I love how Justin is primarily the one that’s your guest. It warms my heart to see a boyfriend just hanging with his future father-in-law. Justin, you should marry Morgan. If she’s into that lol.
Story number 3, min 26, tradition in Italy is that if you marry as a woman you keep your last name! I am Italian and I don't know any woman that ever changed their last name. I think your last name is part of your identity and you should not be forced to change it unless you want to!!!
I totally happy I found this channel... I lost my dad almost 9 years ago, and hearing your thoughts and opinions gives me the dad's perspective that I'm really missing in my life, thank you!
When I moved in with my now-husband after my freshman year of college I had a HUGE fear of telling my parents I was doing so. I had to go into it with full support from my husband and I just prepared for my worst possible outcome. Then I couldn’t feel worse because I had settled on the worst outcome
Little late to the game here, but on the changing her last name story, Italian here! Grew up catholic, surrounded by Italian catholics, guess what? We don’t change our last names when we get married, like AT ALL. It’s not a cultural thing nor a religious thing, I feel like we’re one of the few countries were its genuinely considered odd. Even if you get married abroad and change your last name abroad you still need to do all the paperwork to do it here and it’s not guaranteed they will let you. So this is just about control, like OP said, he/they didn’t have an issue with all the other untraditional stuff they were doing but “had he known she was serious” (🚩) he would have left because of different last names??? Right…he’s an AH
@@blamp3363What about her son and he feelings? If he’s that insecure and controlling he should try to change her son’s last name then. He should go through the process she did and see how hard it is. She should give him an ultimatum either change her son’s last name or she won’t and she leaves and find someone who puts a child over their own insecurity and control.
The story about moving in is kinda funny to me because my grandparents and aunt don't respect the fact the I moved in with my bf and still talk shit about it after two years already been living with him but have never said anything to my face. I just can't imagine seeing a long term future with someone without living with the person before for at least a year because there are so many things you learn from living together. Many families members on my dad side been divorced too many times and that was one issue is they didn't know how there partner would be for the long run and later on became abusive or lazy. I say this because I think if someone lives with you before you'd be able to be shown those signs before hand rather than after all the paperwork and children being brought to this world.
With the story about changing her last night for marriage. I'm assuming changing the boys name could be out of the question, she's said she had to fight to get his name changed, could be because finding the absent father was difficult or that the the absent father was purposely difficult. Either could make changing the name again extremely difficult for the sake of someone else ego and I feel for her. Like they've said her current partners ego is the problem, how someone cannot see how isolating a child is unnecessarily cruel and he has no respect for her feelings either way his outburst shows that.
Definitely gonna write in, however I’m gonna like take a while to compose my piece bc it’s a lot to unpack even for me lol but I promise it’ll be worth the read! Also is there a P.O. Box I can send socks to somewhere? 🧦
For the last name story, something isn't quite right. Jerry made some wonderful points, but if she is so adamant in praising her partner in being a great parent/stepparent, then I doubt he'd be upset for hyphenation. Also an interesting thing to point out. Her words of her son's opinion on her changing her name were very specific. "I would feel left out" does not necessarily indicate that he doesn't want his mom to change her name. She didn't talk at all about the possibility of both of them changing their names or hyphenating his so he doesn't feel that way. She either never asked, or didn't like the answer he gave (I want to change my name). It sounds like her pride and ego is more of a factor than she conveys. I could be way off, but these people have 2 children in the mix. 2 young lives who depend on both of them. I hope they don't let something as juvenile as a name get in the way of showing your children how to love through your relationship.
On the story about the last name, I like the idea of the hyphenated name, but also it sounds like the boys father is not in his life, why can’t the fiancé adopt him? That way they could all have the same name.
to the story that starts at 26:50 , you could hav the step father legally adopt your 7 yr old then you all could have the same last name. you could hyphenate your sons last name also so its not too hard on him.
I just non chalntly never came home after I graduated from high school. How my parents were cool with it I don't know . Then 2 months after graduation I had to call them to tell them I had to go to the doctor because I was pregnant. 😆 🤣 I went and found d out I was 5 months along. We had barely anytime to prepare. That was 16 years ago. Now I'm 14 years happily married with 4 kids and my mom loves my husband more then she loves me I think. 😆 🤣
The last name one really isn't a big deal. I have a daughter outside of my marriage. I had her before I met my husband. She has her father's last name and I took his last name and we have two daughters who also have his last name. Maybe try to change his last name too.
So I think she kind of started the obsession over last names. Had she left it alone her son probably wouldn't care so much. it's not abnormal in a blended family with a child from the mom to have a different name. I think the new partner would have looked better had he suggested the son get his last name changed too. She should leave him, they have a kid and he thinks a last name is such a big deal. That's literally just silly.
This comment is for the story about the woman not wanting to change her last name. Why doesn't the guy adopt her son legally and get his last name changes too? Or hyphenated ?
Sometimes details of the story get lost. I totally understand this mom wanting to keep her connection to her son through their last name. Her ex made her fight "tooth and nail" for years before signing the papers for a legal name change. He would have to agree to any further changes ( like hyphenating) . He would also have to give up his parental rights for the new guy to adopt. It doesn't sound like he would be cooperative to these scenarios.
I love how Justin is primarily the one that’s your guest. It warms my heart to see a boyfriend just hanging with his future father-in-law. Justin, you should marry Morgan. If she’s into that lol.
Yay! Happy I found this Channel! Loved seeing you on 2hottakes
Story number 3, min 26, tradition in Italy is that if you marry as a woman you keep your last name! I am Italian and I don't know any woman that ever changed their last name. I think your last name is part of your identity and you should not be forced to change it unless you want to!!!
I totally happy I found this channel... I lost my dad almost 9 years ago, and hearing your thoughts and opinions gives me the dad's perspective that I'm really missing in my life, thank you!
When I moved in with my now-husband after my freshman year of college I had a HUGE fear of telling my parents I was doing so. I had to go into it with full support from my husband and I just prepared for my worst possible outcome. Then I couldn’t feel worse because I had settled on the worst outcome
Little late to the game here, but on the changing her last name story, Italian here! Grew up catholic, surrounded by Italian catholics, guess what? We don’t change our last names when we get married, like AT ALL. It’s not a cultural thing nor a religious thing, I feel like we’re one of the few countries were its genuinely considered odd. Even if you get married abroad and change your last name abroad you still need to do all the paperwork to do it here and it’s not guaranteed they will let you. So this is just about control, like OP said, he/they didn’t have an issue with all the other untraditional stuff they were doing but “had he known she was serious” (🚩) he would have left because of different last names??? Right…he’s an AH
That‘s what I was about to write (even later to the game). There is something else going on.
I would leave too you don’t keep your last name. You not fully committed to him if u don’t
@@blamp3363What about her son and he feelings? If he’s that insecure and controlling he should try to change her son’s last name then. He should go through the process she did and see how hard it is. She should give him an ultimatum either change her son’s last name or she won’t and she leaves and find someone who puts a child over their own insecurity and control.
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The story about moving in is kinda funny to me because my grandparents and aunt don't respect the fact the I moved in with my bf and still talk shit about it after two years already been living with him but have never said anything to my face. I just can't imagine seeing a long term future with someone without living with the person before for at least a year because there are so many things you learn from living together. Many families members on my dad side been divorced too many times and that was one issue is they didn't know how there partner would be for the long run and later on became abusive or lazy. I say this because I think if someone lives with you before you'd be able to be shown those signs before hand rather than after all the paperwork and children being brought to this world.
With the story about changing her last night for marriage. I'm assuming changing the boys name could be out of the question, she's said she had to fight to get his name changed, could be because finding the absent father was difficult or that the the absent father was purposely difficult. Either could make changing the name again extremely difficult for the sake of someone else ego and I feel for her. Like they've said her current partners ego is the problem, how someone cannot see how isolating a child is unnecessarily cruel and he has no respect for her feelings either way his outburst shows that.
Just finished watching yesterday’s video last night, so happy to see there’s a new one today ☺️
More to come!
Alright someone message me and tell me where to send Jerry some socks. As a fellow fun sock lover I gotta get him a pair
Definitely gonna write in, however I’m gonna like take a while to compose my piece bc it’s a lot to unpack even for me lol but I promise it’ll be worth the read! Also is there a P.O. Box I can send socks to somewhere? 🧦
Podcast name should be DaddyKnowsStuff
For the last name story, something isn't quite right. Jerry made some wonderful points, but if she is so adamant in praising her partner in being a great parent/stepparent, then I doubt he'd be upset for hyphenation. Also an interesting thing to point out. Her words of her son's opinion on her changing her name were very specific. "I would feel left out" does not necessarily indicate that he doesn't want his mom to change her name. She didn't talk at all about the possibility of both of them changing their names or hyphenating his so he doesn't feel that way. She either never asked, or didn't like the answer he gave (I want to change my name). It sounds like her pride and ego is more of a factor than she conveys.
I could be way off, but these people have 2 children in the mix. 2 young lives who depend on both of them. I hope they don't let something as juvenile as a name get in the way of showing your children how to love through your relationship.
On the story about the last name, I like the idea of the hyphenated name, but also it sounds like the boys father is not in his life, why can’t the fiancé adopt him? That way they could all have the same name.
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Emilie, Me too. Jerry
to the story that starts at 26:50 , you could hav the step father legally adopt your 7 yr old then you all could have the same last name. you could hyphenate your sons last name also so its not too hard on him.
I just non chalntly never came home after I graduated from high school. How my parents were cool with it I don't know . Then 2 months after graduation I had to call them to tell them I had to go to the doctor because I was pregnant. 😆 🤣 I went and found d out I was 5 months along. We had barely anytime to prepare. That was 16 years ago. Now I'm 14 years happily married with 4 kids and my mom loves my husband more then she loves me I think. 😆 🤣
The last name one really isn't a big deal. I have a daughter outside of my marriage. I had her before I met my husband. She has her father's last name and I took his last name and we have two daughters who also have his last name. Maybe try to change his last name too.
Seems like it’s a big deal to the kid, though
@@ludmilamaiolini6811 which is why I said try and change his name. The dad isn't around either way
So I think she kind of started the obsession over last names. Had she left it alone her son probably wouldn't care so much. it's not abnormal in a blended family with a child from the mom to have a different name. I think the new partner would have looked better had he suggested the son get his last name changed too. She should leave him, they have a kid and he thinks a last name is such a big deal. That's literally just silly.
This comment is for the story about the woman not wanting to change her last name. Why doesn't the guy adopt her son legally and get his last name changes too? Or hyphenated ?
Yeah I thought that he should adopt him and they can all have the same last name😸 and if he won’t then there’s more going on lol
Sometimes details of the story get lost. I totally understand this mom wanting to keep her connection to her son through their last name. Her ex made her fight "tooth and nail" for years before signing the papers for a legal name change. He would have to agree to any further changes ( like hyphenating) . He would also have to give up his parental rights for the new guy to adopt. It doesn't sound like he would be cooperative to these scenarios.
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