5 Signs You're Not An INTJ

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  • Опубликовано: 29 дек 2024

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  • @ayessarodado3955
    @ayessarodado3955 4 года назад +2986

    As an intj i procrastinate a lot but when i do the task i do it as perfect as i could.. and i finish it all just on time.. but i think way too much about it

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +91

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @GrimSleepy
      @GrimSleepy 4 года назад +117

      I can relate to this quite strongly.

    • @mantecada5660
      @mantecada5660 4 года назад +36

      Relatable- INFJ

    • @ayessarodado3955
      @ayessarodado3955 4 года назад +31

      @@mantecada5660 my bestfriend is an infj, and we almost have the same traits.

    • @skillculator7408
      @skillculator7408 4 года назад +75

      Super relatable. Is anyone else usually a little late or just on time (when its not critical to be early) because they cant stand the waste of time associated with waiting?

  • @rosannatarsiero3670
    @rosannatarsiero3670 4 года назад +1482

    The INTJ needs to be effective and get things done fast so that s/he can go back to his/her inner world.

    • @billbosch9127
      @billbosch9127 3 года назад +34

      That's me! I can't even have a relationship with my own kids because I am busy inside my head.

    • @MyFatherLooksLikeAPallasCat
      @MyFatherLooksLikeAPallasCat 3 года назад +31

      Exactly! It’s “work hard so I can play harder” for me, and by play I mostly mean overthinking :))

    • @INTJIsland
      @INTJIsland 3 года назад +31

      I have always referred to it as something hanging over my head, when I have an uncompleted task. I need to finish it to clear the way for doing what I really want to do, which is return to my inner world. My ESTP wife has no problem with having things in a state of partial completion; she even looks for more things to add to the list. I want things completed, so I can forget them. It feels good to remove them from the queue to free me up to return "home."

    • @Eggonbread
      @Eggonbread 3 года назад +5

      Did you just assume my gender?

    • @airinkujo3207
      @airinkujo3207 3 года назад +2

      Me whenever I have to participate in online class discussions. In reality I just want to get back to playing Persona 5 Royal so that I can have an enriched understanding of human interactions and their motivations. That and turn based strategy games are a great way to teach our mind to solve problems from a different perspective which requires a special kind of patience that I think if this technique if put into practice can help to strengthen one's mental fortitude.

  • @emiliap1352
    @emiliap1352 4 года назад +2231

    Him: *let's be honest who wouln't want to be an intj*
    Me as an intj: *me*

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +92

      Heh :)

    • @cass8330
      @cass8330 4 года назад +44

      I'd gladly swap types with you.. tbh I think you'd want to swap back after a day lol. The world isn't governed by Fe it's governed by Te, at least in the west. I'm an INFJ, it's not all bad but the Fe .. you're not in charge of it like you can be with Te.. Te isn't plagued by others and their feelings if that makes sense...Ppl are having feelings all the time, ppl are complicated.. I know I'm blind in Te but Te strikes me as basically practicality and thinking externally..?? You "have a go" more? Which seems it'd be very useful with Se.

    • @ayessarodado3955
      @ayessarodado3955 4 года назад +42

      Thats obviously a lie cuz you even use your mbti type as your yt name .. its ok btw

    • @trollashan6447
      @trollashan6447 4 года назад +1

      Mee

    • @hughmann2041
      @hughmann2041 4 года назад +8

      LOL! As a fellow INTJ, I can Assure, that you are looking, at the glass as Half Full. You By Virtue Of OuR Type, "YOU" Are AMAZING!!! YOU just need to BREAK FREE From Your SHELL.

  • @GrayCole96
    @GrayCole96 3 года назад +1328

    “Who wouldn’t want to be an INTJ?”
    Me... I can’t make my brain shut up. I think life would be easier if I wasn’t always analyzing and I was a little better with people. -INTJ

    • @loveygoo2627
      @loveygoo2627 3 года назад +6

      true that :/

    • @rossy3lo
      @rossy3lo 3 года назад +57

      That's the sign of an unhealthy INTJ. I used to felt like that when I was depressed n overwhelmed. Tired of thinking because when in depression, people tend to overthink and it caused them to be even more depressed n hence tired.
      Personally, when I'm (INTJ) relaxed n happy, I love to think (Ni dom) n never get tired of thinking, it's natural for me (and you too, I assume) just like breathing.
      I think you can use some down time just to relax. Good luck!

    • @itjustmemyselfandi
      @itjustmemyselfandi 3 года назад +17

      I'm happy with my NTJ side but I think being ENTJ might be better.

    • @racket444
      @racket444 3 года назад +11

      Knowing your type can help you understand yourself, but it is not a static reality. You can grow, improve, and change.
      You have talents and weaknesses. You are human, and as a human you have the ability, through self awareness, to direct your growth.
      I'm more than sure that you can shore up your shortcomings. ;)

    • @Plinko99
      @Plinko99 3 года назад +16

      1) Mindfulness meditation.
      2) A) Name the social issue(s) you struggle with.
      2) B) Look up list articles about how to overcome that struggle.
      2) C) Write down 20-30 recommendations that appeal to you, with 3 examples of each and commit them to memory.
      2) D) Look for opportunities to practice them and don't be discouraged if you flounder for the first 10 or so attempts.
      Best of luck.

  • @laylataveras3182
    @laylataveras3182 4 года назад +829

    Honestly I want to be as cold as my stereotype - *An INTJ*

  • @geelee2964
    @geelee2964 4 года назад +905

    This “they understand logic through relating themselves to it...” thank you.

  • @sudowpa2
    @sudowpa2 4 года назад +1267

    An INTJ doesn't want to be an INTJ because they know and understand the negatives, not just the positives.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +50

      For sure!

    • @TheOfficialPatriarchy
      @TheOfficialPatriarchy 4 года назад +176

      I am quite fine being an INTJ.
      It is precisely because I know and understand the negatives that I am better equipped to address them.
      Why would I desire someone else's set of problems?

    • @billylong9699
      @billylong9699 4 года назад +4

      True

    • @DH-ig3bo
      @DH-ig3bo 4 года назад +2

      Yes

    • @TheOfficialPatriarchy
      @TheOfficialPatriarchy 4 года назад +18

      @Jay Laslow Identifying and addressing/removing the negatives is typically positive, at least in some small way, as a matter of natural consequence, but it is easy to take for granted.
      For instance, I do not generally feel happy, sad or angry like I observe in other people.
      It is more like I feel content when things are functioning adequately and frustrated when things are not.
      If I am relaxed on an issue, it requires less of my attention, which I then turn to something that still requires it.
      Which of course is whatever negative is next on my list.
      That is simply how things get done.

  • @Name-ys9dk
    @Name-ys9dk 3 года назад +279

    "the INTJ is not a detached type they are not cold and analytical they understand logic through relating themselves" - this is so true just because they have so much control over their feeling doesn't mean that they are cold and insensitive.

    • @edc4710
      @edc4710 Год назад +2

      and we don't give a crap if you think we're cold and analytical

    • @SuperGoforitall
      @SuperGoforitall Год назад +3

      @@edc4710 did you watch the video?

    • @SolHati0828
      @SolHati0828 Год назад

      ​@@edc4710🥸💢

    • @kinsmade--wherecraftsarefa7830
      @kinsmade--wherecraftsarefa7830 11 дней назад

      I can be very dismissive (seen as cold) when I am in flow, even if the person's concern is only slightly less important than the task at hand. I sometimes say, "the building better be on fire right now because I am in the middle of something critical here."

  • @rajdipbiswas7288
    @rajdipbiswas7288 3 года назад +358

    Things I've learned from this video
    1st- I'm not an INTJ(INTP)
    2nd- 70000000000 new words

    • @survivor5821
      @survivor5821 2 года назад +10

      True😂

    • @Roxx128
      @Roxx128 2 года назад +6

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @podivna
      @podivna Год назад +31

      Lol, yessss. English is my third language so my brain almost fried while listening.

    • @randomanonymoushuman
      @randomanonymoushuman 10 месяцев назад +8

      was giving chat gpt a workout, it's an INTJ's new best friend.

    • @Love_her_so_much
      @Love_her_so_much 8 месяцев назад +3

      Yesss, Jesus Christ, it's a lot of new vocabularies. Confusing a lot.

  • @Maplie
    @Maplie Год назад +64

    My dad likes making up ridiculous stories to explain the reasons why strangers do certain things when we see them. Like "the person in that car must be driving fast because they're in trouble with their wife". It drives me nuts because there is NO logical basis for any of them and his stories are clearly just him imposing his life experiences on complete strangers.

    • @Napoleonicwarfare
      @Napoleonicwarfare 6 месяцев назад +15

      I literally do this all the time and i'm a full on INTJ. I just think its humor. Problem > Causation > laugh

    • @Amanita._.Verosa._.
      @Amanita._.Verosa._. 2 дня назад +1

      @@Maplie My mom does this. I just roll my eyes.

  • @DesertILI
    @DesertILI 4 года назад +905

    This needs to be required watching for everyone who thinks they're an INTJ. Very clear and accurate descriptions.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +34

      Cheers as usual!

    • @peterdentice5725
      @peterdentice5725 4 года назад +36

      It would be even better if you could monitor an individuals thought process during the parts where he's perceived to be building up toward a climactic, that's INTJ, to then see their reaction to hearing, "that's not INTJ."

    • @lilna7444
      @lilna7444 4 года назад +8

      Same as you. You're not an INTJ at all.

    • @jzargowinterhold1942
      @jzargowinterhold1942 4 года назад +40

      Well, I think I'm an INTJ... and this video explains why I do not identify myself with the memes about INTJ.

    • @TheDawningEclipse
      @TheDawningEclipse 4 года назад +17

      This needs to be watched especially by people who are NOT INTJ... like an introduction before actually meeting the INTJ. It's too much to catch them up on

  • @anatonyjahs6464
    @anatonyjahs6464 4 года назад +277

    “The present is theirs; the future, for which I really worked, is mine“
    My future self puts a-lot of pressure on my present self.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +6

      Nice :)

    • @cloudboysmusic5223
      @cloudboysmusic5223 4 года назад +5

      Tesla :)

    • @IvyTeaRN
      @IvyTeaRN 4 года назад +4

      Yeah, hate that dude tbf, especially when there is a dissonance between him and my present tense actions

    • @maximomanabat8382
      @maximomanabat8382 4 года назад +2

      You will never get into the future. The very act of thinking about the future, you are doing it in the present.

    • @greatwavefan397
      @greatwavefan397 3 года назад

      Future self: Come on, what's taking so long? When will you save up money to run your own place and gain the freedom to artistically express yourself?
      Present self: *I'm busy.*

  • @cloudboysmusic5223
    @cloudboysmusic5223 4 года назад +821

    RIP 90% of the personality database users and r/intj

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +85

      Haha indeed!

    • @eskatonica
      @eskatonica 4 года назад +2

      Nice one!

    • @caffemocca8855
      @caffemocca8855 4 года назад +114

      Personality Database is so full of stereotypes. I know because I'm part of it. They don't analyze characters by cognitive functions, they use dichotomies and stereotypes THEN justify their typing with wrong understanding of cognitive functions afterward. Sometimes I feel hopeless trying to fix the mistypes and troll the votes instead.

    • @gelosc5791
      @gelosc5791 4 года назад +27

      that sub is full of mistypes.

    • @Radioactivepaladin0703
      @Radioactivepaladin0703 3 года назад +21

      It is so sad to see how many people are mistyped as an INTJ,it just gives me a wave of unrest on how delusional they are to think they are an INTJ just cause they wanna be the cold villain of their story,while ignoring all of the deep interpretation and explanation of an INTJs cognition.

  • @buckley8888
    @buckley8888 4 года назад +216

    the pauses he takes are just long enough to be unsettling

    • @tuhaggis
      @tuhaggis 3 года назад +24

      Yeah I couldn't finish the video and I was quite interested in it. The rapid blinking and the long pauses every few words are just too much for me to deal with. If it were text, he's basically writing short sentences as individual paragraphs, so each time it happens I expect he's going to be addressing a completely different point. It ruins the flow.

    • @williamharris8089
      @williamharris8089 3 года назад +10

      I think you should've watched this video in its entirety if you're an intj...

    • @Hannah-ki8te
      @Hannah-ki8te 3 года назад +3

      @@williamharris8089 huh

    • @williamharris8089
      @williamharris8089 3 года назад

      @@Hannah-ki8te, what does huh mean?

    • @firdaherryanddhy6419
      @firdaherryanddhy6419 3 года назад

      @@tuhaggis Agreed.

  • @zile8869
    @zile8869 4 года назад +114

    Even after confirming it over and over again, receiving new information confirming the fact that I am an INTJ, is extremely satisfying...

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +8

      Cool :)

    • @cstharlo
      @cstharlo 3 года назад

      @@linnaeusa Fuck Ti critic, still doubting my type because of that crap

    • @greatwavefan397
      @greatwavefan397 3 года назад +1

      My first confirmation was 16Personalities first article. It hit way too many boxes to disprove I was an INTJ. Then I dug further...

    • @videI1
      @videI1 8 месяцев назад

      Real

  • @xanthie413
    @xanthie413 4 года назад +1158

    Thank you for explaining what it really means to be an INTJ. I’ve never understood the cold, robotic stereotype. Tertiary Fi is very emotional and passionate. We just struggle with showing it and trusting others with our heart. Therefore, we protect it at all costs. If any type is cold and robotic it would be those with dominant Ti and then dominant Te, respectively. They’re the ones with inferior feeling functions. INTJ stereotypes make for good fictional villains but it’s not reality. Most of the time, I’m just trying to get out of my head, to not be lost in fantasies/possibilities, to actually function in the real world. I’ve got no time to be a Machiavellian Mastermind 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +69

      Exactly this!

    • @rossy3lo
      @rossy3lo 4 года назад +75

      This is.. quite true but from my own observation, sometimes I find that in many many kind of highly emotional situation, it is hard for me to give a sufficient expression, Maybe like crying at the graduation, laughing so loud at some jokes, or mirth at my birthday party etc., I usually just gave a smile at a very funny joke or just be silent when I'm sad. This is what other people called as "emotionless" or even "robotic". Sure it doesn't mean that I'm not passionate, but I do understand how people perceived me (an INTJ) as a cold person.

    • @skyinuri8868
      @skyinuri8868 4 года назад +7

      @@rossy3lo i can recall this robotic mode over me. and then just thanks to my 10yo of me which is actually on self defense. Sad enough yes, lonely yes, but never empty bc i know what will happen T.T

    • @andreagreenwood93
      @andreagreenwood93 4 года назад +37

      True, INTJs are not cold in the sense of being empty and detached. I don't think INTJs make common fictional villains precisely because they're "cold"... They make good fictional villains because they want (intensely) what they want with tunnel vision to the exclusion of all else. They will do anything to make things go the way they imagined it going. Which seems cold because they can detach from what others want, but not cold in the empty unbiased sense. Compare the vicious passion of INTJ Khan in the newer star trek movie (Benedict Cumberbatch) to Heath Ledger's joker. INTJs are restrained but not empty voids of chaos.

    • @basestone4972
      @basestone4972 4 года назад +1

      Thank you.

  • @giacomocasartelli5503
    @giacomocasartelli5503 4 года назад +591

    Finally someone debunking some very annoying myths! Very precise and clear video; often times a real INTJ can think he's not one himself because of these wrong descriptions, while other types may identify more with them. This vid was much needed, hope many see this

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +33

      Thanks so much! Ah, yes, I often feel that way with INFJ descriptions too!

    • @astrologiaconfer
      @astrologiaconfer 4 года назад +13

      Yes! Definitely... I doubted it so much because I don’t relate to certain stereotypes and I definitely don’t relate to most memes lol

    • @havilahvang
      @havilahvang 4 года назад +30

      I definitely doubted my type (INTJ) even after a certain amount of research as many of the stereotypes weren't 100% accurate and, honestly, INTJs seemed too perfect and confident to be me.

    • @gelosc5791
      @gelosc5791 4 года назад +2

      @@CognitivePersonality what a great video, this is the quality people should be looking for and not those stereotype meme format.

    • @tasia3236
      @tasia3236 3 года назад

      Yes exactly

  • @Kitsunary
    @Kitsunary 4 года назад +316

    I find a lot of the MBTI tests aren't specific enough. They tend to ask based on activities and preferences instead of the process behind it. The worst question is whether someone enjoys being in a crowd. If you are in a crowd, you blend in more than outside of a crowd, which leads to less people trying to directly interact with you and more time to just think about things as your body follows along with the crowd. That said, I never actually do it because I'm more focused on getting to where I need to go and heading back home as efficiently as possible. People are less likely to stop you if you 'walk with purpose'.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +29

      Extremely valid point

    • @maddiesiegmund5623
      @maddiesiegmund5623 3 года назад +7

      And then there are those of us who have meltdowns when deep in a large crowd.... But in fairness I may be on the spectrum.

    • @Ai99573
      @Ai99573 3 года назад +2

      Exactly, that what's makes me doubt every test i took

    • @Bookconnoisseur-1887
      @Bookconnoisseur-1887 2 месяца назад +1

      It is definitely not specific enough, some questions aren’t even clear about what they’re asking or that you need to answer them with your whole life in mind instead of how you feel in that moment.

  • @chronicxswagger
    @chronicxswagger 3 года назад +205

    Being a intj sucks man.. life long intj. I never knew what was wrong with me. Everyone just seems so different. I thought I was an alien for a while

    • @gabrielalsham2192
      @gabrielalsham2192 3 года назад +45

      they seem happy and content in life without finding the deep meaning of things!
      they do things because that's how it's put out to be by some "existing logic" that they follow without questioning!

    • @xiimipa3_gunawanpratama176
      @xiimipa3_gunawanpratama176 3 года назад +7

      @@gabrielalsham2192 yeah definitely true and makes me question like why are they doing that, how came they never think about that, which is very wierd To them that I asked question like that

    • @gabrielalsham2192
      @gabrielalsham2192 3 года назад +11

      @@xiimipa3_gunawanpratama176 sometimes I wish i was like them

    • @xiimipa3_gunawanpratama176
      @xiimipa3_gunawanpratama176 3 года назад +10

      @@gabrielalsham2192 yeah it would be much easier, having almost everyone To relate with

    • @Vyke99
      @Vyke99 3 года назад +4

      Perhaps that’s the beauty in you

  • @michaelshelbysuberlak
    @michaelshelbysuberlak 3 года назад +42

    My husband is an INTJ--as far as I can tell. He's a scientist by career (astronomy). He's also deeply religious (Catholic) and spends a lot of time in very devoted, solitary prayer. He seems to 'pop' in and out of being totally self-focused and engaged in problem solving tasks to the exclusion of all else, and bubbling happily about whatever new concept he just read about in some magazine or learned from the clerk at the grocery store. He easily gets overwhelmed by perfectionism, especially when he pushes himself to take care of too many things, and he doesn't like group social situations very much, yet he doesn't have any social anxiety at all. He'll say anything to anyone without fear. I admire his boldness in speaking his mind without worry. He comes off as exceptionally friendly and enthusiastic or cold and uncaring, by turns. Only I, his INFP wife, seem to understand his contradictions and flow with his changes. ;)

    • @umbareenfarhat2860
      @umbareenfarhat2860 4 месяца назад +2

      I just felt someone described me perfectly but I unfortunately don't have people around me that understand me this way

  • @tofusamurai22
    @tofusamurai22 4 года назад +274

    "An INTJ does not create logic; they observe it." So true! My INTJ co-worker sometimes seems "apathetic" to me, in regard to theorizing logically, but he is actually just selective, and also will only apply his logical thinking (which is impressive) to an external project. He won't "philosophize" much but, if he does, it will entail "citing sources", and discussion will usually pertain to something tangible (i.e. politics), with dialogue that is much more "specific" than my own :P

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +11

      Ahhh I've had such similar experiences!

    • @vizuz
      @vizuz 4 года назад +50

      As an INTJ. I only like to use logic if it has a tangible result or relates somehow to my vision. Just doing logic for the sake of logic is quite a drag. I actually hated math class back in high school and college because most of it just seemed useless and inpractical in a real-worldly sense.
      But like you said, if there is logic that relates to my goals or vision I will out-logic the best Ti-user out there any day.

    • @tofusamurai22
      @tofusamurai22 4 года назад +10

      @@vizuz "...I will out-logic the best Ti-user out there any day." Well, that sounds INTJ, lol! I never loved math, either, but I LOVE philosophy :D

    • @vizuz
      @vizuz 4 года назад +15

      @@tofusamurai22 Yes, the thing is a Ti-doms can just build and build in a direction is becomes out of touch with reality. Their argumentation can look foolish when they are debating some real life application of an idea.
      INTJs start with the application first - does it work? - and apply logic where necessary. THis can make INTJs seem more logical than they are as they are not really invested in their logic for the sake of logic. INTJs have no logical integrity, whereas Ti-doms do have logical integrity.
      Of course this has also its drawbacks for the INTJ, as they can sometimes look further than they can leap, and they fall flat on their face.

    • @tofusamurai22
      @tofusamurai22 4 года назад +8

      @@vizuz I've noticed that the "6th" function (in MBTI) is capable in a type, as long as the needs of the "2nd" function are met. So, INTJ's will naturally have an echo of Ti, but only in the wake of Te-resolutions (so, Ti comes in unconsciously after Te has been utilized to a certain level of satisfaction, and the Ti reinforcement will help to further advance the INTJ's Te capabilities in future ventures! ^_^ ) What is your personal experience with Ti?

  • @SM-es2os
    @SM-es2os 4 года назад +721

    Any thoughts as to why people fetishize being an INTJ? Also, I took the MBTI test three times just to see if I would get different results and they were all the same, intj. The questions are hard for me to answer because so much of it can be contextual. I want to understand all angles if possible and in doing so it can lead to indecision which seems like the opposite of how INTJ's are described.

    • @spikeyconstantine
      @spikeyconstantine 4 года назад +173

      I bet people feel like the idea of having a smart mind, logical and having a 'cold' image are somewhat cool. Those who have such qualities are looking attractive in movies.

    • @ThePumpkinGoddess
      @ThePumpkinGoddess 4 года назад +116

      (I'm a female INTJ-T, apparently) I've been thinking about this as well, and have come to the conclusion that it's the "Special Shiny Pokemon" of the types (which I call the Shiny Poketype Syndrome haha). It's something that is -at least percentage wise- "rare" and that is what draws people in, something that makes them feel like they are different and unique to other people. Kind of cheesy if you ask me, I don't think anyone who fits anywhere in this type has the time nor energy to go around boasting about the fact that they're a "Real INTJ!" since all of our time and energy is mostly spent trying to get out of our head, deal with our real life problems and not overthink shit. lmao It's just something that strokes their egos and gives into a possible superiority complex that may be trying to cover for their possible inferiority complex. People do the same thing with Scorpio Suns in the Astrology community, I'm one of those as well. I don't know, like I said, just my conclusion, there's a lot you could actually go into regarding this, Shiny Poketype Syndrome seems to fit though. Don't worry about the way you took the test, seems like an INTJ way to do it, I had the same trouble on some questions!

    • @SM-es2os
      @SM-es2os 4 года назад +7

      @@spikeyconstantine if Tyler Durden is a an INTJ than I'm down. "Everything is a copy of a copy of a copy."

    • @SM-es2os
      @SM-es2os 4 года назад +53

      @@ThePumpkinGoddess Yup, that sounds right. I'm also female and that rarity of intj females is a part of why I feel like this may not be accurate for me. If it's that rare, chances are if you get that result it's probably not true. My feeling is that if MBTI can't figure out what you are by your responses than you must be put in that " we have no clue wtf this means box" and label it intj.

    • @romanholidays5539
      @romanholidays5539 4 года назад +30

      @@ThePumpkinGoddess I'm the same type as you (I think, I'm still heavily researching because I really, really don't want to mistype myself). However I think your rare pokemon analogy makes a lot of sense to me and how I feel as an INTJ. I've always thought female INTJs are labeled as "manic pixie dream girls." I've had experiences where guys will straight-up either be like "you're a wonder," or "you have no feelings," cuz they don't understand the more blunt, logical approach. The video really highlights how we keep our internal selves TO ourselves. I've never shared that with guys who obsess over INTJs because its SO personal and they weirdly label us as something bizarre, a code that needs to be cracked. Yesss, the overthinking! We're always so in our own heads TRYING to improve ourselves and I've found ppl who fetishize INTJs always try to say things like we need to take it more easy, or live a little and they fundamentally don't understand the WAY we live and we thrive IS creating these complex internal thoughts that will bring us closer to our ideal selves. It DOES sound so cheesy and I HATE sounding like I'm just begging to be UNIQUE, but if you're INTJ, then yeah, you legitimately are pretty rare and unique, which I think makes us a big target for other types to misunderstand us or put us on some weird pedestal. Thank u, rant done. 😅

  • @simonarnback6547
    @simonarnback6547 4 года назад +195

    Well... INTJ confirmed! You have done your research very well, and this video really should be shared in every forum! What you said about the opinonated INTJ and how true INTJs are more cautious and evidence based with what they say really hit home. Somehow I feel more understood by this video than all other descriptions of the INTJ. Once again, very good video!

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +29

      Thank you so much! I have to admit I am quite passionate about this particular topic, not only for knowing a fair share of actual INTJs but also presenting the human side of a type otherwise defined only by their achievements :)

    • @cruzader35
      @cruzader35 3 года назад +2

      @@CognitivePersonality I was always highly hesitant to express judgment because I was keenly aware of how difficult it was to capture the full extent of something, which I always thought was the most important part anyway.

  • @dontsubscribe9594
    @dontsubscribe9594 4 года назад +80

    10:24 That explains way to much to me. To put it simply: It's that feeling you get when there's a conflict in a movie and you end up spending more time stoping the film to think about the solution rather than just watching the goddamn thing

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +4

      Perfect!

    • @caliyac2204
      @caliyac2204 3 года назад +1

      Well that happened to me yesterday when I was watching Loving Vincent… glad I'm not the only one be like this😂

    • @lga.d3351
      @lga.d3351 3 года назад +7

      I thought reading books and stopping to think about what's happening in them and "adding" it to your imagination is something everyone does... I just can't stop doing it

  • @CheriFields
    @CheriFields 4 года назад +34

    A cyber friend who identifies as INTJ sent me here. It took a bit for me to have the focused time to 'fritter' on this, but wow, thank you. I've always gotten this as my type and the descriptions nail me, but you did a great job explaining some of the more *abstract* aspects of how I experience the world. I also played my husband the bit about INTJs not actually being arrogant, just only expressing well informed opinions I hold strongly.
    And every INTJ I know is either a musician, painter, poet, or something creative. We can't help it!
    Now I know why I am so comfortable with the clutter I have--I'm being efficient. :D

  • @maccamacca7787
    @maccamacca7787 3 года назад +24

    "5 signs you're not an INTJ"
    Me as an ENFP: Well you aren't wrong...

  • @chantararix
    @chantararix 4 года назад +141

    The divergent thinking hit really hard. I have always questioned my type especially in the comment sections of videos about INTJs. Everyone seemed so sure about themselves and would even lash out others who think otherwise. I hate that side of the Internet where everyone thinks their words are valid just because they think so. Personally, it stirs my insecure side, because I cannot put out my opinion so easily even if I have thought about it a gazillion times. These so-called "INTJs" seemed too big for me, making me question if I have mistyped myself. Thank you for clarifying that it is not just me being an odd one, but it is my natural response. Many forget that INTJs are perceivers first, and an abstract thinker. Impulse will always be dangerous. And your own words can always be used against you. Besides, not all topics need an opinion.
    This video has not only gave me assurance of my identity but also taught me how my behavior goes. I learned a lot. Thanks.
    Edit: I have been studying MBTI and the cognitive functions for months now, but I am not confident with my knowledge. So yes, I am still wondering if I am really an INTJ. 😂

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +25

      The internet is truly bizarre, and paradoxes like these occur all too often.
      Judging from your words INTJ would certainly not surprise me, but I do offer Type Services for anyone seeking confirmation!

    • @Evakatt1
      @Evakatt1 4 года назад +24

      Absolutely agree with this. It's also frustrating that the people you see online that type themselves as INTJs tend to be so exclusionary and cold, and they tend to just wear the stereotypes of being completely unfeeling, that it makes you wonder, "hmm, maybe I've been mistyped?"

    • @jamjam0409
      @jamjam0409 3 года назад +2

      The ones saying you're not INTJ if you question your personality type

    • @Walen_noi
      @Walen_noi 2 года назад

      I still don't know my mbti. Been doing a lot of tests. But each of em have different results 😐

    • @micahmock3505
      @micahmock3505 2 года назад

      I relate to this so well. When I came to the internet and started describing myself to others, they bluntly told my I'm not INTJ then didn't explain or point out anything. I also can't seem to argue with them using "logic."
      I trust them because surely I'm just not experienced enough with the system. Actually, it is one of my first inclinations to trust people who have more knowledge than me. (Then he shows Te is in a slot for authority, sometimes to the point of naivety, and it all clicks.)

  • @monaekissi5562
    @monaekissi5562 4 года назад +62

    Who wouldn’t want to be an INTJ?
    Me, suffering: Me. Please. Take it.

    • @Napoleonicwarfare
      @Napoleonicwarfare 6 месяцев назад

      😂 😂😂

    • @atazzii
      @atazzii 4 месяца назад +2

      The overthinking.

    • @heed971
      @heed971 4 месяца назад

      I'm an intj but I'm fine with it also I'm suffering from depression overthinking anxiety sometimes but I do know how to calm myself down so if you guys are intj then accept that personality even though you are suffering from it so don't give up and keep going..

  • @My_eyesburn
    @My_eyesburn 4 года назад +137

    Great. Im still intj. How do i conquor the existential dread?
    I like authority when im researching information. I dislike authority when the authority figure tells me what to do. I get that rules are needed, but i dont like being forced to follow them. In fact, i become incredibly defiant when in the face of someone that thinks they can control what i do.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +29

      Oh yes, INTJs remain highly independent :)

    • @gabrielalsham2192
      @gabrielalsham2192 3 года назад +2

      agreed!

    • @internetw4nk3r74
      @internetw4nk3r74 3 года назад +6

      You conquor with liquor. In vino veritas!
      LMAO. INTJ love liquors.

    • @internetw4nk3r74
      @internetw4nk3r74 3 года назад

      @Lince Matero well this would be rather subjective but i am not really drink like drinker does, i just 'sip' compared to them. It's more than enough to put me in tranquil mode and be very focus and productive with my mind. Not very common reason right.

    • @Cindy-dd3jm
      @Cindy-dd3jm 3 года назад +1

      Lince Matero ....Yerba mate? Wow, that's interesting. I take energy pills with Yerba mate. Oh, and yes, I'm an INTJ too!

  • @bosshogg8447
    @bosshogg8447 4 года назад +17

    Great analysis. As an INTJ who has now experienced moving into his fourth decade, the part that really stands out to me was the portion about respecting authority figures.
    This is absolutely true. In theory. But what I have observed in this life, the absolute corruption and fraud that we are constantly assaulted with by those that would manipulate, has caused me to realize that an “authority figure” title is granted ONLY to those that I feel worthy of the title...not because others tell me that the individual is an “authority figure”.
    The intelligence a person shows, their expressed mastery of the subject, is what earns that title...not a piece of paper that is framed and nailed to a wall behind their desk, nor because such a person has some cult-like following who all claim them to be right and the “authority” on the topic.
    I’ll draw my own conclusions instead, thank you very much.

    • @clevertheloner6008
      @clevertheloner6008 4 года назад

      pls my brain is hurting , i've had too much today .... someone tell me ; the things he's listing are the things i must not have as an INTJ ? or i must have 'em .... !!!!!!!!

    • @bosshogg8447
      @bosshogg8447 4 года назад +1

      @@clevertheloner6008 he explains both how the so-called INTJ mind processes, and the tell-tale signs that one is not an INTJ.
      I would guess if analyzing this makes your brain hurt, you’re probably not an INTJ.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +2

      Yes, this is an excellent insertion of personal development and accrued experience into the paradigm - I couldn't agree more with your conclusions!

  • @livjaho1983
    @livjaho1983 4 года назад +130

    I’m only halfway through this video, and I have to say I am incredibly impressed with your explanations of INTJ mind, motives, and they’re inner world. My husband is an INTJ and I don’t think I’ve ever heard anybody in the MBTU community SO accurately explain INTJS. Bravo.
    (I’m an ENFP, for anyone who is wondering :) )

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +8

      Thank you, this is very cool to hear!

    • @internetw4nk3r74
      @internetw4nk3r74 3 года назад +3

      Great. And keep leaving your husband's belongings alone. He will love you for that.
      I have and ESFJ wife and her obsession of orderlines for the sake of orderliness is killing me. Don't ask me why I have her as life partner. I missed MBTI class on my early years, LoL.

    • @rafaelgmota
      @rafaelgmota 2 года назад

      @@internetw4nk3r74 lol I can relate brother

  • @ytachibana9858
    @ytachibana9858 4 года назад +22

    Thank you so much for this video. I am an INTJ who does not fit the argumentative, cold, combative, unfeeling stereotypes and has found this a constant point of contention within myself, causing me to evaluate and re-evaluate my type over this past month.
    Never has a video, or any resource, made so much intuitive sense and just 'click' with my internal understanding, and answer all my questions so precisely. I related greatly with your descriptions of the INTJ internal world, and am now fairly confident in the fact that I am indeed INTJ, despite the common stereotypes.
    This was incredibly illustrative and useful. Thank you again.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +1

      You get a feel for writing styles and yours certainly comes across as INTJ too! Cheers for the comment :)

    • @naomioduse5025
      @naomioduse5025 Год назад +1

      Hello, if it can comfort you, I am not a cold intj either. I have came to learn that the way we manifest, express and deal with our feelings is not only dictated by the personality type but also, but dozens of many other factors, like your family, your culture, and the people you met in your emotional development stage (0-5). so if you analyse your personal emotional history you might be able to observe what factors have led you to have a so called "warmer" approach to feelings

  • @sherryzmezzo
    @sherryzmezzo 4 года назад +41

    I have never felt so known and understood. Never. Trying to explain these complexities within myself to others has been impossible because, although I know what it feels like to live inside of an INTJ mind and soul, I haven't been able to distinguish the different parts of my experience in a way that can be expressed. You did it so beautifully and so well.
    Thank you, thank you, thank you.

  • @marigi2013
    @marigi2013 11 месяцев назад +21

    Imagine taking a personality test and then being told you did it wrong.

  • @dirtywhitellama
    @dirtywhitellama 4 года назад +49

    "They will often yoyo between engaging in the external task and going back to an internal reflective state" Me: pauses the video every minute or so to write thoughts in journal for more minutes than I spent on the video o.o (it took me about 2 hours to watch including both journalling and a bit of online chat, lol) This is probably the most accurate dissection of INTJ cognition I've seen yet. Painfully so XD

  • @tofusamurai22
    @tofusamurai22 4 года назад +55

    I had mistyped as INTJ for years (I'm an INFJ). One of the major differences that I've noticed between the two: other people can and will have an effect on the emotions of an INFJ IN THE MOMENT (the INFJ will be emotionally MOVED), whereas the INTJ may be emotionally moved over time, but rarely in the moment. Fe is much more "reactive" with emotions (in the moment), compared to Fi (emotions built over time; more deliberate and fixed). Fe tends to be more warm, in the moment, but it can also be more negatively reactive/passive, and can take things more personally. Of course, there are several other central differences between INFJ and INTJ, but I've noticed how my emotions are more movable (especially in the moment) compared to the INTJ's that I know, despite my own mistype as an "I-N-T-J".

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +7

      Hah, indeed, our Se-Fe opposing functions can make us INFJs prone to sudden emotional flux!

    • @tofusamurai22
      @tofusamurai22 4 года назад +2

      @@CognitivePersonality I like how well-wrapped, with a bow on top, that phrase sounds :P It's nicer than "existential shock" orrrr..... "losing your $hit and dropping an emotional atom bomb" orrrrrr..... "going into such dark feelings that you begin to be able to SEE in that dark place " LOL

    • @lisabeaumont
      @lisabeaumont 4 года назад +2

      This is accurate. I dated a guy who told me he was INTJ (like me) but, after a few months, I became frustrated with his lack of efficiency and his emotions that swung all over the place. He just didn’t operate like me at all so I investigated other types and told him he must be INFJ, which it turned out he is.

    • @tofusamurai22
      @tofusamurai22 4 года назад +4

      @@lisabeaumont we all have our strengths... Different types are able to help one another by helping to cover the "blindspots", as I'm sure you are aware :P

    • @mantecada5660
      @mantecada5660 4 года назад +1

      Lol, you're maybe just really introvert, so you get mistyped as INTJ (they tend to be more introverted)
      I once got mistyped as an INFP, because I am really emotional sometimes

  • @KatyAdelson
    @KatyAdelson 4 года назад +54

    I've always gotten this result... But one of my friends said she had the same personality type, and it made me question my result.... After watching this video, there are a lot of pieces that I can relate to except for two things: I respect authority for as long as they do not prove themselves as a fraud or as someone with bad intentions; and I've always been really good at reading people. However, even if I can sense an emotion during an interaction, I usually don't act on it unless I can tell the person is having a really hard time.... I tend to file the interaction away in a dusty corner of my mind -- it may help piece together something that might come up later.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +6

      It's worth noting INFJs will relate to the Ni-aspects of this video, as well as some of the Fi ones!

  • @derpsquad1o142
    @derpsquad1o142 4 года назад +326

    I came here expecting to question my INTJness... I did not expect to be explained better than i knew myself. Is there a specific place you get your information? Because whatever it is I want all of it xD

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +56

      Awesome to hear!!
      Haha, many, many case studies and continued application (and refinement) of CPT. Honestly I still feel the theory is at the tip of the iceberg!

    • @CE-do2vm
      @CE-do2vm 4 года назад +13

      You should consider buying his book 📖. I haven't yet but plan to.

    • @AishaYMusa
      @AishaYMusa 4 года назад +9

      You have described my reaction perfectly.

    • @IsaacVianaTapias
      @IsaacVianaTapias 4 года назад +6

      I found exactly the same here. I watched the video in order to confirm or not my INTJs, and I learned a lot about how my brain works and how I interact with the external world. Thank you.

    • @billbutton7669
      @billbutton7669 4 года назад

      The same thing happened to me with the ENTP video.

  • @jessenoreligionno5731
    @jessenoreligionno5731 3 года назад +16

    Just when I start to think I'm not actually an INTJ, I watch this, and question my questioning. Damn it!!!!

  • @celuthien
    @celuthien 4 года назад +52

    I'm highly envious of your eloquence.

    • @greatwavefan397
      @greatwavefan397 3 года назад +1

      It takes practice and reflection. I'm working on it, too.

  • @InternetLiJo
    @InternetLiJo 4 года назад +119

    Adapting our identity to what we are seeing in the future. Yes! Thank you for bringing this up. I’ve often tried to articulate this very intentional growth process, but it’s hard to translate. Our Te is really what makes it practical for us to choose, and our Ni is the understanding behind the why.
    I think it’s a subject that deserves additional attention. I’ll be marinating on it further.
    Thanks for your accurate representation!

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +12

      Thank you stranger!

    • @jahazielice777
      @jahazielice777 4 года назад +9

      Oh wow! Lijo is here!❤

    • @InternetLiJo
      @InternetLiJo 4 года назад +7

      Jahaziel Ice of course!

    • @P0WERS160
      @P0WERS160 4 года назад +10

      @@jahazielice777 My thoughts exactly 😂 It's like walking past a classroom during break and seeing your 2 favourite teachers chatting inside 😆

    • @jahazielice777
      @jahazielice777 4 года назад +4

      @@P0WERS160 I can't agree more!😂

  • @user-el6my6vi7p
    @user-el6my6vi7p 3 года назад +33

    the explanation of “cognitive introversion vs extroversion” is honestly very helpful. i can be the textbook definition of ‘social’ or ‘outgoing’ but the amount of time i’ve spent with internal rumination could very well outweigh that. i’m not sure what my type is given the very mixed results i’ve got but now i understand why that is so lol

  • @SilverIncense
    @SilverIncense 4 года назад +23

    I truly enjoyed this video. You've very thoroughly and intimately described the INTJ and why people mistype. As an INTJ, I'd like to express my appreciation and gratitude for you trying to dispel the stereotypical cold nature or lack of awareness of other people's feelings. It has bothered me for so long that people want to pin INTJs as immensely socially awkward or claim to be INTJ because they are emotionally numb and socially awkward.
    Your video is the best I have seen describing the INTJ. I will definitely check out your other content and already shared this video halfway through!

  • @Mina_Town
    @Mina_Town 2 года назад +30

    I started this video because I questioned being an INTJ for a long time, not finding too much myself on certain stereotypes. Now I’m 100% sure I’m an INTJ 😅 but it’s reassuring, on a certain level, it helps to understand more about how I work and do things, and that are other ppl that relate to it :)

    • @dominikmagnus
      @dominikmagnus Год назад +3

      I find that often people, who are questioning them being INTJ tend to be actual INTJs more often. I guess doubt is part of a job.

  • @jennsco77
    @jennsco77 4 года назад +53

    "...but you have also integrated that understanding into who you are." My heart leapt in my chest when I heard this. I have always felt and said one thing about myself: I am a work in progress. Your explanation has made it so clear that I am an INTJ. Moreover, your thorough explanation of how we integrate the logical understanding of our external worlds into our internal self has done me the kindness of making me happy to embrace and own the Type. I am not cold, inflexible, and opinionated. Rather, I am warm, strategic, and open-minded to new truths. A true INTJ, as you have described them.
    Markers for efficiency in my real life: I never make my bed or fold my clothes, and I always politely push for the most circuitous route when spending a day out and about with others.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +3

      Yes! Thanks for the great comment :)

    • @dakini80
      @dakini80 10 месяцев назад

      Can you post the authentic test I can take to retest myself please? So far in both tests I took I am still INTJ . Thankyou

  • @Hobart32
    @Hobart32 4 года назад +15

    This was a great watch.
    One thing I found particularly true is the overwhelming need for efficiency. I have often thought that if I worship anything, I worship at the alter of efficiency. That’s not a choice, it’s the lens by which Ni-Te-Fi-Se operates. The innate nature of observing, understanding, and eventually mastering systems means that an INTJ will see inefficiency glaringly. I can certainly relate to the distress that comes from working within a system that has inefficiency without management’s willingness to remove it. It’s torture, it’s demoralizing.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад

      That's a very interesting perspective and I thank you for sharing!

  • @K0nt4kt
    @K0nt4kt 3 года назад +21

    I have NEVER in my LIFE been so well defined. The number 3 - omg. WOW. Ive never been able to explain that to people so well. How I constantly plan who I should be to be best for current and projected future situations. Thank you SO MUCH

  • @alemon9727
    @alemon9727 4 года назад +51

    Nice video, althought I already passed through this "am I really an INTJ?" phase, I thought it was worth watching.
    The only point I need to talk about is the "authority figure" and "like rules" part.
    INTJs are very independents and like freedom. INTJs will only follow a rule as long as this rule makes logical sense. A nonsense rule (especially if it restrain INTJ's freedom) like "you can't go home before 11AM even if the class is finished by 10:30" will be completely despised and if they have an opportunity to brake this rule, they will.
    The authority part I would say that happens with more imatures INTJs or with poor developed Te. The rest will be cautious with people that didn't prove that they know what their credentials are saying they know.
    I would ask a video like this but with the INTP personality if you are willing to make one.

  • @reithreithreith
    @reithreithreith 4 года назад +18

    "Always on a constant transformation" Yes, this is it. I can't fully wrap around my thoughts properly since I'm always in this constant change that I can't hold myself down at times because I always have the urge to go broader and deeper.

    • @clevertheloner6008
      @clevertheloner6008 4 года назад +1

      pls my brain is hurting , i've had too much today .... someone tell me ; the things he's listing are the things i must not have as an INTJ ? or i must have 'em .... !!!!!!!!!

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +1

      For sure :)

  • @pinkyoshi655
    @pinkyoshi655 4 года назад +27

    Something about the way you pause is so reassuring

  • @obscurellepriscillatopin7506
    @obscurellepriscillatopin7506 4 года назад +23

    It's a tall order depicting the complexity of what it actually means to be an INTJ; masterfully done! You validated a lot for me here, plus explained some things about my past interactions at school, work, home, etc 😇 - I just hope you enjoyed putting this video together as much as I'm sure many of us INTJs enjoyed watching!

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +2

      Thank you as per usual! Haha, I actually did enjoy recording this quite a lot :)

  • @ThisGuy0903
    @ThisGuy0903 4 года назад +6

    This description is so intimate that I feel violated. Harry is very prepared and it is very noticeable how much study and research he has put into making these contents. Chapeau!

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +2

      Thank you, that means a lot! Haha, I never thought about it like that before!

  • @gborbe8342
    @gborbe8342 4 года назад +9

    This is very true! These are the things that I have a hard time translating into words. I've been mildly disturbed by a lot of inaccurate "INTJ" descriptions while I'm having a hard time trying to convey these concepts to other people, knowing fully well that they're just mistyped.

  • @pearlisn
    @pearlisn 8 месяцев назад +2

    the long pauses after sentences are actually genuinely helpful tbh ty for this

  • @cookergronkberg
    @cookergronkberg 2 года назад +3

    The awkward cuts mid-sentence are really quite jarring. One of the strangest things I've seen on RUclips.

  • @WackadoodleMalarkey
    @WackadoodleMalarkey 4 года назад +68

    I request INFP next if you want to continue along this veritable gold vein!

  • @Ritsukia
    @Ritsukia 3 года назад +44

    As an INTJ this video is scaring me how incredibly accurate this fits my way of thinking/processing. I feel understood; that's a really weird feeling but in a good way. :)

  • @KylevanRensburg
    @KylevanRensburg 2 месяца назад +3

    Me, an INTJ: Let's find out why I'm not an INTJ.
    Conclusion: I'm definitely an INTJ.
    But am I sure though?

  • @IgarashiSayaka
    @IgarashiSayaka 2 месяца назад +1

    10:30 You couldn't have explained it better omg, as an INTJ with a very developed Fi this is exactly how I feel, like I have a very rich emotional world inside me that only I am aware of

  • @lilywojciechowski9906
    @lilywojciechowski9906 4 года назад +19

    as an isfp I really appreciate the part in the beginning so much, We are so stereotyped and it is frustrating when people think we aren't intelligent or can't commit to anything - like I am highly disciplined (martial arts student) and have a BA degree that literally used only thinking skills, so come at me bro lol

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +2

      I often find ISFPs achieve mastery as frequently as their Ni-dominant counterpart!

    • @isfallingdown
      @isfallingdown 4 года назад

      You are the only other Wojciechowski I've seen on RUclips. (High five).

  • @urchicfashion1976
    @urchicfashion1976 7 месяцев назад +3

    It's a sign that you're an INTJ when you reject that you are one. Actually, INTJs can feel a lot too, but it can be uncomfortable if an INTJ gets stuck on Fi. NiFi seems too emotional for Te to digest unless we are healthy, so Fi is like a godsend to us. But I would say I can’t leave my head. NiTe is very strong; I wouldn’t survive without visualizing the future and wanting to live from a third-person perspective. I think most INTJs would also feel like they want to live their life as if playing in a theater, with everything planned out.

  • @jennifer9047
    @jennifer9047 4 года назад +9

    Well, I have learned new things: 1) this man's pregnant pauses are hilarious, but we need them to catch up because he talks so fast.
    2) I learned that Introversion/ Extroversion are not judging whether you're a social butterfly or not. They are styles of cognition. That blew my mind!!
    And last but not least, 3) There is now no question that I have an INTJ Personality. I am a true INTJ. Everything you said was like my MODUS OPERANDI for getting through childhood, school, friendships, college, dating, AND BEYOOOOND!!
    Thank you for the enlightenment, kind sir. 😁

  • @carolinechiu907
    @carolinechiu907 3 года назад +7

    Great video as always! I feel so understood.
    Now I know why I’ve always identified more with the stereotypical NF types...Being an INTJ is like having this perfect happily-ever-after Disneyland heaven in my mind while at the same time knowing so painfully well that what I envision and value so much does not exist in this world at all. I often feel so ashamed when I do something wrong(stupid), as if people are going to laugh at me, and I’ll be failing myself, however trivial that thing might be. And you’re so spot-on that we master things by ‘getting in the mood’ and ‘knowing the right feeling’.
    What I hate the most are 1.people thinking less of me 2.people downgrading, insulting, ruining my vision/plans 3.those who try to steal what I take pride in (never been so possessive of anything until somebody else tries to take it from me lol).
    Being an INTJ is not easy, but I think it’s all worth it in the end.

    • @carolinechiu907
      @carolinechiu907 3 года назад

      Btw as much as I’d like to synthesize things, I don’t think there’s a need to boil this video down, simply because there’s just too much nuances when it comes to describing cognitive functions.
      Keep on doing what you do Harry! I’m so grateful for having you in this community and no kidding I feel like this is going to be one of the most beautiful ah-ha moments in my life❤️

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  3 года назад +1

      Thanks so much Caroline!!

  • @aleks0_o879
    @aleks0_o879 Год назад +1

    im an INTJ and my best friend is an ISTJ. he asks if I wanna go fishing
    I decline and think to myself "thats so boring and passive..

  • @aceman5436
    @aceman5436 Месяц назад

    Harry, my hat is off to you, for me this was a personally the most impactful video I have watched on this subject. The transcript is extremely efficient and your style of presentation easy for me to understand internally. I was uncertain with most common descriptions of INTJ and never fully identified with it. You have REAL understanding of my internal thought process, more so than I have heard before. Its extremely frustrating to be able to quickly solve complex problems on many different subjects requiring deep thought, yet know so little about myself or other people in general. I have a very hard time with social cues or customs. Usually needing someone else close to me to explain why someone did this or that. I often feel very misunderstood, occasionally I find someone with a few things in common. It very nice to feel completely understood, everything you said is the cognitive motivation for a person like me. Thank you.

  • @latteARCH
    @latteARCH 4 года назад +7

    I feel like I've been read like a book. The amount of times I chuckled to myself because you explained things that I already knew but could never put into words!

  • @TheGreatCalsby
    @TheGreatCalsby 3 года назад +6

    I'm pretty sure I'm an INTJ. At 19:10, theres discussion about INTJs not being able to hand our emotions and identity over to someone easily. This was true for me, but I had to do it when I started counselling, and counselling really, really helped me.
    I constantly keep an eye on my identity and emotions, even before counselling. It took me a while to realise that handing my emotions and identity over to someone could be a good idea, because it was getting heavy dealing with them alone. For me, though, they had to be qualified - they had to have real academic and experienced practise.
    So, if you're an INTJ, and you're finding it rough managing it all by yourself, then... consider letting someone qualified take a look at your wellbeing. It could help.

  • @vizuz
    @vizuz 4 года назад +85

    There are also a lot of Esfps that think they are Intjs.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +5

      Ah, indeed!

    • @MrsCyImsofly
      @MrsCyImsofly 4 года назад

      I feel like you would be a good judge of that

    • @tofusamurai22
      @tofusamurai22 4 года назад +4

      @@user-wn9yj4ie7j I will say she has eye movement that seems very Se-dominant...

    • @17x71
      @17x71 4 года назад +2

      @@Rawwcj lmao, go tell her that under her comment here

    • @MCGamerD
      @MCGamerD 4 года назад +4

      My husband is an ESFP. He is an outgoing manly man, but he can be very sensitive. He doesn't like the way I say things, etc. and sometimes gets upset. We have to keep forgiving each other. I logic things out with him until he's had enough. Patience is love.

  • @nj3195
    @nj3195 Год назад +1

    I don’t trust brands or authority directly because those in institutions have a vested interest in keeping things the same regardless if research breaks the status quo.

  • @rodrigobrcl
    @rodrigobrcl Месяц назад

    "and observing logic as they do rather than creating it"
    that makes so much sense

  • @CrematedZebra
    @CrematedZebra 4 года назад +18

    I gotta say that I watched this with the expectation to have my identified type (INTJ) to be flipped over its head. To have to rethink what my MBTI type is. This video told me the opposite. The only thing I as a self-identified INTJ didn't identify with in this video was the perception of authority figures or hierarchies. I personally do not view them as a way of distinguishing trustworthy information from untrustworthy information, but rather as a higher expectation of said knowledge. When I talk to someone about something they are an ""expert"" in, I give their ideas/concepts far less slack, and am less forgiving when they present an opinion or theory. I found this way weeds out people who create absurd conjectures and hide behind the arrogance of being a PHD in said field comes with it, versus the people who are actually master/experts of the field or topic (who could also very well have a PHD). I must say this process/conceptualization forms from my anecdotal experience, because I've experienced first hand the shortcomings of authority figures who start to believe they're authority equates to competence. My 2 cents :p

    • @CrematedZebra
      @CrematedZebra 4 года назад +2

      Also, very well done video! not a single second in this video isnt useful, or insightful. Very nice

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +3

      Yes the authority point is one of contention! Perhaps there is some variance here (likely experience-relative), as there does seem to be a level of 'trust' from the information I have so far gathered. I hear you on the weeding though!
      And, thank you! Means a lot :)

    • @CrematedZebra
      @CrematedZebra 4 года назад +2

      @@CognitivePersonality Yes I would agree with you about trust playing a decent factor in this aswell. Skeptical is what I would call my position on authority, not to be confused with nihilism though. Keep up the great work.

    • @Norvi
      @Norvi 4 года назад +2

      Yes this one got me too. Thanks for posting this.

    • @blueraincoat4371
      @blueraincoat4371 Год назад

      Given that we do appear to develop our functions at differing pace, it could be argued that when Fi is not yet developed and life experience is limited, INTJ are quite likely to rely on authority and be trustful. Which also comes from divergence aspect: first understand. So if someone seems an expert in an area, especially one that is new to INTJ, INTJ would focus on understanding rather than being immediately ready to look for things to criticise.
      The other thing is survival instinct in the context of upbringing. INJT may feel naturally compelled to follow the rules to survive, albeit in awkward manner, battling internal conflict they are not yet consciously aware of (with occassional unexpected outbursts from Fi). I think other types my rebel in more outward manner or do not experience as much conflict and adapt more skilfully with their Fe.

  • @bossllama2193
    @bossllama2193 4 года назад +17

    When I tell ppl that I think in movies (full color, unique soundtrack, creative camera angles) they just kind of blink at me.

    • @SeanUnkown
      @SeanUnkown 4 года назад +5

      yup same. They'll never understand. The only person that gets me this way is my INFP brother.

    • @tsukkiswisscheese5023
      @tsukkiswisscheese5023 3 года назад +1

      Yeah sighhh

  • @sadiahtasnim
    @sadiahtasnim 4 года назад +15

    This is such an excellent explanation.The way you explain is so accurate.It's like all of me is described in one video.Again this is so much more accurate and relatable than the way INTJs are described/stereotyped by others.I really appreciate and enjoy your work

  • @anuisancecalledsam
    @anuisancecalledsam 7 месяцев назад +2

    Watching this video and listening to all the explanations and the reasonings made me feel incredibly seen and understood. I hate it when people just take the things such as personality types on face value and stereotype it and make it sound like the norm. It always rubs me the wrong way when people say incorrect things so confidently without never making sure if they are correct or not.

  • @teopetrea2130
    @teopetrea2130 5 месяцев назад +2

    And that's the thing with INTJ,the fact that you're not really sure that you're an INTJ.A lot of people just watch some tik toks with INTJ being alpha or sm like that and decide that they're too.They don't know how hard is to be an INTJ,how hard is to live in a world full of people that you can't stand,how hard it is to have a voice in your mind telling you that what you do is never enough and you need more and more ,how hard is when you can't understand other's situations and emotions so you continue to hurt them.

  • @yuuki2583
    @yuuki2583 3 года назад +24

    This is by far the best video on INTJs I have seen so far! As an INTJ I learned so much more about myself in this video, than I have learned over the past 100 hours I've put into researching MBTI. Your calm way of conveying this information is so superior to everything else I have seen. You created this very comfortable learning environment with the way you presented this information. I am definitely going to research more into what you have to offer. Thank you! 🙂

    • @martinsp90
      @martinsp90 2 года назад +2

      I thought the same of the way he present his videos. The pause between sentences lets me make sense of what he is saying, not like every other video that crops silence out of everything. So refreshing... We need more of that.

  • @IvyTeaRN
    @IvyTeaRN 4 года назад +7

    I cannot thank you enough for this honestly, browsing mbti reddit is an utter pain seing everyone misunderstanding how cognition actually works. "Hur dur, i am so productive heh my te is amazing heh feelers suck heh", i swear r/intj has become a circlejerk of who forcefully fits the stereotype more, even though everybody there is denying that. The insight you give with your videos is immeasurable and makes way more sense than anything else out there, thank you for that!

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +1

      It certainly sounds like it - I do find these communities to be full of mistypes.
      Thank you, I appreciate it!

  • @yasanduseenapatabendige9108
    @yasanduseenapatabendige9108 Год назад +3

    I just love to see someone understands my POV of the world. The things about Te efficiency and Fe blindspot is just so accurate. As a INTJ I always try to improve theories or systems rather than coming up with a totally new way. Also the constant self transformation and lack of confidence in our abilities is spot on. people think we are cold and not caring, but actually we care a lot about what others think or whether we make a good impression.

  • @smoothlyrough512
    @smoothlyrough512 Год назад +1

    When i start a new job at work, my brain is ALREADY trying to make it more efficient and i don't even know what I'm doing yet. It's like learn what I'm doing first, then optimize. My brain says no, we optimize now. And people look at me weirdly until i can do more than most in very little short time. It's so weird.

  • @jovynabong3858
    @jovynabong3858 3 года назад +1

    INTJ Ni-Fi Jumper here. I remembered how I described my identity when typed by OP Team. It was like a line of houses in a townhouse residential. All of the neighborhoods are concerned of how their grasses and plants in their lawns trimmed and designed, welcoming in the sensory, but mine is full of weeds, untapped, and messy. My house is totally different with its unpleasantry on the outside but is totally organized and neat the I way I want it on the inside, nonchalant of what is normally seen and accepted by people externally. This just means that I perceive what I want to see in myself and in contrast to how I want other people want me to be. I am in control of what to focus on my self-concept (symbolizes the weeds uncut in the lawn) even if I am thorny on their viewpoint. - - This is what you describe on the Fi spectrum. I do not hold too much grandiose on this type. What matters to me is my Fi values / identity which I think is what true INTJs try to protect the most in their cognitive stack.

  • @spacegirl1281
    @spacegirl1281 3 года назад +7

    I watched this video as someone who used to think they were an intj but is highly extraverted and mistyped as entj. I can't thank you enough for this explanation. It has honestly opened my eyes to why I do the things I do. I've met a lot of people who typed as intjs and after a while, I started to question my own typing. I tend to be able to understand where others might be coming from and I tend to empathize with them easily. That's not to say that I justify their actions or behavior. I can just imagine a "bad" future in which my own actions would lead me to their situations and I can imagine how devastating that might be. I would also say that the first part of the video opened my eyes to why it's so difficult for me to continue working on something if at any point I start questioning if it's actually "worth it". I'm very conscientious and I honestly find things I dedicate my time to extremely fulfilling. However, I have to pause everything if I ever need to reexamine the meaning of that activity.

  • @gwenperez7092
    @gwenperez7092 4 года назад +12

    My whole takeaway from this video: I am not an intj

  • @Raage.
    @Raage. 4 года назад +32

    6) You're an ENTP.

  • @PlutonicFriends
    @PlutonicFriends 19 дней назад

    The bit about divergent Te and synthesis is bang on the bulls-eye ! I’m so impressed with your work ..

  • @antistaticandi
    @antistaticandi Год назад +1

    When I was mistyped and searching, I used to think your theories were overly complicated and hard to follow because I couldn't fully connect my experiences with what you were saying. Then I finally figured out that I'm an INTJ, and I now realize you actually get it better than most.

  • @gallevran
    @gallevran 2 года назад +15

    My teenage son is an INTJ. I'm an INFJ and it took me almost a year to correctly type him, bc of how held back he is, and really a sort of a mystery, even for me as his mother AND obsessive INFJ 🤦🏽‍♀️🤭
    This lecture makes SO MUCH SENSE. Very useful information. Very professionally and modestly presented. Thank you 🙏🏼

  • @jkRatbird
    @jkRatbird 4 года назад +4

    Ok i need to vent a bit!
    That was a fun ride! I was LOLing and clapping in agreement and excitement, at the same time as i was assessing the danger of being so emotionally invested in my “Type” and the hubris this specific type implies, while also laughing at the fact that you talk about INTJs being overly invested in and defensive about their own personality, feeling confirmed by that, and so on and so on..
    At almost every step of the way i could very strongly relate to your description of an INTJ. Feels like mind reading at points since its such deeply personal stuff that is put into words with so great precision. On my last test i got INTJ with the T being close to an F, and after watching this, and also your INTJ vs INFJ video, I’m quite convinced I’m INTJ with a lot of practice put into social skills at an early age from being the mediator between my arguing parents. Its a great combination that among other things make me a very efficient pedagogue since I usually know WHY someone doesn’t understand something, and it drives me crazy to see how other teachers are punching in the air without knowing or caring to figure out why their explanation doesn’t work.
    

When you came to the part about authority my enthusiasm dropped a bit though, and i started to think maybe I’m not an INTJ after all. But at the end of it i think i just misunderstood you at first.
    I think the word “authority”, in the sense most people understand it, might not be the best word to use in this case. I get what you’re saying, and i think ultimately I match the description you are trying to give, but still I would describe at least myself as fundamentally very sceptical of authority. Yes, I read manuals cover to cover as soon as i get my hands on them, and yes, when i find a person with a deep well of knowledge that i care about I will dive right in. It’s all about that juicy efficiency. But still i think (maybe i just hope, you tell me) that most INTJs are aware that our supposedly meritocratic society is very inefficient, and that someone being in a position of authority is not equal to them being the most knowledgable, competent, or well suited for the role. I’ve been fighting with my teachers my whole life because if i could explain something better then they could, i thought it was my place to do so.
    To summarise , i would say that INTJs tend to carefully select their sources/mentors/teachers, which makes the use of the word “authority” (which to me implies something based on predetermined positions, ranks or titles) somewhat misleading. Maybe I just understand the word differently, or my experience differ from other INTJs (let me know). I would maybe rather call it a tendency to rely on external sources, and indeed a risk to become over-dependent on external sources. I think thats what you meant and if so i fully agree! Im happy you point that liability was still in the “abstract understanding” realm, and I’ll do my best to use it as an upgrade, thanks!

    Anyway, thanks for the video, thanks for reading this far whoever did that! Any INTJs, please listen to my album “Unfold Me” on bandcamp. I’d love some of your feedback :)
    Have a great day!

  • @Ireallylikeprismo
    @Ireallylikeprismo 2 года назад +3

    This is such a good episode! Can't wait to see this series about enfj! Its a diffrent bread!

  • @silverfox004
    @silverfox004 Год назад +2

    Thank you so much for explaining the functions of the INTJ. I'm female, and mostly just trying to do my best to be the best person I can so I can help others without losing my identity to what people expect of me.
    So when I did the personality test talking about a mastermind, future multimillionnaire... I just couldn't relate.
    This has helped me a lot. Thank you.

  • @ChronosChristianAeon
    @ChronosChristianAeon 26 дней назад +1

    As an INTJ, I'm watching this video at 5:50 AM. Why? Because I couldn't sleep and so I was like: Hmm, what does YT have for me today?

  • @andreagreenwood93
    @andreagreenwood93 4 года назад +17

    Very interesting video, different from the usual. You touch on aspects not often talked about, like controlling your own identity, knowing who you will become. I've sometimes also had an uncanny idea I'm going to change my mind about certain things as time goes on even though I haven't yet. Definitely don't want to delegate my emotions to others or let others have much influence over who I become- I've realized I also project this onto others though- I guess I expect them to realize their emotions and identity and path to happiness are their own responsibility 🤷‍♀️.
    16:45 reminds me of how I've come to realize so many "logical" debates people have stem from having different irreconcilable core values.
    And trouble putting energy into something I don't care about- I relate to that. I feel like I can do whatever I must do, but also feel I'm expected to invest in and care about so many things that, while I can't make the case these things are unimportant, they don't feel personally meaningful or interesting at all.
    Caution in putting forth opinions... That's also true for me, nice to hear because I thought I was an anomaly among INTJs in that regard. I think of so many things and try them on like a hat, asking could this possibility function as truth? I ask people "what if people did this?" questions and they think I mean "let's try this" or "I believe this," when what I really mean is, "What would happen if this were true? What are the implications?" Even for example free will- it's more important to me what the effects of believing or not believing in free will are, rather than whether it's actually true (which I've come to think probably no one can know and also depends on definitions).
    I'm not very highly opinionated anymore although I was more so when I was younger. I've even come to see there are less absolutes than I ever thought. But I do enjoy dissenting discussions or, less ideally, debates, because I like to get people to explain to me how they think. If they will.
    Narrow application of efficiency- definitely. Tunnel vision, and everything outside of it is sometimes an ignored mess lol.
    I've lost some trust in authority over the years, I now often feel the need to cross-check what an authority tells me with other sources and authorities. And rules- I don't like to break them for fun, and I don't like to pay consequences, but there are times when I have little respect for them if they are not conducive to the outcome I value, such as fairness. Rules to me are meant to keep things running smoothly and I don't attach much moral value to them.
    I love that you touched on Fi and empathy. I really try to empathize but it comes from cognitive understanding, it's hard to just put on the right face or say the cliche words to make someone feel better. Why is it so hard... It must mean more to me to be genuine than it does to actually make them feel better 😬. Sounds bad maybe, idk.
    How do you know INTJs so well as an INFJ? There's too many cliche memes and comments by "INTJs" about INTJs that are not quite relatable, this video was very relatable.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  4 года назад +1

      Thanks for much for sharing this!
      Hah well firstly most INTJs talking about INTJs are mistyped - my buddy chris at @asurapyche is an example of an actual INTJ on here though!
      I tend to get to know people on a deep level, especially my friends, but for a reason I can't quite fathom a lot people seem to have a harder type understanding types like the ENTP and INTJ than, say, the ENFP and INFJ.

  • @artisanrox
    @artisanrox 3 года назад +5

    The divergence discussion and the observation of logic were right on. I even noted to myself many times that I don't particularly care what someone's point is...i can bitterly disagree with them...but, if I find their choices/stances/etc logically consistent and sound I will at least respect you.

    • @artisanrox
      @artisanrox 3 года назад +1

      Also, cognitive introversion is EXHAUSTING.

    • @alfie8645
      @alfie8645 3 года назад +1

      YES.

    • @alfie8645
      @alfie8645 3 года назад

      @@artisanrox and YES the pull and tug is horribly exhausting

  • @fernwebber4829
    @fernwebber4829 Год назад +5

    This was interesting, because I was told by the person who typed me that I was probably an ISTJ but might be an INTJ. I actually did not particularly want to be an INTJ and was fine with my most likely result, but I still felt the need to investigate it further to make sure. The thing in your videos that both tripped me up, and ultimately helped me figure it out, was the bit about the self-transformative nature, always striving into the future vision of what you want to be. Because, at bottom, that did sound a lot like me: from a young age, I've always striven for self-improvement, and there was even a time when I tried to "make" myself into a copy of my favorite TV hero, MacGyver, because I didn't yet know who I was, and because whoever I might turn out to be, I couldn't be as awesome as that without changing myself (or so I thought then). And that sure sounds an awful lot like choosing an archetype and striving forward towards it... something INTJs are said to do.
    However. Even back then, I didn't really believe, deep down, that I had the power to make myself into what I wanted to be. I fought so hard to do so precisely because I didn't really believe it could be done. My identity was never completely within my control, or at least I didn't feel that it was. It was always, as you put it, "an immovable force pushing me forward," and when I finally admitted that to myself, I found a lot more peace. I am the way I am, and that has not, and probably will not, change much during my life. And that's okay with me... because who I am is enough as it is. I still strive for self-improvement, trying to optimize my strengths and minimize my weaknesses so that I can accomplish my goals, but I have accepted that the core of me does not change - and far from being limiting, that is actually a source of power and stability for me, because quite often all I have to do to know the way forward is to look back at what I HAVE BEEN.
    It's very interesting to me to learn that true INTJs feel that they DO truly transform themselves, instead of just adding layers onto what they already have. It's a real insight into how other people think.
    Anyway, sorry this comment was so long (and so late after the video was made), but if you did read it: thank you, Harry, for this video. It was very helpful to me, and insightful in general.

  • @danorris5235
    @danorris5235 3 месяца назад +1

    The INTJ mistyping and overhyping is fairly obnoxious at a minimum. It's difficult enough to deal with being perceived in a mostly negative light without a bunch of charlatans running around blathering about subject matter they don't understand with their negative qualities and problems now being associated with me when I did absolutely nothing to earn the ire and it has nothing to do with anything about me.
    People should knock it off. I've met more "INTJ females" than literally ANY other type. I find that to be outright laughable at face value.

  • @blossoms9503
    @blossoms9503 2 года назад +1

    Your intj videos are resonating. And people who I’ve asked help from, I find cracks in their logic but I’m afraid to hurt their feelings. It’s why I kept thinking I was infj but I want to make sure and be precise. It’s like I’m afraid to be wrong. And neither do I think I’m intelligent enough so when I ask for other people’s opinions to find the truth it turns out I don’t trust their logic either. And that I’m better off figuring things out for myself. But there’s that fear of being wrong.

  • @dk6071
    @dk6071 2 года назад +8

    Yes! Yes! Yes! 😍 Thank you! (I am an INTJ female.) I will need to listen 2 more times to feel like I understand everything you shared. I am not that fluent with cognitive functions yet.

  • @mohosny3365
    @mohosny3365 4 года назад +22

    Glad how the quality of your videos is increasing over time, keep up the good work.
    As for me, INTJ confirmed, I guess.

  • @obscuree2071
    @obscuree2071 3 года назад +3

    That point 4 about divergent thinking is right on the spot. INTJ is not a combative and confident person to give their opinions, rather often hesitant because, again, they're drawn toward the abstract (Ni) which is always open to possibilities on what's uncertain or without evidence.

    • @aikaanastasia9483
      @aikaanastasia9483 Год назад +1

      Yes, that's why INTJs have a tendency to come up with their explanations only at the end, when all their observations are pragmatically proven.
      However, the point is simple. The INTJ's natural role is observer. That's why they are called Introverted Perceiver.

  • @sashaoberlecollins2863
    @sashaoberlecollins2863 3 года назад +2

    What I loved most about this video is that it provides a solid grasp of the foundation from which the INTJ starts. It outlines in detail the cards the INTJ possesses. I’d like to see more videos outlining strategies and action steps that an INTJ may implement to leverage their cognitive functions to accomplish mastery and maximize their contributions to the world.

    • @CognitivePersonality
      @CognitivePersonality  3 года назад +1

      Thank you for this comment! Yes, that is an amazing suggestion!

  • @angelaharris53
    @angelaharris53 2 года назад +1

    The scary part is when I get so lost in my own head doing something mundane that I'll lose track of whole chunks of time. I can sometimes do this when driving which is really freaky to look up realize I am a good ways down the road with no idea how I got there because I've been living in my own head seeing scenarios.