I’m 24 and this would be my advice. To some degree, all of us suffer from some sort of trauma. I get your protective instinct wants to fulfill its purpose, but sometimes you need to realise that there are journeys in life. She’s probably at a place where she just isn’t ready for a relationship. She thinks she is but in actuality she isn’t. This is because her behaviour is unhealthy. Best course of action is to leave her. Not because you don’t love her. But because you do. Give her the space she needs to grow. She has to grow out of her trauma, and that requires diving into places within herself that might seem somewhat uncomfortable. This will require you to take the difficult choice. She might view you as the villian if you do choose to leave her so she can take the time she needs to heal alone. You also have to be ready for that possibility as people’s interpretation of actions and behaviour can be directly correlated to their own experiences and their learnt patterns, especially in this specific case. You know you’re leaving her in order for her to heal, but she probably might think you’re leaving her for some superficial reason. All in all, she needs space. Y’all are probably good people, just not good together and that occurs a lot more often than you think. She needs the space to dive into the places she needs and heals effectively. It’s only when she’s healed, she will be healthy enough to now be ready to engage in a relationship. Just my 2 cents. It’s definitely a hard choice as you probably have feelings for her and staying apart could be the last thing you’d want. But as I said, as a man, the hard choice lies in your hands to make. Especially in this case where you know what’s actually wrong with her. You’ve done your bit to accommodate her occasional mood swings spiked up by possible pent up emotion. Clearly that hasn’t worked. So you’ll have to take the next step to allow her be alone so she can deal with her issues without any prying eyes around. Healing of the self first. Amazing video. Siyabonga bafo 🙏🏾💯🔥
You're 24 and think this way? You're so wise are you single? 😍 Anyways love what you said here. I've been guilty of thinking that I was ready for a relationship but I wasn't. I cut off any one I was getting to know in order to not waste their time. But they felt like I wasted their time. ( 2 months, it's better than 1 year) . I let said person go because I needed to build myself up from scratch and heal, so that one day I have the capacity to give in a relationship. I can't give from an empty cup. But I had to do it while single. And it worked. I was lost, broke, traumatized, had no direction. Now im in a way better space than I was last year. I'm still not ready to commit to any one yet but at least if I do meet someone i'll be in a better mental and emotional space to be present in said relationship. This guy needs to let her go in order for her to heal. That's what you do when you care about someone. Let them go ❤ And if it's meant to be then it will be. If it's not, then you will meet someone else that's meant for you😁
@@kgomotsomosiatlhaga8311 single as hell😂got a lot to work on lmao remember commitment is a very emotionally taxing thing to decide to undertake. Make sure you’re in the right frame of mind, at your right time to choose to do that again. In between, try your best to feel whatever it is that is to be felt. Sooner or later you’ll give yourself the full closure you need. Bless🙏🏾
The older you get, the tougher relationships become because of all the baggage. It’s important to have a partner who is willing to put in the work towards healing from our pasts and assisting each other as much as we can. The will to do so is very important, without that I don’t see how you can build anything healthy/long lasting.
My philosophy is this; you don't attract what you are, you keep or deal with what you are. You can be the cream of crop as a man but you won't always attract women who are the cream of the crop. At some instances you'll attract people who are of low value and that's okay. You can be a good person and still attract very bad people. It is within your mental fortitude to cut the fat from the meat. What matters most is what you choose to keep or let go. Being conscious of the decisions you need to take is far greater than attraction.
1 of 2 things could be happening. Girl might be MANIPULATING him ,playing him, spinning plates, putting him on rotation or 2), Gaal is nkt aware how messed up she is due to the emotional traume. Where u can help gal to get a therapist or psychologist etc. BUT guy .... DO NOT PAY fr that, let h€r pay for it!
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I’m 24 and this would be my advice.
To some degree, all of us suffer from some sort of trauma. I get your protective instinct wants to fulfill its purpose, but sometimes you need to realise that there are journeys in life. She’s probably at a place where she just isn’t ready for a relationship. She thinks she is but in actuality she isn’t. This is because her behaviour is unhealthy. Best course of action is to leave her. Not because you don’t love her. But because you do. Give her the space she needs to grow. She has to grow out of her trauma, and that requires diving into places within herself that might seem somewhat uncomfortable. This will require you to take the difficult choice. She might view you as the villian if you do choose to leave her so she can take the time she needs to heal alone. You also have to be ready for that possibility as people’s interpretation of actions and behaviour can be directly correlated to their own experiences and their learnt patterns, especially in this specific case. You know you’re leaving her in order for her to heal, but she probably might think you’re leaving her for some superficial reason.
All in all, she needs space. Y’all are probably good people, just not good together and that occurs a lot more often than you think. She needs the space to dive into the places she needs and heals effectively. It’s only when she’s healed, she will be healthy enough to now be ready to engage in a relationship.
Just my 2 cents. It’s definitely a hard choice as you probably have feelings for her and staying apart could be the last thing you’d want. But as I said, as a man, the hard choice lies in your hands to make. Especially in this case where you know what’s actually wrong with her. You’ve done your bit to accommodate her occasional mood swings spiked up by possible pent up emotion. Clearly that hasn’t worked. So you’ll have to take the next step to allow her be alone so she can deal with her issues without any prying eyes around. Healing of the self first.
Amazing video. Siyabonga bafo 🙏🏾💯🔥
You're 24 and think this way? You're so wise are you single? 😍
Anyways love what you said here. I've been guilty of thinking that I was ready for a relationship but I wasn't. I cut off any one I was getting to know in order to not waste their time. But they felt like I wasted their time. ( 2 months, it's better than 1 year) . I let said person go because I needed to build myself up from scratch and heal, so that one day I have the capacity to give in a relationship. I can't give from an empty cup. But I had to do it while single. And it worked. I was lost, broke, traumatized, had no direction. Now im in a way better space than I was last year.
I'm still not ready to commit to any one yet but at least if I do meet someone i'll be in a better mental and emotional space to be present in said relationship.
This guy needs to let her go in order for her to heal. That's what you do when you care about someone. Let them go ❤ And if it's meant to be then it will be. If it's not, then you will meet someone else that's meant for you😁
@@kgomotsomosiatlhaga8311 single as hell😂got a lot to work on lmao
remember commitment is a very emotionally taxing thing to decide to undertake. Make sure you’re in the right frame of mind, at your right time to choose to do that again. In between, try your best to feel whatever it is that is to be felt. Sooner or later you’ll give yourself the full closure you need. Bless🙏🏾
@@kgomotsomosiatlhaga8311shoot your shot sis!
That’s wonderfully put 🙌.
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The older you get, the tougher relationships become because of all the baggage. It’s important to have a partner who is willing to put in the work towards healing from our pasts and assisting each other as much as we can. The will to do so is very important, without that I don’t see how you can build anything healthy/long lasting.
@@amandamlotshwa239 Your partner can make or break you… it’s very important to work through your baggage alone, and with a loving partner.
My philosophy is this; you don't attract what you are, you keep or deal with what you are. You can be the cream of crop as a man but you won't always attract women who are the cream of the crop. At some instances you'll attract people who are of low value and that's okay. You can be a good person and still attract very bad people. It is within your mental fortitude to cut the fat from the meat.
What matters most is what you choose to keep or let go. Being conscious of the decisions you need to take is far greater than attraction.
I agree 👍🏾
True, you don’t choose who you attract but you can choose who you keep in your life.
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Or she might be cheating on him.
That's also a possibility for her strange behaviour.
1 of 2 things could be happening. Girl might be MANIPULATING him ,playing him, spinning plates, putting him on rotation
or 2), Gaal is nkt aware how messed up she is due to the emotional traume. Where u can help gal to get a therapist or psychologist etc. BUT guy .... DO NOT PAY fr that, let h€r pay for it!
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No please stop lying to people, YOU, Penson,do not struggle 2 attract a partner!