As the Anxious one I did take her effort as a DA for granted.she went outside her boundaries to meet me where I wanted to be and i didn’t respect her boundaries..
I have a question. My ex and I broke up 2.5 years ago. We were kinda back and forth for a few months but it didn’t go anywhere (she is FA). I went NC for 1.5 years and this apparently really upset her. After 1.5 years we reconnected by chance, and we had communicated well and spent time together for about 3 months, where, at the end of those months, she expressed that she loved me and became quite vulnerable and is when I think she got scared and ran away. She hasn’t actually told me that we will never get back together but rather she says she thinks we should move on. She has said this like 3 or 4 times, yet still responds or initiated contact. I can’t tell if she’s doing this to see if I’ll chase after her or if she is trying to soften the blow and telling me that I need to get over it.
Last Week Me & My GF of 5 years have called it a day.Her Choice lost feelings!! I was mature about it and said she needs to be happy. This also happened in Feb 2021 and wanted me back in July 2021…Which we did.Her hysterectomy Op in 2020 change her,Sent her in to early menopause. I really hope this turns around!! She’s had a lot go off her life this year.Her mum has been diagnosed with throat cancer & her daughter has has mental health problems for the first half of this year!! . We work at the same place . She’s not asked me to pick up my clothes from hers . Said she wants me to sit with her at dinner time still ( work ) . Still got our pics on her FB Spoke to you May 2021,When we split before!!
My boyfriend told me he loved me I came to hospital because he gave me COVID he said he loves me but I said you have to show love not just say it so because of this he's not answering me at all...we were strong and it was very special
Me and my girlfriend and I have been together for over 7 years last year she left me for another man .few months later we got back together, last week she told me again that she wanted a break and she didn't feel like the same love .I am all mixed up because last year when she got back she said that she can't be without me .I have a feeling that she is back with her last year rebound man ,what's is my options ?
When she left you for the first time after how long did you get together and who made the first step? I am kinda in a same situation. We have been together for almost 7 years (without few months) and she left me for someone else. Its been 2 months since the breakup and im still in a bad place myself. Dont wanna contact her yet because im still working on myself and I hope for a chance in a future.
Actually last year she left for around 3 months we were still talking because she worked for me on new year she send me happy new year and after few days we decided to go to meat at the casino ,from there we hit it off and we started back together my mistake I tike her back to easy .and look what happens again 8 months down the road she left again I believe she went with the same man .now I will put her outside of my business onec and for all. Be careful dude don't let her back in too easy and put boundaries. Good luck man
@@jackjames5694 At lest you wont have any regrets that you didnt try everything. You can close this chapter of your life and start a new one and hopefully a better one. I know that in a few months I`ll contact my ex even tho she will probably still be with him. I just don`t wanna try to move on with thoughts that I didn`t do everything I could. I`m not sure if she will give me any chance or if she will still be the one that i love because let`s be real. People change and as I think about our relationship I can see her in three forms. The one that I love, second one that was focus mostly on work and had only some time for me and the third one that I don`t know right now (current stage with the new guy). I wanna see if the one that I love still exists in her and if she does I`ll try to make a move. But first I need to get my shit together and probobly some times around the new year I`ll try my chances.
My Ex broke up for the third time with me 42 days ago. Since then I'm in NC. It's only after the last break up I've realised that he is a DA. I hope he will recontact me. Now that I know that he is a DA I would "handle" the relationship differently with him. I have a secure attachment style. In case that he won't come back to me, I would be very sad but will move on
6:00 no, for 100% my Ex didnt try to tell me what was wrong! I knew that something was wrong, but everytime I tried to talk to him, he distanced more. When he broke up, he just left. I tried to get some information while he went out, that he said something with "dont love you" and "I dont want to be a father". Three weeks later we met and the reasons changed. He said he loves his child but he still ghosts it.... surely, he didnt say ANYTHING, and sorry, a grown up who does not addess his problems and damage a child is not my responsibility! It is his and his only. Everyone is responsible for his own behaviour and feelings. I told him to go to couple counsil- he rejected- he rejected everything, so this is definitly his falt on his own.
I hope my ex will get karma by 30000% back for everything he did to me. No avoidant personality ever worth health normal person effort . They are bat s-t crazy best thing to stay away run as fast as you can
Avoidants leave without any real reason.
As the Anxious one I did take her effort as a DA for granted.she went outside her boundaries to meet me where I wanted to be and i didn’t respect her boundaries..
Can’t believe I’m watching this
You're looking good bruv
3 months in no contact, i got unblocked 3 weeks ago but heard nothing
Keep going bro, you must be doing something right 👍🏻💪🏻
Say "Hey, did you unblock me to stock me or do you miss the D"?
Got an update?
Did she come back in the end?
He is the one and the only one. I had other relationships however this one is one that is my and his world. Score is above 30.
Did you get back together?
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@J85kitten
update?
Your message is so potent. It hit really hard. I needed this! Thank You Só Much, Alexis!
My wife left me because she had the menopause and I became disgusting for her. She later admitted that.
You are one of the best at this stuff.
I have a question. My ex and I broke up 2.5 years ago. We were kinda back and forth for a few months but it didn’t go anywhere (she is FA). I went NC for 1.5 years and this apparently really upset her. After 1.5 years we reconnected by chance, and we had communicated well and spent time together for about 3 months, where, at the end of those months, she expressed that she loved me and became quite vulnerable and is when I think she got scared and ran away. She hasn’t actually told me that we will never get back together but rather she says she thinks we should move on. She has said this like 3 or 4 times, yet still responds or initiated contact. I can’t tell if she’s doing this to see if I’ll chase after her or if she is trying to soften the blow and telling me that I need to get over it.
Last Week Me & My GF of 5 years have called it a day.Her Choice lost feelings!! I was mature about it and said she needs to be happy.
This also happened in Feb 2021 and wanted me back in July 2021…Which we did.Her hysterectomy Op in 2020 change her,Sent her in to early menopause. I really hope this turns around!!
She’s had a lot go off her life this year.Her mum has been diagnosed with throat cancer & her daughter has has mental health problems for the first half of this year!!
. We work at the same place
. She’s not asked me to pick up my clothes from hers
. Said she wants me to sit with her at dinner time still ( work )
. Still got our pics on her FB
Spoke to you May 2021,When we split before!!
Thank you! 13.8 booooo!
How much space for a dismissive avoidment ex its been 3 months no contact?
man alex, as a straight man, those eyes of yours are making me lean straight-ish 😍
My boyfriend told me he loved me I came to hospital because he gave me COVID he said he loves me but I said you have to show love not just say it so because of this he's not answering me at all...we were strong and it was very special
Me and my girlfriend and I have been together for over 7 years last year she left me for another man .few months later we got back together, last week she told me again that she wanted a break and she didn't feel like the same love .I am all mixed up because last year when she got back she said that she can't be without me .I have a feeling that she is back with her last year rebound man ,what's is my options ?
When she left you for the first time after how long did you get together and who made the first step?
I am kinda in a same situation. We have been together for almost 7 years (without few months) and she left me for someone else. Its been 2 months since the breakup and im still in a bad place myself. Dont wanna contact her yet because im still working on myself and I hope for a chance in a future.
Actually last year she left for around 3 months we were still talking because she worked for me on new year she send me happy new year and after few days we decided to go to meat at the casino ,from there we hit it off and we started back together my mistake I tike her back to easy .and look what happens again 8 months down the road she left again I believe she went with the same man .now I will put her outside of my business onec and for all.
Be careful dude don't let her back in too easy and put boundaries. Good luck man
@@jackjames5694 At lest you wont have any regrets that you didnt try everything. You can close this chapter of your life and start a new one and hopefully a better one.
I know that in a few months I`ll contact my ex even tho she will probably still be with him. I just don`t wanna try to move on with thoughts that I didn`t do everything I could. I`m not sure if she will give me any chance or if she will still be the one that i love because let`s be real. People change and as I think about our relationship I can see her in three forms. The one that I love, second one that was focus mostly on work and had only some time for me and the third one that I don`t know right now (current stage with the new guy). I wanna see if the one that I love still exists in her and if she does I`ll try to make a move. But first I need to get my shit together and probobly some times around the new year I`ll try my chances.
Please. Keep your value. Let them go.
My Ex broke up for the third time with me 42 days ago. Since then I'm in NC. It's only after the last break up I've realised that he is a DA. I hope he will recontact me. Now that I know that he is a DA I would "handle" the relationship differently with him. I have a secure attachment style. In case that he won't come back to me, I would be very sad but will move on
Any update?
@As-cc9ug Finally after 106 days of nc since he contacted me for the last time by breadcrumbing, he has contacted me today. He wants to meet up...
6:00 no, for 100% my Ex didnt try to tell me what was wrong! I knew that something was wrong, but everytime I tried to talk to him, he distanced more.
When he broke up, he just left. I tried to get some information while he went out, that he said something with "dont love you" and "I dont want to be a father". Three weeks later we met and the reasons changed. He said he loves his child but he still ghosts it.... surely, he didnt say ANYTHING, and sorry, a grown up who does not addess his problems and damage a child is not my responsibility! It is his and his only. Everyone is responsible for his own behaviour and feelings. I told him to go to couple counsil- he rejected- he rejected everything, so this is definitly his falt on his own.
Link to book a call doesnt work
Please try this link, www.igetmyexback.com/coaching/
I hope my ex will get karma by 30000% back for everything he did to me. No avoidant personality ever worth health normal person effort . They are bat s-t crazy best thing to stay away run as fast as you can
Thank You for this video!!!!!
thanks Alexis