Autism and Me - UPDATE! Five Years Later...

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  • Опубликовано: 26 дек 2024

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  • @RMGarman
    @RMGarman 3 месяца назад +3

    Thank you for this video. Because I experience anxieties that feel like what you describe in your mental health videos, I do learn so much from just listening to you. I haven’t gotten to a point where I’m comfortable with who I am-for example, I don’t leave my house much because I’ve gained weight and am afraid of seeing people I know who’d remember me as thin-so just hearing that you’re in that place gives me hope. And hope is so important when one lives in the chaos of one’s head.
    Also, thanks for showing those beautiful views on your walk! Every time I looked at them I felt the overwhelming crush of gratitude in my chest (yes, even beauty and gratitude cause their share of pain for me). You are a gift. See you with the next vlog.

  • @martindooley4439
    @martindooley4439 3 месяца назад +4

    Eloquent, inspiring, humble and thought provoking. Fantastic content. Keep it up, it helps in so many different ways...

  • @carolannependers8511
    @carolannependers8511 3 месяца назад +11

    Dear Colin. I watched your video 5 years ago and remembered it. Recently my 7 year old grandson has been diagnosed officially as being autistic… reflecting , thanks to you we see his symptoms are how you felt. Anyway I sent your videos to my son who obviously is worried about the little ones future. Your words are so reassuring , but also sad that it wasn’t recognised in your younger days. My grandsons school is so very supportive of his feelings ( sensory overload is worst ) I feel so sad that you’ve struggled so long without understanding. Thank you so much for taking time to share. Means so much to so many . X

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  3 месяца назад +8

      Ah, please don’t feel sad. I turned out okay 👍🏻 It’s amazing how understanding the world now is, so things look a lot brighter for your lovely grandson. x

  • @Marjan-r9j
    @Marjan-r9j Месяц назад +2

    Thank you. I've listened to it several times now. It makes me feel seen, and not so alone.

  • @jamesvanian5524
    @jamesvanian5524 3 месяца назад +4

    Thanks for this vlog Colin. I to have exhausted all treatments. You give me some hope and help so many people. James.

  • @mikepatton9537
    @mikepatton9537 3 месяца назад +3

    Colin, I've thoroughly enjoyed your journey - the ups and downs and the joy and laughter. You've both done so much for all of us and your videos are a welcome spot of brightness in my day, thank you....thank you....thank you!

  • @hughcrawford1978
    @hughcrawford1978 3 месяца назад +2

    Colin. I applaud you on the decision to start this channel.
    I am sure that many people will benefit from the contributions that this will make.
    We are all different and at times struggle to understand ourselves and others. Likewise we all benefit from support and the opportunity to share.
    Thanks again.

  • @chriscohlmeyer4735
    @chriscohlmeyer4735 14 дней назад

    Hi Colin, I'm catching up on this channel that you mentioned shortly before I headed off on a five week solo bike packing trip from Norway down to the Netherlands. Week six was cycling around the Netherlands with my son and fiancé, he is very much like me but without the F'd up childhood.
    Eleven years ago I started tackling one very bad stage of my childhood with therapy, other stuff kept coming up that I recognized as strange. An older brother filled in some details from a rare in depth talk with my mother, other sisters-in-law were shocked by how she had treated me. Well I came to accept what had happened was beyond my control. ASD and ADHD came into play and diagnosed during this process to go along with dyslexia and C-PTSD.
    During my cycling trip I came to peace with my past and certain foods that had been giving me migraines no longer did. Brain still runs on overdrive but with a better attitude if dark thoughts enter - what will be will be... Including recovering from surgery for a detached retina.
    During childhood I was that smart but slow but strong space cadet kid that only got bullied into fighting the new kid in class.

  • @aspielife9323
    @aspielife9323 2 месяца назад +7

    Hi. I'm a 44 year old autistic, with depression, anxiety, migraines, facial pain and coeliac disease; in Scotland, diagnosed in 2011. After being in short term work and then years of unemployment in between each stint of work during my 20s I finally had my answer as to why I couldn't hold down a job. I was ready to try and turn my life around back when I got diagnosed but some very unpleasant things happened to me and I ended up self isolating for 14 years. Now 44 I have no friends, no family, living in social housing and on benefits to survive. But knowing the governments rhetoric around disabled people and how badly the system treats us you can understand how scared I am.
    So I'm writing this to ask you how you managed to hold down a job despite your own struggles with mental health?
    In my experience it's always been too much for me, trying to keep up with co-workers otherwise I'd be seen as a slacker, the confusing host of multiple tasks I'd be given to do all at the same time, the noise, the stress and so much more.
    At my worst when I was working I would come home, have a heart arrhythmia and black out; waking up on the floor.
    Now out of sheer fear 14 years later I'm trying to turn my life around again. But I don't know what to do or what I CAN do.
    If you have any advice I would love to hear it. Because I am lost.

    • @callumm9049
      @callumm9049 Месяц назад

      I can relate to how you’re feeling, 40 male, Scottish, autism, adhd, depression here. I’m also looking for answers

    • @chriscohlmeyer4735
      @chriscohlmeyer4735 14 дней назад

      Something to consider as it helped me immensely was a part time job as a janitor in my case it was at a day care. For a recovering drug addict that didn't know he had ASD and ADHD and developing C-PTSD it was a perfect routine job with occasional specific other tasks. From there I moved on through a fair number of jobs doing different things, went back to school eventually landing a for me a perfect job.
      In retirement now with a part time seasonal job, as my son puts it "I get paid to ski"... I just have to deal with injured clients from time to time ⛷️❄️

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  5 дней назад +2

      I never managed to hold down a job. I started a RUclips channel and did my own thing. It worked out for me. Might not for others, but you've just got to keep trying :) x

    • @aspielife9323
      @aspielife9323 5 дней назад

      @@OverthinkingOutLoud Thank you

  • @craftlover9702
    @craftlover9702 3 месяца назад +2

    Thank you Colin! You articulated beautifully what goes on in the mind with people who struggle with mental health issues. I totally relate to over catastrophizing... My teenage years of going to school, changing classes, worrying if I'll be late for the next class, will I remember my locker combination, what happens if I lose my schedule, on and on. Yes, a lot of people on the first day may deal with this but the problem is it continues on long after the first day or week of school. That is just one example in my life. Well fast forward and I am now 67. In 2012 my Father passed, 4 months later we lost our home in Hurricane Sandy. I can tell you that put a lot of things into perspective because now I did experience a catastrophe. Fast forward to 2019, my husband passed 3 days before Christmas and my Mom passed 4 months later.... I can tell you the things I feared most have come to pass and something changed in me. Do I still overthink at times, yes......... do I still struggle with anxiety...... yes, however when I realize that even through all of this I am still alive and breathing and that I need to make the best of the days/months/years I have left. Having to face and overcome some of the biggest fears of my life has definitely changed me and I now believe no matter what I am a survivor and all of those little things that plagued me and I overthought did not come to pass and so much energy was wasted on it. When I fall into overthinking I do my best to change gears, tell myself to STOP and put my focus elsewhere. I thank you again for starting this channel and for sharing!!

  • @gubieone
    @gubieone 3 месяца назад +3

    Great video and fantastic scenery. I am a planner. For example a trip to the grocery. If I am anxious about it I make a list so I can be in and out quickly. I plan my route carefully thinking about the intersections and how to avoid turning across oncoming traffic without a turn lane, will there be parking at that time of day, etc. etc. It can be exhausting but if it all goes well then it was worth it and I don't dread the next time I have to go out. It may sound ridiculous to some people but it helps me to cope with the anxiety of the task and do it instead of just doing an online delivery order. I always feel better after the outing is completed.

    • @lapsedluddite3381
      @lapsedluddite3381 3 месяца назад +1

      Oh, that rings so true for me too, thank you for sharing!

  • @kazzjacques8603
    @kazzjacques8603 3 месяца назад +2

    Thank you ‘Colin’.You’ve help my daughter and I understand her boyfriend,I use to call him a ‘Nuisance’ and thought his behaviour was ‘Erratic’, I know now it’s because ‘ADHD’ can come in many forms.My daughter has been with him for over a year now,and I know his moods so well.He talks to me about things and I know I help him.I just feel so bad what I thought of him until I understood….Colin you’re‘Brilliant’….x

  • @jennyroe9687
    @jennyroe9687 3 месяца назад +3

    Thank you Colin
    When you did this 5 years ago I watched it after a bad few months and because of you I went and found help with a Councillor so thanks again and keep doing what you're doing ❤

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  3 месяца назад +3

      Thanks Jenny. I hope the counselling had a positive effect? x

    • @jennyroe9687
      @jennyroe9687 3 месяца назад +2

      ​@@OverthinkingOutLoud it definitely did I am more like the old (lol younger) me and that's good for me and my family I now have the tools to use if I feel like I'm slipping back I take every day as it comes
      Tomorrow is just new memories in the making ❤

  • @lapsedluddite3381
    @lapsedluddite3381 3 месяца назад +1

    Awesome video Colin, thank you, this one will definitely be rewatched many times, there is so much to learn here!
    Have only watched this one so far, and already can see how valuable a resource this channel is going to be, great work!

  • @berlinetta128
    @berlinetta128 3 месяца назад +2

    Thanks for talking Collin👍

  • @hughcrawford1978
    @hughcrawford1978 3 месяца назад +1

    Colin thanks for this video, the conversation and the back ground. It is so good.

  • @joannecraven837
    @joannecraven837 3 месяца назад +2

    It’s an amazing thing your doing and you help me deal with my own issues just by you sharing your story please be proud ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @laurasadie8357
    @laurasadie8357 3 месяца назад +1

    I’m saving this in a new folder so I can remember to watch it when I’m down. I’m extremely grateful that you never took the opportunity to slip beneath the waves, etc. You’re shockingly relatable, and you make my life better. Thanks for sharing the fun parts of your life AND the warts.

  • @ms.butterworth7160
    @ms.butterworth7160 3 месяца назад +2

    Very articulate and well said. My mother suffered with anxiety and depressions her whole life, we (immediate family) would call her the family "worrier". Someday I may relate her story but I myself have "sleep anxiety". Something until a few years ago I never knew existed Thank you for this vlog and channel. I have been with your journey since the building of Silver Fox and beyond.

  • @DavidWark-m1j
    @DavidWark-m1j 3 месяца назад +2

    Hi Colin. I've been watching you guys from the beginning "ok that sounds creepy,sorry". I've never commented before but I really have to now. First, I am so proud of you and what you've done in your life and I'm so happy that you can talk about your problems so well. As someone with dyslexia, ADHD, Asperger's and depression I've always found it almost impossible to describe to people what is going on with me. This video and the one you put out just before the wedding helps me a lot. Even when my husband thinks I'm crazy I send him off to watch your vid's. He usually comes back saying now he understand a lot more about how I tick. I just anted to say thank you and keep up the good work.

  • @davidreed8042
    @davidreed8042 3 месяца назад +2

    I remember that blog i was really good of you to talk about your health with the rest of the world good luck with your new channel

  • @Judymontel
    @Judymontel 2 месяца назад +1

    Fascinating, and new sub here. I think the question or original goal of "saving" your mental health is a less helpful frame. It really isn't possible for us to be saved from being who we are, no matter what that means. I DO think that your taking action and making such significant efforts was/is HUGE. When we take any step, large or small, to support ourselves, it leads us forward regardless of whether we could have anticipated the outcome(s) or not. I find your story very motivating - thank you! I'll go now and watch your earlier video that you've linked in the description. I'm aware of how much effort goes into filming, editing and posting youtube videos, so I just want to acknowledge you for that - thank you!! It is no small bundle of tasks you've taken on and perservered with!

  • @louispeel9919
    @louispeel9919 3 месяца назад +2

    So many times I just wanted to escape and yes, I thought so often about ending it. I am 76 now and I live in a Van on my own in a Rural RV Park in Tasmania!
    I do talk to others sometimes, but I have a choice!

  • @Risingstar0324
    @Risingstar0324 3 месяца назад +1

    I love you man, you had me in tears this go around 😢😢😢. I appreciate you for sharing from your heart ❤️ and soul. Hello to Shaun, I love you both. Just be here now. You do that so well. ❤ Freddie

  • @JoSmith-f5c
    @JoSmith-f5c 3 месяца назад +1

    I have watched your original video many times. It helps me a lot, as I was diagnosed with ASD at 53. I’m now 60. I don’t know any other autistic people and I feel very alone. Watching you really helps me as I can relate to everything you say. Only difference is I am female so have spent my life masking which is exhausting. I saw you a couple of times over a few days on the grand union canal, and came face to face with you on the towpath where we exchanged a few words, there was so much more I would have liked to have said to you, but like you I struggle. Keep these videos coming for as long as it makes you happy ❤

  • @esvarwyn
    @esvarwyn Месяц назад

    Hi Colin, thanks for your video, I started following you both at the time you made the first ASD video, I was a Patreon for a bit. The things you said really resonated - I have my ASD diagnosis since then, and now I have a partner and we're talking about moving to Scotland! (not copying - I took a few years off from you!). Thanks for being open, which supports people going through it too, and I'm so glad The Highlands are being good to you, I hope they will be for us too. Thanks! xx

    • @esvarwyn
      @esvarwyn Месяц назад

      The naturism content highly relevant too! I hadn't put that together with ASD but it's always been a thing x

  • @Leftover09
    @Leftover09 3 месяца назад +1

    I love this new channel already. Sitting here sniffling with tears still in my eyes. It amazes me that a young man such as yourself can articulate so perfectly how I, an old woman now, feel. Thank you. I’ have ASD, ADHD with Complex-PTSD. It’s a lot, and feels even more so when I’m unable to adequately explain/describe how and what I’m feeling. You did in 25 minutes what I haven’t been able to do in decades. Honestly, thank you!

  • @tazhyland9070
    @tazhyland9070 2 месяца назад +3

    My pstd is bad at times it happen after last year it started I have autism and mental health but got attacked being gay triggered it alot and what's happen in life for me thank you this inspire me lot Colin thank you being so open it's helps xx

  • @WanabeHippie
    @WanabeHippie 3 месяца назад

    You manage to vocalise everything that I have to live with on a daily basis. I cannot express these issues myself so it helps to have someone do so on my behalf. Please, more of these vlogs. Thank you so much.

  • @rikkiharcourt3868
    @rikkiharcourt3868 3 месяца назад

    Dear Colin. Listening to you was so helpful to me. There is someone in my life for the last ten years and I don’t always understand what he says. He seems happy enough striding around my lawn, cutting hedges and the odd other job. Perhaps that is just the way he likes it. Maybe I can relax a bit and not worry about him. I have thought he might think I am unfriendly but he doesn’t seem eager for any small talk so it might mean is happy doing what he does without interaction from me. Thank you.

  • @dorotheakenneweg
    @dorotheakenneweg 2 месяца назад +1

    Thank you. I am one person you reached with your talking about what is going on in your busy head.

  • @dianejones5684
    @dianejones5684 3 месяца назад +1

    What a great conversation Colin. Gosh, accept it, change it or leave it, if only it were that simple. It should be but it just isn’t for some of us. I often think I will worry myself to death and boy do I catastrophize things. I am my own worst enemy as half the time I’ve literally driven myself mad for nothing. Your words meant a lot and thank you for sharing, that in itself helps me no end. I can’t wait to watch your channel grow as I am sure you will help many of us just by simply talking and sharing. Thank you ❤

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  3 месяца назад

      That was my point. It should be that simple, but your mind won’t work as it’s told 👍🏻🤣

  • @peterdavis4297
    @peterdavis4297 3 месяца назад

    That was an outstanding piece Colin. I watched the video you made 5 years ago and I’m sure I said the same about that one. I was in a bad place with my business and life in general. Alcohol misuse was not helping me either. Your occasional pieces about mental health have helped me, along with other support, get to a place where I largely feel contented. I rarely have dark days now and the future is bright.Thank you.

  • @catherine3902
    @catherine3902 3 месяца назад

    Thank you Colin. What a great vlog that highlights so much . Many people will feel grateful for your openness. Talk. Talk. Talk. Let's Talk, everyone. It just might help . Sending love to you and Shaun x

  • @elainejosey3470
    @elainejosey3470 3 месяца назад

    Your brave honesty helps more people than you know! Love and hugs to you and your Highland family.

  • @lynnoorman2144
    @lynnoorman2144 2 месяца назад +1

    Hey Colin, many thanks for the update and how you are explaing these conditions. My adult son suffers with this. He get in such a state sometimes that he cannot sit with the stress and think the worst and work out how it might not happen and that there are alternative solutions to a situation. It is difficult to live with tbh but love is an amazing thing. Gratitude for the now helps, I find. Thank you. Tc

    • @aspielife9323
      @aspielife9323 2 месяца назад +1

      As a 44 year old autistic I can completely empathise. It's a real struggle.

  • @jeffsmith846
    @jeffsmith846 3 месяца назад

    First: Thank you Shaun for being there for Colin. Next, thank you Colin for talking about all of this. Naturally, I have to assume that most of us watching have many of the same issues. It is great to hear someone talk about so many things that affect me every single day. Thanks again.

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  3 месяца назад +1

      We’re there for each other. It’s never been a one-way thing ♥️

  • @lindaperkins1943
    @lindaperkins1943 3 месяца назад +3

    Really good content ..

  • @susancoffey419
    @susancoffey419 3 месяца назад

    Brilliant video. You are so honest and brave. You'll help so many people. Bless you ans Sean.

  • @lynn-in-the-tanglebox
    @lynn-in-the-tanglebox Месяц назад +1

    Had a walk down your lane a couple of weeks ago, muddy and windy,but the sun was out,very nice,but methinks more of a summer walk 😂 xx

  • @malf434
    @malf434 2 месяца назад

    Thank you Colin and Shawn been in a dark place for quite a while but seeing your vlog again has really picked me up today remembered the vlog 5 years ago
    And your looking good i agreed to everything you said and have difficulty putting what i feel into word's myself
    So thank you and God bless you all 🙏❤️🙏

  • @Authentistic-ism
    @Authentistic-ism Месяц назад +1

    I just found this randomly. I have a mission to subscribe to more Autistic youtubers of my own generation. New subscriber now

  • @tombarber9181
    @tombarber9181 2 месяца назад

    Ah the foot stomp that is inline with the music during the credits, I'm entirely here for. I know I've seen it a bunch of times before, but this video will continue to stand the test of time. I often ask how you're doing Colin? But also I should get into the habit of asking, Shaun is up there keeping you on a level, how is Shaun doing?

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  2 месяца назад

      He never ever talks about his mental health. Ever! He is the exact opposite of me!

  • @lornaeaketts-rogers2812
    @lornaeaketts-rogers2812 3 месяца назад

    Brilliant thank you 💖

  • @MrNewdug
    @MrNewdug 3 месяца назад

    Hi Colin - thanks for the channel and the growing community.
    I would be very interested in you or one of your experts talk about what it is like when you experience a nervous breakdown.

  • @rsh793
    @rsh793 2 месяца назад +2

    Can't outrun your head ! Sadly 😔
    Did you try horse therapy? You're right not everyone can get anything but depends on the person who is doing it of course. I'm not saying this as an attack but it's only just being seen on thd NHS even though it was used nearly 50 years ago but only just seeing now but it's been something that is good for ND and catastrophising but then it really does depend on the therapist too as there are good and not and the push will screw it no doubt
    Also I lived on a boat and I know exactly what you mean about the mean people on rivers and canals. But yeah the memories are good.
    Love where you are now.

  • @itobyford
    @itobyford 3 месяца назад +1

    They say you can picture other people naked if you feel out of control of a situation. I wonder if it helps to picture yourself naked? I might give it a go

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  2 месяца назад

      Haha! Well, naturism works wonders for me, so maybe you're onto something!

  • @amandashaw9277
    @amandashaw9277 3 месяца назад

    We all wear a happy im okay mask sometimes,i saw that video and cant believe its 5yrs ago,your doing okay by keeping busy

  • @jackieprice8088
    @jackieprice8088 3 месяца назад

    Thank you

  • @tombarber9181
    @tombarber9181 2 месяца назад

    Looking forward to some trips on SV Brilliant when we get it organised and off shore naturism!

  • @jcarter5836
    @jcarter5836 3 месяца назад

    I really miss these vlogs. I really cannot watch the live streams, sorry but I am not interested in all the characters who log on there, but I realise it makes you more money.

    • @OverthinkingOutLoud
      @OverthinkingOutLoud  2 месяца назад

      The lives don't earn money (unfortunately). We just enjoy the banter and there's never anything on TV. 😂