It's difficult to listen to some of this... As the female dumper, i had reasons for walking away... Yes, maybe i was too hasty... But hindsight is always easy... Making out it is all the dumpers loss and we are the losers cuts deep 😣 He did some things and never accepted accountability... Why does he win?? I'm not so bad and don't see this as something to win or lose... My heart is still broken and it's been 3 months...
I agree with you I had to do the same to save myself as I’m sure he was DA he hurt me caused me lots of pain stonewalling broken promises and other things too It’s been almost 6 weeks now since I left we are long distance I couldn’t waste anymore of my years on someone who ignores me for a week as we only had the phone and goes 8 months making excuses not to see me It does hurt to be pushed that far by a person who doesn’t seem to care ,, so I had no other choice It’s painful to say the least He caused me emotional trauma yet he couldn’t see it or didn’t want to I know I gave everything I had Be kind to yourself The ones who leave can leave for good reasons and it’s very painful to walk from someone you love but if it’s not being respected in any way or nurtured we cannot be expected to stay Life is short Try not to think it’s about him winning it’s more about doing what’s right for you The ones who are self aware and doing the work are the ones who move on 🙏
well, every story is different. Dont project it to your case. In some cases the dumpster is an a*holes. He left without saying something and he ghosted us, esp. the child. He has no contact as he doesnt want to, and yeah, that makes him a big loser!
Nah, if they dumped you, THEY should (I really mean the woman) initiate contact and take the risk of rejection, poor baby. Don't sit around waiting or hoping and never look back. They broke it, they should fix it.
If they are dismissive avoidant, they will not contact you. Even if they want to. Other styles of attachment will contact you. Its why it's important to work out if your ex is DA. If the ex is a DA you will always have to contact them, after a period of no contact.
@@juliangilbert5465 If that's true, other dating coaches would have pointed this out. But I don't think I've heard other dating coaches say they've never seen a DA ex reach back out.
@@juliangilbert5465exactly, the few times over the last few months that I’ve reached out to my DA ex she’s been very positive and receptive, even angling towards a meet up within a few messages. NC does nothing to encourage avoidant to reach out, it does make them think about you and miss you, but they will never chase you.
I dated my DA partner for 4 months. Things were going great. He kept telling me how amazing I was and how I would do things for him that no others would do. I felt like we had something special. We didn’t argue before he ghosted me. What is the probability of us getting in contact again?
My DA ex of 6 months did the same to me... I was heartbroken for 2 months or so... He came back during month 3 and it was too late, I'd moved on... 🚶🏼♀️ I hope you find the happiness you deserve 💟 xx
He used the need to find a younger woman to have a baby with. His kids won't talk to him. He is 69 years old and told me that he wants a baby to love him. He told me I was a great partner. He was also emotionally abuse at times.
What happens if it will be his birthday or an holiday? should write? I saw alot of videos and they said "not" because during those important days they can really miss you and really feel their decision and your lost.
Can you make a video about DA'S who break up with you and block you, if it's possible if they will ever reach out again? Mine told me he doesn't reach out to anyone. And he was also scared of rejection.
Classic, I aware all DA say this. It feels like trying to share the table with a pre schooler. I’m sorry . Honestly girl, you deserve so much better. Let him have his stupid block and his regrets from 1867!
@@jordanlennox5435hahaha they’re funny creatures. They’ll sabotage the relationship and then regret years later, they regret until the end of life.. and talk about past relationships that meant something to them but that they needed to run away from in that moment because omg shit is getting too real, they’re catching feelings, the other person has an effect on them..
Hi Alexis, I contacted my ex a a few times after no contact and he replied to me and we chatted a lot but in six months, he has never initiated to text me, even though he's always on WhatsApp. How do you explain that?
Over 1 year NC with my ex after 3 years together and a sudden discard. He never reached out and I have had a very difficult year picking up the pieces but I couldn't go back unless he had done a lot of work on himself because I can't risk that again he broke my trust.
Nope. No Plans of reaching out ever again. If it has been that easy for them to trash a 10 year relationship - then so be it. They can live their lives happily ever after. But I am not going back to them with a message. Self respect is important to me than any thing else. To hell with you and your god damn insecurities.
What I feel like she’s almost doing is using her almost bachelors degree in psychology to throw a lot of negative emotional awareness but she has a lack of forgiveness (4/10)
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It's difficult to listen to some of this... As the female dumper, i had reasons for walking away... Yes, maybe i was too hasty... But hindsight is always easy... Making out it is all the dumpers loss and we are the losers cuts deep 😣 He did some things and never accepted accountability... Why does he win?? I'm not so bad and don't see this as something to win or lose... My heart is still broken and it's been 3 months...
I agree with you I had to do the same to save myself as I’m sure he was DA he hurt me caused me lots of pain stonewalling broken promises and other things too It’s been almost 6 weeks now since I left we are long distance I couldn’t waste anymore of my years on someone who ignores me for a week as we only had the phone and goes 8 months making excuses not to see me It does hurt to be pushed that far by a person who doesn’t seem to care ,, so I had no other choice It’s painful to say the least He caused me emotional trauma yet he couldn’t see it or didn’t want to I know I gave everything I had Be kind to yourself The ones who leave can leave for good reasons and it’s very painful to walk from someone you love but if it’s not being respected in any way or nurtured we cannot be expected to stay Life is short Try not to think it’s about him winning it’s more about doing what’s right for you The ones who are self aware and doing the work are the ones who move on 🙏
well, every story is different. Dont project it to your case. In some cases the dumpster is an a*holes. He left without saying something and he ghosted us, esp. the child. He has no contact as he doesnt want to, and yeah, that makes him a big loser!
Essentially what he is trying to say is, it's the partner that wasn't willing to change -- their loss!
Nah, if they dumped you, THEY should (I really mean the woman) initiate contact and take the risk of rejection, poor baby. Don't sit around waiting or hoping and never look back. They broke it, they should fix it.
I completely agree
Preach!
If they are dismissive avoidant, they will not contact you. Even if they want to. Other styles of attachment will contact you. Its why it's important to work out if your ex is DA. If the ex is a DA you will always have to contact them, after a period of no contact.
@@juliangilbert5465 If that's true, other dating coaches would have pointed this out. But I don't think I've heard other dating coaches say they've never seen a DA ex reach back out.
@@juliangilbert5465exactly, the few times over the last few months that I’ve reached out to my DA ex she’s been very positive and receptive, even angling towards a meet up within a few messages. NC does nothing to encourage avoidant to reach out, it does make them think about you and miss you, but they will never chase you.
I dated my DA partner for 4 months. Things were going great. He kept telling me how amazing I was and how I would do things for him that no others would do. I felt like we had something special. We didn’t argue before he ghosted me. What is the probability of us getting in contact again?
I'm in this same situation and it's really hurt my emotional everyday!! I love him so much 😢
My DA ex of 6 months did the same to me... I was heartbroken for 2 months or so... He came back during month 3 and it was too late, I'd moved on... 🚶🏼♀️ I hope you find the happiness you deserve 💟 xx
Same here..
Block them back. Ghost them back. They'll eventually unblock and come back on their own when they see you love yourself and put yourself first.
Same here 😢
He used the need to find a younger woman to have a baby with. His kids won't talk to him. He is 69 years old and told me that he wants a baby to love him. He told me I was a great partner. He was also emotionally abuse at times.
I think this is one of your best videos Alexis....thank you
Not always true there are some guys who contacted me and we never even really hung out or there was no connection at all
What happens if it will be his birthday or an holiday? should write? I saw alot of videos and they said "not" because during those important days they can really miss you and really feel their decision and your lost.
Can you make a video about DA'S who break up with you and block you, if it's possible if they will ever reach out again? Mine told me he doesn't reach out to anyone. And he was also scared of rejection.
Mine too
Classic, I aware all DA say this. It feels like trying to share the table with a pre schooler. I’m sorry . Honestly girl, you deserve so much better. Let him have his stupid block and his regrets from 1867!
@@jordanlennox5435 thank you for the kind words. What is 1867?
@@kristiemcinnes304 I'm sorry , I know how you feel 😔
@@jordanlennox5435hahaha they’re funny creatures. They’ll sabotage the relationship and then regret years later, they regret until the end of life.. and talk about past relationships that meant something to them but that they needed to run away from in that moment because omg shit is getting too real, they’re catching feelings, the other person has an effect on them..
Hi Alexis, I contacted my ex a a few times after no contact and he replied to me and we chatted a lot but in six months, he has never initiated to text me, even though he's always on WhatsApp. How do you explain that?
Fearful avoidants. They will never reach out
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Over 1 year NC with my ex after 3 years together and a sudden discard. He never reached out and I have had a very difficult year picking up the pieces but I couldn't go back unless he had done a lot of work on himself because I can't risk that again he broke my trust.
Nope. No Plans of reaching out ever again. If it has been that easy for them to trash a 10 year relationship - then so be it. They can live their lives happily ever after. But I am not going back to them with a message. Self respect is important to me than any thing else. To hell with you and your god damn insecurities.
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will this work on a DA?
What I feel like she’s almost doing is using her almost bachelors degree in psychology to throw a lot of negative emotional awareness but she has a lack of forgiveness (4/10)
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