I will say that me watching these has saved my relationship with my now Fiance. So I was home sitting down on the couch and had this on my phone and my boyfriend came home and sat down and watched these with me and we were able to finally work it out.
I just tuned out and stopped talking. No more arguing, no more conversation, no more wasting my time fighting for someone who was no longer worth fighting for.
I agree with Derrick it is that waiting room to see if he will finally hear what she has probably said many times. Also she may feel emotionally exhausted and burnt out. It is very hard being lonely when you ARE IN a close relationship. It's hurtful.
Yes girl.... This is so true. I just stopped even wanting to be bothered. Don't touch me, don't kiss me, just go home, u make me sick. I got tired of being a tape recorder, I mentally checked out, I didn't gaf anymore. I didn't even Wana talk, ever!!!
MsQueenB2 THIS! We can only repeat the same problems and solutions so many different ways before we see no point in even talking anymore. Silence... then they want to ask 'Are you ok?' No point in even repeating what is bothering me. None at all. 'I'm fine'.
MsQueenB2 he is always saying u want talk to me i have got us therapy and he want even do it so i have bn very quite a trying to go bk to school and move and he still not trying to change what he doing so im tired and its crazy
That's because she doesn't give a f*** anymore. That's how I get. I get quiet, stop caring and mentally check out. I start thinking about what my next move for self-preservation will be. I just move on. I could find better ways to waste my time.
@iicei no i think that jist speak a for the girls YOU choose to be involved with. Don't group us all the same just cuz someome wronged you. But this also shows why you probably lack finding a good woman, you have 0000 respect for a woman.
TO THE "WOMAN " What if we men knew we love them and treated them both great and bad but definitely know that we had issues with in ourselves and know we need change ,fix and need help. Our intentions were not to hurt her but actually did . Now this situation of loosing/lost her I'm going through the pain of being dumped and loosing my soulmate ,learning from it and getting the help counseling etc bettering ourselves in this process to change for good and seeking a higher power God and church to make a permanent change because we feel the love and lost and want to make it perfect iand make them happy and treat them they way they deserve if possible and to be able to show the Woman that left us that we know they still love us but are hurt and want to move on, should we get a last real chance?
@@blackirishrose4040 lol...yes!! My hubbo would call my desk phone, i'd look up, see it was him, and keep working. a minute later he'd call my cellphone and I did the same thing. IGNORE!! Just got tired of his voice even.
When silent treatment takes over the relationship, and she doesn' t care anymore, or stopped asking you questions...yeah...she checked out, and is far too gone emotionally.😵
-We stop talking, caring and get real quite! -Making moves! -Start stacking (saving)! -We just don't care about NOTHING NO MORE! -If you don't try to save it- YOU JUST BURNED UP! Each time you make us cry, your love is coming out through our tears. So, if all your love is washing out with tears, we will be/get stronger without your love. Never make a woman cry!
Linda Ermon yesssssss you are so right!!! I cried so much over this one guy I swear it must have been a river!!! He is bstill an idiot and don't get that when I kick you out of my heart you don't get back in! Dummy still thinks I want him. Na boo I'm good!
Yup, already got a 2nd income just to save up for my own place now. I've been less engaging in family events, don't do cook anymore or just for me. Etc
I stop cooking, asking him how he feels, careless he leaves and come back, don't dont engage in any physical activity nor chill with him, leave him out of my plans to take the kids out to dinner or anywhere for fun...saving saving saving money to move away.
Detroit Teacher Life 20 years in the game! 100%. There's just nothing left to say. I'm hammering it out for our daughter because I want her to have the combined resources of two parents, but the next 15-20 years feels like a life sentence.
Detroit Teacher Life 20 years in the game! Yep in the last time I went out to eat with my ex I was quiet and he was quiet because he was on his phone msgn the girl he moved on with and I don't care cause I knew that was the end for me I was gone emotionally knowing God was gonna put me somewhere different soon still single till this day but happy
Detroit Teacher Life 20 years in the game! Yup!! we would always look for his ideas and we use to value his opinion. Now we don't care to even say anything or ask anything. Keep it short.
exact thing happened with my ex husband. I stopped complaining about things he did and let everything he did slide. he stupidly read it as he was in control and I was letting him do him. in fact I did everything Derrick said a woman does when she's fed up and he still did not get it. I finally walked out one day when he least expected because I knew I could do better. I did not settle and now I'm with an amazing man who values family and moral.
Farah Ideal I found him a year later but I dated a few men who turned out to be bad before finding my one. I just never gave up and knew my self worth so I was not willing to settle just because of my age
My current situation. You should never have to keep asking or telling your husband to be a husband, be a PARTNER. I don't do raising grown ass men. BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE NOT JUST A MAN IN THE HOUSE
One more thing that a woman will do if she's fed up, is she will stop accepting your help, gift, advice etc. she will stop even accepting things that she needs. when a woman is willing to do without, what she is saying is that I no longer see you as my man. Therefore, I handle my own business or find someone else who can.
A women is fed up when her disappointment leads to discontentment that leads to frustration that leads to disrespect that leads to resentment that leads to her exit.
When we don't ask for details on anything...where you been? Who have you been with? What happened? When we're done, we just don't care about any of that.
Also, If she starts giving you brutal truth, talking about your friends and family, talk real nasty to you, snapping on you, dont care about your feelings, she done. If she stops calling and texting you or picking up the phone when you call, AND tells you she dudnt feel like it. Its a wrap.
True! After my divorce I couldn’t even look at his face anymore. I didn’t know who he was at that point. It’s been 12 years since and I still don’t want to look at his face lol.
The whole “if she isn’t getting mad over things she used to” is the biggest clue. Remember if she doesn’t have the passion to fight, she lost her passion to love.
She can love again with the help of Jesus Christ this toxic relationship drain you we have to allow our self to be healed before moving on to another relationship love your self first love you Cynthia
Number one for sure sign is the lack of talking and communicating, just like you said. We are fed up when we cant muster the energy to even have a full conversation, or cant stand to hear him open his mouth and give the same BS lines over and over again.
Ditto Sis Ditto!! Amen and Amen!! I feel that exact same way. Why can't our men want to learn to be consistent😔😔. We just tired brothas we get tired. Please start paying attention to us before it really is to late. Focus on us!! Make us Priority in every way
Yep. He dumped me and I waited for the depression. It never happened. No tears, no anger, no change in eating patterns, no giddiness that covers up the tears, nothing. Not a single person could tell anything had happened.
I've checked out. He can do things that always made me upset or angry, ... and I don't care. Don't talk, and don't want to be touched. I also am relieved as hell when he leaves the house. Even do a happy dance when the door shuts
i did the silent treatment because I thought that's the right thing to do to make him realize that he hurt my feelings but at the end I lost him. He's not just so into me that I thought he was.
Being irritable in a relationship don't talk to me, touch me or look at me. Everything he does makes me ill. Plotting,planning and waiting. We not even engaging in pleasantries. His feelings no longer matter, does not even fuss about things she used to.
I stopped asking how his day was. I stopped trying to talk about his interests. I moved the TV out of the bedroom- he followed. I stopped reaching out. I stopped sharing how I felt. I stopped doing his cleaning. AND I STOPPED SPENDING ON HIM.
Right on target! Women will check out mentally and emotionally before physically leaving. The signs will be there but sadly there are men who will never see it!
When I'm fed up, I get cold. I get past the point of irritability and just stop caring about the things that were bothering me because it gets to the point where you realize it's just not worth stressing anymore. You're done.
Exactly its really not worth the high blood pressure. It comes down to the realization that people like him don't change you can't change them. So why get mad? Just pack your shit and go
I was that woman 8years ago when I broke up with my ex he had all theses signs an he knew he was losing me. but had to suffer the consequences. because his actions pushed me away for good. wanted to realize shit a little to late...And this the 100% truth when a good woman is fed up she ain't coming back.....hope theres alot of men seeing THIS video beacuse alot need to see theses signs. video was great.👏👏👏👏👍😎gladly today God gave me a great man to be my Husband💍 an we HAD a beautiful daughter an we have 7years together 6married an I couldn't be happier. An I'm glad I made the choice to walk away. because today I have the family I always wanted😍😍😍
THATS RIGHT, A WOMAN GETS TIRE TELLING HER MAN THE SAMETHING AND HE KEEPS DOING IT, WHEN SHE LEAVES SHES NOT COMING BACK AND THATS ME, YEEPEE FREE AT LAST THINK GOD IM FREE AT LAST!
I just saw this video but wanted to start to "Testify" personally for me I: - Withdraw #1... Don't care about what you have to say. -Make myself super marketable again (open to compliments) #2 -Start reserving my own finances (stop spending on him..small things of appreciation ) #3 -Disconnect from his family and friends #4 -Avoid eye contact #5 But by this time we are so disconnected they don't realize it until the movers and cleaning lady show up. Then they want to cry and fight and do "whatever it takes"... I always leave them with pray for a better one than me because that is what it will take for a woman to stay.
Beth Devine yeah you right and a wise man would at least listen to him but woman are just as shady maybe even more shady then men nowadays so I'm guessing some guys want a video on how to avoid these type of females just a example. I know that a lot of women watch him and are active in the comment section. To the good ones thank you for being genuine women that this world needs more of and to the works in progress good luck.
This is so so damn true!!! I dated someone for 4 years. He got sloppy the last few months of my relationship. I felt unloved and unappreciated. Out of nowhere, I broke up with his ass. This was last year. I'm with somebody else now. We've been together for a few months. He's starting to pull thecsame type of garbage. I'm already emotionally and mentally checked out. This video came at the perfect time! Thank you!!
Hey Angelita! I was by myself for quite some time. I broke up with the last guy last year in early January. Dating this new guy is making me wonder how I brought a similar man into my life. I'm about to check out again, be by myself, and figure out what I'm doing wrong to bring the wrong type of person into my life. God put them there to show me something. I just don't know what that is yet.
Your story sounds very similar to mine. Broke up frm a 9yr relationship in January, went into solitude for several months. Starting dating again and realized I wasn't yet ready. I'm still attracting similar men. It's definitely something I need to work on within myself. I understand your journey.
When I am in a relationship, I am at my man's feet! I am the girl driving two hours in a rainstorm to bring my guy dinner because he got called in on overtime. I cannot keep my hands off of him (passion to the nines) I want to pamper him and adore. When I am done I become the smiling assassin. My adoration is replaced with cold smirks. I warned repeatedly of boundaries to be respected but are violated. I have put manipulative behavior in check but it continues. I do not "get mad" rarely cry or scream or name call...I just laugh as I throw a match on the bridge behind me
Girl, that was poetry at it's best! I love the "smiling assassin!" I told the bruh, "don't let this smile fool you. I will cut you." Mess with somebody who cares.
This isnt so much a sign for guys to know that she's fed up, it's more of a sign for women to know when she's fed up. The minute you start fantasizing about being with other men ----- not sexually, not physically, but fantasizing about being in a relationship with any other man, even imaginary ----- she's fed up. Because at that point she is so dissatisfied in the relationship that she dreams of being in a different one.
Kellz B 😭 yes he’s trying to change but it’s terrible u give them another chance n nun happens then they will tell u they did it a girl wants to see proof ur actions speak louder than ur words
🤭🙊 I swear this was me yesterday. I started fantasizing about marrying someone who isn’t my current boyfriend. I’m actually pretty fed up. He doesn’t want to commit so I’ve become so distant. Even when he comes over, he’ll fall asleep in my bed and I’d take the couch. I refuse to sleep with and “play house” with someone who doesn’t wanna commit. I’m not giving out Husband Benefits to someone who doesn’t see me as a wife.
This is true, and I myself was in a relationship that started going no where after 3yrs, I had to let it go and focus on myself and my happiness.. it's been almost a year of being single and it feels great to love myself again
Taking off her wedding ring and leaving it off, no more attention, no more asking when things are going to change, vacationing alone, etc. I stayed until I was able to support myself without asking him for a dime.
100% spot on and even if he tries to do amazing things to win her affection and attention back, it usually doesn't work, because once a woman is done, it doesn't mean she's nearly done, it actually means, she's DONE 😎
From woman's perspective: a) all of a sudden short-tempered, not usually her personality, b) she starts having new activities that do not involve you, she does not invite you c) she stops wanting to discuss the relationship problems, she walks away when you try to bring up something d) you can tell she is in a great mood with her friends but with you she is in a so so mood e) she complains about doing stuff for you f) she says things like "you need xyz type of woman, I am not that type"
You are right when a women is fed up and done with a man, once she leave she will not come back, even if the man changes. It will be to late for talking or anything.
The words of R.Kelly "When a womans fed up there ain't nothing you can do about it"...at that point basically your gonna feel what you chose not hear ❤
Towards the end of my marriage, I didn’t want my ex touching me. He’d try and I’d push his hand away. I also didn’t care what he was doing on his phone. Everything in me that used to care...it was all gone and left the building.
Yup! All of this. Once I was fed up I stopped arguing with my ex. I didn't care anymore and I didn't want to put my energy into something I felt wasn't going to work or change. Anything he said I responded with "... Ok". I got to the point were I would unconsciously avoid his touch (he pointed it out to me one day). I got so tired of being bothered that I told him since nothing is going to change we might as well go our separate ways. I'd rather be alone and in peace then be with someone who thinks arguments are a form or foreplay.
Yep all true signs. I stop talking, when I do I speak in a monotonous voice. I act like I'm busy. Huff and make little noises. Take longer than usual to answer phone calls and texts.
Matter fact I was so over it that when I would hear his car pull in to the driveway at night , I would turn the lights and the tv off and pretend I was asleep !
Every last one of these is true. And this one: *her habits change* She’s not where she always used to be at a certain day/time, or she stops answering your texts right away when she always did before. She stops leaving a note to let you know she’s out with her girls, and she doesn’t ask you where you’re going. Whatever rhythm you’ve become accustomed to with her is remixed because she no longer sees herself as your girl. She’s done.
This is so true! I dated a man that was 4 years older than me but all he wanted to do was make rap videos, smoke weed, and avoid getting a job. I got sick of working two jobs everyday just to support the two of us. I saw potential in him because he had a great mind, but after he started complaining about me being too tired to stay up with him & entertain his sexual desires, he decided to start talking to women on online dating sites and inviting them into my home while I was at work. The last straw for me was when he started to become abusive because I threatened to leave him for his insubordinate behavior. After moving on to a better paying job where I could eliminate me having to work two, I met someone new and he actually showed me a whole different side of being with a good man. I later checked out of my relationship but physically was scared to leave because I was being abused for even having thoughts of getting out. One day, after talking to my new guy, he gave me the courage to set my abusive bf up to get rid of him forever. I got my family involved and he was sent back to his hometown 10hrs away the next day. I haven't looked back since, especially after seeing that I could do better. What makes it so bad is.. my relationship ended pretty quickly with the new guy... come to find out he had a gf of 5 years and was lying about her the entire time.. then I met the guy im with now but his insecurities are ruining our relationship because he thinks I still have dealings with the man before him smh insecurities led to him cheating and once again the circle of life has repeated. It's about time to check out once again! This time, I'm content with being alone and I won't stop searching for what I deserve! Moral of the story, don't ever let your woman get to the point where her mind leaves before her body does... because sooner or later.. her body will catch up & follow! Thank you for this Derrick!
TheKi2Success get out of the new relationship girl. Learn to say no and be selfish. His insecurities are not ok to be at the point he is making u anxious. Get out and wait for a guy who has ur heart 100% and not concerned about ur past
TheKi2Success oh u see. u said something really important there. u met someone better. I hadn't even read the part but I was already thinking, when u said u were supporting the both of you, I thought and probably a side girl u did not know about. Once u mention him bringing other girls I was not surprised at all. I'm glad u left someone so unworthy and he can fix his own mess. Blessings girl!
I'm leaving my husband, I'm moving out when he's at work. once I found out he was unfaithful, it broke me. I'm just tired, and sad. once I'm gone I'm never looking back. I'm glad he cheated, cause he was never good to me. and I would have stayed. he could have been in a wheel chair and I never would have left his side, I loved him that much. I can't even be in the same room with him, or make eye contact.
Everything you mentioned is absolutely correct. We as women love hard and we will fight as long as we can. When we're done, we're OVER! Women are like valves - once you're in, you're in; once you're out, you're OUT!
Yep, we always know when we're DONE DONE! The point of no return. Ladies, pay attention to his patterns. They typically don't change! No matter what comes out his mouth, pay attention to what he keeps showing you! And they'll only keep treating you how you keep allowing him to! 💯
This video was on point! I gave the silent treatment, irritation is a major sign with me!!! When a woman is fed up, she's done!!! Great video Derrick!!!!
The last conversation I had with him before finally ending our relationship was “At this point,I really don’t care what you do anymore.” When you hear that, know she’s realized her worth and doesn’t have to waste her energy. The mental draining he causes you, ceases.
She stops all the romance, and is distant.... I agree with the irritable, was completely true for me. Actually his voice was even annoying. I could be smiling and laughing with a friend, hear his voice and my entire mood, facial expressions everything changed.
Completely checked out. I would do shit like, wash everybody else clothes in the house except his, get annoyed when he gets home earlier than usual from work, i'll pull up to the house and see his car and never go in, either sit in the car a while or make a walmart run. no conversation he'd ask hows work and i be like work is work. Ges to bed before he do or before he get home, if im chillin watching tv in the bedroom and hear him pull up I'll hurry up and turn the tv off and pretend im sleep so I wont have to engage.. All kinds of shit.. Gosh Im so glad thats not my life anymore... smh
I stopped talking to him. Stopped sharing my stories. He’d ask how my day went and I’d always say it was good even if it wasn’t. Things he’d do, I wouldn’t even argue with anymore. I was just exhausted dealing with a man who never heard me or try to work on himself like I was. These are so true. He just said these points right after I typed them 😂
Ummn, that wuz 1 of men-e of hiz 'lil' katch-frayz'z wen he tlk'd hiz bs; so, wen I b-kaym fed-up , I kri8'd that prfr8'd lyn & d-tach'd; aaahhh, peec-ful-nes eva' cence!!!😂😂😂
sandrazee 0000 this is me right now, I really do not want to leave him but I can't see any choice, he has chosen not to work with me when the facts is I was in therapy to assist him
@iicei I understand where you coming from. But it's a role that is not to be taken advantage of, therefore women are not slaves they are HELP MATES. it's a role that has to be met with equal responsibility. When he aint doin right, he doing wrong and as a woman who knows her role she will do what is natural. Not because she is a slave, but because she is still invested in the emotional aspect of the relationship
One conversation, one warning and after that, I am out. I am 58 yrs old to be messed with. If the guy doesn't want to commit then let him go. Just saying.
Sadly, you can warn a man all you want, he can even hear this video and he will not get it until you are GONE.
Yes, you're right, I m going through samething
vanee M. That’s true!
Yes i have screwed up so much and i am changing she left me came back i screwes up again. I have seen the light but i fear it's too late
Yep
@@athascalling well we be hurt! Lol
When she start bing watching Derrick Jaxn.... she all the way out ✌🏾✌🏾✌🏾
Lol
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When she starts wishing her man was Derrick... she's on her way out...
Lmao yup
I will say that me watching these has saved my relationship with my now Fiance. So I was home sitting down on the couch and had this on my phone and my boyfriend came home and sat down and watched these with me and we were able to finally work it out.
I just tuned out and stopped talking. No more arguing, no more conversation, no more wasting my time fighting for someone who was no longer worth fighting for.
Right attitude
Fighting for someone who won’t fight for you
Tamara Winston right 😔
Same
Amen
I just got sick of being disrespected
Hell yea
Donna Ballantyne I feel you sis 💯💜
Donna Ballantyne same same
Donna Ballantyne Amen!!!!!!
Same
Some women process the end of the relationship while they are still in it. That's why there's a tendency for them to move on faster emotionally.
This is so true. I was done 2 to 3 years mentally and emotionally before I ended it.
I concur...
I agree with Derrick it is that waiting room to see if he will finally hear what she has probably said many times. Also she may feel emotionally exhausted and burnt out. It is very hard being lonely when you ARE IN a close relationship. It's hurtful.
Fools donno
Yes very true!
You shouldn't have to tell someone the same thing that is bothering you over and over. You either fix it or you got to go.
Reading with Janae Marie I wish somebody told me this
Natty B i wish i i knew better and noticed her warnings better, i think shes done, shit is killing me. Just wish i had a chance to fix it.
Yes girl.... This is so true. I just stopped even wanting to be bothered. Don't touch me, don't kiss me, just go home, u make me sick. I got tired of being a tape recorder, I mentally checked out, I didn't gaf anymore. I didn't even Wana talk, ever!!!
Ty
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Silence is loud. Pay attention
MsQueenB2 THIS!
We can only repeat the same problems and solutions so many different ways before we see no point in even talking anymore. Silence... then they want to ask 'Are you ok?'
No point in even repeating what is bothering me. None at all. 'I'm fine'.
Yes indeed...Silence is Golden⌛
MsQueenB2 he is always saying u want talk to me i have got us therapy and he want even do it so i have bn very quite a trying to go bk to school and move and he still not trying to change what he doing so im tired and its crazy
I agree silence is the worst thing for men when the woman don't care no more and just wants to leave just waiting for the perfect time
Rosilyn Chambers yes ma’am 💯
When she gets quiet and does not want to be bothered. She is lying next to him plotting to leave and just waiting on the right time. I Agree!
This is SO true!
Yes doing a thorough scheming..
Tamar Swapsy that sounds like me
So true. This was me & when that one thing happened I was out
Hey you hit it right on the head.
💯 I moved out while he was at work. DONE!!!
😂awesome
That's how I would have worked it..AND never looked back!
I did that too. Was shocked my damn self.
I left my husband that way too! Minute he left, Uhaul pulled up.... I’m now at peace ....
Same here
when she's no longer angry, no longer questioning him about things, or when she starts entertaining other guys.
That's because she doesn't give a f*** anymore. That's how I get. I get quiet, stop caring and mentally check out. I start thinking about what my next move for self-preservation will be. I just move on. I could find better ways to waste my time.
She’s fed up when she stops talking..
Facts that's what I'm doing rn
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@@taylorwilliams1364 same
And stop arguing and stops trying.
My neck hurting so damn much from nodding my damn head.
😂😂😂
Right
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Hahaha
Facts😂😂😂
Once a woman gives up..she has tried EVERYTING to keep the relationship going and it failed anyway.
@iicei no i think that jist speak a for the girls YOU choose to be involved with. Don't group us all the same just cuz someome wronged you. But this also shows why you probably lack finding a good woman, you have 0000 respect for a woman.
Ben ther liv'd that!😳😳😳👀
TO THE "WOMAN " What if we men knew we love them and treated them both great and bad but definitely know that we had issues with in ourselves and know we need change ,fix and need help. Our intentions were not to hurt her but actually did . Now this situation of loosing/lost her I'm going through the pain of being dumped and loosing my soulmate ,learning from it and getting the help counseling etc bettering ourselves in this process to change for good and seeking a higher power God and church to make a permanent change because we feel the love and lost and want to make it perfect iand make them happy and treat them they way they deserve if possible and to be able to show the Woman that left us that we know they still love us but are hurt and want to move on, should we get a last real chance?
@@andyb5714 no!
Andy Gonzalez You need to realize you HAD a last chance and now she’s REALLY gone ...
When she stops arguing with u even when you're wrong, when she doesn't care if she misses your calls....yup start worrying because your time is up
Real talk
Envogue; 5, 4, 3, 2, wut!!!, "YO TYM IZ UP"!!! BY-EEEEEEEEE😳😳😳
Yup!👏👏👏
Don't give a fucks about their day what time they come in don't give A shit if they had a bite to eat or not.
@@blackirishrose4040 lol...yes!! My hubbo would call my desk phone, i'd look up, see it was him, and keep working. a minute later he'd call my cellphone and I did the same thing. IGNORE!! Just got tired of his voice even.
When silent treatment takes over the relationship, and she doesn' t care anymore, or stopped asking you questions...yeah...she checked out, and is far too gone emotionally.😵
MexRoze5 truuueee
-We stop talking, caring and get real quite!
-Making moves!
-Start stacking (saving)!
-We just don't care about NOTHING NO MORE!
-If you don't try to save it-
YOU JUST BURNED UP!
Each time you make us cry, your love is coming out through our tears. So, if all your love is washing out with tears, we will be/get stronger without your love. Never make a woman cry!
Linda Ermon yesssssss you are so right!!! I cried so much over this one guy I swear it must have been a river!!! He is bstill an idiot and don't get that when I kick you out of my heart you don't get back in! Dummy still thinks I want him. Na boo I'm good!
Linda Ermon when I cry heavily, I get to see the outcome NEVER GOOD FOR THE ABUSER
La Cross you're so right! It sure isn't good for them. Once you figure out how to handle them it's a wrap!
Yup, already got a 2nd income just to save up for my own place now. I've been less engaging in family events, don't do cook anymore or just for me. Etc
I stop cooking, asking him how he feels, careless he leaves and come back, don't dont engage in any physical activity nor chill with him, leave him out of my plans to take the kids out to dinner or anywhere for fun...saving saving saving money to move away.
He's right!! Biggest indicator is when we get SUPER QUIET!!
When we finally shut our mouths, in every way, OH WE'RE DONE.
Ruth Charlton yes girl
Ruth Charlton Yep, when a woman stops talking to a man, there's trouble...
Detroit Teacher Life 20 years in the game! 100%. There's just nothing left to say. I'm hammering it out for our daughter because I want her to have the combined resources of two parents, but the next 15-20 years feels like a life sentence.
Detroit Teacher Life 20 years in the game! Yep in the last time I went out to eat with my ex I was quiet and he was quiet because he was on his phone msgn the girl he moved on with and I don't care cause I knew that was the end for me I was gone emotionally knowing God was gonna put me somewhere different soon still single till this day but happy
Detroit Teacher Life 20 years in the game! Yup!! we would always look for his ideas and we use to value his opinion. Now we don't care to even say anything or ask anything. Keep it short.
We stop. That's it we stop. We stop arguing. We stop being lovable. We stop asking questions.
exact thing happened with my ex husband. I stopped complaining about things he did and let everything he did slide. he stupidly read it as he was in control and I was letting him do him. in fact I did everything Derrick said a woman does when she's fed up and he still did not get it. I finally walked out one day when he least expected because I knew I could do better. I did not settle and now I'm with an amazing man who values family and moral.
rani hanse You give me hope!
rani hanse Thank you for sharing your experience. Your story encourages me.
rani hanse I don't know you but it is awesome and I am happy to hear u found the right person .
how long did it take to find a better person?
Farah Ideal I found him a year later but I dated a few men who turned out to be bad before finding my one. I just never gave up and knew my self worth so I was not willing to settle just because of my age
My current situation. You should never have to keep asking or telling your husband to be a husband, be a PARTNER. I don't do raising grown ass men. BE THE MAN OF THE HOUSE NOT JUST A MAN IN THE HOUSE
Girl!!!! you done said it!
Michelle Sims. Amen
Hallelujah!!!
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We get short tempered. And we start being quiet. We stop nagging.
I'm at that point now.
We just stop, period.
I'm at this point also.
Yea, we’re at the ‘I don’t give af point’. That woman has mentally left.
One more thing that a woman will do if she's fed up, is she will stop accepting your help, gift, advice etc. she will stop even accepting things that she needs. when a woman is willing to do without, what she is saying is that I no longer see you as my man. Therefore, I handle my own business or find someone else who can.
purity4kids1 AMEN!!!!
purity4kids1 Yesssss
Lord Have Mercy! So very true.
YESSS
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yup I became irritable and tired and was always alone and sacrificing and being patient and putting him first so I left 3 weeks ago.
ItsChanice Rich 👏👏
Chanice Rich 👏👏👏👏👏👏
Right
I had to do the same thing. I haven’t heard from him since. Almost 2wks now. Did he try to come back?
I️ just left two days ago 😞
When a women’s fed up, she is silent! Then it’s done! When I have something to say, I still love you but, when I stop talking, it’s over .
Mrs Young yes indeed! If I stop complaining then please get worried
Whene i get very quiet im done im done i walked away from my exs i got fed up and im out not going back good bye.
AMEN
That's so true. I always said....when I have things to say, it's still good.. It's when I don't have anything to say that he should worry.
A women is fed up when her disappointment leads to discontentment that leads to frustration that leads to disrespect that leads to resentment that leads to her exit.
Down to Earth Dating Advice - For Women Only! Damn right!!!
Down to Earth Dating Advice - For Women Only!
Hell yeah
Down to Earth Dating Advice - For Women Only! Amen👍
Exactly
When we don't ask for details on anything...where you been? Who have you been with? What happened? When we're done, we just don't care about any of that.
yep
It's sad when a man lose a good woman because he rather mess with trash .
Exactly wanna lose a diamond over a rhinestone
@LadyMae213 you said it he is trash
That's a racoon not a man!
@@rimmarghli8529 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Facts
When she tells you she's not happy
Also, If she starts giving you brutal truth, talking about your friends and family, talk real nasty to you, snapping on you, dont care about your feelings, she done. If she stops calling and texting you or picking up the phone when you call, AND tells you she dudnt feel like it. Its a wrap.
Ameen
OKAY
When she is fed up, she can’t stand to look at his face. 👀
True! After my divorce I couldn’t even look at his face anymore. I didn’t know who he was at that point. It’s been 12 years since and I still don’t want to look at his face lol.
When woman is fed up even his present in house just having him around makes u mad. U happy till he comes in house..
Indeed
gretchen rivera so true! Took me awhile to figure out he was the reason I’d be angry when I got home from work even if I had a good day!
Yeah, pleez go bak owt!!!😭😭😭
Soooooooo true!!!!! I couldn't even stand him around me!!!!!! It was like when he left the evil left the building.
I can definitely identify I used to get-up-and-go to the other Room🤣
We get slowly detached and start focusing on something new like a job,ourselves, or man.
Alaysia Neal exactly!
YES,
The whole “if she isn’t getting mad over things she used to” is the biggest clue. Remember if she doesn’t have the passion to fight, she lost her passion to love.
She can love again with the help of Jesus Christ this toxic relationship drain you we have to allow our self to be healed before moving on to another relationship love your self first love you Cynthia
100% It takes way more effort than they deserve to give a c.r.a.p.
I left my Ex husband twice and I am finally free, it took 21 years and I am never looking back, dating myself in 2018
Lady Love You go girl
Lady Love you go mama! 😍💋
Wishing you contentment and true happiness.
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P.S. Suggested Reading. ....Queenology. ...by: R.C Blakes 🙇🙏🙇
Number one for sure sign is the lack of talking and communicating, just like you said. We are fed up when we cant muster the energy to even have a full conversation, or cant stand to hear him open his mouth and give the same BS lines over and over again.
Exactly. As soon as he opens his mouth, BS comes out till his voice sounds like nails on a chalk board...just can't deal with it
Grrrl, wer yo tlk-sho @ ?, kawz u speek'n it!👀👀👀
Ditto Sis Ditto!! Amen and Amen!! I feel that exact same way. Why can't our men want to learn to be consistent😔😔. We just tired brothas we get tired. Please start paying attention to us before it really is to late. Focus on us!! Make us Priority in every way
Yes 👋🏼
When she's indifferent. When she no longer has any tears left to shed.
Yep. He dumped me and I waited for the depression. It never happened. No tears, no anger, no change in eating patterns, no giddiness that covers up the tears, nothing. Not a single person could tell anything had happened.
And being extra calm. Like she acting like nothing bothers her
I've checked out. He can do things that always made me upset or angry, ... and I don't care. Don't talk, and don't want to be touched. I also am relieved as hell when he leaves the house. Even do a happy dance when the door shuts
omg me too! Then be hoping I don’t see him on the road while I drive off
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How r u now? im eager to hear!!
Baby, yes!!!
NOW YOU SOuND LIKE ME, WE CAN DO BETTER
When the look of them just pisses you off....
When your woman gives you the "SILENT TREATMENT, BE AFRAID!! BE VERY AFRAID!!! Cos it's about to go down 😎
yes it is pay back
Amen!!!!
Tell him .......once I go silent he needs to worry 👌🏽
@@laylacooper861 fact
i did the silent treatment because I thought that's the right thing to do to make him realize that he hurt my feelings but at the end I lost him. He's not just so into me that I thought he was.
Being irritable in a relationship don't talk to me, touch me or look at me. Everything he does makes me ill. Plotting,planning and waiting. We not even engaging in pleasantries. His feelings no longer matter, does not even fuss about things she used to.
I stopped asking how his day was.
I stopped trying to talk about his interests.
I moved the TV out of the bedroom- he followed.
I stopped reaching out.
I stopped sharing how I felt.
I stopped doing his cleaning.
AND I STOPPED SPENDING ON HIM.
@MissUnderstood Yes, and moved 5 states away.
You were spending on him?
Omg
Right on target! Women will check out mentally and emotionally before physically leaving. The signs will be there but sadly there are men who will never see it!
When I'm fed up, I get cold. I get past the point of irritability and just stop caring about the things that were bothering me because it gets to the point where you realize it's just not worth stressing anymore. You're done.
Yep. Cold as a freezer. When you’re exasperated and fed up, the temperature is going way down, people.
Exactly its really not worth the high blood pressure. It comes down to the realization that people like him don't change you can't change them. So why get mad? Just pack your shit and go
She won’t argue with him, she’ll let him have the last word & won’t engage him. She won’t complain about a lot of stuff that she used to.
Kayla Miller I agree. She is instead planning her exit.
Yea I just shut down. I didn't talk to him. I was just tired and burnt out
Tota-li faym'd-up😤😤😤
I feel like I'm there now
I was that woman 8years ago when I broke up with my ex he had all theses signs an he knew he was losing me. but had to suffer the consequences. because his actions pushed me away for good. wanted to realize shit a little to late...And this the 100% truth when a good woman is fed up she ain't coming back.....hope theres alot of men seeing THIS video beacuse alot need to see theses signs. video was great.👏👏👏👏👍😎gladly today God gave me a great man to be my Husband💍 an we HAD a beautiful daughter an we have 7years together 6married an I couldn't be happier. An I'm glad I made the choice to walk away. because today I have the family I always wanted😍😍😍
Continue to be bless.
THATS RIGHT, A WOMAN GETS TIRE TELLING HER MAN THE SAMETHING AND HE KEEPS DOING IT, WHEN SHE LEAVES SHES NOT COMING BACK AND THATS ME, YEEPEE FREE AT LAST THINK GOD IM FREE AT LAST!
nattalee love you
Amen...on that road now..
nattalee he’s probably better off
They don’t learn until you leave!
I just saw this video but wanted to start to "Testify" personally for me I:
- Withdraw #1... Don't care about what you have to say.
-Make myself super marketable again (open to compliments) #2
-Start reserving my own finances (stop spending on him..small things of appreciation ) #3
-Disconnect from his family and friends #4
-Avoid eye contact #5
But by this time we are so disconnected they don't realize it until the movers and cleaning lady show up. Then they want to cry and fight and do "whatever it takes"... I always leave them with pray for a better one than me because that is what it will take for a woman to stay.
TR Scott This.
TR Scott Amen!
+Tess Maniglia lol😂thinking the same
This guy is a rarity. Whoever is with this man is blessed ❤️
Ok and she can't hide shit...lol
"She ain't coming back!" 👏😌
lol, guys saying you're never speaking for them. that's funny to me... every video is to help them rise up to the grown man status they claim to be
Ok! Thank you smh
Beth Devine They say that because they want him to excuse their b.s.
Beth Devine yeah you right and a wise man would at least listen to him but woman are just as shady maybe even more shady then men nowadays so I'm guessing some guys want a video on how to avoid these type of females just a example. I know that a lot of women watch him and are active in the comment section. To the good ones thank you for being genuine women that this world needs more of and to the works in progress good luck.
slim b...you are very correct. just because I'm a girl, that doesn't mean I don't realize that street goes both ways...you are very right
Beth Devine so true!
100% correct!!! And we start spending more time w/ our friends or alone. Bells need to start digging
*dinging*
Absolutely! I left with just the clothes on my back! I didn’t even want to look at him anymore!
Same
I feel nothing anymore. just do whatever you want. I'm done repeating myself... done arguing with you. done with your excuses.
yup! That's how it is.
If this ain't the truth
truth is when we get to this point it's no fixing it. it's almost impossible there's nothing but hurt when you look at that person.
Brandy Wallace Yeah that's so true I hate seeing him I just want to go away with my daughter
Read Book....Queenology by: R.C Blakes 🙇🙏🙇
brandy wallace true that's where I am now, unfortunately
when a woman's fed up
No matter how you beg,
It ain't nothing you can do about it
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This is so so damn true!!! I dated someone for 4 years. He got sloppy the last few months of my relationship. I felt unloved and unappreciated. Out of nowhere, I broke up with his ass. This was last year. I'm with somebody else now. We've been together for a few months. He's starting to pull thecsame type of garbage. I'm already emotionally and mentally checked out. This video came at the perfect time! Thank you!!
Maybe you should take a break from relationships...
Hey Angelita! I was by myself for quite some time. I broke up with the last guy last year in early January. Dating this new guy is making me wonder how I brought a similar man into my life. I'm about to check out again, be by myself, and figure out what I'm doing wrong to bring the wrong type of person into my life. God put them there to show me something. I just don't know what that is yet.
Your story sounds very similar to mine. Broke up frm a 9yr relationship in January, went into solitude for several months. Starting dating again and realized I wasn't yet ready. I'm still attracting similar men. It's definitely something I need to work on within myself. I understand your journey.
I'm enjoying the single life right now
Angelita Hudson Girl, I'm already starting to make plans for this weekend! I'm starting to like the sound of being single again!
a man with this mindset is gold
Barbara Walker Tell me about it!
When I am in a relationship, I am at my man's feet! I am the girl driving two hours in a rainstorm to bring my guy dinner because he got called in on overtime. I cannot keep my hands off of him (passion to the nines) I want to pamper him and adore.
When I am done I become the smiling assassin. My adoration is replaced with cold smirks. I warned repeatedly of boundaries to be respected but are violated. I have put manipulative behavior in check but it continues. I do not "get mad" rarely cry or scream or name call...I just laugh as I throw a match on the bridge behind me
Smiling assassin. I like that! When a woman is emotionally dead for you, game over and she's not going to lose at the game any more.
Haha, smiling assassin!! Love it, like boy bring it tf on!
Getting scorpio vibes 🖤😉 Great life metaphors!
Girl, that was poetry at it's best! I love the "smiling assassin!" I told the bruh, "don't let this smile fool you. I will cut you." Mess with somebody who cares.
“ I just laugh as I throw a match on the bridge behind me” That was beautiful!!
This isnt so much a sign for guys to know that she's fed up, it's more of a sign for women to know when she's fed up. The minute you start fantasizing about being with other men ----- not sexually, not physically, but fantasizing about being in a relationship with any other man, even imaginary ----- she's fed up. Because at that point she is so dissatisfied in the relationship that she dreams of being in a different one.
Sarah Pohl this is me & im abt to jus break up even tho I don’t want to I gotta do what’s best for me
Kellz B 😭 yes he’s trying to change but it’s terrible u give them another chance n nun happens then they will tell u they did it a girl wants to see proof ur actions speak louder than ur words
Sarah Lane damn true af
🤭🙊 I swear this was me yesterday. I started fantasizing about marrying someone who isn’t my current boyfriend. I’m actually pretty fed up. He doesn’t want to commit so I’ve become so distant. Even when he comes over, he’ll fall asleep in my bed and I’d take the couch. I refuse to sleep with and “play house” with someone who doesn’t wanna commit. I’m not giving out Husband Benefits to someone who doesn’t see me as a wife.
@@claudine5386 how long were you two together?
This is true, and I myself was in a relationship that started going no where after 3yrs, I had to let it go and focus on myself and my happiness.. it's been almost a year of being single and it feels great to love myself again
Smh..watching this in 2019. Still rings true
Don't it tho?😳😳😳
Lol. Itll bring true in 2045 also
Nodding my head...watching in 2020
Where can I find a man like this, so handsome, intelligent, wise, & thoughtful, I watch every single video!
Taking off her wedding ring and leaving it off, no more attention, no more asking when things are going to change, vacationing alone, etc. I stayed until I was able to support myself without asking him for a dime.
Read book... Queenology by: R.C Blakes 🙇🙏🙇
Me too👍🍀💡💰🕊
100% spot on and even if he tries to do amazing things to win her affection and attention back, it usually doesn't work, because once a woman is done, it doesn't mean she's nearly done, it actually means, she's DONE 😎
Key example, she stops saying I love you and giving you a sign of admiration! It's a rap. Along with feeling happier when your not around!!
From woman's perspective: a) all of a sudden short-tempered, not usually her personality, b) she starts having new activities that do not involve you, she does not invite you c) she stops wanting to discuss the relationship problems, she walks away when you try to bring up something d) you can tell she is in a great mood with her friends but with you she is in a so so mood e) she complains about doing stuff for you f) she says things like "you need xyz type of woman, I am not that type"
Spot on with everything you said here. She might also dread seeing him, and might even start avoiding him.
That's me...
You nailed it. This is exactly how it went down. Saddest part is I always had hoped he would change.
You are right when a women is fed up and done with a man, once she leave she will not come back, even if the man changes. It will be to late for talking or anything.
The words of R.Kelly "When a womans fed up there ain't nothing you can do about it"...at that point basically your gonna feel what you chose not hear ❤
R Portugie I was thinking about this song from R.Kelly, so true.
Towards the end of my marriage, I didn’t want my ex touching me. He’d try and I’d push his hand away. I also didn’t care what he was doing on his phone. Everything in me that used to care...it was all gone and left the building.
Yup! All of this. Once I was fed up I stopped arguing with my ex. I didn't care anymore and I didn't want to put my energy into something I felt wasn't going to work or change. Anything he said I responded with "... Ok". I got to the point were I would unconsciously avoid his touch (he pointed it out to me one day). I got so tired of being bothered that I told him since nothing is going to change we might as well go our separate ways. I'd rather be alone and in peace then be with someone who thinks arguments are a form or foreplay.
meika79 So right on!
Relatable 100%. He thought he was "getting his way" by me not talking and arguing with him. Little by little i felt numb around him and left
Oh so true
Yep all true signs. I stop talking, when I do I speak in a monotonous voice. I act like I'm busy. Huff and make little noises. Take longer than usual to answer phone calls and texts.
Ashley Dominique huff and make little noises lol that's me too
He gets mad now because i dont answer his calls or text, I'm Done!
I’m not going back to “gaslighting!”
Matter fact I was so over it that when I would hear his car pull in to the driveway at night , I would turn the lights and the tv off and pretend I was asleep !
Lol
Lol
Oh my God, me too...
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Damn, I'm so done. I thought I was the only one that did that...lol
Irritable!!! He's an IRRITANT!
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We’re still there physically because we are planning our excape
Facts!
Absolutely
Or we’re planning their exit! 🎉
Every last one of these is true. And this one:
*her habits change*
She’s not where she always used to be at a certain day/time, or she stops answering your texts right away when she always did before. She stops leaving a note to let you know she’s out with her girls, and she doesn’t ask you where you’re going. Whatever rhythm you’ve become accustomed to with her is remixed because she no longer sees herself as your girl. She’s done.
This is so true! I dated a man that was 4 years older than me but all he wanted to do was make rap videos, smoke weed, and avoid getting a job. I got sick of working two jobs everyday just to support the two of us. I saw potential in him because he had a great mind, but after he started complaining about me being too tired to stay up with him & entertain his sexual desires, he decided to start talking to women on online dating sites and inviting them into my home while I was at work. The last straw for me was when he started to become abusive because I threatened to leave him for his insubordinate behavior. After moving on to a better paying job where I could eliminate me having to work two, I met someone new and he actually showed me a whole different side of being with a good man. I later checked out of my relationship but physically was scared to leave because I was being abused for even having thoughts of getting out. One day, after talking to my new guy, he gave me the courage to set my abusive bf up to get rid of him forever. I got my family involved and he was sent back to his hometown 10hrs away the next day. I haven't looked back since, especially after seeing that I could do better. What makes it so bad is.. my relationship ended pretty quickly with the new guy... come to find out he had a gf of 5 years and was lying about her the entire time.. then I met the guy im with now but his insecurities are ruining our relationship because he thinks I still have dealings with the man before him smh insecurities led to him cheating and once again the circle of life has repeated. It's about time to check out once again! This time, I'm content with being alone and I won't stop searching for what I deserve! Moral of the story, don't ever let your woman get to the point where her mind leaves before her body does... because sooner or later.. her body will catch up & follow! Thank you for this Derrick!
TheKi2Success Yes, I know this story firsthand. Thanks for sharing yours. You will find that good man.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my story and for the encouragement! Much appreciated!
TheKi2Success exactly that's true I nearly walked away from my boyfriend
TheKi2Success get out of the new relationship girl. Learn to say no and be selfish. His insecurities are not ok to be at the point he is making u anxious. Get out and wait for a guy who has ur heart 100% and not concerned about ur past
TheKi2Success oh u see. u said something really important there. u met someone better. I hadn't even read the part but I was already thinking, when u said u were supporting the both of you, I thought and probably a side girl u did not know about. Once u mention him bringing other girls I was not surprised at all. I'm glad u left someone so unworthy and he can fix his own mess. Blessings girl!
When you have nothing else to give ,done means DONE!
Everybody reach their limit after trying to make the relationship work.
A woman checks out with her heart first then emotionally she moves on eventually
When she stops caring if you're giving silent treatment... you know shes done.
I'm leaving my husband, I'm moving out when he's at work. once I found out he was unfaithful, it broke me. I'm just tired, and sad. once I'm gone I'm never looking back. I'm glad he cheated, cause he was never good to me. and I would have stayed. he could have been in a wheel chair and I never would have left his side, I loved him that much. I can't even be in the same room with him, or make eye contact.
Yes same
How are you doing now? I'm sorry you went through this. I'm glad you got out
Thank you dear I'll be leaving the same way blessings to you and yours sister
Are you thriving now? You deserve it. He’s going to end up miserable
Everything you mentioned is absolutely correct. We as women love hard and we will fight as long as we can. When we're done, we're OVER! Women are like valves - once you're in, you're in; once you're out, you're OUT!
Yep, we always know when we're DONE DONE! The point of no return. Ladies, pay attention to his patterns. They typically don't change! No matter what comes out his mouth, pay attention to what he keeps showing you! And they'll only keep treating you how you keep allowing him to! 💯
This video was on point! I gave the silent treatment, irritation is a major sign with me!!! When a woman is fed up, she's done!!! Great video Derrick!!!!
WOW...I started stacking my $$$$ and I left!
Me too!
Falsiha Bruner okay...started getting prepared. Women plan, prep and then dip 😂
Same here planning for my exit plan & saving. I’m done! After 4yrs.
The last conversation I had with him before finally ending our relationship was “At this point,I really don’t care what you do anymore.” When you hear that, know she’s realized her worth and doesn’t have to waste her energy. The mental draining he causes you, ceases.
She stops all the romance, and is distant.... I agree with the irritable, was completely true for me. Actually his voice was even annoying. I could be smiling and laughing with a friend, hear his voice and my entire mood, facial expressions everything changed.
Hypatia-Heather Kachina-Starner so tru!!
Read book....Queenology by: R.C Blakes 🙇🙏🙇
Phhaahhh I recall telling my ex towards the end how irritating his voice was...looking back, I was already mentally checked out by this time.
This tht truth
Completely checked out. I would do shit like, wash everybody else clothes in the house except his, get annoyed when he gets home earlier than usual from work, i'll pull up to the house and see his car and never go in, either sit in the car a while or make a walmart run. no conversation he'd ask hows work and i be like work is work. Ges to bed before he do or before he get home, if im chillin watching tv in the bedroom and hear him pull up I'll hurry up and turn the tv off and pretend im sleep so I wont have to engage.. All kinds of shit.. Gosh Im so glad thats not my life anymore... smh
I stopped talking to him. Stopped sharing my stories. He’d ask how my day went and I’d always say it was good even if it wasn’t. Things he’d do, I wouldn’t even argue with anymore. I was just exhausted dealing with a man who never heard me or try to work on himself like I was. These are so true. He just said these points right after I typed them 😂
Facts im totally checked out, disgusted, n turned off!!!!
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And read...Queenology by: R.C Blakes 🙏🙇🙏
You become distant you start to become irritated you don't feel like talking you begin to emotionally detached
Ummn, that wuz 1 of men-e of hiz 'lil' katch-frayz'z wen he tlk'd hiz bs; so, wen I b-kaym fed-up , I kri8'd that prfr8'd lyn & d-tach'd; aaahhh, peec-ful-nes eva' cence!!!😂😂😂
❤I never will look at him the same ❤
I was forced to leave. He wasn't paying me any attention. Probably cheating under my nose. I was like a washer dryer and a full house slave.
Narcissists
iicei it's meant to be a partnership not master and slave🤨
sandrazee 0000 this is me right now, I really do not want to leave him but I can't see any choice, he has chosen not to work with me when the facts is I was in therapy to assist him
watch Shera Seven's channel... it will change your life, trust me
@iicei I understand where you coming from. But it's a role that is not to be taken advantage of, therefore women are not slaves they are HELP MATES. it's a role that has to be met with equal responsibility. When he aint doin right, he doing wrong and as a woman who knows her role she will do what is natural. Not because she is a slave, but because she is still invested in the emotional aspect of the relationship
One conversation, one warning and after that, I am out. I am 58 yrs old to be messed with. If the guy doesn't want to commit then let him go. Just saying.
2006Florroja I know that's right!
No matter how much I talked or tried to express my wants/needs he never listened. His needs/wants were only important
I only stayed for my babies, but I left for the same reason. My Babies. I gave him a chance to change