Sending you best wishes for your journey. Step by step, building your own ease and confidence, it is possible, and you're not alone. Many people struggle with it. I hope the videos are helpful for you :)
On the inside i can feel that I want to socialize with people, and I’m not really a shy person, but extreme self-consciousness gets in the way and I can’t get rid of it
That is literally exactly how I feel. I'm not shy, I like socializing. I'm just so self-conscious and self-critical makes me hate being social. I feel like I can only be myself when I'm by myself. Its so frustrating!
I struggle with this every waking second. I'm self-conscious about how i look (i feel like i look too angry naturally), my posture, the way I sound when I talk, my build, etc. I can't talk to people without my voice breaking and freeze because of my anxiety. I feel like everyone else is normal and I'm the weird one that can't connect with anyone. I feel like everyone else has their lives together meanwhile here I am feeling miserable and going nowhere in life. The WORST part about this all and what makes me really sad are all the experiences that I am missing out on with other people. I always wonder where i could've been right now if I never dealt with this problem.
Hi Micheal, I hear you. Life is a journey to accept ourselves, get comfortable in our own skin and start loving ourselves as we are, where we stand. When we do, our beliefs and thoughts changing inside, our reality changes as we are constantly emiting and projecting our inner world to our outer experience. Doing that inner healing work is life changing. If you're interested in resources to help you email to support@thedailypositive.com and I'll send you info and links. 😊💛👍
i feel the exact same. every time i’m in a public area, everything about me starts screaming in my mind. the way i’m holding my hands, the way my back looks like a question mark, etc etc. i’ve gotten better. i’ve gone out of my comfort zone and i’m just trying to get accustomed to being in these public areas with eyes all around me. i wish you luck :)
@@kidkid1317 i think it's a training trying to get back to this non self conscious mode ! You already know what is you're problem look for a psychologist for the best advice or psychatrist if not try to find testimony on forum ! Good luck
Thank you for this informative video. As a 54 yo man who has lived my entire adult life with extreme social anxiety I can attest to the fact it is an absolute living hell. One factor I will add that may be a bit of wisdom for a young person that is dealing with self consciousness or social anxiety, stay away, from weed (pot) please, I know it's the IN thing now but it will only magnify & intensify any negative feelings you deal with right now! After years of smoking pot (in the 70's) it made my life & the negative perception I had of myself a thousand times worse, I quit when I realized what it was doing to me, but have lived with the damage it did to me ever since, it isn't a harmless drug as some may tell you, it's a life wrecker. Thanks & may God bless us all that deal with social anxiety on a day by day basis, it is horrible...I know.
At times my anxiety can go wild.. I almost have panic attacks because of how im acting, how i look, smell, everything about. I get scared and nervous. I can speak well i just feel like people think im ugly.... my family made fun of me and so have friends and classmates... sooo it sorta got me feeling anxious about everything i do... i cant even feel safe when im alone... i feel like im always judge... no matter what location or people im around
Jenna Coralenne don’t worry I feel that way too Sometimes Every Time I go somewhere that I feel Like I don’t belong there I try to think of something that makes me feel happy I try not to think about school or the people there or what their going to say to me or other people about me. I don’t really hate how I look but there’s those kinds of people in your life that you meet that you don’t like and that they make fun of you in front of your friends or other people that happened to me lots of times but I got threw it and I’m still having that same problem. I’m in 8th grade so I still have High School left and Hope I meet better people And Don’t Get People like that ever again. Nice to see that there are other people like me. Wish you the best of luck my friend hope you find nice people. It’s gonna take a long time I have a feeling but We’re gonna get threw this. See you later 👋
I hear you. In these times when others judge or we feel the anxiety in this way, it calls for a lot of self love and self acceptance. You are enough, you are perfect just as you are, just as you were born, and being yourself in every way is all that is needed. What others say and do is not about you, it's a reflection of their mindset, their feelings, their stuff. What we most need to know is that we are good enough, more than enough. You are. Tell yourself this every day. 💗
I get very self conscious when I am around White people, sometimes I even avoid entering a restaurant if I have to be the only black person in there. I am a South African, who is very much non racist however how I feel about racism gets to be wrecked by the attitude and disrespect I receive. In the end it lives me in a state of permanent confusion, resulting in this self consciousness around them.
Thank you for sharing your experience here. To you I send my best wishes - that you may walk ahead empowered and confident in yourself and your values, with the strength to hold them in any situation. The world definitely needs more of us shining the light of equality, love and understanding, even though it's clear that at times it is extremely challenging when facing the unconsciousness of other people. With love, Bernadette
I am sorry that there are so many arseholes in this world. There is something very wrong with people whom are racists.They are either afraid or jealous. They must be very insecure people. I could never understand how it feels to be in your shoes. I imagine I'd would feel very frustrated and angry at the injustice. Racists ruin it for all the rest of us. Please just try to be yourself, remember there are loads of people in the world who don't judge others by the colour of their skin. It may help to seek out a job or volunteer position that takes you away from these narrow minded people. If you are doing something that is helping people or the planet you get the opportunity to be around kindhearted people where the colour of someone's skin makes no difference whatsoever. All The best.
YES! i never wanted to admit it, but as a minority myself, all it takes is ONE event where someone is prejudice against you and you feel like everyone thinks that way, which is not true of course. I feel as though around white people i get quite nervous because of how they really feel, i get dirty looks all the time for being south asian. There was once an app called yik yak where people could anon say anything they wanted within a local community and the nasty racist feelings of the public really made me feel bad as they would all say things such as "curry smelling dirtbags" and so on, and so talking to people elevates the self consciousness.
The thing is, even if you kinda feel and act confident, people might attack me even more and make me feel not in their group and act like im a lesser human being.
Yea I have this 2 people that hang out in my group of friends that Make fun of me and I don’t be with them because they are there and I no one to talk to
So glad I came across your video, have just subscribed. I was in tears watching it, my self consciousness and social anxiety can be all consuming. It stems from criticisms in my childhood and being such a sensitive person it’s had a big affect on me. After watching this I really want to work on myself now, rather than avoid situations etc. Thank you for this video...I look forward to watching your other ones now😊
Sometimes I can’t even listen to certain music anymore. Terrible feeling. Glad I found this video. Anxiety hits me so hard sometimes I just want to run just run and yell my lungs out 😩
Hi Joel, have you tried using EFT (Tapping) to help with your anxiety? It's remarkably helpful. I've put links below to resources that are free for learning and using Tapping for anxiety, including The Tapping Solution app which has a great free anxiety tapping audio. bit.ly/39GI08w bit.ly/3s1c2dH bit.ly/3sUtfXp With love B
This woman is a genius she hit the nail on the head. She explained the way I feel daily on point. I only recently found out that I was socially anxious and self conciouss most of my life I thought there was something wrong with me or because of my past trauma. I'm so glad I'm not alone here.
In some scenarios other people do function at a higher level, they are more skillful so it only makes sense to be anxious. So it’s also about being honest with oneself and improving one’s skills.
i’m at the point where i’m walking against walls when i’m going down hallways to avoid talking to people or people even looking at me. i’ve improved a lot. 3 years ago i was unsalvageable, but i’ve found a way. i’m doing a theater program now and it’s helped me get out of my comfort zone with both of these. i’ve never been professionally checked for either, so i’m not saying i have them. sounds just like me though.
Sending love and best wishes to you for the year ahead. May you find the peace and confidence that is within you! I hope the resources on my RUclips channel are useful in some way to support you. Bernadette :)
Me too. Was literally crying the whole time she was speaking 'cause I've really been trying to have this positive mindset about myself and socializing, but it just doesn't seem to work well too often.
Ya I have social anxiety and I'm always thinking about what if people are talking about me or will they like me, even people at school talk about me. I don't really like the way I look, my body and more but thank you for sharing!
I am the weirdest self conscious person ever. I love going to parties and clubs and dancing but I hate talking to people and actually involving myself in the social events. Then, I am angry with myself after the social event that I didn’t enjoy myself as much as possible because I was trying my best to be a fly on the wall.
Hey Sherry, glad you found the channel too! So glad this was helpful for you. If you haven't already joined us on the website, come on over and connect, we have a lot of other resources, articles, free audio tools you can download, plus online classes to support you. Here's a link to join our tribe online for free... pinchmeliving.com/free-personal-development-tools Best wishes! Bernadette
I learned so much within the last few months with my life long anxiety and having pure O. It does nothing but deliberately destroy the mind and it’s so hard to over come. I applied mindfulness into my life style, although it’s a work in progress, I’ve made some leaps and boundaries. Then I found your video last week and it’s eye opening how well you explained why social anxiety is causing us such difficulties with dealing with reality and people. I have been watching this video specifically when I feel down and it gives me a boost every time. I’m going to start watching more videos because I can learn a lot more from you. Thank you
Someone pointed out a physical flaw I've always been self conscious about, 7 hours ago and I'm still crying. Ive always thought about it and based a lot of my physical interactions around this flaw. But now that it's pointed out, I just feel like such a failure. I could convince myself before, that it's not a big deal and the people I care about wouldnt point it out. Now that someone did, I can't help but feel like I don't belong anywhere around anyone. Definitely needed this.
Sending love to you. Times like this are a call to go deeper in the relationship we have with ourselves, to lovingly accept who we naturally are and the skin we're in. To give ourselves what we most need, what we may not get from others.💛
This is what I am looking for so long.Thank you for being there helping everyone about this self conscious that really struggling our life.Actually I am always sad about what is happening in my mind and been struggling in this for 35 years.Really glad that I found your channel.God bless you ma'am and more power.
Trust ur timings,patience brings you power and peace more than you've ever had before...Healing takes time...just believe in yourself.....it's just because your mind and the inner self is starting to see things and feel things which is self apart in various ways from you..just remember it's all gonna get alright way far more better than how you have felt before.....Dont worry trust God !!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Great session "Whatever you believe you go looking for evidence to support it." Its only listening to your session that I realse that is what I am doing. Thanks for sharing
Thanks for making his video! I have had some problems with my friends and we broke up and it’s hard losing your Bestfriend of 4 years. And I keep getting caught up in the way they think of me or how he try’s to get under my skin. And from this video I know now I don’t need to look at that perspective and be myself and not worry about if I have more freinds then he does!
This video is ready great. It touches on the smallest things like people giving funny looks. It's beautifully subtle and none critical and gives the perfect stepping stones to realization. Great stuff👍This has really helped me 👍👍🙌🙌
By far this video is the most helpful and eye opening video about this kind of stuff. I feel lucky coming across and feel that it deserves more views. You made me truly realize where my social anxiety problem comes from. I always feel comfortable with myself and my family members. But when I go out into the world (for me that is high school) I feel lower and like I’m not at the same level as them. Like their life is so much better. Maybe because when I was little my parents really didn’t expose me to other people but only my family. I realize now what I lack and see in others is how they can easily interact with others and that their life is so much better than mine. I’m definitely going to rewire my brain and my beliefs which is probably gonna be hard. Definitely gonna use affirmations which I’m also familiar with (I listen to subliminal messages here on RUclips)
I’m 42 years old and I wish this information was available to me when I was in my teens and early twenties. What you’ve described about avoiding situations is exactly how I handled being self conscious when I was younger and it has shaped my life in a way that I am now unfulfilled because I haven’t really been living life. I am so determined to change things around for myself now and quickly and I guess, catch up on myself. I still feel somewhat self conscious in certain settings but I now think I know what to do to overcome it. I hope it’s not too late for me and I’m not too set in my ways but I just want to make changes and feel good about myself. Thank you for this video.
Hi Melissa I hear you and appreciate you sharing where you're at. It's definitely NOT too late :) Your timing is perfect, as right now (Mon 2nd May) we have just started our annual FREE mind mastery workshop training (it runs for the next 2 weeks) and we go deeper into the dynamics of inner challenges like this and how to turn things around. You can join us if that resonates, at the link below: bit.ly/2HirThZ Much love! B
Damn I clicked this and it’s so true about me. I was the scapegoat of a narcissist family system. So I’m working on my personal development since I went no contact. Working on people pleasing, overreacting, over sharing, boundaries, ect
I'm not a very emotional person but this video made me cry. It was like you're talking directly about me and to me and understanding me much much better than I understand myself.
I'm feeling so self conscious today. I decided to wear a really pretty eyeshadow look to Uni and it's a bit dark , now I don't know if it looks bad or too much. I have a bunch of things to get done today but I don't want to get out of the car because I'm scared of looking bad to others! 😥
Thanks Bernadette. I never knew I needed to see this video. As someone who loves being in front of a crowd for my job as a ranger, and enjoys to be social at parties, I realized that I was not accepting myself when I sought the online connections with other gay men... and that I felt much more self conscious around arenas where I was meeting potenial partners. Now I affirm : I am great, I am Sierra This is who I am, Take it or leave it :)
Hey lovelies! If you want an extra tool for healing self-consciousness and social anxiety, below is a link to download a free printable list of my 120 affirmation statements for elevating confidence and self-belief. You can read these out loud to yourself every day. Much love, Bernadette www.thedailypositive.com/list-of-120-positive-affirmations-for-confidence-self-belief/
Is it natural for someone to fall in love with their therapist? I'm only 4 minutes into this video and I already love you. Seriously, I already know I'm gonna be binging the sht out of your content. This is exactly what I need to hear.
Even when I'm in church I feel self conscious! I feel like everyone is looking at me. I hate being this way it the worst feeling to have . I miss the person I used to be I was always excited to meet new ppl and go to any gatherings.
This is a fantastic video, honestly. This covers my problems exactly and it's put so well. It's definitely got me thinking about myself an insane amount. Thank you so so much for this video. I truly appreciate it!
I have figured out that social interaction is so hard for me, I almost don't want to go out because of the possibility to come into contact with some people and not say what I am supposed to say, not what is appropriate, not act the way I should. It may seem stupid but it is an actual struggle for me. I say something and then I am thinking and re-thinking about what I sould say or what was right. Sometimes, I skip saying something and then think that people may be insulted somehow. And then, I feel so guilty and can't get these thoughts out of my mind. I am afraid of messing up with people and I feel like I constantly do no matter what. I don't know If anyone else feels this way, I think I am the only one that deals with this kind of problems.
Hey. Trust me you are definitely not the only person who goes through this. At the root of this, the main issue is a sense that we are not good enough or missing something. In fact, even though you may not believe it or feel it, you are more than enough and not missing anything. Often we get heavily conditioned by our experiences, upbringing and society generally... to believe we "should" be, do, speak and behave in certain ways and trying to meet an expectation we form in our minds or comparing ourselves to others. Instead of the freedom to accept ourselves just as we are, we end up stuck in a loop of not accepting or liking ourselves, second guessing, judging, worrying and on it goes. The most important thing is to heal any beliefs you have about yourself that are limiting. I use a combo of tools when helping people, you'll find a lot of self guided resources here and on my website. Plus I suggest mind mastery and EFT/Tapping. 💖 Love, Bernadette
To get healed from self consciousness and negative self image, do a great deal of self-care, slow down in life, accept and honor all your feelings on a daily basis, name your feelings, stay around trusted positive people who can lift you up, support you and not judge you. Then you can slowly slowly go out to different places and practice and strengthen your skills.
Useful video. Doing public speaking courses are very effective. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel relaxed reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime with eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Wow! Thank you so much for describing my exact thought patterns ! ❤️ . I felt so liberated from the toxicity and negative perceptions I carried around about myself . Now , I am gonna trick my brain into believing that I have truly healed after watching your video . Hope that would help? 😶
Hey Peaches! So glad this was helpful for you. Yes when it comes to shifting those thought patterns and liberating ourselves from the conditioned mental/emotional cycles that we get caught in, we can indeed train our minds into new pathways to replace the old beliefs/thoughts, and at the same time release any emotional energy that relates to the old ways (mind/emotions are linked together). To help you, below are 2 resources: 1) For MIND: Free Masterclass I run on mind mastery with foundations for shifting beliefs/thoughts: bit.ly/3I8mtnt 2) For EMOTIONS: I love the EFT/tapping technique, to release all those difficult feelings (here is an article about it if you're not familiar with it, and I also love the resources that the team at The Tapping Solution provide): bit.ly/3sOyHv3 With love, B
I am 26 and I have had this problem since I was very young. It is very deeply wired in my mind. It seems like it was embedded in it. I am extremely awkward at public places like at work. The hours I spend at work are a living hell. I have no friends as a result. I can go for weeks without talking to anyone. When I think how different I would be without this problem, I feel like crying. It's so consuming.
I hear you. Thinking of ways to support you... I have lots of videos on my channel to support people to feel a stronger relationship with themselves, self acceptance, self esteem and ability to be in difficult situations, including affirmations, meditations and coaching vlogs. Please feel free to check out the other resources, and I hope they will help to support you and ease that difficulty a little. Please know you are not alone, many people struggle with a similar issue, and there is always light ahead and a way forward, to not "change" yourself, but to embrace who you are, to love and accept who you are and to feel a little more comfortable in social situations. I send my warmest wishes your way. B :)
in my case i just didnt had enough social interactions before and i was inexperienced but it got better when i started to talk with more people. it's just my case not a generalization. and thank you for this video and the good thougths, and experiences you shared with us!
I know I'm late, but thank you so much for this video, it's so relatable it hurts! I'm mostly self-concious about my opinions, thoughts and ideas, which is ridiculous. I know that I shouldn't be self-concious about such a normal thing, but I still am and question myself all the time. Somehow I simply cannot be at ease when it comes to someone having a different opinion than me and my mind constantly looks for ways that my look on the matter is wrong, childish or stupid, although I'm aware that opinions differ and that there are no "wrong" opinions. Because of this I'm extremely uncomfortable with speaking about my ideas out loud or stating my opinion in a discussion with people way more confident than me! Honestly, it's a huge problem in school, most of my grades suffer because I just can't bring myself to speak up in class. Anyway, much love from Germany!
Love to you and we have lots of free resources to help with this type of thing. Start with the confidence affirmations audio daily listening here on YT or download it free from www.thedailypositive.com 💖 Warmest wishes, Bernadette
Hi Vishant You're welcome to reach out via the Contact page at this link on the website and I receive and read all messages there :) Thanks! Bernadette bit.ly/2lLgMHm
Im a new subscriber. I love your channel already. Your hitting it right on the head. Im really hoping your channel will help me. With my social anxiety and depression.
I’m so self conscious, mainly about my looks, what I wear, etc. It is so difficult for me to wear a short sleeve shirt because I am a lanky person only on my forearms and wrists. I’ve tried working out and eating more but it just doesn’t grow muscle. I only feel comfortable at home, and I’m a massive home body. Anyone have any tips? I’m so worried about what other people will say about my arms or thinking about what I look like to others.
Self love is a journey for all of us, the best thing we can do is to focus on building that love and relationship with ourselves. When we feel at home in our own bodies and at home in our own company, it provides a stability and assurance as we go out into the world. A few tools that I find useful are affirmation audios focused on self acceptance, love and confidence, plus using EFT (tapping) to release the difficult emotions and patterns. 💛
I’ve become so self conscious that all I wear is baggy clothes, a hoodie and sweatpants, even I’m the hottest weather. People used to make fun of my body shape, looks and I thought me wearing baggy clothes would stop it. But now they make more fun of my for being social awkward.
used to weigh up to like 250 in high school and of course self consciousness was up the roof daily. Now I'm down to 167 pounds and still feel self conscious, it sucks.
Hi! That referenced video is an old video that we took down during a refresh of the channel as I'm in progress with new updated content. For support on this topic, go toy website at www.bernadettelogue.com and you'll find my latest resources, including my book which focuses on all of this from a soul mind perspective 💜
I have struggled with this in regards to seeing boys in social situations. My mind goes all ballistic and tells me to NOT stare at the boy as they might find be 'desperate' and in turn follow me home. Therefore I do everything in my power to look away from a boy and actually not look at them as I feel fear of being rejected, if they decide to look at me. It is SUCH strange limting belief and it really does debilitate my everyday life experiences.
Hi April I have many free resources on my website www.thedailypositive.com including free onine classes. Visit the free resources page under the Learn menu 💛😊 Bernadette
Small steps, healing and feeling more comfortable in yourself is possible, it's part of your growth journey, and while it seems right now so very difficult, trust me... it's available to you. Start by looking at the true root cause, the limiting beliefs about yourself and I recommend you use Tapping as one tool to help with resolving this and healing. Little steps forward 💛💛💛
My lips are a little bit uneven in color. My Grandma used to always scrutinize me about it because she wanted me to stop smoking. Now I have stopped smoking but my lips are still a bit off. This is alwaysss on my mind when talking to someone. "Are they judging me?" "Oh they licked their lips they must not think I'm attractive" Thank you for this video. I realize I'm just looking for evidence to support my complexes. Hopefully through learning I can start accepting myself from here on out and adopt a "Take me baby, or leave me" mindset. #cornyRENTreference haha. Again thank you.
Thank you. I will share this with my mother and my sisters. Because I have the same problem. And my family does too because of genetics. So I hope this will help them and I hope that they watch your videos. I will subscribe
I'm 17, and I know I'm a good person full of qualities and I know I'm smart. My insecurity comes from my social skills, my self steem and my anxiety, not my strength or my intelligence. Before I go into a conversation with someone I don't feel so comfortable I'm already thinking that I'm not capable of smiling with confidence and speak fully as miself. I feel like i can't smile because it makes me vulnerable and when I do smile I feel frustrated bc I feel worried that my smile is coming out as fake...
Hi Joao, you might find EFT (tapping) useful for releasing the anxiety, worries and relaxing more into self acceptance, it's a wonderful self help tool. Here's an article about it in case it interests you... bit.ly/2Gw8TPt; Sending warmest wishes to you Bernadette
Couldnt agree more with all youve said but once u triggered the thing, good luck...for me usually ends up with a panic atack and i usually manage to get out of it by shifting the focus from inside to outside....this type of "disease" its better to prevent by having a healthy mindset than to treat. anyways, for like 4-5 years this started happening to me and havent fully recovered yet but im working on it
I always wondered why certain situations trigger severe social anxiety. I cannot function in classroom environments, especially all women. I become very bizarre and cant speak or look at anyone. Going to parties without drinking enough where I dont know anyone, i act weird and i dont know why, I act totally normal in most situations....well sort of, sometimes i avoid buying food and stuff out of fear. I've been like this for 22 years, its frickin hell. Once a person has seen me like that, if I've met them in that situation I can never be normal around them. It messes up jobs as well, people think I'm not all there in the head or something, it's really upsetting. I was abused as a kid pretty badly and I know I would have been okay if that did not happen
Hey Jess, I hear you and acknowledge how difficult this is for you and all you've been through. As you probably already know, it's very much about a journey to come home to yourself, to feel comfortable in your own skin, to feel love and acceptance for yourself, and once we feel that way inside, we become more comfortable in different outer situations/environments and around other people. Often when we go through trauma and difficulty growing up where things happen to us, outside our control, or we receive negative messaging, and it affects our view of ourselves and the world, that flows into our adult life and how we feel not just about ourselves and relationships, but how comfortable/safe or fearful/anxious we feel in any given situation. I personally have found that the most effective way to deal with society anxiety and awkwardness is to go to the heart of the matter, being the relationship we have with ourselves, and healing that within, so that no matter where we go or who we are with, we carry that strength, safety, comfort and love within us. If you need resources to help you please do reach out. For example, I have free audios like affirmations and meditations to support people. Also, while these tools are helpful, nothing can replace the necessary 1:1 support and professional help for overcoming trauma/abuse. I send much love your way. B
I have social anxiety and self consciousness is my biggest problem. I have seen many help videos and articles talking about how were not do avoidance to social situation and and try to put ourselves more in it and the social anxiety would go down. They dont understand that the problem is, once I do put myself in social situation, I get self conscious and i am not able to perform, and it sucks to be in that state. And this is the cycle. If I could perform and enjoyed being in social situation why would i avoid it in first place? So I need solution to how not to be or how to be less self-conscious when talking to people.
I hear you. Going through this can call us to a deep practice of self love and self acceptance. Once we build a self assured state within, we are able to be a bit more at ease around others and social situations. 💛
I have it mostly in jobs when a high up manager in the business drops in and they will sit there on their laptop, so they aren't bothering no one but them just being there, makes me become more self conscious and so I become more careful what i say and speak less and want to do less as i dont want to make mistakes or do something and be judged negatively and it effect my job. I have adhd so ive been let go in a lot of jobs due to not hitting sales targets regularly or due to one to many mistakes so it leaves me with self consciousness when they are there. I become worried cause im worried of me and my performance being judged negatively
Hi Dean, I hear you! You're not alone in that type of nervousness/worry about being around higher up managers. The key is to work on building your own self confidence, in who you are, and what you have to offer. We all make mistakes, ALL of us, including all those managers that make you nervous :) They are as human as you are, with their own challenges, weaknesses, strengths, past mistakes and pressures/nerves around their higher up managers too! We're all trying to do our best and often we can become lost in wanting to "impress" and not mess up in front of people we deem to be higher than we are. The more you reinforce that you're equal to anyone else, as a human being, and that your natural self is ENOUGH, the more you'll be able to relax. We have to come to accept that in any situation where our true self is not deemed "enough" for someone else, we are better off moving on and finding a tribe we better fit (that goes for work, social, relationships etc). It would also help to release that worry and fears based on past experiences of having made mistakes and been let go from old jobs... using EFT/tapping to release those fears will be really helpful. Here's a link to a "how to" article for tapping in case you're unfamiliar with it... bit.ly/2xGIvvP Best wishes! Bernadette
Thanks for your message :) Could you let me know which specific video you are looking for? Is there a time during this video when I mention another resource? Just let me know and I"ll search for what you need :) Thanks!! B
I am suffering social anxiety right now. Especially that I have hyperhidrosis. I am afraid to be with many people always. Because my mind tells me that everytime I sweat I am smelly 😔 its so tiring everyday thinking that I'll have to deal with this kind of thing. How I wish I was someone with normal sweating.
Hi Anne, sorry for the delay in replying to your message. I hear you and am sending love your way. Dealing with something like this takes a great deal of self compassion and self kindness, as it's particularly challenging just the condition itself, and then we have the weight of our own mind noise on top of that. I wonder if you might be willing to challenge your thoughts on this and to create a new series of thoughts/mantras to say to yourself, things that are true and supportive and kind/loving to yourself, to start practicing a new mental frame around this. Also I highly recommend EFT/Tapping for processing the feelings of anxiety and fear that you feel, it's so helpful and easy to learn. With much love, B
its a struggle. Im self conscience about everything about me from my intelligence level, how I speak, look, etc
Sending you best wishes for your journey. Step by step, building your own ease and confidence, it is possible, and you're not alone. Many people struggle with it. I hope the videos are helpful for you :)
Rhys Nicholas same here bro
I feel all this and I also feel extremely sad and empty some days
I think I need help
same
On the inside i can feel that I want to socialize with people, and I’m not really a shy person, but extreme self-consciousness gets in the way and I can’t get rid of it
That is literally exactly how I feel. I'm not shy, I like socializing. I'm just so self-conscious and self-critical makes me hate being social. I feel like I can only be myself when I'm by myself. Its so frustrating!
@@tessamaylea5870 same..
@@tessamaylea5870 same sister
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I struggle with this every waking second. I'm self-conscious about how i look (i feel like i look too angry naturally), my posture, the way I sound when I talk, my build, etc. I can't talk to people without my voice breaking and freeze because of my anxiety.
I feel like everyone else is normal and I'm the weird one that can't connect with anyone.
I feel like everyone else has their lives together meanwhile here I am feeling miserable and going nowhere in life.
The WORST part about this all and what makes me really sad are all the experiences that I am missing out on with other people. I always wonder where i could've been right now if I never dealt with this problem.
Hi Micheal, I hear you. Life is a journey to accept ourselves, get comfortable in our own skin and start loving ourselves as we are, where we stand. When we do, our beliefs and thoughts changing inside, our reality changes as we are constantly emiting and projecting our inner world to our outer experience. Doing that inner healing work is life changing. If you're interested in resources to help you email to support@thedailypositive.com and I'll send you info and links. 😊💛👍
i feel the exact same. every time i’m in a public area, everything about me starts screaming in my mind. the way i’m holding my hands, the way my back looks like a question mark, etc etc.
i’ve gotten better. i’ve gone out of my comfort zone and i’m just trying to get accustomed to being in these public areas with eyes all around me.
i wish you luck :)
this is so similar to what I feel as well, but I really want to change for the better
brokechibba same
I thought I was writing this for a second, this is spot on me to, especially the voice part. I just have to say that you are not alone!
The less respect you have for yourself the more you will seek from others.
Thanks for sharing 😊
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U da man
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im so concious even at home with my parents. it makes me very sad and angry bc i should feel comfortable in my own home. im tired of being tired
Omg that’s like me too..
me too please how do you stop this
please someone reply i need help
@@kidkid1317 i think it's a training trying to get back to this non self conscious mode ! You already know what is you're problem look for a psychologist for the best advice or psychatrist if not try to find testimony on forum ! Good luck
Same I don’t feel safe in my house
This video is my whole life, i was so suprised that u get what i have.😭😭 thank u so much.
I hear you!! Pleased to know this was helpful and resonated. Sending love your way, B
Wow you are fine💓
Thank you for this informative video. As a 54 yo man who has lived my entire adult life with extreme social anxiety I can attest to the fact it is an absolute living hell. One factor I will add that may be a bit of wisdom for a young person that is dealing with self consciousness or social anxiety, stay away, from weed (pot) please, I know it's the IN thing now but it will only magnify & intensify any negative feelings you deal with right now! After years of smoking pot (in the 70's) it made my life & the negative perception I had of myself a thousand times worse, I quit when I realized what it was doing to me, but have lived with the damage it did to me ever since, it isn't a harmless drug as some may tell you, it's a life wrecker. Thanks & may God bless us all that deal with social anxiety on a day by day basis, it is horrible...I know.
BamBam 1 Since you stopped smoking weed as your anxiety symptoms reduced or do you always have it
I really need to quit too 🤦🏽♂️
Weed did that to me too. Even when I’ve tried it again years later, I immediately deep dive into a negative self-perception.
Did you try therapy or medicine?
So happy I found this channel. Thanks for sharing.
You're welcome! Welcome to our community, great to have you with us :)
At times my anxiety can go wild..
I almost have panic attacks because of how im acting, how i look, smell, everything about. I get scared and nervous. I can speak well i just feel like people think im ugly.... my family made fun of me and so have friends and classmates... sooo it sorta got me feeling anxious about everything i do... i cant even feel safe when im alone... i feel like im always judge... no matter what location or people im around
Jenna Coralenne don’t worry I feel that way too Sometimes Every Time I go somewhere that I feel Like I don’t belong there I try to think of something that makes me feel happy I try not to think about school or the people there or what their going to say to me or other people about me. I don’t really hate how I look but there’s those kinds of people in your life that you meet that you don’t like and that they make fun of you in front of your friends or other people that happened to me lots of times but I got threw it and I’m still having that same problem. I’m in 8th grade so I still have High School left and Hope I meet better people And Don’t Get People like that ever again. Nice to see that there are other people like me. Wish you the best of luck my friend hope you find nice people. It’s gonna take a long time I have a feeling but We’re gonna get threw this. See you later 👋
I hear you. In these times when others judge or we feel the anxiety in this way, it calls for a lot of self love and self acceptance. You are enough, you are perfect just as you are, just as you were born, and being yourself in every way is all that is needed. What others say and do is not about you, it's a reflection of their mindset, their feelings, their stuff. What we most need to know is that we are good enough, more than enough. You are. Tell yourself this every day. 💗
I get very self conscious when I am around White people, sometimes I even avoid entering a restaurant if I have to be the only black person in there. I am a South African, who is very much non racist however how I feel about racism gets to be wrecked by the attitude and disrespect I receive. In the end it lives me in a state of permanent confusion, resulting in this self consciousness around them.
Thank you for sharing your experience here. To you I send my best wishes - that you may walk ahead empowered and confident in yourself and your values, with the strength to hold them in any situation. The world definitely needs more of us shining the light of equality, love and understanding, even though it's clear that at times it is extremely challenging when facing the unconsciousness of other people. With love, Bernadette
I am sorry that there are so many arseholes in this world. There is something very wrong with people whom are racists.They are either afraid or jealous. They must be very insecure people. I could never understand how it feels to be in your shoes. I imagine I'd would feel very frustrated and angry at the injustice. Racists ruin it for all the rest of us. Please just try to be yourself, remember there are loads of people in the world who don't judge others by the colour of their skin. It may help to seek out a job or volunteer position that takes you away from these narrow minded people. If you are doing something that is helping people or the planet you get the opportunity to be around kindhearted people where the colour of someone's skin makes no difference whatsoever. All The best.
YES! i never wanted to admit it, but as a minority myself, all it takes is ONE event where someone is prejudice against you and you feel like everyone thinks that way, which is not true of course. I feel as though around white people i get quite nervous because of how they really feel, i get dirty looks all the time for being south asian. There was once an app called yik yak where people could anon say anything they wanted within a local community and the nasty racist feelings of the public really made me feel bad as they would all say things such as "curry smelling dirtbags" and so on, and so talking to people elevates the self consciousness.
@The Strangler its not the opposite, its the same thing. The feeling is what matters not the people
Omg I thought I was the only one
The thing is, even if you kinda feel and act confident, people might attack me even more and make me feel not in their group and act like im a lesser human being.
Yea I have this 2 people that hang out in my group of friends that Make fun of me and I don’t be with them because they are there and I no one to talk to
So glad I came across your video, have just subscribed. I was in tears watching it, my self consciousness and social anxiety can be all consuming. It stems from criticisms in my childhood and being such a sensitive person it’s had a big affect on me. After watching this I really want to work on myself now, rather than avoid situations etc. Thank you for this video...I look forward to watching your other ones now😊
Hey Carly, I hear you, and I hope the vids are helpful. It's great to be connected.
B 💛
Hi. Have you tried therapy or medicine?
Sometimes I can’t even listen to certain music anymore. Terrible feeling. Glad I found this video. Anxiety hits me so hard sometimes I just want to run just run and yell my lungs out 😩
Hi Joel, have you tried using EFT (Tapping) to help with your anxiety? It's remarkably helpful. I've put links below to resources that are free for learning and using Tapping for anxiety, including The Tapping Solution app which has a great free anxiety tapping audio.
bit.ly/39GI08w
bit.ly/3s1c2dH
bit.ly/3sUtfXp
With love
B
Thank you.
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This woman is a genius she hit the nail on the head. She explained the way I feel daily on point. I only recently found out that I was socially anxious and self conciouss most of my life I thought there was something wrong with me or because of my past trauma. I'm so glad I'm not alone here.
Glad this was helpful. You're definitely not alone! 💛😊💛 Bernadette
In some scenarios other people do function at a higher level, they are more skillful so it only makes sense to be anxious. So it’s also about being honest with oneself and improving one’s skills.
I finally found a video that explains how I feel. I never had the words or was able to explain. Ugh
Hey Chris, glad to know this resonated with you. Best wishes, Bernadette :)
yes, me too. It felt sort of relieving and also really touching.
i’m at the point where i’m walking against walls when i’m going down hallways to avoid talking to people or people even looking at me. i’ve improved a lot. 3 years ago i was unsalvageable, but i’ve found a way. i’m doing a theater program now and it’s helped me get out of my comfort zone with both of these. i’ve never been professionally checked for either, so i’m not saying i have them.
sounds just like me though.
This channel is right on time in my life. I feel so supported.
Hey Jonathan, so glad to hear the resources are helpful and timely. Glad to have you in the community. Warmest wishes! Bernadette :)
I cried. It's definitely me.
Sending love and best wishes to you for the year ahead. May you find the peace and confidence that is within you! I hope the resources on my RUclips channel are useful in some way to support you. Bernadette :)
Me too. Was literally crying the whole time she was speaking 'cause I've really been trying to have this positive mindset about myself and socializing, but it just doesn't seem to work well too often.
Ya I have social anxiety and I'm always thinking about what if people are talking about me or will they like me, even people at school talk about me. I don't really like the way I look, my body and more but thank you for sharing!
I am the weirdest self conscious person ever. I love going to parties and clubs and dancing but I hate talking to people and actually involving myself in the social events. Then, I am angry with myself after the social event that I didn’t enjoy myself as much as possible because I was trying my best to be a fly on the wall.
She is awesome she basically diagnosed what I'm going through rn
Glad this resonated and hope this and other vids here are helpful for you. 😊
@@Bernadette_Logue thankyou so much❤
You’re like my therapist thank you!!!
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omg you were talking about me..... I am glad that I found your channel
Hey Sherry, glad you found the channel too! So glad this was helpful for you. If you haven't already joined us on the website, come on over and connect, we have a lot of other resources, articles, free audio tools you can download, plus online classes to support you. Here's a link to join our tribe online for free... pinchmeliving.com/free-personal-development-tools Best wishes! Bernadette
I learned so much within the last few months with my life long anxiety and having pure O. It does nothing but deliberately destroy the mind and it’s so hard to over come. I applied mindfulness into my life style, although it’s a work in progress, I’ve made some leaps and boundaries. Then I found your video last week and it’s eye opening how well you explained why social anxiety is causing us such difficulties with dealing with reality and people. I have been watching this video specifically when I feel down and it gives me a boost every time. I’m going to start watching more videos because I can learn a lot more from you.
Thank you
Congrats on the progress you've made with your mindfulness. That's awesome. And glad this vid was helpful. 💛 B
Understanding why I'm being self-conscious and socially anxious really helped me find the first step to stop it. Thanks♡
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thank you so much i am only 12 and i suffer from it bad so you have helped me through it and made me feel confident about my self
Hi Hayley, I'm really glad this helped you to feel more confident and I send you my very best wishes! Bernadette
same
Someone pointed out a physical flaw I've always been self conscious about, 7 hours ago and I'm still crying. Ive always thought about it and based a lot of my physical interactions around this flaw. But now that it's pointed out, I just feel like such a failure. I could convince myself before, that it's not a big deal and the people I care about wouldnt point it out. Now that someone did, I can't help but feel like I don't belong anywhere around anyone. Definitely needed this.
Sending love to you. Times like this are a call to go deeper in the relationship we have with ourselves, to lovingly accept who we naturally are and the skin we're in. To give ourselves what we most need, what we may not get from others.💛
This is what I am looking for so long.Thank you for being there helping everyone about this self conscious that really struggling our life.Actually I am always sad about what is happening in my mind and been struggling in this for 35 years.Really glad that I found your channel.God bless you ma'am and more power.
You hit the nail on the head. This has been my whole life unfortunately.
Sending love and peace to you 💛
In 20 years this is the first time I've heard someone breakdown exactly what's happening to me everyday.
Hi James, I hope this was helpful, and there are also other videos to help create inner ease and confidence, with best wishes, B
Trust ur timings,patience brings you power and peace more than you've ever had before...Healing takes time...just believe in yourself.....it's just because your mind and the inner self is starting to see things and feel things which is self apart in various ways from you..just remember it's all gonna get alright way far more better than how you have felt before.....Dont worry trust God !!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Omg this video is totally me. I actually cried looking at this video. Thank you for sharing this .
You're welcome. Sending love! B
Great session "Whatever you believe you go looking for evidence to support it." Its only listening to your session that I realse that is what I am doing. Thanks for sharing
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Thanks for making his video! I have had some problems with my friends and we broke up and it’s hard losing your Bestfriend of 4 years. And I keep getting caught up in the way they think of me or how he try’s to get under my skin. And from this video I know now I don’t need to look at that perspective and be myself and not worry about if I have more freinds then he does!
Glad this was helpful for you Brandon. Sending very best wishes to you. Bernadette
This video is ready great. It touches on the smallest things like people giving funny looks. It's beautifully subtle and none critical and gives the perfect stepping stones to realization. Great stuff👍This has really helped me 👍👍🙌🙌
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By far this video is the most helpful and eye opening video about this kind of stuff. I feel lucky coming across and feel that it deserves more views. You made me truly realize where my social anxiety problem comes from. I always feel comfortable with myself and my family members. But when I go out into the world (for me that is high school) I feel lower and like I’m not at the same level as them. Like their life is so much better. Maybe because when I was little my parents really didn’t expose me to other people but only my family. I realize now what I lack and see in others is how they can easily interact with others and that their life is so much better than mine. I’m definitely going to rewire my brain and my beliefs which is probably gonna be hard. Definitely gonna use affirmations which I’m also familiar with (I listen to subliminal messages here on RUclips)
Glad this was helpful for you. Warmest wishes! 💛
I’m 42 years old and I wish this information was available to me when I was in my teens and early twenties. What you’ve described about avoiding situations is exactly how I handled being self conscious when I was younger and it has shaped my life in a way that I am now unfulfilled because I haven’t really been living life. I am so determined to change things around for myself now and quickly and I guess, catch up on myself. I still feel somewhat self conscious in certain settings but I now think I know what to do to overcome it. I hope it’s not too late for me and I’m not too set in my ways but I just want to make changes and feel good about myself. Thank you for this video.
Hi Melissa
I hear you and appreciate you sharing where you're at.
It's definitely NOT too late :)
Your timing is perfect, as right now (Mon 2nd May) we have just started our annual FREE mind mastery workshop training (it runs for the next 2 weeks) and we go deeper into the dynamics of inner challenges like this and how to turn things around. You can join us if that resonates, at the link below:
bit.ly/2HirThZ
Much love!
B
If you're reading this. I love you. Stay safe 😙😚❤
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Damn I clicked this and it’s so true about me. I was the scapegoat of a narcissist family system. So I’m working on my personal development since I went no contact. Working on people pleasing, overreacting, over sharing, boundaries, ect
Sending love to you and acknowledging your courage to cease contact to support your wellbeing and happiness. 💜💞💜
I'm not a very emotional person but this video made me cry. It was like you're talking directly about me and to me and understanding me much much better than I understand myself.
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This is the power of youtube that 2016 video is helping me today...Totally relatable video for me !!!!
So glad this was useful. 😊✨
I'm feeling so self conscious today. I decided to wear a really pretty eyeshadow look to Uni and it's a bit dark , now I don't know if it looks bad or too much. I have a bunch of things to get done today but I don't want to get out of the car because I'm scared of looking bad to others! 😥
Breathe deep, love yourself, that's all that matters. You are awesome no matter what.
OMG B!! Finally somebody gets how i feel!!! And sadly many others...
Thankyou 🙏❤🦋
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Thanks Bernadette. I never knew I needed to see this video. As someone who loves being in front of a crowd for my job as a ranger, and enjoys to be social at parties, I realized that I was not accepting myself when I sought the online connections with other gay men... and that I felt much more self conscious around arenas where I was meeting potenial partners. Now I affirm : I am great, I am Sierra This is who I am, Take it or leave it :)
Nice! That's awesome Sierra :)
Hey lovelies! If you want an extra tool for healing self-consciousness and social anxiety, below is a link to download a free printable list of my 120 affirmation statements for elevating confidence and self-belief. You can read these out loud to yourself every day. Much love, Bernadette
www.thedailypositive.com/list-of-120-positive-affirmations-for-confidence-self-belief/
Pro tip : watch movies at flixzone. Me and my gf have been using it for watching a lot of movies recently.
@Cade Tate Definitely, have been watching on Flixzone for since november myself :D
@Cade Tate definitely, I have been watching on Flixzone for months myself :)
Is it natural for someone to fall in love with their therapist? I'm only 4 minutes into this video and I already love you. Seriously, I already know I'm gonna be binging the sht out of your content. This is exactly what I need to hear.
😂 glad the content resonates!
You’ve explained this so accurately
Thanks for the video ❤️.
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I struggle with this all day at work and wanting to learn how to stop. Thanks for the tips!
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The first minute of this video is so accurate to my problems
This lifts me up Thank you and God Bless you.
You're very welcome! Blessings, Bernadette 😊
Wow..so true!!..finally found what i wanted to hear
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Even when I'm in church I feel self conscious! I feel like everyone is looking at me. I hate being this way it the worst feeling to have . I miss the person I used to be I was always excited to meet new ppl and go to any gatherings.
This is a fantastic video, honestly. This covers my problems exactly and it's put so well. It's definitely got me thinking about myself an insane amount. Thank you so so much for this video. I truly appreciate it!
You're welcome. Glad this was helpful! B 👍💛
So pleased i found this video,thank you for explaining things they way you did.
You're very welcome 😊
I have figured out that social interaction is so hard for me, I almost don't want to go out because of the possibility to come into contact with some people and not say what I am supposed to say, not what is appropriate, not act the way I should. It may seem stupid but it is an actual struggle for me. I say something and then I am thinking and re-thinking about what I sould say or what was right. Sometimes, I skip saying something and then think that people may be insulted somehow. And then, I feel so guilty and can't get these thoughts out of my mind. I am afraid of messing up with people and I feel like I constantly do no matter what. I don't know If anyone else feels this way, I think I am the only one that deals with this kind of problems.
Hey. Trust me you are definitely not the only person who goes through this. At the root of this, the main issue is a sense that we are not good enough or missing something. In fact, even though you may not believe it or feel it, you are more than enough and not missing anything. Often we get heavily conditioned by our experiences, upbringing and society generally... to believe we "should" be, do, speak and behave in certain ways and trying to meet an expectation we form in our minds or comparing ourselves to others. Instead of the freedom to accept ourselves just as we are, we end up stuck in a loop of not accepting or liking ourselves, second guessing, judging, worrying and on it goes. The most important thing is to heal any beliefs you have about yourself that are limiting. I use a combo of tools when helping people, you'll find a lot of self guided resources here and on my website. Plus I suggest mind mastery and EFT/Tapping. 💖 Love, Bernadette
The Daily Positive thank you so much
To get healed from self consciousness and negative self image, do a great deal of self-care, slow down in life, accept and honor all your feelings on a daily basis, name your feelings, stay around trusted positive people who can lift you up, support you and not judge you. Then you can slowly slowly go out to different places and practice and strengthen your skills.
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Useful video. Doing public speaking courses are very effective. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel relaxed reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime with eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
The most important thing is to be able to be yourself in any situation thank you so much for this video.
You're welcome!
Wow! Thank you so much for describing my exact thought patterns ! ❤️ . I felt so liberated from the toxicity and negative perceptions I carried around about myself . Now , I am gonna trick my brain into believing that I have truly healed after watching your video . Hope that would help? 😶
Hey Peaches! So glad this was helpful for you. Yes when it comes to shifting those thought patterns and liberating ourselves from the conditioned mental/emotional cycles that we get caught in, we can indeed train our minds into new pathways to replace the old beliefs/thoughts, and at the same time release any emotional energy that relates to the old ways (mind/emotions are linked together). To help you, below are 2 resources:
1) For MIND: Free Masterclass I run on mind mastery with foundations for shifting beliefs/thoughts:
bit.ly/3I8mtnt
2) For EMOTIONS: I love the EFT/tapping technique, to release all those difficult feelings (here is an article about it if you're not familiar with it, and I also love the resources that the team at The Tapping Solution provide):
bit.ly/3sOyHv3
With love,
B
I am 26 and I have had this problem since I was very young. It is very deeply wired in my mind. It seems like it was embedded in it. I am extremely awkward at public places like at work. The hours I spend at work are a living hell. I have no friends as a result. I can go for weeks without talking to anyone. When I think how different I would be without this problem, I feel like crying. It's so consuming.
I hear you. Thinking of ways to support you... I have lots of videos on my channel to support people to feel a stronger relationship with themselves, self acceptance, self esteem and ability to be in difficult situations, including affirmations, meditations and coaching vlogs. Please feel free to check out the other resources, and I hope they will help to support you and ease that difficulty a little. Please know you are not alone, many people struggle with a similar issue, and there is always light ahead and a way forward, to not "change" yourself, but to embrace who you are, to love and accept who you are and to feel a little more comfortable in social situations. I send my warmest wishes your way. B :)
Are you saying that as ronald raegan or yourself I’m genuinely confused
Every time I move I feel weird
in my case i just didnt had enough social interactions before and i was inexperienced but it got better when i started to talk with more people. it's just my case not a generalization. and thank you for this video and the good thougths, and experiences you shared with us!
You're very welcome and thanks for sharing your own experience. 😊
I know I'm late, but thank you so much for this video, it's so relatable it hurts! I'm mostly self-concious about my opinions, thoughts and ideas, which is ridiculous. I know that I shouldn't be self-concious about such a normal thing, but I still am and question myself all the time. Somehow I simply cannot be at ease when it comes to someone having a different opinion than me and my mind constantly looks for ways that my look on the matter is wrong, childish or stupid, although I'm aware that opinions differ and that there are no "wrong" opinions. Because of this I'm extremely uncomfortable with speaking about my ideas out loud or stating my opinion in a discussion with people way more confident than me! Honestly, it's a huge problem in school, most of my grades suffer because I just can't bring myself to speak up in class. Anyway, much love from Germany!
Love to you and we have lots of free resources to help with this type of thing. Start with the confidence affirmations audio daily listening here on YT or download it free from www.thedailypositive.com 💖 Warmest wishes, Bernadette
Wow!!!! This can come only out of experience!!!
😊 Indeed! Have a beautiful day. B
Pinch Me Living can I get ur mail id.... So that i Can share with u my ideas and experiences
Hi Vishant
You're welcome to reach out via the Contact page at this link on the website and I receive and read all messages there :) Thanks! Bernadette bit.ly/2lLgMHm
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Is looks impossible to came out of non experience
Thank you for this video, I've been dealing with self-consciousness and anxiety and hearing this helps a lot.
You're very welcome. 💛
Thank You
You're welcome Sherry ;)
Im a new subscriber. I love your channel already. Your hitting it right on the head. Im really hoping your channel will help me. With my social anxiety and depression.
Welcome! Look forward to sharing resources with you. We also have loads more including articles over on the website bit.ly/2iQKw0V - love Bernadette
I’m so self conscious, mainly about my looks, what I wear, etc. It is so difficult for me to wear a short sleeve shirt because I am a lanky person only on my forearms and wrists. I’ve tried working out and eating more but it just doesn’t grow muscle. I only feel comfortable at home, and I’m a massive home body. Anyone have any tips? I’m so worried about what other people will say about my arms or thinking about what I look like to others.
Self love is a journey for all of us, the best thing we can do is to focus on building that love and relationship with ourselves. When we feel at home in our own bodies and at home in our own company, it provides a stability and assurance as we go out into the world. A few tools that I find useful are affirmation audios focused on self acceptance, love and confidence, plus using EFT (tapping) to release the difficult emotions and patterns. 💛
I’ve become so self conscious that all I wear is baggy clothes, a hoodie and sweatpants, even I’m the hottest weather. People used to make fun of my body shape, looks and I thought me wearing baggy clothes would stop it. But now they make more fun of my for being social awkward.
used to weigh up to like 250 in high school and of course self consciousness was up the roof daily. Now I'm down to 167 pounds and still feel self conscious, it sucks.
Thanks for sharing your personal experience. 💗
❤️bestest.. video I have ever watched!👍
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10:48 can i have the link of the video u mentioned? thank u for this video, its one of the most helpful video i have ever seen.
Hi! That referenced video is an old video that we took down during a refresh of the channel as I'm in progress with new updated content. For support on this topic, go toy website at www.bernadettelogue.com and you'll find my latest resources, including my book which focuses on all of this from a soul mind perspective 💜
I have struggled with this in regards to seeing boys in social situations. My mind goes all ballistic and tells me to NOT stare at the boy as they might find be 'desperate' and in turn follow me home. Therefore I do everything in my power to look away from a boy and actually not look at them as I feel fear of being rejected, if they decide to look at me.
It is SUCH strange limting belief and it really does debilitate my everyday life experiences.
Thank you, this is what I've been looking for - something dealing with the root cause and not just a band aid fix.
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Thank you so much for this video 🙏🏻
Thank you so much, you understand❤
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Wow you are very wise. Thank you for sharing.
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I wish her classes were free they could literally save my life!
Hi April
I have many free resources on my website www.thedailypositive.com including free onine classes. Visit the free resources page under the Learn menu 💛😊 Bernadette
I am sooo self conscious i cant even video call. I feel i m doomed with this😭😭😭😭
Small steps, healing and feeling more comfortable in yourself is possible, it's part of your growth journey, and while it seems right now so very difficult, trust me... it's available to you. Start by looking at the true root cause, the limiting beliefs about yourself and I recommend you use Tapping as one tool to help with resolving this and healing. Little steps forward 💛💛💛
She didn't talk about actually HOW TO develop a stronger/better sense of oneself
My lips are a little bit uneven in color. My Grandma used to always scrutinize me about it because she wanted me to stop smoking. Now I have stopped smoking but my lips are still a bit off. This is alwaysss on my mind when talking to someone. "Are they judging me?" "Oh they licked their lips they must not think I'm attractive" Thank you for this video. I realize I'm just looking for evidence to support my complexes. Hopefully through learning I can start accepting myself from here on out and adopt a "Take me baby, or leave me" mindset. #cornyRENTreference haha. Again thank you.
I enjoyed this and it helped me to understand the things I need to do to help these struggles. Thank you.
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Very detailed and logical, really helpful! thanks a lot !
Glad this was helpful Calvin. Best wishes, B
Thank you so much! This really helped me and made me feel supported.
You're welcome, I am glad to hear that. Thanks for letting me know! Warmest wishes, Bernadette
Thank you. I will share this with my mother and my sisters. Because I have the same problem. And my family does too because of genetics. So I hope this will help them and I hope that they watch your videos.
I will subscribe
This was helpful. Thanks
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I almost cried watching this. It is really helpful thank you so much
You're very welcome Leyan :)
Shes fantastic! So true
I needed to hear this today, glad I found this video. Thank you💗
You're welcome!
I'm 17, and I know I'm a good person full of qualities and I know I'm smart. My insecurity comes from my social skills, my self steem and my anxiety, not my strength or my intelligence. Before I go into a conversation with someone I don't feel so comfortable I'm already thinking that I'm not capable of smiling with confidence and speak fully as miself. I feel like i can't smile because it makes me vulnerable and when I do smile I feel frustrated bc I feel worried that my smile is coming out as fake...
Hi Joao, you might find EFT (tapping) useful for releasing the anxiety, worries and relaxing more into self acceptance, it's a wonderful self help tool. Here's an article about it in case it interests you...
bit.ly/2Gw8TPt;
Sending warmest wishes to you
Bernadette
Couldnt agree more with all youve said but once u triggered the thing, good luck...for me usually ends up with a panic atack and i usually manage to get out of it by shifting the focus from inside to outside....this type of "disease" its better to prevent by having a healthy mindset than to treat.
anyways, for like 4-5 years this started happening to me and havent fully recovered yet but im working on it
Sending love and warmest wishes to you! B 💗
The Daily Positive thank you, you too!!
Thank you for this video, it really explains it. How exactly do you get to the root cause?
I always wondered why certain situations trigger severe social anxiety. I cannot function in classroom environments, especially all women. I become very bizarre and cant speak or look at anyone. Going to parties without drinking enough where I dont know anyone, i act weird and i dont know why, I act totally normal in most situations....well sort of, sometimes i avoid buying food and stuff out of fear. I've been like this for 22 years, its frickin hell. Once a person has seen me like that, if I've met them in that situation I can never be normal around them. It messes up jobs as well, people think I'm not all there in the head or something, it's really upsetting. I was abused as a kid pretty badly and I know I would have been okay if that did not happen
Hey Jess, I hear you and acknowledge how difficult this is for you and all you've been through. As you probably already know, it's very much about a journey to come home to yourself, to feel comfortable in your own skin, to feel love and acceptance for yourself, and once we feel that way inside, we become more comfortable in different outer situations/environments and around other people. Often when we go through trauma and difficulty growing up where things happen to us, outside our control, or we receive negative messaging, and it affects our view of ourselves and the world, that flows into our adult life and how we feel not just about ourselves and relationships, but how comfortable/safe or fearful/anxious we feel in any given situation. I personally have found that the most effective way to deal with society anxiety and awkwardness is to go to the heart of the matter, being the relationship we have with ourselves, and healing that within, so that no matter where we go or who we are with, we carry that strength, safety, comfort and love within us. If you need resources to help you please do reach out. For example, I have free audios like affirmations and meditations to support people. Also, while these tools are helpful, nothing can replace the necessary 1:1 support and professional help for overcoming trauma/abuse. I send much love your way. B
@@Bernadette_Logue Thankyou so much for your reply 💛💚🧡
Yeah it's TRUE but its it's a difficult one, no other choice but to keep trying
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This was so helpful, I’m gonna watch this over and over
Glad this was helpful for you. 🧡
It's very helpful!!! You're amazing❤
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I have social anxiety and self consciousness is my biggest problem. I
have seen many help videos and articles talking about how were not do
avoidance to social situation and and try to put ourselves more in it
and the social anxiety would go down. They dont understand that the
problem is, once I do put myself in social situation, I get self
conscious and i am not able to perform, and it sucks to be in that
state. And this is the cycle. If I could perform and enjoyed being in
social situation why would i avoid it in first place? So I need solution
to how not to be or how to be less self-conscious when talking to
people.
I hear you. Going through this can call us to a deep practice of self love and self acceptance. Once we build a self assured state within, we are able to be a bit more at ease around others and social situations. 💛
I have it mostly in jobs when a high up manager in the business drops in and they will sit there on their laptop, so they aren't bothering no one but them just being there, makes me become more self conscious and so I become more careful what i say and speak less and want to do less as i dont want to make mistakes or do something and be judged negatively and it effect my job.
I have adhd so ive been let go in a lot of jobs due to not hitting sales targets regularly or due to one to many mistakes so it leaves me with self consciousness when they are there.
I become worried cause im worried of me and my performance being judged negatively
Hi Dean, I hear you! You're not alone in that type of nervousness/worry about being around higher up managers. The key is to work on building your own self confidence, in who you are, and what you have to offer. We all make mistakes, ALL of us, including all those managers that make you nervous :) They are as human as you are, with their own challenges, weaknesses, strengths, past mistakes and pressures/nerves around their higher up managers too! We're all trying to do our best and often we can become lost in wanting to "impress" and not mess up in front of people we deem to be higher than we are. The more you reinforce that you're equal to anyone else, as a human being, and that your natural self is ENOUGH, the more you'll be able to relax. We have to come to accept that in any situation where our true self is not deemed "enough" for someone else, we are better off moving on and finding a tribe we better fit (that goes for work, social, relationships etc). It would also help to release that worry and fears based on past experiences of having made mistakes and been let go from old jobs... using EFT/tapping to release those fears will be really helpful. Here's a link to a "how to" article for tapping in case you're unfamiliar with it...
bit.ly/2xGIvvP
Best wishes!
Bernadette
You have a wonderful video. Thank you so much. Can you send me the link of the video you mention above?
Thanks for your message :) Could you let me know which specific video you are looking for? Is there a time during this video when I mention another resource? Just let me know and I"ll search for what you need :) Thanks!! B
I am suffering social anxiety right now. Especially that I have hyperhidrosis. I am afraid to be with many people always. Because my mind tells me that everytime I sweat I am smelly 😔 its so tiring everyday thinking that I'll have to deal with this kind of thing. How I wish I was someone with normal sweating.
Hi Anne, sorry for the delay in replying to your message. I hear you and am sending love your way. Dealing with something like this takes a great deal of self compassion and self kindness, as it's particularly challenging just the condition itself, and then we have the weight of our own mind noise on top of that. I wonder if you might be willing to challenge your thoughts on this and to create a new series of thoughts/mantras to say to yourself, things that are true and supportive and kind/loving to yourself, to start practicing a new mental frame around this. Also I highly recommend EFT/Tapping for processing the feelings of anxiety and fear that you feel, it's so helpful and easy to learn. With much love, B