏
Done taught this young man.
Taught him well huh
She is a wife when you see mother qualities in her: she is loving, nurturing, kind and gentle. She is clean and supports her husband. She enjoys taking care of others.
Exactly. It's the same for men and women, just a different kind. Women should be the typical feminine nurturer, care giver. Men should take care of a woman in the way of being financially stable, showing appreciation, providing safety.
What if she isn’t kind? And more of rough around the edges?
Wife material loves your kids just as their own lbvvs
Betty Monroe lol why u helping men? I don’t see men saying a husband material is a man who would love kids that aren’t his as his own lmao
Betty Monroe u can’t force love lmao silly baby momma
What bothers me. is I see a lot of guys let down wife material and try to change a bad b*tch into a wife Then got the nerve to go on social media and say they want a queen..Men are just confusing to the point I don't think they really want to be husbands,but want the benefit
You're so right. I'm starting to see that many males love drama. They talk a good game about needing a good woman, but when they get one, they start chasing some mean ass women...and most of the time these crazy ass women are not cuter nor have more to offer, just drama.
coco chanel Amen.
coco chanel those " men" you at referring to are boys not men ;) that's why they confused
u right
coco chanel they’re not confused my sister, they just don’t know how to know a good woman, that’s all. It takes a man that has had a strong mother figure in their lives to recognize and be with a wife material!
The bible states when a man finds a wife he finds a good thing!! So how do a man find a good thing? He must seek Father in Heaven FIRST to guide him😇
Teresa Allen amen
AMEN!
Very True!
Teresa Allen yessssssssss
Amen
When your ego gets a little boosted as you watch his videos because you need it 😂💪🏾💪🏾❤️🎉
Aariyan096 ,
Yeah indeed.
Yes!
Girl yes lol
Aariyan096 he is so good
Boom
You're "on point" with the "wife material." Yep. Loyal, dedicated, setting and enforcing clear boundaries, treating you well, working on the relationship AND will leave you if you're perpetually neglecting her, not treating her well, cheating on her, the relationship has become unhealthy and you're not working on it...even if she still loves you. Why? Because wife material wants a healthy committed romantic relationship, not a fiasco.
This is why i walked away from my 10yrs of marriage we have 3 kids but. He was entering other females and not helping anymore in the house and stopped making me feel special as his wife. So I dated after end up with 2 relationship that i left cause they was toxic and not husband material. My man I am with is husband material he shows me this by his words and actions
bravo on this one
Yes. Wife material will leave you if there's no more trust and respect. Thanks for telling the truth on that. People need to know.
Maturity across the board!
when you said wifey material will leave if the man doesn't meet that bar that was set that was the icing on the cake. real shit man i had to leave someone that i have known for 15+ years bc he ended up being disrespectful and verbally abusive. no matter how good i was to that man and how much i loved him, and the fact that we have a son i still left and i am enjoying the peace ;)
tnwilliams52 good for you
tnwilliams52 I feel you.There really is nothing better than having peace of mind. Men can bring so much drama to ones life. And good on you for realising your worth and that you can do so much better by yourself.
Omphile Moerane yes honey nothing better than being alone and at peace...some people are stuck "in love" but it takes mucy more than that! 2 weeks after he left my house he moved in with another woman lol that was my confirmation right there!!
tnwilliams52 I'm happy that you made the decision to love yourself and put your worth first. Certain women use their children as an excuse, which is understandable. However, there is a such thing as being too disrespected and knowing when to leave . I'm happy for you 💞
tnwilliams52 did the same and have a son too , it is tough one !
A women worth making a wife is someone willing to tell you the truth even if it hurts. Why? The pain from honesty allows us to see ourselves. When we see ourselves unfiltered, we grow.
wonderfullee 123 a wife material is a woman that can be accountable for are wrong doings rather being defensive “you’re the reasons I’m this n that” no being accountable for what you did or not doing to make the relationship a successful one
"Wife material is a woman that'll walk away from a relationship even if she still loves you when she realizes there's no more respect" - I busted out crying. Just found your channel today. You're funny, entertaining, and keep it real. Thanks for keeping me company on a Friday night!
I do appreciate your video on this subject. A lot of us men can really learn from own short comings and what we are really looking for in a woman. There's somebody for everybody and as long we are equally yolked the sky's the limit of what we can accomplish together, that called building a foundation. Keep bringing more encouraging videos like this my brother from another mother, God bless you.
I commend you. A lot of men don't dig his perspective. Bless ya!
I’ve heard about this equally yoked but idk what it means. Please help me understand this?
Good on you! Most men do not agree with the content in this video. Kudos for you!
Its a term most Christians use to describe let's say a married couple as "equal" I'm not really sure how to explain it but from my interpretation of the scripture it seems to mean either not to marry or not associate with non believers.
You're a rare gem #kudos
Wife Material only gives up & leaves when the dude is Not husband material. When it's like that- there's no foundation to build upon & they're simply unequally yoked🙁. She will be better off waiting for Mr. Right instead of wasting her time & energy on the wrong one💔.
Allie Maxwell I agree.
you said it girl!
I totally Agree with ur Answer. Correct, correct
Mr. Right and Mrs. Right don’t exist
@@youngshrine3024 was looking for a mature mind here and I found you. Mr right? 😂
Some men have good wives and they still cheat! Men demand women to be wife material but want to continue playing around. Hipocrisy!
Woman do it to tf
Brenda Walters those are the wrong men , this video is about women , geeze he goes in on men 98% of the time relax
@@Jambuc829 preach bro
she obvious is not doing her job.
Not all men
I love This! I just hate when a man expects wife material treatment before ever becoming exclusive or official
alli e get away from those type because they'll just play the part and at some point will take what you have given them and run with it!
alli e gotta test the goods...
alli e That's when you walk.
alli e Wife material treatment??? You shouldn't be playing a "wife" to someone who you're not a wife to.
alli e it makes sense, we have to prove our worth. We are an investment for them as well.
I feel like someone yelled at him about a cereal box...that sounded like personal experience lol
Lmaoooo
Right !!! 😂😂😂
Shits funny though lol
Hell yeah
It sure was personal experience 😂
Im happy I watched this. I am wife material, my Bf of 3 years cheated on me... I let him go, still hurts but I deserve better.
Im sorry he was so insecure he hurt you in the process. Thats his loss sis. Keep your chin up and good for you moving forward.
Maybe you were boring even though you were good. Probably you weren't open to certain sexual activities and he found someone who can provide him that
@@nimalperera948 No, he was the boring one. I'm tired of people judging me saying it was my fault. No, it wasn't. I know it wasnt
@@Jennily90 Any guy would leave you if they aren't sexually happy with you. Girls are first emotionally attracted then slowly the physical attractiveness increases when they get closer to the guy emotionally. It's the opposite for a guy. A guy is physically attracted first and then gets emotionally attracted when getting to know the girl more. A girl would leave a guy if he is only physically attracted to her and doesn't show her love and care. A guy would leave a girl of she's only emotionally attracted to him and doesn't want try out different intimate or sexual attractivities or fantasies. Both the girl and boy needs to understand each others likes and kinks and give it to them when they ask as and act of love. If you don't do that and he breaks up with you cause he found someone else that would provide him that then it's your fault and you need to take the blame and improve before you get to your next relationship. If he left because he wasn't serious and only wanted a temporary pleasure with you then it's his fault. He would find a girl that will give him that.
That's right . That exactly what wife material is about . We are about Boundaries, standards , loyalty and respect .
BOOM!! 👊 💘
Amen
Goals, and agreed!!!
I know my girl is wifey material. During the first real talk conversation we had while dating, I told her I was looking for a queen, not a self described queen that behaved like a spoiled princess. She looked me in my eyes and said "Im a queen in training." I impulsively grinned and hugged her dread-headed ass. 😊
Dizzy Day congratulations bro...stay happy...hope you two make it to the top. 😁
They broke up?
Are you still with your queen?
That was dope bro
Electronic Whiteboard lmao first thing comes my mind
Build up... yes. I believe women must be comfortable being alone until they meet a man who knows how to value "wife material." I had to learn this. A couple of times I settled for men who viewed my kindness as weakness, that can be frustrating. As you said... walk away when the respect leaves. And my new motto... wait for the right person.
Is there anyone watching this in 2019?
I just did 👌 posted a comment too.
Dina Linda yes girl
Me ...on my playlist
Yup
I don't even know how I got here sis. 😂 I'm binge watching now...
She's definitely wife material, all I can say is that I'm in love!
Update if yall get married
I am starting to really like this guy's videos now. At first, I was playing devil's advocate big time and making Derrick to be a man basher. But now, I truly see the value in his videos. When I watch them it makes me appreciate my girlfriend more and see that I can be at peace of mind if I show her through my actions and patterns that I love her and want to grow with her. Keep up the great work!
Josh McIntosh Good Im proud of you that you search for good value. Bravo and God bless your relationship
Josh McIntosh - I commend you! I pray that there are more men such as yourself that see the value in Derricks videos and can truly appreciate the content and growth in them, single or in a relationship it's all appreciated.
Dark Caesar well of course we know that men and women can be equally trifling, however they can also be equally incredible, mature, trustworthy, and the best absolute version of themselves. I think Lyfe Jennings said it best when he wrote, "Be the person you want to find, don't be a nickel out here looking for a dime". That always resonated with me and that is how I handle myself.
The Obsidian Media Network 2 - For me personally I don't think that you have to be married in order to know what should be already be in place in order to make a marriage. This is what he feels and these are the thoughts that have been instilled in him. And not for nothing, he hits a lot of these issues dead on. DJ isn't saying anything wrong. He advocates for both men and women. This man is the truth! But again he does say that this is how he feels. And there are tons of people that consign his authenticity and realness. Even in this post, he is absolutely right!
Myani Mills sorry but i only believe in marriage. I dont date for fun and to pass my time
he always give it to you raw and uncut no filter straight no chaser that's some honesty for ya
I agree 100 ..singleness today is not for the WEAK
When you wifey material but you still single 😅😅
TheSnowFoxParty I hear you.
YUP
Same
Or when you think your wife material. But 🤭
Then you're not wife material
Needed to hear that cause my mouth can get reckless when I’m mad. But I want a husband one day so ima chill. Lol fr
I know it's plenty of men watching this video but won't like or comment on this video BUT *take notes cause we out here patiently waiting for our king*
I Absolutely 💯percent Agree with You!!!!! Thank You!! Thank You!!! Thank You!!!
ItsYaGirl K We quietly learning in the background😉 #returnofthegentlemen
slim b Yeaaaaaah
slim b 💞💞💞💞
Your King is right here
I wish MORE men would watch your videos. 😒
Shpwan Watson You can say that again!!!
Shpwan Watson I know I do💯
Shpwan Watson more women too should watch his videos. They'll learn a thing or two on how to conduct themselves
Shpwan Watson it's sad that the probable majority is females 😪
Ikr lol....There needs to be a male seminar for men to hear this wisdom bc there's a lot of men that are regretting each day of letting "the wifey material" go so dudes should hear things like this to avoid this future regret 🤦🏽♀️
I stay getting cheated on and it pushed me to the point were I disrespected women every chance I could . I had to realize that I had to love myself before loving another being and it's still a book being written but you my friend lifted me up made me open my eyes to a lot in all of your videos . Thank you
- Jr.
Wife material will leave you if you don't treat her right. Exactly!
How will you treat me though?
Chassity Taylor Easier said then done huh
Lol the fact that most women in the comment section latched on to that saying while negotiating everything else she said speaks a lot why you women can't get into a successful relationship
Give him 100% friendship, loyalty, to build together. When he takes her for granted & disrespects her , she walks out with her dignity and never resorts to conflicts , she walks out in peace. May he find his type that’s all she wishes him , that’s love , love is the highest vibration , everyone should be blessed with such a beautiful energy of Love.
No bitterness , no dramas .she heals from a heartbreak and evolve into more compassionate and empathetic being.
She trust the process. Divine will bless her with her vibrational match. That’s why it’s so important to heal and recenter ourselves then balance and stability will be inevitable.
Be kind , be compassionate
Much love to all
Stay blessed 💗
Great content but by the time most realize they had wife material all along its already too late.Its always after you leave they talk about how much they really love and need you.If you keeping entertaining their nonsense they will take you for granted. Sometimes it has to take something drastic for them to realize that.Like a break up.
Girl say that!
Jasmine Best comment I have seen thus far. I could not have said it better myself. You got the juice boo.
Jasmine So true! Been there, done that.
TheAlpha Femme-fatale Thank you boo boo
Jasmin Marie Me too!!
Wife Material Is Somebody That Didn’t Have These Things You Stated At First But Work On Them You Just Don’t Wake Up Wife Material You Learn
There are plenty of women out there who messed it up for women like myself who's loyal & want to be in a committed, happy, healthy & respectful relationship/marriage with a decent man. But, he's been hurt and so it takes a lot of patience for both parties to come together & build a foundation for him to even put a ring on it due to his past relationships!ijs
True love always finds a way.
Yes wife material will leave you. Even though she still loves you.😔😔😔😔
Hence why no woman is ever wife material. Getting married is just one big game of Russian Roulette. Saying that cliche of "Not All Women are Like That" is like saying "go ahead, pull the trigger, not all chambers are loaded".
You can do EVERYTHING allegedly correct in marriage, and still be left paying a serious amount of your income to a woma, when she is no longer earning it.
how though?
@Chassity Taylor Look who's talking. You sound hurt as well.
The difference is that the system only holds men accountable to be faithful, most of the time, and gives women a perverse incentive to betray their husband.
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Brought tears to my eyes the last 2 minutes, sir. Heartbreaking the situation Im in right now. Married 15 years but I cant take the emotional abuse any longer. It hurts my soul to know that despite my best efforts from the bedroom to the kitchen, he will NEVER give me the only thing I ask: Respect. God bless you and thank you.
Yes last point was me. Im still wife material for the future
Talk the talk bless up
Had to see if im wife material in your eyes Mr.Jaxn Lol....I agree honey
When Derrick is describing you😊 I had to leave my ex after 12 yrs because the respect he had for me as his lady changed and I knew he was looking for away out and now the grass ain't always greener on the other side
Steph Martinez it NEVER is greener, it may be cut differently but that's about it.....
Steph Martinez when they don’t realize if they water their own grass it’ll be JUST as green if not greener SMHH little boys lol
Love it bruh... real Spit patna.... we dont wanna go to jail, they know how to talk to us communication is key.... thanks bruh for keeping it real...
When you a woman watching this and realize you’ve been wife material ♥️😂
Lol the fact that most women in the comment section latched on to that saying while negotiating everything else she said speaks a lot why you women can't get into a successful relationship
I agree but I would add compatibility mentally, intellectually, dietarily, spiritually, consciously, morally and ethically. All the other stuff like bedroom skills, cooking ability, physical appearance is icing on the cake. Oh yeah- hygiene!!!
Yaffa Ellington I don’t think it’s icing on the cake. You can have all of the above and lose a relationship when the sexual or physical attraction is simply not there. It all matters.
After watching this video my self-esteem went up another notch. Knowing my worth. Any man who doesn't know it as well ain't worth my time. ☺
ABSOLUTE FACTS
PREACH!! This man deserves an amazing woman of his dreams bc he knows how to teach and treat a lady or man to be the best they can be. 💕😊
im so glad im learning this at such a young age. im only 15😇
Muse Verdant That’s a chick lol
17 💕
Wish you the best! Good luck
YES im looking to get married and move out young to but everyone is saying its bad idea... but everyone is different
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This man exposes the weak and the uplifts the good!!!! 👏🏽
Proverbs 31 woman. Thank you for this Christian sermon. Amen! Smile.
You really hit the nail when you said "you got all these women and have nothing to show for them" I've been preaching that around my way for a while now once my eyes started to open
What does it mean please?
Thank you you made me see my self we as women got to make sure we have our life together we need to get rid of all the old baggage before going into any relationship love you Cynthia
I just can't stop listening to you.... You speak lots of wisdom and still manage to keep it funny!!🙏🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
Wow.
It's like you know my history.
A few years back my ex-husband, that I've known since Jr. High, slept with his brothers girlfriend.
I left him.
I was really in love with him and treated him like King. We had a great sex life.
He's sooo sorry and regrets it.
I'm dead inside for him tho.
No more trust or respect, yes I will leave
Bravo, Bravo He's telling the truth!
I needed this today, as a reminder for myself ! Thank you
Man, you speak like a father. I never hear people talk about stuff like this and I don't think to research, so of course I never know until you bring it up. Thank you so much.
I've been waiting for a video like this. Appreciate it✊
like you said before "watch the patterns and that will tell you about potential." goes both ways
Wow needed to hear this. Thanks Derrick
You are hitting the mark as always....thank you!
Hey man .... just seeing your videos ... they get to me and what I should do as a man in life . Thanks brother
YEP!!!! Last point is everything. Can, will, and did. #gone
I am LauraD a!a
RN1BSN 👏
99 dislikes??? Can't imagine why you would dislike this, unless.............🙄
99 BAD BITCHES... HE BLEW UP THE SPOT 😅🤣😂
CHERYL MORTON 😆😆😆
I'm thinking too much truth hurt some peoples' feelings. LOL
Love this message...
Yes you're right 100%. Respect, loyalty, and disciplining
Happy wifey here 8 years married and 18 years together. I waited for the right man (married at 40) I took those vows very seriously. He’s been nothing but amazing. I got breast cancer and he’s been by my side through a year of treatment. We 50/50 and still madly in love
Thank you. I left and I was wife material. Liar, deceptive. I'm so better off.
Renae Goodell YES I joined the ranks as well. But your time will come,keep being greatm
Good for you hun
Renae Goodell me too
Girrrl, I hear so was I 💯% wife material & was there in the bad & good but he didn’t deserve me, so I left his ass. A man that doesn’t want to grow up side by side with a mature woman such as myself will not waste my time...either your in or your out LOL 😂
I got called a “bad woman” because I wanted a healthy relationship, i left not because I didn’t love him but because i know it won’t change and I want a future husband not another heartbreak 👍🏻 stay strong
Omg thank you!!!! Everyone expect you to stay in a bad relationship because "second chance" or "I love him/her" bullshit, when u break my trust it's the same as cutting my head off, u cant glue that shit together back to make me feel alive... so no even if I love you I will still leave that person
You're on point brother. I was just dealing with a female that was entertaining other men and when I pointed it out to her she would get aggressive and put her hands on me. You're spot on
Thanks. I actually agree. Boundaries, loyalty, and respect. Too many women also have side dudes, or dudes waiting in the wings, and think that this is acceptable in a relationship.
I am going to spare you all of the protocol, saying that you have a great channel/website, you come real with your advice, and that you are cute. (I mean, that is common knowledge). What I will say is that you have the heart of a father when you advise young men and women on true relationship issues and matters of the heart. Every time I watch one of your videos, I feel like I have been counseled by one who truly cares for me. And even though I don't know you, and have never met you, I believe you are going to make your future son or daughter a wonderful and extremely wise father someday. I hear my fathers' voice in your advice. Thank you. It's nice to have big brothers in various places.
I’ve tried with men to sit down and talk and these men just tear me down fr
GOD is the only one to make us wife material or husband material.. PERIOD
Hallelujah
That last advice....I felt That👏👏👏👏
You are so spot on Derrick, our teaching a woman or man to stay no matter what keeps them in unhealthy and often abusive relationships.
Liked before I watched it :) you always have amazing advice :)
What good.with you
Lauren Aldred 😂
You teaching and I'm learning 💯
Wisdom as usual Mr. Jaxn!
Junine Mendez Agreed
I’ve been healing for a year now about finally leaving behind once and for all a relationship with a narcissist, I’m finally healing and slowly loving myself again. What you said about wife material women that go through way too many bs relationships before meeting their king made me emotional, I can but can’t wait to meet that man. Your words and thoughts are so important, I love the content you make, thank you.
On point Jaxn. I am a good woman cause I don't waste time on bad men. It is an investment to be good. It takes time, effort, study and virtuosness. Bless recognize.
I just love how he gets a Woman's mind 👑👰👍
Sounds about right to me! True about leaving a man who you are madly in love with once the trust and/or respect is broken. You can't give 100% anymore when he shows that he doesn't value you or your relationship.
can you (or anyone) explain to me the logic behind "you made me a better man/woman" or "i wanted to be a better person because i met you". I've always been skeptical about that phrase. I'd prefer a man to want to be a better person for himself first and not "because of me" or "because he doesn't want to lose me" ... like intrinsic motivation to be a better human whether he were to meet me or not...
Naomi
What I get from the statement, "you made me a better woman /man" is a matter of maturing in a relationship. It's not to say that you and the other person are not mature individually. With any relationship you have; work, friend, family, and intimate partner there is always a need for each person to be willing to grow in order for the relationship to be successful. You don't expect a child to remain a child forever. Communicating, being open to consider the issues that are being brought forth, and not having to "win" every disagreement (because you are on the same team) are things couples struggle with. It's not about tolerating him/her. The more your relationship matures the deeper the affection is. That person should be your compliment.
+Lady J Yessssss!!! 🚺+🚶=❤💡👑👗👠🎩👔👖📿
Naomi At least personally, I had someone come into my life and point out all these qualities that I let lay low and he stirred it all up. Also, I saw a lot of me in him and let it shine through. But of course, because I am, indeed, a real one, he decided to keep on with his usual tiny and pretty for nothing.
Naomi Perhaps you have standards that he is willing to live up to in order to be with you. I remember having a guy in my life who, although he seemed to have his shit together, i felt as like I needed to get mine together. He helped me at the time because he liked me but I needed to change. He always supported my business. He was a true friend. We split because we had our differences but I never forgot what he said to me. I went back to college, earned 2 degrees and I'm doing alright. We are still really good friends and I have told him how he motivated me to be a better person.
Great points bruh, I agree 100 % with everything you said! Keep talkin that real shit !!
Thanks Derrick, I can tick every box including the one where I've been messed around by my ex as he was setting other women and trying to meet up with them and sending naked pics..... I stayed for almost 4 years.... I realised I was busy being a wifey when he wasn't even being a boyfriend..... so that was it i walked even though I loved him soooo deeply but why should he have that when he blatantly shows disrespect for the relationship we had? but now I have a man who gives the same as I do....
Having men like you alive; well and in the day and age; makes me
Have hope for our society.
The men you speak of are around every corner in every building. Women need to start accepting when they make a bad selection because of her ridiculous criteria list and stop thinking good men are so rare
Boogie Relax you speaking to loud for her rn
i wish
I see you like simps. Not every man is your sugar daddy honey
Lol. Just rewatched this and couldn’t help but laugh that I still never looked up black China and rob to see what was going on.
I agree with all of that!!!!
Watching your videos brings back my faith that good men exist. You are a perfect man in my eyes. Love your voice and energy.
Your wife is a lucky woman 😊
Haha he said a case waiting to happen real talk 💯