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Hi Helena. I really enjoyed your video. I’m a Francophile like you. It was love at first sight for me on my first trip there. I’d love to live in France. I’ve been learning French on Duolingo app for a while. I’m getting closer to retirement age (still have a few year), but it’s my dream to live in France then, but I’m concerned about the cost. Do you have any advice for me?
I'm french, I'm living in France, and I'm moved by the way you talk about us. Thank you for your kind words about our habits. I agree with you, a slower and conscious life is a good road for happiness ! 🤗
I noticed something also in some of your neighboring countries like Sweden , Germany , Holland and others in Europe the work life balance approach in Life .
So basically the complete opposite of American habits. I agree completely. Someone told me that nowadays, the American dream is to move out of America and live somewhere like France.
Let's hope that France (and other European countries) stays the way it is and doesn't get taken over by the American way of life. Social media is changing how we think, live, and act in much faster, insidious ways than we could've ever imagined. Thank you Helena for another great upload.
I fully agree Helena. I'm European living in Germany and travel through Scandinavia often and we all have social media in Europe. It isn't that important exept WhatsApp for leaving a massege. To use social media, Netflix and that kind of stuff only shows which social class you are in or you under 20 years old. Additional we can get all other things like fast food restaurants, technical stuff it is the same. Less is more quality.
This is such a scary but very real concern. Coming from the pre-social media era, I often miss the simplicity and serenity... but especially the real human connection! With social media we are all "connected", but more disconnected than ever!
1:05 Engage in the Art of Living - Culture, the Arts... 1:53 Simple Lifestyle habits like Capsule Wardrobes or After Work Drinks, 2:08 Regular Socialisation, in Person Community 2:18 Engage in Conversation gracefully, tend to your intellectual pursuits, approach learning from a state of pleasure and curiosity. Learn to disagree without antagonism. 3:23 Putting your clothes out to dry, slowing down. 4:15 Sponsorship message - Develop the habit of being multi-lingual 6:45 Not caring too much about beauty, youth etc. 8:36 Food 9:34 Walk. Take your full 1 hour lunch break. Actually often more than 1 hour. 10:32 Take your full vacation time 11:09 Don't place too much emphasis on social media or fame 12:47 Closing
I love that the French put importance on just simply enjoying daily life. 🌞 Here in the US the hustle culture wears me out. I love the part about celebrating our natural beauty and aging gracefully with acceptance of our bodies! Another beautiful video Helena 💖
You are so right, I live half of the year in France and it's a wonderful way of life, and as an older person I must also say that people are a lot more kinder and respectful, opening doors for me, smiling, letting me go in first, and I see many more families having dinner together at all times
This may not make sense but, every time I'm in France I feel as if I have stepped into a world that says, "you don't need to take yourself too seriously here, just be" and it works every time :) People seem more calm, the architecture becomes more beautiful, sitting having a coffee with someone becomes like having a massage you never want to stop! Just being you in France seems to mean something, it's like being invited into a deep beautiful feeling....... I don't know if that makes any sense to people? But I love France and the French :)
Makes no sense to me. Because i am not american. I don't understand how it is to dream of becoming a millionnaire, or to dream of being someone else, or to feel that money is such an important thing. It seems to me that everything in the USA is about money. But to a french like me, money is a mean to an end, and the end is living a decent life. I don't understand the point in accumulating more than you need. I never chose any job based on the pay. At times, i even forgot to even ask how much it was paid, and so, i have no idea how it is to live in a society that is all about "performance", and i don't understand why people would rank countries depending on their GDP. Especially considering how GDP depends on the number of people living in the country. So, i don't get how you feel. These are all mysteries to me. But i guess that what matters is feeling at ease, and making sure to be a positive existence for those you meet every day.
@@nox8730I agree, I'm not American. As you describe your beliefs so mine reflect the same...why I love France (although immigration is having a serious effect!) Never been into money, got enough, that's fine by me :) more interested in good people, beautiful architecture, a history that one can feel etc. The American attitude to money, fame etc etc bores me, all seems pointless but US and a lot of the wold has been infected by those values! Probably why the world is looking like it's going to collapse soon !
@@TheLastSongbird124 Exactly. The world is presently crumbling. The poison comes from the USA. Interestingly enough, most problems one can find anywhere, that one may be willing to study, will ultimately see its origin stem from the USA. I tried this, others did, and we reached the same conclusions. And when it comes to this infectious values... Fact is: France was never all that receptive towards the USA propaganda, and our relationship with them has been strained since 1942. This means that France as a country, and the french, as people, have always had a pretty unusual take on the USA and their ways, compared to other countries that didn't block their propaganda during the Cold War. Notably, european ones. This explains a lot of things that people who speak english may be otherwise confused about. And overall, this explains (in part only) why France's position towards the english language and english speaking countries is pretty unusual for a so-called "western country". Agree with our immigration problem. We have been disagreeing with this nonsensical, uncontrolled immigration since the 80's. We have tried every last political party in existence, and most simply denied the existence of the problem. A migration law is presently being made, though, because the rightmost wing is getting stronger as a result of french people demands being ignored for 40 years. But it was recently censored by the Constitutional Council. This law was planning, for example, that migrants that snuck illegally in France would not be sustained, lodged, healed, fed, and so on by french tax payers anymore, unless stricly necessary. It instaured illegal migration as an offence. It enforced the fact that illegal migrants would be sent back, while this was never enforced until now, prompting people to use illegal and risky mafias to sneak into France. Because "if you don't get found out before you cross the border, then you won't be thrown out and you can become french if you manage to remain there long enough in clandestinity". Since right now, we have an obligation of providing EVERYTHING to illegal migrants, up to healthcare and lodging, no matter how much they lack ressources themselves, and since we can't throw them out either, we end up having to welcome them however we feel about it. Time and again, since 1976. This law, amongst other things, stopped people from getting french citizenship simply by being born in France even clandestinely (anwyhere in France, whether in metropolitan France, in Polynesia, or off the coasts of Africa, in South America or in the Carribeans. Plenty of ways to do it) and, once they reached age 18, to demand the legal migration of all their damn family on top of it. But apparently, the COnsitution determines that we ought to pay healthcare and give money to everyone and their mom in this world, as long as they manage to reach some french teritory somewhere. Meaning, the law is once again emptied of its essence. Right now, there are two ways... First, they are trying to go the referundum way. Up to now, politicians managed to avoid that by saying it was illegal to ask the french people about migration issues (a technicality). But the consitution was slightly modified in 2008... and it may be possible now, if difficult. Considering that 76% of the french are supporting this law, this would be tantamount to have it adopted. And if the referundim can(t be done, the only recourse is voting for the last political party that wasn't tried yet, and that is commonly defined as "the far right". I am pretty sure that if this law is not adopted, the far right will win the next elections. Almost certain. The french are beyond fed up at this point. This is insanely intense. Resentment and annoyance that has boiled for 40 years will end up creating something pretty new. For better of for worse. Well, this is all french problematics and politics. If interested, great. If not, to write this was still a good language training for me :).
@@TheLastSongbird124 "all seems pointless but US and a lot of the wold has been infected by those values!" Yes, you got my point. I wasn't infected and so, i can't get it. But probably, this was all devised by Thatcher (UK) and Reagan (USA) in the 80's, who concluded that it was fair to risk repeating the 1929 black Friday, since probably, only the people would pay for it. Not billionnaires. They removed all limits that 1929 introduced and so, we now have the leisure to have financial crises all the time. And billionnaires can be billionnaires. And now, everyone has to learn english, because you know, this is where greatness is. Say thanks?
Bravo Helena! You really understand the French people and I applaud you for this. I have lived in the US for a very long time, but I am proud to say that I have always tried to retain my French identity and my French way of life as these little habits and quirks make my life a lot easier. Merci Helena
I am Brazilian but just today I was saying I must have been born with an European soul ❤ this was so inspiring . Time seems slower when we are beeing happy
That can happen! I'm also Brazilian but always loved the British culture......and here I am, living in London for 25 years and in love with this city as much as when I first arrived ♡
Hola Marcia esto no se ve en Alemania por ejemplo ni en Netherlands es muy Frances este estilo de vida no es todo europa he estado muchísimos años en europa y la particularidad de Francia es ciertamente deliciosa! como su comida y su gente son amables literalmente gente encantadora. Me encantó este vídeo captó la naturaleza Francesa ❤
I've been binge-watching your channel. I love the sound of your voice, the music, and the scenes. I've found myself tearing up while watching. I'm not sure why, but I enjoy the concept of slow living. I think your channel portrays a fantastic way to live. Thanks for what you're doing!
My hypothesis: I had a tourist trip to the USA (I'm French) a few years ago. Everything went perfectly, without problems, the organization was perfect and the Americans were totally professional. I was able to enjoy the magnificent landscapes of the American West without encountering the slightest difficulty. But I have one regret; I haven't had a single real meeting with Americans. In France, our organization is certainly not as perfect, we are often forced to ask for help from others, sometimes to confront them, to face the unexpected and to have to adapt. But over time, we learned to do it without drama, peacefully, and even having fun. We are certainly less obsessed with performance and illusory perfection, and we have learned to take the time to appreciate what life offers us...
You are wise beyond your years Helena and the way you put into words what you observe around you is incredible! I live in Switzerland, and while it's not exactly the same as the French way of life, people here do not obsess about youthfulness and social media presence and fame either. And they take their full hour lunch break, sometimes even more than that. I am so grateful to be living here!
You brought me back, back to my family in Italy and in France, the simple joys and overall human connection... the US at times feels like a very lonely place. No one has time, we are all "busy" doing what? After living in the US for so long it's easy to get caught up in the unrealistic pace of life and hustle, it's like a toxic fungus that slowly spreads. Helena this video made me pause, think and reassess! 💞
Yes! Toxic fungus describes life in the states perfectly! Seems there is no escaping it unless one just lives in country and stays away from our cities! Even going into our small (3000) town for some simple shopping realy plays on my nerves and puts me in a kind of bad mood!! Driving even on our country roads, people are always in a hurry and there are so many accidents, senseless ones! I'm always saying I wish people would just slow down and be more mindful and not always be in a rush rush hurry hurry frame of mind! It truly does affect ones health, living such a stressful hurried lifestyle!!
I loved this and related so much. I truly enjoyed my years in the Uk and France and transitioned to healthy natural nails, embracing my natural gray hair, wearing less makeup as well as aging gracefully. I truly appreciated being reminded how lovely that example is overseas. Keep sharing! 😊
Helena, I have watched this three times, to take in everything you are saying here. So interesting what you say about the French way of life, I think Spanish and Italians are very similar too. I notice from living in Spain, people do not worry so much about money, fast cars, looking perfect. And yet they are always smiling and happy, contented with a simple life, being social, living in a community, eating simple but lovely food, appreciating what they have. I know where I'd rather be! 😃 x 😊
It's the same way in Portugal! I just moved here from the US and it's so refreshing to see such a simple culture. No one is pretending to be someone else. People are super humble too!
Because of your videos, I'm integrating French habits little by little into my life. Was delighted to find that my local market has French butter. And boulangerie that make croissants the traditional, 3 day way.
i believe you for most people. I met my perfect man after two mistakes...dont give up I say. I met him at 32 when I had been widowed a year and had an 8yr. Daughter. I lived a full mindful life the entire way. I was a psych professor so I knew. He just passed away at 80 a few days ago. WE had an amazing life filled with living aboard a sailboat for years in the Caribbean, traveling Europe mos at a time in summers,,, hurricane season NOT a time to be sailing the Caribbean. Then we picked an amazing tropical Spanish heritage mountain town to settle down.we learned Spanish. We made every day of 41 years amazing...I wouldnt mind rewinding it and living it all over again forwards, backwards,any way wold be sublime but I HAD IT and that keeps me happy. Though I know I will miss him, right now all I can do is be Grateful.
I loved watching your video. I am french and it is all very true. Little to no superficiality (most of the time), healthy debates, putting the clothes out to dry, the 1h lunchbreak with colleagues that turn into 1h30 because the talks are so interesting... How you become completely immersed into your workday to keep very a high productivity rate in exchange for reasonnable working hours, the saturday afternoons with friends sharing our views about life or the state of the world at a cafe and then going at a local theater to see a play or strolling around in an art gallery. These are moments of my life that are very valuable to me. Also, I am luck enough to not own a car because I don't need one. I use the very efficient public transportation and I like walking a lot and I don't use social media platforms.
Thank you for this video! It is important to accept yourself as you are. Aging is one of those things that will happen in your life whether you like it or not. So maybe it's better to change your attitude about it. And it will make your life a little better.
There is a famous french writer, who died at age 27 on the front lines during WWI (1914), called Alain Fournier. He wrote "Le Grand Meaulnes". Great book. Just a random note, but why not? Your name reminded me of him suddenly.
I'm French, living in Spain and sometimes miss this French lifestyle, made of culture, gastronomie and slow living after work. Thanks for enjoying it so much... Et bon courage pour l'apprentissage de la langue 😜
I appreciate your point on eliminating shame. It reminds of a quote (and I'm paraphrasing) by the French actress Jeanne Moreau: I don't feel guilt because I do as I wish.
From Scotland ...I really believe that in France people like to love ...and in particular : Time...the time that passes with serenity ...so don't make them angry.
Thanks for your honesty. Living in the US most of my life, I was born and raised in Brazil. I miss the open mindedness and slower pace. French culture is lovely ❤
Ahhh LOVE this video! Thank your sharing the French way of living! Yes, being immersed in a culture allows one to learn the language quickly. I lived in Mexico and learned the language quickly and I was functioning in Spanish within a couple of months and bi-lingual by the time I returned to the US. I am an anomaly though - I have a some crazy capacity to pick up languages and regional accents very quickly. I love the simplicity of women's beauty in France and allowing to age gracefully and naturally. All the botox, fillers, plastic surgery, hair extensions, acrylic nails here in the US to fight the inevitable of aging. And it looks over done. It's impossible to avoid. Ok - I color my hair. I eat well, exercise and take care of my skin (exfoliate once a week, apply vitamin C and a barrier facial cream daily) That's it. I will look into Lingoda and see if it fits in the budget to learn French - just for fun!
Your video was quite amusing and I find your pointers true and that’s why I feel so much inclined to live in France / Europe. The culture, the slow pace of living and dialogue … Thank you for your beautiful video 😊
I do really enjoy watching your videos. Last night I accidentally found one of the videos you upload about slow living and I feel that finally I found someone who makes me feel like I am fully living. sorry for my writing skill.
Very well done! I’m french and living in the US and totally relate….I would add that The french love to get their fresh baguette 🥖 in the morning…small pleasure of life to start the day…..which is something I sherish and do every chance I get when I live there…😃
Lovely video with great points! My partner is Italian and I notice a lot of similarities in terms of slowing down and connecting in person. I do wish languages were more emphasized in the 🇺🇸. I speak Italian and am starting to learn French 😊 so I’ll be checking out Lingoda!
Thank you so much for this video Helena! At first I felt I was “in the wrong country” as I try to keep natural health and beauty, not have social media, and enjoy simple pleasures…but then I think maybe it’s good I’m still where I am bc I can happily beat to a different drum and hopefully inspire others to do the same. Thank you again! You’re a lovely person inside and out! 💖
What a lovely, aspirational and inspiration video. This year, I tried something new and gave myself a theme for the year. That theme is “slow down”. Videos like this help keep me on track (the slow track:)
Helena you are such a good filmmaker! You have such a good eye for special moments and are able to catch them on your camera ❤ Of course not to forget the topics you are talking about, they are also so important and inspiring !
Thanks for the beautiful reminders not to get off track. I'm American and have always lived more the French lifestyle, but have felt beaten down since 2020. Its time to recenter.
It was fun to see you in the Janice In France video. It's nice to see RUclipsrs connect, especially enjoyable because you are from different generations. Bon travail! ❤️
I've always wanted to live in France, not visit but live there, maybe one day but until then I try to involve as much French style into my life everyday as I can. Taking the time to go to art galleries, reading a book in the park, enjoying a glass of wine with my lunch, for me it's just a more relaxing and enjoyable way to live. Thanks, Fip.
What a lovely and thoughtful video that is also beautifully shot! Because of similar sentiments, my husband and I are looking to move from the US to Vienna within the next few months. We're retired, so we still need to get clear on the health insurance costs etc., but if that works out as we suspect, then we'll make the leap to a slower more elegant and slow life there. We're visiting right now and are completely in love, same as you are with France and the French way of living. It helps that I am fluent in German.
Thank you Helena... It's been months I've been ruminating on whether I prefer to live a slow speed peaceful life in Europe or getting stuck in the hustle culture of American life... Your video was so eye opening and made me find the genuine desire of my heart. 💛✨
I love this video! Paris is one of my favourite places I've traveled to. I love the European lifestyle 💛I love how they work to live not live to work. They understand the importance of slowing down, being present and enjoying their lives.
I’m Spanish and most or nearly all these habits are common here as well. We have always hung clothes to dry, we take long walks, visit museums and expositions, take one hour or more for lunch on daily basis, travel frequently around Europe and visit different Countries... for example. And playing guitar is a completely Spanish tradition and you can see this I you come to Spain, mainly in the South. Actually the guy in the video is singing in Spanish... It’s not frequent in France to see French people singing in the street like this... I guess from US it’s a very different style of life but it’s more a European way of life versus US way of life although each Country has its own habits as well. We are very different in so many things... Very nice video in any case. I encourage you to visit Spain one day. You will be very welcome :-)
Aloha, I lived in Bordeaux for 2 years when I was 5 and 6 years old. Those are very formative years and I’m forever grateful to have had that experience. The parks and greenery and gorgeous flowers were breathtaking. This was many, many years ago (1950’s) and from your video it looks like things haven’t changed that much, thank goodness. You have a new Subscriber⚜️.
Thank you for sharing... I so needed to see and hear this. You are so calm, so cute and such a help to so many of us. You are an inspiration to us all! This seems to be your ministry to help us all be in love with life and all of its ups and downs.
Hi Helena, I just chanced upon your video and love it 😬 I think I’m going to be binging on some of your other videos hahaha. I moved to France (I think we are living in the same city 😬) in March this year and my French suck. Thanks for introducing Lingoda and I’ll definitely check it out. The French are definitely more ‘selfish’ in a good way. I wish more people realise that this is a better way of life. La vie est belle 🥰
French here, I think most French households don't have dryers because we don't have an overconsumption problem so much, wanting to buy whatever thing will make life just a bit easier. Dryers and dishwashers are not really necessary, so why have them? They take up space and use a lot of energy.
I'm French-Canadian, so we're kind of "sandwiched" between the French lifestyle and the North American lifestyle, but you touch upon some great points that merit reflection. Also, I'm a first-time viewer, and the esthetic that you showcase in this video is simply stunning!
I was in France a long time ago and never forgot it. I have been making journals and am making a small journal of France and French things. Any ideas? I have stickers, pictures, lists of books and movies....emphasis on Paris and Provence.....my favorite town of Nice....where I spent a whole night at an outside cafe with a German man that I met who was on vacation there. I also have articles on how to add more "French" to your life.
Throughout my life, people would ask me “ if you were to learn a different language what would it be?” And I would always say French I love watching movies that are based around France watching your videos makes me feel good and relaxing and your in France I feel my inter peace is in France as a child and even now I’m drawn to the Eiffel Tower and would love to stands under it and I do visit it on Google Earth
I loved both of my times in France and how they view getting older, how they enjoy food without having to count the calories or fat or carb intake., and just how slow they take things it is so refreshing to go to France or anywhere that has this way of thinking. Thanks for sharing.
Having said that, there's a lot of fat shaming in France too so only the slim ones get to enjoy (calorie dense) food guilt free... (I'm French, born and raised in France, living in Australia where fat shaming is a big no no)
You look so beautiful in a wholesome, timeless way. While watching this video, I thought you could have been a model for a Vermeer painting. "The Girl with the Yellow Headband". 😉
As a French woman, I truly appreciate your kind words on my country, although I think they may be somewhat exaggerated. For example, it is true that most French people do not own a dryer (I do not), but it's not to enjoy the slow movement of time or the subtle touch of fabrics, it's simply because 1) our homes are usually much smaller that their American counterparts, and adding an extra appliance would be complicated, and 2) frankly, because dryers are of little use... What, do you really need to wash and dry this top or pair of chinos and wear them the very same day? Lastly, another thing: culture. It is true that our culture is state-sponsored, which is a good thing, because it allows many artists to survive, but on the other hand, many French people do not care a fig about culture.
Very nice... thank you so much. I'm about to put on Pomplamoose and clean my kitchen... merci, Mademoiselle Helen, from a fellow francophile. Love from the USA...
Speaking of syncronocity, im planning to move to Europe and just thought of my starting point to be at france(also my goal is to learn french the most i can in one year period) and here were i am watching a video about habits(which i need since i realized a have lots of bad habits) Sometimes God speak to us and we have to be aware when it happens. Thx for the video and let the Blessings of life come to you.
Thank you for this enjoyable episode. The French certainly do enjoy life, food, culture and each other's company. The difference is perhaps in the philosophy of life. As I understand it American culture places great value on material things, large cars, homes, impressive careers etc, however, what is the value of all of these "things" if in the process you let the beauty of life pass you by.
I am French and you have my admiration. Being open and ready to learn from others even if you do not agree is something I found that was impossible in the United States. People were so offended by a viewpoint that was not theirs, if they did not agree, they simply shut down the conversation not willing to hear another viewpoint. This is especially true in the politics, which is very sad. Our cafés are our meeting places or just to be alone and reflect. We love discussion and are very Latin that way,
You nailed it again, you look beautiful, hi Alex🙋♀️, Ill check out the Lingoda to learn French(Im fluent in Spanish, and living in California😄)so I can communicate when I visit France again in 3yrs😉. Can you do a video for us in French, so we can see and hear you how you communicate with the French?
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French is easier than Arabic or Chinese ...
Loved this video 🙌🏽🙌🏽♥️
Hello, CC this is the way of being in Europe. My family is from 🇦🇹 + 🇫🇷 + 🇩🇪 + 🇮🇹 and we all the way of authentic ! LOVE ❤️ 2 U and welcome in EU
Hi Helena. I really enjoyed your video. I’m a Francophile like you. It was love at first sight for me on my first trip there. I’d love to live in France. I’ve been learning French on Duolingo app for a while. I’m getting closer to retirement age (still have a few year), but it’s my dream to live in France then, but I’m concerned about the cost. Do you have any advice for me?
I'm french, I'm living in France, and I'm moved by the way you talk about us. Thank you for your kind words about our habits. I agree with you, a slower and conscious life is a good road for happiness ! 🤗
I noticed something also in some of your neighboring countries like Sweden , Germany , Holland and others in Europe the work life balance approach in Life .
Iam from India righnow I am learning french language
I've always wanted to visit France. it sounds and looks beautiful. love their way of living. Simple
I'm 74 yr-old but you really teach me about life, about the French life...the joys found in the every day life... thanks!
The French are charming in every way. From Southern California with love❤️
So basically the complete opposite of American habits. I agree completely. Someone told me that nowadays, the American dream is to move out of America and live somewhere like France.
indeed!
Kommen auch nach DEUTSCHLAND....
Agreed and working on doing just that!
I’m french and some french people wants to live in america bc of the "american dream"-
@@kalina1871 AH BON le rêve américain est un MYTHE.
Let's hope that France (and other European countries) stays the way it is and doesn't get taken over by the American way of life. Social media is changing how we think, live, and act in much faster, insidious ways than we could've ever imagined. Thank you Helena for another great upload.
I fully agree Helena. I'm European living in Germany and travel through Scandinavia often and we all have social media in Europe. It isn't that important exept WhatsApp for leaving a massege. To use social media, Netflix and that kind of stuff only shows which social class you are in or you under 20 years old. Additional we can get all other things like fast food restaurants, technical stuff it is the same. Less is more quality.
This is such a scary but very real concern. Coming from the pre-social media era, I often miss the simplicity and serenity... but especially the real human connection! With social media we are all "connected", but more disconnected than ever!
@@AnnalisaJ True !
I hope the same... let us have our autentic and true ways... greetings from Eastern Europe
@@AnnalisaJ - Same. I miss the interactions before social media.
1:05 Engage in the Art of Living - Culture, the Arts...
1:53 Simple Lifestyle habits like Capsule Wardrobes or After Work Drinks,
2:08 Regular Socialisation, in Person Community
2:18 Engage in Conversation gracefully, tend to your intellectual pursuits, approach learning from a state of pleasure and curiosity. Learn to disagree without antagonism.
3:23 Putting your clothes out to dry, slowing down.
4:15 Sponsorship message - Develop the habit of being multi-lingual
6:45 Not caring too much about beauty, youth etc.
8:36 Food
9:34 Walk. Take your full 1 hour lunch break. Actually often more than 1 hour.
10:32 Take your full vacation time
11:09 Don't place too much emphasis on social media or fame
12:47 Closing
Thank you for this. Highly appreciated
I love that the French put importance on just simply enjoying daily life. 🌞 Here in the US the hustle culture wears me out. I love the part about celebrating our natural beauty and aging gracefully with acceptance of our bodies! Another beautiful video Helena 💖
You are so right, I live half of the year in France and it's a wonderful way of life, and as an older person I must also say that people are a lot more kinder and respectful, opening doors for me, smiling, letting me go in first, and I see many more families having dinner together at all times
so lovely!! 🥰 makes me so happy to hear this
This may not make sense but, every time I'm in France I feel as if I have stepped into a world that says,
"you don't need to take yourself too seriously here, just be" and it works every time :) People seem more calm,
the architecture becomes more beautiful, sitting having a coffee with someone becomes like having a massage
you never want to stop! Just being you in France seems to mean something, it's like being invited into a deep
beautiful feeling....... I don't know if that makes any sense to people? But I love France and the French :)
Makes no sense to me. Because i am not american. I don't understand how it is to dream of becoming a millionnaire, or to dream of being someone else, or to feel that money is such an important thing. It seems to me that everything in the USA is about money. But to a french like me, money is a mean to an end, and the end is living a decent life. I don't understand the point in accumulating more than you need. I never chose any job based on the pay. At times, i even forgot to even ask how much it was paid, and so, i have no idea how it is to live in a society that is all about "performance", and i don't understand why people would rank countries depending on their GDP. Especially considering how GDP depends on the number of people living in the country. So, i don't get how you feel. These are all mysteries to me.
But i guess that what matters is feeling at ease, and making sure to be a positive existence for those you meet every day.
@@nox8730I agree, I'm not American.
As you describe your beliefs so mine reflect the same...why I love France (although immigration is having a serious effect!) Never been into money, got enough, that's fine by me :) more interested in good people, beautiful architecture, a history that one can feel etc. The American attitude to money, fame etc etc bores me,
all seems pointless but US and a lot of the wold has been infected by those values!
Probably why the world is looking like it's going to collapse soon !
@@TheLastSongbird124 Exactly. The world is presently crumbling. The poison comes from the USA. Interestingly enough, most problems one can find anywhere, that one may be willing to study, will ultimately see its origin stem from the USA. I tried this, others did, and we reached the same conclusions. And when it comes to this infectious values... Fact is: France was never all that receptive towards the USA propaganda, and our relationship with them has been strained since 1942. This means that France as a country, and the french, as people, have always had a pretty unusual take on the USA and their ways, compared to other countries that didn't block their propaganda during the Cold War. Notably, european ones. This explains a lot of things that people who speak english may be otherwise confused about. And overall, this explains (in part only) why France's position towards the english language and english speaking countries is pretty unusual for a so-called "western country".
Agree with our immigration problem. We have been disagreeing with this nonsensical, uncontrolled immigration since the 80's. We have tried every last political party in existence, and most simply denied the existence of the problem. A migration law is presently being made, though, because the rightmost wing is getting stronger as a result of french people demands being ignored for 40 years. But it was recently censored by the Constitutional Council.
This law was planning, for example, that migrants that snuck illegally in France would not be sustained, lodged, healed, fed, and so on by french tax payers anymore, unless stricly necessary. It instaured illegal migration as an offence. It enforced the fact that illegal migrants would be sent back, while this was never enforced until now, prompting people to use illegal and risky mafias to sneak into France. Because "if you don't get found out before you cross the border, then you won't be thrown out and you can become french if you manage to remain there long enough in clandestinity". Since right now, we have an obligation of providing EVERYTHING to illegal migrants, up to healthcare and lodging, no matter how much they lack ressources themselves, and since we can't throw them out either, we end up having to welcome them however we feel about it. Time and again, since 1976.
This law, amongst other things, stopped people from getting french citizenship simply by being born in France even clandestinely (anwyhere in France, whether in metropolitan France, in Polynesia, or off the coasts of Africa, in South America or in the Carribeans. Plenty of ways to do it) and, once they reached age 18, to demand the legal migration of all their damn family on top of it. But apparently, the COnsitution determines that we ought to pay healthcare and give money to everyone and their mom in this world, as long as they manage to reach some french teritory somewhere. Meaning, the law is once again emptied of its essence.
Right now, there are two ways... First, they are trying to go the referundum way. Up to now, politicians managed to avoid that by saying it was illegal to ask the french people about migration issues (a technicality). But the consitution was slightly modified in 2008... and it may be possible now, if difficult. Considering that 76% of the french are supporting this law, this would be tantamount to have it adopted. And if the referundim can(t be done, the only recourse is voting for the last political party that wasn't tried yet, and that is commonly defined as "the far right". I am pretty sure that if this law is not adopted, the far right will win the next elections. Almost certain. The french are beyond fed up at this point. This is insanely intense. Resentment and annoyance that has boiled for 40 years will end up creating something pretty new. For better of for worse.
Well, this is all french problematics and politics. If interested, great. If not, to write this was still a good language training for me :).
Most workplaces here have now 30 mins lunch break. Was able to get 1 hour after 4 years of asking. Very frustrating.
@@TheLastSongbird124 "all seems pointless but US and a lot of the wold has been infected by those values!"
Yes, you got my point. I wasn't infected and so, i can't get it. But probably, this was all devised by Thatcher (UK) and Reagan (USA) in the 80's, who concluded that it was fair to risk repeating the 1929 black Friday, since probably, only the people would pay for it. Not billionnaires. They removed all limits that 1929 introduced and so, we now have the leisure to have financial crises all the time. And billionnaires can be billionnaires.
And now, everyone has to learn english, because you know, this is where greatness is. Say thanks?
Bravo Helena! You really understand the French people and I applaud you for this. I have lived in the US for a very long time, but I am proud to say that I have always tried to retain my French identity and my French way of life as these little habits and quirks make my life a lot easier. Merci Helena
I am Brazilian but just today I was saying I must have been born with an European soul ❤ this was so inspiring . Time seems slower when we are beeing happy
That can happen! I'm also Brazilian but always loved the British culture......and here I am, living in London for 25 years and in love with this city as much as when I first arrived ♡
Hola Marcia esto no se ve en Alemania por ejemplo ni en Netherlands es muy Frances este estilo de vida no es todo europa he estado muchísimos años en europa y la particularidad de Francia es ciertamente deliciosa! como su comida y su gente son amables literalmente gente encantadora. Me encantó este vídeo captó la naturaleza Francesa ❤
I've been binge-watching your channel. I love the sound of your voice, the music, and the scenes. I've found myself tearing up while watching. I'm not sure why, but I enjoy the concept of slow living. I think your channel portrays a fantastic way to live. Thanks for what you're doing!
Fantastic, I am impressed by the way your present us French and impressed with your way of analyzing us. You really nailed it. Merci!
My hypothesis: I had a tourist trip to the USA (I'm French) a few years ago. Everything went perfectly, without problems, the organization was perfect and the Americans were totally professional. I was able to enjoy the magnificent landscapes of the American West without encountering the slightest difficulty. But I have one regret; I haven't had a single real meeting with Americans.
In France, our organization is certainly not as perfect, we are often forced to ask for help from others, sometimes to confront them, to face the unexpected and to have to adapt. But over time, we learned to do it without drama, peacefully, and even having fun. We are certainly less obsessed with performance and illusory perfection, and we have learned to take the time to appreciate what life offers us...
You are wise beyond your years Helena and the way you put into words what you observe around you is incredible! I live in Switzerland, and while it's not exactly the same as the French way of life, people here do not obsess about youthfulness and social media presence and fame either. And they take their full hour lunch break, sometimes even more than that. I am so grateful to be living here!
Yai for one hour lunches!
🇨🇭You are ever-so FORTUNATE!!!🇨🇭
Switzerland IS magical and I hope to live there someday too...as an artist-writer who loves exploring Art museums!
agreed!
You brought me back, back to my family in Italy and in France, the simple joys and overall human connection... the US at times feels like a very lonely place. No one has time, we are all "busy" doing what? After living in the US for so long it's easy to get caught up in the unrealistic pace of life and hustle, it's like a toxic fungus that slowly spreads.
Helena this video made me pause, think and reassess! 💞
Yes! Toxic fungus describes life in the states perfectly! Seems there is no escaping it unless one just lives in country and stays away from our cities! Even going into our small (3000) town for some simple shopping realy plays on my nerves and puts me in a kind of bad mood!! Driving even on our country roads, people are always in a hurry and there are so many accidents, senseless ones! I'm always saying I wish people would just slow down and be more mindful and not always be in a rush rush hurry hurry frame of mind! It truly does affect ones health, living such a stressful hurried lifestyle!!
I loved this and related so much. I truly enjoyed my years in the Uk and France and transitioned to healthy natural nails, embracing my natural gray hair, wearing less makeup as well as aging gracefully. I truly appreciated being reminded how lovely that example is overseas. Keep sharing! 😊
Helena, I have watched this three times, to take in everything you are saying here. So interesting what you say about the French way of life, I think Spanish and Italians are very similar too. I notice from living in Spain, people do not worry so much about money, fast cars, looking perfect. And yet they are always smiling and happy, contented with a simple life, being social, living in a community, eating simple but lovely food, appreciating what they have. I know where I'd rather be! 😃 x 😊
It's the same way in Portugal! I just moved here from the US and it's so refreshing to see such a simple culture. No one is pretending to be someone else. People are super humble too!
I m living in Spain and trust me is rubbish . I prefer Italy . Spain get down like economy like everything ..
Latin country same way of life ..
Latin country same way of life
Because of your videos, I'm integrating French habits little by little into my life. Was delighted to find that my local market has French butter. And boulangerie that make croissants the traditional, 3 day way.
i believe you for most people.
I met my perfect man after two mistakes...dont give up I say. I met him at 32 when I had been widowed a year and had an 8yr. Daughter. I lived a full mindful life the entire way. I was a psych professor so I knew.
He just passed away at 80 a few days ago. WE had an amazing life filled with living aboard a sailboat for years in the Caribbean, traveling Europe mos at a time in summers,,, hurricane season NOT a time to be sailing the Caribbean.
Then we picked an amazing tropical Spanish heritage mountain town to settle down.we learned Spanish. We made every day of 41 years amazing...I wouldnt mind rewinding it and living it all over again forwards, backwards,any way wold be sublime but I HAD IT and that keeps me happy. Though I know I will miss him, right now all I can do is be Grateful.
I loved watching your video. I am french and it is all very true.
Little to no superficiality (most of the time), healthy debates, putting the clothes out to dry, the 1h lunchbreak with colleagues that turn into 1h30 because the talks are so interesting... How you become completely immersed into your workday to keep very a high productivity rate in exchange for reasonnable working hours, the saturday afternoons with friends sharing our views about life or the state of the world at a cafe and then going at a local theater to see a play or strolling around in an art gallery. These are moments of my life that are very valuable to me.
Also, I am luck enough to not own a car because I don't need one. I use the very efficient public transportation and I like walking a lot and I don't use social media platforms.
Thank you for this video! It is important to accept yourself as you are. Aging is one of those things that will happen in your life whether you like it or not. So maybe it's better to change your attitude about it. And it will make your life a little better.
I live in Greece. I am so grateful for RUclips. You can have access to so much knowledge from all over the world. Thanks for sharing ❣️
Beautifully said. I just spent 3 weeks in the south of France and Paris and what a wonderful way of life. So different from the US. Thank you....
we Japanese also basically dry clothes on clotheslines. it is gentle with clothes and the planet ^^
Yes. Only americans use dryers, right? So weird. Hi from France.
Beautifully said and captured Helena! I agree on so much you’ve touched on and am happy to say I love adopting the French lifestyle.
There is a famous french writer, who died at age 27 on the front lines during WWI (1914), called Alain Fournier. He wrote "Le Grand Meaulnes". Great book. Just a random note, but why not? Your name reminded me of him suddenly.
I'm French, living in Spain and sometimes miss this French lifestyle, made of culture, gastronomie and slow living after work.
Thanks for enjoying it so much... Et bon courage pour l'apprentissage de la langue 😜
Isn't it somewhat similar to Spain in terms of slow living, the food, etc.? My husband is Spanish and he says he misses that about Spain.
I appreciate your point on eliminating shame. It reminds of a quote (and I'm paraphrasing) by the French actress Jeanne Moreau: I don't feel guilt because I do as I wish.
So young yet so full of wisdom
From Scotland ...I really believe that in France people like to love ...and in particular : Time...the time that passes with serenity ...so don't make them angry.
Thanks for your honesty. Living in the US most of my life, I was born and raised in Brazil. I miss the open mindedness and slower pace. French culture is lovely ❤
Ahhh LOVE this video! Thank your sharing the French way of living! Yes, being immersed in a culture allows one to learn the language quickly. I lived in Mexico and learned the language quickly and I was functioning in Spanish within a couple of months and bi-lingual by the time I returned to the US. I am an anomaly though - I have a some crazy capacity to pick up languages and regional accents very quickly. I love the simplicity of women's beauty in France and allowing to age gracefully and naturally. All the botox, fillers, plastic surgery, hair extensions, acrylic nails here in the US to fight the inevitable of aging. And it looks over done. It's impossible to avoid. Ok - I color my hair. I eat well, exercise and take care of my skin (exfoliate once a week, apply vitamin C and a barrier facial cream daily) That's it. I will look into Lingoda and see if it fits in the budget to learn French - just for fun!
You are so lucky to live in France! All you said are true!
Helena I live in the Lake Garda region of Italy and I would say I feel the same regarding Italians know the art of living
True for Latin Greek culture
Thank you - I needed this. I have been disengaged from my life a bit - plus I got hooked on my 2nd Chinese palace drama. I need to get my French on. 🥰
This brought a tear to my eye. Really glad I stumbled across your channel today. Beautiful video
Your vlogs just keep on getting better and better. Please don’t stop creating vlogs. 🥺♥️
thank you lovely!! 💕 I really try to keep improving! And yes - I love creating so much and am so happy to share my life and thoughts here on RUclips!
Your video was quite amusing and I find your pointers true and that’s why I feel so much inclined to live in France / Europe. The culture, the slow pace of living and dialogue …
Thank you for your beautiful video 😊
I do really enjoy watching your videos. Last night I accidentally found one of the videos you upload about slow living and I feel that finally I found someone who makes me feel like I am fully living. sorry for my writing skill.
Very well done! I’m french and living in the US and totally relate….I would add that The french love to get their fresh baguette 🥖 in the morning…small pleasure of life to start the day…..which is something I sherish and do every chance I get when I live there…😃
Lovely video with great points! My partner is Italian and I notice a lot of similarities in terms of slowing down and connecting in person. I do wish languages were more emphasized in the 🇺🇸. I speak Italian and am starting to learn French 😊 so I’ll be checking out Lingoda!
Thank you so much for this video Helena! At first I felt I was “in the wrong country” as I try to keep natural health and beauty, not have social media, and enjoy simple pleasures…but then I think maybe it’s good I’m still where I am bc I can happily beat to a different drum and hopefully inspire others to do the same. Thank you again! You’re a lovely person inside and out! 💖
What a lovely, aspirational and inspiration video. This year, I tried something new and gave myself a theme for the year. That theme is “slow down”. Videos like this help keep me on track (the slow track:)
Helena you are such a good filmmaker! You have such a good eye for special moments and are able to catch them on your camera ❤ Of course not to forget the topics you are talking about, they are also so important and inspiring !
Thanks for the beautiful reminders not to get off track. I'm American and have always lived more the French lifestyle, but have felt beaten down since 2020. Its time to recenter.
You’re so right! Small changes make the biggest change rather than a huge leap.
It was fun to see you in the Janice In France video. It's nice to see RUclipsrs connect, especially enjoyable because you are from different generations. Bon travail! ❤️
Beautiful video Helena. You captured the essence of your words perfectly. Thank you for being you. 🙂
I've always wanted to live in France, not visit but live there, maybe one day but until then I try to involve as much French style into my life everyday as I can. Taking the time to go to art galleries, reading a book in the park, enjoying a glass of wine with my lunch, for me it's just a more relaxing and enjoyable way to live. Thanks, Fip.
Beautiful story.... Thanks Helena, through your video I can sights seeing Paris from my home, beautiful river in Paris...☕🥧🙂👍....
What a lovely and thoughtful video that is also beautifully shot! Because of similar sentiments, my husband and I are looking to move from the US to Vienna within the next few months. We're retired, so we still need to get clear on the health insurance costs etc., but if that works out as we suspect, then we'll make the leap to a slower more elegant and slow life there. We're visiting right now and are completely in love, same as you are with France and the French way of living. It helps that I am fluent in German.
Thank you Helena... It's been months I've been ruminating on whether I prefer to live a slow speed peaceful life in Europe or getting stuck in the hustle culture of American life... Your video was so eye opening and made me find the genuine desire of my heart. 💛✨
I love this video! Paris is one of my favourite places I've traveled to. I love the European lifestyle 💛I love how they work to live not live to work. They understand the importance of slowing down, being present and enjoying their lives.
Hi Helena!! Thank you for another wonderful gift!!
Beautiful photography and insights!!
Peace, Joy and Love,
Lisa 💖
I’m Spanish and most or nearly all these habits are common here as well. We have always hung clothes to dry, we take long walks, visit museums and expositions, take one hour or more for lunch on daily basis, travel frequently around Europe and visit different Countries... for example. And playing guitar is a completely Spanish tradition and you can see this I you come to Spain, mainly in the South. Actually the guy in the video is singing in Spanish... It’s not frequent in France to see French people singing in the street like this...
I guess from US it’s a very different style of life but it’s more a European way of life versus US way of life although each Country has its own habits as well. We are very different in so many things... Very nice video in any case. I encourage you to visit Spain one day. You will be very welcome :-)
Aloha, I lived in Bordeaux for 2 years when I was 5 and 6 years old. Those are very formative years and I’m forever grateful to have had that experience. The parks and greenery and gorgeous flowers were breathtaking. This was many, many years ago (1950’s) and from your video it looks like things haven’t changed that much, thank goodness. You have a new Subscriber⚜️.
Thank you for sharing... I so needed to see and hear this. You are so calm, so cute and such a help to so many of us. You are an inspiration to us all! This seems to be your ministry to help us all be in love with life and all of its ups and downs.
This is so beautifully put together. ❤️
Love this thank you. I live in the UK and the way you describe the US is exactly the same as the UK. I want to move to France xx
That’s entirely different world! And i’m eager to explore it, you opened me so beautiful part of this country and I’m grateful
Hi Helena, I just chanced upon your video and love it 😬 I think I’m going to be binging on some of your other videos hahaha. I moved to France (I think we are living in the same city 😬) in March this year and my French suck. Thanks for introducing Lingoda and I’ll definitely check it out. The French are definitely more ‘selfish’ in a good way. I wish more people realise that this is a better way of life. La vie est belle 🥰
French here, I think most French households don't have dryers because we don't have an overconsumption problem so much, wanting to buy whatever thing will make life just a bit easier. Dryers and dishwashers are not really necessary, so why have them? They take up space and use a lot of energy.
@@juliad368 I agree ^^ it's like a meditative task ahah
What a lovely inspiring chat, thank you. It has given me much to think about. There is an infite number of wonderful new experiences out there 😊
This video was beautiful.. you have put into words what I have felt in my heart all my life
I'm French-Canadian, so we're kind of "sandwiched" between the French lifestyle and the North American lifestyle, but you touch upon some great points that merit reflection. Also, I'm a first-time viewer, and the esthetic that you showcase in this video is simply stunning!
Such a lovely video. Thanks 🙏. I lived in France for 3 years and couldn’t agree more with you.
I love the French way.!!!!! ❤and how they feel about life in general.😊
This is so important Vlog. I would surely show this Vlog to my BIG Sister. Thank from India
I'm so glad you enjoy it! Thanks for all the love! Your comments are always so kind 🤗
I was in France a long time ago and never forgot it. I have been making journals and am making a small journal of France and French things. Any ideas? I have stickers, pictures, lists of books and movies....emphasis on Paris and Provence.....my favorite town of Nice....where I spent a whole night at an outside cafe with a German man that I met who was on vacation there. I also have articles on how to add more "French" to your life.
.You inspire very much and I thank you for that. I have never come so rested as after a holiday spent in the French countryside.
LOvely topic. It made me relax just contemplating slowing down.
Você é especial! Suas palavras, seu modo de ser e viver são fontes de inspiração para mim! Muito obrigada por ser esse ser de luz em nossas vidas!
aww! obrigada! 🤗
Thank you Helena. I am at a cross roads in my life and making changes and all these things are what I am yearning for. 💕
Throughout my life, people would ask me “ if you were to learn a different language what would it be?” And I
would always say French I love watching movies that are based around France watching your videos makes me feel good and relaxing and your in France I feel my inter peace is in France as a child and even now I’m drawn to the Eiffel Tower and would love to stands under it and I do visit it on Google Earth
I hope you get to visit France one day
I have a Helena Bonham Carter quote at my desk that's essence is that life is art!! Your daily living is art, clothes, decor, words,... are all art
Great Video. Thanku sooo much. Very insightful . Love it ❤❤
I loved both of my times in France and how they view getting older, how they enjoy food without having to count the calories or fat or carb intake., and just how slow they take things it is so refreshing to go to France or anywhere that has this way of thinking. Thanks for sharing.
Having said that, there's a lot of fat shaming in France too so only the slim ones get to enjoy (calorie dense) food guilt free... (I'm French, born and raised in France, living in Australia where fat shaming is a big no no)
I always love the language, the food and the culture, but listening to you I now really follow in love with France...
That video was so inspiring and lovely! You win new subscriber 🤗🌺 Wish u blessings!
You look so beautiful in a wholesome, timeless way. While watching this video, I thought you could have been a model for a Vermeer painting. "The Girl with the Yellow Headband". 😉
Hello my dearest sister Helena, I am so empress and amazed. thank you very much for this
Merci Helena 💗J'adore cette vidéo! Bravo!
As a French woman, I truly appreciate your kind words on my country, although I think they may be somewhat exaggerated. For example, it is true that most French people do not own a dryer (I do not), but it's not to enjoy the slow movement of time or the subtle touch of fabrics, it's simply because 1) our homes are usually much smaller that their American counterparts, and adding an extra appliance would be complicated, and 2) frankly, because dryers are of little use... What, do you really need to wash and dry this top or pair of chinos and wear them the very same day? Lastly, another thing: culture. It is true that our culture is state-sponsored, which is a good thing, because it allows many artists to survive, but on the other hand, many French people do not care a fig about culture.
I love the French way of life! thank you 😊💓 🗼
Very nice... thank you so much. I'm about to put on Pomplamoose and clean my kitchen... merci, Mademoiselle Helen, from a fellow francophile. Love from the USA...
thanks for sharing, ms helena.
i love paris- my dream destination!
You are very smart really interesting your view of french peoples … A sociological content! greetings from Santiago Chile 🇨🇱 ❤
I loved this video. Would love to see more like it
Thanks Helena. I enjoyed this video. You have a wonderful speaking voice.
Speaking of syncronocity, im planning to move to Europe and just thought of my starting point to be at france(also my goal is to learn french the most i can in one year period) and here were i am watching a video about habits(which i need since i realized a have lots of bad habits) Sometimes God speak to us and we have to be aware when it happens. Thx for the video and let the Blessings of life come to you.
I love this. Merci!
Thank you for this enjoyable episode. The French certainly do enjoy life, food, culture and each other's company. The difference is perhaps in the philosophy of life. As I understand it American culture places great value on material things, large cars, homes, impressive careers etc, however, what is the value of all of these "things" if in the process you let the beauty of life pass you by.
The most important things in live are not things
Beautiful video....now I wanna move to France
This is a work of art.
Beautiful and calming video. ☺
I love your point of view about life!!!💚♥️💛💙🇨🇴
Thank you Helena for being you.much love💗😻☕🌺🎵🎶🎵🎶💃
I am French and you have my admiration. Being open and ready to learn from others even if you do not agree is something I found that was impossible in the United States. People were so offended by a viewpoint that was not theirs, if they did not agree, they simply shut down the conversation not willing to hear another viewpoint. This is especially true in the politics, which is very sad. Our cafés are our meeting places or just to be alone and reflect. We love discussion and are very Latin that way,
Very affirming, thank you 💐
You nailed it again, you look beautiful, hi Alex🙋♀️, Ill check out the Lingoda to learn French(Im fluent in Spanish, and living in California😄)so I can communicate when I visit France again in 3yrs😉. Can you do a video for us in French, so we can see and hear you how you communicate with the French?
Thank you Helena.