rest of this post: Now the entire family is involved. Some relatives are on my side, agreeing that Claire was completely out of line, but others think I’m overreacting, calling it “just a ring” and saying Maddie “didn’t know better.” Maddie is upset and crying, Claire is calling me a monster, and my parents are begging me to drop it “for the sake of family peace.” But I can’t let this go. It’s not about the monetary value of the ring; it’s about the sentimental value and the memories tied to it. I’ve given Claire one week to return the ring, or I’ll file a police report. Now people are calling me dramatic and saying they’ll cut ties with me if I go through with it. I feel like I’m losing my mind. So, AITA for standing my ground?
The 17 year old should also know better. I’m also 17 and would never let a mother or mother figure give me a ring that belongs to someone else. That someone else should give me the ring themself if they wanted me to have it. I would immediately take the ring and return it, not trusting the person who gave it to me to set things right. Even if I was wearing it and they said they hadn’t given permission, I would immediately give it back and apologize for myself and on behalf of the person who took it without permission. Also, 17 is pretty young to get married or even engaged. People are still maturing and changing at that age. It’s her life so I’m not shaming her but I’d think a 17 year old would be more focused on school or a career. Or just being a teenager! I’m 17, turning 18 in March, and I’m not anywhere close to thinking of engagement or marriage.
Sides don't matter......sis stole the ring do everything to get it back.....whoever doesn't like it can eat poo....fck that.....your ring....you should have said out loud right then and there.....not pull her aside....wtf.....the audacity.....lawyer up now.....
NTA. This is my 17-year-old should not get married. Where is the ring from her fiancé? If they can’t afford a ring, how are they gonna afford a home and a car to get to their jobs?
Hell no NTA. That is theft. She didn't even ask. Press charges & tell her that if you don't have it back in three days her daughter is getting charged with accepting stolen goods.
Press charges on sister don't care what family thinks a thief is a thief 💯 it's completely understandable it's sentimental to you and she disrespectful you your house also and disregarded your feelings
Just because a person likes something, does not mean that they deserve it. WHO ON EARTH, HAS THE AUDACITY TO STEAL SOMETHING, OR ASSUME THAT THIS IS A WAY TO KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY? TALK ABOUT ENTITLED!!
NTA! That’s so ridiculous. That ring isn’t “not being used anymore” it has sentimental value for a reason. You took an oath and swore your vows to the person you love, and THAT RING signifies your undying love for your wife. In life and in death. ❤
You shouldn't have just waited you should have just gone to the police call them and made the report there and dance with that they could retrieve your belongings because the daughter could have been arrested for that
Ditch the family li ing up against you. They have poor value systems. Agreeing it is okay to steal and to accept stollen property. An engagement ring is a symbol of love between two people. It is not a ring stolen from your uncle.
So OP is overreacting bc his sister not only stole from him, but stole his late wife's ring. What kind of a horrible person does that. Any family members who aren't on his side are disgusting. There wouldn't be a week timeline, she'd be giving the ring back immediately or I'd be calling the cops. It's that simple. As for the sister, I'd cut ties completely, bc she clearly has no respect for her brother & seems like she doesn't care about him at all
That ring did not belong to her. That is theft. You could send her to jail for tgat. If your mom wants to give her wedding ring to her she can. But for them to think that you should just let this slide is just ludicrous
You are not the AH. If her boyfriend cannot afford a ring. Maybe they shouldn’t get married. It is expensive. I did not get a ring. We couldn’t afford them. We waited until our one year anniversary to get our rings. There is nothing wrong with that. But your sister and her days did steal your property. Call the police
It's not fake. I was there at the engagement party. I saw and heard everything while sitting on the couch and drinking some hot chocolate. It was wild.
rest of this post: Now the entire family is involved. Some relatives are on my side, agreeing that Claire was completely out of line, but others think I’m overreacting, calling it “just a ring” and saying Maddie “didn’t know better.”
Maddie is upset and crying, Claire is calling me a monster, and my parents are begging me to drop it “for the sake of family peace.” But I can’t let this go. It’s not about the monetary value of the ring; it’s about the sentimental value and the memories tied to it.
I’ve given Claire one week to return the ring, or I’ll file a police report. Now people are calling me dramatic and saying they’ll cut ties with me if I go through with it. I feel like I’m losing my mind.
So, AITA for standing my ground?
The 17 year old should also know better. I’m also 17 and would never let a mother or mother figure give me a ring that belongs to someone else. That someone else should give me the ring themself if they wanted me to have it. I would immediately take the ring and return it, not trusting the person who gave it to me to set things right.
Even if I was wearing it and they said they hadn’t given permission, I would immediately give it back and apologize for myself and on behalf of the person who took it without permission.
Also, 17 is pretty young to get married or even engaged. People are still maturing and changing at that age. It’s her life so I’m not shaming her but I’d think a 17 year old would be more focused on school or a career. Or just being a teenager!
I’m 17, turning 18 in March, and I’m not anywhere close to thinking of engagement or marriage.
If a 17 years dosent know better than that 17 year old shouldn't get married🥰
Get your ring back, call the cops. Your sister's head is full of cotton candy. Change the locks on your house.
NTA for standing your ground. If the 17 y/o doesn't know it's wrong she is not ready to get married
Sides don't matter......sis stole the ring do everything to get it back.....whoever doesn't like it can eat poo....fck that.....your ring....you should have said out loud right then and there.....not pull her aside....wtf.....the audacity.....lawyer up now.....
NTA. This is my 17-year-old should not get married. Where is the ring from her fiancé? If they can’t afford a ring, how are they gonna afford a home and a car to get to their jobs?
Hell no........ Sister would be in JAIL!!!!!! No excuses, no exception's!!!!!
Hell no NTA. That is theft. She didn't even ask. Press charges & tell her that if you don't have it back in three days her daughter is getting charged with accepting stolen goods.
Sister be going to jail
17 is old enough to know better. Nta press charges
Press charges on sister don't care what family thinks a thief is a thief 💯 it's completely understandable it's sentimental to you and she disrespectful you your house also and disregarded your feelings
ONE WEEK! ONE FUCKING WEEK? No way. Should have gotten the ring right then and there.
Nta the sister has no right taking the ring 💍 from op, she knew the ring was something very special to op. Shame on the sister and niece
Just because a person likes something, does not mean that they deserve it.
WHO ON EARTH, HAS THE AUDACITY TO STEAL SOMETHING, OR ASSUME THAT THIS IS A WAY TO KEEP IT IN THE FAMILY?
TALK ABOUT ENTITLED!!
NTA! That’s so ridiculous. That ring isn’t “not being used anymore” it has sentimental value for a reason. You took an oath and swore your vows to the person you love, and THAT RING signifies your undying love for your wife. In life and in death. ❤
You shouldn't have just waited you should have just gone to the police call them and made the report there and dance with that they could retrieve your belongings because the daughter could have been arrested for that
Ditch the family li ing up against you. They have poor value systems. Agreeing it is okay to steal and to accept stollen property. An engagement ring is a symbol of love between two people. It is not a ring stolen from your uncle.
NTA it is a big deal, and it's not just a ring.
The sister is definitely at fault and a total a hole!
So OP is overreacting bc his sister not only stole from him, but stole his late wife's ring. What kind of a horrible person does that. Any family members who aren't on his side are disgusting. There wouldn't be a week timeline, she'd be giving the ring back immediately or I'd be calling the cops. It's that simple. As for the sister, I'd cut ties completely, bc she clearly has no respect for her brother & seems like she doesn't care about him at all
That ring did not belong to her. That is theft. You could send her to jail for tgat. If your mom wants to give her wedding ring to her she can. But for them to think that you should just let this slide is just ludicrous
Call the cops.
You are not the AH. If her boyfriend cannot afford a ring. Maybe they shouldn’t get married. It is expensive. I did not get a ring. We couldn’t afford them. We waited until our one year anniversary to get our rings. There is nothing wrong with that. But your sister and her days did steal your property. Call the police
That is stealing
I'd go to the police
call the cops then call a layer....
Evil Sister 🚩 Evil Her Daughter
She stole from you... file the police report
Ring or jail. Sister is a disgrace
NTA
NTA your sister is a thief.
Its a fake story. The profile is a bot on reddit
It's not fake. I was there at the engagement party. I saw and heard everything while sitting on the couch and drinking some hot chocolate. It was wild.
@DvorakTypist 👍