5 Skills To Master Before Dating Anyone (Single Men Need To Know This)
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Tell attractive women they need to lower their standards and stop only dating attractive & rich men. Dating is non-existent for most men. Also, a lot of men are committing suicide.
1. Emotional Regulation 0:45
2. Financial responsibility 2:44
3. Taking Care of Yourself 5:07
4. Self awareness 8:08
5. Effective Communication 10:36
not all heroes wear capes
Financial responsibility...... Be rich or else 😅
My hero
@@elgooges ye sadly thats the bare minimum nowadays to even have a chance to get a gf.. 😐
@@elgoogesHow much is considered "rich"?
🤔 *"Siri, why am I so bad at relationships with women?"*
"This is Alexa."🤔
😂
That's incredible.
That's a good one. 😂
😂😂😂😂😂 good one 💯
I had a date last week that went perfect. We laughed, flirted and got serious all throughout. She then asked me for a follow-up date herself, after which she stopped replying and friendzoned me a week after. I thought I learned a lot from your videos, but apparently sometimes even the best advice isn’t enough. I did realise through this experience that sometimes it really isn’t my fault, which made the whole situation go from painful to just a nice evening and an interesting experience
Thats where u went wrong, her advice sucks and all it tis is telling men to bend over backwards and that doesnt work because those guys are simps and are used for thier money on dates. Hold men to thus standard! Be the best and let them wring u dry. I've seen stories how a guy does this and is still let down. LIKE U! SO DON'T DATE! if u ain't handsome, rich, don't got a hobby they would like, or a job they don't like. They will leave u. U gotta be the strong one while she piggy backs off u.
@dapug24 you sound like a bitter man who is trying to lead others astray. Misery loves company. Her advice isn't just bending over backwards. She has made plenty of videos calling women out and telling men how to spot an unserious woman
been there done that, pick yourself up king you'll find someone better!
@@dapug24 cringe
@@chidoriman20 you say cringe but reality doesn't care if it depressing or awkward.
When I talk to other people, I've been deliberately practicing limiting myself to 2 sentences, before pausing to give the other people a chance to have their input. I do this during work and social conversations.
I also try to explicitly ask at least one question for every 2 or 3 declarative statements. Between these 2 things, it reduces the need for conversation participants to interrupt each other and it helps balance the share of input between involved people.
When you feel you don’t need anyone in your life, when you feel you don’t want anyone in your life - you are complete!!
Now you are ready to share the bliss of your life with someone special ❤
Why would i want to risk the bliss of my solitude?...
1) How to develop strong passwords to prevent snooping
2) How to cook and eat your own healthy food
3) How to keep your friends
4) How to keep your sanity
5) When to move on
Dating advice for men: "You need to..."
Dating advice for women: "You deserve..."
"Why is there a mass exodus of single men from the dating market? It's a Scooby-Doo mystery!!!"
@Doberman_6773. So true. And the list of things that men have to be or do keeps growing. And the women do nothing. So unfair to men.
You deserve a woman who will make you a sandwich.
@Doberman_6773. Nailed it….so many women have made themselves absolutely undateable - the entitlement, the petulance, the lack of emotional regulation (theirs - not ours)….it’s surreal how oblivious this woman is to all that.
Typical weak man, blames his failures on others, women in this case instead of taking accountability and looking within. Keep ingesting all that incel misogynistic red-pill crap and you will forever be a loser. "Am I somehow at fault? NO, IT'S THE WORLD THAT IS WRONG!" Pathetic.
I don’t buy that that many men are exiting the dating pool. Do you know that many guys that are quitting dating? I don’t know a single man or woman that is doing it - they all either have a partner or are pursuing one
This is top-tier advice! 🔥 Mastering these skills before dating is a game-changer. Every single guy needs to hear this-thanks for the wisdom! 🙌👏
I have come to realize that if they contact you or not, it just wasn't meant to be just move on.
The key to happiness is loving yourself, no one cares about you but you..
The key to happiness is a relationship with Jesus Christ. Ain't nobody love you like he does.
Loved " You are not alone." 💯
Courtney, I enjoy your genuine down to earth style in delivering dating advice. You are no "fluff" and 100% substance! Keep up the great work!
Thank you 🥹
I'm still mastering the art of holding in a fart until I get home from the date
😂
Hahaha
Plant based diet won't help any
Plant based diet won't help any
Epitaph on a tombstone: "Wherever you are, wherever you be, always let your wind go free. For holding on, was the death of me!"🤣
My wife still thinks I clean gutters for several hours a day.... I have no gutters. Let that marinate for a minute.
Exactly.😂
What?
Guess all you married guys need a break from the 'minister of war and economy' once in a while 😂
I don't have wife but an uncorfirmed autism, so I don't get it.
But this is a joke so hahaha
Well, my head is in the gutter😂
Self-esteem and self-worth to put myself out there.
I am already good at the things listed here, just need to act like it!
Great list! In terms of a future topic, consider a video about how people can navigate conversations about politics early in the dating phase.
Many of my guys friends aren't that political but noticed more of their dates (in the early phase) are bringing up politics.
My advice has been to focus more on values early on. If their dates insist, discuss how your values influence your stance on political issues versus just discussing who you voted for.
To me that's a more constructive approach but curious to hear what you would recommend.
I started going to the gym 5 days a week for an hour and it's been fun, I've learned a lot. I feel better and I'm on my way to looking great too.
You have wonderful points in the video Courtney. This is a good reminder to work on some of these other things as well. Thank you for all you do!
Going to the gym doesn’t help if you spend the time looking at your phone 90% of the time like most people do.
@boristagesson967 interesting you say this because I keep my phone in the locker so I can be present with my gym routine.
The gym helps with serotonin and handling yourself giving you more confidence for future endeavors
@ Great!
You can do what you want, and be as ready as you possibly can be. If the girl don't like you, she don't like you. Best to move on as soon as possible.
Love these points, working more on effective communication at the moment.
Hey, Courtney and everyone.
Hey Yosef!
A skill I would add is to overcome codependence and being relaxed about the outcome of the date.
Thanks Courtney Ryan for making this video because I’m already self aware of my own emotions and the emotions of others.
Thank you for the tips as always, Big Sis! It’s a struggle for us single guys out here 😂
Not going out drinking can help my reputation. I cannot be a drunk idiot if I don't drink.
Love your work
I am really learning a lot from your videos! One of my goals this year is to start dating. What you shared really help me to be ready.
Speaking from personal experience, it's important to get to know the female anatomy well and ensure the lights are on when you and your lady companion are together for the first time. If you can't see where you're going, you might end up in the wrong tunnel.
☝️🤣
@@johnguernier8030 Oh, she was not laughing!!! I ended up getting a face full of her nails as instant karma!
You can learn these things while dating. You will still be learning these skills until the day you die and you will never be perfect. While I appreciate Courtney’s sentiment, you can’t learn new skills alone. Don’t worry about mastering any of these skills if you’re going out dating, just date and continue to improve your toolbox while you go.
I gotta say I attracted way more women when I was the complete opposite of all these factors.
“Ryan, batting fourth. Hits a Grand Slam over the fence.”
My dating life significantly improved when I started exploring Mindbloomery. It's all about energy you radiate and you need to own your presence around women. They absolutely love when you assertive and confident, and it's wild how they start looking at your differently when you know your worth.
Yeah they like controlling Dee bags, we get it.
Unless you're ugly, they look at you like a weirdo.
I've been watching your videos for a bit and I just want to say thanks for what you do.
I actually find your channel when I started watching 6 signs that woman say and what they actually mean. I love your channel Courtney Ryan.❤
Thanks for being a authentic advice, Ryan, I'm Sai Kiran here from India
As always, Thank you Courtney for providing deep insight, wisdom & clarity for helping us men to level up in life and become solid men for the girl that God brings into our life.
It ain't healthy to pretend you never get angry, just find the way to validate that emotion and to find the proper manner to deal with it but that bs about maturity sounds as if grown ups should be robots
Most men are rubbish at dating, I listen to my friends go on about their experience after a date and even as a man I can see what they did wrong, one recently could not understand why and I pointed out that jeans and a tee shirt he wore to the date are probably the reason, women like to see effort even on a coffee date, I challenge them constantly about what they did on the date and only in very few instances the penny drops. I have recently given up trying to coach them and point them here, maybe the same advice given by a woman might help but I am skeptical.
Courtney, I’ve been labeled by many as a sigma male. The way I roll has cost me a lot in dating and relationships. It’s a real struggle for me, but I have got to be myself.
Great content Courtney
The last 3 videos (including this one) have been awesome! 🔥 🤩 👏
Like the top and keep being great!
I’m pretty much on point with it all… but some reason I’m still enjoying my time with me! I’m enjoying to process of building a better version of me. It’s been a couple years but it doesn’t feel like it. Connecting with women in a conversation isn’t hard for me…I guess that’s why everyone says I’m chilled🤔 I go into it without any expectations, just two people talking and seeing where it goes.
Can you make a video discussing sunglasses and the different styles and the relation to our faces? I've heard in the past that there are styles, sizes, etc that you shouldn't wear if you have a certain face shape or certain facial features.
Or if all of that is foolishness then maybe you can address it in an upcoming video?
These skills, along with other individual ones, shouldn't be expressed just on dating, but especially after and in future marriage life.
Thank you Courtney.😮
A Valentine’s Day theme video must be in near future.😅
#1 goes for a lot of women as well. Though I feel like that is something that doesn't come into context until a relationship has already started.
I think these should apply to women as well. Women are some of the worst communicators there are in my experience. Always expecting me to read their mind and I “better not say the wrong thing”, heavens no. Always 100% on the guy, even in 2025
Yup. This idea that women are better communicators is a myth.
I have a Night to Shine prom dance coming up and I remain cautiously optimistic that I could potentially walk out of the dance with a girl’s contact info. Thank you Courtney for the advice and help as always.
Keep life simple.
I hear or see the comment about life is what one makes it. No, people need to understand that it's a movie. They need to figure. Thus, text out. Then, one will understand.
💐 Stay Blessed Always & for ever . 🌹
You too!
You are a beautiful soul. I hope women look up to you as a role model. You are priceless.
Astonishing video as always, at first i wasn't really into watching such relationship experts video, but it turned out to be a blessing in so many ways, 10 years ago i was with a narcissist and i broke things up 4 years ago, found someone who truly cared for me and i messed things up because i was trauma bonded. then i started watching a lot of youtube videos and some christian videos about relationships and marriages, i learned a lot, and something actually happened as well, i was able to get my ex back with the help of watching matthew hussey videos and reaching out to a spiritual counselor.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i have been battling with a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended a year ago, till this very moment, I am still in the crossroads on what to do, it is really sad
offcourse. it's difficult to let go of someone you love, like i said, I watched so many helpful videos but the key was the spiritual counselor.
What spiritual counselor? How can I reach him or her?.
Her name is Shelly Renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Couldn't find her on youtube, but saw her website online, i will reach out. thank you
Cryptic Lore has this book, Magnet for Women. If you’re curious about improving confidence and understanding women better, it’s a solid read.
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Ugh, ya know, if we could only clone your logic into the brains of the world it might not be as exciting as so many different personalities, but it would be a helluva lot more stable dating world. Love your videos. I wish everyone would heed your advice.
8:11 Self awareness is huge! but it's not just for dating, it's for being honest with yourself and understanding where you are at as a person. I am self aware enough to know that I am good with being single and using my time and resources on other things. I would have loved to date, but there are too many games and too many that aren't... Self Aware! So until then... Not worth it!
Happy Wednesday Courtney ❤
Here is what I've found.... women care zero about financial responsibility. It's all about the lifestyle you portray. And how much you will spend on them. They don't care if you die of debt overload or the stress it brings you. As long as you're working to death to keep that lifestyle she wants up. And to live in the neighborhood she wants. And drive cars she wants you to drive so she can be 'proud' to show you off. All they care about is what they see. Doesn't matter how you do it, or the toll it takes on you, and if you break, start cutting back and actually be responsible, she moves onto the next.
This is a great vid.
I met my wife over time. Met her at age 16 when I had another girlfriend. I was cordial, yet never called her after she voluntarily shared her phone number with me. A few years later I was in a group that was sprayed with tear gas (long story), she saw me unable to see and walked over and hugged me. I took advantage and cleared my nose on her nice sweater. A year later, after my girlfriend of 4 years decided to fornicate with a Kuwaiti engineering student when she went off to college (she was a year older than me), I ran into my now wife at a restaurant. We will celebrate our 32nd anniversary in April 2025
Thank you.
Definitely no. 2....Financial responsibility just need to work on that just a bit harder. But all and all yeah right to the feels.
Communication is not my forte , as an Italian I wear my emotions on my sleeves and rather other people get me by my emotional state. Working on listening however be responsive rather then being reactive is getting better.
Thanks
Mainly finances for me and taking care of myself
This is AMAZING!! Thanks Courtney. I have a question. I think my partner is still accustomed to the lifestyle from her previous relationship and she is subtly making comparisons. An advice, please
So my big question is this.. Why so many women like Courtney give advices in social medias to men about how dating or about what women like or don't like, and on the other hand, there is no a single man that gives advices to women about how to deal with men and what they also like about women? somebody responce please guys!!
@naitisfuk Because in this skewed social/media environment, only women’s needs/wants are considered….which is why this channel ( & more than a few others) only serves to illustrate why men should embrace the single life…..Gents, the juice most definitely ain’t worth the squeeze anymore.
I totally agree. You have an enormous chunk of the female population that hasn’t properly dealt with their pasts and as a result, they continue to choose the “bad boy” over and over, and then wonder where the “good guys” are once they find themselves being single mothers.
Women are very selective at who they choose to be with but they’re not good at selecting who they choose to be with. This is a chronic problem and I’ve seen it over and over.
@jumboJetPilot absolutely buddy! thanx for highlitening my wonders and it is really a big social issue.
@@naitistful and getting back to your original comment - I find it almost arrogant that there are so many women out there trying to tell men how to improve themselves, what they’re doing wrong with women, etc. Nobody tells women how to treat a man, why it’s wrong to weaponize his feelings against him, how past pains are adversely affecting their choices of men today, etc.
@@naitistful well, it looks like YT AI is deleting my comments yet again…
Or just don't date and focus on making yourself happy. I love dating me
All great advice Courtney.
It absolutely doesn't help you at all in getting a first date unless you have friends who know people or you are in that top 10% of men on dating apps. Not to be cynical, but that is the first thing most men will be lucky if they get to.
However, if by some miracle you do get to a first date, at least you should have your cards in order with this advice..
Vamos Courtney 💟
Hi John! 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan Hi, Courtney! 😘
❤ Courtney Ryan ❤ the only girl who can pull off the Steve Jobs turtle neck sweater
Really Good Advice 👏👉✔️
But what watch are you wearing?
Great video as always Courtney!
Thank you my friend! Have a great Wednesday 🥰
@ Same to you and Teddy!
regulate your emotions so you can manage hers, financial responsibility because she expects you to pay for everything, take care of yourself for yourself, self awareness to pass her tests, effective communication because she can't do that and one of you have to
@richardy2071 In other words….many/most western women increasingly offer very little value to men.
@AliMacAzz
What's odd is that they should be able to add value because more women are getting educated and making more money. They should be able to step in and say:
"Don't worry, I got this!"
The worst part is having women interested in you and you are not ready. So then they get mad that you are not ready but then they would reject you anyway if they knew your shortcomings.
Yep. I am here now. And it sucks because i would like it to happen, i just know it will be over soon after, and it would suck anyway.
1.) emoitonal regulation - men already come with this. The key is to learn how to deal with the womans emotions constantly changing and manage to keep woman from imploding
2.) financial stability - men excell in this - The key is how to maintain it after you meet a woman
3.) Taking care of yourself - men naturally do this while single - the trick is finding the time after dating since all your time is taken up by caring for the woman
4.) Self awareness - men know they are aware of self - after dating you still exist but loose self awareness when the woman demands you are constantly aware of only her and anything else is selfish.
5.) effective communication - men do this effectively with few words - after dating all logical, simple, and percise communication is lost in the the void of all the contradictions of the womans psyche
Honestly that is bang on.
You point out the bad things that women do, and yes, some are like that, but there are plenty of good women out there who maintain realistic attitudes about relationships - not asking for too much from the men in their lives. But let's address your points...
_"emoitonal regulation - men already come with this."_
Men are just as bad.
_"financial stability - men excell in this"_
I laughed so hard at this that I shot milk out of my nose, and I haven't had a glass of milk in more than 20 years. There are a lot of guys out there that have no clue how to be responsible with their money.
_"Taking care of yourself - men naturally do this"_
Wow, another blast of milk. Thank you for the chuckles to start my day. You've never seen guys walking around like slobs?
_"Self awareness - men know they are aware of self"_
Men who are truly self-aware aren't too affected by women who ask for attention.
_"effective communication - men do this effectively with few words"_
Verbalizing ones thoughts and desires is the most effective way to communicate directly, so using few words isn't always a good idea, especially when you consider the different communication styles of men and women.
I've fallen short in each of these five areas, and the last time I checked I was a man. (I just checked again and yep, it's still there.) But I've worked hard to improve.
I love well built clean women even if we're just associates of course I respect all persons I'm watching this video pure masterpiece creation ty Courtney
You are spot on: dating is not game, nor hunt. It is deep interaction (synchronization) between man&woman both at a non-verbal level and also at a verbal level.
👁👄👁
She really kissed me thank you Courtney!
Living in arizona from Illinois easier to meet women in IL compared to AZ
Communiaction I think is very important. Which can include compromise. I have been open and hontest, but I have not found a woman who wants this and I find I am the only one trying. The women I meet finf it a sign of weekness. Trying too hard so I no longer do. I will still remain oprn and honest but the minute its only me I am gone.
Love you C❤️
This is why I feel I'm not ready to date. Maybe I'll never be. I am still not good enough to have earned a relationship.
@chocov1233. That may be true….but keep in mind many western/American women are about as useful as a wilted piece of lettuce in a produce drawer….look at women like a high end business looks at employees - make them pass your standards, not the other way round.
You will be, but maybe you need to work on the things Courtney mentioned. And when you do start dating, take it slow and expect failures and disappointments. That's exactly the path I've been on. I've been single for almost four years, and once I started dating again I was pretty rusty (not that I was all that great at it to begin with). But as I worked on myself and gained dating practice, I've gotten better at it and more confident. Are things perfect? No, but they're a lot better than a few years ago. MUCH better.
The skill currently being improved:
1. Communication,
2. Self-awareness,
3. Grooming habits.
Un autre vidéo superbe !
is it ok that I am a 26 year old man and I have never ever and still have not been and gone and go on a date and dated and dont know what I would will say talk of about and I have not been asked out on and for a date and when I have asked a women all have said no and not reply back but she look at message and did read it and they have not said yes to me
My advice - don't think of dates as dates, think of dates as just a chance of meeting someone for a nice discussion about whatever, and maybe during a nice meal or while having drinks or a walk. In my experience, if I go into a first date with someone with "relationship" too much on my mind, it puts unneeded pressure on me.
The cattle baron on Cricket Flat asked me out on a date.
She laughed when I gave her that label. She did follow up with needing to decide whether to plow her driveway with a skid steer or simply using a loader to skewer one of those huge square bales and just pushing the snow that way.
Courtney, don't think for a moment your years of advice won't be incorporated into the evening tonight. (Thanks.)
A good friend was telling me about that worth stuff yesterday. Spooky
Financial Responsibility
In 2025?😵💫😵💥😂
I'm in my late 30s. Is it too late to start dating?
Only if you quit
Even if you’re secure, being with someone who is avoidant will make you anxious as hell. Next breakup I’m gonna be stone cold.
Regardless of the circumstances of my breakups, my response is always the same: A calm, "I wish you the best, have a nice life" is all they get. If they get butt hurt and insult me? Same reply. If they still want to be friends, whether it was her or myself that ended it, I always start with "I don't do friends....Once again, I wish....." and add on, "Don't contact me again please". I delete their number, so if they contact me in the future, it's very clear when I have to ask, "Who is this?" that I almost forgot she existed. And shit, most of the time I forget their names in a couple months.
If someone being avoident makes you anxious, then you were never a secure attachment style.
@@Swearengen1980 You sound avoidant yourself. You don’t feel anything? Sadness, disappointment, anger? Nothing?
@@xerxestheimmortal1 I think it’s absolutely a spectrum. Nobody is 100% of any of the attachment styles.
@@BruceJC75 Avoidant or borderline psychopath? Seriously, sure, but I don't let my emotions dictate my reactions and what I know is best for me. If I was close to her, I feel all those emotions (anger is obviously a mask for sadness), but you know what happens if you don't cut them off 100%? You stay attached, you don't move on. You think maybe there's still a chance even though that almost never works out for anyone and then you get your hopes up only to experience the sadness and disappointment again, followed by more anger for letting yourself think it would work a 2nd time. Been there, done that, more than once. It comes down to, I did 3 years of weekly therapy to get sober and get a very firm grip on my emotions with one of the rare, truly great therapists. I have a good grip on my emotions and I've always been a logical, rationale based intellectual. It's not worth my mental health to be emotional for long over what I ultimately had no control over. Accept it, trust it's for the best, and move on. Here's the added bonus: Handling it my way hurts them much worse. If I'm hurt (this is admittedly very petty), but you're damn right I want them to hurt, too. Especially if it's because they couldn't compromise, communicate, etc. Then I want them to hurt and to hopefully realize why it appears I walked away so easily. Perception and reality are 2 different things.
Enjoy your day, ma'am.
You too! 🥰
@@CourtneyRyan I plan to.
hello courtney and how your own day and night going and have you thought about live streaming on twitch and kick at the same time at once and starting your own podcast and starting your own vlog channel on youtube and starting your own discord account and starting your own patreon account in the future
Hey @courtneyryan, is having a house a plus in dating? Even if I'm house-broke?
Regarding Financial Responsibility, I have to disagree with you on one thing. Women judge men based on his level of and source of income.
I will never allow myself to be judged by women that use a man's financial status and job title to determine his worth.
Always assume gold diggers fake o-gasms.
Get this man, his award! 🏆
That's never been an issue for me, and I've dated women that earn a LOT more than I do - and they knew it.
I generally enjoy your videos, I comment because this was an exceptionally wholesome video.
Except the "don't forget OUR SPONSOR, Raid: Shadow Legends" moment. But yeah, sure, that is just unavoidable.
I am still value your good thoughts.
Courtney's advice must be good. There's another female "coach" that puts "Courtney Ryan" in the search tags for her videos..
Incredible video A month ago, my five-year romantic life ended. It truly bothers me when someone I love decides to end their relationship with me. Despite the fact that it's all for nothing, I've tried everything to win him back, and I can't picture my life without him. Despite my best efforts, I still find myself missing him and thinking about him frequently. I'm not sure why I'm saying this.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers and he's the best spell caster to ever live
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked him up, and I'm genuinely impressed.
Gettin a woman to date that I’m attracted to and in my age range
I finally saved up $100k, so I think I got "financial responsibilty" now to start dating.
Is this the start of a bot conversation?
This video lost me the moment I heard "the best version of yourself"...