Should I date a divorced man? | Talks with Tony
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I had my 1st Baby @40. Completely healthy and conceived NATURALLY. ...God never forgets about a woman’s desire to be a mother.
That’s beautiful 💛
Amen
Thank you I needed this
I don't have kids either day. Amen.
Amen Glory to God 🙏🏾🙌🏿
I haven’t been the same since I’ve started watching Tony’s videos. My discernment has increased 5X, and I feel whole and happy as a SINGLE woman! Tony, you are truly a blessing! No more tolerating grown boy behavior. 😁😁
Ditto, I'm woke, I peep game now
Same! My radar be on!!!
I agree ,I personally feel these videos have me reaching a turning point in how I handle all relationships going forward!
Congratulations Rosa👏👏👏
Stay strong and never 4get your worth🌹👍
Yes same! I can see clearly now.
To anyone reading this and willing - please pray for me and my young son.. I’m walking through the darkest season of my life. A “man of God” convinced me he was going to marry me, to leave a job I can’t go back to, and to move out of state to his state... and then dumped me. I don’t know where I’m going to live, I don’t have much family.. and I’m struggling with a broken heart and crushed spirit ... please pray for me 🙏😭
Prayers for you Queen! Everything will be okay ❤🙏🏾❤
Prayers for you both! God bless you 🙏🏾❤️
Sending prayers and blessing energy your way. Don't miss the lesson; get that ring and license before making any moves for a man.
Wow 😳
I’m so sorry! I can’t give you answers but Have faith and you will overcome this. I wish I lived close then I would help you but I’m all the way across the water in England so all I can do is pray for you and I will make sure I do that! xx
Side Bar: I had a set of twins at 40 and I felt like I was a big Mac 18 wheeler truck broke down on the side of the road- it was rough, rough. I prayed hard, watched my diet even harder and they both doing well to this very day! Praises all to God! ✝️💜
Glory to God
Amen
Glory 🙌
Sis., I already know! I was 38 with our last one (he's 3 now) but let me tell you everything ached! My ankles, wrist, lower back, neck, knees and my joints started to creak like I was in need of WD40...
Us done now! No more children!🙅🏾♀️
@@Getitgirl816 🤣🤣🤣🤣
The kids and ex will play and be apart of your relationship. You MUST meet all people including his family. They can all be great or horrible. Regardless of him saying he will deal with that situation. You MUST see how he deals with this situation for yourself. Words are cool, action is better but patterns are GOLD.
Home truth
I’ve been ridiculed for noticing patterns. Of course, I didn’t pay that any mind. I see what I see.
@@lhuff8340 Alot of people want to ignore patterns and its the worse thing you can do. Let em ridicule you. That's a problem for them, not you.
Couldn’t have said this better! Dear Lord my exes Gf is naive. I wouldn’t even intervine but Poor women. She a dummy! He’s a great manipulator and plays the part very well 😆 I dodged a bullet. Thank you Jesus
That’s true
I know it's all in love so I chuckle at the age and geriatric pregnancy stuff🤣 I love working out and train like I'm in somebody's Olympic; train others, run marathons etc.,. BUT YES, I FEEL every bit of this 38 years and its definitely different than 10 years ago.
Being able to grow older is a blessing ALOT of us don't get. I embrace it. What God has for me is for me.♥️☺️
Love that attitude! You go girl!
@@lhuff8340Awe! Thanks Sis!
Is your father Abraham? The Father of Many Nations? I'm sitting in drive through at Wendy's hollerin' so loud 🤣🤣🤣🥰🥰🥰
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Tony’s blessed with giving away The Games men play!! He’s Rare 🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️
I have 3 children, the 1st I had when i was 28, the 2nd at 32, and the 3rd at 40 and the pregnancy at age 40 was the best pregnancy out of the 3, I had more energy, less stress, better finances, and my husband who is 13yrs older than me was more supportive, the baby was healthy, had a head full of hair, and was an easy baby, it was such a blessing and great experience!!
All praises to The Most High God for your testimony! I pray that God will bless your family and bless me to be ready for the husband coming to find me.
Yes this will be me also I’m soo happy to hear this
God is Awesome 🎉❤🎉😊❤
Every time I've dated a man with kids, the mother of the kids were always an issue. Never again. 🙄🙄
Me too
Yup. Refused to communicate honestly. Acted rude. And would purposely create issues. And then when I asked if she still wanted him so I could leave him she was like “oh god no I don’t want him back ever again.” But then acts otherwise lol
I dated a divorced man with kids before and all I’m gonna say is NEVERRRR AGAINNN!!
Why?👀
Very true. Hmmm
@@CiaobellaAmour it’s not worth it when you don’t have kids or ever been married before. I rather be the first for everything.
@@kaleema1987Dating a man before he’s divorced is something I cannot do. Im glad you let that go. Just bc you have kids doesn’t mean you gotta be with someone who have kids too unless that’s just what you want 🤷🏽♀️
@@CarrieRemedy exactly!! I’ve noticed a lot of men with kids got too much baggage. Their priorities don’t be in order.
I hope he isn't the only one she's dating. She needs to be dating other people.
You can date with caution as long as there are no red flags about negative behaviors and other problems between you caused by his past or anything else, so proceed with caution and trust only in actions, proven love and respect.
Proverbs 18:22 - "He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord."...get ready for your Favor, Ben! More proof that because Tony Gaskins Jr. is living in his purpose - if we're listening and putting it into practice. We all win! God bless. 🙏🏾🇨🇦
Dating a man with kids means the mama will be involved too...sometimes even her family....need to be careful too and draw your boundaries coz if you act all like you too nice you'll end up being two wives with the man...
True!
That’s a good story Glad someone found happiness!
Your man ain't Abraham 🤣. But I do know a lady who is having a child at 43. She fasted and prayed. She trusted God and she is pregnant. If God said it, will come to pass. Anything is possible.
Absolutely, a friend of mine told me years ago that everything is tied to your purpose. The moment Joseph stepped into his purpose in Egypt, he got the position, title, authority, new attire, bling bling on his finger and around his neck and a wife.
I wish there was a way I could highlight your comment cos it is such a confirmation to what God has being saying to me....its all about preparation, Gods purpose and His time. ♡
I had my baby at 37 years old..Tony ur rite ..the Doc told me I'm "advance maternal age" and I was going to have a "high risk" pregnancy. I was offended 😂 cuz i felt like they were calling me "old". I had to take extra tests that I didn't have to take at age 25 with my 1st baby. Anyway, I have a healthy boy😍
@Jennifer beautiful
Definitely inviting Uncle Tony and his wife to My wedding
Haha, i hope God will bless you with a great man!
Yep! Me too sis...LOL😂😂🤣
@@topazgraham2643 🤎🤎
@@eupiaeupia2647 and.. I thank you. Lol
I love how happy and excited you get for your followers and blessed tribe 😊 that shows you are doing this from the heart. Blessings come to you, your wife and kids because you're doing God's work.
Where I'm from there are plenty of guys (especially BM) who have never been married by the age of 36. However, it's much less common to find these men of the same age who haven't had any children yet. To me that's a problem!!!!!!
“Your standards can’t be higher than you.” TG
A word and then some!!!!
Amen.
If he’s not divorced or even going through a divorce, I wouldn’t want to be with him if it were me AND I WAS LOOKING FOR A SOLID RELATIONSHIP (eventually marriage). But as stated in a previous video, a man fresh out of a marriage isn’t really looking to get back into a binding relationship like that so quickly and also, as stated in a previous video, if he’s not divorced, he’s still married whether he’s away from home or still at home. Just my opinion.
after a certain age, there are only men left with luggage: exes, children, alimony, etc..
make sure the kids are at least grown and moved out and providing for themselves
At any age there are single men, maybe fewer, but they exist.
That is not true!
Right....thats the only way...I done raised my kids 😂😂😂
Good evening ladies and the men that listens as well...
That's too funny!! I'm 51 and my uterus AIN'T thinking about having no babies 😂🤣😄
You silly 😂😂😂😂
I'm 51 years old too and know no babies coming out of here. 😆😆😆
Tonnnyyyyy I am over laughing so hard at Ruth’s story‼️🥴😂😂😂😂😂😂
Tears🤣🤣🤣
I'm weak over that. When he said bundles though....
@@wandamajette5000 😅😂😂
@@CatGee 😅😂😂
Finally! A great mail or letter. Congratulations Ben 🎉 on your engagement.
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It always trips me out, when I go to give my thumbs up and I see people already put thumbs down. Can't get used to that. Excellent that Tony keeps doing what he does. Thumbs up all the time!!!!
Testimonial coming through the mail! Come thru, Ben. 2GodBTGlory!
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“You hear meeeee”... Tony is hilarious and I’m cracking up!😂😂😂
When Toni said “We already ain’t good father as it is” and the “ popping them thangs like m&m’s sent me 😂😂🤣
Right!!!
Man, you preached to me on this video!!!!! Perfecting in the process, doing the work, faith in God. Prepared and positioned!!! Yass!!! And I’m an older divorcée with children. Purpose in singled-hood while preparing for the man who is on that next level with me because I have tapped into my purpose!!!! Yass!!!!
Lots of caveats and nuances with this one....
Stay blessed tribe🤍🙏🏾
Congrats to Ben and his fiancé!! 🥰🌸
Those cards were so thoughtful lol
Thank you for the Congrats!
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@42:26 Great explanation. We don't understand when we walk away from toxic behaviour, it reflects how much we value ourselves and what we refuse to put up with. Blessings..
"🐷🐖 with warts on his booty" I'm out for the count! 😁😭🤭 Hilarious!!!
To me, it sounds like her energy towards him is off; like she's not really feeling he's the one although he "seems" to be trying to do that. There's nothing wrong with her not wanting him and if she doesn't she should cut him loose bc she can have what she wants (if she's willing to wait for it).
Tony you are very informative and funny at the same time...Been watching for a few months...and still can't stop laughing (while being educated). Thank You
OMG, this intro put a big smile on my face! Congrats on these wins! Tony really about to get an invite to my future wedding.
I like the breakdown of Ruth in the scriptures. It important for us to become what we desire, so if it is love and then we should become love. In addition to my Bible and watching Tony videos, my level of discernment has increased drastically. Thanks, Tony.
And the Oscar goes to......,, Tony Gaskins, Jr.!!! 🙌😂
All day!
It’s so difficult because as women our time is ticking to have a baby (if that’s what you desire). More men need to get it together. So disheartening
Omgg I’m dying😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀
Tony you are so funny, I love the natural humor you throw into your videos. I love listening to you because I learn and laugh, and it’s so refreshing the way God uses you to bless people with wisdom and joy
On tha floooooor🤣🤣🤣… can’t even be mad 😭
Actually 36 is the beginning of Advanced Maternal Age. She can start get her hormone levels (FSH, TSH) checked by a Fertility Specalist. He needs to be checked as well...rule out any male factors.
Being a divorcee' myself with two kids and dealing with his second wife. It was stressful. I say tread lightly. Go slow.
He had me in TEARS with the viagra story. 😂😭
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cardiac arrest - Viagra overdose 😂😂😂
In the floor at that part 😭😭😭
A different part of Africa!! Lol 😂
Me ex was so mad at me that I got pregnant at 37 (he was 40) Like I got pregnant all by myself???!! He never had a bond with his son, rarely did anything with him, like play catch, and forgot his birthday every year since . What a poor excuse for a father he was. I was determined to teach my son everything I knew how to do and tried to find good examples of men for him to emulate. Its a shame my ex grown-boy could never get past himself and his own self importance to see what a great son he has.
Is your husband Abraham 😂😂😂😂 I hollered
Loud😅😂😂🤣🤣
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I can no longer watch Tony's videos at work, I laugh TOOOOOO LOUD AND HARD😂😂😂😂😂
Grl I was dead in a casket...😂😂😂😂
“Leave her some bundles (not weave because they wore they natural hair. Well they wore weave too)!” TG 🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
When he said that....I know my laughter was too loud for work🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The part about it not being the right time is spot on. I married someone that was not my time and when I finally began walking on the path god had for me I ran directly into the person who I had been waiting for. When he spoke it was as if he borrowed the words I’d been holding in my soul. The first thing he ever said to me was “you can sit by me, how was your morning and are you doing ok?” He was the first person to ask if I was ok in I couldn’t tell you how long. He always made time to speak with me even if he was busy. However we are only friends it’s as if god showed him to me to allow me to see what I missed out on being impatient if I had gone where I was destined to go without detouring out of desperation I would have met someone who was truly amazing
Wow!
What?
The first 3 minutes of the video was heartwarming! Love seeing & hearing the praise reports! Congrats Ben to you and your soon to be wife!!!!
OAN: Another TG gem “If you don’t like what’s coming to you keep working and keep waiting” ❤️
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👍👍 !! We thank God for you Brother!!
Hiya.. I am very new to your channel- blessing! I am a married woman of eight years with 7 year old twins. Moved from NYC , to the, Uk to be "closer" to my husband. Omg since coming here, I have endure, pain, discard, resentment,.. etc from my husband. But God is working on me for a greater purposes!!! Was STRUGGLING to get clarification on something- but then you answered that thing!!!! Aman to TG!!!!
Ayyeee 👏🏽👏🏽 12am and I am here all for it!
Yooo I live in Germany!!! 🤩🤩
Omg...wow, that’s amazing. So happy for you Tony. Very thoughtful of those that sent in cards. And for dude, keep it up 👍🏾 you a good one 💜💜🙏🏾
Congratulations to the engaged couple! Thank you Tony for your guidance and support!
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You said a week for that website to be up?!!! Ooohhhh can’t wait.
Tony go head take my checks!! Lol
I recommend going to the courthouse and reading the divorce case file. Trust me on this. You might be reading your future.
Brother Tony, it Will be my honor for you and the queen to attend my wedding! Blessings 🙏🕊
Work while you wait!!!! Mr. Gaskins you are a true gift from God.
Daily Dose of Tony Gaskins will keep the doctor away :P 🤣🤣🤣
I listened to this a few weeks ago initially and then came back to it for some wisdom. Just 1 week ago I got approached with a nearly identical situation. God works in mysterious ways. Thank you!
Congrats the couple getting married!!!! Much blessings to you both!
Thank you for the Congrats 🤗
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Happy birthday Mr Tony G.🎉🎊🎈 May you be blessed with many many more to come 🙏🙏
His birthday has gone it was March 8th
Omg I was laughing out loud... Popping those pills like tic tac🤣🤣🤣
I married a divorce man 12 yrs ago primarily because of our worship and family oriented orientation. He kept abandoning and going mia for years spending loads of va benefits and gaining assets but never writing a 200 dollars divorce while i struggled to rebuild and figure out whether I was honoring God if I decided to divorce. There are some petty narcissist's out there. they only keep women around for a supply to compete with because they lack, self esteem. I will not marry a divorced man again. I was single before I met him spiritually he was never my husband. I will only marry a single man or widow .
Tony tube, I like that! Go ahead TG! You have blessed me beyond words with you candid talks about grown men and a woman's influence! Due to your teaching, personal preparation- the 3- B's, I believe I'm ready for my King/ husband. God bless you and your family!!!
Just when I think a video may not be for me, I’m taken back @ the message I receive from you Tony. Never thought about how a man maybe receiving & reading me based on my appearance in that way. Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing this perspective and adding knowledge so that we can take something away from your advice/ coaching.
GBY!!🙏🏾
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Man i can't workout to this!!
Love your content!! Thanks Tony
This is goood! I sincerely did not know that men watch and level women in this way. Thanks for the education. Wow!
That is why a woman has to be mindful of how she presents herself. I had a man approach me one day when I wasn’t looking good. I was doing a quick errand, and I didn’t expect to be in much contact with people. I’ve learned to be suspect of strange men approaching me when I look less than good. I knew I was going to run into him again, so the next time I purposely wore makeup, did my hair, and dressed nice. He looked at me like I was a different woman, and he did not flirt with me again. When we don’t care about our appearance, it sends a certain message, and it WILL attract a certain type of man.
Congratulations To Mr Ben and His Queen.
God Bless you Both!!
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Wisdom!!! Definately felt The Spirit in this. You have a destiny and a purpose ✨ GOD bless everyone 🙏🏾
I'm 67 I've been married twice I got three kids by three different Daddy do you think God have a plan for me to be married again . all my kids are grown .. what to do . by listening to you give me a lot of strength . thank you Tony
If you are really listening sis, then you would know the answer🌼🧡🌼
Please.... A lady I know got married at 71....dont sleep on God 😁
@@BlissedSweets married or remarried?
Tony be careful with them scissors 😂😂😂 😂😂✂️
Praise God for the union! Your work is not in vain🙏💕
Omg 😂😂😂😩😩😭😭😂😂😂 I’m crying laughing... Tony been cutting up in his videos....... so hilarious 🤣
Tony, I don’t know if Ben reached out to you after this but his wife passed away a month after their wedding. Toyka was a good friend of mine so the fact that I clicked on this video and hear you speaking on this brought me to tears! It took me down memory lane on me and Toyka’s relationship. I tend to come back to your older videos because they still hold value. God Bless ❤
T.G you had me cracking up!!!!! Thank you for taking the time and explaining all angles to consider while dating with a purpose. You are wise beyond your years!!!
When tony said ‘’let y’all tell it in the comments about having a baby older’’... I almost chocked on my shrimp pasta.. 😆
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When he said, "If you gon' believe what God told you in the comments..."🤣🤣🤣
@@yvonnemosley 😂
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Hi Tony
I love your videos! A mix of wisdom AND comedy!!!!! You crack me up! but there is truth to your content. Thank you 🙏🏽
Tony, 36 is a old. I’m 33 and the fertility doctor made it very clear that I have another good 2-3 years before conception will become difficult.
Many women that are 38 and trying to conceive have to use donor eggs. I started menstruating at 10 years old. It really depends on the woman. Women have to really consider their own history. The one size fit all does not work.
There is such an exam
😂 you’re too funny . It’s amazing how you teach us wisdom and at the same time make us laugh. Thank you so much Tony ! God bless you .
Your standards can’t be higher than you! TG 👌🏾
Amen this message was definitely pertaining to me towards the end. Thank you Tony. God Bless
At this age it really sucks finding people who want marriage and kids because they already been married and have kids. And if those two things aren’t options, they don’t value you. Walk away.
"Ain't no Jack rabbit". Oh no and vigara part; that was great!
The last 25mins were GOLDEN! Do the work!
I’m 37 decided no babies because it is too late which in turn means men with grown children only.
So of course everything Tony says he wrote, I buy. Just picked up 21 Lessons From Ruth and Boaz and I agree with all points. Not sure what someone saw that was incorrect with them.
Side bar. Boaz was like 80 and Ruth was in her 40s ... I’m good on boaz🥴
Love you brother Tony! You ALWAYS keep it 💯 x 💯 😁
When he said at 55, the man'll be like "I done tore my Achilles getting out the bed this morning!" Chile, I FELL OUT! It reminded me of this old man that wanted to be with me and I'm years younger.
I'm wondering where I can find that P.O. Box info?
That was so sweet. I've wanted to send a 🎁 just a small token of appreciation for the blessing your channel, academy, and books have had in my life. I just didn't know where to send it.
I came to get a lesson but instead I’m laughing 🤣🤣🤣 not leave her some bundles to pick up
He didn't say this but he was thinking, "Heyyyy, Ms. Parker!!!"
And men notice everything you said! We women think they don’t and that their silence is acceptance.
Extreme comic relief on this one.
It’s always wise to listen to Tony’s videos until the very last second. What was meant for me was in the last few minutes. 🙏🏽
Tony, you are so crazy I am 29 getting to know a 45-year-old man who has been divorced for two years. His story is tragic but it’s been great listening to you. Give all of this insight on timing and especially about the 50 men popping the pills lol.