It adds to the perception of one's self. It's good cognitive therapy. Bringing the elements to the fore, testing them, weighing them, is a process that certainly helps, (until it becomes a method to torture one's self if it primarily results in negative self-perception.)
I think it helps to sort a few things. Since it is permanent it filters out the mildly curious... and at the same time since it comes with zero social costs.... it zeroes in on the actual desire with the associated stigma removed. " Yes I wanna be a girl permanently, but am hesitating because of the stigma" This test helped my egg crack.
my answer to the button test was : "i would press the button so fast i wouldn't be able to tell what color it was supposed to be". for real tho, the button question in itself wasn't what cracked my egg. it was asking to my cis friends, my gf and other people around me what they would do and discovering that absolutely NO ONE (and i asked like 15 people) wanted to push it, like were like "i would put a lot of distance between me and that button". that really f*cked me up to realize that for so many years i assumed that everyone was like me.
Me: "But what if I wanna change back?" Also me: *Knows damn well that if I was given literal shapeshifting abilities, I'd turn my body female and then promptly forget I could ever shapeshift back to male until years later when I go "Huh, I can do that, can't I?"... And then continue on with my life not ever using it*
My issue with these hypotheticals is that I had never experienced any form of gender euphoria until I grew my hair out at the age of 23. So whenever I heard about the button or waking up one day in a woman's body, I had no frame of reference for what it felt like to look in the mirror and be happy with what I see. I didn't know what it meant to feel comfortable in my own body and I didn't know if having a feminine body would achieve that comfort and sense of fulfillment. It genuinely took a lot of experimentation for me to realize that I am trans and it's only now that I have strong feelings about those hypotheticals. I think another aspect of it is that as someone who is attracted to women and who grew up in this world, I was raised to view women's bodies sexually. I also came across the idea of autogynephilia and felt a lot of shame over the fact that I might only want to be in a woman's body for perverted reasons. So whenever I thought about how it would feel to have boobs or to masturbate with a woman's body or to wear women's clothing, I didn't feel euphoria. I felt intense shame. I think learning more about feminism and sex-positivity helped me overcome a lot of that shame and it set the stage for me to finally accept myself but my overall point is that the button test doesn't work for everyone. Also the best superpower is obviously the ability to stop time. It has all the benefits of invisibility and teleportation and super speed. Although now that I think about it, if picking shapeshifting is a sign that you're trans then picking time-stopping powers is definitely an indication of ADHD because I have ADHD and I always fantasize about stopping time when I've procrastinated or I'm late for an appointment.
I partially relate to you. I did think it'd be neat to have a feminine body, but I never thought I'd actuallybother with it, and I thought it was because i was mostly indifferent to gender, instead of being indifferent with being a man. It literally took me taking HRT in a very irresponsible whim for me to notice how much I liked the body changes I was getting. Never had that issue some trans people have od not being able to look in the mirror pre transition, but I surprise myself every time with how much more do I like looking at myself nowadays
I would have pressed it if it was offered when i was younger. Absolutely. I would dream about such magick! But knowing what I know now, i think i wouldnt change a thing. Transition and the subsequent years have been a wild ride that has taught me so much. I am happy just being me now. Lovely video. Thank you ❤
The button question was actually the reason I finally transitioned. I realized that no matter how many fears I had about transition, the one constant was that I would press that button in a heartbeart. It made me realize that the things preventing me from transitioning all these years wasn't from doubts about who I was. I knew who I was. It was everything surrounding transition, and I had to decide if it was worth all the trouble to be who I wanted to be. I finally made the right call after being unsure of what to do for 9 years. 💜 Also great vid! Always love to see when you two upload!
Hey beautiful wives, I feel touched by the trans test button. I came out 3 months ago as a trans girl, lesbian and radical feminist (in a 73 years old in shape and very slim body) and I already pass as a woman in the heteronormative neightbourhood I live in. I feel so happy and strong being the real me that I'm accepted and loved by every one af every age I meet. And it's a day by day growing experience. I've just sent the document to legally change my first nmes and gender and will start HRT next week. So I will not press the button because I want to live and feel, in my body and in my mind, the progression of my second puberty. Seems it's gonna be a so rich journey with so many things to learn and feel. Kisses from my hometown, Québec City (Canada).
I'm a trans woman of the last four years and am 59 years old and I definitely would push the button if my body changed into that of an afab person. I really dislike that I can never function fully, totally as a cis woman. I don't care if anyone else knew because this choice would be for me alone. Love the video and your ability to project so much caring and love, it really warms my heart ❤️
I realised I'm trans in December of last year, I'll be turning 20 in two months. However, the thought "i wish i was a girl" was something that accompanied me since I was 11-12. I didn't think much of it though. Sometimes it was a strong, almost desperate need, while sometimes it was faint and I wouldn't think about it that much. I remember that once, when I was 13 i believe, I actually formulated the Button thought experiment without any prior knowledge of it, and would often think about it. I stopped at some point but yeah, eventually the dream came true to some degree
i feel like the real thing to take away from the trans button test isn't actually that you'd press the button if you could because, as you already mentioned, most people who would press the button take it for granted that everyone of their gender would. Thinking that wanting to be another gender is simply part of your gender and doesn't really carry any deeper meaning. And only upon interrogating this and realizing that most people of their gender don't feel this way you make the realization that this is actually an experience of note and something that warrants more thought. But it's very easy to not make that realization for a long time as taking the button test for granted also means that you might just not talk to anyone else about this. After all, why ask someone else a question when you think the same one correct answer is obvious to everyone?
The unbearable longing to press the button, fully. I am blessed to be a girl on the inside, at least. I identify with both of you. Love your channel, Wives. Cheers. :)
I have mixed feelings, because I kind of want to know what it would have been like if I had been a cis woman, on the other hand I know that if I had been born a cis woman, I would have named Heidi, and when I was a kid, the book Heidi was making a huge comeback. There was an anime, a live action TV movie, and a theatrical animated movie all within a few years. So I know I would have been teased mercilessly for having that name. Now if the button allows for my birthname to be my chosen name, Nura, I wouldn't even hesitate
Omg, you all are adorable. So glad this was recommended - subscribed! :D Five years ago I would’ve pushed the button in a heartbeat. Nowadays, I’m pretty happy with my body and my only remaining temptation to push it would be so I could have biological kids.
Last year, divorced and living on my own at 55, I first started wearing skirts. It's been almost a year and I've worn skirts, blouses, and dresses -- no pants. A bit late, but yes, I would push the button. 😁
I came up with that button on my own when i was in primary school; my version would have everyone else really confused about what happened, and I really didn't care whether I'd be able to explain it to them. I just always knew it would be better. It took a mere three decades for me to learn that that button is a widespread concept - and to realize that transitioning was an actual option, not just something other people were doing. I'm sooo slooooow...
Phrased as "always had been" this becomes a question about dying and a different person appearing. This other person would not be me. There isn't an unchanging core self-our pasts construct us. If it were "instant change now", I'd press it. As "always had been", no.
"Y'all shapeshifters in D&D" 🤣🤣🤣. Anya's answer made me giggle so much. 🩷 And Jackie's answer made me cry, in the best way. that really was such a beautiful answer. I definitely missed you videos :) they always make me smile. The "would you press the button" question was what cracked my shell after waaaaay too many years. And I was very stuck on the "I can never be the woman I want to be, so why even try?". And it was when Sarah presented it like "you press this button, and you are a woman tomorrow, would you do it?" that it all became clear. "yes. Yes I would. Without even a moments hesitation." So in a way, we do press the button. But instead of magic, the button is a decision that we are worth it. We are worth trying, we are worth changing, we are worth the effort. And then the work begins. But so does the joy.
I'm still somewhat early in transition and I gotta say that the transition experience has taught me a lot about voice, it has taught me about the difference between how men talk and how women talk (topics, mannerisms, etc), it has taught me about my inner strengths and fears. I'm still working on social anxiety, which may not be something I could have worked on if I was born as a cis woman. While it is hard, I think transition itself, and everything it comes with, is invaluable and important for growing as a person. I would never have taken the easy way. I say that as someone who is "in the middle of the forest". Yes I'm scared right now. But I appreciate the hard times I'm in. It is teaching me so much about life, people, and who I am.
This is amazing. Both of you are so very similar to my fiancée and me although we’re both transfems :3 Personally speaking, pre transition I would’ve absolutely pressed that button. But in the same way as Jackie, I don’t think I’d press the button to go from transfem to cis woman anymore. There’s so many special things I’ve experienced since coming out almost a year ago that I likely never would have were I a cis girl. I’m not nearly done yet transitioning but I’m already much much happier with myself than I’ve ever been. And FaceApp considers a selfie from a few days ago as “woman” so I’m glowing right now ❤
The button test never connected with me until after transition. I didn't realize gender euphoria was possible. Now I live in a default happy state rather than a default "unhappy" state. I am on team Jackie. The transition process itself caused me to learn so much about myself. I pity cis people who never experience gender change at all. (Sorry Anya). I went from being completely accepted as one gender to completely accepted as another. The male form of me earned the money that enabled me to pay for the medical care that made me a pretty woman. And when it comes to genitalia, I got penile preserving vaginoplasty which came in very handy in my most recent port-a-potty encounter.
now i wish i had watch further so i could add my comment to my last comment. apart from the obviously YES i'd press it. transitioning, you make an excellent point, "if i transitioned, what kind of girl would i be, would i be happy with the result?" for me, i am older and in my mind, i am younger, i also know what i look like potentially as a younger woman and its hard for me to see me achieve what i want, you know, the elegant sophisticated woman who could drape herself in a red satin dress over a ferrari in an ad. ok, i can almost do that now, but ... i did say almost :-) that is part of the problem, we have massively romantic visions of the woman we want to be, reality then has to set in at the start and well, be the best you can be, warts and all.
Awww haha yes this is very true, we can only be the best version of ourself ❤️ and I don't see why you can't wear that dress and drape you over a ferrari anyway! 😉
The button test helped me to accept who I am... I knew I was trans quite early, but I didn't have any support. And I really grew to hate myself, and I tried just about everything I could to be a man. Which obviously doesn't work. So my answer to the button question was always, 1000% yes. I would press it without a seconds thought. And I knew I would press it, probably as early as age 7 at least. Now that I'm out, and transitioning? I would still press it. Not that I hate being trans... There are a lot of things that aren't fair about being trans, but I do love myself as a trans person. I think, maybe if I were able to transition when I was younger, in my teens, or when I was 20? It would have been easier for me to get the body I want. I might not press it at that point. But at this point, transitioning in my 30s? Not that my body has ever been particularly masculine, but if I could undo all the damage testosterone has done to me, I certainly would. I hope that someday, I feel different about that though. I hope someday I can feel comfortable, and proud of my body. Alternatively, there is another button question: If the button could turn you cis (no longer wanting to transition, being happy with your agab), would you press it? Thats a really hard question. But I think I would. Transition has come at a high cost... Not just in terms of money. If I could just be happy? Without having to put so much stress on my marriage, and my kids... at this point I would have to press it, for the sake of my family. But I would much prefer to press the "turn me into a cis woman" button if that was an option.
I remember something like this from when I was a kid, I was the only one who got it "wrong" (it was the 1970's) and promptly got my ass kicked at recess. I still want that button.
Just found your channel, and I am really grateful. As a young trans lesbian just starting to transition, I am really scared and honestly wish I wasn’t like this, but it brings me hope to see the joy you share and to hear someone say that we are deserving of love
I’m very much like Jackie. Years ago I would have smashed that button. Now that I’m 5 months in to transition I’m happy being me and going through the process. Also looking back I have 3 amazing kids with two wonderful women and I wouldn’t want to change that.
@@WivesVsWorld also made me think of the character Valtraid from sea of stars: he has a twink body and when he rips his magic shirt off it makes him hunk 😂
Also, you two are just amazing. Always. You've made such a positive impact on so many peoples lives. We love you🫶 . And when things get a little rough please remember that. We love you. And you have made a difference. You both make this world a brighter place for being in it.
A lot of people ask "If you could push a button and change your body forever, would you?" I find it more useful to ask the inverse: "If you woke up as [another gender] and found a button that would turn you back forever, would you push it?"
I would mash spam the button until the system overload glitches and gives me somekind of mixed andrygnous form and continue mashing until I get the kind of mix I like. :3 Also, you are very cute together and I can easily see how you complement each other nicely.
it's a good test, simple but effective. For me, I would not push it, I am bisexual and sometimes I wish I was a woman but at the end I really like being a man and I am happy with myself. I guess I like women so much that sometimes I wish I was one hehe. I do have so much respect for people that transitions, you need to be very brave to do it and that deserves all kind of respect.
I would press the button if it made me a cis woman. My transition has helped a lot but there will always be things I can never achieve, as long as I retain my memories of my current experience. And as for supper power I would also choose teleportation, because at this point the isolation from my friends is worse than the dydphoria.
I would certainly hit that button immediately, I'm a trans woman and who has an intersex condition known as Klinfelter syndrome/xxy condition. This is depending on country they might classify it differently. I would be really happy to know I could get pregnant, and that my immune issues plus, executive function from klinfelter would finely be fixed. Currently modern medical technology can't really help these issues yet. That being said if modern medicine could allow those issues to be fixed. I would never press it because, it would probably effect my personality. I'm bisexual with heavy lean away from most men but, more options would be nice.
I realized I was trans from a 2011 blog post called "the null hypothecis" by Natalie Reed. I saw this button test afterwards and always felt like I'd press it, but I honestly don't know how I would have responded if I found the test years before ... I actually grew up knowing I wanted to transition but not considering myself a girl. And I don't think shapeshifting would have been my first choice of superpower either. I did recognize some feelings as dysphoria before I transitioned but it's the experiences of intense gender euphoria after transitioning that really makes me certain I made the right choice. I just have a different conception of my own gender than many people... At this point, 12 years into transition, I feel like I grew into my identity as a woman, but maybe I am like a "non-binary woman" or something, because my journey here feels different from the inside than how some people describe their journey... If this makes any sense, haha. Good video!
Just found you today and I really love your vibe. What Anya said about some people never transitioning because they feel like they won't like the end result, that's painfully true (and just talking about that shows how much you get it). It describes my sister perfectly (unfortunatly). I am here for her anyway but pains me seeing her living her life as not herself, but alas that is something that is up to her alone to decide.
I'm not an assimilationist by any standard. Being trans is beautiful. And yet, given the world political climate, the struggle to balance our (yes, still) mid-pandemic responsibility to the disabled and treatment for dysphoria, and the inability to carry my own children, I'm just in an exhaustion point. Of course I'm curious about what my life would have been like if I were cis, but mostly I just want to stop swimming in a mudslide.
This channel is so queer wholesome!~ As for the button? I'd press it if it magically paid for all my transition surgeries and gave me the physical look I want but was still trans. But if it just made me a cis woman? Ehhhhhhh... I'll pass.
I grew up testing my willingness and goals with hypotheticals, adding conditions. Would I rather be myself as I was or would I be a woman IF I were ... old? How old? Unfit? How unfit? Ugly? (I'd have to experience this in that context as I've always felt ugly in my current one at all ages.) Disabled? In what way? Stuck alone on an island? (Happily, at first, I suppose.)
I spent a fortune and many years transitioning, why would I transition back? No I wouldn't. Also I learned a lot getting to where I am now. Stuff I need to know.
I wouldn't even hesitate honestly but I think it's important to experience the whole transition process. It is a joy as much as it brings immense pain and suffering. The end result though, is amazing, and I'm so happy to be able to be myself and wouldn't change it for the world.
I would press that button in an instant. The world is not that way though. The process is way harder than that. I salute all those with courage to do it.
I'm not sure if I'd press the button, i suppose that it'd depend on what exactly it would do. If it would turn me into a cis man i wouldn't push it... but if it just kinda gave me a flat chest and some of the early changes I'd get on hrt (like a different face shape and some more body hair) I'd consider it. Shape-shifting powers on the other hand are something I'd take in a heartbeat. Not only would they allow me to change what my body itself looks like, theyd help me with experimenting (like testing out tattoos before actually getting them). Also, how cool would it be to just like be able to turn into other creatures? Whos to say that Shape-shifting powers would be limited to humanoids? Imagine being able to give yourself pointy ears or colorful eyes that look hyper realistic without putting in contacts or anything. Itd be the ultimate power for character customisation. Of course it depends on thw perimeters of the powers as well, like would the changes be temporary (like spells in dnd lol) or would they be permanent? Are they something you have conscious control over or does your body warp slightly every time youre unhappy with it? Do you have one original form you can always return to? How big is the risk of losing yourself due to all the changes? How extreme of a change would you be able to make with them? And does the power affect your clothes as well? Is it painful to use them? Basically what I'm trying to say is that I'd need to know the specific perimeters both of the way the button works and of how the Shape-shifting powers could be used before actually deciding on what I'd want.
"Would you describe me as an autogynephile?" at the end 🤣 In all seriousness though, I feel like that totally is a thing for cis/nonbinary folks. Not in the loaded terfy way the word is often used, but in the literal meaning: the love of yourself as a woman. Just because it's what you were assigned at birth, doesn't mean you can't be interested in exploring that, it's just normalized to the point of invisibility. There's so many different sorts of woman, playing with gender is fun even if it still matches what's on your birth certificate.
Having spent a … small… amount of time with bears who occasionally wear lingerie, my opinion is that some can really pull off the look. And i think I’d push the reversible button for reasons you two can probably guess 😊
Yes, I would push the Button. I fell in Love with a girl who was Lesbian in High School and wished I was a girl so we could have a relationship together.
I would so press it, give me now so I can press it. But then I am at the start of all this, my answer may change later. Also shape shifter....yes please.
The button that I'm used to hearing about is the one where you were never born your agab (assigned gender at birth) and you were the born the opposite. I've always questioned if I would really press that one or not because I wouldn't be me if I pressed that button. But hearing about this button, I absolutely would press it if I could just have everybody forget I was ever my agab and I could just be how I want to be instantly. Tbf tho, I'm very early in my transition lol
If I could choose any power, I would choose shape shifting. Aside from the trans cliche side of it, I think it would be amazing to shake shift into a sea creature and see the ocean. It also means I could get into places I normally couldn't...I mean...I'm not doing anything, mr officer....lmao If I had a 2nd super power I think it would be flight. Man it would make travel so much easier.
Before I had even heard of the easy-button test. Answer is YES - if you want to read why, please read. I decided to say YES up here so you didnt have to read a bunch of my rambling thoughts ... I had thought about it, maybe during COVID. I had come to the realization (after finding out that one of my favorite youtubers was trans), that I may be trans, and I thought back to when i was maybe 4 and dancing around as a girl and then issues at high school where i was SO paranoid and uncomfortable not wearing a top. I then remembered only last month that as a teen, i started to grow boobs. Anyway, after an afternoon of crying to myself, I thought about what if a Gene in a lamp said he could click his fingers and voila, you are a girl. After thinking about the ramifications of the space time continuum, which was about 3 seconds in length, I said YES to myself. "Oh Frik!" I said, uhm, i guess i skip the therapist and go straight around the board to GO and collect $200.
I would push the push the button. I would also choose Shapeshifting. Not only could it help me finding out who I am am and want to be, I could also turn in to a bear or a bird and fly around.
Hang on, wait a minute. For the sake of argument let's say that pressing the button would only effect pre-transition you. So by pressing the button you swap to the opposite cis gender, everyone already views you as that gender, and it's all dandy. Wouldn't you technically then have to be transported back to a point in your life prior to transitioning? Thus erasing every experience you've had up until pressing that button! Which then begs the question of are you willing to trade all the things that current you has experienced up until that point for being the opposite gender or are the life experiences you've had up until the moment of being presented with the button more valuable than pressing the button?
amab here, I'm in a similar boat to anya of wanting the muscle/twink/femme triple, except my default is the muscle-man. when are they going to invent that infinity-instant-trans button, already? get on that, science!
I wouldn’t press the button, I am me and for the most part I like me. Leave my mind the way it is because I wouldn’t be me otherwise. There is still things I’d like to change about my body though. I’d maybe push the button to change the body. It’s everybody else I’d want to change. Make it so everybody doesn’t care about gender variance.no more hate or bigotry.
I would press the button. I know im trans im just not ready to come out to every yet. As the last person i came out to was my ex and she only pretended to be supportive.
I would hesitate a looot, and be very scared to press it, to be honest but also very curious. I probably wouldn't. But if I could go back I would do it immediately lol. Sad that there is no guide for a non binary transition
Anya would make a very handsome man, with a handlebar moustache...imagine Anya with a handlebar moustache and a cowboy hat and Jackie in a girly dress...make it happen
okay, this needs to exist. This needs to be fanfiction! Anya with the magical shapeshifting powers, but the only choices are beefy cowboy and twink cowboy!
It's basically: Would you press the button. Yes? Ok would you be ok with going on hormones and stuff to do an almost equivalent thing over the course of time. If no. You're likely not trans binary. Or not trans at all.
I grew up knowing before I started school at the age of 5 that I was different, I didn't want to wear the boys uniform. For me the real question is..If there was a cisgender button to push where I could have been happy as the assigned gender would I? I'm nearly 60 and have been transgender in one form or another (closeted, open, pre-op, post-op) and I have the dilemma of would I now wish I was born cis male or female and give up all the experiences I have had. Some of them maybe, like being beaten up and being raped. But no I wouldn't.
The button test is a big part of what helped me figure out I was trans. It clarifies a lot.
It really does! It's quite handy to help you ask yourself some important questions 🥰
It adds to the perception of one's self. It's good cognitive therapy. Bringing the elements to the fore, testing them, weighing them, is a process that certainly helps, (until it becomes a method to torture one's self if it primarily results in negative self-perception.)
I think it helps to sort a few things. Since it is permanent it filters out the mildly curious... and at the same time since it comes with zero social costs.... it zeroes in on the actual desire with the associated stigma removed.
" Yes I wanna be a girl permanently, but am hesitating because of the stigma"
This test helped my egg crack.
my answer to the button test was : "i would press the button so fast i wouldn't be able to tell what color it was supposed to be".
for real tho, the button question in itself wasn't what cracked my egg. it was asking to my cis friends, my gf and other people around me what they would do and discovering that absolutely NO ONE (and i asked like 15 people) wanted to push it, like were like "i would put a lot of distance between me and that button".
that really f*cked me up to realize that for so many years i assumed that everyone was like me.
“I would press the button, smash the device and scatter its pieces to the wind.”
Hahaha that's so fair ❤️
No please do not destroy the button.
Leave it for the rest of us to use ;D
@@WivesVsWorldYahhhhhhhhhhhhh Same as Me!
Sharing is living
Me: "But what if I wanna change back?"
Also me: *Knows damn well that if I was given literal shapeshifting abilities, I'd turn my body female and then promptly forget I could ever shapeshift back to male until years later when I go "Huh, I can do that, can't I?"... And then continue on with my life not ever using it*
Lol same
My issue with these hypotheticals is that I had never experienced any form of gender euphoria until I grew my hair out at the age of 23. So whenever I heard about the button or waking up one day in a woman's body, I had no frame of reference for what it felt like to look in the mirror and be happy with what I see. I didn't know what it meant to feel comfortable in my own body and I didn't know if having a feminine body would achieve that comfort and sense of fulfillment. It genuinely took a lot of experimentation for me to realize that I am trans and it's only now that I have strong feelings about those hypotheticals.
I think another aspect of it is that as someone who is attracted to women and who grew up in this world, I was raised to view women's bodies sexually. I also came across the idea of autogynephilia and felt a lot of shame over the fact that I might only want to be in a woman's body for perverted reasons. So whenever I thought about how it would feel to have boobs or to masturbate with a woman's body or to wear women's clothing, I didn't feel euphoria. I felt intense shame.
I think learning more about feminism and sex-positivity helped me overcome a lot of that shame and it set the stage for me to finally accept myself but my overall point is that the button test doesn't work for everyone.
Also the best superpower is obviously the ability to stop time. It has all the benefits of invisibility and teleportation and super speed. Although now that I think about it, if picking shapeshifting is a sign that you're trans then picking time-stopping powers is definitely an indication of ADHD because I have ADHD and I always fantasize about stopping time when I've procrastinated or I'm late for an appointment.
I partially relate to you. I did think it'd be neat to have a feminine body, but I never thought I'd actuallybother with it, and I thought it was because i was mostly indifferent to gender, instead of being indifferent with being a man. It literally took me taking HRT in a very irresponsible whim for me to notice how much I liked the body changes I was getting. Never had that issue some trans people have od not being able to look in the mirror pre transition, but I surprise myself every time with how much more do I like looking at myself nowadays
I would have pressed it if it was offered when i was younger. Absolutely. I would dream about such magick! But knowing what I know now, i think i wouldnt change a thing. Transition and the subsequent years have been a wild ride that has taught me so much. I am happy just being me now. Lovely video. Thank you ❤
Right? Transitioning can bring so much wonderful insight and perspective and it's quite a valuable experience in my opinion ❤️
The button question was actually the reason I finally transitioned. I realized that no matter how many fears I had about transition, the one constant was that I would press that button in a heartbeart. It made me realize that the things preventing me from transitioning all these years wasn't from doubts about who I was. I knew who I was. It was everything surrounding transition, and I had to decide if it was worth all the trouble to be who I wanted to be. I finally made the right call after being unsure of what to do for 9 years. 💜
Also great vid! Always love to see when you two upload!
That is so valid ❤️ often it isn't transitioning itself holding people back, but all the societal bs that comes with it u__u
@@WivesVsWorld Exactly!
Same here! 🩷
Hey beautiful wives, I feel touched by the trans test button. I came out 3 months ago as a trans girl, lesbian and radical feminist (in a 73 years old in shape and very slim body) and I already pass as a woman in the heteronormative neightbourhood I live in. I feel so happy and strong being the real me that I'm accepted and loved by every one af every age I meet. And it's a day by day growing experience. I've just sent the document to legally change my first nmes and gender and will start HRT next week. So I will not press the button because I want to live and feel, in my body and in my mind, the progression of my second puberty. Seems it's gonna be a so rich journey with so many things to learn and feel. Kisses from my hometown, Québec City (Canada).
You’re so cute together, couple goals. Loved this video
Thank you so much! So happy to hear that ❤️ we are glad to be back!
I'm a trans woman of the last four years and am 59 years old and I definitely would push the button if my body changed into that of an afab person. I really dislike that I can never function fully, totally as a cis woman. I don't care if anyone else knew because this choice would be for me alone. Love the video and your ability to project so much caring and love, it really warms my heart ❤️
I realised I'm trans in December of last year, I'll be turning 20 in two months.
However, the thought "i wish i was a girl" was something that accompanied me since I was 11-12. I didn't think much of it though.
Sometimes it was a strong, almost desperate need, while sometimes it was faint and I wouldn't think about it that much.
I remember that once, when I was 13 i believe, I actually formulated the Button thought experiment without any prior knowledge of it, and would often think about it. I stopped at some point but yeah, eventually the dream came true to some degree
I'd 100% press the button before you'd even finished the question.
Haha that's so valid 🥰❤️
i feel like the real thing to take away from the trans button test isn't actually that you'd press the button if you could because, as you already mentioned, most people who would press the button take it for granted that everyone of their gender would. Thinking that wanting to be another gender is simply part of your gender and doesn't really carry any deeper meaning. And only upon interrogating this and realizing that most people of their gender don't feel this way you make the realization that this is actually an experience of note and something that warrants more thought.
But it's very easy to not make that realization for a long time as taking the button test for granted also means that you might just not talk to anyone else about this. After all, why ask someone else a question when you think the same one correct answer is obvious to everyone?
"I could never be the kind of girl I want to be" - yep that was me for 46 years. Finally started HRT this year and looking forward to the future.
Congratulations 👏❤️
The unbearable longing to press the button, fully. I am blessed to be a girl on the inside, at least. I identify with both of you. Love your channel, Wives. Cheers. :)
I have mixed feelings, because I kind of want to know what it would have been like if I had been a cis woman, on the other hand I know that if I had been born a cis woman, I would have named Heidi, and when I was a kid, the book Heidi was making a huge comeback. There was an anime, a live action TV movie, and a theatrical animated movie all within a few years. So I know I would have been teased mercilessly for having that name. Now if the button allows for my birthname to be my chosen name, Nura, I wouldn't even hesitate
"Yes, absolutely, I do indeed concur, wholeheartedly!"
Even back when my age was a single digit.
I had jabbed my finger onto that imaginary button 10 times before you had finished asking the question.
Omg, you all are adorable. So glad this was recommended - subscribed! :D
Five years ago I would’ve pushed the button in a heartbeat. Nowadays, I’m pretty happy with my body and my only remaining temptation to push it would be so I could have biological kids.
Last year, divorced and living on my own at 55, I first started wearing skirts. It's been almost a year and I've worn skirts, blouses, and dresses -- no pants. A bit late, but yes, I would push the button. 😁
I came up with that button on my own when i was in primary school; my version would have everyone else really confused about what happened, and I really didn't care whether I'd be able to explain it to them. I just always knew it would be better. It took a mere three decades for me to learn that that button is a widespread concept - and to realize that transitioning was an actual option, not just something other people were doing. I'm sooo slooooow...
Phrased as "always had been" this becomes a question about dying and a different person appearing. This other person would not be me. There isn't an unchanging core self-our pasts construct us.
If it were "instant change now", I'd press it. As "always had been", no.
"Y'all shapeshifters in D&D" 🤣🤣🤣. Anya's answer made me giggle so much. 🩷 And Jackie's answer made me cry, in the best way. that really was such a beautiful answer. I definitely missed you videos :) they always make me smile. The "would you press the button" question was what cracked my shell after waaaaay too many years. And I was very stuck on the "I can never be the woman I want to be, so why even try?". And it was when Sarah presented it like "you press this button, and you are a woman tomorrow, would you do it?" that it all became clear. "yes. Yes I would. Without even a moments hesitation." So in a way, we do press the button. But instead of magic, the button is a decision that we are worth it. We are worth trying, we are worth changing, we are worth the effort. And then the work begins. But so does the joy.
That is such a beautiful way to see it ❤️ You always have such wise words to share! Thank you darling ✨️
I would in a heartbeat if I could
I'm still somewhat early in transition and I gotta say that the transition experience has taught me a lot about voice, it has taught me about the difference between how men talk and how women talk (topics, mannerisms, etc), it has taught me about my inner strengths and fears. I'm still working on social anxiety, which may not be something I could have worked on if I was born as a cis woman. While it is hard, I think transition itself, and everything it comes with, is invaluable and important for growing as a person. I would never have taken the easy way. I say that as someone who is "in the middle of the forest". Yes I'm scared right now. But I appreciate the hard times I'm in. It is teaching me so much about life, people, and who I am.
This is amazing. Both of you are so very similar to my fiancée and me although we’re both transfems :3 Personally speaking, pre transition I would’ve absolutely pressed that button. But in the same way as Jackie, I don’t think I’d press the button to go from transfem to cis woman anymore. There’s so many special things I’ve experienced since coming out almost a year ago that I likely never would have were I a cis girl. I’m not nearly done yet transitioning but I’m already much much happier with myself than I’ve ever been. And FaceApp considers a selfie from a few days ago as “woman” so I’m glowing right now ❤
The button test never connected with me until after transition. I didn't realize gender euphoria was possible. Now I live in a default happy state rather than a default "unhappy" state.
I am on team Jackie. The transition process itself caused me to learn so much about myself.
I pity cis people who never experience gender change at all. (Sorry Anya). I went from being completely accepted as one gender to completely accepted as another. The male form of me earned the money that enabled me to pay for the medical care that made me a pretty woman.
And when it comes to genitalia, I got penile preserving vaginoplasty which came in very handy in my most recent port-a-potty encounter.
now i wish i had watch further so i could add my comment to my last comment. apart from the obviously YES i'd press it. transitioning, you make an excellent point, "if i transitioned, what kind of girl would i be, would i be happy with the result?" for me, i am older and in my mind, i am younger, i also know what i look like potentially as a younger woman and its hard for me to see me achieve what i want, you know, the elegant sophisticated woman who could drape herself in a red satin dress over a ferrari in an ad. ok, i can almost do that now, but ... i did say almost :-) that is part of the problem, we have massively romantic visions of the woman we want to be, reality then has to set in at the start and well, be the best you can be, warts and all.
Awww haha yes this is very true, we can only be the best version of ourself ❤️ and I don't see why you can't wear that dress and drape you over a ferrari anyway! 😉
The button test was one of my most recurring dreams when I was a teenager. I still-cissed my way into my early twenties somehow
The button test helped me to accept who I am... I knew I was trans quite early, but I didn't have any support. And I really grew to hate myself, and I tried just about everything I could to be a man. Which obviously doesn't work. So my answer to the button question was always, 1000% yes. I would press it without a seconds thought. And I knew I would press it, probably as early as age 7 at least.
Now that I'm out, and transitioning? I would still press it. Not that I hate being trans... There are a lot of things that aren't fair about being trans, but I do love myself as a trans person. I think, maybe if I were able to transition when I was younger, in my teens, or when I was 20? It would have been easier for me to get the body I want. I might not press it at that point. But at this point, transitioning in my 30s? Not that my body has ever been particularly masculine, but if I could undo all the damage testosterone has done to me, I certainly would. I hope that someday, I feel different about that though. I hope someday I can feel comfortable, and proud of my body.
Alternatively, there is another button question: If the button could turn you cis (no longer wanting to transition, being happy with your agab), would you press it?
Thats a really hard question. But I think I would. Transition has come at a high cost... Not just in terms of money. If I could just be happy? Without having to put so much stress on my marriage, and my kids... at this point I would have to press it, for the sake of my family. But I would much prefer to press the "turn me into a cis woman" button if that was an option.
I had dreams about the effects of that button happening, even if it meant running away with nothing...
I remember something like this from when I was a kid, I was the only one who got it "wrong" (it was the 1970's) and promptly got my ass kicked at recess.
I still want that button.
I've always wanted to press that button, and one day I did. It took a lot of work and I have a long way to go, but I've never been so happy.
I would push it, with the hope that I'd still remember I'm trans. That's the only way I could truly appreciate it.
I've only recently discovered your channel but it's been very informative and fun these past few months! Great to see you back in action here!
Happy to hear that, and welcome to the channel ^^
It's good to be back 💪
@@WivesVsWorld Yay! Always looking forward to the next one!
"I thought trans women didn't have periods."
I wish that were true.
Just found your channel, and I am really grateful. As a young trans lesbian just starting to transition, I am really scared and honestly wish I wasn’t like this, but it brings me hope to see the joy you share and to hear someone say that we are deserving of love
I’m very much like Jackie. Years ago I would have smashed that button. Now that I’m 5 months in to transition I’m happy being me and going through the process. Also looking back I have 3 amazing kids with two wonderful women and I wouldn’t want to change that.
"so you want 3 forms?"
"yis :D"
I have never felt more seen on that front than just then!!
I'm so happy you relate 🙌✨️
@@WivesVsWorld also made me think of the character Valtraid from sea of stars: he has a twink body and when he rips his magic shirt off it makes him hunk 😂
That's hilarious 😂❤️
Also, you two are just amazing. Always. You've made such a positive impact on so many peoples lives. We love you🫶 . And when things get a little rough please remember that. We love you. And you have made a difference. You both make this world a brighter place for being in it.
You're the best 🥲 that is so so kind of you to say ❤️ we appreciate it deeply!
A lot of people ask "If you could push a button and change your body forever, would you?" I find it more useful to ask the inverse: "If you woke up as [another gender] and found a button that would turn you back forever, would you push it?"
You two are really fun, thank you!
Thanks for watching! 🥰
I would absolutely smash the button IF I'd save my mind and memories, and if I could choose the "final form" so to say
At this point I think the main reason I'd push the button is not needing to get bottom surgery...
A quick and cheap alternative 😂
I would mash spam the button until the system overload glitches and gives me somekind of mixed andrygnous form and continue mashing until I get the kind of mix I like. :3
Also, you are very cute together and I can easily see how you complement each other nicely.
I understand what she’s saying about the trans experience. I’d press the button… just for kids.
it's a good test, simple but effective. For me, I would not push it, I am bisexual and sometimes I wish I was a woman but at the end I really like being a man and I am happy with myself. I guess I like women so much that sometimes I wish I was one hehe. I do have so much respect for people that transitions, you need to be very brave to do it and that deserves all kind of respect.
I didn't know hearing two people yap about a thought experiment could be so fun
I would press the button if it made me a cis woman. My transition has helped a lot but there will always be things I can never achieve, as long as I retain my memories of my current experience.
And as for supper power I would also choose teleportation, because at this point the isolation from my friends is worse than the dydphoria.
I would certainly hit that button immediately, I'm a trans woman and who has an intersex condition known as Klinfelter syndrome/xxy condition. This is depending on country they might classify it differently. I would be really happy to know I could get pregnant, and that my immune issues plus, executive function from klinfelter would finely be fixed. Currently modern medical technology can't really help these issues yet.
That being said if modern medicine could allow those issues to be fixed. I would never press it because, it would probably effect my personality. I'm bisexual with heavy lean away from most men but, more options would be nice.
I realized I was trans from a 2011 blog post called "the null hypothecis" by Natalie Reed. I saw this button test afterwards and always felt like I'd press it, but I honestly don't know how I would have responded if I found the test years before ... I actually grew up knowing I wanted to transition but not considering myself a girl. And I don't think shapeshifting would have been my first choice of superpower either.
I did recognize some feelings as dysphoria before I transitioned but it's the experiences of intense gender euphoria after transitioning that really makes me certain I made the right choice. I just have a different conception of my own gender than many people... At this point, 12 years into transition, I feel like I grew into my identity as a woman, but maybe I am like a "non-binary woman" or something, because my journey here feels different from the inside than how some people describe their journey... If this makes any sense, haha. Good video!
As soon as she started describing the button I immediately started pushing the button
Hahaha 🩷
Just found you today and I really love your vibe.
What Anya said about some people never transitioning because they feel like they won't like the end result, that's painfully true (and just talking about that shows how much you get it).
It describes my sister perfectly (unfortunatly). I am here for her anyway but pains me seeing her living her life as not herself, but alas that is something that is up to her alone to decide.
It's kinda funny how much you two remind me of my own relationship, we have a similar vibe. I love it.
The more the merrier 🥰❤️
I'm not an assimilationist by any standard. Being trans is beautiful. And yet, given the world political climate, the struggle to balance our (yes, still) mid-pandemic responsibility to the disabled and treatment for dysphoria, and the inability to carry my own children, I'm just in an exhaustion point. Of course I'm curious about what my life would have been like if I were cis, but mostly I just want to stop swimming in a mudslide.
This channel is so queer wholesome!~
As for the button? I'd press it if it magically paid for all my transition surgeries and gave me the physical look I want but was still trans. But if it just made me a cis woman? Ehhhhhhh... I'll pass.
I grew up testing my willingness and goals with hypotheticals, adding conditions. Would I rather be myself as I was or would I be a woman IF I were ... old? How old? Unfit? How unfit? Ugly? (I'd have to experience this in that context as I've always felt ugly in my current one at all ages.) Disabled? In what way? Stuck alone on an island? (Happily, at first, I suppose.)
I think I agree, I wouldn't press the button, I am early into my transition, but the new feelings and new experiences wouldn't be as meaningful then.
I spent a fortune and many years transitioning, why would I transition back? No I wouldn't. Also I learned a lot getting to where I am now. Stuff I need to know.
Great video! That button sounds like an ideal mechanism to help draw some conclusions. I would press it and offer that button to someone else!
I wouldn't even hesitate honestly but I think it's important to experience the whole transition process. It is a joy as much as it brings immense pain and suffering. The end result though, is amazing, and I'm so happy to be able to be myself and wouldn't change it for the world.
I would press that button in an instant. The world is not that way though. The process is way harder than that. I salute all those with courage to do it.
I'm not sure if I'd press the button, i suppose that it'd depend on what exactly it would do. If it would turn me into a cis man i wouldn't push it... but if it just kinda gave me a flat chest and some of the early changes I'd get on hrt (like a different face shape and some more body hair) I'd consider it.
Shape-shifting powers on the other hand are something I'd take in a heartbeat. Not only would they allow me to change what my body itself looks like, theyd help me with experimenting (like testing out tattoos before actually getting them). Also, how cool would it be to just like be able to turn into other creatures? Whos to say that Shape-shifting powers would be limited to humanoids? Imagine being able to give yourself pointy ears or colorful eyes that look hyper realistic without putting in contacts or anything. Itd be the ultimate power for character customisation. Of course it depends on thw perimeters of the powers as well, like would the changes be temporary (like spells in dnd lol) or would they be permanent? Are they something you have conscious control over or does your body warp slightly every time youre unhappy with it? Do you have one original form you can always return to? How big is the risk of losing yourself due to all the changes? How extreme of a change would you be able to make with them? And does the power affect your clothes as well? Is it painful to use them?
Basically what I'm trying to say is that I'd need to know the specific perimeters both of the way the button works and of how the Shape-shifting powers could be used before actually deciding on what I'd want.
"Would you describe me as an autogynephile?" at the end 🤣
In all seriousness though, I feel like that totally is a thing for cis/nonbinary folks. Not in the loaded terfy way the word is often used, but in the literal meaning: the love of yourself as a woman. Just because it's what you were assigned at birth, doesn't mean you can't be interested in exploring that, it's just normalized to the point of invisibility. There's so many different sorts of woman, playing with gender is fun even if it still matches what's on your birth certificate.
Having spent a … small… amount of time with bears who occasionally wear lingerie, my opinion is that some can really pull off the look. And i think I’d push the reversible button for reasons you two can probably guess 😊
y'all are shapeshifters in the dnd 🤣🤣🤣
It's objectively true 🫡
The concept of the button transed me. Wish I had been able to distill it down that far earlier in life!
Yes, I would push the Button. I fell in Love with a girl who was Lesbian in High School and wished I was a girl so we could have a relationship together.
Good grief you two are so adorable. Hey God, I'll have what they're having
If we try to send some vibes your way, will it work?? Let us know if it works, K? 😂🩷
I would so press it, give me now so I can press it. But then I am at the start of all this, my answer may change later.
Also shape shifter....yes please.
I think i would press it and I definitely would have a year ago but I'm scared i would regret it:/
The button that I'm used to hearing about is the one where you were never born your agab (assigned gender at birth) and you were the born the opposite. I've always questioned if I would really press that one or not because I wouldn't be me if I pressed that button. But hearing about this button, I absolutely would press it if I could just have everybody forget I was ever my agab and I could just be how I want to be instantly. Tbf tho, I'm very early in my transition lol
If I could choose any power, I would choose shape shifting. Aside from the trans cliche side of it, I think it would be amazing to shake shift into a sea creature and see the ocean. It also means I could get into places I normally couldn't...I mean...I'm not doing anything, mr officer....lmao If I had a 2nd super power I think it would be flight. Man it would make travel so much easier.
Shapeshifting. Obviously because I could just grow bigger muscles or wings at will, and so have both the other powers, and no other reason.
that's a pretty great solution, damn 😂
You two are an adorable, wholesome couple and you fill my little transbian heart with hope and joy ❤
Pressed that button 3 years ago😅
❤️❤️❤️✨️
Before I had even heard of the easy-button test. Answer is YES - if you want to read why, please read.
I decided to say YES up here so you didnt have to read a bunch of my rambling thoughts ...
I had thought about it, maybe during COVID. I had come to the realization (after finding out that one of my favorite youtubers was trans), that I may be trans, and I thought back to when i was maybe 4 and dancing around as a girl and then issues at high school where i was SO paranoid and uncomfortable not wearing a top.
I then remembered only last month that as a teen, i started to grow boobs.
Anyway, after an afternoon of crying to myself, I thought about what if a Gene in a lamp said he could click his fingers and voila, you are a girl. After thinking about the ramifications of the space time continuum, which was about 3 seconds in length, I said YES to myself.
"Oh Frik!" I said, uhm, i guess i skip the therapist and go straight around the board to GO and collect $200.
Hahaha that is so valid! Thank you for sharing your experience ❤️
I would press, but not changing the sexual orientation.
That's very valid ❤️
I would push the push the button. I would also choose Shapeshifting. Not only could it help me finding out who I am am and want to be, I could also turn in to a bear or a bird and fly around.
😅
Hang on, wait a minute. For the sake of argument let's say that pressing the button would only effect pre-transition you. So by pressing the button you swap to the opposite cis gender, everyone already views you as that gender, and it's all dandy. Wouldn't you technically then have to be transported back to a point in your life prior to transitioning? Thus erasing every experience you've had up until pressing that button! Which then begs the question of are you willing to trade all the things that current you has experienced up until that point for being the opposite gender or are the life experiences you've had up until the moment of being presented with the button more valuable than pressing the button?
i would
amab here, I'm in a similar boat to anya of wanting the muscle/twink/femme triple, except my default is the muscle-man.
when are they going to invent that infinity-instant-trans button, already? get on that, science!
I would like a button with i can use all the time
( That makes me genderfluide!)
Wouldn't that be neat!!
I would without question!! I do not enjoy the body I live in right now even after surgery I don't think I will be satisfied and feel complete!!!
Yeah ofc I'd press the button, who wouldn't want to be a cute girl? Still cis tho!
I wouldn’t press the button, I am me and for the most part I like me. Leave my mind the way it is because I wouldn’t be me otherwise.
There is still things I’d like to change about my body though. I’d maybe push the button to change the body.
It’s everybody else I’d want to change.
Make it so everybody doesn’t care about gender variance.no more hate or bigotry.
I would press it without hesitation LOL
Omg, you are so funny and adorable. Glad I found your channel
Thank you so much! Glad to have you here! 🥰
I would press the button. I know im trans im just not ready to come out to every yet. As the last person i came out to was my ex and she only pretended to be supportive.
I think I already pressed that button several times,... but it doesn't seem to work well. Transitioning is so damn hard and slow...
I would hesitate a looot, and be very scared to press it, to be honest but also very curious. I probably wouldn't. But if I could go back I would do it immediately lol. Sad that there is no guide for a non binary transition
omg a trans girl named Jackie? subbed!
Hahaha, another one!! 🥰
Welcome!
You two.... I missed you. ❤️
We're happy to be back again 🥰
Shape shifting is all the above
if I could have hit it 40 years ago I would have in a red hot minute, but sadly not today
I would press the button if I knew it turned me into a natural, born female
Anya’s yes is the best thing
Truly 👀
Can I throw device away 😆😆😆.
Anya would make a very handsome man, with a handlebar moustache...imagine Anya with a handlebar moustache and a cowboy hat and Jackie in a girly dress...make it happen
👀 okay now that's all I want!!!!!
okay, this needs to exist. This needs to be fanfiction! Anya with the magical shapeshifting powers, but the only choices are beefy cowboy and twink cowboy!
It's basically:
Would you press the button.
Yes? Ok would you be ok with going on hormones and stuff to do an almost equivalent thing over the course of time.
If no. You're likely not trans binary. Or not trans at all.
I grew up knowing before I started school at the age of 5 that I was different, I didn't want to wear the boys uniform. For me the real question is..If there was a cisgender button to push where I could have been happy as the assigned gender would I? I'm nearly 60 and have been transgender in one form or another (closeted, open, pre-op, post-op) and I have the dilemma of would I now wish I was born cis male or female and give up all the experiences I have had. Some of them maybe, like being beaten up and being raped. But no I wouldn't.