I’m 28 pregnant with my 5 th and it’s so uncommon where I live. But I find that like what you said when u go by fact base and not fear based I ended up doing most things opposite of what we’re told. I co slept with all of mine and I feel like it’s also very bonding on top of it being natural. The baby has been in mommy’s stomach for 9 months and they’re use to being right there with us. And the more I see society detaching from the family the more I draw closer to mine and teach other wise. God and family are number one and society goes against both.
I totally agree Heather!! You know what’s right! We are given an instinct as mamas and we should always follow it! I’m 51... married 32 years as of just a few weeks ago!! We had 5 little ones (including our baby girl, born sleeping 4/4/1991 ❤️💕🙏) I always co-slept with all of our babies.... they were in our bed until age 2.... our middle son slept with us until age 4 (he had severe, severe asthma..we noticed he had less breathing problems when he slept with us ❤️) Be strong!! Speak up and always do what YOU feel is right for your babies AND for you. This mama is VERY proud of you!! My gran used to say this all the time to me... “as long as your Babies bellies are full and they’re in a warm bed and in clean clothes... you’ve done well child, you’ve done well (she was speaking of me as her child ❤️💕🙏).... I miss my gran so so much! Blessings and have a lovely pregnancy ❤️💕🙏 ❤️ Mama Trina
Just had my third very peaceful and successful natural labor. 6 minutes of pushing and a total labor of 1.5 hours. I was able to be so calm and relaxed that I was able to tell the nurses how far along I felt, when to check, when to get the doctor and when I was ready to push. My mantras are my hands are open, my jaw is soft and when I am almost ready to push, the only way around it is through it. I would say for anyone wanting a natural hospital birth, understand that procedures that are standard (stripping membranes, induction, etc.) Are often presented as "this is what we are going to do. You have choices at each stage, make sure you understand what those are!
As a former Childbirth Educator, Midwifery Assistant and Doula- THIS video contains very valuable information, especially regarding the "cascade of interventions".
At 70 years young I wish this would have been information I could have my hands on and learned !!!! You are so educational for young women today!!! Thank you !!!!
Such an insightful video, you speak with such wisdom. I'm pregnant with my 4th and I get alot of backlash for choosing unmedicated births, co-slesping and breastfeeding past a year, I think people are just scared when you don't conform with how they choose to do things. You are very brave to speak so openly and I hope you Continue to do so. 💚 from Ireland.
Just an add on thought, I wonder if people carry secret shame when they “can’t” do certain things with their children? And then try to make you feel the shame for the choices they feel where denied to them?
I've had six c-sections. My doctor said after baby #6, my uterus still looked thick and healthy, so another baby would be fine. Never had that next baby, but still, it shows that many healthy c-sections are possible. I know several women who have had 6+ babies this way.
That's good to know! I was told after my second that it needed extra stitches and a 2 year wait before trying for a third because mine was in such bad shape. Thanks for the encouragement!
I love your podcasts. An interview is fun every now and then but your style (especially with the video) just feels like sitting at the table with a friend having a chat 💗
Totally agree with preparing yourself! My first labor I got to the hospital during transition, I had prepared some, but looking back I didn't realize how close to birth I was and I felt like I could t make it. I ended up getting an epidural when I was literally probably 20 mins from pushing. If I had known that I was in the most difficult part, I would not have made the same decision.
❤️ Also pick wisely who you allow in the labor room, whether at home or in the hospital. Whoever they are need to know your plan and not push unnecessary things during labor. I had a sister in labor basically peer pressure me into getting an epidural and it completely slowed my labor and made it take forever. It was my 9th child too and one of my longest labor, only time besides my second twins' c-section that I got an epidural.
I just want to say thank you for your videos/blog content. I get so much out of them, and I always feel inspired after watching them. I actually happened upon your blog in the first place because I was looking for positive birth stories :) (and I ended up having 2 home births after that). One thing that I have learned, that your video brought to mind, is that it most people are conventional, so when you find someone who takes an unconventional approach to something (ex: home birth, homeschool, diet, health stuff in general...whatever) chances are 9x out of 10, they know quite a lot about the subject and they have done a lot of research. So, even if I don't agree with their ultimate decision, it's often worth listening to what they have to say and I can learn a lot from them. It typically spurs me on to do my own research.
A book my midwife recommended when I was in my 2nd trimester (when things feel kinda boring in terms of progression and you need your mind on other things) was The Midwife of Hope River. I loved this book so much in terms of fictional birth stories. Such a great read!
Lisa I love these kind of podcasts, and yours specifically. Please don't beat yourself up if it's not exactly where you want it to be yet! You share so much with all of us and it is not behind a paywall and you truly are doing a "community" service with your blogs and videos and how informative and sharing you are! Stay cool in this heat! Love from MT as always!
I love this I just wanted to share my first home birth seemed like a nightmare. Bc my midwife alluded to the fact somethings werent going "normal" or that it was a very "hard labor". Looking back i was only in labor for 12 hours and after finally feeling the urge to push it was only 20 minutes. Bc was midwife was worried i would become tired (which i never verbalized to her) and probably bc I'm more vocal in labor she wanted to transport me to the hospital and possibly get a doc she knew who was practiced with forcepts. 😭 ugh i remembered hearing that word and my heart dropped. Also my babe was in the wrong position (oh the tearing) I was uneducated on labor didnt know about maybe getting on all fours or walking may have helped but no one or her ever mentioned to do anything so I just layed during all my labor. She pretty much left me alone during all my labor which is fine, but as a first time mom i would have loved some suggestions. By the grace of God my husband got down on his knees to pray since he knew I didnt want all that and lone behold an unexpected snow storm was right outside our door step in the middle of March which only happens every few years in Washington. The paramedics couldnt make it up the hill to our house and had to take a snow plow machine up 😂. Literally after 20 minute or so I was finally feeling the urge to push and we had our happy healthy son. Moral of the story i was so blessed to have that snow storm and when your convinced things arent "normal" --even after the birth-- it seemed totally normal knowing what I know now. I remember feeling after i gave birth how am i suppose to have more after this "terrible" birth but i am comforted in the fact now that most first time births can be a little more difficult. 🙈 you dont know what you dont know i suppose esp when you don't do research. Im happy to report my 2nd birth about six months ago only took 4 hours and 3 pushes.
Thank you for sharing! I love watching your videos. I think I'm addicted haha I'm currently 14 weeks pregnant with our 1st. We are planning to do a unmedicated homebirth. Really encouraged by your words. May the Lord keep blessing you and your family.
Unfortunately our baby came 3 months early and we had to go to the hospital. She was born perfectly healthy with no complications. She is now 2 years and going strong even though she was in the hospital for a month in half.
So so so good. Filled with so much wisdom! I had 2 in the hospital and 1 at home. Last one changed and redeemed everything!!! So thankful! Love this one!!
Education is key! I was also lacking knowledge with my first, which led to some interventions that were not necessary. For my second I prepared and had complete trust in my body. I had a pain free, very quick and easy homebirth. The difference between the 2 births was relaxation and trust for sure. Pain got much worse when I panicked with my first.
My first baby was a C-section. She was breech with her butt down and head and feet up by my ribs. After that C-section, I had 3 natural births. My third baby was 10 pounds and stuck. He definitely should have been a C-section. There are no words for that experience, and it's a good thing we were in the hospital. Even after all that, I still felt like I wanted another baby. I have 2 girls and 2 boys that are all grown up, and I do wish that I had had a couple more. But now I'm getting grandbabies. Three so far.
Co-sleeping, baby-wearing, breastfeeding and natural birth are staples in Attachment Parenting - the most natural and healthy way of parenting. When I hear people saying co-sleeping is dangerous, and what not, I laugh - ask them how children slept in the past (for thousands of years) and still do in all non-western countries... Of course with their mothers!
I'm really loving these podcasts. Who you are really shines through even more, and you are such a treasure. Thanks for doing these and for sharing your knowledge!
Im in the UK, plenty of midwifery led births but still a high rate of interventions unfortunately. Almost every woman I have spoken to has a bad first experience, a result it seems of interventions (agreed to through fear). After my personal bad first hospital experience, I had a panicked, unplanned homebirth because I was so afraid of going to hospital again (I was deemed overdue so they wanted to induce me again). The unplanned homebirth was the BEST thing that could have happened to me. I then had baby 3, 4 and 5 at home planned this time, but I didn't call the midwife until the last minute, so it would be just myself and hubby. Not proper "freebirthing" but left alone, my labours are "normal hard" and wonderful 💓
I am beyond grateful for those videos. I live abroad, pregnant with my first child and I dont know a single pregnant woman to gwt advice from (the perks of beijg an engineer). Thank you and please keep giving advice.
Lots of women as i see here wanted to be prepared better. But when you choose a hospital- choose a doctor you are comfortable with (at least in my country thats a thing, i even traveled to my home city to give birth). In this case you just dont stess about things. I was very straight that i want unmedicated labour, but after 48 hours of pain my doctor brought an anesthesiologist. And after that i had a magical experience, that i want to repeat. Without this person in my labour im not sure what would have happened
Hi Lisa. It would be lovely to hear or have a video about how you might prepare before a birth for staying in your room mostly with baby. And what I mean by that is you mentioned in a past video of staying in your room for about a week after the baby is born. I also am in a farmhouse and our bedroom is on the second floor so I’m trying to think through how to prepare things so I don’t have to go downstairs that first week after birth (or as little as possible) and make it doable for my husband to handle it :) ….meals, water to drink on demand, baby items in the bedroom etc. Thanks for the positive birth and pregnancy content!
Interesting thoughts on intuition re: pregnancy and gender. My obstetrician thinks there's definitely something to it and told me about a study that was done where 70% of women who guessed the gender based on their intuition were correct. I've guessed all four of my kids correctly but I think I was just lucky. As for anxiety surrounding labour - nothing gets rid of that anxiety like the frustration of late pregnancy when you're so uncomfortable and want the baby out yesterday. I've always experienced some form of mild anxiety in early to mid pregnancy. But something happens in the last couple of weeks where I really don't care how painful labour is. I just need the baby out! I also think that afterbirth pains get worse after each birth but that could just be me.
My husband and I were so sure our baby was going to be a boy, we absolutely knew it. So when little Daniel was born A GIRL, we were incredibly shocked, and it took us about four days to come up with a name for her, since we had not explored girl names at all. LOL, lesson learned! 😂
Thanks for sharing all this! I just had my 4th and it is really different. Part of me felt so guilty for not preparing for labor or feeling as nesty this time around. Most of the moms I look to though don’t have more children than me, so I love hearing from moms who are further down the road and what their experiences are.
Yes, I think educating yourself and having realistic expectation does help with the labor pain. All my deliveries have been great and I've been able to tolerate the pain but I went with the mindset of this is gonna hurt this is what I need to do I guess I train or coach myself.
My first birth my husband said we needed to get a doula. I didn't want to but we ended up going with it! Best decision ever! Wealth of knowledge they are! Have a great person in your corner! Doulas are fabulous! I had 2 unmedicated births at the hospital at it was a great experience. No drama with a plan. And understanding Antony could happen but hope/pray for the best!
I had a very similar experience. I was able to have two unmedicated hospital births with the assistance of an amazing doula. Otherwise, the hospital was very interventionist and I had to fight with them for what I wanted. Doula was instrumental in being my support.
@@marina913 exactly! I don't think mommas know they are in charge of what they desire their births to look like! And this video she hit the nail on the head. You need to know what you are going through is normal, to have you stay as calm as possible. Not every birth is insane and hectic! Almost all my mom friends told me to get an epidural and don't be a hero. And only one I knew did a home natural birth. I knew I could do it! But the doula was instrumental! And I feel the stories that keep circling are the horror ones or the ones that are hectic and you don't often hear the all went well and beautiful! Its sad. Its not crazy enough so no one talks about them enough. I share my story every chance
I'm glad you're giving them advice even though I'm 65 and I've had four kids and a few miscarriages and and the kids are grown I've had some experiences too and all my kids were born in the hospital I wish they could have had them at home I wish they'd had that option I didn't but I did learn more and inform myself I had some knowledge of birth and how it worked cuz my mom had a medical book it was from the 1940s but it still did me give me basic knowledge so when I was 22 going into having my first I had some knowledge of what was going to happen to me as far as physically but nobody prepared me for what was going to be like to have give birth in a county hospital and because of that they left me and did nothing and did not check on me and I was in labor from the time before I went to the hospital to like 12 hours on the bottom of a van in the parking lot to you add it all up I was in labor about three and a half to four days and time they did check me that last time cuz they only checked me three times they just kept changing the shift my bladder was full and the baby had come down and the bladder wasn't moving in the baby was coming down and I delivered him 10 minutes later in the labor room that I tore from top to bottom because of their negligence because they were supposed to catheterize me and they did not because they forgot about me I'm glad you're telling others some of your stories and I've got others but the good news is he was delivered successfully the bad news is I ended up with 48 stitches my first birth and he was my smallest I did have successful verse after that and easier easier birth my third my second and third were actually my easiest and my fourth and they did a C-section against my will I'm sterilize me against my will even though I'd sign the papers because I was in labor and they coerce me into signing them that's the truth sometimes when you go to the hospital you don't always have the say so so people need to consider that take a page from my story now my my first son was born 43 years ago my daughter is 40 years old my third is 33 and my youngest is 32 so then before everybody says oh that was a long time ago they do things different now maybe so maybe not but it'd be good to wherever state you live in and whatever hospital you're going to you check out their policies and I'm born again believer so you trust God first and you do what the Lord says and that's the best way I can say and I'm glad you're telling them peace in Jesus name amen just sharing and trying to help
I just found you enjoyed this. I have to laugh 😂 I’m an grandma. I didn’t know what our first child was but as my pregnancy was different with the second I said ok this must be a boy. He was ...then pregnancy # 3 was just like #1 so I guessed ok a girl and she was. #4 was like # 2 and he was a boy. So I guessed 3 correctly. With the girls I had leg cramps at night and with the boys heart burn. That was my only clue
I think homebirth would be a beautiful experience. Obviously it works because pretty much all women before us in history had homebirths lol I guess people forget that a woman was built for birthing. So excited for you!!
Definitely having children in my 20s vs 30s is incredibly different. With my last child, I needed to stay in bed forever. The first baby, I was up and running the next day.
Co-sleeping and bed-sharing are different. The distinction should be clarified. Co-sleeping means baby is in the same room as you while asleep. Bed-sharing is when the baby sleeps in the same bed/space as you. Co-sleeping can be safe when proper protocols are followed. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has strongly discouraged bed-sharing with infants younger than 1, since the practice puts babies at risk for suffocation, strangulation, and parent rollover.
I love your podcasts! I've been following your other channel for years and I just randomly found your podcast channel. I'm expecting my first and we are planning an unmedicated birth with a midwife. You wouldn't believe how many of my family members have looked at me and commented how insane I am. They act like midwife have 1. No knowledge and experience and 2. That they aren't a doctor. How do you deal with having people accept our own decisions?
Oh, the after pains are so bad for grand multips. I definitely didn't notice them until baby 3, but after pains with baby 3 were so mild compared to baby 11 and all those in between. So not looking forward to that this time. I'd say they got stronger with each one. I know you've said you use a natural remedy. How effective is it and please share which you use?
Also the book supernatural childbirth is christian insight on childbirth-however I did not experience a pain free childbirth like the book talked about
We’ve been in a season of illness! Do you have any immune system protocols/sick kid remedies, besides the standard cool mist humidifier and saline? Any book recommendations? I’m loving your podcast channel so much! I watch one a day!
Have you tried Thieves in a diffuser in bedrooms at night? It's an Essental Oil from Young Living that kills germs. You can also make or buy a rollerball of Thieves to put on chest area at bedtime.
Hi Lisa, I am pregnant with my 5th baby a boy, and at almost 26 weeks I started feeling him super low and some pressure and have been feeling that ever since and I am 28 weeks now. I’m worried about having the baby early before 37 weeks.. I don’t know who to ask , and I know you had 7 now.. is this normal the more babies you have ?
My Birth I dilated to a good 7 the nurse said and its a goodthing i wasin a hospital bc I had to hwve an emergency C Section bc my babysheart rate droped to a 10 and it was a life saving sectionitended up being yhe cord was wrapped around her head twice and yhey had to revive her to save her life and i didnt get to be awake bc they didnt have time to give my epidural a boost to keep me numb enough to do a an awake delivery. Mine was definetely an emergency and my bqby wouldnt be here today if i had had a home birth!!! Im happy gor the women that can hwve a home birth and my 2nd baby was by a C Section bc of what happened with my 1st baby the Dr. Didnt want me to have a normal delivery bc of it so I had a scheduled C.Section but my water broke the day before my scheduled C Section and they gave me an epidural and I got to be awake for her birth which i was so grateful for bc it was amazing 5 lb 15 oz and 18 1/2 inches long full of life and energy and screaming at the top of her lunges and itwas AMAZING TO SEE AND WATCH!!! I would do it again if nature hadnthad different ideas and I had an ectopic pregnancy 4 months later and of course they vouldnt save that baby and i vould not have anymore babies after the ectopic pregnancy problems and tumors that affected the other ovary but Im happy with the 2 girls I have and our baby boy died that day and was not meant to be im sorry to say whivh was devastating to us bc we so wanted a baby boy after 2 little girls 1 was 22 months and we had a 4 month old baby girl as well at home. It was very sad!!!! They thought i was having a misscarriage and they did a dnc and after heavy bleeding for 2 more weeks the Dr. Found i was still pregnant she realized what was going on and did emergency surgery to to save my life bc she said i was about 12 hrs from bleeding to death and i would of died if i hadnt decided to come into her office and she did bloodwork and found i was still pregnant and i was rushed to the Hospital for the emergency surgery.
Co-sleeping just means sleeping next to your baby. Doesn't necessarily have to be in bed with you. Baby could be in a bassinet, cosleeper, or crib next to your bed. She is referring to bed-sharing in this video when she says co-sleeping, though.
On on that too I wanted to say that the Lord did really help me through it and one way I can tell you it was for sure the Lord help me is the one that sowed me up the 48 stitches he didn't show me show me up the way the medical book said he sold me up the way he the best way he thought where I'd still retain feeling not to be gross but also that I would heal the best and every obstetrician and gynecologist that I'd seen after that said I got the best expert John done then I couldn't have that it would have cost a fortune for me to get it done better and actually nobody would have done it better cuz they wouldn't have done it that way but it actually worked perfectly so that was God's blessing so I wanted to tell you and you have my permission my name's Mona and I'm going back to my maiden name Clark and you got my permission if you want to use this story to help others not to scare them but get them to understand things happen and to be prepared is helpful and to do what God says and be born again is the best way to go to thanks
Describe how each child rearing experiences you had! I can't believe anyone that is so flat speaking because I'm a MOTHER, had a C-section! 2nd pregnancy aborted! Inquiring minds want to know
I’m 28 pregnant with my 5 th and it’s so uncommon where I live. But I find that like what you said when u go by fact base and not fear based I ended up doing most things opposite of what we’re told. I co slept with all of mine and I feel like it’s also very bonding on top of it being natural. The baby has been in mommy’s stomach for 9 months and they’re use to being right there with us. And the more I see society detaching from the family the more I draw closer to mine and teach other wise. God and family are number one and society goes against both.
I totally agree Heather!! You know what’s right! We are given an instinct as mamas and we should always follow it!
I’m 51... married 32 years as of just a few weeks ago!! We had 5 little ones (including our baby girl, born sleeping 4/4/1991 ❤️💕🙏)
I always co-slept with all of our babies.... they were in our bed until age 2.... our middle son slept with us until age 4 (he had severe, severe asthma..we noticed he had less breathing problems when he slept with us ❤️)
Be strong!! Speak up and always do what YOU feel is right for your babies AND for you.
This mama is VERY proud of you!! My gran used to say this all the time to me... “as long as your Babies bellies are full and they’re in a warm bed and in clean clothes... you’ve done well child, you’ve done well (she was speaking of me as her child ❤️💕🙏).... I miss my gran so so much!
Blessings and have a lovely pregnancy ❤️💕🙏
❤️ Mama Trina
That’s is so sweet and very encouraging!🙂
Same here ♥️
I had number 5 at 28 too ❤
Just had my third very peaceful and successful natural labor. 6 minutes of pushing and a total labor of 1.5 hours. I was able to be so calm and relaxed that I was able to tell the nurses how far along I felt, when to check, when to get the doctor and when I was ready to push. My mantras are my hands are open, my jaw is soft and when I am almost ready to push, the only way around it is through it. I would say for anyone wanting a natural hospital birth, understand that procedures that are standard (stripping membranes, induction, etc.) Are often presented as "this is what we are going to do. You have choices at each stage, make sure you understand what those are!
As a former Childbirth Educator, Midwifery Assistant and Doula- THIS video contains very valuable information, especially regarding the "cascade of interventions".
Cosleeping helps Mama to sleep more in the night, and can prevent post partum depression. It heals Mama and helps Baby feeling save and loved.
I agree!
I wake up screaming for my baby if I don't feel them
I’m 75 and I remember my mom telling me that back in her day, having your baby sleep with you was common as was nursing.
At 70 years young I wish this would have been information I could have my hands on and learned !!!! You are so educational for young women today!!! Thank you !!!!
Thank you so much!!
May you never have birth emergency and God bless you
Fear is decided by the receiver NOT the giver. Co sleeping is very common practice in Scandinavia.
Such an insightful video, you speak with such wisdom. I'm pregnant with my 4th and I get alot of backlash for choosing unmedicated births, co-slesping and breastfeeding past a year, I think people are just scared when you don't conform with how they choose to do things. You are very brave to speak so openly and I hope you Continue to do so. 💚 from Ireland.
Just an add on thought, I wonder if people carry secret shame when they “can’t” do certain things with their children? And then try to make you feel the shame for the choices they feel where denied to them?
I nursed some until my daughter was 3. No regrets.
I've had six c-sections. My doctor said after baby #6, my uterus still looked thick and healthy, so another baby would be fine. Never had that next baby, but still, it shows that many healthy c-sections are possible. I know several women who have had 6+ babies this way.
That's great to know!
That's good to know! I was told after my second that it needed extra stitches and a 2 year wait before trying for a third because mine was in such bad shape. Thanks for the encouragement!
I love your podcasts. An interview is fun every now and then but your style (especially with the video) just feels like sitting at the table with a friend having a chat 💗
Totally agree with preparing yourself! My first labor I got to the hospital during transition, I had prepared some, but looking back I didn't realize how close to birth I was and I felt like I could t make it. I ended up getting an epidural when I was literally probably 20 mins from pushing. If I had known that I was in the most difficult part, I would not have made the same decision.
❤️ Also pick wisely who you allow in the labor room, whether at home or in the hospital. Whoever they are need to know your plan and not push unnecessary things during labor. I had a sister in labor basically peer pressure me into getting an epidural and it completely slowed my labor and made it take forever. It was my 9th child too and one of my longest labor, only time besides my second twins' c-section that I got an epidural.
I just want to say thank you for your videos/blog content. I get so much out of them, and I always feel inspired after watching them. I actually happened upon your blog in the first place because I was looking for positive birth stories :) (and I ended up having 2 home births after that). One thing that I have learned, that your video brought to mind, is that it most people are conventional, so when you find someone who takes an unconventional approach to something (ex: home birth, homeschool, diet, health stuff in general...whatever) chances are 9x out of 10, they know quite a lot about the subject and they have done a lot of research. So, even if I don't agree with their ultimate decision, it's often worth listening to what they have to say and I can learn a lot from them. It typically spurs me on to do my own research.
oh I'm so happy to hear that! thank you so much for following along❤️
Excellent point!
A book my midwife recommended when I was in my 2nd trimester (when things feel kinda boring in terms of progression and you need your mind on other things) was The Midwife of Hope River. I loved this book so much in terms of fictional birth stories. Such a great read!
Haven’t heard of that one before. Will definitely pick it up, thanks!
Lisa I love these kind of podcasts, and yours specifically. Please don't beat yourself up if it's not exactly where you want it to be yet! You share so much with all of us and it is not behind a paywall and you truly are doing a "community" service with your blogs and videos and how informative and sharing you are! Stay cool in this heat! Love from MT as always!
I love this
I just wanted to share my first home birth seemed like a nightmare. Bc my midwife alluded to the fact somethings werent going "normal" or that it was a very "hard labor". Looking back i was only in labor for 12 hours and after finally feeling the urge to push it was only 20 minutes. Bc was midwife was worried i would become tired (which i never verbalized to her) and probably bc I'm more vocal in labor she wanted to transport me to the hospital and possibly get a doc she knew who was practiced with forcepts. 😭 ugh i remembered hearing that word and my heart dropped. Also my babe was in the wrong position (oh the tearing) I was uneducated on labor didnt know about maybe getting on all fours or walking may have helped but no one or her ever mentioned to do anything so I just layed during all my labor. She pretty much left me alone during all my labor which is fine, but as a first time mom i would have loved some suggestions. By the grace of God my husband got down on his knees to pray since he knew I didnt want all that and lone behold an unexpected snow storm was right outside our door step in the middle of March which only happens every few years in Washington. The paramedics couldnt make it up the hill to our house and had to take a snow plow machine up 😂. Literally after 20 minute or so I was finally feeling the urge to push and we had our happy healthy son. Moral of the story i was so blessed to have that snow storm and when your convinced things arent "normal" --even after the birth-- it seemed totally normal knowing what I know now. I remember feeling after i gave birth how am i suppose to have more after this "terrible" birth but i am comforted in the fact now that most first time births can be a little more difficult. 🙈 you dont know what you dont know i suppose esp when you don't do research. Im happy to report my 2nd birth about six months ago only took 4 hours and 3 pushes.
Thank you for sharing! I love watching your videos. I think I'm addicted haha I'm currently 14 weeks pregnant with our 1st. We are planning to do a unmedicated homebirth. Really encouraged by your words. May the Lord keep blessing you and your family.
Congrats!
How did your home birth go?
Unfortunately our baby came 3 months early and we had to go to the hospital. She was born perfectly healthy with no complications. She is now 2 years and going strong even though she was in the hospital for a month in half.
So so so good. Filled with so much wisdom! I had 2 in the hospital and 1 at home. Last one changed and redeemed everything!!! So thankful! Love this one!!
Education is key! I was also lacking knowledge with my first, which led to some interventions that were not necessary. For my second I prepared and had complete trust in my body. I had a pain free, very quick and easy homebirth. The difference between the 2 births was relaxation and trust for sure. Pain got much worse when I panicked with my first.
Agree. When you know it's normal to tell all that power going through your body it's best to surrender to it.
My first baby was a C-section. She was breech with her butt down and head and feet up by my ribs. After that C-section, I had 3 natural births. My third baby was 10 pounds and stuck. He definitely should have been a C-section. There are no words for that experience, and it's a good thing we were in the hospital. Even after all that, I still felt like I wanted another baby. I have 2 girls and 2 boys that are all grown up, and I do wish that I had had a couple more. But now I'm getting grandbabies. Three so far.
Co-sleeping, baby-wearing, breastfeeding and natural birth are staples in Attachment Parenting - the most natural and healthy way of parenting.
When I hear people saying co-sleeping is dangerous, and what not, I laugh - ask them how children slept in the past (for thousands of years) and still do in all non-western countries... Of course with their mothers!
I'm really loving these podcasts. Who you are really shines through even more, and you are such a treasure. Thanks for doing these and for sharing your knowledge!
Im in the UK, plenty of midwifery led births but still a high rate of interventions unfortunately. Almost every woman I have spoken to has a bad first experience, a result it seems of interventions (agreed to through fear). After my personal bad first hospital experience, I had a panicked, unplanned homebirth because I was so afraid of going to hospital again (I was deemed overdue so they wanted to induce me again). The unplanned homebirth was the BEST thing that could have happened to me. I then had baby 3, 4 and 5 at home planned this time, but I didn't call the midwife until the last minute, so it would be just myself and hubby. Not proper "freebirthing" but left alone, my labours are "normal hard" and wonderful 💓
Thank you for sharing!
I am beyond grateful for those videos. I live abroad, pregnant with my first child and I dont know a single pregnant woman to gwt advice from (the perks of beijg an engineer). Thank you and please keep giving advice.
Ooo I’d love to hear about how you like the Samaritans coverage. We’ve been considering this.
I am in Illinois and have bcbs and I just got my approval letter for insurance coverage during my home birth.
Love these videos! You have so much wisdom to share :)
Lots of women as i see here wanted to be prepared better. But when you choose a hospital- choose a doctor you are comfortable with (at least in my country thats a thing, i even traveled to my home city to give birth). In this case you just dont stess about things. I was very straight that i want unmedicated labour, but after 48 hours of pain my doctor brought an anesthesiologist. And after that i had a magical experience, that i want to repeat. Without this person in my labour im not sure what would have happened
Hi Lisa. It would be lovely to hear or have a video about how you might prepare before a birth for staying in your room mostly with baby. And what I mean by that is you mentioned in a past video of staying in your room for about a week after the baby is born. I also am in a farmhouse and our bedroom is on the second floor so I’m trying to think through how to prepare things so I don’t have to go downstairs that first week after birth (or as little as possible) and make it doable for my husband to handle it :) ….meals, water to drink on demand, baby items in the bedroom etc. Thanks for the positive birth and pregnancy content!
Interesting thoughts on intuition re: pregnancy and gender. My obstetrician thinks there's definitely something to it and told me about a study that was done where 70% of women who guessed the gender based on their intuition were correct. I've guessed all four of my kids correctly but I think I was just lucky.
As for anxiety surrounding labour - nothing gets rid of that anxiety like the frustration of late pregnancy when you're so uncomfortable and want the baby out yesterday. I've always experienced some form of mild anxiety in early to mid pregnancy. But something happens in the last couple of weeks where I really don't care how painful labour is. I just need the baby out! I also think that afterbirth pains get worse after each birth but that could just be me.
Totally agree that people are quick to give their first thought on a subject!
My husband and I were so sure our baby was going to be a boy, we absolutely knew it. So when little Daniel was born A GIRL, we were incredibly shocked, and it took us about four days to come up with a name for her, since we had not explored girl names at all. LOL, lesson learned! 😂
My first sounds exactly like yours! Traumatizing for me. I vowed I would never get an epirdural or ptosin again. 2nd and 3rd, waaay better!
Thanks for sharing all this! I just had my 4th and it is really different. Part of me felt so guilty for not preparing for labor or feeling as nesty this time around. Most of the moms I look to though don’t have more children than me, so I love hearing from moms who are further down the road and what their experiences are.
Yes, I think educating yourself and having realistic expectation does help with the labor pain. All my deliveries have been great and I've been able to tolerate the pain but I went with the mindset of this is gonna hurt this is what I need to do I guess I train or coach myself.
My first birth my husband said we needed to get a doula. I didn't want to but we ended up going with it! Best decision ever! Wealth of knowledge they are! Have a great person in your corner! Doulas are fabulous! I had 2 unmedicated births at the hospital at it was a great experience. No drama with a plan. And understanding Antony could happen but hope/pray for the best!
I had a very similar experience. I was able to have two unmedicated hospital births with the assistance of an amazing doula. Otherwise, the hospital was very interventionist and I had to fight with them for what I wanted. Doula was instrumental in being my support.
@@marina913 exactly! I don't think mommas know they are in charge of what they desire their births to look like! And this video she hit the nail on the head. You need to know what you are going through is normal, to have you stay as calm as possible. Not every birth is insane and hectic! Almost all my mom friends told me to get an epidural and don't be a hero. And only one I knew did a home natural birth. I knew I could do it! But the doula was instrumental! And I feel the stories that keep circling are the horror ones or the ones that are hectic and you don't often hear the all went well and beautiful! Its sad. Its not crazy enough so no one talks about them enough. I share my story every chance
I'm glad you're giving them advice even though I'm 65 and I've had four kids and a few miscarriages and and the kids are grown I've had some experiences too and all my kids were born in the hospital I wish they could have had them at home I wish they'd had that option I didn't but I did learn more and inform myself I had some knowledge of birth and how it worked cuz my mom had a medical book it was from the 1940s but it still did me give me basic knowledge so when I was 22 going into having my first I had some knowledge of what was going to happen to me as far as physically but nobody prepared me for what was going to be like to have give birth in a county hospital and because of that they left me and did nothing and did not check on me and I was in labor from the time before I went to the hospital to like 12 hours on the bottom of a van in the parking lot to you add it all up I was in labor about three and a half to four days and time they did check me that last time cuz they only checked me three times they just kept changing the shift my bladder was full and the baby had come down and the bladder wasn't moving in the baby was coming down and I delivered him 10 minutes later in the labor room that I tore from top to bottom because of their negligence because they were supposed to catheterize me and they did not because they forgot about me I'm glad you're telling others some of your stories and I've got others but the good news is he was delivered successfully the bad news is I ended up with 48 stitches my first birth and he was my smallest I did have successful verse after that and easier easier birth my third my second and third were actually my easiest and my fourth and they did a C-section against my will I'm sterilize me against my will even though I'd sign the papers because I was in labor and they coerce me into signing them that's the truth sometimes when you go to the hospital you don't always have the say so so people need to consider that take a page from my story now my my first son was born 43 years ago my daughter is 40 years old my third is 33 and my youngest is 32 so then before everybody says oh that was a long time ago they do things different now maybe so maybe not but it'd be good to wherever state you live in and whatever hospital you're going to you check out their policies and I'm born again believer so you trust God first and you do what the Lord says and that's the best way I can say and I'm glad you're telling them peace in Jesus name amen just sharing and trying to help
With my first, I knew what I DIDNT want in my birth experience. I wish I would have been more prepared!!
I just found you enjoyed this. I have to laugh 😂 I’m an grandma. I didn’t know what our first child was but as my pregnancy was different with the second I said ok this must be a boy. He was ...then pregnancy # 3 was just like #1 so I guessed ok a girl and she was. #4 was like # 2 and he was a boy. So I guessed 3 correctly. With the girls I had leg cramps at night and with the boys heart burn. That was my only clue
I think homebirth would be a beautiful experience. Obviously it works because pretty much all women before us in history had homebirths lol I guess people forget that a woman was built for birthing. So excited for you!!
I really need to hear this words of encouragement. Young mama of 2 soon 3 stresses about a lot of things.
You can get after birth pain by wish garden it’s made by herbs. I used it for my last two n it really helps.
Definitely having children in my 20s vs 30s is incredibly different. With my last child, I needed to stay in bed forever. The first baby, I was up and running the next day.
Co-sleeping and bed-sharing are different. The distinction should be clarified. Co-sleeping means baby is in the same room as you while asleep. Bed-sharing is when the baby sleeps in the same bed/space as you. Co-sleeping can be safe when proper protocols are followed. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) has strongly discouraged bed-sharing with infants younger than 1, since the practice puts babies at risk for suffocation, strangulation, and parent rollover.
I love your podcasts! I've been following your other channel for years and I just randomly found your podcast channel. I'm expecting my first and we are planning an unmedicated birth with a midwife. You wouldn't believe how many of my family members have looked at me and commented how insane I am. They act like midwife have
1. No knowledge and experience and
2. That they aren't a doctor. How do you deal with having people accept our own decisions?
I knew what all four of my pregnancies where ☺️ including my twin boys 💕💕
Absolutely loved these Lisa! Hugs from Mi 😊🤍
I started taking magnesium because of you and feel a lot better! (I checked with my midwife first ;))
Oh, the after pains are so bad for grand multips. I definitely didn't notice them until baby 3, but after pains with baby 3 were so mild compared to baby 11 and all those in between. So not looking forward to that this time. I'd say they got stronger with each one. I know you've said you use a natural remedy. How effective is it and please share which you use?
I like it being more sporadic!!
Also the book supernatural childbirth is christian insight on childbirth-however I did not experience a pain free childbirth like the book talked about
After ease helps with after birth cramps!
We’ve been in a season of illness! Do you have any immune system protocols/sick kid remedies, besides the standard cool mist humidifier and saline? Any book recommendations? I’m loving your podcast channel so much! I watch one a day!
Have you tried Thieves in a diffuser in bedrooms at night? It's an Essental Oil from Young Living that kills germs. You can also make or buy a rollerball of Thieves to put on chest area at bedtime.
Hi Lisa, I am pregnant with my 5th baby a boy, and at almost 26 weeks I started feeling him super low and some pressure and have been feeling that ever since and I am 28 weeks now. I’m worried about having the baby early before 37 weeks.. I don’t know who to ask , and I know you had 7 now.. is this normal the more babies you have ?
My Birth I dilated to a good 7 the nurse said and its a goodthing i wasin a hospital bc I had to hwve an emergency C Section bc my babysheart rate droped to a 10 and it was a life saving sectionitended up being yhe cord was wrapped around her head twice and yhey had to revive her to save her life and i didnt get to be awake bc they didnt have time to give my epidural a boost to keep me numb enough to do a an awake delivery. Mine was definetely an emergency and my bqby wouldnt be here today if i had had a home birth!!! Im happy gor the women that can hwve a home birth and my 2nd baby was by a C Section bc of what happened with my 1st baby the Dr. Didnt want me to have a normal delivery bc of it so I had a scheduled C.Section but my water broke the day before my scheduled C Section and they gave me an epidural and I got to be awake for her birth which i was so grateful for bc it was amazing 5 lb 15 oz and 18 1/2 inches long full of life and energy and screaming at the top of her lunges and itwas AMAZING TO SEE AND WATCH!!! I would do it again if nature hadnthad different ideas and I had an ectopic pregnancy 4 months later and of course they vouldnt save that baby and i vould not have anymore babies after the ectopic pregnancy problems and tumors that affected the other ovary but Im happy with the 2 girls I have and our baby boy died that day and was not meant to be im sorry to say whivh was devastating to us bc we so wanted a baby boy after 2 little girls 1 was 22 months and we had a 4 month old baby girl as well at home. It was very sad!!!! They thought i was having a misscarriage and they did a dnc and after heavy bleeding for 2 more weeks the Dr. Found i was still pregnant she realized what was going on and did emergency surgery to to save my life bc she said i was about 12 hrs from bleeding to death and i would of died if i hadnt decided to come into her office and she did bloodwork and found i was still pregnant and i was rushed to the Hospital for the emergency surgery.
Oh my this is soo true
What's co-sleeping?
I just read more comments and now know it means sleeping with your baby. Right?
Sleeping next to the baby in the same bed.
Co-sleeping just means sleeping next to your baby. Doesn't necessarily have to be in bed with you. Baby could be in a bassinet, cosleeper, or crib next to your bed. She is referring to bed-sharing in this video when she says co-sleeping, though.
On on that too I wanted to say that the Lord did really help me through it and one way I can tell you it was for sure the Lord help me is the one that sowed me up the 48 stitches he didn't show me show me up the way the medical book said he sold me up the way he the best way he thought where I'd still retain feeling not to be gross but also that I would heal the best and every obstetrician and gynecologist that I'd seen after that said I got the best expert John done then I couldn't have that it would have cost a fortune for me to get it done better and actually nobody would have done it better cuz they wouldn't have done it that way but it actually worked perfectly so that was God's blessing so I wanted to tell you and you have my permission my name's Mona and I'm going back to my maiden name Clark and you got my permission if you want to use this story to help others not to scare them but get them to understand things happen and to be prepared is helpful and to do what God says and be born again is the best way to go to thanks
Describe how each child rearing experiences you had!
I can't believe anyone that is so flat speaking because I'm a MOTHER, had a C-section!
2nd pregnancy aborted!
Inquiring minds want to know
Flat speaking?
feet yeah, flat tone!
No excitement in childbirth!
Like this person never had a baby! Corn fused in Florida
@@ahavarichardson5426 I don't know what you're on about, but Lisa is wonderful to me.
@@sitathisfeet5797 ask the creator
What does this even mean?