I ❤ you videos. Change is hard for most people. There was a study where a person has to start a new good habit and keep doing it for 90 days to get rid of a bad habit.
I think this was one of your best videos. I relate to you because I am too bubbly and filled with things I have read and insights I want to share, and often I feel I overwhelm myself and anyone I try to help because I have so much I want to say. I don’t think you have this problem obviously, I think you come off as enthusiastic and inspiring, but I do think it might not be a bad idea to experiment with breaking things up even more when you can and try to make the videos more focused on a smaller area and methodical. You could even parse it down even more and do one video for each sub-topic: subtopic #1: understanding how the behavior is getting you something you need, subtopic #2: what you might subconsciously be afraid of could change if you succeed in changing the behavior. I think for anyone who hasn’t been able to work through things in therapy yet, and there are so many reasons why people might not have been able to, this kind of information can feel overwhelming and intimidating. Whenever I watch one of your videos I tend to feel happy and inspired and like I want to get going and dive in, but then in the next moment just the thought of sitting down and trying to answer one of your prompts makes my nervous system activate into a defensive self-protective stance and I feel convinced I am too tired or that I really must lay down and read Helen Fielding instead.
Thank you again for your practical advice. I also believe it is important to deal first with the behaviour if we want to comit to an action. It is just more meaningful. Your prompt questions were so helpful.
I feel this is such a ginormous topic that is rarely discussed. Not even in environments where you’d think it would be the first thing to bring to people’s attention. As an example, I’m currently in a therapeutic group setting once a week that is supposed to teach skills for practicing mindfulness to help with self-harm behaviors. So often I feel like these meetings are only making everyone feel even more ashamed and distressed because even for someone who is perfectly regulated and securely attached and lives a stable and happy life, changing unhelpful behaviors is extremely hard. Not once in the past three months have the instructors, who are all therapists ‘trained in trauma’, talked about the things you talk about here.
Hi Nika! I really want to thank you for your videos, i'm from Argentina (sorry for mi English), and you help me a lot, I love these topics and the way you approach them ❤
I only discovered your channel recently but I've been watching so many of your videos already! 🥰 I also got super excited when I found out that you live in Denmark though Århus is still a little far away from me ☺️ can't wait to impliment your good ideas in my life! ❤
I ❤ you videos. Change is hard for most people. There was a study where a person has to start a new good habit and keep doing it for 90 days to get rid of a bad habit.
I'm brazilian and I watch your videos to practice my english, you speak well end I can understand clearly
I think this was one of your best videos. I relate to you because I am too bubbly and filled with things I have read and insights I want to share, and often I feel I overwhelm myself and anyone I try to help because I have so much I want to say.
I don’t think you have this problem obviously, I think you come off as enthusiastic and inspiring, but I do think it might not be a bad idea to experiment with breaking things up even more when you can and try to make the videos more focused on a smaller area and methodical.
You could even parse it down even more and do one video for each sub-topic:
subtopic #1: understanding how the behavior is getting you something you need,
subtopic #2: what you might subconsciously be afraid of could change if you succeed in changing the behavior.
I think for anyone who hasn’t been able to work through things in therapy yet, and there are so many reasons why people might not have been able to, this kind of information can feel overwhelming and intimidating.
Whenever I watch one of your videos I tend to feel happy and inspired and like I want to get going and dive in, but then in the next moment just the thought of sitting down and trying to answer one of your prompts makes my nervous system activate into a defensive self-protective stance and I feel convinced I am too tired or that I really must lay down and read Helen Fielding instead.
thank you!!! i wrote everything down and this actually made me reflect and see things i otherwise wouldn’t
You are literally the big sister any sister would die for❤️
Thank you again for your practical advice. I also believe it is important to deal first with the behaviour if we want to comit to an action. It is just more meaningful. Your prompt questions were so helpful.
awh I'm so glad! 💕
Your videos are so helpful! Thank you so much
And the light was perfect, please don't worry about that😊
I got sick today, so this was a lovely surprise. Thank you for posting, Nika!!! Wonderfully sound content, as always.
I hope you feel better ☺️
I feel this is such a ginormous topic that is rarely discussed. Not even in environments where you’d think it would be the first thing to bring to people’s attention.
As an example, I’m currently in a therapeutic group setting once a week that is supposed to teach skills for practicing mindfulness to help with self-harm behaviors.
So often I feel like these meetings are only making everyone feel even more ashamed and distressed because even for someone who is perfectly regulated and securely attached and lives a stable and happy life, changing unhelpful behaviors is extremely hard.
Not once in the past three months have the instructors, who are all therapists ‘trained in trauma’, talked about the things you talk about here.
More great advice. Such a great way to work through barriers in our lives. You're so relatable. Love your videos!
Thank you so much!! ❤
Hi Nika! I really want to thank you for your videos, i'm from Argentina (sorry for mi English), and you help me a lot, I love these topics and the way you approach them ❤
This is what I needed ❤ thank you
I love your videos. Girl, keep educating us❤
your videos are always one of the best part of my weekends ! Sets me up to achieve what I need to do ❤
awhh that makes me so happy! Thank you love🥹💕
I can take away soo much of your videos! Great work, you can be really proud of yourself! Also it encourages me a lot to see you thrive 🎉👏😍
This topic truly does boil down to healing trauma, psil0cybin changed everything for me ❤
I only discovered your channel recently but I've been watching so many of your videos already! 🥰 I also got super excited when I found out that you live in Denmark though Århus is still a little far away from me ☺️ can't wait to impliment your good ideas in my life! ❤
Great journaling questions. Still thinking about the last. It's a hard one!
Your lighting looks PERFECT to me lol
Loved this video!
After watch this video, it bring me idea to improve myself 💗
Thank you so much for giving such a good step by step plan for bettering myself :) ♥️ I really appreciate your videos
Thank you so much ❤🎉 this support me to make new goals a lot of
I love your Videos! Thank you for your hard work!
I just found you and oh my gosh I love these videos 🥹🥰
Good job how to guide your self for 2024 a new beginning
Great video!!!
Nice job. Thank you so much.
Have a good Day 🙂👍
Has she shared the notion template on her last video? With the new yr goals
Such a good video wow ❤❤❤
I need to give up porn addiction, lose weight, and a bunch of other stuff. That's my goal.
😊😊😊😊😊 you are awesome
I hope to learn English. The Iraqi was here 😁
Nice video
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Has she shared the notion template on her last video? With the new yr goals
Has she shared the notion template on her last video? With the new yr goals