Long and Sad GRWM Chat: How Aging Humbles Us ALL
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I’m 75 and I get it. 😔. My husband and I have been married nearly 51 years. I’m terrified of being the one left behind.
Watching your parents deteriorate is heartbreaking. Especially mental decline. I always tell my granddaughter that I want to die 5 minutes before I don’t know who I am. I stand by that.
When your parents pass away, you realize that they were shielding you from an imaginary line. When they cross it and are gone, you step up to the line. It’s your turn. It may take 25 years, but you’re next.😳 It’s a sobering moment.
The ‘last times’ are sad to relive. Sometimes you realize it’s the last time as it happens, but most of the time you don’t!
Please don’t apologize for your emotions. It’s safe here. ❤️
Thank you so much, Leah. This comment is profound - the imaginary line part. Wow. What a mental image. And it's so real. I hope you maintain mental clarity for all your years! It's a blessing to remain aware, alert, and with your mental faculties in place. Big hugs to you and your husband. 💖💖💖
It’s so interesting how the memory loss happens with dementia. I witnessed it with my grandmother. She first started to forget who her great grandkids were. And then over time, her grandkids. Then she forget who her own kids were. And then finally she forgot who she was. I wish they could find a cure for that 😢
I do, too. It's such a cruel ending to life. I'm sorry you went through this with your grandmother. 😔😔😔
Dear, and I mean, Dear, Veronica. I appreciated your video. I am 69, and what I usually do each day is to ask myself, did I give to someone else today, did I fulfill what I have promised someone else or myself today. I, thank G-d, 2 children and 9 grandchildren. I try to visit them every 4 months. When I go, my goal is to develop relationships and give of myself. I feel very important to them. They value the love I show them. They have loving parents, but other loving people is also important to them. I went through two aging parents who have since passed. One of my parents had dementia, and, of course, it was an emotional but growing experience to care for them. I’m glad that you had this topic. I feel it is a neglected topic about
the feelings we experience about aging . Thank you, Veronica for having an important discussion.
Thank you kindly for this lovely message. 🙏🙏🙏 You are blessed to have 2 children AND 9 grandkids! Wonderful! I'm glad you get to see them and that they cherish your presence. What a gift! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this video. 🙏🙏💖💖💖
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Thank you for your reply, Veronica. I am, indeed, very grateful. When my daughters married, I decided that I would love their husbands, so thank G-d, I feel like I have two sons as well, and they are not hard to love. :) I enjoy people of all ages; because I have been all their ages, I feel that I can relate. I think these attitudes help me be happy, although aging still has its challenges as we look ahead to the future, sometimes with trepidation.
I love that perspective! Thank you! 💖💖💖
Amiga why you have me crying at 8:30am?! I have meetings to attend! I think it’s so important to reflect. When I turned 50 a couple years ago it was such a difficult time for me. I had this sense of doom and it was hard to move away from it. It took some time. I think it was the realization that time is passing quickly and I have less time. I’m trying to focus on positivity and telling myself that my 50’s WILL BE fabulous. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. 💚
I'm so sorry I had you in tears! 😔 I am having a hard time accepting that I am months away from the half-century mark. Wow! As a child, 50 seemed like an eternity away. Now here I am. And grateful but I have so many questions that will never be answered. I hope your 50s ARE fabulous! I'm intending for mine to be amazing. Blessings! 💖💖
This HITS ❤… we’ve recently had to get the right elder care & are in the process of managing assisted living arrangements for both my 85yo Father-in-Law & his wife who live in Ecuador. They’re both in varying disabling stages of both mental & physical decline. It’s been eye-opening to the 9th degree. Our kids are gone… we love on them, talk to them & see them, our friends, each other as much and as often as we can BUT NOTHING makes it as crystal clear that our mental, spiritual & physical health is our greatest treasure as does going thru these times. Take care, sweet V ❤❤❤
Yes to all of this! Thank you! 💖🙏 Hugs back to you and blessings to all of you - your in-laws, you and hubby, and you children. Take good care!
Im 53, I decluttered my make up collection for same reason that your taking few years ago. Was hard but Im happy and I havent got any new ones since. I sold some, gave my girls some. I still kept my mothership palettes 😂 I try to live like this is my last day cause you never know when its your time to go. Live full life, do things you want and like, say your love ones that you love them.
It is going to be hard to let go of Mother Pat's palettes! 😆 And yes, cherish EACH DAY! Thank you 💖🙏
I was diagnosed with cancer last year, unexpectedly. No family history. A real shocker. I was my dad's primary caregiver after my dad declind from a traumatic head injury. He had no short term memory. Very repetative. Its so hard to watch someone who was this giant mans man have everything taken away. My little sister stepped up not only for me but for him as well. Well, In the middle of treatment, I found him down on the floor in his home. I had just received treatment and was too weak to get him up. I had to call 911. He was so confused and weak himself. Turns out he not only had sepsis but they found stage 4 lung cancer in him everywhere they gave him 4 months. We got 1. God gave me the ability to take care of him in my home during his last days while doing my own cancer treatment. I don't know how he gave me the strength to do so, but he did. And I am grateful. Now, I am just waiting to get strong enough to do the Swedish death cleaning. My dad left such a mess, and I don't want to do that to my boy. I remember being in my 20s, and after a separation, I left everything in Chicago. It was freeing. I want that feeling again. And I don't want to burden my kiddo with my hoarding and junk drawers. I have the same question everyday. What do I need to do to be at peace? This was a great video. Its all the things I think of daily.
Thank you so much for sharing this story. I hope your dad had a peaceful passing and had comfort from being in your home. I wish you well with cleaning out - I don't want to leave any burdens for our kids either when my time comes. I want them to feel what they feel and move on to live their fullest lives. Life is beautiful, mysterious, joyful, and miserable all at once. It's the weight and lightness of being ALIVE. Hugs to you! May you feel that freeing feeling once again! 💖💖💖
@@essentialveronicaMy in-laws live in a large house and they have lived in the same house for 67 years and it's decorated to the hilt and my father in-law even has magazines from the 1960's. It's going to be so challenging when they are gone. I dread it each time I think about it
Oh my. My heart goes out to you! There are estate companies that can auction everything off on your behalf. That might be one option to look into if you don't have help in going through everything.
Awww Veronica 😢 I definitely got teary eye hearing about your parents. I know this is a hard time for you and your parents. I’m praying for your strength and hoping your able to spend as much time with them as possible 💗
I love these deep talks. Fresh cut grass brings me nostalgia too and occasionally I get melancholy thinking back on my childhood.💙 I’m constantly chasing my childhood. Those woods are beautiful! It reminds me of upstate NY. 😍 I completely agree that you do not have to hit pan on your products!
I’m so sorry about your mother and your father’s health, and I send peaceful vibes your way. I really empathize and sympathize with you. I think a lot about my parents as well. My mom, nor my father, had the easiest upbringing and our relationship has been rocky. My mom battled cancer a year ago and just recently she underwent invasive heart surgery (and still recovering) and it’s been an intense long year of reflecting on the relationship with my parents, especially now that I’m turning 30...My brother has also been facing health problems... Although it's gut-wrenching to face these realities, it makes me slow down and count my blessings ♥
Oh, Tatiana. I know exactly what you mean about chasing your childhood. I hope you find peace with your parents and can forgive whatever happened in the past. It's not easy when it's literally what shaped who you are today. Heavy stuff. Hang in there! 30 is an amazing age - treasure that great place of both being youthful still and wisdom starting to set in. Hugs 💖💖💖
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Hi Veronica. Thank you for this video. I'm about to turn 43 and lost my mum 7 years ago. Her death was sudden and likely avoidable. Prior to her death in June 2017, the last time I saw my mum was at the airport saying goodbye to start my new life in Australia. That was June 2015. Never did I think I would lose my mum so soon. So I think I understand what you are saying. I still have my Dad and I treasure him dearly. I will be going back home to Zimbabwe in December to see him as Covid put a spanner in the works for most people. I'm going through some health issues myself at the moment, so this video is much appreciated. Take good care of yourself too.❤❤. Sending a big virtual hug to you.❤
Thank you so much! 💖 I'm so sorry you didn't get to see your mother before she passed suddenly. 😔 I hope your trip to Zimbabwe is a wonderful one - I'm sure your father will greatly appreciate the time with you. 🙏🙏🙏
Ah sending love and prayers your way❤. The older we get the more loved ones we loose, and seemingly the less connected we get b/c of relocating, work, life, ect. I have vowed to make a conscious effort to take more time for those I hold near/dear❤
Yes. All of this! Thank you, my friend! 💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏
Hiiii Veronica!!❤️❤️❤️
You are speaking my language today! Right now I’m a decluttering fool!😂 I’ve already done my kitchen. We’re two people. We don’t need two sets of dishes, or multiple pots and pans of the same size! Or an 8 qt pressure cooker! My granddaughter is the only one who comes over.
I confess to having two junk drawers. I clean them out regularly but…there must be male and female items in there because they multiply at night!😂😂
I’ve done a good job at what is called a ‘Death Declutter’. A gruesome term, but it’s a thing. My memorabilia won’t mean anything to those who survive me.
But when I got to my perfume and makeup, I was completely overwhelmed!😳
I had so much! Of everything. I started with fragrance. I decluttered around 45 bottles and have sold all but 4. 🎉 Last year was a year of exploration to figure out what was me.
I had hundreds and hundreds (and hundreds) of eyeshadow palettes. I used to think I had to have everything that a brand released. Now, things I thought I could never part with have gotten much easier to truly analyze, and let go.
I owned every Natasha Denona palette. I’ve actually listed 8 recently, and sold 3 so far. I have very good prices, but I’m not giving it away!
I’ve gotten rid of all the small Pat McGrath palettes. I’m still working up to the Motherships, but I’ll get there. 😁 No brand is safe!🤣
I actually feel so good about it.
I have just under 150 sales. I’m proud. I never thought I could do it. 🫢
I’ve written a book!! Sorry 😞
I’ll probably comment again after I finish watching.
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Hi Leah! 💖 I'm proud of you for on with your massive decluttering. Selling off parts of collections is a huge undertaking - very time-consuming, so good for you. Hundreds and hundreds of eyeshadow palettes for two eyeballs. Oh my! My collection wasn't quite that large, but I was in the same boat. I know the feeling! Good job! Hope it's been freeing! 💖💖💖
I love watching car vlogs ,so I’m here and along for the ride !! I feel completely safe LOL
Thank you, friend! 💖💖💖
I’m in tears 😩… your parents, your history, the “lasts”, your babies, MY babies (3 sons 11, 8, 4). Lawd! 😫
Sorry I made you cry. I send you big hugs! Hold those sweet boys TIGHT!!! 💖💖💖 I miss those ages dearly.
Hi Veronica, Loved this video. Going home is depressing for me too. I've suffered a lot of loss in the 50 years that I've walked this earth. I periodically get waves of emotions that hit me as well. When I mourn the past it always brings me back to cherishing the present. It also makes me think of what Jesus said in Matthew 22:39, Love thy neighbor. You never know what people are going thru. Thank you for being transparent.
Thank you! I relate to your entire comment. We never know what others are experiencing! 🙏💖🙏💖
Ohhh Veronica, my heart goes out to you. I experienced this with my grandmother and now my father who is on hospice and has lost his mental faculties completely. I'm sending you so much love as you navigate this.
Awww thank you, love! 💖 Sending you love right back. And peace and blessings for your father in hospice. God bless 😔😔😔🙏🙏🙏
Dear Veronica, you brought so many tears to my eyes that I can't stop crying even when your video finished. Thank you for showing us such a vulnerable, humane side of you. I get very emotional when I see people crying and I cry too. I'm 34 and even my parents are ok, ageing and death are worrying me. I wish you health and courage for the days to come. You are like a old friend.The katharsis after the cry is such a nice feeling, thank you for it. Take care dear, I send you a big hug ❤
Thank you so much for your empathy and kind comment. We are all friends here - tied together by our joys, fascinations, wonderings, fears, and questions. Sending you love! I cry, too, when others do. The mom, sister, friend in me wants to comfort others always. 🙏🙏🙏
Oh Veronica, you have me sobbing here! The thing with dementia, memory loss, Alzheimer’s… it feels like you’re loosing your loved one while they’re still alive. I lost my father a few years ago to Alzheimer’s and the whole process from when he was diagnosed and conscious about what was happening to the end…it was so hard! The biggest lesson I learned was to never take time for granted… spend as much time with your loved ones as you can… tell them you love them often… because we never know. I personally believe we are all going to be reunited in spirit and that gives me some peace… but it’s still heartbreaking. Thank you for the meaningful conversation and for reminding me… life is short… we better live and love NOW!❤🤗
Thank you so much for sharing! 💖 I, too, hope that spirit lives on and we find each other in different forms in the afterlife. At least I can dream that it's true, right? Thank you for the reminder to treasure our time together. Hugs to you! 🙏🙏🙏
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I've had difficult relationship with my Mom for years until last year when I moved in with her to take care of her. It's been an amazing and completely unexpected experience. We get along so much better now. And since my father's passing several years back and her just aging more, she has changed some. I'm really trying to appreciate the time I have with her and grateful that I have the opportunity to do so. Take care Veronica:)
Thank you for sharing this. What a blessing to be able to care for your mom and transform your relationship in this final chapter. Big hugs! 💖💖💖
Oh Veronica. That made me cry. Please know that you have to just enjoy the real moments, all of them, as they happen. My father, who was extremely intelligent, got dementia. He died within 2 years of going downhill. I just dealt with him, on the level that he was at, and basically said ‘goodbye’ to him, every time I saw him. Just love your people. That’s it. That is all that matters.
I am slowly cleaning and going through things too. I am older than you. My father is gone now, but I told him ‘I love you’ every time. And I send you love, too.❤️🌹
Thank you, Julie, for the love and for sharing about your father. You are 100% right - just love your people. Everything else is, in comparison, frivolous! Big hugs to you. 💖💖💖
My Mother-in-law has Alzheimer’s. It’s a brutally awful despicable disease, for the person and the family….and especially the spouse 🥺 Right now my husband & I are doing everything we can to preserve/improve our health: nutrition, supplements, fitness, strength training with heavy weights, stress, sleep. The whole 9 yards. We also believe that there are wonderful things to come 🙏🥰
I'm sorry to hear your MIL is suffering from Alzheimers. 😔 All you can do is exactly as you are doing - try to live to the fullest and take care of yourself. Hugs! 💖💖💖
@@essentialveronica hugs back at ya….and grateful for your openness in discussing some extremely difficult subjects 🥰
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I think it's like the Garth Brooks song, "The Dance", on all those "lasts" - it's good that we didn't know at the time - I think it would break our hearts.
Hugs, Veronica - love you, love both your channels. ❤❤❤
Yes, it would totally break our hearts all day every day. 😔 Sending hugs and much love back your way! 💖💖💖
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Oh Veronica. You had me crying too. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, I i know how heartbreaking it is. I'm caring for my 90 year old mum who has Alzheimer's, my father has Lewy Body dementia and I lost my husband nearly a year ago from asbestos related cancer. It's so hard watching those you love suffering from these terrible diseases and trying to be strong and not fall apart. As you say, we need to make the most of every moment with our loved ones. Take care of yourself 😘
Hi Fiona, so sorry for the loss of your husband and for the current medical conditions your parents are dealing with. I can't imagine how difficult it is for them, you, and others. 😔😔😔 Hang in there, and thank you so much! 💖🙏
Oh anticipatory grief is so real in midlife you are not alone in your tears. Thank you for sharing .❤ my Dad just moved back to the east coast at 82 and im trying to spend more time with him while there is time if that makes sense
Makes total sense. My hurt goes out to you! Enjoy your dad! 💖💖💖
Yessss, my kids could careless about seasonal decorations, Christmas trees etc 🤦🏻♀️ sometimes I miss seeing it but I don’t miss taking it down 😂 ppl around here have had their Halloween decor up for a couple weeks now 🤦🏻♀️
Having faith in Jesus honestly is the only thing that calms my fears and helps with the uncertainty of my future or my loved ones futures. We’ll be together for eternity after this life on this earth is over and that helps take away the sting of death. I don’t look for proof of heaven, that’s what faith is for . Sorry about all the comments but it hits close to home for me too. Think about the afterlife this way. If I believe in God and it turns out he doesn’t exist, nothing happens, I’m just gone but if I don’t believe in God and he does exist, if I wait until I’m dead to find that out it’s too late, I’d be in hell . I’d rather trust in the word of Jesus from the Bible that he exist , let go of the anxieties of the unknown. We weren’t meant to understand it all because we can’t comprehend something so great and powerful and all knowing but I’m glad I believe so I don’t have to fear 🙏🏻♥️
I appreciate this comment. Hugs to you! Faith is the foundation. 💖💖💖
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as always, thanks for your transparency. sending you all the hugs and prayers Veronica 💙
Thank you Alexis! And thank you for watching 💖💖💖
Thank you for sharing. Hoping that I maintain my mental sharpness while living with aging AND watching my mother and her siblings reminds me to give grace daily. Grace to myself when I struggle to recall words; Grace to my mother when she repeats a story or constantly says “what did you say?” 😮we are fortunate that we can leave our videos for our future selves…I hope the day never comes when I don’t remember but if it does, I hope RUclips still exists. ❤
Grace is the only way. It's the ultimate form of empathy and understanding. I'm hoping these videos mean something to someone later on, too. Thank you! 💖💖💖
I have become really comfortable in the last year with the idea that we just go to sleep forever. That doesn’t sound so bad to me, personally. I also continue to fall more in love with the idea of living this life to the fullest and then living on in the memories of the ones who remain after I’m gone.
Thank you for sharing your perspective and I hope life brings you comfort, joy, and happiness! Life is for the living, as the expression goes. Hugs to you! 💖💖💖
@@essentialveronicaI hope for all the same things for you!! Thanks for sharing your experience ❤ It is difficult to watch our loved ones go through that.
I decorate my front porch every year for Fall. I do a wreath, about 20 different pumpkins,big mums and large cabbage plants! I love it!😍
I agree about watching our parents! I was fortunate enough to have my Grandma on my Dad’s side till I was 47. My Dad will be 84 and my Mom is 76. It’s so hard seeing them decline in mobility and cognitively. My Mom was one of 11. We have a very large family as well! I love the emotion I felt when you talked about seeing all the Aunts & Uncles. Once we have children and our own life it’s just never the same as how it was with family when we were young! Bless your son, aging isn’t for the faint. So thankful for our faith, don’t know how we’d face this without it! I loved this video! It’s reality!🙏🏼❤️
Thank you so much, Jackie! Gosh, I'd love to see your porch! 💖💖💖 Yes, watching our parents age is a blessing and the hardest thing. And to think about our kids going through this... UGH! Faith is the ONLY answer that provides any relief at all.
I love the thought of your grandfather looking out for you. Hugs honey, you are life❤
I do, too. Whether it's true or not, I suppose that part doesn't really matter. Thank you so much! 💖💖💖
I’m so sorry friend. It’s tough seeing your family decline in health. My grandfather died in 2022 and to see him decline from Dementia was heartbreaking. I miss talking to him on the phone and his stories. The last time I called him was different because he was different and didn’t want to talk to me. I was so hurt but then I realized why. This video has got me so emotional. I’m an empty nester and just knew I would be so happy but I miss my babies so much that I told them I would bake a dessert for them every month until January. I just want to see them and create memories with them as well as my grandchildren. I used to work in a nursing home with patients with declining mental health and whenever they saw a loved one it seemed to trigger something in them. Okay let me stop because I’m over here straight crying 😭
Sorry I made you cry! 😔 Oh my goodness... I can only imagine what that last call was like. Please treasure those beautiful children you brought into this world and your gorgeous grand babies. Life is precious! 🙏🙏🙏💖💖💖
I get it ,the family health issues you are dealing with are some of the same I’m dealing with in my family and it’s sad 😔 they are very well aware of memory loss issues but confused with conversation at the same time ,my heart goes out to you and your family ❤️
Thank you, Frances. I'm sorry you are experiencing the same. 💖💖💖
Sweet Girl... Love your Heart!! It's all true, real and scary. Rest in the truth that we are all going through it in our lives together with you! Enough of this division of politics...: Real Life with family and friends, love and loss- that's what unites us all- all over the world!
I really enjoy your video today!
Thank you so much! 💖🥰 I could not agree more. Political division is low-energy craziness. I hate it and can't wait for the election to be over.
The pandemic really changed my makeup purchases. I have three pallettes I reach for and have slowly been giving the rest to coworkers. Before the pandemic, I wanted them all.
Also, I lost my father last November and am now helping my mom declutter and downsize. Two uncles also passed in the spring. Watching family members fail, especially when there is memory loss, is so hard.
Yes, it IS so difficult to watch family decline. 😔 Sorry for the loss of your father and best wishes with the declutter. It's tough.
And about the makeup - same for me. Pre-pandemic I did my makeup almost every single day. Since? Not so much.
Veronica this is a powerful video. Yes, it brings up a lot of emotions but what in life doesn’t. I can relate to so much that you discussed. I am the youngest of 13 and including myself there are only four of us left. I’ve unfortunately been dealing with Alzheimer’s and dementia since my late 20’s as my mother cared for my aunt when she was struck with it. How could we have known that the same would also strike my mother years later and now it’s slowly taken my oldest sister away. The most painful thing I’ve ever experienced in my life was say hello to my sister and having her look at me like a stranger on the street.😢 She’s still living and oddly has no other major physical problems. I plan to spend Thanksgiving with her and the family this year and I just pray that she can hold on until then. My perspective on life has always been driven somehow by death having lost a brother when I was six years old. My faith, no pun intended, sustains me in ways I never could have imagined. I believe we are all born to die and we should use that as a call to action to LIVE! Anyhoo thanks for sharing as I know you cherish privacy for your family.
As far as makeup, fragrances and other things we amass over time I’ve been slowly getting rid of things. I shared in another group that I plan to follow my mother’s lead when she sold her house and moved into a senior’s apartment years ago. Rather than have folks arguing over what they wanted ahead of time had everyone come to the house and take what they wanted. I remember she gave two Queen Anne chairs to a neighbor that always admired them. She only took what she needed for her apartment and after she passed everything went to my sister. We donated her sewing machine to the senior center and I still go to see it whenever I am home. As far as makeup goes I have a ton of nieces so it was easy to downsize that collection. Now everything fits into a drawer and I use what I have before buying more. It’s all to the good. Hugs and kisses my friend. You’ve got this.
Awwww Faith! Gosh. Seems our families have a lot in common. I didn't discuss it in the video in the interest of time but several of my dad's siblings are also suffering from dementia and other life-threatening illnesses. It all seems like such a cruel final chapter to a short life. As you say, faith is the only way to stay grounded and to live with any sense of peace. Thank you for sharing so much. And yes to the declutter happening while alive. I can't tell you the arguments I've seen of people disagreeing about how to divide up what's left of someone's belonging or estate. What a disgrace to the person's memory! Amazing that your mom thought of a peaceful way to handle that ahead of time. I send you lots of love and hugs. 💖💖💖
Sending hugs, love and prayer to you and your family♥️I have been in similar situations. Enjoy and cherish every moment with family♥️🙏🏾
Yes, thank you kindly! 💖💖💖
sending hugs❤❤❤❤❤ I get you, my friend. It's beautiful and hard all at the same time. Thank you for sharing so vulnerably with us. Crying along with you 😭
Awww sorry I made you cry. Thank you for your sweet comment! 💖💖💖
I’m sorry to hear about your parents. Memory loss is very hard for the people living it and their entourage… Sending you love and courage Veronica. 🫶🏻
Thank you, my lovely friend! 💖🙏
I like using oil...I keep a big bottle of almond oil in my shower and smooth it all over just before I turn off the water. It doesn't really get greasy at all. It just feels nice and smooth.
Thank you. Maybe I'll try the oil that way - in the shower. This particular oil is just soooo thick.
I wanted to reach out and hug you V! I’m at the part about your dad… and I just want you to know that I really appreciated you opening up to us viewers about something very personal and also very relatable for so many of us. Thank you for sharing with us 💕💕💕
Thank you, friend! That means a lot to me! 💖💖🙏🙏
Sending big hugs. I felt this so deeply. Thank you for the such a beautiful expression regarding mortality and feelings around it. 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you so much! 💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏
My Grandma has Alzheimer’s, it’s very difficult but we push on and try to make sure she’s as happy as can be. Hugs, Veronica 🥲😊🤗♥️
I think that's really all we can reasonably do. Thank you for for watching, and a BIG hug back to you! 💖🥰
❤️❤️❤️ hugs! I’m in tears..😭 i can relate to everything about your dad. My mum is the same.. take care Veronica, thanks for making this video.. hugs!
Awww so sorry 😞 Sending hugs and love your way also! 💖
Beautiful where you are ♥️ I’ve always wanted to go see all the fall foliage 🍂🍁 we have colorful trees here and there but nothing like it is up northeast where you are
Northeast foliage is unmatched! So beautiful! 🍂
Thank you for sharing this. Thinking of you and your family, and appreciative of your vulnerability and reflection.
Thank you soooo much! 🙏🙏💖💖
As I’ve turned 50, I’ve changed my skincare and makeup routine. Our skin changes, so of course, what we put on our skin also should change 👌 I love my routine now , I mostly use cream products
I'm very happy many days to just be in full glowy face cream! 🥰
@@essentialveronica me too! 😅 when I go to bed, I look like a glazed donut but it does sink in before I fall asleep 😝
I love when I get that purging urge ,and there ain’t no stopping me ,when I get in that mood
Same! It's such a freeing feeling! 🥰🥰🥰
You have a nice singing voice 😊 Thanks for the video. I think about these things every day, as we are getting older we do realise that our loved ones are getting older too, however we don't know whose time will come first. The thinking of the separation one day is exhausting et so sadening 😢
Thank you so much! 💖💖💖 And yes, exactly THIS! I know what you mean. 😔🙏
What I’m doing now, is decluttering. We just lost my father in law recently, 😭 more stuff to store away. I have drawers just for batteries, I have my own drawers for my mini screwdriver and mini hammer and tape measure, craft stuff etc lol it’s necessary 😝
I'm so sorry about your recent loss. 😔 And yes, some of the junk is necessary! 👍🏻
My grandma and grandpa are in Williamsburg, VA and the trees along the rose on the drive made me think of them! My grandma passed 1 yr ago and I miss her terribly. Thank you for that road shot it brought back some beautiful memories
Awww how sweet! 💖🙏 So sorry you lost your grandmother! 😔
All the feels, thanks for sharing. Sending you hugs! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much! Hugs back to you! 💖💖💖
I just decorated my porch over the weekend , I don’t do Halloween but I love fall 💯🍁🍂🥰♥️
I wish I could see your porch! 🥰
@@essentialveronica it’s simple but cute, see what I can do , don’t give up on me, i have good days and bad. I’m being sent to another doctor to get another CBC done because my previous test was abnormal. If it doesn’t come out right again , they will send me to a hematologist. I haven’t mentioned it because I don’t know what it is yet
Hoping for the best for you, my friend! 💖
The final look turned out great. 💜
Thank youuuu! 💖💖💖
Those young ladies will LOVE that makeup ❤
They DO! 🥰
Hello my friend!! I was thinking about you today! My SOTD was La Danza which I am forever grateful that you gifted me, So you were on my mind ❤
You are a cutie patootie! I don’t mind if you drive and chat! Ooh it’s such a pretty tree-lined drive!! 🌳💚
It’s night and I already took my progesterone so I’m probably about to conk out in a few minutes 😴 lol But I will see you in the morning for toast and coffee if I fall asleep 😉💕
Awww I'm honored to be associated with La Danza. Everytime I hear someone mention it in a video I think of you and your daughter. 💖💖💖 Thanks for not judging my drive chats! 😂 Some people will complain about any and everything.
Yes that Missing Person body oil is reeeeeally oily!! 😅😅 it does get all over the outside of the glass and make it look messy 🫤
You understand my troubles! It's kinda icky but I will hang in there with it!
You needed this V. I sure do wish I could reach through the camera and hug you because I have been feeling the same way and you need a good hug and smile. So real so true so awesome and so frightening, the things you have said. For me looking at life moment to moment is easier than looking at it as a whole. It becomes overwhelming. But…..but I pray-A LOT! And like you hope there is something more wonderful on the other side! Because wouldn’t it be a b…. if it weren’t! Seriously though I appreciate your candor and vulnerability. I must have needed to see this because I need a good hug and a smile. And to be with someone that understands what I feel and since I can’t hug you Imma go find my husband….last but not least, these are conversations as human beings we need to have with each other so we can help each other through this thing called life. Much Love and peace coming your way!🙏😊💖
Yes to everything you said above! 🙏💖 I'm glad the video resonated with you and I wish I could give YOU a hug, too! Thank you so much! This thing called life is indeed wild, wonderful, maddening, perplexing, and amazing all at once. 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
I get that scent memory thing that hits you like a brick wall ( or a bad comment) and takes you back to a time that was amazing, yet you didn't know it or appreciate it at the time. And you just feel so winsome and nostalgic, almost sad you can't. I am trying to sort of do a Swedish death cleanse as I am waiting for a double lung transplant and it will either go well or not. I don't want people to have to do it if it happens. Hola I have a junk house. Yes it is nice, but too much and I need to simplify as I don't have as much energy as I think I have. Growing up with CF has made me stare death in the face all the time. So I have been forced to find peace with death. I think we all just assume we have forever to do things, to make up or do things together. The reality is we never know and have to figure out what is important to us and how to maximize it. It's weird and sad to have your relationship with your parents do a 180. You know it can happen, but it just is so surreal, sad, and in a way lonely. My dad had glioblastoma and an IQ over 200, but he was devastated when he started losing his STM. I think we all have our battles with our parents growing up, but I believe people do the best with what they have been given and the circumstances they live in. Forgiveness is everything. My husband came from a family of 14 kids, 10 made it to 5 in the US. I pray that you and your family find peace and healing in whatever way God intends in this life 42:45 transition. Lol on the not needing things. I have an entire closet full of dresses, primarily summer 🌞 ones. I found myself about to buy another dress today. TG my color was not in my size. I literally had to scream at myself to STOP.
Thank you so much! A double lung transplant... that is as serious as it gets. I pray all goes well for you. I can imagine how devastating the memory loss is for your father. It's a cruel and hugely disorienting way to live. Forgiveness is key. As a parent now, I try to do my very best and understand, from a different angle, that we don't always have the right approaches or answers. Thank you for your heartfelt comment. 💖💖💖
You know I moved so I declutterred a lot of stuff. I still have a video I recorded that I haven’t even shown you guys yet. Stuff is made to be enjoyed and possibly pass it on to someone else if possible. It’s wonderful you are passing things on to your daughter and her friends. You definitely have me checking out hourglass pallets
Decluttering is freeing! And must be done periodically. Give Hourglass a go if you get a chance. They take some getting used to but there are a lot of videos that walk you through which powders do what and how to wear them.
Hi Veronica! Nothing like a surprise unexpected visit from your sister in law from Belgium to purge your house! 😅😅😅 I have been on a mission since last Thursday! The minute I knew, I’ve been going through my five stories town house like a mad woman! 😂
I can imagine! Unexpected guests will make you do that! 😂😂😂
Our girl is fiesty! 🤣 love it,ok let me keep watching 😊
Hiiii Sunny! 🥰🥰🥰
I can definitely relate to tooooo many thoughts bouncing around my mind all at once❤️😂
You all are my tribe! 😂
Offering a virtual hug❤️My mom is 86 and experiencing the things you describe. Her sister, who I was close to, died in April after a 2 year illness which stole her memory and self confidence. It’s hard to see these things happen to people we love, but also sad to know these things will probably happen to us if we are fortunate to live that long.
Yes, Katherine. We may be facing similar circumstances. 😔 A big hug right back to YOU! God bless you and your mom 🙏🙏🙏
Sending you virtual hugs, Veronica! ❤ my mom is the same age as yours and had a stroke last year as well. It's so hard to see them decline, indeed. On a lighter note, we don't have a junk drawer, we have a " miscellaneous sh*t" one 😂 hugs from Prague 🍁🍂🍁🍂🍁🍂
Thank you! It is so tough. 😔😔😔 I love a miscellaneous s$&t drawer! 😂
Wow. You describe my childhood. My grandmother also had 15 kids in PR. There is always a lot going on when the family gets together to eat. When I think about it it was a unique and wonderful experience to grow up in such a large family ❤
I totally agree! I wouldn't trade this crazy family although they drive me insane. It's a beautiful thing! 💖
Natasha Denona is my absolute favorite eyeshadow brand🙌🏻🤓
Yesssssss! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Girl they complain about the dumbest thing 😩 what’s the difference from you glancing at the camera versus the navigation if you need it?! They better be happy we’re not printing off Mapquest directions and looking at those like we did back in the day 😂
…and, I can’t get over TWENTY-FOUR BIRTHS!!! 🤯😮💪
I mean... her poor uterus! 👀😯
Sending you so much love ♥️♥️🫶
Thank you kindly, my friend! 💖💖💖
You and I are in the same stage of life right now. I was on my lunch break when I started watching this video. I literally busted out crying when you started crying and talking about your family. I have been coming to terms with losing loved ones and with my own mortality for several years now. My mother in law had Alzheimers and she didn't even know who my husband (her son) was. She would call him by the name of one of her brothers. It's absolutely gut wrenching. It has been a struggle, and it can almost overtake your ability to feel happy sometimes. I find myself trying to retreat back to the past for comfort, but it makes it worse almost. I have been really focusing on my faith in Jesus and asking Him to walk right beside me and hold my hand every second. I am praying for you and all others who are navigating this rough road. We are not alone.
Thank you soooo much! 💖 And I'm sorry you cried! 😔 I pray nightly and include both my gratitude for all that has passed, is currently well, and is to come. I also include my wishes and hopes for others. I can only imagine what you and your husband felt as you watched your MIL deal with Alzheimers. A cruel disease. So sorry. Hugs to you! 💖💖💖
Thank you for sharing with us! I am so sorry for what you are going through. I was glad to cry with you. Sometimes, we need a good cry. Sending hugs and prayers to you!
Oh! Now I want to try bronzer down the sides of my nose.
“Let me tell you! Let me tell you something! Let me tell you something!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I will never understand why some people think it’s impossible to vlog while driving safely. Your hands are on the wheel. Your face is forward. sooo I’m not sure what they are considering to be unsafe🤷🏻♀️🤔🤣🤣🤣 some people just need something to complain about I guess😏
Girl, some people will complain about air and the sun. It's just who they are. 🤷🏻♀️😂
Junk drawers are a thing. Pretty sure we all have them. So much stuff! Eeeek!
Seriously! 😂
I have tons of eyeshadow but I probably use the same 4 or 5 colors 90% of the time.
I tend to stick to similar colors or at least schemes these days too.
His older memories are probably intact. Our siblings are the only people in our lives that we share our whole life with.
Some are, some are jumbled, unfortunately. Yes to the sibling part! 🙏
Yes! I am In decluttering mode.. fall does that to me, it’s like a new start. I went through my perfumes tonight and picked out some to declutter..
Oh Veronica my heart was going out to you as you spoke of your Dad.. 🙏 So hard to see them going through these changes 🥺😢 One of 24 children 😳 oh my goodness!!!!
Aww Girl you have me crying!!
Yes I always tucked in my kids, I was still tucking Danielle in at age 17 every night right up until the day she died. 🥹🫶🏼
Okay I have to tell you this.. Tenille Townes, who is the girl who wrote the song about Danielle (Jersey on the Wall), she also wrote a song called “The Last Time” which is about exactly what you were saying about how you didn’t know it would be the last time each of those moments happened 😢 It’s a tear jerker!!
Well it was an emotional one but always glad to connect on deeper levels! ❤
I love your final look!! 😘💕
Miss V...bless your grandmother for having 24 children! As I near retirement, I realize there isn't much time left. I'm in great health and have been blessed with great abundance. I'm not wasting another minute on stupid stuff. I know this family gathering must have been hard for you, but you had a great opportunity to see all your family. Did you film your declutter?
Thank you!"Your good health is a blessing! Enjoy your life and impending retirement! 💖🥰 I will be posting the fragrance reorganization and some of the declutter soon. 👍🏻
I take it back. I do not have tons of eyeshadow after hearing how many pallets you have 😂
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I was eyeballing your earrings. So cute! Not too much at all.
Thank you! 🥰
Oh man 😞. So hard. I understand, Veronica. I do 😢
Thank you so much! 💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏
Such a pretty area.
Thank you! I enjoy it! 💖💖💖
Hey Veronica! Hello from the other side 😂
In my best Adele voice... Hello! 😂
I'm so sorry fore all the stress you are going through.
It is so hard too go through.
I have worked and taken care of meny people writh dementia and the other similar sickness.
There are a lot of materials you can red online.
There are medicin fore alzheimers/dementia that are werry good, but sometimes it is too late if people wait too longe.
If you can get your dad too a good doctor that knows a lot abaut dementia.
Mabey it can help your mom.
the person with dementia is often a burden fore it's spaus, because they never gets a break from it all.
When my mother was dead i decluttered so much, I think it was a coping thing.
Sorry if Im misspelling 😮💨
I wish a had a good advice off were too put the hurt and sorrow but I don't, lean on your family, that is the bedst I can say.
Big long hugs from Denmark 💝🌹🥰
Thank you so much for your kind comment! It's a difficult situation. I appreciate your thoughts! 💖💖🙏🙏
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You are welcome. 🥰
Dang I was hoping it was Lionel Richie 'Hello'. 😆😆
I'll sing LR Hello to you! Love me some Lionel! 🥰🥰🥰
I know I will be adding comments to this post but re: the wreaths, you get what you pay for. I wanted two Eucalyptus huge ones on Etsy and they were 185 each, still thinking about it. My husband is my second but he didn't have any children and he was a widower, so he was like a unicorn of sorts. Now that my Sara is on her own and has her own place, I want to get rid of half of the stuff we have, my mom is like trying to get me to get her Xmas china, and I am like no, give everything to Sara because she is starting her life now and has a lifetime to use it. I'm gonna pass on Natasha this time, I am a cool neutral/salamander pinkish skin color.
I agree! Good wreaths are not cheap. I can understand asking items to be passed on to your daughter - that makes more sense. I want to downsize as we move into future chapters of our lives. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Do you ever feel like now you and your sister/cousins are the matriarchs of the family that now you all should be hosting the family gatherings like the grandmothers did? Sometimes I think about that because now that they’re gone the gatherings just don’t happen and holidays are not the same.
That Last time really hits home to me and I’m so aware of it now that I have a granddaughter,I hug her a little tighter ,I kiss her more ,I play with her more ,and we go on adventures or snuggle in bed more …..and on and on
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and get ready
Hugs 🤗
Oh yes! Enjoy Miss Nora as much as you can. What a precious time in her and your lives. 🙏💖
My Mom had dementia or alzheimers from her late 60s to 97 when she passed! It was so painful to watch and deal with it! I hope that is not my fate. On a lighter note Veronica, Looks like you went a darker hair color partway through the video lol although I’m sure it wasn’t. Did you in fact dye your hair? It looks very nice on you I like it.
Oh wow! Sorry to hear about your mom. Wow! That is a very long time to deal with dementia (or Alzheimers). 😔 I did dye my hair the day before filming. It will lighten back up over time. 💖
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Hi Veronica, where is the best place in DMV to buy nich fragrances. Other than Saks and niemens.
Tysons Corner? I really don't know. I don't shop up there frequently.
😱. OMG. What a woman having 24 children. 😮
I'm telling you! 👀
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I believe that there is One that died and came back from the dead, and He is still alive and waiting to return again...He is Jesus Christ. All that believe on His name and what He did for us will have eternal life. This life is just a temporary stop for our souls.
Thank you for sharing! 💖💖💖
I’m so grateful you made this video. I totally 💯 get it! My family lives overseas, and due to the pandemic and my own health challenges I have not seen my mom and siblings since 2019. I just got back and the toll it took emotionally was great. My ex mother in law has dementia and it is heartbreaking. It is devasting realizing that our days are numbered. Anyway Iove both your channels and thank you! Nice to know I’m not alone in these feelings
Thank you so much and I totally understand that emotional toll part. 😔😔😔