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The words you choose to communicate relationship issues are so full of essence & meaning.This is such a noble act and must be calming down a lot of minds like me.
When one would breakup is clearly dependent on their ability to absorb pain. So well explained. Society is not in a position to understand. It is funny that when couple divorce with in a year of marriage people will say "you dont even know each other. Give it some time", if couples divorce after few years people will say "did you not realize the issues before? why did you wait so long?" and if it has been donkey years they will say "what is left now, why get divorced after these many years?".
That’s right... no one will ever understand or stand with you if they haven’t dealt with narcissistic person in their life. It’s very exhausting journey. Pl take care. Also listen to Dr Ramani’s RUclips channel for more knowledge.
How much suffering care I take and still feel good about myself? Well, put together. Here is another piece of advice after 20 years of marriage that went down hard. If your husband chooses his mother over you- run for it. This is very typical for Asian families. The amount of psychological abuse and pretentious culture will kill your relationship no matter how much you can tolerate.
See i won't judge you and I'm not even arguing with you.. I just have a question.. If there was not this tradition that a girl has to leave her house and start a new life with new family.. And you had the same option like your husband.. that is... your mom or your husband.. what would be your ans??
@@pratiklondhe3699 we should balance and give equal importance to both. But treating wife below than his mom is not fair, a girl never do so. These kinda issue is happening in many girls life.
@@sivapriyas4934 100% true.. this is the perfect ans I was looking for.. And also I'll say it varies from person to person and not between men and women.. There are few men who treat their wives as slave in front of their parents.. & on the other hand there are also few men who exiles their parents in some old age home just on a request of their wives.. So I totally agree whatever u replied.. everything should be balanced!
Thank you so much for your advice sir... It is the small scratches on my skin but in mind it seems like a fracture and i think main reason is my overthinking about things..
Things that make me feel like breaking up are like - 1. Intimacy(i am not ready, coz i am afraid that this relationship will also end cause in the past also my good relationships didnt workout, i am a bit insecure as i want to be fully involved only when i get married to the same guy). 2. Whenver we talk it turns out to be an argument cause our view points dont match on certain things and eventually leads to "end this relationship". 3.Once we had a fight on sharing of expenses, where he almost said that i dont pay equally to him which i kind of could'nt take and it led me to transferring him money to his paytm account and then we got back to normal but this thing still stays with me that he didnt transfer back which makes me feel that he doesnt love me enough like a soulmate that he cant even spend a little extra on me. 4. Sometimes i feel like not talking to anyone because of things beyond my control and secondly i wasn't ready for this or any relationship but i kind of thought about it and landed up with him but still sometimes there is this anxiety i feel that i will again land up being hurt and again affect my career as i am a CA Final student and i cant take it as my past relationships have affected me so much that my career got a bit spoiled because of it. So what to do in this case ?? Please help sridhar. Address my issues in your next video, it will be a great help to me. Thankyou 🙏
Monica, #2 and #3 are red flags. Please please get out of that relationship. It's gonna end in divorce eventually. Rest you're smart enough to understand what's right for you.
@@AK-mx4jo 3rd point where i mentioned expenses...i would like to add that we are students right now and making a career, he doesn't take even a penny from his parents and is finding diff. ways to earn himself (ofcourse by all fair means) as he is a CA final student too.. So i think that frustrates him a bit, so eventually it comes out on me. Secondly yes, that fight on expenses didnt come out of my mind coz i cnt forget what he said, it was a bit hurtful. And one more thing...he always says bad things about me in a fight like really bad and after hearing them i feel like why even is he with me when he has soo many problems but then he doesnt talk about breakup and puts it on me that i broke up. I dont understand this if he has soo many issues from me then why does he keep staying in this and when i breakup thinking it will bring peace to both of us...he says i quit, i give up etc. Like its very confusing....???
Most cases I heard that the men changes after physical relation. The middle class people face this a lot. The man doubts on her women. He cannot trust her and cannot break up. She suffers . . . .
Belittleing n scolding for small things to almost everything n showing disrespect n treating u like u r not needed except for money n physical intimacy n being indifferent to u wen u ask for help even vry rarely Although dats actually d other person’s responsibility too like how i hav been der all thru his problems although help was nver asked n not making u feel ever dat u hav someone wud b reasons for break up Although patiently hundreds of times its been conveyed not to yell or belittle but to talk normally,just d way dat person expects me to in any situation
This sounds very very familiar to me.all your efforts of comforting the person is belittled and mocked. You literally think thrice before speaking about anythng,as little as going for a walk, you have to very carefully chose your words when you are addressing any issue which will may or may not involve them.And you literally cannot complete a sentence while talking to this person even after you genuinely listen to their hour long monologue..it is emotional abuse in reality.look into the internet you will find your answers..dont know you can get out of not but at the very least you will receive some good clarity and YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM
I feel exactly the same. Feels like I'm not enough for her. Although I do everything possible but when it is her turn she goes out of limit and becomes a bomb blast on me
Just here to tell you that I watched your more than 50 videos since I got to know about your RUclips page. I found the content so meaningful. I have not come across any RUclips page in India that discusses such problems related to everyday life issues so well. Your presentation and research behind them makes it more credible and makes a lot of sense and is amazing. I watched your video on Boys locker Room Chat and others as well. I like your perspective to see things and observe them. You remind me of Jay Shetty in Indian context. All the very best! Kudos to you and your team :)
You helped me make very serious decisions in my life, thank you so much! I wish you could make more videos about relationship of couples and the decision to marry again after many years of loneliness.
Can personally vouch for the quality of your team's counselling sessions. They help you boldly look at every possibility both good and bad and think about which probability is the most by asking all the right questions. I've been to a lot of psychiatrists who were on edge and in a hurry to blame it on another person and chalk down medicines.
I somehow know that this video is for me..we realised that we were both looking at the scratches as fractures and getting too serious abt it..also decided never to talk of seperation again, coz we know what we have is rare..and now ur video makes me feel more confident that i made the right decision..a big genuine thanks to you😊
In the verge of giving up, sticking together for the happiness of my DS. My DS wants to see us together. No respect, no communication, always secretive addicted to his laptop and social media. When questioned even in a nice way, walks out of conversation. Feel sick having to take up home responsibilities, financial responsibilities and childcare. No contribution whatsoever. In laws don't care. Have made me alone by making my friends his. Feel miserable but sticking in the same house for my son's happiness 😞
A relationship is very important, understanding one another, respecting one another's decisions is very crucial, if you are not heard or not understood, it becomes really tough to continue. We all know change is inevitable, but when the person after 5 years does not match with the person of 1st year ,the promises, the dreams ,the wordings change ,its better to breakup. Commitment is important,without commitment one can not rely completely one person .
I think that I am restricting my partner and because of that, I wanna breakup. I am not okay with - 1) She staying with a guy (unknown guy, though he is a friend of her friend) for a week in the same room when going to college field trips. 2) She hugging guys. One part of me wants me to be okay with it and not make it a big issue, but the other part of me makes me feel bad about what she does (because of which I think, I am restricting her and it's better to leave her to enjoy her life the way she wants)
It takes a lot of strength to acknowledge your own misgivings. You may be right about wanting to breakup but Discuss with your partner.. let the decision be a combined one..
When efforts of one person is there, they're giving their every ounce but still getting abused n severe life long health issues, one must think and take the required step coz sometimes its good to apologise people without keeping them active in our lives. :)
When a person constantly lies and give false hope Everytime to fulfill his selfish needs , does not pay attention to your needs or expectation. Breach Everytime the commitment.
I'm in relationship for almost 4 and half years.. we both were really dedicated to each other.. had faced a lot of prbs but still we remain sticked to each other.. But things started to change this year.. there was a time when she used to say my possessiveness is my love for her.. care for her and she loves this thing that I'm possessive about her.. not like other guys who don't even care about their gf.. But now she feels all that possessiveness is ridiculous.. and she's complaining on every single thing of mine... even a small question is so frustrating to her.. Yes for her I'm always trying to change myself.. from day one I have always asked her about her opinion.. And still I do.. But one day she is so fed up and tells me that she has no feelings left for me and want to break up.. I was ready to change myself completely but can't handle to get apart.. Then she tells me that she has been cheating on me since 6 months.. And I don't have to tell you guys what else has happened between me n her.. bt now she is like let's start from 1st.. and she is guilty for it . Honestly I've loved her more than anything.. dreamed to spent my entire life with her.. I've never imagined she would do this to me.. I knw she is very moody.. I have always handled her mood swings.. all the fights.. but this is smtg I can't bare... But yes I'm ready to forget everything and start from 1st.. but do you think in this long distance relationship I can trust her again?? And what is the gurantee that she won't get frustrated from my questions to her in the future??? Like she used to get now?? Or should I move on??? But my feelings for her will always eat me from inside in future... That she was ready to change herself and was asking for a second chance but I refused.. What if she meant that?? And I rejected her?? And I'll regret myself by this thought... That she was ready to change but I rejected.. what if she was truly asking for it??? I'm at a very confusing state right now.. and I'm not able to decide what should I do.. Its about my whole life and feelings for her..
I think u have ur answer with you...i went though the comments section, u have tried to help a user (Ashish Shinde) on a similar problem..maybe u already know the ans to this, just need little confidence on it. Long distance relationships are challenging for sure..but there are people out there in the world who overcome this distance, come back together and grow old together too..their love has stength..loyalty has nothing to do with distance(my personal opinion). Rest you already have ur answer with you..just dig a little deeper. May god heal your heart.
@@tejalgangal5720 yes sister.. even I stayed loyal with this long distance.. but she didn't.. I asked to start from 1st.. but i honestly didn't feel she was willing to.. And I got my answers..
As much as you want to be with her...same should be from her side. You can try not thinking about this too much, relationship's are important part of life but not the only thing. Don't over analyse or justifying things. You can try by just taking some time and exploring new things and if this relationship will meant to be ok it will and everything will be fine.
Should a girl think of breaking up or not? 1) If husband marries her with an hidden affair and after knowing he apologizes and she accepts him 2) Then his upbringing is entirely different and slowly he starts pressurising her to follow what he says 3) He tries to cut out her social life completely 4) He'll be good infront of her and talks very badly using all sorts of foul languages infront of his family and siblings in her absence. Then after getting caught with a video proof.... Again he becomes very good and Apologizes her. What should that girl do ? If she feels .... Sometimes he'll be very caring and supportive and many a times he is a cheater. ?
This is narcissistic personality and please take psychologist opinion. This is not normal We have to understand our nerds as human beings and anyone violating those values and needs and concepts should be properly addressed
Thank you for the amazing videos, you even came in my dream ones..!!!!! I also think on parallel lines as you do............. your work is just very commendable..!!!!!! way too helpful.
When a partner is cheating or if he or she is deal breaker then obviously it’s high time for breakup or divorce. I feel efforts to maintain relationship should be from both sides. Thanku so much Shridhar. Your videos helping me a lot.
I'm in relationship for almost 4 and half years.. we both were really dedicated to each other.. had faced a lot of prbs but still we remain sticked to each other.. But things started to change this year.. there was a time when she used to say my possessiveness is my love for her.. care for her and she loves this thing that I'm possessive about her.. not like other guys who don't even care about their gf.. But now she feels all that possessiveness is ridiculous.. and she's complaining on every single thing of mine... even a small question is so frustrating to her.. Yes for her I'm always trying to change myself.. from day one I have always asked her about her opinion.. And still I do.. But one day she is so fed up and tells me that she has no feelings left for me and want to break up.. I was ready to change myself completely but can't handle to get apart.. Then she tells me that she has been cheating on me since 6 months.. And I don't have to tell you what else has happened.. bt now she is like let's start from 1st.. and she is guilty for it . Honestly I've loved her more than anything.. dreamed to spent my entire life with her.. I've never imagined she would do this to me.. I knw she is very moody.. I have always handled her mood swings.. all the fights.. but this is smtg I can't bare... But yes I'm ready to forget everything and start from 1st.. but do you think in this long distance relationship I can trust her again?? And what is the gurantee that she won't get frustrated from my questions to her in the future??? Like she used to get now?? Or should I move on??? But my feelings for her will always eat me from inside in future... That she was ready to change her and asking for a second chance but I refused.. What if she meant that?? And I rejected her?? And I'll regret myself by this thought... That she was ready to change but I rejected.. what if she was truly asking for it??? I'm at a very confusing state right now.. and I'm not able to decide what should I do.. Its about my whole life and feelings for her..
@@pratiklondhe3699 thank you for sharing .....in 'my personal opinion' i feel it's best you move on....it will be very difficult for you but belive me time heals and life goes on... hope you find a person who appreciates and understands you more better..... take care
@@pratiklondhe3699 appriciate your reply......just a suggestion....the day you are calm, go through all the pros and cons of your relationship LOGICALLY & in UNBIASED manner..... listen to what your heart and mind says.... would request you to give more importance to what mind says..... hopefully you will get your calling and decide.....wish you happiness, peace and love
@@pratiklondhe3699 your heart wants you to reconcile with her but your mind says otherwise....i also believe that love & care means forgiving... forgiving once but definitely not second time....i also believe mind has no understanding of love, which only heart understands.... your heart wants her back and she is requesting you for second chance.... please go ahead & both of you start fresh with open mind & hope for the best....but please remember..... give it a specific time frame to work out or leave graciously.....wish BOTH of you lots of LUCK, UNDERSTANDING & HAPPINESS
Sometimes I ask myself that question....reason why ita a long distance relationship and 3yr now....I'm a hard working woman with 2 job with 4 children....I'm the one always supports the man for this relationship.....I feel like I been used by him. He said if I give up on him with out completely come to join one another..hes going to be very sad...we always promise one another to love each other till we complete our documents so he can travel out from hes country....he even mentioned to me that I'm so important to his life????my question is why I'm so important to his life....??.
Sir,, u asked for sharing our problems in comment section, so here is mine. I hv been in realtionship, but he broke up 2 months ago, and the reason was that he said he has lots of suffering from relationship, which i nvr thought it would be., Not sharing his problems ever,amd at last vomiting everything n then left.. guys should explain and not b introvert.
I feel like giving up when my partner starts to become possessive like making 10 calls back to back or video calls. I start to feel he's keeping watch over my activities....which bothers me
See If you truly love him.. just give him some time.. there might be some reason he is doing such.. but if you are loyal you don't need to get angry.. stay calm as much you can.. let him take all his proofs.. you don't be obsessed with those things.. cause you knw you are loyal.. When he is comfortable that ntgs wrong.. he'll change himself by his own.. Just don't try to get rid of him due to his possessiveness.. Its just my opinion.. everything's your choice..
🥺 such a cute video 💪🏻 giving me strength to work on my relationship.....but the thing is my partner is not giving time to me ...... And even if I try to talk to him he always says harsh words that actually hurts me a lot ...but after some time he just comes and says sorry to me for he said to me ......... And he is also suffering from lots of problems in his family like not simple problem but huge problem ( he lost his father in childhood, suffering for job because left studies after father death, his sister has a child but still had a extra marital affair that's why she got legal notice for divorce, getting so much hate from his relatives )....but the main problem is this all problems of him I get to know from his frnd or family but not from him .....he doesn't share any problems with always used to tell that that's my nature i can't tell you..... But the situation you are frustrated because of the problem and I'm not acknowledge by the problem I'm also forcing you to talk to me because I don't know the problem that makes him more frustrating ....... 🙂 If he will not tell me the problem how I can understand him..... Recently he is getting so rude to me without any reason and asking for some time ..... I don't know what should I do the more I try to talk to him the mor eye get rude .... So confused what should I do....... He used to talk to me nicely in mrng and then rifle in nights like his mood is changing in few seconds...... Idk how to handle his mood swings 🙂🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ please help 🙂❤️
Christie Rozario • 23 seconds ago Х I followed the 'NO CONTACT RULE" with my husband after an argument.. and during that period he slept with another woman and asked for a divorce..
what if they lie about their past...lie about other few things? being a introvert...what if we are afraid he is fake r true? what kind of suffering is it?
I am seeking a councellor for our relationship problem, as she highlighted and i also realised parallely that issue is >>>> He is overdly harsh rude and insencitive towards me when i feel bad due to his rude & cold behavour on the contrary I am overdly sensitive.... so it comes to 2 extrems and nobody can change their core nature........ ideal solution would be if i learn to not be that sensitive and he shall learn to control his anger.......... but is it actualy possible to improve upon such qualities ????!!!!!!
I am in a relationship with a similar situation....... If possible ive a Q >>> "Astrologically we are a very Bad match, and I see those things happening, should we still continue." ..... if possible please take it.
I had fight with my husband in last March after that he blocked me from everywhere still he didn’t talk with me.m still suffering he is in abroad not able to go there...he want divorce but i dnt want...really stuck in this situation 😭😭😭
Times when a partner who listens his mother at times when he knows his wife is correct and wants to become his wife's "parents" along with hitting and abusing her mentally is something when divorce can be considered. I'm dealing with such a partner but still considering if I should go for a divorce or not.
I HAVE CONFUSION TO MARRY OR NOT , A PERSON WHO IS NOT EDUCATED (WHO STUDIED ONLY UPTO 10TH STANDARD WHERAS, I FINISHED MY POSTGRADUATE) MY WORRY IS NOT ABOUT HIS EDUCATION BUT THE WAY HE LIVES ,HIS PERSPECTIVES WILL IT MATCH MINE.
Sir I have been cheated by my husband since 6years he is with me and my kids but he in in long term relationship with a girl 10years younger to him . He is telling he needs a family but will not give up on relationship and planing to move out once kids are settled. Please help me how to overcome this situation. He is good to all but when it comes to me he is taken for granted.
My boyfriend lied about his past marriage and after 5 months of relationship, he told me that he was married and now divorced.. he says that he was afraid to lose me thats why didnt have courage to share.. what should I do?
do you suggest domestic surveillance cameras for married couple relation record to prove by the state police and judiciary authority about normal and abnormal married life suffering would you allow camera record backup record for bedroom also . suggest how to prove abnormal and normal in-house suffering in case of legal intrusions and police matters
I m being married since 10 yrs . My husband raised hand on me couple of times. After each sorry I forgave and continued the marriage. But recently within 6 months he did that again. Not once but twice. Now I m unable to accept the sorry anymore and giving up the relationship. I have a 7 yrs old daughter. But I can't stay back for the sake of child. Can you please comment on my decision?
@ L D.... "my personal thoughts"....any relationship needs BOTH, LOVE & RESPECT.... because of repeated incidents, i feel you have RIGHTLY lost respect for your husband.... and you are right to leave the relationship as first time is a mistake, but when it happens for second time it's definitely not a mistake..... unfortunately your daughter is too too young to understand and live with a single parent for no mistake of hers.... another request, please try to watch a hindi movie "thappad"....wish you happiness and peace.....tc
How about a relationship in which we set a boundary but the partner seems to not feel that the boundary needs not be respected and this pushing of boundaries causes the woman to lose trust in her boyfriend. How about future faking made by partner?
Hai srithar.. I have started watching your videos bcz it's really helpful to decide over confusions. Let me ask you a question that is going on these days in my life. Iam dating a person 2 months ago and we met few times also. Initially we are attracted to each other deeply. Even I was a person who doesn't want to get committed in relationships. But I became the person who loved him ❤️💗. I have experienced a lot of red flags that he might not having respect or love for me. Iam listing those signs here. My question is should I still be with him after sensing all these signs with him?? Disrespectful behaviors that I noticed. 1. Taking decisions without discussing with me. 2. Unresponsive to my texts or late replies. 3. Personal habits like alcohol without considering my words. 4. Telling lies. 5. Not considering my time and schedules. 6. Making you feel less or low. 7. Negative comments on appearance in a playful way. 8. Saying everything is my fault. Ignores why Iam doing this. 9. Telling a joke that hurts a lot. 10. Asking me to change.. or demands a change of who Iam.. 11. Insulting or making fun of my opinions or ideas. 12. Telling that something Iam doing is wrong. That's hurtful. 13. Calling me hurtful names in a playful ways like "poor memory" or "senseless girl". 14. Saying to calm down if something Iam seriously telling him. 15. Deciding to meet and then afterwards cancelling them easily. 16. Involving in my personal space. 17. Not listening to my opinions or ideas. 18. conversations that makes me feel bad about myself. Affects my self esteem. My life is more important for me and I have to be careful at the earlier stage. Pls give me a suggestion to think. Is it small scratch or a big fracture signs?
These all are so called scratches.. but it seems its bothering you like a fracture.. See if you think he loves you like you love him.. 1st discuss all your queries with him.. If he really loves you.. he'll definitely respect your feelings and your opinion.. But if he ignores it or that doesn't affect him.. then I don't think I have to tell you what you should do.. you knw what you have to do.. Just find your mental peace.. don't go running before your love if your not completely happy.. there is no point in it... Its just my opinion.. decision is all yours..
Girl just change your number and run away..these are genuinely red flags..it will only and onlu escalate from here..there will be a day when you will have to take his permission to even go down the next block to have ur groceries..he will not plan anythng wid u.if u plan a vacation or even a date.he will not giv u any certainty..and very likely to get angry if u try to impose it even romantically..he ll cut off ur frnds by somehow finding a flaw or picking up fyts..if you have time..just stick around and test the things i wrote..i dont know ur bf but i have been with such a man for 8yrs.now i am struggling to get out of an engagement..its surreal and painful
Married and having a 3 years old son. Partner is not transparent. Not interested in sharing thoughts. Not interested in listening. Not ready for savings or future plans. Not much done for son so far. But only few sentences he talk will look like he will be supportive and promising. Few false promises since wedding. Not very genuine. I could see him suffering not being himself most of the times. Too much of anger. Meaningless anger and have been violent as well. When his partner stopped defending anger violence reduced. Finding faults in every is and was in his wife's talks. Please help.
We r in relationship from 13 yrs and soon going to marry but my partner is now saying that he lost his passion and love for me.... His inner voice and that feeling for me finished...And he sometimes think that we should not marry.....Now I am confused because I love him and he is not sure now.... what to do
Hi Shridhar, its helpful. But how to tolerate the alcoholic husband nasty things against to the family for a long time years.. Is it right to take decision for divorce or still we need to think about it. I have two kids both grown up, and am facing this issue almost 15 yrs from my marriage, its really not fracture more than that.
I dont think one should know everyones life to understand what is relationship is..., right? At least for my partner he/she must feel I am the one. Thts it right?
my relation was going very awesome since last 3 yrs i never checked my gf mobile & trusted her blindly, but suddenly i came to know that my girl is cheating on me very badly i went in psychosis but i didnt wanted to leave her i forgive her n accepted her back but after that I have started doubting on her on her every single move im doubting idk what to do she gave me this suspicious behaviour how to stop this ?? plz tell me
Bro how you came to knw she was cheating on you??? She told it by herself.. or you got to knw it from outside??? Look if she has confessed it by her own.. just ask her what was the reason.. n look if she wants to continue it or not.. if she wants to continue.. make it very clear that from new start of you relationship you want each and everything transparent between you both.. if she agrees to it.. Go for a second chance.. But see if your saying you are doubting her.. then it's obvious bro.. the thing is that... Tum clear kar lo.. directly ye sab bata do.. ki you want each and every update.. you don't want any hidden things from each other.. Bro if she truly loves you and has changed herself now.. she won't be having any prb with it if she if guilty... But dude again if she is complaining about your doubts and insecurities.. Its better you leave her.. Find you mental peace bro.. you both won't be happy like that..
The only person who can TELL you anf clear your doubts is your partner..think ways by which she can convince you she has changed.that can be giving her phone number to you for a few days.or sharing passwords.giving you enough access which comforts you until you are ready to go back to normal..if she GENUINELY is trying to win you back or stay with you she will not have problms with givng u clarity..but do not wrongly accuse her everyday..bcz she will turn resentful towards u.try to have some empathy and you are a team..both has to be onboard with this idea..but trust me if you sail through this hardship..nothng can break you in future
Basic problem is thinking dat women n men r not equal n dat i shudnt discuss in few things n dont hav a say,wer as while dating things wer 360 degree opposite n cud nver imagine wat i am seeing now
My husband says he loves me a lot but don't feel physically attracted anymore and i should be okay with this, as we r good friends...... I feel undesirable and don't know how to take it... we got married 2 years back after 6 years of dating ..... I don't feel the same version of me around him anymore..... kindly guide me
When it is harmful mentally n emotionally when a husband from the beginning of a marriage going out of their way to fetch single woman to work n hv prefer only close secret female relationship being caught by the wife a few times till old age sending a few love song even to married woman sending special wording refusing to put a full stop disregarding the wife feeling hurting her to the point of asking her to go ahead n die! In such circumstances is enough! A man who refused to change inappropriate n unhealthy gesture. So it is better to leave instead of having to suffer time n again to the point of being suicidal
Girls , do think before marrying.. as.... Its always girl or woman who has to adjust.. what they simply say bande to esse hi hote ha .. n its only woman who adjust
My husband broke my hand in a verbal fight. my ulna bone was broken & i went into a surgery.... now there is a chip inside... please reply what i am supposed to do? i hv a 2 year son....he is not ready to leave him nor ready to give any alimony to me i cant stay without my son....
Dear sir, My friend's lover Loved her very much till now..but sometimes he asks her to come in video call nude or some parts to be exposed to her lover ...what should she do? He always looks after her like a child..but nowerdays as times goes on 3 years, he tempt her to do like that...he wants her to show her body off..but she doesn't like it (never) but ,she loves him very much but he is hurting her.. what's the solution to this? True love can do this?
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When a person continously disrespects about your genuine advises and your efforts, life does not feel enjoyable at all.
An authoritative partner, who controls almost every big aspects of your life. A person who makes you feel less about yourself and your family .
Silent treatment since marriage. Judgemental and speaking behind our back. We feel whether we need to stay or not.
The words you choose to communicate relationship issues are so full of essence & meaning.This is such a noble act and must be calming down a lot of minds like me.
When one would breakup is clearly dependent on their ability to absorb pain. So well explained. Society is not in a position to understand. It is funny that when couple divorce with in a year of marriage people will say "you dont even know each other. Give it some time", if couples divorce after few years people will say "did you not realize the issues before? why did you wait so long?" and if it has been donkey years they will say "what is left now, why get divorced after these many years?".
Dealing with Narcissistic partner, parents and in -laws
Nobody listen to understand keep judging every action make me feel worthless all the time.
I feel you. No one will understand what you are going through unless they have dealt with a narcissist. I have and it's so abusive and traumatic
That’s right... no one will ever understand or stand with you if they haven’t dealt with narcissistic person in their life. It’s very exhausting journey. Pl take care. Also listen to Dr Ramani’s RUclips channel for more knowledge.
I’m going through the exact same thing ..
@@amrutapatil3841 you can do this focus all attention inward on yourself and value you and your opinion.
Inability of partner to listen keeping preconceived notions aside, even after putting in a lot of effort.
How much suffering care I take and still feel good about myself? Well, put together. Here is another piece of advice after 20 years of marriage that went down hard. If your husband chooses his mother over you- run for it. This is very typical for Asian families. The amount of psychological abuse and pretentious culture will kill your relationship no matter how much you can tolerate.
See i won't judge you and I'm not even arguing with you..
I just have a question..
If there was not this tradition that a girl has to leave her house and start a new life with new family..
And you had the same option like your husband.. that is...
your mom or your husband.. what would be your ans??
@@pratiklondhe3699 we should balance and give equal importance to both. But treating wife below than his mom is not fair, a girl never do so. These kinda issue is happening in many girls life.
@@sivapriyas4934 100% true.. this is the perfect ans I was looking for..
And also I'll say it varies from person to person and not between men and women..
There are few men who treat their wives as slave in front of their parents.. & on the other hand there are also few men who exiles their parents in some old age home just on a request of their wives..
So I totally agree whatever u replied.. everything should be balanced!
Thank you so much for your advice sir... It is the small scratches on my skin but in mind it seems like a fracture and i think main reason is my overthinking about things..
You are so young and wise. Thanks for all the knowledge.
Such a mind blowing and transparent discussion...such an wonderful vision of lyf has taught me to see lyf in a diff angle...thank you bhaia😊
Marathi person
This guy is just wawoo. I get amazed by his wisdom 🙌
God bless you, Shridharji❤️
Things that make me feel like breaking up are like -
1. Intimacy(i am not ready, coz i am afraid that this relationship will also end cause in the past also my good relationships didnt workout, i am a bit insecure as i want to be fully involved only when i get married to the same guy).
2. Whenver we talk it turns out to be an argument cause our view points dont match on certain things and eventually leads to "end this relationship".
3.Once we had a fight on sharing of expenses, where he almost said that i dont pay equally to him which i kind of could'nt take and it led me to transferring him money to his paytm account and then we got back to normal but this thing still stays with me that he didnt transfer back which makes me feel that he doesnt love me enough like a soulmate that he cant even spend a little extra on me.
4. Sometimes i feel like not talking to anyone because of things beyond my control and secondly i wasn't ready for this or any relationship but i kind of thought about it and landed up with him but still sometimes there is this anxiety i feel that i will again land up being hurt and again affect my career as i am a CA Final student and i cant take it as my past relationships have affected me so much that my career got a bit spoiled because of it.
So what to do in this case ?? Please help sridhar. Address my issues in your next video, it will be a great help to me. Thankyou 🙏
Why is this so relatable? I can understand you here. Because I'm kinda in the same boat. All the points I can totally relate.
Monica, #2 and #3 are red flags. Please please get out of that relationship. It's gonna end in divorce eventually. Rest you're smart enough to understand what's right for you.
@@Dhullgarima i hope you find peace soon!
@@AK-mx4jo 3rd point where i mentioned expenses...i would like to add that we are students right now and making a career, he doesn't take even a penny from his parents and is finding diff. ways to earn himself (ofcourse by all fair means) as he is a CA final student too.. So i think that frustrates him a bit, so eventually it comes out on me. Secondly yes, that fight on expenses didnt come out of my mind coz i cnt forget what he said, it was a bit hurtful.
And one more thing...he always says bad things about me in a fight like really bad and after hearing them i feel like why even is he with me when he has soo many problems but then he doesnt talk about breakup and puts it on me that i broke up. I dont understand this if he has soo many issues from me then why does he keep staying in this and when i breakup thinking it will bring peace to both of us...he says i quit, i give up etc. Like its very confusing....???
Please address this issue @sridharMaheswari
Most cases I heard that the men changes after physical relation. The middle class people face this a lot. The man doubts on her women. He cannot trust her and cannot break up. She suffers . . . .
Belittleing n scolding for small things to almost everything n showing disrespect n treating u like u r not needed except for money n physical intimacy n being indifferent to u wen u ask for help even vry rarely Although dats actually d other person’s responsibility too like how i hav been der all thru his problems although help was nver asked n not making u feel ever dat u hav someone wud b reasons for break up
Although patiently hundreds of times its been conveyed not to yell or belittle but to talk normally,just d way dat person expects me to in any situation
This sounds very very familiar to me.all your efforts of comforting the person is belittled and mocked. You literally think thrice before speaking about anythng,as little as going for a walk, you have to very carefully chose your words when you are addressing any issue which will may or may not involve them.And you literally cannot complete a sentence while talking to this person even after you genuinely listen to their hour long monologue..it is emotional abuse in reality.look into the internet you will find your answers..dont know you can get out of not but at the very least you will receive some good clarity and YOU ARE NOT THE PROBLEM
I feel exactly the same. Feels like I'm not enough for her. Although I do everything possible but when it is her turn she goes out of limit and becomes a bomb blast on me
Just here to tell you that I watched your more than 50 videos since I got to know about your RUclips page. I found the content so meaningful. I have not come across any RUclips page in India that discusses such problems related to everyday life issues so well. Your presentation and research behind them makes it more credible and makes a lot of sense and is amazing. I watched your video on Boys locker Room Chat and others as well. I like your perspective to see things and observe them. You remind me of Jay Shetty in Indian context. All the very best! Kudos to you and your team :)
You helped me make very serious decisions in my life, thank you so much!
I wish you could make more videos about relationship of couples and the decision to marry again after many years of loneliness.
He did PHD in relationships 😭😭
You are solving society's Problems
The ways which tells me to breakup is the not giving time
Love from Saudi Arabia
You method of speech is magnetic the words peirce in ones soul
Love you dear
Because he is talking about the structure of life which people don't even recognize that they r in it
Can personally vouch for the quality of your team's counselling sessions. They help you boldly look at every possibility both good and bad and think about which probability is the most by asking all the right questions. I've been to a lot of psychiatrists who were on edge and in a hurry to blame it on another person and chalk down medicines.
Being disrespected and taunted every time by my husbands family and he keeping quiet 🤐 😞
Please Discuss it Well. Be strong Sister. Keep Your Independence.
Thank you Sir.. Changes my perspective of life.. Really Thankful to you. 💜
Great video, Sridhar✅️🤝
I somehow know that this video is for me..we realised that we were both looking at the scratches as fractures and getting too serious abt it..also decided never to talk of seperation again, coz we know what we have is rare..and now ur video makes me feel more confident that i made the right decision..a big genuine thanks to you😊
Good Job Shri! I shared it people who needed to hear this.
In the verge of giving up, sticking together for the happiness of my DS. My DS wants to see us together. No respect, no communication, always secretive addicted to his laptop and social media. When questioned even in a nice way, walks out of conversation. Feel sick having to take up home responsibilities, financial responsibilities and childcare. No contribution whatsoever. In laws don't care. Have made me alone by making my friends his. Feel miserable but sticking in the same house for my son's happiness 😞
Ok you have done this...saw you doing couple of times...i don't want to give you any more you are cut off from getting it
A relationship is very important, understanding one another, respecting one another's decisions is very crucial, if you are not heard or not understood, it becomes really tough to continue. We all know change is inevitable, but when the person after 5 years does not match with the person of 1st year ,the promises, the dreams ,the wordings change ,its better to breakup. Commitment is important,without commitment one can not rely completely one person .
Yes! Sharing knowledge is key!
I think that I am restricting my partner and because of that, I wanna breakup.
I am not okay with -
1) She staying with a guy (unknown guy, though he is a friend of her friend) for a week in the same room when going to college field trips.
2) She hugging guys.
One part of me wants me to be okay with it and not make it a big issue, but the other part of me makes me feel bad about what she does (because of which I think, I am restricting her and it's better to leave her to enjoy her life the way she wants)
It takes a lot of strength to acknowledge your own misgivings. You may be right about wanting to breakup but Discuss with your partner.. let the decision be a combined one..
You are a very good person..
😂😂tapa tap tapa tap
When efforts of one person is there, they're giving their every ounce but still getting abused n severe life long health issues, one must think and take the required step coz sometimes its good to apologise people without keeping them active in our lives. :)
take care....
When a person constantly lies and give false hope Everytime to fulfill his selfish needs , does not pay attention to your needs or expectation. Breach Everytime the commitment.
@@pragyan63 sometimes it's ok to apologise people without keeping them active in our lives:)
Hi Sridhar, petty issues have been extremely exaggerated to entire family and relatives and now feeling insulted and giving up to move on.
Very well explained ,Thank you very much ,helps to understand our own situations in a more rational manner
I'm in relationship for almost 4 and half years.. we both were really dedicated to each other.. had faced a lot of prbs but still we remain sticked to each other..
But things started to change this year.. there was a time when she used to say my possessiveness is my love for her.. care for her and she loves this thing that I'm possessive about her.. not like other guys who don't even care about their gf..
But now she feels all that possessiveness is ridiculous.. and she's complaining on every single thing of mine... even a small question is so frustrating to her..
Yes for her I'm always trying to change myself.. from day one I have always asked her about her opinion..
And still I do..
But one day she is so fed up and tells me that she has no feelings left for me and want to break up..
I was ready to change myself completely but can't handle to get apart..
Then she tells me that she has been cheating on me since 6 months..
And I don't have to tell you guys what else has happened between me n her.. bt now she is like let's start from 1st.. and she is guilty for it .
Honestly I've loved her more than anything.. dreamed to spent my entire life with her.. I've never imagined she would do this to me..
I knw she is very moody.. I have always handled her mood swings.. all the fights.. but this is smtg I can't bare...
But yes I'm ready to forget everything and start from 1st.. but do you think in this long distance relationship I can trust her again?? And what is the gurantee that she won't get frustrated from my questions to her in the future??? Like she used to get now??
Or should I move on??? But my feelings for her will always eat me from inside in future...
That she was ready to change herself and was asking for a second chance but I refused..
What if she meant that?? And I rejected her?? And I'll regret myself by this thought...
That she was ready to change but I rejected.. what if she was truly asking for it???
I'm at a very confusing state right now.. and I'm not able to decide what should I do..
Its about my whole life and feelings for her..
I think u have ur answer with you...i went though the comments section, u have tried to help a user (Ashish Shinde) on a similar problem..maybe u already know the ans to this, just need little confidence on it.
Long distance relationships are challenging for sure..but there are people out there in the world who overcome this distance, come back together and grow old together too..their love has stength..loyalty has nothing to do with distance(my personal opinion).
Rest you already have ur answer with you..just dig a little deeper. May god heal your heart.
@@tejalgangal5720 yes sister.. even I stayed loyal with this long distance.. but she didn't..
I asked to start from 1st.. but i honestly didn't feel she was willing to..
And I got my answers..
U already taken the decision stick to that..don't look back... Don't waste ur time on who are not qualified
As much as you want to be with her...same should be from her side.
You can try not thinking about this too much, relationship's are important part of life but not the only thing. Don't over analyse or justifying things. You can try by just taking some time and exploring new things and if this relationship will meant to be ok it will and everything will be fine.
Give your best once again, if it's not working properly. Then it's time to leave.
Should a girl think of breaking up or not?
1) If husband marries her with an hidden affair and after knowing he apologizes and she accepts him
2) Then his upbringing is entirely different and slowly he starts pressurising her to follow what he says
3) He tries to cut out her social life completely
4) He'll be good infront of her and talks very badly using all sorts of foul languages infront of his family and siblings in her absence. Then after getting caught with a video proof.... Again he becomes very good and Apologizes her.
What should that girl do ? If she feels .... Sometimes he'll be very caring and supportive and many a times he is a cheater. ?
This is narcissistic personality and please take psychologist opinion. This is not normal We have to understand our nerds as human beings and anyone violating those values and needs and concepts should be properly addressed
I wanted to become a life coach like you. From where should I get started?
Excellent guiding for life👍
Very thankful to you 🤗
Wonderful message...so informative... thank you 😊👍
Thank you for the amazing videos, you even came in my dream ones..!!!!! I also think on parallel lines as you do............. your work is just very commendable..!!!!!! way too helpful.
Very Painful Problems
I love watching your videos
These help me so much
Thanks for this video. It's really helpful
I feel good...🤗🤗 listening to..uu
Much needed advice, thank you
When a partner is cheating or if he or she is deal breaker then obviously it’s high time for breakup or divorce. I feel efforts to maintain relationship should be from both sides.
Thanku so much Shridhar. Your videos helping me a lot.
well said....take care
I'm in relationship for almost 4 and half years.. we both were really dedicated to each other.. had faced a lot of prbs but still we remain sticked to each other..
But things started to change this year.. there was a time when she used to say my possessiveness is my love for her.. care for her and she loves this thing that I'm possessive about her.. not like other guys who don't even care about their gf..
But now she feels all that possessiveness is ridiculous.. and she's complaining on every single thing of mine... even a small question is so frustrating to her..
Yes for her I'm always trying to change myself.. from day one I have always asked her about her opinion..
And still I do..
But one day she is so fed up and tells me that she has no feelings left for me and want to break up..
I was ready to change myself completely but can't handle to get apart..
Then she tells me that she has been cheating on me since 6 months..
And I don't have to tell you what else has happened.. bt now she is like let's start from 1st.. and she is guilty for it .
Honestly I've loved her more than anything.. dreamed to spent my entire life with her.. I've never imagined she would do this to me..
I knw she is very moody.. I have always handled her mood swings.. all the fights.. but this is smtg I can't bare...
But yes I'm ready to forget everything and start from 1st.. but do you think in this long distance relationship I can trust her again?? And what is the gurantee that she won't get frustrated from my questions to her in the future??? Like she used to get now??
Or should I move on??? But my feelings for her will always eat me from inside in future...
That she was ready to change her and asking for a second chance but I refused..
What if she meant that?? And I rejected her?? And I'll regret myself by this thought...
That she was ready to change but I rejected.. what if she was truly asking for it???
I'm at a very confusing state right now.. and I'm not able to decide what should I do..
Its about my whole life and feelings for her..
@@pratiklondhe3699 thank you for sharing .....in 'my personal opinion' i feel it's best you move on....it will be very difficult for you but belive me time heals and life goes on... hope you find a person who appreciates and understands you more better..... take care
@@pratiklondhe3699 appriciate your reply......just a suggestion....the day you are calm, go through all the pros and cons of your relationship LOGICALLY & in UNBIASED manner..... listen to what your heart and mind says.... would request you to give more importance to what mind says..... hopefully you will get your calling and decide.....wish you happiness, peace and love
@@pratiklondhe3699 your heart wants you to reconcile with her but your mind says otherwise....i also believe that love & care means forgiving... forgiving once but definitely not second time....i also believe mind has no understanding of love, which only heart understands.... your heart wants her back and she is requesting you for second chance.... please go ahead & both of you start fresh with open mind & hope for the best....but please remember..... give it a specific time frame to work out or leave graciously.....wish BOTH of you lots of LUCK, UNDERSTANDING & HAPPINESS
Sometimes I ask myself that question....reason why ita a long distance relationship and 3yr now....I'm a hard working woman with 2 job with 4 children....I'm the one always supports the man for this relationship.....I feel like I been used by him. He said if I give up on him with out completely come to join one another..hes going to be very sad...we always promise one another to love each other till we complete our documents so he can travel out from hes country....he even mentioned to me that I'm so important to his life????my question is why I'm so important to his life....??.
Sir,, u asked for sharing our problems in comment section, so here is mine.
I hv been in realtionship, but he broke up 2 months ago, and the reason was that he said he has lots of suffering from relationship, which i nvr thought it would be., Not sharing his problems ever,amd at last vomiting everything n then left.. guys should explain and not b introvert.
I feel like giving up when my partner starts to become possessive like making 10 calls back to back or video calls. I start to feel he's keeping watch over my activities....which bothers me
See If you truly love him.. just give him some time.. there might be some reason he is doing such.. but if you are loyal you don't need to get angry.. stay calm as much you can.. let him take all his proofs.. you don't be obsessed with those things.. cause you knw you are loyal..
When he is comfortable that ntgs wrong.. he'll change himself by his own..
Just don't try to get rid of him due to his possessiveness..
Its just my opinion.. everything's your choice..
He must respect your personal space.
Let him know that!
🥺 such a cute video 💪🏻 giving me strength to work on my relationship.....but the thing is my partner is not giving time to me ...... And even if I try to talk to him he always says harsh words that actually hurts me a lot ...but after some time he just comes and says sorry to me for he said to me ......... And he is also suffering from lots of problems in his family like not simple problem but huge problem ( he lost his father in childhood, suffering for job because left studies after father death, his sister has a child but still had a extra marital affair that's why she got legal notice for divorce, getting so much hate from his relatives )....but the main problem is this all problems of him I get to know from his frnd or family but not from him .....he doesn't share any problems with always used to tell that that's my nature i can't tell you..... But the situation you are frustrated because of the problem and I'm not acknowledge by the problem I'm also forcing you to talk to me because I don't know the problem that makes him more frustrating ....... 🙂 If he will not tell me the problem how I can understand him..... Recently he is getting so rude to me without any reason and asking for some time ..... I don't know what should I do the more I try to talk to him the mor eye get rude .... So confused what should I do....... He used to talk to me nicely in mrng and then rifle in nights like his mood is changing in few seconds...... Idk how to handle his mood swings 🙂🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ please help 🙂❤️
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I followed the 'NO CONTACT RULE" with my husband after an argument.. and during that period he slept with another woman and asked for a divorce..
Thug life😂
what if they lie about their past...lie about other few things? being a introvert...what if we are afraid he is fake r true? what kind of suffering is it?
I am seeking a councellor for our relationship problem, as she highlighted and i also realised parallely that issue is >>>> He is overdly harsh rude and insencitive towards me when i feel bad due to his rude & cold behavour on the contrary I am overdly sensitive.... so it comes to 2 extrems and nobody can change their core nature........ ideal solution would be if i learn to not be that sensitive and he shall learn to control his anger.......... but is it actualy possible to improve upon such qualities ????!!!!!!
I am in a relationship with a similar situation....... If possible ive a Q >>> "Astrologically we are a very Bad match, and I see those things happening, should we still continue." ..... if possible please take it.
What if a Husband does not communicate for 5 months should she prolong with this guy or move on
Sir.... Please tell me...Is better alone to live?... Instead of dealing with people.....
I had fight with my husband in last March after that he blocked me from everywhere still he didn’t talk with me.m still suffering he is in abroad not able to go there...he want divorce but i dnt want...really stuck in this situation 😭😭😭
You are extremely insightful.
I have a question in response to your one question. But should someone choose suffering, whether it's seems small or big?
One issue is not been given enough money for house groceries. 2nd not considered my clothes important I've never received money atleast for festival.
Times when a partner who listens his mother at times when he knows his wife is correct and wants to become his wife's "parents" along with hitting and abusing her mentally is something when divorce can be considered. I'm dealing with such a partner but still considering if I should go for a divorce or not.
You are a Maestro!
I HAVE CONFUSION TO MARRY OR NOT , A PERSON WHO IS NOT EDUCATED (WHO STUDIED ONLY UPTO 10TH STANDARD WHERAS, I FINISHED MY POSTGRADUATE) MY WORRY IS NOT ABOUT HIS EDUCATION BUT THE WAY HE LIVES ,HIS PERSPECTIVES WILL IT MATCH MINE.
Each and every view you covered...m
Very useful video 👍👍👍
Sir I have been cheated by my husband since 6years he is with me and my kids but he in in long term relationship with a girl 10years younger to him . He is telling he needs a family but will not give up on relationship and planing to move out once kids are settled. Please help me how to overcome this situation. He is good to all but when it comes to me he is taken for granted.
Great video
My boyfriend lied about his past marriage and after 5 months of relationship, he told me that he was married and now divorced.. he says that he was afraid to lose me thats why didnt have courage to share.. what should I do?
do you suggest domestic surveillance cameras for married couple relation record to prove by the state police and judiciary authority about normal and abnormal married life suffering would you allow camera record backup record for bedroom also . suggest how to prove abnormal and normal in-house suffering in case of legal intrusions and police matters
Normal suffering ?? I think endurance would be a better term to replace "normal suffering "
I m being married since 10 yrs . My husband raised hand on me couple of times. After each sorry I forgave and continued the marriage. But recently within 6 months he did that again. Not once but twice. Now I m unable to accept the sorry anymore and giving up the relationship. I have a 7 yrs old daughter. But I can't stay back for the sake of child. Can you please comment on my decision?
@ L D.... "my personal thoughts"....any relationship needs BOTH, LOVE & RESPECT.... because of repeated incidents, i feel you have RIGHTLY lost respect for your husband.... and you are right to leave the relationship as first time is a mistake, but when it happens for second time it's definitely not a mistake..... unfortunately your daughter is too too young to understand and live with a single parent for no mistake of hers.... another request, please try to watch a hindi movie "thappad"....wish you happiness and peace.....tc
You have made the right decision, a little late but better late than never. I wish you well.
How about a relationship in which we set a boundary but the partner seems to not feel that the boundary needs not be respected and this pushing of boundaries causes the woman to lose trust in her boyfriend.
How about future faking made by partner?
Keep on threatening about divorcing..
Hai srithar.. I have started watching your videos bcz it's really helpful to decide over confusions.
Let me ask you a question that is going on these days in my life.
Iam dating a person 2 months ago and we met few times also. Initially we are attracted to each other deeply. Even I was a person who doesn't want to get committed in relationships. But I became the person who loved him ❤️💗. I have experienced a lot of red flags that he might not having respect or love for me. Iam listing those signs here. My question is should I still be with him after sensing all these signs with him??
Disrespectful behaviors that I noticed.
1. Taking decisions without discussing with me.
2. Unresponsive to my texts or late replies.
3. Personal habits like alcohol without considering my words.
4. Telling lies.
5. Not considering my time and schedules.
6. Making you feel less or low.
7. Negative comments on appearance in a playful way.
8. Saying everything is my fault. Ignores why Iam doing this.
9. Telling a joke that hurts a lot.
10. Asking me to change.. or demands a change of who Iam..
11. Insulting or making fun of my opinions or ideas.
12. Telling that something Iam doing is wrong. That's hurtful.
13. Calling me hurtful names in a playful ways like "poor memory" or "senseless girl".
14. Saying to calm down if something Iam seriously telling him.
15. Deciding to meet and then afterwards cancelling them easily.
16. Involving in my personal space.
17. Not listening to my opinions or ideas.
18. conversations that makes me feel bad about myself. Affects my self esteem.
My life is more important for me and I have to be careful at the earlier stage. Pls give me a suggestion to think. Is it small scratch or a big fracture signs?
These all are so called scratches.. but it seems its bothering you like a fracture..
See if you think he loves you like you love him.. 1st discuss all your queries with him..
If he really loves you.. he'll definitely respect your feelings and your opinion..
But if he ignores it or that doesn't affect him.. then I don't think I have to tell you what you should do.. you knw what you have to do..
Just find your mental peace.. don't go running before your love if your not completely happy.. there is no point in it...
Its just my opinion.. decision is all yours..
Girl just change your number and run away..these are genuinely red flags..it will only and onlu escalate from here..there will be a day when you will have to take his permission to even go down the next block to have ur groceries..he will not plan anythng wid u.if u plan a vacation or even a date.he will not giv u any certainty..and very likely to get angry if u try to impose it even romantically..he ll cut off ur frnds by somehow finding a flaw or picking up fyts..if you have time..just stick around and test the things i wrote..i dont know ur bf but i have been with such a man for 8yrs.now i am struggling to get out of an engagement..its surreal and painful
Very good insight !!
I don't feel loved because he's not romantic. Should I breakup?
Married and having a 3 years old son. Partner is not transparent. Not interested in sharing thoughts. Not interested in listening. Not ready for savings or future plans. Not much done for son so far. But only few sentences he talk will look like he will be supportive and promising.
Few false promises since wedding. Not very genuine. I could see him suffering not being himself most of the times. Too much of anger. Meaningless anger and have been violent as well. When his partner stopped defending anger violence reduced. Finding faults in every is and was in his wife's talks. Please help.
Behind my back he is feeling home with his family.
We r in relationship from 13 yrs and soon going to marry but my partner is now saying that he lost his passion and love for me.... His inner voice and that feeling for me finished...And he sometimes think that we should not marry.....Now I am confused because I love him and he is not sure now.... what to do
What about one side Love 😒🥰
Enlightenment
Hi Shridhar, its helpful. But how to tolerate the alcoholic husband nasty things against to the family for a long time years.. Is it right to take decision for divorce or still we need to think about it. I have two kids both grown up, and am facing this issue almost 15 yrs from my marriage, its really not fracture more than that.
Shall i breakup from a partner because of looks /lack of physical attraction??
As usual, I loved your video, as such no relationship problems I have but I like u said perception of pain,.
I dont think one should know everyones life to understand what is relationship is..., right? At least for my partner he/she must feel I am the one. Thts it right?
my relation was going very awesome since last 3 yrs i never checked my gf mobile & trusted her blindly, but suddenly i came to know that my girl is cheating on me very badly i went in psychosis but i didnt wanted to leave her i forgive her n accepted her back but after that I have started doubting on her on her every single move im doubting idk what to do
she gave me this suspicious behaviour how to stop this ?? plz tell me
Bro how you came to knw she was cheating on you???
She told it by herself.. or you got to knw it from outside???
Look if she has confessed it by her own.. just ask her what was the reason.. n look if she wants to continue it or not.. if she wants to continue.. make it very clear that from new start of you relationship you want each and everything transparent between you both.. if she agrees to it..
Go for a second chance..
But see if your saying you are doubting her.. then it's obvious bro.. the thing is that...
Tum clear kar lo.. directly ye sab bata do.. ki you want each and every update.. you don't want any hidden things from each other..
Bro if she truly loves you and has changed herself now.. she won't be having any prb with it if she if guilty...
But dude again if she is complaining about your doubts and insecurities..
Its better you leave her..
Find you mental peace bro.. you both won't be happy like that..
The only person who can TELL you anf clear your doubts is your partner..think ways by which she can convince you she has changed.that can be giving her phone number to you for a few days.or sharing passwords.giving you enough access which comforts you until you are ready to go back to normal..if she GENUINELY is trying to win you back or stay with you she will not have problms with givng u clarity..but do not wrongly accuse her everyday..bcz she will turn resentful towards u.try to have some empathy and you are a team..both has to be onboard with this idea..but trust me if you sail through this hardship..nothng can break you in future
Feeling trapped as waiting for commitment.
Basic problem is thinking dat women n men r not equal n dat i shudnt discuss in few things n dont hav a say,wer as while dating things wer 360 degree opposite n cud nver imagine wat i am seeing now
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My husband says he loves me a lot but don't feel physically attracted anymore and i should be okay with this, as we r good friends...... I feel undesirable and don't know how to take it... we got married 2 years back after 6 years of dating ..... I don't feel the same version of me around him anymore..... kindly guide me
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When it is harmful mentally n emotionally when a husband from the beginning of a marriage going out of their way to fetch single woman to work n hv prefer only close secret female relationship being caught by the wife a few times till old age sending a few love song even to married woman sending special wording refusing to put a full stop disregarding the wife feeling hurting her to the point of asking her to go ahead n die! In such circumstances is enough! A man who refused to change inappropriate n unhealthy gesture. So it is better to leave instead of having to suffer time n again to the point of being suicidal
Girls , do think before marrying.. as.... Its always girl or woman who has to adjust.. what they simply say bande to esse hi hote ha .. n its only woman who adjust
Whn ur video comes I always listen to u like a very attentive & studious child..🤣 utna pasand hai.. Kaash itna school tym me attentive reh paati😁
Wow super explanations
Thank you sir
My husband broke my hand in a verbal fight. my ulna bone was broken & i went into a surgery.... now there is a chip inside... please reply what i am supposed to do?
i hv a 2 year son....he is not ready to leave him nor ready to give any alimony to me
i cant stay without my son....
Dear sir, My friend's lover Loved her very much till now..but sometimes he asks her to come in video call nude or some parts to be exposed to her lover ...what should she do? He always looks after her like a child..but nowerdays as times goes on 3 years, he tempt her to do like that...he wants her to show her body off..but she doesn't like it (never) but ,she loves him very much but he is hurting her.. what's the solution to this? True love can do this?
Just say No to such kinda action at any cost.