This showed up in my feed 11 years later. I just did the journal prompt and had to come back and comment. I realized that I am afraid if I allow myself to be skinny I will no longer fit in with my boring, stressful, unhappy life. So if I allow myself to be skinny I will have to go out and live the life of my dreams. That would require so much bravery. I am afraid if I could not find the bravery within myself, I would be even more unhappy.
Here to tell you you're still allowed to be stressed out and unhappy when you improve your looks by weightloss, which might give a little comfort. Not a very encouraging comment perhaps but what I basically mean to say is, allow yourself to take one step at a time. These things aren't as attached to eachother as you make them out to be, it's just whatever you improve about yourself makes it's a little easier to deal with other areas in your life that need improvement. Gaining weight might have been a disfunctional coping mechanism, connected with your belief system at the moment, but not getting your whole life together at once doesn't make you a failure.
Congratulations bc youre being very honest with yourself!! Not a lot of people have the courage to admit to this. Its not only being skinny or whatever of course, but any “good” thing that we have an excuse for not doing. Nothing wrong with being fat but i feel like most people dont truly want to be, they just find excuses bc its scary to change…
I’m doing a PhD on why women don’t wear the things they buy, and my initial finding is similar to this. We want to be that woman when we buy the clothes but when it’s time to wear it we are aftaid to be seen and potentially making someone else feel small or less than
For myself, I just don’t want the extra attention from men. It’s already bad enough trying to navigate as a woman in this world out in public without having a man attempt to steal my time and attention by acting gross and predatory towards me. I hate that my way to mitigate that is to try and not draw attention to myself as much as possible by often not wearing the things and styling myself the way I would prefer.
@@ovirago8314don’t blame the men ..investigate why it bothers you to be wanted, desired, looked at, worth the attention..were you told as a child to be small don’t bring attention to yourself, were you told as a teenager not to be a ho, etc…etc…if you are still young enjoy the attention, once you pass 50 no man will look at you…and that is ok but maybe play with this now and just say thank you or ignore the attention…if something bad, like rape or incest has happened to you , please go to therapy and work through it…❤
She made this 12 years a go and today on 19th dec 2024 I'm seeing it, 12 years after being posted on RUclips. Never before, never after, universe truly works in a magical way.
I allow myself to be pretty again and stop dressing down to make others around me feel comfortable, I allow all the attention and love from myself so I can truly be my best version of myself
I watched this about a month or two ago, then I started journaling why I’ve been on the bigger side throughout my teen and adult life, since then I’ve lost probably 10-15 pounds, it keeps dropping too. I am a firm believer that weight is tied to trauma, working through it in a healthy way can definitely get those pounds down.
@@urlmel I think what this is about is that journaling about the topic creates a healthier relationship with food and therefore people will "magically" drop the weight.
@@urlmelYou sound like someone who has never journaled. It is therapeutic, you allow yourself to really connect with your inner self and you start being more conscious about a lot of stuff
Honestly this video hit home for me so hard but when it comes to success and following my dreams. I am so afraid of my own abilities and my own vast potential for success because I know it could leave me isolated. I feel alone, and I don’t want to be alone forever, so I sabotage my own abilities that I know will lead to envy because I want to be loved. I’m afraid to be as talented as I am. I like this lady, even if her video was about being skinny, for everyone they have their core values and the self sabotage and fear of being beautiful is real. She’s wise.
I was so thin, now 25 lbs more. And I was so critical when I was skinny and gorgeous. Why I have no idea? I think women need to be kinder to self. Of course menopause does not help.
It’s not just that I want to get skinnier, I want to get my life together in so many ways. I want to look better, yes, but I also want to function better too.
Reminds me of part of a poem. "There is a lion in my living room. I feed it raw meat so it does not hurt me. It is a strange thing to nourish what could kill you in hopes that it does not kill you." Also, "Feel it. The thing you dont want to feel. Feel it. And be free."
Just eat natural foods that nourish your body and don't leave you craving crap. Do you see any fat animals in the wild? No. Slim and fit is our natural state.
You may have some sneaky triggers that you don’t register yet… journaling could be very helpful for you: if you’ve reached your goal, look carefully when you find yourself doing something like overeating fast food for example. While you’re eating it, think about what was happening before you made the choice to buy it, where you eat it (ex: alone in your car, or with others), how you feel while eating it, and then how you feel after. The act alone of creating awareness around the situation can help a lot. Sending you lots of love💖
Thank you. I just did the journal prompt and realize that I self-sabotage myself because I feel that I deserve to be miserable. That’s the root I have to change in order to finally take care of myself.
What you're saying sounds ridiculous at first, but for the people who also think like me, this makes total sense. I've been obese my whole life. I've never been enormous, but large enough that I've never been the smaller girl in my group of friends. In my up-bringing, that was just the life style that I've learned. I'm actually trying to get some weight off so I can feel great on my wedding day and it's been so difficult. I know exactly what to do. It's been working, but I get complacent and I just can't seem to understand why. Some weeks ago, it occurred to me that I'm actually scared to be skinny and full of energy. That sounds so stupid when I type it out. I'm serious, though. Being more beautiful, fit and energetic actually scares me because it's means permanent life changes, unknowns and how much more attention am I going to get? I don't like attention because of the lifetime of insecurity. Weight loss is a real struggle on plains that I hadn't ever considered before until I started really trying. I know that I can't be alone in this.
this is exactly how I feel today, I just turned 18, I am my no means fat but I would love to be thin, and beautiful but I'm somehow scared women will be mad at me for being thin, I am never mad at other women for being beautiful or thin because I realize that it takes a lot of intention and work, but for me I feel like I'm betraying some of bigger friends and I don't want them to be jealous of me, I don't want men to hit on me, but I still want attention and to know I'm desirable, I feel like I'm going crazy its a daily struggle of deciding if I want to be thin or stay the same and satisfy my family and friends.
I so hear you...and I recorded this so long ago. I might use different words today, but the essence is the same. Allowing ourselves to experience and express ALL of who we desire to be. I hope you had a stunning wedding day!
@@ElegantFemmehi What are Frenchy and Indy? Where do these terms come from? Or where are they used? I have never heard them before. They sound like psychology terms?
if i were skinny and didnt have to worry about it anymore, i would finally be able to wear the outfits i put together in my head, I'd finally know what it's like, I'd finally feel like i am enough and not inferior to others. i wouldn't have to worry about my belly or my excess fat and i could just be at peace for once. i would finally be the best version of myself. i would finally get it. i would feel even better than others at time because i got to my goal and they didnt. i know people would be jealous of me as i am of others now and hopefully i wouldnt have to be jealous of anybody else anymore. i would feel confident while dancing, working out, being active, wearing my outfits and just throughout the whole day. i would have enough to focus on even then because i have plenty of other obligations and interests that need my attention so i wouldnt get bored.
All this could be solved with exercise. I used to be quite chubby in high school. I started at home exercises and it changed my life (I’m not even exaggerating). If you don’t like something about yourself, do something about it if possible. When you look good you feel good imo
this video and these comments are so toxic, u dont NEED to be skinny to do all these stuff period. if you want to be more healthy eat better and exercise more but all this is not NEEDED to live a happy life and love yourself and stop judging ys, youre so frustrated and i assure you are focusing on the wrong aspects to fix
But you are already good enough. You don’t have to change anything to be worth it. I know it’s hard to believe that if your mind tells you the opposite, I’ve been there too, but it’s so important to accept yourself as you are right now. The goal is also not to feel better than others, that will not give you freedom and inner happiness. The goal is just to accept and love yourself exactly as you are 🤍✨🌺
When I was rail thin I was jealous of girls with big boobs lol there's always going to be something you worry about or aren't at peace about because the problem is self worth.
If I were skinny, I could let go of my fear of wearing what I want. I would stop worrying 24/7 about my weight, or what I had eaten that day. What you said about having this part of my life being taken care of and moving on with the rest of your life gave me so much hope. I want more than anything to truly start living my life free of bodily worries. 💌
This is actually perfect timing. I've been very self-destructive, and I have gotten bigger than I have ever been and have been wondering why I felt like I needed someone else's permission to be happy in my own body.
Started my weight loss journey yesterday. I want to be the skinny me I was 19 years ago before I had my son. I was never overweight but I never weighed what I wanted to so I could look great in all sorts of clothes again. I just felt more stylish pre-baby. Now I look like a potato in whatever I wear. I can do this and so can you and any other woman who needs it. Good luck on your journey! x
If I let myself be skinny I would be more involved in my community and friendships. I would interact with everyone and say YES to every invite out. I would get dressed with ease. I would enjoy getting ready. I would not be fearful of being seen. I would actually enjoy compliments and believe them. I would feel accomplished. I could move on to other things in my life.
This right here is so true ! When my face was slim I wouldn’t hesitate to go out now it’s gotten so bad that I don’t even want to leave the house to go to the store down the block :(
Mom comment really got me. Everytime I try to better myself my mom starts competing. Makes me not want to try because I don’t want to be apart of her competition. But this is about me not her. Will give myself permission to be better
I so hear you...it is truly about allowing yourself to be all of who you desire to be. Others may get activated when they see us living our truth, but holding our truth back doesn't support them either. Sending you love
Your comment made me feel like I am not alone in this 💞 I struggle with a narcissistic mom too. I’ve stayed small in so many ways because I don’t like triggering her and having her challenge me and tear me apart. But it’s time to step into my own and be the woman I want to be, my mom and her little narcissistic games be damned!
I'm actually so happy this isn't some pro-ed stuff and it's actually reasonable and sound discourse. I find that everytime someone mentions how they notice I've been losing weight I always subconsciously revert back to my unhealthy ways. I don't know why I hate it so much when people point it out to me. I think it's because I don't allow myself to be skinny, as you say. Sort of like I punish myself in a way.
I feel like when ppl tell me I’m losing weight, I start to subconsciously think "they think I’m fat, or they thought I was fat and they’re noticing my fat is lessening” and this starts to make me feel sad, that they noticed I’m losing weight bc they initially noticed I was fat to begin with, and then I guess I revert and sabotage myself bc I feel bad that they’re noticning? Idfk 😢
@okaywhat123 omg same happening to me , specifically when my in laws do comment on me loosing one or 2 kilos I go and eat like crazy and gain 5 or even 6 more than before 😢😢😢
@@okaywhat123 Someone at work said I'd lost a noticeable amount of weight and I found it encouraging and have lost a bit more weight since then. She probably thought I was fat before. I know I was.
So funny - I’m the same. In fact when she said to journal about it, I immediately thought “someone would comment to me in my weight loss, meaning it as encouragement, but I would be so embarrassed and just quit”. Why are we like this?!
Wow. This is what I needed. Not to say that I am big or need to lose weight, but I definitely have a desire to be thinner…where I don’t have to worry about sucking in or appearing chubby in photos. I subconsciously thought that the desire to lose weight is betrayal to my current body. However, I love my body so much now and I will love my body just the same when I become thinner. I am allowed to evolve and change and just because I want to lose weight doesn’t mean I’m not happy with my current body!
Sooooo good!!!!!! Just because we want to shift something in our lives in any way doesn’t mean we are not grateful for what we have. It’s all a choice 🖤
The permission part is true. I spent all my life until I got to 30 worrying about being skinny and overcoming eating disorders. I am a body builder now. I listen to my body, drink water and hit the gym a few times a week. I dont overdo anything. I wear the clothes I want and my body keeps sculpting itself as I continue to age. This works for me and I love it. I have a slim toned body that is healthy. I look strong and capable and that works for me. My self image or how I lead my life is my business no permission needed.
this moved something so sensitive and hidden in me. I have three sisters and my mom as well, and I grew up as the fat middle kid. I have always worried about telling them about my achievements so as to not make them insecure/offended somehow. oh gosh.
i literally have been eating so much these last days after months of consistency and seeing results and finally starting to feel confident. this video helped sm i saw it at the perfect time
I am so happy to hear this! It's amazing how when we start to feel good, we will limit ourselves from the next level. Having the power to identify this is HUGE! Bravo.xoxoxo
I have a sister who was constantly body-shaming me when I was "overweight". Then when I lost the weight and looked better, she never once said anything to compliment or support me. I realized that she really just wanted to make me feel bad. Some people are like that.
11 year old video, I’m not a woman wanting to get skinny and I watched the whole video anyways. Now I’m writing in my journal about setting goals about who I want to become.
this is so amazing. i will journal about "can i let myself be happy?" because i think thats a beautiful journaling prompt. i dunno if im ready to do the skinny prompt, guess im afraid of that one
@@SaphiraLeander you can. Realize, think and feel what it would be like to be skinny. “I got to buy all these new pants because my old ones don’t fit” How would your lifestyle change? Maybe you would go for a walk, run or workout each day? How would your nutrition change? Making healthy meals, having quality food. Realize that right now you are a healthy person, you are skinny, and your decisions you make going forward will follow that change of mentality.
when im at my lowest weight, i get attention from everyone, the wrong or the right kind. my eating habits and body will be scrutinized. men who had bad intentions would pursue me. I've learned since and have better boundaries, plus now my style is more modest. i will be skinny so i feel comfortable in my own skin again and can focus on my goals instead of worrying bout calories, the next meals, outfits not being flattering, etc
After losing 120 lbs I sometimes have to remind myself that I’m allowed to do this. It’s as if I’m waiting for someone to tell me I’m doing something wrong. I know I’m not doing anything wrong at all but that voice of self doubt has been a huge player in my life. It’s hard to shut her up now.
@OP Those of us who grew up being told, "You should know better!" Yet no one ever taught us anything or told us what we should know are constantly afraid of being told, "You're not allowed! You should know better!" It's so real.
This is so powerful for any weight because for so many of us skinny people we constantly want to gain weight and it’s OK to just be you just be comfortable in your own body and stop comparing it to other shapes and sizes.
you are a genious. i felt like talking to a therapist while watching this. i’ve lost 10 kgs. in this process, i have to face people who tell me that my overweight state was more beautiful and tell me to quit dieting over and over and honestly i get really fed up and want to eat like crap after hearing them. i was actually experiencing what you said before losing weight, i wish i had seen this video from the beginning. i allow myself to be skinny. i have 7 more kgs to lose, and i won't let anyone make me give up and i won’t be affected by what they say, because i allowed myself to be in the way that i want.
You are awesome, and you will get there❤. Take the power back, do not give in to those who say "you looked better when you were plump". Let them say whatever they want, keep going with your routine, keep improving
Honestly I don’t know why people keep demotivating others when they lose weight !! is it like jealousy or feeling insecure ? or what exactly ?. But you do you and continue your journey 🎉 well done be proud of your accomplishments❤ and do not let what they say discourage you😊
I literally cannot believe I manifested you into my life. Although my 1st time on your page I was pondering why I kept sabotaging my wt loss efforts every time I’d start seeing results. It’s insane but now I realize I need to grant myself permission. I love this very simple concept and applying now! Thank you so much!
I am now skinny, but it was not my main goal. I just wanted to look healthy and sweat more by doing regular home exercises. It wasn't easy, and it involved a lot of crying, but my body image has relatively improved and I can wear any clothes I want now. You can do it too. Believe in yourself!!
I realized recently that I self sabotage my weight loss because I am afraid of male attention. I know a lot of men are still attracted to me at a bigger size, but if I were skinny, I'd get 10x more attention. I don't like them approaching me or even looking at me for too long. I want to go about my life without being perceived, which is kind of impossible. I realize that being overweight doesn't just make me invisible to the men who are not attracted to me, it also makes me hide more. I assume I'd probably still cover up a lot even if I were skinny but I'd be less self conscious about going out and just living my life, but at the same time I'd be scared to receive too much male attention. I was an early bloomer and I had a curvy body as a teenager and none of the guys at my school were interested in dating me, they dated all the skinny girls who had mostly flat chests but they asked to see me naked or want to have sex or want me to take nude pictures. But they never publicly pursued me in any way. I also got a lot of attention from older men as a teen. I think this made me sabotage my own body and gain a lot of weight over time. I'm in my mid 20's now and I'm mostly just tired of being exhausted and not feeling good, not being able to wear the clothes I like, my back hurts, etc... I just want to be healthy and live my life and not have people assume things about me bc of my appearance. I think I'm just afraid of what comes with being a woman, I feel really unsafe in the world, objectified and always observed. Being overweight in a way is protection and also somewhat a form of rebellion but it's also something I'm deeply ashamed of.
17 yo and I completely agree with you, I’d say my way of feeling about myself is kind of different but about the subject of male gaze I agree with you at a 100%, I feel like having lived as an obese person really makes you see the bad side of some people, you don’t value them much so they won’t be afraid to mistreat you or to not give you so much attention, I really think it has helped me to be stronger in a way, to just understand that people will never really like me as they’re too stupid to understand that I have worth even as a person suffering from obesity, and in the same way, it made me disguised by most mens, the fact of objectifying women so much and litteraly disrespecting them when they don’t correspond to their beauty criterias just makes it impossible for me to actually believe that they are on the same level of intelligence and maturity as me, I don’t regret because overweight even tho it has caused me a lot of physical and psychological pain, I just feel so much detached from people now, and I can’t even imagine having a deep connection with someone who may disrespect me or being ashamed of me if I would simply have more fat in my body, and in general not pleasing their eyes. Before starting my weight loss I actually was actively looking for a man who would love me and be proud of me with and without my fat, and I can tell you, even though I’m younger than you, that even though you may be more ugly, undisciplined, more poor etc… when you’re fat, people still DONT have the right to disrespect you, being fat doesn’t mean belonging into a category of people with lower worth, we’re just normal people, with different bodies, we shouldn’t be ashamed or regret our habits choices, even our mistakes that made us fat, we need to be proud in order to evolve , because God Nevers makes mistake in our destiny, if we experienced a situation, we were meant to learn something from it !
We’re not just fat, we are people, we are souls, we were not supposed to be products of beauty , we shouldn’t fall into that societal thought of objectifying our bodies just like it has objectified our lives in order to create them abundance
Me too. I was around 9 when I had started to attract unwanted male attention from MUCH OLDER MEN. By the time I was 16 and had all the perky curvy traits, the attention was terrifying. I now wear baggy clothes and am a much bigger size than I want to be because it feels safer.
Wow this popped into my feed and honestly you're a genius. I'm someone who has almost everything going on perfectly in my life and I just realized that I keep myself a bit on the heavier side because I'm afraid of being too perfect. It's like I self sabotage. Thank you so much for this. From now on I allow myself to be skinny and I allow myself to be perfect.
I'm not perfect, but everybody thinks I am (don't know why), the envy, the passive agressive comments, etc is a lot for me. When I gained weight people seemed to enjoyed it, and behave as if I was more easy to get along, more approachable, but my behaviour was the same as when I was skinny. I'm now losing fat, looking slimmer and have the feeling of being more vulnerable because I'm feeling lighter, smaller and found out that I gained the fat I lost because I was scary to feel vulnerable. I am now developing skills to feel I'm safe in a smaller and lighter body.
Same. Most of my family members are overweight and I only post my body pics on my close friends story so they don't feel bad because that's how I used to and sometimes still feel... From now on, I'll allow myself to be skinny, healthy, toned, sexy, and confident!
I needed this. I remember being 8kg lighter and way sexier😭 I'm not overweight, it's just that little extra weight which is too much. If only I lost 3kg, that would be enough
Same, I am now 20lbs heavier and i am so unhappy. I was so happy, when I was skinny I was so confident. I am letting myself be skinny and do not worry what other people think
Same but i was getting depressed watching my weight and i thought it wasnt healthy to keep losing weight which was untententional on drugs which ive gone off now so i feel normal and less stressed, but i dont feel that sexy which has to do with acceptance. I didnt feel that sexy when i had no money to buy clothes as 58kg 🙄 saving up overseas made me go on a popcorn budget which made me gain perminant weight, well im now 66kg trying to not gain anymore but the calorie count does not work all the time 😅 my adhd meds require energy, if i eat less i feel like shit so no win
fantastic video. i was overweight/obese for most of my life and thanks to hard work and dedication, ive lost & kept off 100lbs. i no longer dress in basic boring clothes to hide myself, instead now i allow myself to experiment with my style. i no longer force myself to go unnoticed. i feel free for once in my life
when you give yourself permission to be skinny, your confidence becomes palpable and you become skinny. replace skinny with pretty, smart, healthy, etc. when you are confident in your own decisions, you are able to feel in any way that is powerful to you. you can feel skinny; you can be skinny, because you are sure in the security of your own decision-making capacity to be the person you wish to become
This has helped me realize myself. I don’t allow myself to be pretty and purposefully uglify myself in order to protect myself and not get attention. It’s due to childhood trauma. I don’t allow myself, because I am afraid of what will happen when I lose weight and regain my pretty self.
I hear you. You may feel called to join us inside of Chic365 if you have ever been called to move through A Course in Miracles. It’s ONE of the ways to remember that we are safe no matter what. 🖤
i feel like this video popped up 11 years later for a reason. it’s everything i needed to hear right now. i think starting the process of allowing myself to have my dream body and looks is scary; there’s so much that goes into becoming that person i dream of. it doesn’t only include eating better and working out, but its a whole lifestyle change. i’ve always been a procrastinater, and i think because of that ive had a hard time starting that journey.
Wow, thank you so much for this. It took a few pages of journaling to change the story from, "my body is scared" to "my body is sacred." Blessings to you! 💖
I almost had it this month. I had almost amazing abs and everything... then I felt strange or almost empty. I had no more self hatred and I was actually content with who I was.. and that scared me the most because all this time I had been living that way and I wondered if I even deserved to feel this way. I wondered what all my friends and family would think. I realized I never would have to worry about looking good in clothes again. My forever goal was gone, and I had to find a new one but at the end of the tunnel I didn’t know what I was even passionate about anymore. All of my energy and decisions went to striving for that body. And when I almost had it, knowing my purpose would be gone, I caved and went back into old habits again. It’s not too late! I give myself permission to be skinny because I deserve to be happy too and I deserve to be free from my past self
Obviously showed up when I needed to hear it most. What would it be like if I allowed myself to be skinny, and to stay there this time? I’ve been up and down in weight over the years, and I feel so much better when I’m thin. I stress out and gain again. Soooo, if I weren’t worried any weight, I’d feel a freedom to feel good. All the time! That would be amazing! I’ll journal in the morning since I’m seeing this at 4:04 am. Can I Allow Myself to be Skinny? Short answer, yes. I’ll fill in the rest in the morning. ❤️
This video and all of your beautiful testimonies really moved me. It brought me to tears. This message and this conversation are so powerful. I’ve never tapped into myself so deeply as I did right now asking myself that question. My whole life I’ve fixated on weight loss and my desire to be skinny. And failing every time. For the past two weeks I’ve finally changed my lifestyle and have stayed committed. I’m finally seeing changes and the reality that this could finally be the time that I let myself be skinny and leave this chapter of my life in the past is so scary. To leave my old habits and unhealthy relationship with food in the past is completely new territory. And now that it feels real I’m afraid to believe it. I deserve to be happy and no longer focus on my body and just get out there and live my life. Thank you
I have tears reading your message!!!! THIS is what it is all about. Freeing ourselves and allowing ourselves to live the life we truly desire. I am cheering you on! BRAVO
If I no longer had to think about my weight and did not have that in my life to think about I would be thinking about what I want to do and doing those things. I think I would just enjoy being beautiful. I would be wearing the clothing I want to wear. I will have more energy and it will be much easier to move. (Change the "would"to "will"). Thank you for this video.
I allow myself to be skinny. I ve lost all my so called “ friends” who were always jealous, competitive and mean. Now am ready to step into my new era and be my best version, best friend, cheerleader 📣 and fan. ❤
Yep! I have been skinny all of my life, 105 pounds naturally. I started to feel shameful about my weight because of the media...I gained 20 pounds last year by taking a ton protein powder and forcing myself to eat when I wasn't hungry... Whenever I lost weight i'd get anxiety. Like how is that healthy? Learn to love yourself wherever you're at. Eat with love, not with fear. Forget what others think.
hi girl, how tall are you?I am also 105 pounds but still I feel so fat like a baby elephant after eating a little more and sometimes when im stuck somewhere ,cannot eat and extremely hungry then I feel like im weak and thin.I don't know what sort of mental disorder is this..I keep my eyes on calories a lot which is not very beautiful.
@@POTPOURRI.1 Hey girl! I am 5'4. It sounds like you might need to do some shadow work, love! is it a self-image issue? If it is, I would look at ways you can heal your self-image and start loving yourself for exactly the way you look NO MATTER WHAT. We've ALL been conditioned to think we are not beautiful exactly the way we are!! You can try somatic healing practices: Eat when you're hungry and stop eating when you are no longer hungry... Have a conversation with your body.. ask what it needs and give it that! Remember, you are not your mind or thoughts. Any beliefs you;ve been conditioned to have can be deconditioned but it starts with you and self-love. We need to train the mind that we want to be HEALTHY, not bigger, or smaller. Being skinny doesn't mean being weak and eating a little more doesn't mean we're fat.... these are false beliefs. I hope that helps🧡
I’m 5’4” like you, weighing around 90 pounds soaking wet and I have had a similar experience. With so many overweight people projecting onto me, I started trying to force myself to eat more, follow stricter workout regimens and wear larger clothing to hide my body. Then I had to consider the source. These ppl hate themselves. Why would I take their own lack of self love personally? I am working on loving my natural slimness and being grateful for the beautiful life it affords me. 💕 Of course, this can be taken to extremes, but my doctors have never had a concern for my body. This is simply how God made me. 😊
“what would it be like if you let yourself be skinny?” if i let myself be skinny I would be my most authentic self, I wouldn’t have to worry constantly about if I’m being perceived as fat all the time, I wouldn’t feel inferior anymore. Something that has been burdening me for my whole life would finally be taken care of. And I could go on with my life and accomplish whatever I wanted. I could achieve the life that’s waiting on me. All while being skinny and beautiful.
I don’t want to burst your bubble, but I’m sorry to let you know it does not work like that. My body dysmorphia only worsened when I became slim. I worry more than ever before about how I’m being perceived. I constantly fear doing something to mess it up and losing the body I work hard for. It has benefits, and I could never deny that fact. But your life will not miraculously become problem free! You just have different problems than before! 🫶🏼
I am completely shocked. I watched this video a couple weeks back and without even thinking about it I slimmed down. I just realized I was scared to let myself stay skinny because i didn’t like when people called me scrawny and i didn’t like how i would lose fat in places that made me not fit the beauty standard. But i also don’t like how i would yo-yo and eat junk food whenever i got thin. I’m so pleased with the positivity of this video and how powerful the message is. It simply made me aware of my fears and how they drive me to sabotage my health and as a result I am not afraid to be healthy anymore.
Wowowowo! I’m so happy for you!!!! I’m sending you so much love and cheering you on. You are such a powerful woman, continue to approach life with all of this self love. Xoxoxox thank you for sharing this with me!
I'd be able to have the closet that I know I could just reach in without any thought and whatever I grabbed would look beautiful on me. No more planning outfits ahead of time to make sure I don't look too fat. No more feeling disgusted at how I feel when I try on a beautiful dress that would look soooo perfect "if I could just be a little skinnier"
I’m allowing myself to be skinny because after all I deserve to be skinny. I deserve to feel pretty and lovely and healthy so why keep depriving myself from it? I deserve to feel happier in my body, and from today I let myself be skinny
I finally know this feeling after suffering a majority of my life binge eating, constantly yoyo dieting, extreme weight fluctuations and an extremely unhealthy view of my body and mindset. When I turned 30 I got sick of the same story. I now have been maintaining a 120-130 body weight for the last 3 years. The biggest shift came when I stopped trying so hard to achieve my goal and instead focused on the everyday things I could do… the journey. I now eat what I want, but eat intuitively and stop when I’m comfortable. I move ALOT. I walk everyday, 2-5 miles at a time. Tomorrow I am allotted to end September 2024 with a total of 75 miles walked in one month!
Congratulations this is SO beautiful!!! I so agree when we stop obsessing and trust ourselves EVERY thing changes. Cheering you on! Thank you for sharing
Awww well thank you for that change of heart. I know it’s easy to see just the surface here, but there is so much more. I truly appreciate your kindness and willingness to see beyond. 🖤
I'm so glad to have found this video. I save it and come back to it when I need a reminder. Everything from the title to the message felt like it was just for me. I used to be effortlessly skinny but then I lost trust with my body. I grew scared of food and started to believe that if I didn't control what I ate, I would gain weight. But the opposite happened- the less I listened to my body, the more weight I gained. But I've realised now that I need to just stop and allow my body to get back to its skinny state again. To trust it and let go of the rules. Thank you so much. This video has been so freeing for me ❤
I did the journaling and I realised for me it’s impatience!! Because I know that being skinny is a lifestyle and it takes time for it to be consistent, so I just give up trying.
This is so foriegn to me. I've had fear of being fat but never "afraid" to be skinny. I never wanted to be skinny but I do want a fit, healthy slender body. So I focused on health and have never had to worry about it. Unless I deviate from my own norm. Thankfully the world has adavnced a bit in 11 years regarding women's ability to self love. Judging by the comments, many relate. Interesting.
I needed to hear this. Im trying to go from 130 to 110 for a concert and my bday in july. Thank you so much, im freaking done with self sabotaging. Im gonna start journaling too. Thanks again❤
oh my gosh that's exactly me, i'm the same weight and the same bday month but I struggle with binge eating and I just want to stop self sabotaging :") wishing you luck on your journey, you got this! 💕
I was born in 82, at the start of the childhood obesity epidemic. I tripled my birth weight in the first month, and was obese, and then morbidly obese, into adulthood. My mom, who had a model figure her entire life, was ashamed to have such an obese daughter - she felt it was a reflection of her, and it embarrassed her. I absorbed this, first of all, to feel shame for BEING. I did my best to hide, shrink myself, to blend in even though I always felt like an eyesore. After losing 240 pounds in my 30s, I still carried that shame and STILL deal with the echoes of shame 10 years later. At my lowest weight, I was "skinny" but was never "in shape" like I'd really love to be. I found balance with food, and acceptance of my body even 20 pounds heavier than my lowest, which is much more healthy mentally, but I look at my soft body and loose skin and think, "I'll never be fit." I found I've resisted getting into the shape I ACTUALLY want to to be in, my dream physique, because losing weight touches on that shame of not being good enough, so I resist it.
Oh sweet soul! Such a vulnerable share and powerful insights. What an opportunity for deep forgiveness and self compassion as well as an activation of what you truly desire. If you KNEW you were enough, if you could gift yourself permission to let go of the shame, how would you treat yourself inside. Sending so much love. Xoxox Tara
okay tell me why I was imagining my higher self yesterday as a healthier, more toned and happier me. The universe sends you the signs and messages, you just have to accept it and open your eyes. Thank you universe 🙏🏻✨
Such an interesting concept! Times in life I've gotten more fit I always retreat back to my old ways because I feel I don't deserve to be at my fittest, healthiest and happiest. This video has certainly opened my eyes to what's really going on in my psyche. Thank you!!
This found me at the perfect time. I've lost the weight before, gained it all back and some. I'm back on track and I constantly worry about going back again. It's time to love myself more. Allow myself to not fear and instead embrace my body and take care of it. My dream body is coming back and I'm starting to give myself grace TODAY instead of when I eventually get there.
I just found this video like many others and I wonder what feedback you have received from women over the 12yrs since this was posted? I’m sitting down and ready to write. My sister was the “skinny” one and I was the “fat” one but in hindsight i was never really fat, just not super skinny like her. But I’m my head I have been fat all my life, except for last year, at 54 I felt the best I’ve ever felt. But now it’s started to creep back again, so this exercise has found me at the perfect time. I’ll have a lot to write down, I can feel it!! Thank you for such wonderful ideas 🥰
There’s something comforting about these older style self improvement videos. Feels like one of those daytime network shows from the late 00s and early 2010s that also have a blog
This video randomly popped up in my feed 12 years later and it truly has opened up my eyes. For the longest, i have gotten boyfriends that have liked me mostly for the figure that my weight gives me so because of that, i have done my best to hold onto it even though for years even when i was a little girl (I'm 20 now so literally when this video came out LOL) i have always wanted to be skinny and to maintain a healthy beautiful body. After trying and failing a number of times, this video has helped me finally decide that I am going to truly stick to my goals and get this weight off of my body. I am so very excited for this chapter! Thank you for this video!
If I no longer had to be worried about being skinny because I finally achieved that goal, I suppose I would no longer worry about my clothing fitting me a certain way. I'd be happy my fits look similar to my pinterest boards.
1. The desire 2. Giving yourself permission ( allowing yourself to be) What to do? journaling 1- can i let myself be skinny? Sit down and really answer this , , question , spend 10-15 minute answering that question, all the reasons why you still not experience your desire ( to be skinny). You will get clarity and why you still didn’t give yourself permission to be skinny? 2- what would be like if you let yourself be skinny? And no longer have to be worried about this?
this is honestly so eye opening and i just clicked on a whim. i realise i prevent myself from doing things to better myself because im scared of the negative reactions ill get from my siblings, or make them feel poorly about themselves if I am doing well. this video really made my chest feel lighter, the way youve phrased the feelings associated with the frenchie and the indie are absolutely spot on and its really made me reflect! Thank you!!
I have tears and chills reading this. You are feeling the deepening of what is available here and it’s HUGE! I acknowledge you for all your awareness and am sending you such love. 🖤
I'd be a lot happier. I'd look forward to getting dressed. I would be able to focus on other parts of my life--how I live. I would probably be less ashamed and have more confidence.
Journal- 1. Can I let myself be skinny? 2. What would happen if I let myself be skinny? What would happen if my no longer had to worry about this part of my life?
I would begin my modeling career, I would go jogging with a crop top, I would go skinny dipping in Italy, I would create a marble statue of myself, I would feel extremely comfortable and confident in my own body.
I can't express how this came at such an opportune time I really struggle with this and I gaslight myself into thinking I was being narcissistic and should stay the way I am. To think this video is 11 years old!
I feel exactly the same and I think it's because of social media and the 'body positivity' movement and the ED obsession and how everyone who 'diets' is automatically accused of promoting an ED and not eating enough. I feel that fitness influencers are lying too. They say they eat these BIG potions at every meal + snacks and still have the body of their dreams bcs if they said the truth they would be cancelled for promoting diet and ED. It's all so confusing.
I let myself be skinny. I was traumatized by the jealousy to be honest but who cares because other people are skinny? I really didn't want to attract shallow guys either. But truthfully I am intelligent and can handle it.
I think this applies not just to being skinny but also any endeavors you might have that have been denying yourself. I just realized that for myself I deserve my opportunities today to grow. Maybe I feel like my old self was not deserving of my opportunities today because I was a more juvenile version of myself still lacking the experience I have today. I am compelled to see myself for my recent achievements. And yes today I am deserving of it and when looking at it like that: I can actually visualize myself doing it and having a better idea how I might do it too. Before it was a quick idea like a wish now it’s more than that . Thank you for this video
You don’t find the video. The video finds YOU.
that makes me feel so guiltyy
And the fact that it’s 11 years old
only took 11 years hahahah
Ariana what are you doing here HAHAH
😂😂😂
Why so many people got this video on their home page after 12 years including me in 2024/2025 ?
Ikr
I guess we all need it🫥
real
You got this, too?
Because skinny is coming back😉
This showed up in my feed 11 years later. I just did the journal prompt and had to come back and comment. I realized that I am afraid if I allow myself to be skinny I will no longer fit in with my boring, stressful, unhappy life. So if I allow myself to be skinny I will have to go out and live the life of my dreams. That would require so much bravery. I am afraid if I could not find the bravery within myself, I would be even more unhappy.
Maybe some inner child prompts?
Here to tell you you're still allowed to be stressed out and unhappy when you improve your looks by weightloss, which might give a little comfort. Not a very encouraging comment perhaps but what I basically mean to say is, allow yourself to take one step at a time. These things aren't as attached to eachother as you make them out to be, it's just whatever you improve about yourself makes it's a little easier to deal with other areas in your life that need improvement. Gaining weight might have been a disfunctional coping mechanism, connected with your belief system at the moment, but not getting your whole life together at once doesn't make you a failure.
“Why am I afraid of living the life of my dreams?” Keep it going !
Congratulations bc youre being very honest with yourself!! Not a lot of people have the courage to admit to this. Its not only being skinny or whatever of course, but any “good” thing that we have an excuse for not doing. Nothing wrong with being fat but i feel like most people dont truly want to be, they just find excuses bc its scary to change…
This one ☝️ ❤
I’m doing a PhD on why women don’t wear the things they buy, and my initial finding is similar to this. We want to be that woman when we buy the clothes but when it’s time to wear it we are aftaid to be seen and potentially making someone else feel small or less than
So true.
For myself, I just don’t want the extra attention from men. It’s already bad enough trying to navigate as a woman in this world out in public without having a man attempt to steal my time and attention by acting gross and predatory towards me. I hate that my way to mitigate that is to try and not draw attention to myself as much as possible by often not wearing the things and styling myself the way I would prefer.
@@ovirago8314don’t blame the men ..investigate why it bothers you to be wanted, desired, looked at, worth the attention..were you told as a child to be small don’t bring attention to yourself, were you told as a teenager not to be a ho, etc…etc…if you are still young enjoy the attention, once you pass 50 no man will look at you…and that is ok but maybe play with this now and just say thank you or ignore the attention…if something bad, like rape or incest has happened to you , please go to therapy and work through it…❤
For myself personally, I feel too insecure or inferior when it comes time to put those new clothes on & go out.
So true... like half of my wardrobe.. I wear the same 6-7 things
She made this 12 years a go and today on 19th dec 2024 I'm seeing it, 12 years after being posted on RUclips. Never before, never after, universe truly works in a magical way.
Same! & agreed
I wasn’t even searching for anything related to weight loss or being skinny 🤔
@@shailjapathak3155 same
Same!
Yep. Just when I decided I was ready to be on this Journey to Full Health & Beauty, this showed Up.
I allow myself to be pretty again and stop dressing down to make others around me feel comfortable, I allow all the attention and love from myself so I can truly be my best version of myself
never water yourself down to make others comfortable❤
This is what i needed to hear today❤
thank you
Ohmygosh.. TRUEEE
OMG SO TRUE ❤❤❤
I watched this about a month or two ago, then I started journaling why I’ve been on the bigger side throughout my teen and adult life, since then I’ve lost probably 10-15 pounds, it keeps dropping too. I am a firm believer that weight is tied to trauma, working through it in a healthy way can definitely get those pounds down.
So writing magically drop the. Weight?
@@urlmelyes
@@urlmel I think what this is about is that journaling about the topic creates a healthier relationship with food and therefore people will "magically" drop the weight.
@@urlmelYou sound like someone who has never journaled.
It is therapeutic, you allow yourself to really connect with your inner self and you start being more conscious about a lot of stuff
@@YukiKunikida I’ve journaled before just not often but maybe I should more
"If i gave up on being pretty i would not know how to be alive" - Mitski
thats a dumbass quote 😭
@@soshisushi7421 not really. a lot of women center their lives around becoming prettier.
real
Real
Honestly this video hit home for me so hard but when it comes to success and following my dreams. I am so afraid of my own abilities and my own vast potential for success because I know it could leave me isolated. I feel alone, and I don’t want to be alone forever, so I sabotage my own abilities that I know will lead to envy because I want to be loved.
I’m afraid to be as talented as I am.
I like this lady, even if her video was about being skinny, for everyone they have their core values and the self sabotage and fear of being beautiful is real. She’s wise.
11 years ago i thought wow great video quality for 2000s then i realised 11 years ago was 2013
Frrr💀
Fr like I thought it meant 2009😭
@@Kamii_PR I thought it's 2009 too 😶🌫
SAME I was thinking 09-07 😭
WOW
I was skinny before, but didn’t think I was. I realise now that I was.
REAL
Me too 😢
Same
Same here
I was so thin, now 25 lbs more. And I was so critical when I was skinny and gorgeous. Why I have no idea? I think women need to be kinder to self. Of course menopause does not help.
It’s not just that I want to get skinnier, I want to get my life together in so many ways. I want to look better, yes, but I also want to function better too.
Yes!
THIS🖤
First is to Seek God
Reminds me of part of a poem. "There is a lion in my living room. I feed it raw meat so it does not hurt me. It is a strange thing to nourish what could kill you in hopes that it does not kill you." Also, "Feel it. The thing you dont want to feel. Feel it. And be free."
Oooooh That. Now that comment helps me Lol. For real tho.
❤
Beautiful
Who wrote the first one?
What poem?
2024 and this came up. Okay, ill go get skinny.
Lol
Just eat natural foods that nourish your body and don't leave you craving crap. Do you see any fat animals in the wild? No. Slim and fit is our natural state.
@@Neophemawalruses are pretty fat.. also whales need to be to stay warm.. and wombats are pretty round
@@Neophemathere are fat animals..also humans are animals and can be naturally skinny or fat lol
@@NeophemaI seen fat animals out in the wild 😭
I will allow myself to be skinny. And I am going to be skinny and gorgeous this year.
30th Dec 2024 gang??... the videos definitely find you and not the other way around. What is meant to be will be.❤
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Here!😃👍🌸🌸
This video found me again 10 kgs down. Almost there and this is what I needed
1st Jan 2025!! Happy New Year All!!
I am part of this gang😃♥️ #grateful
Honestly, came here expecting really problematic advice, but what she says actually makes sense.
Yes there is much more to the video;) I am glad you stayed and heard the underlying message 🖤
"I started self-sabotaging. Have you ever done that?" YES. Every time. :(
What holds me back is the *fear* that I will become skinny and then gain weight again, bc that's happened to me before. I need to just let that go!
learn how to count kcal?
@@Bankai90 yes but counting and sticking to it is a different thing
So I think it’s more about discipline
@@roksanarudzinska7737 well discipline is better than luck
You may have some sneaky triggers that you don’t register yet… journaling could be very helpful for you: if you’ve reached your goal, look carefully when you find yourself doing something like overeating fast food for example. While you’re eating it, think about what was happening before you made the choice to buy it, where you eat it (ex: alone in your car, or with others), how you feel while eating it, and then how you feel after. The act alone of creating awareness around the situation can help a lot. Sending you lots of love💖
It's summertime 2024... we can all be skinnier by Christmas! Let's do this!
Bet
Let’s goooo!
eek !!
Hell yes!! Already making so much progress 🎉
Tifally
Thank you. I just did the journal prompt and realize that I self-sabotage myself because I feel that I deserve to be miserable. That’s the root I have to change in order to finally take care of myself.
Ohhh what a powerful awareness! You might also live the Let Yourself Be Happy episode- it may really support your next steps. Sending love
What you're saying sounds ridiculous at first, but for the people who also think like me, this makes total sense. I've been obese my whole life. I've never been enormous, but large enough that I've never been the smaller girl in my group of friends. In my up-bringing, that was just the life style that I've learned. I'm actually trying to get some weight off so I can feel great on my wedding day and it's been so difficult. I know exactly what to do. It's been working, but I get complacent and I just can't seem to understand why. Some weeks ago, it occurred to me that I'm actually scared to be skinny and full of energy. That sounds so stupid when I type it out. I'm serious, though. Being more beautiful, fit and energetic actually scares me because it's means permanent life changes, unknowns and how much more attention am I going to get? I don't like attention because of the lifetime of insecurity. Weight loss is a real struggle on plains that I hadn't ever considered before until I started really trying. I know that I can't be alone in this.
You're not. I hope your wedding day was beautiful.
this is exactly how I feel today, I just turned 18, I am my no means fat but I would love to be thin, and beautiful but I'm somehow scared women will be mad at me for being thin, I am never mad at other women for being beautiful or thin because I realize that it takes a lot of intention and work, but for me I feel like I'm betraying some of bigger friends and I don't want them to be jealous of me, I don't want men to hit on me, but I still want attention and to know I'm desirable, I feel like I'm going crazy its a daily struggle of deciding if I want to be thin or stay the same and satisfy my family and friends.
I so hear you...and I recorded this so long ago. I might use different words today, but the essence is the same. Allowing ourselves to experience and express ALL of who we desire to be. I hope you had a stunning wedding day!
This is so real. I totally feel you. Your are beautiful for the simple fact that you know and speak your truth. ❤️
@@ElegantFemmehi
What are Frenchy and Indy? Where do these terms come from? Or where are they used? I have never heard them before. They sound like psychology terms?
if i were skinny and didnt have to worry about it anymore, i would finally be able to wear the outfits i put together in my head, I'd finally know what it's like, I'd finally feel like i am enough and not inferior to others. i wouldn't have to worry about my belly or my excess fat and i could just be at peace for once. i would finally be the best version of myself. i would finally get it. i would feel even better than others at time because i got to my goal and they didnt. i know people would be jealous of me as i am of others now and hopefully i wouldnt have to be jealous of anybody else anymore. i would feel confident while dancing, working out, being active, wearing my outfits and just throughout the whole day. i would have enough to focus on even then because i have plenty of other obligations and interests that need my attention so i wouldnt get bored.
All this could be solved with exercise. I used to be quite chubby in high school. I started at home exercises and it changed my life (I’m not even exaggerating). If you don’t like something about yourself, do something about it if possible. When you look good you feel good imo
this video and these comments are so toxic, u dont NEED to be skinny to do all these stuff period. if you want to be more healthy eat better and exercise more but all this is not NEEDED to live a happy life and love yourself and stop judging ys, youre so frustrated and i assure you are focusing on the wrong aspects to fix
But you are already good enough. You don’t have to change anything to be worth it. I know it’s hard to believe that if your mind tells you the opposite, I’ve been there too, but it’s so important to accept yourself as you are right now. The goal is also not to feel better than others, that will not give you freedom and inner happiness. The goal is just to accept and love yourself exactly as you are 🤍✨🌺
When I was rail thin I was jealous of girls with big boobs lol there's always going to be something you worry about or aren't at peace about because the problem is self worth.
If I were skinny, I could let go of my fear of wearing what I want. I would stop worrying 24/7 about my weight, or what I had eaten that day. What you said about having this part of my life being taken care of and moving on with the rest of your life gave me so much hope. I want more than anything to truly start living my life free of bodily worries. 💌
And to trust yourself with all of that now 🖤
This is actually perfect timing. I've been very self-destructive, and I have gotten bigger than I have ever been and have been wondering why I felt like I needed someone else's permission to be happy in my own body.
Cheering you on!!!
Even 12 years later, this message found me right when I needed it to.
Started my weight loss journey yesterday. I want to be the skinny me I was 19 years ago before I had my son. I was never overweight but I never weighed what I wanted to so I could look great in all sorts of clothes again. I just felt more stylish pre-baby. Now I look like a potato in whatever I wear. I can do this and so can you and any other woman who needs it. Good luck on your journey! x
@@Ashtarot77 Aww thank you so much! I believe and you, and am wishing the best for you💗
If I let myself be skinny I would be more involved in my community and friendships. I would interact with everyone and say YES to every invite out. I would get dressed with ease. I would enjoy getting ready. I would not be fearful of being seen. I would actually enjoy compliments and believe them. I would feel accomplished. I could move on to other things in my life.
I hope you get your dream body, you deserve it🙏🏻
me too❤
I felt this.
Never related so much to something. I‘m even skipping vacation with my family because of it.
This right here is so true ! When my face was slim I wouldn’t hesitate to go out now it’s gotten so bad that I don’t even want to leave the house to go to the store down the block :(
Mom comment really got me. Everytime I try to better myself my mom starts competing. Makes me not want to try because I don’t want to be apart of her competition. But this is about me not her. Will give myself permission to be better
I so hear you...it is truly about allowing yourself to be all of who you desire to be. Others may get activated when they see us living our truth, but holding our truth back doesn't support them either. Sending you love
@@ElegantFemmethank you ❤️
Wow! Cheering you on.
I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. No mother should treat heir daughter like that. ❤❤❤
Your comment made me feel like I am not alone in this 💞 I struggle with a narcissistic mom too. I’ve stayed small in so many ways because I don’t like triggering her and having her challenge me and tear me apart. But it’s time to step into my own and be the woman I want to be, my mom and her little narcissistic games be damned!
I'm actually so happy this isn't some pro-ed stuff and it's actually reasonable and sound discourse. I find that everytime someone mentions how they notice I've been losing weight I always subconsciously revert back to my unhealthy ways. I don't know why I hate it so much when people point it out to me. I think it's because I don't allow myself to be skinny, as you say. Sort of like I punish myself in a way.
I feel like when ppl tell me I’m losing weight, I start to subconsciously think "they think I’m fat, or they thought I was fat and they’re noticing my fat is lessening” and this starts to make me feel sad, that they noticed I’m losing weight bc they initially noticed I was fat to begin with, and then I guess I revert and sabotage myself bc I feel bad that they’re noticning? Idfk 😢
@@okaywhat123pretty accurate
@okaywhat123 omg same happening to me , specifically when my in laws do comment on me loosing one or 2 kilos I go and eat like crazy and gain 5 or even 6 more than before 😢😢😢
@@okaywhat123 Someone at work said I'd lost a noticeable amount of weight and I found it encouraging and have lost a bit more weight since then. She probably thought I was fat before. I know I was.
So funny - I’m the same. In fact when she said to journal about it, I immediately thought “someone would comment to me in my weight loss, meaning it as encouragement, but I would be so embarrassed and just quit”. Why are we like this?!
Wow. This is what I needed. Not to say that I am big or need to lose weight, but I definitely have a desire to be thinner…where I don’t have to worry about sucking in or appearing chubby in photos. I subconsciously thought that the desire to lose weight is betrayal to my current body. However, I love my body so much now and I will love my body just the same when I become thinner. I am allowed to evolve and change and just because I want to lose weight doesn’t mean I’m not happy with my current body!
Sooooo good!!!!!! Just because we want to shift something in our lives in any way doesn’t mean we are not grateful for what we have. It’s all a choice 🖤
The permission part is true. I spent all my life until I got to 30 worrying about being skinny and overcoming eating disorders. I am a body builder now. I listen to my body, drink water and hit the gym a few times a week. I dont overdo anything. I wear the clothes I want and my body keeps sculpting itself as I continue to age. This works for me and I love it. I have a slim toned body that is healthy. I look strong and capable and that works for me. My self image or how I lead my life is my business no permission needed.
Love this! Bravo!
this moved something so sensitive and hidden in me. I have three sisters and my mom as well, and I grew up as the fat middle kid. I have always worried about telling them about my achievements so as to not make them insecure/offended somehow. oh gosh.
This is me. Right down to the fat middle kid. I'm choosing to switch my identity. I allow myself to be skinny, even if they judge
I feel you even though I'm not the middle kid.
Same
i literally have been eating so much these last days after months of consistency and seeing results and finally starting to feel confident. this video helped sm i saw it at the perfect time
I am so happy to hear this! It's amazing how when we start to feel good, we will limit ourselves from the next level. Having the power to identify this is HUGE! Bravo.xoxoxo
Sameee unfortunately but remember we can back on track🤍 Good luck on your journey✨
i found this video right when i’m in the sabotaging phase. Thank you.
oh I am so glad it is supportive to you.
I have a sister who was constantly body-shaming me when I was "overweight". Then when I lost the weight and looked better, she never once said anything to compliment or support me. I realized that she really just wanted to make me feel bad. Some people are like that.
It’s all about gifting yourself full permission 🖤
11 year old video, I’m not a woman wanting to get skinny and I watched the whole video anyways. Now I’m writing in my journal about setting goals about who I want to become.
this is so amazing. i will journal about "can i let myself be happy?" because i think thats a beautiful journaling prompt. i dunno if im ready to do the skinny prompt, guess im afraid of that one
@@SaphiraLeander you can. Realize, think and feel what it would be like to be skinny. “I got to buy all these new pants because my old ones don’t fit”
How would your lifestyle change? Maybe you would go for a walk, run or workout each day?
How would your nutrition change? Making healthy meals, having quality food.
Realize that right now you are a healthy person, you are skinny, and your decisions you make going forward will follow that change of mentality.
Right I’m a woman who is already skinny due too fast metabolism I’m taking the advice for other aspects of my life
i don’t understand what i should journal out though
Love that for you
when im at my lowest weight, i get attention from everyone, the wrong or the right kind. my eating habits and body will be scrutinized. men who had bad intentions would pursue me. I've learned since and have better boundaries, plus now my style is more modest. i will be skinny so i feel comfortable in my own skin again and can focus on my goals instead of worrying bout calories, the next meals, outfits not being flattering, etc
You took the words right out of my mouth 💗👊🏻
After losing 120 lbs I sometimes have to remind myself that I’m allowed to do this. It’s as if I’m waiting for someone to tell me I’m doing something wrong. I know I’m not doing anything wrong at all but that voice of self doubt has been a huge player in my life. It’s hard to shut her up now.
You are ALLOWED! You can feel safe in the body you desire to experience. Sending you so much love
@@ElegantFemme"you can feel safe in the body you desire to experience " you hit the nail on the head! Thank you!
@OP Those of us who grew up being told, "You should know better!" Yet no one ever taught us anything or told us what we should know are constantly afraid of being told, "You're not allowed! You should know better!" It's so real.
Watching this after a binge is so humbling
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This is so powerful for any weight because for so many of us skinny people we constantly want to gain weight and it’s OK to just be you just be comfortable in your own body and stop comparing it to other shapes and sizes.
❤❤Thank u
you are a genious. i felt like talking to a therapist while watching this. i’ve lost 10 kgs. in this process, i have to face people who tell me that my overweight state was more beautiful and tell me to quit dieting over and over and honestly i get really fed up and want to eat like crap after hearing them. i was actually experiencing what you said before losing weight, i wish i had seen this video from the beginning. i allow myself to be skinny. i have 7 more kgs to lose, and i won't let anyone make me give up and i won’t be affected by what they say, because i allowed myself to be in the way that i want.
You are awesome, and you will get there❤. Take the power back, do not give in to those who say "you looked better when you were plump". Let them say whatever they want, keep going with your routine, keep improving
Honestly I don’t know why people keep demotivating others when they lose weight !! is it like jealousy or feeling insecure ? or what exactly ?. But you do you and continue your journey 🎉 well done be proud of your accomplishments❤ and do not let what they say discourage you😊
I allow myself to be skinny and allow myself to be beautiful without worrying about the changes 💟I let myself be skinny
I literally cannot believe I manifested you into my life. Although my 1st time on your page I was pondering why I kept sabotaging my wt loss efforts every time I’d start seeing results. It’s insane but now I realize I need to grant myself permission. I love this very simple concept and applying now! Thank you so much!
I promise myself that I will let myself become skinny . I lost 11 kilos and I try and try until I reach it. No one can stop me, not even me.
What did you do to lose it?
I am now skinny, but it was not my main goal. I just wanted to look healthy and sweat more by doing regular home exercises. It wasn't easy, and it involved a lot of crying, but my body image has relatively improved and I can wear any clothes I want now. You can do it too. Believe in yourself!!
I realized recently that I self sabotage my weight loss because I am afraid of male attention. I know a lot of men are still attracted to me at a bigger size, but if I were skinny, I'd get 10x more attention. I don't like them approaching me or even looking at me for too long. I want to go about my life without being perceived, which is kind of impossible. I realize that being overweight doesn't just make me invisible to the men who are not attracted to me, it also makes me hide more. I assume I'd probably still cover up a lot even if I were skinny but I'd be less self conscious about going out and just living my life, but at the same time I'd be scared to receive too much male attention. I was an early bloomer and I had a curvy body as a teenager and none of the guys at my school were interested in dating me, they dated all the skinny girls who had mostly flat chests but they asked to see me naked or want to have sex or want me to take nude pictures. But they never publicly pursued me in any way. I also got a lot of attention from older men as a teen. I think this made me sabotage my own body and gain a lot of weight over time. I'm in my mid 20's now and I'm mostly just tired of being exhausted and not feeling good, not being able to wear the clothes I like, my back hurts, etc... I just want to be healthy and live my life and not have people assume things about me bc of my appearance. I think I'm just afraid of what comes with being a woman, I feel really unsafe in the world, objectified and always observed. Being overweight in a way is protection and also somewhat a form of rebellion but it's also something I'm deeply ashamed of.
17 yo and I completely agree with you, I’d say my way of feeling about myself is kind of different but about the subject of male gaze I agree with you at a 100%, I feel like having lived as an obese person really makes you see the bad side of some people, you don’t value them much so they won’t be afraid to mistreat you or to not give you so much attention, I really think it has helped me to be stronger in a way, to just understand that people will never really like me as they’re too stupid to understand that I have worth even as a person suffering from obesity, and in the same way, it made me disguised by most mens, the fact of objectifying women so much and litteraly disrespecting them when they don’t correspond to their beauty criterias just makes it impossible for me to actually believe that they are on the same level of intelligence and maturity as me, I don’t regret because overweight even tho it has caused me a lot of physical and psychological pain, I just feel so much detached from people now, and I can’t even imagine having a deep connection with someone who may disrespect me or being ashamed of me if I would simply have more fat in my body, and in general not pleasing their eyes. Before starting my weight loss I actually was actively looking for a man who would love me and be proud of me with and without my fat, and I can tell you, even though I’m younger than you, that even though you may be more ugly, undisciplined, more poor etc… when you’re fat, people still DONT have the right to disrespect you, being fat doesn’t mean belonging into a category of people with lower worth, we’re just normal people, with different bodies, we shouldn’t be ashamed or regret our habits choices, even our mistakes that made us fat, we need to be proud in order to evolve , because God Nevers makes mistake in our destiny, if we experienced a situation, we were meant to learn something from it !
We’re not just fat, we are people, we are souls, we were not supposed to be products of beauty , we shouldn’t fall into that societal thought of objectifying our bodies just like it has objectified our lives in order to create them abundance
@psychedelia5402 u worded this so perfectly
Omg never found someone who had the same thought process as me… wow. We should be friends
Me too. I was around 9 when I had started to attract unwanted male attention from MUCH OLDER MEN. By the time I was 16 and had all the perky curvy traits, the attention was terrifying. I now wear baggy clothes and am a much bigger size than I want to be because it feels safer.
Wow this popped into my feed and honestly you're a genius. I'm someone who has almost everything going on perfectly in my life and I just realized that I keep myself a bit on the heavier side because I'm afraid of being too perfect. It's like I self sabotage. Thank you so much for this. From now on I allow myself to be skinny and I allow myself to be perfect.
I'm not perfect, but everybody thinks I am (don't know why), the envy, the passive agressive comments, etc is a lot for me. When I gained weight people seemed to enjoyed it, and behave as if I was more easy to get along, more approachable, but my behaviour was the same as when I was skinny. I'm now losing fat, looking slimmer and have the feeling of being more vulnerable because I'm feeling lighter, smaller and found out that I gained the fat I lost because I was scary to feel vulnerable. I am now developing skills to feel I'm safe in a smaller and lighter body.
perfect lol looks like gods blessed u in the perfect life cards
@@EceV-g6i yes thank God I'm very grateful ❤️
Same. Most of my family members are overweight and I only post my body pics on my close friends story so they don't feel bad because that's how I used to and sometimes still feel...
From now on, I'll allow myself to be skinny, healthy, toned, sexy, and confident!
From personal experience other women find it threatening …
I needed this. I remember being 8kg lighter and way sexier😭 I'm not overweight, it's just that little extra weight which is too much. If only I lost 3kg, that would be enough
This was me and I lost half the weight so far. Intermittent fasting and 1200 calories of healthy food works
Did you allow ur self ?
Same, I am now 20lbs heavier and i am so unhappy. I was so happy, when I was skinny I was so confident. I am letting myself be skinny and do not worry what other people think
Same but i was getting depressed watching my weight and i thought it wasnt healthy to keep losing weight which was untententional on drugs which ive gone off now so i feel normal and less stressed, but i dont feel that sexy which has to do with acceptance. I didnt feel that sexy when i had no money to buy clothes as 58kg 🙄 saving up overseas made me go on a popcorn budget which made me gain perminant weight, well im now 66kg trying to not gain anymore but the calorie count does not work all the time 😅 my adhd meds require energy, if i eat less i feel like shit so no win
Just started my health journey a few months ago in November of 2024 now in January of 2025 this video truly did find me at the perfect time!
fantastic video. i was overweight/obese for most of my life and thanks to hard work and dedication, ive lost & kept off 100lbs. i no longer dress in basic boring clothes to hide myself, instead now i allow myself to experiment with my style. i no longer force myself to go unnoticed. i feel free for once in my life
I just got this in 2025 then YT sent me to part 2 which is 12 yrs after part 1.
when you give yourself permission to be skinny, your confidence becomes palpable and you become skinny. replace skinny with pretty, smart, healthy, etc. when you are confident in your own decisions, you are able to feel in any way that is powerful to you. you can feel skinny; you can be skinny, because you are sure in the security of your own decision-making capacity to be the person you wish to become
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This has helped me realize myself. I don’t allow myself to be pretty and purposefully uglify myself in order to protect myself and not get attention. It’s due to childhood trauma.
I don’t allow myself, because I am afraid of what will happen when I lose weight and regain my pretty self.
I hear you. You may feel called to join us inside of Chic365 if you have ever been called to move through A Course in Miracles. It’s ONE of the ways to remember that we are safe no matter what. 🖤
This is exactly same for me.
I hear you. 😢
i feel like this video popped up 11 years later for a reason. it’s everything i needed to hear right now. i think starting the process of allowing myself to have my dream body and looks is scary; there’s so much that goes into becoming that person i dream of. it doesn’t only include eating better and working out, but its a whole lifestyle change. i’ve always been a procrastinater, and i think because of that ive had a hard time starting that journey.
This is a PROFOUND awareness! Bravo to you for allowing yourself to feel this. I’m sending you so much love as you say yes to YOU!
@@ElegantFemme❤️❤️❤️
Wow, thank you so much for this. It took a few pages of journaling to change the story from, "my body is scared" to "my body is sacred." Blessings to you! 💖
SOOOOO Good!
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I almost had it this month. I had almost amazing abs and everything... then I felt strange or almost empty. I had no more self hatred and I was actually content with who I was.. and that scared me the most because all this time I had been living that way and I wondered if I even deserved to feel this way. I wondered what all my friends and family would think. I realized I never would have to worry about looking good in clothes again. My forever goal was gone, and I had to find a new one but at the end of the tunnel I didn’t know what I was even passionate about anymore. All of my energy and decisions went to striving for that body. And when I almost had it, knowing my purpose would be gone, I caved and went back into old habits again. It’s not too late! I give myself permission to be skinny because I deserve to be happy too and I deserve to be free from my past self
Obviously showed up when I needed to hear it most. What would it be like if I allowed myself to be skinny, and to stay there this time? I’ve been up and down in weight over the years, and I feel so much better when I’m thin. I stress out and gain again. Soooo, if I weren’t worried any weight, I’d feel a freedom to feel good. All the time! That would be amazing! I’ll journal in the morning since I’m seeing this at 4:04 am.
Can I Allow Myself to be Skinny? Short answer, yes. I’ll fill in the rest in the morning. ❤️
This video and all of your beautiful testimonies really moved me. It brought me to tears. This message and this conversation are so powerful. I’ve never tapped into myself so deeply as I did right now asking myself that question. My whole life I’ve fixated on weight loss and my desire to be skinny. And failing every time. For the past two weeks I’ve finally changed my lifestyle and have stayed committed. I’m finally seeing changes and the reality that this could finally be the time that I let myself be skinny and leave this chapter of my life in the past is so scary. To leave my old habits and unhealthy relationship with food in the past is completely new territory. And now that it feels real I’m afraid to believe it. I deserve to be happy and no longer focus on my body and just get out there and live my life. Thank you
I have tears reading your message!!!! THIS is what it is all about. Freeing ourselves and allowing ourselves to live the life we truly desire. I am cheering you on! BRAVO
If I no longer had to think about my weight and did not have that in my life to think about I would be thinking about what I want to do and doing those things. I think I would just enjoy being beautiful. I would be wearing the clothing I want to wear. I will have more energy and it will be much easier to move. (Change the "would"to "will"). Thank you for this video.
Love this so much! And YES this is the key, to allow it NOW! 🖤
I allow myself to be skinny. I ve lost all my so called “ friends” who were always jealous, competitive and mean. Now am ready to step into my new era and be my best version, best friend, cheerleader 📣 and fan. ❤
Yep! I have been skinny all of my life, 105 pounds naturally. I started to feel shameful about my weight because of the media...I gained 20 pounds last year by taking a ton protein powder and forcing myself to eat when I wasn't hungry... Whenever I lost weight i'd get anxiety. Like how is that healthy? Learn to love yourself wherever you're at. Eat with love, not with fear. Forget what others think.
I can relate..desperate to be curvier...thank you.
hi girl, how tall are you?I am also 105 pounds but still I feel so fat like a baby elephant after eating a little more and sometimes when im stuck somewhere ,cannot eat and extremely hungry then I feel like im weak and thin.I don't know what sort of mental disorder is this..I keep my eyes on calories a lot which is not very beautiful.
@@POTPOURRI.1 Hey girl! I am 5'4.
It sounds like you might need to do some shadow work, love! is it a self-image issue? If it is, I would look at ways you can heal your self-image and start loving yourself for exactly the way you look NO MATTER WHAT. We've ALL been conditioned to think we are not beautiful exactly the way we are!!
You can try somatic healing practices: Eat when you're hungry and stop eating when you are no longer hungry... Have a conversation with your body.. ask what it needs and give it that!
Remember, you are not your mind or thoughts. Any beliefs you;ve been conditioned to have can be deconditioned but it starts with you and self-love. We need to train the mind that we want to be HEALTHY, not bigger, or smaller. Being skinny doesn't mean being weak and eating a little more doesn't mean we're fat.... these are false beliefs.
I hope that helps🧡
I’m 5’4” like you, weighing around 90 pounds soaking wet and I have had a similar experience. With so many overweight people projecting onto me, I started trying to force myself to eat more, follow stricter workout regimens and wear larger clothing to hide my body. Then I had to consider the source. These ppl hate themselves. Why would I take their own lack of self love personally? I am working on loving my natural slimness and being grateful for the beautiful life it affords me. 💕
Of course, this can be taken to extremes, but my doctors have never had a concern for my body. This is simply how God made me. 😊
@@tia_shay I love this!!!! "this is simply how God made me." YES. Thank you for your comment, love! ❤
“what would it be like if you let yourself be skinny?”
if i let myself be skinny I would be my most authentic self, I wouldn’t have to worry constantly about if I’m being perceived as fat all the time, I wouldn’t feel inferior anymore. Something that has been burdening me for my whole life would finally be taken care of. And I could go on with my life and accomplish whatever I wanted. I could achieve the life that’s waiting on me. All while being skinny and beautiful.
I don’t want to burst your bubble, but I’m sorry to let you know it does not work like that. My body dysmorphia only worsened when I became slim. I worry more than ever before about how I’m being perceived. I constantly fear doing something to mess it up and losing the body I work hard for. It has benefits, and I could never deny that fact. But your life will not miraculously become problem free! You just have different problems than before! 🫶🏼
I am completely shocked. I watched this video a couple weeks back and without even thinking about it I slimmed down. I just realized I was scared to let myself stay skinny because i didn’t like when people called me scrawny and i didn’t like how i would lose fat in places that made me not fit the beauty standard. But i also don’t like how i would yo-yo and eat junk food whenever i got thin. I’m so pleased with the positivity of this video and how powerful the message is. It simply made me aware of my fears and how they drive me to sabotage my health and as a result I am not afraid to be healthy anymore.
Wowowowo! I’m so happy for you!!!! I’m sending you so much love and cheering you on. You are such a powerful woman, continue to approach life with all of this self love. Xoxoxox thank you for sharing this with me!
2:27 absolutely! I’ve been there
I'd be able to have the closet that I know I could just reach in without any thought and whatever I grabbed would look beautiful on me. No more planning outfits ahead of time to make sure I don't look too fat. No more feeling disgusted at how I feel when I try on a beautiful dress that would look soooo perfect "if I could just be a little skinnier"
I’m allowing myself to be skinny because after all I deserve to be skinny. I deserve to feel pretty and lovely and healthy so why keep depriving myself from it? I deserve to feel happier in my body, and from today I let myself be skinny
😂😂❤
I finally know this feeling after suffering a majority of my life binge eating, constantly yoyo dieting, extreme weight fluctuations and an extremely unhealthy view of my body and mindset. When I turned 30 I got sick of the same story.
I now have been maintaining a 120-130 body weight for the last 3 years. The biggest shift came when I stopped trying so hard to achieve my goal and instead focused on the everyday things I could do… the journey. I now eat what I want, but eat intuitively and stop when I’m comfortable. I move ALOT. I walk everyday, 2-5 miles at a time. Tomorrow I am allotted to end September 2024 with a total of 75 miles walked in one month!
Congratulations this is SO beautiful!!! I so agree when we stop obsessing and trust ourselves EVERY thing changes. Cheering you on! Thank you for sharing
Popped up on my feed and I immediately jumped into class
I was going to leave a snarky comment until I read beautiful comments about mental breakthroughs. Carry on! 👏 👏 👏
Awww well thank you for that change of heart. I know it’s easy to see just the surface here, but there is so much more. I truly appreciate your kindness and willingness to see beyond. 🖤
I'm so glad to have found this video. I save it and come back to it when I need a reminder. Everything from the title to the message felt like it was just for me. I used to be effortlessly skinny but then I lost trust with my body. I grew scared of food and started to believe that if I didn't control what I ate, I would gain weight. But the opposite happened- the less I listened to my body, the more weight I gained. But I've realised now that I need to just stop and allow my body to get back to its skinny state again. To trust it and let go of the rules. Thank you so much. This video has been so freeing for me ❤
I did the journaling and I realised for me it’s impatience!! Because I know that being skinny is a lifestyle and it takes time for it to be consistent, so I just give up trying.
we are here for a short time; everything takes time...or we can see it as allowing ourselves to participate in the life we desire.
This is so foriegn to me. I've had fear of being fat but never "afraid" to be skinny. I never wanted to be skinny but I do want a fit, healthy slender body. So I focused on health and have never had to worry about it. Unless I deviate from my own norm. Thankfully the world has adavnced a bit in 11 years regarding women's ability to self love. Judging by the comments, many relate. Interesting.
I needed to hear this. Im trying to go from 130 to 110 for a concert and my bday in july. Thank you so much, im freaking done with self sabotaging. Im gonna start journaling too. Thanks again❤
Cheering you on! Follow your inner knowing 🖤
oh my gosh that's exactly me, i'm the same weight and the same bday month but I struggle with binge eating and I just want to stop self sabotaging :") wishing you luck on your journey, you got this! 💕
@abbyjun-r2w Omgee that's such a crazy coincidence 🥹🥹 wishing you luck as well!!!!!!
Finding this old video in January 2025. Wow. The video found me just at the right time.
AMAZING!
I was born in 82, at the start of the childhood obesity epidemic. I tripled my birth weight in the first month, and was obese, and then morbidly obese, into adulthood. My mom, who had a model figure her entire life, was ashamed to have such an obese daughter - she felt it was a reflection of her, and it embarrassed her. I absorbed this, first of all, to feel shame for BEING. I did my best to hide, shrink myself, to blend in even though I always felt like an eyesore. After losing 240 pounds in my 30s, I still carried that shame and STILL deal with the echoes of shame 10 years later. At my lowest weight, I was "skinny" but was never "in shape" like I'd really love to be. I found balance with food, and acceptance of my body even 20 pounds heavier than my lowest, which is much more healthy mentally, but I look at my soft body and loose skin and think, "I'll never be fit." I found I've resisted getting into the shape I ACTUALLY want to to be in, my dream physique, because losing weight touches on that shame of not being good enough, so I resist it.
Oh sweet soul! Such a vulnerable share and powerful insights. What an opportunity for deep forgiveness and self compassion as well as an activation of what you truly desire. If you KNEW you were enough, if you could gift yourself permission to let go of the shame, how would you treat yourself inside.
Sending so much love.
Xoxox
Tara
okay tell me why I was imagining my higher self yesterday as a healthier, more toned and happier me. The universe sends you the signs and messages, you just have to accept it and open your eyes.
Thank you universe 🙏🏻✨
Oh wow! Perfection! See her, she is here, embody her 🖤
Such an interesting concept! Times in life I've gotten more fit I always retreat back to my old ways because I feel I don't deserve to be at my fittest, healthiest and happiest. This video has certainly opened my eyes to what's really going on in my psyche. Thank you!!
So powerful!
You deserve to be fit and healthy!❤
It's been probably 10 years since the last time I was skinny ...
I felt more confident and Light
This found me at the perfect time. I've lost the weight before, gained it all back and some. I'm back on track and I constantly worry about going back again. It's time to love myself more. Allow myself to not fear and instead embrace my body and take care of it. My dream body is coming back and I'm starting to give myself grace TODAY instead of when I eventually get there.
And gifting yourself to treat yourself with the love, gratitude and compassion as if that body is already here. Love yourself through it
I just found this video like many others and I wonder what feedback you have received from women over the 12yrs since this was posted?
I’m sitting down and ready to write.
My sister was the “skinny” one and I was the “fat” one but in hindsight i was never really fat, just not super skinny like her. But I’m my head I have been fat all my life, except for last year, at 54 I felt the best I’ve ever felt. But now it’s started to creep back again, so this exercise has found me at the perfect time.
I’ll have a lot to write down, I can feel it!!
Thank you for such wonderful ideas 🥰
Being skinny would mean I wouldn't have to stress out about what to wear all the time and how to make it look just so. ;)
There’s something comforting about these older style self improvement videos. Feels like one of those daytime network shows from the late 00s and early 2010s that also have a blog
;) I agree
who is here in 2025
¡Hola! 2025 🎉
Just got this video on my feed today 👍
thankyou for ever making this video omg ur a literal goddess
This video randomly popped up in my feed 12 years later and it truly has opened up my eyes. For the longest, i have gotten boyfriends that have liked me mostly for the figure that my weight gives me so because of that, i have done my best to hold onto it even though for years even when i was a little girl (I'm 20 now so literally when this video came out LOL) i have always wanted to be skinny and to maintain a healthy beautiful body. After trying and failing a number of times, this video has helped me finally decide that I am going to truly stick to my goals and get this weight off of my body. I am so very excited for this chapter! Thank you for this video!
so beautiful! Cheering you on 🖤
If I no longer had to be worried about being skinny because I finally achieved that goal, I suppose I would no longer worry about my clothing fitting me a certain way. I'd be happy my fits look similar to my pinterest boards.
If i could be skinny everyday would simply be lighter. More outfits, more confidence more happiness ❤
Trust it! Gift yourself the permission for the outfits, confidence and happiness now and see what happens 💋⛵️
Who’s watching it in August 2024 ❤? This video just suddenly popped on my explore 🫨
1. The desire
2. Giving yourself permission ( allowing yourself to be)
What to do?
journaling
1- can i let myself be skinny?
Sit down and really answer this , , question , spend 10-15 minute answering that question, all the reasons why you still not experience your desire ( to be skinny).
You will get clarity and why you still didn’t give yourself permission to be skinny?
2- what would be like if you let yourself be skinny? And no longer have to be worried about this?
New years eve 2024.. randomly popped up on my feed
this is honestly so eye opening and i just clicked on a whim. i realise i prevent myself from doing things to better myself because im scared of the negative reactions ill get from my siblings, or make them feel poorly about themselves if I am doing well. this video really made my chest feel lighter, the way youve phrased the feelings associated with the frenchie and the indie are absolutely spot on and its really made me reflect! Thank you!!
I have tears and chills reading this. You are feeling the deepening of what is available here and it’s HUGE! I acknowledge you for all your awareness and am sending you such love. 🖤
I'd be a lot happier. I'd look forward to getting dressed. I would be able to focus on other parts of my life--how I live. I would probably be less ashamed and have more confidence.
Wild that I got this in my feed today, right after getting a boatload of negative comments about my weight just yesterday (too low, not high)
Journal-
1. Can I let myself be skinny?
2. What would happen if I let myself be skinny? What would happen if my no longer had to worry about this part of my life?
I would begin my modeling career, I would go jogging with a crop top, I would go skinny dipping in Italy, I would create a marble statue of myself, I would feel extremely comfortable and confident in my own body.
Do it! All of it and let your body follow🖤
Every single word that you’ve said just kept getting more and more real as you were talking, thank you for the motivation ❤️
Thank you for opening to the message beyond the surface. Sending love and cheering you on 🖤
I can't express how this came at such an opportune time I really struggle with this and I gaslight myself into thinking I was being narcissistic and should stay the way I am. To think this video is 11 years old!
I feel exactly the same and I think it's because of social media and the 'body positivity' movement and the ED obsession and how everyone who 'diets' is automatically accused of promoting an ED and not eating enough. I feel that fitness influencers are lying too. They say they eat these BIG potions at every meal + snacks and still have the body of their dreams bcs if they said the truth they would be cancelled for promoting diet and ED. It's all so confusing.
If my body’s been taken care of, I’d finally be happy looking at the mirror. I’d finally be excited to actually see myself lol
I let myself be skinny. I was traumatized by the jealousy to be honest but who cares because other people are skinny? I really didn't want to attract shallow guys either. But truthfully I am intelligent and can handle it.
Thank you for making this video. What you said makes so much sense. The answer to your question is freedom. Thank you 😊. Cheers 😉🌷
Thank you so much for your comment! It means so much and I’m so happy it is serving you 🖤
I think this applies not just to being skinny but also any endeavors you might have that have been denying yourself. I just realized that for myself I deserve my opportunities today to grow. Maybe I feel like my old self was not deserving of my opportunities today because I was a more juvenile version of myself still lacking the experience I have today. I am compelled to see myself for my recent achievements. And yes today I am deserving of it and when looking at it like that: I can actually visualize myself doing it and having a better idea how I might do it too. Before it was a quick idea like a wish now it’s more than that . Thank you for this video
This is exactly it! Bravo! Cheering you on 🖤
I don't want to be skinny, I want to be jacked af, ripped and bench press almost ×2 my weight.
nice
Same, thicker legs too.
Skinny is not my goal. But, this video is from 2012, people were obsessed with being skinny then. Not too surprised.
@@Mii..Good god, the point is not the skinnyness this applies to being jacked to.
@@user-us3jy2mb5r What are talking about? That's literally her point, being skinny, slim, you're just talking.
@@Mii..why'd u click on the vid if its not what ur looking for?