thats why sex before marriage is wrong ! love the woman with her flaws and imperfections and im not talking about marital unfaithfulness but what im saying is incompatabilty is something you've created in your head of what a perfect wife should be like date a woman at least a year and see what skeletons come out of the closet and remember you are not perfect yourself and have compassion, a good marriage takes work you have to be willing to make it work by compromise for better and for worse remember when you point your finger you have3 pointing back at you!
Good morning George. A cold marraige bed has its roots in role reversal. She has lost her womanhood. He has lost his manhood. As a woman, I will highlight some of the mistakes that we as women make to chill a marraige bed off, like a commitment to feminism, being "strong and independent," and demanding equality with your husband. Husbands and wives are compliments, not equals, equity, not equality hold a marraige together. Other mistakes that we make as women to chill a marraige bed off include neglecting our looks, i.e. neglecting our feminine physique, neglecting hair, nails, make-up, wearing skirts and dresses, self-care, etc. When a wife insists on being masculine, when she insists on overgiving and self-sacrificing, rather than being in her feminine, i.e. collaborative, cooperative, nurturing, this is disaster for the marraige bed. A feminine woman, a bed warming woman who rests in her femininity is a woman who is in receiving mode. Working hard like a man, grinding like a mule, like a workhorse, being the breadwinner, being "the rock" of the family, all of this will make sex very uninteresting. When we as women elevate and invest in our femininity, rest in our femininity, and allow him to be the masculine protector, provider, the masculine rock that he is destined to be, sexual polarity will be self-sustaining and the marriage bed will stay warm, toasty and juicy. Good show George!
I am truly smitten by your brilliant comment @TaNaisha Lee! You absolutely nailed it! Notwithstanding all the flaws of the modern man, there are still virtuous people walking on this Earth, so there is hope. This video and your comment absolutely made my day! Love and Gratitude.
The game is rigged fellas. Most women aren’t dateable much less marriage material. Chances are it’s not you. Have fun... get to know her and the minute she disrespects you let her know. Three strikes and you’re out. Flirt and keep your options open. She wants men who are wanted by other women. Sad but true. “Insert Metallica”
Ah, yeah, the young immature or older emotionally immature women are like that, wanting men that other women want. A good women doesn’t go that way though.
It's like you read my mind! I recently realized how I was venting my anger and frustration out to new women in my life, disguising it as being a "red-pilled man" unconsciously. Don't get me wrong, it is good for a man to have a good amount of red pill in his life, but not to where it consumes you and you come off as jaded to new women in your life who had nothing to do with past disappointments. Love your channel, sir.
I learned the hard way cuz 10 years of not getting any hook ups or dates on tinder made me cold approach and i gave some females the opportunity to reject me and boost they ego. Never again
@@colin9722 only the ones im introduced to bro. Women in every day life tend to act like they not interested so fuck em im not boosting they ego anymore we in a pandemic and they still act like they got endless options they are stuck on stupid
@@robinmckenziofficialchanne951 I’m never introduced to women at all. I don’t have friends except one and my work doesn’t have a lot of women around. I want to work up the nerve to talk to women but can’t. I think I need to work on my social skills and talk to everyone. Even the you tubers that are good looking get rejected though. It’s fine to boost a woman’s ego because if she is a low value woman she will think any guy wants to be with her if her ego is high, and then she’ll get played by a guy just sleeping with her then dropping her.
@@colin9722 yeah agree i didn't have. The nerve for years and then out of the blue i just approached 2 girls in public and asked if they were single i went in expecting to get turned down. And didn't feel anything when they did i think that's the 🔑 hitting on girl expecting them to reject you. And my mother works at Ikea That's how i get introduced a lot of females like working thier and there are foreign girls thier sometimes. Find a job that's diverse in culture that's my advice American woman ego to high like you said and feel entitled. To a solid 10 guy who is also rich or wealthy. You are not good enough unless you ware your money and they can visibly see someone they can gold dig
We had kids. She made the kids a priority over us. Next thing the husband is put in same category as kids. Like she is the adult in the relationship with 3 “kids”. That was my experience
Immasculation. Dominance. Ego. Mother knows best. She is just unconsciously emulating the relationship dynamic of her parents. That is the danger of being with another person, how are they going to treat you? How conscious / self aware are they?
Regarding after dark activities, I agree. With one exception. That is if one is strapped up with an M4 and NVGs about to crash "a party" full of bad people and/or save innocence. That is a worthy after dark activity...also, pillow talk...
This is the third time I've heard you say "on the molecular level" and I cracked up laughing every time. Thank you for your kind, yet firm, and witty demeanor. You remind me of what I imagine a good father would be like.
@Empty The Trash The events that happened produced some level of adversity in most people's lives. During that time you could see how the people around you reacted to adversity. If they tried to drag you down rather than lift you up, you have the option of removing them from your life. That's easier said than done, but most important decisions aren't easy.
@@PPernula interesting how humans love misery so I fully understand how a negative person drag down others or keep other on their same negative levels. Fuck that!!! I didnt need covid to cut negative people out of my life.
good job on the talk, GB. I have always been considered by my male/female friends as a "man's man", because I embody all the qualities you talk about in your vlog. I am an educated, accomplished, talented, and confident man. Somewhat decent looking, not a model, but decently built because I work at it. It's all about working toward the goal. Love your saying..." be the man that she desires by spending time on you". you were on my recommended videos and glad I found you. Take care GB!
Great advice about friends and cutting them off. You gave excellent reasons. I have done this recently and it has improved my understanding of myself. Thank you!
Thinking about the past keeps you stuck. Learn from it, do not dwell on it. Peruse excellence, and excellence will peruse you. Thank you Mr. Bruno. FACT! Be patient and life can surprise you with wonderful things when you least expect it.
@@truth294 They are Mr.Bruno's words that I have adopted. Basically put in my understanding anyway,you have to continually grow mentally, spiritually, and physically. And in turn like minded people and opportunities will be attracted to you. But I'm definitely not qualified to give advice yet. Just keep watching and go back and watch Mr. Bruno's content. I find it very insightful. Good luck to you!👍
I had a lot of built of resentment and anger towards being rejected by women and dating the ones that weren’t aligned with me. I have been embracing this path of solitude for the last year and have never felt better. The anger has passed, I still have a profile on one of those dating apps but not interested in putting my energy towards someone right now. It is interesting how I am getting more messages and matches since detaching from the need of another. It will happen when I am ready.
Blueprints to Wholeness S.P. Wow great steps forward, I'm sure that feels really good. It is my theory that this detachment can be applied in many areas of life. I am also very resentful at this time in my life, but not just women, people in general. They call it the hermit stage, and it allows you to recenter your energy on your truest self, supposedly. Honestly I'm the nicest guy you could meet, and it is that exact reason why I've been taken advantage of my whole life, by everyone I've trusted. there is definitely something to be said about finding a balance between friendliness and assertiveness. Until then, fuck people, who needs em.
@@cooperyoung1928 it is very freeing and powerful for sure. My finances have improved, I have more energy/confidence, and I am actually pretty happy which is saying something given where I was. Yes you will get there I am sure it can be difficult at first but well worth it. I say to myself for every guy out there who is desiring a women so strongly there is about 12 other guys who are regretting choosing who they married. Not to say all women are bad but I notice people will rush into it because they are fearful of being alone. Focus on yourself first, healing, growing all of that and the rest will follow.
As hard as it is for me to admit...this built in resentment has been in me for sometime as well...I'm really glad to hear that this path of solitude has kept you sane and on track and that the anger has passed. Inspirational.
Nice!!! I never had facebook, tinder, Instagram or any other social media and it's the best! I rather meet in person! Plus focusing on myself has been amazing so much I've accomplished funny thing is after a long year of work I'm writing this message at 6:09 getting ready to travel for fun!!! But once I have all my fun when I get back to the states it's all about work!
Nice video George. I have two sisters, six children,three of the children I adopted and two ex wives. Life has been tragic at times and glorious at times. Some people ride the merry go round and others enjoy the roller coaster. Life is about experiences and choices that are good and bad. Welcome to life and I agree with everything you said regarding the bitching. Man up guys! When you dust yourself off, stand straight and tall. Don’t let bad experiences hold you back from loving people that make you happy. That includes family, your not the same inexperienced man you were 5yrs ago. Love my children unconditionally. They may not understand me at times but that’s ok. Keep up the good work and good luck with prospective new job.
Great advice vid. Actually, after I got red pilled I avoided relationships that would have been pointless. I pursued excellence instead and it I'm way happier as a consequence.
The only reason a woman would say she likes nerdy guys is 1) nerdy = stability and resources 2) Nerdy lets a woman not do the work on themselves because a nerdy guy most likely won't have other women beating down his door. 3) She can't figure out the remote. 4) She needs a partner to play World of Warcraft with, see number 2.
I love me.💗 I met this great person 60 years ago and we've been together ever since 🥂🍾 it as our 60th anniversary last month and where still reeling from the joy. 🐣🐤🐥
The bed goes cold when you loose the energy & motivation to maintain the mask you built to attract said person. That’s when people realize they’re not compatible and they’ve wasted a lot of time. The best way to avoid I think is to cultivate and practice being true to your true self in or outside of a relationship. That way you stay consistent when the right person comes.
That can be part of it. Of course, if only one of the couple is wearing a "mask" it's a hell of a let down for the other person. Anyway, some people suggest living together for a while (before marriage) to see how things go. But, in any case, I think it's less about having a mask and more about people having unrealistic expectations (especially women). In the OK Cupid stats, statistically, females rate men of 8 to 10 as "average" looking. The male stats show a normal trend (i.e. averaging around the 5 mark). This is about the "female's expectations" when it comes to dating and men in general.
- If you pursue excellence, excellence will pursue you. - Be the man she wants to be with physically and sexually, not the man she wants to married. - What feeling do you give up at the mirror. - Dress nice not expensive.
From everything I've seen once a man is 50 and his wife passes or leaves there's almost zero chance that he'll ever find another love or long term relationship. Sad reality but that's the new world we live in
I disagree. I am 57 yr. divorced female, healthy, eat right, exercise, attractive and never approached unless it is just for you know. And that is a No. I am looming for someone to have a relationship with and am beginning to feel like what you say, impossible.
Thank you Sultan, this was just the video I needed today! I would love to hear further insight into the differences between desirability/marriage material
@@epicbehavior Good book but I felt Marnia missed a lot of aspects. I'd recommend reading "Love Satisfies" after CPA, it talks about having sex without ejaculating but also still experiencing orgasms, something that Karezza doesn't really offer. This subject goes DEEP, once you start to combine the positive effects of semen retention, energy cultivation with a partner and then using that energy to unlock your potential and connect with the divine.
I highly recommend to everyone listening to Mr. Bruno to begin reading about the Stoics and their philosophies in life. You will better understand what change comes from within and do not base your value on external parts of your life.
Im thinking the only way a cold marriage bed could be created is by both parties allowing the breakdown of the communication that brought them together in the very beginning. Weather you have a fantastic relationship from the start, or it’s just plain, eh...something worked (enough) in the beginning that has been allowed to deteriorate, resulting in the absence of growth, love, and companionship. This will create resentment and both parties will eventually grow apart. It takes work on both ends, maybe not 50/50% to make it work, but you gotta like each other enough to work at it. If one party is not interested, just have the courage to move on and show some respect to yourself and your mate.
Emasculation is real. Wives want power and control,over their husbands. Wives cut off the intimacy, affection, support, and sex for power and punishment. Emasculation will put a husband into depression. The wife doesn’t care and the marriage falls apart. Often the husband looks for another woman. And the wife blames the husband for everything.
Refreshing take on this Mr Bruno. You know what you made me realise? We sometimes seek complexity when the answers all lie in the basics. It's beautiful
I agree To be desireable to women is to be a true man Show true masculine traits which is Have calmness, respect, kindness, politeness and confidence and have fun while you are doing these things, Not just with your self but with others because those types of traits radiates onto others and can help attract others because your giving off a positive vibe and a bit of mystery, People want to find out what type of person you are
I first got into your channel for pipe smoking George. But I love your advice and mentorship. Thank you so much and looking forward to diving into your non pipe smoking content on your channel. I have coached and mentored young make adults and it makes me happy to see someone else mentoring non soft advice. Alot of soft young adults out there who take comments to heart.
Good Morning, Kroger Premium Blend with Cold Stone Caramel Creamer topped with whipped cream and cinnamon stirred to perfection with a chopstick using the Vortex Method.... CLING* CLING* at the molecular level.
Thank you George for the advice Your advice was directed towards me today I needed it going through some things beard brotha much respect ✊ Always and god bless ✊😎💪☕️🇮🇹
"A cold bed is a cold head". Meaning: One or more persons brain is on auto pilot. There is no engagement happening somewhere. This is extremely common with the " I feel comfortable with them" relationships. AKA - One stopped trying and the other most likely did too. No need for improvement when we accept a minimum standard.
A suggestion to the men out there. Ask girls to dance! My 24 year old beautiful daughter has been out to dance halls and men won’t ask women to dance. It has all been turned upside down. She has to ask 99% of the time. What is up with that?? It is not just her. All the women there have to stand around for ever, get frustrated and then just go ahead and what ya’ll should be doing! Ask!!Do your job!
This is good. I’m with you sir. By the way, we share interest in coffee as well. Coffee and espresso are my hobbies. I roast beans and sell online, and always working on improving my espresso game.
I did it after 1.5 years of being a FWB. We never talked about feelings. I finally just had to say that I actually liked her. She apologized for making me like her and only liked me as a F buddy. Terrible feeling actually
Being the man she desires is a slippery slope. What if the description of the man she desires, is not you? Do you casually sneak out the back door, or do you run like hell?
Being "nerdy" is unfortunately part of the norm when you work in the IT field. I am married and have admittedly let myself go a little bit up until recently. Around July, I started taking care of my body again. Eating right, focusing on my appearance a little more and working out, even started growing out my beard. I can tell that people notice. I wasn't trying to attract new people, just trying to better myself for me. The response has been noticeable from everyone. Going from someone that no one really looked at, to the person that can hold the center of attention just because of a few small changes. You'll notice people looking at you differently (specifically ladies). I even got hit on..... while with my wife. Trust everything that was said here. I've physically noticed a difference in just 3 months.
being 'nerdy' is just a label construct of the USA media machine, just like 'jock', 'dork' etc stupid meaningless labels for insecure people lacking foundation.
I think resentment, anger, unforgiveness and loss of interest is when people loss interest in sex with their partner.What good is building your life with noone to share it with? We can’t always plan things out as to when we will meet that “person” to be a part of our lives. God puts people in our lives and we either accept the invitation or turn it away . Sometimes we regret turning that person away thinking later we really need them and want them in our lives.
George, I just made a comment to you on another video you posted, And you replied, as I was sitting here feeling a pain that I've never resolved for a woman I left 13 years ago, You began talking about this subject on this video, I listened jumped up and joined your group with my debit card I sabotaged my life, lost my home my business and cannot reenter America again, I'm stuck in a country I hate, I'm going broke, Turned 60 last may, and I need to get unstuck, Isinse christmas I've been getting up early and start the day with you, and it is helping me. I would like to talk with you via zoom at some point, but I need to figure out how. Thank You my freind
I have a simple principle when looking at this: If you want to be desired, you must be desirable. This applies to love as well; if you want to be loved, you must be lovable. If the actions of the participants get in the way of desirability (or lovableness, if you will), then the bed grows cold. This applies to any of the interconnections and interactions we humans have. Marriage commitment to each other is less important than the commitment to yourself to be desirable, the commitment to your own conduct.
Dreday126 this is true too. And a guy might accidentally trigger that trauma without even knowing it, then out of nowhere, after two or four years of a satisfying relationship, suddenly the bed goes cold and the guy is left scratching their head. I don't really have any advice for how to get around this, because ultimately it's the other persons responsibility at that point and it would be pretty inconsiderate of that person to bring past baggage onto a different relationship. I've been working on this one. Would love for a suggestion from George.
It's funny you brought up having and making friends "being the nice guy" so that you can broaden your horizons. Not because its wrong, but is suggesting that better socialisation is good for self respect. Unfortunately I've lost faith in humanity completely and have walked away from everyone in my life. I don't have friends (where I once had many) out of self respect, I honestly think 99% of people are trash in disguise and very few people are capable of reaching my high hanging fruit, a dramatic change in my character actually. And I was only able to realise this by gaining some amount of self respect , which immediately caused everyone's mask to slip and they treated me like garbage, after everything I did and would have done for them. A good girl is hard to find, but good friends are no different. I'm done with just being the nice guy doormat. In my experience, humans are just a waist of potential, it would feel like disrespecting myself to continue to give anyone the benefit of the doubt and develop a relationship. Fuck people really. I have a girlfriend who loves me, who needs anyone else? (this comment is a bit heated, you would never know I felt this way if you met me. I'm always the most well liked person, but I refuse to invest effort into "friendships " or "family" or "people") . I think I need to move out of liberal town.
I know exactly how you feel man but don’t put it on humanity as a whole. One thing I found when looking deeper was that in all honesty the way our society and culture is structured (and really the world) just seems to bring out the worst characteristics in people and it’s getting bad to the point you can’t trust anyone beyond extremely surface level interaction, even in intimate relationships where you should be comfortable expressing your true self. I don’t think we’re really designed to live with the advanced technology we have today.
There’s a video of a young black boy being cuddled and falling asleep in the arms of a white middle aged woman at a football game. They knew each other very briefly. There are good , honest, decent people out there who do try to make the world better than they found it. I feel your pain brother , but the grind is destroying the best parts of us...
A cold marriage bed is also an unfortunate side effect of to much alcohol. A man's nightly rum, whiskey or other heavy spirits can be a real "joy" killer..😒
Just as men are being coached, modern women are also coached to put themselves first, focus on their purpose, and invite a man into the life they've created. If both men and women are doing this, how will we ever get together?
Cold marriage bed: after the honeymoon period is over, you realize that you married someone with whom you are incompatible on many levels.
You nailed it
thats why sex before marriage is wrong ! love the woman with her flaws and imperfections and im not talking about marital unfaithfulness but what im saying is incompatabilty is something you've created in your head of what a perfect wife should be like date a woman at least a year and see what skeletons come out of the closet and remember you are not perfect yourself and have compassion, a good marriage takes work you have to be willing to make it work by compromise for better and for worse remember when you point your finger you have3 pointing back at you!
Why You Take Your time, Study Her Ways and Make an Educated Decision. 55 Here..Comes from Experience.
And You will live with that for Your life unless You realize Your Mistake. Did that..got away from it
@@Alfonzo862well a car isn’t a woman
Good morning George.
A cold marraige bed has its roots in role reversal. She has lost her womanhood. He has lost his manhood. As a woman, I will highlight some of the mistakes that we as women make to chill a marraige bed off, like a commitment to feminism, being "strong and independent," and demanding equality with your husband. Husbands and wives are compliments, not equals, equity, not equality hold a marraige together. Other mistakes that we make as women to chill a marraige bed off include neglecting our looks, i.e. neglecting our feminine physique, neglecting hair, nails, make-up, wearing skirts and dresses, self-care, etc. When a wife insists on being masculine, when she insists on overgiving and self-sacrificing, rather than being in her feminine, i.e. collaborative, cooperative, nurturing, this is disaster for the marraige bed. A feminine woman, a bed warming woman who rests in her femininity is a woman who is in receiving mode. Working hard like a man, grinding like a mule, like a workhorse, being the breadwinner, being "the rock" of the family, all of this will make sex very uninteresting.
When we as women elevate and invest in our femininity, rest in our femininity, and allow him to be the masculine protector, provider, the masculine rock that he is destined to be, sexual polarity will be self-sustaining and the marriage bed will stay warm, toasty and juicy.
Good show George!
Brilliantly stated. Thank you for that input.
I am truly smitten by your brilliant comment @TaNaisha Lee! You absolutely nailed it! Notwithstanding all the flaws of the modern man, there are still virtuous people walking on this Earth, so there is hope. This video and your comment absolutely made my day! Love and Gratitude.
@@dragomirtsonev319 thank you Dragomir. Yes, George is helping us to see that there is hope. Have a great day!
Amazing! Thank you!
Thanks so much , great information
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Dracula...hold my beer....
"Men, you need options. How do you get options? Pursue excellence." (George Bruno)
The game is rigged fellas. Most women aren’t dateable much less marriage material. Chances are it’s not you. Have fun... get to know her and the minute she disrespects you let her know. Three strikes and you’re out. Flirt and keep your options open. She wants men who are wanted by other women. Sad but true. “Insert Metallica”
Truth.
@NolanEP When you lose your virginity let me know
@@Shawn3002 truth!
gama alert
Ah, yeah, the young immature or older emotionally immature women are like that, wanting men that other women want. A good women doesn’t go that way though.
Pursuing excellence should never stop, just like the courting should never stop.
It's like you read my mind! I recently realized how I was venting my anger and frustration out to new women in my life, disguising it as being a "red-pilled man" unconsciously. Don't get me wrong, it is good for a man to have a good amount of red pill in his life, but not to where it consumes you and you come off as jaded to new women in your life who had nothing to do with past disappointments. Love your channel, sir.
What I have learned from this video: Be a UPS driver with biceps
I've learned Bruno is a Simp
@@jerseysteelfitness6927Hope you're joking...
Lol
Really need to see these "gurus" out in the wild.
So u skipping leg days 🤔
You never ask a woman out, "she" is just a passenger in your voyage. If "she" does not like it, show her the door.
I learned the hard way cuz 10 years of not getting any hook ups or dates on tinder made me cold approach and i gave some females the opportunity to reject me and boost they ego. Never again
@@robinmckenziofficialchanne951 So you just don’t talk to women at all now?
@@colin9722 only the ones im introduced to bro. Women in every day life tend to act like they not interested so fuck em im not boosting they ego anymore we in a pandemic and they still act like they got endless options they are stuck on stupid
@@robinmckenziofficialchanne951 I’m never introduced to women at all. I don’t have friends except one and my work doesn’t have a lot of women around. I want to work up the nerve to talk to women but can’t. I think I need to work on my social skills and talk to everyone. Even the you tubers that are good looking get rejected though. It’s fine to boost a woman’s ego because if she is a low value woman she will think any guy wants to be with her if her ego is high, and then she’ll get played by a guy just sleeping with her then dropping her.
@@colin9722 yeah agree i didn't have. The nerve for years and then out of the blue i just approached 2 girls in public and asked if they were single i went in expecting to get turned down. And didn't feel anything when they did i think that's the 🔑 hitting on girl expecting them to reject you. And my mother works at Ikea That's how i get introduced a lot of females like working thier and there are foreign girls thier sometimes. Find a job that's diverse in culture that's my advice American woman ego to high like you said and feel entitled. To a solid 10 guy who is also rich or wealthy. You are not good enough unless you ware your money and they can visibly see someone they can gold dig
From Puerto Rico , have been learning from your videos a while now
Appreciate it
ajajaja que pueblo? saludos desde dorado xD
That's awesome, man! I'm in PR too. Yabucoa.
Resentment is deadly
We had kids. She made the kids a priority over us. Next thing the husband is put in same category as kids. Like she is the adult in the relationship with 3 “kids”. That was my experience
Immasculation. Dominance.
Ego. Mother knows best.
She is just unconsciously emulating the relationship dynamic of her parents. That is the danger of being with another person, how are they going to treat you?
How conscious / self aware are they?
Regarding after dark activities, I agree. With one exception. That is if one is strapped up with an M4 and NVGs about to crash "a party" full of bad people and/or save innocence. That is a worthy after dark activity...also, pillow talk...
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This is the third time I've heard you say "on the molecular level" and I cracked up laughing every time. Thank you for your kind, yet firm, and witty demeanor. You remind me of what I imagine a good father would be like.
he's a psychopathic narcissist lol
Between selfish and selfless,
there is self-full.
This is the appropriate way of being.
2020 has been the perfect year to chop down weeds.
Weeds are just a plant with a people problem
@Empty The Trash The events that happened produced some level of adversity in most people's lives. During that time you could see how the people around you reacted to adversity. If they tried to drag you down rather than lift you up, you have the option of removing them from your life. That's easier said than done, but most important decisions aren't easy.
Well freakin' put. !!!
@@PPernula interesting how humans love misery so I fully understand how a negative person drag down others or keep other on their same negative levels.
Fuck that!!! I didnt need covid to cut negative people out of my life.
good job on the talk, GB. I have always been considered by my male/female friends as a "man's man", because I embody all the qualities you talk about in your vlog. I am an educated, accomplished, talented, and confident man. Somewhat decent looking, not a model, but decently built because I work at it. It's all about working toward the goal. Love your saying..." be the man that she desires by spending time on you". you were on my recommended videos and glad I found you. Take care GB!
Great advice about friends and cutting them off. You gave excellent reasons. I have done this recently and it has improved my understanding of myself. Thank you!
Be the man that she desires, not the man that she wants to marry.
Translation:
Don't be Superman. Be Batman.
Or if you're the Joker you end up with Harley Quinn. Which could be good or bad, depending on your perspective.
Thinking about the past keeps you stuck. Learn from it, do not dwell on it. Peruse excellence, and excellence will peruse you. Thank you Mr. Bruno. FACT! Be patient and life can surprise you with wonderful things when you least expect it.
How do you peruse excellence?
@@truth294 They are Mr.Bruno's words that I have adopted. Basically put in my understanding anyway,you have to continually grow mentally, spiritually, and physically. And in turn like minded people and opportunities will be attracted to you. But I'm definitely not qualified to give advice yet. Just keep watching and go back and watch Mr. Bruno's content. I find it very insightful. Good luck to you!👍
I had a lot of built of resentment and anger towards being rejected by women and dating the ones that weren’t aligned with me. I have been embracing this path of solitude for the last year and have never felt better. The anger has passed, I still have a profile on one of those dating apps but not interested in putting my energy towards someone right now. It is interesting how I am getting more messages and matches since detaching from the need of another. It will happen when I am ready.
Blueprints to Wholeness S.P. Wow great steps forward, I'm sure that feels really good. It is my theory that this detachment can be applied in many areas of life. I am also very resentful at this time in my life, but not just women, people in general. They call it the hermit stage, and it allows you to recenter your energy on your truest self, supposedly. Honestly I'm the nicest guy you could meet, and it is that exact reason why I've been taken advantage of my whole life, by everyone I've trusted. there is definitely something to be said about finding a balance between friendliness and assertiveness. Until then, fuck people, who needs em.
@@cooperyoung1928 it is very freeing and powerful for sure. My finances have improved, I have more energy/confidence, and I am actually pretty happy which is saying something given where I was. Yes you will get there I am sure it can be difficult at first but well worth it. I say to myself for every guy out there who is desiring a women so strongly there is about 12 other guys who are regretting choosing who they married. Not to say all women are bad but I notice people will rush into it because they are fearful of being alone. Focus on yourself first, healing, growing all of that and the rest will follow.
@@spiritreadingsbycody some very wise words there
As hard as it is for me to admit...this built in resentment has been in me for sometime as well...I'm really glad to hear that this path of solitude has kept you sane and on track and that the anger has passed. Inspirational.
Nice!!! I never had facebook, tinder, Instagram or any other social media and it's the best! I rather meet in person! Plus focusing on myself has been amazing so much I've accomplished funny thing is after a long year of work I'm writing this message at 6:09 getting ready to travel for fun!!!
But once I have all my fun when I get back to the states it's all about work!
I truly appreciate your words of wisdom and I will apply them to my life lord knows I need them right now.
Nice video George. I have two sisters, six children,three of the children I adopted and two ex wives. Life has been tragic at times and glorious at times. Some people ride the merry go round and others enjoy the roller coaster. Life is about experiences and choices that are good and bad. Welcome to life and I agree with everything you said regarding the bitching. Man up guys! When you dust yourself off, stand straight and tall. Don’t let bad experiences hold you back from loving people that make you happy. That includes family, your not the same inexperienced man you were 5yrs ago. Love my children unconditionally. They may not understand me at times but that’s ok. Keep up the good work and good luck with prospective new job.
The truth is that it is a pleasure to listen to him...a very nice guy, clear and direct...things as they are
I’m not a nurd. I own a top load washing machine built in 1998.
My is from 1996.
Wisdom + Class = This Man. TY.
Lmao at “good morning, ma’am. I’ve got a package here for you.”
Lady, did you order a pepperoni pizza? Well... here’s the pizza... and here’s the pepperoni... zip!
There’s a big difference in asking a girl out and asking a woman out.
@@TroyMountain or Tartaria
Great advice vid. Actually, after I got red pilled I avoided relationships that would have been pointless. I pursued excellence instead and it I'm way happier as a consequence.
Great way to start the morning. Listening to this
The only reason a woman would say she likes nerdy guys is 1) nerdy = stability and resources 2) Nerdy lets a woman not do the work on themselves because a nerdy guy most likely won't have other women beating down his door. 3) She can't figure out the remote. 4) She needs a partner to play World of Warcraft with, see number 2.
I love me.💗 I met this great person 60 years ago and we've been together ever since 🥂🍾 it as our 60th anniversary last month and where still reeling from the joy. 🐣🐤🐥
A good perspective
My son just started college yesterday!!! All his books are online. Blew my mind!!! I'm only 45, but I need the tactile experience of paper.
The bed goes cold when you loose the energy & motivation to maintain the mask you built to attract said person. That’s when people realize they’re not compatible and they’ve wasted a lot of time. The best way to avoid I think is to cultivate and practice being true to your true self in or outside of a relationship. That way you stay consistent when the right person comes.
That can be part of it. Of course, if only one of the couple is wearing a "mask" it's a hell of a let down for the other person. Anyway, some people suggest living together for a while (before marriage) to see how things go. But, in any case, I think it's less about having a mask and more about people having unrealistic expectations (especially women). In the OK Cupid stats, statistically, females rate men of 8 to 10 as "average" looking. The male stats show a normal trend (i.e. averaging around the 5 mark). This is about the "female's expectations" when it comes to dating and men in general.
George, you make some very valid points this morning. Thanks.
- If you pursue excellence, excellence will pursue you.
- Be the man she wants to be with physically and sexually, not the man she wants to married.
- What feeling do you give up at the mirror.
- Dress nice not expensive.
Great advice. Thank you, sir.
My grandfather always reminded me of that in my youth...as I wandered in at 4am
From everything I've seen once a man is 50 and his wife passes or leaves there's almost zero chance that he'll ever find another love or long term relationship. Sad reality but that's the new world we live in
That's funny, because I'm 60 and I have about a dozen beautiful intelligent accomplished women who want to spend time with me.
I disagree. I am 57 yr. divorced female, healthy, eat right, exercise, attractive and never approached unless it is just for you know. And that is a No. I am looming for someone to have a relationship with and am beginning to feel like what you say, impossible.
@@SaltofDayandLightofNight it's been a year, how's it all going now?
I’m 61 and I respectfully disagree
Thank you Sultan, this was just the video I needed today!
I would love to hear further insight into the differences between desirability/marriage material
Dang George this is by far your best beard shape yet. Damn I’m jealous 😂
It's the Coolidge Effect. The attraction has to go beyond visual to keep it alive.
You can bypass the Coolidge effect by not ejaculating. Read Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow and stop busting nuts.
@@epicbehavior Good book but I felt Marnia missed a lot of aspects. I'd recommend reading "Love Satisfies" after CPA, it talks about having sex without ejaculating but also still experiencing orgasms, something that Karezza doesn't really offer. This subject goes DEEP, once you start to combine the positive effects of semen retention, energy cultivation with a partner and then using that energy to unlock your potential and connect with the divine.
si mart sounds good I’ll check it out
RUN-Run as if your life depends on it.And it does!
I went to FIT at the Jensen Beach/Stuart campus taking Underwater Technology. This was in the late 70s.
I highly recommend to everyone listening to Mr. Bruno to begin reading about the Stoics and their philosophies in life. You will better understand what change comes from within and do not base your value on external parts of your life.
Excellent advice ... as always !! 😎
I started to stir my coffee just like you, thank you
👍😎
Im thinking the only way a cold marriage bed could be created is by both parties allowing the breakdown of the communication that brought them together in the very beginning.
Weather you have a fantastic relationship from the start, or it’s just plain, eh...something worked (enough) in the beginning that has been allowed to deteriorate, resulting in the absence of growth, love, and companionship.
This will create resentment and both parties will eventually grow apart.
It takes work on both ends, maybe not 50/50% to make it work, but you gotta like each other enough to work at it.
If one party is not interested, just have the courage to move on and show some respect to yourself and your mate.
Emasculation is real. Wives want power and control,over their husbands. Wives cut off the intimacy, affection, support, and sex for power and punishment. Emasculation will put a husband into depression. The wife doesn’t care and the marriage falls apart. Often the husband looks for another woman. And the wife blames the husband for everything.
I don't socialize with people who are negative.
Refreshing take on this Mr Bruno. You know what you made me realise? We sometimes seek complexity when the answers all lie in the basics. It's beautiful
Mr Bruno.. thank you sir . I loved this video
Finding a good woman isn't impossible, it's just rare. Many of them, are fools gold. Know the difference.
Im sorry but a man in his 60s using the word simp i just cant
In depth conversations would be so so nice. I joined a virtual meet up just to have intellectual conversation.
Cold bed is from not communicating and growing apart. Have the tough conversations
I agree
To be desireable to women is to be a true man
Show true masculine traits which is
Have calmness, respect, kindness, politeness and confidence and have fun while you are doing these things,
Not just with your self but with others because those types of traits radiates onto others and can help attract others because your giving off a positive vibe and a bit of mystery,
People want to find out what type of person you are
I first got into your channel for pipe smoking George. But I love your advice and mentorship. Thank you so much and looking forward to diving into your non pipe smoking content on your channel. I have coached and mentored young make adults and it makes me happy to see someone else mentoring non soft advice. Alot of soft young adults out there who take comments to heart.
I needed this advice tonight brother
Thanks Tony England 🤘
Interested in a woman: leave her alone and focus on oneself
You’re like a second father to me. My RUclips father 😅
God bless you brother💪🏼💪🏼
Contempt is the deadliest
Welcome back ..... have been waiting and counting when you will start again 😍
Thanks you George, this video helps me to understand a lot of things, im glad that i found this channel.
Good Morning, Kroger Premium Blend with Cold Stone Caramel Creamer topped with whipped cream and cinnamon stirred to perfection with a chopstick using the Vortex Method.... CLING* CLING* at the molecular level.
Love Kroger brand coffee.
Totally on point about being the man she desires #1 rather than wants to marry.
Thank you George for the advice Your advice was directed towards me today I needed it going through some things beard brotha much respect ✊ Always and god bless ✊😎💪☕️🇮🇹
I'm going primal. I'm going to bench press my 5 lb weights
"A cold bed is a cold head".
Meaning: One or more persons brain is on auto pilot. There is no engagement happening somewhere. This is extremely common with the " I feel comfortable with them" relationships.
AKA - One stopped trying and the other most likely did too. No need for improvement when we accept a minimum standard.
A suggestion to the men out there. Ask girls to dance! My 24 year old beautiful daughter has been out to dance halls and men won’t ask women to dance. It has all been turned upside down. She has to ask 99% of the time. What is up with that?? It is not just her. All the women there have to stand around for ever, get frustrated and then just go ahead and what ya’ll should be doing! Ask!!Do your job!
@@felipe7112 I think she just means that men shouldn't be afraid to ask women out.
This is good. I’m with you sir. By the way, we share interest in coffee as well. Coffee and espresso are my hobbies. I roast beans and sell online, and always working on improving my espresso game.
Most of the time when the bed is cold is because she lost respect for/trust in you
I did it after 1.5 years of being a FWB. We never talked about feelings. I finally just had to say that I actually liked her. She apologized for making me like her and only liked me as a F buddy. Terrible feeling actually
Wow...that's harsh sorry you went through that! Don't forget someone out there would love to be with you!
At least you got to F her, it is way worse when you are F without B and she gives you the 'I don't see you that way' reply after a year.
youre so chill im loving this video
Being the man she desires is a slippery slope. What if the description of the man she desires, is not you? Do you casually sneak out the back door, or do you run like hell?
Great video George. Really got me thinking about my own self improvement.
Being "nerdy" is unfortunately part of the norm when you work in the IT field. I am married and have admittedly let myself go a little bit up until recently. Around July, I started taking care of my body again. Eating right, focusing on my appearance a little more and working out, even started growing out my beard. I can tell that people notice. I wasn't trying to attract new people, just trying to better myself for me. The response has been noticeable from everyone. Going from someone that no one really looked at, to the person that can hold the center of attention just because of a few small changes. You'll notice people looking at you differently (specifically ladies). I even got hit on..... while with my wife. Trust everything that was said here. I've physically noticed a difference in just 3 months.
Keep going!
Good job 👏🏼 do it for yourself and your health. That’s what matters most
Inspiration to read, thank you!
being 'nerdy' is just a label construct of the USA media machine, just like 'jock', 'dork' etc stupid meaningless labels for insecure people lacking foundation.
@@mkf628 THIS GUY..
I make things better thanks to you, including coffee, and thank you for all these precious tips

This was so good to hear. I hope you’re still taking consultations or coaching sessions
I needed to hear this
Great video! That's also interesting to hear about the best places to retire. I currently live in Tampa, FL but was born in Lancaster, PA 😊
I did mushrooms, no coffee.
Thanks George. Really appreciate this advice
Thank You for this video.
I think resentment, anger, unforgiveness and loss of interest is when people loss interest in sex with their partner.What good is building your life with noone to share it with? We can’t always plan things out as to when we will meet that “person” to be a part of our lives. God puts people in our lives and we either accept the invitation or turn it away . Sometimes we regret turning that person away thinking later we really need them and want them in our lives.
Absolutely. We make subtle decisions to open and close doors. Sometimes we close the wrong doors.
Melissa, if you start a RUclips channel, I'll be your first subscriber!
@@ColtMotor i have one ☝️
You so on point this morning
George, I just made a comment to you on another video you posted,
And you replied, as I was sitting here feeling a pain that I've never resolved for a woman I left 13 years ago, You began talking about this subject on this video, I listened jumped up and joined your group with my debit card
I sabotaged my life, lost my home my business and cannot reenter America again, I'm stuck in a country I hate, I'm going broke, Turned 60 last may, and I need to get unstuck,
Isinse christmas I've been getting up early and start the day with you, and it is helping me.
I would like to talk with you via zoom at some point, but I need to figure out how.
Thank You my freind
I have a simple principle when looking at this: If you want to be desired, you must be desirable. This applies to love as well; if you want to be loved, you must be lovable. If the actions of the participants get in the way of desirability (or lovableness, if you will), then the bed grows cold.
This applies to any of the interconnections and interactions we humans have. Marriage commitment to each other is less important than the commitment to yourself to be desirable, the commitment to your own conduct.
F.I.T. in Melbourne? I took a few computer science grad courses there circa 1987.
Cold bed might be from unhealed/ unprocessed trauma...
Dreday126 this is true too. And a guy might accidentally trigger that trauma without even knowing it, then out of nowhere, after two or four years of a satisfying relationship, suddenly the bed goes cold and the guy is left scratching their head. I don't really have any advice for how to get around this, because ultimately it's the other persons responsibility at that point and it would be pretty inconsiderate of that person to bring past baggage onto a different relationship. I've been working on this one. Would love for a suggestion from George.
Thanks Universe for GB!! F’n awesome vid!
me the only girl here: I have found the place where men show there true feelings
9:32 I’m the proof...
So valuable 👌🏽
Intelligence is striking enough, great looks is just the frosting on his cake.
Good content. More real than ever
Wise man too wise, very good.
Approach her and communicate
It's funny you brought up having and making friends "being the nice guy" so that you can broaden your horizons. Not because its wrong, but is suggesting that better socialisation is good for self respect. Unfortunately I've lost faith in humanity completely and have walked away from everyone in my life. I don't have friends (where I once had many) out of self respect, I honestly think 99% of people are trash in disguise and very few people are capable of reaching my high hanging fruit, a dramatic change in my character actually. And I was only able to realise this by gaining some amount of self respect , which immediately caused everyone's mask to slip and they treated me like garbage, after everything I did and would have done for them. A good girl is hard to find, but good friends are no different. I'm done with just being the nice guy doormat. In my experience, humans are just a waist of potential, it would feel like disrespecting myself to continue to give anyone the benefit of the doubt and develop a relationship. Fuck people really. I have a girlfriend who loves me, who needs anyone else? (this comment is a bit heated, you would never know I felt this way if you met me. I'm always the most well liked person, but I refuse to invest effort into "friendships " or "family" or "people") . I think I need to move out of liberal town.
True brother me too.
I know exactly how you feel man but don’t put it on humanity as a whole. One thing I found when looking deeper was that in all honesty the way our society and culture is structured (and really the world) just seems to bring out the worst characteristics in people and it’s getting bad to the point you can’t trust anyone beyond extremely surface level interaction, even in intimate relationships where you should be comfortable expressing your true self. I don’t think we’re really designed to live with the advanced technology we have today.
There’s a video of a young black boy being cuddled and falling asleep in the arms of a white middle aged woman at a football game. They knew each other very briefly. There are good , honest, decent people out there who do try to make the world better than they found it. I feel your pain brother , but the grind is destroying the best parts of us...
Liberal? Damn bro, DON'T do it...
It would be great to have some money and move out to the middle of nowhere and live like the character played by Mark Wahlberg in the movie Shooter.
A cold marriage bed is also an unfortunate side effect of to much alcohol. A man's nightly rum, whiskey or other heavy spirits can be a real "joy" killer..😒
Depresses the nervous system ....and something else too
Lordy yes...😵
Johnny walker....Johnny talker
Just as men are being coached, modern women are also coached to put themselves first, focus on their purpose, and invite a man into the life they've created. If both men and women are doing this, how will we ever get together?
That what I noticed. Same advice just worded differently.