Yes my BF started taking me for granted and I started acting more detached, making plans doing other things and not communicating as much which changed things. Great advice these tips are definitely on point!!
Hello @beccaaustin9678, Thank you for watching and for your appreciation of the video. It sounds like you have taken a difficult but empowering step towards creating a better relationship. I hope our videos can provide insight and guidance to help you through this process. please reach out if I can help you with anything. antonio
Hello @BeckEddie, Thank you for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the "Be willing to walk away" tip helpful. It's an important reminder that we shouldn't always feel obligated to stay in situations that aren't serving us. Keep watching for more valuable tips and insights. Thank you for your support and engagement. Antonio
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Hello @aimeesavoie9124, Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment and for your feedback. I'm glad to hear that you found the tip about prioritizing your own life first helpful. It's important to remember that we can't pour from an empty cup, and taking care of ourselves is the first step to being able to give to others. Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to build stronger relationships and take control of your own happiness. Thanks for your engagement and support. antono
Hello @jannatarahjeem5145, Thank you for your comment and for watching my video! I'm glad you found my tips helpful and that you agree with my perspective as a psychology student. It's great to hear that my tips resonated with you and that you found them true and worth following. Thanks for being a part of my community! antonio
This is really very important tips for the girls in love to their person but they taken for granted...and know what to do next if they can still save the love they have...
Once a guy shows he may not care if he loses me - it becomes very easy to play indifferent and I like to see him squirm when I do it. I don't do it too often but soon as I do it has him texting at 2am asking if everything is okay. It really makes him uncomfortable.
Hello @branighabrewer2650, Thank you for watching and engaging with my video! It's great to hear that you've had success with playing indifferent in your relationship. It's important to remember, however, that while this approach can be effective in the short term, it may not be sustainable in the long run. If your partner is feeling uncomfortable every time you do it, it could lead to further issues down the line.... hopefully you wont always have to remind him of your value and importance in his life. antonio
Hi @amymichelle5590, Thank you for your comment and for watching my video. I'm glad the indifference / apathy part resonated with you. I hope my videos are a reminder for women to be assertive and independent when they might have been over invested and taken for granted. Thank you for being a part of my community. antonio
This indifference has worked with just about all my relationships and I'm in my 60s. Pretty much 99% unless he got married. Men really are attracted to the stress of uncertainty with a woman.
Thanks for the tips. What you say makes sense. I do need to be more indifferent and work on myself more. Sometimes we think, why do I need to put any effort in working on myself when I already have someone so I don't need to impress anyone. Actually, we need to impress our partner, especially when the relationship is new and even when it's not so they want to keep us.
Hello @lmbgemini, Thank you for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found my tips helpful and that they make sense to you. It's important to remember that working on ourselves is not only important for impressing others, but also for our own personal growth and well-being. Being indifferent and focusing on self-improvement can actually make us more attractive to our partners and can help to keep the relationship strong. Thanks for being a part of our community! antonio
I have watched your videos for years and everything you advise i use and also tell friends in whatever situation they are having it always works! Thanks!
Hi @priscillasolis84 Wow.. thank you so much for your support and for your comment. Nothing makes me happier than knowing that I'm somehow helping others. Please feel free to reach out if I can ever help you. Looking forward to chatting with you. Antonio
Hello @euniceasiko6943, Thank you so much for watching and engaging with my video! It's great to hear that my advice is making an impact, even in a place as far away as Nairobi Kenya. I'm so glad that it has been useful to you and I wish you the best of luck in your relationship journey. Keep watching, sharing and engaging! antonio
Hi @sugarplumber1, Depending on the dynamics of your relationship, this can be an effective approach - however, it may require some trial and error to get right. In a marriage with many years of history and children involved, these types of changes will take time to adjust to. I'm sure you have already addressed these issues upfront jmany times? antonio
Yes. He tells me I am being dramatic. He was raised by a narcissistic mother and has some of those qualities. He thinks there is nothing wrong with looking at other woman because you should admire beautiful things… acts like woman are equivalent to butterflies. ( he never did this before) He has a single friend from high school and they send pictures of woman back and forth. I told him that it makes me feel little and it’s disrespectful. He changed his password ( we always were able to get on each other’s phones for 32 years) and told me I brought it on myself by snooping. I also caught him bad mouthing me to another woman - which he marginally agreed it was wrong to be talking to her. He never brings me flowers unless it’s Valentine’s Day … he knows I would love them. Over a year ago I lost weight … I weigh what I did when we were newly weds - I look very good for my age. I just don’t think he realizes what he has in me.
I think he is very confident I won’t. He knows I want a happy marriage and that I would never leave. I have been watching your talks on relationship anxiety - trying not to respond to my worries and to be less concerned about him and stay more on my own page.
My wife points nice looking women out to me, has bought me lap dances. I’m not really interested in that but like to people watch with her. My son’s girlfriend got crazy because he commented on a random girls tic tock. He got so tired of it he sent her back to the street
I like this advice - do you think it’ll work in a long distance relationship? It’s already a lot of distance so acting more distance and indifferent can be difficult.
Your tips about adopting an indifferent attitude are spot on. I particularly liked the explanation of how indifference can make a man fearful of losing his partner and how it can be a powerful tool to regain power in a relationship. I will definitely be implementing these tips in my own relationships. Thanks for sharing your valuable insights!
Hi @emiliapachomow4785, Thank you for your comment and for taking the time to watch my video. It's true that relationships can be unpredictable and that it's important to be vigilant and aware of the signs that things might be going off track. relationships take work but i sincerely believe that being proactive and using the right tools, we can take control of our own happiness and improve the chances of success. Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to build stronger relationships. Thank you for your engagement and support. =) antonio
I am going thru this right now. I am taking care of myself planning my tasks and without him in it. If he is always busy like now and doesnt even check, i start checking in with my friends and family and not make him think I'm waiting for him. If it means nothing to him then it means nothing to me. Thanks for the advice. 😊
Hi @gloriaruiz2192, Thank you for watching and commenting. Please let us know how these tips work for you. Looking forward to chatting again soon. Antnonio
Extra word of advice, make sure you're only involved with trying to keep one. I'm in a mess now and may need to move. I was indifferent to 3 guys and this information works!
Hello @kimclement7606, Thank you for taking the time to watch my video and for sharing your story with this community. It's great to hear that the advice was helpful - I'm glad it works for you! Please continue to watch and engage with us in the future and be sure to let us know how your situation works out. antonio
Hi @user-md6px9kh3p thank you so much for watching and for your support. question- how did you select your user name on here? haha it's so difficult to type. antonio
Hi @inkedandbeautiful6318, Thank you for your comment and for taking the time to watch my video. I'm glad to hear that the technique or advice I shared works like a charm for you. Remember that every situation is unique and that it's important to adapt these techniques to your own unique situation. Keep watching for more valuable tips and insights on how to build great relationships. Thanks you so much for your support. =). antonio
Hello @renkamelgar9758, Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching my video! I'm glad you found my tips helpful and that you feel more equipped to handle situations where you feel ignored or taken for granted. Remember that it's important to communicate your feelings and to set boundaries with the people in your life. It's also important to remember that self-care and taking time for yourself are just as important as seeking validation from others. I appreciate your support and I'm glad that you found my content helpful. Thanks for being a part of my community and for your kind words, God bless you too! antonio
Thank you so much for being so genuine in giving advice. Right now I’m completely feeling devastated due to my fear of losing my partner. He has changed a lot. But before, he was so caring, so sweet and loving. Always texting me and calling me several times a day.😢 But now no more. He’s only texting me when we are on the phone. And he’s only calling me if I call him. He told me that I should be the one to call him because my work schedules is always changing. And he’s being so busy at work and always occupied. Please advice. Thanks! ❤❤❤😢😢😢
I love this, and I'm most definitely interested in this information. I'm also going to share this with my Woman's Support group. You're absolutely correct about our APPEARANCE.
Hello @MrsKsweet33, Thank you for watching and for your kind words about the video. Your support is much appreciated and we're glad to hear that you plan on sharing this information with your Women's Support group. I hope you will continue engaging with us and find something useful in my videos. Be well.. antonio
Hello @olgarmokoka1950, Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me and the community. Let us know how things work out. Antonio
Hi @nickyleasure5507, you are very welcome. Please continue to watch and share these videos with others who might benefit from seeing them. Thanks for watching and engaging here. antonio
I’m going to try this! Because at this stage he is taking advantage of my good nature and thinks I won’t walk away… time to show him that I can! This seems similar to ‘no contact’ but not as intense! Thank you :)
Hi @anonymousviewer7177, Thank you for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you're going to give this strategy a try. It's important to set boundaries and not allow others to take advantage of our good nature. The idea of "Be willing to walk away" is an implementation of setting and keeping good boundaries - Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to empower yourself in your relationships. Thank you for your support and engagement. antonio
Yes I am doing these things but they are not working. I have to implement 1 or 2 of those but I can do that we'll see what happens... Thank you for all of your tips I truly appreciate....
Hello @brendagarrison1829, Yes.. please update us and let us know how they work out for you. Thank you for watching and engaging with your comment. antonio
Thank you Antonio, all these points are valid I struggle because of being on dialysis I feel I look ill tired and not as good as other women, this is my insecurities and I try way too hard, it's a difficult habit to break.... But I'm trying- VERY 😂🙈
Hello @clairexxx9210, Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts with our community. I understand that it can be difficult to feel confident and self-assured when dealing with physical challenges such as dialysis. Remember that it's not about comparing ourselves to others, but rather focusing on our own unique strengths and qualities. It's also understandable that it's hard to break the habit of trying too hard, but keep in mind that progress takes time and patience. I appreciate that you are trying to work on yourself and I wish you all the best on your journey. Thank you for being a part of our community. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello Thank you Antonio I appreciate you're reply it's very difficult when you feel different not to compare ourselves to others, but you're right. For me it's the practical aspects too, going out for a drink or meal on renal diet and a fluid restriction is something I try to hide as I don't want to scare or freak people. Thank you again for you're support 🤗
Honestly this is toxic and manipulative. If a woman isn’t expressing how she feels, is acting indifferent, and is also actively trying to be willing to walk away, she just created her own exit from the relationship. I’ve had exes use this type of game playing and it only creates turmoil. It’s fake behavior and it’s asking for trouble. My advice would be don’t ever consider taking this advice if you ever want a relationship to work. (All except the third one.)
Hi @michaeljpendergrass1, i want to sincerely thank you for watching and for your comment. I especially appreciate your honesty because you bring up some excellent points that I may not have emphasized as well as I should have... I hope I can address them here. First, I agree that communication and transparency are key in building healthy relationships, and that suppressing or hiding one's feelings is likely to create more problems than it solves. This video picks ups after that has taken place.. when a woman has been too good... given too much and has expressed her concerns multiple times without any resolution. These tips are not intended to manipulate anyone. Instead, they are a reminder for women to be assertive and independent when they might have been over invested and taken for granted. Ideally, it is best to be yourself and have everything work out naturally. I would love if you continued to watch and share your perspectives. Looking forward to chatting with you. antonio
Hi @dalebescoe9593, Thank you for watching my video and for the positive comment! Walking away can be a powerful choice especially when your partner isn't willing to work on improving the relationship. I hope this video was helpful - perhaps share it with friends that might benefit from watching it too? Antonio
My husband and I was having serous issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, I can never just let my marriage of 23years just end that way.
Very brilliant tips! Thank you so much for these. Honestly, I already started implementing some last week, even before this video was released. With your professional knowledge and advice, I'm more convinced I'm on the right track to making him prioritise me and not trample on my standards. Thanks so much Doctor.
Hello @joliemiranda5685 Thank you for the kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that my tips were helpful and that you have already started implementing some of them. It's great that you are taking the initiative to prioritize yourself and your standards in your relationship. Keep watching for more professional advice and insights on building stronger relationships. Thank you for your support and engagement. I'm glad that my knowledge and advice have helped you to be more convinced that you're on the right track. antonio
I do wonder what would happen if a guy is going through a life transition of taking in his 18 year old so she can go to college, and a woman does these tips? If he’s so busy, will he even notice she’s slipping away? It may take longer for him to notice. I’m still definitely going to do these things to take care of myself as I’m no good to others if I’m not taking care of me first.
Hello @hajiasmart2532, Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to learn from my video. It can be difficult to show love in a world that doesn't always give it back, but I hope this video has helped you find ways to make sure your own needs are taken care of first. Please feel free to share the video with others who might be able to benefit from this teaching as well! antonio
I think these tips are good and it works, but I was wondering if this would work in a situation where the person is like ignoring and or ghosting? Or if works only to those that already have a relationship going on??
Hi there, thank you for your comment and question! these tips are more for an ongoing situation where a person feels taken for granted. I have also made videos more specific to when one is being ignored. check out one at this link ruclips.net/video/WQ0nHjjFnCA/видео.html I hope this helps! antonio
Being indifferent with anyone adds a level of mystery. Keep people wondering and guessing about you. They would think twice about how they treat you because you aren't so predictable and ultimately they don't know what your reaction will be.
Hello @luvlytxchicpr445, Thank you for watching and for your insightful comment. I appreciate your suggestion on the power of being mysterious. I hope these videos can continue to provide helpful advice and guidance for relationships going forward. Please keep engaging - we are here to support you on your journey. antonio
And I already have done the fitness and dressing different. And it is driving him crazy. I have lost 45 pounds in 3 months. Most bc of a broken Ming heart. But I am getting my body back and my Butt… and I love showing it off in front of him. 🤷♀️
@@AntonioBorrello it didn't took him a long time to notice that something is going wrong with me , he asked that why am i ignoring him and behaving so weird but finally now he has a fear in his mind that he can lose me and i must say sir your tricks helped me... he said baby whenever you feels like i am angry on you just say some word of love which will melt my heart and he is a kind of guy who don't hold fights for long.. so today we completed our 1 year of relationship we spend a great time together and my day went so well we together talked about our problems and i concluded that i will except the way he is and being his future wife i have to practice from now that how should i melt his heart , by the way one tight hug solves every problem between couples and saying this one saying that is no matter what happens i am always with you holding your hand❤
@@sharvarimeshram9720 It's great to hear that the strategies discussed in the video were helpful in improving your relationship with your partner. Communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to be open and honest about your feelings and needs. It's also important to be understanding and accepting of your partner, and to work together to find solutions to any problems that arise. It's heartening to hear that your partner is willing to work with you to find ways to improve your relationship, and that you're both committed to building a strong and lasting connection. Holding hands and giving each other a tight hug can be powerful ways to show love and support, and to strengthen your bond. Celebrating your 1-year anniversary together is a wonderful milestone, and I hope that you continue to have a happy and healthy relationship. Thank you for sharing your experience and for watching the video. antonio
Hello @mihaelasvidbojidar4959, Thank you so much for reaching out and engaging with our community! It sounds like you're in a difficult situation at the moment. In addition to the tips in the video, here are some potential solutions to make your partner worry that they may lose you: First.. make sure you have had an honest conversation with your partner about how you feel. Make it clear that if action is not taken to address the issue, then there may be consequences. if that has happened without any improvement, then continue with the tips in the video. also, take some time away from your partner and focus on self-care. This could involve going out on your own or scheduling more activities that make you happy outside of your relationship. antonio
I don't know why men always take me/women for granted. Live is not for granted, so I don't take nice men for granted. I am dating someone who takes me for granted. I told him that I don't need a man to take care of me, I have a good life and a good job, so I can take care of myself, also financially. I only looking for men who gives me love, affection and intimicy. I don't settle for less. I hope that your tips will work out well. With this man or another one. Thank you Dr. Antonio Borrello.
Hi @ramona7332, Thank you for watching my video and reaching out with your question. It's great to hear that you're looking for a partner who is loving and supportive, and that you won't settle for anything less. Unfortunately, not all men are respectful of the women in their lives. While it may be difficult to accept, it's important to remember that this is not going to change unless individuals take a stand and demand respect from their partners. Your courage in setting boundaries and speaking up about what you need should be commended - unfortunately, this doesn't always lead to the desired outcome. In any case, I'm sure that by continuing to stay true to your values, you will find someone who appreciates and respects you as an equal partner. please keep in touch! antonio
What about he doesn’t see my value at all and he was clear in his words that he’s just for fun and has been forced to leave him alone. Man are very clear and honest and what they are looking for. Even a woman who people see as a (soft) and weak has a little bit of self respect and self esteem and understands what is the place in someone’s life if the woman doesn’t get it at the beginning she will get it at the end. Man are extremely smart playing their cards. This gives the opportunity to meet someone else who is not in this state in life and helps a woman to move on for good if he doesn’t care another man will do and is not like he was not valuable for her is self respect and self worth. Also women get tired of being treated as garbage or rugs is not complicated
Does this work when you’ve started seeing someone you’ve been friends with for 36 years, but he’s currently going through a divorce? He’s not ready for a relationship, because of the divorce situation, I understand, I went through a divorce a couple of years ago. Do I just keep it casual and give him his space to get through this?
If I start not giving a damn, there's no turning back. I'm gone. So yes, he's right to be afraid of losing me but no, I'm not interested in him trying to have me back.
Hello @MarLeiX2, Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me and the community. It sounds like you have a strong sense of self-worth and you know when to walk away from a situation that is not serving you well. It's important to remember that in any relationship, mutual respect and trust are key. Keep sharing your thoughts and experiences with the community, you bring a valuable perspective. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello my opinion: when people ignore you it works. You start running after them. But it only works for a short time at the beginning of the story. After a certain point it starts working against them. You get bored and eventually uninterested in them. The interest has to be genuine and mutual, things must flow naturally. If you have to "trick" or "force" people to love you there's no point! Who wants this kind of people in their lives? What for? They've never been there for you neither will they ever be. So, the best thing you can do is not to play this game, keep your distance, pull yourself together and move on. It takes some time but the more you practice it the faster you see the signs, accept the facts and the sooner you start recovering
Hi @natasak1034, Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the tips in my video to be helpful and that you plan on trying them out. Let us know how they work for you. =). antonio
@@AntonioBorrello Well, he was at first my Landlord... later on when we were seeing eachother often on this base, we found ourselves in the some sort of relationship. I have to tell you that this relationship is not just sexualy based, but also we talk a lot, having deep conversations, and he is really caring towards me and helps me a lot. I can rely on him and trust him. The only problem is that I would like to spend more time with him, I would like to live with him, which he refused because of the promise that he gave to his wife more than 30 years ago. I don't know what to do, I'm desperate. I'm happy when I'm with him, but it's just not enough, I want more. I want to move our relationship to the next level, which he doesn't want to.
Hello @natasak1034, It sounds like you're in a difficult situation. I know you care about him deeply, but it doesnt seem that his situation is going to change anytime soon. Have you kept the door open to the possibility of meeting other men? antonio
Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the content of my video to be true and effective. Your support means a lot to me and I appreciate your positive feedback. I'm glad you enjoy listening to my videos. Keep watching for more valuable tips and insights. antonio
Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment! your kind words mean a lot to me. I'm glad to hear that my advice is helpful for you. my goal is to provide valuable and actionable insights that can be useful in life. I hope that you will continue watching for more helpful tips and advice. antonio
Acting indifferent and not reacting to the things that are bothering us will give us stress too bcoz we are not discussing with them. Or how can we ignore all those acts? Because I tried this once personally... I kept very limited contact, stopped initiating conversation and then he asked me "if I don't miss him" - then i replied all those things that bothered me and again the same thing happened. And today we are not in talking terms at all.
Hello @jollyjuhi, thank you for watching and commenting here. it sounds like he noticed the change in behavior and as soon as he asked you, you let him know all the things you were upset with. it doesn't sound like he was worried that he could lose you if he didn't change his behavior. the last part of the video is probably the most importamt part. he has to kow that he must be willing to work on improving or he will lose you. antonio
I’ve tried some of these tips from a previous video and they do work. But as soon as I start being myself again, he reverts back to his usual self. How can I make these changes stick?
Hi @Gloria Thanks for following some of my tips! It sounds like the key here is to be persistent and consistent with the changes you want to make. Maybe start by having an honest conversation about what you've noticed and why it's important for both of you to make these changes stick. I'm sure if you can both come to a mutual understanding, then it will be much easier to keep that change going. Please update us and let us know how things go. Antonio
I did that. It's only been a few weeks and to be honest I wasn't ready so it was/is easy for me to remain aloof but cordial But he asked me...if I was ok? Your kinda quiet all good? You need anything I'm here ? *giggles..I do like him...* so what next??
Hello @thecraftywitch510, Thank you for your comment and for taking the time to watch my video. It sounds like you have successfully implemented some of these things... haha.. It's great that he has noticed the change in your behavior and has reached out to check on you. what's next - well, let him continue to pursue you - have you been on dates with him? update us and let us know what happens. Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
He came to the house for coffee last night....it went great...when he said so when can I see you again? I said we'll let's just play it by ear and see what happens. (I have no clue if that's the way to go I mean I am 53 lol) I just thought after being with narcissist I should put as much effort into a relationship as much as I do my career. He sent me a message to say...Ty he enjoyed every minute. He is definitely suited to me in everyway I just want to make it great x And ty
I did the indifference technique. I stopped intiating, I stop calling I stopped good morning text and he noticed and questioned what's going on, but I didn’t know how long to do it. He got mad and I then was transparent and let him know that I was upset and apologized for not communicating. He apologized as well.
Hi @caramel7743, Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment and for sharing your experience with the indifference tip. It's great that you were able to put this into practice and that it led to a conversation with your partner. It's important to communicate when you're upset or when something is bothering you, rather than bottling it up. It's good that you were transparent and he apologized as well. Keep watching for more tips and insights on building great relationships. Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
After 4yrs I walked away a month ago for good and told him if he tries to come back around bring a ring or don't come at all. I got tired of being taken for granted even though we were best friends. I'm fine by myself and always have been, I even do home renovations on my own. My hair is always done nice etc so I can't get more indifferent than him hearing bye and that's the last thing he's going to get from me 😂
Hi @user-mm8pb6ni2c Thank you for watching and for your honest words about the video. It sounds like you have taken a brave step towards living your best life, and we admire your strength and resilience. I hope our videos can provide insight and guidance to help you move forward with confidence. Please continue engaging with us - we are here to support you on your journey. Antonio
I met a guy two months ago and we were doing well until recently that he has stopped contacting and meeting me like he used to.. when I call he doesn't pick up my calls nor react to my text and am really getting worried Antonio what do I do ? Please help me
Hi @esthersmith3751, If he continues to ignore your calls and texts, it might be better to let it go and move on. Remember that you are worthy of love and respect and ghosting you is not cool... especially after 2 months. Did anything happen that he might be upset about? Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
I felt as you was talking to me- as a lonely women I have allowed exactly as you are telling us however today I thought I can take my car in for inspection and not depend on him
Hello Katie,Thank you for taking the time to watch my video and for sharing your experience with me. It sounds like you're making a big step forward in taking care of yourself - Self-empowerment is an amazing thing and I hope this moment of strength continues as you go on. Best of luck with your car inspection! Antonio
This is my present condition, he treats me like trash. I'll try your tip even though I have attempted few of them. Trust me it's not easy, sometimes I get frustrated. Thank you for the tips though.
Hello @beetrix1563, Thank you for watching my video and taking the time to share your experience. It sounds like you're in a tough situation, but know that you are not alone. I'm so glad you are willing to give my tips a try, even though it can be difficult and frustrating at times. I truly hope this advice helps and wish you all the best. If you ever need any more help or support, don't hesitate to reach out! antonio
@@AntonioBorrello can I send you an email? I have a similar situation with a very wealthy Ceo. I didn’t wish him a happy new year and went no contact for abt a week. He called me to go out for drinks then canceled at the last minute, called me 3 days later at 10pm asking for a nightcap, I turned him down and expressed that my needs were not being met & that I wasn’t going to spend the new year feeling this way. It’s been a week 1/2 if no contact. I’m in no contact for life this time, fully prepared to risk it all this time. We dated for a solid year, this June would have been the start of year 2.
Hi! So I used to see this guy (which has two divorces), he tried to impose his own terms (dating other women in the same time - he said it as if it was a temporary early stage thing), but I didn't agree, told him to do his thing and return when he finishes if he still wants me - maybe I will still be available (or not). After a few weeks he wrote to me saying he misses the good times we had together (but not the fights - we had a few while I expressed my opinion). From my point a view, it was just a technique to gaslight and try do do it his way again - but I responded with my clear standards again. Now he ghosts me :)) What should I do in case he returns again? We had some chemistry, he is smart and makes me laugh, but other then that, I don't know him that well. I would like that though - but exclusively.
Hi @ioanalucianamatei4764 Thank you for sharing your experience and for taking the time to leave a comment. It sounds like you handled the situation with this guy well by being clear about your boundaries and not agreeing to his terms. It's important to communicate your standards and not compromise on what you are comfortable with. It's also important to be aware of red flags and not to let yourself be gaslighted. If he returns again, it's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries and values you for who you are. but please let us know what happ[ens. I love getting updates. Thank you for your engagement and support. antonio
Hi @fitz2523, It's great to hear that it worked for you. Indifference is a powerful tool when used correctly and in the right context. It allows us to regain power in a relationship and communicate our boundaries. Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to build stronger relationships and how to use different tools to communicate effectively. Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
Hi @evette7951, Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that the strategy I discussed in the video was helpful for you and that you feel empowered in your relationship. It's important to remember that relationships take work and that it's possible to take control of our own happiness. Keep watching for more strategies and insights on building stronger relationships. Thank you for your support and engagement. Antonio
It’s so hard for me to act indifferent. I had a bilateral mastectomy an Im so insecure. He’s the only man I been with after my kids father left me when I was diagnosed. He’s been great he still texts me but now acting distant. Idk I’m feeling hurt and insecure 😕
Hi @kathyhernandez6733, Hi there, thank you so much for watching and sharing your thoughts with me. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with the man you've been seeing. It sounds like you've experienced a lot of hurt and insecurity, and it's completely understandable to feel this way. I can relate to feeling insecure in a relationship and wanting to act indifferent to remind him of your value in his life. do you feel like he's taking you for granted or taking advantage of you in some way? Communication is key in any relationship and it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with this person about what you're feeling. Can you share more about the current situation and what led to this distant behavior from him? I'm here to listen and support you. antonio
This is Excellent Advice. It goes well above all the other dating advice Coaches that I have heard prior. I ended up walking away from a long term non-committal relationship and let him finally find out what losing me was really like. He married and quickly divorced the woman he had left me for. We are together now but I really feel I could still use your helpful advice. Thank you so much for the work you are sharing. 🥰
Hello @juliegaudet7816, Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that my advice was helpful to you. It's never easy to walk away from a long term relationship, especially when it's not what we want. But sometimes it's the best thing we can do for ourselves.It sounds like you've been through a lot, but it seems like things have worked out in the end. I'm so glad that you're now in a better place and that you still feel like my advice could be useful for you. No matter what situation we find ourselves in, there are always ways to make sure our relationships are healthy and fulfilling. If there is anything else I can do or any other advice I can offer, please don't hesitate to reach out! antonio
Hi @steciamkelly2431, Thanks for taking the time to watch my video and comment! I’m so glad you found it helpful and that you’re willing to give my tips a try. I really hope this advice works for your long distance relationship, and feel free to reach out if there’s anything else I can help with. All the best! Antonio
I love the tipps you offer! I actually myself would never wanna try step 2, because i know my bf. If someone is indifferent and he thinks he isnt liked anymore he would accept that fact and move on. I think that works best on guys with lower self esteem :)
Hi @hanna96hoppe, Thank you so much for your kind words! It sounds like you understand the concept behind step 2, and I appreciate your insight. That said, it's important to note that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships. Everyone's circumstances are different, and each person deals with their own struggles in different ways. I look forward to chatting with you. antonio
Bang On Insights in ur Video Thank You 🙌..Taken for Granted and undervalued is the current situation.I have tried the indifferent technique many times- It works for some reason but I am back to square one.looks like a vicious circle.
Hello @apumondal7062, Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your experience with the video. It sounds like you have been in a situation where you have felt taken for granted and undervalued in your relationship. It's hard to break the cycle but it's important to recognize that you deserve to be treated with respect and valued in a relationship. In my videos, I have covered different strategies that can help you to communicate your needs and boundaries. It's important to keep working on this and keep yourself informed. Thank you for watching and please reach out if I can hlep you. antonio
What if he is ghosting and not reaching out? I stopped reaching out 46 days ago. He just disappeared. So I will be kind but indifferent if he ever comes back around? I guess this only works if they still care.
Hi @caroldavis9289, Unfortunately, it seems like he has disappeared and may not be coming back. It's important to remember that not all relationships are meant to last and unfortunately some people will do anything to avoid having an uncomfortable conversation to end a relationshiop - I'm sorry you have had to deal with this. please reach out if I can help you with anything. thanks for watchng and for your support. antonio.
Can someone please jsit give me advice because me and my bf r going through a rough patch and i feel like hes just really not putting enough effort in so im kinda just not really talking to him unless he texts me first but he just doesnt really fight for me that another thing i hate and i already had talks with him and he says he loves me and everything but when i tell him i dont think hes putting enough effort and i dont feel loved he just keeps saying hes trying his hardest even though thats so not true because he use to try way harder and all he does now is make excuses and say he loves me sm and hes trying his hardest but when i say no ur not we just argue idk what to do, i know he loves me and i love him but i honestly feel like he isnt even willing to fight for our relationship as much as i am so im just not really talking anymore im going to let him come to me but if he doesnt idk what to do because i dont want to break up with him i love him sm and he loves me i just dk what to think atp
Hello @jeanpersonal1922, thank you so much for watching and commenting. I'm happy to know that you agree with these tips. let us know how they work. antonio
I tried this and found that I think i fell in love with the other guy but my heart tells me to not to go forward and my guy said he will change cause he don't want to lose me.
Hello @cindygould5892, Thank you for watching and for leaving your comment. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult situation. It can be challenging to navigate when we have feelings for someone else, but it's important to trust our instincts and listen to what our heart is telling us. if you can see a future with the person you are currently with, and if they are willing to make changes to improve the relationship perhaps that is the way to go. I hope that you can find a way to make a decision that feels true to you and that you are happy with in the end. Thank you for engaging with our community. antonio
Yes my BF started taking me for granted and I started acting more detached, making plans doing other things and not communicating as much which changed things. Great advice these tips are definitely on point!!
Hello @beccaaustin9678,
Thank you for watching and for your appreciation of the video. It sounds like you have taken a difficult but empowering step towards creating a better relationship. I hope our videos can provide insight and guidance to help you through this process. please reach out if I can help you with anything. antonio
I like the "Be willing to walk away" tip. I needed to hear this. Thanks
Hello @BeckEddie,
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the "Be willing to walk away" tip helpful. It's an important reminder that we shouldn't always feel obligated to stay in situations that aren't serving us. Keep watching for more valuable tips and insights. Thank you for your support and engagement. Antonio
Men generally like variety, if you walk away. He’s back on the hunt.
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I love the tip about prioritizing your own life first!
Hello @aimeesavoie9124,
Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment and for your feedback. I'm glad to hear that you found the tip about prioritizing your own life first helpful. It's important to remember that we can't pour from an empty cup, and taking care of ourselves is the first step to being able to give to others. Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to build stronger relationships and take control of your own happiness. Thanks for your engagement and support. antono
Thank you, I am a psychology student and I agree how much counterintuitive this may sound but these tips are absolutely true and worth following!
Hello @jannatarahjeem5145,
Thank you for your comment and for watching my video! I'm glad you found my tips helpful and that you agree with my perspective as a psychology student. It's great to hear that my tips resonated with you and that you found them true and worth following. Thanks for being a part of my community! antonio
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He is cheating ….and of course he will ignore his “ woman” …..I truly hate a cheating man …..
This is really very important tips for the girls in love to their person but they taken for granted...and know what to do next if they can still save the love they have...
Once a guy shows he may not care if he loses me - it becomes very easy to play indifferent and I like to see him squirm when I do it. I don't do it too often but soon as I do it has him texting at 2am asking if everything is okay. It really makes him uncomfortable.
Hello @branighabrewer2650,
Thank you for watching and engaging with my video! It's great to hear that you've had success with playing indifferent in your relationship. It's important to remember, however, that while this approach can be effective in the short term, it may not be sustainable in the long run. If your partner is feeling uncomfortable every time you do it, it could lead to further issues down the line.... hopefully you wont always have to remind him of your value and importance in his life.
antonio
I think this makes a lot of sense with the apathy piece. When someone seems like they stop caring it can create anxiety/ worry in the other person
Hi @amymichelle5590,
Thank you for your comment and for watching my video. I'm glad the indifference / apathy part resonated with you. I hope my videos are a reminder for women to be assertive and independent when they might have been over invested and taken for granted. Thank you for being a part of my community.
antonio
This indifference has worked with just about all my relationships and I'm in my 60s. Pretty much 99% unless he got married. Men really are attracted to the stress of uncertainty with a woman.
Thanks for the tips. What you say makes sense. I do need to be more indifferent and work on myself more. Sometimes we think, why do I need to put any effort in working on myself when I already have someone so I don't need to impress anyone. Actually, we need to impress our partner, especially when the relationship is new and even when it's not so they want to keep us.
Hello @lmbgemini,
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found my tips helpful and that they make sense to you. It's important to remember that working on ourselves is not only important for impressing others, but also for our own personal growth and well-being. Being indifferent and focusing on self-improvement can actually make us more attractive to our partners and can help to keep the relationship strong. Thanks for being a part of our community!
antonio
I have watched your videos for years and everything you advise i use and also tell friends in whatever situation they are having it always works! Thanks!
Hi @priscillasolis84
Wow.. thank you so much for your support and for your comment. Nothing makes me happier than knowing that I'm somehow helping others. Please feel free to reach out if I can ever help you. Looking forward to chatting with you. Antonio
This is a great advice on relationship following you from Nairobi Kenya
Hello @euniceasiko6943,
Thank you so much for watching and engaging with my video! It's great to hear that my advice is making an impact, even in a place as far away as Nairobi Kenya. I'm so glad that it has been useful to you and I wish you the best of luck in your relationship journey. Keep watching, sharing and engaging!
antonio
How does this work in a marriage of many years with kids ? I think he knows I’m not just going to walk away. He does take me for granted.
Hi @sugarplumber1,
Depending on the dynamics of your relationship, this can be an effective approach - however, it may require some trial and error to get right. In a marriage with many years of history and children involved, these types of changes will take time to adjust to. I'm sure you have already addressed these issues upfront jmany times? antonio
Yes. He tells me I am being dramatic. He was raised by a narcissistic mother and has some of those qualities. He thinks there is nothing wrong with looking at other woman because you should admire beautiful things… acts like woman are equivalent to butterflies. ( he never did this before) He has a single friend from high school and they send pictures of woman back and forth. I told him that it makes me feel little and it’s disrespectful. He changed his password ( we always were able to get on each other’s phones for 32 years) and told me I brought it on myself by snooping. I also caught him bad mouthing me to another woman - which he marginally agreed it was wrong to be talking to her. He never brings me flowers unless it’s Valentine’s Day … he knows I would love them. Over a year ago I lost weight … I weigh what I did when we were newly weds - I look very good for my age. I just don’t think he realizes what he has in me.
@@sugarplumber1 do you think he is ever worried that you could leave him?
I think he is very confident I won’t. He knows I want a happy marriage and that I would never leave. I have been watching your talks on relationship anxiety - trying not to respond to my worries and to be less concerned about him and stay more on my own page.
My wife points nice looking women out to me, has bought me lap dances. I’m not really interested in that but like to people watch with her. My son’s girlfriend got crazy because he commented on a random girls tic tock. He got so tired of it he sent her back to the street
I like this advice - do you think it’ll work in a long distance relationship? It’s already a lot of distance so acting more distance and indifferent can be difficult.
Your tips about adopting an indifferent attitude are spot on. I particularly liked the explanation of how indifference can make a man fearful of losing his partner and how it can be a powerful tool to regain power in a relationship. I will definitely be implementing these tips in my own relationships. Thanks for sharing your valuable insights!
I'm so glad that you found my explanations helpful. I cant tell you how many times I edited that part. thanks for watching and commenting. antonio
i love this video. this is the mindset i need to adapt with the guy im dating
It's unfortunate that one can never be certain of the direction a relationship takes, and always has to vigilant.
Hi @emiliapachomow4785,
Thank you for your comment and for taking the time to watch my video. It's true that relationships can be unpredictable and that it's important to be vigilant and aware of the signs that things might be going off track. relationships take work but i sincerely believe that being proactive and using the right tools, we can take control of our own happiness and improve the chances of success. Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to build stronger relationships. Thank you for your engagement and support. =) antonio
I am going thru this right now. I am taking care of myself planning my tasks and without him in it. If he is always busy like now and doesnt even check, i start checking in with my friends and family and not make him think I'm waiting for him. If it means nothing to him then it means nothing to me. Thanks for the advice. 😊
My problem is I didn’t realize i was doing these things and now he’s been in panic mode but I’m done because of those needs not being met for so long
Definitely going to do for the first time , I’m usually the one to contact first
Hi @gloriaruiz2192,
Thank you for watching and commenting. Please let us know how these tips work for you. Looking forward to chatting again soon. Antnonio
Extra word of advice, make sure you're only involved with trying to keep one. I'm in a mess now and may need to move. I was indifferent to 3 guys and this information works!
Hello @kimclement7606,
Thank you for taking the time to watch my video and for sharing your story with this community. It's great to hear that the advice was helpful - I'm glad it works for you! Please continue to watch and engage with us in the future and be sure to let us know how your situation works out. antonio
These tips are gold👍👏 Thank you, Antonio!
Hi @user-md6px9kh3p
thank you so much for watching and for your support. question- how did you select your user name on here? haha it's so difficult to type. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello lol Oops, I think I was a little too incognito with the username🙄😋-sorry!
haha. yes that's certainly incognito..
Thanks for the tips, it will surely help me through this difficult moments.
I really liked the "be indifferent" tip, and loved the example you gave made perfect sense 😄 thank you 🙏🙂
Works like a charm usually.
Hi @inkedandbeautiful6318,
Thank you for your comment and for taking the time to watch my video. I'm glad to hear that the technique or advice I shared works like a charm for you. Remember that every situation is unique and that it's important to adapt these techniques to your own unique situation. Keep watching for more valuable tips and insights on how to build great relationships. Thanks you so much for your support. =). antonio
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Thank you for all of your tip. Now i know what will i do everytime i feel ignore and taken for granted. God bless your channel🙏🏻
Hello @renkamelgar9758,
Thank you so much for your kind words and for watching my video! I'm glad you found my tips helpful and that you feel more equipped to handle situations where you feel ignored or taken for granted. Remember that it's important to communicate your feelings and to set boundaries with the people in your life. It's also important to remember that self-care and taking time for yourself are just as important as seeking validation from others.
I appreciate your support and I'm glad that you found my content helpful. Thanks for being a part of my community and for your kind words, God bless you too!
antonio
Great lesson learned i never knew all this though my husband loves me more and more thanks
I love this, this whats on my mind, i just need help and clarity. Thank you
..I will do these and see what will happened 😆thank you for the tips..
Thank you so much for being so genuine in giving advice. Right now I’m completely feeling devastated due to my fear of losing my partner. He has changed a lot. But before, he was so caring, so sweet and loving. Always texting me and calling me several times a day.😢
But now no more. He’s only texting me when we are on the phone. And he’s only calling me if I call him. He told me that I should be the one to call him because my work schedules is always changing. And he’s being so busy at work and always occupied. Please advice. Thanks! ❤❤❤😢😢😢
By the way, your weight loss looks amazing!
Thank you so much for your kind words @inkedandbeautiful6318, I am glad you noticed
I love this, and I'm most definitely interested in this information. I'm also going to share this with my Woman's Support group. You're absolutely correct about our APPEARANCE.
Hello @MrsKsweet33,
Thank you for watching and for your kind words about the video. Your support is much appreciated and we're glad to hear that you plan on sharing this information with your Women's Support group. I hope you will continue engaging with us and find something useful in my videos. Be well.. antonio
Your tips are working for me
Hello @olgarmokoka1950,
Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me and the community. Let us know how things work out. Antonio
Awesome! Thank you so much!
Hi @nickyleasure5507,
you are very welcome. Please continue to watch and share these videos with others who might benefit from seeing them. Thanks for watching and engaging here. antonio
I’m going to try this! Because at this stage he is taking advantage of my good nature and thinks I won’t walk away… time to show him that I can! This seems similar to ‘no contact’ but not as intense! Thank you :)
Hi @anonymousviewer7177,
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you're going to give this strategy a try. It's important to set boundaries and not allow others to take advantage of our good nature. The idea of "Be willing to walk away" is an implementation of setting and keeping good boundaries - Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to empower yourself in your relationships. Thank you for your support and engagement. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello thank you!
Yes I am doing these things but they are not working. I have to implement 1 or 2 of those but I can do that we'll see what happens... Thank you for all of your tips I truly appreciate....
Hello @brendagarrison1829,
Yes.. please update us and let us know how they work out for you. Thank you for watching and engaging with your comment.
antonio
Great tips
I will try it definitely, I just hope he realizes it .
Hello @lilmiss1ify,
Thank you so much for watching. please update us and share your story of how these tips workout for you.
antoino
Thank you Antonio, all these points are valid I struggle because of being on dialysis I feel I look ill tired and not as good as other women, this is my insecurities and I try way too hard, it's a difficult habit to break.... But I'm trying- VERY 😂🙈
Hello @clairexxx9210,
Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts with our community. I understand that it can be difficult to feel confident and self-assured when dealing with physical challenges such as dialysis. Remember that it's not about comparing ourselves to others, but rather focusing on our own unique strengths and qualities. It's also understandable that it's hard to break the habit of trying too hard, but keep in mind that progress takes time and patience. I appreciate that you are trying to work on yourself and I wish you all the best on your journey. Thank you for being a part of our community. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello Thank you Antonio I appreciate you're reply it's very difficult when you feel different not to compare ourselves to others, but you're right.
For me it's the practical aspects too, going out for a drink or meal on renal diet and a fluid restriction is something I try to hide as I don't want to scare or freak people. Thank you again for you're support 🤗
Honestly this is toxic and manipulative. If a woman isn’t expressing how she feels, is acting indifferent, and is also actively trying to be willing to walk away, she just created her own exit from the relationship.
I’ve had exes use this type of game playing and it only creates turmoil. It’s fake behavior and it’s asking for trouble.
My advice would be don’t ever consider taking this advice if you ever want a relationship to work. (All except the third one.)
Hi @michaeljpendergrass1,
i want to sincerely thank you for watching and for your comment. I especially appreciate your honesty because you bring up some excellent points that I may not have emphasized as well as I should have... I hope I can address them here.
First, I agree that communication and transparency are key in building healthy relationships, and that suppressing or hiding one's feelings is likely to create more problems than it solves. This video picks ups after that has taken place.. when a woman has been too good... given too much and has expressed her concerns multiple times without any resolution. These tips are not intended to manipulate anyone. Instead, they are a reminder for women to be assertive and independent when they might have been over invested and taken for granted. Ideally, it is best to be yourself and have everything work out naturally.
I would love if you continued to watch and share your perspectives. Looking forward to chatting with you.
antonio
I liked the tip near the end!! He needs to know I’m willing to walk away!!♥️
Hi @dalebescoe9593,
Thank you for watching my video and for the positive comment! Walking away can be a powerful choice especially when your partner isn't willing to work on improving the relationship. I hope this video was helpful - perhaps share it with friends that might benefit from watching it too? Antonio
Love this.
My husband and I was having serous issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser, I can never just let my marriage of 23years just end that way.
Amazing I am kinda in a similar situation, how did you solve it
Very brilliant tips! Thank you so much for these. Honestly, I already started implementing some last week, even before this video was released. With your professional knowledge and advice, I'm more convinced I'm on the right track to making him prioritise me and not trample on my standards. Thanks so much Doctor.
Hello @joliemiranda5685
Thank you for the kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that my tips were helpful and that you have already started implementing some of them. It's great that you are taking the initiative to prioritize yourself and your standards in your relationship. Keep watching for more professional advice and insights on building stronger relationships. Thank you for your support and engagement. I'm glad that my knowledge and advice have helped you to be more convinced that you're on the right track. antonio
Did it work for anyone?? Im going through a terrible heartbreak and i really want him back
Will try them ❤
I do wonder what would happen if a guy is going through a life transition of taking in his 18 year old so she can go to college, and a woman does these tips? If he’s so busy, will he even notice she’s slipping away? It may take longer for him to notice.
I’m still definitely going to do these things to take care of myself as I’m no good to others if I’m not taking care of me first.
Thank you very much for this teaching 😢, tired of showing too much love out there …
Hello @hajiasmart2532,
Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to learn from my video. It can be difficult to show love in a world that doesn't always give it back, but I hope this video has helped you find ways to make sure your own needs are taken care of first. Please feel free to share the video with others who might be able to benefit from this teaching as well!
antonio
Thank you.
I think these tips are good and it works, but I was wondering if this would work in a situation where the person is like ignoring and or ghosting? Or if works only to those that already have a relationship going on??
Hi there, thank you for your comment and question! these tips are more for an ongoing situation where a person feels taken for granted. I have also made videos more specific to when one is being ignored. check out one at this link ruclips.net/video/WQ0nHjjFnCA/видео.html
I hope this helps! antonio
Does this apply to couples living together? If not what is recommended?
So basically, when you care the most, act like you don’t care 🤦🏻♀️ I can’t with all this dating advice
It's strategy and management in the dating phase. That's just how it is, booboo!
That does work but you better have a lot going for you. If he’s got a lot of options you’ll find yourself back on the street.
You're tips are great. They work! My bf def panicked when I "acted differently "
Being indifferent with anyone adds a level of mystery. Keep people wondering and guessing about you. They would think twice about how they treat you because you aren't so predictable and ultimately they don't know what your reaction will be.
Hello @luvlytxchicpr445,
Thank you for watching and for your insightful comment. I appreciate your suggestion on the power of being mysterious. I hope these videos can continue to provide helpful advice and guidance for relationships going forward. Please keep engaging - we are here to support you on your journey.
antonio
I am trying all this starting tomorrow. I have tried everything and to much for 18 years.
And I already have done the fitness and dressing different. And it is driving him crazy. I have lost 45 pounds in 3 months. Most bc of a broken Ming heart. But I am getting my body back and my Butt… and I love showing it off in front of him. 🤷♀️
Please let us know how it works out for you. Come back here and update us. I promise so many people will be happy to ready your good news. 🤭😊❤️
@stephaniedavenport318. That’s awesome. Please let us know how it works for you. We will be waiting
this is the video i wanted for a while now
thank you sir 🙏🙏
i will definitely try this tricks on my guy
let us know how things work out for you
@@AntonioBorrello it didn't took him a long time to notice that something is going wrong with me , he asked that why am i ignoring him and behaving so weird but finally now he has a fear in his mind that he can lose me and i must say sir your tricks helped me...
he said baby whenever you feels like i am angry on you just say some word of love which will melt my heart and he is a kind of guy who don't hold fights for long..
so today we completed our 1 year of relationship we spend a great time together and my day went so well we together talked about our problems and i concluded that i will except the way he is and being his future wife i have to practice from now that how should i melt his heart , by the way one tight hug solves every problem between couples and saying this one saying that is no matter what happens i am always with you holding your hand❤
@@sharvarimeshram9720 It's great to hear that the strategies discussed in the video were helpful in improving your relationship with your partner. Communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to be open and honest about your feelings and needs. It's also important to be understanding and accepting of your partner, and to work together to find solutions to any problems that arise.
It's heartening to hear that your partner is willing to work with you to find ways to improve your relationship, and that you're both committed to building a strong and lasting connection. Holding hands and giving each other a tight hug can be powerful ways to show love and support, and to strengthen your bond. Celebrating your 1-year anniversary together is a wonderful milestone, and I hope that you continue to have a happy and healthy relationship. Thank you for sharing your experience and for watching the video. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello thank you sir☺🙏
Haw do I apply this technique in a relationship when wee live together?
Hello @mihaelasvidbojidar4959,
Thank you so much for reaching out and engaging with our community! It sounds like you're in a difficult situation at the moment. In addition to the tips in the video, here are some potential solutions to make your partner worry that they may lose you:
First.. make sure you have had an honest conversation with your partner about how you feel. Make it clear that if action is not taken to address the issue, then there may be consequences. if that has happened without any improvement, then continue with the tips in the video. also,
take some time away from your partner and focus on self-care. This could involve going out on your own or scheduling more activities that make you happy outside of your relationship.
antonio
I don't know why men always take me/women for granted. Live is not for granted, so I don't take nice men for granted. I am dating someone who takes me for granted. I told him that I don't need a man to take care of me, I have a good life and a good job, so I can take care of myself, also financially. I only looking for men who gives me love, affection and intimicy. I don't settle for less. I hope that your tips will work out well. With this man or another one. Thank you Dr. Antonio Borrello.
Hi @ramona7332,
Thank you for watching my video and reaching out with your question. It's great to hear that you're looking for a partner who is loving and supportive, and that you won't settle for anything less. Unfortunately, not all men are respectful of the women in their lives. While it may be difficult to accept, it's important to remember that this is not going to change unless individuals take a stand and demand respect from their partners. Your courage in setting boundaries and speaking up about what you need should be commended - unfortunately, this doesn't always lead to the desired outcome. In any case, I'm sure that by continuing to stay true to your values, you will find someone who appreciates and respects you as an equal partner. please keep in touch! antonio
I will try it starting now
@antonioBorrello I think the number 2 will make you loose interest in him and you might end up loving another person.... My opinion
What about he doesn’t see my value at all and he was clear in his words that he’s just for fun and has been forced to leave him alone. Man are very clear and honest and what they are looking for. Even a woman who people see as a (soft) and weak has a little bit of self respect and self esteem and understands what is the place in someone’s life if the woman doesn’t get it at the beginning she will get it at the end. Man are extremely smart playing their cards. This gives the opportunity to meet someone else who is not in this state in life and helps a woman to move on for good if he doesn’t care another man will do and is not like he was not valuable for her is self respect and self worth. Also women get tired of being treated as garbage or rugs is not complicated
Does this work when you’ve started seeing someone you’ve been friends with for 36 years, but he’s currently going through a divorce? He’s not ready for a relationship, because of the divorce situation, I understand, I went through a divorce a couple of years ago. Do I just keep it casual and give him his space to get through this?
If I start not giving a damn, there's no turning back. I'm gone. So yes, he's right to be afraid of losing me but no, I'm not interested in him trying to have me back.
Hello @MarLeiX2,
Thank you for watching and for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me and the community. It sounds like you have a strong sense of self-worth and you know when to walk away from a situation that is not serving you well. It's important to remember that in any relationship, mutual respect and trust are key. Keep sharing your thoughts and experiences with the community, you bring a valuable perspective. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello my opinion: when people ignore you it works. You start running after them. But it only works for a short time at the beginning of the story. After a certain point it starts working against them. You get bored and eventually uninterested in them. The interest has to be genuine and mutual, things must flow naturally. If you have to "trick" or "force" people to love you there's no point! Who wants this kind of people in their lives? What for? They've never been there for you neither will they ever be. So, the best thing you can do is not to play this game, keep your distance, pull yourself together and move on. It takes some time but the more you practice it the faster you see the signs, accept the facts and the sooner you start recovering
I am always not a afraid of loosing him.
Nice msg
Much love frm Pakistan 🇵🇰 ❤
Great tips, I will definitelly try them, thanks!
Hi @natasak1034,
Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the tips in my video to be helpful and that you plan on trying them out. Let us know how they work for you. =). antonio
@@AntonioBorrello The only problem is, my man is a married man. Hopefully it will work.
oh boy.. that complicates things. how did you get into that situation?
@@AntonioBorrello Well, he was at first my Landlord... later on when we were seeing eachother often on this base, we found ourselves in the some sort of relationship. I have to tell you that this relationship is not just sexualy based, but also we talk a lot, having deep conversations, and he is really caring towards me and helps me a lot. I can rely on him and trust him. The only problem is that I would like to spend more time with him, I would like to live with him, which he refused because of the promise that he gave to his wife more than 30 years ago. I don't know what to do, I'm desperate. I'm happy when I'm with him, but it's just not enough, I want more. I want to move our relationship to the next level, which he doesn't want to.
Hello @natasak1034,
It sounds like you're in a difficult situation. I know you care about him deeply, but it doesnt seem that his situation is going to change anytime soon. Have you kept the door open to the possibility of meeting other men? antonio
Wonderful🎉
Giving my boyfriend one more chance if he does something to fk it up then I'm leaving. I never leave ever but he's done so much to me lately
Can i do all these tips without walking away
I love the tips about priotizing you own life
this is true and effective.i really appreciate all ur videos.and enjoy listening.🙂 thank u...
Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that you found the content of my video to be true and effective. Your support means a lot to me and I appreciate your positive feedback. I'm glad you enjoy listening to my videos. Keep watching for more valuable tips and insights. antonio
Thank you thank you thank you for all your advice.
Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment! your kind words mean a lot to me. I'm glad to hear that my advice is helpful for you. my goal is to provide valuable and actionable insights that can be useful in life. I hope that you will continue watching for more helpful tips and advice. antonio
Acting indifferent and not reacting to the things that are bothering us will give us stress too bcoz we are not discussing with them. Or how can we ignore all those acts? Because I tried this once personally... I kept very limited contact, stopped initiating conversation and then he asked me "if I don't miss him" - then i replied all those things that bothered me and again the same thing happened. And today we are not in talking terms at all.
Hello @jollyjuhi,
thank you for watching and commenting here. it sounds like he noticed the change in behavior and as soon as he asked you, you let him know all the things you were upset with. it doesn't sound like he was worried that he could lose you if he didn't change his behavior. the last part of the video is probably the most importamt part. he has to kow that he must be willing to work on improving or he will lose you. antonio
I need this video
I’ve tried some of these tips from a previous video and they do work. But as soon as I start being myself again, he reverts back to his usual self. How can I make these changes stick?
Hi @Gloria
Thanks for following some of my tips! It sounds like the key here is to be persistent and consistent with the changes you want to make. Maybe start by having an honest conversation about what you've noticed and why it's important for both of you to make these changes stick. I'm sure if you can both come to a mutual understanding, then it will be much easier to keep that change going. Please update us and let us know how things go. Antonio
Does it help when you are living with your boyfriend?
I did that.
It's only been a few weeks and to be honest I wasn't ready so it was/is easy for me to remain aloof but cordial
But he asked me...if I was ok?
Your kinda quiet all good?
You need anything I'm here ?
*giggles..I do like him...* so what next??
Hello @thecraftywitch510,
Thank you for your comment and for taking the time to watch my video. It sounds like you have successfully implemented some of these things... haha.. It's great that he has noticed the change in your behavior and has reached out to check on you. what's next - well, let him continue to pursue you - have you been on dates with him? update us and let us know what happens. Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
He came to the house for coffee last night....it went great...when he said so when can I see you again? I said we'll let's just play it by ear and see what happens. (I have no clue if that's the way to go I mean I am 53 lol) I just thought after being with narcissist I should put as much effort into a relationship as much as I do my career.
He sent me a message to say...Ty he enjoyed every minute. He is definitely suited to me in everyway I just want to make it great x
And ty
I did the indifference technique. I stopped intiating, I stop calling I stopped good morning text and he noticed and questioned what's going on, but I didn’t know how long to do it. He got mad and I then was transparent and let him know that I was upset and apologized for not communicating. He apologized as well.
Hi @caramel7743,
Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment and for sharing your experience with the indifference tip. It's great that you were able to put this into practice and that it led to a conversation with your partner. It's important to communicate when you're upset or when something is bothering you, rather than bottling it up. It's good that you were transparent and he apologized as well. Keep watching for more tips and insights on building great relationships. Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
@Antonio Borrello will do !!! I'm subscribed and I love your videos and really put your advice to work !!!
that make me happy to know. please reach out if i can help you with anything.
I wana try it
After 4yrs I walked away a month ago for good and told him if he tries to come back around bring a ring or don't come at all. I got tired of being taken for granted even though we were best friends. I'm fine by myself and always have been, I even do home renovations on my own. My hair is always done nice etc so I can't get more indifferent than him hearing bye and that's the last thing he's going to get from me 😂
Hi @user-mm8pb6ni2c
Thank you for watching and for your honest words about the video. It sounds like you have taken a brave step towards living your best life, and we admire your strength and resilience. I hope our videos can provide insight and guidance to help you move forward with confidence. Please continue engaging with us - we are here to support you on your journey.
Antonio
How did it turn out
I met a guy two months ago and we were doing well until recently that he has stopped contacting and meeting me like he used to.. when I call he doesn't pick up my calls nor react to my text and am really getting worried Antonio what do I do ? Please help me
Hi @esthersmith3751,
If he continues to ignore your calls and texts, it might be better to let it go and move on. Remember that you are worthy of love and respect and ghosting you is not cool... especially after 2 months. Did anything happen that he might be upset about? Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
I felt as you was talking to me- as a lonely women I have allowed exactly as you are telling us however today I thought I can take my car in for inspection and not depend on him
Hello Katie,Thank you for taking the time to watch my video and for sharing your experience with me. It sounds like you're making a big step forward in taking care of yourself - Self-empowerment is an amazing thing and I hope this moment of strength continues as you go on. Best of luck with your car inspection! Antonio
Ive talked to him about my feelings
Nothing changes
These tips are great. Thank you 🎉😊❤
Hi @catherinerivera4150,
Thank you for taking the time to watch my video and for your kind words. I'm glad it was helpful! antonio
This is my present condition, he treats me like trash. I'll try your tip even though I have attempted few of them. Trust me it's not easy, sometimes I get frustrated. Thank you for the tips though.
Hello @beetrix1563,
Thank you for watching my video and taking the time to share your experience. It sounds like you're in a tough situation, but know that you are not alone. I'm so glad you are willing to give my tips a try, even though it can be difficult and frustrating at times. I truly hope this advice helps and wish you all the best. If you ever need any more help or support, don't hesitate to reach out!
antonio
@@AntonioBorrello yes am really in a tough situation, bottom line I NEED HELP
@beetrix1563 send me a private email.
@@AntonioBorrello okay
@@AntonioBorrello can I send you an email? I have a similar situation with a very wealthy Ceo. I didn’t wish him a happy new year and went no contact for abt a week. He called me to go out for drinks then canceled at the last minute, called me 3 days later at 10pm asking for a nightcap, I turned him down and expressed that my needs were not being met & that I wasn’t going to spend the new year feeling this way.
It’s been a week 1/2 if no contact. I’m in no contact for life this time, fully prepared to risk it all this time. We dated for a solid year, this June would have been the start of year 2.
Hi! So I used to see this guy (which has two divorces), he tried to impose his own terms (dating other women in the same time - he said it as if it was a temporary early stage thing), but I didn't agree, told him to do his thing and return when he finishes if he still wants me - maybe I will still be available (or not). After a few weeks he wrote to me saying he misses the good times we had together (but not the fights - we had a few while I expressed my opinion). From my point a view, it was just a technique to gaslight and try do do it his way again - but I responded with my clear standards again. Now he ghosts me :)) What should I do in case he returns again? We had some chemistry, he is smart and makes me laugh, but other then that, I don't know him that well. I would like that though - but exclusively.
Hi @ioanalucianamatei4764
Thank you for sharing your experience and for taking the time to leave a comment. It sounds like you handled the situation with this guy well by being clear about your boundaries and not agreeing to his terms. It's important to communicate your standards and not compromise on what you are comfortable with. It's also important to be aware of red flags and not to let yourself be gaslighted. If he returns again, it's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries and values you for who you are. but please let us know what happ[ens. I love getting updates. Thank you for your engagement and support. antonio
@@AntonioBorrello Thank you very much for your response! I'll keep you posted, romance is fun ;)
Greatest tips ever
Hi @janisconard5732,
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. Antonio
Indifference works 😊
Hi @fitz2523,
It's great to hear that it worked for you. Indifference is a powerful tool when used correctly and in the right context. It allows us to regain power in a relationship and communicate our boundaries. Keep watching for more tips and insights on how to build stronger relationships and how to use different tools to communicate effectively. Thanks for your engagement and support. antonio
Facts!!
I Thank you for simplifying this strategy so I can become empowered in my relationship.
Hi @evette7951,
Thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to leave a comment. I'm glad to hear that the strategy I discussed in the video was helpful for you and that you feel empowered in your relationship. It's important to remember that relationships take work and that it's possible to take control of our own happiness. Keep watching for more strategies and insights on building stronger relationships. Thank you for your support and engagement. Antonio
It’s so hard for me to act indifferent. I had a bilateral mastectomy an Im so insecure. He’s the only man I been with after my kids father left me when I was diagnosed. He’s been great he still texts me but now acting distant. Idk I’m feeling hurt and insecure 😕
Hi @kathyhernandez6733,
Hi there, thank you so much for watching and sharing your thoughts with me. I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with the man you've been seeing. It sounds like you've experienced a lot of hurt and insecurity, and it's completely understandable to feel this way.
I can relate to feeling insecure in a relationship and wanting to act indifferent to remind him of your value in his life. do you feel like he's taking you for granted or taking advantage of you in some way? Communication is key in any relationship and it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with this person about what you're feeling.
Can you share more about the current situation and what led to this distant behavior from him? I'm here to listen and support you. antonio
And what happens and u do all that and it doesn't work
This is Excellent Advice. It goes well above all the other dating advice Coaches that I have heard prior.
I ended up walking away from a long term non-committal relationship and let him finally find out what losing me was really like. He married and quickly divorced the woman he had left me for.
We are together now but I really feel I could still use your helpful advice. Thank you so much for the work you are sharing. 🥰
Hello @juliegaudet7816,
Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad to hear that my advice was helpful to you. It's never easy to walk away from a long term relationship, especially when it's not what we want. But sometimes it's the best thing we can do for ourselves.It sounds like you've been through a lot, but it seems like things have worked out in the end. I'm so glad that you're now in a better place and that you still feel like my advice could be useful for you.
No matter what situation we find ourselves in, there are always ways to make sure our relationships are healthy and fulfilling. If there is anything else I can do or any other advice I can offer, please don't hesitate to reach out! antonio
Let me try this new tip to my long distance relationship this time am sure it will wrk
Hi @steciamkelly2431,
Thanks for taking the time to watch my video and comment! I’m so glad you found it helpful and that you’re willing to give my tips a try. I really hope this advice works for your long distance relationship, and feel free to reach out if there’s anything else I can help with. All the best!
Antonio
I love the tipps you offer! I actually myself would never wanna try step 2, because i know my bf. If someone is indifferent and he thinks he isnt liked anymore he would accept that fact and move on. I think that works best on guys with lower self esteem :)
Hi @hanna96hoppe,
Thank you so much for your kind words! It sounds like you understand the concept behind step 2, and I appreciate your insight. That said, it's important to note that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships. Everyone's circumstances are different, and each person deals with their own struggles in different ways. I look forward to chatting with you.
antonio
Physical beauty or fitness is not superficial. No need to even say that. If women don't like it, tough.
Bang On Insights in ur Video Thank You 🙌..Taken for Granted and undervalued is the current situation.I have tried the indifferent technique many times- It works for some reason but I am back to square one.looks like a vicious circle.
Hello @apumondal7062,
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your experience with the video. It sounds like you have been in a situation where you have felt taken for granted and undervalued in your relationship.
It's hard to break the cycle but it's important to recognize that you deserve to be treated with respect and valued in a relationship. In my videos, I have covered different strategies that can help you to communicate your needs and boundaries. It's important to keep working on this and keep yourself informed. Thank you for watching and please reach out if I can hlep you. antonio
What if he is ghosting and not reaching out? I stopped reaching out 46 days ago. He just disappeared. So I will be kind but indifferent if he ever comes back around? I guess this only works if they still care.
Hi @caroldavis9289,
Unfortunately, it seems like he has disappeared and may not be coming back. It's important to remember that not all relationships are meant to last and unfortunately some people will do anything to avoid having an uncomfortable conversation to end a relationshiop - I'm sorry you have had to deal with this. please reach out if I can help you with anything. thanks for watchng and for your support. antonio.
Can someone please jsit give me advice because me and my bf r going through a rough patch and i feel like hes just really not putting enough effort in so im kinda just not really talking to him unless he texts me first but he just doesnt really fight for me that another thing i hate and i already had talks with him and he says he loves me and everything but when i tell him i dont think hes putting enough effort and i dont feel loved he just keeps saying hes trying his hardest even though thats so not true because he use to try way harder and all he does now is make excuses and say he loves me sm and hes trying his hardest but when i say no ur not we just argue idk what to do, i know he loves me and i love him but i honestly feel like he isnt even willing to fight for our relationship as much as i am so im just not really talking anymore im going to let him come to me but if he doesnt idk what to do because i dont want to break up with him i love him sm and he loves me i just dk what to think atp
these make perfect sense! stating tomorrow!
Hello @jeanpersonal1922,
thank you so much for watching and commenting. I'm happy to know that you agree with these tips. let us know how they work. antonio
I tried this and found that I think i fell in love with the other guy but my heart tells me to not to go forward and my guy said he will change cause he don't want to lose me.
Hello @cindygould5892,
Thank you for watching and for leaving your comment. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult situation. It can be challenging to navigate when we have feelings for someone else, but it's important to trust our instincts and listen to what our heart is telling us. if you can see a future with the person you are currently with, and if they are willing to make changes to improve the relationship perhaps that is the way to go. I hope that you can find a way to make a decision that feels true to you and that you are happy with in the end. Thank you for engaging with our community. antonio
these are amazing tips
Hi @hebaameshaal.
I'm Glad you like them! thanks for watching and for your support. i really appreciate it.
antonio