I Just Had Surgery! What This Means For Our Future Plans (Very Personal)
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- Опубликовано: 13 янв 2025
- Jim undergoes surgery, but he doesn't let it keep him from continuing work on the earthbag cellar. We discuss our decision to go through with the procedure and what it means for us going forward.
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Glad your operation went "ok". With the decision you and Jess made is your and as long as the two of you are happy that is all that count. For me I decided not to get married or have kids. I am 65 now and still happy. So it your choices in life that makes you happy and no one else. Enjoy each other and what you doing. God bless you.❤
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Your welcome, thanks for sharing..
Y'all are Amazing 🤩🤩❤❤❤
Nothing is wrong with being dog parents. I have two little boys 🐕!
Thank you for sharing your journey. 💖
Amazing what people reveal on public platforms.
I admire you're courage to put it all out there... That's being pretty transparent folks....Hope you have a good recovery Jim. Keep on keeping on peeps!
Courage? It's too transparent for our taste.
A very personal decision of course. For me, becoming a Mum was the best job of my life, no regrets. Everyone has a different journey.
I found this video, rather strange, a head-scratcher. Your intimate personal life is no one's business, and certainly not the reason people choose to watch your channel. The building of your abode/homestead is the core of your channel. 🇺🇲 ✌️
Wow, that was a lot for you guys to share. You probably could have just said nothing but by sharing you are being a good example of being resposnible in parenthood. I think you two would be awesome foster/adoptive parents!
Probably should have said nothing.
had mine 54 years ago. took 10 min and no problems. you will be just fine.
I am glad that the surgery was a success and without complications. I wanted to take a minute to encourage you to continue exploring fostering options. I spent my entire young life in the foster care system, at least as much as I can remember. Being autistic my possibilities for adoption were next to zero, but I still had hopes. I spent a considerable amount of my time in the system living in group homes and sometimes, when slots were unavailable, in juvenile detention (even though I had not committed any crime).
Often prospective foster parents want to get a child when they are young. That is understandable, particularly if they will consider adoption after a trial run. Once a child reaches about 7 years old the odds of being adopted or fostered go down every year until they age out of the system. This is sad because these young people can benefit tremendously from receiving even only a few months to a year with a caring parent. I can say from experience, that even at 17 years when I thought that I was only a year away from aging out of the system, I would have given anything to have a loving parent even for just that year. (Actually, I didn't age out until I was 20 because of my autism).
So, I encourage you or anyone else reading this to not think of fostering as a lifelong decision, but as what you can do for a child even in the short term.
Sending love
Thank you for your very personal words.
I dont agree with fostering sdoption my son wasstolen ilegally and im not mentally ill i suffered unbelrivably so did my son in my case autism wasnt issue bullies were i was later injected against will ilegdlly with neuroleptics havingbin 50years not been psychotic ever.forced adoption is serious issue here and its too easy to remove children .
These are personal choices for the two of you to make. Your health is the most important thing. Stay down and heal up before you try any lifting or heavy work.
Too personal to share, I think
I'm glad you're both healthy and happy. ❤
Wish all adults would give the issue thought and be responsible like you two.
There are sooo many children who need mentors etc. Y'all are very good people, you never know what the future can hold or who you can help mold. Very brave of you to share this. Love your videos.
Cobbing as you go up is a very good idea. It will save you the hassle later on. Take your time and don't strain yourself.
I agree i had my son at 24, got cervical cancer and had a hysterectomy at 26. It was devastating but was Gods choice. Who wants to be 60 and kids in high school. Im 59 and my 4 grandsons exhaust me. 😂😂❤❤❤
God Bless you two for being so open and honest about your decision. Look forward to watching more progress
The window is beautiful.
I knew when I was a little kid that I never wanted to be a parent, people said oh you'll change your mind but I never did. I could handle the responsibilities that you two have taken on with your homestead but the burden of children would render my life joyless, I love my freedom. I'm 70 years old and happy I didn't sacrifice my life for fear of being alone in old age.
Some people are natural parents and their lives would not be complete without children but I'm not one of them. Respect to you both.
I had to go and be sterilised as my x husband refused. I was in a right mess, black and blue.
I hope everything is progressing well Jim just keep the ice going!
Had mine 20+ years ago but we have 5 beautiful grownups ❤ good on you team for sharing ❤ be safe and well.
Thank you guys for sharing your experience with us 😊 Get well soon ❤ Jessica your are a wonderful wife. God bless you both ❤😊❤
Good call, Jim. 30 years after the fact for me with zero regrets.
I find that very informative about having a vasectomy. Never heard it from a man's point of view. Way safer for a man than a woman. Proud that you took the step forward.
I appreciate both of you sharing your personal lives with all of us. Also it’s awesome that you talked about the elephant the room that it’s the logical process for a male to go through and not have a female go through a risky procedure of tube tying . Fist bump to both of you and kudos …. Keep up the hard work and awesome content….. peace
How is tube tying risky? I’d say a coin tossshould decide who gets snipped
@@joshuatinkham3703😮Tube tying is a huge surgery with many more complications vs a vasectomy which is a very small organ, very close to the surface of the skin and very few internal layers to go through (like the stomach muscles in tube tying).
@@joshuatinkham3703plus, a vasectomy is far cheaper!
Your business, none of ours. My best wishes for your life.
Can't agree more. What the..?
❤ you and ❤ you’re decision.
Glad all is well and you are recovering nicely. Love to you both!
I think you made a smart move guys. Power on .
Very touched by your honesty . A relatable situation for adults aware of their responsability . Thank you .❤
cool, congrats!
It is really a very personal decision and I admire you 2 for thinking of all the health issues that a late pregnancy can bring, not only for the woman but also for the baby. I support you guys a 💯 %. I don’t have kids myself, but my partner has 4, all grown ups. I became an instant step mom and step grandma also and I was 50 years old when I met my partner, so keep going and don’t look back.
Jess and Jim. Well done and thank you for sharing your thoughts and process on what must have been a very hard subject to talk about. Your show is not just about two people building off grid. It's about two people in love, sharing their life and dealing with tough decisions. Dealing with with many issues that life throws at people. I'm sure it will help many people going through the same things in their lives. Much love. Keep up the good work and look after your health. Back injuries can be a life changer. Work smart, not hard. xxxxx
Postpartum is real and it’s so devastating but then add that to any mental illness and that’s a ticking time bomb. I’m proud of you for making this decision and having the courage to share it with us. Thank you Jess and Jim. Always sending love from Paradise Valley
love and support to you always!!
Great video thanks for sharing
Wow, anything to avoid finishing the dome, huh?
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This is such a personal matter and this was your choice and it should be respected. Now at this time this is more common than you think and it’s a normal thing. So glad the recovery went well. Live the life you have always dreamed of and look forward towards the future may bring you. Love and be safe!🤗😘🌼🇻🇪
I'll pray for a speedy recovery for those jewels bro. You Sir are 1 brave man !! Nobody has the right to cast judgment. Hopefully people are NICE in the comments !!!! ❤
Proud of you two
Glad you are feeling good and making progress. Best wishes for both of you
Thank you for sharing this with us ❤
Thanks for sharing both of you are such great people
My husband's parents were teachers of grade school-age kids before they decided to have kids. She was 42 when they decided to have my husband. Six years later, they adopted a 6 month old girl. His mom lived to 88. Then, 2 years later, he remarried. When they died, some years later, they died within 2 months of each other. She was 98, and he was 104. Life is a journey that you chose even though you don't know where it will lead you. You're so right about sharing your love with others, whether they are blood related or not. God bless you in your continued journey. Take care my friends.
Life, so many choices, so many decisions to make and only so much time, to time them right. Your Happy, your strong and healthy.
You both wider my horizons, thanks.
Feel better Jim
More people should think about it the way you two do. Too many children in this world are born to people who don’t know what they are doing or cannot take care of themselves let alone one or more children.
Much respect to you both.
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If you do get the baby itch you can always foster.
Alles Gute ,und werde wieder Gesund
Thanks for the update hope everything continues to go well for you both
3:45 Those ladder legs are adjustable. You can make one side shorter and leave one side long. You should be able to have it almost flat against the wall that way, even with your rocket stove.
Foster care can be so overwhelmingly rewarding. I did it for 10 years and never once regretted it. Kids can learn and benefit from all that you have to offer. I think you have both made some very responsible decisions that fit your lifestyle.
Very personal discussion, but so many people will benefit from your honest discussion of such a personal decision. God bless you both
Administration to you guys 100%. Wishing you all the best to every step for your future 🙏
Very responsible decisions you make.. I’m 41 with a 1 year old and she’s a joy and a hand full!
Y'all are amazing. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Y'all are loving people and are loved by so many of us. Jess your window is so beautiful.
Thanks for your honesty and bravery! You both are doing WAY more for society than you realize. You teach, you love fearlessly. 👏💐
I applaud both of you. Your amazing people I think you both would make great parents to some poor child in the system that needs a good loving home. Mucho respect for you & Jess 😊 O and by the way you both remind me of Sonny & Sher
Thank you for sharing your journey very very interesting.
I'm in my mid-40s and know lots of us GenerationX folks who chose to not have children. I support you because I relate as well. Taking care of a child, responsibly, is a calling, not a MUST. Glad we've evolved as a society to not feel forced to have children -- there is pressure still -- but ultimately that's our choice. Either you feel you want to be a parent, OR you don't. I never had that desire. I have 3 cats who are my "children" and feel very complete and content with my personal decision.
Sure , but there are a lot of messed up people in the world , who are saying they are young and not ready to settled down.and so e bad woke feminist out there who should be on their own.
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@@MaxBernseGA and what was that, did you read MY text. Your response has nothing to do with my text.
Sure but the point of life is to procreate. Literally the point of life.
@@drillsergeant623 💯🎯
enjoyed the video, good that went well with your surgery. Be safe you both.
Ummm...nope😂. To be honest,I've always hoped ya'll would of popped out a couple pups, but to each their own. Wish ya' ll the best👍
Thankful all went well with your surgery Jim👍
Thank you so much for being very transparent.
You can also host a forien exchange student. Just another option too....goid luck in life what ever it may bring you.
Wow that's a really personal thing to share with the community you have and with the rest of the outer world , I think you and Jessica are brave one and 2 it is your decision it's your life , we all support you and wish you well , keep taking care of each other , love more and stay well ❤
Thanks for being open.
Peace & continued blessing...take care!
Hey buddy will be praying for you hang in there buddy one step at a time cuz you're going to be hurt for a while but all right God bless you bro we'll be praying for you we love you too❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
You guys are awesome, I always enjoy watching your videos.
As a teacher, I often feel like when I pass on my knowledge, it's like with my kids. I'm passing on knowledge for generations to come. Your video will pass knowledge on to people of all ages for years to come. You might find it rewarding, in the years to come, to have college students, as a class, to experience your techniques.
Love the cobbing station idea. Work smarter not faster, as the saying goes. I hope you continue to recover well, my friend. Very thought provoking video. Hugs to you both.
I wish you all the best, a speedy recovery!
Foster care, sounds like a super idea. 🎉🎉🎉
Im 70 never had kids and never regretted it!!
haha what bullshit
Thank you both for sharing your lives and private moments. In this case I can relate to you as we are in our mid 50s now and I decided it would be too selfish to try and have a child in our 40s. I only regret not having children like 1% of the time.
It was also due to my own depression and anxeity as well as finances.
Now you can share the other private moments together guilt free like we did. Man what a differemce it made in our lives.
I have to add one more thought to this discussion. Giving this some thought for awhile, I realized I have probably been almost as much of an example and mentor to a few of my Nephews as well as my own kids. The "lesson" that offers is you don't need to be a parent to be instrumental in offering good advise, knowledge, and a honorable example to developing youngsters. Like teaching, I suspect (as that is NOT my profession) it is very rewarding when you see the positive results !!!
Wow, you two are awesome thks for your honesty love u guys.
Great video. Thanks for your openness. I believe nothing happens by accident. I pray peace in your hearts. This door had to close, but a window will open. Thank you
Kudos to following your own path. Fast healing and a happy future to you twos. ❤️
Thanks for sharing such personal information. Good luck.
got mine at 33 and never looked back. for me it was absolutely the proper choice. good luck in yalls endeavours!
oh, yeah. frozen peas.
Bless you both!!! such great team!!!!
Prayers for a full recovery Jim. 🙏 Take it easy for a couple days Jim don't jump back into your routine too fast things can go wrong.
Love and respect to you both. My daughter and niece have chosen not to have kids for medical reasons which I support them 100%.❤
Sending prayers 🙏🏽
Good for you Jim alot af men won't do it and the women has to go under. Congrats on your decision. I have a friend in her 60's never had children. She is happy with her decision.Take it easy for awhile. Adoption or foster care is wonderful if thats what you want. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤❤
Thank you for sharing something that is so personal. For what it is worth, you guys seem like you would make great parents if you ever decide to adopt. ❤
Thank you for having this and spare your wife of a much more complicated process. You are my hero !
Thank you for your openness, my partner and I have been having similar conversations. It's good to have open dialogue about this
Thank you for this video it's very from the heart,you guys are such really great people.
Yeah be careful Jim don't push it! I am glad the surgery went well and it's over with 😊 I am sure Jessica is glad too!
Excellent to hear your recovery went so well Jim! Appreciate you both for being willing to share such an intimate choice/detail of your personal life
I'm sure you put as much effort into making your decision as you have for all your other lifestyle choices and I appreciate you stepping outside your comfort zone to trust and share it all with us. The choice you made is what's best for you both. I think you have a healthy attitude and still have other options if you decide to bring a child into your lives later on and if you decide not to, well that's okay too. I was actually relieved when you explained what your surgery would be and that it wasn't something that was a health crisis you were facing. You've accomplished so much as a couple, be proud that your marriage is so strong that even through all the backbreaking work, out in the middle of nowhere you can still look at each other and smile. Love you both ❤
My wife and I adopted 2 beautiful children when we were in our late 30s. Again, timing and life events played an important part in our decisions. As a teacher, I hope one of my legacies is the gift of curiosity. ❤ to you both.
Wow, thanks for sharing!
I am so proud of your decision.
I am from South Africa, and I want to say thank you for sharing your life and your build with us. Wishing you a speedy, and healthy recovery. Do not overdue or overstrain yourself. I can't wait to see more of your build. I've really enjoyed watching how you go about your build!!
Wishing you everything of the best and many, many blessings!!
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Awesome folks! I've had one too! No reason to explain because it's no one's busness!
Since you went so personal, I will share as well. We adopted in mid-40s and the LOVE for our child came out of nowhere (it's built into us / never would have guessed) and welled up and sweeps aside all that 'logical/mind stuff' about being a burden and hard-to-care-for and world is terrible and x, y, z. While I understand and respect you're choice as it was my strong desire all my life to avoid kids - my wife forced me due to being childless and out of Love for her I went along rather than divorce and found out.... The actual experience of LOVING YOUR OWN CHILD will change you. It sure did for me and I'm so thankful now 25yrs later I got to Love and be Loved by my child as part of life's experiences :)
You two are awesome