Thank you for this simple clarity. These are the ones that have been the real discovery. This is the first time I have heard this specific reality of truth and my experience to the perfect T. Right now I am unraveling tension from the mystery of my experience and what the heck is going on with this person I married. And I am very taken back right now by this real truth. How in the world could this be so real? Ahhh. Thank you.
So glad you found it helpful. Here is the first of a 12 part series we did that covers this topic and related issues in depth. ruclips.net/video/LBaif974Zx0/видео.html
If only I knew these things earlier in life. For 20 years of marriage I knew that I am the problem. Because everybody out there loves her. She is the most charming, helpful, funny, loving, adorable OUT THERE. But at home? Oh boy...
In our region of the country, the west coast, these things that describe narcissism seem to be the entire culture. I have lived in the South and didn't see nearly as much of this selfishness and rudeness at the slightest disagreement that I have seen in this part of the country.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS I AM A VICTIM OF NARCISSITIC ABUSE. I WAS HORRIBLY ABUSED EMOTIONALLY MY LIFE HAS BEEN DESTROYED MY SELF WORTH AND SELF ESTEEM IM AT MY LOWEST POINT. I AM SEVERLY TRAUMA BONDED I FEEL LIKE THERE IS NO FREEDOM OR EXCAPE FROM THIS HORRIFIC ABUSE.
So unbelievably Appt in with these traits. I wish I knew about narcissism. I have suffered for 37 years of emotional torture and some physical too at the Hans of this narcissistic monster. So many therapists that did not help. They actually made things worse for me. Why were these therapists so clueless and incompetent?!!
Narcissism is incredibly difficult to treat because it tends to make them even more manipulative. Therapists can’t help a lot of times because they would need to observe the relationship dynamic for longer than an hour to notice the shenanigans going on.
This is so helpful and perfectly describes my marriage after 45 years. We’ve had counseling several times throughout the years. They were all clueless except one and that was after 16 years of marriage. That counselor asked me if I wanted to stay with him or divorce him. Now I wonder what life would have been like if I had done so. Sad that I didn’t know what was going on at the time because I naively thought and was taught Christian marriage vows were for ‘better or worse’ before God.
Glad you found it helpful and hope you are getting the help you need to heal. We have many videos on healing, here is one of them: ruclips.net/video/I5N5t_mQiTA/видео.html
Made it out alive from the crazy making cycle of a pathological liar who doesn’t take responsibility for his actions or behavior and blame shifts it onto me in his shame cycle of abuse. CRAZY is how I felt in the cycle of his sexual addiction and withholding information
How often to you see this being perpetrated by a wife to a husband? And to what levels. Sometimes its so subtle I feel like I am the crazy one. And the push pull dynamics from my wife most of the time you can't really put a finger on. If I were to confront them the real crazy would happen and the rest of the time its subtle enough I just wonder if I am crazy for feeling the way I do. Then after say maybe 8 hours of innuendo, negativity, abruptness etc when it wears me down and I just emotionally shut down then I feel like the one withdrawing and "being the child" and then she is like all nice and I am left to wonder what is wrong with me. And she can be so "wonderful" and act all "Godly" and reflect on memories (married for 33 years) and happy like. And I wonder why I cannot respond in a favorable way. Then I watch a video like this and it resonates to my core. I just discovered your videos and have been watching Dr Les Carter since a counselor handed me a book "I Hate You but don't Leave Me" as she was thinking that was what I was facing as well. Since then I have read 5 other books on it etc.
Taking elements of truth while altering it just enough to mean only the exact opposite? Then finding the need to defend yourself against whatever wasn’t said while insisting that you did while taking that response down the road of 5 other twisted assumptions to make it sound like an boatload of habitual propaganda problems that you are responsible for?
@@nancyellen8006 I feel the same way. And I wonder too how my codependency has played into it and if I can actually develop boundaries in the wake of it.
@@drdavidbhawkinsemotional immaturity is also a trait of bpo, it doesnt mean I am a narcissist, right? I found your chanel bc my ex relationships emotional abused me and no one believes me, bc I have borderline
Such a good information. I am looking forward to listening to treatment options. I was just listening to Professor Sam Vaknin and he was talking about treatment similar to treating people with DID. All so interesting. It’s too late for my marriage but I pray that my ex will find treatment and find peace.
You nailed it 😜,it describes my husband 🤩,do not know how did I made it will be 40years this year..... 😡 Made making,take no responsibility 😔, selfish, self centred tendencies,wow as 6year,drain all my energy
We were having a casual conversation (was nice because we had not been talking much at all for a few weeks) I made the mistake of disagreeing with what he said and told him what I thought, that was it. He immediately went silent, stopped responding to what I was saying and the rest of the evening was that way. I know I can expect it to be this way for at least a week or two…all because I said I didn’t think furniture delivery people, from a discount store, were gonna put everything together. It was a hypothetical situation in the first place. And maybe I’m wrong, maybe they would, but I don’t really think it was a reason to get so upset? Who knows..
Thank you for this simple clarity. These are the ones that have been the real discovery. This is the first time I have heard this specific reality of truth and my experience to the perfect T. Right now I am unraveling tension from the mystery of my experience and what the heck is going on with this person I married. And I am very taken back right now by this real truth. How in the world could this be so real? Ahhh. Thank you.
So glad you found it helpful. Here is the first of a 12 part series we did that covers this topic and related issues in depth. ruclips.net/video/LBaif974Zx0/видео.html
If only I knew these things earlier in life. For 20 years of marriage I knew that I am the problem. Because everybody out there loves her. She is the most charming, helpful, funny, loving, adorable OUT THERE. But at home? Oh boy...
In our region of the country, the west coast, these things that describe narcissism seem to be the entire culture. I have lived in the South and didn't see nearly as much of this selfishness and rudeness at the slightest disagreement that I have seen in this part of the country.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS I AM A VICTIM OF NARCISSITIC ABUSE. I WAS HORRIBLY ABUSED EMOTIONALLY MY LIFE HAS BEEN DESTROYED MY SELF WORTH AND SELF ESTEEM IM AT MY LOWEST POINT. I AM SEVERLY TRAUMA BONDED I FEEL LIKE THERE IS NO FREEDOM OR EXCAPE FROM THIS HORRIFIC ABUSE.
So unbelievably Appt in with these traits. I wish I knew about narcissism. I have suffered for 37 years of emotional torture and some physical too at the Hans of this narcissistic monster. So many therapists that did not help. They actually made things worse for me. Why were these therapists so clueless and incompetent?!!
Narcissism is incredibly difficult to treat because it tends to make them even more manipulative. Therapists can’t help a lot of times because they would need to observe the relationship dynamic for longer than an hour to notice the shenanigans going on.
This is so profound analysis of narcissism.
"Profound selfishness"- exactly!!
This is so helpful and perfectly describes my marriage after 45 years. We’ve had counseling several times throughout the years. They were all clueless except one and that was after 16 years of marriage. That counselor asked me if I wanted to stay with him or divorce him. Now I wonder what life would have been like if I had done so. Sad that I didn’t know what was going on at the time because I naively thought and was taught Christian marriage vows were for ‘better or worse’ before God.
Glad you found it helpful and hope you are getting the help you need to heal. We have many videos on healing, here is one of them: ruclips.net/video/I5N5t_mQiTA/видео.html
Made it out alive from the crazy making cycle of a pathological liar who doesn’t take responsibility for his actions or behavior and blame shifts it onto me in his shame cycle of abuse. CRAZY is how I felt in the cycle of his sexual addiction and withholding information
Spot on!
How often to you see this being perpetrated by a wife to a husband? And to what levels. Sometimes its so subtle I feel like I am the crazy one. And the push pull dynamics from my wife most of the time you can't really put a finger on. If I were to confront them the real crazy would happen and the rest of the time its subtle enough I just wonder if I am crazy for feeling the way I do. Then after say maybe 8 hours of innuendo, negativity, abruptness etc when it wears me down and I just emotionally shut down then I feel like the one withdrawing and "being the child" and then she is like all nice and I am left to wonder what is wrong with me. And she can be so "wonderful" and act all "Godly" and reflect on memories (married for 33 years) and happy like. And I wonder why I cannot respond in a favorable way. Then I watch a video like this and it resonates to my core. I just discovered your videos and have been watching Dr Les Carter since a counselor handed me a book "I Hate You but don't Leave Me" as she was thinking that was what I was facing as well. Since then I have read 5 other books on it etc.
Taking elements of truth while altering it just enough to mean only the exact opposite?
Then finding the need to defend yourself against whatever wasn’t said while insisting that you did while taking that response down the road of 5 other twisted assumptions to make it sound like an boatload of habitual propaganda problems that you are responsible for?
@@nancyellen8006 I feel the same way. And I wonder too how my codependency has played into it and if I can actually develop boundaries in the wake of it.
Beautifully said .. thank you 🙏 profound emotional immaturity definitely.. intimacy disorder. Unable to emotionally connect 😢
Thanks for your comment, hope you found it helpful
@@drdavidbhawkinsemotional immaturity is also a trait of bpo, it doesnt mean I am a narcissist, right? I found your chanel bc my ex relationships emotional abused me and no one believes me, bc I have borderline
Such a good information. I am looking forward to listening to treatment options. I was just listening to Professor Sam Vaknin and he was talking about treatment similar to treating people with DID. All so interesting. It’s too late for my marriage but I pray that my ex will find treatment and find peace.
You nailed it 😜,it describes my husband 🤩,do not know how did I made it will be 40years this year..... 😡 Made making,take no responsibility 😔, selfish, self centred tendencies,wow as 6year,drain all my energy
We were having a casual conversation (was nice because we had not been talking much at all for a few weeks) I made the mistake of disagreeing with what he said and told him what I thought, that was it. He immediately went silent, stopped responding to what I was saying and the rest of the evening was that way. I know I can expect it to be this way for at least a week or two…all because I said I didn’t think furniture delivery people, from a discount store, were gonna put everything together. It was a hypothetical situation in the first place. And maybe I’m wrong, maybe they would, but I don’t really think it was a reason to get so upset? Who knows..
Great video
Very true
I don’t choose his crazy making