How to Deal with Rude & Toxic People

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Комментарии • 378

  • @quizaloo
    @quizaloo 6 лет назад +98

    Cut out toxic people. Period!

    • @Flitalidapouet
      @Flitalidapouet 3 года назад +4

      Yay yay yay, I so don't see the point of those people trying to stick to them.

    • @bobbob9364
      @bobbob9364 3 года назад +5

      Unfortunately it’s not that clear cut ,could be your boss a partner

    • @mariewilliams6631
      @mariewilliams6631 3 года назад +3

      The more we just let things go and understand that people like to act superior to boost their self esteem. They like to criticize and belittle and laugh at people to feel better about themselves. Mature respectful and sympathetic people are more in tune with people's feelings and treat people with respect. I have noticed that self obsessed people dont like things they cant tolerate and like the power trip of demeaning people and putting them in their place. That's why its best not to take it personally if people are inconsiderate because they are not thinking about people's feelings. If people show disrespect they lack respect. Everyone is too interested in themselves and have less time for people they don't admire and respect.

    • @rafaelcosta9172
      @rafaelcosta9172 3 года назад +1

      Wise advice

    • @colmanlong1032
      @colmanlong1032 3 года назад +1

      100%.

  • @humilis42
    @humilis42 5 лет назад +14

    Offering them your silence is the best solution. They can’t say anything in response to a person that’s literally not talking to them. When you try talking to a fool no one knows the difference between you and them.
    Thank you for the advice.

  • @bennybelton709
    @bennybelton709 2 года назад +3

    “What's comes out of people as just what's within the people”, so true!!

  • @MelModica
    @MelModica 5 лет назад +5

    Just avoid toxic people! When you feel their weird negative vibes just walk away! As someone who goes out of my way to always be nice and caring it is not worth your time to even deal with or acknowledge these people!

  • @daisysims4674
    @daisysims4674 7 лет назад +46

    my sister is always so rude and negative about everything and this really helped change my mind set on how to handle this kind of situation. Thank you so much

  • @staryteen
    @staryteen 4 года назад +4

    This was really helpful. I’m 13 and my mother is VERY TOXIC. She is so mean and rude, it’s not even funny. I would get called all type of names and get yelled at for things I didn’t even do! And this isn’t like a one time thing, it’s every single day. Sometimes I just start crying because I can’t get away from the name calling and the yelling. But this video helped me find ways to stay calm and not blame myself.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад +4

      I send you love and am in awe of your response for someone your age. Sometimes other people's pain spills over and onto us, and it's so important to always tell yourself loving things, to empower yourself and to know it's not your fault when others treat you that way. 💗

    • @jcsmith7898
      @jcsmith7898 2 года назад

      There are toxic mothers. I'm sorry you have one. Be sure to love yourself and care for yourself. You will find that love you have for yourself will come back to you from unexpected people 🧡

  • @mariewilliams194
    @mariewilliams194 6 лет назад +8

    Ignoring rude people doesn't work . If they cared about your feelings they would be polite. Say let's keep it polite . Or say let's be nice mature adults . If you tell them to be polite in front of people it really shocks them and most of the time they will be polite. They probably are stressed or too into their egos. Narcissistic people or people with snobby arrogant attitudes need to Ego trip to feel important. Don't show a weakness . Or give your power away to these people. Always be nice to polite and dignified around these people.

  • @IskaLlavore
    @IskaLlavore 4 года назад +5

    I just hate how we have to do 500% of the work when talking to a rude & toxic person. They really should do work themselves to make this situation better. It's so draining.

    • @victoryb8656
      @victoryb8656 3 года назад

      I can see your point, but I know as we can not change others, so we have to control our own though process for our own peace of mind.

    • @jakeserdynski4338
      @jakeserdynski4338 3 года назад

      They really need to go to therapy I wish they'd put their pride to the side.

  • @allenh7835
    @allenh7835 2 года назад +2

    I have to agree because in some ways it's like dealing with road rage. It can escalate to a tragedy. Don't think for one second, these people will ever change. The only change will be in their manipulation tactics. If at all possible, completely remove them from your life and never look back.

  • @curtistinemiller1560
    @curtistinemiller1560 6 лет назад +58

    Most Toxic people Are. Crying. Out for attention,..being angry at the universe doesnt help.

  • @Troyster94806
    @Troyster94806 6 лет назад +7

    I agree with everything in this video. Lately the way I've been dealing with toxic people is by minimizing contact with them and keeping the brief interactions positive.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад

      Nice work! Thanks for sharing that Troy. Wishing you well for the week ahead. B

  • @mercyhernandez3397
    @mercyhernandez3397 7 лет назад +8

    Thank you for this compassionate and simple advice. Rude family members probably do feel not heard and just lash out.

  • @sheryls7782
    @sheryls7782 7 лет назад +9

    Thank you for this helpful insight into the "whys" and not the "hows" of toxic people. They have some work ahead of them, and so do I. I pray that I am not their toxic person feeding them toxicity.

  • @MyCogent
    @MyCogent 7 лет назад +14

    So true, wise words. Thank you!

  • @strawberry9497
    @strawberry9497 2 года назад +1

    Leave them, and never go back!

  • @Joonasaurus1
    @Joonasaurus1 6 лет назад +3

    You have to let people know how you feel... in a polite way

  • @heehee6809
    @heehee6809 5 лет назад +1

    Thanks for the help. I have a brother and he doesn’t allow anybody else’s opinion. It’s always about himself. He’s done nasty stuff to my family in the past that he got kicked out. if you ask him something, he’ll reply back sarcastically and talk to other people about false information about yourself. I find it so funny that I trust my friends,sister and parents but not my own brother. Everything he says is a lie.Sadly, my sister is falling into his tricks because she’s afraid to stand up for herself because she knows all of the horrible memories of things that he done to her.

  • @SierraWilloughby
    @SierraWilloughby 7 лет назад +25

    Thanks, this is very useful for me living in America right now with the anger and division in our people over the election

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад +2

      Glad this helped! B :)

    • @badairdaynewyork5859
      @badairdaynewyork5859 6 лет назад +2

      The east coast US is the epicenter of rude and impatient people. The one positive thing about this is that people tend to let you know their feelings in a very direct manner = !

    • @Feber2001
      @Feber2001 5 лет назад

      The North is the same. Impatient, and shit mannerisms. (Not all people, but they're rather consistent). Lol.

  • @ijojo89
    @ijojo89 7 лет назад +13

    I needed to hear this so much

  • @hellooutthere8956
    @hellooutthere8956 5 лет назад +5

    I can never think of bringing in a new idea cause these ppl traumatize me. I go back to being tht abused little girl and I feel attacked and like I have no power. I cannot do this it seems. I get blocked.

  • @5winder
    @5winder 6 лет назад +58

    So... no punching them in the throat, then? Dang... hahaha. God bless you, dear.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад +5

      LOL. Yeah, not so much! 😄

    • @tipple58
      @tipple58 3 года назад

      I pull out a loaded gun, taking charge of the situation immediately. I've done it hundreds of time. It never fails. (She can rabbit that lady.)

    • @Xfhcgnjffhjmjvfg
      @Xfhcgnjffhjmjvfg 2 года назад

      @@tipple58 That makes you a toxic person as well so you know.

  • @WeddingPlanner00
    @WeddingPlanner00 5 лет назад +2

    Tired of being harassed bullied at my job!. Most days i dread goin on because i know there's gonna be some sort of attack. Ive walked away. Ive shed tears. Ive listened. Now that i forced to speak up for myself im looked as tho im the bad guy!! I havent slept! I wanna quit soooo bad!!. But i have a lil one i have take care of.. I really want change for the better. Tired of being attacked Every. Single. Day!!! 😢😢😢

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  5 лет назад +1

      I hear you! There are definitely points when we realize that it's time to get out of toxic environments. Even if it takes a while to find a new job, actively seeking something new is empowering. Rather than look at the options of either quit or stay, both of which don't feel good to you or work for your needs, consider looking for new work while still in the job so you retain security but are also moving toward what better works for you. Sending best wishes for everything. B 💞

  • @jakeserdynski4338
    @jakeserdynski4338 3 года назад +1

    I had no choice but to deal with toxic ppl from being a child and this was my grand father even after 8 years of no contact it still affects me. And they don't listen when I'm supportive or expressed my concern so that's why I think I should never deal with them again for my own mental health even though they send me cards saying "thinking of you" but you don't even wanna know what horrible and wrong things my grandfather said it still haunts me to this day. I don't understand.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  3 года назад

      Sending love your way for peace and healing 💕

  • @muminabegum7466
    @muminabegum7466 3 года назад +1

    This video is definitely a ten out of ten for me lol!
    Whenever anyone’s rude to me, I just break down and cry with a mentality that they’re old enough to know better.

  • @youssefmhanna2668
    @youssefmhanna2668 7 лет назад +41

    the video was really beneficial.....i wish someone has told me so long before ...thank you so much.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад +4

      You're so welcome Joseph, I'm very happy to share this with you. Best wishes! B

    • @googmail2155
      @googmail2155 7 лет назад +3

      Youssef Mhanna im sorry but to deal with rude people you NEED to be rude back and insult back BUT do not do it in a way that it seems they got under your skin, do nit show anger or you lose, you need to show as if their insult had ZERO impact on you and laugh it off even agree and amplify their joke towards you and JOKINGLY try your best to insult them back in a funny manner and socially intelligent way for others to laugh at him, he will NOT like this and WILL stop otherwise you will get no respect and others WILL join in on teasing you if you dont defend yourself , the whole "mirror thier emotions and show empathy" haha no expect to get bullied doing that

    • @_blitz_7266
      @_blitz_7266 7 лет назад +4

      goog mail but then that makes you the toxic person and the wound do it back and it's a loop and there is 2 toxic people

  • @badairdaynewyork5859
    @badairdaynewyork5859 6 лет назад +1

    This is a good video. I have a friend who I like but she is problematic. She can be pushy, rude and try to be domineering. But there are also good qualities about her. So I am trying to develop a way of dealing with her. I limit the time that I spent with her but do not want to dump her as a friend. Thanks again. Separate yourself and hold your own, that is the key.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад

      :) Pleased to share this with you. Wishing you well with your friend.

  • @Elvis-guy1973
    @Elvis-guy1973 6 лет назад +17

    I agree with you, but, what if lots of people are directing their nastyness and horrible behaviour towards you it dosen work just to pray for them or try to understand the poor souls, why cant these peope just dissapear up their own fundaments never to be seen again!

    • @pegasus5148
      @pegasus5148 5 лет назад +6

      Learn the gray rock technique which means you stop "reacting" to toxic people. Abusive people like to "push your buttons" to get a reaction out of you. Then they use your reactions against you!! Your abuser has no empathy for you and feeling sorry for them or praying for them will not fix the situation. Distance yourself from toxic people and learn how to set firm boundaries. Boundaries help to keep toxic people out. Also, work on your "self-esteem" because toxic people prey on people with low self-esteem.

    • @prayerworks11
      @prayerworks11 5 лет назад +2

      jon callum agreed, I kinda get tired of the sullotions are all about them. Mental hospital is the answer.

    • @caribcarib4337
      @caribcarib4337 3 года назад

      stand your ground

  • @rosasarralde9757
    @rosasarralde9757 6 лет назад +4

    I went trough a divorce already and I don’t want another it’s too painful
    I am going to say the mantra
    I wish you health and happiness and peace

  • @8270361507
    @8270361507 6 лет назад +1

    And what about those who never been through a traumatizing, had a good life, stable support system and still act like this? So many people are rude and toxic because of things like being better than others in terms of social status, wealth..etc, and never had a traumatizing past that makes them the way they are. Also I agree with trying to understand them and help them, but it can only go so far if they refuse to get better and heal, and still continue to act the way they are. Honestly many of the rude/toxic folks/bigots just need to go from this world.

  • @anthonyenos9857
    @anthonyenos9857 4 года назад +1

    My sister is negetive and border line bi polar she has extremely low self esteem no education no possible way of her being self sufficient ever .Younger brother at 50 this has been going on for 15 years.Im ready to leave and never return.I love my sister but I have had it.

  • @xtradelite903
    @xtradelite903 7 лет назад +2

    A couple of communication skills I've naturally developed and used are: 1) Empathy. I express a similar or exact experience wherein the opposing party can learn, perhaps, knowledge of their conflict and apply this new knowledge to their situation, and 2) Repeat back to them what problem they just expressed to you. Example: "A" says, "I had a terrible day today taking public transportation", "B" says, "Oh, public transportation was pretty awful today, huh? I've found these to be really helpful to stir away negative energy.

  • @margepaz
    @margepaz 6 лет назад

    Saying i am sorry you feel that way only makes people more angry as it is a non apology

  • @ramonadviola628
    @ramonadviola628 7 лет назад +10

    You make my day Bea. Thank you - I'm so grateful for your wisdom. It's working.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад +1

      Awesome Ramona!! I'm so pleased to share this with you, and to be connected. Thanks for being a part of our Pinch Me Living community. Love, B

  • @wellnessgirl2806
    @wellnessgirl2806 7 лет назад +9

    Have watched a few of your vids. Really finding your perspective helpful, and clarifying! Great concise appropriate and kind advice - thanks!

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад +1

      :) Great to hear, thanks Jennifer! Best wishes, B

  • @ToxicVaccines_HivHoax
    @ToxicVaccines_HivHoax 4 года назад +2

    Understanding that the real enemy is "negative toxic energy" itself, is indeed a powerful tool at our disposal.
    The nasty person is just a vehicle that the negative energy is coming out from.
    And the best way to cancel negative energy is indeed by making use and immersing ourselves in positive energy.
    The best way to cancel hatred is the use of Love.
    So when you genuinely wish love, health and happiness for that nasty person you are using the most effective tool to prevent their negativity affecting you.
    That is why Jesus said: "Bless those that curse you."
    Mat 5 : 43-47

  • @NumerologyQueen
    @NumerologyQueen 7 лет назад +27

    You are adorable! Great view. Have a lovely day, B. 😃

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад +2

      Aw, thanks Kaitlynn! Appreciate your sweet message and positive energy. Have an awesome weekend. Love, B (Ps. yes that view is beautiful right?!)

  • @priyankaghosh2113
    @priyankaghosh2113 5 лет назад +1

    Great Mam
    Thank you for your guidance
    I am surrounded with toxic family members

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  5 лет назад

      Hey Priyanka, I have another vid you might find useful, on dealing with difficult family members. 💛 B

  • @StarryGreen33
    @StarryGreen33 4 года назад +2

    This is good advice for random rudeness but not repeated rudeness which = bullying which = abuse = evil and requires avoidance, removal from interaction or relationship, separation, and a generally different strategy.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад +2

      Yes, situations of repeated toxicity, beyond someone being rude, eg bullying, abuse, require mechanisms to keep oneself safe, boundaries, leaving a relationship, conflict management. Thank you. 😊

  • @Micro296
    @Micro296 7 лет назад +30

    how to avoid rude people ? simple , leave the netherlands ....

    • @loadapish
      @loadapish 5 лет назад +3

      I always thought people were nice people from holland but ive always just been a tourist passing through. Alot of rude pple there?

    • @jasmijnschepers3739
      @jasmijnschepers3739 4 года назад +1

      I did. Tense.

    • @imaanadams5987
      @imaanadams5987 3 года назад +2

      It's everywhere now, the world has lost its manners 💔💔💔 those who still try are perceived as weak

  • @613crystald
    @613crystald 6 лет назад +3

    We're in the world have you've been all my struggling years !!! Amazing teaching ! How u learn this stuff about humans ?? Man U are so good !!! Thank you !!!

  • @trevormcneil4310
    @trevormcneil4310 6 лет назад +13

    I am mostly just amused that they think they actually matter in some way.

  • @rickgal9003
    @rickgal9003 5 лет назад +1

    Wow my mom is like that toxic as hell trying to always set me off on basic necessities family in general are toxic

  • @ashleyraether9830
    @ashleyraether9830 6 лет назад

    There is a lot of rude and fake people in the world! This video really helps! Thank you!

  • @chuckandevea.7652
    @chuckandevea.7652 7 лет назад +3

    As I listen to this video I learn something new each time, awesome! Practicing the meditation part and I feel empowered! Thanks again!

  • @ariasijiali1689
    @ariasijiali1689 6 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much! I have a friend just like this, this REALLY helped. I can tell you are a professional because your expression is highly eloquent and perceptive. Thank you.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад

      Glad this was useful and resonated. Thanks for your kind words 😊💜 B

  • @youssefmhanna2668
    @youssefmhanna2668 7 лет назад +8

    for the next topic can you please reverse the equation and make a video on how to stop being toxic and rude to other colleagues at work

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад +2

      Aha!! Yes it is always good to look at things from both angles, of how to deal with difficult people but also how to not be difficult ourselves. Let me know what most triggers you, and we'll see if we have resources already available to support you. We have loads of vids and audios, as well as articles/blogs/free classes (on www.pinchmeliving.com) etc for helping you to be peaceful, compassionate, respond to difficult environments, deal with stress, get through overwhelm, start the day with positive energy, manage your mindset etc So let me know what your issue is that causes you to be rude to others at work - be as specific as you can, and I'll refer you to the right resources, or if it's something new we haven't addressed before we can look at scheduling the topic in for future vids. Thanks Joseph! B :)

  • @freiza79
    @freiza79 4 года назад +1

    i was the victim of toxic people and i am rude and toxic when my emotional damn breaks

  • @chuckandevea.7652
    @chuckandevea.7652 7 лет назад +4

    Great video. Will help many. Thanks for sharing your gifts "for the greater good". Looking forward to more watch all of your videos.

  • @jod6cindy
    @jod6cindy 5 лет назад

    Thank you very much for this brilliant and level-headed information.
    I am a partner in a family business situation, and at the quarterly meetings, my older cousin (who oversees the business) TOTALLY ignores me. He focuses solely on the others there, and does not even make eye contact with me. Although we are cousins, I have never known him very well, so talking to him about his obvious hostility toward me really isnt an option for me.
    I have decided I will no longer attend these meetings as I refuse to allow him to dismiss me and overlook me as if I am a non-entity. It is very hurtful, and not warranted, as I KNOW I have never done anything to him but treat him with respect.
    I feel better now, knowing I will no longer be in his toxic presence. Self-care is very important, and I believe if we are in an untenable situation that makes us feel badly about ourselves, truly the ONLY thing to do is to remove ourselves from any future interactions with the offending party, and move on with our chins up, and our heads held high.
    Again, thank you very much for your work, and your wanting to help people feel better about themselves, and their lives. It is very much appreciated.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  5 лет назад

      Thanks for sharing your situation and insights. 😊👍

  • @JasonGafar
    @JasonGafar 4 года назад +1

    Wow! This was a great video, abundant with so many tips. We need more videos like this, spreading positivity to everyone. Thank you!

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад

      Thanks for tuning in Jason, and for your positive words. 💛 Wishing you the best! B

  • @triggerhappy522
    @triggerhappy522 5 лет назад

    I have ptsd , mostly due to horrible bullying from older people when i was younger. commonly , most older people use their wisdom to hurt others instead of encourage and inspire. I've learned this much , and whenever I am reflecting on someone's rudeness I counter the thought so i can break the pattern. you literally have to stop yourself and say " hold on, im not going to think about this person right now" ... because if you let them , you will think about them during times when you are trying to enjoy yourself . the best way to get back at them is to complain to their superior . as those complaints grow on their reord they will be closer to getting fired, especially if they work in customer services. if the rude person is your supervisor you have to find a new job or change your behavior so they will approve of you.

  • @marcussanchez2950
    @marcussanchez2950 7 лет назад +3

    Thanks for the awesome advice. I need to keep this in mind. 👍👍

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад

      You're so welcome Marcus. Thanks for your message.

  • @rosasarralde9757
    @rosasarralde9757 6 лет назад +4

    I need to cut him off and say
    Don’t talk to me that way
    And then go away because
    It’s too painful
    But I end up pleading because I can’t stand the rejection

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад

      Hi Rosa, there are other videos that might be helpful for you on the channel. Including about how to deal with feeling rejected, and people criticizing, being judged, feeling good enough in oneself, standing up for oneself and more. I hope those may be useful. Love, B

  • @ewaozga4979
    @ewaozga4979 7 лет назад +1

    Thank you for your wisdom..
    ..Now I understand that, thers unconscious mind create cry of fear or pain , which is pushed at me..and wishing them well is the key..

  • @lianl100
    @lianl100 6 лет назад +2

    Really glad I saw this but wish I saw this earlier due to a housemate issue. Thank you 🙏

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад

      Glad this was helpful and wishing you well. B 💖

  • @jtkdmd6266
    @jtkdmd6266 7 лет назад +8

    Awesome advice B, Thanks!

  • @teeada6858
    @teeada6858 7 лет назад +1

    This is such a helpful video! I'm so glad that I found this video.🌷

  • @strawberribubbletea
    @strawberribubbletea 2 года назад

    Honestly you should not wish them health and happiness - you’re just focusing on them even more
    Best thing is to cut them out and realize it’s their fault that they are being themselves and has nothing do to with you even if they try to convince you it’s your fault. Stop being so concerned with how they are doing and appeasing them because they will never be happy anyway. And you can’t change that- It’s more internal than external.

  • @rosemaryschaeffer4481
    @rosemaryschaeffer4481 7 лет назад +2

    Love this video, it's really helpful! Thank you!

  • @kb-jo3ti
    @kb-jo3ti 3 года назад

    Thanks for these strategy's... hmmm just affirms I'm on the right road but...
    43 yrs married...still struggling..., done them all but nothing not a single behaviour has changed....only gets worse with time but hmmm now trying the last strategy of prayers and God's devine intervention 🙏

  • @cutechiangels
    @cutechiangels 6 лет назад +1

    Thx for the vid. Though it's mostly for very mild and unvolontary toxic people. I've done these tips years before hearing them, here, and it's always nice to know that there are people out there who have the same position concerning these people. I do have to say though, after years of experience day in day out with extreemly toxic or covert narcissistic people, these things do not help. ALAS! I'm very sorry to have to state that when a person is extreemly rude etc., to you, the best thing is to give them their poison back!! Really. (Afcourse, just very briefly, but concise and firmly) . They suddenly wake up! They are in shock, and say or show so. And often walk away after. Sad, but true. I hate having to do that, but it's very effective.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад

      Thanks for sharing your experience Ambriel. Sending you best wishes! Bernadette

    • @MotorcyclePhaedrus
      @MotorcyclePhaedrus 2 года назад

      There is some realism to that unfortunately, no contact is often best move. Office politics are tricky though.

  • @chels2825
    @chels2825 4 года назад

    this was THE video & channel i’ve needed for a long time. much love x

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  4 года назад +1

      Hi Chelsea, welcome to our community. Glad the resources resonate. 💛

  • @bryanamoss2419
    @bryanamoss2419 5 лет назад +2

    I try to deal with my grandmother but she's too toxic for me I can't help it and my mother can't deal with her act either she's a evil witch

  • @dmv-gang-for-life7381
    @dmv-gang-for-life7381 7 лет назад +2

    Great video.. thank you for sharing. So helpful. You are so inspirational. Bless your soul

  • @soniacolletto9020
    @soniacolletto9020 6 лет назад +2

    Thanks for your kind reply B!
    I still wonder how some people can be rude to others. It makes me sad...isn't it easier to be kind and compassionate?

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад +1

      Yes you'd think it's easier to be kind. But when you have pain inside, sometimes it's actually not that easy. Pain is such a strong energy and often times people don't know how to cope with it. It comes blurting out! :)

  • @alisondavies1197
    @alisondavies1197 4 года назад +1

    This is a fantastic video. So accurate and it works. Thank you

  • @SupaPouueeh
    @SupaPouueeh 6 лет назад +1

    wow that was amazing it made my day really, this is how to behave like a legit adult! thank you so much wish you happiness.

  • @jonassundberg1508
    @jonassundberg1508 7 лет назад +2

    Great stuff, thanks. I will try it!

  • @tonyrobbins1665
    @tonyrobbins1665 2 года назад

    Your words are fantastic. Executing the techniques ? Are so difficult for me.
    I am dealing with your example #2. OBNOXIOUSLY arrogant, impatient, self centered, zero self control.
    Zero emotional intelligence, with emotional immaturity being through the roof.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  2 года назад

      I hear you. It can be so testing to deal with all of that! I have a playlist on dealing with difficult people on subtopics and related topics like communication so check those out if you're looking for extra angles and tips. Love, B

  • @amateurnatural1573
    @amateurnatural1573 5 лет назад

    This video is so on point. I encounter some many people's that are not aware of their negative patterns. And how rude and nasty they are. It will be challenging but I will try theses techniques for me.

  • @obsolete5697
    @obsolete5697 6 лет назад

    Thanks my cousin made me feel depressed but now I'll ask him

  • @cutechiangels
    @cutechiangels 6 лет назад

    Welcome, Bernadette! I enjoy your vids. Good stuff. Keep it up. Thx.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад

      Glad to hear that! Thanks for being part of our community, B

  • @jonathanvermillion7263
    @jonathanvermillion7263 6 лет назад +2

    Oh my god so true

  • @kellyfrancis249
    @kellyfrancis249 6 лет назад +1

    Thank you!

  • @imaanadams5987
    @imaanadams5987 3 года назад

    God bless your soul, I seem to be going through another phase once again in life with rude people that is unavoidable... Another test, first good advice video I've found on RUclips today and I've been searching desperately... Thank you so much God bless you. Positive reenforcement, some of what you said I already know but felt is not helping and was considering abandoning because it doesn't help with the pain of enduring, but it is good advice, its the best advice 🌹

  • @joannedionne7567
    @joannedionne7567 6 лет назад

    Thank you so much. Helped a lot!

  • @m.f.richardson1602
    @m.f.richardson1602 6 лет назад

    Just found your site.
    Your last suggestion was the TOPS. Excellent way to face the situation, of having to deal with toxic people. For myself, I do my best to remove myself from the toxic situation.
    Keep up the go work.

  • @victoryb8656
    @victoryb8656 3 года назад

    Thanks a lot, its really nice and practical approach. I have tried this today and managed not to loose my temper. 🙏

  • @relaxwithme__
    @relaxwithme__ 5 лет назад

    Loved your insights. I will be using these in my daily life. Thank you!😊

  • @valentinajerenec3511
    @valentinajerenec3511 Год назад

    You are my favourite youtuber ever! I am so happy I've found you!

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  Год назад

      Awww, you're so sweet. Welcome!! Delighted you're here. 💕

  • @mariewilliams6631
    @mariewilliams6631 3 года назад +1

    These days people are more focused on themselves and have less time for people and lack respect . They might be rude or snobby because they are not thinking about people's feelings. Or because it boost their egos being superior and conceited. By making snide jokes at people's expense and being disrespectful. It's best to keep it polite with people you are not friends with. And don't talk to people if you have a reason no talk to them. Because a lot of people dont want to make the effort of being friendly and will be annoyed if you waste their time. Dont overshare your thoughts and feelings to avoid people being disrespectful or just dismiss what you say if they are not interested in what you are saying if people are inconsiderate just say excuse me or say lets keep it polite or say mind your manners. Avoid drama if people are inconsiderate they are showing their true self. A lot of people these days love drama to boost their egos and be the centre of attention and like making a fool out of people. Or they will enjoy getting rid of people and power trip the person if you provoke them. A lot of people are so narcissistic they like feeding their egos to get narcissistic supply to feel important. People now act like the world revolves around them. Dont take inconsiderate people seriously that's what they want. Think whatever who cares they just want to ego trip it's their behaviour their problem. When you are around self absorbed people it's best to be polite and respectable and sensible and do the right thing. Because they love making drama and love to criticize and belittle and laugh at people to feel better about themselves too boost their egos. Considered people are usually more emotionally mature and sympathetic and are in tune with people's feelings. And will respect people's feelings because they don't want to hurt people's feelings and be inconsiderate. Because they are in tune with people's feelings and will feel bad if they upset people. Or will feel sorry for people if they are upset. They wont be snobby or be quick to judge people they might think she has problems or she's having a bad day. Self absorbed people love acting like they are better and perfect but they usually lack respect because they are not thinking about people's feelings. Its all about them.

  • @rBJ817
    @rBJ817 6 лет назад +1

    Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @karemortensen7548
    @karemortensen7548 6 лет назад +1

    Here is one example of real life incidents. I have a colleague, who is half-deaf, slow and understands only a few words in English. One day she was working with an optical device, and I asked with a whispering voice if she was going to finish soon, as I was going to need it rest of the day. She snapped, “No, no.”. I said with a smile, “Take your time. No hurry.” I had other things to do in the meantime anyway. Unfortunately, she didn’t understand the expression “Take your time”; she had no idea what “No hurry” means. In response, she gave me an obnoxious look with bunched eyebrows and barked, “Whatttttt?” Later she complained to my boss that, I was being rude to her. There was absolutely no witness, so my boss took her side, not mine. I was speechless, and I have never been able to correct my boss’s impression about me until today, and this incident still keeps haunting me, even though it was about 2 years ago.

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад +1

      Always hold to the truth in your heart... that you know you didn't do anything wrong. So long as you know, that's the most important thing. We can tell the truth, be kind, be patient, explain what really happened, and ask others to understand but we can't control their paradigm and how they interpret. Keep being your best self 💖🌸💖

    • @karemortensen7548
      @karemortensen7548 6 лет назад

      Reading your reply, I got peaceful sleep for the first time in a long long time 😴😴😴 💚💚💚 I cannot thank you enough

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  6 лет назад +1

      💖💞💖

  • @axolendzimane139
    @axolendzimane139 5 лет назад +1

    I am a university lecturer. There is this one student in my class that is constantly rude towards me. I do not know the reason for that. But they are just too damn nasty.

  • @sarahstrong7174
    @sarahstrong7174 6 лет назад

    Thankyou very much. Your talks are very clear. I like the way you arrange things in practical steps.

  • @jaderose5127
    @jaderose5127 6 лет назад +2

    Thankyou good information and guidance.

  • @Eusebeia7
    @Eusebeia7 6 лет назад +1

    Grey rocking the narcissist's negativity then return positive narc. supply so that the narc will turn their hatefulness on to someone less skilled.

  • @sideswiped6874
    @sideswiped6874 4 года назад

    you know, with all the toxic people I have been around threw-out my whole life, and there have been many-many of them, I have come to understand that they have shown me that I am a pretty nice person

  • @gwendolynwehage6336
    @gwendolynwehage6336 6 лет назад +3

    Excellent, thank you!

  • @mandyt5162
    @mandyt5162 7 лет назад +3

    millions of love.thanx.

  • @true_love_lera
    @true_love_lera 5 лет назад

    God, how much I love your advices. Thank you. You save our lives

  • @sylvesterssamuelraj5410
    @sylvesterssamuelraj5410 7 лет назад +3

    God Bless You !

  • @maloudieptsra8160
    @maloudieptsra8160 7 лет назад +3

    Very helpful! love your video

    • @Bernadette_Logue
      @Bernadette_Logue  7 лет назад +1

      Hey Malou, glad this was helpful. Best wishes, B

  • @michaelbrantley.8628
    @michaelbrantley.8628 2 года назад +1

    Hey 👋 nice 👍 commentary thanks 👍 i need to hear this silence is the best solution to a fool.

  • @mikephilp5058
    @mikephilp5058 3 года назад

    A solid right hook.

  • @linwachirabarami8409
    @linwachirabarami8409 6 лет назад +1

    Thank you so helpful

  • @Linda30189
    @Linda30189 6 лет назад +1

    Run like the wind.

  • @fxunit7768
    @fxunit7768 6 лет назад

    I love that you brought up the course in miracles, its rare to hear it mentioned

  • @chrissyfitzgerald8596
    @chrissyfitzgerald8596 3 года назад +1

    Great advice thankyou 😊👍💕

  • @grandmasstories3418
    @grandmasstories3418 5 лет назад

    Thank you! I needed this! 😗😗