I hate to show my age, but I have been trans through all sorts of labels and names. We used to call non-trans women "women," then we used terms like "GG" (Genetic Girls,) or "Born Women," or "Natal Women," or "Natural Born Women." None of these seemed to offend anyone, but to be fair, the women who were involved with the trans culture didn't care, and other women _didn't know we called them these names._ I think the big difference with "Cis," has two parts: One, women are actually hearing about it, they are being told their identity has changed when they were never asked. People do not want to be viewed through an LGBT context when they aren't LGBT, and _so what if it doesn't harm them,_ it's being FORCED on them. Even lesbians or bi women who are plugged into the LGBT community were never asked if they wanted a new identitarian signifier. The second, bigger issue, is that accepting "cis" for yourself, is buying into the anti-gender cult. It's the coded language of gender abolitionism, It's tacit agreement that people born with penises can ACTUALLY become women. That they (we) always WERE women. I AM trans, and I reject this completely. I want to be called a "trans woman," which tells everyone that I am not the same as a woman who was born and developed normally, and I am also not the same as a 'man'. Sex and gender are real, they are not just made up. Vocabulary is not a magical spell that turns your testicular cancer into ovarian cancer. The subversion of language is a small battle every day, a fight to maintain who we are, and what society believes about our basic human nature. I'll fight every day for trans people to live as they choose, but I won't fight to control the language and self-identity of anyone. Not many people would ever articulate it this way, but I promise you, 99% of people don't care what _I_ do with my life, how I choose to dress and date and live my life, but everyone cares about their own freedom to speak and define themselves. It's wrong to force them into a radical ideology with a single word. We are right to reject it. We're not slaves to the anti-gender cult.
I mostly agree with you! Even if it has nothing to do with LGBT, it’s just frustrating to get more classifications on my gender. I’m a woman, bisexual woman. I’m not a cis woman. I’m a woman. WHAT IS A WOMAN? I’m sorry but WHAT IS IT IF WE NEED TO SAY CIS WOMEN😭 my gender isn’t a costume. My periods are real, I bled through my pants, have PMDD, and Hate Being on the pill just to get PMDD under control. Women have a different lifestyle and it’s ok. We’re not cis women😭
As a woman I do find it offensive because it is something that we as women did not choose to be called. We simply are women, we don't require a prefix to clarify we are women by birth.
@@summrflowers7253 Are you the type to get "offended" if a transgender man is pregnant and a nurse asks men if they're pregnant. Personally, I don't see anything wrong. People as a whole are pretty petty with their fellow human. Rather than be humble and kind, people have a stick so far up their you know what. My mother who has GIVEN BIRTH loves and supports her fellow woman (aka trans and cis alike) and she's proud to have a daughter (me, her trans daughter). Life isn't that difficult. People choose to react a certain way cus they feel entitled. Cis is a medical term and it's been around for a very, very long time. It's almost like Anglo Saxon. A lot of Americans used to get offended being called that but it is what they are though. I'm Spanish and I'm proud.
I’m trans and I agree 100 percent with your comment. I will never be a woman I am a trans woman. I have never and will never be able to experience what you do as a biologically born woman and I respect that difference and do not in any way have delusional beliefs that I will ever be a woman…
@@AlexM-ht9ff mmmm … to clarify Americans are NOT Anglo-Saxon… Americans are ethnically diverse as a nation. We have Asians, Latinos, Anglos, indigenous peoples, I mean the list goes on. Within those ethnicities we have a host of sub groups - Europeans who are not Anglo-Saxon by heritage, we have Vietnamese, Chinese, Mexican, Brazilian, etc. please get your facts right before making sweeping statements regarding ethnicity or race.
I think my problem with it is when I have a transwoman demanding that I don’t refer to her as a “trans woman” but as a “woman” but then refers to me as a “cis woman” Because what it feels like they’re saying now, is that they are a woman, and I am something else …. It’s like that movie where your new roommate starts to take over your identity….
This is exactly what is happening. Men are kicking women out of their own category so they can usurp it for themselves! Men have a long history of kicking women out of women's arenas for male gain but this latest attack on womanhood really takes the ultimate biscuit... 😡
thank you.. This actually sums up the feeling It's also when individuals DEMAND that we use their chosen terms/ pronouns but then refuse to accept when women say please don't use "cis". the respect needs to go both ways
As a woman I find it incredibly insulting that those who are not women are forcing onto women (and others) the use of a qualifier that we as women have not agreed to be called by. Additionally every time it is used it is done in a derogatory way. Finally if these woke trolls want me to call them whatever they want me to call them, then stop calling me what I don’t want to be called. It’s mutual respect. The “victim” is now the bully. Thank you Alexis for being the voice of reason and saying what we as women are not allowed to say otherwise we are terfs or homophobic or transphobic. You are a hero in both the trans community as well as with women. It is because of the respect you have for women that you are a true woman. You are not trans you are one of us. ❤
@@MaëlleLiraz I agree with you I don’t think it was created by trans people “true trans people” I think as I said above it was the woke trolls who have used it to be derogatory towards women. The words origin actually came from a medical study. But it is how it’s forced on us and how it’s used that I vehemently disagree with.
Agreed with you right up to saying Alex was not Trans - she IS, she refers to herself proudly as TRANS. She does have my love and respect and has worked hard and long to be accepted living her life in the way she feels happy. I applaud her determination and strength.
@@carolinejohn4537 you are right she is trans but what I meant is that the goal of a trans woman is to be so transitioned that she is accepted and lives completely as a woman. Alexis has done this and as such I respect her and love her and don’t see her as any different from me as a biological woman.
My experience with "cis" is that it was used to put down or negate ME as a biological woman. I have always defended the right to gender identity. I would like to have my gender identify respected as well.
I always found it was a way to try and make your average man and woman feel bad about being normal when it comes to their biological sex. I've never heard it used neutrally, only in a derogatory way, or used to dismiss someone and their way of thinking.
@@somegamerchick3568 I have never heard it used negatively. There are actual slurs for cisgender people. I am not a trans woman but I have seen a lot of people get mad just for having it pointed out that they benefit from being cis or that they may not consider certain experiences because of that privilege though. Like I gave birth twice and never had to worry about a hospital policy requiring certain decisions be made by the "mother" and that would mean a whole mess for a trans father. Oh and that people would throw tantrums when they changed the policy to say the "pregnant person" or "person who is giving/gave birth".
I am a transwoman. And I fully agree with this. I am thankful for people that want to recognize me as a woman. But I think cis robs biological women and men of their respective gender. You are the women and men of this world and we should not be robbing you of that status by adding a label to something that should not need one! People can use it for themselves if they want to, although I think by that they are making themselves less than what they are: women and men! Trans people are being privileged by men and women to be called something that they are not for the full 100%. You should not be treated as if it is a privilege to be normal. And in my opinion cis feels like it is just another granted privilege! We really should do away with that term except maybe indeed in medical situations where it might be needed to make a distinction. Although I think speaking of woman vs transwoman and transman vs man already makes that distinction.
@millenniafever thank you for seeing it this way and for sharing your (unpopular - some might even call it "bigoted") perspective. It's refreshing to hear perspectives such as yours and Alexis'.
@@saradolansky1891Thank you, there would be so much more tolerance, acceptance and kindness if your attitude were the norm among trans people but there are always the radicals in this and religion etc who have to make EVERYTHING a conflict! Who want to make BIOLOGICAL MALES and FEMALES feel THEY are lesser beings or have to justify their existence. It makes everyone defensive then sometimes offensive!
I believe that a majority of people like you (and me) who actually transition, would agree with you. Everyone is not a question mark, most are men and women, it's we who are a bit different.
I have to take issue with @IrishRose90 @12:25. I have heard this argument before, and I reject it. To say "If you can call one trans, you can call the other cis." To me, this implies that "trans" is pejorative, that it's intrinsically rude to call someone "trans," when it's absolutely just descriptive. Why do they get to call me trans? Because I'm trans! It's no ruder than being called short or tall, it's just a description. If anyone still thinks being identified as transsexual is an insult, then they are the ones with bigoted presumptions.
Okay, and other people are cis? No one is going up on the street saying " Hey cis-lady " They're mad at a term that they won't even experience on a monthly basis most likely. I'm a gay man who is heavily surrounded by other LGBT+ and I ONLY hear "CIS" maybe twice a month if that. I only see it online via the same angry transphobic Lindas & MAGA meat-riders who treat JK Rowling like a patron diety using it. That's the hilarious part. IT's fake outrage via a problem that doesn't exist but that they are self-inflicting. If seeing other people use it makes them feel triggered, that's a personal problem. Because it means nothing offensive.
Personally, I do find it offensive, even if used medically - I was born female, I'm a woman, I do not need a pre-fix. Trans are the ones who have changed - they have transitioned, so a pre-fix is entirely appropriate, particularly so medically. It's great to see people like you, Marcus and Buck being open with your views as trans people who just want to get on with their lives.
@juliefrost8079 exactly. The ones who insist on using "cis" are usually the same ones who insist trans men/women ARE men/women... they just want us to have a label too. Trans people are still male or female same as anyone else.
There are not many situations where it is needed. You pretty much have to be discussing gender really specifically. That being said, trans people are not transgender because they transitioned. That's not what it means. They were just as much their gender as a child as they are at any point in their transition. Their gender did not change. Trans means opposite of or across from and transgender just means your gender is not what was assigned to you at birth. Cis means aligned with basically. (Think cis-Atlantic vs trans-Atlantic.)
Couldn’t you argue this with everything? Like why say “white woman”? Or “black woman”? Or “Asian woman”? Since race never changes? Why would we need clarifiers? Why say the “blonde woman” if she’s always been blonde? Or “brown-eyed woman” if she’s always had brown eyes? (Or should we only used those if they’ve dyed their hair or wear contacts?) Why not say woman for all of these contexts since nothing about them has ever changed?
The term forced us to be a part of the trans discussion. Some of us just want to stay in our own lane and not be forced into the transgender movement and language. A cisgender woman is just a woman. Great video!!
I was taught that many labels are used to separate people. As a women I think the term "cis" is term based on hate. I am a woman. I don't need extra labels to make others happy.
It is not based on hate. I think most of the people who use "cis" don't want to do any harm or offend anyone, they just see this is as a way to speak about different groups of people. But I understand why some people can feel this and respect their opinion. We can live without it for sure. Just a "woman" says enough, we don't need to use "cis". Women are women. Trans women are trans women. This is enough if we want to specify. Anyway, it is a rare situation when we really need to do this. ps: I am saying this as a trans woman.
@@NellBelle It’s less another label to make someone else happy or one based on hate and more of just a descriptor, like, the opposite of cis is trans and the opposite of trans is cis. But I will say, it’s also a term that makes minorities less othered. But that’s less “make them happy” and more “let’s not other people, like imagine saying “people and gay people”. Like, I know a lot of people who use the term cis for themselves, and I use it for them too, I don’t hate them and they don’t hate themselves. It’s just a way to differentiate between two kinds of women. If someone obviously doesn’t want to be called cis and people keep referring to them specifically, then yeah, it’s a problem. Like even if you’re technically cis based on the definition of cis using it to personally describe someone is shitty. It’s like how nonbinary people are *technically* trans, but a lot of them don’t use the label so doing so for individuals who don’t would be disrespectful.
@@redkitty1170 we don‘t need to put labels on ourselves, EXCLUDING ourselves from specific issues ol diseases. Do you call yourself non-diabetic, non-alcoholic, non-dyslexic? No? Why not? Because, having no issue in regards to diabetes, dyslexia or alcoholism, you don‘t need to apply these qualifiers to yourself. Same with gender identity. Most people don‘t have one, they just grew up being what they are. As a girl who struggled heavily with wishing to be a boy all through growing up, even having a male nickname ‚Henning‘ which my friends used to call me from 5th to 11th grade, ‚cisgender‘ also doesn‘t apply to me, because it implies I never struggled with my own gender identity. I came to grow into my womanhood by being prescribed the pill at 16 years old (I‘m GenX, it wasn’t usual back then), due to enormously painful menstruation issues. When I stopped at 25, I went through a whole mother ‚2nd puberty‘, having to realize that I was living with an androgen hormone imbalance which caused my ‚gender dysphoria‘ growing up. So, I am a WOMAN, not a cis- anything, because I actually lived through years of wanting to be a boy, and GOT OVER IT with actual HRT, being helped with same sex hormones. Cis doesn‘t apply to me!
Then that would be ALL women. Every single woman (trans or cis) developed naturally into a woman in the same way (assuming we are talking about people with similar levels of fluidity). Your genitals and such are not the same as your gender. That's the issue and why it is usually the TERF crowd that opposes the term. They think being born with certain parts makes you more of whatever gender. That is literally the basis of their ideology.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@DjangoAV we used this word inside trans community decades and decades. Only in 2024 a bunch of far right weird people started to make a slur from this word. I transitioned in 2000s, and no one had an idea that it's a slur.
@@redkitty1170 normal people already have their categories, since actually the creation of human civilization. The categories are woman and man. For the rest- no, thank you.
I remember a time when folks were fighting to be free of labels and nowadays it seems like a bunch of folks are fighting to be labeled and to label others whether they want the label or not.
They don’t properly teach people history anymore. It repeats itself. If we didn’t create labels, how on earth would you know how to find your people on TikTok or know who to hate. If we don’t have labels we won’t know who to hate. Medias main agenda. Don’t give into it.
I am woman hear me roar, in numbers too big to ignore and I know too much to go back and pretend. Cause I've heard it all before and I've been down on the floor and no one's ever keep me down again. Yes I am wise but its wisdom born of pain!.... Helen Reddy song. Women have fought so long to be recognised. I admire your wisdom. You have a balanced view and must have very good people supporting you.
I love how respectful, considerate and kind you are in conveying your opinions. Refreshing to not see a (woke) agenda pushed. Very relatable. While the likes of Blair white also talk “common sense”, it’s sometimes a bit brash and judgmental. The down to earthness that you embody really is flattering ❤
I love Blaire but Alexis is very sweet even when she gets sassy 😂 Though I guess almost a decade of dealing with mindless vitriol made Blaire the destroyer that she is today
Women have struggled for respect and be equal and the vocabulary of cis ,non man , birthing person ect. Pushes us so far back from where we were even 10 years ago is so sad.
Menstruating person, birthing person everything you said was on point. Being a woman is hard and we have come in a long way to fight for our rights and even to this day being a woman is a challenge.
Good point... i think all of these terms are also coming thick and fast.... so within a few years we have gone from gendered language that are representative of the gendered nature of the topic (i.e. mother being a woman who gives birth) and the changes have also been thrust upon us often with no prior social outcry for the change. I have never once seen a big protest or seen a number of trans individuals standign in the doorway of No. 10 with their petition for change that then has lead to the intriduction of the new terms... they always seem to come out of nowhere and preemptively change to avoid upsetting what is in reality a small number of people. But they don't ask those for who the new terms apply If they had been a big social converstation before these changes happened i suspect that we would be approaching these words very differently
@@Lola-ny5lz Lot's of devaluing of women in the last four years, more than ever before. We are being pushed aside to create space for the new 'woman'. That's only because this administration signed into law allowing this to happen. Just as easily, those laws can be signed out and things can get back to normal. Many trans people are speaking out against this as well, they are embarrassed about this. All one has to do is listen to Marcus, Blaire, Buck Angel, Alexis and others who are fighting against this.
In addition to finding "cis' offensive, I'm truly outraged with the phrase "assigned at birth". In 99.5% of births, you're either born male or female, it's not like the doctor waves a magic wand that determines gender at his whim. Now, are there cases (DSD) where gender may be ambiguous at birth? Yes. But the percentage is extremely low comparatively.
Assigned at birth triggers me. Especially as a lesbian. Your sex is not assigned its observed. They don’t assign your sex at whim. It’s a complete fallacy.
Yes, because they imply that doctors have gender all wrong, know nothing, and that your gender is not to be determined by an expert, but your own imagination. Assigned at birth means everyone else is wrong, and only I can determine my genital is of no consequence to my imagination, and everyone else has to agree, otherwise you're also wrong.
I personaly don't care for labels of any sort, but I do find it rather hypocritical when some people require and expect to be reffered to in a certain way, while completely disregarding how others want to be reffered to. (I don't think your opinions make you a pickme, I enjoy how considerate you are and it's always sweet how you say you're being sassy when you're still being so polite)
At first I was like, okay, no problems. But as time went by, I realized I'm not a cis-woman, but simply a woman. I won't take other people's definitions and labels to mark me as someone in the gender spectrum by THEIR TERMS. AND NO ONE EVEN ASKED ME IF I WANT TO BE CALLED CIS. Im a biological woman and I will defend my right not to be called cis. Period.
I agree with your stance on the term “cis”. I personally don’t get offended easily and I’m able to empathize with differing views and where they are coming from a majority of the time. However, the part that baffles me the most is the very ones who tell everyone around them they don’t want to be referred to as a certain pronoun because it’s offensive and a “hate crime” will do the very thing to another person in the process. Not all, but most will become belligerent and disrespectful, honestly aggressive in most encounters when it comes to the topic of pronouns. It’s just wild that the ones demanding certain pronouns for themselves are so quick to force pronouns upon others with no regard to how they feel about it. Like you stated in the video, when someone rejects the term cis, it’s no different than someone rejecting their biological pronouns. Also, I love your videos Alexis and how you try to take a neutral stance on these topics. Even when you do discuss your opinions, you’re so kind and respectful when making your videos! You’re beautiful inside and out! 💕
@@Necrophyllis.Men who call themselves women, are still men. Despite their druthers, despite the hair and make up…who are you to limit the bandwidth of what’s included in the experience of being male?
I’m not a fan of it. In my experience it’s always used as a slur or derogatory. I also think labels can be divisive and keeps us fighting each other rather than supporting each other.
I am old enough to remember when they devalued us women by calling us "fish". Very devaluing. (I think many of these types are not suffering gender dysphoria and are just engaging in their 'kick') "Cis" just feels more of the same. They hate it that they were not born women, and hate it that we were so they have to knock us down and hate. I am not talking about Trans who suffered gender dysphoria who are not hateful. None of my trans friends have used 'cis' ever because they know women don't like it. I think people who use 'cis' are no better than people who purposely misgender trans for kicks (who I ALWAYS correct btw when I hear that crap). I am talking about men who want to cosplay female-hood and make women feel afraid in female spaces, sports, etc and want to snatch our gender away from us by claiming it, just because now they can.
Born a woman almost 79 years ago, I just do not feel the need to label myself (or anyone else). By the way, the hair is gorgeous, you look lovely in the dress (don’t change a thing!). I think the “cis” word is almost an apology!
As an ally and someone who was born female, I find the term "CIS" incredibly offensive and problematic. It is frequently used not in a scientific or neutral context, but as a tool to belittle and degrade women who were born female. Rather than fostering understanding or inclusivity, the term has often been weaponized, particularly by segments of the younger transgender community, to dismiss or diminish the experiences of women who have lived their entire lives as female. This ideology seems to be driven by a push to label and categorize people in ways that feel divisive and harmful. Instead of promoting mutual respect, the term is often used to invalidate and demean, as though being born female is something that requires an extra label, a label that is too often wielded in mean-spirited or derogatory ways. It's troubling to see language that was originally intended for understanding now being used to insult and degrade women, rather than to foster meaningful dialogue and connection.
Oddly it reminds me of a line out of the 1990s Mummy: They are led by a woman. What does a woman know? When the term "cis" is used, it's essentially "I was a man and now I'm a woman, and a better woman than anyone with the misfortune to be born one." Not every trans is like that, of course, but so many of the competitive trans women lately are just that, dismissive of people born female human. Annoys the heck out of me.
A teen-early 20s trender that has never experienced gender dysphoria a day of their lives, using others' clinical diagnoses as a costume, calling out a multiple decade medically transitioned transexual man is wild.
"Pick me" is the latest insult that gets randomly and indiscriminately tossed around by just about anyone who doesn't like the target's politics but also doesn't have a better argument, or just doesn't like them because Reasons. Anyone who says it has officially lost the argument, so let's not take them too seriously. Keep doing what you do girl, you're honest, fair, and a fantastic representative for trans women and the LGBT community!
I find it hugely offensive. If you believe everyone has the right to be referred to in a way that they are comfortable with, then respect everyone and what pronouns or ‘labels’ they want to be or not be used. My pronouns are she, her, or refer to me as a woman. I have absolutely no issue in referring to you in anyway that you wish. Please be fair. ps. Love you Alexis.
Also, being non binary is a feeling. Being a biological woman is a fact. So no, it is not the same as rejecting my biology, it is the opposite. I am my biology and I have zero issues with it! So why make your problem MY problem, when I am not the one with issues, YOU are!
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 No, there are no variations of male and female, aside from intersex. We don't have to special categorize normal people, which is the vast majority, just because you imagine yourself to be something you are biologically not, and never will be. Woman and man works the way it is supposed to. We will not have special markers that comes from an alternative language based on a warped sense of reality. We don't adhere to that, we adhere to actual reality, male and female. If you want to call yourself something special, go ahead, the rest of us reject special titles. It does not apply to us.
@@cyano741 It's about gender. Like word heterosexual about sexual orientation. We use word cisgender (or more often cis) inside trans community, to label people, who are not struggle from gender dysphoria, unlike us. There is nothing about hate. We used this word even in 1970s (personally me, I transitioned in 2000s and saw this word a lot of times), but only in 2024 weird far right activists forced a stupid idea that it's offensive. It's fake from the start. I think, it's like an attempt to erase word heterosexual, as form of attack against lesbian or gay people. Or maybe erase the word white, as form to claim, that black people are even not human. Just this time, far right targeting us and construct these false narratives.
The fact that we are even having this discussion points to a fundamental dissolution of the fabric of physical reality. I was born a woman and have remained a woman, living a woman's life. I don't approve anyone whom I don't know and who does not know me, using labels for me in accordance with their puritanical prejudices. If you're a good human, I will respect you. If you're a hypocrite, I will hold you in contempt. End of.
Yes, Cis is offensive. I am a woman. Period. I am not Cis, a chest feeder, birthing person, and especially not non-man. If someone expects me to use the term they want, they should not insist that I be called by term that I don't accept.
@@elizabethvinson3867 untrue - I have seen chest feeder as a derogatory term for any woman that breastfeeds a child or just a woman. Not to mention the term "breeder". There's lots of nasty little comments about us with the "bonus hole". (Another gross little euphemism)
I'm not allowed to call _fellow trans women,_ "trannies," even though I use that term about myself because it makes me giggle. If I can't use it because trans women are offended, I can't use "Cis," simply because women are also offended by that term. Those are the new rules, apply them fairly.
@@natsohigh5552 two different words but same sound ☺️ It’s rather easy to tell the difference based on context as no one follows the slang term sis with woman. Cis itself was coined by a pedo apologist. “Hey sis”, “what’s up sis?” … never followed by “woman”. Just like i never put man after “bro” when chatting with my brothers… that would be weird.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
I am female/woman. I have reproduced 3 times. I have no problem with trans women. I support the ones who are really living a transgender way of life because they really feel they need to due to a mental condition. Cis is used in a negative way.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@Ukhome-s4p each community has its own slang. Trans community used the word cisgender (or more often shorter form - cis) for decades and decades. Why do you want to forbid our community to have our own slang? Did you ever try to forbid hockey, or student community, to have a slang? And we never meant anything hateful behind this word. The only negative emotion which can be behind this word in trans community - a jealous to born the right way.
I don't like the word 'cis'; it feels like someone is calling me names. It was the same feeling I had the first time someone called me 'Caucasian.' I am Polish and briefly lived in Canada when that happened. It was shocking to me that someone called me 'Caucasian.' I had never called myself that before, and no one from my country ever thought of ourselves as "Caucasian". Then someone used a label that didn’t reflect who I am. I've never been to the Caucasus region, let alone come from there. Being called 'cis' gives me the same bad feeling.
Spot on! "Of course youre cis..." gives off the same vibe as "of course youre black..." It can only mean an insult. I have never heard "cis" being used in a posative way. Its only used to degrade someone.
I don't see the need for it. There's male/female, then there's trans male/trans female. There's already a distinction between the two. It's like the ethnicity section on forms in New Zealand. The only options for me are European/Pakeha or Other. I wasn't born in Europe, and Pakeha is often used in a derogatory way, so I have to select Other: New Zealander. Which I find ridiculous.
I'm not offended by the term itself, but I just don't feel the need for it. We already have a term to describe us: woman/women. Women are women, transwomen are transwomen. Unfortunately, a lot of people, who use the term 'cis woman', seem to be the same people who agressively attack people who express their concerns about how 'radical trans ideology' might affect sex based rights and the minds of vulnerable children. The use of the term 'cisgender' is never a good sign.....
The definition of the word "woman" explains what I am, explains my general story as a woman (socially, biologically, sexually,...) which is a completely different one as the story of a trans-woman. Therefore there is no need for "cis" and makes me feel like the person using it wants to make me less a woman, that's why I find it offensive.
The issue with that is.... words are made up. LANGUAGE is made up. We've got words that stem to Latin that we've found out aren't actually true. Like names planets out of our solar system whose names by definition don't fit because they mean STAR or body of water, etc. Here is the thing, you will never find a woman in nature. Because it is a human-only thing. It's a social construct and social role. The binary is something we were groomed to believe. Because that is how it has always been in western civilization? Just because we've done it that way doesn't mean it was the right way. Your genitals don't say anything about you. When is the last time your urethra said anything about you? Willing to bet that it hasn't. So why do we do that? It's not the sign of an intelligent species to say " Hey, you piss out of this. --- so you can only look like this, act like that, these are what is acceptable for you to do and here is how you'll be treated and seen. " , based on how you URINATE? it's ridiculous I guarantee you that anyone who is making you feel like "cis" is making you less of a woman or is offensive, is probably some bigoted woman or man who doesn't want others to exist differently than they do. It's just a term, a term that medical professionals use. It just means you identify as you were assigned . There is zero negative about that, people don't even regularly use it You don't have to if you don't want to, it's not necessary. It's just there if you want to because SOME people feel like they might need it or that it explains. IF the word isn't for you, that's TOTALLY okay, you don't have to use it. But it FACTUALLY is not a hate-word. IT implies nothing negative and any ill feelings are specific to you? I'm a CIS-man, nobody is taking that away from me. Why would I be offended by a word that changes nothing about how I live my life? Oh, this describes that? Sure, okay.
57 year old FTM here. I transitionned long time ago and i never use the term cysgender. I simply say natural born man or woman. I anderstand that non transgedered people can find the "cysgender" labeling hurtfull. I call still call myself transgender but that just belongs to me. Its my own journey and i by no means want to impose anything to anyone. A friend once told me "why do you still call yourself transgender since you're a man now" (i realise how cool that friend is 😊).. my answer was "because what i have between my legs is a piece of my harm". We had a good laugh and that's it. No big deal. I'm a trans guy and that's that... anyone sees me like thex want to see me. Some people still consider me as a woman witch used to bother me. It does not anymore. I'm fine with who i am and i will still call non transgender people "natural born" because that's their reality. They don't have to bear a label because we transgender choose to bear one. By the way i love your channel Alexis. You and Liam are two sunrays 😃 big hugs from Switzerland 😘
@@FernandoGarcia-si6fp what do you mean? Trans community used this word decades and decades. When I transitioned in 2000s, nobody considered it as slur. I think, it's just far right hype. Like if far right try to make "white people" a slur, to just pretend, that black people are even not people.
At first, I accepted cis. However, after 5 years, I do not like it at all because it became a slur... plus it seemed they only used it for women and not men...❤
Good point, I hadn’t noticed but it’s true. Might have something to do with the fact that most women are less likely to be aggressively offended than most men?
I've seen it used for men a whole bunch of times-- albeit in a somewhat derogatory way though like "cis heterosexual males would never understand", "ugh a cis het white man" etc.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 I don’t believe we need it, and I find it offensive, I’m entitled to decide I don’t want to be called it, the same as others are allowed to decide what they’re called.
@@TanyaRando what do you mean? Trans community used this word decades and decades. When I transitioned in 2000s, nobody considered it as slur. I think, it's just far right hype. Like if far right try to make "white people" a slur, to just pretend, that black people are even not people. Just somebody in 2024 decided to turn us into subhumans this way.
@@TanyaRando It's our slang word inside our community, we used it decades and decades. And this is an attempt to disrupt it from a far right activists. Like in the past far right activists tried to ban word heterosexual, to make gay and lesbian unhappy. Only in 2024 people started to be thinking this way: because a hate wave against trans people. When I transitioned in 2000s, nobody cared about this word.
Here's my thoughts on the term cis. Has somebody who's heterosexual, yet very supportive of other people's choice to be who they want to be, I did not ask for that label nor do I enjoy having that label. What makes trans individuals feel that we can be labeled something they want to call us yet they want to be called the pronouns they choose to be called by? A lot of hypocrisy there if you ask me.
When I was growing up, people hated being labeled. They just wanted to fit in and live their life. Now, everyone needs to be labeled this, that and the other. If they're not standing out, they're not happy and it feels like people are fighting to see who can stand out more...
HELL YES it is offensive! I lived my whole live not trying to lable people, because of the bullying I experienced in my youth and now we get to this.... At this point, I am done with selfish inconsiderate people who want me to bow down, but lable me without my consent.
Hi from New York. ❤. I'm a 64 year old biker woman. I think you are absolutely beautiful. You have a kind heart and a smart brain. I enjoy your RUclips channel and wish you all the best. Oh yeah, I don't care for the word cis at all.
Also, a saying like "men have prostates" doesn't mean that trans men aren't men, just as "humans have two eyes" doesn't mean that someone who's lost an eye isn't human. Sometimes you have to talk about things in broad strokes, not mention every exception. So you shouldn't have to say "cis men who've not had their prostate removed have a prostate".
The term cisgender was coined in English in 1994 in a Usenet newsgroup about transgender topics as Dana Defosse, then a graduate student, sought a way to refer to non-transgender people that avoided marginalizing transgender people or implying that transgender people were an other. The term was made up by trans people on an Internet forum.. its a Antonym (opposite). Not something "scientist, doctors and biologist" have used for centuries. Whenever I'm talked to by a doctor, it's "This lady came in today" or "woman" or "female" never once have I been called cis by any professional, only the trans community. I told them to respect my identity (label) as woman.. They told me "If I don't like being called Cis then I have to ask myself why I want to be trans so bad". This manipulation of words are some marxist type of behaviour.
The only time I've ever been called cisgender is when someone is using it as a slur and calling me names. It's offensive and somewhat hurtful. I'm just me... a woman... If others are fine with it, then more power to them, but it's weird that when I ask not to be labeled that, I get talked down to and treated like that doesn't matter. It's weird.
i dont find the word in and of itself offensive. However when its being used with a tone that very much lets you know that the person saying it thinks youre gross and looks down on you that it becomes a problem in my eyes. Tone and context means alot.
First off I must say. I absolutely believe you are so stunningly beautiful inside and out. I love seeing you and Liam. I very much dislike being called Cisgender. To me it is a negative derogatory name. I have always been love is love you be you boo. I don’t have a negative bone in my body when it comes to gays, lesbians, transsexuals. What I find is very hurtful is I was following a trans man on TikTok. So he is a biological female. He is married to a female. But he started calling women sis, gender and egg layers. And I won’t stand for those. I refuse to be held hostage by pronouns.
I have AuDHD, so maybe I'm just off, but I don't even understand lumping Trans people in with queers. I'm a 54 year old gay man. It seems to me that the rainbow is about sexuality but trans is about body identity. I feel like Alexis is just a Trans Woman. She doesn't seem to be gay, or even bi. She's just a woman with a man. So how is that queer? I don't even understand the need to add colors for things like bondage and such. That's the point of the rainbow. The wide range of sexual expression in a way that isn't the "norm", which is part of identity, but isn't about not being in sync with your body. That seems to me like two completely different subjects. But I tend to oversimplify.
All this labeling has gotten ridiculous. I do not feel the need to label myself or anyone else. I am offended by those who insist on using labels. It makes me question if they are truly happy with who they are. We are simply people. Labels have no influence on who we are.
I just want to say that we often give lgbt + men a pass when it comes to misogyny. Misogyny doesn’t go away just because you’re gay queer or trans. We see a form of toxic masculinity and misogyny with heterosexual men because that’s the only type we are told of. The classic macho man who thinks he’s above women. Well, just cos you’re queer that doesn’t mean you don’t have your own issues with misogyny too. If women, those born as women are telling you not to use a term as they don’t like it and YOU keep pushing this upon them because you know better or because you are now a woman and you feel it’s fine…. You need to macho man check yourself and stop being misogynistic. I know many people will disagree with me but modern drag is awfully misogynistic in how men dress and see us. It started out as a way to stop women from performing and using men to play us women to now having this hyper sexualised version of us with penises and we as women are not allowed to see this as derogatory. I get it. It’s “art” but I personally don’t view it favorably.
Isn't it funny that cis seem to be only applied to women? I know that the discussion is on both men and women but it somehow seem to only apply to women and way too often be used in a derogatory manner.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. Cis can be men or women. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
Alexis! Your honesty is carving your own lovely lane for identity. Not taking over another space, but forging your own, and it's leadership 101. You're so smart and ahead of your time. I really enjoyed your perspectives in this post! ❤
I find it crazy that there is so much emphasis on peoples sexuality in their identity. I get it if trans but to most seems crazy. I identify as Lea. I happen to be female. But my identity is Lea. Side note I know you've spoken about it a couple of times but I think it would be interesting to hear the differences between life as a male and a female.
You are amazing! Don’t ever change and thank you for being honest and understanding. You are helping to correct the negative prejudice associated with the topic of gender and it is wonderful. 🥰🥰
I'm 56. At 40 I lost most of my reproductive parts due to pre-cancerous cells. At 50 everything else was gone after cancer. I still have most of my boobs.I have no ovaries no fallopian tubes no uterus and no cervix. I hear people screaming your not a woman because you don't have all the right parts. I don't have all the parts. I'm still a woman not a cis woman a woman parts be damned. You're a woman parts be damned. I try to be conscientious in the way someone presents so I use the correct pronouns. Sometimes I get it wrong. I apologize and move on. I don't think cis or trans are necessary labels.
You got sick, that’s why you don’t have the “right” parts. Being sick, doesn’t make you less than a healthy woman, taking your uterus and all other parts away was a treatment. Someone who is born without an arm one instinctively knows that they should have been born with two. Someone who grows a tumor on their face, one instinctively knows they shouldn’t have it there. Your sickness, a pathology doesn’t justify their lies about biology.
Thank you so much for using my comment! I love to follow you because you respect women, and I love your content and love the perspective you have! I have found a lot of people have expectations for us in the LGBT to have certain opinions, but we all are still individuals with our own experiences and perspectives. Love your content!
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
It's not offensive that some people want to use the term sometimes. If people want to call themselves that fine, but when other people refer to strangers that way, who don't request to be called it, that is offensive. I don't believe that it should be up to anyone to make any judgements about how I or anyone else might hypothetically feel in their skin. Why should transgender people control the dialogue about how my identity is labeled? Who do some trans people or their supporters think it should be up to them to make any assumptions about my gender. Also I feel the way it's used frames trans people as the default. That's because it's origin is in the trans community. So it's extremely bizarre to me to see it creep into non trans related dialogues as if all things must be controlled by a certain subsets gender theory. I don't want to be called CIS just because I'm not trans. No assumptions about my gender identity. No assigning to me your personal gender theory as my identity.
The way I jumped when my comment came up! And thanks for the compliment on my hair 🥺 You look as beautiful as ever. In regards to your last comments, I'm very similar in the fact I model myself after my Mam and the women I grew up around. Very much "just get on with it" people. I think labels do separate us, and each to their own if they want them or not, but most of us are just getting on with our lives. I don't shout about being trans, but I don't find it offensive when people point it out either. If that makes sense. ❤
"Cis" in NOT needed in any way. Not in a medical setting or in conversation. One can use "biological woman" if you need to make a distinction, but "ciswoman" is unacceptable to me as it is offensive.
@@Necrophyllis. we already had the word biological if you needed something to put before woman. Cis is an unnecessary term coined by a pedo apologist… and if people are spitting the term at us like it’s something that makes us lesser, it is a slur. And these days it has been used as such, making it offensive.
It's like heterosexual. Cis man, cis woman - how we use it. It means person, who is normal, don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 if we had the word biological, why are you advocating for an additional unnecessary word coined by a pedo apologist? It’s disgusting to be pushing it in my personal opinion.
Looked it up and the term "cisgender" was only coined in 1994 - so 30 years ago, and only in the lexicon and dictionary since about 2013. You are so very astute, articulate and caring, Alexis!
I cannot agree with you about using cis in a medical context. It is an insulting and derogatory term. The description should be man/woman or trans man/woman. That is the only differentiation needed. Sorry!!!
The qualifier "cis" is absolutely not needed. We didn't change. Trans folks changed. If someone has an arm cut off for any reason they are now an amputee. If they have their Left arm cut off they are an amputee. People with both arms aren't called by a different term. People with their Left arm but not their Right arm are also called AMPUTEE. People with both arms but had a leg or even just part of a leg cut off are called AMPUTEE. If an AMPUTEE uses a prosthetic they are STILL called AN AMPUTEE. @@Virsho
@@Virshoread again, that’s not the point, the point is ppl with both arms are not called two arms person, its just an analogy of how something or someone who experience a “change” gets to call or name that change in order to establish the difference.
If someone referred to me as cis I wouldn’t really be offended as such, but it would be a very clear marker to have nothing to do with that person. Not only because it’s often used in a way that implies there’s something wrong with being that (which I find weird when it’s often coming from someone who has gone to considerable effort…in some cases…to be perceived as ‘that’) but because it’s often the tip of the iceberg, a flag that lets you know this person will be loud, entitled, just waiting to be misgendered so they can whine about it on TikTok etc etc. And those people are not ones I want to have anything to do with. Idiots come in all shapes, sizes, sexes and genders, and personally I avoid all of them where possible. Two terms are sometimes necessary and perfectly acceptable, woman and trans woman. Descriptive, accurate and non confrontational. Most people use language based on what’s in front of them and how they perceive it. I love that dress! You look lovely 😊xx
Great Video Alexis. I always enjoy hearing your perspectives. I agree with you that the term has meaning in medical terms but not much reason to use it outside of that. Also it being used as an insult by certain activists online has soured me on it. I just try to respect everyone, regardless of how they identify.
If you aren’t transitioning then there’s no need to have extra pronoun’s or descriptives… there’s no need for CIS outside of medical. So what’s the NEED for a pronoun? It just feels like “I’m not apart of your community but I wanna be without doing all the work.”
With my experience with it has been forced upon me or others who have kindly asked not to be called that. Then we get immediately hit with- so you're transphobic then! Its a conflict starter I dont want to deal with. I respect the choice of label others wish to be called by. All I ask is they respect that I dont want to be labeled.
Yes! I hate the term CIS. There women and there are men. Then there are trans-women and there are trans-men, period. My two very close trans-women friends also feel this way. I do have a close (passing) trans-male friend who only to be considered a heterosexual male and refuses to even talk about anything trans, but even he hates the term CIS. I really wish the trans activist would stop trying to change the English language to suite themselves. On the subject of being biological. A horse is a biological creature but that doesn't mean if I identify as a horse, that makes me a horse, but less a biological horse!! Common sense is NOT so common!!!
I am lucky enough to be totally happy and at ease with being female, and I symphathise with people who are not happy with their sex. I understand why some people are transgender but I reject the term cisgender because my being female and a woman does not depend on how well I relate or conform to the gender stereotypes of my own sex, or how other people perceive me. I just am. I don't have a gender identify because I don't live my life by gender stereotypes.
I deeply respect the curiosity and kindness you continue to show in your videos. I personally use cis when introducing/to describe myself, as both a sign to those who are questioning or ealry in their transition to know I'm a safe space and to acknowledge my privilege of living a life in congruence with the gender I was born with. Being true to yourself can be tough but from my experience, it's easier when you find people who accept you as the unique odd ball you are 😂
Great video today! I'd also love to see more clothing and make-up content! For example, going from male to female is super confusing to me, there's so much I need to learn about but I'd like to understand things like clothing sizes and measurements. I've watched other content creators and while I've taken in everything I can from their videos, I'm still a little intimidated by clothes shopping and fitting. Some things size with a number (20), others with letters (XXL, for example). Is there a way to decipher that lol? Thank you Alexis! 💜
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 how are you in so many comments trying to tell people what they find offensive is necessary? There is a term for it and if it’s necessary, we add biological. No need for your nonsense. You don’t get to decide what offends others.
@@ohjesswhatamess we used this word for decades in our trans community. I used it when I transitioned in 2000s. It was never offensive. And in the past, far right people tried to ban the word "heterosexual". It's just a way to went inside our community and disrupt it.
@@shawna5706 it's just slang of trans community. Each community has it's own slang. Offensive - is an attempt to force ban slang, disrupt a community. Also, it's part of scientific language in papers about trans and intersex people
I dislike two things. One, that a fair number of people demand that others don't use words they don't like for them, but don't accept others not wanting this word used for them. And two, that 'not trans' isn't its actual scientific meaning, but a lot of people using it claim it is.
Another great video, I always find myself agreeing with everything you say, you have such great insight. I'm so glad you have created a platform to share your thoughts, you are doing an amazing job :) I dislike labels of any kind, because we really don't need them & should just be happy with who we are. I'm 52 & my boyfriend is 29, people joke & call me a cougar, but I actually find this really offensive, because if an older man is with a younger woman, he doesn't get labelled like that!
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I hate to show my age, but I have been trans through all sorts of labels and names. We used to call non-trans women "women," then we used terms like "GG" (Genetic Girls,) or "Born Women," or "Natal Women," or "Natural Born Women." None of these seemed to offend anyone, but to be fair, the women who were involved with the trans culture didn't care, and other women _didn't know we called them these names._
I think the big difference with "Cis," has two parts: One, women are actually hearing about it, they are being told their identity has changed when they were never asked. People do not want to be viewed through an LGBT context when they aren't LGBT, and _so what if it doesn't harm them,_ it's being FORCED on them. Even lesbians or bi women who are plugged into the LGBT community were never asked if they wanted a new identitarian signifier.
The second, bigger issue, is that accepting "cis" for yourself, is buying into the anti-gender cult. It's the coded language of gender abolitionism, It's tacit agreement that people born with penises can ACTUALLY become women. That they (we) always WERE women. I AM trans, and I reject this completely. I want to be called a "trans woman," which tells everyone that I am not the same as a woman who was born and developed normally, and I am also not the same as a 'man'. Sex and gender are real, they are not just made up. Vocabulary is not a magical spell that turns your testicular cancer into ovarian cancer.
The subversion of language is a small battle every day, a fight to maintain who we are, and what society believes about our basic human nature. I'll fight every day for trans people to live as they choose, but I won't fight to control the language and self-identity of anyone. Not many people would ever articulate it this way, but I promise you, 99% of people don't care what _I_ do with my life, how I choose to dress and date and live my life, but everyone cares about their own freedom to speak and define themselves. It's wrong to force them into a radical ideology with a single word.
We are right to reject it. We're not slaves to the anti-gender cult.
well articulated and with good insight. 🙌
You had me in the first bit lmao. 😂😂😂
Beautifully put
Well put thankyou 🎉
I mostly agree with you! Even if it has nothing to do with LGBT, it’s just frustrating to get more classifications on my gender. I’m a woman, bisexual woman. I’m not a cis woman. I’m a woman. WHAT IS A WOMAN? I’m sorry but WHAT IS IT IF WE NEED TO SAY CIS WOMEN😭 my gender isn’t a costume. My periods are real, I bled through my pants, have PMDD, and Hate Being on the pill just to get PMDD under control. Women have a different lifestyle and it’s ok. We’re not cis women😭
As a woman I do find it offensive because it is something that we as women did not choose to be called. We simply are women, we don't require a prefix to clarify we are women by birth.
@@summrflowers7253 Are you the type to get "offended" if a transgender man is pregnant and a nurse asks men if they're pregnant.
Personally, I don't see anything wrong. People as a whole are pretty petty with their fellow human. Rather than be humble and kind, people have a stick so far up their you know what.
My mother who has GIVEN BIRTH loves and supports her fellow woman (aka trans and cis alike) and she's proud to have a daughter (me, her trans daughter).
Life isn't that difficult. People choose to react a certain way cus they feel entitled. Cis is a medical term and it's been around for a very, very long time.
It's almost like Anglo Saxon. A lot of Americans used to get offended being called that but it is what they are though. I'm Spanish and I'm proud.
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I’m trans and I agree 100 percent with your comment. I will never be a woman I am a trans woman. I have never and will never be able to experience what you do as a biologically born woman and I respect that difference and do not in any way have delusional beliefs that I will ever be a woman…
@@AlexM-ht9ffyou’re the one who feels entitled to redefine what biological women are.
@@AlexM-ht9ff mmmm … to clarify Americans are NOT Anglo-Saxon… Americans are ethnically diverse as a nation. We have Asians, Latinos, Anglos, indigenous peoples, I mean the list goes on. Within those ethnicities we have a host of sub groups - Europeans who are not Anglo-Saxon by heritage, we have Vietnamese, Chinese, Mexican, Brazilian, etc. please get your facts right before making sweeping statements regarding ethnicity or race.
I think my problem with it is when I have a transwoman demanding that I don’t refer to her as a “trans woman” but as a “woman” but then refers to me as a “cis woman”
Because what it feels like they’re saying now, is that they are a woman, and I am something else ….
It’s like that movie where your new roommate starts to take over your identity….
YES.
This is exactly what is happening. Men are kicking women out of their own category so they can usurp it for themselves! Men have a long history of kicking women out of women's arenas for male gain but this latest attack on womanhood really takes the ultimate biscuit... 😡
I accept trans people, dont understand why some trans people can’t accept themselves and say they are transwoman/transman?
@@Jena-c6j this
thank you.. This actually sums up the feeling
It's also when individuals DEMAND that we use their chosen terms/ pronouns but then refuse to accept when women say please don't use "cis". the respect needs to go both ways
As a woman I find it incredibly insulting that those who are not women are forcing onto women (and others) the use of a qualifier that we as women have not agreed to be called by.
Additionally every time it is used it is done in a derogatory way.
Finally if these woke trolls want me to call them whatever they want me to call them, then stop calling me what I don’t want to be called. It’s mutual respect. The “victim” is now the bully.
Thank you Alexis for being the voice of reason and saying what we as women are not allowed to say otherwise we are terfs or homophobic or transphobic. You are a hero in both the trans community as well as with women.
It is because of the respect you have for women that you are a true woman. You are not trans you are one of us. ❤
I don’t think the term ‘cis’ was created by trans women FYI. and I do agree with you overall.
@@MaëlleLiraz I agree with you I don’t think it was created by trans people “true trans people” I think as I said above it was the woke trolls who have used it to be derogatory towards women. The words origin actually came from a medical study. But it is how it’s forced on us and how it’s used that I vehemently disagree with.
Agreed with you right up to saying Alex was not Trans - she IS, she refers to herself proudly as TRANS. She does have my love and respect and has worked hard and long to be accepted living her life in the way she feels happy. I applaud her determination and strength.
@@carolinejohn4537 you are right she is trans but what I meant is that the goal of a trans woman is to be so transitioned that she is accepted and lives completely as a woman. Alexis has done this and as such I respect her and love her and don’t see her as any different from me as a biological woman.
@@jenleon6034 Right, I get you, I'd feel perfectly happy with her in a ladies toilet etc.
My experience with "cis" is that it was used to put down or negate ME as a biological woman.
I have always defended the right to gender identity. I would like to have my gender identify respected as well.
I always found it was a way to try and make your average man and woman feel bad about being normal when it comes to their biological sex. I've never heard it used neutrally, only in a derogatory way, or used to dismiss someone and their way of thinking.
@@somegamerchick3568 I have never heard it used negatively. There are actual slurs for cisgender people. I am not a trans woman but I have seen a lot of people get mad just for having it pointed out that they benefit from being cis or that they may not consider certain experiences because of that privilege though. Like I gave birth twice and never had to worry about a hospital policy requiring certain decisions be made by the "mother" and that would mean a whole mess for a trans father. Oh and that people would throw tantrums when they changed the policy to say the "pregnant person" or "person who is giving/gave birth".
Because it is offensive unless you’re trans I’m just
I am a transwoman. And I fully agree with this. I am thankful for people that want to recognize me as a woman. But I think cis robs biological women and men of their respective gender. You are the women and men of this world and we should not be robbing you of that status by adding a label to something that should not need one! People can use it for themselves if they want to, although I think by that they are making themselves less than what they are: women and men! Trans people are being privileged by men and women to be called something that they are not for the full 100%. You should not be treated as if it is a privilege to be normal. And in my opinion cis feels like it is just another granted privilege! We really should do away with that term except maybe indeed in medical situations where it might be needed to make a distinction. Although I think speaking of woman vs transwoman and transman vs man already makes that distinction.
Yes, exactly!
As a trans person for decades I will not use that term. They are statistically normal and we are the anomaly.
@millenniafever thank you for seeing it this way and for sharing your (unpopular - some might even call it "bigoted") perspective. It's refreshing to hear perspectives such as yours and Alexis'.
@@millenniafever exactly, and there's nothing wrong with anomalies! We're all human, that's what counts.
@@saradolansky1891Thank you, there would be so much more tolerance, acceptance and kindness if your attitude were the norm among trans people but there are always the radicals in this and religion etc who have to make EVERYTHING a conflict! Who want to make BIOLOGICAL MALES and FEMALES feel THEY are lesser beings or have to justify their existence. It makes everyone defensive then sometimes offensive!
I believe that a majority of people like you (and me) who actually transition, would agree with you. Everyone is not a question mark, most are men and women, it's we who are a bit different.
Do you also not use the words heterosexual, white, neurotypical, hearing, seeing etc?
I have to take issue with @IrishRose90 @12:25. I have heard this argument before, and I reject it. To say "If you can call one trans, you can call the other cis." To me, this implies that "trans" is pejorative, that it's intrinsically rude to call someone "trans," when it's absolutely just descriptive. Why do they get to call me trans? Because I'm trans! It's no ruder than being called short or tall, it's just a description. If anyone still thinks being identified as transsexual is an insult, then they are the ones with bigoted presumptions.
Okay, and other people are cis? No one is going up on the street saying " Hey cis-lady "
They're mad at a term that they won't even experience on a monthly basis most likely.
I'm a gay man who is heavily surrounded by other LGBT+ and I ONLY hear "CIS" maybe twice a month if that.
I only see it online via the same angry transphobic Lindas & MAGA meat-riders who treat JK Rowling like a patron diety using it. That's the hilarious part. IT's fake outrage via a problem that doesn't exist but that they are self-inflicting.
If seeing other people use it makes them feel triggered, that's a personal problem. Because it means nothing offensive.
Oh well said! Intelligent and wise and elegantly put.
Personally, I do find it offensive, even if used medically - I was born female, I'm a woman, I do not need a pre-fix. Trans are the ones who have changed - they have transitioned, so a pre-fix is entirely appropriate, particularly so medically. It's great to see people like you, Marcus and Buck being open with your views as trans people who just want to get on with their lives.
This is a great way of explaining it all, thanks!
@juliefrost8079 exactly. The ones who insist on using "cis" are usually the same ones who insist trans men/women ARE men/women... they just want us to have a label too. Trans people are still male or female same as anyone else.
Well said! Its THAT simple! JEEEESUS!
There are not many situations where it is needed. You pretty much have to be discussing gender really specifically. That being said, trans people are not transgender because they transitioned. That's not what it means. They were just as much their gender as a child as they are at any point in their transition. Their gender did not change. Trans means opposite of or across from and transgender just means your gender is not what was assigned to you at birth. Cis means aligned with basically. (Think cis-Atlantic vs trans-Atlantic.)
Couldn’t you argue this with everything?
Like why say “white woman”? Or “black woman”? Or “Asian woman”? Since race never changes? Why would we need clarifiers?
Why say the “blonde woman” if she’s always been blonde? Or “brown-eyed woman” if she’s always had brown eyes? (Or should we only used those if they’ve dyed their hair or wear contacts?)
Why not say woman for all of these contexts since nothing about them has ever changed?
The term forced us to be a part of the trans discussion. Some of us just want to stay in our own lane and not be forced into the transgender movement and language. A cisgender woman is just a woman. Great video!!
I was taught that many labels are used to separate people. As a women I think the term "cis" is term based on hate. I am a woman. I don't need extra labels to make others happy.
It is not based on hate. I think most of the people who use "cis" don't want to do any harm or offend anyone, they just see this is as a way to speak about different groups of people. But I understand why some people can feel this and respect their opinion.
We can live without it for sure. Just a "woman" says enough, we don't need to use "cis".
Women are women.
Trans women are trans women. This is enough if we want to specify. Anyway, it is a rare situation when we really need to do this.
ps: I am saying this as a trans woman.
@@NellBelle It’s less another label to make someone else happy or one based on hate and more of just a descriptor, like, the opposite of cis is trans and the opposite of trans is cis.
But I will say, it’s also a term that makes minorities less othered. But that’s less “make them happy” and more “let’s not other people, like imagine saying “people and gay people”.
Like, I know a lot of people who use the term cis for themselves, and I use it for them too, I don’t hate them and they don’t hate themselves. It’s just a way to differentiate between two kinds of women.
If someone obviously doesn’t want to be called cis and people keep referring to them specifically, then yeah, it’s a problem. Like even if you’re technically cis based on the definition of cis using it to personally describe someone is shitty. It’s like how nonbinary people are *technically* trans, but a lot of them don’t use the label so doing so for individuals who don’t would be disrespectful.
@@NellBelle cis is a Greek root prefix meaning "on the same side of. I don't know what about being a woman makes that change to fit your narrative.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people.
@@redkitty1170 we don‘t need to put labels on ourselves, EXCLUDING ourselves from specific issues ol diseases.
Do you call yourself non-diabetic, non-alcoholic, non-dyslexic? No? Why not?
Because, having no issue in regards to diabetes, dyslexia or alcoholism, you don‘t need to apply these qualifiers to yourself.
Same with gender identity. Most people don‘t have one, they just grew up being what they are.
As a girl who struggled heavily with wishing to be a boy all through growing up, even having a male nickname ‚Henning‘ which my friends used to call me from 5th to 11th grade, ‚cisgender‘ also doesn‘t apply to me, because it implies I never struggled with my own gender identity.
I came to grow into my womanhood by being prescribed the pill at 16 years old (I‘m GenX, it wasn’t usual back then), due to enormously painful menstruation issues. When I stopped at 25, I went through a whole mother ‚2nd puberty‘, having to realize that I was living with an androgen hormone imbalance which caused my ‚gender dysphoria‘ growing up.
So, I am a WOMAN, not a cis- anything, because I actually lived through years of wanting to be a boy, and GOT OVER IT with actual HRT, being helped with same sex hormones.
Cis doesn‘t apply to me!
It’s logical that those who belong to category “woman” cause they were born this way, do not need any new words for their definition. 😂
Then that would be ALL women. Every single woman (trans or cis) developed naturally into a woman in the same way (assuming we are talking about people with similar levels of fluidity). Your genitals and such are not the same as your gender. That's the issue and why it is usually the TERF crowd that opposes the term. They think being born with certain parts makes you more of whatever gender. That is literally the basis of their ideology.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 Except that it's different. In a vocabulary use, it's like saying "going up upstairs", its a redundance.
@@DjangoAV we used this word inside trans community decades and decades. Only in 2024 a bunch of far right weird people started to make a slur from this word. I transitioned in 2000s, and no one had an idea that it's a slur.
@@redkitty1170 normal people already have their categories, since actually the creation of human civilization. The categories are woman and man. For the rest- no, thank you.
I remember a time when folks were fighting to be free of labels and nowadays it seems like a bunch of folks are fighting to be labeled and to label others whether they want the label or not.
Certain labels have more power than others. All animals are equal, but some are more "equal" than others. 🤷🏿
They don’t properly teach people history anymore. It repeats itself. If we didn’t create labels, how on earth would you know how to find your people on TikTok or know who to hate. If we don’t have labels we won’t know who to hate. Medias main agenda. Don’t give into it.
No one else decides how I am described . I am not a subset of my own gender.
I am woman hear me roar, in numbers too big to ignore and I know too much to go back and pretend. Cause I've heard it all before and I've been down on the floor and no one's ever keep me down again. Yes I am wise but its wisdom born of pain!.... Helen Reddy song. Women have fought so long to be recognised.
I admire your wisdom. You have a balanced view and must have very good people supporting you.
I love how respectful, considerate and kind you are in conveying your opinions. Refreshing to not see a (woke) agenda pushed. Very relatable. While the likes of Blair white also talk “common sense”, it’s sometimes a bit brash and judgmental. The down to earthness that you embody really is flattering ❤
Couldnt agree more
I love Blaire but Alexis is very sweet even when she gets sassy 😂
Though I guess almost a decade of dealing with mindless vitriol made Blaire the destroyer that she is today
It's a cultural thing, Americans are "brash" in general.
100% I agree it should be someones choice if they want to be called cis not forced.
Women have struggled for respect and be equal and the vocabulary of cis ,non man , birthing person ect. Pushes us so far back from where we were even 10 years ago is so sad.
Menstruating person, birthing person everything you said was on point. Being a woman is hard and we have come in a long way to fight for our rights and even to this day being a woman is a challenge.
Good point... i think all of these terms are also coming thick and fast.... so within a few years we have gone from gendered language that are representative of the gendered nature of the topic (i.e. mother being a woman who gives birth) and the changes have also been thrust upon us often with no prior social outcry for the change. I have never once seen a big protest or seen a number of trans individuals standign in the doorway of No. 10 with their petition for change that then has lead to the intriduction of the new terms... they always seem to come out of nowhere and preemptively change to avoid upsetting what is in reality a small number of people. But they don't ask those for who the new terms apply
If they had been a big social converstation before these changes happened i suspect that we would be approaching these words very differently
@@Lola-ny5lz Lot's of devaluing of women in the last four years, more than ever before. We are being pushed aside to create space for the new 'woman'. That's only because this administration signed into law allowing this to happen. Just as easily, those laws can be signed out and things can get back to normal. Many trans people are speaking out against this as well, they are embarrassed about this. All one has to do is listen to Marcus, Blaire, Buck Angel, Alexis and others who are fighting against this.
In addition to finding "cis' offensive, I'm truly outraged with the phrase "assigned at birth". In 99.5% of births, you're either born male or female, it's not like the doctor waves a magic wand that determines gender at his whim. Now, are there cases (DSD) where gender may be ambiguous at birth? Yes. But the percentage is extremely low comparatively.
I find that phrase bizarre. We don't say height or weight is "assigned".
Assigned at birth triggers me. Especially as a lesbian. Your sex is not assigned its observed. They don’t assign your sex at whim. It’s a complete fallacy.
Yes, because they imply that doctors have gender all wrong, know nothing, and that your gender is not to be determined by an expert, but your own imagination. Assigned at birth means everyone else is wrong, and only I can determine my genital is of no consequence to my imagination, and everyone else has to agree, otherwise you're also wrong.
@@davidwinkle2818 But you might identify as a giant later on!!! duhhh
Assigned at birth is stolen from Inter people, the correct term is observed at birth, feel free to correct anyone on the term.
I personaly don't care for labels of any sort, but I do find it rather hypocritical when some people require and expect to be reffered to in a certain way, while completely disregarding how others want to be reffered to. (I don't think your opinions make you a pickme, I enjoy how considerate you are and it's always sweet how you say you're being sassy when you're still being so polite)
At first I was like, okay, no problems. But as time went by, I realized I'm not a cis-woman, but simply a woman. I won't take other people's definitions and labels to mark me as someone in the gender spectrum by THEIR TERMS. AND NO ONE EVEN ASKED ME IF I WANT TO BE CALLED CIS. Im a biological woman and I will defend my right not to be called cis. Period.
DAMN RIGHT
Exactly!
I only find it offensive if I don't want to be called it. And I don't want to be called it. No double standards.
Love you, Alexis!!
I agree with your stance on the term “cis”. I personally don’t get offended easily and I’m able to empathize with differing views and where they are coming from a majority of the time. However, the part that baffles me the most is the very ones who tell everyone around them they don’t want to be referred to as a certain pronoun because it’s offensive and a “hate crime” will do the very thing to another person in the process. Not all, but most will become belligerent and disrespectful, honestly aggressive in most encounters when it comes to the topic of pronouns. It’s just wild that the ones demanding certain pronouns for themselves are so quick to force pronouns upon others with no regard to how they feel about it. Like you stated in the video, when someone rejects the term cis, it’s no different than someone rejecting their biological pronouns.
Also, I love your videos Alexis and how you try to take a neutral stance on these topics. Even when you do discuss your opinions, you’re so kind and respectful when making your videos! You’re beautiful inside and out! 💕
It’s offensive because we’re not a sub-category. We ARE the category.
Medically you don't need the word "cis". Just woman and trans-woman. That's it. It's really simple.
But woman includes all woman, trans and cis.
@@Necrophyllis. Men, no matter how gorgeous the nails, are not a subset of ‘woman’.
@@Necrophyllis. NOPE. woman is woman, trans woman is trans woman.
@@daviddambrosio8247 correct they are not a subset. woman are woman whether trans or cis.
@@Necrophyllis.Men who call themselves women, are still men. Despite their druthers, despite the hair and make up…who are you to limit the bandwidth of what’s included in the experience of being male?
I’m not a fan of it. In my experience it’s always used as a slur or derogatory. I also think labels can be divisive and keeps us fighting each other rather than supporting each other.
I am old enough to remember when they devalued us women by calling us "fish". Very devaluing. (I think many of these types are not suffering gender dysphoria and are just engaging in their 'kick') "Cis" just feels more of the same. They hate it that they were not born women, and hate it that we were so they have to knock us down and hate. I am not talking about Trans who suffered gender dysphoria who are not hateful. None of my trans friends have used 'cis' ever because they know women don't like it. I think people who use 'cis' are no better than people who purposely misgender trans for kicks (who I ALWAYS correct btw when I hear that crap). I am talking about men who want to cosplay female-hood and make women feel afraid in female spaces, sports, etc and want to snatch our gender away from us by claiming it, just because now they can.
Born a woman almost 79 years ago, I just do not feel the need to label myself (or anyone else). By the way, the hair is gorgeous, you look lovely in the dress (don’t change a thing!). I think the “cis” word is almost an apology!
No ways is the word cis an apology, it’s derogatory. Prefixing women with trans for those who transition is enough, the rest of us are just women.
@@ChelleKT1 Thank you
As an ally and someone who was born female, I find the term "CIS" incredibly offensive and problematic. It is frequently used not in a scientific or neutral context, but as a tool to belittle and degrade women who were born female. Rather than fostering understanding or inclusivity, the term has often been weaponized, particularly by segments of the younger transgender community, to dismiss or diminish the experiences of women who have lived their entire lives as female.
This ideology seems to be driven by a push to label and categorize people in ways that feel divisive and harmful. Instead of promoting mutual respect, the term is often used to invalidate and demean, as though being born female is something that requires an extra label, a label that is too often wielded in mean-spirited or derogatory ways. It's troubling to see language that was originally intended for understanding now being used to insult and degrade women, rather than to foster meaningful dialogue and connection.
Oddly it reminds me of a line out of the 1990s Mummy: They are led by a woman. What does a woman know? When the term "cis" is used, it's essentially "I was a man and now I'm a woman, and a better woman than anyone with the misfortune to be born one." Not every trans is like that, of course, but so many of the competitive trans women lately are just that, dismissive of people born female human. Annoys the heck out of me.
TBH when the trans activists started calling out people like Buck Angel for being transphobic I realized none of what they did or said meant anything.
A teen-early 20s trender that has never experienced gender dysphoria a day of their lives, using others' clinical diagnoses as a costume, calling out a multiple decade medically transitioned transexual man is wild.
"Pick me" is the latest insult that gets randomly and indiscriminately tossed around by just about anyone who doesn't like the target's politics but also doesn't have a better argument, or just doesn't like them because Reasons. Anyone who says it has officially lost the argument, so let's not take them too seriously. Keep doing what you do girl, you're honest, fair, and a fantastic representative for trans women and the LGBT community!
I find it hugely offensive. If you believe everyone has the right to be referred to in a way that they are comfortable with, then respect everyone and what pronouns or ‘labels’ they want to be or not be used. My pronouns are she, her, or refer to me as a woman. I have absolutely no issue in referring to you in anyway that you wish. Please be fair. ps. Love you Alexis.
Totally
Also, being non binary is a feeling. Being a biological woman is a fact. So no, it is not the same as rejecting my biology, it is the opposite. I am my biology and I have zero issues with it! So why make your problem MY problem, when I am not the one with issues, YOU are!
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 No, there are no variations of male and female, aside from intersex. We don't have to special categorize normal people, which is the vast majority, just because you imagine yourself to be something you are biologically not, and never will be. Woman and man works the way it is supposed to. We will not have special markers that comes from an alternative language based on a warped sense of reality. We don't adhere to that, we adhere to actual reality, male and female. If you want to call yourself something special, go ahead, the rest of us reject special titles. It does not apply to us.
@@cyano741 It's about gender. Like word heterosexual about sexual orientation. We use word cisgender (or more often cis) inside trans community, to label people, who are not struggle from gender dysphoria, unlike us. There is nothing about hate. We used this word even in 1970s (personally me, I transitioned in 2000s and saw this word a lot of times), but only in 2024 weird far right activists forced a stupid idea that it's offensive. It's fake from the start. I think, it's like an attempt to erase word heterosexual, as form of attack against lesbian or gay people. Or maybe erase the word white, as form to claim, that black people are even not human. Just this time, far right targeting us and construct these false narratives.
The fact that we are even having this discussion points to a fundamental dissolution of the fabric of physical reality.
I was born a woman and have remained a woman, living a woman's life.
I don't approve anyone whom I don't know and who does not know me, using labels for me in accordance with their puritanical prejudices.
If you're a good human, I will respect you. If you're a hypocrite, I will hold you in contempt. End of.
Yes, Cis is offensive. I am a woman. Period. I am not Cis, a chest feeder, birthing person, and especially not non-man. If someone expects me to use the term they want, they should not insist that I be called by term that I don't accept.
Deborah, you'll be dead in a few years. This isn't an issue for you. 😭
@@deborahcarroll2172 The term "chestfeeding" is not even for you. It is for trans fathers who are lactating. Smh...
@@elizabethvinson3867mother and father cam easily become a de-gendered term. It's role of giving birth that determines who is the mother.
I've also heard the term mentruating maiden, and I'm just like ugh, that can't be real
@@elizabethvinson3867 untrue - I have seen chest feeder as a derogatory term for any woman that breastfeeds a child or just a woman. Not to mention the term "breeder". There's lots of nasty little comments about us with the "bonus hole". (Another gross little euphemism)
I'm not allowed to call _fellow trans women,_ "trannies," even though I use that term about myself because it makes me giggle. If I can't use it because trans women are offended, I can't use "Cis," simply because women are also offended by that term. Those are the new rules, apply them fairly.
@trublgrl I always thought that word was just a shortened slang version.
Like, sis for sister or bro for brother.
@@natsohigh5552 two different words but same sound ☺️ It’s rather easy to tell the difference based on context as no one follows the slang term sis with woman. Cis itself was coined by a pedo apologist. “Hey sis”, “what’s up sis?” … never followed by “woman”. Just like i never put man after “bro” when chatting with my brothers… that would be weird.
I love your mutually respectful approach ☺️
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 cause biological woman wasn’t enough? Why are you pushing unnecessary terms coined by a pedo apologist?
I am female/woman. I have reproduced 3 times. I have no problem with trans women. I support the ones who are really living a transgender way of life because they really feel they need to due to a mental condition. Cis is used in a negative way.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 we don’t need this word at all
@@Ukhome-s4p each community has its own slang. Trans community used the word cisgender (or more often shorter form - cis) for decades and decades. Why do you want to forbid our community to have our own slang? Did you ever try to forbid hockey, or student community, to have a slang? And we never meant anything hateful behind this word. The only negative emotion which can be behind this word in trans community - a jealous to born the right way.
@@redkitty1170 the word is unwanted and hateful to the majority of women
@@redkitty1170normal doesn’t need an add name because you can’t define a woman.
I don't like the word 'cis'; it feels like someone is calling me names. It was the same feeling I had the first time someone called me 'Caucasian.' I am Polish and briefly lived in Canada when that happened. It was shocking to me that someone called me 'Caucasian.' I had never called myself that before, and no one from my country ever thought of ourselves as "Caucasian". Then someone used a label that didn’t reflect who I am. I've never been to the Caucasus region, let alone come from there. Being called 'cis' gives me the same bad feeling.
Spot on! "Of course youre cis..." gives off the same vibe as "of course youre black..."
It can only mean an insult. I have never heard "cis" being used in a posative way. Its only used to degrade someone.
I absolutely hate that Caucasian has become synonymous with "white". It's completely incorrect and erases actual Caucasian people from that area!
I don't see the need for it. There's male/female, then there's trans male/trans female. There's already a distinction between the two.
It's like the ethnicity section on forms in New Zealand. The only options for me are European/Pakeha or Other. I wasn't born in Europe, and Pakeha is often used in a derogatory way, so I have to select Other: New Zealander. Which I find ridiculous.
I literally thought your hair was just cut into layers I didn't notice that you had extensions at all. Your hair looks amazing.
I'm not offended by the term itself, but I just don't feel the need for it. We already have a term to describe us: woman/women. Women are women, transwomen are transwomen. Unfortunately, a lot of people, who use the term 'cis woman', seem to be the same people who agressively attack people who express their concerns about how 'radical trans ideology' might affect sex based rights and the minds of vulnerable children. The use of the term 'cisgender' is never a good sign.....
spot on. It is usually a sign that someone is drinking the kool-aid 😂
The definition of the word "woman" explains what I am, explains my general story as a woman (socially, biologically, sexually,...) which is a completely different one as the story of a trans-woman. Therefore there is no need for "cis" and makes me feel like the person using it wants to make me less a woman, that's why I find it offensive.
The issue with that is.... words are made up. LANGUAGE is made up.
We've got words that stem to Latin that we've found out aren't actually true.
Like names planets out of our solar system whose names by definition don't fit because they mean STAR or body of water, etc.
Here is the thing, you will never find a woman in nature. Because it is a human-only thing. It's a social construct and social role. The binary is something we were groomed to believe. Because that is how it has always been in western civilization? Just because we've done it that way doesn't mean it was the right way.
Your genitals don't say anything about you. When is the last time your urethra said anything about you? Willing to bet that it hasn't. So why do we do that? It's not the sign of an intelligent species to say " Hey, you piss out of this. --- so you can only look like this, act like that, these are what is acceptable for you to do and here is how you'll be treated and seen. " , based on how you URINATE? it's ridiculous
I guarantee you that anyone who is making you feel like "cis" is making you less of a woman or is offensive, is probably some bigoted woman or man who doesn't want others to exist differently than they do. It's just a term, a term that medical professionals use. It just means you identify as you were assigned
. There is zero negative about that, people don't even regularly use it You don't have to if you don't want to, it's not necessary. It's just there if you want to because SOME people feel like they might need it or that it explains. IF the word isn't for you, that's TOTALLY okay, you don't have to use it. But it FACTUALLY is not a hate-word. IT implies nothing negative and any ill feelings are specific to you?
I'm a CIS-man, nobody is taking that away from me. Why would I be offended by a word that changes nothing about how I live my life? Oh, this describes that? Sure, okay.
Its all about labels.. lets keep it simple, women and trans-women
Women = trans woman and cis woman thought.
57 year old FTM here. I transitionned long time ago and i never use the term cysgender. I simply say natural born man or woman. I anderstand that non transgedered people can find the "cysgender" labeling hurtfull. I call still call myself transgender but that just belongs to me. Its my own journey and i by no means want to impose anything to anyone. A friend once told me "why do you still call yourself transgender since you're a man now" (i realise how cool that friend is 😊).. my answer was "because what i have between my legs is a piece of my harm". We had a good laugh and that's it. No big deal. I'm a trans guy and that's that... anyone sees me like thex want to see me. Some people still consider me as a woman witch used to bother me. It does not anymore. I'm fine with who i am and i will still call non transgender people "natural born" because that's their reality. They don't have to bear a label because we transgender choose to bear one.
By the way i love your channel Alexis. You and Liam are two sunrays 😃 big hugs from Switzerland 😘
I find it offensive it's unnecessary. There's transwomen and women! Love you Alexis!
@@redkitty1170you can repeat that same comment all you want, but it still is not true.
@@FernandoGarcia-si6fp what do you mean? Trans community used this word decades and decades. When I transitioned in 2000s, nobody considered it as slur. I think, it's just far right hype. Like if far right try to make "white people" a slur, to just pretend, that black people are even not people.
At first, I accepted cis. However, after 5 years, I do not like it at all because it became a slur... plus it seemed they only used it for women and not men...❤
Good point, I hadn’t noticed but it’s true. Might have something to do with the fact that most women are less likely to be aggressively offended than most men?
I've seen it used for men a whole bunch of times-- albeit in a somewhat derogatory way though like "cis heterosexual males would never understand", "ugh a cis het white man" etc.
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I feel the CIS word is used to devalue women in general.
We are women. That's it. Anything ELSE is a "sub category". Only women are women.
I find the word offensive, I’ve never seen it used as anything other than a slur.
You’re 100% on the ball Alexis 🥰
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 I don’t believe we need it, and I find it offensive, I’m entitled to decide I don’t want to be called it, the same as others are allowed to decide what they’re called.
@@TanyaRando what do you mean? Trans community used this word decades and decades. When I transitioned in 2000s, nobody considered it as slur. I think, it's just far right hype. Like if far right try to make "white people" a slur, to just pretend, that black people are even not people. Just somebody in 2024 decided to turn us into subhumans this way.
@@TanyaRando It's our slang word inside our community, we used it decades and decades. And this is an attempt to disrupt it from a far right activists. Like in the past far right activists tried to ban word heterosexual, to make gay and lesbian unhappy. Only in 2024 people started to be thinking this way: because a hate wave against trans people. When I transitioned in 2000s, nobody cared about this word.
@@redkitty1170 No. There are already words to label "normal people" in existence. They are male and female.
Here's my thoughts on the term cis.
Has somebody who's heterosexual, yet very supportive of other people's choice to be who they want to be, I did not ask for that label nor do I enjoy having that label. What makes trans individuals feel that we can be labeled something they want to call us yet they want to be called the pronouns they choose to be called by?
A lot of hypocrisy there if you ask me.
When I was growing up, people hated being labeled. They just wanted to fit in and live their life. Now, everyone needs to be labeled this, that and the other. If they're not standing out, they're not happy and it feels like people are fighting to see who can stand out more...
Yep, victim culture and the snowflake mentality
HELL YES it is offensive!
I lived my whole live not trying to lable people, because of the bullying I experienced in my youth and now we get to this....
At this point, I am done with selfish inconsiderate people who want me to bow down, but lable me without my consent.
Hi from New York. ❤. I'm a 64 year old biker woman. I think you are absolutely beautiful. You have a kind heart and a smart brain. I enjoy your RUclips channel and wish you all the best. Oh yeah, I don't care for the word cis at all.
Also, a saying like "men have prostates" doesn't mean that trans men aren't men, just as "humans have two eyes" doesn't mean that someone who's lost an eye isn't human. Sometimes you have to talk about things in broad strokes, not mention every exception. So you shouldn't have to say "cis men who've not had their prostate removed have a prostate".
The term cisgender was coined in English in 1994 in a Usenet newsgroup about transgender topics as Dana Defosse, then a graduate student, sought a way to refer to non-transgender people that avoided marginalizing transgender people or implying that transgender people were an other.
The term was made up by trans people on an Internet forum.. its a Antonym (opposite).
Not something "scientist, doctors and biologist" have used for centuries.
Whenever I'm talked to by a doctor, it's
"This lady came in today" or "woman" or "female" never once have I been called cis by any professional, only the trans community.
I told them to respect my identity (label) as woman..
They told me
"If I don't like being called Cis then I have to ask myself why I want to be trans so bad".
This manipulation of words are some marxist type of behaviour.
The only time I've ever been called cisgender is when someone is using it as a slur and calling me names. It's offensive and somewhat hurtful. I'm just me... a woman... If others are fine with it, then more power to them, but it's weird that when I ask not to be labeled that, I get talked down to and treated like that doesn't matter. It's weird.
I am not a 'cis woman', I am a 'woman'. I object to being labelled in this way without my consent.
i dont find the word in and of itself offensive. However when its being used with a tone that very much lets you know that the person saying it thinks youre gross and looks down on you that it becomes a problem in my eyes. Tone and context means alot.
First off I must say. I absolutely believe you are so stunningly beautiful inside and out. I love seeing you and Liam.
I very much dislike being called Cisgender. To me it is a negative derogatory name.
I have always been love is love you be you boo. I don’t have a negative bone in my body when it comes to gays, lesbians, transsexuals.
What I find is very hurtful is I was following a trans man on TikTok. So he is a biological female. He is married to a female. But he started calling women sis, gender and egg layers. And I won’t stand for those. I refuse to be held hostage by pronouns.
I have AuDHD, so maybe I'm just off, but I don't even understand lumping Trans people in with queers. I'm a 54 year old gay man. It seems to me that the rainbow is about sexuality but trans is about body identity. I feel like Alexis is just a Trans Woman. She doesn't seem to be gay, or even bi. She's just a woman with a man. So how is that queer? I don't even understand the need to add colors for things like bondage and such. That's the point of the rainbow. The wide range of sexual expression in a way that isn't the "norm", which is part of identity, but isn't about not being in sync with your body. That seems to me like two completely different subjects. But I tend to oversimplify.
I agree.
Like this
They just do it to be derogatory!
Nope.
@@JadeEyes1 It is
I don’t do labels, labels are not helpful. I agree cis is not needed, let’s not divide 💚 very well said!!! Awesome
All this labeling has gotten ridiculous. I do not feel the need to label myself or anyone else. I am offended by those who insist on using labels. It makes me question if they are truly happy with who they are. We are simply people. Labels have no influence on who we are.
I don't mind it if it's not being used derogatorily. Unfortunately it is used that way far too often.
I just want to say that we often give lgbt + men a pass when it comes to misogyny. Misogyny doesn’t go away just because you’re gay queer or trans.
We see a form of toxic masculinity and misogyny with heterosexual men because that’s the only type we are told of. The classic macho man who thinks he’s above women.
Well, just cos you’re queer that doesn’t mean you don’t have your own issues with misogyny too. If women, those born as women are telling you not to use a term as they don’t like it and YOU keep pushing this upon them because you know better or because you are now a woman and you feel it’s fine…. You need to macho man check yourself and stop being misogynistic.
I know many people will disagree with me but modern drag is awfully misogynistic in how men dress and see us. It started out as a way to stop women from performing and using men to play us women to now having this hyper sexualised version of us with penises and we as women are not allowed to see this as derogatory.
I get it. It’s “art” but I personally don’t view it favorably.
Hi, Alexis Blake! So happy to see you have a new broadcast. 🎉
Isn't it funny that cis seem to be only applied to women? I know that the discussion is on both men and women but it somehow seem to only apply to women and way too often be used in a derogatory manner.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. Cis can be men or women. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 You don't need a 'label' for normal people. We are either male or female.
Alexis! Your honesty is carving your own lovely lane for identity. Not taking over another space, but forging your own, and it's leadership 101. You're so smart and ahead of your time. I really enjoyed your perspectives in this post! ❤
Great video Alexis.
Thank you x🙏❤️
I find it crazy that there is so much emphasis on peoples sexuality in their identity. I get it if trans but to most seems crazy. I identify as Lea. I happen to be female. But my identity is Lea. Side note I know you've spoken about it a couple of times but I think it would be interesting to hear the differences between life as a male and a female.
I think of the word "cis" as part of an agenda. "Cis" makes me "sus". 😮
You are amazing! Don’t ever change and thank you for being honest and understanding. You are helping to correct the negative prejudice associated with the topic of gender and it is wonderful. 🥰🥰
I'm 56. At 40 I lost most of my reproductive parts due to pre-cancerous cells. At 50 everything else was gone after cancer. I still have most of my boobs.I have no ovaries no fallopian tubes no uterus and no cervix. I hear people screaming your not a woman because you don't have all the right parts. I don't have all the parts. I'm still a woman not a cis woman a woman parts be damned. You're a woman parts be damned. I try to be conscientious in the way someone presents so I use the correct pronouns. Sometimes I get it wrong. I apologize and move on. I don't think cis or trans are necessary labels.
You got sick, that’s why you don’t have the “right” parts.
Being sick, doesn’t make you less than a healthy woman, taking your uterus and all other parts away was a treatment.
Someone who is born without an arm one instinctively knows that they should have been born with two.
Someone who grows a tumor on their face, one instinctively knows they shouldn’t have it there.
Your sickness, a pathology doesn’t justify their lies about biology.
Thank you so much for using my comment! I love to follow you because you respect women, and I love your content and love the perspective you have! I have found a lot of people have expectations for us in the LGBT to have certain opinions, but we all are still individuals with our own experiences and perspectives. Love your content!
It's an attempt to put us on equal footing with transwomen. That makes it offensive.
being equal to someone is offensive?
@@Virshobecause they are not equal, trans women are biologically male.
Yes it is offensive. I am a female. A woman. Plain and simple. 😊
Me too! I'm a female, I am woman. Plain and simple. I just also happen to have a penis.
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
Your hair is looking beautiful xx thank you this is a great pov video very well researched loved the poll you did, x🦋💜
It's not offensive that some people want to use the term sometimes. If people want to call themselves that fine, but when other people refer to strangers that way, who don't request to be called it, that is offensive. I don't believe that it should be up to anyone to make any judgements about how I or anyone else might hypothetically feel in their skin. Why should transgender people control the dialogue about how my identity is labeled? Who do some trans people or their supporters think it should be up to them to make any assumptions about my gender. Also I feel the way it's used frames trans people as the default. That's because it's origin is in the trans community. So it's extremely bizarre to me to see it creep into non trans related dialogues as if all things must be controlled by a certain subsets gender theory. I don't want to be called CIS just because I'm not trans. No assumptions about my gender identity. No assigning to me your personal gender theory as my identity.
It's heartwarming to see such a reasoned and respected viewpoint. Love you to bits Alexis keep doing you. Xxx
Women DO NOT need or require qualifiers.
no we do not.
The way I jumped when my comment came up! And thanks for the compliment on my hair 🥺 You look as beautiful as ever. In regards to your last comments, I'm very similar in the fact I model myself after my Mam and the women I grew up around. Very much "just get on with it" people. I think labels do separate us, and each to their own if they want them or not, but most of us are just getting on with our lives. I don't shout about being trans, but I don't find it offensive when people point it out either. If that makes sense. ❤
"Cis" in NOT needed in any way. Not in a medical setting or in conversation. One can use "biological woman" if you need to make a distinction, but "ciswoman" is unacceptable to me as it is offensive.
How is it offensive to be a cis woman? It just means you're a biological woman who's gender and sex align. Not offensive in anyway.
@@Necrophyllis. we already had the word biological if you needed something to put before woman. Cis is an unnecessary term coined by a pedo apologist…
and if people are spitting the term at us like it’s something that makes us lesser, it is a slur. And these days it has been used as such, making it offensive.
@ohjesswhatamess cis literally means just that, you're aligned with your biological gender. 🤡 just say you hate cis people. 😭
It's like heterosexual. Cis man, cis woman - how we use it. It means person, who is normal, don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 if we had the word biological, why are you advocating for an additional unnecessary word coined by a pedo apologist? It’s disgusting to be pushing it in my personal opinion.
Looked it up and the term "cisgender" was only coined in 1994 - so 30 years ago, and only in the lexicon and dictionary since about 2013. You are so very astute, articulate and caring, Alexis!
I cannot agree with you about using cis in a medical context. It is an insulting and derogatory term. The description should be man/woman or trans man/woman. That is the only differentiation needed. Sorry!!!
it should either be cis man/woman and trans man/woman or man/woman and man/woman
The qualifier "cis" is absolutely not needed. We didn't change. Trans folks changed. If someone has an arm cut off for any reason they are now an amputee. If they have their Left arm cut off they are an amputee. People with both arms aren't called by a different term. People with their Left arm but not their Right arm are also called AMPUTEE. People with both arms but had a leg or even just part of a leg cut off are called AMPUTEE. If an AMPUTEE uses a prosthetic they are STILL called AN AMPUTEE. @@Virsho
so woman with arm cut off is amputee woman not woman?
@@Virshoread again, that’s not the point, the point is ppl with both arms are not called two arms person, its just an analogy of how something or someone who experience a “change” gets to call or name that change in order to establish the difference.
If someone referred to me as cis I wouldn’t really be offended as such, but it would be a very clear marker to have nothing to do with that person. Not only because it’s often used in a way that implies there’s something wrong with being that (which I find weird when it’s often coming from someone who has gone to considerable effort…in some cases…to be perceived as ‘that’) but because it’s often the tip of the iceberg, a flag that lets you know this person will be loud, entitled, just waiting to be misgendered so they can whine about it on TikTok etc etc. And those people are not ones I want to have anything to do with. Idiots come in all shapes, sizes, sexes and genders, and personally I avoid all of them where possible.
Two terms are sometimes necessary and perfectly acceptable, woman and trans woman. Descriptive, accurate and non confrontational. Most people use language based on what’s in front of them and how they perceive it.
I love that dress! You look lovely 😊xx
it is to me and I don't hate transgender women!
Great Video Alexis. I always enjoy hearing your perspectives.
I agree with you that the term has meaning in medical terms but not much reason to use it outside of that. Also it being used as an insult by certain activists online has soured me on it.
I just try to respect everyone, regardless of how they identify.
If you aren’t transitioning then there’s no need to have extra pronoun’s or descriptives… there’s no need for CIS outside of medical. So what’s the NEED for a pronoun? It just feels like “I’m not apart of your community but I wanna be without doing all the work.”
There is no need for CIS whether it is in or out of medicine
There is woman and transwomen.
With my experience with it has been forced upon me or others who have kindly asked not to be called that. Then we get immediately hit with- so you're transphobic then!
Its a conflict starter I dont want to deal with.
I respect the choice of label others wish to be called by. All I ask is they respect that I dont want to be labeled.
Yes! I hate the term CIS. There women and there are men. Then there are trans-women and there are trans-men, period. My two very close trans-women friends also feel this way. I do have a close (passing) trans-male friend who only to be considered a heterosexual male and refuses to even talk about anything trans, but even he hates the term CIS. I really wish the trans activist would stop trying to change the English language to suite themselves. On the subject of being biological. A horse is a biological creature but that doesn't mean if I identify as a horse, that makes me a horse, but less a biological horse!! Common sense is NOT so common!!!
Girl you look stunning 😍 idk what you did different with the makeup but it’s giving !!
I am lucky enough to be totally happy and at ease with being female, and I symphathise with people who are not happy with their sex. I understand why some people are transgender but I reject the term cisgender because my being female and a woman does not depend on how well I relate or conform to the gender stereotypes of my own sex, or how other people perceive me. I just am. I don't have a gender identify because I don't live my life by gender stereotypes.
I deeply respect the curiosity and kindness you continue to show in your videos.
I personally use cis when introducing/to describe myself, as both a sign to those who are questioning or ealry in their transition to know I'm a safe space and to acknowledge my privilege of living a life in congruence with the gender I was born with.
Being true to yourself can be tough but from my experience, it's easier when you find people who accept you as the unique odd ball you are 😂
I feel a lot of that community hates women😢.
Great video today! I'd also love to see more clothing and make-up content! For example, going from male to female is super confusing to me, there's so much I need to learn about but I'd like to understand things like clothing sizes and measurements. I've watched other content creators and while I've taken in everything I can from their videos, I'm still a little intimidated by clothes shopping and fitting. Some things size with a number (20), others with letters (XXL, for example). Is there a way to decipher that lol? Thank you Alexis! 💜
I find it offensive.
why do you?
cisgender is just like heterosexual. We need a word to label normal people. People who don't have gender problems. Like heterosexual - who is normal in terms of sexuality
@@redkitty1170 how are you in so many comments trying to tell people what they find offensive is necessary? There is a term for it and if it’s necessary, we add biological. No need for your nonsense. You don’t get to decide what offends others.
@@ohjesswhatamess we used this word for decades in our trans community. I used it when I transitioned in 2000s. It was never offensive. And in the past, far right people tried to ban the word "heterosexual". It's just a way to went inside our community and disrupt it.
Loved this.
Thank you, needed this thought process as ive been struggling with how i feel abkut others actions around born-female people.
I find it offensive, because it's a label that, not only did I not choose to be called, but is being pushed on the majority by a tiny minority.
Talking sense with a good dose of respect as always Alexis
Yes its offensive. Im a woman. I need no further qualifier
it's not offensive. It's like heterosexual (who has normal sexual orientation). Cisgender is a person, who has no gender-related problem
@@redkitty1170 As a real woman, it IS offensive. We will NOT use it.
@@shawna5706 it's just slang of trans community. Each community has it's own slang. Offensive - is an attempt to force ban slang, disrupt a community. Also, it's part of scientific language in papers about trans and intersex people
I dislike two things. One, that a fair number of people demand that others don't use words they don't like for them, but don't accept others not wanting this word used for them. And two, that 'not trans' isn't its actual scientific meaning, but a lot of people using it claim it is.
I told my adult children that the moment, they would call me Cis oder "Parent 1" instead of mum and female they can look for a new home right away 🙃
Another great video, I always find myself agreeing with everything you say, you have such great insight. I'm so glad you have created a platform to share your thoughts, you are doing an amazing job :) I dislike labels of any kind, because we really don't need them & should just be happy with who we are. I'm 52 & my boyfriend is 29, people joke & call me a cougar, but I actually find this really offensive, because if an older man is with a younger woman, he doesn't get labelled like that!
Offensive? No. Stupid and unnecessary? Yes.