Thank you for taking up space and reclaiming your time. We can continue to get justice for black folk in general while also listening to Black women, cis and trans, who are long due justice and unprompted appreciation.
Unpopular opinion from a black man: Whilst being acknowledged as beautiful is indeed a good thing, ultimately black women need high self esteem. The moment you need someone to validate your existence you risk becoming susceptible to manipulation. Someone comes and says words you haven't heard regularly and automatically you will be drawn to that whether they are genuine or not. There are master manipulators out there and you really don't want to be in that positiion where you get validated by someone else.
The demonization, sexualization and ratchetization of black women is ridiculous! On the one hand if you find a way to embrace your sensuality, after years of being sexualized that's viewed as wrong. If you are loud or rambunctious and willing to stand your ground, you are deemed ratchet. Others don't consider that she may be giving back to the world, what the world gave her. I love you my ratchet sistas and I feel you! If you speak proper English (whatever that is) you are too white. If you are light skinned you are privileged, therefore part of some problem you didn't create. If you have confidence, the world and the people around you will chip at that confidence in hopes of leaving you a shell that they can swallow whole, in order to feel something about themselves. People are always trying to place us firmly on one end of some spectrum, when the truth is we are the spectrum and as varied as our hues. All of these issues fester in our own communities and families. We are amazing, resourceful, smart, challenging, beautiful, and the greatest gift to grace this earth. Soon and very soon our value will be appreciated because it is looong over due and trust me the world owes us our just due.
Wow so many amazing points made. We are often pigeon held into perpetuating one stereotype or another rather than being seen as fully realized beings that contain multitudes.
Thank you for taking up space and reclaiming your time. We can continue to get justice for black folk in general while also listening to Black women, cis and trans, who are long due justice and unprompted appreciation.
Absolutely! It's our time to speak up after being told for so long to stay silent and docile so that we don't receive MORE injustice. That's done.
Unpopular opinion from a black man: Whilst being acknowledged as beautiful is indeed a good thing, ultimately black women need high self esteem.
The moment you need someone to validate your existence you risk becoming susceptible to manipulation. Someone comes and says words you haven't heard regularly and automatically you will be drawn to that whether they are genuine or not. There are master manipulators out there and you really don't want to be in that positiion where you get validated by someone else.
The demonization, sexualization and ratchetization of black women is ridiculous! On the one hand if you find a way to embrace your sensuality, after years of being sexualized that's viewed as wrong. If you are loud or rambunctious and willing to stand your ground, you are deemed ratchet. Others don't consider that she may be giving back to the world, what the world gave her. I love you my ratchet sistas and I feel you! If you speak proper English (whatever that is) you are too white. If you are light skinned you are privileged, therefore part of some problem you didn't create. If you have confidence, the world and the people around you will chip at that confidence in hopes of leaving you a shell that they can swallow whole, in order to feel something about themselves. People are always trying to place us firmly on one end of some spectrum, when the truth is we are the spectrum and as varied as our hues. All of these issues fester in our own communities and families. We are amazing, resourceful, smart, challenging, beautiful, and the greatest gift to grace this earth. Soon and very soon our value will be appreciated because it is looong over due and trust me the world owes us our just due.
Wow so many amazing points made. We are often pigeon held into perpetuating one stereotype or another rather than being seen as fully realized beings that contain multitudes.