How to Spot Sexual Attraction in Eyes | Body Language
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Out of all the different non-verbal behaviors, I think that spotting attraction is without a doubt the easiest. We are very emotional creatures and when we're attracted to somebody, it's very, very difficult to hide. People think they're hiding it, but things always slip.
One of the ways they slip are essentially the eyes. There are a lot of different ways you can use the eyes to determine whether or not someone's attracted to you. The first thing is essentially eye contact. For the most part, usually we make eye contact with people that we're interested in or people that we're attracted to. Right? But this is not entirely true. Some people are shy or anxious and they're not going to make eye contact. So what you're looking for essentially is a deviation in eye contact.
So one of the ways you can use eye contact and there's a little trick that's very, very reliable. So what you're going to do is if you look at somebody in a bar or restaurant or on the street and they break eye contact vertically, so they look down. So you make eye contact with them and they break eye contact vertically and then within 20-30 seconds they reestablish eye contact, approach them. They like you. It's a very, very reliable thing.
Essentially what they're doing. You stare at them. They're submitting to you and then they take a little second glance to see who you are. It's very, very, very reliable. The opposite of that would be if you look at somebody and they look at you and they immediately go and break eye contact. Nope, not interested. But what is reliable is they break eye contact and they come back. Break eye contact and then come back. Break eye contact and then come back. It's very interesting.
And don't let it wait. If you see that, go right away because the more and more you wait. The more and more eye contact becomes very, very awkward. One of the things that I do in one of my classes is I have people stare each other in the eyes for three minutes without saying anything. They just stare each other in the eyes like this. Try that. Go out and try to stare somebody in the eyes for even 90 seconds. I guarantee you can't do it. It's awkward. It's so awkward because humans are not really at a level intimacy. When you stare somebody in the eyes is so awkward when you're doing it with a stranger.
Studies will show that if you stare somebody in the eyes for 90 seconds to three minutes, all of a sudden you're going to like that person a lot better than everybody else in the room because you kind of shared this emotional connection. So eye contact is important in that respect.
The second thing you can look for essentially is blink rate. Now, this is really cool. So blink rate correlate with emotional excitement. When we are emotionally excited, our blink rates tend to increase. Right? Average blink rates tend to be below 20 blinks per minute. For most people it really depends on where you are, but it's really hard to nail down what the average blink rate is. But in my experience, it seems to be around 10 blinks per minute. Right? So you see, whenever you see a sudden spike or a bunch of sudden spikes in somebody's blink rate in can be an indication of attraction. In my dating studies you see blink rates through the roof because the person across the table from you has an emotional response. You're attracted to them.
The third way of kind of using the eyes to determine attraction is dilation. It's very interesting. Our eyes dilate when we're attracted to something. Right? Go out and find a Maxim magazine or a Playboy magazine or any cover that's predominately men focusing. Every single woman will have her eyes dilated. You never, ever see them constricted. The reason why is because men perceive women with dilated eyes more attractive than women with more constricted eyes. To the point of back in the day prostitutes used to put a specific toxin in their eyes to make them dilate. 
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Cool! Now I know what signs of attraction I will never receive!
bob loblaw I feel it bro
Hugs to you both, hun. :)
bob loblaw lmao
🤣 Same.
Dude chill u are gonna get ur soulmate atleast one day I'm sure someone is made for everyone and Ik I am being to cleache rn but this is the truth
what if my eyes are so dark brown you cant even see my pupils lol
ey same boat, its in asian genes
緑夏 I'm not Asian but my hair and eyes are like that they only become lighter if the sun is in my face or something
if your a man it's all good. lighter eyes give away pupil dilation easier so if you were lookin at a women she could tell you were interested right away. dark eyes are mysterious to women because they can't read what your thinking/feeling. and we know they all love msytery lol.
Heck...
what is it, like, 90% of people have dark eyes? and in some regions 99% of people have them, there's nothing mysterious about them
I can stare at people for an infinite amount of time. I'm numb and I love being awkward.
Same, good life hack
Same
Ma man
Same
same but that leads to so many broken hearts, people who think that means something
not true
What if i stare at the girl, then she looks down, then looks back up at me? Then she phones the police?
Lmfao
Wales needs more people like you I laughed my arse off
Dim problem :)
+welshdragon2008 lmao, oh gosh you made me laugh :P
welshdragon2008 lmao this made my day
I look at everyone but my crush
tell me more,. Why you do that?
+SideEffects idk 😭 it's just hard to look at him in the eye because he's sooooooo intense
Ana that is why women ignore me?...They like me?
AussieGirl I won't feel disgust if a girl finds me atractive
SideEffects297 welp you would be one of the firsts
Actually I'm the kind of person that can't make eye contact for too long, and maybe the others think that I'm lying, but it's just I feel shy , and when I speak I tend to look somewhere else lol
Glediana Nikolli same. it's physically hard for me to look someone in the eye. its a reflex to look away.
Glediana Nikolli same
Glediana Nikolli wow same ..like I can't make eye contact and talk to someone . I just feel soo weird
@@mahaminbisat6028 when they're talking I can give eye contact but I can't when I'm talking🤔
It's hard for me to look men (people I'm not attracted to) in the eyes. I'll stare an attractive girl in the eye all day.
I'm one of those people that is very good at reading other people, so I know instantly when someone is attracted to me.
that must be why you're commenting on a tutorial about how to read people right?
LOLS
tell us then bro
Give us lessons
Educate us
"The eyes. The eyes never lie, chico". - Tony Montana
Best comment on here!
"don't you feel eyes moving over your body clarice?... don't your eyes seek out the things you want?" - hannibal lecter
Its hard to see dilation in dark eyed ppl
And because of this people with dark eyes are more attractive.
@@ReTeVol why lol
dont people prefer blonds with blue eyes more
Yeah that's kind of a disadvantage well for me since i have really dark caca eyes
oh god, I'm NEVER looking at my crush ever again
you probably want him to get the message so eyeballing him and blinking fast should be something you intentionally do and make sure he notices, you can always deny it, but don't... if you are screwed up don't admit just smile and let him figure it out
I like grey eyed men
You have the unbuttoned shirt, the chest hair, all you are missing is the gold chain and huge medallion.
LMAO
It is not always easy to attract a girl. You have to know little things, like what
she likes, what puts her off, to be on the correct page. In most cases, guys
already do the groundwork before stepping into the playing field. In case you don't have the resources to gather the required 'intel' before you ask her out, these basic qualities that attract a girl,this will help you to attract girls easily.dld.bz/attractiondatingtips
profiling lol
Maybe a cigar too?
the Cuban chain you mean so you can look like a Pedro from florida.
Sometimes one of my pupils are bigger than the other am I sending mixed signals?
Jwillz Jwillz you're sending Bowie signals
ZeldaFoxEars BOWIE!!!!
Jwillz Jwillz haha
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂😂
Poke em in the eyes, that's my tip, guarantees dilation
+Dan0101010101010 ............... Thats a great idea !!!!
lol you nailed it
Cake Kyo LOL ...... so funny !!!!!!!!!
+Cake Kyo in the eye
This guy should have his own channel
This works to perfection in a club setting. Eye initiate eye contact with attractive girls then when they look away I maintain my subtle look and if they return the look i immediately approach. Hesitation hinders success.
Niceee:))
@@psz4751 yes?
I'm literally watching this to see if my ships are real
Minty Bliss omg 😂😂😂
Minty Bliss oh my lord yes😂
Same oh my gosh. What ships
Lmao
And are they? What does "my ships are real" mean?
APPROACH THEM THEY LIKE YOU - ah bless the enthusiasm in that line
That guy used to give poker classes now he gives dating classes..wtf
Not that different xD
first earn the money with poker, then get some dates :D xD
hey ,if anyone else wants to learn about
how to understand understanding men's feelings try *Greega Man Melter Guru* (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my mate got cool results with it.
real poker with big money and the pros look more ad body language then ad the game it self
Poker plays have to be experts in reading body language. Transition makes perfect sense to me.
@Justin43: Look into the one on "BeTheBadBoy, c0m"...
Such an epic guide for learning about body language and how to pick up girls.
Anyone else now paying attention to their blinking??? Lol
I wish people would learn to spot "LOVE" in others eyes!!
I wish I could do this 🤔 apparently some people can with me 😣
I have naturally very big pupils, so I hope that the people that I look on a daily basis don't get any funny ideas.
I recommend sunglasses for the rest of your life lol
+Tessa Jansen Thanks, very helpful 😂😂
+Bnice BbFace Nah I'm quite ok with my eyes as they are, it's just annoying sometimes :)
Does that mean you are naturally high?
+Blue TeaTree HAHAHAHAHA I have very big pupils. I guess so 😂
Tried this at a bar yesterday, the girl called the police, I think me staring into her eyes for half an hour straight made her scared
It's not (always) intimacy. Prolonged eye-contact is an aggressive, threatening gesture throughout the animal kingdom (or at least among mammals).
It's a challenging gesture. That's why you're advised to break eye contact when you see a deadly animal.
J Kelus
Depends. Appear too submissive and it might be more likely to attack.
The gist of it is if it's coming after you because it feels threatened or territorial (a grizzly with cubs), be submissive, but if it's looking to eat you (polar bear), be as big and threatening as possible. Not that that would help if it were actually a polar bear.
Which is why I look my enemies in the eye!!! 👊🏻😝
I dont know about u but im not a mammal
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I am 27 years old I wasted my life playing video games . I urge all young boys to study videos on humans . If you study people you will become powerful . Don't waste your life like me.
Hemant Jagrup I know the feeling :s
Thanks for the advice I hope you reach success and happiness I'm doing that right now
Acha ji
What if you're both attracted to each other and keep trying to make eye contact at different times? Then you'll never know!
DAMNIT NOW I FUCKING CANT STOP BLINKING
Hahaha True
what if u have a black eye and she is just looking at it thinking.....this fool cant fight lmfao
lmfao what
I tried staring at people here in Russia. ....Im actually typing this from the intensive care unit at the hospital.....
Oh gosh, he's like reading my mind. I totally do that vertical eye looking down thing. lol
so whats up :)
why in the world did i get so many likes… i mean, girls…. if you do that vertical eye thing… fucking eh… i want you to want me… but if you really do and heaven forbid you if you don't…. WAVE!!! and said dude ( even me! ) will come over and chat it up
lol, well said.
mason manning ifeel you looking at me now
blinkrate? how bout when the middle toe on her left foot starts flippin you off?!?
lmao
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You want me to count how many times a girl blinks in a minute? :S
I can't even look at the eyes of people I get attracted to, like you will never really know I like you. I'm good at hiding my feelings.
That girl in the thumbnail looks exactly like a girl who used to hit on me when I was in high school in the early 2000s. One time she sat down right behind me and leaned over her desk just to ask about random things about her calculator (lol), and she held intense eye contact with me just like the girl in the thumbnail and spoke with a seductive voice, and one time I took a chessboard from a table where she was sitting with some other girls, and all of them started giggling hysterically and being super-friendly. That was awesome.
A Very Interesting And Effective Technique Is Clubbing The Woman Over The Head And Carrying Them Back To The Cave Like A True Gentleman
I tend to just chloroform them, it's much easier.
You guys are sick
@@EmilyRabjerg they're trying to make a joke, obviously.
lmfao 😂😂😂😂you savage
lol back in the good ol dayz
After he said the thing about breaking eye contact vertically and then looking back into your eyes again means that they like you I was like damn how did he know that that's not fair
Knew most of this already, but it doesn't hurt to revisit old knowledge now and then.
This dude is right on point!
Very good. All tips are really correct.
SO INDUSTRIOUS FINDINGS MAN. KEEP IT UP BRO
This is so AWESOME!! Where have you been all my life...lol!!
I have sample all these body languages, before I hit Big Apple in November and join in with your classes...from Down Under...Cheers
this was uploaded on my birthday...fun fact
Very interesting thanks.
Years ago, we did a group exercise where we were to pick a person and just look into each other's eyes for several minutes. The woman I was paired with was married and on a hike their body language indicated a certain distance. I stuck with her on the hike (with a lot of people) and was nice to her and engaged her in friendly conversation.
During the exercise we stood there for a minute and she got visibly flustered and abruptly left the evening's exercise and went back to their room. It was weird, but makes sense in the context of this video.
I'm going to try this with someone I like not because I'm just learning about this but because she has beautiful eyes and I'd love to stare into them and hope she stares right back. There's something magical about eye contact and having two people always looking to make eye contact with each other.
I make eye contact but I don't push it. A lot of women, even if they're interested, will avoid making more eye contact after the first look because they either don't want to reveal their interest too much, or they want to test you by pretending to be disinterested. When I push they pull back. Then if I stop acting interested and some time has passed, they show interest again.
Also I've noticed there are guys who will pretend to be interested in the girl, hugging her and approaching her, because they're trying to help her make you jealous. She will sometimes play along.
very useful.Thanks,
I love this video !!!
thats great. eyes tell a lot. Very true.
This is so correct!!!!!
Smartest advice ever.
Good point.
Sales technique....Looking into the eyes.
the comments in this section cracks me up, literally 10/10 good job haha
lol
Listening and looking in his dreamy eyes
Great video
thumbs up bruhh.....
best video ever
I finally caved in, followed Christine’s advice and read Konevita Jelken’s website. Talk about perspective, wow, just wow, and I’m with my man now :)
does any of the extended eye contact apply to when you're giving people attention as they're talking? don't wanna send off an unintended signal to anyone when trying to just be respectful
Interesting about the looking down versus looking to the side. Never noticed that.
That happened tonight when i went out to eat. Two girls kept looking over then looking away then looking back. Over and over until they left the restaurant. Never knew there was a meaning behind it, and it happens a lot now that i think about it.
How u doing now mate 7 years after?
the love guru has spoken
My crush did the first sign!!! I miss her so much bc of this quarantine
seems interesting!!
OMG it actually worked!!!!!!!!!!!
I've got a dry eye problem. If relying on my blink rate, 100% of the girls I encounter should think I'm attracted to them! (And 100% of the guys!)
I know that you're coming onto me
i never get a second glance when i make eye contact.
If a guys staring at me for more than 10 seconds and holding ima ask what the fuck is he staring at wdf.. haha
thuglifie exactly like what
thuglifie I
Take it easy tupac
thuglifie that's when you get a fat P k
This is true. I would have to be very attracted to someone to look down after eye contact. Now if I look to the side then I accidentally made eye contact.
What does it mean when a person (more often a young woman in her 20s in my case) takes a double glance at you, but looks away horizontally?
i watch videos like this so i don't mistake anything.
"I Know that you want me I can, SEE IT IN YOUR EYES.
You might as well be honest, cus the body never lies" - TLC, "Red Light Special" (1994)
Interesting notions.
thanks man
Thank you Rathi maa
eyes literally are part of the brain, it shows our inner state all the time. It reveals our intentions, our thoughts.
A good actor/actress know how to shift his/her mind and his/her eyes just follow the state of mind.
Look Jay Pharaoh, how his eyes switch between each character.
So, we are designed to get this underline messages. We just skip this if we are out of sync with our inner nature.
love that eye contact
Most of this is based on the male perspective of women being attracted to men. Men won't usually look down and then back up if they are attracted. Most men will either hold eye contact longer or they will look up to the right or left.
So... I'm very emotionally excited when my laptop freezes? And therefore I'm attracted to my laptop?
...awkward...
you must be in more weird spots then other people bro, good job
3 minute stare was also suggested by Davey Wavey! :)
Step 1 : draw a eyeball
Step 2 : write the word attraction inside of the eyeball
I tried making eye contact with people in the hallway at school as they walked past, and then one of them and their friend (my moms friends son) started laughing cause I was staring straight into the eyes. LOL
No I just tend to stare into the eyes of adults rather the other people I talk to unless it’s my friends
i just learned something! lol thanks
I love your videos also I learned a lot 👍👍👍👍
A response from me is proooobably not what you were looking for but you'd think that someone shy would normally blink a lot during ANY social interaction.
Peculiar that this is not the case however.
STARING INTO YOUR SOUL!
Blink rate can be attraction but also stress, nervousness,
I realized that I was perfectly hiding my attraction to my crush without realizing it 😅😭💔
I think he’s adorable, trustworthy tho, sitting up straight would be empowering. It FEELS GREAT.
This caught my attention when i heard about this because one of my psychologist had told me that my pupils are big. And i have experienced womens reaction.
This week on Dr. Love ^
Awesome
Thanks u ! Now I know that I'm attracted to everyone that I look at :D
I like this guy and around his friends he blinks normally but around me he doesn't blink
👀
yes
there's this girl who works at a store i frequent. we exchanged glances a few times. i find her extremely attractive. i usually just see her when im checkin out so not much time to chat. but the last time i was there she held eye contact for about 3 seconds when i caught her staring. but she seems shy but talks to others. anyways i was passing through the p lot omw to a different stroe one time and as i was passing a car i noticed eyes on me. i gazed towards the car and she was staring at me from an angle. as soon as i locked eys she darted them faster than the speed of light!! i wasn't sure it was her at first so i didn't approach plus it was dark lol kinda weird to approach while she sittin in a car. but she kept lookin back.
girls always look away from me horizontally- forever alone :(
same
Same. But forget about them.
same
+Matt G I'm a girl, had eye contact with a guy and looked away horizontally... I can tell you I'm head over heels. And when you doubt if she likes you, you need to look in her eyes longer or more. I was just working at the restaurant and there's a guy I worked with 1 time, and he was there at the restaurant, and I before I saw him he was like staring with a smile that shows he's in love so I looked at him, and the world stood still, I mean like you will know when there's chemistry when you feel it... And if your thinking that much about 'how does she think about me...?' Ask her... It's a yes or a no, you won't die! And if not, it wasn't meant to be and there will be someone there for you who will be just as much in love with you as you are with her... I'm sorry for my awful grammar I'm a non-native speaker! 😂👍😜
Julie
Thank you. Yes I really need to start approaching girls. I always chicken out, because I have those negative thoughts in my head that tell me she will not be interested anyway.
no cuz I look away and look back cuz I wanna see if they r still staring at me
me too
So here's a question, if the eye dilation thing happens with a woman I meet (they have it, I don't know if I have it) and I like them, but I'm to constricted with work and trying to make a living, and honestly don't want to take it too the next step, what should I do.
What about if someone just literally stares at you in a restaurant
. My family and I were having dinner then a man arrived who was seated a few tables across from us. He wouldn’t stop staring at me. When I told my husband he didn’t believe me that when our daughter said, “ HE IS LOOKING AT MOM...AND HE DOESNT STOP STARING “‘ so what does that mean????