Yup. Keep his wife occupied with interesting little things and activities. Not focus on her desease or trying to "fix" her all the time. Just enjoy the "now". He's great 😃
My mother died this past Saturday of dementia/alzheimer's. She was 92 years old. My Dad died 2 years ago at 98 and knew she was sick but never told us. I took her into my home and was so happy to hear her say "I love you." for the first time in my 65 year life.
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. -- 2 Corinthians 12:9 Reflection The apostle Paul chose to take glory in his infirmities and moments of pain and weakness because it was in those moments, God was really magnified. After suffering beatings and persecution of an indescribable nature, Paul was still able to get up and minister effectively. He refused to be weighed down by any pain that could have hindered or harmed him. He never operated on his own strength; his own human strength and resolve could never keep him going. Paul’s wisdom was great because he knew that he could not boast of any of achievements because it was through Christ that he achieved or attained anything. We are to live the same; knowing that without Christ, we will not be able to face a thing. Prayer Dear God, I experience many moments of weakness in my daily life. I thank you that I can totally rely on your strength to move forward and do the work you have called me to do. I take glory in my moments of pain and weakness, because you give me the strength and resolve to carry on, the same way you did for the apostle Paul and the rest of the believers who proclaimed the gospel. I choose not to give up because I know you are always with me. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.Verse Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing. -- Psalms 100:2 Reflection The Christian life is also a life about work. As God’s children, we have tasks that He has given us that we are to carry out in our lives. These tasks all revolve around making sure that the world comes to the knowledge of Christ. Every Christian has a part to play. When we do our work for God, we should be joyful in it. Prayer Dear God, I ask that as I carry out what you have called me to do, may I always do it with a glad heart. I do not see this work as a burden but as a blessing, because it is a privilege to do anything for you, Lord. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.Verse Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing. -- Psalms 100:2 Reflection The Christian life is also a life about work. As God’s children, we have tasks that He has given us that we are to carry out in our lives. These tasks all revolve around making sure that the world comes to the knowledge of Christ. Every Christian has a part to play. When we do our work for God, we should be joyful in it. Prayer Dear God, I ask that as I carry out what you have called me to do, may I always do it with a glad heart. I do not see this work as a burden but as a blessing, because it is a privilege to do anything for you, Lord. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. -- 2 Corinthians 12:9 Reflection The apostle Paul chose to take glory in his infirmities and moments of pain and weakness because it was in those moments, God was really magnified. After suffering beatings and persecution of an indescribable nature, Paul was still able to get up and minister effectively. He refused to be weighed down by any pain that could have hindered or harmed him. He never operated on his own strength; his own human strength and resolve could never keep him going. Paul’s wisdom was great because he knew that he could not boast of any of achievements because it was through Christ that he achieved or attained anything. We are to live the same; knowing that without Christ, we will not be able to face a thing. Prayer Dear God, I experience many moments of weakness in my daily life. I thank you that I can totally rely on your strength to move forward and do the work you have called me to do. I take glory in my moments of pain and weakness, because you give me the strength and resolve to carry on, the same way you did for the apostle Paul and the rest of the believers who proclaimed the gospel. I choose not to give up because I know you are always with me. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
I was diagnosed last year and I'm 54. I'm also wheelchair bound. I just sleep cause there's nothing to do and I don't know anyone where I live. I'm scared of what's going to happen. I always want to remember my family and I feel bad for my husband because he's been looking after me since I stopped walking about 7 years ago. He's such a good person and shouldn't have to go through this.
Great video! I believe it is harder for the caregiver than the patient, because we have reality. We see what is truly happening and we can't wave a magic wand and make everything well again. We have to pick up the pieces, pay the bills, care for the loved ones with Alzheimer's, and it can be so hard on us! Caregivers need all of the help we can get to stay healthy! Doing the simple things like claiming our rest, nutrition, exercise daily is a must! Thanks again for this honest video!
Add to that some of us cannot have any life....not even enough to go grocery shopping, pee, sleep, shower... coz sundowning in dementia patients can last all the way to death. I'm so done with this. Had I known, I'd have yeeted my mom into a nursing home. I'm prob gonna die before her, and she's got mere months if not days only. She's determined to take her only child with her (after leaving me in war to protect her STUFF). Not all parents are created equally. Some should never have had kids. She had me for this purpose only.
I’m glad caregivers can get together and hear each other out. Just to be able to talk to other people who ‘get it’ must be so relieving if nothing else.
My mom father has Dimentia and we went to DQ to get ice cream and bought him one and he said "I won't eat this ice cream until it stops growing" and it was funny but it wasn't because I know it wasn't his fault and my mom said "dad your ice cream doesn't grow" and I felt bad because he started spilling it on his shirt...I love my family
My heart hurt for the first guy who shared...he loves her and miss her presence..wow a teacher for 30 years...my mom has dementia..and I notice she is not talking the way she use to...getting frustrated as she struggles to put the words together....
All I know...... Before I reach a stage that I can't do for myself......I have made sure,that no one has to worry. I have invoked/signed ' End of Life wishes' And given to those I trust.
My husband of 30 years has early-stage Alzheimer's. The biggest problem we're having right now are the mood swings. For no apparent reason, he becomes angry, resentful, and downright hateful; he verbally attacks me. I try not to respond, but most of the time we end up screeching at each other like banshees. In two minutes, it's over, and he's back to normal. Intellectually I understand what's going on, but emotionally, it's very difficult. That hateful person looks and sounds like him, that's part of the problem. It's really hard not to carry the hurtful things he says around.
+ridingwoman Oh my gosh, you are writing about my life right now. It is hard, hard, hard when you hear those awful things being said to you even though you are trying to understand why......
+ridingwoman oh wow I am having that trouble with looking after my father! He always gets aggressive with me and I'm the person who is giving him all the care! He was threatening me recently for about four hours and my daugher came down and he apologised to her! i was livid as soon as went back upstairs he started being aggressive again!
Red panda16 My dad is 84 and I have to make play dates with people and have card or boardgames. It doesn't matter if they are my friends or people his age...it puts him in a great mood, and after a few hrs he is ready for a meal and a nap. I try to keep a happy attitude it helps😃
Just say "I'll talk to you when you're feeling better" and walk away. See to it that you get some time with friends to refresh yourself; it's important. Counseling would help also.
Videos like this are helpful. I think many people who come here are facing similar challenges and need the moral support of knowing they are not the only one. My situation is slightly different. I took early retirement to be the full time carer of my 88 year old mother. She doesn't have Alzheimer's or full blown dementia, but has become very confused. The caring challenges are very similar in many ways different in some. Best wishes to all.
No expert but I have heard it can help not to ask questions of someone with dementia as it stresses them & not to try to deny their version of reality but to distract them. Also it is very important to find purposeful things for some one with dementia to do, even if its only ripping up old envelopes to put in the recycling, or folding clothes.
Just watching the first minute of this.. My dad is on the brink of dementia, I am not use to him, forgetting what i said or him, losing things.. He was always been good w/ working (carpenter/mechanic, etc) and thinking correctly.. Now, I have to repeat things, a minute later, almost 3-5 times.. I have always been the type, where I like to travel to places, now, I must stay, for his benefit, to keep tabs on him.. I don't mind, and I want to do more, to help him.. I did sign him up for "meals on wheels", give rides, ... watching this video, for the first minute, abt him, wanting to be perfect in helping.. I know what he is saying
I know it’s been a long time, but hope you were able to keep him as happy as possible, while caring for yourself. He’s lucky to have someone who cares.
my next door neighbor has dementia, she gets hostile at times, yelling and cursing and has even attacked me physically when I was working in my yard - we don't go outside much anymore. She has 5 daughters who live locally and they never come around so her husband is her sole cargiver and it's really put alot of limitations on him. I think he has just about reached the end of his rope, she can be very destructive at times and sometimes incontinent, won't bathe, won't sleep in bed anymore, he has to take her for rides multiple times a day to pacify her, his only option is to keep her at home and care for her on his own and I feel badly for him, it's very sad. We live next door and we hear the banging and yelling and cursing alot, we just keep the windows shut and stay inside. It is too bad no other family members give him a break. He has said he misses her, she is still here but she's not, that has got to be awful tough....
My grandmother has dementia and mental disorder. She got it three years ago when my grandpa died. She's gotten worse over the years. They had to take my grandmother to the ER due to her illness. It's sad to see someone with that condition.
I do geriatrics specializing in dementia-memory care and every single day i know that I am blessed to be able to help the families. Currently I have another live in position so her kids, who have teenagers, can still keep a semblance of normalcy for them.
I love these videos I am not looking after my own loved ones but other peoples loved ones and with no prior knowledge or experience I was lost but watching some of these it puts it into perspective for me. I want to do the best I can for these people as they are someones loved ones! Thank you for the insight to this horrible disease!
My sister is 45 and has dementia from a neurological disorder she developed around 5 years ago which caused massive brain damage in her frontal lobe. She lost the ability to talk and walk, but could still communicate via a computer which could pick up her eye movements. The past 6 months or so she has declined rapidly and lost the ability to use the computer now. Now we suspect she has dementia as we cant even get Yes or No out of her via holding up signs and she has a vacant look on her face like she's not really there anymore. Her behaviour has got really bad too, constant anger at certain carers to the point she has driven them to quit her team, she tries to attack them and just screams her head off constantly. If she is happy she lays in her bed laughing hysterically at nothing for hours. Its so hard watching someone decline like this and i really worry for the future as we as a family are not coping and the people who look after her are all saying its too hard.
I was in tears with the first man his hart was breaking and the love he's got for his wife is so deep it hurts him so so sad love and hugs to him especially but also the rest as there losing people they love bit by bit
Oh gosh my husband said the same thing.he cried Linda don't send me away.Then he collapsed and 911 called.3 months later he died.My big strong cop husband who was never afraid of any thing until Alzheimer's.
I'm so sorry about so many people are going thru the same problem. My dear husband went thru the same thing. He is in a home now. Each case is unique but each one is devastating. Losing ur loved one little by little.
I Know how it is, I just lost my Mother this past December 22nd 2017, I lived with my mom for five years last year was in a home, wich I had a hard time accepting, I went to see her Everyday, on dec 22nd I whent to see her around 8:45 am , she had just died minutes before I got there. I Miss her a Lot.
The way to stop from getting it is to prepare now. I started at age 50. First I put together an exercise program. Three days of weightlifting three days of cardiovascular training. Then my nutrition changed a lot, eat a lot of vegetables some fruit peanuts seeds fish chicken some beef. I started to cut my calories lntake especially at dinner time. I take the following vitamins every day, three krill oil's, D three, 1B 12, one CoQ10 ubiquinol and a multivitamin. I am now 58 and I feel great I have had my body scan for plaque and it is clean. Also use coconut oil for all of your cooking
Doing extra studying for nursing exams. Also reading a novel called "Still Alice" written by a neuroscientist about a woman with early onset Alzheimer's. This is so sad for the spouse as well. :( The poor man at the beginning. Ay.
You have got to be very careful concerning the law, tying someone up or locking them in there room in many jurisdictions is considered unlawful imprisonment. I learned that lesson almost the hard way. You have to have medical files on hand and if they need to be restrained, you'll need a doctors order. Good luck getting that. My heart goes out to these people.
Jimmie Cox, I ended up putting bells ( sometimes clusters of Christmas bells) on every door that goes outside, so I could sleep better at night. I also hung clusters of necklaces on her bedroom door so I could hear if she got up to go to bathroom ( she was a huge fall risk)
my dad is 72 and recently has become very irritable and angry, it's really getting to my mum. I've told her I think he may have dementia but she says it's just his age. he sometimes gets very nasty to us. this is so out of character. he will talk about something with us then half hr later when the conversation is different he will pipe up about the previous conversation. he's very unactive, hes constantly buying things on eBay he doesn't need. I'm worried sick about him but no one in family will listen to me. any advice gratefully appreciated
My mom was doing this too - also writing large checks to countless "charitable" groups that sent mailings, many were scams. Also shopping for huge amounts of food even though she ate out most of the time. She has dementia but not Alzheimer's. Developing this was her biggest fear, but in many ways she is happier now. She lives in a really nice community now that does provide more intensive care if she comes to need it, but really enjoys being around other residents vs living alone in a house that was becoming too much. Her apartment has a small kitchen, and my sister and I have to periodically clear out caches of candy from everywhere. Supposedly she is lucky at bingo, but I have my doubts 😉
Dementia is like the person regressing back to a baby. I mean think about it. We start out toothless in diapers and all we do is drool, eat, sleep and poop. The guy at 9:00 is talking about how his wife's two favorite things are to eat and sleep. That is what happens. Life is a cycle.
Alzheimer's disease has truly become an epidemic, and caring for someone with dementia is heartbreaking and can become overwhelming. It's so important for family caregivers to develop a strong network of support and arm themselves with as much education about the disease as possible. Additional resources are available here: compassionstl.com/category/alzheimers-disease/
Omg god bless him .... Hope he has help and won't get a stroke like my dad after 6 years of taking care of my mom with alzheimer's ...now both are on a different elderly place because covid19
My mother has this disease. I get attacked verbally everyday. I have no social life because I have to keep a close eye on her. She takes care of herself but she can't hold conversation for 5 minutes. She watches TV but doesn't understand what's going on She believes her thoughts. I know this may sound crazy. She makes assumptions and is very obnoxious. It's sad to see her like this. She has been mentally unstable since the age of about 38. She was never able to drive, imple childhood activities like skating and riding a bike were too big a task for her. Im an only child and it's very hard. I go to work sad most of the time but I try to be strong. My mother is 68 years old. It take a lot of patience. Most of the time I'm in my room with my earphones on to drown her out. She also talk to herself. She hides the silverware. She steal. She don't mean to. He goes on everyday rants. I want to put her in a home but I don't want her to be upset with me.
My husband has dementia, and both of his parents and other aunts and uncles in his family all died from it. One of them was like your mom and had to be put in the nursing home. It's just too much for a caregiver. Remember you have to put yourself first. The stress will kill you. I already have health issues from the stress, so it is a fine line. I'm getting ready to put my husband in a program he can go to during the day which will be good for both of us I think. It does sound like your mom needs to be somewhere, or if you can bring in some kind of respite to give you a break. I know this comment is late, so I hope you were able to get this resolved and you're doing okay.
My 87 year old mother has dementia my sister and I are her caregivers in that stage now of not sleeping it’s 4:16 AM refusing to sleep the mother I knew and the rest of my sisters and one brother is here no longer and very combative our mother to all her other brothers and sisters was known as “sweet little ole Betty” has left the building I’m just wondering when the end is coming
My husband has started showing signs of some sort of dementia after surgery a few months ago. He knows something is wrong, but refuses to go to his doctor to get himself seen about. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can get him seen about. He becomes violent and I can't just put him in the car and make him go.
Just saw this video and your comment 3 years later. How are things going now? My husband also had this happen. He was having trouble before major surgery, and then it started getting worse afterwards. At first he was angry about going but I told him if he was violent toward me I would call the police. Then he would be forced to go somewhere for testing. That was the only way I could convince him at the time. After he went, he didn't like the first person. So I found him a new doctor and he really likes him a lot. It is very difficult because his kids don't want to believe he has this issue. They are my stepchildren. I don't have any support from them in that regard. But everybody else, other friends and family can see the difference. His neurologist told me if he blows up or shows any aggression to call him immediately. There's a medication he can give him. I'm not sure what it's going to be though because I haven't had to do it yet. Although it's come close. I hope you're able to read my comment and let me know how you are doing!
@@VM-123 Thank you for your comment. I'm glad to hear that your husband has doctors who are willing to help. I hope things continue to go well. My husband is somewhat better now, but things got really bad for about 6 months. I called the police and adult protective services and I was told that they couldn't help because it was just his word against mine. He did all kinds of things during that time period. So much that I could probably write a book about it. He gave or threw away most of his clothes and shoes . Months after that he called me into his room and asked what happened to all of his clothes. I asked if he had forgotten what he did with them and he wouldn't answer. He was a mechanic for years and had all types of shop tools. He took the largest part of them to the greenbox and throwed them away. When I would try to stop him he would try to hurt me. He went to our bank and tried to fix the accounts where I had no access to any money. One night I'm certain he would have killed me but our son came and stopped the attack. I was beaten from head to toe. The attack scared me so badly that I was afraid to have him arrested for fear that he would get out of jail and kill me. I couldn't leave the house to go to the store or anything because he said he was going to throw my clothes and other things away. He made me take many things out of the house and put in storage. He even took down family pictures that had been up for years. He planned on decorating the house with things people had given him and he had in storage. He would go to my sisters house and tell her wild stories about me. She knows me and knew he was lying. Before things got better he had me so beaten down that I was willing to do just about anything he wanted because I was afraid he was going to kill me and maybe my sister also. I reached out to several of his family members but they didn't want to get involved. He gave his favorite sister a cussing over the phone and she told me that she didn't want to talk to him anymore. I could go on and on about the wild things he did during that time period. A few times I've asked him why he threw all of his tools and other things away and he won't talk about it. Sorry this is so long but this is just a small part of what happened.
It's hard to care for person who is having Alzheimer's. My grandma was diagnosed with Alzheimer's few months ago and then I understand how difficult it feels. During searching time, I coincidentally discovered an interesting webpage presents info about a potential cure to Alzheimer's.
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Needed to smile after my day,so here's my mother, ♡♡♡♡♡ she has dementia 😠which I hate that stupid disease so when I catch her in this kind of 😆happiness and makes my heart❤ Happy so share the awareness of dementia just because they have that nasty disease doesn't mean that they aren't there because they still are there you just got to roll with it and catch the moments when you see the glimpse of your loved one, because when they're blank👀 it's like they're not there but they are, love your parents regardless of the ups and downs and be there for them!!! And dementia is VERY hard thing to deal with especially when it's a family member and look how how HAPPY my MOM is in this video..that was "THERE'S MY MOTHER" moment.. I posted a video of my mother moment
As they stage from one level to the next, you grieve all over again. It's called the slow death. It's in my opinion that it would be best to euthanize people before they suffer the last stages of Alzheimer's or dementia. Its inhumane to allow a human being to suffer the way they do. There are different types as well, some are blissful, some are anxious, and some are bipolar with bouts of aggressive behavior. They become a danger to themselves and others. You can reason with them. They believe everything they say as currently happening. They revert back to a baby state of mind. But they have to be cued to do everything or they will not do it or do it wrong. Sad.
The Bredesen protocol is saving lives!!!!!!!! Please please look at the book called the end of Alzheimer’s and we’ll as the first survivors of Alzheimer’s! I’m begging you all.
its so frustrating that we can't do more to help people with this disease. I get so angry! Apparently our seniors are disposable in todays society. otherwise we would already have a damn cure. It seems like more women have Alzheimer's than men? is this normal! but women usually live longer, and they were the caregivers to everyone else for the majority of their lives. its aggravating and sad. its like us females can't get a break.
why can't he use an entry lock? that makes no sense. I used one with mine and even taped our sliding glass door locks with duct tape. she of course could not figure that out (even though at first she attempted to remove the tape but gave up after a coupla attempts due to lack of attention span). Right you can NOT argue with them so just change the subject they really have no clue. beyond sad when they no longer recognize you. they look at you with that faraway blankness... who are you? this is an absolute horrid disease.
When i wads a kid old people used to tie them to a chair and put them on the front porch. You know what? I think that should be done today. My fatherinlaw has fought, hit, bit, cursed, picked up chairs and tries to HURT someone. They want to bully everyone and DRIVE and they complain all the time. "nothing is wrong with me" he says. Uses cane to assault people. So yes!!!!!!!! Tie them to a chair and set them on the porch.
I have an experiment that the loved ones of a dementia patient can try on the latter.I could be wrong here,though.Semi-fasting.Control the food and drink intake to a point which the patient starts complaining that he or she is hungry,thirsty.While the hunger or thirst persists,ask him or her some questions such as"what day is today?","how old are you?"etc,questions that the doctor asks to determine if someone has dementia.First,ask these questions when the patient is not feeling any thirst or hunger,and later on when he or she is.In the above video,one man says his wife never says"I'm not hungry."This shows that a dementia-afflicted person craves food.He or she may eat,drink a lot,then go to sleep,just as the man in the video says about his wife.Only these two activities,eating and sleeping.This gives me the idea that fasting or semi-fasting may help the dementia patient recover.
WHATS UP WITH TEH FUCKING VOLUME ON THIS VIDEO!!!!!!!!!! I'm here traumatized and searching for answers and the editor cant even get a simple video right ... also, i see zero footage of Dementia mood swings, just anecdotal evidence which isn't what the title suggests. Grade = D -
There's power in the name of Jesus. God was born a man in the Son, Jesus. Jesus Christ atoned for our sins on the cross of Golgatha, and by the power of His His eternal spirit He overcame death! Receive Him in faith as your Savior and Lord. Trust Jesus, whatever happens.
Omg. This poor man. The first gentleman. I want to give him a huge hug. He loves his wife and he's so much in pain. God bless him :(
God bless him. Such a heart of gold!
Is a good god blessing him under such situation? Is a good god allowing him and wife such suffering?
Last guy.....what an amazing attitude......his wife will never know she hit the jack pot with him.....All the best to all of them.
she probably already knew
Yup. Keep his wife occupied with interesting little things and activities. Not focus on her desease or trying to "fix" her all the time. Just enjoy the "now". He's great 😃
My mother died this past Saturday of dementia/alzheimer's. She was 92 years old. My Dad died 2 years ago at 98 and knew she was sick but never told us. I took her into my home and was so happy to hear her say "I love you." for the first time in my 65 year life.
Yumi Sippi your an ass
I know i'm 4 years to late but I'm still sorry about your loss.
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
-- 2 Corinthians 12:9
Reflection
The apostle Paul chose to take glory in his infirmities and moments of pain and weakness because it was in those moments, God was really magnified. After suffering beatings and persecution of an indescribable nature, Paul was still able to get up and minister effectively. He refused to be weighed down by any pain that could have hindered or harmed him. He never operated on his own strength; his own human strength and resolve could never keep him going. Paul’s wisdom was great because he knew that he could not boast of any of achievements because it was through Christ that he achieved or attained anything. We are to live the same; knowing that without Christ, we will not be able to face a thing.
Prayer
Dear God, I experience many moments of weakness in my daily life. I thank you that I can totally rely on your strength to move forward and do the work you have called me to do. I take glory in my moments of pain and weakness, because you give me the strength and resolve to carry on, the same way you did for the apostle Paul and the rest of the believers who proclaimed the gospel. I choose not to give up because I know you are always with me. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.Verse
Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing.
-- Psalms 100:2
Reflection
The Christian life is also a life about work. As God’s children, we have tasks that He has given us that we are to carry out in our lives. These tasks all revolve around making sure that the world comes to the knowledge of Christ. Every Christian has a part to play. When we do our work for God, we should be joyful in it.
Prayer
Dear God, I ask that as I carry out what you have called me to do, may I always do it with a glad heart. I do not see this work as a burden but as a blessing, because it is a privilege to do anything for you, Lord. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.Verse
Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing.
-- Psalms 100:2
Reflection
The Christian life is also a life about work. As God’s children, we have tasks that He has given us that we are to carry out in our lives. These tasks all revolve around making sure that the world comes to the knowledge of Christ. Every Christian has a part to play. When we do our work for God, we should be joyful in it.
Prayer
Dear God, I ask that as I carry out what you have called me to do, may I always do it with a glad heart. I do not see this work as a burden but as a blessing, because it is a privilege to do anything for you, Lord. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
-- 2 Corinthians 12:9
Reflection
The apostle Paul chose to take glory in his infirmities and moments of pain and weakness because it was in those moments, God was really magnified. After suffering beatings and persecution of an indescribable nature, Paul was still able to get up and minister effectively. He refused to be weighed down by any pain that could have hindered or harmed him. He never operated on his own strength; his own human strength and resolve could never keep him going. Paul’s wisdom was great because he knew that he could not boast of any of achievements because it was through Christ that he achieved or attained anything. We are to live the same; knowing that without Christ, we will not be able to face a thing.
Prayer
Dear God, I experience many moments of weakness in my daily life. I thank you that I can totally rely on your strength to move forward and do the work you have called me to do. I take glory in my moments of pain and weakness, because you give me the strength and resolve to carry on, the same way you did for the apostle Paul and the rest of the believers who proclaimed the gospel. I choose not to give up because I know you are always with me. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
She loved you the whole time and didn't know how to say it. So many people have that problem.
I was diagnosed last year and I'm 54. I'm also wheelchair bound. I just sleep cause there's nothing to do and I don't know anyone where I live. I'm scared of what's going to happen. I always want to remember my family and I feel bad for my husband because he's been looking after me since I stopped walking about 7 years ago. He's such a good person and shouldn't have to go through this.
Short GIraffe I wish you all the best in your struggle and your family as well. ❤
You shouldn't have to go through this either. I'm sorry that both of you are on such a difficult path. I wish you well...
You are lucky because y.not alone but dont feel guilty abaut it.
Short GIraffe: Can you say why you stopped walking?
Please cry out to the Lord Jesus that he may heal u. He's alive and He does miracles. I'm praying for u.
Great video! I believe it is harder for the caregiver than the patient, because we have reality. We see what is truly happening and we can't wave a magic wand and make everything well again. We have to pick up the pieces, pay the bills, care for the loved ones with Alzheimer's, and it can be so hard on us! Caregivers need all of the help we can get to stay healthy! Doing the simple things like claiming our rest, nutrition, exercise daily is a must! Thanks again for this honest video!
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Add to that some of us cannot have any life....not even enough to go grocery shopping, pee, sleep, shower... coz sundowning in dementia patients can last all the way to death.
I'm so done with this. Had I known, I'd have yeeted my mom into a nursing home. I'm prob gonna die before her, and she's got mere months if not days only. She's determined to take her only child with her (after leaving me in war to protect her STUFF).
Not all parents are created equally. Some should never have had kids. She had me for this purpose only.
M y husband had dementia, and the worst thing that happened was each day a piece of something that I always loved about him was stolen from me
My dad has FTD and exactly as you said, the heartbreaking is as you said, each day a little piece of him is fading away.
Wonderful husbands. This horrible disease is not easy on the family. God bless them.
I’m glad caregivers can get together and hear each other out. Just to be able to talk to other people who ‘get it’ must be so relieving if nothing else.
Very sad. That first guy almost brought me to tears. I hope they will find a cure.
Shadow Chaser i hope they
You can’t cure a medical condition it’s truly sad just like how they probably won’t cure cancer
Unless they can rebuild a brain, with the same personality.....I doubt there can be cure, just management ...unfortunately
@@therealsemplex8847 there have been cures or at least help for cancer, but the governments kill everybody that tries to patent it.
I understand completely. My wife is in the second stage, I think .
But it's progressing rapidly.
You can Google
Dr Joel Wallach dementia
It might be of help
These men are so sweet!
Hanne Lykke Poulsen : I agree. Those women have good loving husbands
the first gentleman I was crying with him.
Love to anyone suffering. ♥️♥️♥️
My mom father has Dimentia and we went to DQ to get ice cream and bought him one and he said "I won't eat this ice cream until it stops growing" and it was funny but it wasn't because I know it wasn't his fault and my mom said "dad your ice cream doesn't grow" and I felt bad because he started spilling it on his shirt...I love my family
My heart hurt for the first guy who shared...he loves her and miss her presence..wow a teacher for 30 years...my mom has dementia..and I notice she is not talking the way she use to...getting frustrated as she struggles to put the words together....
All I know...... Before I reach a stage that I can't do for myself......I have made sure,that no one has to worry. I have invoked/signed ' End of Life wishes' And given to those I trust.
My husband of 30 years has early-stage Alzheimer's. The biggest problem we're having right now are the mood swings. For no apparent reason, he becomes angry, resentful, and downright hateful; he verbally attacks me. I try not to respond, but most of the time we end up screeching at each other like banshees. In two minutes, it's over, and he's back to normal. Intellectually I understand what's going on, but emotionally, it's very difficult. That hateful person looks and sounds like him, that's part of the problem. It's really hard not to carry the hurtful things he says around.
+ridingwoman Oh my gosh, you are writing about my life right now. It is hard, hard, hard when you hear those awful things being said to you even though you are trying to understand why......
+ridingwoman oh wow I am having that trouble with looking after my father! He always gets aggressive with me and I'm the person who is giving him all the care! He was threatening me recently for about four hours and my daugher came down and he apologised to her! i was livid as soon as went back upstairs he started being aggressive again!
Red panda16 My dad is 84 and I have to make play dates with people and have card or boardgames. It doesn't matter if they are my friends or people his age...it puts him in a great mood, and after a few hrs he is ready for a meal and a nap. I try to keep a happy attitude it helps😃
you DO understand that he can't help it, right? it's changes in the brain doing it. Not "him". Have a heart.
Just say "I'll talk to you when you're feeling better" and walk away. See to it that you get some time with friends to refresh yourself; it's important. Counseling would help also.
God Bless every one in this video. My Dad passed away from this.
Videos like this are helpful. I think many people who come here are facing similar challenges and need the moral support of knowing they are not the only one. My situation is slightly different. I took early retirement to be the full time carer of my 88 year old mother. She doesn't have Alzheimer's or full blown dementia, but has become very confused. The caring challenges are very similar in many ways different in some. Best wishes to all.
I was diagnosed almost two years ago. I feel bad for my beautiful wife. 😭😭 my short term memory is gone
Heard somewhere that it is caused by a bacteria in the mouth that gets into the gum and that exercise helps
God bless these men.
No expert but I have heard it can help not to ask questions of someone with dementia as it stresses them & not to try to deny their version of reality but to distract them. Also it is very important to find purposeful things for some one with dementia to do, even if its only ripping up old envelopes to put in the recycling, or folding clothes.
I used to be afraid of dying from a heart attack. Now, I understand it’s the best way to go.
Just watching the first minute of this.. My dad is on the brink of dementia, I am not use to him, forgetting what i said or him, losing things.. He was always been good w/ working (carpenter/mechanic, etc) and thinking correctly.. Now, I have to repeat things, a minute later, almost 3-5 times..
I have always been the type, where I like to travel to places, now, I must stay, for his benefit, to keep tabs on him.. I don't mind, and I want to do more, to help him.. I did sign him up for "meals on wheels", give rides, ... watching this video, for the first minute, abt him, wanting to be perfect in helping.. I know what he is saying
I know it’s been a long time, but hope you were able to keep him as happy as possible, while caring for yourself.
He’s lucky to have someone who cares.
my next door neighbor has dementia, she gets hostile at times, yelling and cursing and has even attacked me physically when I was working in my yard - we don't go outside much anymore. She has 5 daughters who live locally and they never come around so her husband is her sole cargiver and it's really put alot of limitations on him. I think he has just about reached the end of his rope, she can be very destructive at times and sometimes incontinent, won't bathe, won't sleep in bed anymore, he has to take her for rides multiple times a day to pacify her, his only option is to keep her at home and care for her on his own and I feel badly for him, it's very sad. We live next door and we hear the banging and yelling and cursing alot, we just keep the windows shut and stay inside. It is too bad no other family members give him a break. He has said he misses her, she is still here but she's not, that has got to be awful tough....
Might be time for a fence.
we have one in the back and we planted a tall hedge of lilacs and althea in the front side yard where we cannot have a fence - it helps
Michelle Lyman a
@@michellelyman7092 what ever happened
T mo Would you like to be tied down somewhere?
My grandmother has dementia and mental disorder. She got it three years ago when my grandpa died. She's gotten worse over the years. They had to take my grandmother to the ER due to her illness. It's sad to see someone with that condition.
The poor fella . Something that will be faced by many before we check out . The sheer helplessness if unable to do something is crushing .
I do geriatrics specializing in dementia-memory care and every single day i know that I am blessed to be able to help the families. Currently I have another live in position so her kids, who have teenagers, can still keep a semblance of normalcy for them.
I love these videos I am not looking after my own loved ones but other peoples loved ones and with no prior knowledge or experience I was lost but watching some of these it puts it into perspective for me. I want to do the best I can for these people as they are someones loved ones! Thank you for the insight to this horrible disease!
Love this man..wish i was loved like that❤
My sister is 45 and has dementia from a neurological disorder she developed around 5 years ago which caused massive brain damage in her frontal lobe. She lost the ability to talk and walk, but could still communicate via a computer which could pick up her eye movements. The past 6 months or so she has declined rapidly and lost the ability to use the computer now.
Now we suspect she has dementia as we cant even get Yes or No out of her via holding up signs and she has a vacant look on her face like she's not really there anymore.
Her behaviour has got really bad too, constant anger at certain carers to the point she has driven them to quit her team, she tries to attack them and just screams her head off constantly.
If she is happy she lays in her bed laughing hysterically at nothing for hours.
Its so hard watching someone decline like this and i really worry for the future as we as a family are not coping and the people who look after her are all saying its too hard.
Thanks for the video..There is strength in knowledge!🕊️🌹
I was in tears with the first man his hart was breaking and the love he's got for his wife is so deep it hurts him so so sad love and hugs to him especially but also the rest as there losing people they love bit by bit
Oh gosh my husband said the same thing.he cried Linda don't send me away.Then he collapsed and 911 called.3 months later he died.My big strong cop husband who was never afraid of any thing until Alzheimer's.
So very sad.
My heart goes out to you.
I'm so sorry about so many people are going thru the same problem.
My dear husband went thru the same thing. He is in a home now.
Each case is unique but each one is devastating. Losing ur loved one little by little.
I can relate. I miss my mom.she has this awful disease.
Good video with lots of important insights.
I Know how it is, I just lost my Mother this past December 22nd 2017, I lived with my mom for five years last year was in a home, wich I had a hard time accepting, I went to see her Everyday, on dec 22nd I whent to see her around 8:45 am , she had just died minutes before I got there. I Miss her a Lot.
I can relate to this video, I'm totally broken about how my mom is, haven't got used to her condition,and I wish I could cure her
Unfortunately, there’s no getting used to something this awful.
The way to stop from getting it is to prepare now. I started at age 50. First I put together an exercise program. Three days of weightlifting three days of cardiovascular training. Then my nutrition changed a lot, eat a lot of vegetables some fruit peanuts seeds fish chicken some beef. I started to cut my calories lntake especially at dinner time. I take the following vitamins every day, three krill oil's, D three, 1B 12, one CoQ10 ubiquinol and a multivitamin. I am now 58 and I feel great I have had my body scan for plaque and it is clean. Also use coconut oil for all of your cooking
Sal Caradonna how do you get a scan for plaque?
My mother was healthy as a horse. Died 5/9/17 at 62. No one can stop it.
@@teresalynn8717 u can't stop it but you can highly reduce ur chances to get it
You should add a Citicoline supplement as choline is critical for cognitive faculties.
Doing extra studying for nursing exams. Also reading a novel called "Still Alice" written by a neuroscientist about a woman with early onset Alzheimer's. This is so sad for the spouse as well. :( The poor man at the beginning. Ay.
klm4446 still Aliice is a film too.
klm4446 The book in and of itself is fictional. The neurologist who wrote it based it on her grandmother’s struggle with Alzheimer’s.
You have got to be very careful concerning the law, tying someone up or locking them in there room in many jurisdictions is considered unlawful imprisonment. I learned that lesson almost the hard way. You have to have medical files on hand and if they need to be restrained, you'll need a doctors order. Good luck getting that. My heart goes out to these people.
Jimmie Cox, I ended up putting bells ( sometimes clusters of Christmas bells) on every door that goes outside, so I could sleep better at night. I also hung clusters of necklaces on her bedroom door so I could hear if she got up to go to bathroom ( she was a huge fall risk)
First guy looks and talks exactly like Corrado Soprano (Uncle Jr) from the Sopranos.
my dad is 72 and recently has become very irritable and angry, it's really getting to my mum. I've told her I think he may have dementia but she says it's just his age. he sometimes gets very nasty to us. this is so out of character. he will talk about something with us then half hr later when the conversation is different he will pipe up about the previous conversation. he's very unactive, hes constantly buying things on eBay he doesn't need. I'm worried sick about him but no one in family will listen to me. any advice gratefully appreciated
rachhobson77 my dad is the same age and he’s behaving the same way.
rachhobson77 how’s your dad now?
My mom was doing this too - also writing large checks to countless "charitable" groups that sent mailings, many were scams. Also shopping for huge amounts of food even though she ate out most of the time. She has dementia but not Alzheimer's. Developing this was her biggest fear, but in many ways she is happier now. She lives in a really nice community now that does provide more intensive care if she comes to need it, but really enjoys being around other residents vs living alone in a house that was becoming too much. Her apartment has a small kitchen, and my sister and I have to periodically clear out caches of candy from everywhere. Supposedly she is lucky at bingo, but I have my doubts 😉
Dementia is like the person regressing back to a baby. I mean think about it. We start out toothless in diapers and all we do is drool, eat, sleep and poop. The guy at 9:00 is talking about how his wife's two favorite things are to eat and sleep. That is what happens. Life is a cycle.
Bless your heart sir .
I understand your pain
FIRST MAN LOVE IS STRONGER THAN DEATH. ...
These men love their wives so much.
There should be a lot more support for those who are carers.
🙏 for sharing this emotional feeling of your love ones having Alzheimer!
Alzheimer's disease has truly become an epidemic, and caring for someone with dementia is heartbreaking and can become overwhelming. It's so important for family caregivers to develop a strong network of support and arm themselves with as much education about the disease as possible. Additional resources are available here: compassionstl.com/category/alzheimers-disease/
Omg god bless him .... Hope he has help and won't get a stroke like my dad after 6 years of taking care of my mom with alzheimer's ...now both are on a different elderly place because covid19
Godbless everyone and bring some healing 🙏🙏
My mother has this disease. I get attacked verbally everyday. I have no social life because I have to keep a close eye on her. She takes care of herself but she can't hold conversation for 5 minutes. She watches TV but doesn't understand what's going on
She believes her thoughts. I know this may sound crazy. She makes assumptions and is very obnoxious. It's sad to see her like this. She has been mentally unstable since the age of about 38. She was never able to drive, imple childhood activities like skating and riding a bike were too big a task for her. Im an only child and it's very hard. I go to work sad most of the time but I try to be strong. My mother is 68 years old. It take a lot of patience. Most of the time I'm in my room with my earphones on to drown her out. She also talk to herself. She hides the silverware. She steal. She don't mean to. He goes on everyday rants. I want to put her in a home but I don't want her to be upset with me.
My husband has dementia, and both of his parents and other aunts and uncles in his family all died from it. One of them was like your mom and had to be put in the nursing home. It's just too much for a caregiver. Remember you have to put yourself first. The stress will kill you. I already have health issues from the stress, so it is a fine line. I'm getting ready to put my husband in a program he can go to during the day which will be good for both of us I think. It does sound like your mom needs to be somewhere, or if you can bring in some kind of respite to give you a break. I know this comment is late, so I hope you were able to get this resolved and you're doing okay.
Thanks for sharing ... :(
My 87 year old mother has dementia my sister and I are her caregivers in that stage now of not sleeping it’s 4:16 AM refusing to sleep the mother I knew and the rest of my sisters and one brother is here no longer and very combative our mother to all her other brothers and sisters was known as “sweet little ole Betty” has left the building I’m just wondering when the end is coming
Praying for a cure 💜💜
My husband has started showing signs of some sort of dementia after surgery a few months ago. He knows something is wrong, but refuses to go to his doctor to get himself seen about. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can get him seen about. He becomes violent and I can't just put him in the car and make him go.
Just saw this video and your comment 3 years later. How are things going now? My husband also had this happen. He was having trouble before major surgery, and then it started getting worse afterwards. At first he was angry about going but I told him if he was violent toward me I would call the police. Then he would be forced to go somewhere for testing. That was the only way I could convince him at the time. After he went, he didn't like the first person. So I found him a new doctor and he really likes him a lot. It is very difficult because his kids don't want to believe he has this issue. They are my stepchildren. I don't have any support from them in that regard. But everybody else, other friends and family can see the difference. His neurologist told me if he blows up or shows any aggression to call him immediately. There's a medication he can give him. I'm not sure what it's going to be though because I haven't had to do it yet. Although it's come close. I hope you're able to read my comment and let me know how you are doing!
@@VM-123 Thank you for your comment. I'm glad to hear that your husband has doctors who are willing to help. I hope things continue to go well. My husband is somewhat better now, but things got really bad for about 6 months. I called the police and adult protective services and I was told that they couldn't help because it was just his word against mine. He did all kinds of things during that time period. So much that I could probably write a book about it. He gave or threw away most of his clothes and shoes . Months after that he called me into his room and asked what happened to all of his clothes. I asked if he had forgotten what he did with them and he wouldn't answer. He was a mechanic for years and had all types of shop tools. He took the largest part of them to the greenbox and throwed them away. When I would try to stop him he would try to hurt me. He went to our bank and tried to fix the accounts where I had no access to any money. One night I'm certain he would have killed me but our son came and stopped the attack. I was beaten from head to toe. The attack scared me so badly that I was afraid to have him arrested for fear that he would get out of jail and kill me. I couldn't leave the house to go to the store or anything because he said he was going to throw my clothes and other things away. He made me take many things out of the house and put in storage. He even took down family pictures that had been up for years. He planned on decorating the house with things people had given him and he had in storage. He would go to my sisters house and tell her wild stories about me. She knows me and knew he was lying. Before things got better he had me so beaten down that I was willing to do just about anything he wanted because I was afraid he was going to kill me and maybe my sister also. I reached out to several of his family members but they didn't want to get involved. He gave his favorite sister a cussing over the phone and she told me that she didn't want to talk to him anymore. I could go on and on about the wild things he did during that time period. A few times I've asked him why he threw all of his tools and other things away and he won't talk about it. Sorry this is so long but this is just a small part of what happened.
My brothers wife has dementia she only wants my bother 24/7 which is taking its toll, he’s aged in the last six months
My neighbor had altzheimers. He walked into my backyard thinking he was at his home. He moved away now, wonder what happened..
Ooh you are in my prayers 🙏 ❤ 💕 please you need too acceptance that you are dealing with memory's loss 📉 🙏 ❤
This is heartbreaking
NONE OF US ARE IN CONTROL OF OURSELF. SAD
🙏
:03 junior soprano with the touching words
We ' re talking about this new addition to the 'disease' list.
It's hard to care for person who is having Alzheimer's. My grandma was diagnosed with Alzheimer's few months ago and then I understand how difficult it feels. During searching time, I coincidentally discovered an interesting webpage presents info about a potential cure to Alzheimer's.
+Aileen Kovacek It is going to aid you to acknowledge more deeply about this harmful brain disorder:
goodlife6.com/supercharge-your-brain-health-x5044a
Aileen Kovacek There is no such thing as any kind of cure as of now. Beware those claiming to have one.
Tears
Needed to smile after my day,so here's my mother, ♡♡♡♡♡ she has dementia 😠which I hate that stupid disease so when I catch her in this kind of 😆happiness and makes my heart❤ Happy so share the awareness of dementia just because they have that nasty disease doesn't mean that they aren't there because they still are there you just got to roll with it and catch the moments when you see the glimpse of your loved one, because when they're blank👀 it's like they're not there but they are, love your parents regardless of the ups and downs and be there for them!!! And dementia is VERY hard thing to deal with especially when it's a family member and look how how HAPPY my MOM is in this video..that was "THERE'S MY MOTHER" moment.. I posted a video of my mother moment
This is so hard to watch.
it's so sad...
As they stage from one level to the next, you grieve all over again. It's called the slow death. It's in my opinion that it would be best to euthanize people before they suffer the last stages of Alzheimer's or dementia. Its inhumane to allow a human being to suffer the way they do. There are different types as well, some are blissful, some are anxious, and some are bipolar with bouts of aggressive behavior. They become a danger to themselves and others. You can reason with them. They believe everything they say as currently happening. They revert back to a baby state of mind. But they have to be cued to do everything or they will not do it or do it wrong. Sad.
When they injure and kill their caregivers... .
😢
The Bredesen protocol is saving lives!!!!!!!! Please please look at the book called the end of Alzheimer’s and we’ll as the first survivors of Alzheimer’s! I’m begging you all.
its so frustrating that we can't do more to help people with this disease. I get so angry! Apparently our seniors are disposable in todays society. otherwise we would already have a damn cure. It seems like more women have Alzheimer's than men? is this normal! but women usually live longer, and they were the caregivers to everyone else for the majority of their lives. its aggravating and sad. its like us females can't get a break.
So sad.😢
Lots of love to this beautiful man hugs and kisses xxx
Mom had dementia behavior.
makesapersonsomeoneyoudontknow
Give your letters some space would you?
*Godzilla had a stroke reading this and ******* died*
why can't he use an entry lock? that makes no sense. I used one with mine and even taped our sliding glass door locks with duct tape. she of course could not figure that out (even though at first she attempted to remove the tape but gave up after a coupla attempts due to lack of attention span). Right you can NOT argue with them so just change the subject they really have no clue. beyond sad when they no longer recognize you. they look at you with that faraway blankness... who are you? this is an absolute horrid disease.
Living for his wife. She must haves lived for him.
When i wads a kid old people used to tie them to a chair and put them on the front porch. You know what? I think that should be done today. My fatherinlaw has fought, hit, bit, cursed, picked up chairs and tries to HURT someone. They want to bully everyone and DRIVE and they complain all the time. "nothing is wrong with me" he says. Uses cane to assault people. So yes!!!!!!!! Tie them to a chair and set them on the porch.
ur fucking stupid their minds are literally falling apart all you can do is make them happy or unhappy
Really sad:(((
So sad 😭
😩💔😩💔😩
Has anyone here tried oxytocin? It does help some people feel more "cuddly" believe it or not.
watchgoose Are you serious? That is such an addictive drug, I don't think that is an option at all.
I think you're thinking of oxycontin. Oxytocin is a hormone that occurs naturally in the human body.
Krikit Yes I was thinking it was that❣ I'm so sorry I misspoke...my apologies.
Alzheimers is similar.
Yeah, maybe because it is.
I have an experiment that the loved ones of a dementia patient can try on the latter.I could be wrong here,though.Semi-fasting.Control the food and drink intake to a point which the patient starts complaining that he or she is hungry,thirsty.While the hunger or thirst persists,ask him or her some questions such as"what day is today?","how old are you?"etc,questions that the doctor asks to determine if someone has dementia.First,ask these questions when the patient is not feeling any thirst or hunger,and later on when he or she is.In the above video,one man says his wife never says"I'm not hungry."This shows that a dementia-afflicted person craves food.He or she may eat,drink a lot,then go to sleep,just as the man in the video says about his wife.Only these two activities,eating and sleeping.This gives me the idea that fasting or semi-fasting may help the dementia patient recover.
This disease is like the a plague.
coconut oil.
I need to know the context behind this situation
WHATS UP WITH TEH FUCKING VOLUME ON THIS VIDEO!!!!!!!!!! I'm here traumatized and searching for answers and the editor cant even get a simple video right ... also, i see zero footage of Dementia mood swings, just anecdotal evidence which isn't what the title suggests. Grade = D -
Shut him up
Wish he was my daddy. Goo goo gaga.
There's power in the name of Jesus. God was born a man in the Son, Jesus. Jesus Christ atoned for our sins on the cross of Golgatha, and by the power of His His eternal spirit He overcame death! Receive Him in faith as your Savior and Lord. Trust Jesus, whatever happens.
Fuck jesus.
I am so sorry that you feel this way , every knee shall bow but will you be kneeling in Heaven ot HELL