Help! My New Cat / Kitten is Scared of Me!!
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- Опубликовано: 31 май 2024
- Help! My New Cat / Kitten is Scared of Me!
Sometimes you do everything right with your new arrival and yet you’re met with fear and avoidance. Besides your feelings being hurt, it’s not that out of the ordinary. Your new cat family member may have experienced all kinds of things that could lead to a lack of trust or general fear. But, never fear - there’s a way through this and I’m here to help!
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00:00 Intro
00:57 Bora's Question: My cat hides under the bed & furniture
02:50 Jackson's Reaction
03:19 Reasons cats may hide
04:51 Analysis
06:07 Cat runs from me when I approach
06:30 Trust issues: shy cat in new home
10:45 Jackson's Advice
16:22 The Roller Coaster
17:44 Outro
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I've watched almost all of the Jackson videos and I don't own a cat
Edit: in 3 months I’m getting a kitten!
Edit 2: Pepper is here!
😂 You must be a animal lover!!!!!
Not yet, you mean…
@@JacksonGalaxy yeah not yet XD
@@JacksonGalaxy
Me neither :D but the videos are just so cool
My cat took 6 weeks to feel comfortable coming out from under my bed after I adopted him. He only came out at night to eat and use the litter box. Suddenly one morning I woke up and he was snuggling next to me. He has been the cuddliest thing ever since.
Adopted my cat last Wednesday (14/2/2024) he has been hiding and eating at night too.
I adopted siblings semi feral cats. And the Tomcat escorted the half sized terrified female. It took her 7 months to sleep in my bedroom. Because Tomcat drug her sheepskin bed around rooms on tile floor. So she would wake up in a new space with big brother with her always. I am now her human. Only me. Me and her brother are only ones to see her. 😅❤
I hope Bora and Diego are safe considering the very recent devastating earthquake.
I love a good bromance and men that love cats.
"When a man loves cats, I am his friend and comrade, without further introduction." - Mark Twain 💖
@@em0_tion Perfect or purrrrrrfect. 😻
That’s how you know he a good one
Oh yes totally 💯
Yes! Men who live cats are where it’s at! I love this video! Thanks Jackson!
Everything about this is so wholesome! Bora is such a caring and responsible cat dad and Jackson is so kind and encouraging, I got emotional as well. I rescued my tortie cat from under a truck and it took her around two months to feel comfortable enough in my house to come out of her base and hang out. Two years later, she's a little devil full of fire and spice and everything nice. Time and love heal everything!
I LOVE my Tortie! She too is a rescue who mysteriously showed up on our patio 5yrs ago in Sept on my birthday. Her face and body shape looks just like a black feral tom who I feed and winter shelter. I'm sure he dropped her off. Best birthday present ever 😘🐈⬛🐾♥️
Honestly It's cool that he brought in grass just to make his cat comfortable, something most people wouldn't do.
@@leagueaddict8357 That was so sweet, I thought the same.
Same with my adorable torbie- she went under the bed and hissed and growled at everything. Now she comes demanding to be brushed, and falls asleep on my lap. I adore her. Patience and play helped us💕
@@sylviekins I bet she's like velcro now. That's a happy ending
Your not crazy Jackson, we love you! We need more people like you and Bora in the world.
Darn right!
We are in the comment section. You are one too.
Unconditional love and compassion shouldn't be a crazy thing in this crazy world
AMEN! 😻
Bora is also probably fighting against a language barrier to give Diego a better life, as in Turkey we have a lot of shyness around not speaking the perfect English. I’m so happy for them both. Congrats Bora 👏🏻👏🏻🐱 and best of luck on your cat journey
My mother-in-law found a cat who was almost dead. He had broken ribs, many infections and was Felv positive. She couldn't leave him to die, so she brought him to me. I took care of him and he is very healthy now (as much as he can be) but he was a feral cat from the beginning. We tried to give him space but he wouldn't let us touch him or come close after he got his health back. It took a lot of love and patience, but I choose to keep him, because I was afraid that other people wouldn't have the patience he needed to be a great cat. It took FOUR years, many mistakes but today he is one of the nicests cats I have ever had. He follows me everywhere, loves being around, loves play time, sleeps on my legs, is very chatty and loving. I never thought he would be like this, I just wanted him to be comfortable around the house, but it's amazing what time and love can do for a cat.
This is a wonderful story, thank you for sharing. It makes my heart happy knowing there are people like you and your mother-in-law out there. You gave that cat a loving home even though it wasn’t easy, that takes a lot of patience and understanding :)
Or a person .
Love this. Thank you Ana Domelas.
Ahaa,.... I didn't read the comment because just because idk 😶
You're an amazing human!!!
When I adopted my cat, Hope, two years ago, I had all sorts of things set up for her - hiding places and cat beds, etc. The shelter said she was an escape artist and freaked out over anything, so I figured I'd have a long road to win her trust. She showed she liked head rubs when we were at the shelter, nudging me a little when I'd stop, so I knew we'd get there eventually. Well, I get her home, open up the carrier, and go sit on the floor on the other side of the apartment. She came right out, did a slight sight-seeing meander, then came right up to me and flopped down beside me hard into my leg. I started to cry. A shelter cat, in her new home for not even five minutes, just flopped down and showed me her belly. Best thank you ever!
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She was just SO grateful to you for getting her out of that scary jail! I am grateful you did also.
AWWH love to hear that
My little guy I adopted a month ago showed me belly the first day I took him home as well I also cried lol
I have been rescuing Senior cats from the shelter for a few years now they seem to hide only a day or 2 and my newest furbaby is a sick Young girl. She has been hiding under the bed since we got her. She will come out when I call her, but only for me. Not going to lie, I love that part. But I never had a cat who would hide so much. I can tell right away she is shy and timid. Just hope she will start to feel safe with everyone. Thank you, Jackson, for everything you do in the cat world! You are my video bible that I always go to!
I used to sing lullabies to my scaredy cat when he first came home from the shelter. I absolutely observed that he would begin to react to my voice in situations where he was scared, it was that first encouraging sign that he was starting to warm up to me. I also remember having to play “statue” whenever he would come out of hiding to explore the environment, he was so SUPER aware of every twitch of my hand and would startle easily.
He’s a total lap cat now, he runs the house!! 😁
I have always had special songs for each of my cats, but I have never composed something for my current cat, yet. I sing random songs to him, but nothing personalized...he usually looks at me like I'm a bit nuts.
Well. Your comment inspired me to start composing something special for this boy. So far it's "boo boo bear, boo boo bear...he's the best cat anywhere" sung to the bat man theme. OK now I might be crazy to think he's really enjoying it, but he was sitting across the room, ignoring me, when I let out the first few notes. He whipped his head around and stared. A few more notes...he's purring so loud I can hear him all the way over here. By the time I get to "anywhere..." he has run over and is sitting next to me, purring and looking at me expectantly.
I may be crazy, but I'm really not exaggerating his response. Sing to your cats, people! They love it :D
You give me hope! I make meow sounds at my cat, and I have a certain one I make whenever I open a can of food. It’s still hiding and I don’t want to traumatize it. My last cats I rescued from the cold as kittens so they just took to me.
I just hate that it’s hiding, scared of this big man stomping around dropping things and stuff. It probably feels totally justified to hide.
It’s an orange cat. Probably gonna name it cringe. Gender unknown, but has yet to piss toxic fumes so assuming female?
I can totally see why Jackson got emotional with this particular cat case - Bora is such a kind and gentle soul, and loves his kitty so much and the way he has tried to provide everything that could possibly make the kitty happy... it's just the sweetest thing, it kinda melted my heart too tbh. :)
Also make him a house cat. Its dangerous outside. Let him explore your place
Let him sleep with you
I don’t know if you’ll ever read this but can you please release videos every once in a while updating us on these little help videos if possible? There are some from months ago that I would love to see the progress from!
Good idea!
I would love that!
Yes!!!
UPPP!!!!
Yes, great idea!
Nothing wrong with happy tears Jackson. I’ll even join in because of Bora’s kindness...
His hat may scare his cat. Cats are very aware of things that they’ve never seen before. He may not have been with a man before, or maybe afraid of men Bora is doing a great job , the advice Bora was given is perfect. Look luck Bora. Your cat will learn to love you. All you’re doing is worth the loving cat you will have.
In Turkey, it's socially very normal to be cat-oriented. Feral cats are kept fed and cared for. Bora went one step more & opened his home & heart to a feral kitty. That is beautiful!
i love this channel! i’m getting my first kitten in a few weeks! i’m gonna give it the most luxurious life thanks to you
@taberoo me too!! Altho it's not my first I'm so excited! Congratulations, you are now a pre-cat mom/dad!
@@skyrimsiceprincess9664 thank you!
I'm on the same boat! Good luck and enjoy your cat adventure!!!
Oh so exciting! I did the same 2 years ago before I got my two sister cats. I followed all the advice I got from JG videos. They are the best cats on the planet 😻
Same. Best of luck to you
We just got 3 months ago two 10.5 year old bonded female cats. One is a tortie, the other a tabby. The tabby is still shy and runs to a hiding place if you stand up. She will let you pet her if you are sitting. The tortie has started to bond with me and lets my husband pet her. We realize they are mourning for their former owner so we hope they will adjust totally to our home. We hope to give them a long life.
I love that you rescued 2 older cats, so awesome! I also adopted a senior in April, its just so rewarding!
I used to have 6 cats. Two of them were really attached, they had a special bond, well one of them developed diabetes and four years later he lost the battle to diabetes and his best friend morned him for about four months. It was so heartbreaking. When the vet came to pick him up in the middle of the night it’s as if she knew it was the last time she was going to see him and she was headbutting him, rubbing her face all over his face and licking his face, like she was saying goodbye. The first month she would search my apartment looking for him and then she would go under the bed and come out later and look for him again. She would put his favorite toy in her mouth and search for him to play. Like I said it was heartbreaking. But I just gave her a lot of love and when she needed space I gave her that space and I was just patient with her. Now she is good and back to causing chaos in my plants every day! So it just takes time but they’ll come around.
You are amazing and these two cats sound so adorable! Wishing you all the best for a long and happy future💕💕
I adopted a pair of black and white siblings (then 4 1/2) over 4 years ago. I was looking for an older, less adoptable bonded pair and as ordinary black and white cats, they fit the bill. Their previous guardian of 3 1/2 years was leaving Korea and was desperate to keep them together. When I had picked them up, they were already in their carriers (I had visited about a week before to meet them). My apt was much larger than his one room; he had given me their tower, their two litter boxes, toys, etc, but the first week was awful. The girl stayed on my wardrobe when I was in the apt and hissed if I came near. (Clearly when I wasn't she came down to eat and use the litter box.) The boy walked in circles and meowed loudly. I was so sad that I finally committed to cats (after many years as an expatriate) and they hated me! I contacted the previous guardian and he took the train over an hour to my place, talked to me about their behavior and talked to them. He stayed about an hour and a half and it was magic. They immediately relaxed around me! Now they are going on 9 (as is th
eir adopted street-kitty brother) and they all go to bed with me and wake up with me. We eat and play in the morning, and they nap in the afternoon while I work. We eat and play again in the evening. Keeping the pair together was worth it. They are so highly bonded and are together 90% of the time! From time to time I play them a video their previous guardian made, and I send him photos and videos every month or so.
Bora comes across as an absolute gem of a human. I’m sure Diego came around in time. Would love to see an update about these two ❤️🐾
Definitely!
I vote for a Bora - Diego update also!
yeah
I hope they weren't affected by the February earthquake in Turkey 😢
When I got my Ragdoll mix cat he was terrified, I laid flat on my stomach while he was still in the crate and spoke softly and petted him. Just spoke and petted him.
When I got him out of the crate and was holding him while sitting he climbed up on my shoulder and fell asleep.
We bonded for fifteen years since then. I can’t believe it’s that rare. He died almost two months ago now, and I still miss him terribly every day.
I adopted a TNR cat from a shelter a couple of years ago and it took over a year for him to be comfortable with me and now he is the sweetest boy...Sometimes it just takes time, some longer than others.
I adopted a 1.5 yr old cat just over a year ago and he’s taken a while to gain his confidence, too. My boy is also so sweet, he’s just been through a lot in the past. It’s so sweet to see them become happier. I’m so glad your boy has settled in and he’s lucky to have you as his family ❤️
About 8 years ago, my mama adopted a 1 yr old feral kitty who had just weaned her kittens. It took over a year, but she would come out and lay down next to mama when mama was sleeping. Probably another year rolled around before she'd come to mama's recliner and lay with mama while she was awake. Then mama's Parkinson's got bad. Suddenly, mama's kitty became really protective when I'd come over to help mama. She didn't want me messing with mama at all. Luckily, she got used to me coming over daily and stopped hissing and growling. When mama died, it surprised all of us at how quickly kitty bonded with daddy. Unfortunately, daddy had to go to a nursing home less than a year after mama died. I couldn't take kitty and had to give her to a friend. My friend says kitty still has nothing to do with her or anyone else in the house. It's been 8 months, but kitty wants nothing to do with leaving base camp.
My gf had a stray black cat they took in years ago before I even knew her. The guy was as feral as a domestic cat could get, come for food and then bolt outside or hide out in the house, once in a blue moon he may have let you pet him for two seconds. One night, probably about 4-5 years after his is taken in it changes. One night he approaches the bed myself and my girlfriend were laying in, pops his two paws up onto the bed and meows for the first time (of MANY going forward). It's like a switch went off in his head, went from avoidant to chasing people around the house to hang out. Has been that way sense, from Nervous to Needy Nelly. Cats are weird and unique, treat them right though and they will come around, even if it's a few years down the line and seemingly the cat is attempting to make up for lost time
For all the Cat Daddies out there.
Happy Father's Day 🐾
Salutations 💌
My grandma said once that "if a Man loves cat's you know that he is a good man " and it sometimes with dogs but definitely all the men I know is very nice that own a cat
Edit: don't want to be that person but I've never really had 30 likes on a comment 😅
Oh yes
Absolutely!!! Your grandma speaks the truth.
2 caring gentle Men with a common cause 🤗
Getting a cat was one of the best chooses I’ve ever made.
Me, too 😊 I never thought I will loved a feline so much like my Niki ❤️
Exactly! and still lot of people thinks I am "crazy"... stupid people...
I love my cats very much. They love unconditionally and provide the best companionship. ❤
Choice?
@@Marcus99998 There's always got to be one of you that doesn't realize that Jackson isn't watched by just people whose primary language is English. I, for one, am very glad Jackson can teach people all over the world, and grammar isn't the focus here.
Bora seems like such a sweet guy and Diego is so lucky to have him as his new family! He’s doing so much right and has put so much effort into giving Diego such a wonderful home. I’m sure with Bora’s care and love that Diego will open up, gain confidence and live an incredibly happy life. Bora, you are awesome 🤩
If Bora ever needs a partner (if he doesn’t already have or want one) he should use this video as his dating profile! Who wouldn’t want someone who is this caring!! ❤️
@@zombiemeg oh yes, a perfect profile
Cats in Turkey are like royalty. Everyone loves them and i love that. I think its the coolest.
Something I learned: my cat has stranger danger around my dad more than the rest of the family. What worked best was him watching tv with 1 hand dropped down beside the chair when the cat walked in. It took a bunch of daily sniffs, but she sits with him now.
That’s such a small thing, fantastic that this worked!
Bora: The future cat daddy of Turkey!
I always feel so very bad when animals are so scared.. It just breaks my heart so much.
Me too. Makes me wonder what happened to make them so afraid 😞
@@Momma_AL When Jackson said it's usually men that have done something bad to them, I just felt a huge hammer hit my heart.. There are so many AMAZING cat dads out there, my husband being one of them, I just don't understand why people think it's ok to be mean to animals like they have no soul or emotions just because they cannot speak..
If you stop and think about it, it seems that is a reason people abuse them and think nothing of it.. If an animal could SAY, please stop, you're hurting me, I think people would get it..
@@Swnsasy sadly many people are ignorant and egoistical in that part, in many parts honestly
@@Swnsasy Plenty of children tell their abusive parents "stop, you're hurting me!" That doesn't stop the abuse.
It just takes time for stranded cats to get used to thier new home.
"I care about you more than I care about me." Wow! Did Jackson Galaxy define love in words? Because that's how it looks in action and results. ❤️ cats
💯!!
It’s only been a week. I think he’s doing a great job as a new cat dad. Just give the cat more time, he will eventually decide that Bora is one of the good ones.
Thank you so much Jackson for this video. I just adopted a very undersocialized and independent cat, and I was in tears last night from the lack of progress I'm having with her. Now that I've watched your video I can see she actually is doing better since day 1, just in millimeters!! Please keep the videos coming 💕
Hang in there !
I hope it had gotten better !
Any advice?
6 months later how is she doing? I hope all's going well!
@@lunaraydue1340 She's doing sooo much better! We had a few peeing on couch/bed incidents, but she's stopped that. She's gotten comfortable around my apartment, and is super vocal, especially right after I get home from work! Just yesterday I was able to give her some quick pats and chin scritches. It's so rewarding to see her progress every single day!
I hope Bora sends you a progress report in awhile with Diego's progress. Time. Patience. Love. Works wonders. Great video!
Yes I want an update!!
Yes, please I just brought home a 6 month boy and I am going through nearly the exact scenario. In time, I hope his cat will be as sweet as he is 💕😻
@J H
Please don't worry too much about him/her - I've rescued five cats over my lifetime and none have responded the same way. Some hide for months, others adjust really fast. Like the one that broke out of his cosy little nest within the hour and was purring on my neck...
A really useful tip the vet gave me was to talk to them. I had a very shy little girl who hid under the coffee-table and as I sat on the sofa I'd just witter away at her. Then I started lying on the floor and she'd come out just far enough to check me out. But them getting used to the everyday sound of your living is important and that's why the one-room thing doesn't always work (that's relatively new anyway and this little one was long before the internet and the vast wealth of knowledge we have access to now.)
As long as they're eatimg, drinking and using the litter-box there's really not much you can do until they decide they're comfortable. And yes, I worry myself stupid every time but it's always worked out when they decide I'm not scary after all. So just let her head you and get comfortable with your routine and hear your everyday noises and eventually she'll come and investigate even out of sheet nosiness - I went from two months on the floor talking to Flossie to waking up with her sitting on the side of the bed staring at me one morning!
Best of luck.
@@randomhumanoidblob4506 Thank you for your comforting advice--it really helps :-)
@J H
You're more than welcome - we're all kind of on this mad cat journey together and sometimes we just need to be told we're doing fine.
I really worried about Flossie even though I knew logically she was ok. We can't logic ourselves out of emotion tho and the advice from the vet was really just about chilling me out. I HATE that first stage when they're so scared and all you want is to tell them it'll be alright. But we can't, so we just have to tell each other 🤗
That guy cares for his cat so much. It's adorable❤❤
It has been nine months since this video was published.
By now, Diego runs the house and trusts his dad 100%.
why am I crying? 😭
you're doing a great job, Bora! Diego is going to be less shy and hang out with you more and more ❤
My husband is from Turkey and loves cats. There's a great documentary about cats in Turkey called Kedi that everyone should watch.
That’s a great documentary!
loved that movie!
loved this movie so much we got it on DVD and it gets a few rewatches, the biggest compliment for any film in our house
Will do!
Also watch Walter Santi, he's from Turkey as well. He is amazing and has done so much for all the cats in his care.
We just now adopted a 6'ish month old semi feral kitty. She's in our front room with a small light shining on her wet food and water. We also put a litter box there but I highly doubt she will use it, which is totaly fine because she was an outdoor kitty that kept getting beat up by other cats..... So ya, I HAD to get her and now she's gonna be an indoor kitty with the whole house all to herself! LOVE your channel!!
I think we'd all like to have an update from Bora and Diego to see how they've got on?
I want to hear an update for Bora! Definitely! Love to Diego!
One of my cats had been abused previously and he was terrified when he came to live with me. He used to hide in the bedroom. I would go, sit in bed and read out loud to him(it was something BCR had done with Jumanji). He would come closer and closer and I would keep ignoring him while I read. Eventually he was in bed with me. Those were my first steps at least.
Great idea!💕
GOODNESS !!!!! Thinking you're CRAZY??? I cried a river of tears witnessing your vulnerability and how you valued the guy sharing! Wow I'm in love with who you are! Only a servant leader would see that! 💙💙💙
I have been a dog person for 30 years and now I am about to be a cat father in 3 days. My dog died 2 years ago and I haven't had a pet since then coz I felt I was not ready yet. When my dog died, I felt something in me died as well. I stopped seeing my friends and colleagues for 2 years as well. As I was looking at local posts for pets I came across a munchkin cat that I fell in love instantly. I am about to get her 3 days from now. I have been binge watching all cat 101 videos for 2 days now and bought the essentials (I think) based on all videos I have watched including this. Everything is ready; food, litterbox, bed, house, tree house, scratch post, treats, catnip (didn't even know what this was until today), shampoo, comb etc. I have already visited the nearest vet to schedule a visit. I am excited and anxious at the same time. I am afraid that I might end up like this nice dude. All I wish is for the cat to be happy.
Do you have any tips on making a great 1st expression to a cat? This might sound like a funny question but I wanted to be prepared. 😅
Hope it went well and that you're both happy! ❤️🩹
Best way to introduce yourself to a cat (and you should always do that, not just the 1st time) is to let them sniff at your hand and wait until they give you a head sign it's okay to pet them :)
@@cynthiagola-bazzi55411st day my cat was shy and scared. Hid under the bed or couch. I was worried at first but I gave her time and respected her space. It was when I have her treats that she started warming up. Fast forward now, we are inseparable 😅. My cat is the sweetest cat. She would let me cuddle, kiss, hug, carry her and dance her around. She won't complain even if I know it would be annoying if I were her. She understands that if she would just let me do it, I would be exhausted eventually and stop. 🤣
She loves to sleep right next to me. I'd sing her the "Soft Kitty, Warm Kitty" song from the BigBang Theory Series and she'd fall asleep.
My cat has reminded me that I am capable of love and I deserved to be loved as well. My house is now blessed with happiness and joy. ❤️
Also speak to your cat in a high pitch voice or high tone voice baby talk! It is comforting to them. I have complete confidence that this man who’s story was featured today will someday raise great children!
I don't baby talk to mine and haven't except for playtime or treats for over 15yrs. There's no way I could keep up baby talk all the time with my cat He knows my voice and he knows my tones of voice My female cat that passed away 2 years ago was actually scared of high-pitched baby talk
My cat had been in a shelter for months, poor gal was so scared of things I hadn't considered bedides the usual (doorbelll, vacuum etc) Rotating ceiling fans, ringing phones esp landline, flushing a toilet, bless her heart. She stayed in a guest room for 2 mos, kept her food & litter in there too (under the bed in case she was having a cocoon day) . I would sleep in there sometimes too. A few months later, she was queen.of the house & our 2 older boxers knew it too.
Lololol, I fricking love this. Ur great.
I too rescued a horribly abused cat. I even had to introduce him slowly to light as he had lived in a room with black out curtains. I will spare you the details but 4 years later he is healthy and goofy and silly and downright loving. I fell in cat love with Bora and Diego. This video is 6 months old and I wonder how the pair are doing. I have had cats for 50 years and my guess is they are doing wonderful. God speed to them both!!!
NUMBER ONE VIDEO!!! Bora's concern and efforts to make Diego feel "home" and "safe" are phenomenal. After 3 years (we rescued) our 4-year-old Navi, is just NOW doing the "Otter". We still only pet her head, ears, and tip of her tail. Bora, it's all about loving patience. And, BLESS YOU and Jackson.
We got a cat couple years ago with the same problem. She was always hiding under the bed, avoided us like we were a predator. It took some time but one thing we did and for some strange reason it did help but we would take turns quietly singing calm songs to her close by. We always allowed her to smell us before we touched her, hand fed her favorite treats and naturally had toys around to help bring out the play. We kept the noise in the house to a minimum with music, TV etc.... however, we did play the kitty channel with calming music and bird sounds. Well that was two years ago and it didn't take that long, only a few months but she's queen of the house now. We now have four cats and they all know she's the boss. She loves her cuddles and even alerts us when my daughter is about to have an asthma attack. Face rubs are also calming for them. Good luck that's a beautiful cat🥰💞🥰💞🥰💞
Yep!! Such a similar story! I posted mine so I won't bore you in the reply lol, but the only thing different is we didn't do the singing part, that might have helped too, didn't even think of that. It definitely takes more than a week with scaredies like ours. The time and patience is SOOO worth it though! I'm glad yours came around too and is such an integral part of your family now 😻
@@Amarianee It's actually fun to sing to them😊😊. When we take them to the vet they absolutely hate the car ride so we sing all the way there (30 minutes drive) and they love it, remain calm the whole ride 👍😊👍. Glad it worked out with your kitty too😻. You're right.... It's totally worth it even though it takes time.
That is amazing!!
I’m not a good singer, but it helps my cats when they’re unhappy about something. I’ve found some soothing music online too.
@@theknightswhosay 👌😊 lol cats don't care if we're good singers , they just find their human voices soothing. To my cats I'm a famous singer. To my children, when I sing they get excited and go looking for the walrus 😂😂
Omg, I'm excited for this! We had the EXACT same problem with my Coco. We adopted her when she was 4 (she just turned 8 in May) and it took a good month for her to start semi-confidently just wandering through the house while we were home. Had to get a collar with a bell just so we could make sure we knew where she was because she flat out would not come out from under the bed with us around for the first week, but then she'd also hide behind the washer and dryer. She wouldn't sit on laps, she had some kind of fear (we think there may have been abuse at a previous home), and she was afraid of EVERYTHING. It was a long process, but now she begs to cuddle, lap sit (no blanket needed to cover the legs anymore either) meows and trills all the time, follows me everywhere (even to the bathroom. Thank goodness for doors...which she patiently waits outside of 😆). It just took a lot of patience and positive reinforcement. She needed to know she was safe and loved and that she wasn't going back to the foster home a 4th time. Yep, 3 different people adopted and returned this sweet girl, who doesn't bite, doesn't claw, doesn't knock things over because falling objects scare her, almost NEVER hisses (except when strays get too close to the screen door at night), and is just the most loving beautiful black dlh. Just be patient. You never know what kind of past trauma an adoptee might have had to endure before you found them.
Omg, my cat is named coco too, and we got her at 4 months old! What a coincidence
@@RayRayfrfr Awww, yeah she came with that name. She's black, but a cinnamon, so when the light hits her right, she's actually really dark brown. I don't know what/who she was named after, but because of her colour she was re-christened Coco Bean lol. I treat it more like a middle/nickname, but it suits her. Since she was 4 already, so I didn't want to try to rename her. I personally think that's really confusing for animals who have had one name for years then just have to try to start responding to something different. So, I just added to it 😁
I can't believe your kitty went through four foster homes!! 😔. How lucky to have found you 😻😻😻 It takes patience to work with scared kitties, most people just don't realize that. Happy your baby is in a safe stable home now🥰💞🥰💞🥰
@@StompMom5 Same! Yeah, one person found out her son was allergic after getting her as a birthday present, an older lady just couldn't take care of her, and the one I think the abuse happened at was a college guy who ended up locking her in his room because his roommate hated cats, and she "tore up his furniture." The foster mum was really shocked because that's not her temperament, then he mentioned the locking her in there all day, and it made sense. Poor thing. So, I misspoke a little. She only had 1 foster home, but she was returned 3x. The lady was super sweet though and really wanted to make sure this would be her forever home, because she had gone through a lot.
@@Amarianee Locking up a cat is just so sad😢. So glad she has you now in a good home 🥰. One of Jackson's episodes of my cat from hell, there was a couple who locked their cat up when it missed the litter box. Man he let them have it and for good reason.
I have found when I bring a new cat home, they almost all go through a period of what looks like depression. They eat, but most of the time they are withdrawn, kind of sad. But that adjustment period passes. In time, I've had great success with lying down on the floor next to them, or on the bed next to them, and just taking a short nap near them. Seems to be a real bonding experience. When they're awake I'll stick my hand out toward them, see if they reach for me. Just using physical, non-verbal communication in addition to soothing whispers. I had a cat once who loved my husband but anytime I came near her she ran away - for years. That's when I just started quietly lying down next to her, napping, and ever after that she was cool with me!
Not Crazy. You're being the best human you can be. Some people think I'm crazy, in how I love my two cats so deeply. I get the whole, "they're not humans attitude". No, they are not. Being a guardian is a truly special thing.
It's sometimes the very shy, fearful cats who fall the absolute hardest in love with you once they come around. You will be that safe place and person for the cat, just have to chip away each day at his walls.
Truth. My cat was from a hoarding situation and hid for months. Now a year later, she cuddles on my lap all the time and follows me around the house.
It took 8 years before one of my cats would let me walk up to her and pet her. She would let me pet her with my feet, but she wanted nothing to do with hands. I just gave her all the time she needed. So now at 8 years old, she loves being petted with my hands. Sometimes if I'm not paying attention to her, she'll insist that I pet her. We are all much happier now. It's too bad it took so long, but it is what it is.
Dang, that's dedication. Isn't it funny how stubborn a cat can be, only took 8 years.. haha. Great job!
I have a feral who I began to feed on my front porch. He would eat beside me outside but no touching. Tricked him in when it got too cold to sit outside. I have horrible arthritis so I'm not as mobile as I would like. So this Dec will be 4 years! He still rums but then slept at the bottom of my bed this past winter...then stopped & began running again. I do have a spayed female but the Empress is another long story & she will tap me for attention.
A few years ago, my partner and I of nearly a decade split up. We'd had a dog together. When I got my own place, I was taken aback at just how lonely I felt without either of them in my life. I was living alone for the first time ever, working overnights. I quickly grew depressed and had been considering the "final" option. Just as I was hitting my lowest point, Cirilla showed up on my doorstep; clearly malnourished. She'd literally been scratching at my front door. I took her to my nearest shelter to try and ensure nobody had lost her. When nobody claimed her, I told the shelter I was very interested in adoption. Since I'd brought her in, they gave me the first choice.
When I brought her home, she was sort of like this; very shy. I knew she'd been having a rough go of it, just like me.
Here we both are, years later. Happier and healthier than we were on that fateful day of meeting. I think we saved each other's lives, and I'll be eternally grateful to her for that. She has no idea just how much she means to me, and I like to think that I'm as important to her too.
Hang in there, Bora. You seem like you have all the best intentions, and I know that Diego will see that and warm up to you.
(For any wondering, Ciri was adopted at about 9 months old. She is a Sealpoint Siamese. I just wanted to share our story.)
They talk about women obsessed with cats but it’s great to see guys with cats good on ya x
I really lucked out, I got a mojito car right out of the bag. When I first got her she just came out of her transportation cage, rubbed against me, climb up the sofa and meowed. She does the same with everybody that comes into the house, she will climb up into everybody's lap.
What a win!
My first cat is a mojito cat too. He started snuggle with me the first day he was home with us. He sat on my chest for the first couple of hours and he was just settled right in. My second cat is a shy cat. Took him about 3 months for him to feel comfortable with us.
This video is coming in clutch for me. I just adopted a bonded pair and we're making progress but it's slow. I just want my new babies to feel safe in their new home.
My cat took a month. Today that bond is intense.
My daughter asked for a cat. (Rescue. This cat had already had a tough life. He had been found frozen to the sidewalk. March in Minnesota. Been in two homes before we got him.). For six months, the only way I knew we had a cat is the food went away and the litter box kept being used. By the way, I didn’t want a cat. I wanted a German Shepherd. So the fact that he wasn’t around was just fine for me. About six months into this, I’m watching tv and out of the corner of my eye, I see Gato Jack walk out of MY bedroom. He’d been living in my bedroom under my bed for the last six months and I never knew it!
This video gives me hope. Our cat has been with us for about a year now and he still will not come out of hiding if we're standing up, and he will not let us touch him whatsoever. I hope one day we'll be able to bond!
I have the same situation with a cat I rescued 6 MONTHS ago. After watching this video, I blocked off the futon he always hides under & created a separate hideout. I feel terrible taking away his safe space but I’m trusting Jackson’s advice!
Bora is an amazing person! I wish everyone on our planet were as kind as Jackson and Bora😻
I’m verklempt, too 🥲
Bora’s sweet kindness will win over Diego, no doubt. I have hope for humanity just knowing there are people like Bora out there 🥰
Reading everyone’s breakthrough with their cats is so touching 😭😭😭 I love this community so much
I felt so emotional too, so many people treat pets as if they're a toy meant to entertain you and don't actually care about their happiness. It's so good to see
I adopted a new cat after losing my 18 yr old nearly a year ago and he just immediately made himself at home. He was purring on my lap hours after getting home it was honestly jarring lol.
lol im a guy and my cat is literally the most important thing on this earth to me
This dude is a rockstar 🤩🤩🤩. What a kind, sweet, gentleman who has such a huge heart. It's true, you don't see this often with men. Kiddos to you and your new kitty 🥰💕🥰💕. Be patient, we went through the same thing with our oldest cat and it totally paid off. Totally worth it!!! 😻😻😻 keep up the great effort👌
You just don't SEE us being that way. Only my cat knows how I baby talk to her. We love our cats.
No, I don't think you're crazy. Bora's approach to Diego is genuinely beautiful. I got teary eyed too.
I have two kittens Evie is 9 months and Sacha is 12 weeks. Both rescue kittens. Cat lovers are a special breed of human. The gentleness of this chap with Diego is very beautiful. Jackson becoming emotional is very beautiful too. We feel the emotions of cats. It’s a special thing 🐈
I'm crying, where are my three cats to love on, ah..... Sleeping somewhere because I'm awake....lol...☮️
Our cat started the same way. He was born in the shelter and lived there for 1 1/2 years before we adopted him so he'd never known a home. He hid under the bed for days. Slowly he started coming out and exploring, but we couldn't get close to him. Shortly after he started exploring we saw he had conjunctivitis in 1 eye. The vet gave us drops, but a few days later it was both eyes and he could barely see. We kept him close to us to feel safer and brought him to bed with us at night. Fortunately another vet visit to an eye specialist showed it was a feline herpes flareup and a medication adjustment cleared up his eyes. After that he really bonded with us and still sleeps in bed with us every night over 9 years later. I think us keeping him feeling safe and secure near us when he was ill and so vulnerable really helped him bond with us so strongly. The downside is I should put the house in his name at this point.
Because of this guy I got my cats to stop hiding underneath my couch and sleeping next to me ❤
Your emotional intelligence is why you are a cat whisperer. You are a real man.
I'm in the same boat as Bora. My rescue cat is about 6 1/2 years old, not quite 20 pounds, totally shut down. It's been 4 weeks. She doesn't play at all. Hisses. She was not like that in the shelter. But maybe just as bad, at the shelter she was totally nonreactive to anything at all. I don't know what to do about her. I've no intention of taking her back. She uses the litterbox since day one, eats and drinks since around day 2. Trauma-time happened the day of her 1st vet appointment trying to catch her, and the appt. was canceled. My arm is shredded, looks like a chainsaw accident but the cat wasn't physically hurt at all. I think it caused a major set-back in the trust department. I'm at a loss. UPDATE: 10 MONTHS LATER: Very little has changed. I do see her walking around sometimes, and no longer in a crouch mostly. But she still hisses at me nonstop, lives her life hiding and scared. Won't play with toys at all. I can't get near her for a vet trip, This 20 pound, long hair cat makes me lose sleep. Only a week ago she finally ate something besides dry fancy feast. She ate a small can of pate, and I was able to get some hairball remedy in her. I'm on the 2nd tube of hairball stuff, and this is the 1st time I actually got any into her. Going to try again in a day or 2 as I don't want to make her sick. I"e thought about getting a 2nd cat, to be friends with her, but I'm afraid she might kill it. I just don't know what to do with her after all this time. I'm not afraid of her yet it's heartbreaking to see this poor cat constantly in fear. There are no kids, I live alone, I'm a very quiet, pretty calm person. She knows I supply the food and clean the litter box. She will watch me do these things without hissing at me. I don't know where to go from here. One time she gave me the eyeblink back.
Hope it worked out for you and your cat in the end.
I know it's been a while--- I hope she's Improving for you. One thing you might try is a calming collar. You can buy them on Amazon like, 3 for 12 dollars. I had a very unhappy female cat and it was a game changer for her. Miracle!! It is hit or miss as I've tried it for various cats and it has no affect at all. Another thing is giving her cat a little pile of cat nip. Cat nip is calming when cats eat it ( it's stimulating when they roll in it. An even better happiness is her valerian root. Buy pure capsules with no other additives and sprinkle it in front of them or on a toy and she will like it off. It makes cats feel very happy. Plus all the tips Galaxy offers in this video.
@@lisabelle7553 Thank you for the idea of the collar. But you can't get near her, yet. It's now been one year but I've still never even been able to pet her. My feeling are NOT hurt, as suggested above, but she's just heartbreaking. Every once in awhile I think we're making a small step, then it disappears again. I've tried a behaviorist, I'm just told give her time. I just HAVE to get this cat to a vet, but I can't get near her to crate her. There doesn't seem to be any health issues that I can tell, but she at least needs to be checked and I am worried about hairballs creating problems. I'm not giving up on her, I can't see her back in a shelter or back on the streets. At best I know she's warm, fed and safe. I'm being content with that, but like I said, the vet visit.
@@traceycarole8266 Is there a way to get a vet to come to your house to see her? Maybe they can try and get her in a crate? I hope it works out for you. I have a shy kitten who does not really come up to me. It has been 4 months and the progress is super slow.
I've just taken in 2 6 month old siblings and they're much the same as your cat - their previous owner claimed they were shy but nothing major..... they've been shaking, growling and hissing while cowering together it's awful 😭 I told her I will work with them on any issues they may have as long as they're happy. But they're definitely not happy so far. The female is absolutely depressed. Really hope with some time they will relax because it must be a horrible existence living in fear.
My cat was afraid of me for all of one day, but I was going through a full on mental breakdown even in those few hours. It can be incredibly mentally taxing when your furry baby doesn't return your feelings yet. Strength to everyone to get through this period if it lasts long!
Sit on the floor with an open laptop, almost guaranteed any cat will come. lol
Right?!😂🤣
And sometimes, it doesn’t even require a laptop at all 😻😻😻😻
…. And sit right on the laptop.
Oh yes
you are a genius, I adopted a cat, the vet believes he was a stray and he got hit by a car and has a head tilt. he was so scared and didn't want to come near me. I adopted him Dec 14, 2022 and I binged watched your videos. Its now Jan 22, 2023. He is now coming out to eat, he allows me to pet him, he even comes to me when I call him. I am allowing him to go under the bed but this week, I am going to block under the bed and I got him a comfort bed for him. I can't believe this, I was so worried about him. The vet told me if I can't help him, she will have to euthanize him. NO way. Thank you soooo much
it takes patient cats do as they dont like change and it takes time for them to come around and when they do they will show you their true self
Omg I desperately needed this video, I just adopted my baby and was feeling so sad and discouraged for her and myself but this gave me hope that we will get through it.
Bora is a caring cat dad. And Turkish people in general adore cats.
We got Chili at 2 years old. He was terrified of me, but loved my husband. We surmised that he was abused by a woman, but the man was nice. Then they dumped him at the shelter. He legit has PTSD. It’s taken time to win his trust and he still prefers my husband.
It's been 7 days since we brought my new cat home and she only ever comes out of her hiding place to demand pets. She's not motivated with food, treats, or play; she's scared and tries to run away if I even come close to her hiding place. I could only pet her on her terms - at night when I'm on a chair (so I can't catch her) extending my hand just far enough so that she can rub her face on it. Baby steps, but today she came out at noon with me in the room. Fingers crossed that I can edit this comment later telling how affectionate she's being now.
Turks really LOVE their cats! Kedi live wonderful lives on the streets of Istanbul and Turkey in general. I am not surprised by Bora’s tenderness with his Kedi.
Nope Jackson, you are NOT crazy. Bora is a real pet parent and all-round beautiful soul.
...and yes cats are truly magnificent creatures in our planet. All of them have unique personalities. Only animals that can smell the LOVE!
I love watching bromances and a guy getting emotional for other guy who care about fur baby. Thank you for the vid!
Our cat is still frightened of everything after being with us 6 months so this is what we need
I let several ferrel cats in from outside when I lived in my apartment and was going to school for my biology degree. I worried if they were happy inside my apartment because they'd always run from me but they seemed to want to stay.
I didn't have time to do anything extra special beyond what I had already done for the cats I had had before, only one of whom was still alive then, but I had built a cat tree and had a bunch of different cat toys. The cat I still had before these other cats decided to come into my apartment was still pretty young and he would actually play fetch with me because he'd get bored and bring me his toy so that I'd throw it because I was in the middle of studying so he had a bunch of toys like that. I would always take a little time before bed to pay attention to him but I was kind of glad when other cats wanted to come in and play with him.
I only had to catch one of the stray cats because she started getting in heat, which is probably why she wanted to come in and play with my boy (who was fixed but still). I felt really bad having to catch her to get fixed but I did. She was scared of me for a very long time.
What really made her less afraid of me was that I would do yoga every morning so that I wouldn't be standing on just my legs, but I'd be on all fours like her for a number of different poses. That made her and other ferrel cats I had calm down a lot. I didn't even really realize it at first because yoga has a tendency to take your focus off of scaredy cats while also making you less imposing since you aren't on your feet.
I lost my apartment when I graduated from college and I had to move in with my mom again, who has a dog. All my cats at the time where terrified and they literally hid inside their litter box for a couple of days. It literally took my most frightened cat several years to hang out where the dog could get her but she does now.
What stray cats fear is that you, as a much larger animal, will eventually eat them so you have to show them for a while that you're literally not interesting in eating them at all.
The cat I was talking about actually cuddled me during the time last year when I literally nearly died of COVID-19 so that connection will happen. Sometimes you have to give love to another being for a long time before they stop being afraid and that goes for us humans as much as any other living being.
I wish I could like this video 100 times over!
Poor babies stray and shelter animals go through so much 😭
I’m from Turkey too and this hit hard because I have a cat and it’s so cute to see how much Bora cares about his cat🥲🥲
The cat I’m fostering, the foster coordinator really wanted to get her out of the shelter because she was so terrified, she had pressed herself as far away from the cage door and into the corner & refused to move & was barely eating. Idk I saw her photo & even though I’m a first time foster and there were other less scared cats, I just knew I had to pick her up. I just resonated with her, I’m neurodivergent & have been diagnosed with ADHD & in the diagnosis process for Autism & that feeling of absolute fear & overwhelm of the senses I know too well. Thank you so much for this video, I have my cat setup much like Bora but didn’t block off under the bed & that is where she stays all the time. She’s eating super well & I can hear her exploring at night having fun with the toys I got her (which makes me very happy) but I was scared to block under the bed since she loves it. She already has a cosy corner I made for her so I think I will block under the bed. It’s been a month & she still seems to not want to leave under the bed if I’m there. She even dragged her bed under there. She seems like she understands that I’m not trying to hurt her so that makes me happy. I also just found out she was surrendered by her previous owner which breaks my heart. 😢 I was worried that I was doing something wrong to stress her out but I’m happy knowing that we are making progress & she’s getting more comfy
Are you going to keep her or just fostering until they find the right home for her? Sometimes fostering turns into a permanent situation. It can't always because then every foster guardian would end up with 30 cats and as much as that sound wonderful it would be very expensive. How are things now, it's been two weeks, is she better?
@@Kyarrix Hi! I'm still planning to just foster but I'm planning to keep her as long as it takes to get her a forever home unless something major happens. The video by the Kitten Lady "goodbye is the goal when fostering kittens" is what inspired me to be a foster mama so I want to try to find her a home so I can help even more kitties. We've made some progress! Only was able to block off half the space under the bed because when I tried to gently push her out she would not move and looked terrified so I didn't want to hurt her/traumatize her. I did though move her bed into a corner with blanket hanging over it and blocked off the under the bed portion right next to it. So she has a safe space but isn't huddling underneath the bed so much. She still doesn't come out where I can see her but she can see me when I feed her and I'm in the room and she's started gently meowing at me and we kind of "talk" back and forth where before she was always so dead silent. It makes me so happy that she's being vocal now! I think she's got severe anxiety so I think we're going to take it as slow as she needs to. She's gained weight too which I'm super happy about as she was underweight when I picked her up.
@@warmlavender5525 You are also helping though when you adopt a cat that is difficult or has been harmed or abused. You never know if the home they will go to will be as good as yours. I can see an argument for either side. You help more in terms of numbers by fostering but you permanently help the kitten you have by adopting.
I don't want to discourage you from your current path, you're doing a lot of good. If you can permanently adopt though, that is also doing something wonderful for the cat and for yourself.
@@Kyarrix For sure! There are benefits to both. I'm planning to eventually adopt at some point down the road so if it turns out that this cat becomes a foster fail, just like you said, it will be good for me and her. We can never know completely how other adopters will be but I do get to meet and screen people and have them meet her to see if they're compatible so that makes me feel good. We'll see what the future holds for us.
I'm glad I knew my cat for a couple of years before I got him. He was my best friend's cat, and I visited all the time and we always played and enjoyed the time together. When my best friend suddenly passed away, I agreed to take Max and give him a good home. He had to relocate to my house, but since we were already buddies, it made it quite a bit easier for both of us. Max has been with me for about 2 years now, and there hasn't been any trouble adjusting at all.
The local pound took my cat once ( She was around the corner of the house) I almost went beside myself. I went to get her the next day, I could tell she was so scared. Needless to say I took her home and since then we got even closer. It's like she knows I will always come back to her, no matter what.
Such A Nice Gentle Man to ask for Kitty Advice..Because this Man really cares..
I love this..👌👍🤗🐾😽
I rescued 3 feral kittens from my rental house when it went vacant. There was a clowder of about 11 cats living in the backyard and I wanted to get as many kittens as I could out. . I found one of the kittens to be very pretty. She looks like a Maine Coon. I managed to capture her and she bit me very hard, drew blood and damaged my thumbnail. I brought her home and for 3 months she wanted nothing to do with me. She spent all her time hiding under the bed and in places we couldn’t access. She eventually warmed up to my wife a little. She is slowly coming out of her shell. She has just started roaming around the house. She has just started sleeping on the bed with us at night and coming down stairs at feeding time.. She still runs when we approach her but she is making progress adjusting to be a house cat. Only time will tell if she become more friendly or remain aloof.
In her little kitty mind, you are her kidnapper that took her away from her family and life that she knew. So if you're already making progress, that's a good thing. A little cat nip here and there, plus only giving her treat from your hand can get her on your side to ( like churu tube treats or lickables). She will associate your hands with yummy treats. Good luck
I found this today because I am going through a similar situation I adopted a 10 year old cat and we are the 3rd owners the first had health issues the second had a cat that would attack him . I set climbing and scratching areas for him high window boxes for him to look out of but Charlie just wants to hide my husband and I are being gentle while talking and he did play a little today but still hiding he makes me cry. knowing he must feel lost . He is barely eating or drinking I am leaving water and food in many places for him I hope in time he will realize that this is his forever home and I will love and care for him for as long as he needs me.
Aw, the poor love, you’re his 3 owners, that is tough. I hope he starts to eat and have water, please keep us posted.
@@msheart2 Yes Charlie is eating and drinking he is sleeping with us and is loving his space it took a little while but he really ins very interactive he is such a joy we love him and hope he will live a long life with us. Thank you for your concern for Charlie .
No you are not crazy to find Bora's concern for Diego so special! It is indeed beautiful, and it's absolutely worthy of getting a little verklempt about when you see it. I think that with time and Jackson's excellent advice, Bora and Diego are going to be absolute besties :D