I'm Attached To My Therapist!! Help! Twitter Thursday!
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- Опубликовано: 2 июн 2024
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This video has helped, the part about being attached to my therapist. I have been struggling with this but afraid to bring it up in session. I go through the cycle of wanting to cancel appointments too, trying to distance myself.
I actually love it when you ramble, it takes my mind off things
I zone out while she’s talking for whatever reason... It’s like tv playing in another room. Is it her style of delivery?
I remember becoming attached to my therapist. It felt like someone understood me for the first time.
I got attached to my therapist of two years, and yesterday was my last appointment with her. Next week I will be seeing the new therapist that she referred me to. I never missed a session, in two years. I will be processing the loss in therapy now, with my new therapist.
I usually feel that if I recover too quickly, then it means that I was never 'bad enough'. Hope I'm not alone in thinking that.
I totally agree with you... That's how I feel exactly!!!!
Adaria579 That's what I'm very concerned about...
Me too
Same
Me too!
I adored my therapist, it hurt so much when she left :(
I’m so glad I did have her support me for the time I did though, she made things much, much better :)
How can someone with BPD or attachment issues reconcile the fact that this relationship will end? This is my struggle to decide to keep going to counseling or not. I'm afraid of the attachment because I'm afraid of the pain that will happen when the relationship ends. Unavoidable pain. Volunteering for more emotional pain(by continuing therapy), when you've made it your full time job to avoid this kind of pain in life. abandonment pain. what is one to do? impossible choice.
this could be the primary focus of the therapy. give yourself the opportunity to surprise yourself by using the tools the therapist gives you and dealing well. and always be ready to forgive yourself for struggling
I got really attached to my therapist who helped me overcome a lifetime of trauma. What we did was just talk about how I felt, thinking about the relationship ending. We spent several sessions working to soften the blow. I wouldn’t have ever left if she just closed her book one day and said “we’re done, go home”. Yes, the final goodbye was hard, and I cried, but I was able to identify why, and had other supportive relationships to lean on going forward. That helped a lot!
I'm attached to my RUclips therapist, Kati Morton! 😁
Totally understand the attached to thing I kinda fell for my doctor. She was lovely and caring and I was gutted beyond belief when she left especially as she didn't tell me 😢
Can u please make a longer video about attachment to therapist????
I am still not getting my eurika moment.
I'm super attached to my therapist. I have BPD, and after I left my last individual therapist I threatened to commit suicide if they took her away from me. I'm now with a better therapist for me, and I'm learning how to have better relationships.
Your enthusiasm for your topic is catching... wonderful!
Hey Kati,
Could you do more videos about attachment issues?
Thankyou for your answer to #2 Kati! That really helped me too. I've found that I got very attached to the therapists that i've had in the past and i even start thinking about them to this day in that way- like i wish she could be here or see me and things like that. Also my friends parents and anyone really older than me. The problem is that I didn't really have a hard upbringing, so I don't know what's wrong with me! Ahhh but thankyou :) xxx
Me too!!!
I get super attached to my counselors and teachers, especially if they're really nice to me. I think my mom was mostly there for me (my dad was sort of busy) when i was younger. (I also like warm hugs from other people, dont know if that has anything to do with it, but im just putting it out there ;))
How do I overcome my loneliness without depending on others?
Just on number three; absolutely you need to love yourself first.. I just wanted to add to that- when you get to the point that you're ready for a healthy relationship, and you're seeing someone, if you think they'll laugh, then it's not time or not the right person. When you find the right person, you will be able to share all of yourself. Without fear. And if they do react badly; that's a reflection of THEM not YOU. Your self wroth should NOT rely on anyone else.
This was great! I don't want to remember what life was like before I found your videos!
I'm so glad I found this.
I wanted to thank you for this videos because I have friends who SH, and now I understand them better and sometimes I know how to have a better approach to what they tell me, and hopefully help them and give them advise.
Greetings from Chile :)
i love this video. You're so right about the therapist attachment thing. Totally my experience having been in foster care.
Kati!
I love your honest and zany way of expressing yourself!
You are the best!😉
Hi Kati ur amazing u always make me feel better!!!
I am so grateful to these videos, they make todays "life" and situations more easy to deal with and i gain a better understanding of how many things work like (symptoms to my pills) suicidal thoughts, new work methods to deal with my (gotta respond to everything rule) anxietys and personal and different thought patterns i've had for a long time and how to break them, or create more positive and healthier rutines in general, so thank you Kati! I believe if a patient is crying in your sessions it's a perfectly mature and healthy way if both consent to eliviate each others pains! So if YOU make your therapist cry i would say that reflects alot on how great YOU are, but also you BOTH together as a team/optimal psychological buddy friendship catterpillar bubble of amazingness. (I have 70+NDE+BPD and psycosis so i end with randomness! :) Have an amazing day and thank you again for lifting my spirit!
Wonderful video - thank you. Multiple diagnosis are so tricky.I was sent to the eating disorders services when I was in a really bad mixed episode. They didn't want to treat me because my mood was so crazy. At the time it was frustrating but looking back the most important thing was definitely to stabelize my mood and treat the psychosis. Now that my meds have been changed and I am stable I am in a far better place to begin working on other issues such as eating. It can seem so bleak and hopeless when theres so much going on but I think there is a light somewhere at the end of a very long tunnel! XXX
i just found your youtube , very helpful thank you
You are amazing kati :)
Thx for a great video :)
Thanks so much for answering the attachment question. I was hoping you would do it one day. Do you think you will ever discuss transference in one of your videos?
thank you i have been watching alot of your videos has helped me alot i was just told today i had pstd and i really dont know what to make of it for years ive beeen dealing with this fot years now
Also, for #4...my thoughts: I feel like we can never really be "recovered" not to be a Debbie downer...but I think it'll always be a struggle but the important thing is that we keep fighting it and keep being positive and looking ahead, not back
I feel like I talk about therapy / my therapist way to much and it’s a problem but I have a question dose anyone use Kati’s videos as a kinda way of therapy in between sessions
Ohginger Snap omg yes
Yes, exactly
I love you Kati!
When she said google plus, I immediately checked when this video was released. lol
It is good idea to avoid relationship while you are mess. That includes so called "therapeutic relationship", especially "therapeutic relationship".
My therapist is getting transferred to a different area sadly, so I have to find a new one and I'm really upset about it because i dont wanna say goodbye to her...
#KatiFAQ Hey Kati! I am in hospital treatment for my eating disorder for the third time right now. I honestly don't understand how recovery is possible. How it happens. I mean how does one say they are recovered? Does it mean they don't have ED thoughts anymore? How do you know when you are recovered? I just feel lost and am having a really hard time believing I can recover from this :'(
It would truly help me a lot, and give me hope if you helped me with this question.
Thanks for everything! Your videos are amazing, and you are just awesome :)
Just wanted to share that for me, I knew I had recovered when I was at a stable weight for 2 years, wasn't scared of going out for meals and having others cook for me and was able to recognise the negative thoughts..It doesn't mean it ALL goes, just that you are in control of it and you realise you are out of control when you have an eating disorder..all the eating disorder is dictating what to do all the time. I recovered on my own and then saw a therapist to consolidate and help speed up the process.. Recovery is possible when you really want it as you see how much it is is screwing up your life..When you are recovered you can have a full life and no hospital or scales or calorie counting etc. It gets better..you have to really really want it ..why do you want to recover? I wanted to finish uni with everyone else and not need a year out. Also wanted to be more carefree and enjoy food like everyone else . Its so personal but please think about all the things you will gain when you recover. Hope that was useful x
I know I'm late in responding to this video, but I'm worried! I have an eating disorder, and though I am eating again (not always healthy food) I'm concerned that it's not only a bad time for romance, but a bad time for friendship! I'm in the process of developing a friendship with a lovely man who is very caring, who isn't a 24/7 accessible person but does get back to me when he can, who values our hang out time together, and is supportive of me as I work on eating disorder recovery. In your video, you mentioned that when struggling with mental illness, it's not a good time to have relationships, but does this extend to friends? Is it okay to pursue a friendship with him, or should I wait until I am more recovered from the eating disorder?
I'm finding it difficult being in a relationship when I'm so entrenched in my ED. He is finding it really hard to deal with me going interstate for treatment. But for once in my life, I'm putting myself and my recovery first. He would much prefer the true Cara, not the eating disordered Cara.
Is it weird if you have had all the love growing up but still yearn for a strong bond with someone cause I do yearn a strong bond and I see a therapist and am thinking about her everyday when I don’t even want to.
i remember crying and being yelled at and screamed at for being upset and not acting properly and told to shut up and stop coughing or crying and god damnit i love my parents but it hurts so bad why does yelling at me about crying make me cry as an adult it's so unfair
i have anger problems i am 17 and had it as long as i can remember it scares me cause my family has it as well and they can control i but me i try to control it and when i feel or think i have it under control something sets it off again and i dont know what to do. do you have any advice on what i can do my anger is many based on the little things that set me off like noises or something that someone says to me and i feel that i just want to punch something and when i get even a little mad my ears turn really red just need some advice can you help
hey kati, my anxiety is so bad I don't go out in the day time, I don't know how to get help because my mind goes blank under pressure, I'm scared the doctor will say I'm fine and send me home because I don't think I can continue with this any longer, do you have any advise on how to get out to actually go to the doctor with anxiety?
#KatiFAQ Hi Kati! Every since you made your video about ED vs disordered eating I'm really confused. I haven't gone to a doctor to be diagnosed for an ED but I involve in restricting and over exercise. But there are also days when I will eat normally. Usually when I eat I do cut out certain food groups. Is this disordered eating or an eating disorder?
Edit: I also sometimes self harm after my "normal eating day" because I feel guilty. But not every time. I am also not underweight.
I am very attached to mine. Super dependant on her. I hate it! But I have not had had a trusting adult relationship in my entire life.
And only person I can be raw with and not be hurt by it.
I self Sabotage because I feel like that is what I deserve. And the road to health scares me. And I don’t like it.
It’s not my norm!
Am so deferent in thinking or feeling. My mom and dad never understood me.... I'm not close to anyone ... Just my little girl..... I found a feature ones to talk to and I really liked her... And then she gave up on me when she knew everything she wanted to know about me... After that I didn't trust any one.... So I started expected and knew that evry one is going to do the same.... Is it a common way to feel about this?
Marissa Van Oudtshoorn I feel this too
Isn't attaching to your therapist (or vise-versa) called inference (in psych terms).
Also I love your vids, advice, and time you take to do this.
Also, your sleeves were bugging me this entire video...lol
Again, really late to the game. Is the spectrum for BPD actually linear or is it more like the color wheel (like in a digital art program)?
What could cause someone to be attracted to their therapist? Like emotionally and sexually?
Attachment will pass. But you have to realize it’s about your personal growth not a date.
Hi kati I've been more positive in my frame of mind but do you know you said you as a therapist would look at the core the start of things my dissociative seizures have gone on for yrs just not as bad but are they the core or my past sexual abuse that has never been dealt with. I don't know how to deal with that without having dissociative seizures. Small ones.
where do we ask you the questions? im guessing twitter?
do with being attached to people? Like wouldn't you want to push people away instead of attach on to them
#katifaq
I'm really struggling with my sleep pattern - I never get enough and it impacts everything dramatically, including my mood, my appetite and concentration. I can't go to bed until I am really exhausted because I just don't sleep, my thoughts are teaching too much. I've tried the usual, like writing my thoughts down and reading a book instead, but I just can't try and sleep when I'm not exhausted because I'll get too anxious. How can I improve this and bring my bedtime forward? I notice such a difference when I am well rested but it so rarely happens. I also get awful migraines from tiredness.
#KatiFAQ What does being sexual abused have to do with attachment to people? Wouldn't you want to get away from them instead of attaching on to them? How do those two work together?
what if you become obsessed with your therapist and fall in love with them despite being in a relationship? I feel like i need to see him more and more because i enjoy talking about my issues with him and he cares and listens to me when no one else does... i think i am falling in love with him. what do i do?
im aware of that.
X Tina this is super common, it's called Erotic Transference. You can google the topic. Basically the advice seems to be to bring it up to the therapist and work through the feelings. By talking about it with the therapist, it should eventually go away and you won't feel the feeling as strongly because your fantasy will be broken in a rational way. Good luck I know it's hard!
With glue or tape?
Hey i'm Not but i went there offen instead of being in a group setting because it fehlt better and I Had to pay Money für attending groups that I didn't have.... Also I didn't find Friends there since too Short time thus lacking social skills being Feeling isolated.........
Just so you know, I had to change my name on RUclips because I needed to link my youtube to Google+ in order to post comments. I'm now Bri Taylor.
I was attached/attracted to my doctor. Like scarily in love with her, Thankfully she left before it went too far.
What is MDD?
Major depressive disorder
I have really bad trust issues I also have troubles trusting my therapist good lawd I hate her
I just started therapy and I think she’s hot…
Commercialized therapist