As an intj i procrastinate a lot but when i do the task i do it as perfect as i could.. and i finish it all just on time.. but i think way too much about it
I'd gladly swap types with you.. tbh I think you'd want to swap back after a day lol. The world isn't governed by Fe it's governed by Te, at least in the west. I'm an INFJ, it's not all bad but the Fe .. you're not in charge of it like you can be with Te.. Te isn't plagued by others and their feelings if that makes sense...Ppl are having feelings all the time, ppl are complicated.. I know I'm blind in Te but Te strikes me as basically practicality and thinking externally..?? You "have a go" more? Which seems it'd be very useful with Se.
LOL! As a fellow INTJ, I can Assure, that you are looking, at the glass as Half Full. You By Virtue Of OuR Type, "YOU" Are AMAZING!!! YOU just need to BREAK FREE From Your SHELL.
I have always referred to it as something hanging over my head, when I have an uncompleted task. I need to finish it to clear the way for doing what I really want to do, which is return to my inner world. My ESTP wife has no problem with having things in a state of partial completion; she even looks for more things to add to the list. I want things completed, so I can forget them. It feels good to remove them from the queue to free me up to return "home."
Me whenever I have to participate in online class discussions. In reality I just want to get back to playing Persona 5 Royal so that I can have an enriched understanding of human interactions and their motivations. That and turn based strategy games are a great way to teach our mind to solve problems from a different perspective which requires a special kind of patience that I think if this technique if put into practice can help to strengthen one's mental fortitude.
“Who wouldn’t want to be an INTJ?” Me... I can’t make my brain shut up. I think life would be easier if I wasn’t always analyzing and I was a little better with people. -INTJ
That's the sign of an unhealthy INTJ. I used to felt like that when I was depressed n overwhelmed. Tired of thinking because when in depression, people tend to overthink and it caused them to be even more depressed n hence tired. Personally, when I'm (INTJ) relaxed n happy, I love to think (Ni dom) n never get tired of thinking, it's natural for me (and you too, I assume) just like breathing. I think you can use some down time just to relax. Good luck!
Knowing your type can help you understand yourself, but it is not a static reality. You can grow, improve, and change. You have talents and weaknesses. You are human, and as a human you have the ability, through self awareness, to direct your growth. I'm more than sure that you can shore up your shortcomings. ;)
1) Mindfulness meditation. 2) A) Name the social issue(s) you struggle with. 2) B) Look up list articles about how to overcome that struggle. 2) C) Write down 20-30 recommendations that appeal to you, with 3 examples of each and commit them to memory. 2) D) Look for opportunities to practice them and don't be discouraged if you flounder for the first 10 or so attempts. Best of luck.
I am quite fine being an INTJ. It is precisely because I know and understand the negatives that I am better equipped to address them. Why would I desire someone else's set of problems?
@Jay Laslow Identifying and addressing/removing the negatives is typically positive, at least in some small way, as a matter of natural consequence, but it is easy to take for granted. For instance, I do not generally feel happy, sad or angry like I observe in other people. It is more like I feel content when things are functioning adequately and frustrated when things are not. If I am relaxed on an issue, it requires less of my attention, which I then turn to something that still requires it. Which of course is whatever negative is next on my list. That is simply how things get done.
"the INTJ is not a detached type they are not cold and analytical they understand logic through relating themselves" - this is so true just because they have so much control over their feeling doesn't mean that they are cold and insensitive.
Future self: Come on, what's taking so long? When will you save up money to run your own place and gain the freedom to artistically express yourself? Present self: *I'm busy.*
Thank you for explaining what it really means to be an INTJ. I’ve never understood the cold, robotic stereotype. Tertiary Fi is very emotional and passionate. We just struggle with showing it and trusting others with our heart. Therefore, we protect it at all costs. If any type is cold and robotic it would be those with dominant Ti and then dominant Te, respectively. They’re the ones with inferior feeling functions. INTJ stereotypes make for good fictional villains but it’s not reality. Most of the time, I’m just trying to get out of my head, to not be lost in fantasies/possibilities, to actually function in the real world. I’ve got no time to be a Machiavellian Mastermind 🤷🏻♂️
This is.. quite true but from my own observation, sometimes I find that in many many kind of highly emotional situation, it is hard for me to give a sufficient expression, Maybe like crying at the graduation, laughing so loud at some jokes, or mirth at my birthday party etc., I usually just gave a smile at a very funny joke or just be silent when I'm sad. This is what other people called as "emotionless" or even "robotic". Sure it doesn't mean that I'm not passionate, but I do understand how people perceived me (an INTJ) as a cold person.
@@rossy3lo i can recall this robotic mode over me. and then just thanks to my 10yo of me which is actually on self defense. Sad enough yes, lonely yes, but never empty bc i know what will happen T.T
True, INTJs are not cold in the sense of being empty and detached. I don't think INTJs make common fictional villains precisely because they're "cold"... They make good fictional villains because they want (intensely) what they want with tunnel vision to the exclusion of all else. They will do anything to make things go the way they imagined it going. Which seems cold because they can detach from what others want, but not cold in the empty unbiased sense. Compare the vicious passion of INTJ Khan in the newer star trek movie (Benedict Cumberbatch) to Heath Ledger's joker. INTJs are restrained but not empty voids of chaos.
It would be even better if you could monitor an individuals thought process during the parts where he's perceived to be building up toward a climactic, that's INTJ, to then see their reaction to hearing, "that's not INTJ."
This needs to be watched especially by people who are NOT INTJ... like an introduction before actually meeting the INTJ. It's too much to catch them up on
Personality Database is so full of stereotypes. I know because I'm part of it. They don't analyze characters by cognitive functions, they use dichotomies and stereotypes THEN justify their typing with wrong understanding of cognitive functions afterward. Sometimes I feel hopeless trying to fix the mistypes and troll the votes instead.
It is so sad to see how many people are mistyped as an INTJ,it just gives me a wave of unrest on how delusional they are to think they are an INTJ just cause they wanna be the cold villain of their story,while ignoring all of the deep interpretation and explanation of an INTJs cognition.
Yeah I couldn't finish the video and I was quite interested in it. The rapid blinking and the long pauses every few words are just too much for me to deal with. If it were text, he's basically writing short sentences as individual paragraphs, so each time it happens I expect he's going to be addressing a completely different point. It ruins the flow.
Finally someone debunking some very annoying myths! Very precise and clear video; often times a real INTJ can think he's not one himself because of these wrong descriptions, while other types may identify more with them. This vid was much needed, hope many see this
I definitely doubted my type (INTJ) even after a certain amount of research as many of the stereotypes weren't 100% accurate and, honestly, INTJs seemed too perfect and confident to be me.
I find a lot of the MBTI tests aren't specific enough. They tend to ask based on activities and preferences instead of the process behind it. The worst question is whether someone enjoys being in a crowd. If you are in a crowd, you blend in more than outside of a crowd, which leads to less people trying to directly interact with you and more time to just think about things as your body follows along with the crowd. That said, I never actually do it because I'm more focused on getting to where I need to go and heading back home as efficiently as possible. People are less likely to stop you if you 'walk with purpose'.
Any thoughts as to why people fetishize being an INTJ? Also, I took the MBTI test three times just to see if I would get different results and they were all the same, intj. The questions are hard for me to answer because so much of it can be contextual. I want to understand all angles if possible and in doing so it can lead to indecision which seems like the opposite of how INTJ's are described.
I bet people feel like the idea of having a smart mind, logical and having a 'cold' image are somewhat cool. Those who have such qualities are looking attractive in movies.
(I'm a female INTJ-T, apparently) I've been thinking about this as well, and have come to the conclusion that it's the "Special Shiny Pokemon" of the types (which I call the Shiny Poketype Syndrome haha). It's something that is -at least percentage wise- "rare" and that is what draws people in, something that makes them feel like they are different and unique to other people. Kind of cheesy if you ask me, I don't think anyone who fits anywhere in this type has the time nor energy to go around boasting about the fact that they're a "Real INTJ!" since all of our time and energy is mostly spent trying to get out of our head, deal with our real life problems and not overthink shit. lmao It's just something that strokes their egos and gives into a possible superiority complex that may be trying to cover for their possible inferiority complex. People do the same thing with Scorpio Suns in the Astrology community, I'm one of those as well. I don't know, like I said, just my conclusion, there's a lot you could actually go into regarding this, Shiny Poketype Syndrome seems to fit though. Don't worry about the way you took the test, seems like an INTJ way to do it, I had the same trouble on some questions!
@@ThePumpkinGoddess Yup, that sounds right. I'm also female and that rarity of intj females is a part of why I feel like this may not be accurate for me. If it's that rare, chances are if you get that result it's probably not true. My feeling is that if MBTI can't figure out what you are by your responses than you must be put in that " we have no clue wtf this means box" and label it intj.
@@ThePumpkinGoddess I'm the same type as you (I think, I'm still heavily researching because I really, really don't want to mistype myself). However I think your rare pokemon analogy makes a lot of sense to me and how I feel as an INTJ. I've always thought female INTJs are labeled as "manic pixie dream girls." I've had experiences where guys will straight-up either be like "you're a wonder," or "you have no feelings," cuz they don't understand the more blunt, logical approach. The video really highlights how we keep our internal selves TO ourselves. I've never shared that with guys who obsess over INTJs because its SO personal and they weirdly label us as something bizarre, a code that needs to be cracked. Yesss, the overthinking! We're always so in our own heads TRYING to improve ourselves and I've found ppl who fetishize INTJs always try to say things like we need to take it more easy, or live a little and they fundamentally don't understand the WAY we live and we thrive IS creating these complex internal thoughts that will bring us closer to our ideal selves. It DOES sound so cheesy and I HATE sounding like I'm just begging to be UNIQUE, but if you're INTJ, then yeah, you legitimately are pretty rare and unique, which I think makes us a big target for other types to misunderstand us or put us on some weird pedestal. Thank u, rant done. 😅
My dad likes making up ridiculous stories to explain the reasons why strangers do certain things when we see them. Like "the person in that car must be driving fast because they're in trouble with their wife". It drives me nuts because there is NO logical basis for any of them and his stories are clearly just him imposing his life experiences on complete strangers.
I'm an intj but I'm fine with it also I'm suffering from depression overthinking anxiety sometimes but I do know how to calm myself down so if you guys are intj then accept that personality even though you are suffering from it so don't give up and keep going..
"An INTJ does not create logic; they observe it." So true! My INTJ co-worker sometimes seems "apathetic" to me, in regard to theorizing logically, but he is actually just selective, and also will only apply his logical thinking (which is impressive) to an external project. He won't "philosophize" much but, if he does, it will entail "citing sources", and discussion will usually pertain to something tangible (i.e. politics), with dialogue that is much more "specific" than my own :P
As an INTJ. I only like to use logic if it has a tangible result or relates somehow to my vision. Just doing logic for the sake of logic is quite a drag. I actually hated math class back in high school and college because most of it just seemed useless and inpractical in a real-worldly sense. But like you said, if there is logic that relates to my goals or vision I will out-logic the best Ti-user out there any day.
@@tofusamurai22 Yes, the thing is a Ti-doms can just build and build in a direction is becomes out of touch with reality. Their argumentation can look foolish when they are debating some real life application of an idea. INTJs start with the application first - does it work? - and apply logic where necessary. THis can make INTJs seem more logical than they are as they are not really invested in their logic for the sake of logic. INTJs have no logical integrity, whereas Ti-doms do have logical integrity. Of course this has also its drawbacks for the INTJ, as they can sometimes look further than they can leap, and they fall flat on their face.
@@vizuz I've noticed that the "6th" function (in MBTI) is capable in a type, as long as the needs of the "2nd" function are met. So, INTJ's will naturally have an echo of Ti, but only in the wake of Te-resolutions (so, Ti comes in unconsciously after Te has been utilized to a certain level of satisfaction, and the Ti reinforcement will help to further advance the INTJ's Te capabilities in future ventures! ^_^ ) What is your personal experience with Ti?
they seem happy and content in life without finding the deep meaning of things! they do things because that's how it's put out to be by some "existing logic" that they follow without questioning!
@@gabrielalsham2192 yeah definitely true and makes me question like why are they doing that, how came they never think about that, which is very wierd To them that I asked question like that
Well... INTJ confirmed! You have done your research very well, and this video really should be shared in every forum! What you said about the opinonated INTJ and how true INTJs are more cautious and evidence based with what they say really hit home. Somehow I feel more understood by this video than all other descriptions of the INTJ. Once again, very good video!
Thank you so much! I have to admit I am quite passionate about this particular topic, not only for knowing a fair share of actual INTJs but also presenting the human side of a type otherwise defined only by their achievements :)
@@CognitivePersonality I was always highly hesitant to express judgment because I was keenly aware of how difficult it was to capture the full extent of something, which I always thought was the most important part anyway.
My husband is an INTJ--as far as I can tell. He's a scientist by career (astronomy). He's also deeply religious (Catholic) and spends a lot of time in very devoted, solitary prayer. He seems to 'pop' in and out of being totally self-focused and engaged in problem solving tasks to the exclusion of all else, and bubbling happily about whatever new concept he just read about in some magazine or learned from the clerk at the grocery store. He easily gets overwhelmed by perfectionism, especially when he pushes himself to take care of too many things, and he doesn't like group social situations very much, yet he doesn't have any social anxiety at all. He'll say anything to anyone without fear. I admire his boldness in speaking his mind without worry. He comes off as exceptionally friendly and enthusiastic or cold and uncaring, by turns. Only I, his INFP wife, seem to understand his contradictions and flow with his changes. ;)
Great. Im still intj. How do i conquor the existential dread? I like authority when im researching information. I dislike authority when the authority figure tells me what to do. I get that rules are needed, but i dont like being forced to follow them. In fact, i become incredibly defiant when in the face of someone that thinks they can control what i do.
@Lince Matero well this would be rather subjective but i am not really drink like drinker does, i just 'sip' compared to them. It's more than enough to put me in tranquil mode and be very focus and productive with my mind. Not very common reason right.
I’m only halfway through this video, and I have to say I am incredibly impressed with your explanations of INTJ mind, motives, and they’re inner world. My husband is an INTJ and I don’t think I’ve ever heard anybody in the MBTU community SO accurately explain INTJS. Bravo. (I’m an ENFP, for anyone who is wondering :) )
Great. And keep leaving your husband's belongings alone. He will love you for that. I have and ESFJ wife and her obsession of orderlines for the sake of orderliness is killing me. Don't ask me why I have her as life partner. I missed MBTI class on my early years, LoL.
The divergent thinking hit really hard. I have always questioned my type especially in the comment sections of videos about INTJs. Everyone seemed so sure about themselves and would even lash out others who think otherwise. I hate that side of the Internet where everyone thinks their words are valid just because they think so. Personally, it stirs my insecure side, because I cannot put out my opinion so easily even if I have thought about it a gazillion times. These so-called "INTJs" seemed too big for me, making me question if I have mistyped myself. Thank you for clarifying that it is not just me being an odd one, but it is my natural response. Many forget that INTJs are perceivers first, and an abstract thinker. Impulse will always be dangerous. And your own words can always be used against you. Besides, not all topics need an opinion. This video has not only gave me assurance of my identity but also taught me how my behavior goes. I learned a lot. Thanks. Edit: I have been studying MBTI and the cognitive functions for months now, but I am not confident with my knowledge. So yes, I am still wondering if I am really an INTJ. 😂
The internet is truly bizarre, and paradoxes like these occur all too often. Judging from your words INTJ would certainly not surprise me, but I do offer Type Services for anyone seeking confirmation!
Absolutely agree with this. It's also frustrating that the people you see online that type themselves as INTJs tend to be so exclusionary and cold, and they tend to just wear the stereotypes of being completely unfeeling, that it makes you wonder, "hmm, maybe I've been mistyped?"
I relate to this so well. When I came to the internet and started describing myself to others, they bluntly told my I'm not INTJ then didn't explain or point out anything. I also can't seem to argue with them using "logic." I trust them because surely I'm just not experienced enough with the system. Actually, it is one of my first inclinations to trust people who have more knowledge than me. (Then he shows Te is in a slot for authority, sometimes to the point of naivety, and it all clicks.)
I have never felt so known and understood. Never. Trying to explain these complexities within myself to others has been impossible because, although I know what it feels like to live inside of an INTJ mind and soul, I haven't been able to distinguish the different parts of my experience in a way that can be expressed. You did it so beautifully and so well. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
A cyber friend who identifies as INTJ sent me here. It took a bit for me to have the focused time to 'fritter' on this, but wow, thank you. I've always gotten this as my type and the descriptions nail me, but you did a great job explaining some of the more *abstract* aspects of how I experience the world. I also played my husband the bit about INTJs not actually being arrogant, just only expressing well informed opinions I hold strongly. And every INTJ I know is either a musician, painter, poet, or something creative. We can't help it! Now I know why I am so comfortable with the clutter I have--I'm being efficient. :D
I came here expecting to question my INTJness... I did not expect to be explained better than i knew myself. Is there a specific place you get your information? Because whatever it is I want all of it xD
Awesome to hear!! Haha, many, many case studies and continued application (and refinement) of CPT. Honestly I still feel the theory is at the tip of the iceberg!
I found exactly the same here. I watched the video in order to confirm or not my INTJs, and I learned a lot about how my brain works and how I interact with the external world. Thank you.
Adapting our identity to what we are seeing in the future. Yes! Thank you for bringing this up. I’ve often tried to articulate this very intentional growth process, but it’s hard to translate. Our Te is really what makes it practical for us to choose, and our Ni is the understanding behind the why. I think it’s a subject that deserves additional attention. I’ll be marinating on it further. Thanks for your accurate representation!
10:24 That explains way to much to me. To put it simply: It's that feeling you get when there's a conflict in a movie and you end up spending more time stoping the film to think about the solution rather than just watching the goddamn thing
I thought reading books and stopping to think about what's happening in them and "adding" it to your imagination is something everyone does... I just can't stop doing it
Thank you so much for this video. I am an INTJ who does not fit the argumentative, cold, combative, unfeeling stereotypes and has found this a constant point of contention within myself, causing me to evaluate and re-evaluate my type over this past month. Never has a video, or any resource, made so much intuitive sense and just 'click' with my internal understanding, and answer all my questions so precisely. I related greatly with your descriptions of the INTJ internal world, and am now fairly confident in the fact that I am indeed INTJ, despite the common stereotypes. This was incredibly illustrative and useful. Thank you again.
Hello, if it can comfort you, I am not a cold intj either. I have came to learn that the way we manifest, express and deal with our feelings is not only dictated by the personality type but also, but dozens of many other factors, like your family, your culture, and the people you met in your emotional development stage (0-5). so if you analyse your personal emotional history you might be able to observe what factors have led you to have a so called "warmer" approach to feelings
I started this video because I questioned being an INTJ for a long time, not finding too much myself on certain stereotypes. Now I’m 100% sure I’m an INTJ 😅 but it’s reassuring, on a certain level, it helps to understand more about how I work and do things, and that are other ppl that relate to it :)
"They will often yoyo between engaging in the external task and going back to an internal reflective state" Me: pauses the video every minute or so to write thoughts in journal for more minutes than I spent on the video o.o (it took me about 2 hours to watch including both journalling and a bit of online chat, lol) This is probably the most accurate dissection of INTJ cognition I've seen yet. Painfully so XD
the explanation of “cognitive introversion vs extroversion” is honestly very helpful. i can be the textbook definition of ‘social’ or ‘outgoing’ but the amount of time i’ve spent with internal rumination could very well outweigh that. i’m not sure what my type is given the very mixed results i’ve got but now i understand why that is so lol
I have NEVER in my LIFE been so well defined. The number 3 - omg. WOW. Ive never been able to explain that to people so well. How I constantly plan who I should be to be best for current and projected future situations. Thank you SO MUCH
Great analysis. As an INTJ who has now experienced moving into his fourth decade, the part that really stands out to me was the portion about respecting authority figures. This is absolutely true. In theory. But what I have observed in this life, the absolute corruption and fraud that we are constantly assaulted with by those that would manipulate, has caused me to realize that an “authority figure” title is granted ONLY to those that I feel worthy of the title...not because others tell me that the individual is an “authority figure”. The intelligence a person shows, their expressed mastery of the subject, is what earns that title...not a piece of paper that is framed and nailed to a wall behind their desk, nor because such a person has some cult-like following who all claim them to be right and the “authority” on the topic. I’ll draw my own conclusions instead, thank you very much.
pls my brain is hurting , i've had too much today .... someone tell me ; the things he's listing are the things i must not have as an INTJ ? or i must have 'em .... !!!!!!!!
@@clevertheloner6008 he explains both how the so-called INTJ mind processes, and the tell-tale signs that one is not an INTJ. I would guess if analyzing this makes your brain hurt, you’re probably not an INTJ.
I had mistyped as INTJ for years (I'm an INFJ). One of the major differences that I've noticed between the two: other people can and will have an effect on the emotions of an INFJ IN THE MOMENT (the INFJ will be emotionally MOVED), whereas the INTJ may be emotionally moved over time, but rarely in the moment. Fe is much more "reactive" with emotions (in the moment), compared to Fi (emotions built over time; more deliberate and fixed). Fe tends to be more warm, in the moment, but it can also be more negatively reactive/passive, and can take things more personally. Of course, there are several other central differences between INFJ and INTJ, but I've noticed how my emotions are more movable (especially in the moment) compared to the INTJ's that I know, despite my own mistype as an "I-N-T-J".
@@CognitivePersonality I like how well-wrapped, with a bow on top, that phrase sounds :P It's nicer than "existential shock" orrrr..... "losing your $hit and dropping an emotional atom bomb" orrrrrr..... "going into such dark feelings that you begin to be able to SEE in that dark place " LOL
This is accurate. I dated a guy who told me he was INTJ (like me) but, after a few months, I became frustrated with his lack of efficiency and his emotions that swung all over the place. He just didn’t operate like me at all so I investigated other types and told him he must be INFJ, which it turned out he is.
@@lisabeaumont we all have our strengths... Different types are able to help one another by helping to cover the "blindspots", as I'm sure you are aware :P
Lol, you're maybe just really introvert, so you get mistyped as INTJ (they tend to be more introverted) I once got mistyped as an INFP, because I am really emotional sometimes
I truly enjoyed this video. You've very thoroughly and intimately described the INTJ and why people mistype. As an INTJ, I'd like to express my appreciation and gratitude for you trying to dispel the stereotypical cold nature or lack of awareness of other people's feelings. It has bothered me for so long that people want to pin INTJs as immensely socially awkward or claim to be INTJ because they are emotionally numb and socially awkward. Your video is the best I have seen describing the INTJ. I will definitely check out your other content and already shared this video halfway through!
It's a tall order depicting the complexity of what it actually means to be an INTJ; masterfully done! You validated a lot for me here, plus explained some things about my past interactions at school, work, home, etc 😇 - I just hope you enjoyed putting this video together as much as I'm sure many of us INTJs enjoyed watching!
This was a great watch. One thing I found particularly true is the overwhelming need for efficiency. I have often thought that if I worship anything, I worship at the alter of efficiency. That’s not a choice, it’s the lens by which Ni-Te-Fi-Se operates. The innate nature of observing, understanding, and eventually mastering systems means that an INTJ will see inefficiency glaringly. I can certainly relate to the distress that comes from working within a system that has inefficiency without management’s willingness to remove it. It’s torture, it’s demoralizing.
I've always gotten this result... But one of my friends said she had the same personality type, and it made me question my result.... After watching this video, there are a lot of pieces that I can relate to except for two things: I respect authority for as long as they do not prove themselves as a fraud or as someone with bad intentions; and I've always been really good at reading people. However, even if I can sense an emotion during an interaction, I usually don't act on it unless I can tell the person is having a really hard time.... I tend to file the interaction away in a dusty corner of my mind -- it may help piece together something that might come up later.
"Always on a constant transformation" Yes, this is it. I can't fully wrap around my thoughts properly since I'm always in this constant change that I can't hold myself down at times because I always have the urge to go broader and deeper.
pls my brain is hurting , i've had too much today .... someone tell me ; the things he's listing are the things i must not have as an INTJ ? or i must have 'em .... !!!!!!!!!
"...but you have also integrated that understanding into who you are." My heart leapt in my chest when I heard this. I have always felt and said one thing about myself: I am a work in progress. Your explanation has made it so clear that I am an INTJ. Moreover, your thorough explanation of how we integrate the logical understanding of our external worlds into our internal self has done me the kindness of making me happy to embrace and own the Type. I am not cold, inflexible, and opinionated. Rather, I am warm, strategic, and open-minded to new truths. A true INTJ, as you have described them. Markers for efficiency in my real life: I never make my bed or fold my clothes, and I always politely push for the most circuitous route when spending a day out and about with others.
Watching this video and listening to all the explanations and the reasonings made me feel incredibly seen and understood. I hate it when people just take the things such as personality types on face value and stereotype it and make it sound like the norm. It always rubs me the wrong way when people say incorrect things so confidently without never making sure if they are correct or not.
Nice video, althought I already passed through this "am I really an INTJ?" phase, I thought it was worth watching. The only point I need to talk about is the "authority figure" and "like rules" part. INTJs are very independents and like freedom. INTJs will only follow a rule as long as this rule makes logical sense. A nonsense rule (especially if it restrain INTJ's freedom) like "you can't go home before 11AM even if the class is finished by 10:30" will be completely despised and if they have an opportunity to brake this rule, they will. The authority part I would say that happens with more imatures INTJs or with poor developed Te. The rest will be cautious with people that didn't prove that they know what their credentials are saying they know. I would ask a video like this but with the INTP personality if you are willing to make one.
As an INTJ this video is scaring me how incredibly accurate this fits my way of thinking/processing. I feel understood; that's a really weird feeling but in a good way. :)
as an isfp I really appreciate the part in the beginning so much, We are so stereotyped and it is frustrating when people think we aren't intelligent or can't commit to anything - like I am highly disciplined (martial arts student) and have a BA degree that literally used only thinking skills, so come at me bro lol
This is by far the best video on INTJs I have seen so far! As an INTJ I learned so much more about myself in this video, than I have learned over the past 100 hours I've put into researching MBTI. Your calm way of conveying this information is so superior to everything else I have seen. You created this very comfortable learning environment with the way you presented this information. I am definitely going to research more into what you have to offer. Thank you! 🙂
I thought the same of the way he present his videos. The pause between sentences lets me make sense of what he is saying, not like every other video that crops silence out of everything. So refreshing... We need more of that.
This is very true! These are the things that I have a hard time translating into words. I've been mildly disturbed by a lot of inaccurate "INTJ" descriptions while I'm having a hard time trying to convey these concepts to other people, knowing fully well that they're just mistyped.
This description is so intimate that I feel violated. Harry is very prepared and it is very noticeable how much study and research he has put into making these contents. Chapeau!
My teenage son is an INTJ. I'm an INFJ and it took me almost a year to correctly type him, bc of how held back he is, and really a sort of a mystery, even for me as his mother AND obsessive INFJ 🤦🏽♀️🤭 This lecture makes SO MUCH SENSE. Very useful information. Very professionally and modestly presented. Thank you 🙏🏼
I feel like I've been read like a book. The amount of times I chuckled to myself because you explained things that I already knew but could never put into words!
This is such an excellent explanation.The way you explain is so accurate.It's like all of me is described in one video.Again this is so much more accurate and relatable than the way INTJs are described/stereotyped by others.I really appreciate and enjoy your work
Well, I have learned new things: 1) this man's pregnant pauses are hilarious, but we need them to catch up because he talks so fast. 2) I learned that Introversion/ Extroversion are not judging whether you're a social butterfly or not. They are styles of cognition. That blew my mind!! And last but not least, 3) There is now no question that I have an INTJ Personality. I am a true INTJ. Everything you said was like my MODUS OPERANDI for getting through childhood, school, friendships, college, dating, AND BEYOOOOND!! Thank you for the enlightenment, kind sir. 😁
Introverted intuitive dominant OH MY LORD THAT'S ME 😭😭😭😭 don't know about the rest yet, i'm still in the middle of the video but these first 2 traits are exactly the way I am, I spend hours and hours in that exact perfectly described abstract kind of intern dialogue which I am drawn to. I get very much annoyed when I simply can't do that or am disturbed by someone in the middle of my thoughts. That is ever since I can remember! And I'm always trying to figure out ways to transform myself into someone I want to be in the future and it always ALWAYS happens, I always achieve those changes and transformations and I LOVE it. I just found myself, this video is already so worth it! I've spent years thinking of me as an INTJ type but today I did the test again and the result changed: INFJ. And I actually feel much more of an INFJ now, really, although I've always loved to brag about being INTJ type 😂😂😂
I've been typed INFJ on the MBTI test then I got typed INTJ 5 years later. I feel like an INFJ but I've had people tell me I behave more like an INTJ. Although, I rather the INFJ. The two types are very similar and it can be hard to tell them apart.
The divergence discussion and the observation of logic were right on. I even noted to myself many times that I don't particularly care what someone's point is...i can bitterly disagree with them...but, if I find their choices/stances/etc logically consistent and sound I will at least respect you.
That one part where u are constantly evolving to be your future self..and work in strides..and prefer to be alone..thinking abstractly about topics and pulled to internal dialogue more so than external.. U put into words concepts I knew deep down about my self but didnt know how to express. It was amazing. I'm more certain than not that I am typed correctly as INTJ.. Unless there is evidence to the contrary that I haven't come across.. But this video hit me hard. Thank you.
My husband is an ESFP. He is an outgoing manly man, but he can be very sensitive. He doesn't like the way I say things, etc. and sometimes gets upset. We have to keep forgiving each other. I logic things out with him until he's had enough. Patience is love.
I watched this video as someone who used to think they were an intj but is highly extraverted and mistyped as entj. I can't thank you enough for this explanation. It has honestly opened my eyes to why I do the things I do. I've met a lot of people who typed as intjs and after a while, I started to question my own typing. I tend to be able to understand where others might be coming from and I tend to empathize with them easily. That's not to say that I justify their actions or behavior. I can just imagine a "bad" future in which my own actions would lead me to their situations and I can imagine how devastating that might be. I would also say that the first part of the video opened my eyes to why it's so difficult for me to continue working on something if at any point I start questioning if it's actually "worth it". I'm very conscientious and I honestly find things I dedicate my time to extremely fulfilling. However, I have to pause everything if I ever need to reexamine the meaning of that activity.
I gotta say that I watched this with the expectation to have my identified type (INTJ) to be flipped over its head. To have to rethink what my MBTI type is. This video told me the opposite. The only thing I as a self-identified INTJ didn't identify with in this video was the perception of authority figures or hierarchies. I personally do not view them as a way of distinguishing trustworthy information from untrustworthy information, but rather as a higher expectation of said knowledge. When I talk to someone about something they are an ""expert"" in, I give their ideas/concepts far less slack, and am less forgiving when they present an opinion or theory. I found this way weeds out people who create absurd conjectures and hide behind the arrogance of being a PHD in said field comes with it, versus the people who are actually master/experts of the field or topic (who could also very well have a PHD). I must say this process/conceptualization forms from my anecdotal experience, because I've experienced first hand the shortcomings of authority figures who start to believe they're authority equates to competence. My 2 cents :p
Yes the authority point is one of contention! Perhaps there is some variance here (likely experience-relative), as there does seem to be a level of 'trust' from the information I have so far gathered. I hear you on the weeding though! And, thank you! Means a lot :)
@@CognitivePersonality Yes I would agree with you about trust playing a decent factor in this aswell. Skeptical is what I would call my position on authority, not to be confused with nihilism though. Keep up the great work.
Given that we do appear to develop our functions at differing pace, it could be argued that when Fi is not yet developed and life experience is limited, INTJ are quite likely to rely on authority and be trustful. Which also comes from divergence aspect: first understand. So if someone seems an expert in an area, especially one that is new to INTJ, INTJ would focus on understanding rather than being immediately ready to look for things to criticise. The other thing is survival instinct in the context of upbringing. INJT may feel naturally compelled to follow the rules to survive, albeit in awkward manner, battling internal conflict they are not yet consciously aware of (with occassional unexpected outbursts from Fi). I think other types my rebel in more outward manner or do not experience as much conflict and adapt more skilfully with their Fe.
Yes! Yes! Yes! 😍 Thank you! (I am an INTJ female.) I will need to listen 2 more times to feel like I understand everything you shared. I am not that fluent with cognitive functions yet.
Very interesting video, different from the usual. You touch on aspects not often talked about, like controlling your own identity, knowing who you will become. I've sometimes also had an uncanny idea I'm going to change my mind about certain things as time goes on even though I haven't yet. Definitely don't want to delegate my emotions to others or let others have much influence over who I become- I've realized I also project this onto others though- I guess I expect them to realize their emotions and identity and path to happiness are their own responsibility 🤷♀️. 16:45 reminds me of how I've come to realize so many "logical" debates people have stem from having different irreconcilable core values. And trouble putting energy into something I don't care about- I relate to that. I feel like I can do whatever I must do, but also feel I'm expected to invest in and care about so many things that, while I can't make the case these things are unimportant, they don't feel personally meaningful or interesting at all. Caution in putting forth opinions... That's also true for me, nice to hear because I thought I was an anomaly among INTJs in that regard. I think of so many things and try them on like a hat, asking could this possibility function as truth? I ask people "what if people did this?" questions and they think I mean "let's try this" or "I believe this," when what I really mean is, "What would happen if this were true? What are the implications?" Even for example free will- it's more important to me what the effects of believing or not believing in free will are, rather than whether it's actually true (which I've come to think probably no one can know and also depends on definitions). I'm not very highly opinionated anymore although I was more so when I was younger. I've even come to see there are less absolutes than I ever thought. But I do enjoy dissenting discussions or, less ideally, debates, because I like to get people to explain to me how they think. If they will. Narrow application of efficiency- definitely. Tunnel vision, and everything outside of it is sometimes an ignored mess lol. I've lost some trust in authority over the years, I now often feel the need to cross-check what an authority tells me with other sources and authorities. And rules- I don't like to break them for fun, and I don't like to pay consequences, but there are times when I have little respect for them if they are not conducive to the outcome I value, such as fairness. Rules to me are meant to keep things running smoothly and I don't attach much moral value to them. I love that you touched on Fi and empathy. I really try to empathize but it comes from cognitive understanding, it's hard to just put on the right face or say the cliche words to make someone feel better. Why is it so hard... It must mean more to me to be genuine than it does to actually make them feel better 😬. Sounds bad maybe, idk. How do you know INTJs so well as an INFJ? There's too many cliche memes and comments by "INTJs" about INTJs that are not quite relatable, this video was very relatable.
Thanks for much for sharing this! Hah well firstly most INTJs talking about INTJs are mistyped - my buddy chris at @asurapyche is an example of an actual INTJ on here though! I tend to get to know people on a deep level, especially my friends, but for a reason I can't quite fathom a lot people seem to have a harder type understanding types like the ENTP and INTJ than, say, the ENFP and INFJ.
I don’t trust brands or authority directly because those in institutions have a vested interest in keeping things the same regardless if research breaks the status quo.
Thank you for this video, I finally know what personality type I am. I was so sick and tired of this annoying stereotype for the INTJ, I started thinking I wasn’t one. Thanks again for this extremely informative video.
So true. I can relate. The inaccurate info out there made me think (and kinda wish) that I was an INTP until I did some deep reflecting and then I realised fully now through this video that I’m an INTJ.
I cannot thank you enough for this honestly, browsing mbti reddit is an utter pain seing everyone misunderstanding how cognition actually works. "Hur dur, i am so productive heh my te is amazing heh feelers suck heh", i swear r/intj has become a circlejerk of who forcefully fits the stereotype more, even though everybody there is denying that. The insight you give with your videos is immeasurable and makes way more sense than anything else out there, thank you for that!
Ok i need to vent a bit! That was a fun ride! I was LOLing and clapping in agreement and excitement, at the same time as i was assessing the danger of being so emotionally invested in my “Type” and the hubris this specific type implies, while also laughing at the fact that you talk about INTJs being overly invested in and defensive about their own personality, feeling confirmed by that, and so on and so on.. At almost every step of the way i could very strongly relate to your description of an INTJ. Feels like mind reading at points since its such deeply personal stuff that is put into words with so great precision. On my last test i got INTJ with the T being close to an F, and after watching this, and also your INTJ vs INFJ video, I’m quite convinced I’m INTJ with a lot of practice put into social skills at an early age from being the mediator between my arguing parents. Its a great combination that among other things make me a very efficient pedagogue since I usually know WHY someone doesn’t understand something, and it drives me crazy to see how other teachers are punching in the air without knowing or caring to figure out why their explanation doesn’t work. When you came to the part about authority my enthusiasm dropped a bit though, and i started to think maybe I’m not an INTJ after all. But at the end of it i think i just misunderstood you at first. I think the word “authority”, in the sense most people understand it, might not be the best word to use in this case. I get what you’re saying, and i think ultimately I match the description you are trying to give, but still I would describe at least myself as fundamentally very sceptical of authority. Yes, I read manuals cover to cover as soon as i get my hands on them, and yes, when i find a person with a deep well of knowledge that i care about I will dive right in. It’s all about that juicy efficiency. But still i think (maybe i just hope, you tell me) that most INTJs are aware that our supposedly meritocratic society is very inefficient, and that someone being in a position of authority is not equal to them being the most knowledgable, competent, or well suited for the role. I’ve been fighting with my teachers my whole life because if i could explain something better then they could, i thought it was my place to do so. To summarise , i would say that INTJs tend to carefully select their sources/mentors/teachers, which makes the use of the word “authority” (which to me implies something based on predetermined positions, ranks or titles) somewhat misleading. Maybe I just understand the word differently, or my experience differ from other INTJs (let me know). I would maybe rather call it a tendency to rely on external sources, and indeed a risk to become over-dependent on external sources. I think thats what you meant and if so i fully agree! Im happy you point that liability was still in the “abstract understanding” realm, and I’ll do my best to use it as an upgrade, thanks! Anyway, thanks for the video, thanks for reading this far whoever did that! Any INTJs, please listen to my album “Unfold Me” on bandcamp. I’d love some of your feedback :) Have a great day!
Your intj videos are resonating. And people who I’ve asked help from, I find cracks in their logic but I’m afraid to hurt their feelings. It’s why I kept thinking I was infj but I want to make sure and be precise. It’s like I’m afraid to be wrong. And neither do I think I’m intelligent enough so when I ask for other people’s opinions to find the truth it turns out I don’t trust their logic either. And that I’m better off figuring things out for myself. But there’s that fear of being wrong.
I don't think everyone wants to be an Intj at all. It might sound special in the description but when I was in school no one wanted to be like me I think. They perceived me as quiet and antisocial. Most kids didn't talk to me. And if they had to they didn't know how to interact with me. I wasn't the kid they were used to. I also didn't go to parties. I myself always wanted to be more outgoing and I'd like to be a better speaker. I've always been amazed by people who are popular in school or in business.
As an INTJ, I totally understand how the personality description makes it seems desirable. There are disadvantages to being an INTJ that people don't consider though, such as having to constantly be surrounded by people that make emotional choices.
I agree💯. As a child I watched people older than me suffer due to overwhelming emotions. Their behavior was sad to me. I decided not to put my feelings out in the world.
I don't understand how INTJ description is so desirable. I guess it depends on which description you look at, but the only thing that could be attractive is this myth about being highly intelligent. Maybe also strong non-conformism could be attractive to some. Other than that, I have no idea, why someone would see being INTJ as a badge of honor...
I'm pretty sure I'm an INTJ. At 19:10, theres discussion about INTJs not being able to hand our emotions and identity over to someone easily. This was true for me, but I had to do it when I started counselling, and counselling really, really helped me. I constantly keep an eye on my identity and emotions, even before counselling. It took me a while to realise that handing my emotions and identity over to someone could be a good idea, because it was getting heavy dealing with them alone. For me, though, they had to be qualified - they had to have real academic and experienced practise. So, if you're an INTJ, and you're finding it rough managing it all by yourself, then... consider letting someone qualified take a look at your wellbeing. It could help.
This was so soothing for me... I feel numb burnout after expending active social/work because of this NEED of going abstract again un my own silence, i even tell my partner to please do not sound outside on he's things to recharge, i also practice philosophy intensly but do not stand into talking it out, the eternal transformation is sometimes overwhelming to do while facing everyday chores, i want to save must energy into my thinking and research, it can get so holistic that some topics i cannot find info about online. You made me cry inside while i only expected casual same as always talking about INTJ.
Thank you so much for explaining the functions of the INTJ. I'm female, and mostly just trying to do my best to be the best person I can so I can help others without losing my identity to what people expect of me. So when I did the personality test talking about a mastermind, future multimillionnaire... I just couldn't relate. This has helped me a lot. Thank you.
pretty new to this... did personality test on 16personalities site and ended up an entp which at the core I was pretty sure I was not...I will not debate something I do not believe in or haven't formed an opinion on... so did the test on other 5 sites and ended up intj... my emotions are pretty complex, I can understand precisely what someone is going through but I just don't communicate through my emotions...emotional literacy-why do I feel like this? what makes me feel like this? what does that mean? what can I do about it?- and come up with some insight/knowledge... and I communicate with the logical "product" of those emotions. so when someone is struggling I just find it futile to just sit there and cry with them. solutions are better.
Very erudite and well analyzed. I agreed with everything but the respect for authority/hierarchy... INTJ's (by survey) are number 2 behind INTP for their distrust of authority, and will rebel against authority, trusting in their critical thinking skills of whether someone is qualified of their title regarding "authority." As an INTJ, I am VERY egalitarian, I like the word expertise more than authority and cooperation more than hierarchy... There is a reason why we often work alone, we HATE chains of command.
The cognitive functions describe my general behavior concisely. Singleminded (dom.-Ni), nearly neurotic about effectiveness and practicality (aux.-Te), a greatly filtered and sensitive belief system (tert.-Fi), and hypersensitivity to sensory stimuli (inf.-Se). The irritating thing about being an INTJ is the natural loneliness because of my tendency to amalgamate rivalling subjective realities into an objectively comfortable middle ground (most of the people in my life enjoy being angry at others, apparently). However, and I'm still uncertain about other INTJs, my emotional intelligence is unusually potent; I can't handle any sort of physical or emotional pain of others because I won't be able to function; the pain has to be visible and real, but even then I can get a gut feeling about someone hurting deeply.
This was interesting, because I was told by the person who typed me that I was probably an ISTJ but might be an INTJ. I actually did not particularly want to be an INTJ and was fine with my most likely result, but I still felt the need to investigate it further to make sure. The thing in your videos that both tripped me up, and ultimately helped me figure it out, was the bit about the self-transformative nature, always striving into the future vision of what you want to be. Because, at bottom, that did sound a lot like me: from a young age, I've always striven for self-improvement, and there was even a time when I tried to "make" myself into a copy of my favorite TV hero, MacGyver, because I didn't yet know who I was, and because whoever I might turn out to be, I couldn't be as awesome as that without changing myself (or so I thought then). And that sure sounds an awful lot like choosing an archetype and striving forward towards it... something INTJs are said to do. However. Even back then, I didn't really believe, deep down, that I had the power to make myself into what I wanted to be. I fought so hard to do so precisely because I didn't really believe it could be done. My identity was never completely within my control, or at least I didn't feel that it was. It was always, as you put it, "an immovable force pushing me forward," and when I finally admitted that to myself, I found a lot more peace. I am the way I am, and that has not, and probably will not, change much during my life. And that's okay with me... because who I am is enough as it is. I still strive for self-improvement, trying to optimize my strengths and minimize my weaknesses so that I can accomplish my goals, but I have accepted that the core of me does not change - and far from being limiting, that is actually a source of power and stability for me, because quite often all I have to do to know the way forward is to look back at what I HAVE BEEN. It's very interesting to me to learn that true INTJs feel that they DO truly transform themselves, instead of just adding layers onto what they already have. It's a real insight into how other people think. Anyway, sorry this comment was so long (and so late after the video was made), but if you did read it: thank you, Harry, for this video. It was very helpful to me, and insightful in general.
I love how Ne dominant types conjure and connect abstractions out of nowhere like magic. The word constructions you manufacture & terms utilized works like lubricant in my inner machinery. More POWER! ~ intj
My mind is certainly proactive. I find myself always strategising absolutely everything I do. I love to sit and think. Even in conversation I find myself zoning out and making mental notes and lists. I'm always trying to improve my life in every way imaginable, even the minuscule things like brushing teeth are constantly being modified 😂Thinking is my favorite thing to do, sometimes it's involuntary though which make me come off as rude. People often think im angry even when I don't say anything because I pull my thinking face, or at least that's what im told. I don't just do it to get things done, it's as if I can feel a dopamine rush when I do. People associate INTJ's with being boring, but they couldn't be more wrong. Our imaginations can be so vivid that we can create scenarios in our minds and live into them so deeply to the point where we lose sight of reality around us at times. I seldomly hear people speak of the imaginative and abstract aspects of the minds of Intj. You explained this well. Im subscribing
Play at 75% speed. Thank you for explaining how I relate to myself and to the world in a way that I had never heard. Helped me appreciate and accept myself even further.
As an INTJ, let me narrow down 3 parts of 2nd sign (Introverted Intuition): 1) Internal monologue. This all happens in their abstract domain, this is act of them reflect themselves to reality as whole. This process has very limbic nature. 2) (Ni-Fi) They experiences their reality in symbolic, vivid, imagery way. All this is very meaningful and emotionally intense. (Ni-Ti) They break out from that emotional intensity, they appear more cold and emotionless, but this still is very limbic in nature. 3)The self-reflection that we mentioned above gets to result, they become one who they want to become in the future, but not ,,as you go” way but exact opposite - foreseeing where things go and end.
When i start a new job at work, my brain is ALREADY trying to make it more efficient and i don't even know what I'm doing yet. It's like learn what I'm doing first, then optimize. My brain says no, we optimize now. And people look at me weirdly until i can do more than most in very little short time. It's so weird.
Great video as always! I feel so understood. Now I know why I’ve always identified more with the stereotypical NF types...Being an INTJ is like having this perfect happily-ever-after Disneyland heaven in my mind while at the same time knowing so painfully well that what I envision and value so much does not exist in this world at all. I often feel so ashamed when I do something wrong(stupid), as if people are going to laugh at me, and I’ll be failing myself, however trivial that thing might be. And you’re so spot-on that we master things by ‘getting in the mood’ and ‘knowing the right feeling’. What I hate the most are 1.people thinking less of me 2.people downgrading, insulting, ruining my vision/plans 3.those who try to steal what I take pride in (never been so possessive of anything until somebody else tries to take it from me lol). Being an INTJ is not easy, but I think it’s all worth it in the end.
Btw as much as I’d like to synthesize things, I don’t think there’s a need to boil this video down, simply because there’s just too much nuances when it comes to describing cognitive functions. Keep on doing what you do Harry! I’m so grateful for having you in this community and no kidding I feel like this is going to be one of the most beautiful ah-ha moments in my life❤️
I have criticism about the "Deference to authority" sign. I have been INTJ in character most of my life and was an absolute credentialist elitist. However, my experiences over these past years have shown me that the entirety of our Western hierarchical structure is bunk. People in positions of power and influence simply do not belong there, for the most part; may this be at the macro level or even at the personal one. I no longer _trust the science_ with regards to the medical field, as I do not regard these people as scientists. Engineers, on the other hand, base their conclusions on observable facts and on hard, tested evidence. When their theory doesn't work, it immediately blows up in their face. I now defer to authorities, but only the ones I deem reliable. 99% of the time, they are *not* part of the consensus.
That point 4 about divergent thinking is right on the spot. INTJ is not a combative and confident person to give their opinions, rather often hesitant because, again, they're drawn toward the abstract (Ni) which is always open to possibilities on what's uncertain or without evidence.
Yes, that's why INTJs have a tendency to come up with their explanations only at the end, when all their observations are pragmatically proven. However, the point is simple. The INTJ's natural role is observer. That's why they are called Introverted Perceiver.
All of these are great points, however the one point I'm a bit confused by is in regards to point number 4. The insert text in the video could have been touched upon more verbally. I AM highly opinionated and will express those opinions, aggressively if needed, on topics of an ethical nature. In this regard I'm quite uncompromising. As for forming intellectual conjecture, that's another matter entirely. While I do form conjecture in some sense, more so as an internal compass, they are inherently flexible and subject to evaluation. And while there are things I strongly belive to be true, in the face of opposing evidence I will more than happily correct that.
I am the same way, I’m also an INTJ. I am opinionated but I will change my opinion if new evidence presents itself. But regarding topics of ethical nature, those are rarely changeable.
I'm an intj, I had doubts at first and still have some doubts, but your descriptions and examples made me relate. especially the inner world part and the fact that the brain is always thinking. You expressed everything very well and made me feel comfortable with the way you spoke, thanks for the information.
As an intj i procrastinate a lot but when i do the task i do it as perfect as i could.. and i finish it all just on time.. but i think way too much about it
Thanks for sharing!
I can relate to this quite strongly.
Relatable- INFJ
@@mantecada5660 my bestfriend is an infj, and we almost have the same traits.
Wow, I feel you. I’m in my procrastinating stage😭 I hate it but I might be addicted to it
Him: *let's be honest who wouln't want to be an intj*
Me as an intj: *me*
Heh :)
I'd gladly swap types with you.. tbh I think you'd want to swap back after a day lol. The world isn't governed by Fe it's governed by Te, at least in the west. I'm an INFJ, it's not all bad but the Fe .. you're not in charge of it like you can be with Te.. Te isn't plagued by others and their feelings if that makes sense...Ppl are having feelings all the time, ppl are complicated.. I know I'm blind in Te but Te strikes me as basically practicality and thinking externally..?? You "have a go" more? Which seems it'd be very useful with Se.
Thats obviously a lie cuz you even use your mbti type as your yt name .. its ok btw
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LOL! As a fellow INTJ, I can Assure, that you are looking, at the glass as Half Full. You By Virtue Of OuR Type, "YOU" Are AMAZING!!! YOU just need to BREAK FREE From Your SHELL.
The INTJ needs to be effective and get things done fast so that s/he can go back to his/her inner world.
That's me! I can't even have a relationship with my own kids because I am busy inside my head.
Exactly! It’s “work hard so I can play harder” for me, and by play I mostly mean overthinking :))
I have always referred to it as something hanging over my head, when I have an uncompleted task. I need to finish it to clear the way for doing what I really want to do, which is return to my inner world. My ESTP wife has no problem with having things in a state of partial completion; she even looks for more things to add to the list. I want things completed, so I can forget them. It feels good to remove them from the queue to free me up to return "home."
Did you just assume my gender?
Me whenever I have to participate in online class discussions. In reality I just want to get back to playing Persona 5 Royal so that I can have an enriched understanding of human interactions and their motivations. That and turn based strategy games are a great way to teach our mind to solve problems from a different perspective which requires a special kind of patience that I think if this technique if put into practice can help to strengthen one's mental fortitude.
“Who wouldn’t want to be an INTJ?”
Me... I can’t make my brain shut up. I think life would be easier if I wasn’t always analyzing and I was a little better with people. -INTJ
true that :/
That's the sign of an unhealthy INTJ. I used to felt like that when I was depressed n overwhelmed. Tired of thinking because when in depression, people tend to overthink and it caused them to be even more depressed n hence tired.
Personally, when I'm (INTJ) relaxed n happy, I love to think (Ni dom) n never get tired of thinking, it's natural for me (and you too, I assume) just like breathing.
I think you can use some down time just to relax. Good luck!
I'm happy with my NTJ side but I think being ENTJ might be better.
Knowing your type can help you understand yourself, but it is not a static reality. You can grow, improve, and change.
You have talents and weaknesses. You are human, and as a human you have the ability, through self awareness, to direct your growth.
I'm more than sure that you can shore up your shortcomings. ;)
1) Mindfulness meditation.
2) A) Name the social issue(s) you struggle with.
2) B) Look up list articles about how to overcome that struggle.
2) C) Write down 20-30 recommendations that appeal to you, with 3 examples of each and commit them to memory.
2) D) Look for opportunities to practice them and don't be discouraged if you flounder for the first 10 or so attempts.
Best of luck.
Things I've learned from this video
1st- I'm not an INTJ(INTP)
2nd- 70000000000 new words
True😂
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Lol, yessss. English is my third language so my brain almost fried while listening.
was giving chat gpt a workout, it's an INTJ's new best friend.
Yesss, Jesus Christ, it's a lot of new vocabularies. Confusing a lot.
Honestly I want to be as cold as my stereotype - *An INTJ*
Heh, I hear you.
Deep truth about me
😂😂
I'm rather good at imitating the stereotype😌. Mostly towards people I dislike.
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This “they understand logic through relating themselves to it...” thank you.
Welcome!
YES
OMG TRUE
Of course. Inductive logic is like a torture to me.
We are deductive, not deductive.
An INTJ doesn't want to be an INTJ because they know and understand the negatives, not just the positives.
For sure!
I am quite fine being an INTJ.
It is precisely because I know and understand the negatives that I am better equipped to address them.
Why would I desire someone else's set of problems?
True
Yes
@Jay Laslow Identifying and addressing/removing the negatives is typically positive, at least in some small way, as a matter of natural consequence, but it is easy to take for granted.
For instance, I do not generally feel happy, sad or angry like I observe in other people.
It is more like I feel content when things are functioning adequately and frustrated when things are not.
If I am relaxed on an issue, it requires less of my attention, which I then turn to something that still requires it.
Which of course is whatever negative is next on my list.
That is simply how things get done.
"the INTJ is not a detached type they are not cold and analytical they understand logic through relating themselves" - this is so true just because they have so much control over their feeling doesn't mean that they are cold and insensitive.
and we don't give a crap if you think we're cold and analytical
@@edc4710 did you watch the video?
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“The present is theirs; the future, for which I really worked, is mine“
My future self puts a-lot of pressure on my present self.
Nice :)
Tesla :)
Yeah, hate that dude tbf, especially when there is a dissonance between him and my present tense actions
You will never get into the future. The very act of thinking about the future, you are doing it in the present.
Future self: Come on, what's taking so long? When will you save up money to run your own place and gain the freedom to artistically express yourself?
Present self: *I'm busy.*
Thank you for explaining what it really means to be an INTJ. I’ve never understood the cold, robotic stereotype. Tertiary Fi is very emotional and passionate. We just struggle with showing it and trusting others with our heart. Therefore, we protect it at all costs. If any type is cold and robotic it would be those with dominant Ti and then dominant Te, respectively. They’re the ones with inferior feeling functions. INTJ stereotypes make for good fictional villains but it’s not reality. Most of the time, I’m just trying to get out of my head, to not be lost in fantasies/possibilities, to actually function in the real world. I’ve got no time to be a Machiavellian Mastermind 🤷🏻♂️
Exactly this!
This is.. quite true but from my own observation, sometimes I find that in many many kind of highly emotional situation, it is hard for me to give a sufficient expression, Maybe like crying at the graduation, laughing so loud at some jokes, or mirth at my birthday party etc., I usually just gave a smile at a very funny joke or just be silent when I'm sad. This is what other people called as "emotionless" or even "robotic". Sure it doesn't mean that I'm not passionate, but I do understand how people perceived me (an INTJ) as a cold person.
@@rossy3lo i can recall this robotic mode over me. and then just thanks to my 10yo of me which is actually on self defense. Sad enough yes, lonely yes, but never empty bc i know what will happen T.T
True, INTJs are not cold in the sense of being empty and detached. I don't think INTJs make common fictional villains precisely because they're "cold"... They make good fictional villains because they want (intensely) what they want with tunnel vision to the exclusion of all else. They will do anything to make things go the way they imagined it going. Which seems cold because they can detach from what others want, but not cold in the empty unbiased sense. Compare the vicious passion of INTJ Khan in the newer star trek movie (Benedict Cumberbatch) to Heath Ledger's joker. INTJs are restrained but not empty voids of chaos.
Thank you.
This needs to be required watching for everyone who thinks they're an INTJ. Very clear and accurate descriptions.
Cheers as usual!
It would be even better if you could monitor an individuals thought process during the parts where he's perceived to be building up toward a climactic, that's INTJ, to then see their reaction to hearing, "that's not INTJ."
Same as you. You're not an INTJ at all.
Well, I think I'm an INTJ... and this video explains why I do not identify myself with the memes about INTJ.
This needs to be watched especially by people who are NOT INTJ... like an introduction before actually meeting the INTJ. It's too much to catch them up on
RIP 90% of the personality database users and r/intj
Haha indeed!
Nice one!
Personality Database is so full of stereotypes. I know because I'm part of it. They don't analyze characters by cognitive functions, they use dichotomies and stereotypes THEN justify their typing with wrong understanding of cognitive functions afterward. Sometimes I feel hopeless trying to fix the mistypes and troll the votes instead.
that sub is full of mistypes.
It is so sad to see how many people are mistyped as an INTJ,it just gives me a wave of unrest on how delusional they are to think they are an INTJ just cause they wanna be the cold villain of their story,while ignoring all of the deep interpretation and explanation of an INTJs cognition.
the pauses he takes are just long enough to be unsettling
Yeah I couldn't finish the video and I was quite interested in it. The rapid blinking and the long pauses every few words are just too much for me to deal with. If it were text, he's basically writing short sentences as individual paragraphs, so each time it happens I expect he's going to be addressing a completely different point. It ruins the flow.
I think you should've watched this video in its entirety if you're an intj...
@@williamharris8089 huh
@@Hannah-ki8te, what does huh mean?
@@tuhaggis Agreed.
Even after confirming it over and over again, receiving new information confirming the fact that I am an INTJ, is extremely satisfying...
Cool :)
@@linnaeusa Fuck Ti critic, still doubting my type because of that crap
My first confirmation was 16Personalities first article. It hit way too many boxes to disprove I was an INTJ. Then I dug further...
Real
Finally someone debunking some very annoying myths! Very precise and clear video; often times a real INTJ can think he's not one himself because of these wrong descriptions, while other types may identify more with them. This vid was much needed, hope many see this
Thanks so much! Ah, yes, I often feel that way with INFJ descriptions too!
Yes! Definitely... I doubted it so much because I don’t relate to certain stereotypes and I definitely don’t relate to most memes lol
I definitely doubted my type (INTJ) even after a certain amount of research as many of the stereotypes weren't 100% accurate and, honestly, INTJs seemed too perfect and confident to be me.
@@CognitivePersonality what a great video, this is the quality people should be looking for and not those stereotype meme format.
Yes exactly
I find a lot of the MBTI tests aren't specific enough. They tend to ask based on activities and preferences instead of the process behind it. The worst question is whether someone enjoys being in a crowd. If you are in a crowd, you blend in more than outside of a crowd, which leads to less people trying to directly interact with you and more time to just think about things as your body follows along with the crowd. That said, I never actually do it because I'm more focused on getting to where I need to go and heading back home as efficiently as possible. People are less likely to stop you if you 'walk with purpose'.
Extremely valid point
And then there are those of us who have meltdowns when deep in a large crowd.... But in fairness I may be on the spectrum.
Exactly, that what's makes me doubt every test i took
Any thoughts as to why people fetishize being an INTJ? Also, I took the MBTI test three times just to see if I would get different results and they were all the same, intj. The questions are hard for me to answer because so much of it can be contextual. I want to understand all angles if possible and in doing so it can lead to indecision which seems like the opposite of how INTJ's are described.
I bet people feel like the idea of having a smart mind, logical and having a 'cold' image are somewhat cool. Those who have such qualities are looking attractive in movies.
(I'm a female INTJ-T, apparently) I've been thinking about this as well, and have come to the conclusion that it's the "Special Shiny Pokemon" of the types (which I call the Shiny Poketype Syndrome haha). It's something that is -at least percentage wise- "rare" and that is what draws people in, something that makes them feel like they are different and unique to other people. Kind of cheesy if you ask me, I don't think anyone who fits anywhere in this type has the time nor energy to go around boasting about the fact that they're a "Real INTJ!" since all of our time and energy is mostly spent trying to get out of our head, deal with our real life problems and not overthink shit. lmao It's just something that strokes their egos and gives into a possible superiority complex that may be trying to cover for their possible inferiority complex. People do the same thing with Scorpio Suns in the Astrology community, I'm one of those as well. I don't know, like I said, just my conclusion, there's a lot you could actually go into regarding this, Shiny Poketype Syndrome seems to fit though. Don't worry about the way you took the test, seems like an INTJ way to do it, I had the same trouble on some questions!
@@spikeyconstantine if Tyler Durden is a an INTJ than I'm down. "Everything is a copy of a copy of a copy."
@@ThePumpkinGoddess Yup, that sounds right. I'm also female and that rarity of intj females is a part of why I feel like this may not be accurate for me. If it's that rare, chances are if you get that result it's probably not true. My feeling is that if MBTI can't figure out what you are by your responses than you must be put in that " we have no clue wtf this means box" and label it intj.
@@ThePumpkinGoddess I'm the same type as you (I think, I'm still heavily researching because I really, really don't want to mistype myself). However I think your rare pokemon analogy makes a lot of sense to me and how I feel as an INTJ. I've always thought female INTJs are labeled as "manic pixie dream girls." I've had experiences where guys will straight-up either be like "you're a wonder," or "you have no feelings," cuz they don't understand the more blunt, logical approach. The video really highlights how we keep our internal selves TO ourselves. I've never shared that with guys who obsess over INTJs because its SO personal and they weirdly label us as something bizarre, a code that needs to be cracked. Yesss, the overthinking! We're always so in our own heads TRYING to improve ourselves and I've found ppl who fetishize INTJs always try to say things like we need to take it more easy, or live a little and they fundamentally don't understand the WAY we live and we thrive IS creating these complex internal thoughts that will bring us closer to our ideal selves. It DOES sound so cheesy and I HATE sounding like I'm just begging to be UNIQUE, but if you're INTJ, then yeah, you legitimately are pretty rare and unique, which I think makes us a big target for other types to misunderstand us or put us on some weird pedestal. Thank u, rant done. 😅
My dad likes making up ridiculous stories to explain the reasons why strangers do certain things when we see them. Like "the person in that car must be driving fast because they're in trouble with their wife". It drives me nuts because there is NO logical basis for any of them and his stories are clearly just him imposing his life experiences on complete strangers.
I literally do this all the time and i'm a full on INTJ. I just think its humor. Problem > Causation > laugh
Who wouldn’t want to be an INTJ?
Me, suffering: Me. Please. Take it.
😂 😂😂
The overthinking.
I'm an intj but I'm fine with it also I'm suffering from depression overthinking anxiety sometimes but I do know how to calm myself down so if you guys are intj then accept that personality even though you are suffering from it so don't give up and keep going..
"An INTJ does not create logic; they observe it." So true! My INTJ co-worker sometimes seems "apathetic" to me, in regard to theorizing logically, but he is actually just selective, and also will only apply his logical thinking (which is impressive) to an external project. He won't "philosophize" much but, if he does, it will entail "citing sources", and discussion will usually pertain to something tangible (i.e. politics), with dialogue that is much more "specific" than my own :P
Ahhh I've had such similar experiences!
As an INTJ. I only like to use logic if it has a tangible result or relates somehow to my vision. Just doing logic for the sake of logic is quite a drag. I actually hated math class back in high school and college because most of it just seemed useless and inpractical in a real-worldly sense.
But like you said, if there is logic that relates to my goals or vision I will out-logic the best Ti-user out there any day.
@@vizuz "...I will out-logic the best Ti-user out there any day." Well, that sounds INTJ, lol! I never loved math, either, but I LOVE philosophy :D
@@tofusamurai22 Yes, the thing is a Ti-doms can just build and build in a direction is becomes out of touch with reality. Their argumentation can look foolish when they are debating some real life application of an idea.
INTJs start with the application first - does it work? - and apply logic where necessary. THis can make INTJs seem more logical than they are as they are not really invested in their logic for the sake of logic. INTJs have no logical integrity, whereas Ti-doms do have logical integrity.
Of course this has also its drawbacks for the INTJ, as they can sometimes look further than they can leap, and they fall flat on their face.
@@vizuz I've noticed that the "6th" function (in MBTI) is capable in a type, as long as the needs of the "2nd" function are met. So, INTJ's will naturally have an echo of Ti, but only in the wake of Te-resolutions (so, Ti comes in unconsciously after Te has been utilized to a certain level of satisfaction, and the Ti reinforcement will help to further advance the INTJ's Te capabilities in future ventures! ^_^ ) What is your personal experience with Ti?
Being a intj sucks man.. life long intj. I never knew what was wrong with me. Everyone just seems so different. I thought I was an alien for a while
they seem happy and content in life without finding the deep meaning of things!
they do things because that's how it's put out to be by some "existing logic" that they follow without questioning!
@@gabrielalsham2192 yeah definitely true and makes me question like why are they doing that, how came they never think about that, which is very wierd To them that I asked question like that
@@xiimipa3_gunawanpratama176 sometimes I wish i was like them
@@gabrielalsham2192 yeah it would be much easier, having almost everyone To relate with
Perhaps that’s the beauty in you
Well... INTJ confirmed! You have done your research very well, and this video really should be shared in every forum! What you said about the opinonated INTJ and how true INTJs are more cautious and evidence based with what they say really hit home. Somehow I feel more understood by this video than all other descriptions of the INTJ. Once again, very good video!
Thank you so much! I have to admit I am quite passionate about this particular topic, not only for knowing a fair share of actual INTJs but also presenting the human side of a type otherwise defined only by their achievements :)
@@CognitivePersonality I was always highly hesitant to express judgment because I was keenly aware of how difficult it was to capture the full extent of something, which I always thought was the most important part anyway.
My husband is an INTJ--as far as I can tell. He's a scientist by career (astronomy). He's also deeply religious (Catholic) and spends a lot of time in very devoted, solitary prayer. He seems to 'pop' in and out of being totally self-focused and engaged in problem solving tasks to the exclusion of all else, and bubbling happily about whatever new concept he just read about in some magazine or learned from the clerk at the grocery store. He easily gets overwhelmed by perfectionism, especially when he pushes himself to take care of too many things, and he doesn't like group social situations very much, yet he doesn't have any social anxiety at all. He'll say anything to anyone without fear. I admire his boldness in speaking his mind without worry. He comes off as exceptionally friendly and enthusiastic or cold and uncaring, by turns. Only I, his INFP wife, seem to understand his contradictions and flow with his changes. ;)
I just felt someone described me perfectly but I unfortunately don't have people around me that understand me this way
Great. Im still intj. How do i conquor the existential dread?
I like authority when im researching information. I dislike authority when the authority figure tells me what to do. I get that rules are needed, but i dont like being forced to follow them. In fact, i become incredibly defiant when in the face of someone that thinks they can control what i do.
Oh yes, INTJs remain highly independent :)
agreed!
You conquor with liquor. In vino veritas!
LMAO. INTJ love liquors.
@Lince Matero well this would be rather subjective but i am not really drink like drinker does, i just 'sip' compared to them. It's more than enough to put me in tranquil mode and be very focus and productive with my mind. Not very common reason right.
Lince Matero ....Yerba mate? Wow, that's interesting. I take energy pills with Yerba mate. Oh, and yes, I'm an INTJ too!
I’m only halfway through this video, and I have to say I am incredibly impressed with your explanations of INTJ mind, motives, and they’re inner world. My husband is an INTJ and I don’t think I’ve ever heard anybody in the MBTU community SO accurately explain INTJS. Bravo.
(I’m an ENFP, for anyone who is wondering :) )
Thank you, this is very cool to hear!
Great. And keep leaving your husband's belongings alone. He will love you for that.
I have and ESFJ wife and her obsession of orderlines for the sake of orderliness is killing me. Don't ask me why I have her as life partner. I missed MBTI class on my early years, LoL.
@@internetw4nk3r74 lol I can relate brother
The divergent thinking hit really hard. I have always questioned my type especially in the comment sections of videos about INTJs. Everyone seemed so sure about themselves and would even lash out others who think otherwise. I hate that side of the Internet where everyone thinks their words are valid just because they think so. Personally, it stirs my insecure side, because I cannot put out my opinion so easily even if I have thought about it a gazillion times. These so-called "INTJs" seemed too big for me, making me question if I have mistyped myself. Thank you for clarifying that it is not just me being an odd one, but it is my natural response. Many forget that INTJs are perceivers first, and an abstract thinker. Impulse will always be dangerous. And your own words can always be used against you. Besides, not all topics need an opinion.
This video has not only gave me assurance of my identity but also taught me how my behavior goes. I learned a lot. Thanks.
Edit: I have been studying MBTI and the cognitive functions for months now, but I am not confident with my knowledge. So yes, I am still wondering if I am really an INTJ. 😂
The internet is truly bizarre, and paradoxes like these occur all too often.
Judging from your words INTJ would certainly not surprise me, but I do offer Type Services for anyone seeking confirmation!
Absolutely agree with this. It's also frustrating that the people you see online that type themselves as INTJs tend to be so exclusionary and cold, and they tend to just wear the stereotypes of being completely unfeeling, that it makes you wonder, "hmm, maybe I've been mistyped?"
The ones saying you're not INTJ if you question your personality type
I still don't know my mbti. Been doing a lot of tests. But each of em have different results 😐
I relate to this so well. When I came to the internet and started describing myself to others, they bluntly told my I'm not INTJ then didn't explain or point out anything. I also can't seem to argue with them using "logic."
I trust them because surely I'm just not experienced enough with the system. Actually, it is one of my first inclinations to trust people who have more knowledge than me. (Then he shows Te is in a slot for authority, sometimes to the point of naivety, and it all clicks.)
I'm highly envious of your eloquence.
It takes practice and reflection. I'm working on it, too.
I have never felt so known and understood. Never. Trying to explain these complexities within myself to others has been impossible because, although I know what it feels like to live inside of an INTJ mind and soul, I haven't been able to distinguish the different parts of my experience in a way that can be expressed. You did it so beautifully and so well.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
My pleasure :)
A cyber friend who identifies as INTJ sent me here. It took a bit for me to have the focused time to 'fritter' on this, but wow, thank you. I've always gotten this as my type and the descriptions nail me, but you did a great job explaining some of the more *abstract* aspects of how I experience the world. I also played my husband the bit about INTJs not actually being arrogant, just only expressing well informed opinions I hold strongly.
And every INTJ I know is either a musician, painter, poet, or something creative. We can't help it!
Now I know why I am so comfortable with the clutter I have--I'm being efficient. :D
Thanks for the great comment!
I came here expecting to question my INTJness... I did not expect to be explained better than i knew myself. Is there a specific place you get your information? Because whatever it is I want all of it xD
Awesome to hear!!
Haha, many, many case studies and continued application (and refinement) of CPT. Honestly I still feel the theory is at the tip of the iceberg!
You should consider buying his book 📖. I haven't yet but plan to.
You have described my reaction perfectly.
I found exactly the same here. I watched the video in order to confirm or not my INTJs, and I learned a lot about how my brain works and how I interact with the external world. Thank you.
The same thing happened to me with the ENTP video.
Adapting our identity to what we are seeing in the future. Yes! Thank you for bringing this up. I’ve often tried to articulate this very intentional growth process, but it’s hard to translate. Our Te is really what makes it practical for us to choose, and our Ni is the understanding behind the why.
I think it’s a subject that deserves additional attention. I’ll be marinating on it further.
Thanks for your accurate representation!
Thank you stranger!
Oh wow! Lijo is here!❤
Jahaziel Ice of course!
@@jahazielice777 My thoughts exactly 😂 It's like walking past a classroom during break and seeing your 2 favourite teachers chatting inside 😆
@@P0WERS160 I can't agree more!😂
10:24 That explains way to much to me. To put it simply: It's that feeling you get when there's a conflict in a movie and you end up spending more time stoping the film to think about the solution rather than just watching the goddamn thing
Perfect!
Well that happened to me yesterday when I was watching Loving Vincent… glad I'm not the only one be like this😂
I thought reading books and stopping to think about what's happening in them and "adding" it to your imagination is something everyone does... I just can't stop doing it
Thank you so much for this video. I am an INTJ who does not fit the argumentative, cold, combative, unfeeling stereotypes and has found this a constant point of contention within myself, causing me to evaluate and re-evaluate my type over this past month.
Never has a video, or any resource, made so much intuitive sense and just 'click' with my internal understanding, and answer all my questions so precisely. I related greatly with your descriptions of the INTJ internal world, and am now fairly confident in the fact that I am indeed INTJ, despite the common stereotypes.
This was incredibly illustrative and useful. Thank you again.
You get a feel for writing styles and yours certainly comes across as INTJ too! Cheers for the comment :)
Hello, if it can comfort you, I am not a cold intj either. I have came to learn that the way we manifest, express and deal with our feelings is not only dictated by the personality type but also, but dozens of many other factors, like your family, your culture, and the people you met in your emotional development stage (0-5). so if you analyse your personal emotional history you might be able to observe what factors have led you to have a so called "warmer" approach to feelings
I started this video because I questioned being an INTJ for a long time, not finding too much myself on certain stereotypes. Now I’m 100% sure I’m an INTJ 😅 but it’s reassuring, on a certain level, it helps to understand more about how I work and do things, and that are other ppl that relate to it :)
I find that often people, who are questioning them being INTJ tend to be actual INTJs more often. I guess doubt is part of a job.
"5 signs you're not an INTJ"
Me as an ENFP: Well you aren't wrong...
"They will often yoyo between engaging in the external task and going back to an internal reflective state" Me: pauses the video every minute or so to write thoughts in journal for more minutes than I spent on the video o.o (it took me about 2 hours to watch including both journalling and a bit of online chat, lol) This is probably the most accurate dissection of INTJ cognition I've seen yet. Painfully so XD
Hehe. nice multitasking! Cheers!
the explanation of “cognitive introversion vs extroversion” is honestly very helpful. i can be the textbook definition of ‘social’ or ‘outgoing’ but the amount of time i’ve spent with internal rumination could very well outweigh that. i’m not sure what my type is given the very mixed results i’ve got but now i understand why that is so lol
I have NEVER in my LIFE been so well defined. The number 3 - omg. WOW. Ive never been able to explain that to people so well. How I constantly plan who I should be to be best for current and projected future situations. Thank you SO MUCH
Great analysis. As an INTJ who has now experienced moving into his fourth decade, the part that really stands out to me was the portion about respecting authority figures.
This is absolutely true. In theory. But what I have observed in this life, the absolute corruption and fraud that we are constantly assaulted with by those that would manipulate, has caused me to realize that an “authority figure” title is granted ONLY to those that I feel worthy of the title...not because others tell me that the individual is an “authority figure”.
The intelligence a person shows, their expressed mastery of the subject, is what earns that title...not a piece of paper that is framed and nailed to a wall behind their desk, nor because such a person has some cult-like following who all claim them to be right and the “authority” on the topic.
I’ll draw my own conclusions instead, thank you very much.
pls my brain is hurting , i've had too much today .... someone tell me ; the things he's listing are the things i must not have as an INTJ ? or i must have 'em .... !!!!!!!!
@@clevertheloner6008 he explains both how the so-called INTJ mind processes, and the tell-tale signs that one is not an INTJ.
I would guess if analyzing this makes your brain hurt, you’re probably not an INTJ.
Yes, this is an excellent insertion of personal development and accrued experience into the paradigm - I couldn't agree more with your conclusions!
I had mistyped as INTJ for years (I'm an INFJ). One of the major differences that I've noticed between the two: other people can and will have an effect on the emotions of an INFJ IN THE MOMENT (the INFJ will be emotionally MOVED), whereas the INTJ may be emotionally moved over time, but rarely in the moment. Fe is much more "reactive" with emotions (in the moment), compared to Fi (emotions built over time; more deliberate and fixed). Fe tends to be more warm, in the moment, but it can also be more negatively reactive/passive, and can take things more personally. Of course, there are several other central differences between INFJ and INTJ, but I've noticed how my emotions are more movable (especially in the moment) compared to the INTJ's that I know, despite my own mistype as an "I-N-T-J".
Hah, indeed, our Se-Fe opposing functions can make us INFJs prone to sudden emotional flux!
@@CognitivePersonality I like how well-wrapped, with a bow on top, that phrase sounds :P It's nicer than "existential shock" orrrr..... "losing your $hit and dropping an emotional atom bomb" orrrrrr..... "going into such dark feelings that you begin to be able to SEE in that dark place " LOL
This is accurate. I dated a guy who told me he was INTJ (like me) but, after a few months, I became frustrated with his lack of efficiency and his emotions that swung all over the place. He just didn’t operate like me at all so I investigated other types and told him he must be INFJ, which it turned out he is.
@@lisabeaumont we all have our strengths... Different types are able to help one another by helping to cover the "blindspots", as I'm sure you are aware :P
Lol, you're maybe just really introvert, so you get mistyped as INTJ (they tend to be more introverted)
I once got mistyped as an INFP, because I am really emotional sometimes
I truly enjoyed this video. You've very thoroughly and intimately described the INTJ and why people mistype. As an INTJ, I'd like to express my appreciation and gratitude for you trying to dispel the stereotypical cold nature or lack of awareness of other people's feelings. It has bothered me for so long that people want to pin INTJs as immensely socially awkward or claim to be INTJ because they are emotionally numb and socially awkward.
Your video is the best I have seen describing the INTJ. I will definitely check out your other content and already shared this video halfway through!
Thank you so much for sharing the video!
It's a tall order depicting the complexity of what it actually means to be an INTJ; masterfully done! You validated a lot for me here, plus explained some things about my past interactions at school, work, home, etc 😇 - I just hope you enjoyed putting this video together as much as I'm sure many of us INTJs enjoyed watching!
Thank you as per usual! Haha, I actually did enjoy recording this quite a lot :)
This was a great watch.
One thing I found particularly true is the overwhelming need for efficiency. I have often thought that if I worship anything, I worship at the alter of efficiency. That’s not a choice, it’s the lens by which Ni-Te-Fi-Se operates. The innate nature of observing, understanding, and eventually mastering systems means that an INTJ will see inefficiency glaringly. I can certainly relate to the distress that comes from working within a system that has inefficiency without management’s willingness to remove it. It’s torture, it’s demoralizing.
That's a very interesting perspective and I thank you for sharing!
Something about the way you pause is so reassuring
Ah, awesome, I'm glad it had that effect :)
I've always gotten this result... But one of my friends said she had the same personality type, and it made me question my result.... After watching this video, there are a lot of pieces that I can relate to except for two things: I respect authority for as long as they do not prove themselves as a fraud or as someone with bad intentions; and I've always been really good at reading people. However, even if I can sense an emotion during an interaction, I usually don't act on it unless I can tell the person is having a really hard time.... I tend to file the interaction away in a dusty corner of my mind -- it may help piece together something that might come up later.
It's worth noting INFJs will relate to the Ni-aspects of this video, as well as some of the Fi ones!
"Always on a constant transformation" Yes, this is it. I can't fully wrap around my thoughts properly since I'm always in this constant change that I can't hold myself down at times because I always have the urge to go broader and deeper.
pls my brain is hurting , i've had too much today .... someone tell me ; the things he's listing are the things i must not have as an INTJ ? or i must have 'em .... !!!!!!!!!
For sure :)
"...but you have also integrated that understanding into who you are." My heart leapt in my chest when I heard this. I have always felt and said one thing about myself: I am a work in progress. Your explanation has made it so clear that I am an INTJ. Moreover, your thorough explanation of how we integrate the logical understanding of our external worlds into our internal self has done me the kindness of making me happy to embrace and own the Type. I am not cold, inflexible, and opinionated. Rather, I am warm, strategic, and open-minded to new truths. A true INTJ, as you have described them.
Markers for efficiency in my real life: I never make my bed or fold my clothes, and I always politely push for the most circuitous route when spending a day out and about with others.
Yes! Thanks for the great comment :)
Can you post the authentic test I can take to retest myself please? So far in both tests I took I am still INTJ . Thankyou
Watching this video and listening to all the explanations and the reasonings made me feel incredibly seen and understood. I hate it when people just take the things such as personality types on face value and stereotype it and make it sound like the norm. It always rubs me the wrong way when people say incorrect things so confidently without never making sure if they are correct or not.
Nice video, althought I already passed through this "am I really an INTJ?" phase, I thought it was worth watching.
The only point I need to talk about is the "authority figure" and "like rules" part.
INTJs are very independents and like freedom. INTJs will only follow a rule as long as this rule makes logical sense. A nonsense rule (especially if it restrain INTJ's freedom) like "you can't go home before 11AM even if the class is finished by 10:30" will be completely despised and if they have an opportunity to brake this rule, they will.
The authority part I would say that happens with more imatures INTJs or with poor developed Te. The rest will be cautious with people that didn't prove that they know what their credentials are saying they know.
I would ask a video like this but with the INTP personality if you are willing to make one.
Valid points! Yes the INTP one is definitely on the agenda :)
agreed
This is so true!
As an INTJ this video is scaring me how incredibly accurate this fits my way of thinking/processing. I feel understood; that's a really weird feeling but in a good way. :)
Awesome!!
Just when I start to think I'm not actually an INTJ, I watch this, and question my questioning. Damn it!!!!
I request INFP next if you want to continue along this veritable gold vein!
Yes please!
Good shout!
This will save me countless minion lives in getting the Deathstar Plans™ on my a-hole brother 😸
as an isfp I really appreciate the part in the beginning so much, We are so stereotyped and it is frustrating when people think we aren't intelligent or can't commit to anything - like I am highly disciplined (martial arts student) and have a BA degree that literally used only thinking skills, so come at me bro lol
I often find ISFPs achieve mastery as frequently as their Ni-dominant counterpart!
You are the only other Wojciechowski I've seen on RUclips. (High five).
This is by far the best video on INTJs I have seen so far! As an INTJ I learned so much more about myself in this video, than I have learned over the past 100 hours I've put into researching MBTI. Your calm way of conveying this information is so superior to everything else I have seen. You created this very comfortable learning environment with the way you presented this information. I am definitely going to research more into what you have to offer. Thank you! 🙂
I thought the same of the way he present his videos. The pause between sentences lets me make sense of what he is saying, not like every other video that crops silence out of everything. So refreshing... We need more of that.
Imagine taking a personality test and then being told you did it wrong.
This is very true! These are the things that I have a hard time translating into words. I've been mildly disturbed by a lot of inaccurate "INTJ" descriptions while I'm having a hard time trying to convey these concepts to other people, knowing fully well that they're just mistyped.
Thank you! Indeed, they disturb me too :)
This description is so intimate that I feel violated. Harry is very prepared and it is very noticeable how much study and research he has put into making these contents. Chapeau!
Thank you, that means a lot! Haha, I never thought about it like that before!
My teenage son is an INTJ. I'm an INFJ and it took me almost a year to correctly type him, bc of how held back he is, and really a sort of a mystery, even for me as his mother AND obsessive INFJ 🤦🏽♀️🤭
This lecture makes SO MUCH SENSE. Very useful information. Very professionally and modestly presented. Thank you 🙏🏼
I feel like I've been read like a book. The amount of times I chuckled to myself because you explained things that I already knew but could never put into words!
Glad how the quality of your videos is increasing over time, keep up the good work.
As for me, INTJ confirmed, I guess.
Thank you!
This is such an excellent explanation.The way you explain is so accurate.It's like all of me is described in one video.Again this is so much more accurate and relatable than the way INTJs are described/stereotyped by others.I really appreciate and enjoy your work
Thank you so much :)
Well, I have learned new things: 1) this man's pregnant pauses are hilarious, but we need them to catch up because he talks so fast.
2) I learned that Introversion/ Extroversion are not judging whether you're a social butterfly or not. They are styles of cognition. That blew my mind!!
And last but not least, 3) There is now no question that I have an INTJ Personality. I am a true INTJ. Everything you said was like my MODUS OPERANDI for getting through childhood, school, friendships, college, dating, AND BEYOOOOND!!
Thank you for the enlightenment, kind sir. 😁
Hehehe, it's a work in progress!
Cool!!
Introverted intuitive dominant OH MY LORD THAT'S ME 😭😭😭😭 don't know about the rest yet, i'm still in the middle of the video but these first 2 traits are exactly the way I am, I spend hours and hours in that exact perfectly described abstract kind of intern dialogue which I am drawn to. I get very much annoyed when I simply can't do that or am disturbed by someone in the middle of my thoughts.
That is ever since I can remember! And I'm always trying to figure out ways to transform myself into someone I want to be in the future and it always ALWAYS happens, I always achieve those changes and transformations and I LOVE it.
I just found myself, this video is already so worth it!
I've spent years thinking of me as an INTJ type but today I did the test again and the result changed: INFJ. And I actually feel much more of an INFJ now, really, although I've always loved to brag about being INTJ type 😂😂😂
INFJ is definitely possible! I mistyped as INTJ to begin with too!
I've been typed INFJ on the MBTI test then I got typed INTJ 5 years later. I feel like an INFJ but I've had people tell me I behave more like an INTJ. Although, I rather the INFJ. The two types are very similar and it can be hard to tell them apart.
The divergence discussion and the observation of logic were right on. I even noted to myself many times that I don't particularly care what someone's point is...i can bitterly disagree with them...but, if I find their choices/stances/etc logically consistent and sound I will at least respect you.
Also, cognitive introversion is EXHAUSTING.
YES.
@@artisanrox and YES the pull and tug is horribly exhausting
6) You're an ENTP.
Haha!
That one part where u are constantly evolving to be your future self..and work in strides..and prefer to be alone..thinking abstractly about topics and pulled to internal dialogue more so than external.. U put into words concepts I knew deep down about my self but didnt know how to express. It was amazing. I'm more certain than not that I am typed correctly as INTJ.. Unless there is evidence to the contrary that I haven't come across.. But this video hit me hard. Thank you.
There are also a lot of Esfps that think they are Intjs.
Ah, indeed!
I feel like you would be a good judge of that
@@user-wn9yj4ie7j I will say she has eye movement that seems very Se-dominant...
@@Rawwcj lmao, go tell her that under her comment here
My husband is an ESFP. He is an outgoing manly man, but he can be very sensitive. He doesn't like the way I say things, etc. and sometimes gets upset. We have to keep forgiving each other. I logic things out with him until he's had enough. Patience is love.
the long pauses after sentences are actually genuinely helpful tbh ty for this
I watched this video as someone who used to think they were an intj but is highly extraverted and mistyped as entj. I can't thank you enough for this explanation. It has honestly opened my eyes to why I do the things I do. I've met a lot of people who typed as intjs and after a while, I started to question my own typing. I tend to be able to understand where others might be coming from and I tend to empathize with them easily. That's not to say that I justify their actions or behavior. I can just imagine a "bad" future in which my own actions would lead me to their situations and I can imagine how devastating that might be. I would also say that the first part of the video opened my eyes to why it's so difficult for me to continue working on something if at any point I start questioning if it's actually "worth it". I'm very conscientious and I honestly find things I dedicate my time to extremely fulfilling. However, I have to pause everything if I ever need to reexamine the meaning of that activity.
I'm so glad it was of value!
I gotta say that I watched this with the expectation to have my identified type (INTJ) to be flipped over its head. To have to rethink what my MBTI type is. This video told me the opposite. The only thing I as a self-identified INTJ didn't identify with in this video was the perception of authority figures or hierarchies. I personally do not view them as a way of distinguishing trustworthy information from untrustworthy information, but rather as a higher expectation of said knowledge. When I talk to someone about something they are an ""expert"" in, I give their ideas/concepts far less slack, and am less forgiving when they present an opinion or theory. I found this way weeds out people who create absurd conjectures and hide behind the arrogance of being a PHD in said field comes with it, versus the people who are actually master/experts of the field or topic (who could also very well have a PHD). I must say this process/conceptualization forms from my anecdotal experience, because I've experienced first hand the shortcomings of authority figures who start to believe they're authority equates to competence. My 2 cents :p
Also, very well done video! not a single second in this video isnt useful, or insightful. Very nice
Yes the authority point is one of contention! Perhaps there is some variance here (likely experience-relative), as there does seem to be a level of 'trust' from the information I have so far gathered. I hear you on the weeding though!
And, thank you! Means a lot :)
@@CognitivePersonality Yes I would agree with you about trust playing a decent factor in this aswell. Skeptical is what I would call my position on authority, not to be confused with nihilism though. Keep up the great work.
Yes this one got me too. Thanks for posting this.
Given that we do appear to develop our functions at differing pace, it could be argued that when Fi is not yet developed and life experience is limited, INTJ are quite likely to rely on authority and be trustful. Which also comes from divergence aspect: first understand. So if someone seems an expert in an area, especially one that is new to INTJ, INTJ would focus on understanding rather than being immediately ready to look for things to criticise.
The other thing is survival instinct in the context of upbringing. INJT may feel naturally compelled to follow the rules to survive, albeit in awkward manner, battling internal conflict they are not yet consciously aware of (with occassional unexpected outbursts from Fi). I think other types my rebel in more outward manner or do not experience as much conflict and adapt more skilfully with their Fe.
Yes! Yes! Yes! 😍 Thank you! (I am an INTJ female.) I will need to listen 2 more times to feel like I understand everything you shared. I am not that fluent with cognitive functions yet.
Very interesting video, different from the usual. You touch on aspects not often talked about, like controlling your own identity, knowing who you will become. I've sometimes also had an uncanny idea I'm going to change my mind about certain things as time goes on even though I haven't yet. Definitely don't want to delegate my emotions to others or let others have much influence over who I become- I've realized I also project this onto others though- I guess I expect them to realize their emotions and identity and path to happiness are their own responsibility 🤷♀️.
16:45 reminds me of how I've come to realize so many "logical" debates people have stem from having different irreconcilable core values.
And trouble putting energy into something I don't care about- I relate to that. I feel like I can do whatever I must do, but also feel I'm expected to invest in and care about so many things that, while I can't make the case these things are unimportant, they don't feel personally meaningful or interesting at all.
Caution in putting forth opinions... That's also true for me, nice to hear because I thought I was an anomaly among INTJs in that regard. I think of so many things and try them on like a hat, asking could this possibility function as truth? I ask people "what if people did this?" questions and they think I mean "let's try this" or "I believe this," when what I really mean is, "What would happen if this were true? What are the implications?" Even for example free will- it's more important to me what the effects of believing or not believing in free will are, rather than whether it's actually true (which I've come to think probably no one can know and also depends on definitions).
I'm not very highly opinionated anymore although I was more so when I was younger. I've even come to see there are less absolutes than I ever thought. But I do enjoy dissenting discussions or, less ideally, debates, because I like to get people to explain to me how they think. If they will.
Narrow application of efficiency- definitely. Tunnel vision, and everything outside of it is sometimes an ignored mess lol.
I've lost some trust in authority over the years, I now often feel the need to cross-check what an authority tells me with other sources and authorities. And rules- I don't like to break them for fun, and I don't like to pay consequences, but there are times when I have little respect for them if they are not conducive to the outcome I value, such as fairness. Rules to me are meant to keep things running smoothly and I don't attach much moral value to them.
I love that you touched on Fi and empathy. I really try to empathize but it comes from cognitive understanding, it's hard to just put on the right face or say the cliche words to make someone feel better. Why is it so hard... It must mean more to me to be genuine than it does to actually make them feel better 😬. Sounds bad maybe, idk.
How do you know INTJs so well as an INFJ? There's too many cliche memes and comments by "INTJs" about INTJs that are not quite relatable, this video was very relatable.
Thanks for much for sharing this!
Hah well firstly most INTJs talking about INTJs are mistyped - my buddy chris at @asurapyche is an example of an actual INTJ on here though!
I tend to get to know people on a deep level, especially my friends, but for a reason I can't quite fathom a lot people seem to have a harder type understanding types like the ENTP and INTJ than, say, the ENFP and INFJ.
I don’t trust brands or authority directly because those in institutions have a vested interest in keeping things the same regardless if research breaks the status quo.
Thank you for this video, I finally know what personality type I am. I was so sick and tired of this annoying stereotype for the INTJ, I started thinking I wasn’t one. Thanks again for this extremely informative video.
My pleasure :)
So true. I can relate. The inaccurate info out there made me think (and kinda wish) that I was an INTP until I did some deep reflecting and then I realised fully now through this video that I’m an INTJ.
TBH I'm not sure if I am INTJ or not since the words were too many words...I'm watching for third time at least a good English class🥴
This is such a good episode! Can't wait to see this series about enfj! Its a diffrent bread!
I cannot thank you enough for this honestly, browsing mbti reddit is an utter pain seing everyone misunderstanding how cognition actually works. "Hur dur, i am so productive heh my te is amazing heh feelers suck heh", i swear r/intj has become a circlejerk of who forcefully fits the stereotype more, even though everybody there is denying that. The insight you give with your videos is immeasurable and makes way more sense than anything else out there, thank you for that!
It certainly sounds like it - I do find these communities to be full of mistypes.
Thank you, I appreciate it!
Ok i need to vent a bit!
That was a fun ride! I was LOLing and clapping in agreement and excitement, at the same time as i was assessing the danger of being so emotionally invested in my “Type” and the hubris this specific type implies, while also laughing at the fact that you talk about INTJs being overly invested in and defensive about their own personality, feeling confirmed by that, and so on and so on..
At almost every step of the way i could very strongly relate to your description of an INTJ. Feels like mind reading at points since its such deeply personal stuff that is put into words with so great precision. On my last test i got INTJ with the T being close to an F, and after watching this, and also your INTJ vs INFJ video, I’m quite convinced I’m INTJ with a lot of practice put into social skills at an early age from being the mediator between my arguing parents. Its a great combination that among other things make me a very efficient pedagogue since I usually know WHY someone doesn’t understand something, and it drives me crazy to see how other teachers are punching in the air without knowing or caring to figure out why their explanation doesn’t work.
When you came to the part about authority my enthusiasm dropped a bit though, and i started to think maybe I’m not an INTJ after all. But at the end of it i think i just misunderstood you at first.
I think the word “authority”, in the sense most people understand it, might not be the best word to use in this case. I get what you’re saying, and i think ultimately I match the description you are trying to give, but still I would describe at least myself as fundamentally very sceptical of authority. Yes, I read manuals cover to cover as soon as i get my hands on them, and yes, when i find a person with a deep well of knowledge that i care about I will dive right in. It’s all about that juicy efficiency. But still i think (maybe i just hope, you tell me) that most INTJs are aware that our supposedly meritocratic society is very inefficient, and that someone being in a position of authority is not equal to them being the most knowledgable, competent, or well suited for the role. I’ve been fighting with my teachers my whole life because if i could explain something better then they could, i thought it was my place to do so.
To summarise , i would say that INTJs tend to carefully select their sources/mentors/teachers, which makes the use of the word “authority” (which to me implies something based on predetermined positions, ranks or titles) somewhat misleading. Maybe I just understand the word differently, or my experience differ from other INTJs (let me know). I would maybe rather call it a tendency to rely on external sources, and indeed a risk to become over-dependent on external sources. I think thats what you meant and if so i fully agree! Im happy you point that liability was still in the “abstract understanding” realm, and I’ll do my best to use it as an upgrade, thanks!
Anyway, thanks for the video, thanks for reading this far whoever did that! Any INTJs, please listen to my album “Unfold Me” on bandcamp. I’d love some of your feedback :)
Have a great day!
Your intj videos are resonating. And people who I’ve asked help from, I find cracks in their logic but I’m afraid to hurt their feelings. It’s why I kept thinking I was infj but I want to make sure and be precise. It’s like I’m afraid to be wrong. And neither do I think I’m intelligent enough so when I ask for other people’s opinions to find the truth it turns out I don’t trust their logic either. And that I’m better off figuring things out for myself. But there’s that fear of being wrong.
I don't think everyone wants to be an Intj at all. It might sound special in the description but when I was in school no one wanted to be like me I think. They perceived me as quiet and antisocial. Most kids didn't talk to me. And if they had to they didn't know how to interact with me. I wasn't the kid they were used to. I also didn't go to parties.
I myself always wanted to be more outgoing and I'd like to be a better speaker. I've always been amazed by people who are popular in school or in business.
As an INTJ, I totally understand how the personality description makes it seems desirable. There are disadvantages to being an INTJ that people don't consider though, such as having to constantly be surrounded by people that make emotional choices.
I agree💯. As a child I watched people older than me suffer due to overwhelming emotions. Their behavior was sad to me. I decided not to put my feelings out in the world.
I don't understand how INTJ description is so desirable. I guess it depends on which description you look at, but the only thing that could be attractive is this myth about being highly intelligent. Maybe also strong non-conformism could be attractive to some. Other than that, I have no idea, why someone would see being INTJ as a badge of honor...
I'm pretty sure I'm an INTJ. At 19:10, theres discussion about INTJs not being able to hand our emotions and identity over to someone easily. This was true for me, but I had to do it when I started counselling, and counselling really, really helped me.
I constantly keep an eye on my identity and emotions, even before counselling. It took me a while to realise that handing my emotions and identity over to someone could be a good idea, because it was getting heavy dealing with them alone. For me, though, they had to be qualified - they had to have real academic and experienced practise.
So, if you're an INTJ, and you're finding it rough managing it all by yourself, then... consider letting someone qualified take a look at your wellbeing. It could help.
My whole takeaway from this video: I am not an intj
This was so soothing for me...
I feel numb burnout after expending active social/work because of this NEED of going abstract again un my own silence, i even tell my partner to please do not sound outside on he's things to recharge, i also practice philosophy intensly but do not stand into talking it out, the eternal transformation is sometimes overwhelming to do while facing everyday chores, i want to save must energy into my thinking and research, it can get so holistic that some topics i cannot find info about online.
You made me cry inside while i only expected casual same as always talking about INTJ.
Thank you so much for explaining the functions of the INTJ. I'm female, and mostly just trying to do my best to be the best person I can so I can help others without losing my identity to what people expect of me.
So when I did the personality test talking about a mastermind, future multimillionnaire... I just couldn't relate.
This has helped me a lot. Thank you.
pretty new to this... did personality test on 16personalities site and ended up an entp which at the core I was pretty sure I was not...I will not debate something I do not believe in or haven't formed an opinion on... so did the test on other 5 sites and ended up intj... my emotions are pretty complex, I can understand precisely what someone is going through but I just don't communicate through my emotions...emotional literacy-why do I feel like this? what makes me feel like this? what does that mean? what can I do about it?- and come up with some insight/knowledge... and I communicate with the logical "product" of those emotions. so when someone is struggling I just find it futile to just sit there and cry with them. solutions are better.
INTJ sounds plausible :)
Very erudite and well analyzed. I agreed with everything but the respect for authority/hierarchy... INTJ's (by survey) are number 2 behind INTP for their distrust of authority, and will rebel against authority, trusting in their critical thinking skills of whether someone is qualified of their title regarding "authority." As an INTJ, I am VERY egalitarian, I like the word expertise more than authority and cooperation more than hierarchy... There is a reason why we often work alone, we HATE chains of command.
When I tell ppl that I think in movies (full color, unique soundtrack, creative camera angles) they just kind of blink at me.
yup same. They'll never understand. The only person that gets me this way is my INFP brother.
Yeah sighhh
The cognitive functions describe my general behavior concisely. Singleminded (dom.-Ni), nearly neurotic about effectiveness and practicality (aux.-Te), a greatly filtered and sensitive belief system (tert.-Fi), and hypersensitivity to sensory stimuli (inf.-Se).
The irritating thing about being an INTJ is the natural loneliness because of my tendency to amalgamate rivalling subjective realities into an objectively comfortable middle ground (most of the people in my life enjoy being angry at others, apparently).
However, and I'm still uncertain about other INTJs, my emotional intelligence is unusually potent; I can't handle any sort of physical or emotional pain of others because I won't be able to function; the pain has to be visible and real, but even then I can get a gut feeling about someone hurting deeply.
Completely relate. Especially the last few sentences regarding the pain of others.
This was interesting, because I was told by the person who typed me that I was probably an ISTJ but might be an INTJ. I actually did not particularly want to be an INTJ and was fine with my most likely result, but I still felt the need to investigate it further to make sure. The thing in your videos that both tripped me up, and ultimately helped me figure it out, was the bit about the self-transformative nature, always striving into the future vision of what you want to be. Because, at bottom, that did sound a lot like me: from a young age, I've always striven for self-improvement, and there was even a time when I tried to "make" myself into a copy of my favorite TV hero, MacGyver, because I didn't yet know who I was, and because whoever I might turn out to be, I couldn't be as awesome as that without changing myself (or so I thought then). And that sure sounds an awful lot like choosing an archetype and striving forward towards it... something INTJs are said to do.
However. Even back then, I didn't really believe, deep down, that I had the power to make myself into what I wanted to be. I fought so hard to do so precisely because I didn't really believe it could be done. My identity was never completely within my control, or at least I didn't feel that it was. It was always, as you put it, "an immovable force pushing me forward," and when I finally admitted that to myself, I found a lot more peace. I am the way I am, and that has not, and probably will not, change much during my life. And that's okay with me... because who I am is enough as it is. I still strive for self-improvement, trying to optimize my strengths and minimize my weaknesses so that I can accomplish my goals, but I have accepted that the core of me does not change - and far from being limiting, that is actually a source of power and stability for me, because quite often all I have to do to know the way forward is to look back at what I HAVE BEEN.
It's very interesting to me to learn that true INTJs feel that they DO truly transform themselves, instead of just adding layers onto what they already have. It's a real insight into how other people think.
Anyway, sorry this comment was so long (and so late after the video was made), but if you did read it: thank you, Harry, for this video. It was very helpful to me, and insightful in general.
I love how Ne dominant types conjure and connect abstractions out of nowhere like magic. The word constructions you manufacture & terms utilized works like lubricant in my inner machinery. More POWER! ~ intj
Hah, nice descriptions!
My mind is certainly proactive. I find myself always strategising absolutely everything I do. I love to sit and think. Even in conversation I find myself zoning out and making mental notes and lists. I'm always trying to improve my life in every way imaginable, even the minuscule things like brushing teeth are constantly being modified 😂Thinking is my favorite thing to do, sometimes it's involuntary though which make me come off as rude. People often think im angry even when I don't say anything because I pull my thinking face, or at least that's what im told. I don't just do it to get things done, it's as if I can feel a dopamine rush when I do. People associate INTJ's with being boring, but they couldn't be more wrong. Our imaginations can be so vivid that we can create scenarios in our minds and live into them so deeply to the point where we lose sight of reality around us at times. I seldomly hear people speak of the imaginative and abstract aspects of the minds of Intj. You explained this well. Im subscribing
Play at 75% speed. Thank you for explaining how I relate to myself and to the world in a way that I had never heard. Helped me appreciate and accept myself even further.
Really glad to hear :)
As an INTJ, let me narrow down 3 parts of 2nd sign (Introverted Intuition):
1) Internal monologue. This all happens in their abstract domain, this is act of them reflect themselves to reality as whole. This process has very limbic nature.
2) (Ni-Fi) They experiences their reality in symbolic, vivid, imagery way. All this is very meaningful and emotionally intense.
(Ni-Ti) They break out from that emotional intensity, they appear more cold and emotionless, but this still is very limbic in nature.
3)The self-reflection that we mentioned above gets to result, they become one who they want to become in the future, but not ,,as you go” way but exact opposite - foreseeing where things go and end.
When i start a new job at work, my brain is ALREADY trying to make it more efficient and i don't even know what I'm doing yet. It's like learn what I'm doing first, then optimize. My brain says no, we optimize now. And people look at me weirdly until i can do more than most in very little short time. It's so weird.
Great video as always! I feel so understood.
Now I know why I’ve always identified more with the stereotypical NF types...Being an INTJ is like having this perfect happily-ever-after Disneyland heaven in my mind while at the same time knowing so painfully well that what I envision and value so much does not exist in this world at all. I often feel so ashamed when I do something wrong(stupid), as if people are going to laugh at me, and I’ll be failing myself, however trivial that thing might be. And you’re so spot-on that we master things by ‘getting in the mood’ and ‘knowing the right feeling’.
What I hate the most are 1.people thinking less of me 2.people downgrading, insulting, ruining my vision/plans 3.those who try to steal what I take pride in (never been so possessive of anything until somebody else tries to take it from me lol).
Being an INTJ is not easy, but I think it’s all worth it in the end.
Btw as much as I’d like to synthesize things, I don’t think there’s a need to boil this video down, simply because there’s just too much nuances when it comes to describing cognitive functions.
Keep on doing what you do Harry! I’m so grateful for having you in this community and no kidding I feel like this is going to be one of the most beautiful ah-ha moments in my life❤️
Thanks so much Caroline!!
I have criticism about the "Deference to authority" sign. I have been INTJ in character most of my life and was an absolute credentialist elitist. However, my experiences over these past years have shown me that the entirety of our Western hierarchical structure is bunk. People in positions of power and influence simply do not belong there, for the most part; may this be at the macro level or even at the personal one. I no longer _trust the science_ with regards to the medical field, as I do not regard these people as scientists. Engineers, on the other hand, base their conclusions on observable facts and on hard, tested evidence. When their theory doesn't work, it immediately blows up in their face.
I now defer to authorities, but only the ones I deem reliable. 99% of the time, they are *not* part of the consensus.
That point 4 about divergent thinking is right on the spot. INTJ is not a combative and confident person to give their opinions, rather often hesitant because, again, they're drawn toward the abstract (Ni) which is always open to possibilities on what's uncertain or without evidence.
Yes, that's why INTJs have a tendency to come up with their explanations only at the end, when all their observations are pragmatically proven.
However, the point is simple. The INTJ's natural role is observer. That's why they are called Introverted Perceiver.
All of these are great points, however the one point I'm a bit confused by is in regards to point number 4. The insert text in the video could have been touched upon more verbally. I AM highly opinionated and will express those opinions, aggressively if needed, on topics of an ethical nature. In this regard I'm quite uncompromising. As for forming intellectual conjecture, that's another matter entirely. While I do form conjecture in some sense, more so as an internal compass, they are inherently flexible and subject to evaluation. And while there are things I strongly belive to be true, in the face of opposing evidence I will more than happily correct that.
I am the same way, I’m also an INTJ. I am opinionated but I will change my opinion if new evidence presents itself. But regarding topics of ethical nature, those are rarely changeable.
I'm an intj, I had doubts at first and still have some doubts, but your descriptions and examples made me relate. especially the inner world part and the fact that the brain is always thinking. You expressed everything very well and made me feel comfortable with the way you spoke, thanks for the information.