The viewers of this channel really get it! Such wonderful people here! Jackie and Anya are so amazing but so are all of you. It really gives me hope. Thank you!🙏
As someone who who was born with a intersex body I had 28 surgeries for various things. Not all were sexual related to my birth development. I used to be very secretive in my youth about such things but gradually have become open. Now Ive pulled back form telling everything about myself. My wife of 51 years realizes I am both male and female but she loves me for who I am. All anyone can ask for.
Yeah it's interesting how much we feel like sharing of ourselves or feel like we owe sharing to the world! I'm so happy your wife loves you just as you are ❤️ thank you for watching!
@@defennia They're intersex meaning they have some parts of both. Being intersex is a lot more complicated than that but it's a start for any research you might want to do.
@@defennia My testis failed to develop properly. One testis remained as a ovotestis and the other only grew to about half of normal size. In addition my body developed a number of mature germ cell teratoma the were huge. One of these in particular grew to 17.5 cm and had limbs, eyes, skin, bones ect. It wasn't a twin it was comprised of germ cell tissue from my own gestation. That is what I mean by being part male and female. Ive had many surgeries ,cancer and other effects from this. In fact my cancer took the form of ovarian cancer because the one testis did not develop as a testis but more along the lines of ovarian tissue. My one small testis did partly develop and I did marry. As you would expect there were always difficulties. We managed with love of one another. Life hasn't been easy but I had great employment and medical insurance that provided needed income. Over time surgeries have stripped away many of the female parts but physiologically my mindset is that of a women in many ways. If that were not bad enough Ive always wished to fully transition to female since I am half way there now. But because my cancers took the form of ovarian cancer taking estrogen would cause the cancer to return. For me this is the heart breaking aspect of all this for me. I have a women who deeply cares about me and will accept me for who I am but becoming that person will kill me. What would you do? So I try to live my life as well as I can and share my story. Age is against me now and my spouse may pass before me. In that event Ill go against the doctors orders and take estrogen to become who I truly am and join my love if need be.
As a trans woman, I find the whole "gay-straight" question a bit funny now. Being gay or straight really only works based on the gender of the person being described relative to the gender of the person they're attracted to. Having been married to a woman for a long time, when I transitioned, suddenly I went from being straight, to being a lesbian, even though my attraction to women never changed. I find it better to say "female attracted" or "male attracted" or "attracted to everything" or whatever. My wife is also kind of offended now that people express surprise at her accepting my transition so easily, with the assumption being that she was so straight to begin with.
There is also the nature of the relationship. How one approaches the pairing. It isn’t really about the parts as much as how the two* people relate to each other. A woman with a pre-transition (or non-transition) trans woman has always been in a sapphic relationship to begin with. The parts really don’t make such a big difference. Unless they do, but it seems like that is more to do with external perception and shame. This realization can be disturbing to some people because it causes cognitive dissonance and internal confusion.
This exactly, I identify as not having any gender at all and I can't be straight or gay because you need a gender for that, those lables just don't make sense like that. I'm just attracted to femininty ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
I think labeling sexuality probably largely came to prominence so that Christians could figure out whether someone was sinning or not. I think I've read something that suggested super-early Christianity didn't care, and that it was some later era when (probably asexual) people decided that sex was icky and that no one, especially gay people, should be having it. Of course, play that against "be fruitful and multiply" and you've got a wild dichotomy and another reason against gay sex.
@@thisolddown"The parts really don't make such a big difference. Unless they do, but it seems like that is more to do with external perception and shame." You might not be saying this, but just in case: I think it is okay for someone to have a genital preference along with preference for someone who is sexual or asexual. If a person is interested in women and also someone with a vagina, then that's not transphobic in itself. Perhaps that person would get along well with a post op trans woman. Now if they can't be civil and treat her as sub human, that's transphobic. Or maybe someone is asexual and they want a romantic partnership with a woman, and because they don't expect sex to be part of the equation, they might not care about the genital configuration. Or you can be like my girlfriend who expected to be like that first example (wanting a woman with a vagina) and being surprised when she discovered that she was attracted to me regardless.
It feels on par with walking up to a stranger and asking, "Hey, could you tell me about your butthole?" I'd totally ask my husband this, but asking a stranger is out of the question.
My spouse and I traded pronouns. We refer to it as reverse-straight or super straight, although we're both bi. 😂 Married 15 years with 3 kids. Go queer love! 😊
That is amazing, but just as a little headsup if you didn't know: Superstraight has become kind of a loaded term because it's now used by people who categorically refuse to date trans people. They use the lable as an excuse to say "The fact that I would never ever date a trans person IS my sexuality, therefore you're not allowed to criticize me or you're discriminating/being bigoted." Now, what you two have seems to have nothing to do with that at all, but if you would use the term "superstraight", people sadly might misunderstand and associate that with said transphobic group. "Reverse-straight" sounds awesome though!
Second comment. When I first started HRT I wrote on my bathroom mirror “Thank you” as a reminder to my current self how much transition was necessary for my old self to continue on with life. Then I wrote “It’s OK to not be 100% sure” as a reminder that many life changing choices are made when we are not 100%, getting married, buying a house, having children, quitting a job, we can never truly know 100% if a choice is right until we make it and see how things go.
That's really beautiful :) Like I'm tearing up. I never thought of thanking myself for transitioning, though I honestly should. It's definitely the best decision I ever made.
"How did you know you were gay" ... I dunno, how did you know you were straight? I think this question is the absolute perfect emblem for how far we still have to come as an accepting society.
"Why can't you just be a feminine man?" As if I hadn't tried that before. Wasn't for me. But I am waaay more comfortabale with my "masculine" side as a women now
31 year old norwegian transwoman here, just really wanted to say how much of a deeply helpful comfort experience these videos are since I found the channel in December. Currently stuck waiting for oestrogen forever as we only receive it from Oslo up here because screw the districts so it takes tiiiiiime Love hearing both of your experiences ❤️ Only miiildly envious of such a lovely relationship 😅
Heard from another Norweigan that things were moving at a glacial pace up there, hopefully it will get to you soon! ❤️ We're so happy to have you, thanks for commenting ☺️❤️
Jackie: It's not like I have a degradation fetish Anya: Has the most "suuuure" look ever. God I loved that bit. 😂 Great video as usual and I loved the clip of bi Moxxie 😂
I want to thank you both for being so open and easy to understand. I play d&d with group that includes 2 wonderful trans people, both of whom are over 30 years younger than me. Listening to you both and thinking about your discussions has been a really education for me and helped me to understand how they might feel about life and themselves in general. I was born in the 60's and my sexual education might be described as minimally minimal! With your help, its wonderful to find that whilst bigotry and transphobia still exist within a minority, underneath I believe the vast majority to be supportive and accepting. Myself included. My life is better for knowing them. Thank you again. 🕊
thank you as always you too. i'm a transwoman from france and those last few days have been really difficult mentally (because of politics), and having this kind of content to relax is really helpful. (also i love how anya is smooching jackie on the cheek randomly, i do the same to my gf very often (i'm the clingy one). oh that's a good question for next time : who's the clingy one? :p)
I’m so glad that I subscribed to your RUclips channel. You both are such a breath of fresh air, that it makes my day to listen to your comments. Your love and kindness comes through every time. As long as you two keep posting, I’ll be watching. ❤
So so happy to hear that!! Thank you so much for brightening our day with your kind words! 🥰 so happy to have you here. We'll keep posting for sure! We have much more silliness to share!
You two are a delight to watch and an adorable couple! Thank you for turning what has clearly been a long series of frustrating interactions into an entertaining and informative video. Keep being awesome!
The oddest question I got was from someone who misunderstood and thought I was a transman (I'm actually a transwoman but back then I kept a lot of feelings to myself) and asked me "Did you transition so you could be called-up? I just thought people transitioned to get out of conscription." My answer was that Britain doesn't have national service anymore.
This video was just recommended to me, and I had to subscribe! I love the way you talk to each other, and the way you present your information to your audience.
Thank you! As a transman (transitioned 19 years ago) it was amazing to hear the insight of being perceived in an infantilised and less than. I experience that more in the medical care realm, but, living in a very rural area I've gained male privilege and it's honestly a mind fuck. I am granted space, opinions, clout, and the ability to not apologise. I try not to take this for granted, yet in society, it is so easy to do so. I would be curious to know how your experience Jackie has been in this way. Thank you again for creating such wonderful content!
two trans people who are mtf and ftm being together after transitioning is being straight with extra steps. and you said this as I was typing it out! great minds think alike
Another question they often ask is “What was your name before?”, so basically asking for your deadname if you have one, and the thing is usually they are not coming from a bad place, just curious, but I’m really uncomfortable telling it for multiple reasons, and so I wouldn’t do it, but the thing is I often feel like if you don’t answer, people will actually take it personally and won’t understand why it is such a big deal to you, so the few times I have been asked, I have answered, but I should really stop doing this in the future and learn to set boundaries
Oh right, how could we forget the dead name question!! Also an absolute classic! Yes people so badly want to know and "they're just curious". And as you say, if people didn't take it as a personal offence when you declined answering their questions, maybe we'd be more comfortable with getting asked questions! You're absolutely valid in not wanting to tell them and it's absolutely okay to have boundaries ❤️
You two are doing what most fail to do: You are talking openly (to an extent-I respect that) and kindly about a complex theme. Gender identity is just one of the complex themes that need that. You are showing courage and many of the good qualities of the persons you are. Congratulations! Please, stay the route and be patient, and compassionate, with society. Not all who may make mistakes interacting w/ you have bad intent or mean to be disrespectful. Ignorance and dogmas are plagues in society. I myself have a lot to learn. I wish you both healthy and prosperous lives.
I loved this, and there was so much good stuff in this. And I'm definitely sharing this with people who get that look, and you know what they're going to say. And you're just waiting for them to drop the "I'm curious about some things, can I ask you some questions?" *sigh* Now they'll get the link to this video, because you covered it all wonderfully. But all that aside, mostly I just want a little audio clip of you two saying "hoooormones!"
first time seeing a video, immediate sub. y'all got such a good energy, its really refreshing to see people having light hearted conversation and joke around with these, at best, annoying questions. much love
Aw that's so wonderful! Thank you so much for saying that 🥰 yeah, we felt like the world needed a little more loving lighthearted silliness for people like us ✨️
Hi! I’m a 25 y/o trans woman who started hrt last year and have been with my (cis) wife for ten years (married for 3). I just found your channel and I’m so inspired by the two of you living your best life. Being trans is extremely hard especially when I don’t pass but you two give me so much hope for what my future can be. Thank you for being authentically yourselves which isn’t always easy on the internet 🩷
Awww you're the sweetest ;A; thank you so much for your kind words and we're so happy we can provide a bit of hope and joy ❤️ we try our best to keep the authenticity and it means a lot that it's appreciated ✨️
Just came across you both. Its really cool, my wife and I have the same dynamic. I'm trans, we consider ourselves a lesbian couple. Its funny to me that we often don't really think about us being anything different than others. I have to sort of spend a moment to remember, oh yea, we're a little bit different. It is nice to hear from others like us. Thank you for sharing.
Regarding the question about surgeries, my answer is "For those that need to know about my personal, intimate, medical history I'm happy to discuss that when the time is right."
I'm trans and came out after I was married to my wife (who is cis) I'm glad to see content this relatable. I don't see many couples in a similar situation to me and my wife. (My wife honestly noticed i was trans before I came to the self realization)
I think the correct answer to "how do you have sex?" has to be "check my OF." If they come back later saying they can't find you on OF you say "there's a reason for that." If they STILL don't get it ask them how they cope with autism.
First video I've watched from you two and I already love your senses of humor, 6:28 had me laughing so hard 😂 "I dabbled in the... human form" "One could say 👀"
Hahaha, thank you so much ❤️ If anything we've learned that were an acquired taste, but it seems like RUclips has been working overtime to get our silly videos out to those who would appreciate them 😂❤️
@@WivesVsWorld the regret of not realising sooner and taking so long to put it all together is the thing that upsets me most about transition, but it sounds like you put it together way before me.
@@WivesVsWorld feel like coming out year before last, I have been incredibly lucky in that regard that I'm only aware of one relationship that is more difficult now due to transitioning stuff, everyone else has been really supportive about it but I was in the middle of a mental health crisis in early 2020 (a couple of months before COVID 19 kicked off) and for about 3 months after I was a complete mess and so I think people were just happy I didn't want to die.
@@WivesVsWorld but I'm really sorry to hear that was your experience. The amount of trauma carried in our community from so many factors is incredibly stark to me. I'm autistic and probably ADHD and carry lots of trauma /have rejection sensitivity dysphoria now too.
i am really loving your channel. you guys have the same kind of personality as i do, so it feels like i am sitting with 2 other like minded friends in the room. i could just watch you guys all day talk about the weather, cats, taking out the trash. ok, maybe not the trash, i have to do that at two houses and its annoying. LOVE YOU BOTH !!
One I had recently was, "if only the world was less gendered, then you wouldn't have had to transition ... ". I guess it's like the 'feminine man' point. I didn't even know where to start in response. They meant well, but. ... 🤦🏻♀️
I used to believe a variant of this, but since then I’ve come to realise that some of the gender differences have their roots in biological sex differences, and are unlikely to ever go away. For example: women seem to statistically be less interested in engineering, and men less interested in nursing and other “feminine” jobs. This difference persists even in the most equal societies. To be clear: this does not mean your abilities are dictated by sex or gender. Women can be great engineers and men can be great nurses. It’s just that most of them apparently prefer different jobs and interests. In science and engineering we say: “all models are wrong, some models are useful.” Labelling people as “men” and “women” is useful because it reflects a natural pattern that most people fall into. Where it becomes dangerous is when that labelling is made prescriptive and forced on people. And coming back to the original point: yes, feminine men and masculine women exist, and are different from transgender men or women. I myself am definitely more feminine than the average straight cis male, but still identify as a man overall.
@@eypandabear7483 yes, well, regardless of a gendered society, I am who I am, and I've always known myself to be that. It's what it all boils down to really. 🙂
Kinda sad and weird that I've heard so many of those questions by strangers myself. Have they never heard of the word boundaries? On a side note, love your content so much. You are so funny and relatable.
It's a rite of passage for many at this point 😅 Thank you so much! Never expected to be relatable, but there are more of us out there than we were led to believe ❤️
1. when i was 13 praying i had a vagina lol, but truly when i got older and hated being identified as a man 2.father isn't in my life, he knows but doesn't approve. mom tolerates me, but won't go out of her way to be supportive 3. always have been, but really embraced it post transition rather than before 4. i have always answered this question by saying, "all of my relationships were never straight, i brought the queerness into any relationship i've been in" 5. i always just tell people it's none of their business 6. if it's someone i know intimately, i always just say yes they are. but if it's someone i don't feel super comfortable with i just say, "what do you hope to accomplish by asking this question?" 7. "strange thing to ask me" 8. i highly doubt i will, but in the event i do i'll cross that road when i get there. but as things stand now if i had to de-transition i wouldn't be on earth anymore 10. I love men and men are cool! however the harm patriarchy has done to men is innumerable, and the attitudes and perspective some men take on when faced with a transwomen often become violent. 11. the physical difference that comes with still having t in my body is more than enough to not even give a single thought to be a fem man. But also the ridicule i would receive for being a fem man would ultimately not be worth it. i'd rather deal with the extra hate of being trans but being myself fully
Honestly you give me hope that I can achieve I a life/ self I want, both of you have amazing personalities and make me want to put effort into making my life better. Thank you both for being so cool, cute and wholesome (sometimes lol).
I’m a trans woman named Jackie. I have a very critical question for Jackie specifically. Is your legal name Jackie or did you do like some variation of Jacquelyn? I went with just Jackie and some people are shocked that it isn’t short for anything!
What a coincidence! Jackie's legal name is Jackie but since it's not a very common name here in Denmark, people are more confused about where she's from rather than it being short for anything 😂 afaik she's never been asked that. But Jackie is definitely a gorgeous name in its own right! ❤️
I am so impressed with your openness to engage here. I hope the very best for you both! I feel like I know none of this is my business to ask anyone that I’m not close with. That doesn’t of course mean I’m not curious. Mostly I just hope to show support.
omg! first video that I've seen of yours. I LOVE this. I've recently realised I'm trans and still navigating through this. Subbed and the "bell" is on! I love both of your energies!
Watching you interacting with each other is so beautiful, it is so wonderful watching you, it is so obvious that you are both deeply in love and it is beautiful 💗🏳⚧💗
I sympathize. So many people have asked me variations of these same questions throughout my transition. So frustrating. I only want to know the answer to one question. How are you two such an adorable couple? P.S. I'm reading this great fantasy romance book right now. I just got to a part where the protagonist is showing a lovely young man around a secluded garden. It seems like the author was having a great time describing all of the plants. Maybe she's a botanist....
Yeah, these questions really seem inescapable! Hahaha you're too sweet ❤️ Aaaaaahhhhh!! You just totally made my day by saying this 🥲 I'm so so happy you're enjoying the book ❤️ and love that you thought about the plant descriptions! Thank you so much for your kind words ✨️
It took me a moment to realise that when people ask if you've had "The Surgery" they aren't referring to top surgery, which is the only type of surgery I hear discussed openly by trans people I've met either in person or online and what my brain automatically defaults to. I'm a queer cis woman and while I wouldn't say that I was ever hateful towards trans people, I remember having an aversion towards transness as something unnatural as a teenager. The person I was back then - mostly from lack of exposure - would have defaulted to that question, but now it simply sounds silly to me! With politics being the way they are now, it's somehow comforting to realise that the conditioning I grew up with isn't absolute and it can be changed. People speaking about their experiences and lives openly, no matter how small or insignificant it feels, creates change. ❤
You guys always make my day ;) You both are so funny and quirky and sweet, perfect combination ! And the love between you 2 is endearing. I am a newly discovered trans, meaning a man who feels like a woman and so wished it was like that, except I discovered this 6 months ago at the tender age of 67... Better laugh ! Its tough for me as I wonder how will I be able to go on, and how to deal with it. My girl friend just left me as she couldnt cope "this is not for me'! SO your videos of this love working out between you 2 is SOOO good to see. I wish you the very best ! You give me lots of hope ;) PS I forgot to say my first wife was Danish and I do recognize some of the humor and manerisms, very nice.
So so happy to hear we could bring a smile to your face!! Oh how wonderful to have discovered yourself finally ❤️ such a beautiful thing! We wish you so much love and strength on the journey 🥰 Oh how interesting! Now we're wondering which mannerisms are especially Danish 😂
@@WivesVsWorld Yes dear, It is wonderful, a very moving thing to experience. It seems a way to love or honor oneself in a totally new way. and it is also quite lonely, at this age ;( I am inwardly happy and here in Canada there will be some help.... after months of waiting. About being Danish, its a long time ago, but I would say, a sort of subtle, gentle humour, giddy spontaneity, a bit earthy, somewhat understated. Its all subjective and it comes from a French raised "man" (or whatever ;)) I wish someone had a magic wand to turn me into a girl. Bravo to you and all the trans who persevered to being what they felt, despite the outer criticism, lots of love
Love you both. Anya so totally eyeing Jackie’s boobs for that entire segment. During the coffee sip you can see how happy it makes her. 🥰 My own partner was never really attracted to boobs but know that I have them she realized how nice they are. I’m a B cut after 6 months on Estradiol and it’s so much about genetics and random chance.
Watching your interaction and connection was sooo cute! I feel kind of jealous of this kind of relationship, as someone who hasn't even kissed anyone (skill issue, as well as unresolved baggage, don't ask). The video was informative but it also gave me hope somehow. I subscribed instantly 😊 I wish you good luck in all your endeavours. Kind regards from Iceland. 💜💛💜💜
Realising this isn't technically supposed to be a funny topic. But you two are very funny together. Great video and an entertaining couple. Of course very complicated topic tackled well with I think a lot of honesty that you didn't have to tackle but your answers are so inciteful. Well done. Great video 😊
Haha aww this is so sweet! Thank you so much 🥰 really glad you enjoyed it. We have the most fun when we approach our topics with humor haha, so I'm really glad it's appreciated ❤️
17:57 I like to make an big decision based on the premise of which option has the potential to be regretted most, and I find that, despite our instinctive feeling that inaction is safer, it's often the things we wanted to do but never did that we're most likely to regret.
I really enjoyed listening to both of you and also watching your loving/supportive interactions throughout the video. " HOW IS THAT A RAKE!"😂. So real. Thank you for sharing. 💐🧡💐
I’d offer another possible motive for the question, “how do you get along with your parents?” Every family has its own culture, and for some people, their relationship with (and responsibility for) their parents may be the most important factor in whether or not to come out. I suspect the unspoken part of the question is “is there any way I can imagine coming out without losing my family?”
I'm a post op transgirl but I really do hate labels I'd rather identify as human but yes we do need community's to help us feel safe in today's world . Love is love ❤️ hugs to all
Lots of dehumanization necessary for some folks to feel entitled to answers to certain questions or to make certain assumptions. The worst for me is how my orientation looks to them when they invalidate my identity. Like I'm woman first and like women second. If they understand that they realize its not straight with extra steps..
no one ever asks straight people - when did you know you were straight. Maybe we should. Asking this question will shed some light on attitudes. in 1987 I was working at a Hospital making slides for doctors. A book said- most people have specific ideas about what constitutes what is Male and what is Female- biology has its own ideas. I have a gay buddy who is married to.a man. I've known him 2 years and in this time his partner has transitioned to being a woman. This transition is complete in my mind. My frind is happy and still very much in love- so that is what counts.
As a cis straight-ish male I realize that I have no idea what it's like getting the most inappropriate questions thrown at you all the time because of your gender or sexuality. I like to ask my queer friends lots of things, but it often comes from a place of trying to understand and get a feeling for what their struggles are. So I was thinking that you might be assuming questions come from a more unsupportive place than they are. But watching the whole video I must say, you reminded me very well that everyone has boundaries and it sucks to be reduced to beeing queer in any way. And I have to say, I couldn't imagine beeing reminded of that in a more fun yet clear way. Also, I loved the music. Really glad that the algorithm brought me here :)
I'm transgender female and I also am married to a transgender female, and we are both previously married parents. Neither of us are particularly concerned with the thoughts of boring cis people. I have had GRS. And good luck figuring out our pronouns. Neither of us worry about labelling our sexuality. I'm 62 and my wife is my cute young thing, as she is only 53. Everyone thinks I'm only 40. No complaints. Estrogen, neat shit estrogen. It's never too late people. Lived 3 twenty year spans planning to enjoy the 4th as the real me. Remember, transgender people are ordinary people, some of us are jerks, and some of us are wonderful human beings.
Hi, i just found you young cuties, thanks for sharing your stories with all of us out here. It does really mean a lot. Ive been quietly transitioning for close to 2 years now. to be honest, i'm damn frightened, especially with all that has been happening with anti-trans rhetoric from the conservatives lately. I have been coming out to the various folk in my life. my grown daughter rejected me and whats worse, she is queer with trans friends... That one kinda hit hard. i've been asked by a few of my gay friends the "why cant you just be a fem man?" and just after i had FFS, a friend came to the hospital to visit me and thats when i came out to him. the first question he asked was "so, are you gonna chop off your d#*k and do that whole thing?". I didn't know how to answer that direct question and it embarrassed me greatly. Its funny to me how there are such regular and universal questions that folks feel the need to ask. I must go now. thanks again for sharing your stories with all of us, being out in the public eye isnt easy so im happy someone is doing it. Im a goldsmith and i thought it would be fun to make a series where i make jewelry and talk talk about queer issues and whatnot. "the queer jeweler" is what i think i would call it. but, im kinda shy so i likely wont be doing that any time soon... :) bye bye, much luv...
@@WivesVsWorld yes we are 🥰 I was watching this om the way home from Copenhagen after given an interview about being transgender to help a journalist student on a project 😂 so i laughed my ass of in the S-train, when you talked about being asked "the question", because it was that absurd that i literally just had answered questions about SRS on why and what it would mean for me.. 😂
@@KamillaMirabelle hhahaha that's so interesting!! Those kind of questions sure are inescapable! Sometimes they're important of course but it's just funny that we've all experienced being asked it haha
@@WivesVsWorld the context made it okay, and it was more with the scope on how it affected my self image, and on the hoops we need to jump through, to get promision.. But if any guy get the courage to ask me about me down there.. my answer is always "independent on if i got SRS or not i still got bigger balls than you" 😂
Hi. Just found your channel, watched and subscribed! I'm a 66yr old Bri-ish genderfluid person. I enjoyed your video very much, you seem a wonderful couple. I've been ill for about 10yrs, well that is when I had to drop most of my work commitments, the symptoms actually started many years before that. In fact it turned out I had multiple medical conditions including one congenital heart issue that I knew about but it was incorrectly diagnosed, (back in the 50s & 60s they only had X-rays and electrocardiographs) using an MRI scanner Papworth heart hospital in Cambridge England were able to re-diagnose the problem which is worse than originally thought, (I am reminded of Spike Milligan's grave stone, something like, "See, I told you I was ill!), but now it is medicated so I no longer suffer arrhythmia and high blood pressure but I still get very breathless which was an issue with diagnosis because of overlaping symptoms with a couple of lung conditions I have. There are other conditions and diabetes was missed for many years. Now I am medicated as well as I can be, 12 daily medications and 3 others as necessary, my mind has gone to thinking about my gender identity for the first time in many years, I used to present my own version of feminine quite often when I lived in cities, but for many years now I have just pottered around the countryside in a tee-shirt, jogging bottoms, trainers and a hoodie, no parties or festivals just a garden and workshop. Medication has made me quite asexual, I'm just not interested, however I would still like to change my default gender, it is not a sexual thing and if medically possible I would like to go on to HRT and associated drugs, although right now I am trying to lose a lot of weight I have put on over the last 10yrs. I may also consider some limited facial surgery around my eyes. Britian is one of the worst places in Europe to be trans, political parties both left and right have stoked up transphobic fear to get votes and laws are being passed that will affect trans people badly when it comes to health care. I will have to go private or DIY as the waiting list to see a NHS gender clinic takes 5 to 20yrs, and that is for a initial consultation not actual treatment. There are so many hoops to jump through and the danger is of one consultant refusing treatment after waiting many years. Also I am not very mobile and none of the clinics are not close to me. I fear the subtleties of genderfluid may be lost on some consultants. I personally believe in self identification, go to doctor, ask for HRT and associated blockers etc and leave, it's our bodies! I would like a doctor involved though just in case there are complications with my other drugs and conditions, diabetes isn't great for transitioning but if I can lose the weight and stick to by low carb low sugar Mediterranean diet, (I really enjoy it!) it should not be a problem to take HRT. I think I will be happier with transitioning and I don't consider my age an issue, I still have shoulder length hair and no visible adams apple, I have little body and facial hair, what there is can probably be lasered or electrolysis removed, I used to use wax but I think I just want it gone now. However being a woman is so much more to me than looks and clothes, I think it is about have different emotions to men and that I feel very out of place in an all male environment, I always have. I don't get the banter nor sometimes the violence that men have to find an outlet for, whether it is a contact sport or just aggression. As I say I first had thoughts that I might be girl years before I knew anything about sex, and now after being very sexually active with partners for a lot of my life I have gone full circle and lost my interest in sex completely, but I still think about my gender. Stay safe and stay fabulous, and a Happy Pride Month to all! 💐🦕💃⚔️👗😌🐈⬛🐕😼♥️☕🥖🧀🇪🇺🇺🇦🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈💐
I know when I was 12 ish toooo, but I didn't transition until 26, but thankfully I am lucky and have a wonderful supportive partner and feel fairly comfortable in my body because I got "lucky" enough. Very tough to live with dysphoria for 15 years, but still around and doing well somehow! Good luck to you
Realising right at the beginning of puberty is its own special kind of hell 😅💔 Happy to hear you're doing well, and thanks for commenting and watching ❤️❤️❤️
@@WivesVsWorld I bet. I have read and listened to a lot of stories. I definitely knew I was a girl "trapped in the wrong body" at about 10, but I didn't know about transition until 24/25, and genuinely lived in serious pain daily for over a decade. It's starting to feel like a distant painful memory though.
You both are really beautiful the reason why I say that is because I am straight and asexual and I am glad you guys answered these questions because I have been thinking about this a lot if I end up dating a trans girl someday in the future I honestly would be ok with that because I was brought up to be accepting of everyone and not judge a book by it's cover my mom and sister and two gay cousins got me to be accepting of the LGBTQ community 😊
My wife came out to me less than a year before our wedding. I just said "I know" and then she came out to our friends and I sent out a second round of wedding invites with her new name.
Never been a fan of the "straight with extra steps" comment. Worst part is that it's usually said by someone in the community trying to purity test me. I'm a transfem and one of my partners is a transmasc. While I guess you could call that relationship "straight", we're both bi (we have other partners of many genders), and aside from surface level gender presentation, there's really not much "straight" about our relationship at all.
The viewers of this channel really get it! Such wonderful people here! Jackie and Anya are so amazing but so are all of you. It really gives me hope. Thank you!🙏
This made us so, so happy ❤️ Never forget: your happiness and joy and unity is an act of defiance and it makes a difference ❤️
So, you fell in love with Jackie before she started transitioning?
Anya, that's called "preordering" in some sapphic circles.
Omg that's so funny and so true! ❤️
I also got “preordered” by my very lesbian, NOT into dudes wife :)
@@bellona0544 hell yea!
As someone who who was born with a intersex body I had 28 surgeries for various things. Not all were sexual related to my birth development. I used to be very secretive in my youth about such things but gradually have become open. Now Ive pulled back form telling everything about myself. My wife of 51 years realizes I am both male and female but she loves me for who I am. All anyone can ask for.
Yeah it's interesting how much we feel like sharing of ourselves or feel like we owe sharing to the world! I'm so happy your wife loves you just as you are ❤️ thank you for watching!
❤ 😢 ❤❤❤
How can someone be both male and female?
@@defennia They're intersex meaning they have some parts of both. Being intersex is a lot more complicated than that but it's a start for any research you might want to do.
@@defennia My testis failed to develop properly. One testis remained as a ovotestis and the other only grew to about half of normal size. In addition my body developed a number of mature germ cell teratoma the were huge. One of these in particular grew to 17.5 cm and had limbs, eyes, skin, bones ect. It wasn't a twin it was comprised of germ cell tissue from my own gestation. That is what I mean by being part male and female. Ive had many surgeries ,cancer and other effects from this. In fact my cancer took the form of ovarian cancer because the one testis did not develop as a testis but more along the lines of ovarian tissue.
My one small testis did partly develop and I did marry. As you would expect there were always difficulties. We managed with love of one another.
Life hasn't been easy but I had great employment and medical insurance that provided needed income.
Over time surgeries have stripped away many of the female parts but physiologically my mindset is that of a women in many ways.
If that were not bad enough Ive always wished to fully transition to female since I am half way there now. But because my cancers took the form of ovarian cancer taking estrogen would cause the cancer to return.
For me this is the heart breaking aspect of all this for me. I have a women who deeply cares about me and will accept me for who I am but becoming that person will kill me.
What would you do?
So I try to live my life as well as I can and share my story. Age is against me now and my spouse may pass before me. In that event Ill go against the doctors orders and take estrogen to become who I truly am and join my love if need be.
As a trans woman, I find the whole "gay-straight" question a bit funny now. Being gay or straight really only works based on the gender of the person being described relative to the gender of the person they're attracted to. Having been married to a woman for a long time, when I transitioned, suddenly I went from being straight, to being a lesbian, even though my attraction to women never changed. I find it better to say "female attracted" or "male attracted" or "attracted to everything" or whatever. My wife is also kind of offended now that people express surprise at her accepting my transition so easily, with the assumption being that she was so straight to begin with.
Hahaha yess exactly! And omg I agree so much with your wife 😂🙌
There is also the nature of the relationship. How one approaches the pairing. It isn’t really about the parts as much as how the two* people relate to each other. A woman with a pre-transition (or non-transition) trans woman has always been in a sapphic relationship to begin with.
The parts really don’t make such a big difference. Unless they do, but it seems like that is more to do with external perception and shame.
This realization can be disturbing to some people because it causes cognitive dissonance and internal confusion.
This exactly, I identify as not having any gender at all and I can't be straight or gay because you need a gender for that, those lables just don't make sense like that. I'm just attracted to femininty ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
I think labeling sexuality probably largely came to prominence so that Christians could figure out whether someone was sinning or not. I think I've read something that suggested super-early Christianity didn't care, and that it was some later era when (probably asexual) people decided that sex was icky and that no one, especially gay people, should be having it.
Of course, play that against "be fruitful and multiply" and you've got a wild dichotomy and another reason against gay sex.
@@thisolddown"The parts really don't make such a big difference. Unless they do, but it seems like that is more to do with external perception and shame."
You might not be saying this, but just in case: I think it is okay for someone to have a genital preference along with preference for someone who is sexual or asexual.
If a person is interested in women and also someone with a vagina, then that's not transphobic in itself. Perhaps that person would get along well with a post op trans woman. Now if they can't be civil and treat her as sub human, that's transphobic.
Or maybe someone is asexual and they want a romantic partnership with a woman, and because they don't expect sex to be part of the equation, they might not care about the genital configuration.
Or you can be like my girlfriend who expected to be like that first example (wanting a woman with a vagina) and being surprised when she discovered that she was attracted to me regardless.
"did you have the surgery" yeah man i had my gallbladder removed like 6 years ago. what a ridiculously invasive question to ask somebody
It feels on par with walking up to a stranger and asking, "Hey, could you tell me about your butthole?" I'd totally ask my husband this, but asking a stranger is out of the question.
Perfect... I'm going to use - "Had my Tonsils removed as a child." 😊
My spouse and I traded pronouns. We refer to it as reverse-straight or super straight, although we're both bi. 😂 Married 15 years with 3 kids. Go queer love! 😊
That's so cute and so funny 😂❤️❤️❤️
Now that's straight with extra steps XD
That is amazing, but just as a little headsup if you didn't know: Superstraight has become kind of a loaded term because it's now used by people who categorically refuse to date trans people. They use the lable as an excuse to say "The fact that I would never ever date a trans person IS my sexuality, therefore you're not allowed to criticize me or you're discriminating/being bigoted." Now, what you two have seems to have nothing to do with that at all, but if you would use the term "superstraight", people sadly might misunderstand and associate that with said transphobic group. "Reverse-straight" sounds awesome though!
went aaaaaal the way around. but the important thing is, did you bring souvenirs?
@@rarazalproductions519 There shoudl be a sexuality for people who will date trans men and women but not nonbinary
Second comment. When I first started HRT I wrote on my bathroom mirror “Thank you” as a reminder to my current self how much transition was necessary for my old self to continue on with life. Then I wrote “It’s OK to not be 100% sure” as a reminder that many life changing choices are made when we are not 100%, getting married, buying a house, having children, quitting a job, we can never truly know 100% if a choice is right until we make it and see how things go.
So, so true ❤️ I'm so glad you point this out. I feel like this is so important to let others know, especially those questioning ✨️
i have a "text box" from the game undertale that says "despite everything its still you!"
omg, that is the mot beautiful comment! 💖💖 I can't even tell you how much I love this!
That's really beautiful :) Like I'm tearing up. I never thought of thanking myself for transitioning, though I honestly should. It's definitely the best decision I ever made.
That's beautiful. I'm not trans, but we all have our issues. I may write myself some notes!
"How did you know you were gay" ... I dunno, how did you know you were straight? I think this question is the absolute perfect emblem for how far we still have to come as an accepting society.
Exactly, thank you 👏❤️👏❤️
Unless it's coming from someone who's trying to figure it out themselves. Maybe just say "Why, are you questioning?"
the opening bit is so funny
anytime someone asks me that imma be like "yeah i got my soul removed" or something batshit insane like that
Please do that omg ❤️
That would be the perfect response! I'm going with "yes, I got it removed! you know.. my appendix" 🤣
"Why can't you just be a feminine man?" As if I hadn't tried that before. Wasn't for me. But I am waaay more comfortabale with my "masculine" side as a women now
Yesss relatable! Also, additionally, as if we haven't seen how society treats feminine men 🙄
31 year old norwegian transwoman here, just really wanted to say how much of a deeply helpful comfort experience these videos are since I found the channel in December.
Currently stuck waiting for oestrogen forever as we only receive it from Oslo up here because screw the districts so it takes tiiiiiime
Love hearing both of your experiences ❤️
Only miiildly envious of such a lovely relationship 😅
Heard from another Norweigan that things were moving at a glacial pace up there, hopefully it will get to you soon! ❤️
We're so happy to have you, thanks for commenting ☺️❤️
The two of you are awesome!
I love how squeaky and pitched Anya's voice gets when she is getting wound up. lol. And the rake???? So funny.
You just gotta know exactly what buttons to push to activate it 😂
Jackie: It's not like I have a degradation fetish
Anya: Has the most "suuuure" look ever.
God I loved that bit. 😂 Great video as usual and I loved the clip of bi Moxxie 😂
I'm happy you enjoyed it! Hahha yesss we love Moxxie 🙌
Anya winking the whole time Jackie is saying “I don’t like being belittled” is peak wives.
Glad that's the brand we've established 😂❤️
I want to thank you both for being so open and easy to understand. I play d&d with group that includes 2 wonderful trans people, both of whom are over 30 years younger than me. Listening to you both and thinking about your discussions has been a really education for me and helped me to understand how they might feel about life and themselves in general. I was born in the 60's and my sexual education might be described as minimally minimal! With your help, its wonderful to find that whilst bigotry and transphobia still exist within a minority, underneath I believe the vast majority to be supportive and accepting. Myself included. My life is better for knowing them. Thank you again. 🕊
HOW did I not know this channel existed? INSTANT sub! Finding trans creators further along than me gives me so much hope. Thank you ;-;
Thank YOU for subscribing 🥰❤️
thank you as always you too. i'm a transwoman from france and those last few days have been really difficult mentally (because of politics), and having this kind of content to relax is really helpful.
(also i love how anya is smooching jackie on the cheek randomly, i do the same to my gf very often (i'm the clingy one). oh that's a good question for next time : who's the clingy one? :p)
Yeah, the political climate is really rough to deal with sometimes 💔
Hahaha I'm glad you enjoy that! Great question, it's going right into the q&a 🥰
💔same🫂
I’m so glad that I subscribed to your RUclips channel. You both are such a breath of fresh air, that it makes my day to listen to your comments. Your love and kindness comes through every time. As long as you two keep posting, I’ll be watching. ❤
So so happy to hear that!! Thank you so much for brightening our day with your kind words! 🥰 so happy to have you here. We'll keep posting for sure! We have much more silliness to share!
You two are a delight to watch and an adorable couple! Thank you for turning what has clearly been a long series of frustrating interactions into an entertaining and informative video. Keep being awesome!
The oddest question I got was from someone who misunderstood and thought I was a transman (I'm actually a transwoman but back then I kept a lot of feelings to myself) and asked me "Did you transition so you could be called-up? I just thought people transitioned to get out of conscription."
My answer was that Britain doesn't have national service anymore.
This video was just recommended to me, and I had to subscribe! I love the way you talk to each other, and the way you present your information to your audience.
Thank you so much, that means a lot ❤️❤️
Thank you! As a transman (transitioned 19 years ago) it was amazing to hear the insight of being perceived in an infantilised and less than. I experience that more in the medical care realm, but, living in a very rural area I've gained male privilege and it's honestly a mind fuck. I am granted space, opinions, clout, and the ability to not apologise. I try not to take this for granted, yet in society, it is so easy to do so. I would be curious to know how your experience Jackie has been in this way. Thank you again for creating such wonderful content!
That is such an interesting question! I'll put that down as a video idea for the future. And thank you so much for sharing your experience ❤️
I love how natural and honest you are in your videos!....for many square heads it's impossible understand your videos
As a lesbian, I support my sisters.
two trans people who are mtf and ftm being together after transitioning is being straight with extra steps.
and you said this as I was typing it out! great minds think alike
Hahha exactly! It's baffling why people keep calling US that 😂
Another question they often ask is “What was your name before?”, so basically asking for your deadname if you have one, and the thing is usually they are not coming from a bad place, just curious, but I’m really uncomfortable telling it for multiple reasons, and so I wouldn’t do it, but the thing is I often feel like if you don’t answer, people will actually take it personally and won’t understand why it is such a big deal to you, so the few times I have been asked, I have answered, but I should really stop doing this in the future and learn to set boundaries
Oh right, how could we forget the dead name question!! Also an absolute classic! Yes people so badly want to know and "they're just curious". And as you say, if people didn't take it as a personal offence when you declined answering their questions, maybe we'd be more comfortable with getting asked questions! You're absolutely valid in not wanting to tell them and it's absolutely okay to have boundaries ❤️
You two are doing what most fail to do: You are talking openly (to an extent-I respect that) and kindly about a complex theme. Gender identity is just one of the complex themes that need that. You are showing courage and many of the good qualities of the persons you are. Congratulations! Please, stay the route and be patient, and compassionate, with society. Not all who may make mistakes interacting w/ you have bad intent or mean to be disrespectful. Ignorance and dogmas are plagues in society. I myself have a lot to learn. I wish you both healthy and prosperous lives.
I loved this, and there was so much good stuff in this. And I'm definitely sharing this with people who get that look, and you know what they're going to say. And you're just waiting for them to drop the "I'm curious about some things, can I ask you some questions?" *sigh* Now they'll get the link to this video, because you covered it all wonderfully.
But all that aside, mostly I just want a little audio clip of you two saying "hoooormones!"
Please do! Send them our way so we can deal with them instead!! 😂
I'll have to see if I can extract that from the raw footage one day then 😉
first time seeing a video, immediate sub. y'all got such a good energy, its really refreshing to see people having light hearted conversation and joke around with these, at best, annoying questions. much love
Aw that's so wonderful! Thank you so much for saying that 🥰 yeah, we felt like the world needed a little more loving lighthearted silliness for people like us ✨️
Hi! I’m a 25 y/o trans woman who started hrt last year and have been with my (cis) wife for ten years (married for 3). I just found your channel and I’m so inspired by the two of you living your best life. Being trans is extremely hard especially when I don’t pass but you two give me so much hope for what my future can be. Thank you for being authentically yourselves which isn’t always easy on the internet 🩷
Awww you're the sweetest ;A; thank you so much for your kind words and we're so happy we can provide a bit of hope and joy ❤️ we try our best to keep the authenticity and it means a lot that it's appreciated ✨️
Just came across you both. Its really cool, my wife and I have the same dynamic. I'm trans, we consider ourselves a lesbian couple. Its funny to me that we often don't really think about us being anything different than others. I have to sort of spend a moment to remember, oh yea, we're a little bit different. It is nice to hear from others like us. Thank you for sharing.
Definitely know that feeling! I mostly remember when met with people being ignorant haha.
Thank you so much ❤️
Regarding the question about surgeries, my answer is "For those that need to know about my personal, intimate, medical history I'm happy to discuss that when the time is right."
That's a great way to answer that question 😂
I'm trans and came out after I was married to my wife (who is cis) I'm glad to see content this relatable. I don't see many couples in a similar situation to me and my wife. (My wife honestly noticed i was trans before I came to the self realization)
Aww that's so sweet!
Exactly, there isn't a lot of representation for people like us out there. So happy you're here ✨️
I think the correct answer to "how do you have sex?" has to be "check my OF."
If they come back later saying they can't find you on OF you say "there's a reason for that."
If they STILL don't get it ask them how they cope with autism.
That's honestly not a bad answer hahhaha ❤️
First video I've watched from you two and I already love your senses of humor, 6:28 had me laughing so hard 😂
"I dabbled in the... human form"
"One could say 👀"
Hahaha, thank you so much ❤️
If anything we've learned that were an acquired taste, but it seems like RUclips has been working overtime to get our silly videos out to those who would appreciate them 😂❤️
> couldn't you just be happy living as a man?
My response is something along the lines of 'B*tch, I tried. It didn't work out.'.
I don't think people realise that regretting not transitioning is a much bigger danger and is much more likely for trans people.
Right? The feeling of time running out is something I think many trans people experience, and its heartbreaking :c
@@WivesVsWorld the regret of not realising sooner and taking so long to put it all together is the thing that upsets me most about transition, but it sounds like you put it together way before me.
@RoseHastie I just wish people hadn't been so adamant trying to dissuade me, you know?
@@WivesVsWorld feel like coming out year before last, I have been incredibly lucky in that regard that I'm only aware of one relationship that is more difficult now due to transitioning stuff, everyone else has been really supportive about it but I was in the middle of a mental health crisis in early 2020 (a couple of months before COVID 19 kicked off) and for about 3 months after I was a complete mess and so I think people were just happy I didn't want to die.
@@WivesVsWorld but I'm really sorry to hear that was your experience. The amount of trauma carried in our community from so many factors is incredibly stark to me. I'm autistic and probably ADHD and carry lots of trauma /have rejection sensitivity dysphoria now too.
I must thank the algorithm for dragging me here. It's a wonderful channel here
Praise the algorithm 🙌❤️
Haha, just kidding, welcome to the channel 🥰
i am really loving your channel. you guys have the same kind of personality as i do, so it feels like i am sitting with 2 other like minded friends in the room. i could just watch you guys all day talk about the weather, cats, taking out the trash. ok, maybe not the trash, i have to do that at two houses and its annoying. LOVE YOU BOTH !!
Hahah this is so sweet! ❤️ so happy you're enjoying the videos! 🥰❤️
Hahah this is so sweet! ❤️ so happy you're enjoying the videos! 🥰❤️
I love how Jackie is talking about her experience as a trans woman and Anya is just sitting next to her being gay af.
Hahaha, we do what we do best I guess 😅❤️
Peak content
One I had recently was, "if only the world was less gendered, then you wouldn't have had to transition ... ". I guess it's like the 'feminine man' point. I didn't even know where to start in response. They meant well, but. ... 🤦🏻♀️
Basically 😅
If only this, if only that... Well, that's not how the world works right now, so what a thing to say, you know?
I used to believe a variant of this, but since then I’ve come to realise that some of the gender differences have their roots in biological sex differences, and are unlikely to ever go away.
For example: women seem to statistically be less interested in engineering, and men less interested in nursing and other “feminine” jobs. This difference persists even in the most equal societies.
To be clear: this does not mean your abilities are dictated by sex or gender. Women can be great engineers and men can be great nurses. It’s just that most of them apparently prefer different jobs and interests.
In science and engineering we say: “all models are wrong, some models are useful.” Labelling people as “men” and “women” is useful because it reflects a natural pattern that most people fall into. Where it becomes dangerous is when that labelling is made prescriptive and forced on people.
And coming back to the original point: yes, feminine men and masculine women exist, and are different from transgender men or women. I myself am definitely more feminine than the average straight cis male, but still identify as a man overall.
@@eypandabear7483 yes, well, regardless of a gendered society, I am who I am, and I've always known myself to be that. It's what it all boils down to really. 🙂
@@leannetaylor3840 Yep. It's your meatsuit. Definitely adjust it to your liking!
@@eypandabear7483the engineering thing isn't true in South Korea, where it is a female profession. Culture counts for far more than biology.
Kinda sad and weird that I've heard so many of those questions by strangers myself. Have they never heard of the word boundaries?
On a side note, love your content so much. You are so funny and relatable.
It's a rite of passage for many at this point 😅
Thank you so much! Never expected to be relatable, but there are more of us out there than we were led to believe ❤️
I liked the first response best, Q: "How do you guys have sex?" A: "Yes". Lol! You two are super-cool!
Hahaah stupid questions get stupid answers 😂
Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️
1. when i was 13 praying i had a vagina lol, but truly when i got older and hated being identified as a man
2.father isn't in my life, he knows but doesn't approve. mom tolerates me, but won't go out of her way to be supportive
3. always have been, but really embraced it post transition rather than before
4. i have always answered this question by saying, "all of my relationships were never straight, i brought the queerness into any relationship i've been in"
5. i always just tell people it's none of their business
6. if it's someone i know intimately, i always just say yes they are. but if it's someone i don't feel super comfortable with i just say, "what do you hope to accomplish by asking this question?"
7. "strange thing to ask me"
8. i highly doubt i will, but in the event i do i'll cross that road when i get there. but as things stand now if i had to de-transition i wouldn't be on earth anymore
10. I love men and men are cool! however the harm patriarchy has done to men is innumerable, and the attitudes and perspective some men take on when faced with a transwomen often become violent.
11. the physical difference that comes with still having t in my body is more than enough to not even give a single thought to be a fem man. But also the ridicule i would receive for being a fem man would ultimately not be worth it. i'd rather deal with the extra hate of being trans but being myself fully
Great video. Thank you. Both of you are a delight.
Yes, i know that feeling. I cant tell you why, but there is no doubt. It is.
Thank you so much ❤️ so happy to hear that ✨️
Honestly you give me hope that I can achieve I a life/ self I want, both of you have amazing personalities and make me want to put effort into making my life better.
Thank you both for being so cool, cute and wholesome (sometimes lol).
Thank you for that very nice comment, and thanks for watching ❤️
Hahaha, we sure try but fail to be wholesome from time to time 😂
I’m a trans woman named Jackie. I have a very critical question for Jackie specifically.
Is your legal name Jackie or did you do like some variation of Jacquelyn? I went with just Jackie and some people are shocked that it isn’t short for anything!
What a coincidence!
Jackie's legal name is Jackie but since it's not a very common name here in Denmark, people are more confused about where she's from rather than it being short for anything 😂 afaik she's never been asked that. But Jackie is definitely a gorgeous name in its own right! ❤️
As usual, you are both utterly charming and delightful!
@elijahmarie77444 ummm... yeah, I guess....
That's so sweet of you, thank you so much ❤️
I am so impressed with your openness to engage here. I hope the very best for you both! I feel like I know none of this is my business to ask anyone that I’m not close with. That doesn’t of course mean I’m not curious. Mostly I just hope to show support.
Thank you so much for your work here.
That's so kind of you to say, thank you so much ❤️✨️
omg! first video that I've seen of yours. I LOVE this. I've recently realised I'm trans and still navigating through this.
Subbed and the "bell" is on!
I love both of your energies!
We're so happy to have you, thank you for subscribing 🥰❤️
Watching you interacting with each other is so beautiful, it is so wonderful watching you, it is so obvious that you are both deeply in love and it is beautiful 💗🏳⚧💗
Glad you found each other.
Same 🥰❤️
I sympathize. So many people have asked me variations of these same questions throughout my transition. So frustrating. I only want to know the answer to one question. How are you two such an adorable couple?
P.S. I'm reading this great fantasy romance book right now. I just got to a part where the protagonist is showing a lovely young man around a secluded garden. It seems like the author was having a great time describing all of the plants. Maybe she's a botanist....
Yeah, these questions really seem inescapable! Hahaha you're too sweet ❤️
Aaaaaahhhhh!! You just totally made my day by saying this 🥲 I'm so so happy you're enjoying the book ❤️ and love that you thought about the plant descriptions! Thank you so much for your kind words ✨️
❤ Thank you both for this delightful conversation! ❤
Glad you enjoyed it! 😊
It took me a moment to realise that when people ask if you've had "The Surgery" they aren't referring to top surgery, which is the only type of surgery I hear discussed openly by trans people I've met either in person or online and what my brain automatically defaults to. I'm a queer cis woman and while I wouldn't say that I was ever hateful towards trans people, I remember having an aversion towards transness as something unnatural as a teenager. The person I was back then - mostly from lack of exposure - would have defaulted to that question, but now it simply sounds silly to me! With politics being the way they are now, it's somehow comforting to realise that the conditioning I grew up with isn't absolute and it can be changed. People speaking about their experiences and lives openly, no matter how small or insignificant it feels, creates change. ❤
You guys always make my day ;) You both are so funny and quirky and sweet, perfect combination ! And the love between you 2 is endearing. I am a newly discovered trans, meaning a man who feels like a woman and so wished it was like that, except I discovered this 6 months ago at the tender age of 67... Better laugh ! Its tough for me as I wonder how will I be able to go on, and how to deal with it. My girl friend just left me as she couldnt cope "this is not for me'! SO your videos of this love working out between you 2 is SOOO good to see. I wish you the very best ! You give me lots of hope ;)
PS I forgot to say my first wife was Danish and I do recognize some of the humor and manerisms, very nice.
So so happy to hear we could bring a smile to your face!!
Oh how wonderful to have discovered yourself finally ❤️ such a beautiful thing! We wish you so much love and strength on the journey 🥰
Oh how interesting! Now we're wondering which mannerisms are especially Danish 😂
@@WivesVsWorld Yes dear, It is wonderful, a very moving thing to experience. It seems a way to love or honor oneself in a totally new way. and it is also quite lonely, at this age ;( I am inwardly happy and here in Canada there will be some help.... after months of waiting.
About being Danish, its a long time ago, but I would say, a sort of subtle, gentle humour, giddy spontaneity, a bit earthy, somewhat understated. Its all subjective and it comes from a French raised "man" (or whatever ;))
I wish someone had a magic wand to turn me into a girl.
Bravo to you and all the trans who persevered to being what they felt, despite the outer criticism, lots of love
Love you both.
Anya so totally eyeing Jackie’s boobs for that entire segment. During the coffee sip you can see how happy it makes her. 🥰
My own partner was never really attracted to boobs but know that I have them she realized how nice they are. I’m a B cut after 6 months on Estradiol and it’s so much about genetics and random chance.
Hahhha I sure do love them, can't run from that 🥲🙌
Awww that's so nice! And you've sure been lucky 🥳
Watching your interaction and connection was sooo cute! I feel kind of jealous of this kind of relationship, as someone who hasn't even kissed anyone (skill issue, as well as unresolved baggage, don't ask).
The video was informative but it also gave me hope somehow.
I subscribed instantly 😊
I wish you good luck in all your endeavours.
Kind regards from Iceland.
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Realising this isn't technically supposed to be a funny topic. But you two are very funny together. Great video and an entertaining couple. Of course very complicated topic tackled well with I think a lot of honesty that you didn't have to tackle but your answers are so inciteful. Well done. Great video 😊
Haha aww this is so sweet! Thank you so much 🥰 really glad you enjoyed it. We have the most fun when we approach our topics with humor haha, so I'm really glad it's appreciated ❤️
17:57 I like to make an big decision based on the premise of which option has the potential to be regretted most, and I find that, despite our instinctive feeling that inaction is safer, it's often the things we wanted to do but never did that we're most likely to regret.
That's true!
I really enjoyed listening to both of you and also watching your loving/supportive interactions throughout the video. " HOW IS THAT A RAKE!"😂.
So real. Thank you for sharing. 💐🧡💐
"I love men... you just don't need them to live" God, I LOVE Cher
She knows what's up 🙌
First time watching and great to have some serious with some great laughs. Bless you both and live your fullest lives without care. 💕🙏
We try our best ❤️
Thanks for watching 🥰
I’d offer another possible motive for the question, “how do you get along with your parents?” Every family has its own culture, and for some people, their relationship with (and responsibility for) their parents may be the most important factor in whether or not to come out. I suspect the unspoken part of the question is “is there any way I can imagine coming out without losing my family?”
I'm a post op transgirl but I really do hate labels I'd rather identify as human but yes we do need community's to help us feel safe in today's world . Love is love ❤️ hugs to all
Lots of dehumanization necessary for some folks to feel entitled to answers to certain questions or to make certain assumptions. The worst for me is how my orientation looks to them when they invalidate my identity. Like I'm woman first and like women second. If they understand that they realize its not straight with extra steps..
Right?? The lack of decorum is astonishing sometimes tbh
Thanks for the video sweet wives, I always enjoy seeing your two. Love to you both, Cheers! :)
Thank you so much for watching! So happy you enjoyed it and it brought you a bit of cheer 🥰 love right back at you!
Found you and fell instantly in love with this channel❤
Greetings from a trans lesbian from Austria🇦🇹🏳️⚧️
Aww that's amazing! So happy to have you here ❤️
Omg I (Anya) am in saalbach right now! 😍 Austria is such a beautiful country!
no one ever asks straight people - when did you know you were straight. Maybe we should. Asking this question will shed some light on attitudes. in 1987 I was working at a Hospital making slides for doctors. A book said- most people have specific ideas about what constitutes what is Male and what is Female- biology has its own ideas. I have a gay buddy who is married to.a man. I've known him 2 years and in this time his partner has transitioned to being a woman. This transition is complete in my mind. My frind is happy and still very much in love- so that is what counts.
That's honestly such a good quote! I really like that ❤️
As a cis straight-ish male I realize that I have no idea what it's like getting the most inappropriate questions thrown at you all the time because of your gender or sexuality.
I like to ask my queer friends lots of things, but it often comes from a place of trying to understand and get a feeling for what their struggles are.
So I was thinking that you might be assuming questions come from a more unsupportive place than they are.
But watching the whole video I must say, you reminded me very well that everyone has boundaries and it sucks to be reduced to beeing queer in any way.
And I have to say, I couldn't imagine beeing reminded of that in a more fun yet clear way.
Also, I loved the music. Really glad that the algorithm brought me here :)
Very thoughtful comment, thanks ❤️
And thank you for watching - the algorithm really did us a favour this time 😊
This is by far my favorite channel. Gives me hope that one day I will happiness being my true self 💜💜💜
Thank you so much! ❤️
We are rooting for you!
You got this!💜💜💜
No questions just a wish that you continue to live your best lives.
Can do 🫡❤️
Have a great day! 💕
As long as you're happy together, nothing else matters ❤
I'm transgender female and I also am married to a transgender female, and we are both previously married parents. Neither of us are particularly concerned with the thoughts of boring cis people. I have had GRS. And good luck figuring out our pronouns. Neither of us worry about labelling our sexuality. I'm 62 and my wife is my cute young thing, as she is only 53. Everyone thinks I'm only 40. No complaints. Estrogen, neat shit estrogen. It's never too late people. Lived 3 twenty year spans planning to enjoy the 4th as the real me. Remember, transgender people are ordinary people, some of us are jerks, and some of us are wonderful human beings.
Hi, i just found you young cuties, thanks for sharing your stories with all of us out here. It does really mean a lot. Ive been quietly transitioning for close to 2 years now. to be honest, i'm damn frightened, especially with all that has been happening with anti-trans rhetoric from the conservatives lately. I have been coming out to the various folk in my life. my grown daughter rejected me and whats worse, she is queer with trans friends... That one kinda hit hard. i've been asked by a few of my gay friends the "why cant you just be a fem man?" and just after i had FFS, a friend came to the hospital to visit me and thats when i came out to him. the first question he asked was "so, are you gonna chop off your d#*k and do that whole thing?". I didn't know how to answer that direct question and it embarrassed me greatly. Its funny to me how there are such regular and universal questions that folks feel the need to ask. I must go now. thanks again for sharing your stories with all of us, being out in the public eye isnt easy so im happy someone is doing it. Im a goldsmith and i thought it would be fun to make a series where i make jewelry and talk talk about queer issues and whatnot. "the queer jeweler" is what i think i would call it. but, im kinda shy so i likely wont be doing that any time soon... :) bye bye, much luv...
I just got recommended to your channel & you two are adorable ! 😍 😊
Aww, thank you 🥰
Welcome to the channel ❤️
I simple love Danish humor 😂 we are so fucking dark
We sure are, aren't we 😂
@@WivesVsWorld yes we are 🥰
I was watching this om the way home from Copenhagen after given an interview about being transgender to help a journalist student on a project 😂 so i laughed my ass of in the S-train, when you talked about being asked "the question", because it was that absurd that i literally just had answered questions about SRS on why and what it would mean for me.. 😂
@@KamillaMirabelle hhahaha that's so interesting!! Those kind of questions sure are inescapable! Sometimes they're important of course but it's just funny that we've all experienced being asked it haha
@@WivesVsWorld the context made it okay, and it was more with the scope on how it affected my self image, and on the hoops we need to jump through, to get promision..
But if any guy get the courage to ask me about me down there.. my answer is always "independent on if i got SRS or not i still got bigger balls than you" 😂
@@KamillaMirabelle lolll that's a great answer to have on hand 😂🙌
Hi. Just found your channel, watched and subscribed! I'm a 66yr old Bri-ish genderfluid person. I enjoyed your video very much, you seem a wonderful couple.
I've been ill for about 10yrs, well that is when I had to drop most of my work commitments, the symptoms actually started many years before that. In fact it turned out I had multiple medical conditions including one congenital heart issue that I knew about but it was incorrectly diagnosed, (back in the 50s & 60s they only had X-rays and electrocardiographs) using an MRI scanner Papworth heart hospital in Cambridge England were able to re-diagnose the problem which is worse than originally thought, (I am reminded of Spike Milligan's grave stone, something like, "See, I told you I was ill!), but now it is medicated so I no longer suffer arrhythmia and high blood pressure but I still get very breathless which was an issue with diagnosis because of overlaping symptoms with a couple of lung conditions I have. There are other conditions and diabetes was missed for many years.
Now I am medicated as well as I can be, 12 daily medications and 3 others as necessary, my mind has gone to thinking about my gender identity for the first time in many years, I used to present my own version of feminine quite often when I lived in cities, but for many years now I have just pottered around the countryside in a tee-shirt, jogging bottoms, trainers and a hoodie, no parties or festivals just a garden and workshop.
Medication has made me quite asexual, I'm just not interested, however I would still like to change my default gender, it is not a sexual thing and if medically possible I would like to go on to HRT and associated drugs, although right now I am trying to lose a lot of weight I have put on over the last 10yrs. I may also consider some limited facial surgery around my eyes.
Britian is one of the worst places in Europe to be trans, political parties both left and right have stoked up transphobic fear to get votes and laws are being passed that will affect trans people badly when it comes to health care. I will have to go private or DIY as the waiting list to see a NHS gender clinic takes 5 to 20yrs, and that is for a initial consultation not actual treatment. There are so many hoops to jump through and the danger is of one consultant refusing treatment after waiting many years. Also I am not very mobile and none of the clinics are not close to me. I fear the subtleties of genderfluid may be lost on some consultants.
I personally believe in self identification, go to doctor, ask for HRT and associated blockers etc and leave, it's our bodies! I would like a doctor involved though just in case there are complications with my other drugs and conditions, diabetes isn't great for transitioning but if I can lose the weight and stick to by low carb low sugar Mediterranean diet, (I really enjoy it!) it should not be a problem to take HRT.
I think I will be happier with transitioning and I don't consider my age an issue, I still have shoulder length hair and no visible adams apple, I have little body and facial hair, what there is can probably be lasered or electrolysis removed, I used to use wax but I think I just want it gone now. However being a woman is so much more to me than looks and clothes, I think it is about have different emotions to men and that I feel very out of place in an all male environment, I always have. I don't get the banter nor sometimes the violence that men have to find an outlet for, whether it is a contact sport or just aggression.
As I say I first had thoughts that I might be girl years before I knew anything about sex, and now after being very sexually active with partners for a lot of my life I have gone full circle and lost my interest in sex completely, but I still think about my gender.
Stay safe and stay fabulous, and a Happy Pride Month to all!
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I'm a trans man and I just found your channel! You both are so funny!
Self advocacy is a great thing. If someone asks a question that is out of bounds, it’s okay to say that.
The pause before ".....but you had help either way" lol
I know when I was 12 ish toooo, but I didn't transition until 26, but thankfully I am lucky and have a wonderful supportive partner and feel fairly comfortable in my body because I got "lucky" enough. Very tough to live with dysphoria for 15 years, but still around and doing well somehow! Good luck to you
Realising right at the beginning of puberty is its own special kind of hell 😅💔
Happy to hear you're doing well, and thanks for commenting and watching ❤️❤️❤️
@@WivesVsWorld I bet. I have read and listened to a lot of stories. I definitely knew I was a girl "trapped in the wrong body" at about 10, but I didn't know about transition until 24/25, and genuinely lived in serious pain daily for over a decade. It's starting to feel like a distant painful memory though.
This is so cool, I just found your channel ❤ I'm looking forward to watching your older videos 😊
Welcome to the channel 🥰❤️
Wow came across this channel. What a refreshing view. I get asked often. It is however no one business.
I feel like when cis people say “What if you regret it?” it’s often just an indirect way of saying “You will regret it”.
damn, you two are so nice and comforting to be listening to)) and your example gives me more hope for my life)
Aww thanks, happy to hear that ☺️
Best wishes 🥰❤️
You both are really beautiful the reason why I say that is because I am straight and asexual and I am glad you guys answered these questions because I have been thinking about this a lot if I end up dating a trans girl someday in the future I honestly would be ok with that because I was brought up to be accepting of everyone and not judge a book by it's cover my mom and sister and two gay cousins got me to be accepting of the LGBTQ community 😊
So happy this was helpful! 🥰 I hope you find a wonderful person to be with, regardless of who they are ❤️ best of luck!!
Thank you and I be sure that this person is good to me but we will see never know where the journey will take me 😊💟
I’m new to the channel and am already absolutely in love with you two! 🤭🫶🏻
So happy to have you 😊❤️
25:40 fits me so well, thanks for sharing
So glad to hear that ❤️ thank you for watching!
My wife came out to me less than a year before our wedding. I just said "I know" and then she came out to our friends and I sent out a second round of wedding invites with her new name.
I love your videos!!!! Nice new hair look for both of you!!!
The music in the beginning made me think I was watching Sam O Nella Academy, but I stayed and thank you for sharing!!!
You are very welcome 🤗
I've made a mental note to check out Sam O Nella too, thanks 😊
The wildest question I got was "do you have sex?"
Sir WHAT??
Omg, that's a no-no question 😂😂😂
You probably said "most-asked questions" but it sounded a lot like "most ass questions" and that also works
Honestlyyyyy yeah 😂
17:00 my mom asked me that after i started E. i told her that being dead is kinda more regrettable
Exactly 😭❤️✨️
Oh my God. You two are so funny.
Hahah yay I'm happy you think so! ❤️
@@WivesVsWorld I do. I have really do.
Never been a fan of the "straight with extra steps" comment. Worst part is that it's usually said by someone in the community trying to purity test me. I'm a transfem and one of my partners is a transmasc. While I guess you could call that relationship "straight", we're both bi (we have other partners of many genders), and aside from surface level gender presentation, there's really not much "straight" about our relationship at all.
Thanx for this video. I have missed your videos.
Its 6an and ice been up all night but you two are adorable ❤ I hope you feel loved and appreciated every day
That's so sweet of you, thank you so much ❤️ I hope you get some rest :')