You're singing my song, Veronica! You're not alone. I feel that more and more women are starting to speak about this time because we're going through it differently than our mothers and grandmothers (thank you hormones in our food), and also our female ancestors didn't have voices or platforms, nor was this sort of stuff spoken about. And since most doctors were male at the time, allllll of this is coming fast and furious and there are fewer places to go for (real) help than one may imagine. All that said, I went down a thought rabbit hole and just kept obsessing about the weight gain (despite changing my entire lifestyle - minus drinking!), and the other things that happen when we're blessed enough to age. I think for me my mantra will be, "As I age, I don't want it to be about how I look; I want it to be about how I look at things."
I love that mantra! 🙏🥰 What a great attitude. And yes, our elders and generations of the past just suffered through it all in silence. Wow. Glad we are able to empower ourselves with info and options today. 💯
Hey Ms. V - thank you for sharing all of this. Wow personal stuff that takes courage to put out there. I went into early menopause at age 40 - seventeen years ago and have been on HRT pretty much 100% since then. I’ve had to fight for it over the years and you are so right: many physicians don’t fully understand HRT and that ancient incomplete study. Because I went so early, I was at risk for osteoporosis. I’ve had zero regrets and I’ll stay on it as long as I can. Also exercising daily (running, cycling) and lifting heavy weights 3-4 days per week. I’m healthier, happier and stronger than I have ever been. Women’s healthcare and menopause care has been SORELY lacking historically. It’s ridiculous 🤬 So wonderful to hear you are feeling better! Congrats on the new role too; successfully changing roles in your career to one that you love is truly a blessing and a big deal!
Thank you, Jill! 💖 Yes, so much more research and awareness is needed in the menopause realm. It shouldn't be a mystery. Good for you for seeking relief from symptoms. I, too, plan to stay on as long as possible for protective benefits and for my SANITY. I'm so inspired to hear about your workout routine! You go, girl! That's awesome! 🎉🎉🎉
We have to be medical enthusiasts to be able to advocate for ourselves and seek the right medical help. I've been struggling for a little over a year with my medical issues. I think I finally found the right place to help me! I'm so glad you were able to find a something that worked for you and glad you feel so much better!❤
Hi Carmen! I hope things turn around for you. It can be challenging to find health care providers who are willing to listen and work with us on a personalized plan. And yes, we do have to advocate for ourselves and do our own research.
I've loved your channels for awhile now, but now hearing you share on a deeper level, hearing your self awareness and your inner musings, I just became even MORE of a fan!!! Congrats on the role change and everything it will bring to you and those you work with!
🙋🏻♀️ Yes girl! It was me who talked about the sleep disturbances being a perimenopause symptom.. and how they must be called disturbances because it is such a disturbing feeling!! I could leave a full essay length comment about this menopause thing, but I'll try to control my Ramble Tamble self.. 😅 I too have watched many videos on this topic and have learned about the debunked studies 👌🏻 but I haven't yet gone with HRT, although I am working with a naturopath… In fact I went away to the mainland yesterday for an appointment with her (by the way, the Sephora in the city had a tester of TF vanilla sex which was almost empty but had enough in it so I could get a good spray on my skin) 😂 So far the adaptogen herb drops I am taking still seem to be managing my symptoms fairly well.. oops I can feel myself going on a ramble,, I have to stop! 😅 it was interesting to hear you talk about your work, it sounds really fascinating. Good for you for stepping out and pushing away the fear! I am at work right now, of course I work from home but I am doing the payroll and my month-end paperwork, thanks for keeping me company! ❤
Hi my Ramble Tamble twin! Girl, this channel is all about some good ramble tamble. Bring it on! 🥰🥰🥰 Glad your treatment plan is working out well for you - that is all that matters! That we have options for managing the symptoms. But WAIT, I want to hear about Vanilla Sex... what's the verdict???
@@essentialveronica Yes! That's the main thing, I may look into the HRT if symptoms change at all.. ok Vanilla Sex was not really my style, I found it very very sweet, a very almond extract artificial sweetness with actually quite a nice vanilla base. I mean it wasn't bad, and I could see how people could really love it, especially if that is their style of fragrance, but there was something kind of weird almost like body odour about four or five hours into the dry down! 😬 I do feel like I've smelled this scent profile many times before, but I don't think it's as much of a letdown as people are making it out to be 🤷🏻♀️
Veronica! I’m only a few minutes in, but you don’t know how much this means for you to share with us. The women in my family don’t talk about these things. I don’t know to ask. I’m not far behind you so I appreciate this on another level🙏🏾💕
Hi Kia! 💖🥰 I'm so glad the video resonated. Same for me - people don't really talk openly about these things and instead suffer silently and needlessly. Start researching now so you understand the options when that time comes. 👍👍👍 Mary Claire Haver is the doctor's name who I watched to get started.
I am loving your content lately. I love Perfume. I love health. I love spirituality. And I've been trying to bring all those vibes combine in my content on RUclips etc as well. You're my new fave Perfume channel for this reason! Love you speaking your truth! You also sparked me to rewatch dexter and show my husband so we can catch up to the new series haha. I also just discovered Dr Lyon she's awesome. & God bless you and wish you the best!
All our journeys are different. I did Bio-identicals when my time came 10 years ago. I read a fascinating book by Susan Somers years ago called the "Naked Truth" which was brutally honest about females who can no longer reproduce...she called menopause the death spiral. Eek! But thanks to modern medicine there were options. She opened my eyes to bio-identicals. Luvd the affirmation...who am I to block blessings. I will keep that one in mind. Luv this channel. We can all come together and chat with no judgement :)
Your proactivity to get information, guidance & intervention, and your awareness of yourself (your spirituality, self-love, self-care, etc) & your circumstances are what will continue to serve you well because the menopause journey is definitely not a clear cut path & is different for all of us - so talking about experiences and building community is so helpful as we all do our best to find our own way. …altho I’m on the other side of it now, I’m still finding mine😘 …stay strong, stay positive & stay in the fight💪Much love❤
Thank you, Corina! 💖 Yes, being informed, reflective, and open-minded are key when seeking medical treatment of any kind. You are right, the journey is unique for each person. Thank you for sharing! 🫶🏼
I can’t even express how happy I am that you are sharing your journey with us ,you could have been talking about me here 🤦♀️Unfortunately I had no options given to me and pretty much had to suck it up and hold my head high and get on with my life , it was HELL!! Every thing you said I have gone through right down to the heart palpitations and jerking awake ,fatigue in the afternoon BLA BLA BLA I am so glad you are getting the proper treatment and that this transition in life will go much smoother than mine did Love you ❤
@@HappinessSparkles due to changing hormonal levels, my menopausal symptoms have included the development over the past 3yrs now of seizures, which have come along with (even tho no longer menstruating) monthly hormonal fluctuations. Never had them before & they’ve totally rocked my boat - making me cling ever closer to my hike, bike, ski, Olympic weightlifting (clean & jerk / snatching) and other shenanigans for my sanity’s-sake. Definitely more-so a journey of mental toughness than physical tho!
@@HappinessSparkles it’s definitely been a bigger struggle than I’ve ever had to deal with before, at times. …Not trusting myself, not trusting my body - learning to have faith & going from one professional to another. Letting go of expectations & taking things one step at a time. Doing my best to be my best, in spite of all the fears & doubts. There’ve been many lessons in the process!
Such an important conversation! Fortunately, this is starting to be talked about more, and is helping women realize they're not alone and they're not going crazy. 😊 Thanks for sharing!
Good evening Veronica 😊. Thank you for sharing. I have been on this journey with 'The Pause' as I call it for almost 9yrs now. Due to a partial hysterectomy at 34yrs old. I appreciate you for sharing your journey 😊. Thank you❤ I may try those probiotics. Needing a new brand to try.
Thank you, Shenetta! 💖🥰 I have read many stories of women going into early menopause because of the same. Sending you hugs! Good luck with the probiotic journey! 🙏🙏🙏
All of this spoken like a capable, intelligent, reasonable woman. Good for you for being brave enough to face & deal with tough truths. You did well 😊. You have a long & healthy life ahead of you. So very proud of you. I have suggested HRT for my daughter who is 43. If I could go back, I would def explore HRT for myself. Being 66 years old, I believe that ship has sailed. Rooting you on from Missouri. You go girl!!!!!
15:58 needed to take Progesterone at one point 2 years ago… Incredible how the hormones really had that huge impact in terms of evening out your mood 🙌🏼
Comfort is the enemy of PROGRESS. I live by this. I’m in travel leadership and by trade, jumping into a new role, meeting and managing new people, and help them transform into a profitable and compliant organization is what I do. You’ve spoken about imposter syndrome and run into this often as I take on a new venture. In a completely weird and oppositional way of thinking, I remind myself that many have been before me, and more will come after but in my tenure I have something to offer and I am good at what I do. I’m not anymore or less special than anyone else. Great for you!! I had similar menstruation issues. My flow was extremely heavy to the point that I was changing pads hourly if not more. I also had irregular and heavy periods. As I got older, they regulated but remained heavy. I’m talking hemorrhage! A couple of years ago, I noticed some discomfort and turns out I had a fibroid and the bleeding intensified (as if that was even possible!!). I wasn’t in perimenopause unfortunately but I had had it! I decided to have a partial hysterectomy (and a bladder sling since we were already there..HA! ) and it was the best decision for me but I also didn’t have changes in hormonal patterns but was tired of being a slave to periods and a fibroid that exacerbated everything. Not sure if I would have been able to survive additional symptoms! Wish the best and looking forward to the update!
I'm glad to hear you are coaching yourself through the imposter syndrome "voices in the head." Good for you - and your affirmations are RIGHT ON! Bravo! 👏🏻🎉 I know exactly what you mean about the hemorrhage status flow. It is downright debilitating and if people have not experienced it, they have no idea how upsetting and disruptive it is. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Hugs! And keep thriving professionally! 💖💖💖
One of the mistakes that women make (and many doctors) is that they focus only on the visible physical symptoms of menopause like hot flashes. However, over time estrogen deficiency has much more devastating consequences such as osteoporosis, cognitive decline, increased risk of Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, and many more. Even if you stop having hot flashes after some time without going on HRT those other things are still going to be there.
I remember the hot flashes and night sweats too. It is very hard to describe to someone who hasn't experienced it yet. It does go away though. I'm 57 now and have been symptom free for 10 years
I'm glad you don't have to struggle through hot flashes anymore! You're right, they are sooooo hard to describe. It's like a fire got lit from the inside of your body. It's horrible!
Thank you for sharing your story, I think it is important for women to share their experiences and their knowledge. I did HRT for 10 years and it totally improved my quality of life.
Wow. Thanks for sharing, Veronica. I don't know how my 40s got here so damn quick but here we are and facing a new physiological adventure! Lol I admire your commitment to understanding this taboo process. Like many other folks from different countries, I have NO IDEA what I'm genetically predisposed to because my global family history is impossible to gather so flying blind is the norm. Such a shame we don't openly discuss this topic. Good luck with this new stage of your life. We wish you the very best and hope you'll continue to fill us in on your experience. ❤
Thank you so much! 💖 It's important to gather information so we empower ourselves with an understanding of what's happening and what our treatment options are. Believe me, I'm still amazed when I say my age out loud. In my heart, I'm forever 17! 🥰
HRT (pro & est) has worked wonderfully for me. I did tons of research, had many convos with my doctor and I was skeptical but decided to at least try. I figured if it didn't help or if it made me feel worse, I can always stop but I'm thrilled that it's working for me. I started in June 2023 and began to notice positive changes (mood, energy levels, sleep patterns) within 2-3 weeks. Thank you for sharing your experience - I feel so seen! Hahaha
Hello Veronica, this is very deep and it does resonate with most of us.I Am in the medical fiel,d and the best form of managing conditions is shared decision-making. This model works cos it allows the patient to lead and be more compliant. HRT is still an uncharted area in the medical field and education is needed. One thing I know about God is that he can never move you to a lower ground, in as much as you trust him completely. I pray for more grace and favor upon life and for a good and sustainable life 🙏 🙌
In 2010 I went through menopause and it lasted just a few months (hot flashes) - After about 4-6 months it went away and I never experienced anything further. No more maxi pads or tampons...yippee! Fast forward to age 64 and other than basic joint pain and feeling my body age naturally, I never took anything or needed anything.
Oh Veronica you bring back old memories… I went back on birth control pills until I was 47 to stop all the menopause craziness! 😅 I had to stop for a liver surgery in 2020 and I now see the difference. No more sweats but still many of the symptoms you mentioned are now my daily dose. Thin hair, dryness and other problems… I’m glad you found solutions! ❤
Hi Julie! Oh my, I hope you get some relief from your recent symptoms. It's not fun navigating through it all! Glad your liver surgery went well - what a major life event!
Thank you for sharing this. My mother had an early-stage breast cancer diagnosis last year and was advised to start HRT post-surgery ( her particular cancer was hormone receptor positive.) She was initially very frightened because of those older beliefs. I love the life lessons you touch on at the end. You're very erudite 💖 and I love how confident you are
I love Liz too❤ She has such a wonderful soul! The things you said in the end, I literally felt like you were speaking to me. About not getting in our way. Thank you for taking the time to share your story, it's seriously so inspiring to hear from someone I look up to. I feel motivated to keep going with my diet and healing journey. I have been doing high protien, moderate fat and mostly cut out processed food. The processed food/junk food was NOT easy. But I noticed it helped so much with fatigue and brain fog! Have a wonderful day!
Thank you so much! 💖🥰 Fear can be a form of self-sabotage. It can be debilitating in all the wrong ways. High protein / low-carb is the way to go for many people. Glad you're getting relief from brain fog!
Hi Veronica ❤❤❤ The way I described hot flashes to my daughter was: It's like a labor contraction but with heat rather than pain. Slow rise, peak, and slow ebb. I've been through menopause for 25 years. I tried hormone replacement therapy a year ago when they told me I wasn't too old. I used topically applied creams. Evidently it was too long after being completely through menopause. I got no benefit, and was considerably poorer!😂 I'm subscribed to Naturally Liz...❤ I'm so happy that you're feeling stable and happier! Congratulations on your new career role! Is that why you've been traveling more? Loved all your thoughts today. Can I just say that I think you're amazing! ❤😚🤗❣❣❣
Awww thank you for your kind words! 🙏 Yes, the new role at my same company is why I've been traveling more. 🥰 I understand that starting HRT past a certain age yields little benefits. Hopefully we are able to find other solutions that give people relief from whatever they are feeling. Hang in there!
I'm so glad you something that works for you and the symptoms that you are feeling. Healthcare is so personal, and new developments all the time. It's nice to hear that something was debunked and is actually totally okay for you. Also, I love the second part of your video! I have realized this several times over the years for myself. I think that everything happens for a reason, and often it can feel like a step back at first. But, if you accept it, and do the best that you can through it, you can really find a new calling or a new way for it that is amazing.
I literally only do strength training for health. I've always been naturally strong and have an athletic body type, so not curvy and I build muscle quite easily. All that being said, I don't enjoy it, even though I'm good at it. love yoga even though I'm not very flexible, and I don't mind getting on the treadmill every day, but strength training is a chore! I have a hard time balancing all the things I need or want to do but aside from work, I tend to prioritize working out. I kind of feel like it's just too important, and I fear being sick and feeble and a prisoner in my own body when I'm old so much!
Thank you for this. I'm on the same journey re: perimenopause, and I've really had to fight to be heard. The common response is "this is just what happens to women you're age." That's not good enough for me. I'm finally getting someone to test my hormone levels and talk to me about options.
I agree! That answer is not acceptable. It's basically telling us we just need to suffer when there are options for relief. Get a second opinion if needed! Good luck.
What a wonderful video! You are lucky to find the health care you needed. My menopause was way way more dramatic than yours... I am also glad you found the challenge of changing jobs to be a blessing. So. Lovely! May thanks, Veronica!❤️❤️
Well said 😊 I whent thru It all writh out eny help, 5+ yers in hell, and up top of that finding myself in a big depression were my life was upside down because my doctor didn't think that getting hormon replacement would be safe because off other issues. It is the hardest I ever have gone through. I glad you found a person ( doctor) that knows a lot abaut the new ressert and the right help that helps you bedst. If I had that known all that I Wuld not have goen thru all that. I think your video can help a lot of women and give them a idea of what too look at first and what they need to do or ask a doctor too check out. Bravo.. ❤ Big hugs from Denmark 💝🌹🥰
@@essentialveronica Thank you so much 🥰 I geus we live under a rock here in Denmark and that I should have done my own research, but I trusted that the doctor knew bedst.. 😅 Now I'm trying to figure out how to have a good life writh a depression, finding the right balance so I don't push myself to much and ending up in the hole, I kinda don't yet get how much I can do in a day, my old self constantly pushing me to do more, it's a weird situation. But I wril learn ☺️ Fore enyone out there that reds This, don't waith get the right help. 💝 Big hugs from Denmark 💝🌹🥰
What an inspiring and relatable share today, Veronica; thank you! So happy for you that you’re finding what works for you through this new stage of life (hormonally and career wise). I have been curious about HRT - its not something i would need anytime soon, but I have become aware of how life changing menopause can be physically, emotionally etc and how little guidance and knowledge we have about it, so it’s really valuable to hear real life insights from you. And thank you for the reminder to say yes to change and riding the waves. ❤
Hiiiii Charlotte! Thank you so much! 💖 Yes, menopause should not be some strange process that we know so little about. That makes no sense in this era of information access. Ride the wave! Yesss! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
I was reluctant to try hrt many years ago when going through menopause, for the reasons you said. However, I was so fuzzy in the brain, etc that I thought if I don’t start taking it, I’m going to drive the car into the back of a bus or worse! Couldn’t think straight. And did anyone else lose a lot of confidence too? I felt totally inadequate most of the time. Glad that’s over now😃🇦🇺
Yes, the brain fog could be overwhelming at times. I didn't lose confidence but I know many who did. It's a bewildering time and a strange set of symptoms to sort through. Glad you sought help with HRT! 💖💖💖
Omg this is so timely for me. Women in my family have experienced this phase in their life earlier so although I’m in my late 30s, I have started to research and make changes to better prepare myself for what’s coming. ❤❤ so love this video!
9ne of your best videos ever! What a shower of wisdom with a good bunch of reality and life journey. The only thing I could go without is you trying to make the video short 😂 Share with us Veronica 🎉
I’m so glad that you’re feeling better. Thanks for being so open and honest with us. I’m sure this video will help many people. You look absolutely beautiful as always, I’m loving the pink nails and lipstick ❤️
I have fully transitioned away from my monthly cycle cuz 😅😅😅 These flashes were no joke lol. I’ve lost so much muscle in 1 year it’s crazy, currently working out more though. I’ve been trying Natural remedies but these flashers are annoying yet minimal now. Thanks for sharing and I know you remember me sweating on camera last year 😂😂😅😅 Ohhhhow we’re aging gracefully lol 💖🤗🤗🤗
Congratulations on moving into the next phase of this odd and fascinating life! I, too, need to do better at strength training. Muscle is the "organ of longevity" or so some experts say. I think I believe that and need to behave accordingly. I remember the sweating! It's no joke! 🥵
New subscriber here, I love your sunshine personality, I just feel comfortable here 😊❤️ I have finally, FINALLY learned something here in your video. I went through cancer at the age of 38, chemo and all that and needless to say, I was menopausal because of chemo. Then I got my period a few times in the last 8 months or so (I believe because I took my health in my own hands, like hardcore and I like to say "the body and nature won over the chemicals"), but sporadically and now I am kind of perimenopausal, judging by all the symptoms I have (hot flashes are not really present anymore, but hormone shifts.. Yep). Through all this time, I've had these, as you say, jerking motions right when I go to sleep. I would jumo up scared. I had no one to ask, for a while I thought I was dreaming, it's not real etc., although I knew I was still pretty awake. For a while I also thought maybe my heart got damaged a little, because of the chemo.. I could cry right now, finally someone talked about it. So it is menopausal symptom.. Thank you, love you already. Martina
Hi Martina! Welcome to the channel. I'm glad the video resonated with you! 🙏💖 My heart goes out to you, experiencing cancer at the tender age of 38. I am not 100% certain those jerking motions are related to perimenopause, but it is listed as a potential symptom. It's quite alarming when it happens, so I'm glad it has stopped. It would scare the crap out of me! 😬😬😬
@@essentialveronica Thank you, yes these are uncomfortable 🙈 I can see you are a very reasonable person and I am so glad you are, I completely agree with you - we should all do our research, take time, think critically and always listen to our bodies 😊❤️
Oh, don't you worry, when I get there, I'm contacting my family physician to discuss options... Some of the women in my family have had horrible symptoms and I want to avoid that. Totally agree about work too. It's always nice to work with a good team and be interested in your work. But we are replaceable... and sometimes, we replace a job by another one...😊
Yes! Exactly. We don't have to suffer in silence just because "it's that time." We are replaceable at work, for sure. We should give it our all, but understand its role in our lives. 👍👍👍
@essentialveronica I don't know if menopause is still taboo in the United States, but in general where I live, women are pretty open about it. It's a good thing, you get to hear different perspectives and examples of what can possibly happen.
Thank you so much! 💖🥰 As soon as you start to experience steady symptoms, talk to a qualified practitioner about your options. There is no need to suffer when that time comes. Hugs! 🙏
I don’t know where my comment went ? 🤷♀️ I enjoyed this video and I’m so glad you are speaking out and seeking medical advice and help We women deal with so much and in my day was Left to my own devices (not good) Thanks for sharing Hugs ❤
Thank you Frances! I agree. We tend to suffer in silence or not want to make a fuss on our own behalf. It's empowering to learn about what's happening and seek support! 💖💖💖
I remember those hot flashes, which I liked calling power surges. You feel like you are being microwaved. I am well past that now, and grateful for that, but of course, then you have a new set of fun things to deal with😄 Don’t worry about it. It will be fine. Everything will be fine. It’s fine. 😂 Just teasing you!
Great advice!! I did the same with HRT, and it has been such a blessing and relief! Also switched jobs this yr…still tackling the change but we’re going with the flow. ❤
I have been having GI symptoms too as well. I’m just taking a probiotic /mood supplement all in one right now but I do feel like I need HRT . I’m having mood swings but they aren’t terrible. I’m trying to change my insurance first before I do anything else.
I wanted to saÿ thank you for these topics. I will do my share as I believe you touched some major"stuff" I need to share. A must. I thank you so much for this video. Be back after I take care of me and sleep.. Soon .
Older doctors should have to re-up their knowledge on new, state of the art treatments every few years. Just like how older drivers have to do their driver's test every year. Out-dated medical views cost people their lives. I'm a big believer in getting a second opinion. Thanks for sharing with us.
Second and third opinions are a must when facing big life decisions. I agree on staying on top of the latest medical developments. Soooo important! 💖💖💖
Hey Danit, responding here to your question about the estradiol patch. I deleted the message from the other channel only because I think it might confuse the heck out of the audience over there. 😘 I have not had any side effects from the estradiol patch. Now, I had to take mine together with progesterone. The effects have been all positive so far. Better skin health and hair growth, no hot flashes, less exhaustion, mood regulation, etc. Hope this helps.
@ yes, this eases my mind. Thank you. I have had hair thinning from menopause among all the other symptoms, so that’s good to hear. I had to ask because I get paranoid about side effects , Thank you so much for responding ♥️♥️♥️
@ how many mg is your estradiol patch? Is it 0.05? And it means a lot that you take the time to answer me on this. I appreciate that. I’ve been struggling a bit lol
@@essentialveronica I’m doing pretty good, it’s not too bad yet. Did you know that muscle pain and joint pain are a part of it too? 😖 I’m glad you are doing better 👌🥰
Veronica this was really helpful. I think I’m going through the changes as well I’m 46yrs old now and I feel something similar. What website did you go through to find a doctor near you?
Thank you so much! 💖 Here's the website and there's a link to find a provider near you. My advice is to also Google the ratings for the doctors you are interested in seeing. Some in my area had horrible ratings and I found one angel who everyone felt really heard their concerns and worked to customize a plan of action: www.menopause.org/
Ok, Veronica! I did it! I just put my first patch on! My doctor also gave me progesterone to take at night. I know it says 2 weeks to start getting relief but is that when you noticed relief?
@ last night I took my first dose of progesterone and it really helped me sleep . I woke up a couple times but was able to go right back to sleep. Instead of getting anxious when I woke up , I stayed calm and comfortable instead. I’m so glad I got on hormone therapy🙌🙏🏻♥️
@ thanks for talking to me about it. There’s only one other woman besides you that I know that’s used hormone therapy. There’s a lot of women here on RUclips going through this too. Many women avoid hormone therapy out of fear of the unknown and end up needlessly suffering through the symptoms. I know it may not be for everyone but there are a lot who truly need hormone therapy
I agree! Check out videos by Mary Claire Haver. She was the main person that convinced me to look into it. We don't have to suffer needlessly. There are options. 🙏
Wait till you have your hot flashes in bed at night. I used to get very hot, I used to just all of a sudden throw off my covers off my bed w/ a sudden hot flash, I'd throw the covers off real fast, & my husband would grab them, & pull them back on him. The covers on, & off through the night too funny. ;) You'll be okay. But the truth is. 50 is NOT the new 40 at all! Such a big lie! But you WILL be Okay. :) Love, & Blessings to you, & yours, Veronica~! :)
Oops! I meant to say we ARE dispensible at the 22:22 mark.
You're singing my song, Veronica! You're not alone. I feel that more and more women are starting to speak about this time because we're going through it differently than our mothers and grandmothers (thank you hormones in our food), and also our female ancestors didn't have voices or platforms, nor was this sort of stuff spoken about. And since most doctors were male at the time, allllll of this is coming fast and furious and there are fewer places to go for (real) help than one may imagine. All that said, I went down a thought rabbit hole and just kept obsessing about the weight gain (despite changing my entire lifestyle - minus drinking!), and the other things that happen when we're blessed enough to age. I think for me my mantra will be, "As I age, I don't want it to be about how I look; I want it to be about how I look at things."
I love that mantra! 🙏🥰 What a great attitude. And yes, our elders and generations of the past just suffered through it all in silence. Wow. Glad we are able to empower ourselves with info and options today. 💯
Hey Ms. V - thank you for sharing all of this. Wow personal stuff that takes courage to put out there. I went into early menopause at age 40 - seventeen years ago and have been on HRT pretty much 100% since then. I’ve had to fight for it over the years and you are so right: many physicians don’t fully understand HRT and that ancient incomplete study. Because I went so early, I was at risk for osteoporosis. I’ve had zero regrets and I’ll stay on it as long as I can. Also exercising daily (running, cycling) and lifting heavy weights 3-4 days per week. I’m healthier, happier and stronger than I have ever been. Women’s healthcare and menopause care has been SORELY lacking historically. It’s ridiculous 🤬 So wonderful to hear you are feeling better! Congrats on the new role too; successfully changing roles in your career to one that you love is truly a blessing and a big deal!
Thank you, Jill! 💖 Yes, so much more research and awareness is needed in the menopause realm. It shouldn't be a mystery. Good for you for seeking relief from symptoms. I, too, plan to stay on as long as possible for protective benefits and for my SANITY. I'm so inspired to hear about your workout routine! You go, girl! That's awesome! 🎉🎉🎉
👑 📖 cool ❤ chat 🛐🕊
Thank you 💖💖💖
We have to be medical enthusiasts to be able to advocate for ourselves and seek the right medical help.
I've been struggling for a little over a year with my medical issues. I think I finally found the right place to help me!
I'm so glad you were able to find a something that worked for you and glad you feel so much better!❤
Hi Carmen! I hope things turn around for you. It can be challenging to find health care providers who are willing to listen and work with us on a personalized plan. And yes, we do have to advocate for ourselves and do our own research.
I've loved your channels for awhile now, but now hearing you share on a deeper level, hearing your self awareness and your inner musings, I just became even MORE of a fan!!! Congrats on the role change and everything it will bring to you and those you work with!
What a lovely comment! Thank you so very much! I appreciate it! 💖🥰🙏
🙋🏻♀️ Yes girl! It was me who talked about the sleep disturbances being a perimenopause symptom.. and how they must be called disturbances because it is such a disturbing feeling!! I could leave a full essay length comment about this menopause thing, but I'll try to control my Ramble Tamble self.. 😅 I too have watched many videos on this topic and have learned about the debunked studies 👌🏻 but I haven't yet gone with HRT, although I am working with a naturopath… In fact I went away to the mainland yesterday for an appointment with her (by the way, the Sephora in the city had a tester of TF vanilla sex which was almost empty but had enough in it so I could get a good spray on my skin) 😂 So far the adaptogen herb drops I am taking still seem to be managing my symptoms fairly well.. oops I can feel myself going on a ramble,, I have to stop! 😅 it was interesting to hear you talk about your work, it sounds really fascinating. Good for you for stepping out and pushing away the fear! I am at work right now, of course I work from home but I am doing the payroll and my month-end paperwork, thanks for keeping me company! ❤
Hi my Ramble Tamble twin! Girl, this channel is all about some good ramble tamble. Bring it on! 🥰🥰🥰 Glad your treatment plan is working out well for you - that is all that matters! That we have options for managing the symptoms. But WAIT, I want to hear about Vanilla Sex... what's the verdict???
@@essentialveronica Yes! That's the main thing, I may look into the HRT if symptoms change at all.. ok Vanilla Sex was not really my style, I found it very very sweet, a very almond extract artificial sweetness with actually quite a nice vanilla base. I mean it wasn't bad, and I could see how people could really love it, especially if that is their style of fragrance, but there was something kind of weird almost like body odour about four or five hours into the dry down! 😬 I do feel like I've smelled this scent profile many times before, but I don't think it's as much of a letdown as people are making it out to be 🤷🏻♀️
@tammyroxanne. got it. I would still like to try it someday. But body odor is something I'm trying to get AWAY from not move toward 😂
thanks so much for your transparency Veronica. great video 💙
Thank you so much, Alexis!! 💖🥰💖🥰
Veronica! I’m only a few minutes in, but you don’t know how much this means for you to share with us. The women in my family don’t talk about these things. I don’t know to ask. I’m not far behind you so I appreciate this on another level🙏🏾💕
Hi Kia! 💖🥰 I'm so glad the video resonated. Same for me - people don't really talk openly about these things and instead suffer silently and needlessly. Start researching now so you understand the options when that time comes. 👍👍👍 Mary Claire Haver is the doctor's name who I watched to get started.
I am loving your content lately. I love Perfume. I love health. I love spirituality. And I've been trying to bring all those vibes combine in my content on RUclips etc as well. You're my new fave Perfume channel for this reason! Love you speaking your truth! You also sparked me to rewatch dexter and show my husband so we can catch up to the new series haha. I also just discovered Dr Lyon she's awesome. & God bless you and wish you the best!
Awww thank you so much! 🥰 Yes, we are multidimensional beings with many interests and passions. Your comment touched me. 🙏 Enjoy that crazy Dexter!
Ty Jesus is right! Amen~! :)
Yes! 💖
All our journeys are different. I did Bio-identicals when my time came 10 years ago. I read a fascinating book by Susan Somers years ago called the "Naked Truth" which was brutally honest about females who can no longer reproduce...she called menopause the death spiral. Eek! But thanks to modern medicine there were options. She opened my eyes to bio-identicals. Luvd the affirmation...who am I to block blessings. I will keep that one in mind. Luv this channel. We can all come together and chat with no judgement :)
Oof! The death spiral 😩 May Suzanne Somers rest in peace. She was a pioneer in this space. Thank you so much! 💖
Your proactivity to get information, guidance & intervention, and your awareness of yourself (your spirituality, self-love, self-care, etc) & your circumstances are what will continue to serve you well because the menopause journey is definitely not a clear cut path & is different for all of us - so talking about experiences and building community is so helpful as we all do our best to find our own way. …altho I’m on the other side of it now, I’m still finding mine😘 …stay strong, stay positive & stay in the fight💪Much love❤
Thank you, Corina! 💖 Yes, being informed, reflective, and open-minded are key when seeking medical treatment of any kind. You are right, the journey is unique for each person. Thank you for sharing! 🫶🏼
I can’t even express how happy I am that you are sharing your journey with us ,you could have been talking about me here 🤦♀️Unfortunately I had no options given to me and pretty much had to suck it up and hold my head high and get on with my life , it was HELL!!
Every thing you said I have gone through right down to the heart palpitations and jerking awake ,fatigue in the afternoon BLA BLA BLA
I am so glad you are getting the proper treatment and that this transition in life will go much smoother than mine did
Love you ❤
@@HappinessSparkles due to changing hormonal levels, my menopausal symptoms have included the development over the past 3yrs now of seizures, which have come along with (even tho no longer menstruating) monthly hormonal fluctuations. Never had them before & they’ve totally rocked my boat - making me cling ever closer to my hike, bike, ski, Olympic weightlifting (clean & jerk / snatching) and other shenanigans for my sanity’s-sake. Definitely more-so a journey of mental toughness than physical tho!
@@corinalymburner1121 yes the mental aspect takes a toll ,we women sure get the raw end of the stick 🤦♀️
@@HappinessSparkles it’s definitely been a bigger struggle than I’ve ever had to deal with before, at times. …Not trusting myself, not trusting my body - learning to have faith & going from one professional to another. Letting go of expectations & taking things one step at a time. Doing my best to be my best, in spite of all the fears & doubts. There’ve been many lessons in the process!
Such an important conversation! Fortunately, this is starting to be talked about more, and is helping women realize they're not alone and they're not going crazy. 😊 Thanks for sharing!
I agree! We're not imagining these symptoms.
Good evening Veronica 😊. Thank you for sharing. I have been on this journey with 'The Pause' as I call it for almost 9yrs now. Due to a partial hysterectomy at 34yrs old. I appreciate you for sharing your journey 😊. Thank you❤ I may try those probiotics. Needing a new brand to try.
Thank you, Shenetta! 💖🥰 I have read many stories of women going into early menopause because of the same. Sending you hugs! Good luck with the probiotic journey! 🙏🙏🙏
All of this spoken like a capable, intelligent, reasonable woman. Good for you for being brave enough to face & deal with tough truths. You did well 😊. You have a long & healthy life ahead of you. So very proud of you. I have suggested HRT for my daughter who is 43. If I could go back, I would def explore HRT for myself. Being 66 years old, I believe that ship has sailed. Rooting you on from Missouri. You go girl!!!!!
Thank you so much! 💖 And God bless you for encouraging your daughter to look into HRT instead of suffering in silence.
I just started a new position today at work. There is a whole story coming about it. I really felt what you said about work.
I'm excited to hear all of the details. ☺️🎉
So good! Thank you for this!
Thank you for watching! 🫶🏼💖🥰
15:58 needed to take Progesterone at one point 2 years ago…
Incredible how the hormones really had that huge impact in terms of evening out your mood 🙌🏼
Exactly! If only more women knew all of this! 😲
21:01 yessss!!!! Love that affirmation !!! Blessings !!! ✨✨✨
I wish YOU many blessings, Paola! 🫶🏼💖🥰
Comfort is the enemy of PROGRESS. I live by this. I’m in travel leadership and by trade, jumping into a new role, meeting and managing new people, and help them transform into a profitable and compliant organization is what I do. You’ve spoken about imposter syndrome and run into this often as I take on a new venture. In a completely weird and oppositional way of thinking, I remind myself that many have been before me, and more will come after but in my tenure I have something to offer and I am good at what I do. I’m not anymore or less special than anyone else. Great for you!! I had similar menstruation issues. My flow was extremely heavy to the point that I was changing pads hourly if not more. I also had irregular and heavy periods. As I got older, they regulated but remained heavy. I’m talking hemorrhage! A couple of years ago, I noticed some discomfort and turns out I had a fibroid and the bleeding intensified (as if that was even possible!!). I wasn’t in perimenopause unfortunately but I had had it! I decided to have a partial hysterectomy (and a bladder sling since we were already there..HA! ) and it was the best decision for me but I also didn’t have changes in hormonal patterns but was tired of being a slave to periods and a fibroid that exacerbated everything. Not sure if I would have been able to survive additional symptoms! Wish the best and looking forward to the update!
I'm glad to hear you are coaching yourself through the imposter syndrome "voices in the head." Good for you - and your affirmations are RIGHT ON! Bravo! 👏🏻🎉 I know exactly what you mean about the hemorrhage status flow. It is downright debilitating and if people have not experienced it, they have no idea how upsetting and disruptive it is. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. Hugs! And keep thriving professionally! 💖💖💖
Watching !!! ☕️❤
Same, same on so many of your talking points. Loved the video. Thanks for sharing! ❤
Thank you so much! Hang in there! 💖🥰
One of the mistakes that women make (and many doctors) is that they focus only on the visible physical symptoms of menopause like hot flashes. However, over time estrogen deficiency has much more devastating consequences such as osteoporosis, cognitive decline, increased risk of Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, and many more. Even if you stop having hot flashes after some time without going on HRT those other things are still going to be there.
Exactly this! Noting much of this is in my family history, it was a no-brainer for me to get started right away with HRT.
I remember the hot flashes and night sweats too. It is very hard to describe to someone who hasn't experienced it yet. It does go away though. I'm 57 now and have been symptom free for 10 years
I'm glad you don't have to struggle through hot flashes anymore! You're right, they are sooooo hard to describe. It's like a fire got lit from the inside of your body. It's horrible!
Oooooo no!!!! The shout out 😭😭😭😭
Of course! I LOVE your channel! 🥰💖🥰💖
Great video! And that turquoise is a beautiful color on you❤️
Thank you so much! 💖🥰
Thank you for sharing your story, I think it is important for women to share their experiences and their knowledge. I did HRT for 10 years and it totally improved my quality of life.
I agree. Thank you so much! 💖 Glad it worked for you too. 🙏
Thank you for sharing with us Veronica!💜 Being proactive is so important.
Thank you, Kerri! 💖💖💖
Love hearing your thoughts. “Get out of your own way”-thanks for the reminder❤
Hi Katherine! Thank you and you're welcome!! 💖💖💖
Wow. Thanks for sharing, Veronica. I don't know how my 40s got here so damn quick but here we are and facing a new physiological adventure! Lol
I admire your commitment to understanding this taboo process. Like many other folks from different countries, I have NO IDEA what I'm genetically predisposed to because my global family history is impossible to gather so flying blind is the norm. Such a shame we don't openly discuss this topic.
Good luck with this new stage of your life. We wish you the very best and hope you'll continue to fill us in on your experience. ❤
Thank you so much! 💖 It's important to gather information so we empower ourselves with an understanding of what's happening and what our treatment options are. Believe me, I'm still amazed when I say my age out loud. In my heart, I'm forever 17! 🥰
I too was not a “meds” or “intervention” kind of person before.. there are some aspects though in our body that need a bit of help, I agree 💜
Yes, I learned this the hard and humbling way. 😞
HRT (pro & est) has worked wonderfully for me. I did tons of research, had many convos with my doctor and I was skeptical but decided to at least try. I figured if it didn't help or if it made me feel worse, I can always stop but I'm thrilled that it's working for me. I started in June 2023 and began to notice positive changes (mood, energy levels, sleep patterns) within 2-3 weeks. Thank you for sharing your experience - I feel so seen! Hahaha
You are SEEEEEN!! I second your statements here. So glad I decided to explore the options. Game changers!
Hello Veronica, this is very deep and it does resonate with most of us.I Am in the medical fiel,d and the best form of managing conditions is shared decision-making. This model works cos it allows the patient to lead and be more compliant. HRT is still an uncharted area in the medical field and education is needed.
One thing I know about God is that he can never move you to a lower ground, in as much as you trust him completely. I pray for more grace and favor upon life and for a good and sustainable life 🙏 🙌
Thank you so much for this! I truly appreciate the reminder that we cannot be moved to lower ground. What a powerful declaration! 🙏🥰💖
In 2010 I went through menopause and it lasted just a few months (hot flashes) - After about 4-6 months it went away and I never experienced anything further. No more maxi pads or tampons...yippee! Fast forward to age 64 and other than basic joint pain and feeling my body age naturally, I never took anything or needed anything.
Wow! Consider yourself fortunate! I know so many women that suffer through symptoms for many many years. You are blessed! 💖💖💖
Oh Veronica you bring back old memories… I went back on birth control pills until I was 47 to stop all the menopause craziness! 😅 I had to stop for a liver surgery in 2020 and I now see the difference. No more sweats but still many of the symptoms you mentioned are now my daily dose. Thin hair, dryness and other problems… I’m glad you found solutions! ❤
Hi Julie! Oh my, I hope you get some relief from your recent symptoms. It's not fun navigating through it all! Glad your liver surgery went well - what a major life event!
Love this look ❤, it’s very spring ❤
Thank you, dead! 💖
@@essentialveronica did you mean dear? 🤣🤣🤣💕
Yessss dear not dead. What an embarrassing autocorrect 😬
@@essentialveronica 🤣🤣
Thank you for sharing this. My mother had an early-stage breast cancer diagnosis last year and was advised to start HRT post-surgery ( her particular cancer was hormone receptor positive.) She was initially very frightened because of those older beliefs. I love the life lessons you touch on at the end. You're very erudite 💖 and I love how confident you are
Awww thank you, Tatiana! I had to look up what erudite means and it will know be my new "big" word. 😄 Hope your mom stays healthy! God bless her. 🙏
what a great message.
Thank you, Donna! 💖
I love Liz too❤ She has such a wonderful soul!
The things you said in the end, I literally felt like you were speaking to me. About not getting in our way. Thank you for taking the time to share your story, it's seriously so inspiring to hear from someone I look up to. I feel motivated to keep going with my diet and healing journey.
I have been doing high protien, moderate fat and mostly cut out processed food. The processed food/junk food was NOT easy. But I noticed it helped so much with fatigue and brain fog!
Have a wonderful day!
Thank you so much! 💖🥰 Fear can be a form of self-sabotage. It can be debilitating in all the wrong ways. High protein / low-carb is the way to go for many people. Glad you're getting relief from brain fog!
Hi Veronica ❤❤❤
The way I described hot flashes to my daughter was: It's like a labor contraction but with heat rather than pain. Slow rise, peak, and slow ebb.
I've been through menopause for 25 years. I tried hormone replacement therapy a year ago when they told me I wasn't too old. I used topically applied creams. Evidently it was too long after being completely through menopause. I got no benefit, and was considerably poorer!😂
I'm subscribed to Naturally Liz...❤
I'm so happy that you're feeling stable and happier!
Congratulations on your new career role! Is that why you've been traveling more?
Loved all your thoughts today. Can I just say that I think you're amazing!
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Awww thank you for your kind words! 🙏 Yes, the new role at my same company is why I've been traveling more. 🥰 I understand that starting HRT past a certain age yields little benefits. Hopefully we are able to find other solutions that give people relief from whatever they are feeling. Hang in there!
So glad you've found a good doctor and relief!
Me too! It's a game changer! 💖
I'm so glad you something that works for you and the symptoms that you are feeling. Healthcare is so personal, and new developments all the time. It's nice to hear that something was debunked and is actually totally okay for you. Also, I love the second part of your video! I have realized this several times over the years for myself. I think that everything happens for a reason, and often it can feel like a step back at first. But, if you accept it, and do the best that you can through it, you can really find a new calling or a new way for it that is amazing.
Thank you! Yes, leaning into intimidating changes can actually lead you to greatness! 💖💯
Hey Veronica. You look amazing
Thank you, Liz! 🥰
I literally only do strength training for health. I've always been naturally strong and have an athletic body type, so not curvy and I build muscle quite easily. All that being said, I don't enjoy it, even though I'm good at it. love yoga even though I'm not very flexible, and I don't mind getting on the treadmill every day, but strength training is a chore! I have a hard time balancing all the things I need or want to do but aside from work, I tend to prioritize working out. I kind of feel like it's just too important, and I fear being sick and feeble and a prisoner in my own body when I'm old so much!
I'm proud of you! Working out IS critically important. The future you will thank you of today for putting in the work. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you for this. I'm on the same journey re: perimenopause, and I've really had to fight to be heard. The common response is "this is just what happens to women you're age." That's not good enough for me. I'm finally getting someone to test my hormone levels and talk to me about options.
I agree! That answer is not acceptable. It's basically telling us we just need to suffer when there are options for relief. Get a second opinion if needed! Good luck.
What a wonderful video! You are lucky to find the health care you needed. My menopause was way way more dramatic than yours... I am also glad you found the challenge of changing jobs to be a blessing. So. Lovely! May thanks, Veronica!❤️❤️
Thank you so much, Julie! And I am sorry to hear that menopause was difficult for you. No one understands until they experience it themselves. 😔
Also, that HRT study was done using estrogen that was not bio-identical. Make sure to take synthetic but bio-identical estrogen.
Yes, there were a number of substantial flaws with that study.
Well said 😊
I whent thru It all writh out eny help, 5+ yers in hell, and up top of that finding myself in a big depression were my life was upside down because my doctor didn't think that getting hormon replacement would be safe because off other issues.
It is the hardest I ever have gone through.
I glad you found a person ( doctor) that knows a lot abaut the new ressert and the right help that helps you bedst.
If I had that known all that I Wuld not have goen thru all that.
I think your video can help a lot of women and give them a idea of what too look at first and what they need to do or ask a doctor too check out.
Bravo.. ❤
Big hugs from Denmark
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Thank you, and I am so sorry you suffered! 😔😔😔 I can only imagine how difficult that was for you. Yes, it feels like your life is upside down.
@@essentialveronica
Thank you so much 🥰
I geus we live under a rock here in Denmark and that I should have done my own research, but I trusted that the doctor knew bedst.. 😅
Now I'm trying to figure out how to have a good life writh a depression, finding the right balance so I don't push myself to much and ending up in the hole, I kinda don't yet get how much I can do in a day, my old self constantly pushing me to do more, it's a weird situation.
But I wril learn ☺️
Fore enyone out there that reds This, don't waith get the right help. 💝
Big hugs from Denmark
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What an inspiring and relatable share today, Veronica; thank you! So happy for you that you’re finding what works for you through this new stage of life (hormonally and career wise). I have been curious about HRT - its not something i would need anytime soon, but I have become aware of how life changing menopause can be physically, emotionally etc and how little guidance and knowledge we have about it, so it’s really valuable to hear real life insights from you. And thank you for the reminder to say yes to change and riding the waves. ❤
Hiiiii Charlotte! Thank you so much! 💖 Yes, menopause should not be some strange process that we know so little about. That makes no sense in this era of information access. Ride the wave! Yesss! 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
I was reluctant to try hrt many years ago when going through menopause, for the reasons you said. However, I was so fuzzy in the brain, etc that I thought if I don’t start taking it, I’m going to drive the car into the back of a bus or worse! Couldn’t think straight. And did anyone else lose a lot of confidence too? I felt totally inadequate most of the time. Glad that’s over now😃🇦🇺
Yes, the brain fog could be overwhelming at times. I didn't lose confidence but I know many who did. It's a bewildering time and a strange set of symptoms to sort through. Glad you sought help with HRT! 💖💖💖
Omg this is so timely for me. Women in my family have experienced this phase in their life earlier so although I’m in my late 30s, I have started to research and make changes to better prepare myself for what’s coming. ❤❤ so love this video!
I'm so glad you enjoyed it! You are SMART to prepare yourself NOW so you fully know what is happening when that time comes and know your options. 💖🙌
Congrats on your new role letting it be a blessing to you 🙏🏾💕🥰
Thank you so much! Glad I leaned in and received the blessing!
So happy your opportunity worked out, thanks so much for this message. Also happy you’re back to feeling more stable. Letting your body go is a no-no
Thank you so much. Yes, we have to take the best care of ourselves possible. Hugs! 💖🥰
#TRUST
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9ne of your best videos ever! What a shower of wisdom with a good bunch of reality and life journey.
The only thing I could go without is you trying to make the video short 😂
Share with us Veronica 🎉
Awww thank you kindly! I'm so glad you enjoyed today's video! Hugs! 💖💖💖
You are awesome Veronica! Love your content, honesty and how down to earth you are. Sending you a warm hug from Puerto Rico ;-)
Hi Lucy! Thank you soooo much! 💖
I’m so glad that you’re feeling better. Thanks for being so open and honest with us. I’m sure this video will help many people. You look absolutely beautiful as always, I’m loving the pink nails and lipstick ❤️
Awww thank you sooo much! Nice to see you here! 🥰💖🥰💖
I have fully transitioned away from my monthly cycle cuz 😅😅😅 These flashes were no joke lol. I’ve lost so much muscle in 1 year it’s crazy, currently working out more though. I’ve been trying Natural remedies but these flashers are annoying yet minimal now. Thanks for sharing and I know you remember me sweating on camera last year 😂😂😅😅 Ohhhhow we’re aging gracefully lol 💖🤗🤗🤗
Congratulations on moving into the next phase of this odd and fascinating life! I, too, need to do better at strength training. Muscle is the "organ of longevity" or so some experts say. I think I believe that and need to behave accordingly. I remember the sweating! It's no joke! 🥵
New subscriber here, I love your sunshine personality, I just feel comfortable here 😊❤️
I have finally, FINALLY learned something here in your video. I went through cancer at the age of 38, chemo and all that and needless to say, I was menopausal because of chemo. Then I got my period a few times in the last 8 months or so (I believe because I took my health in my own hands, like hardcore and I like to say "the body and nature won over the chemicals"), but sporadically and now I am kind of perimenopausal, judging by all the symptoms I have (hot flashes are not really present anymore, but hormone shifts.. Yep). Through all this time, I've had these, as you say, jerking motions right when I go to sleep. I would jumo up scared. I had no one to ask, for a while I thought I was dreaming, it's not real etc., although I knew I was still pretty awake. For a while I also thought maybe my heart got damaged a little, because of the chemo.. I could cry right now, finally someone talked about it. So it is menopausal symptom.. Thank you, love you already.
Martina
Hi Martina! Welcome to the channel. I'm glad the video resonated with you! 🙏💖 My heart goes out to you, experiencing cancer at the tender age of 38. I am not 100% certain those jerking motions are related to perimenopause, but it is listed as a potential symptom. It's quite alarming when it happens, so I'm glad it has stopped. It would scare the crap out of me! 😬😬😬
@@essentialveronica Thank you, yes these are uncomfortable 🙈
I can see you are a very reasonable person and I am so glad you are, I completely agree with you - we should all do our research, take time, think critically and always listen to our bodies 😊❤️
Oh, don't you worry, when I get there, I'm contacting my family physician to discuss options... Some of the women in my family have had horrible symptoms and I want to avoid that.
Totally agree about work too. It's always nice to work with a good team and be interested in your work. But we are replaceable... and sometimes, we replace a job by another one...😊
Yes! Exactly. We don't have to suffer in silence just because "it's that time." We are replaceable at work, for sure. We should give it our all, but understand its role in our lives. 👍👍👍
@essentialveronica I don't know if menopause is still taboo in the United States, but in general where I live, women are pretty open about it. It's a good thing, you get to hear different perspectives and examples of what can possibly happen.
Thank you for your well spoken and honest video:) Beautiful! I myself am coming very close to that stage in life(almost 47). I wish you all the best🌻
Thank you so much! 💖🥰 As soon as you start to experience steady symptoms, talk to a qualified practitioner about your options. There is no need to suffer when that time comes. Hugs! 🙏
I don’t know where my comment went ? 🤷♀️
I enjoyed this video and I’m so glad you are speaking out and seeking medical advice and help
We women deal with so much and in my day was Left to my own devices (not good)
Thanks for sharing
Hugs ❤
Thank you Frances! I agree. We tend to suffer in silence or not want to make a fuss on our own behalf. It's empowering to learn about what's happening and seek support! 💖💖💖
I remember those hot flashes, which I liked calling power surges. You feel like you are being microwaved. I am well past that now, and grateful for that, but of course, then you have a new set of fun things to deal with😄 Don’t worry about it. It will be fine. Everything will be fine. It’s fine. 😂 Just teasing you!
Hi Karen! Yes, microwaved is right! Weirdest sensation EVER! 😳 I'm glad they are gone now. Yikes! Yes, everything WILL be fine... EVENTUALLY 😂
Lovely woman ❤❤❤❤
Awww thank you Pegah! 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you 🫶🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for watching! 💖💖💖
Loved this and the messages, very wise and beautiful 🥰😍💗
Thank you, my dear! 🥰🥰🥰
The career discussion is also hitting home for me. I have so many questions lol but I think they might be too invasive.
Tell me more! I don't share where I work or what I do but happy to talk about anything else. Let me know. 🥰
Great advice!! I did the same with HRT, and it has been such a blessing and relief! Also switched jobs this yr…still tackling the change but we’re going with the flow. ❤
Thank you, Diana! 💖 Glad you got on HRT. It's been a game changer so far. Good luck with the job! 🙏🎊🥰
Thank you for this...périmé pause is on my horizon....hair changes,sleep....I appreciate your transparency and care in this discussion
Hang in there, Nancy! 💖 And please don't be afraid to explore your options. Thank goodness HRT is available!
I absolutely LOVED this video!!!! It was much needed.
Thank you, Liz! 💖💖💖
Thank you so much for sharing!!
Thank you for watching 🙏🙏🙏
Hey Veronica!!❤❤great word! Really enjoyed the video❤
Thank you very much! 🥰💖
Hey Veronica, I needed this video this morning. Going through some similar things. Just booked my appt. to look into HRT.
Thank you so much! I hope your appointment yields you some answers and relief! 🙏🙏🙏
I have been having GI symptoms too as well. I’m just taking a probiotic /mood supplement all in one right now but I do feel like I need HRT . I’m having mood swings but they aren’t terrible. I’m trying to change my insurance first before I do anything else.
Good luck in changing insurance! That in and of itself can be such a pain. Sigh.
@@essentialveronica I’m still trying to figure out which one to even choose
I wanted to saÿ thank you for these topics. I will do my share as I believe you touched some major"stuff" I need to share. A must. I thank you so much for this video. Be back after I take care of me and sleep.. Soon .
Thank you, Pattie! Rest, my friend. Sleep is a wonderful gift. 💖
It's truly a blessing these days. Have not felt well. I want to get with you.. soon.
@pattieschulte700 awww so sorry to hear this. I'm sending you a huge hug of comfort! 💖💖💖
Older doctors should have to re-up their knowledge on new, state of the art treatments every few years. Just like how older drivers have to do their driver's test every year. Out-dated medical views cost people their lives. I'm a big believer in getting a second opinion. Thanks for sharing with us.
Second and third opinions are a must when facing big life decisions. I agree on staying on top of the latest medical developments. Soooo important! 💖💖💖
My hair definitely has changed, it’s gotten much thinner, and won’t grow 😢
Oh no! It's a hard thing to deal with. 😔
I’m waiting before I do anything else, I want to switch health insurance that suits my needs better.
Hey Danit, responding here to your question about the estradiol patch. I deleted the message from the other channel only because I think it might confuse the heck out of the audience over there. 😘 I have not had any side effects from the estradiol patch. Now, I had to take mine together with progesterone. The effects have been all positive so far. Better skin health and hair growth, no hot flashes, less exhaustion, mood regulation, etc. Hope this helps.
@ I have progesterone as well.
@ yes, this eases my mind. Thank you. I have had hair thinning from menopause among all the other symptoms, so that’s good to hear. I had to ask because I get paranoid about side effects , Thank you so much for responding ♥️♥️♥️
@ I deleted the other message 🤣 I didn’t even think about confusing anybody and then get swarmed with questions lol my bad 🤷🏻♀️😝
@ how many mg is your estradiol patch? Is it 0.05? And it means a lot that you take the time to answer me on this. I appreciate that. I’ve been struggling a bit lol
I’m going to get HRT as well but I need to go get my hormones tested again. I haven’t had a period since November
Yes, sounds like another test might be a good idea. Good luck - hope you are able to move forward. 🙏
@@essentialveronica I’m doing pretty good, it’s not too bad yet. Did you know that muscle pain and joint pain are a part of it too? 😖 I’m glad you are doing better 👌🥰
Veronica this was really helpful. I think I’m going through the changes as well I’m 46yrs old now and I feel something similar.
What website did you go through to find a doctor near you?
Thank you so much! 💖 Here's the website and there's a link to find a provider near you. My advice is to also Google the ratings for the doctors you are interested in seeing. Some in my area had horrible ratings and I found one angel who everyone felt really heard their concerns and worked to customize a plan of action: www.menopause.org/
Ok, Veronica! I did it! I just put my first patch on! My doctor also gave me progesterone to take at night. I know it says 2 weeks to start getting relief but is that when you noticed relief?
@@Danit.Talkscentswithme I would say about 48 hours in for my own experience. Keep us posted!
@ last night I took my first dose of progesterone and it really helped me sleep . I woke up a couple times but was able to go right back to sleep. Instead of getting anxious when I woke up , I stayed calm and comfortable instead. I’m so glad I got on hormone therapy🙌🙏🏻♥️
@ thanks for talking to me about it. There’s only one other woman besides you that I know that’s used hormone therapy. There’s a lot of women here on RUclips going through this too. Many women avoid hormone therapy out of fear of the unknown and end up needlessly suffering through the symptoms. I know it may not be for everyone but there are a lot who truly need hormone therapy
I agree! Check out videos by Mary Claire Haver. She was the main person that convinced me to look into it. We don't have to suffer needlessly. There are options. 🙏
@ yes, I follow her too. She helped me figure out a lot. 👍🏻
Wait till you have your hot flashes in bed at night. I used to get very hot, I used to just all of a sudden throw off my covers off my bed w/ a sudden hot flash, I'd throw the covers off real fast, & my husband would grab them, & pull them back on him. The covers on, & off through the night too funny. ;) You'll be okay. But the truth is. 50 is NOT the new 40 at all! Such a big lie! But you WILL be Okay. :) Love, & Blessings to you, & yours, Veronica~! :)
Thank you, dear! I've heard of this happening to women. Yikes! Sounds so miserable!
@@essentialveronica Kind of funny, didn't last too long, Thank God~! :)