Transgender Couple Answers Most Asked Questions
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- Опубликовано: 14 июн 2024
- From hard hitting questions like "How did you know?" to absolute stupid garbage like "Do you hate men?", we are here to answer the questions we just seem to get over and over and over!
For real, some of these questions will deserve a proper answer and some won't - but it's a grey area, and it's just not possible to outright say that certain questions will never be answered.
It's hard y'all!
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The viewers of this channel really get it! Such wonderful people here! Jackie and Anya are so amazing but so are all of you. It really gives me hope. Thank you!🙏
This made us so, so happy ❤️ Never forget: your happiness and joy and unity is an act of defiance and it makes a difference ❤️
So, you fell in love with Jackie before she started transitioning?
Anya, that's called "preordering" in some sapphic circles.
Omg that's so funny and so true! ❤️
As someone who who was born with a intersex body I had 28 surgeries for various things. Not all were sexual related to my birth development. I used to be very secretive in my youth about such things but gradually have become open. Now Ive pulled back form telling everything about myself. My wife of 51 years realizes I am both male and female but she loves me for who I am. All anyone can ask for.
Yeah it's interesting how much we feel like sharing of ourselves or feel like we owe sharing to the world! I'm so happy your wife loves you just as you are ❤️ thank you for watching!
❤ 😢 ❤❤❤
How can someone be both male and female?
@@defenestratorX They're intersex meaning they have some parts of both. Being intersex is a lot more complicated than that but it's a start for any research you might want to do.
@@defenestratorX My testis failed to develop properly. One testis remained as a ovotestis and the other only grew to about half of normal size. In addition my body developed a number of mature germ cell teratoma the were huge. One of these in particular grew to 17.5 cm and had limbs, eyes, skin, bones ect. It wasn't a twin it was comprised of germ cell tissue from my own gestation. That is what I mean by being part male and female. Ive had many surgeries ,cancer and other effects from this. In fact my cancer took the form of ovarian cancer because the one testis did not develop as a testis but more along the lines of ovarian tissue.
My one small testis did partly develop and I did marry. As you would expect there were always difficulties. We managed with love of one another.
Life hasn't been easy but I had great employment and medical insurance that provided needed income.
Over time surgeries have stripped away many of the female parts but physiologically my mindset is that of a women in many ways.
If that were not bad enough Ive always wished to fully transition to female since I am half way there now. But because my cancers took the form of ovarian cancer taking estrogen would cause the cancer to return.
For me this is the heart breaking aspect of all this for me. I have a women who deeply cares about me and will accept me for who I am but becoming that person will kill me.
What would you do?
So I try to live my life as well as I can and share my story. Age is against me now and my spouse may pass before me. In that event Ill go against the doctors orders and take estrogen to become who I truly am and join my love if need be.
As a trans woman, I find the whole "gay-straight" question a bit funny now. Being gay or straight really only works based on the gender of the person being described relative to the gender of the person they're attracted to. Having been married to a woman for a long time, when I transitioned, suddenly I went from being straight, to being a lesbian, even though my attraction to women never changed. I find it better to say "female attracted" or "male attracted" or "attracted to everything" or whatever. My wife is also kind of offended now that people express surprise at her accepting my transition so easily, with the assumption being that she was so straight to begin with.
Hahaha yess exactly! And omg I agree so much with your wife 😂🙌
There is also the nature of the relationship. How one approaches the pairing. It isn’t really about the parts as much as how the two* people relate to each other. A woman with a pre-transition (or non-transition) trans woman has always been in a sapphic relationship to begin with.
The parts really don’t make such a big difference. Unless they do, but it seems like that is more to do with external perception and shame.
This realization can be disturbing to some people because it causes cognitive dissonance and internal confusion.
This exactly, I identify as not having any gender at all and I can't be straight or gay because you need a gender for that, those lables just don't make sense like that. I'm just attracted to femininty ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
I think labeling sexuality probably largely came to prominence so that Christians could figure out whether someone was sinning or not. I think I've read something that suggested super-early Christianity didn't care, and that it was some later era when (probably asexual) people decided that sex was icky and that no one, especially gay people, should be having it.
Of course, play that against "be fruitful and multiply" and you've got a wild dichotomy and another reason against gay sex.
@@thisolddown"The parts really don't make such a big difference. Unless they do, but it seems like that is more to do with external perception and shame."
You might not be saying this, but just in case: I think it is okay for someone to have a genital preference along with preference for someone who is sexual or asexual.
If a person is interested in women and also someone with a vagina, then that's not transphobic in itself. Perhaps that person would get along well with a post op trans woman. Now if they can't be civil and treat her as sub human, that's transphobic.
Or maybe someone is asexual and they want a romantic partnership with a woman, and because they don't expect sex to be part of the equation, they might not care about the genital configuration.
Or you can be like my girlfriend who expected to be like that first example (wanting a woman with a vagina) and being surprised when she discovered that she was attracted to me regardless.
My spouse and I traded pronouns. We refer to it as reverse-straight or super straight, although we're both bi. 😂 Married 15 years with 3 kids. Go queer love! 😊
That's so cute and so funny 😂❤️❤️❤️
Now that's straight with extra steps XD
That is amazing, but just as a little headsup if you didn't know: Superstraight has become kind of a loaded term because it's now used by people who categorically refuse to date trans people. They use the lable as an excuse to say "The fact that I would never ever date a trans person IS my sexuality, therefore you're not allowed to criticize me or you're discriminating/being bigoted." Now, what you two have seems to have nothing to do with that at all, but if you would use the term "superstraight", people sadly might misunderstand and associate that with said transphobic group. "Reverse-straight" sounds awesome though!
went aaaaaal the way around. but the important thing is, did you bring souvenirs?
@@rarazalproductions519 There shoudl be a sexuality for people who will date trans men and women but not nonbinary
"did you have the surgery" yeah man i had my gallbladder removed like 6 years ago. what a ridiculously invasive question to ask somebody
It feels on par with walking up to a stranger and asking, "Hey, could you tell me about your butthole?" I'd totally ask my husband this, but asking a stranger is out of the question.
Second comment. When I first started HRT I wrote on my bathroom mirror “Thank you” as a reminder to my current self how much transition was necessary for my old self to continue on with life. Then I wrote “It’s OK to not be 100% sure” as a reminder that many life changing choices are made when we are not 100%, getting married, buying a house, having children, quitting a job, we can never truly know 100% if a choice is right until we make it and see how things go.
So, so true ❤️ I'm so glad you point this out. I feel like this is so important to let others know, especially those questioning ✨️
i have a "text box" from the game undertale that says "despite everything its still you!"
omg, that is the mot beautiful comment! 💖💖 I can't even tell you how much I love this!
That's really beautiful :) Like I'm tearing up. I never thought of thanking myself for transitioning, though I honestly should. It's definitely the best decision I ever made.
That's beautiful. I'm not trans, but we all have our issues. I may write myself some notes!
"How did you know you were gay" ... I dunno, how did you know you were straight? I think this question is the absolute perfect emblem for how far we still have to come as an accepting society.
Exactly, thank you 👏❤️👏❤️
the opening bit is so funny
anytime someone asks me that imma be like "yeah i got my soul removed" or something batshit insane like that
Please do that omg ❤️
That would be the perfect response! I'm going with "yes, I got it removed! you know.. my appendix" 🤣
Jackie: It's not like I have a degradation fetish
Anya: Has the most "suuuure" look ever.
God I loved that bit. 😂 Great video as usual and I loved the clip of bi Moxxie 😂
I'm happy you enjoyed it! Hahha yesss we love Moxxie 🙌
31 year old norwegian transwoman here, just really wanted to say how much of a deeply helpful comfort experience these videos are since I found the channel in December.
Currently stuck waiting for oestrogen forever as we only receive it from Oslo up here because screw the districts so it takes tiiiiiime
Love hearing both of your experiences ❤️
Only miiildly envious of such a lovely relationship 😅
Heard from another Norweigan that things were moving at a glacial pace up there, hopefully it will get to you soon! ❤️
We're so happy to have you, thanks for commenting ☺️❤️
The two of you are awesome!
I love how squeaky and pitched Anya's voice gets when she is getting wound up. lol. And the rake???? So funny.
You just gotta know exactly what buttons to push to activate it 😂
thank you as always you too. i'm a transwoman from france and those last few days have been really difficult mentally (because of politics), and having this kind of content to relax is really helpful.
(also i love how anya is smooching jackie on the cheek randomly, i do the same to my gf very often (i'm the clingy one). oh that's a good question for next time : who's the clingy one? :p)
Yeah, the political climate is really rough to deal with sometimes 💔
Hahaha I'm glad you enjoy that! Great question, it's going right into the q&a 🥰
💔same🫂
I’m so glad that I subscribed to your RUclips channel. You both are such a breath of fresh air, that it makes my day to listen to your comments. Your love and kindness comes through every time. As long as you two keep posting, I’ll be watching. ❤
So so happy to hear that!! Thank you so much for brightening our day with your kind words! 🥰 so happy to have you here. We'll keep posting for sure! We have much more silliness to share!
I want to thank you both for being so open and easy to understand. I play d&d with group that includes 2 wonderful trans people, both of whom are over 30 years younger than me. Listening to you both and thinking about your discussions has been a really education for me and helped me to understand how they might feel about life and themselves in general. I was born in the 60's and my sexual education might be described as minimally minimal! With your help, its wonderful to find that whilst bigotry and transphobia still exist within a minority, underneath I believe the vast majority to be supportive and accepting. Myself included. My life is better for knowing them. Thank you again. 🕊
One I had recently was, "if only the world was less gendered, then you wouldn't have had to transition ... ". I guess it's like the 'feminine man' point. I didn't even know where to start in response. They meant well, but. ... 🤦🏻♀️
Basically 😅
If only this, if only that... Well, that's not how the world works right now, so what a thing to say, you know?
I used to believe a variant of this, but since then I’ve come to realise that some of the gender differences have their roots in biological sex differences, and are unlikely to ever go away.
For example: women seem to statistically be less interested in engineering, and men less interested in nursing and other “feminine” jobs. This difference persists even in the most equal societies.
To be clear: this does not mean your abilities are dictated by sex or gender. Women can be great engineers and men can be great nurses. It’s just that most of them apparently prefer different jobs and interests.
In science and engineering we say: “all models are wrong, some models are useful.” Labelling people as “men” and “women” is useful because it reflects a natural pattern that most people fall into. Where it becomes dangerous is when that labelling is made prescriptive and forced on people.
And coming back to the original point: yes, feminine men and masculine women exist, and are different from transgender men or women. I myself am definitely more feminine than the average straight cis male, but still identify as a man overall.
@@eypandabear7483 yes, well, regardless of a gendered society, I am who I am, and I've always known myself to be that. It's what it all boils down to really. 🙂
@@leannetaylor3840 Yep. It's your meatsuit. Definitely adjust it to your liking!
You two are a delight to watch and an adorable couple! Thank you for turning what has clearly been a long series of frustrating interactions into an entertaining and informative video. Keep being awesome!
As usual, you are both utterly charming and delightful!
@elijahmarie77444 ummm... yeah, I guess....
That's so sweet of you, thank you so much ❤️
I sympathize. So many people have asked me variations of these same questions throughout my transition. So frustrating. I only want to know the answer to one question. How are you two such an adorable couple?
P.S. I'm reading this great fantasy romance book right now. I just got to a part where the protagonist is showing a lovely young man around a secluded garden. It seems like the author was having a great time describing all of the plants. Maybe she's a botanist....
Yeah, these questions really seem inescapable! Hahaha you're too sweet ❤️
Aaaaaahhhhh!! You just totally made my day by saying this 🥲 I'm so so happy you're enjoying the book ❤️ and love that you thought about the plant descriptions! Thank you so much for your kind words ✨️
HOW did I not know this channel existed? INSTANT sub! Finding trans creators further along than me gives me so much hope. Thank you ;-;
Thank YOU for subscribing 🥰❤️
I love how natural and honest you are in your videos!....for many square heads it's impossible understand your videos
I must thank the algorithm for dragging me here. It's a wonderful channel here
Praise the algorithm 🙌❤️
Haha, just kidding, welcome to the channel 🥰
I simple love Danish humor 😂 we are so fucking dark
We sure are, aren't we 😂
@@WivesVsWorld yes we are 🥰
I was watching this om the way home from Copenhagen after given an interview about being transgender to help a journalist student on a project 😂 so i laughed my ass of in the S-train, when you talked about being asked "the question", because it was that absurd that i literally just had answered questions about SRS on why and what it would mean for me.. 😂
@@KamillaMirabelle hhahaha that's so interesting!! Those kind of questions sure are inescapable! Sometimes they're important of course but it's just funny that we've all experienced being asked it haha
@@WivesVsWorld the context made it okay, and it was more with the scope on how it affected my self image, and on the hoops we need to jump through, to get promision..
But if any guy get the courage to ask me about me down there.. my answer is always "independent on if i got SRS or not i still got bigger balls than you" 😂
@@KamillaMirabelle lolll that's a great answer to have on hand 😂🙌
It took me a moment to realise that when people ask if you've had "The Surgery" they aren't referring to top surgery, which is the only type of surgery I hear discussed openly by trans people I've met either in person or online and what my brain automatically defaults to. I'm a queer cis woman and while I wouldn't say that I was ever hateful towards trans people, I remember having an aversion towards transness as something unnatural as a teenager. The person I was back then - mostly from lack of exposure - would have defaulted to that question, but now it simply sounds silly to me! With politics being the way they are now, it's somehow comforting to realise that the conditioning I grew up with isn't absolute and it can be changed. People speaking about their experiences and lives openly, no matter how small or insignificant it feels, creates change. ❤
omg! first video that I've seen of yours. I LOVE this. I've recently realised I'm trans and still navigating through this.
Subbed and the "bell" is on!
I love both of your energies!
We're so happy to have you, thank you for subscribing 🥰❤️
I'm a trans man and I just found your channel! You both are so funny!
Hi, i just found you young cuties, thanks for sharing your stories with all of us out here. It does really mean a lot. Ive been quietly transitioning for close to 2 years now. to be honest, i'm damn frightened, especially with all that has been happening with anti-trans rhetoric from the conservatives lately. I have been coming out to the various folk in my life. my grown daughter rejected me and whats worse, she is queer with trans friends... That one kinda hit hard. i've been asked by a few of my gay friends the "why cant you just be a fem man?" and just after i had FFS, a friend came to the hospital to visit me and thats when i came out to him. the first question he asked was "so, are you gonna chop off your d#*k and do that whole thing?". I didn't know how to answer that direct question and it embarrassed me greatly. Its funny to me how there are such regular and universal questions that folks feel the need to ask. I must go now. thanks again for sharing your stories with all of us, being out in the public eye isnt easy so im happy someone is doing it. Im a goldsmith and i thought it would be fun to make a series where i make jewelry and talk talk about queer issues and whatnot. "the queer jeweler" is what i think i would call it. but, im kinda shy so i likely wont be doing that any time soon... :) bye bye, much luv...
Self advocacy is a great thing. If someone asks a question that is out of bounds, it’s okay to say that.
Hi. Just found your channel, watched and subscribed! I'm a 66yr old Bri-ish genderfluid person. I enjoyed your video very much, you seem a wonderful couple.
I've been ill for about 10yrs, well that is when I had to drop most of my work commitments, the symptoms actually started many years before that. In fact it turned out I had multiple medical conditions including one congenital heart issue that I knew about but it was incorrectly diagnosed, (back in the 50s & 60s they only had X-rays and electrocardiographs) using an MRI scanner Papworth heart hospital in Cambridge England were able to re-diagnose the problem which is worse than originally thought, (I am reminded of Spike Milligan's grave stone, something like, "See, I told you I was ill!), but now it is medicated so I no longer suffer arrhythmia and high blood pressure but I still get very breathless which was an issue with diagnosis because of overlaping symptoms with a couple of lung conditions I have. There are other conditions and diabetes was missed for many years.
Now I am medicated as well as I can be, 12 daily medications and 3 others as necessary, my mind has gone to thinking about my gender identity for the first time in many years, I used to present my own version of feminine quite often when I lived in cities, but for many years now I have just pottered around the countryside in a tee-shirt, jogging bottoms, trainers and a hoodie, no parties or festivals just a garden and workshop.
Medication has made me quite asexual, I'm just not interested, however I would still like to change my default gender, it is not a sexual thing and if medically possible I would like to go on to HRT and associated drugs, although right now I am trying to lose a lot of weight I have put on over the last 10yrs. I may also consider some limited facial surgery around my eyes.
Britian is one of the worst places in Europe to be trans, political parties both left and right have stoked up transphobic fear to get votes and laws are being passed that will affect trans people badly when it comes to health care. I will have to go private or DIY as the waiting list to see a NHS gender clinic takes 5 to 20yrs, and that is for a initial consultation not actual treatment. There are so many hoops to jump through and the danger is of one consultant refusing treatment after waiting many years. Also I am not very mobile and none of the clinics are not close to me. I fear the subtleties of genderfluid may be lost on some consultants.
I personally believe in self identification, go to doctor, ask for HRT and associated blockers etc and leave, it's our bodies! I would like a doctor involved though just in case there are complications with my other drugs and conditions, diabetes isn't great for transitioning but if I can lose the weight and stick to by low carb low sugar Mediterranean diet, (I really enjoy it!) it should not be a problem to take HRT.
I think I will be happier with transitioning and I don't consider my age an issue, I still have shoulder length hair and no visible adams apple, I have little body and facial hair, what there is can probably be lasered or electrolysis removed, I used to use wax but I think I just want it gone now. However being a woman is so much more to me than looks and clothes, I think it is about have different emotions to men and that I feel very out of place in an all male environment, I always have. I don't get the banter nor sometimes the violence that men have to find an outlet for, whether it is a contact sport or just aggression.
As I say I first had thoughts that I might be girl years before I knew anything about sex, and now after being very sexually active with partners for a lot of my life I have gone full circle and lost my interest in sex completely, but I still think about my gender.
Stay safe and stay fabulous, and a Happy Pride Month to all!
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Kinda sad and weird that I've heard so many of those questions by strangers myself. Have they never heard of the word boundaries?
On a side note, love your content so much. You are so funny and relatable.
It's a rite of passage for many at this point 😅
Thank you so much! Never expected to be relatable, but there are more of us out there than we were led to believe ❤️
1. when i was 13 praying i had a vagina lol, but truly when i got older and hated being identified as a man
2.father isn't in my life, he knows but doesn't approve. mom tolerates me, but won't go out of her way to be supportive
3. always have been, but really embraced it post transition rather than before
4. i have always answered this question by saying, "all of my relationships were never straight, i brought the queerness into any relationship i've been in"
5. i always just tell people it's none of their business
6. if it's someone i know intimately, i always just say yes they are. but if it's someone i don't feel super comfortable with i just say, "what do you hope to accomplish by asking this question?"
7. "strange thing to ask me"
8. i highly doubt i will, but in the event i do i'll cross that road when i get there. but as things stand now if i had to de-transition i wouldn't be on earth anymore
10. I love men and men are cool! however the harm patriarchy has done to men is innumerable, and the attitudes and perspective some men take on when faced with a transwomen often become violent.
11. the physical difference that comes with still having t in my body is more than enough to not even give a single thought to be a fem man. But also the ridicule i would receive for being a fem man would ultimately not be worth it. i'd rather deal with the extra hate of being trans but being myself fully
Love you both.
Anya so totally eyeing Jackie’s boobs for that entire segment. During the coffee sip you can see how happy it makes her. 🥰
My own partner was never really attracted to boobs but know that I have them she realized how nice they are. I’m a B cut after 6 months on Estradiol and it’s so much about genetics and random chance.
Hahhha I sure do love them, can't run from that 🥲🙌
Awww that's so nice! And you've sure been lucky 🥳
Thanks for the video sweet wives, I always enjoy seeing your two. Love to you both, Cheers! :)
Thank you so much for watching! So happy you enjoyed it and it brought you a bit of cheer 🥰 love right back at you!
Lots of dehumanization necessary for some folks to feel entitled to answers to certain questions or to make certain assumptions. The worst for me is how my orientation looks to them when they invalidate my identity. Like I'm woman first and like women second. If they understand that they realize its not straight with extra steps..
Right?? The lack of decorum is astonishing sometimes tbh
This is by far my favorite channel. Gives me hope that one day I will happiness being my true self 💜💜💜
Thank you so much! ❤️
We are rooting for you!
You got this!💜💜💜
The music in the beginning made me think I was watching Sam O Nella Academy, but I stayed and thank you for sharing!!!
You are very welcome 🤗
I've made a mental note to check out Sam O Nella too, thanks 😊
First video I've watched from you two and I already love your senses of humor, 6:28 had me laughing so hard 😂
"I dabbled in the... human form"
"One could say 👀"
Hahaha, thank you so much ❤️
If anything we've learned that were an acquired taste, but it seems like RUclips has been working overtime to get our silly videos out to those who would appreciate them 😂❤️
I loved this, and there was so much good stuff in this. And I'm definitely sharing this with people who get that look, and you know what they're going to say. And you're just waiting for them to drop the "I'm curious about some things, can I ask you some questions?" *sigh* Now they'll get the link to this video, because you covered it all wonderfully.
But all that aside, mostly I just want a little audio clip of you two saying "hoooormones!"
Please do! Send them our way so we can deal with them instead!! 😂
I'll have to see if I can extract that from the raw footage one day then 😉
Honestly you give me hope that I can achieve I a life/ self I want, both of you have amazing personalities and make me want to put effort into making my life better.
Thank you both for being so cool, cute and wholesome (sometimes lol).
Thank you for that very nice comment, and thanks for watching ❤️
Hahaha, we sure try but fail to be wholesome from time to time 😂
This is so cool, I just found your channel ❤ I'm looking forward to watching your older videos 😊
Welcome to the channel 🥰❤️
You guys always make my day ;) You both are so funny and quirky and sweet, perfect combination ! And the love between you 2 is endearing. I am a newly discovered trans, meaning a man who feels like a woman and so wished it was like that, except I discovered this 6 months ago at the tender age of 67... Better laugh ! Its tough for me as I wonder how will I be able to go on, and how to deal with it. My girl friend just left me as she couldnt cope "this is not for me'! SO your videos of this love working out between you 2 is SOOO good to see. I wish you the very best ! You give me lots of hope ;)
PS I forgot to say my first wife was Danish and I do recognize some of the humor and manerisms, very nice.
So so happy to hear we could bring a smile to your face!!
Oh how wonderful to have discovered yourself finally ❤️ such a beautiful thing! We wish you so much love and strength on the journey 🥰
Oh how interesting! Now we're wondering which mannerisms are especially Danish 😂
@@WivesVsWorld Yes dear, It is wonderful, a very moving thing to experience. It seems a way to love or honor oneself in a totally new way. and it is also quite lonely, at this age ;( I am inwardly happy and here in Canada there will be some help.... after months of waiting.
About being Danish, its a long time ago, but I would say, a sort of subtle, gentle humour, giddy spontaneity, a bit earthy, somewhat understated. Its all subjective and it comes from a French raised "man" (or whatever ;))
I wish someone had a magic wand to turn me into a girl.
Bravo to you and all the trans who persevered to being what they felt, despite the outer criticism, lots of love
I’m new to the channel and am already absolutely in love with you two! 🤭🫶🏻
So happy to have you 😊❤️
damn, you two are so nice and comforting to be listening to)) and your example gives me more hope for my life)
Aww thanks, happy to hear that ☺️
Best wishes 🥰❤️
I love your videos!!!! Nice new hair look for both of you!!!
Thanx for this video. I have missed your videos.
I know someone whose wife is now her husband. The only question I asked about this was if they got any negative reactions and they didn't. Thankful we live in such a progressive time with my Ace self lol xx
As a trans person who's still in the process of figuring themself out, especially sexually, I find this whole taboo around sex and genitals so frustrating... Like how am I going to be able to make an informed decision about what I want in that department if nobody ever talks about it? *sigh*
Anyway, I just discovered your channel and you two are so damn adorable!
Thank you for making deliciously queer content. I love it so much.
Y’all are so cute together. God has Blessed you two with each other. Remember that!
I was born with an intersex condition i am a man i identify as such, but my body does not produce enough Testosteron plus it can not really handle it (they gave me testosteron but it made me sick). So i basically am a man in a female apearing Body. I get the weirdest questions from people and besides the fact that i am straight, so many men will hit on me and then get defensive and aggressive when i tell them i am not interessted and a Dude myself. Sometimes it can even get dangerous since they kinda feel decieved?
You two are adorable, & the "I want the whole/hole" discussion had me in stitches! I've always known something was... "off" about me--I never really fit in with being the sex I was assigned. I'm AFAB but always felt "male". I remember the first time I questioned it, I was around ten or eleven: "What would it be like to be a boy?" It never went further than that for a very long time, possibly because my dysphoria was comparatively mild. I knew I _hated_ my boobs, though, & mainly the dysphoria I experience is related to my chest. I didn't start transitioning until I was 50 simply because until a few years before, I just didn't have the words for what I was & hadn't had the access to the medical care I needed. I always knew I was more masculine than feminine, so I simply lived my life with little fuss in a male way, despite presenting as "kinda" female. I moved like a male, thought like a male, acted like a male but never actually _called_ myself male until I started my transition. Nowadays, I consider myself nonbinary or gender nonconforming (I still like some feminine clothing & I wear make up & paint my nails), asexual/demisexual, but gay, since I still prefer males for relationships.
There's just something so beautiful about getting to experience a more authentic self after however many years of searching, and the more this is normalised, the more beautiful and exciting the world gets ❤️
Thanks for commenting and sharing your experience ❤️
It is the first video i have seen from you, and i realy like the spirit you have.
Thank you very much, happy to hear that 🥰
Never been a fan of the "straight with extra steps" comment. Worst part is that it's usually said by someone in the community trying to purity test me. I'm a transfem and one of my partners is a transmasc. While I guess you could call that relationship "straight", we're both bi (we have other partners of many genders), and aside from surface level gender presentation, there's really not much "straight" about our relationship at all.
just found you guys, you are so cute and lovely... it makes my lil trans tomboy heart sing to see peeps like me succeed and thrive
Thank you so much, that means a lot to us 🥰❤️
All the best! ❤️
As long as you're happy together, nothing else matters ❤
What is your take on the terms "gynophile" and "androphile"? They seem to focus on the object of one's attraction rather than the subject of one own's gender.
I know when I was 12 ish toooo, but I didn't transition until 26, but thankfully I am lucky and have a wonderful supportive partner and feel fairly comfortable in my body because I got "lucky" enough. Very tough to live with dysphoria for 15 years, but still around and doing well somehow! Good luck to you
Realising right at the beginning of puberty is its own special kind of hell 😅💔
Happy to hear you're doing well, and thanks for commenting and watching ❤️❤️❤️
@@WivesVsWorld I bet. I have read and listened to a lot of stories. I definitely knew I was a girl "trapped in the wrong body" at about 10, but I didn't know about transition until 24/25, and genuinely lived in serious pain daily for over a decade. It's starting to feel like a distant painful memory though.
Regarding the question about surgeries, my answer is "For those that need to know about my personal, intimate, medical history I'm happy to discuss that when the time is right."
That's a great way to answer that question 😂
My wife came out to me less than a year before our wedding. I just said "I know" and then she came out to our friends and I sent out a second round of wedding invites with her new name.
I just got recommended to your channel & you two are adorable ! 😍 😊
Aww, thank you 🥰
Welcome to the channel ❤️
I have to say you two remind me of Ari Bridgestock and Anna Lightwood from 'The Last Hours' in 'The Mortal instruments Cronicles' by Cassandra Clare. Not sticking you two them or anything but those are the vibes i get.
You both are really beautiful the reason why I say that is because I am straight and asexual and I am glad you guys answered these questions because I have been thinking about this a lot if I end up dating a trans girl someday in the future I honestly would be ok with that because I was brought up to be accepting of everyone and not judge a book by it's cover my mom and sister and two gay cousins got me to be accepting of the LGBTQ community 😊
So happy this was helpful! 🥰 I hope you find a wonderful person to be with, regardless of who they are ❤️ best of luck!!
Thank you and I be sure that this person is good to me but we will see never know where the journey will take me 😊💟
As a cis straight-ish male I realize that I have no idea what it's like getting the most inappropriate questions thrown at you all the time because of your gender or sexuality.
I like to ask my queer friends lots of things, but it often comes from a place of trying to understand and get a feeling for what their struggles are.
So I was thinking that you might be assuming questions come from a more unsupportive place than they are.
But watching the whole video I must say, you reminded me very well that everyone has boundaries and it sucks to be reduced to beeing queer in any way.
And I have to say, I couldn't imagine beeing reminded of that in a more fun yet clear way.
Also, I loved the music. Really glad that the algorithm brought me here :)
Very thoughtful comment, thanks ❤️
And thank you for watching - the algorithm really did us a favour this time 😊
thanks!! i love seeing this
Thank you very much 😊
How was "a rake" the first thing Jackie thought of?? 🤣🤣
RIGHT?! thank you 😂😂
@@WivesVsWorld it was definitely the mario victory pose
One deal with parents applies to you less but is hard for some. Parents annoy a lot of people about having kids, so if the pieces line up and are fertile they will bug you. If things don't line up for reproduction they may come up with other questions
That's true!
on the topic of regret, I can only imagine asking for specific parts of bottom surgeries. Urethral lengthening seems fraught with problems and many men sit to pee anyway (empties better). Gonadectomies require a full pre-plan for future bio kids. Anything else is more, are you sure about that doctor and their method? If not find a better one.
these women give me hope for my own transition.
So happy to hear that ❤️
the "how did you know" question is so hard for me to answer because it wasn't like there was a point where I just knew. I can look back and see signs in early childhood that absolutely went past me. I got hit over the head pretty hard in my adolescence but that still didn't do it. And I usually say that if understood what being trans meant half as well as I did back then, I would've known for sure at 15 the latest. And when I finally accepted I was trans it was already 5 years after I started exploring the possibility that I was trans but switfly jumped back into the closet and denial. So....
Right?? It can be quite a complicated answer and we don't necessarily fully know! While people often expect a very clear/straightforward answer.
Jackie’s tattoo is so cute ❤
Thank you 🥰❤️
I love you two so much lol this was Gold!
Haha, so happy you liked it ❤️❤️
Whilst I’ve never asked the how did you know question, never seemed like my business, I have wondered about it. I think to root of it for me is how do I know that my inner experience of being a man is typical, is my inner experience more like that of an intersex or agender person? Is there a typical inner experience? I do have body dysmorphia, but figured that’s down to having Dyspraxia, a neurodivergence characterised by problems with fine and gross motor control (it used to be called Clumsy Child Syndrome). Does being ACE play a part &c?
Regarding surgery, that’s only relevant to your doctors and someone who will shortly be seeing you naked and needs to be prepared for want they’re going to see. The Crying Game is a good film but has a good example of why there are times and places not to spring surprises on people. One of the anti-trans movements in the UK is the LGB Alliance who complain about trans women who have not had bottom surgery hooking up with cis-lesbians and surprising them in the bedroom. I doubt it happens often, but it feeds into the whole TERF narrative.
I don't think people realise that regretting not transitioning is a much bigger danger and is much more likely for trans people.
Right? The feeling of time running out is something I think many trans people experience, and its heartbreaking :c
@@WivesVsWorld the regret of not realising sooner and taking so long to put it all together is the thing that upsets me most about transition, but it sounds like you put it together way before me.
@RoseHastie I just wish people hadn't been so adamant trying to dissuade me, you know?
@@WivesVsWorld feel like coming out year before last, I have been incredibly lucky in that regard that I'm only aware of one relationship that is more difficult now due to transitioning stuff, everyone else has been really supportive about it but I was in the middle of a mental health crisis in early 2020 (a couple of months before COVID 19 kicked off) and for about 3 months after I was a complete mess and so I think people were just happy I didn't want to die.
@@WivesVsWorld but I'm really sorry to hear that was your experience. The amount of trauma carried in our community from so many factors is incredibly stark to me. I'm autistic and probably ADHD and carry lots of trauma /have rejection sensitivity dysphoria now too.
FALIN CHIMERA MENTIONED.
You're welcome 😂❤️
None of the sexuality labels worked for me before the word "transgender" came into my vocabulary - I was mostly ignorant of LGBTQIA+. I may not have know about "gender dysphoria" but I knew that I didn't want what was between my legs involved in sexual encounters. After accepting my gender identity I started living as the asexual woman I was always meant to be.
PS. My body (sexual biology) has never conformed to the "sex is binary" ideology - I was/am intersex. The guess that a doctor made after I was born was ill-informed/incorrect - my intersex variation didn't show itself until my late puberty onset.
Wives vs the World is the most adorable channel name.
Thank you ❤️❤️
Besides the wonderful, "Why?!" said with disgust, the question that caught me most off guard was, "why wouldn't you pick this name instead?"
Seriously??? Feels like a name would be something you'd let the person choose for themselves unless asked to help 🙄
yall are soooo cute! new subscriber here!
Hahaha, it makes total sense to me 😂❤️
Thanks for subscribing 🥰
I love how Jackie is talking about her experience as a trans woman and Anya is just sitting next to her being gay af.
Hahaha, we do what we do best I guess 😅❤️
Some in your audience are struggling with themselves or trying to support somebody who is. That could be one reason for coming up with (too) intimate questions. Thank you.
Hello, "weirdoes" from a very CIS dude enjoying crawling up mountains and into snow and down rivers while I naturally always fell in love with CIS women (duh) as I am. Have a lovely celebration 🏳🌈 We "Heterophiles" are lovely and weird alongside you lovely two humans. Happy pride and happy love 🏳🌈
No questions just a wish that you continue to live your best lives.
Can do 🫡❤️
Have a great day! 💕
i've not really been asked when did you know? and as far as i can tell i was about 50 years into my transition when I realised I was trans and transitioning.
I only learned that most women freak if they find their "husband" is a woman recently. I get it a BIT more now but it just was never the way my brain worked. I assume it's because I'm bi???? But also if you love somone I feel like.. you are open to exploring. I think a lot of the rage/shame/grief is a cultually programmed response honestly. I hate it.
About the surgery question.
Who in their right mind would go up to a random cis person and ask "hey what does your equipment look like"
The fact that some people can rationalize that just because someone is different is insane and it makes my blood boil.
Like first of all: how would someone who you've never met before benefit from knowing what's between someone else's legs?
And second: can we have some decency and respect for each other, curiosity is not an excuse for inappropriate questions.
Other people: asking trans women about their surgeries because they see them as “exotic” or “strange”
Me: asking trans women about their surgeries because I want to look like them 😪💔
Isn't that the truth 😅
"So....how do you have sex?"
"Really well, thanks!"
That's such a good response!
I'd reply, "Have you tried dating apps, or maybe just meet someone in a bar or supermarket?"
@@gemmylou9628 lmao that's very good, although...supermarket?
I’ve been dealing with my gender since I was 12 got worse with panic attacks since I was 16 I go to therapy now
Look, the video was great and the answers were cool, but what got my like and subscribe was me hearing "If the world was a sandwich, things would be different" and thinking "And if my grandmother had wheels, she would've been a bike" AND THEN IT PLAYED!
Like, HOLY SHIT, these girlies get it!
Haha, can't help it, we're terminally online 🫡👏❤️
Ok this is so completely random but where are you two from? Your accents are just 🤌🤌🤌
Thank you - that's a first 😂❤️
We're from Copenhagen, Denmark : )
Love the Danish energy
It's all we've got, haha 😂
Good looking couple.
Love y'all 😂😊❤
Hhaha thank you so much!!🥰❤️
I gave up transitioning as the doctors in the UK have no idea what they doing , I was transitioning from male to female , took 4mg estrogen pills and 5mg Finasteride a day for 2 years but zero effect 😢 like a damn placebo these pills are , I asked to get Estrogen injections and spironolactone but they wlnt prescribe them 😢 so sadly end of transitioning for now
Mostly binary trans femme here and I would fucking kill to be as pretty as Anya...or to have a gf as pretty as her
I usually answer the surgery/genitals question by asking, if they usually ask people for their genitals 😁
Most people react very ashamed and understanding to that question^^
Exactly! I think people tend to forget how weird it actually is to ask people about their bodies like that 😅
I think i love you two.
Aww, stop it you ❤️
I never understood why people think who you're attracted to would change because you transition. Gender identity has nothing to do with sexual orientation or who your attracted to. Your going to be attracted to the same people you were before transitioning.
Sexuality is just a weird, sometimes fluid thing, it'll do what it wants regardless of gender, you know? 😂
Sometimes it feels like we can't win in terms of our presentation. Like, we either present high femme and are accused of performing a stereotype or we present more androgynous and get told we're not trying hard enough.
It's a regime based entirely on gatekeeping and goalpost moving :C
And if you are to be taken seriously, you have to be 'presentable' and be one of the 'good ones', which sounds absolutely horrid to me 😅
I'm transgender female and I also am married to a transgender female, and we are both previously married parents. Neither of us are particularly concerned with the thoughts of boring cis people. I have had GRS. And good luck figuring out our pronouns. Neither of us worry about labelling our sexuality. I'm 62 and my wife is my cute young thing, as she is only 53. Everyone thinks I'm only 40. No complaints. Estrogen, neat shit estrogen. It's never too late people. Lived 3 twenty year spans planning to enjoy the 4th as the real me. Remember, transgender people are ordinary people, some of us are jerks, and some of us are wonderful human beings.
I'm a cishet demisexual and once I an issue within a workgroup because one of the members was a very conservative Christian, the other was a muslim refugee, and last but not least, a transwoman. Now the muslim was rather reserved but the chirstian was very open about being anti-woman's rights, lgbtq+, muslim... basically anything beyond pasty white Protestant Swiss people. So I asked a good German friend of mine, who were and are far more intertwined with dealing with this issues, how can I manage this ecclectic group while being an atheist and an ally,
Especially regarding the constant questions from the christian dude. They told me a line that I'll take to the grave "Unless you want to fuck a person, their genitals are none of your fucking business!" and they were right and when I used that on the conservative dude... he chocked up a bit and never asked anything else ever again... To be honest, the lady had sometimes some strange behaviours but I'm sure so do I in other's eyes.
That's such a good line tho, may use it in the future 😂
Well done, and thanks for sharing that story!