alex put a few sound panels up on the walls around your desk there and your microphone will sound way better. all the reflections are making it sound hollow.
It’s probably a bad idea to write a letter. No matter how well it’s written, you will eventually regret giving it to your significant other. This happens because the perspective you have now will change over time. The way you handled things when you were 15yrs old is different than the way you handle things now, because you’ve matured, and your perspective has changed. The same thing will happen in this situation. If you write a letter now, it will not reflect the maturity that you will eventually gain. Your significant other will be left with a reminder of your current mindset, which may actually hurt your chances of getting them back in the future. Hope this helps.
@@jaymcgee426 I was needy and a bit of jealous guy towards the end. It kind of ended abruptly. I took my things and left saying “have a good life.” I wanted to just say sorry for acting needy and that I shouldn’t rely on her for my happiness etc. (to basically take owner ship) and that if she changed her mind etc to let me know and if not I’ll continue respecting her decision. I’ve been in No Contact 5 weeks now.
@@vladsciencedrums Please try to understand that all of us dumpees feel that way. I felt the same when I was dumped. There is an almost obsessive thought, that if we can say that final thing, that last word, somehow we can change the trajectory of events. It’s really a subtle form of control. After you write that letter, in a few weeks you will probably begin to feel you need to write another letter, and you’ll convince yourself that’s it’s for a totally different purpose. The reality is that we are really seeking validation. We want our dumpers to soften towards us in some way, and possibly dangle some hope, no matter how small. If she does not react favorably towards your letter, you will probably revise it in your mind, and consider writing another one. Since 30 days has already passed, the impact of any apology now is probably greatly diminished, if there will be any impact at all. She will probably feel that you’re trying to be manipulative, since so much time has passed. Now, you will have to trust that Life will ultimately deliver Who and What is right for you. Eventually, you will be forced to come to this decision, whether you want to or not. If you sincerely decide to learn and grow from this experience, you will be surprised with the way events ultimately turn out. Send her a loving vibration, sincerely intend to do better, and mentally give her your blessings to be happy. This will not be easy, and that’s precisely the reason you must do it. This is a true demonstration of your commitment to be better. She may reappear one day when you least expect it, and you will be equipped to handle things in a different manner. Good luck my friend. You’ll be absolutely fine, I promise.
@@jaymcgee426 I just want to give it 1 last try because I left saying “have a good life”. I basically put in there , I accept if she doesn’t look back and not respond etc. I rather not text because there’s more anticipation.
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alex put a few sound panels up on the walls around your desk there and your microphone will sound way better. all the reflections are making it sound hollow.
How can I get help with getting advice whether to write letter and whether what I wrote it well?
It’s probably a bad idea to write a letter. No matter how well it’s written, you will eventually regret giving it to your significant other. This happens because the perspective you have now will change over time. The way you handled things when you were 15yrs old is different than the way you handle things now, because you’ve matured, and your perspective has changed. The same thing will happen in this situation. If you write a letter now, it will not reflect the maturity that you will eventually gain. Your significant other will be left with a reminder of your current mindset, which may actually hurt your chances of getting them back in the future. Hope this helps.
@@jaymcgee426 I was needy and a bit of jealous guy towards the end. It kind of ended abruptly. I took my things and left saying “have a good life.”
I wanted to just say sorry for acting needy and that I shouldn’t rely on her for my happiness etc. (to basically take owner ship) and that if she changed her mind etc to let me know and if not I’ll continue respecting her decision.
I’ve been in No Contact 5 weeks now.
@@vladsciencedrums
Please try to understand that all of us dumpees feel that way. I felt the same when I was dumped. There is an almost obsessive thought, that if we can say that final thing, that last word, somehow we can change the trajectory of events. It’s really a subtle form of control. After you write that letter, in a few weeks you will probably begin to feel you need to write another letter, and you’ll convince yourself that’s it’s for a totally different purpose. The reality is that we are really seeking validation. We want our dumpers to soften towards us in some way, and possibly dangle some hope, no matter how small. If she does not react favorably towards your letter, you will probably revise it in your mind, and consider writing another one. Since 30 days has already passed, the impact of any apology now is probably greatly diminished, if there will be any impact at all. She will probably feel that you’re trying to be manipulative, since so much time has passed. Now, you will have to trust that Life will ultimately deliver Who and What is right for you. Eventually, you will be forced to come to this decision, whether you want to or not. If you sincerely decide to learn and grow from this experience, you will be surprised with the way events ultimately turn out. Send her a loving vibration, sincerely intend to do better, and mentally give her your blessings to be happy. This will not be easy, and that’s precisely the reason you must do it. This is a true demonstration of your commitment to be better.
She may reappear one day when you least expect it, and you will be equipped to handle things in a different manner. Good luck my friend. You’ll be absolutely fine, I promise.
@@jaymcgee426 I just want to give it 1 last try because I left saying “have a good life”. I basically put in there , I accept if she doesn’t look back and not respond etc. I rather not text because there’s more anticipation.