How I stopped emotional eating | Mel Robbins
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Yesterday I caught myself emotional eating. I made myself a hot fudge sundae at 2 o’clock in the afternoon. If you find yourself grazing in the kitchen and not knowing why, get your head out of the fridge for a sec to get a grip on what’s going on:
True hunger develops slowly over time.
Emotional hunger comes on suddenly.
If you feel full, all good.
If you feel guilty it may have been some emotional eating.
Please do not make yourself wrong if you realize you too have been emotional eating. Food and emotions get complicated. To empower yourself, try to stay conscious about whether you’re truly hungry or you’re feeding emotional hunger.
Try this:
If you can name the deeper feeling that’s making you reach for a sundae in the middle of the day, that self awareness gives you the power to make a choice.
There’s nothing wrong with having a sundae at 2pm if that empowers you. Being conscious about what you’re doing and WHY is the key.
I promised I would report back and today I'm following my own advice, by paying attention to what I’m feeling and it’s working- I haven’t fed my emotions, instead I’ve just felt them.
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Hello, agree. I'm ready to start!
Thank you so much!
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Thx. I love this quote
That is so true.
Yes. Start where we are.
I've been emotionally binge eating my feelings. I'm in such a horrible place right now. My mom passed away in November and I've been using food as a crutch. It's out of control. I've gained over 50 lbs in a little over 7 months. I need help. My health is deteriorating. Thank you for reading this. Blessings.
I know exactly what you’re going through…been binge-eating for the past two years due to some things that have suddenly happened that are literally making me extremely suicidal. I don’t even dare to weigh myself, but I know I’ve gone up a size, minimum, if not, two. And this depresses me even more, which drives me to eat even more. I was super skinny my whole life, so this is extremely hard for me. But I tell myself I can and need to keep binging as I won’t live much longer anyway, so why should I care. It’s a vicious cycle, indeed. But food is the only thing that provides any kind of solace for me, nothing else whatsoever. So I can’t get out of this horrible cycle. What can I say? Binging is the only thing that’s making me feel like hanging on and not go kill myself, for now. Hope you get some help, like therapy. As for me, I don’t even want to do that because nothing will change my problems that are causing all this pain for me and simply just losing the will to go on. Sorry about your mom, I truly hope you get some help soon.
@@CrystallyLavender Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry that you're suffering, but I appreciate that you took the time and shared your story with me. It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one suffering from this disease. I do see a counselor, unfortunately she is retiring. I'm happy for her but, like previous counselors, I have to start all over and tell my story again. Ugh! Thanks again for reaching out to me. We do recover. But it's just so damn hard at times. Be blessed.💙💜
@@gracescape6729 Susan, yes, I hate starting with new therapists! Know exactly what you mean. I have a suggestion, might be hard to do. But I sometimes fast for 24 hours straight after binging, and it slows down the momentum to binge, at least temporarily. And sometimes I can be good for a week or so. Try it, might help you jumpstart a new diet. Because even losing a pound, or simply just cutting down on your intake could give you an incentive to start over. Who knows, maybe if you do this for a week and notice a slightly smaller tummy, it might give you a little confidence to at least binge less often and drop a pound or two. Anything that might encourage you to binge less often could help you get into a less destructive way of dealing with the difficulties of life. Sorry, I don’t mean destructive in a bad way, I’m only saying that because I feel like I am being self-destructive by binging beyond control. Really hope you feel better and can lose even just a little weight.
@@CrystallyLavender Thank you so much for the suggestion. I never would have thought to fast. Fasting for me is not only good for my body, but, in a spiritual way, brings me closer to God. They talk about fasting all through the Bible. Thank you! I'll keep you posted on my progress.
@@gracescape6729 oh my goodness. Losing your counselor on top of everything else is dreadful. Years ago when I was seeing a counselor he moved on to another practice (far away) and I took it personally. I see now that ‘moving on’ is just part of the American culture, but at the time it was so tough! It happened a couple more times over the span of a few years-I just started saying ‘ Jeez, I hate breaking in a new guy’. At the risk of sounding like a cliche, I will say this could be a blessing in disguise. Your new counselor may offer insights that are new or delivered in such a way that you come to some realizations that never occurred to you before. Stay strong (because you are, or you wouldn’t be trying so hard to get better) and keep working on it. I am rooting for you!
Key Point to stop binge eating: When you feel triggers "Take a deep breath" and ask yourself- "What am I feeling? Why am I reaching for this food... am I hungry? or am I trying to soothe or comfort or distract myself?"
To all of you stay healthy, stay humble, never let your emotions destroy you. Have a good day.
Screenshot this for the reminder. Thank you
You are welcome💛
my answer is yes to those questions but i am going to still order an ice cream and mcds junk good because i want to soother, comfort and distract. i know why i'm doing it plus it's tasty. it works. I'm doing it.
Knowing why doesn't help me stop. How do I soothe myself instead
@@be_witxhed i would find healthier replacement foods first. i'm also trying to find other ways to soothe.
it’s so inspiring, when people with that level of self-awareness not just teach you how to live your life, but also share their weak moments. all humans have flaws. that’s okay. accept, learn, use it to be better. thank you for being vulnerable with us ❤️
I overcame compulsive eating over thirty years ago. Pinpointing and resolving the emotional issues that caused me to 'eat when full' enabled me to heal my emotional eating. I also teach what healed me. Asking 'Am I hungry?' is a good start. Yes you know it is emotional eating if you are not even physically hungry.
Whoa... That's how I'm feeling, inadequate. Nailed it, and my obsession for food is diminished.... that's amazing... I've been sitting here trying to figure out how I can not indulge the monster again, tried everything, nothing made sense. But inadequate is exactly it. Dang, you're selling that word wheel like a boss. Here I was thinking I needed to soothe myself, take some time to heal, deep breathing, meditate, give myself a hug, and that eventually over time I might feel better if I keep it up......but just hearing that word I instantly felt relief. The compulsion vanished in an instant. So THANK YOU!!
Wow that is me in a nutshell ( or a tub of ice cream /chocolate bar etc.....) I cannot express how helpful it is to see that emotional eating in action and how it affects you later. I do this ALL the time and then when I feel bloated and uncomfortable later on I despise myself. I'm definitely getting the word wheel. Thank you Mel. Your honesty and simple explanations are life changing xx
The tips in your video really helped me to reduce drastically my emotional eating! Thanks to that I lost weight and went from being overweight to having a normal weight😊Thanks a lot!
Yr. 2024.
I just found your site.
You "are the perfect example to be used" don't down yourself. You are showing the process of what really happens.
Thank you for being real.
Affections from Connecticut.
@Mel thank you so much for being so raw and honest and making me cry and I don't even know why! Yes I do for just accepting where you are in these moments and helping us accept ourselves in these moments and to stop judging and criticizing ourselves! I'm trying so hard to just accept where I'm at in life and to stop judging myself and just work through it. Love you Mel Robbins! Thank you
I’m going to get the word wheel ! Your constant baring of yourself always makes me feel hopeful. And like I have a good friend who’s a lot like me. Multiply that times thousands to see the people you help. Thank you 🙏🏼
You know this is exactly what happens to me. I emotionally eat every time I am feeling low or sad. Then I feel even worse. I am surely gonna try this tool that you have mentioned. Thanks much for sharing this.
Emotional eating is fillling the avoid for unhealed trauma
So true! 😞
Totally could relate to emotional eating. I tend to stress eat as well. Love ya Mel!
*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”*
*―C. S. Lewis*
I may not know you personally, but I believe in you my friend! 🙏
I'm so sorry, Mel, that you felt so inadequate when you made this video. But thank you for addressing this with your audience. I think it's hugely helpful to not see mentors like yourself as perfect, and know they also struggle with things in life.
I just love, love, love her! She takes the words out of my mouth! I'm also a Libra, and must constantly catch myself swinging from " better not eat that " to "I'm definitely gonna eat that". I have been involved with fitness v long time, and did plenty of strict diets from 19-28 and again 30-34. After my child, I was too thin while eating alot. Now I give myself permission to eat what I want, but I incorporate self talk with healthy eating most days... Guilt makes you miserable and leads to more overeating, and worse: bingeing which is being out of control.
Thank you for this video, but emotional eating can’t be stopped just by addressing. There are really powerful unconscious programmes that lead the person to eat like that and the work is much much deeper ❤
No but addressing it is a good start!
This is amazing. I've read so many articles and books, seen so many videos on emotional eating but none say to put words into what we are feeling. It would be an awesome tool to have. Mind blown. Thanks Mel!
I spoke to my parent abt mental health,she just heard the word mental and told me its my imagination that's it and nothing is wrong with me,,,,,, now she is complaining abt my body saying i have gained weight and i look..... Weird bla bla. I eat alot as a copping mechanism, I'm hating my body now I don't like my figure. Mental health is extremely underrated in india. Mental health concepts doesn't exist in indian households,,,,, parents don't give importance to their children's mental health and most of the teens come to youtube for health to help themself , to understand themself. Thanku so much maam i will try to follow wt you said.
I lost 50 pounds doing very low carb diet but it was a struggle and I did way too much negative self talk …. Now I doing more positive self talk ….I AM WORTHY OF BEING HEALTHY , PHYSICALLY FIT & HAPPY !
I've been in the cycle for about 2 weeks. Interesting how this video popped up as I am currently earing my emotions. Very grateful that this video pooped up and help me get back on track.
Mel, I can't tell you how much you've helped both myself and my husband. Many of your videos have opened my eyes. I love your delivery...how genuine you are...it's easy to see you are the real deal!
So powerful and right on target. I've been emotionally eating for years. I can't get to that wheel fast enough. Changing my habits starting right now. The universe always brings a Mel message that I need to hear, when I need to hear it.
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. Thank you Mel. Love that you're 100% real and honest about how you feel and that is what makes me love your channel. Xxx
Oh I remember you posting this in the past and it was so helpful.
really like that idea of the word wheel. would be awesome if you would make an app out of it and maybe include some questions that help to get to the bottom of the feeling
This is a great idea
Brilliant idea !
I've been learning a lot about the reasons we overeat lately. Great share
I know you probably won't see this but I really needed to hear this and this video really helps me understand my deeper emotions better then I already did and gives me another tool to further handle and untangle the complexities of it so for thank you from the bottom of my heart 🎶
Thank you for this so very much
Once again, Thankyou so much for this wake up moment. See slimming clubs and dieting mostly don’t work because they haven’t addressed what you’ve just put across, I just knew there was a missing psychological link to emotional eating and you found it xoxo
It's so nice that you show that even you go through all the ups and downs
you got no idea how much you helping me with your videos.... i am very grateful
Good advice, however, sometimes it is ok to eat something simply to pick you up and of course not expect the ice-cream to fix your emotion but simply to give you a bit of joy. Food is one of the coping tools as well if we choose to do so it's ok but it shouldn't be the only one coping mechanism and used too often. If we pick food from our list it's also important to remember that we should focus on eating it mindfully and truly enjoy it but also do not overeat as we adding another issue which stomach ache.
I love her brave honesty ! 💐
Thank you for being yourself! It gives me so much joy when people are real.
I discovered your channel today. I'm so grateful. Thank you for what you share. It feels like a direct personal advice.
Thank you! What helps me is self discipline. Is very difficult to control, but everyday I do something that I promise to myself. Also stick to the schedule and try to not change it.
Sitting here just before 9pm ... contemplating heading into the kitchen to grab some kind of snack. Not hungry, so wasn't sure what sounded good. Stumbled across this video - holy smokes. I just put up a new blog post today - the first in a month - and going over the open/read stats - those numbers are never as good as I'd like them to be ... and it hit me. I'm not craving some sweet or salty snack ... I'm craving reassurance ... validation that even though the open/read rates aren't as high as I'd like them to be, this blog and whole endeavor I'm pursuing is still worthwhile. Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share ... your impact extends beyond what you could ever imagine.
Ohh!! Mel you saved my life!!! LOVE YOU!!!! really!! the timing is perfect!
You are so relatable and spot on with this as you are with almost everything. You've truly made me pause and ask what am I really feeling. Thank you!
Absolutely powerful, comforting, beautiful (watched it 4 ttimes). Mel you are truly the best. Thank you. And thank you for sharing the word wheel .
She is so real and funny
We use a word wheel in our elementary school. The kids enjoy telling us how they feel when the come in and when they go home. They Love telling me why!
You’re a beautiful human being! 🙏
I am an emotional eater. I get so caught up, can't wait to use the wheel. I need a pen and paper when I watch your videos lol lots of great information, thank you
I love you and your authentic sharing, your audiobooks. You are wonderful and your next book will be an amazing success! Love you ❤️
Slowly but surely she is changing me and my life🤗
Mel… this is exactly your book right there… what a creative breakthrough isn’t it?! 🥰❤️ FYI you have NO creative block, this is a very very creative vidéo and BEING yourself is definitely the best of you!! So authentic, I love it!! Authenticity is the new adequacy 🥰❤️
Thankyou for this video makes alot of sense to me 😊
Your welcome hope it helps !!
Yes, Mel, you are emotionally eating.🤣. Thanks for the word wheel. I was driving to get a delicious ice cream creation and I reached out to RUclips for help. After watching a couple of videos, yours came up. Thank you for the laugh, the honesty and tips so I get off my weight see-saw!! Now I have to look for the word wheel!!
Mel, I have to tell you that I didn’t indulge which is HUGE because even the OA 12 steps
have never put a pause on my indulgence impulses. After 41 YEARS working on my weight rubrics cube, THIS is a MIRACLE!!!!THANK YOU!!!
I love how relatable you are! Thank you again!!
Boy, am I glad I found you on the internet!! A woman, my age (well, roughly 😆), down to earth, someone I can relate to, and most important: I believe you!! 😄 See? There's always someone new you reach, help, motivate etc... Lots of love from the Netherlands! 💖
Really appreciate seeing you do in action what I do so often ...felt relief hearing your honesty.
Mel, you’re so cute and you help soooo much!
Great video! I just got finished high five of myself in the mirror! Today is a good day! Thank you, Mel. We love you!
Mel hit the nail on the head again!
Nice work. Many people find that when they are eating at times they aren't hungry, it is usually due to increased stress or negative emotions. You can interrupt the process by practicing breathing exercises and meditation to reduce stress and increase relaxation . This will also increase positive thinking , helping you work through your stressors in a more effective manner.
Omg Mel, this was hilarious as well as vulnerable and so wise. Thank you for another incredibly helpful video! ♥️ I'm going to your website and accessing the feelings wheel--I know it will be so useful when I want to reach for an ice cream. You're the best Mel! ♥️🧡💛💙 PS I know your book will be FANTASTIC & I can't wait to read it.
My God if I had to be so hard with myself I would die. You are way too much for a perfectionist Mel. If you can't write one day and want to eat a dessert because it's cold outside and you start telling yourself is wrong you'll go down a spiral of anxiety
I am also thinking somewhere along the lines. If you feel like you cannot write in the moment go ahead and do something else to clear your mind or just plainly rest/get some sleep. I also feel you are worrying too much about the end product and should be more focused on the process of the writing in the moment and absolutely nothing else. You are honestly beating yourself for no real reason other than feeling anxious and somewhat stuck, what is normal to feel in your situation as a writer. I do understand anxiety and trying to escape this uncomfortable feeling and just distraction yourself
You’re so real, love it!!!
I needed exactly THIS today! Thank you!
You are unbelievably intelligent. Hats off to you!
Thanks Mel! Needed this today. :)
I'm a therapist and I felt so seen with this. THANK YOU.
You are GREAT! Thank you. For genuinely helping people.
Ouaah how did you know I needed this!?!
You made me cry. Thank you. You are so dear.
Thank you for being So Straight Up REAL! Appreciate you so much!
So raw...real...I respect the hell out of this!
I gained 10kg during lockdown. Now mom is in ICU I don’t eat a scoop of ice cream I eat a whole tub, 4 meals and lots of rubbish snacks, cakes 😢 I want to stop but I feel that as long as I feel full I will forget feeling empty
I'm not at all surprised if *loads* of people put on loads of weight during or since lockdown, especially when it was lockdown. And also going into anxiety/depression, either for the first time or getting worsening Anxiety/depression if they already had it. You're definitely not alone
Wow!! You just made me cry!! This is exactly what I needed! Thank you ❤
You are truly awesome Mel. Thank you so, so much for your honesty and transparency. 💖🙏
Thank you for being so real!
We are from two different worlds and yet I always relate to your thoughts.
I am sure that your book will be amazing. What I love about you is your grounded and authentic expression and delivery of informations. Thank you a lot for your books and inspiration for better life.🍀🙏
This is the first RUclips vid I've seen that's actually helped me to make a better decision on the spot. Thank you so much💚 x
This is amazing content right here! Thank you!
I’m on the right path learning about my emotions and emotional eating 💗🥰
thank you for sharing this with us mel.
I appreciate your honesty 💓. You really are a light in this world to so many women
I appreciate your honesty and willing to your real self.
I found you by accident after feeling sorry for myself as I have been binge eating.. thank you your words completely made sense. I will check out your word wheel.
Why not make money while I eat my Sunday Ice-cream. Genius.
So honest n helping, we all go thru this again n again , yes need the wheel to acknowledge our emotions and learn to deal with them like a child , and be kind to ourselves more often .
U r ❤️!
Thank you very much! It helped❤ i wrote down why i feel stressed and demotivated and I don't want to eat now.
This is so powerful. Thank you! Blessings of love and light to all!🙏🏼💜🙏🏼💙🙏🏼🧡🙏🏼💛🙏🏼💚🙏🏼
Love your honesty, simple explanations and methods.
❤️❤️❤️
thank you so much MEL! you are such a true and amazing person that helps me a lot !
Oh my God.... This is what I need to hear right now ❤🎉🎉🎉😮 Thanks so much sharing
Oh I needed this! Thank you!
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Such Great advice, and yes...giving in to emotional eating leads to MORE ...negative emotions. Vicious circle😡
This happens to me too … Great advice, thank you!
I would love to get your word wheel but cannot find it on your site? Could you please tell me where on your site I might find it. Thanks.
Here is a link to one of Mels word wheels
docs.google.com/document/d/12VFipRxh81wTC8MHA7MV0RPcQYwsqZabE7xtZIcCgk8/edit
Hope it helps
Thank you Mel! I really needed this :)
I emotionally eat all the time. Ugh!! Thanks for your video.
Ouch! I have this problem too - binging all the time - I feel like I have to reward myself for just living - thanks!
Just had gallbladder surgery because of crappy eating, now back to my Whole Food Plant based no oil eating! And LOVE the feeling wheel!!
Me, just finished eating portion of home made salted caramel gelato. Sitting in the sunshine, asking myself if this is emotional eating. Well this particularly not. But those salted peanuts I am here and there picking during working hours yes. And it could tell me that my adrenalin glands are tired. But I need to find out what do I feel. I will check the wheel but we need Mel to give it a sense. Thank you Mel, as you are right.
Thank you for being real