I'm autistic and I have this problem too. It's been a source of deep pain in my life. Trying to explain to people AS YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM can be extremely challenging and not only do you have to EXPLAIN THE PROBLEM one time with the one person but then in order to refer back to that situation YOU HAVE TO EXPLAIN THIS PROBLEM. It really doesn't help that people have a 2 second attention span these days combined with high levels of egoism and generally never being wrong about anything...
@@3nrika it's why I've been sharing these videos. In hopes that I can try and give a different perspective that maybe people could use to help them explain things to order. I go through the same thing often. And for me it just gets to a point where I tell them you know what you won't understand don't worry about it. Or I'll refer them to a site or a video like mines and let them try to figure out on their own. Sorry for your struggle I feel your pain! But here I have a community of very similar people so I don't believe you will be misunderstood but instead you will be understood. And hopefully it could give you a little peace and help. 👍 Thank you for the comment!
I like how you speak. While you have a nice tone to your voice, and you express your ideas very well, I do recognize the speech pattern you’re describing, when you speak….AND I recognize it as my own . ❤️ I was recently diagnosed at age 52 (female, so extra long dx time) and I’m assimilating my life experiences with this new diagnosis. Gosh I used to get so frustrated with my disfluencies and long pauses and words getting tangled up in my mouth. It made me feel so self conscious and helpless when I couldn’t get the words out, either through muscle-betrayal, coordination-betrayal, or the pace of concepts going through my mind simply outpaced what is possible for me to speak. Thank you sooo much for making this candid video and thank you RUclips for putting your video in my feed. It is going to help me with self-acceptance going forward.
Wow! Thank you so much for the kind words and I’m so happy that you found my video to be so influential and informative that’s always been the point! 👍 Always makes me happy when I get positive comments like this. And I’m happy that RUclips connected you with my content! If there is ever anything you’d like to see that I have not covered feel free to suggest it. I love taken possibly future video suggestions and I consider them all.
For me it's thought > try to translate into words > and then actual speaking while trying to juggle new thought > translate > speak, new thought > assess if should say or not, or just getting lost in my own thoughts or sometimes just... blank lol. I'm less so of a racing thoughts type, though. Maybe that is why I do better talking when it's about things I'm interested in because it's less new things I'm having to come up with.
@@AwedByOdd What you explained is actually very common to Autism. The difference is that some people have racing thoughts where the brain is just too fast and overwhelmed but still end up confused or some people have a slower thought process but still complex enough where it causes overwhelm. What I've read is that the end result is usually very similar it's just that two different people two different streets to end up in the same place lol. Thanks for sharing! 👍
Thanks for making this video & not editing it much. It's relief to see/hear someone who has as much of a problem communicating as I do. I wish I'd known this over 30 years ago; it's kind of messed me up with social-anxiety. I hope I can slowly control the anxiety & learn to live with it.
You are more than welcome! And I’m glad enjoyed the video! Most of my videos have edits in them only to take out long pauses and repeated things so I don’t sound like I’m rambling which I normally do. But lately the last few videos I’ve uploaded I’ve kept a bit of my mistakes in there just to make the videos more relatable. I’ve been trying to keep edits to a minimum to show authenticity. And relatability. Thanks again for the comment!
Yes, I edit alot. A video sometimes when filmed is like 1 hour long. Then I sit there chopping it down to remove alot of things you saw in this video. The Um's and Uh's or filler words as I'm thinking. Then the silences as well as I'm catching back up to my speech. Or things that don't make sense. Along with also when I over explain things. If I see that I made a point then I tried to clear it up 10 times after that I cut out the over explanation and just leave the point made. This is why depending on the video it could take upto a week before it's ready to upload if not longer. I try to cap myself at 5 minutes knowing that in most of my videos most people don't even watch that long. So if I can keep it between 2 and 5 minutes on most videos it's a sweet spot that seems to work will. Glad you enjoyed the video!
Thank you! I do the same thing and then I get flustered, shame sets in, and then I just tell the other person nevermind and usually go someplace to sit alone until I can not be frustrated.
Yay im 50 years old now , i finally found my fellowship , been struggling with this, not knowing who i im for years, thanks for explaining my problem i now can start to heall , peace to you friend Luv from Perth 🇦🇺
I’m glad you enjoyed it and this resonated with you! Sending you my regards here from the US. 👍 Feel free to look through my videos if you’d like. I have plenty of them that talks about my experiences and how I handle them. All in efforts to offer a bit of non medical help (since I’m not a medical professional), but just an autistic person trying to help. 😁
@@leosthrivwithautism you are helping, now I understand why I was so over the top in certain situations, so inappropriate at times that people didn't know how to take me , anyway I've subscribed now Wil continue to watch 👍
@@michealmccoy9249 thank you for becoming a supporter that means a lot and I’m so happy the information is so helpful! Thank you again for the awesome comment!
This is very interesting . People tend to be skeptical when I tell them I’ve been diagnosed with Aspergers but watching your vids is very validating for me. I have a lot of the same issues and it has really affected my life. I was frequently bullied in the workplace . My boss and a work colleague openly kept a tally on how many times I would say “erm” in conversation. Talking for me feels so awkward.
I’m glad the video provided some form of validation. Often times most things you saw on this video are edited out because no one has time for all the umma and silent pauses while i think. And stuff like that. This was the whole point in making the video in hopes it helps others out there. I love when I get comments saying it did! 👍
Thank you, Leo, for this wonderfully candid video. I, too, feel like so many of the others who have commented... I see so much of myself in this video. Your narration and the text on screen work so well together. I just wanted to let you know that I finished watching it feeling more validated and better about myself. Thank you
I appreciate the kind words and beyond happy that the information helped you feel better. That is exactly what I try to do with my videos it’s just to help others in anyway possible! Thank you so much for the comment. 👍
It sounds like you’re describing ADHD. In my clinical experience Asperger or autistics tend to have slower processing speed but the distractibility and tangential thoughts generally comes from the ADHD which occurs in the majority (over 50%) of autistics - as per recent research. Some say higher than 60%.
@@bluemeaford I'm pretty sure you are absolutely right because previous therapists and specialists had all said I do show a few signs of ADHD but according to them not enough to get a formal diagnosis. So I wasn't surprised reading the comment but rather I agree! Thank you for this information! 👍
The more I grow into the channel and get feedback like this the more confident I am to leave things in the video! 👍 so thank you for the comment. Most recent videos have had mistakes among other things all included in them! I'm glad you enjoyed the video! 😁
Like it was me making this. Add in there ADHD, mind wandering and it's pretty much impossible for me to make this. If i'm given time to get out the words like these few sentance's and have this in front of me I can cope. This is a devistating issue to have at least for me. My poor education and lack of understanding of this, with the resulting low confidence has made for a difficuilt life, and I did not have a clue.
I have issues with speech. In many recent videos you’ll see what I mean. I have to do a lot of editing to remove pauses and filler words. But lately I’ve been leaving some. Because i found people related to it. And it helped make the videos a bit more authentic. I’m glad you found the video helpful! It’s always the point of the videos which is to offer information in order to try and help. So I love comments like this! Thank you so much for watching!
For normies, it's somewhat like talking on xbox when your own speech gets fed to the headphones .... once that starts u can only continue talking for a short time before u have to let things catch up, else it gets overwhelming.
I appreciate that. I try to strike a balance. What I’m going to do is strike a balance by putting in just a few edits so people’s eyes don’t gloss over but still remaining authentic. I am trying to find my grove so to speak. For example in the most recent videos I added some mistakes because I thought it made the video a tad more relatable and funny too. Thanks for the suggestion. It means a lot.
Great video! Question: My son always wants to watch the same show over and over. If we put something new on he will run out of the room. Do you have any insight to why he does this?
You’ll be surprised that I as an adult can sometimes end up with similar behavior. And it has to do with the narrow interests of an autistic person. For example, for me I am a yes or no type of person which applies to thing I like and hate. There is no in between. It’s either I like it and am interested or I don’t like it and don’t really care for it. Have you ever tried asking to see if your son can tell you why he doesn’t like the show? Maybe it could help you guide him to seeing things in a different light possibly. You could maybe show some similarities between the show or find what he liked about the other show and see if there is anything similar with the new show that you could use to pique his curiosity and potentially get him to like it too. I know it’s something that worked for me in the past. I hope this insight helps a bit and thank you for the question! Glad to help when I can 👍
@@leosthrivwithautism He's 4 and can't really talk yet in telling me that kind of stuff. He will watch it if I keep it on. He will be staring at it and saying no daddy, I want Grizzly. The only show he wants 24 7. This is all new to me and I want to do the best I can to help him. I don't want to give him anxiety or anything like that if I switxh up his shows. Thank for the reply and as you know. I love your channel
@@Djjustb i have a nephew who is 5 years old and he is autistic too. The interesting thing is that when I think of it your seem experienced similar characteristics to my nephew. My nephew would experience high anxiety if the tv was switched from his show and similar to your son he only used to watch the same thing over and over again. But as he grows he seems to be developing a tolerance to different shows. No in my nephews case my brother has been working with a therapist who basically guides him through the processing of his emotions. It’s not trying to change him as much as helping him a correct understanding and how to deal with the emotions he feels so to speak and with this therapy it also helped him as well. I just wanted to provide this as a bases of reference. And hope this helps you even if just a little. I’m not a professional myself but from experience there is a chance as he continues to grow this will slowly improve as well. My best suggestion to consider if you’d like too would be to guide him through his emotions for example if the channel is changed and he experienced anxiety let him know it’s ok to experience anxiety it’s a natural emotions but also use the opportunity to teach how when the show is turned off it’s not going away for ever and that he can see the show again later. Again, just friendly advice if you need it. And thank you for the kind words. Not sure if this makes sense or helps but just wanted to provide this for your own reference. 👍 I’m always glad to help!
@@leosthrivwithautism Makes perfect sense and actually opened my eyes to another thing I been dealing with. He cries when ppl leave and I am wondering if it is like you said and he thinks they are gone forever. Thank you so much for all your advice. You have been more helpful then you will ever know.
@@Djjustb I would believe that the crying comes because of empathy. For example, I have intense feelings. If i feel happy I’m very excited and if I’m sad I can feel depressed. Management of emotions and feelings is still something I struggle with. But continue trying to learn. It could be that he believes they may not come back or it could be that he just doesn’t want that person to leave. The best thing I would believe helps again is just providing assurance and letting him know that they aren’t gone forever and that he will see them again. Some of these things may just take a little time for him to learn but i believe may improve as he grows older. I hope this helps. You seem to have a very good understanding and that’s a great thing! 👍
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I'm autistic and I have this problem too. It's been a source of deep pain in my life. Trying to explain to people AS YOU HAVE THIS PROBLEM can be extremely challenging and not only do you have to EXPLAIN THE PROBLEM one time with the one person but then in order to refer back to that situation YOU HAVE TO EXPLAIN THIS PROBLEM. It really doesn't help that people have a 2 second attention span these days combined with high levels of egoism and generally never being wrong about anything...
@@3nrika it's why I've been sharing these videos. In hopes that I can try and give a different perspective that maybe people could use to help them explain things to order.
I go through the same thing often. And for me it just gets to a point where I tell them you know what you won't understand don't worry about it. Or I'll refer them to a site or a video like mines and let them try to figure out on their own.
Sorry for your struggle I feel your pain! But here I have a community of very similar people so I don't believe you will be misunderstood but instead you will be understood. And hopefully it could give you a little peace and help. 👍
Thank you for the comment!
I like how you speak. While you have a nice tone to your voice, and you express your ideas very well, I do recognize the speech pattern you’re describing, when you speak….AND I recognize it as my own . ❤️
I was recently diagnosed at age 52 (female, so extra long dx time) and I’m assimilating my life experiences with this new diagnosis. Gosh I used to get so frustrated with my disfluencies and long pauses and words getting tangled up in my mouth. It made me feel so self conscious and helpless when I couldn’t get the words out, either through muscle-betrayal, coordination-betrayal, or the pace of concepts going through my mind simply outpaced what is possible for me to speak.
Thank you sooo much for making this candid video and thank you RUclips for putting your video in my feed. It is going to help me with self-acceptance going forward.
Wow! Thank you so much for the kind words and I’m so happy that you found my video to be so influential and informative that’s always been the point! 👍
Always makes me happy when I get positive comments like this. And I’m happy that RUclips connected you with my content! If there is ever anything you’d like to see that I have not covered feel free to suggest it. I love taken possibly future video suggestions and I consider them all.
For me it's thought > try to translate into words > and then actual speaking while trying to juggle new thought > translate > speak, new thought > assess if should say or not, or just getting lost in my own thoughts or sometimes just... blank lol. I'm less so of a racing thoughts type, though. Maybe that is why I do better talking when it's about things I'm interested in because it's less new things I'm having to come up with.
@@AwedByOdd What you explained is actually very common to Autism. The difference is that some people have racing thoughts where the brain is just too fast and overwhelmed but still end up confused or some people have a slower thought process but still complex enough where it causes overwhelm. What I've read is that the end result is usually very similar it's just that two different people two different streets to end up in the same place lol.
Thanks for sharing! 👍
I understand what you are talking about my brain is way faster then my mouth or sometimes it seems my mouth is faster then my brain too
@@EmilyBell-g9q I'm happy the video was relatable. 👍
Thanks for making this video & not editing it much. It's relief to see/hear someone who has as much of a problem communicating as I do. I wish I'd known this over 30 years ago; it's kind of messed me up with social-anxiety. I hope I can slowly control the anxiety & learn to live with it.
You are more than welcome! And I’m glad enjoyed the video!
Most of my videos have edits in them only to take out long pauses and repeated things so I don’t sound like I’m rambling which I normally do.
But lately the last few videos I’ve uploaded I’ve kept a bit of my mistakes in there just to make the videos more relatable.
I’ve been trying to keep edits to a minimum to show authenticity. And relatability.
Thanks again for the comment!
This is an interesting video. I didn't know that you edited so much! I don't know much about editing though!
Yes, I edit alot. A video sometimes when filmed is like 1 hour long. Then I sit there chopping it down to remove alot of things you saw in this video. The Um's and Uh's or filler words as I'm thinking. Then the silences as well as I'm catching back up to my speech. Or things that don't make sense. Along with also when I over explain things. If I see that I made a point then I tried to clear it up 10 times after that I cut out the over explanation and just leave the point made. This is why depending on the video it could take upto a week before it's ready to upload if not longer. I try to cap myself at 5 minutes knowing that in most of my videos most people don't even watch that long. So if I can keep it between 2 and 5 minutes on most videos it's a sweet spot that seems to work will. Glad you enjoyed the video!
Thank you! I do the same thing and then I get flustered, shame sets in, and then I just tell the other person nevermind and usually go someplace to sit alone until I can not be frustrated.
You are welcome! I'm glad this resonated with you and it was relatable. 👍
Thank you so much for the comment! 😁
Yay im 50 years old now , i finally found my fellowship , been struggling with this, not knowing who i im for years, thanks for explaining my problem i now can start to heall , peace to you friend
Luv from Perth 🇦🇺
I’m glad you enjoyed it and this resonated with you! Sending you my regards here from the US. 👍
Feel free to look through my videos if you’d like. I have plenty of them that talks about my experiences and how I handle them. All in efforts to offer a bit of non medical help (since I’m not a medical professional), but just an autistic person trying to help. 😁
@@leosthrivwithautism you are helping, now I understand why I was so over the top in certain situations, so inappropriate at times that people didn't know how to take me , anyway I've subscribed now Wil continue to watch 👍
@@michealmccoy9249 thank you for becoming a supporter that means a lot and I’m so happy the information is so helpful! Thank you again for the awesome comment!
I appreciate this unedited video so much! It shows me that I’m not alone. Thank you so much ❤
@@amycarter9470 im glad it helped you feel better. Its the whole purpose i made it. It was just to try and help out 😁
Thank you for making this video and I wish you the best!
This is very interesting . People tend to be skeptical when I tell them I’ve been diagnosed with Aspergers but watching your vids is very validating for me. I have a lot of the same issues and it has really affected my life. I was frequently bullied in the workplace . My boss and a work colleague openly kept a tally on how many times I would say “erm” in conversation. Talking for me feels so awkward.
I’m glad the video provided some form of validation. Often times most things you saw on this video are edited out because no one has time for all the umma and silent pauses while i think. And stuff like that.
This was the whole point in making the video in hopes it helps others out there. I love when I get comments saying it did! 👍
Thank you, Leo, for this wonderfully candid video. I, too, feel like so many of the others who have commented... I see so much of myself in this video. Your narration and the text on screen work so well together. I just wanted to let you know that I finished watching it feeling more validated and better about myself. Thank you
I appreciate the kind words and beyond happy that the information helped you feel better. That is exactly what I try to do with my videos it’s just to help others in anyway possible!
Thank you so much for the comment. 👍
Totally feel you, brother.
It sounds like you’re describing ADHD.
In my clinical experience Asperger or autistics tend to have slower processing speed but the distractibility and tangential thoughts generally comes from the ADHD which occurs in the majority (over 50%) of autistics - as per recent research.
Some say higher than 60%.
@@bluemeaford I'm pretty sure you are absolutely right because previous therapists and specialists had all said I do show a few signs of ADHD but according to them not enough to get a formal diagnosis.
So I wasn't surprised reading the comment but rather I agree!
Thank you for this information! 👍
I think you don't understand what "slow processing speed" refers to.
Thank you for not editing yourself out. 🌻
The more I grow into the channel and get feedback like this the more confident I am to leave things in the video! 👍 so thank you for the comment. Most recent videos have had mistakes among other things all included in them!
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! 😁
Really good video!
Thank you. Glad you enjoyed it.
Like it was me making this. Add in there ADHD, mind wandering and it's pretty much impossible for me to make this. If i'm given time to get out the words like these few sentance's and have this in front of me I can cope. This is a devistating issue to have at least for me. My poor education and lack of understanding of this, with the resulting low confidence has made for a difficuilt life, and I did not have a clue.
I have issues with speech. In many recent videos you’ll see what I mean. I have to do a lot of editing to remove pauses and filler words. But lately I’ve been leaving some. Because i found people related to it. And it helped make the videos a bit more authentic.
I’m glad you found the video helpful! It’s always the point of the videos which is to offer information in order to try and help.
So I love comments like this! Thank you so much for watching!
For normies, it's somewhat like talking on xbox when your own speech gets fed to the headphones .... once that starts u can only continue talking for a short time before u have to let things catch up, else it gets overwhelming.
@@PasqualItizzz Never knew that! I'm not to much of a console gamer. But it makes sense. That's interesting to know.
Thank to for the comment! 👍
This was super valuable, Brother. Cheers...
@@toltekrecords I’m glad you enjoyed it! Thank you.
I wonder if that what you describe is actually a problem/symptom of my autism or my ADHD. Drinking alcohol or smoking pot makes it worse.
It could be both. Of course this isn't medical advice as I'm no expert. But I happen to have both myself. So there is a possibility.
I do the same thing brother you’re fine you don’t have to do as many edits just be authentic
I appreciate that. I try to strike a balance. What I’m going to do is strike a balance by putting in just a few edits so people’s eyes don’t gloss over but still remaining authentic. I am trying to find my grove so to speak. For example in the most recent videos I added some mistakes because I thought it made the video a tad more relatable and funny too.
Thanks for the suggestion. It means a lot.
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@@turtleanton6539 glad you enjoyed the video!
Great video! Question: My son always wants to watch the same show over and over. If we put something new on he will run out of the room. Do you have any insight to why he does this?
You’ll be surprised that I as an adult can sometimes end up with similar behavior. And it has to do with the narrow interests of an autistic person. For example, for me I am a yes or no type of person which applies to thing I like and hate. There is no in between. It’s either I like it and am interested or I don’t like it and don’t really care for it. Have you ever tried asking to see if your son can tell you why he doesn’t like the show? Maybe it could help you guide him to seeing things in a different light possibly. You could maybe show some similarities between the show or find what he liked about the other show and see if there is anything similar with the new show that you could use to pique his curiosity and potentially get him to like it too. I know it’s something that worked for me in the past. I hope this insight helps a bit and thank you for the question! Glad to help when I can 👍
@@leosthrivwithautism He's 4 and can't really talk yet in telling me that kind of stuff. He will watch it if I keep it on. He will be staring at it and saying no daddy, I want Grizzly. The only show he wants 24 7. This is all new to me and I want to do the best I can to help him. I don't want to give him anxiety or anything like that if I switxh up his shows. Thank for the reply and as you know. I love your channel
@@Djjustb i have a nephew who is 5 years old and he is autistic too. The interesting thing is that when I think of it your seem experienced similar characteristics to my nephew. My nephew would experience high anxiety if the tv was switched from his show and similar to your son he only used to watch the same thing over and over again. But as he grows he seems to be developing a tolerance to different shows. No in my nephews case my brother has been working with a therapist who basically guides him through the processing of his emotions. It’s not trying to change him as much as helping him a correct understanding and how to deal with the emotions he feels so to speak and with this therapy it also helped him as well. I just wanted to provide this as a bases of reference. And hope this helps you even if just a little. I’m not a professional myself but from experience there is a chance as he continues to grow this will slowly improve as well. My best suggestion to consider if you’d like too would be to guide him through his emotions for example if the channel is changed and he experienced anxiety let him know it’s ok to experience anxiety it’s a natural emotions but also use the opportunity to teach how when the show is turned off it’s not going away for ever and that he can see the show again later. Again, just friendly advice if you need it. And thank you for the kind words. Not sure if this makes sense or helps but just wanted to provide this for your own reference. 👍 I’m always glad to help!
@@leosthrivwithautism Makes perfect sense and actually opened my eyes to another thing I been dealing with. He cries when ppl leave and I am wondering if it is like you said and he thinks they are gone forever. Thank you so much for all your advice. You have been more helpful then you will ever know.
@@Djjustb I would believe that the crying comes because of empathy. For example, I have intense feelings. If i feel happy I’m very excited and if I’m sad I can feel depressed. Management of emotions and feelings is still something I struggle with. But continue trying to learn. It could be that he believes they may not come back or it could be that he just doesn’t want that person to leave. The best thing I would believe helps again is just providing assurance and letting him know that they aren’t gone forever and that he will see them again. Some of these things may just take a little time for him to learn but i believe may improve as he grows older. I hope this helps. You seem to have a very good understanding and that’s a great thing! 👍
its not really the pattern of my voice, but i can't properly say certain sounds
I know what you mean. I have difficulty with a few things myself too. I’m happy you enjoyed the video! 👍
Great video
Thank you so much it means a lot. Any suggestion of videos you’d like to see? Just name it and it will be considered. Thanks again for the comment👍
I think autism interesting.
@@jacobmckee8593 It is! What seems interesting to you the most?