don't quit your job - life is not a joke

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  • Опубликовано: 16 янв 2025

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  • @davidbowman2035
    @davidbowman2035 15 дней назад +495

    My dad has always said to me that it is easier to look for a job while in a job.

    • @lilg2300
      @lilg2300 15 дней назад +32

      it somewhat is, but also no. I find it really exhausting to work and contemporanely research and prepare for job interviews. It costs a lot of energy and I'm at a point were tjis energy is lacking

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 14 дней назад +1

      This

    • @HaydenTalks.
      @HaydenTalks. 14 дней назад +26

      I did this and ending up in the same job I hated 7 years too long. I then one day went in realised I hated getting up and going in and decided that was the day to quit. I then had no job and went looking and instantly found one that paid me more with better hours and better people.

    • @Dabloodyblondie
      @Dabloodyblondie 14 дней назад +6

      Yeah I wish I had such advice 2 years ago. Finding a job in the 2020's is like playing on survival difficulty.

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад +6

      @@HaydenTalks. it’s like in chess, you want a better, winning position on the board, make a sacrifice,

  • @kianadk
    @kianadk 13 дней назад +166

    Well as Soeren Kierkegaard said ..... Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards!

    • @razielgw
      @razielgw 11 дней назад +1

      Very insightful

    • @_R8x_
      @_R8x_ 11 дней назад

      Smart dude

    • @ac43942
      @ac43942 11 дней назад

      nice quote

    • @41Martn
      @41Martn 5 дней назад

      That’s a good one

  • @MartinČerný-z2r
    @MartinČerný-z2r 18 дней назад +661

    I’ve quit my stable well-paying job as a doctor a year ago to work in a cool hyped startup. Three months later, I was emailing my former boss to take me back. (which he fortunatelly did)

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  17 дней назад +90

      It's so easy to get caught up in the excitement of change, glad things worked out for you.

    • @philmehrart
      @philmehrart 17 дней назад +6

      What put you off in the end and made you want to go back?

    • @Boababa-fn3mr
      @Boababa-fn3mr 15 дней назад +52

      Luckily, as a doctor, you'll always find work.

    • @agatastaniak7459
      @agatastaniak7459 14 дней назад

      I guess people I just not aware of the fact that 40% of start ups goes bankrupt within 1 year of existence and 60% those that survive after 4-5 years ends up being taken over by international corporations.

    • @reddbendd
      @reddbendd 14 дней назад +7

      @@Boababa-fn3mr it actually has almost nothing to do with luck and everything to do with hard work and dedication. fortunately is more appropriate.

  • @The-Khatalyst
    @The-Khatalyst 14 дней назад +174

    Every time I quit a job, I have had something better already locked in. And that means not juat a job offer, but a date that I am starting the new job. I 100% agree that if you're quitting, you need something lined up or 6-12 months of savings.

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад +1

      @@The-Khatalyst Sometimes that job is not always gonna be there at the moment, You think Indiana Jones was waiting for someone to save him when he was trapped on that bridge?

    • @The-Khatalyst
      @The-Khatalyst 13 дней назад +11

      @HouseofVenesianberg If you're quitting, you're doing it on your terms, so yes, the job better be there or you shouldn't quit. And we're not talking about Hollywood, we're talking about real people.

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад

      @@The-Khatalyst I did it, & found another job a week later, And secondly the scene is an allegory about life pushing in you in situations you didn’t ask to be in , & you’re gonna have to create your own way out

    • @The-Khatalyst
      @The-Khatalyst 13 дней назад +5

      @HouseofVenesianberg I'm aware it's an allegory. But what you're suggesting is that he should let go of the cliff and hope he hits something soft on the way down. I'm saying there's not always going to be a job after 2 weeks. What if it would have taken you a month or 3? Would you have kept your car and a place to live? I'm suggesting that people be smart with it. And that's the entire point of the video, but I guess you must have missed that

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад

      @ If you know it’s an allegory why are we arguing? Society really don’t reward hard working people anyway, All of us aren’t making what he should, & eventually we’re gonna get to a point in society where there are no guarantees even at your job especially with coming Technological changes

  • @granttennis
    @granttennis 15 дней назад +570

    I was a teacher. Hated it. Began an accidental side hustle and decided to leave my teaching job as it was taking time away from my side hustle. It worked. Ten years later and it’s my core income. There is no set rule or answer. Find your own.

    • @Dabloodyblondie
      @Dabloodyblondie 14 дней назад +21

      Yeah "fear of man is a snare" others can give advice, though ultimately you have to learn a bit on your own.

    • @testtest-lc4xz
      @testtest-lc4xz 14 дней назад +12

      What was your side hustle?

    • @jamiemb17
      @jamiemb17 14 дней назад +3

      I'm currently working as a TA and thinking about getting into teaching in the future, so for me watching this thinking if that job will be right for me, then scrolling down and the first thing I read is, "I was a teacher. Hated it." - that doesn't bode well 😂😂

    • @Lincolnator721
      @Lincolnator721 13 дней назад +11

      What's the OnlyFans then?

    • @VonLouis10
      @VonLouis10 13 дней назад +2

      It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!

  • @karlbristow1223
    @karlbristow1223 13 дней назад +94

    Prison Officer in the UK for 12 years. I resigned 4 years ago as the stress levels got so high, and the lack of support was slowly killing me. My only mistake was leaving without new employment as I lost a lot of savings, but I got there in the end. I don't get paid as well now, but I don't do shifts anymore, I have every evening and weekendto relax, and best of all I don't have all that stress running through my body everyday. So I'd say try to have a new job before you leave, but if you need to get out, get out! Listen to your body and mind, stress isn't healthy!

    • @slimjimjimslim5923
      @slimjimjimslim5923 День назад

      I’m in that position, good job but 7 yr stress is a lot. So on the side been polishing my skills and thinking about where to go for a less paying but better work life job. Stress can cause real damage physically, my blood pressure is up, I gotten more sick than ever before, immune system down, not to mention cause to mental health

  • @noneofyourbusiness-c7h
    @noneofyourbusiness-c7h 18 дней назад +1006

    This is how I think about it: however pointless and futile one's life is, it doesn't mean that it can't be made appreciably worse by having no money.

    • @mpclepto182
      @mpclepto182 18 дней назад +22

      Too bad what we call money doesn't have any worth to it beyond perception. Real money holds actual value, but fiat currency is pure perception. And how fickle is perception? Today an idea is in vogue, tomorrow it is the villian. That's our "money", hope you're not sitting on much of it when the cows come home to roost.
      Obviously you keep a roof over your head for cash, at least yesterday, but today isn't over yet, so who knows.

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +144

      Couldn't agree more and definitely learned this the hard way this year. A job can be boring, but I'll take boredom over the fear of not knowing how you're going to pay your bills.

    • @Sixth999Sense
      @Sixth999Sense 16 дней назад +12

      I value time over money if I had to choose more of one or the other not that I have to as I can freely have both it would be more time! 🎉

    • @michaelrobertson1736
      @michaelrobertson1736 15 дней назад

      @@mpclepto182you can still buy land with USD. Lots of it.
      What’s your definition of “real money”?

    • @ostrajazda7507
      @ostrajazda7507 15 дней назад +1

      100%

  • @JustLikeBuildingThings
    @JustLikeBuildingThings 18 дней назад +255

    Happily quit my job after saving up enough to continue living normally for a year. Decided to quit and change career, after 6 months did exactly that and best thing I've ever done

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +47

      You did this exactly the right way. Just having that cushion behind you can really help.

    • @JustLikeBuildingThings
      @JustLikeBuildingThings 17 дней назад +10

      @@JayWallace Yeah, anyone quitting with no plan and commitments would be a wild decision in my book. Helped that I got an autism diagnosis a few months in too while also doing therapy.

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад

      @@JustLikeBuildingThingsSometimes your job will pull a fast one on you like downsizing & mergers, once that happens it’s best you leave as soon as possible & find something else, Employers usually cut you slack if the company merged, shut down or downsized

    • @SusanHolbert
      @SusanHolbert 8 дней назад

      That's great, however, that doesn't happen for everyone. All the best.

  • @Neo_Player
    @Neo_Player 16 дней назад +121

    Hope things improve for you. Haven't seen your videos before but two comments:
    1. The algorithm recommended you, so perhaps that's a good sign for your channel
    2. You speak clearly, calmly and logically, and have a very authentic manner. Hopefully that will appeal to a lot of people.

  • @baldeagle4710
    @baldeagle4710 16 дней назад +458

    Most people aren’t talented or organized enough to work for themselves. They need to work for someone else or else they will starve. Chasing your dream can end up in bankruptcy if you’re not hyper motivated.

    • @dacat8171
      @dacat8171 15 дней назад +42

      Your comment does not justify sticking with a hated job.
      Life is filled with crises.

    • @tigreytigrey8537
      @tigreytigrey8537 15 дней назад +8

      ​@dacat8171 true. Just motivate the normies to jump with no chute. Yayyyy

    • @Ragnar452
      @Ragnar452 15 дней назад +21

      It has nothing to do with talent or being organized. You can be very good at your job but have no clue how to run a company. Example: you can be a great software engineer, make super high quality code, customers are super happy, do overtime to make things run like clockwork, etc. How does that help you run a business tho? You can find out on the internet the paperwork needed, ok. But then? What can you provide that other bigger companies cannot? Where do you go from there? These are questions that make or break a business. People don't automagically invent Facebook 2.0 or the future next Tweeter. You will probably become yet another outsourcing company at most.

    • @Ragnar452
      @Ragnar452 15 дней назад

      ​​@@dacat8171 If you hate your job find another? If you hate working in general then I have no solutions for you. Your own business is probably 10x more work so that wouldn't help you in that regard.

    • @PremiumFuelOnly
      @PremiumFuelOnly 15 дней назад +5

      @@Ragnar452 The thing im learning is you can have all the skills and equipment but its useless if you cant get the phone to ring.

  • @JohnDL212
    @JohnDL212 18 дней назад +78

    I couldn't agree more. The moment of walking out and feeling empowered is very short lived when you then realize you are unemployed and finding a job is miserable. Sticking it out helps us learn and grow and if you are interested in leaving your job....always FIND ANOTHER JOB FIRST. It is very true that employers are much more interested in someone currently working than someone who is sitting at home unemployed. The longer you're unemployed the less attractive you are and the harder it becomes. Find another job first and never burn bridges at the job you're leaving. It will reward you later.

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  17 дней назад +5

      Very sensible advice, learned this lesson the hard way

  • @larkatmic
    @larkatmic 15 дней назад +215

    I learned early, 16 in high school. I quit my job as a bagger at a local grocery store, before getting another job. I assumed I’d get another one easily by the beginning of that summer. Didn’t happen. My savings went bust in a few weeks. I was without gas money, hangout with friends money and was home bound and broke for weeks. My folks weren’t happy with me. I finally got a job after summer working at my buddy’s wind surfing shop, taking tourists out to the waves. Never again did I ever take work for granted. Now Im 61. Many jobs under my belt. I hope to stay employed for as long as I’m needed. Being broke and without savings is not a place I want to revisit. Be well and stay blessed.

    • @Z3N_P1AYZ
      @Z3N_P1AYZ 15 дней назад +8

      great story and good for you!!!
      " being broke and without savings is not a place i want to revisit " .. but the sad reality of usa living is most people ( even if they have multiple full time jobs ) cant even save anything for savings and even people making 6 figures a year are living paycheck to paycheck! also be glad your not in chicago, ny or L.A.

    • @larkatmic
      @larkatmic 15 дней назад +8

      @ Thanks, and I hear you. Im in L.A. It’s my home. Everything has changed. Even our culture. We seem to have lass shared values today. My kids have had to move away. One to Phoenix 10 years ago and one to Vegas 15 years ago in order to save and buy a home to start their families. L.A is mainly a lot of hyper wealthy folks and destitute living side by side now. A shame. The middle class left a long time ago. I was taught by my dad to always, no matter if it’s a few coins. Pay yourself first! Save a little out of your pay each week, even if you think you can’t afford to. You can do without. He came from a time when a ‘one income’ was the norm. People tend to think it was easier and more affordable back then. But it wasn’t. Nothing has ever been easy or affordable, especially when the economy is based on current trends. Today it’s a 2 income economy because women are part of the work force. So if you’re single, you’ll most likely have a harder time than those who are married or have roommates. Today lots of people live beyond their means (especially the single ladies), and I’ll never understand why they do. Maybe it’s just the times. Lots more credit and temptations to spend and waste money. I never had my own place before I married. Roommates. I drove beater cars so I could save on insurance and learned to fix them myself. I know things are more expensive now, especially during this inflation. But do yourself a favor and pay you’re self first. It adds up. In a few years you’ll be surprised how much you saved and you won’t likely want to spend it, but save even more. It’s a good habit to have. Living paycheck to paycheck is what a lot of folks do, even back in my day. But there is no excuse to take a little out and pay yourself first before you pay the bills. That way if you’re ever in a bind or need to buy something. You’ll have the cash, and not have to use credit to pay. Interest payments keep you from wealth. A wealthy man has no bills. I wish you well and have a Happy New Year!

    • @aluisious
      @aluisious 15 дней назад

      I hope to stay employed until I have enough money saved where I don't need the job anymore.

    • @aluisious
      @aluisious 15 дней назад +2

      @@Z3N_P1AYZ People making 6 figs who can't save anything are stupid. I make that, I rent an apartment in the SF Bay, the most expensive housing market in the nation, and I save plenty. I bought a new car two years ago, the payments aren't a problem.
      Anyone SPENDING six figures has a problem.

    • @parked32_remote
      @parked32_remote 14 дней назад +1

      ​@@larkatmicThanks for sharing an insight of your life. Regarding L.A - can draw some parallels to here in Sydney Australia. I'm 36 now and only starting to take money more seriously - I have a good job but I have nothing. WIll take on your advice. Cheers. ​

  • @seahorse5689
    @seahorse5689 15 дней назад +51

    Finally, someone being really honest about this topic. So many others online either faking or have some other means of support that they are not disclosing. I also blame what I call the "wishful thinking gurus" who write things like if you just dream hard enough it will all come true. "Do what you love and the money will follow" thinking--well not always.

  • @peterrobbins6691
    @peterrobbins6691 16 дней назад +287

    I had my own business from my mid 20's to mid 30's. The hours were long and the money wasn't steady but I enjoyed what I did. However, the business kept getting more competitive each year and it was getting harder to make money. I decided to take a goverment job. I didn't like the job, but the pay was steady and I had weekends, all the holidays paid, health insurance and a pension. I've been there now 20 years and am now sitting pretty. I have 3 more years to go and then I can retire with plenty of money to last me 30 years. Sometimes we gotta do what we don't like to pay the bills and have a future.

    • @kli9005
      @kli9005 15 дней назад +6

      This is the reality of most but without the fat benefits.

    • @shigermuleye5203
      @shigermuleye5203 14 дней назад

      well you had to. there's always a cost.

    • @Dabloodyblondie
      @Dabloodyblondie 14 дней назад +7

      That sounds conformable. But to someone like me I couldn't imagine working a single job for my whole life and it being all over. Unless I absolutely adored the job.

    • @peterrobbins6691
      @peterrobbins6691 13 дней назад +3

      @@Dabloodyblondie Yeah, to tell you the truth it sucks, but it beats being broke. Luckily I had a great childhood and had alot of fun and also traveled alot in my 20's and 30's. Now I get weekends and get to take one long vacation per year. I actually envy the people that make $100k per year and more on RUclips, but I take what I have and make the best of it.

    • @dynagaming2693
      @dynagaming2693 10 дней назад +2

      @@Dabloodyblondie Crappy, mundane and boring jobs are normally the ones that pay well, and continue to do so over the course of years. I repair forklifts, and I hate it. Every customer thinks they're the top priority, everything is always "an emergency" and I'm getting older and sore, and everything on a forklift is either sharp or heavy. HOWEVER, I get good benefits and my pay is enough to where my wife can be a stay at home mother (by choice).

  • @jnixo9900
    @jnixo9900 11 дней назад +38

    Im 52 and have life experience. I would tell anyone never quit your job unless you have something else to go to. The stress of being unemployed...wondering if you will get another job....worrying about money...being displaced etc etc is far worse than going to a shitty job everyday. Have something else to go to first!

    • @faisalahmed6482
      @faisalahmed6482 11 дней назад +2

      True sir

    • @fayemahoney1481
      @fayemahoney1481 9 дней назад +9

      Absolutely 💯 agree with you ....definitely have a few things lined up before you quit...I've quit jobs and the stress of NOT working is horrendous especially trying to pay a mortgage and bill....so many Sleepless nights x

    • @roadrunner9622
      @roadrunner9622 13 часов назад +1

      In addition to the finances, it affects your psychology and your self-image. Which affects everything in your life.

  • @SuperTruebrit
    @SuperTruebrit 16 дней назад +68

    22 years ago I was an employee of a business where I was treated like a manager whilst earning grunt money . I walked out of it, as I had an idea to set up my own gardening business. I sub contracted to a roofing company, while I built my own business. I’ve been self employed ever since, my gardening business is successful and the only thing I would do differently is I would’ve set my business up earlier. The message I would send to anyone who thinks having your own business is easy, is it’s not. It’s constant graft, both physically and mentally and if that doesn’t sound palatable don’t do it.

  • @mellel5594
    @mellel5594 14 дней назад +77

    I can't believe this timing! I was all set to quit my job this weekend due to health issues. My work is labour-intensive, so aches and pains are the norm. This morning, I had decided that if I was feeling physical pain when I finished work, then I would submit a letter of resignation this weekend. I just got home from work not long ago, turned on YT, and immediately saw your video! I have never seen any of your videos before! I don't know who you are!! But thank you for this video!! Thank you for sharing your situation with us!! I appreciate this so much!! You have a new subscriber from Canada!! ✌🏾

    • @CroisMoi
      @CroisMoi 14 дней назад +12

      Hi. I'm an acupuncturist. Pain is easy to resolve. You can also take simple things like ginger root and bromelain enzymes. I wish more people knew this.

    • @thebigunodos3559
      @thebigunodos3559 14 дней назад +13

      I hope you find a job that doesn't hurt your body. You only have one body.

    • @SavvySocialMediaShop
      @SavvySocialMediaShop 13 дней назад +1

      Thanks for that ! I also have a lot of aches and pains.​@CroisMoi

    • @newbarker523
      @newbarker523 13 дней назад

      ​@@CroisMoi je ne vous crois pas 😉

    • @Gillian.Ashcroft.66
      @Gillian.Ashcroft.66 12 дней назад +2

      I'm right there with you, I'm 58 & probably need to work til I'm 70 ( pension here will not keep me alive) but omg my arthritis is so bad ......

  • @clutchhaze1036
    @clutchhaze1036 13 дней назад +23

    Life is a joke... A cruel joke

  • @gansgevtekked1917
    @gansgevtekked1917 17 дней назад +139

    I was working a job that I didn't like. Then the virus came and it made the job even worse and had to stay home. So I quit my job and I went back to school for an entire year, 5 days a week to get my certificate in logistics. So I went from call-center to logistics. So happy now and doing much better!

    • @franciscofredericci4081
      @franciscofredericci4081 16 дней назад +4

      Well done :)

    • @solarsmile9990
      @solarsmile9990 16 дней назад +4

      Can you elaborate what exactly you do in logistics, like what is your official job title and tasks now? I‘m currently also working at a call center, looking for inspirations for my next steps.

    • @gansgevtekked1917
      @gansgevtekked1917 16 дней назад +15

      @solarsmile9990 I am a coordinator logistics. My company buys steel and then produces steel plates. I organise the transport to the customer and also the transport from the port to our warehouse. Also guiding drivers and making sure safety regulations are being respected. Logistics is a very good choice if you are looking for something new. Almost every company has a logistics department. But I would advise you pick a company that produces goods in a well paying sector.

    • @franciscofredericci4081
      @franciscofredericci4081 16 дней назад

      @gansgevtekked1917 - you based in England? :)

    • @gansgevtekked1917
      @gansgevtekked1917 16 дней назад +1

      @@franciscofredericci4081 Belgium

  • @TheHabakuki
    @TheHabakuki 2 дня назад +1

    I wish i would see it before i jumped to my private company and failed! Well done man, not many ppl have balls to talk truly about rhe reality !

  • @kingsofbattlegaming1540
    @kingsofbattlegaming1540 15 дней назад +55

    I had to pause the video just five minutes in. It’s uncanny how timely this video is-today marks exactly one year since I left my high-paying sales job with great benefits in search of "greener pastures." The mantra you’re sharing, “Don’t quit your job; life isn’t a game,” resonates deeply with me. I've been urging people online to reject the misguided advice from influencers who promote quitting stable jobs because a workplace feels "toxic" or a boss made an offhand comment.
    In this economy, leaving a secure position is a risky move, and I can say from personal experience: the grass is *not* greener on the other side. Think carefully and critically before making such a life-altering decision. Stability is undervalued, and those advocating for impulsive exits often underestimate the consequences.

    • @GaZonk100
      @GaZonk100 15 дней назад

      'the universe' will provide . . yeah, right but that's what many today believe (it's used to be a girly thing but now it's across the board)

    • @priyankarpanja4676
      @priyankarpanja4676 15 дней назад +5

      Stability is important for building career.
      One may quit job on matter of good reasons related to health, personal-well-being. I think it is important to have some fund as backup (assume 1 year or 2 years minimum) to sustain, then one may take some risk and explore other options.

    • @beckyzwhite
      @beckyzwhite 15 дней назад +2

      Wise, wise words.

    • @dmichael100
      @dmichael100 14 дней назад +4

      Wise words that I have found to be true over my 60 years. Started teaching school 8 years ago and still at it though many have quit claiming they couldn't stand it. It seems these days, workers are experts at finding a workplace "toxic"- when for us, it was just part of life. Every job has something unpleasant. The reaction to it seems to be the difference today.
      At every job I've had, there have always been fellow employees that complain about something all of us were experiencing- just going on and on about how we were all being mistreated. Funny, I was experiencing the same thing and never noticed I was mistreated.
      I swear, when I was driving a tractor trailer for foodservice (did it 13 years), we got a bonus and a raise and the drivers complained about taxes being taken out. I asked them: would you rather not have the bonus?
      In a related story: almost all of those complainers went from job to job and were never happy. Many had to end up taking a worst position than they had to begin with just to keep a roof over their heads.

  • @vigarobugsbunni
    @vigarobugsbunni 15 дней назад +18

    Thank you so much for your video, i've been in the same career for 18 yrs and I've thought of leaving but I've built seniority and it's stable. Honestly what helps me with my wandering eye is being off social media, and understanding that the grass isnt always greener.

  • @NadeDogg
    @NadeDogg 14 дней назад +55

    I quit my cushy job in 2017… within 18 months, I was sleeping in my car. It took years of daily work to get a career going again. I did spend pretty much the entire time working on my skills to change roles. However, I definitely could have changed some stuff in my personal life to accommodate my career change without losing income from my job

    • @lifeisstr4nge
      @lifeisstr4nge 14 дней назад

      :DDDD lol

    • @dynagaming2693
      @dynagaming2693 10 дней назад

      It's because you're sold this lie that work consumes your entire life and you can never improve and move into better positions if you're still working. What it actually is, is most people don't know how to manage time or they lack the initiative to continue towards a goal AFTER they're clocked out for the day. I get it. Most people want to relax when they get off work, not take additional classes, fill out more applications, and so on. But I never recommend cutting loose until you've secured a new position.

  • @vryc
    @vryc 15 дней назад +63

    I have children. Grown, adult children. I didn't pass on much wisdom; I did what I could. But there were a few recurring ones I harped on over the years. My most steady offering was, "take chances when you are young. Risk is your friend, or at least not entirely your enemy... when you are young. Even some of the worst outcomes can be recovered from simply because you'll have the time to do so. However, once your responsibilities begin to multiply, you'll just have less space, you'll have more to lose and less to gain. Take chances when you are young."
    Young, in my mind, is probably sub-25. This obviously carries some implicit notions: you won't be as experienced in life so losses will feel worse, but they will be more quickly forgotten. Risk is a tolerance, and your tolerances just get more rigid as you age; can't be helped.

    • @dragonmage7980
      @dragonmage7980 14 дней назад +3

      Unfortunately, unless you have some great support behind you, your decision-making and forward-planning skills in your early 20s are crap until your frontal lobe grows in at 25, and any risks you take will ultimately return a whole handful of nothing at best, or leave you worse off in less tangible ways than monetarily (you can bounce back from stuff like substance abuse to an extent, but it still leaves a mark).

    • @janice23847
      @janice23847 13 дней назад +4

      Yeah I don’t agree with this at all. When you’re young, it’s the best time to work for others and actually gain skills and knowledge and networks to eventually work on your own if that’s what you want to do. You’ll also have more savings to give you a cushion. There are tons of videos on RUclips of 21 yr olds wanting to stay home and be day traders and losing everything. Then they end up years behind everyone else. Start saving money as young as you can and learn as much as you can and then when you’re older you can easily take whatever risks you want because it won’t make any difference in your lifestyle and you’ll have enough connections to get a job if you need to.

    • @jordanbraidwood
      @jordanbraidwood 13 дней назад

      ⁠@@janice23847 just like the OP, I think y’all both have over generalized this idea. It’s prioritizing what is important to you, and recognizing there are pros and cons to any decision. Not everyone has the same goal in mind and that changes how decisions are made. I think the goal is to truly have an understanding of what those specific goals are to you and how to be successful in them.

  • @roadsideservice2406
    @roadsideservice2406 10 дней назад +8

    No matter where you go, there you are

  • @BryceDocherty
    @BryceDocherty 15 дней назад +63

    Watching these types of videos has good advice in them. But you can never compare yourself to someone else. I worked at Walmart for 7 years. Hated my job. Started following my dream to become a filmmaker in 2020. Last year I shot 3 videos for Sony and have been shooting weddings and other freelance work consistently since I left my job Oct 19th 2020. I wake up and have all my time to myself. People laughed when I told them I wanted to be a filmmaker. You can truly achieve anything in life. You just have to be smart about it and have a solid plan, and an unwavering faith you are going to pull it off. If you want it bad enough I believe many people can have a life they are fulfilled with. You can spend your entire life doing what you don't love, take a chance on doing something you love. Thanks for reading.

    • @shigermuleye5203
      @shigermuleye5203 14 дней назад +2

      thanks for sharing your story

    • @BryceDocherty
      @BryceDocherty 14 дней назад +2

      @shigermuleye5203 of course! Thank you for reading it. I make videos about it sometimes. Have a good day and be kind to yourself.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 14 дней назад +2

      It’s easier to take chances in ur 20’s I quit my job and moved hours away to attended nursing school … I am glad it panned out but that’s what the 20’s are for

    • @dragonmage7980
      @dragonmage7980 14 дней назад +6

      Survivorship bias lol

  • @aciwalker1671
    @aciwalker1671 13 дней назад +14

    I almost quitted my current job because of so many reasons but my bf said, "Bad job is better than no job", so i finally followed his words that kept me safe afterwards. And i got a lesson that, "Being realistic is better than only following your feelings".😊

  • @theyoungs100
    @theyoungs100 15 дней назад +11

    I truly appreciate your HUMILITY!!! THANKS for saving us from ourselves ( or stopped me from grumbling and complaining). Dont give up !!! New subby!

  • @cuda260
    @cuda260 16 дней назад +43

    100% agree. Unless you have something lined up, don't do it. Job hunting is basically just as stressful and demanding as a job except you don't get paid for it, plus people look down on you for being unemployed. There is so much bias in the job process against people who are not currently employed it's crazy, and of course every month you have a gap in your resume the bias just gets worse. Everytime I think I can't stand my current job, I think back to how I felt when I was last unemployed (it turned out to be longer than a year) and I decide some forms of suffering are better than others.

    • @kxjx
      @kxjx 14 дней назад +4

      Lie. Make up something. Say your were trying to start up a buissiness but it didn't work out. Say you went travelling. Whatever. Just say something that sounds reasonable and they cannot check.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 14 дней назад +1

      Some money is better than no money

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 14 дней назад +1

      @@kxjxtechnically is none of the business why you’re not working, To me if I was an employer all that matters is that if you’re good enough to do this job

  • @mikienicktravelforpassion5240
    @mikienicktravelforpassion5240 13 дней назад +32

    I have been a “victim” of certain type of content where the creators shared content highlighting how having a job is a bad thing , how our life is supposed to suck unless we quit our job and do something crazy.
    Next thing you know RUclips algorithm starts suggesting all similar content.
    You then get bombarded with content that make your life look miserable and you feel more and more depressed .
    I truly admire your honesty- not easy to share this story online , it’s hard to find people like you nowadays.
    All we see online are people bragging , baiting , and providing unreasonable and dangerous advice but never talk about their mistakes.
    Big up for you - new subscriber.
    I wish you the very best for your life ❤

  • @am_haus
    @am_haus 13 дней назад +13

    I'm at an off season point as a construction worker. I went to the UK (Scotland) and took my mind off the panic of not working. Here in the US there is no medical insurance if you are not working, and you get fined by the government if you do not have it. Which adds extra pressure on the already stressful situation of not working. Your time off is spent looking for the next job, not enjoying the moment of peace. Times have gotten worse with companies demanding you work the hours of two people, because they only want to pay benefits for one. And you are disposable if you don't comply. I don't want to go back.

    • @VonLouis10
      @VonLouis10 13 дней назад +2

      It’s frustrating how jobs can make us feel this way 😔. I know we need money to survive, but as a community, especially as Americans, we need to come together 🤝. This isn’t our fault - these corporations are being greedy, and they’re only hurting the economy 💸. The government doesn’t seem to be doing enough about it, but don’t lose hope. Keep pushing forward 💪!

    • @dandyer8351
      @dandyer8351 12 дней назад

      honestly i cant believe the sucicide rate isnt higher in your country its shit in the uk id kill myself if lived in usa

  • @charlesedwards4160
    @charlesedwards4160 16 дней назад +45

    DO NOT QUIT YER JOBS. believe me friends you will face the sh1ts once the bills start mounting up..

    • @daisylavender5275
      @daisylavender5275 14 дней назад +2

      Just stop ✋️ paying them.

    • @davidwood9966
      @davidwood9966 13 дней назад +1

      @@daisylavender5275 yeh ya eventually get one that says FINAL NOTICE and that's that.

  • @Strawberry-fk6iw
    @Strawberry-fk6iw День назад

    Your willingness to be so honest to both yourself and the world is incredible. I’m sitting here thinking, ‘Would I admit this to the world?’, and then I realize that it’s my inability to admit my shortcomings that are holding me back. Thanks for this.

  • @Sum_INTJ
    @Sum_INTJ 15 дней назад +72

    There should be more cautionary tales like this from people on RUclips. I have a similar one myself so I feel your pain. 2.5 years ago I left a job that was alright (but was starting to annoy me a bit) to pursue a Masters in cybersecurity, because I noticed there were lots of cyber jobs/adverts asking for people to go and do it. I finished the course recently and discovered that actually there aren't that many jobs in that sector as they made out, and now I'm working in a minimum wage job WORSE than the one I had before (doing LONGER hours too) because the dream cyber job I hoped to get seems out of reach, whilst going back to my old job is no longer an option. So yeah - sometimes you can leave your job hoping for something better and end up with something way worse than what you had even before. It's depressing.

    • @dacat8171
      @dacat8171 15 дней назад +9

      Wrong approach!
      Why is your Cyber Security job out of reach?
      Find out what is missing, get the missing brick and get into your new position.

    • @abdelazizsaafane190
      @abdelazizsaafane190 15 дней назад

      I wish you find a decent job, don't give up !

    • @Sum_INTJ
      @Sum_INTJ 15 дней назад

      @@dacat8171 But the recent stress levels I’ve had to endure to get the course done has almost entirely put me off wanting to work in the industry! If I’d known it would make me feel so shitty I wouldn’t have left my job to go study it at all. And I’d have had 2 pay rises in my old job since the time I left due to annual increases. I’m down about 20k and a ton of stress because of my decision.

    • @Sum_INTJ
      @Sum_INTJ 15 дней назад +3

      @@abdelazizsaafane190 thanks. I think the stress and the money wasn’t worth it. Probably should have just stayed where I was, I’d be better off for it in both income and savings and mental well being too.

    • @minoozolala
      @minoozolala 15 дней назад +2

      @@Sum_INTJ It is always better to have good higher education on your resume. Things will work out for you in the end.

  • @vazhunt1
    @vazhunt1 19 часов назад

    Thank you for your transparency. This video has really put things into perspective for me and has made me realize that I need to reevaluate my priorities.

  • @endyy6671
    @endyy6671 18 дней назад +64

    I was honestly thinking about quitting my job for the new year.. This video really made me reconsider things.. Thanks Jay

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +13

      Not saying it's not the right choice, just saying there's a lot of content out there irresponsibly suggesting that everyone should do it. I just wanted to give a more balanced view and get people thinking before making sure a bold move. Glad the video helped.

    • @peconomusman
      @peconomusman 17 дней назад +5

      I realized that I could quit my job but, why? What was I running from, and more importantly, where would I be running to? Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side because we are set in routine and think we need excitement.
      But like Jay said, you can have a cushy job that is routine and not know it before it's too late.
      Keep up the grind bro and lock in.

    • @JasonReborn-hc6lx
      @JasonReborn-hc6lx 15 дней назад +2

      You absolutely must have a very solid plan if you do.

    • @Xenoforge78
      @Xenoforge78 12 дней назад +1

      Same here... the algorithm actually did a good thing for once.

  • @scemat
    @scemat День назад +1

    Best of luck mate, I hope things start looking up. I think "follow your dreams" vibes in social media is the definition of toxic positivity and outright dangerous. Everything you said in hindsight makes sense and I'm happy you put it out there as a cautionary tale for others. Only thing I'll point out is that the "successful" youtubers usually quit their FT jobs when they have already established some earnings from their side business or have other cushions, e.g. lots in savings or a partner that can afford to support them.

  • @ColtyT33
    @ColtyT33 18 дней назад +87

    I impulsively quit my job a week ago and came back a few days later 😂 I realized I didn’t have a back-up plan

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +18

      Yeah there's an excitement to just saying f#ck it but that excitement soon wears off when the bills come in

    • @Dessan01
      @Dessan01 15 дней назад +4

      Did you actually tell them you'd quit? 🤣

    • @jamesavsn
      @jamesavsn 15 дней назад

      you quit with no plan? are you mentally ill?

    • @JasonReborn-hc6lx
      @JasonReborn-hc6lx 15 дней назад +3

      Lol. They let you come back that easily? Either you have a cool boss and you are the issue or your job sucked so bad they knew they couldn't find anyone else to do it lol. If it's the job that sucks then you may be able to ask for higher pay at least.

    • @bayjustin3885
      @bayjustin3885 15 дней назад +3

      What are u doin here ?
      Nothin. Why?
      I thought u quit …
      Huh? 😂
      Just pretend u didn’t quit, huh?
      Brilliant!

  • @jxmtb
    @jxmtb 8 дней назад +1

    Thanks for the great video! I love how genuine and well-reflected you are and that you show vulnerability. If you keep it this way, you will help more people.

  • @laurieclarkson9180
    @laurieclarkson9180 13 дней назад +6

    Thank you for sharing this! I was struck with a health problem that lasted years and then I was kinda traumatized by the scenario because my mind went in many weird directions and I'm starting to get it together and rejoin society/working world. We aren't young, beautiful, strong, and healthy forever. There will come a day when you cannot work anymore--you're done. You're down for good. Working won't be an option and when you're ill or disabled, all you want is to be comfortable, have little to stress about, and have the basic everyday items that you need. The decisions we make today can greatly increase or decrease our quality of life later. The working version of you is a phase--a phase many of us take for granted. You are blessed every day that you can work. Make it count. Working You should be preparing a beautiful future life for non-working, ill, disabled, vulnerable you. Take good care of your future selves before it's too late.

  • @tommrugala1513
    @tommrugala1513 16 дней назад +61

    Just imagine if you were living 200 years ago as a subsistence farmer. Either you worked from sunup until sundown or you died. Always hoping you could survive the winter, always worrying about the weather.

    • @Z3N_P1AYZ
      @Z3N_P1AYZ 15 дней назад +5

      @@geocam2 i agree... they want you to be happy with $20-$50 an hour so they can buy 3 more vacation houses n a couple more yachts

    • @zarroth
      @zarroth 15 дней назад

      @@geocam2 capitalism hasn't existed for decades. too big to fail isn't capitalism, nor are bail-outs or any other tax payer funded nonsense corps get these days. You blaming capitalism for everything is just exposing your ignorance.

    • @dmichael100
      @dmichael100 14 дней назад +5

      That is exactly right. There is some perspective missing among many today. All of this introspection about "Is this job really me? Do I have enough leisure time? When am I going to be promoted?"
      For most of human history, no one had the luxury to even consider such questions. Humans have always had to survive and not too long ago. it took all day, every day to do that.

    • @Dabloodyblondie
      @Dabloodyblondie 14 дней назад +6

      200 years ago was 1824 at least I could afford to have 4-6 children. To have 4-6 children now I would have to make and I'm not kidding like 150K-250K a year which is ludicrous. I rather be the American 1820's cattle rancher

    • @dragonmage7980
      @dragonmage7980 14 дней назад +6

      The difference back then was that there was nothing else, so people had no higher ambitions. People nowadays want to live, not just survive, because that's what we've been raised to expect by the cushy society in which we've lived our entire lives.

  • @conorkelly4640
    @conorkelly4640 18 дней назад +68

    We need more videos like this. There is a lot of dangerous content out there about quitting your job and following your dreams. While I feel there is some merit to that argument, this is a very serious decision to make and one that can and will have massive implications. It really annoys me when influencers come out with such bold statements to a broad audience when they know right well that advice like that should only ever be given on a cases by case basis.
    Thanks Jay, great video 👍

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +12

      Thank you, I'm glad you agree. Noticed a lot of dangerous content out there trending at the moment and just wanted to put out a more balanced perspective.

    • @JasonReborn-hc6lx
      @JasonReborn-hc6lx 15 дней назад +3

      It's kinda hard for me to fathom that someone would quit their job without a solid plan. My wife would lose her mind if I did that without a very solid plan lol.

    • @CraigMilesYoutube
      @CraigMilesYoutube 15 дней назад +1

      I quit a well paying job in 2016. Partially because I didn't want to be working away from my family in the week.
      But then went wholly self employed.
      What I've discovered since is that having a job as well as being self employed works best (for me personally anyway).
      Having to constantly juggle both business and personal finance, was stressful.
      By having a part time job, which pays the bills, makes building a Business so much less stressful.

    • @agatastaniak7459
      @agatastaniak7459 14 дней назад +2

      What we need is simply educating people that what they see on mass media is not 100% what reality is. When I was a kid and tv was most common visual mass media we were reminded all the time " don't believe all they say and show on tv". Nowadays for some reason people fail to comprehend that they cannot believe everything they see or hear on Internet or in social media. Another tactic would be to teach people about what stats say about various things. And as fr chasing dreams and your own business less than 10% of population succeeds in it. So unless someone was born into wealthy family odds of passing exam to become a medical doctor or a decent lawyer are higher than this since 15% of graduates are capable of this. So yeah, pick your hard wisely.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 14 дней назад +1

      That’s great for your 20’s I did it in my 20’s and it panned out now 39 I am drained from doing the same thing over and over decade but I will stay till I find a federal job or better benefits this is not the time to switch jobs it’s slim Pickens

  • @fujivato
    @fujivato 17 дней назад +147

    Never run from something, only ever run towards something 👍

    • @cruiser6260
      @cruiser6260 16 дней назад +3

      Depends.. run toward the light of an explosion and you will then need to go towards the light

    • @andreslebon3869
      @andreslebon3869 15 дней назад +1

      Wow! This must be from Confucius.

    • @fujivato
      @fujivato 15 дней назад +2

      @ Nah, he’s too busy chasing rabbits or something 🤣

    • @kli9005
      @kli9005 15 дней назад

      I agree.

    • @BREEZYM6015
      @BREEZYM6015 14 дней назад

      I'll run from a toxic relationship. 😂

  • @MrMarcy76
    @MrMarcy76 14 дней назад +14

    I love the honesty here.
    Moving abroad and the whole ‘I’m leaving the U.K., USA, Canada’ etc, doesn’t necessarily work for everyone

    • @ByteGB80
      @ByteGB80 13 дней назад

      It's intentionally being said to get people out of the country

    • @nejmsornejm2973
      @nejmsornejm2973 10 дней назад

      And even if it works out, it oftentimes requires the amount of stress and effort that could bring you to success in your home country.

  • @Spiritcuffs
    @Spiritcuffs 2 дня назад +2

    Thank you so much. Iv literally had the exact same experience. My job partnered with a hospitality company management team who only care about making money but giving no value to the customer. Iv worked at our hotel for 10 years and everyone iv ever worked with quit thanks to this toxic company. I think about joining them and quitting but I can't afford to pay my bills working another job in my area. I make 53000 a year along with my wife, but if we didn't make this much we would lose our house. I wanna be a youtuber but iv never had the freedom of having time to make content. If I took the time to do so my house would be a mess and I'd be broke. I don't know what to do but I don't want this to be my life anymore

  • @Ashguy733
    @Ashguy733 16 дней назад +37

    I regret doing it because now its two months later and I can't find one in my area. I should have just slacked off like everybody else there instead of getting frustrated at having to pick up after people. It just was burning me out and this is the first time I quit a job with no backup before, usually I have another lined up, and I regret being that impulsive.

    • @dmichael100
      @dmichael100 14 дней назад +1

      Thanks for your honesty. A lot of people on here need to hear that.

    • @Ashguy733
      @Ashguy733 14 дней назад +2

      @dmichael100 I don't mind. I honestly don't miss the hassle of the job and I think if the job is really stressing you or unfulfilling, by all means find another, but wait till you have another job for certain and then put your two weeks in. I didn't and it honestly didn't even feel great the day I quit because in the end I was replaceable, they could manage without me and you aren't as vital as you think.

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад

      @@Ashguy733Mathematically you’re replaceable, but talent wise replacing talented people is extremely difficult, throw bodies in is not the answer

    • @corbinmiles5677
      @corbinmiles5677 11 дней назад +1

      I appreciate you sharing this. I almost raged quit for the same reason but I’m waiting until I get something else this time…

    • @Ashguy733
      @Ashguy733 11 дней назад

      @@corbinmiles5677 please do in this economy its crazy how many people in my small town I am competing with for a job.

  • @yo_its_javi9808
    @yo_its_javi9808 10 дней назад +2

    Great take, man. Appreciate you being genuine about it. The pursuit of one's dreams is necessary, but so is balance. Thank you.

  • @1germensit
    @1germensit 17 дней назад +53

    I left a software job without a new one lined up back in the summer. I left due to stress, living in crap rented accommodation where it was hard to sleep, and also a lack of direction about what I was supposed to be doing. Struggled in the office environment as well. Money was quite good though and there was flexible work where I could work from home which was 2 hours away from the office and rental. I woke up one morning in the rental accommodation after getting no sleep the night before and I said fuck it, I'm handing in my notice.
    Since then I haven't had a job. Pros are that Im getting good sleep, less fatigue, have been going to the gym for the first time, can study what I want in my own time.
    The cons are a lack of freedom from living back at home, and a lot of free time is actually spent looking for a new job! It's annoying also when people are always asking you what you are doing etc.
    Looking back, I probably would have stayed in job. I should have moved to more exclusive rental accommodation to be getting better sleep. Asked boss to work from home longer too to de-stress. But that's the benefit of hindsight!
    Hopefully something comes up in 2025.

    • @justachannel8600
      @justachannel8600 16 дней назад +5

      Left my job without anything lined up due to a horrible boss. Well, not directly, I told them I would not go to their mandatory gossiping sessions. Took me about half a year to find something new. Wish you best luck for the new year.

    • @jayl-rk5hm
      @jayl-rk5hm 15 дней назад +1

      you could go back to your old job since you gave notice and you can tell them you left for personal reasons but those personal issues have been resolved.

    • @larrybrander9116
      @larrybrander9116 15 дней назад +2

      I have a similar story with the not being able to sleep from neighbors. Left my job in automotive but I found that isn't what I want to do with my life.

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад +1

      @@justachannel8600it be like that sometimes,it reminds meof the Indiana Jones scene where’s he’s trapped on bridge surrounded by villains & his only option is to cut the ropes on bridge

    • @slylockfox85
      @slylockfox85 13 дней назад

      You don't have to sugar coat this. You lived next to annoying trash who were loud all the time and couldn't get sleep as a result.

  • @bobbastian760
    @bobbastian760 12 дней назад +36

    Step 1: Cut your costs 70%, get flat mates, get rid of your car etc
    Step 2: Pay off all debts
    Step 3: Maximize your income
    Step 4: Save up 1 year of pay
    Step 5: Do your dream as a side hustle
    Step 6: Focus on it when it's making at least 50% of your day job.
    Do not skip steps.

    • @VincentPascoe
      @VincentPascoe 11 дней назад

      Ug step 1 I'm there but I think I have to cut it another 70% now. Or get more work.

  • @Bab1991
    @Bab1991 18 дней назад +26

    I quit my job about 3 weeks ago now, not to necessarily pursue a dream, although I did want to work on some projects/hobbies, but fundamentally to fix my mental and physical health. I do sometimes get the thought did I make the right decision, as like you, I had it cushty, but then I remind myself that I couldn't have gotten myself to a position ready to move on whilst still being there and enduring the damage it was doing to me. Nobody would have employed me with the state I was in, nor was I confident enough to even look for other opportunities due to how I was feeling. Currently I am out of work and for now just looking for something part time, I don't have the most money, but enough for a few months at least. Fortunately my bills and outgoings are quite low so it's not too worrisome. Ultimately, I know I had to make this decision for my own good. Already just 3 weeks in I am feeling a lot better in myself. The stresses of my old job are gone, I'm sleeping better, working out consistently and just looking more vibrant. Sometimes you have to do these things to come out better at the other end and I have all the faith it will work out for me and for you too.

    • @maybugz
      @maybugz 18 дней назад

      What do you do for money?

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +5

      Thanks for sharing your story. Like I said, it's different for everyone but I just wanted to put a video out there for people that planned on just quitting without a plan.
      Awesome that you're already feeling the benefits of looking after yourself, just keep in mind that the stress you left behind at the old job will be replaced when you keep seeing money leaving your account and nothing coming in, that's where I got to!
      There's loads of part-time, flexible work out there if you're not bothered about what you're doing. Rm is fairly low stress which gives me time to work on this channel. I'd suggest looking for something like that, keeps the money coming in and also gives you the time to look after yourself.

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад

      @@Bab1991 people underestimate mental health

  • @dustymauve
    @dustymauve 12 дней назад +6

    I quit my teaching job in April '24. No job to go to but I had 3 months of bill money saved and a supportive family. I was lucky and managed to find a job out of education but still using my skills before my contract expired. Every day I try and 'repay' that luck by working hard in my new role.

  • @TheJuris1973
    @TheJuris1973 14 дней назад +8

    Thanks for this. Really needed this. Ive been mulling over quitting after being gaslit and bypassed for over 6 years. Guess i need to plan harder

  • @reaktorleak89
    @reaktorleak89 10 дней назад +3

    True, you may not hate your job, you may just have to tweak it. It's natural for men to think they need to make a drastic change. Recognize it, analyze it, think slow, change slow.

  • @agooodolecoder
    @agooodolecoder 16 дней назад +15

    I could live off my savings for 4 years atm. But I keep them in shares, and I pursue my "real goal" in my spare time. Which means almost no spare time / social life. But no gun pointed at my head .

  • @stuartogden1660
    @stuartogden1660 7 дней назад +1

    Thanks for the video. Adds reality/balance to the other "follow your dream" type videos

  • @matthewjohnathanwarburton8342
    @matthewjohnathanwarburton8342 15 дней назад +25

    Finally, some good advice compared to every other clown. "Live in the moment!" or "Move to Thailand or Columbia" does not really help. You hit the major points.

    • @CroisMoi
      @CroisMoi 14 дней назад +5

      My favorite is the "go where you are treated best". Yes, all you millionaires, sign up to live in Bolivia. It is cheaper there. As if a millionaire wants to save $2K a month on rent by living in another country. This schtick is for the people who have little money, but believe the hype.

  • @Squeeze.Beemers
    @Squeeze.Beemers 16 дней назад +12

    I made the same mistake exactly 1 year ago…Had at least 6 months living costs saved up but it took 3 months longer than anticipated to find another job, I am now paying the price unfortunately 😩

  • @akvyr
    @akvyr 15 дней назад +6

    I started freelancing (creating educational content, running professional trainings, quality assure projects, etc) as a side gig to my 9-5 when I was 25. It grew into a really sizeable income over 4 years (about 3 times the national average income), so I quit and started my PhD in parallel. At 33, I turned my PhD research into one business together with colleagues, and my freelancing into another business that I'm sole owner and director of. Three years later one has 4, other has 5 employees, and is quite steady, embedded in the area we wish to cover, making decent money for all. In the research-based business we also have technology and IP that might be worth a lot someday.
    You should definitely not rush into this thing. It takes years to grow anything into a steady state.
    And I have to say, most people are not cut out to be entrepreneurs. If the best you can do is some kind of copy-pasta MLM crap or dropshipping that you learnt from an online course, you should just find a job, because you are following a protocol on an oversaturated market, and not generating any actual value. Nice video. Reality check is needed, especially for under 30s.

  • @marcin5690
    @marcin5690 8 дней назад +2

    Or quit your job if you find a better one or if you start your own business but be smart about it and have a plan

  • @njay4361
    @njay4361 15 дней назад +12

    American here 👋 Our companies are broken. We are currently in a slow motion collapse due to unbridled greed and insane amounts of misinformatiom to keep affected class groups distracted and fighting eachother.
    I know you feel you made a mistake, but walking away showed integrity and incredible courage. And these 'failures' are teaching you powerful lessons, even if they are hard to learn. Keep going... your autonomy matters.

    • @pixelupdates7041
      @pixelupdates7041 14 дней назад +2

      Hey buddy good comment there. You are 100% right. I'm also an American and feel the same way

    • @ShowMeWhatINeedToKnow
      @ShowMeWhatINeedToKnow 14 дней назад

      The problem with corporate America is there's more people interested in pretending to work than doing actual work.

    • @njay4361
      @njay4361 14 дней назад

      @@ShowMeWhatINeedToKnow While that may be true in some cases, that is not the case overall. Perspective matters and I respect your right to have your own.

  • @CoconutPete
    @CoconutPete 12 часов назад

    Best advice I've heard is "your job is not your job...your job is to find a better job"

  • @Grufflehog
    @Grufflehog 18 дней назад +55

    Worked at the same company for 20 years covering Essex and Herts. Currently on £30k a year for quite a high skilled job. They just told me I’m now covering London. No payrise, no consultation because they can’t hire anyone in London on the money they pay. This is top 100 employer in the UK, multinational corporation. Told them I’m looking for a new job asap, absolute pisstakers. They dont value staff or anyone so why show any loyalty.

    • @Grufflehog
      @Grufflehog 18 дней назад +5

      @@The_Northern_one contract says they can unfortunately, “within a reasonable distance”. Already speaking to the union about it

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +9

      Sorry to hear that. The good thing is that working for a large company will look great on your CV and if your work is high-skilled, you'll have no problem finding another role. Best of luck with the search

    • @peterrobbins6691
      @peterrobbins6691 16 дней назад +5

      Thats only $37,644.70 usd about $19 an hr. What do you do? because that is peanuts these days. especially after working for the same company for 20 yrs.

    • @sarahmc8309
      @sarahmc8309 15 дней назад

      In same in my job in social care . They can’t hire anyone and because i was doing my some of the side work well they won’t even pay me proper salary after had my leavel 7 now saying need need the level 8 to get the little rise - decided that I’m gonna look for another job and leave as my sanity and mental health is worth more than that plus being under paid by €10-12k a year for €32k I’m asking as a trainee even , lower myself , so said nah F that. If can’t hire someone for the longest time what’s the point ? Why should I do double the work for a job they advertised then change it last minute .nahhhh it’s more work less pay . Not a hope on 20k!

    • @jamesavsn
      @jamesavsn 15 дней назад +4

      £30k and its high skilled? you are severely underpaid.

  • @GoneSailing78
    @GoneSailing78 16 дней назад +9

    Thanks for the honest video. When seeing videos on quitting its always important to consider the agenda of the person making the video. Many may be trying to sell a product or service and others may be seeking validation for their choices. Lovely scenery by the way.

  • @wotzupdoc1
    @wotzupdoc1 13 дней назад +2

    Thanks Jay for your timely and insightful video. It is a refreshing antidote to all the 'follow your dream' stuff on RUclips atm.
    The salient point here is that having a job PAYS THE BILLS, even if it is an unsatisfying job. It has made me re-consider my own thinking as I wind up my holidays and head back to the mill next Monday.

  • @30scapri
    @30scapri 15 дней назад +7

    The vast majority of business owners got started by working the job and gaining experience & contacts. Eventually something happens to their employer, like the firm goes bust or sells up. The individual see an opening and runs with it.
    I know this because this is what happened to me, nearly twenty years ago. Still self-employed..not living the dream though!
    I always ask business owners, how they got going and none say.. I had a dream. The answer is always what I described at the beginning.
    A casual knowledge of a subject and no customers will not be good enough to keep you employed.
    You need to have all (or most) of the answers before you commit.
    If you don't know enough, stick with the job until you do.
    Good luck.
    Life is more challenging now than it was 20 odd years ago.

  • @maromaro1337
    @maromaro1337 2 дня назад

    One advice dude - Don't quit your job after one video blows up. Quit when 20 or more blow up, because one video blowing up doesn't mean anything, most of the time it's a stroke of luck. Speaking from experience. Still, great video man!

  • @JCJW101
    @JCJW101 14 дней назад +6

    So true, 99 out of 100 people fail at achieving their dreams but this never gets talked about, just the sucesses for obvious reasons. It's an interesting dichotomy as if you never try you never win.

    • @dynagaming2693
      @dynagaming2693 10 дней назад

      You can try but one needs to set limits for themselves. How many times should you fail before you realize your dream isn't attainable, and settle into mundane life like everyone else?

  • @Dessan01
    @Dessan01 15 дней назад +14

    I've worked in the NHS since my early 20's (40 next month) honestly it's not been a bad 17 years, been patient facing and in the office and now I've worked my way up to middle management. Currently working shifts 4 on 4 off, managing a small team in a security control room. It does ruin the sleep pattern a bit and when I work weekends / nights / bank holidays (was on for Christmas this year) it is a bit rubbish for the other half. But the money is great, bills are getting paid, I can afford some luxuries and I get to save some money each month. Plus the pension is good when you get it and I get about 7 weeks of A/L a year. I've not lead a jet setting life "chasing my dreams" and it is a bit mundane, but I'm a lot better off than most right now, certainly no plan to quit; you just gotta turn up and grind it out. Though a big lotto / premium bond win may change that!

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 14 дней назад

      Same position here in the USA I will ride it out I have 5 years in slow and steady wins

  • @LakersParadise
    @LakersParadise 7 дней назад +4

    Yup it's no joke. I made over 57k from RUclips in 2023 but only 20k in 2024. People don't realize how volatile being a content creator/influencer can be. Dont quit your day job folks. I''ve been stressed for months now hoping to get a job in the field of my college major so. I can have a more stable and reliable income.

    • @raymondhughes7972
      @raymondhughes7972 4 дня назад

      Your channel has no videos I can see, how did you make 57K and 20k? You deleted your videos? You promote other content? 😊 thank you

  • @adambartlett6277
    @adambartlett6277 2 дня назад

    Great video. More young people need to hear this message

  • @giantbear829
    @giantbear829 16 дней назад +9

    To change your life you need to be either so determined you refuse to fail, or be willing to goto a place which is super cheap as you build your own asset, for making money.
    If you are not 100% all in, it won’t work, because you will just gravitate in a orbit of self doubt back to what you did before.

  • @TacBlades
    @TacBlades 13 дней назад +9

    99% of people that quit a job to follow their dream will fail because they dont have what it takes. Eaisly influed by social media.
    Never give up a job unless you are moving to sonthing else with money.

  • @davidsutherland3303
    @davidsutherland3303 18 дней назад +20

    Thanks Jay, I quit my job also. I haven't worked for a year now. Please keep making videos. 🙏 you resonate so much with me and you are a help and inspiration.

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +5

      Really glad they're helping, hoping to put a lot more content out there in 2025 so stay tuned!

  • @adammorra3813
    @adammorra3813 15 дней назад +22

    I've never regretted quitting any jobs. Most of the time, I waited too late before I quit. Now I agree you shouldn't just quit your job on a whim and I don't think most adults are going around quitting their jobs because they saw some RUclips and TikTok video telling them to. But most people that quit their jobs usually find themselves in a better situation, weather emotionally, mentally, physically, or financially. Worst case scenario is you learn from your mistake.
    Also, a job is not a guaranteed thing. It's the illusion of security. Your company could of laid you off or went bankrupt. So go out and do what you want to do anyways, don't cling to a job that makes you sick and unhappy.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 14 дней назад +3

      I only quit one job and it was the best decision I ever made I think about the pro and cons of every decision

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 14 дней назад

      I quit mines because by pussy whipped supervisor was gonna low-key fire me for something he couldn’t prove, I saw his trick he at first I said who are you sending this to! He said nobody, but whe. I asked him again he lied. he wanted me to write down everything I talked about & was gonna drag it out for another week until the office will call me in & give me the ol “ we cannot tolerate this kind of behavior” So I beat him to the punch & quit without no record of what I allegedly said. And found another job a week later. So if I decide to comeback to that company a year from now I’ll just tell, them i found another job, because I left no paper trail

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 13 дней назад

      My job was in a low income area they tried to low-key push me out, I told them hey if you’re gonna let me go just do it, my pussy whipped boss said he wasn’t but then later on he lied, so left & got another job

    • @dynagaming2693
      @dynagaming2693 10 дней назад +1

      Most adults aren't quitting over videos / TikTok, but a lot of the generation just entering the workforce sees those and have unrealistic expectations. They assume if a job isn't everything you want, just quit and it'll work itself out. Horrible advice. When you're older and put your time in, then you can leverage your options a lot more. You can't exactly throw your weight around when you haven't got any to throw. Especially with how competitive the majority of jobs are nowadays.

  • @scooterinthewoods2662
    @scooterinthewoods2662 14 дней назад +8

    Been there brother, took me a very long time to recover. A career change in your 30s is no joke.

  • @videowilliams
    @videowilliams 11 дней назад +5

    Yeah, that was genuinely therapeutic to hear! I quit an assistant's job in the script department of a TV show in my mid-20s because it struck me I would never be much good at writing what to me was "kitchen sink" soap opera which I'd never watched as a kid, and had a head full of the glory of blazing a trail as an independent filmmaker instead about the things that really made my heart beat fast. Some, as you say, take the "f*ck it, balls to the wall, I quit" approach and make it work in a business sense, but I was painfully naive about that stuff.
    Some gigs did pay while others cost and over time I created a decent body of work but slid behind in other areas of life. With no secure income, wow, it's hard to impress the women you like, impossible to commit to something like buying a home, and your social circle ends up- how to put this?- limited by poverty, and my oddly isolated life got smaller rather than larger over time. Now in my 50s, what I'd love to tell my 25-year-old self is:
    "You can do more than one job in the same week, mate! Make the time to do your own thing, follow your dreams and all that jazz on the weekends, but give the stable company job its workmanlike 5 days of the week, appreciate its perks financially and socially. Art is Grand but Money is Honey!"
    Hehehe.
    Because once you get to dollar zero, suddenly you find your choices dry right up and you're a beggar in the world. From 45 through 57, I spent a dozen years in the hole I'd dug for myself in a country town, no better advanced in the eyes of many than I'd been at 25, and only now am I climbing out of there and thinking like a grown-up with the ability to plan for the future again, thanks to- you guessed it- coming into some money again. And now ironically it's time, which I had pissed away so freely in prior years, that looks more valuable than money, and more limited.

    • @verminator1980
      @verminator1980 8 дней назад +2

      Absolutely spot on and a relatable comment.

    • @videowilliams
      @videowilliams 7 дней назад

      Thanks@@verminator1980!

  • @JestersDeadUK
    @JestersDeadUK 10 дней назад +1

    As a new subby….. JEEZ! this video really hits home and has found a LARGE audience dood!!!

  • @zmanthevegan
    @zmanthevegan 15 дней назад +3

    I quit my job many times and it has messed up my life, thank you for reaffirming that I should keep a job and work on my dream job. I just have to find a better job and one that suits me more. thank you!

  • @skylark1772
    @skylark1772 15 дней назад +3

    I’m glad you are telling this story. It’s so unwise to go with these online trends. A lot of nonsense on the internet has people driving trucks into crowds and quitting their jobs and getting BBLs. This is the real pandemic of unwise leading the unwise. Thanks at least for having the courage to impart this wisdom as someone who discovered this from experience. I wish you well.

  • @shaungosling9190
    @shaungosling9190 15 дней назад +12

    Beautifully honest and bravely open on what the reality is for the majority of people. Thanks for standing up and sharing how it's affected you

  • @kasper-jw2441
    @kasper-jw2441 18 дней назад +14

    dont quit youre life.
    sometimes its way better to quit and fail.

  • @brettmcintyre4956
    @brettmcintyre4956 13 дней назад +7

    Good on you for the honesty and push back against the trend. It is a good idea to be grounded and not emotional when making financial choices. Thanks again for the caution, it is well advised.

    • @Sean-ll5cm
      @Sean-ll5cm 13 дней назад +1

      I feel like the 'trend' is more of a larping fantasy than a real situation (except for maybe in China). I fantasise about quitting all the time, I watch people discuss it on youtube, etc, but I'm not stupid and most people know it would create even bigger problems. We're all just so sick of the grind. We feel like cogs in a machine that doesn't care about us so we all come to the Internet to vent and imagine the possibilities together

    • @brettmcintyre4956
      @brettmcintyre4956 13 дней назад

      @@Sean-ll5cm I get you. We all have had a longing to not be bound by so much time invested in building income. We tend to move toward what we focus on so be cautious how long you keep your focus on Larping and fantasy. Unfortunately if not content now, it is unlikely we would be content once the next step is achieved. (just look at music & movie stars who "have it all" and are still not content) Best wishes

  • @himanshu_sethi
    @himanshu_sethi 11 дней назад +2

    Thanks for the video. I'm 24 and I had to drop out of my PhD program after the first semester from a reputed university in the Sates. I had to return back to my home country India in the first week of Feb 2024. I spent the entire year just sitting around the house and doing nothing but feeling depressed.
    But thank God that I've now started to work as a software contractor. I make websites, web apps and mobile apps (only Android right now) and sell them. So far I am doing good and am feeling better.

  • @b521111
    @b521111 18 дней назад +11

    Am from saudi arabia … and I quit my job with 3 years worth of salary in advance …. And am in alot of ways searching for a job while maintaining other income opportunities…… thats the plan ….. and …. I hope it works …..

    • @JayWallace
      @JayWallace  18 дней назад +2

      Wow, fair play, you're playing it super-safe. What a fantastic opportunity you've given yourself, hope you find the thing you're looking for.

  • @usmanmahmoodbukhari3238
    @usmanmahmoodbukhari3238 4 дня назад

    I recently left my job not too long ago for various reasons but mainly just for my own well-being. The truth is the money was quite good, but I was quite thankful that I'd had a direction in mind and I knew where I wanted to go. I'm also quite blessed that I don't have that much upkeep and I'm happy to scale back my needs massively. All I will say is, I'm quite proud that you gambled on yourself and keep the faith. You never know what's around the corner and maybe things will turn around for you as well.

  • @RN-hx1rs
    @RN-hx1rs 16 дней назад +9

    The whole "work your passion" movement is made up by people who want to live to work. But the saying is "Work to live, don't live the work". Work is just something you do so you can fund what you really want to do on the weekdays and weekends. And if that becomes a career, great, but usually it doesn't work out. But you should still do what you want in that time.

  • @amarpatel3154
    @amarpatel3154 10 дней назад +1

    You speak very well and structured . Subscribed .

  • @BobbyBryanBaaco
    @BobbyBryanBaaco 16 дней назад +6

    I am a nurse, and I work in a carehome. I have always wanted admin stuffs and organizing, and I feel like I wanted to try this new side of nursing, virtual or digital as they say. I hope to make it happen in 2025.

  • @08149168xx
    @08149168xx 14 дней назад +2

    Thank you for being honest. It takes a lot of courage to share your mistakes publicly.

  • @candybracelets
    @candybracelets 14 дней назад +3

    Great video. A lot of those who advocate quitting your job suffer from survivorship bias. It can result in success, but those who have been lucky enough to make it work often overestimate the probability it will work for others and underestimate the amount of luck they received. In reality it's much more likely quitting your job will result in being poor and stressed. Aspiring to something better than your current role is totally fine, but pursuing that dream should be something you do alongside your day job until your side project provides enough income to support you on its own.

  • @Misterrocha
    @Misterrocha 4 дня назад

    Thanks for sharing your story mate. Your testimony helped a guy down here in Brasil.

  • @ArshbyJushua
    @ArshbyJushua 15 дней назад +20

    Everyone needs more than their salary to be financial stable. The best thing to do with your money is to invest it rightly, because money left for saving always end up used with no returns.

    • @BrentCowan-b3u
      @BrentCowan-b3u 15 дней назад +1

      You are absolutely right 💯

    • @BrentCowan-b3u
      @BrentCowan-b3u 15 дней назад +2

      Investing in alternate income streams should be the top priority for everyone right now. especially given the global economic crisis we are currently experiencing. stocks, gold, silver, and virtual currencies are still attractive investments at the moment.

    • @ChigozieUdeh-lh4sp
      @ChigozieUdeh-lh4sp 15 дней назад +1

      Am looking for something to venture into on a short term basis, I really need to create an alternate source of income, what do you think I should do?

    • @ArshbyJushua
      @ArshbyJushua 15 дней назад +3

      Cryptocurrency/stock investment, but you will need a professional guide on that.

    • @ArshbyJushua
      @ArshbyJushua 15 дней назад +3

      Facebook 👇

  • @bree8150
    @bree8150 14 дней назад +1

    This is such an important message and I’m SO glad the algorithm introduced us! I’m an instant new subbie! And that’s a fuck yes.

  • @andrewvo8395
    @andrewvo8395 15 дней назад +16

    I quit my $250k job. But I had a backup plan. I learned how to trade options while I had a corp job, while people were out spending money on weekends, partying, living it up, I was heads down for a year. And so I quit and I’m not looking back.

    • @mrzooks2383
      @mrzooks2383 15 дней назад +5

      You need quite a decent account size (and keep your expenses modest) for this to be viable in most cases

    • @vilesleepy1221
      @vilesleepy1221 15 дней назад

      Sigma gorillionaire zoomer

    • @andrewvo8395
      @andrewvo8395 15 дней назад +1

      @ yup, I’ve been working for 20 years and saved up and invested.

    • @mrzooks2383
      @mrzooks2383 15 дней назад

      @@andrewvo8395 What's the typical % annual return you shoot for? Is it a wheel strategy or other options strategy as well?

    • @tamiresronchini3355
      @tamiresronchini3355 14 дней назад

      What was your $250k job? Just curious

  • @kubracicek478
    @kubracicek478 5 часов назад

    Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • @kofuller
    @kofuller 14 дней назад +4

    I totally agree! Build your business while you work your job!
    I quit my multiple six figure engineering job to “do more fulfilling work” and quickly realized how different the required skillset for running a coaching business was from working for a business. (I actually have a feeling we had the same teacher/coach lol.) A year and over $100k spent later, I went back to work, making less than I before I quit, plus the addition of a terrible commute. Thankfully a year after that I landed a remote position making more than I did before I originally quit and am now able to work on my passion while still working my job.
    It was all a great learning experience. But take it from me… don’t quit your job until the next venture is solid!

    • @HouseofVenesianberg
      @HouseofVenesianberg 14 дней назад

      Stop lying

    • @kofuller
      @kofuller 13 дней назад +1

      @HouseofVenesianberg lol it’s very true, but now I’m curious… which part do you think is a lie? And why? 🤔

  • @lilPopper
    @lilPopper 14 дней назад +2

    In crazy times, I’m just glad I have a job and benefits. I try to put myself in the position that at the end of the day I’m doing what I can to survive and provide.
    My job does not define me. And the things I love to do I don’t want to corrupt them.

  • @one100billNEOONE
    @one100billNEOONE 15 дней назад +5

    Great video and great timing. I will become eligible to retire in 2 months exactly. 5 years ago I was so excited and looked forward to retiring but now that I’m so close, I don’t think I can do it. I enjoy what I do for a living, my director is super chill, the pay and benefits are great, and my position is very autonomous and quite flexible with time. Long story short, I will not retire just yet but will take advantage and keep maxing out the 457b, keep on increasing my high yield savings account monthly and taking my 2 vacations per year. The great thing is that come March 1, 2025, I will finally “ get to go to work” instead of having to work. I’ll be turning 50 this year. I will eventually retire and way sooner than the normal retirement age. Thanks for the video and wishing you good health and fortune for 2025.😊

  • @AngelApprentice
    @AngelApprentice 13 дней назад +1

    Your honesty and clarity and authencity is all valid. I stuck a self employed business for many years, but I was good at it, so stuck it to the bitter end, as I had bills. Still have bills, but was glad I stuck at it. Mainly to contribute with bills, didnt have holidays or treats. Didn't want to let my husband down. We both worked from 16 years old. Both stopped due to ill health. But, had I quit because I ended up hating my job, God knows where we would be now.

  • @TimmyFrank-m2h
    @TimmyFrank-m2h 16 дней назад +5

    I've done the same thing in my younger years. Once I even returned to a job that i quit and it didn't take long to realise why I left in the first place. If you get along well with your boss, the pay is ok and you have chance for advancement. Then you are mad leaving the job.. but keep in mind, you need to ask for a pay rise and to be promoted. It's up to you no one else to make it clear on your terms. I think its Very rare for a boss to just give them to you. No matter how hard you work compared to others. And If you just show up and do your job and go home, then you can't really expect more than the effort you gave either. And let's face it. Many people just turn up and think they are entitled to more than they are really worth.