The narcissist doesn't want to be with you in a committed relationship, but will breadcrumb you and make you think it's possible. As soon as you wake up and leave they can't handle that!
"They have to force themselves on to you." "They don't think anything can happen naturally." I will never allow myself to be vulnerable with anyone new ever again.
@@Real2k25 Mine said that I forced her to let me go see her (long-distance relationship). How many things are wrong with that one sentence? lol Yet, when I was there, she told me how wonderful it was to have me there.
The narc wants what they think they can't have and when they have it they don't want it!They are bold on the outside but crybabies inside.Well done! NS.
So spot on, never content....NEVER....Drama eigther full using or full on hurting someone, always looking to benefit and use, or something new.It never ends for them ....pretty sad....Just a emotional addict
@@majorgirl3465 Thank you. I am reading your comment for the first time just now. RUclips are not sending all notifications through especially noticed this with older ones, others have mentioned this as well. Hope all is going well for you, take care.
@Prophetic Shofar Yes they are, the trouble with the narcissist is they can be dangerously stupid. They are not safe to be around. Hope all is going well for you.
and they ''love''everyone fakely just to appear loveable,but they do not love anyone really,they actually hate everyone else including their real self...
My view on this is... they won't give you a second thought if they're with a new supply... if that supply is first grade, they won't entertain the idea of you not wanting them back... only if that new supply starts to deteriorate...and only then...they might start to reidealise you... and think you may want them back. NO CONTACT FOREVER 💪💪✌
Let us remind ourselves the " new supplies " they have lined up are all lined up for ABUSE. They're not gonna last long cause NO HUMAN BEING wants to be abused and used. Even the " new supplies ". So whatever supply they have... good luck to them ! They rescued us.
But there are dire consequences, I felt it in my gut, and sure enough I suffered the wrath of the narc. Some are borderline psychotic so be VERY careful how you handle a poisonous snake.
During a argument with narc wife, I finally decided to let myself speak my mind. I had to put a few things straight. One of the things I asked was “do you know the difference between want and need!!. I WANT you in my life. But I do not NEED you in my life. Holy hell that made her head spin.
After years of dealing with one I've truly enjoyed having my freedom and personal space it's like I was suffocating!!...single, happy, and not in a hurry to get tied down with someone
That is why it's so easy to use them. They cannot take rejection. Also, when I rejected him and came to collect my things from his house, he threatened to call the cops on me. Hahahaha. What for !? I'm here fighting to LEAVE ! Not fighting to stay. He couldn't take it so he made it look like he was evicting me. Tried to break me down by saying that but I stood still. Never gave in. Got my things, I left. 1 year 2 months no contact. He can hurt me. He can cause me pain. But he can NEVER destroy me. I'm like a killing machine. Every attack you plan against me, every move you make, every step you take TEACHES me how you tick. I will use it to my advantage. Knowledge is power. Once I've figured you out, you are no longer attractive to me. And if you have new supply, that's wonderful. Cause now you're distracted. Your plans to destroy me never became reality. Either way, I WIN. Cause I'm still here. - ❤
"They"attach themselves to EVERYONE!!!!! They fall in love with EVERYONE!!!! They are truly mentally disturbed!!!!!!! Some people you just can NOT be nice to. I grew up with two of the worst narcissists, control freaks and nymphos!
They cannot generate their own confidence and self-assurance from within, so they depend on other people to prop them up. When you are uninterested in them, it's a huge trigger because they have no inner self-worth. A confident person knows that his or her value does not come from others, and so they are better at handling rejection.
There's either: 1) Hoover 2) Stalking off and online 3) Reidealisation 4) "If I can't have you, no one can" * just spin the wheel of narc fortune and see where it stops.
You wrote it very nice and funny :),it is absolutelly true.Our reaction to all those "prizes" should be grey rock and absolute indifference,if possible.Thank you.
@Lord Rubzfar out! Honestly it sounds like you and I are in the same boat, its sucky ay lol.. I feel for ya! Keep on your guard though, because if they have a new supply, then its possible that you could have 2 negative people stalking you. Well, you'll win, because you just keep going as you are and people will soon realise that THEIR words don't match YOUR actions and behavior - it might be hard at first, but honestly, one day you'll think "F this and F her" and you'll just do these things 😀
For such weak /damaged people ,they are incredibly powerful in their ability to destroy the very ones who love ,care ,support and try to understand their suffering and try to sooth it .....We become the ones to blame for their ineffectual experience/s in life...... Recovery is about re-establishing one's fragmented soul and realising that we may have loved an act rather than a person . Personally I could see the true self underneath the charade /false self and that is actually why I tolerated so much and felt such compassion . That was my downfall and that is why it was so very sad and futile .
My ex was a basic farm-hand from early childhood. He told me about many times of hurtful name calling and neglect from uncles, cousins and paternal grandmother . He made it to the top, but he is damaged in his mind and soul, so sad.
@@delorestaylor8114 I had a hard poor dysfunctional filthy abused childhood life.....I'm SO opposite from a narcissists BUT seem to attract such because of my love of God, life in general, myself and higher education.....social transformations betterment of myself.....BUT these demon people need babysitters to nurture their sick minds and their broken souls. Pathetic! You simply can not even "be nice to them" ""speak a kind word" to these poor pitiful weak broken evil demons.
Lol. I've been gone for three weeks. All the sudden he's cordial, and offering favors. It's to try and fake me out. Dude, I know your games. And I'm NOT playing anymore. Game over. I won.
I give him absolutely NO attention at all. He was showing up at my job, calling from different numbers...now he’s unfortunately calling and texting my family but I couldn’t care less. It’s up to them to cut him off just like I did. I know who I am and I don’t need his permission to BE. I told him he needs a weak, low self esteem partner. I’m too strong for him, plus I spent 20 yrs married to a narcissist. That was Narcology 101 and I graduated with a divorce decree! Once I was sure of what I was dealing with, with this fake I gray rocked him right out of my space. Cut him off so badly I was gone long before he knew it was even coming.
Wow our story sounds the same ! Married 22 years to covert narc - then first relationship several years after the divorce I ended up with an overt pyschopath very abusive narc that did everything you listed and more . Im 50 and just want to be alone now . Im happy just raising my kids and thats it 🌅 Peace is priceless 🙏
Happy angel Yes it is! Our stories are so traumatic. It takes yrs to heal and ever trust again. I’m also 50. Just had a bday 8/18. My prayer for you is that you never lose the beauty that these parasites tried to steal from you. I pray that every single thing they stripped will be replaced tenfold including the LOVE you have inside of you. I know it’s hard to believe, but you don’t have to be alone and there really are good ppl in the world. Ppl who share your heart. I pray that you are protected inside and out. I pray that once you are healed you attract that energy to yourself thru anyone who comes around you. The reason these parasites are attracted to you is bcuz of what you carry within you. Protect it. Love yourself. I’m so grateful you’re here. You survived for a reason. You are a special person. That’s why you attract broken ppl, but as you heal yourself you will bring peace to the pieces in your space. KNOW THAT!!! Sending you encouragement, LOVE, and strength! They didn’t win. You’re still here. ❤️
@@ME-vb6pq Thank you soooo very much for the kindest uplifting words and powerful prayers 🙏 I truly appreciate it very much and am grateful for such kind prayers. 💗 Anyone that reads your post will be uplifted and wow can't we all use some positive words and prayers 💗🙏 I am truly touched by your kindness . Thank you so very much and God Bless you too and grateful you were led to my post 🙏
@@ME-vb6pq I'm so so happy to know abt yr victory over evils,keep up yr strength, unlimited love n peace n prosperity are waiting for u, you've become the person, the best version of yourself, u didn't think that u could be, high 5, keep smiling...
You are very right!!!!! The narcissist always wants something for nothing when their around you!!!! They love praise and admiration, but love to put you down at the same time!!!! They hate how you make them feel bad about their morals, looks and social status over them, plus they have to put in more work than you just to get the same praise!!!!! 👍👍👍💖💖💖💖💜💜💜💜
they will flatter you to see if you respect their flattery so they know they can also shame you after and you will also believe that lie as well! Hot cold Hot cold...trauma bonding. If you care not for their flattery you will not be affected by their insults and shame!
A year ago i started dating a narcissist he helped me financially, always he wanted to know how I was doing. Within the period of our relationship I saw a lot of red flags 🚩 he was controlling me something I didn’t notice till I felt heartbroken I remember I cried several times . Then from that I started watching this narc survivor it really helped me build myself . I set my boundaries and I didn’t want him back at all. He acted as if he didn’t care and that made me depressed. Now four months of no contact rule he wants to comeback to me I said NO. He is not willing to let me go. The thing is that he is very toxic. Am doing well without him. Ladies you should know your worth never allow someone to treat you as their second option 🥰🥰🥰
Same situation as me, he pamper me then after found out he was dating his ex and all exes he still communicate, thanks for this video, walked away now with my ex narc, after doing no contact he wants to come back to me again, no way to come back to him, he is toxic.
My girlfriend never accepts that her behavior is EVER messed up. Never takes any blame for any arguments we have...even when she clearly started it. Criticizes me about everything. It wasn't always this way. In the beginning she claimed I was EXACTLY what she'd always wanted. Pure lies...I think shes sick in the head
Imagine the amount of hurt that could be avoided if people were thought about narcissist and different personalities in school as children or teens. If equipped with proper knowledge they could see the red flags clearly far before the narcissist got the chance to get close.
this world is run by narcs and psychopaths....you think they want to equip their food with skills to fight them? The narc world only want to train the food to be amazing tools they can then manipulate and exploit!
Hoping the last hoover attempt was the last and he finally got the message. Just want to be able to relax in my own home without anxiety about the possibility he could turn up late at night. Im just so tired of it all
Jacqueline Willes If he shows up to your home again....Call the cops. That will show him you mean business and he’ll stay away!...trust me...They don’t want to be in trouble in anyway with the law
Stay strong sister. You've taken the first step in the right direction by enforcing the no contact rule. I'm almost there. I've been with my reoccurring nightmare for 4 years. I wish you all the best and I hope you find peace soon. Thank you for sharing your truth. I don't know if you believe in God...if you do, pray for protection and mercy. If you don't...buy some pepper spray or a stun gun. Or, what the hell...you can do both!!!
They only want u when your healing and getting on with your life and all their other options have sussed them out... sending love to all survivors and thrivers ❤️❤️
Its like dealing with roaches and bugs in your home. You have to seal every crack in the walls. If you see the roach spray it with Raid and watch it flop around and freak out. Thats how the narc behaves when you spray it
Yes. Lol. Makes zero sense. They embarrass themselves. My exnarc literally paid the new guy I liked not to see me. Bc he thought I'd change my mind. Dude where do I like u? Why not find someone that likes u??
@@jennifercrespo1383 My ex NARC walked out of my life and came back, apologized and wanted me back but I said No, cause he hurt me so bad and I don't trust him anymore and plus he already has someone he said he had his eyes on. Said the only reason he wasn't with her was because she was married, "But your the Love of my life and I need and want you back!!!", he said. See how twisted they are. Just wanna hurt you cause they know they screwed up and can't have you back. Twisted Douche bags !!! NEVER AGAIN !!!
This is what my ex narcissistic husband does to my kids now He’s constantly harassing bullying manipulating threatening and controlling them He doesn’t care the damage he’s done to all of us as he continues his evil path
Please take care of your kids because they'll grow up to be like daddy. My ex's parents were narcs and their kids came out as one too. Very sickening. Protect your kids
I have a child with one also. You can’t let him destroy your kids. Talk to them openly about their dad’s odd behaviors and teach them about narcissism and tackle /work/ cut any developed behavior they learn from dad. It’s sad because one would think you could trust your kids with their fathers . But we can not
before sorry for my bad english. i have narc mother, and i also ever be narc for a long time. thanks for God after a bad karma and surrounded with new people with health mental. now i cant make my self better for anyone. (but thats really not easy to change my mind that im not special, because before if i see a true me, its so painfull with abuse and manipulation world) so, i learn how to be more emphat and respect each other, sometimes i hurt people but i began to know that and feel so sorry for that. but, my parents still have my sister in home, they make a worst enviroment for my sister, i mean after i and my second sister become independent my mom have no supply again. i just pray my sister can cross over it. i began to cry if my little sister trap in that hell without anything will damaged her souls. i still so sorry for her
Nancy Elizabeth Suver if your kids are old enough they have people in court that deals with kids trapped in the situations you described. My son did that and now we’re free from the Devil
❌ I'VE LEARNED TO: STOP focusing my attention on Narcissism STOP trying to find the "why" regarding others STOP trying to apply grey rock / no contact etc (great to understand the technical jargon but we're missing the reason why toxic people get into our life to begin with STOP accepting broken people in our lives and trying to fix them STOP making excuses for people that don't want better for themselves! ⚠️I STARTED RECOGNIZING AND UNDERSTANDING: WHY I ignored the red flags WHY I Made excuses for the bad behaviors of others WHY I Allowed any type of abuse WHY I adapted to any abuse inflicted by others WHY I Wasted precious time teaching others how to not hurt me instead of enjoying those that made me happy ✅ LOOKING INWARD WE: START understanding "the why and how" START planning a growth schedule for ourselves START understanding, challenging and reinforcing the weak areas of our boundaries START recognizing why we should never accept a broken person START knowing why we should never have to fix, augment, or replace deficits in a persons life. A person that comes into our life - jobless, carless, friendless, homeless, angry, depressed or engrossed in sharing countless episodes of trauma, abuse and negativity regarding OTHERS are signs that should signal NOPE NOT READY‼️ "We too often see "oh I can help, I can fix"❌. Instead of step away 🆘 👉🏽allow /encourage that person to self correct before coming into our life ✅ boundaries ✳️❗️ START reinforcing a standard that you expect and will only accept ❣ START recognizing other TOXIC concerns you may have overlooked ⚖️WE WASTE PRECIOUS TIME LOOKING "at and out" INSTEAD OF "I and in"... Correct "you" the only thing you truly have the ability to control and change. Give and accept nothing but the best of those you engage always. KNOW and remember: "Love, friendship, caring, and understanding feels GOOD"! It should NEVER hurt". Someone that loves you should / would NEVER hurt you! If they have, realize the message they are sending then..."return to sender" 💌😉. Sharing through growth ☮.
Its really easy to see through facades when you are clear with yourself. No one can fool you cuz when you're honest with you, you identify this same narcissist and psychopath in you the same time you do in them. It's a mirror. Truth is SO obvious. When you're willing to look.❤
narcs hate when you become a mirror they must look at....the vampire then denies reality and thus cannot see himself in the mirror for his true self is not allowed to reflect back to him....they want you to reflect back to them their false self
In regards to love, People use the word ‘Narcissist’ loosely let me tell you it’s like no human being you’ve ever met in your life. They are addictive, charming etc They lead you in then abandon you once they have played the love game with you.
Nothing about a narcissistic person is amusing. They can only see themselves, they lack empathy. They f**k things up then they act surprised when they see the results of their actions or lack of action. They are damaged and unable to love. Only God can restore them back to what a human being should be like.
@@heliaalves9062 exactly mine neglected me after married him and during pregnancy so after I gave birth to our first child (we had 2 kids) I started doing the same things he did neglect his needs or wouldn't look at him I was completely inlove with our son that I sometimes didn't even know I was neglecting him but he would seat in the corner giving me the most hatred looks ever!! And I would feel like his eyes were burning through me ...hahahaha I loved it that he was dying to my surprise he started abusing me even more after that ...sick bastards thinking they would get love in return after so much shit they put you through and in the end they act so surprised and say you have changed! ? Hehehe completely empty up there if you tap on their heads I'm sure you will hear a hollow noise absolutely empty shells. ..Love yourself enough to leave such inhumane creatures.
@@Starykid I understand your situation, but it's common for men to feel left out and ignored after the first kid is born, since the woman will focus almost completely on the baby. It's tough being a woman and having to do so much, maybe some misunderstandings can happen. It's most unfortunate you can't be with the father of your kids, I pray God will intervene and restore your marriage, so both of you can be even happier than before ❤️
It’s not amusing in the slightest if there is a kid involved. It’s scary and heartbreaking, but of course you can’t show that or they will just get worse.
I’ve been in situations where people (possibly narcissistic) believed I was much more interested in them than I was. Example: I’m being polite and friendly and I’m presumed to be in love or in crush romantically. Also been in situations where I’m presumed to be “still after” someone who rejected me, even if I’ve never contacted or attempted contact or even WANTED contact with them long after the relationship ended. I don’t stalk them (in real life or electronically). I don’t smear them. I don’t pump their friends/family for information about them. It’s none of my business. But somehow I’m “after” them. Ummm...yeah...oooooooooookaaaaay.
To all the Narcs out there : Get over it! Just because you like someone that doesn't mean they like you! Learn to deal with your crap instead of projecting it onto others!
My narcissist ex saw me as a backup. She never cared for me. She hided her phone all the time. Hide her double or maybe triple life. I was never a priority. Just an option. She discarded me for good. 8 months with no contact. I saw her at the store twice. First time she was happy to see me. Second time ignored me. She discarded me when I told her about all the lies she told me. At first I was blind. I ignored the lies. But after a while the lies were to many. She always need to have attention. Always need to have a supply. When we dated each other, she even bragged about so many guys wants to date her. They are evil. The devil on earth. If a narcissist ex is suddenly nice. Be careful. A narcissist is never truly nice. My narcissist was "nice" to me when there were people around. But just her and me, not so nice. She ignored me. She only saw me when she needed something. I have seen her without the mask. I know who she really is. She nows this. She will never contact me again. But she never cared. So why would she care about someone who know who she truly is?
This video is a great reminder for us to stay No Contact. No Narc ''Friend'' does not want to accept that I cut her off and want nothing to do with her. She stalks me on social media, Stalks my friends on social media, Rides by house, texts me asking to hang out, the list goes on. I refuse to allow this nutcase to bring me down and I wont be caught dead hanging around her she is an embarrassment!!!
Thank you NS. I have watched so many videos about narcissism by now. But this one gives a full explanation of the phenomenon. It gives me a better understanding.
You know, Survivors,it's funny how they can reject others,but can't take the Boomerang Effect.Even though they may not want you,But they want you to want them.Haha funny when the table turn,From Ms.Tonya😊😊😊
I could care less about how he feels toward me, looking at him now sickens me because I see what was hidden before. So glad he's outta my life. No Contact is working for me !
It's working for me after 35 years of been married to a narcissist. I walked away, went no contact and that seems to be doing it for me. Now it could be that I disgraced him in public, in front of his Church members. I called him out and let people know what he truly was. I had removed the mask. Either way it's one of the above. 4 months on, haven't heard a word. I am doing great and have a wonderful life now without the narcissists husband. I wouldn't go back if my life depended on him.
Never occurred to me he had an inflated view of his skills and abilities. I thought he was amazing. Who knew it was all just a bunch of BS?! I am SHOCKED.
Recently discarded (again) by a narc. That will be the last time I let him do this to me. We were together for 2 years so being apart is taking a minute to get used to. Almost 2 weeks no contact. He messaged me two weeks ago saying he was coming by (because he feels he still has that privilege to just up and drop by my place when he wants...No sir), I simply replied..." busy all day"...which I was but didn't need to explain to him. He flew in a rage in his following message, accused me of lying, accused me of seeing someone else, cursed me out and threatened to block me and that if I was "fake busy" that day then I should be busy forever. I simply replied...."ok". It bothered him so much that I didn't want to see him, that he didn't know what I was doing (had nothing to do with another man, my sister was coming in from out of town), and that I didn't just bow down and let him have his way. A day or so later he messages me that he's been "working on himself" and that I know he "still loves me". There were signs from the beginning but I hung in there because I felt like he needed help and because I'm a nurturer and have a caring nature he used that to his advantage. Sometimes I get mad at myself for not leaving him sooner and continuously letting him do me the way he did but I have to remind myself, there was nothing wrong with me for wanting to see the best in someone and try and help them be their best. Instead there was something seriously wrong with him. I continue to pray for him but I know he's not the one for me. I've recently found this page and a couple others and it's helping me cope and become stronger. I'm so thankful for that.
Exactly, thank you. It's exactly what I'm going through right now. They will abuse you for saying "no". It's insane. The rest of us suck this up and behave decently and respectfully towards one another and they rage. It's beyond insane. Thank you for speaking the truth and telling it like it is.
This is the most true video ever. I rejected my narc for two years, the chasing was intense. He was driving me crazy, I couldnt do anything without him being there. I swear he had a tracking device on my car.
That’s what happen to me he harassed me for 5 years and my family until I had a severe nervous breakdown. I hope he gets what he has coming to him I know he will.
20 direct quotes from my ex: 1. “I look so good right now.” 2. “I am so smart.” 3. “Sometimes I feel like you just hate me.” (This followed my wide-eyed look of shock after she made the first statement, while looking at herself in the mirror) 4. “If we get back together, I’m gonna make you jump through hoops.” 5. “You need to grow up.” 6. “I don’t even know what the fuck you’re talking about!” (This came after I started talking about something deep while she was engulfed in her phone) 7: “You’re fake.” 8: “You’re mean.” 9. “You used me for sex.” 10. “I have no idea who I am.” 11. “I’m only living with my ex cus I have nowhere to go.” 12. “You have a problem with jealousy.” 13. “You make the least amount of effort to make me happy.” 14. “You broke up with me, so I moved on.” (Like 2 days after SHE discarded me) 15. “You are selling yourself and you love the product.” 16: “I hate that you have a good family.” 17. “I slept with my ex’s friend, but we were broken up for a month.” 18. “I don’t care. People have treated me like shit for my whole life. So I’ll take advantage.” (After I explained the pyramid-scheme of Mary Kay and how she would have to manipulate insecure women to make money) 19. “My fiancé wanted me to tell you that he wins.” (She went back after realizing I wasn’t going to fund her existence) 20. “I moved out of the state because you drove me away.” 21. “I love you so much.” Note #10. This was a revealing moment. She said that with sincerity.
He won’t leave me alone from stalking to aggressive behavior. It’s sick, thought that when he gets in a new relationship he will let go but no I was wrong.
Hang out where the cops go as much as you can. Become friendly with them so they know you. 1 stalking may stop 2 the cops may begin to care about you and help you more than a random person.
💕JANUARY 28, 2022💕 “I AM WITH YOU ALWAYS. I spoke these words to My disciples after My resurrection. I continue to proclaim this promise to all who will listen. People respond to My continual Presence in various ways. Most Christians accept this teaching as truth but ignore it in their daily living. Some ill~taught or wounded believers fear (and may even resent) My awareness of all they do, say, and think. A few people center their lives around this glorious promise and find themselves blessed beyond all expectations. When My Presence is the focal point of your consciousness, all the pieces of your life fall into place. As you gaze at Me through the eyes of your heart, you can see the world around you from My perspective. The fact that I am with you makes every moment of your life meaningful.” (JESUS CALLING)
This is very on point. I met this person and I still see him. We were okay until he did something that really hurt me soo bad, emotionally. I started keeping away from him, stopped following him in social media. I lost my interest and the way I looked at him yesterday is now gone. It will never be the same. Because of these, he started downgrading my qualities. Calling me some negative stuff. He purposely let me suffer. I thought what a wicked and weak person. I'm the type where I save my peace than do revenge, cause I believe in karma. Recently, I just noticed his bad attitude towards me and I'm wondering why, when in fact, I did not do him wrong except leaving him and being disinterested to his life. I tried to know why he did those against me. I knew there is someghing wrong with him not me.
It's funny how they play these silent treatment games and then once you finally start walking away they get angry. The hypocritical rage is staggering. They will promise sabotage for it legally to in some cases
Interesting topic. I actually listened to this twice. As it is very true. Unfortunately most people would have to be at the end of thier relationship or past it to truly know these things. It's very proactive to have knowledge of this behaviour in advance. As it is really not a matter of if, just a matter of when it happens. Once you're no longer their supply for whatever reason, the facts, the lives, your lives together, will change. They will confuse you, destroy you, hate you, blame you and disgard you. It really is just a matter of time. Many thanks to the gentleman who takes his time, effort and energy to post these videos on this matter for therapeutic purposes but also to prepare forewarning. Many thanks.
He did triangulate me with one of his mistresses (coffee place with all the "friends") and tried to get me to his place while his 15 years relationship was home. I can't believe I escaped this.
They can’t get to you if you block delete and ignore And move completely away from reach I did all this finally 7 months no contact and I’m the coward for waking away No narcissistic demon , it’s called self love self care and knowing your own worth everything you’ll never ever have
After exhausting all hoovering attempts, my ex narcissist wife has resorted to witchcraft with hope of luring me back, what a hopeless soulless reprobate.
Mine too, she’s always been a witch and thinks she’s powerful because I’ve come back to try to work things out a few times now. I’m done with spellcaster now, she really underestimated my integrity and stubbornness..
MONEY/SUCCESS 10Million I went through a series of car accident that almost killed me, church revelations came out that she wants me dead, at some point it was revealed that she was planning to sacrifice in witchcraft one of our daughters, I thank God that he helped me get a good job and change the city.
He said “ it’s been 2 weeks since I’ve heard from you and I’m going to have to withhold the child support check until you talk to me” not once asking about our kids. That’s so shameful and I know I made the right decision
Ex Narc sent me a message tonight asking me if I believe in myself. I have ignored him have had no contact for 2 yrs. Over 35 messages in 2 years the one i just got was a huge turn. He wants a reaction lol hes not gonna get it. His mask has been off and i dont like him with a passion. This is a great thing.
Thank you for another great video, NS!! It's a perfect dictatorship in the personal lives and in public settings. Human rights abuse is the implications for letting the narcs freely operate without anyone saying anything. Again, thank you and God bless!!
This video has reinforced how important it is that I continue to not have anything to do with my narcissistic ex. If you ignore the narcissist they will react in a negative way, they might harass and stalk you, or they might parade their new source of supply in front of you sometimes they will do both, anything to get a reaction from you.
Julia Graham Right “I use drugs but get mad if you reject me for it ? haha 😆 even my Cancer ex wasn’t that stupid. Yea when I rejected 🙅♂️ the Gemini they went off to get negative attention from another addict they narc triangulated me with. 🤮 man how man of you POS are out there?
REMINDER..BEING NICE AND TRYING TO HELP THEM GETS YOU STALKED AND HARASSED WHEN YOU SEE WHO THEY ARE AND LEAVE..DONT PITY A DEMONIC LIAR ..JUST WALK AWAY ...THE END AND YOUR FREEDOM AWAY FROM THE FAKE TRAPERS...
"They believe that because you don't want them, it gives them the right to abuse you". SO TRUE!
It’s like the logic part of their brain is missing. So they replace it with imaginative things like they can’t process reality.
The narcissist doesn't want to be with you in a committed relationship, but will breadcrumb you and make you think it's possible. As soon as you wake up and leave they can't handle that!
Oh lord. That's "Spot on 😊
So make them suffer and stay strong to your word.
"They have to force themselves on to you." "They don't think anything can happen naturally." I will never allow myself to be vulnerable with anyone new ever again.
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Yea that's sad my showered me with gifts then said I was using her lol
@@Real2k25 Mine said that I forced her to let me go see her (long-distance relationship). How many things are wrong with that one sentence? lol Yet, when I was there, she told me how wonderful it was to have me there.
Yea they force& Rush and throw you off Rushing you in situations they know they don’t want to be in , But I call that demon time.
Literally will force themselves on you. It's disgusting.
The narc wants what they think they can't have and when they have it they don't want it!They are bold on the outside but crybabies inside.Well done! NS.
So spot on, never content....NEVER....Drama eigther full using or full on hurting someone, always looking to benefit and use, or something new.It never ends for them ....pretty sad....Just a emotional addict
SO ACCURATE,I REALIZED THAT VERY LATE...
@@majorgirl3465 Thank you. I am reading your comment for the first time just now. RUclips are not sending all notifications through especially noticed this with older ones, others have mentioned this as well. Hope all is going well for you, take care.
@@kostasplafountzis6602 Yes none of us could have imagined a disorder like NPD, it's complex when you look into it. Keep well.
@Prophetic Shofar Yes they are, the trouble with the narcissist is they can be dangerously stupid. They are not safe to be around. Hope all is going well for you.
Run. Run. No one should tolerate abuse. Especially good people.
No more abuse I know how to beat and torture a narcissists without using my hands , energy etc......I know my worth and value !!!!!!!!!!!!!
This video just reminded me why I’m going solo for a while. Too many nutcases out there.
No kidding all I meet is a bunch of nutcases solo is the only way to go it's safe that way
Adjustingmycrown girl tell me about it.
The peace is priceless 🌅 Enjoy the peace 🌅
Feels great being solo!!
Adjustingmycrown I love your comment, made me laugh so hard. :)) It’s better to be single than being with someone who isn’t worthy of you.
The amount of nutjobs out there is just unreal. Adjusting my crown and marching forward. Let's hear it for us normals. 💗
Amen!!...
Ikr I'm surrounded by nutjobs
That's Exactly what those Demons Are...Nutjobs Cracked Pots!!..REBUKE! ✊🏼👊🏽
We're not normal if we accepted them. That's a fact!
It's crazy because they actually believe that it's love that they have for you. They have no concept of what love is.
It's not love to them, it's an "investment"! They give $2 to get $3 back! It's their game!. Don't play!
@@peggymicsky8607 absolutely true
Only investment, not more.
like how a blackhole might see consuming light as love...to them it tastes like love as they drink your blood
@Suddenly Possible Yep, mine said "I'm not sure I can be enough of what you need." Nice, turn it around so it's my fault.
and they ''love''everyone fakely just to appear loveable,but they do not love anyone really,they actually hate everyone else including their real self...
My view on this is... they won't give you a second thought if they're with a new supply... if that supply is first grade, they won't entertain the idea of you not wanting them back... only if that new supply starts to deteriorate...and only then...they might start to reidealise you... and think you may want them back. NO CONTACT FOREVER 💪💪✌
That's really good analogy Jordan, they might even have a new supply but not at your grade.. Or what do you reckon?
Paul Jordan totally agree with you Paul 💞 xx
@@lizmorley222 Hi Liz🙂😘
Paul Jordan Hi Paul xx 😘 I got so much abuse when my Narc realised I no longer wanted him xx
Let us remind ourselves the " new supplies " they have lined up are all lined up for ABUSE. They're not gonna last long cause NO HUMAN BEING wants to be abused and used. Even the " new supplies ".
So whatever supply they have... good luck to them ! They rescued us.
Accept it or not, I’m GONE....🏄♀️
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But there are dire consequences, I felt it in my gut, and sure enough I suffered the wrath of the narc. Some are borderline psychotic so be VERY careful how you handle a poisonous snake.
WizardofAhhhs 75
Yes!
Some are North of borderline too.
Eternity With Christ
Thank you for your comment.
During a argument with narc wife, I finally decided to let myself speak my mind. I had to put a few things straight. One of the things I asked was “do you know the difference between want and need!!. I WANT you in my life. But I do not NEED you in my life. Holy hell that made her head spin.
Amen to that👼. thats some real anti Narco shit😃😃
I said I'm not running after you. I never will. I never had to run after anybody, it's certainly not going to start with you. 😆
"I do not care", "I see you for what you are" are kryptonite to a narc!
After years of dealing with one I've truly enjoyed having my freedom and personal space it's like I was suffocating!!...single, happy, and not in a hurry to get tied down with someone
me too
Did you change your number/address? Did you go No Contact?
So Britt after 2yrs ur still single? Asking for a friend.
@@wilfridjoseph6172 lame af
@@hardwiredtoselfdestruction3401 lol hey don't get jealous
That is why it's so easy to use them.
They cannot take rejection.
Also, when I rejected him and came to collect my things from his house, he threatened to call the cops on me.
Hahahaha. What for !?
I'm here fighting to LEAVE !
Not fighting to stay.
He couldn't take it so he made it look like he was evicting me.
Tried to break me down by saying that but I stood still. Never gave in.
Got my things, I left.
1 year 2 months no contact.
He can hurt me.
He can cause me pain.
But he can NEVER destroy me.
I'm like a killing machine.
Every attack you plan against me, every move you make, every step you take TEACHES me how you tick.
I will use it to my advantage.
Knowledge is power.
Once I've figured you out, you are no longer attractive to me.
And if you have new supply, that's wonderful.
Cause now you're distracted.
Your plans to destroy me never became reality.
Either way, I WIN.
Cause I'm still here.
- ❤
Couldn't have said it better myself. :-)
That part!
God bless you, Rebecca you just told my story, and showed my strength.
Rebecca-Joy Henson Yes!
Yes ,the narcs mission failed check mate.
"They"attach themselves to EVERYONE!!!!! They fall in love with EVERYONE!!!! They are truly mentally disturbed!!!!!!! Some people you just can NOT be nice to. I grew up with two of the worst narcissists, control freaks and nymphos!
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They have a strong sense of entitlement, they believe that they have the right to your time, energy and attention... so true
They cannot generate their own confidence and self-assurance from within, so they depend on other people to prop them up. When you are uninterested in them, it's a huge trigger because they have no inner self-worth. A confident person knows that his or her value does not come from others, and so they are better at handling rejection.
Deborah Armstrong
Well said!
Deborah Armstrong
Excellent.
I still struggle with HOW they siphon our attributes from us and make them their own.
How do they make that connection?
@@mstafford368 I'm still trying to understand that, too.
Deborah Armstrong
Somethings we may never understand.
I’m so happy to be away from it.
Bless you.
Eloquently written 💯💯💯
There's either:
1) Hoover
2) Stalking off and online
3) Reidealisation
4) "If I can't have you, no one can"
* just spin the wheel of narc fortune and see where it stops.
You wrote it very nice and funny :),it is absolutelly true.Our reaction to all those "prizes" should be grey rock and absolute indifference,if possible.Thank you.
@@mic55y .. Yea thanks 😊.
Enjoy your day/night.
@Lord Rubzfar out! Honestly it sounds like you and I are in the same boat, its sucky ay lol.. I feel for ya! Keep on your guard though, because if they have a new supply, then its possible that you could have 2 negative people stalking you. Well, you'll win, because you just keep going as you are and people will soon realise that THEIR words don't match YOUR actions and behavior - it might be hard at first, but honestly, one day you'll think "F this and F her" and you'll just do these things 😀
Straight to hell fire spin 🔥.
@Lord Rubz let her and xnarc husband rotten in their hell 🔥.
Exactly, they can break up with you over and over and when it is returned, they can't accept it
Exactly! They are weak... they deserve to be with people like them, with no heart.
For such weak /damaged people ,they are incredibly powerful in their ability to destroy the very ones who love ,care ,support and try to understand their suffering and try to sooth it .....We become the ones to blame for their ineffectual experience/s in life...... Recovery is about re-establishing one's fragmented soul and realising that we may have loved an act rather than a person . Personally I could see the true self underneath the charade /false self and that is actually why I tolerated so much and felt such compassion . That was my downfall and that is why it was so very sad and futile .
They refuse to accept NO...for any thing
Therefore simple say NO! I always did that - no matter what... Nobody forces me to do something I don´t want...
They were damaged as children...
My ex was a basic farm-hand from early childhood. He told me about many times of hurtful name calling and neglect from uncles, cousins and paternal grandmother . He made it to the top, but he is damaged in his mind and soul, so sad.
We all were
They were born that way or something. The wicked are estranged from the womb they go astray as soon as they are born speaking lies...Its crazy...
SEVERELY!
@@delorestaylor8114 I had a hard poor dysfunctional filthy abused childhood life.....I'm SO opposite from a narcissists BUT seem to attract such because of my love of God, life in general, myself and higher education.....social transformations betterment of myself.....BUT these demon people need babysitters to nurture their sick minds and their broken souls. Pathetic! You simply can not even "be nice to them" ""speak a kind word" to these poor pitiful weak broken evil demons.
Lol. I've been gone for three weeks. All the sudden he's cordial, and offering favors. It's to try and fake me out. Dude, I know your games. And I'm NOT playing anymore. Game over. I won.
Yeh my coworker too! Always asking if I need help and stuff!! Ffs like nothing ever happened!!
good onyou
I give him absolutely NO attention at all. He was showing up at my job, calling from different numbers...now he’s unfortunately calling and texting my family but I couldn’t care less. It’s up to them to cut him off just like I did. I know who I am and I don’t need his permission to BE. I told him he needs a weak, low self esteem partner. I’m too strong for him, plus I spent 20 yrs married to a narcissist. That was Narcology 101 and I graduated with a divorce decree! Once I was sure of what I was dealing with, with this fake I gray rocked him right out of my space. Cut him off so badly I was gone long before he knew it was even coming.
Wow our story sounds the same ! Married 22 years to covert narc - then first relationship several years after the divorce I ended up with an overt pyschopath very abusive narc that did everything you listed and more . Im 50 and just want to be alone now . Im happy just raising my kids and thats it 🌅 Peace is priceless 🙏
Happy angel Yes it is! Our stories are so traumatic. It takes yrs to heal and ever trust again. I’m also 50. Just had a bday 8/18. My prayer for you is that you never lose the beauty that these parasites tried to steal from you. I pray that every single thing they stripped will be replaced tenfold including the LOVE you have inside of you. I know it’s hard to believe, but you don’t have to be alone and there really are good ppl in the world. Ppl who share your heart. I pray that you are protected inside and out. I pray that once you are healed you attract that energy to yourself thru anyone who comes around you. The reason these parasites are attracted to you is bcuz of what you carry within you. Protect it. Love yourself. I’m so grateful you’re here. You survived for a reason. You are a special person. That’s why you attract broken ppl, but as you heal yourself you will bring peace to the pieces in your space. KNOW THAT!!! Sending you encouragement, LOVE, and strength! They didn’t win. You’re still here. ❤️
@@ME-vb6pq Thank you soooo very much for the kindest uplifting words and powerful prayers 🙏 I truly appreciate it very much and am grateful for such kind prayers. 💗 Anyone that reads your post will be uplifted and wow can't we all use some positive words and prayers 💗🙏 I am truly touched by your kindness . Thank you so very much and God Bless you too and grateful you were led to my post 🙏
Can you call me? I need help doing what you did to my narc. 😢
@@ME-vb6pq I'm so so happy to know abt yr victory over evils,keep up yr strength, unlimited love n peace n prosperity are waiting for u, you've become the person, the best version of yourself, u didn't think that u could be, high 5, keep smiling...
You are very right!!!!! The narcissist always wants something for nothing when their around you!!!! They love praise and admiration, but love to put you down at the same time!!!! They hate how you make them feel bad about their morals, looks and social status over them, plus they have to put in more work than you just to get the same praise!!!!! 👍👍👍💖💖💖💖💜💜💜💜
they will flatter you to see if you respect their flattery so they know they can also shame you after and you will also believe that lie as well! Hot cold Hot cold...trauma bonding. If you care not for their flattery you will not be affected by their insults and shame!
A year ago i started dating a narcissist he helped me financially, always he wanted to know how I was doing. Within the period of our relationship I saw a lot of red flags 🚩 he was controlling me something I didn’t notice till I felt heartbroken I remember I cried several times . Then from that I started watching this narc survivor it really helped me build myself . I set my boundaries and I didn’t want him back at all. He acted as if he didn’t care and that made me depressed. Now four months of no contact rule he wants to comeback to me I said NO. He is not willing to let me go. The thing is that he is very toxic. Am doing well without him. Ladies you should know your worth never allow someone to treat you as their second option 🥰🥰🥰
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Same situation as me, he pamper me then after found out he was dating his ex and all exes he still communicate, thanks for this video, walked away now with my ex narc, after doing no contact he wants to come back to me again, no way to come back to him, he is toxic.
My girlfriend never accepts that her behavior is EVER messed up. Never takes any blame for any arguments we have...even when she clearly started it.
Criticizes me about everything. It wasn't always this way. In the beginning she claimed I was EXACTLY what she'd always wanted. Pure lies...I think shes sick in the head
I hope u got out soon after you wrote this comment 😅🤦🏻♂️
Imagine the amount of hurt that could be avoided if people were thought about narcissist and different personalities in school as children or teens. If equipped with proper knowledge they could see the red flags clearly far before the narcissist got the chance to get close.
this world is run by narcs and psychopaths....you think they want to equip their food with skills to fight them? The narc world only want to train the food to be amazing tools they can then manipulate and exploit!
And I’d like to ADD that The Bible Foretold That People would become Lovers of Themselves Rather Than Lovers OF GOD
So true. Not many people are aware until years later.
I agreed. This stuff should be a curriculum
They don't except that you don't want them because deep down thier ashamed that you know that they are week people who have no value.
they dont have to accept it..but they will get over it , its not about them
I am in control of my own destiny
🌻 I truly have deep sympathy for these sad people, but I cannot tolerate ANY abuse…Walking Away ✌️
Hoping the last hoover attempt was the last and he finally got the message. Just want to be able to relax in my own home without anxiety about the possibility he could turn up late at night. Im just so tired of it all
Jacqueline Willes If he shows up to your home again....Call the cops. That will show him you mean business and he’ll stay away!...trust me...They don’t want to be in trouble in anyway with the law
yes LOL
Kim Dee lol he is a cop 😬
JW CHING Oh wow 😮
Stay strong sister. You've taken the first step in the right direction by enforcing the no contact rule. I'm almost there. I've been with my reoccurring nightmare for 4 years. I wish you all the best and I hope you find peace soon. Thank you for sharing your truth. I don't know if you believe in God...if you do, pray for protection and mercy. If you don't...buy some pepper spray or a stun gun. Or, what the hell...you can do both!!!
No Contact FOREVER!!!
Carol Loraine well said.
My sentiments EXACTLY!
Never ever!!
Its never enough for a narc. everything you do goes unappreciated… just walk away and find real love with someone who better fits you.
They look at you as a possession ,you are really disposable depends on thier. needs at that moment in time....
Spot on as always, Narc Survivor 🎯 They’re meaner than junkyard dogs if they don’t get what they want. Don’t walk away from these jokers - RUN 🏃♂️
Anonym narc SURVIVOUR Antinarc exactly 🗑
Agreed 😂
Well said!!
Amen 🙏
OMG How did I survive before these videos???!!!! Thank you sooooo much!!!
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I did not know what a
Narcissistic person was until about 6 years ago. I read this article about narcissistic people. And it fit my husband to a T.
CORRECT. WE DONT WANT THEM.... EXACTLY!!! THEYRE NOT US.
They only want u when your healing and getting on with your life and all their other options have sussed them out... sending love to all survivors and thrivers ❤️❤️
Just go no contact. Block all access if necessary
Q on1_
Its like dealing with roaches and bugs in your home. You have to seal every crack in the walls. If you see the roach spray it with Raid and watch it flop around and freak out. Thats how the narc behaves when you spray it
Bingo!
Block all access.
Blocking all access is an absolute mandatory.
Even after they abuse the crap out of you manipulate you cheat on you they think that you still want them lol
My mother and my daughter are like this. I refuse to validate their false self. And they do stalk and harass me and have other people do it.
Mine cheated on me and had the nerve to get mad at me for finding out. How fucking sick!!!
That's something that will never change about them.
They have no idea and are clueless that you are going to leave them.
He left me. Then he wanted me back. When I said NO, the major abuse started.
Yes. Lol. Makes zero sense. They embarrass themselves. My exnarc literally paid the new guy I liked not to see me. Bc he thought I'd change my mind. Dude where do I like u? Why not find someone that likes u??
@@jennifercrespo1383 My ex NARC walked out of my life and came back, apologized and wanted me back but I said No, cause he hurt me so bad and I don't trust him anymore and plus he already has someone he said he had his eyes on. Said the only reason he wasn't with her was because she was married, "But your the Love of my life and I need and want you back!!!", he said. See how twisted they are. Just wanna hurt you cause they know they screwed up and can't have you back. Twisted Douche bags !!! NEVER AGAIN !!!
@@CHI6898 wow was sickos they are
This is what my ex narcissistic husband does to my kids now
He’s constantly harassing bullying manipulating threatening and controlling them He doesn’t care the damage he’s done to all of us as he continues his evil path
Please take care of your kids because they'll grow up to be like daddy. My ex's parents were narcs and their kids came out as one too. Very sickening. Protect your kids
I have a child with one also. You can’t let him destroy your kids. Talk to them openly about their dad’s odd behaviors and teach them about narcissism and tackle /work/ cut any developed behavior they learn from dad. It’s sad because one would think you could trust your kids with their fathers . But we can not
before sorry for my bad english. i have narc mother, and i also ever be narc for a long time. thanks for God after a bad karma and surrounded with new people with health mental. now i cant make my self better for anyone. (but thats really not easy to change my mind that im not special, because before if i see a true me, its so painfull with abuse and manipulation world) so, i learn how to be more emphat and respect each other, sometimes i hurt people but i began to know that and feel so sorry for that. but, my parents still have my sister in home, they make a worst enviroment for my sister, i mean after i and my second sister become independent my mom have no supply again. i just pray my sister can cross over it. i began to cry if my little sister trap in that hell without anything will damaged her souls. i still so sorry for her
Nancy Elizabeth Suver if your kids are old enough they have people in court that deals with kids trapped in the situations you described. My son did that and now we’re free from the Devil
❌ I'VE LEARNED TO:
STOP focusing my attention on Narcissism
STOP trying to find the "why" regarding others
STOP trying to apply grey rock / no contact etc (great to understand the technical jargon but we're missing the reason why toxic people get into our life to begin with
STOP accepting broken people in our lives and trying to fix them
STOP making excuses for people that don't want better for themselves!
⚠️I STARTED RECOGNIZING AND UNDERSTANDING:
WHY I ignored the red flags
WHY I Made excuses for the bad behaviors of others
WHY I Allowed any type of abuse
WHY I adapted to any abuse inflicted by others
WHY I Wasted precious time teaching others how to not hurt me instead of enjoying those that made me happy
✅ LOOKING INWARD WE:
START understanding "the why and how"
START planning a growth schedule for ourselves
START understanding, challenging and reinforcing the weak areas of our boundaries
START recognizing why we should never accept a broken person
START knowing why we should never have to fix, augment, or replace deficits in a persons life. A person that comes into our life - jobless, carless, friendless, homeless, angry, depressed or engrossed in sharing countless episodes of trauma, abuse and negativity regarding OTHERS are signs that should signal NOPE NOT READY‼️ "We too often see "oh I can help, I can fix"❌. Instead of step away 🆘 👉🏽allow /encourage that person to self correct before coming into our life ✅ boundaries ✳️❗️
START reinforcing a standard that you expect and will only accept ❣
START recognizing other TOXIC concerns you may have overlooked
⚖️WE WASTE PRECIOUS TIME LOOKING "at and out" INSTEAD OF "I and in"...
Correct "you" the only thing you truly have the ability to control and change.
Give and accept nothing but the best of those you engage always.
KNOW and remember:
"Love, friendship, caring, and understanding feels GOOD"! It should NEVER hurt".
Someone that loves you should / would NEVER hurt you!
If they have, realize the message they are sending then..."return to sender" 💌😉.
Sharing through growth ☮.
That's so beautiful and so right! Thank you
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Wow .
Everything is true
Thanks
Brilliant!
Its really easy to see through facades when you are clear with yourself. No one can fool you cuz when you're honest with you, you identify this same narcissist and psychopath in you the same time you do in them. It's a mirror. Truth is SO obvious. When you're willing to look.❤
narcs hate when you become a mirror they must look at....the vampire then denies reality and thus cannot see himself in the mirror for his true self is not allowed to reflect back to him....they want you to reflect back to them their false self
In regards to love, People use the word ‘Narcissist’ loosely let me tell you it’s like no human being you’ve ever met in your life.
They are addictive, charming etc
They lead you in then abandon you once they have played the love game with you.
like a turd wrapped in gold they make you chase a false gold
That's it right there... I was looking through comments all night trying to find the words that describes my 12 yr relationship.
This is the most telling aspect of their illusionary bubble. It's absolutely amazing, frustrating, and tiring.
ABSOLUTELY💯
Morning survivors, keep up the good fight!
Always hittin' the good topics NS Thank you 💙
A very powerful video Narc Survivor 💯👍
Narc's will go to any lengths to avoid rejection from the victim...spot on !!!
Thanks Narc Survivor 😎👍
they will get back with you simply to break up with you to FEEL like they were the one's who left you...
This is the most accurate video about Narcissism that I came across RUclips. Thanks a lot!
Mercedes Mass,You got a lovely smile 😊
They have huge tantrums too and it's very amusing!
Nothing about a narcissistic person is amusing. They can only see themselves, they lack empathy. They f**k things up then they act surprised when they see the results of their actions or lack of action. They are damaged and unable to love. Only God can restore them back to what a human being should be like.
@@heliaalves9062 exactly mine neglected me after married him and during pregnancy so after I gave birth to our first child (we had 2 kids) I started doing the same things he did neglect his needs or wouldn't look at him I was completely inlove with our son that I sometimes didn't even know I was neglecting him but he would seat in the corner giving me the most hatred looks ever!! And I would feel like his eyes were burning through me ...hahahaha I loved it that he was dying to my surprise he started abusing me even more after that ...sick bastards thinking they would get love in return after so much shit they put you through and in the end they act so surprised and say you have changed! ? Hehehe completely empty up there if you tap on their heads I'm sure you will hear a hollow noise absolutely empty shells. ..Love yourself enough to leave such inhumane creatures.
@@Starykid I understand your situation, but it's common for men to feel left out and ignored after the first kid is born, since the woman will focus almost completely on the baby. It's tough being a woman and having to do so much, maybe some misunderstandings can happen. It's most unfortunate you can't be with the father of your kids, I pray God will intervene and restore your marriage, so both of you can be even happier than before ❤️
Hélia Alves BINGO!!!!
It’s not amusing in the slightest if there is a kid involved. It’s scary and heartbreaking, but of course you can’t show that or they will just get worse.
I’ve been in situations where people (possibly narcissistic) believed I was much more interested in them than I was. Example: I’m being polite and friendly and I’m presumed to be in love or in crush romantically. Also been in situations where I’m presumed to be “still after” someone who rejected me, even if I’ve never contacted or attempted contact or even WANTED contact with them long after the relationship ended. I don’t stalk them (in real life or electronically). I don’t smear them. I don’t pump their friends/family for information about them. It’s none of my business.
But somehow I’m “after” them. Ummm...yeah...oooooooooookaaaaay.
KEEP MOVING FORWARD YOU DESERVE BETTER...IF THEY STALK AND HARASS YOU REPORT IT...GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU BE FREE AND HAPPY..
i will just ignore them they hate that
I've done this, but they just become very vindictive. It almost cost me my life smh.
“The false self can not be self validated, because it isn’t real. So it requires endless existential emotional support.” Great stuff:)
To all the Narcs out there : Get over it! Just because you like someone that doesn't mean they like you! Learn to deal with your crap instead of projecting it onto others!
They like to be busy but they don't want another to be busy
My narcissist ex saw me as a backup. She never cared for me. She hided her phone all the time. Hide her double or maybe triple life.
I was never a priority. Just an option.
She discarded me for good. 8 months with no contact. I saw her at the store twice. First time she was happy to see me. Second time ignored me.
She discarded me when I told her about all the lies she told me.
At first I was blind. I ignored the lies. But after a while the lies were to many.
She always need to have attention. Always need to have a supply. When we dated each other, she even bragged about so many guys wants to date her.
They are evil. The devil on earth.
If a narcissist ex is suddenly nice. Be careful. A narcissist is never truly nice.
My narcissist was "nice" to me when there were people around. But just her and me, not so nice. She ignored me. She only saw me when she needed something.
I have seen her without the mask. I know who she really is. She nows this. She will never contact me again. But she never cared. So why would she care about someone who know who she truly is?
This video is a great reminder for us to stay No Contact. No Narc ''Friend'' does not want to accept that I cut her off and want nothing to do with her. She stalks me on social media, Stalks my friends on social media, Rides by house, texts me asking to hang out, the list goes on. I refuse to allow this nutcase to bring me down and I wont be caught dead hanging around her she is an embarrassment!!!
Thank you NS. I have watched so many videos about narcissism by now. But this one gives a full explanation of the phenomenon. It gives me a better understanding.
They will frantically search for new supply before you dump then they want to be the one that dump you.
You know, Survivors,it's funny how they can reject others,but can't take the Boomerang Effect.Even though they may not want you,But they want you to want them.Haha funny when the table turn,From Ms.Tonya😊😊😊
I could care less about how he feels toward me, looking at him now sickens me because I see what was hidden before. So glad he's outta my life. No Contact is working for me !
Amen 🙏
It's working for me after 35 years of been married to a narcissist.
I walked away, went no contact and that seems to be doing it for me.
Now it could be that I disgraced him in public, in front of his Church members.
I called him out and let people know what he truly was.
I had removed the mask.
Either way it's one of the above.
4 months on, haven't heard a word.
I am doing great and have a wonderful life now without the narcissists husband.
I wouldn't go back if my life depended on him.
I realised I had done all the work for over twenty years in the marriage. Then moved on. 😊
Never occurred to me he had an inflated view of his skills and abilities. I thought he was amazing. Who knew it was all just a bunch of BS?! I am SHOCKED.
Recently discarded (again) by a narc. That will be the last time I let him do this to me. We were together for 2 years so being apart is taking a minute to get used to. Almost 2 weeks no contact. He messaged me two weeks ago saying he was coming by (because he feels he still has that privilege to just up and drop by my place when he wants...No sir), I simply replied..." busy all day"...which I was but didn't need to explain to him. He flew in a rage in his following message, accused me of lying, accused me of seeing someone else, cursed me out and threatened to block me and that if I was "fake busy" that day then I should be busy forever. I simply replied...."ok". It bothered him so much that I didn't want to see him, that he didn't know what I was doing (had nothing to do with another man, my sister was coming in from out of town), and that I didn't just bow down and let him have his way. A day or so later he messages me that he's been "working on himself" and that I know he "still loves me". There were signs from the beginning but I hung in there because I felt like he needed help and because I'm a nurturer and have a caring nature he used that to his advantage. Sometimes I get mad at myself for not leaving him sooner and continuously letting him do me the way he did but I have to remind myself, there was nothing wrong with me for wanting to see the best in someone and try and help them be their best. Instead there was something seriously wrong with him. I continue to pray for him but I know he's not the one for me. I've recently found this page and a couple others and it's helping me cope and become stronger. I'm so thankful for that.
I don't like being told I am not smart
Exactly, thank you. It's exactly what I'm going through right now. They will abuse you for saying "no". It's insane. The rest of us suck this up and behave decently and respectfully towards one another and they rage. It's beyond insane. Thank you for speaking the truth and telling it like it is.
I'm not asían your asian
This is the most true video ever. I rejected my narc for two years, the chasing was intense. He was driving me crazy, I couldnt do anything without him being there. I swear he had a tracking device on my car.
That’s what happen to me he harassed me for 5 years and my family until I had a severe nervous breakdown. I hope he gets what he has coming to him I know he will.
20 direct quotes from my ex:
1. “I look so good right now.”
2. “I am so smart.”
3. “Sometimes I feel like you just hate me.” (This followed my wide-eyed look of shock after she made the first statement, while looking at herself in the mirror)
4. “If we get back together, I’m gonna make you jump through hoops.”
5. “You need to grow up.”
6. “I don’t even know what the fuck you’re talking about!” (This came after I started talking about something deep while she was engulfed in her phone)
7: “You’re fake.”
8: “You’re mean.”
9. “You used me for sex.”
10. “I have no idea who I am.”
11. “I’m only living with my ex cus I have nowhere to go.”
12. “You have a problem with jealousy.”
13. “You make the least amount of effort to make me happy.”
14. “You broke up with me, so I moved on.” (Like 2 days after SHE discarded me)
15. “You are selling yourself and you love the product.”
16: “I hate that you have a good family.”
17. “I slept with my ex’s friend, but we were broken up for a month.”
18. “I don’t care. People have treated me like shit for my whole life. So I’ll take advantage.” (After I explained the pyramid-scheme of Mary Kay and how she would have to manipulate insecure women to make money)
19. “My fiancé wanted me to tell you that he wins.” (She went back after realizing I wasn’t going to fund her existence)
20. “I moved out of the state because you drove me away.”
21. “I love you so much.”
Note #10. This was a revealing moment. She said that with sincerity.
they are honest if you listen closely....even a liar cannot hide the truth if you look closely...
@@coinswaptrader2915 even if it seems totally irrelevant, she is telling on herself.
He won’t leave me alone from stalking to aggressive behavior. It’s sick, thought that when he gets in a new relationship he will let go but no I was wrong.
Hang out where the cops go as much as you can. Become friendly with them so they know you. 1 stalking may stop 2 the cops may begin to care about you and help you more than a random person.
I should have known something was wrong when my ex started forcing himself on me ever since day one...
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The false self will not accept that you dont want them because they think they are perfect....yet their true self feels like no one wants them
This is very on point. I met this person and I still see him. We were okay until he did something that really hurt me soo bad, emotionally. I started keeping away from him, stopped following him in social media. I lost my interest and the way I looked at him yesterday is now gone. It will never be the same.
Because of these, he started downgrading my qualities. Calling me some negative stuff. He purposely let me suffer.
I thought what a wicked and weak person. I'm the type where I save my peace than do revenge, cause I believe in karma.
Recently, I just noticed his bad attitude towards me and I'm wondering why, when in fact, I did not do him wrong except leaving him and being disinterested to his life.
I tried to know why he did those against me. I knew there is someghing wrong with him not me.
It's funny how they play these silent treatment games and then once you finally start walking away they get angry. The hypocritical rage is staggering. They will promise sabotage for it legally to in some cases
Interesting topic. I actually listened to this twice. As it is very true. Unfortunately most people would have to be at the end of thier relationship or past it to truly know these things. It's very proactive to have knowledge of this behaviour in advance. As it is really not a matter of if, just a matter of when it happens.
Once you're no longer their supply for whatever reason, the facts, the lives, your lives together, will change. They will confuse you, destroy you, hate you, blame you and disgard you. It really is just a matter of time.
Many thanks to the gentleman who takes his time, effort and energy to post these videos on this matter for therapeutic purposes but also to prepare forewarning. Many thanks.
I am not interested in being treated like shit
We need nark repellant!
😂🤣... where can you get it lol 😂💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
This is unbelievably spot on! And scary!
The false self cannot be validated because it's not real. Bang on!
they like play cat and mouse with the other women to make you jealous
good luck for those women
He did triangulate me with one of his mistresses (coffee place with all the "friends") and tried to get me to his place while his 15 years relationship was home. I can't believe I escaped this.
Narc Survivor,you are a wonderful Gift!
They can’t get to you if you block delete and ignore
And move completely away from reach
I did all this finally 7 months no contact and I’m the coward for waking away
No narcissistic demon , it’s called self love self care and knowing your own worth everything you’ll never ever have
I did the same thing and he's gone no hoover. I'm free
Block them forever
After exhausting all hoovering attempts, my ex narcissist wife has resorted to witchcraft with hope of luring me back, what a hopeless soulless reprobate.
Lol sounds very familiar
Don Oldwell creepy
How did you find out?
Mine too, she’s always been a witch and thinks she’s powerful because I’ve come back to try to work things out a few times now. I’m done with spellcaster now, she really underestimated my integrity and stubbornness..
MONEY/SUCCESS 10Million I went through a series of car accident that almost killed me, church revelations came out that she wants me dead, at some point it was revealed that she was planning to sacrifice in witchcraft one of our daughters, I thank God that he helped me get a good job and change the city.
He said “ it’s been 2 weeks since I’ve heard from you and I’m going to have to withhold the child support check until you talk to me” not once asking about our kids. That’s so shameful and I know I made the right decision
Welcome to the club.
Ex Narc sent me a message tonight asking me if I believe in myself. I have ignored him have had no contact for 2 yrs. Over 35 messages in 2 years the one i just got was a huge turn. He wants a reaction lol hes not gonna get it. His mask has been off and i dont like him with a passion. This is a great thing.
Great video, very informative 👍
Once you see them for what they are.. their only power over you is what you give them by attention undeserved.
Thank you for another great video, NS!! It's a perfect dictatorship in the personal lives and in public settings. Human rights abuse is the implications for letting the narcs freely operate without anyone saying anything. Again, thank you and God bless!!
This video has reinforced how important it is that I continue to not have anything to do with my narcissistic ex. If you ignore the narcissist they will react in a negative way, they might harass and stalk you, or they might parade their new source of supply in front of you sometimes they will do both, anything to get a reaction from you.
I know this is going to be a good one. Can't wait.
Julia Graham
Right “I use drugs but get mad if you reject me for it ? haha 😆 even my Cancer ex wasn’t that stupid. Yea when I rejected 🙅♂️ the Gemini they went off to get negative attention from another addict they narc triangulated me with. 🤮 man how man of you POS are out there?
I just dopped a narc . Best move I ever made. He was so surprised I dropped him like a hot potato. .
This video is on point thank you for sharing 😊
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REMINDER..BEING NICE AND TRYING TO HELP THEM GETS YOU STALKED AND HARASSED WHEN YOU SEE WHO THEY ARE AND LEAVE..DONT PITY A DEMONIC LIAR ..JUST WALK AWAY ...THE END AND YOUR FREEDOM AWAY FROM THE FAKE TRAPERS...
Very true.. in their sick minds you still want them... what a waste a time for them to think that