I get to know people, i really get to know them , learn about them , psychoanalyse them , they reveal a lot of information, then they get stale , no more dopamine hits for me , then i get bored of people
Yes, i agree with what you are saying ! Up until my early thirties (!) i wasn't attractive to women at all. I was the glasses wearing, book reading, quiet, reserved, timid, caring, harmless etc. type. But i just thought that was being me, so didn't try to change anything about myself. We are constantly told to 'be ourselves !' But that's no good if it doesn't get anywhere. So i eventually decided to try changing my behaviour ( which in turn changed my thinking ) I learned, experimented, gained experience and made discoveries. I tried to keep an open mind and go for the things that worked for me. I think that in some families and other environments ( especially in the past ) there was a tendency to try and get people out of 'introverted' habits, being shy, timid etc. because it was seen as not being a good thing, especially in a man. Whereas with others, being introverted is supported ( when i was younger, parents, teachers and other grown ups would always be remarking about how good my quiet, reserved manner was.
@@MindfullyIsla The funny thing was, i liked my 'old self', didn't think there was anything wrong with it and resisted any thought of change ! The problem was it didn't work ! When i changed to doing things differently, then these new ways became 'me'. The ways that you do things are 'part of you', so it can be very difficult for some people to change, even if they are failing.
Some people arnt allowed to have fun, build character or confidence because people push them down because they can and build some feeling of being justified. And then you come around and further punish them, like you align with bullies, validate the outcome of their actions, maybe because you only care about who wins n who loses when it comes down to it, when there are no cultural pressures to root for the opposite way. Or maybe its to not also be targetted by bullies or even have protection from them
Ladies, (respectfully,) you don't have to be particularly attractive or have a really good personality. There's a reason why bubbly, "fun" women are universally loved even though they may not have the stereotypical attractive look. Just laugh at peoples' jokes, be lighthearted, don't take things too seriously, show interest in people, be warm and kind, stand up for the weak, have empathy(even towards men) and be compassionate, show men respect This is the female version of the "confident, carefree, dominant, affluent, generous, high social status, respected..." universally loved male archetype
The thing is, there are women ( and men too !) who believe that their glum faced, reserved, evasive, boring persona is 'being themselves', that they can't change or have the 'why should i change' attitude ? ( that is if they can see themselves in the first place ) Perhaps their upbringing is responsible or maybe they haven't thought about it and just think that it's everybody else that is the problem !.
You remind me of a grown up Lisa Simpson 😊 Your name is also an anagram of Lisa I really enjoy your content ❤ I am going to try out these techniques today 💪
I get to know people, i really get to know them , learn about them , psychoanalyse them , they reveal a lot of information, then they get stale , no more dopamine hits for me , then i get bored of people
Interesting, do you feel that you need to psychoanalyse them as a protection mechanism ?
LOL I do this too
Yes, i agree with what you are saying ! Up until my early thirties (!) i wasn't attractive to women at all. I was the glasses wearing, book reading, quiet, reserved, timid, caring, harmless etc. type. But i just thought that was being me, so didn't try to change anything about myself. We are constantly told to 'be ourselves !' But that's no good if it doesn't get anywhere. So i eventually decided to try changing my behaviour ( which in turn changed my thinking ) I learned, experimented, gained experience and made discoveries. I tried to keep an open mind and go for the things that worked for me. I think that in some families and other environments ( especially in the past ) there was a tendency to try and get people out of 'introverted' habits, being shy, timid etc. because it was seen as not being a good thing, especially in a man. Whereas with others, being introverted is supported ( when i was younger, parents, teachers and other grown ups would always be remarking about how good my quiet, reserved manner was.
I am so happy to hear you were finally able to find comfort in being yourself ! :)
@@MindfullyIsla The funny thing was, i liked my 'old self', didn't think there was anything wrong with it and resisted any thought of change ! The problem was it didn't work ! When i changed to doing things differently, then these new ways became 'me'. The ways that you do things are 'part of you', so it can be very difficult for some people to change, even if they are failing.
Some people arnt allowed to have fun, build character or confidence because people push them down because they can and build some feeling of being justified. And then you come around and further punish them, like you align with bullies, validate the outcome of their actions, maybe because you only care about who wins n who loses when it comes down to it, when there are no cultural pressures to root for the opposite way. Or maybe its to not also be targetted by bullies or even have protection from them
I strongly believe that all of us possess the power to overcome anything in life
How do you view personal magnetism? 🧐
Scary?
Ladies, (respectfully,) you don't have to be particularly attractive or have a really good personality. There's a reason why bubbly, "fun" women are universally loved even though they may not have the stereotypical attractive look.
Just laugh at peoples' jokes, be lighthearted, don't take things too seriously, show interest in people, be warm and kind, stand up for the weak, have empathy(even towards men) and be compassionate, show men respect
This is the female version of the "confident, carefree, dominant, affluent, generous, high social status, respected..." universally loved male archetype
The thing is, there are women ( and men too !) who believe that their glum faced, reserved, evasive, boring persona is 'being themselves', that they can't change or have the 'why should i change' attitude ? ( that is if they can see themselves in the first place ) Perhaps their upbringing is responsible or maybe they haven't thought about it and just think that it's everybody else that is the problem !.
Implying these standards applies to women and not just men and that STILL its easier to women to achieve them anyways
I am not too sure what you are referring to here
You remind me of a grown up Lisa Simpson 😊
Your name is also an anagram of Lisa
I really enjoy your content ❤
I am going to try out these techniques today 💪
@@DreamHopeMotivation thank you, for your kind words ! 🙏🏼
Update:
It went badly 🥺
The woman told me to stop staring at her and mimicking her 😩