This is a really good message. Should have a lot more views. As an Asian father living in the west, full of anxiety for my son, not in the typical tiger parent way, but in how he can fit in, be popular and get girls, especially since Hollywood is hell bent on emasculating Asian men. This video has alleviated a lot of questions and anxiety I have. He'll definitely not be a little study machine, but at the same time, I shouldn't force him to be a jock either. I'll need to give him freedom and space to breathe and be himself. Thank you.
Thank you for this video. I'm in a similar boat. I'm 21 and I'm going to school full-time for computer science while working full-time to pay for it. After already dropping out once due to stress but realizing I couldn't get anything besides crappy jobs without a degree, I felt i had bo choice but to go back. My family is all so happy but im miserable. I grew up in a rough home which definitely set me back socially and I have really bad stress induced acne and as much as I love cheering my friends on it's hard watching them move in and live their lives while mine is just working, going to the gym, and barely sleeping. Every morning I wake up I look in the mirror and I tell myself only a year and a half more to go and then i can finnally start living. I've noticed a link between those who have gone through a rough childhood, and those same people becoming wise, self aware, and moving towards self-actualization. Have you noticed that as well?
@@official_aweiuntil a b* who makes you see life in color for the first time breaks your heart and you paint your hair blue while yelling to the world "f* off! nothing makes sense! I've tried it all!" on too much alcohol creating a trail of chaos behind you
I think what you said about being responsible about your future is really good. Life may be unfair and bad stuff happened to you in the past, but that never stopped you from not trying
Alex your physics studies remind of my youth. I was urged to find something that you're good at and do that. Turns out I wasn't good at anything (and that's still true). What I did was study what I loved even though there was no future in it for me. So I did that and like you. never utilized my education in my working life. But much older now, I'm fully enjoying was I studied all those years ago while others of my age around me seem to have nothing to do.
Me too. I am 20+ years old than you. I am 5’6”. Not a single woman gave me chocolates in Valentine’s Day during my school years. My son is 5’9” and he got teddy bears and chocolates from girls in junior high. 3 inches make a huge difference. He is 14. I hope he can get another inch. I am asking him to jump ropes daily and stay fit. I am fully aware of your feelings. Life is very tough for us short Asian guys!
@@official_awei a little better than me, but still only Indian and East Asian girls showed interest, broke up quickly in middle school. Hope he has a better life than me when he becomes an adult. Life is extremely tough for East Asian men in North America. Average height for eastern Asian in the US is only 5’6”, but the white dudes have an average 5’10”. It is tough to compete with them. Good grades are needed, but it is not the only thing kids should pay attention to. I told my son your lessons taught here. Hope he can be successful!
Men, I had the same shit childhood but I was very poor and living in a harsh environment seeing my parents fighting every day and my mom forced me to study so hard that I could graduate as mechanical engineer but now with 49 years old, I could realize like u that world is really unfair with subiological people. After many years suffering from many reasons, now like u I HAVE already decided to quit my stable work as a worm and public parasites and find a new purpose in life. I tried to do my best, but the world made me a loser and the best healing way now as a single, no friends, no social life, no family (everybody died) since childhood is living with our nature and our Universal GOD. I hope u have more lucky than me and not becoming a loser like me. My whole life was a meaningless shit outcome. Like u said, even if u do ur best, if THE WORLD doesn't recognize ur effort it will be meaningless and a waste of time.
@@mkaizen1756 so sorry to hear this! I am also an engineer. When you study engineering, there are very few female engineering students in college. It is tough to find a partner. You need to meet more people. I never gave up. After numerous rejections, I started a family and got kids, although the marriage is not perfect. My classmate did not try hard and he is still single. The other thing you can do is to find a woman in Asia. There is risk, but worthy a try. Life is not easy for short men! I was laughed by so many people as a 5’6” guy. Try to talk to as many women as you can, also save your money. Don’t run into gold diggers.
@@mkaizen1756 also your effort needs to be put on the right direction. I noticed many short men chase one woman for years without any results. That is terrible effort wasted. Open your eyes and evaluate the woman’s interest level! If she is not interested, put her in your casual chatting list and move on to the next one immediately! That is my advice to short Asian men!
@official_awei Thank u brother ! I have just lived for survival not enjoying life doing what I wanted. My oppressed poor childhood made anti social and like u I hadn't created any kind of relationships. My life suck till today, but I'm trying to change my reality riding motorcycle 🏍 and be a part of a group, but it's hard to make friendship. Life is suffering and suck for us 😪
im really thankful for the person that i am, im tall and have nice hair and face, the only problem im facing right now is that i suck horribly in school. like i was bad in math since 4th grade! and my other classes were mostly average, and i was extremely lazy about it, and im facing financial problems in my life so if i dont get my shit together and at least try i will stuck like this forever. i really dont want the fate that my father had to take, HE was very handsome and tall too but since he had a very financially bad childhood and a veery uneducated family (my grandmother didn't go to any school) he had a rough childhood and sadly even after trying his best he wasn't able to get his degree or have a succesful carrier, my only hope right now is problably working to my best abilites and being a aircraft technician like my big brothers, right now im learning german and i hope i will learn it well. thank you for this video and giving thought-provoking ideas.
The answer is gratitude. If you can't feel empowered by what you can have, be empowered by what you have. Bruh you should have traveled to rural China while young it would have shattered any belief in "just world", but you probably wouldn't have had the energy and ambition to achieve what you achieved. I was shit at school because I never believed in "just world" and consequently had a lot of laughter with my buddies whose goal was to create chaos in class, I was happy NGL, but then after high school I realized there's no way I'm working a shit job, it sucked my soul, so I read the book The Alchemist which boosted my romantic brain and gave me the energy to go pull a pre-med at McGill university.. until reality hit back and now I'm lost again and have no energy😂 I guess you gotta live romantically but be ready to take the hits and get back up every time, there's no other way. At least in the cold reality of America.
This is a really good message. Should have a lot more views. As an Asian father living in the west, full of anxiety for my son, not in the typical tiger parent way, but in how he can fit in, be popular and get girls, especially since Hollywood is hell bent on emasculating Asian men. This video has alleviated a lot of questions and anxiety I have. He'll definitely not be a little study machine, but at the same time, I shouldn't force him to be a jock either. I'll need to give him freedom and space to breathe and be himself.
Thank you.
Thank you for this video. I'm in a similar boat. I'm 21 and I'm going to school full-time for computer science while working full-time to pay for it. After already dropping out once due to stress but realizing I couldn't get anything besides crappy jobs without a degree, I felt i had bo choice but to go back. My family is all so happy but im miserable. I grew up in a rough home which definitely set me back socially and I have really bad stress induced acne and as much as I love cheering my friends on it's hard watching them move in and live their lives while mine is just working, going to the gym, and barely sleeping. Every morning I wake up I look in the mirror and I tell myself only a year and a half more to go and then i can finnally start living.
I've noticed a link between those who have gone through a rough childhood, and those same people becoming wise, self aware, and moving towards self-actualization. Have you noticed that as well?
yeah ofc I've noticed that too. rough seas make skilled sailors.
@@official_aweiuntil a b* who makes you see life in color for the first time breaks your heart and you paint your hair blue while yelling to the world "f* off! nothing makes sense! I've tried it all!" on too much alcohol creating a trail of chaos behind you
@@official_aweithe most skilled captains have but one weakness and they are sirens
I think what you said about being responsible about your future is really good. Life may be unfair and bad stuff happened to you in the past, but that never stopped you from not trying
hope this helped someone out there, as it would have helped my past self.
Thanks for taking the time to make this video. Great message.
@@ricardobarahona3939 of course brotha
Alex your physics studies remind of my youth. I was urged to find something that you're good at and do that. Turns out I wasn't good at anything (and that's still true). What I did was study what I loved even though there was no future in it for me. So I did that and like you. never utilized my education in my working life. But much older now, I'm fully enjoying was I studied all those years ago while others of my age around me seem to have nothing to do.
Me too. I am 20+ years old than you. I am 5’6”. Not a single woman gave me chocolates in Valentine’s Day during my school years. My son is 5’9” and he got teddy bears and chocolates from girls in junior high. 3 inches make a huge difference. He is 14. I hope he can get another inch. I am asking him to jump ropes daily and stay fit. I am fully aware of your feelings. Life is very tough for us short Asian guys!
indeed... and glad to hear ur son is doing well!
@@official_awei a little better than me, but still only Indian and East Asian girls showed interest, broke up quickly in middle school. Hope he has a better life than me when he becomes an adult. Life is extremely tough for East Asian men in North America. Average height for eastern Asian in the US is only 5’6”, but the white dudes have an average 5’10”. It is tough to compete with them. Good grades are needed, but it is not the only thing kids should pay attention to. I told my son your lessons taught here. Hope he can be successful!
Men, I had the same shit childhood but I was very poor and living in a harsh environment seeing my parents fighting every day and my mom forced me to study so hard that I could graduate as mechanical engineer but now with 49 years old, I could realize like u that world is really unfair with subiological people. After many years suffering from many reasons, now like u I HAVE already decided to quit my stable work as a worm and public parasites and find a new purpose in life. I tried to do my best, but the world made me a loser and the best healing way now as a single, no friends, no social life, no family (everybody died) since childhood is living with our nature and our Universal GOD. I hope u have more lucky than me and not becoming a loser like me. My whole life was a meaningless shit outcome. Like u said, even if u do ur best, if THE WORLD doesn't recognize ur effort it will be meaningless and a waste of time.
@@mkaizen1756 so sorry to hear this! I am also an engineer. When you study engineering, there are very few female engineering students in college. It is tough to find a partner. You need to meet more people. I never gave up. After numerous rejections, I started a family and got kids, although the marriage is not perfect. My classmate did not try hard and he is still single. The other thing you can do is to find a woman in Asia. There is risk, but worthy a try. Life is not easy for short men! I was laughed by so many people as a 5’6” guy. Try to talk to as many women as you can, also save your money. Don’t run into gold diggers.
@@mkaizen1756 also your effort needs to be put on the right direction. I noticed many short men chase one woman for years without any results. That is terrible effort wasted. Open your eyes and evaluate the woman’s interest level! If she is not interested, put her in your casual chatting list and move on to the next one immediately! That is my advice to short Asian men!
thanks for the message, and I hope u can turn things around.
@official_awei Thank u brother ! I have just lived for survival not enjoying life doing what I wanted. My oppressed poor childhood made anti social and like u I hadn't created any kind of relationships. My life suck till today, but I'm trying to change my reality riding motorcycle 🏍 and be a part of a group, but it's hard to make friendship. Life is suffering and suck for us 😪
im really thankful for the person that i am, im tall and have nice hair and face, the only problem im facing right now is that i suck horribly in school. like i was bad in math since 4th grade! and my other classes were mostly average, and i was extremely lazy about it, and im facing financial problems in my life so if i dont get my shit together and at least try i will stuck like this forever. i really dont want the fate that my father had to take, HE was very handsome and tall too but since he had a very financially bad childhood and a veery uneducated family (my grandmother didn't go to any school) he had a rough childhood and sadly even after trying his best he wasn't able to get his degree or have a succesful carrier, my only hope right now is problably working to my best abilites and being a aircraft technician like my big brothers, right now im learning german and i hope i will learn it well.
thank you for this video and giving thought-provoking ideas.
hope u figure things out man, u got this
so relatable
why desperately try to fit in a society that rejected you
The answer is gratitude. If you can't feel empowered by what you can have, be empowered by what you have. Bruh you should have traveled to rural China while young it would have shattered any belief in "just world", but you probably wouldn't have had the energy and ambition to achieve what you achieved. I was shit at school because I never believed in "just world" and consequently had a lot of laughter with my buddies whose goal was to create chaos in class, I was happy NGL, but then after high school I realized there's no way I'm working a shit job, it sucked my soul, so I read the book The Alchemist which boosted my romantic brain and gave me the energy to go pull a pre-med at McGill university.. until reality hit back and now I'm lost again and have no energy😂 I guess you gotta live romantically but be ready to take the hits and get back up every time, there's no other way. At least in the cold reality of America.
Dude its not a sing along, stop the bubble subtitles
breathe & relax my man :)
They are helpful and help focus on the video for some reason