57 year old woman here, divorced at 29. Best move I ever made. After a pleasant 9 year relationship after the divroce and subsequent dating I came to the conclusion that going solo was the best choice for me. I am also realistic that men do not want older women and I do not pursue relationships with them. I never thought life could be so content and peaceful.
Yes! Having peace and my sanity is important. Regaining independence and making important decisions. I am not afraid of being alone. I lived alone for 11 years before getting married. I put myself through college when I was single (including graduate school). My finances are good. I don't need a man in my life to make me complete or to support me financially. I did all of this when I was single and I'm still doing it now that I'm divorced. I am a survivor!
I am 68 in Cebu, Philippines. I have college girls fighting over me. I hear sub Saharan Africa is a good place for women my age. Some western women go there and have their pick of young African men that don't have food.
I'm 34 and my parents wonder why I am not married. What is the point when over half of all marriages end in divorce? I don't want to be drained financially and have to work into my 80's because someone has a change of heart 20+ years in.
@@mtgamateurnight absolutly. Marraige is a contract with the state and taxes. It has nothing to do with love. Stand your ground! You dont need to sign a paper to prove love. If you do, it's not love.
Well, you have to choose wisely and choose someone with who you have as much in common as possible and have common goals. You also want a person who values marriage and companionship. Long-term commitment and marriage is not always a bed of roses. You do have to compromise because it is no longer just about you. But there is an element of luck that someone doesn't drastically change and make the partnership unlivable. I have been married many years to a wonderful person and I highly recommend it.
Divorced at 56 after 32 years of marriage. He initiated it and I am grateful. I started online dating about a week later lol. I just wanted to get dressed up and go out, meet new people. It was a blast! Unexpectedly, I met a man with whom I connected and we’ve been together ever since (8 years). Never been happier ❤️
Don’t compare the reality of gray divorce of celebrities that have a lot of money to the middle class divorce. Often women are left with a very different lifestyle than when they were married. Read the studies before believing it is a ‘better’ life.
Exactly. The average North American female who divorces in middle age will face financial uncertainty unless she planned for this accordingly, has a great career, independent mindset and financial savvy and nest egg. Any major health setbacks can cause even more financial hardship. Women who are widowed fair better usually because they inherit their husband’s estate and not loose half of their net equity in a divorce settlement.
@micclay They could be whomever they want to be. Finances exist without a man. No need to cowtow to a man at the expense of your own happiness and identity.
When I stayed with mom, dad was evil. Then when I stayed with dad, mom was evil. I was 11 - 16 I guess. Important years. I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, lifetime bachelor at age 60. It fucked me up pretty bad. I’m successful, happy with no regrets though. It is what it is.
It's interesting you say that because I was just telling my mother the other day that I'm soooo glad that she and my dad divorced when I was a little girl instead of staying "for the kids." They've been divorced nearly 30 years after a turbulent marriage and are good friends today. It's common for my dad to come and hang out with me and my mom for holidays and some weekends. I LOVE it this way, and I'm nearly 40 years old. I believe addressing the problem sooner than later is a lot better for "the kids" in the long run.
@@guybeingaguy I wish kids didn't go through that stuff. My son has his issues from our marital mess. We don't have to lead cookie cutter lives, and people who don't marry have energy to be community helpers, life lines for kids, and great uncles/aunts
@@elizabethheyenga9277 I don’t see it as an “issue” because you can’t miss what you never had. Luckily, I KNEW I was emotionally defective before my 20th birthday. There was no way I was going to be an acceptable husband/boyfriend. I removed myself for everybody’s well being, hers mainly. I installed an emotional switch a LONG LONG time ago. It’s always off, probably is broken anyways, but served me well all these years. Do I like it? NO. It’s the cards I was dealt, I’ve done what I thought and think is right. No regrets🍺👍
As a 36 year old Millennial, I've been in a relationship for nearly 8 years. But I will never marry and I have to say nearly half my high school and college classmates have not married at this point. Marriage was once forced upon everyone. Not anymore. Freedom to love is pure.
I wish my marriage had lasted. Unfortunately, you can’t maintain a relationship when you have to do all the giving with someone who isn’t present or accountable. He was emotionally abusive and misogynistic. He was vicious and mean. Now, I am in my seventies, poor, and disabled by disease. I chose wrong, and I am paying for it. The isolation is devastating. If I were healthy, it would be different.
No one is perfect. Be kind to yourself and perhaps you can find online communities to connect with like book reading groups, etc. to widen your social circle.
I was only married once for 34 years. I agree that more seasoned women (50 and over) are getting divorced. My life is so much BETTER now. I like the woman that I have become -- I like having MY OWN time... Doing what I want to do. I am a baby boomer with NO children.
You’re so lucky! I love my child but I would have loved to have my life to myself at this point. If I had the chance for a do over I would not have children. Since childhood back in the day… women are conditioned that having children is the brass ring. I think that was a trap and is not the truth at all.
Oh but you see, others DO have to live with your choices! Your children, your family and your community pay the price when you decide to get a divorce. Maybe we can find a balance between personal needs and absolute selfishness.
@@Tourianthe children also pay the price when their parents stay in a loveless and toxic marriage. I speak from experience and witnessing this firsthand. Sometimes (often times) divorce is better than seeing your parents argue constantly. Worry about your own bs and stay out of everyone else’s.
nearly 33 years with my man…hope it lasts forever. we spend a lot of time together and hope to continue to do that….we are 62 and 64. I also believe we are a really good example to family, friends and our kids. We love each other and support each other in every facet of life. And by the way, we are opposites in nearly everything.
The incredible pain of being faithfully married for 27 years, I was 52 years old, I discovered my husband’s affair with his married coworker. I was in shock. Some days it’s hard. So many triggers of what they did together while ignoring us!
Being cheated on is humiliating and hurtful. Other people don't know the pain unless it's happened to you. I know the pain, but in time, I got on with life and ultimately realized he did me a favor.
I know this pain! I’m 8 years since d day and will tell you, the dark days lessen. My dream is one day we all can come out of the shadows to really discuss this devastation of betrayal trauma. The pain is beyond anything
Unless you are very rich & still looking exceptional in your 60’s, 70’s, you won’t find any man or woman, so get a hobby, engage with your community, learn to live alone.
This should have been expected; women who entered the workforce and built up their own savings and investments eventually wouldn't want to stay in "shell" marriages. There are, of course, happy empty-nesters, but there are also partnerships where the relationship is on life support. People have to decide what works for their emotional, mental, physical well-being; either stay and work on it or move on. Life is short.
My boss once told me a lot of couples stay together for the sake of the children. Freedom comes once kids go off to college. That’s when older couples decide to get divorced. 🤷♂️🤔🤷♂️
I am 70. I would get divorced if it wouldn’t mess up my kids. My husband doesn’t want to touch me or even compliment me. He won’t even sit down and eat with me. He just wants to watch tv all day.
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
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Let’s hear it for people who worked through the challenges and came out stronger and more in love and are sharing their most vulnerable years with the spouse who stood by them through it all.
I have to laugh at humans who can’t commit and live with one person then can’t figure out they are the problem. Of the two groups, married and not, I find the married ones far more tolerable. As a nurse over 30 years, better hope you have a spouse somewhere. Someone who cares about you more than a paycheck. I love to read comments about “compassion” which few people actually have an ounce of more than platitudes. The less likable humans become the more difficult it is to even fake caring for them. You just do the job. And the narcissism and selfish nature of many make them a real job. Nothing wrong with going solo. If you can face your real flaws and work on them outside a partnership then you may end up with people who care about you.
That's me, left at 58, and went through an identity crisis, had to rebuild my life, got through it all and loving my single independent life. Also, embraced my psychic abilities and started my own business and blogging about my journey.
I don't see how you all can afford to get divorced so old. It takes both our incomes to live even a moderately comfortable life. When we can't work anymore, it would not be good. Poverty sucks.
But you'll notice they conveniently left out any mention whatsoever of socio-economic status. My guess is that it's the upper-income end of the spectrum which is seeing the highest percentage increases in divorce.
So no one talked about being a grandparent. This is a continuation of the "let's stay married until the kids are settled" idea....many people set the bar for divorce there. Never marry when both are young, that is a recipe of divorce as it is NOT love but infatuation and the angst of adult life.
As a happily never married or lived with a partner and childfree woman at 46, I'm most certainly seeing an influx of my peers go through divorce (sometimes for the 2nd time) and I can categorically say its only recently that I appreciate my life choices and how lucky I am. Unlike many come out of divorce I already have a strong and supportive community and friendship circle, own my own home, financially independent, good career, and often travel. Many people who are divorcing later in life are having to learn these skills for the first time. It's really interesting when I was younger and more susceptible to societal pressure I felt left behind, now often I feel way ahead. Its definitely funny and often unexpected how life turns out.
How does everyone deal with the fear of being completely alone when you’re divorced and have no kids? Who’s going to look after a person’s interest if one loses their marbles?
If one is getting diminished returns in the relationship it seems it would be something to celebrate: freedom and energy better spent on something else. If it’s a “shell” marriage, a positive change is certainly something to celebrate. 🤷🏻♀️
I think the happiest people for the most part are married men and single women. I am a 44 year old woman who ended a 10 year relationship (we were engaged) 10 years ago. I am the happiest I have ever been. I love my dogs, my work and hiking and skiing. I knew from a young age that I never wanted to be the marriage + kids type, but I felt so much pressure to "get engaged". I will definitely never marry, but I would like to find a man to partner with again long term. I don't envy friends with husbands and young kids. Their lives just seem so tiring and stressful.
Their lives are full, filled with laughter, wonderous moments, learning, loving, forgiving, growing, and amazement of how incredibly blessed they are to have children and a spouse who loves and supports them. Sadly all of which you will never ever know.
Not a good idea. Divorced at 52 I stiil miss the whole family time. I still mis being grandparents together. I still miss sharing the family history with your own husband and father of your children🙏
I don't blame ppl in the age range of 50's for getting divorced. That's like half your life with someone depending on how long one was married for. I'm in my 40's and I feel 40's are left for living. I am divorced and enjoy my single life and want to travel. Ppl are living longer, enjoying their lives, perhaps Thier sex lives. I have noticed I'm my 40's I'm enjoying it like when I was younger... interesting. Live ur life to the fullest ppl
I feel most people conform to society's rules and tenets. I am 55 and never been married. Reason, never found the right guy. I could have been married three times--I would have been divorced three times! If one is not married by the age of 28 something is wrong with that person, LOL..My mum thought I was a lesbian for the longest time. People marry way too young. I tell my 22 year old son, wait until you are at least 30 if you ever want to marry....Most people my age and older do not want to be with anyone----too much drama rama!
Married 1st time at 19, divorced 5 years later when the infatuation wore off. Was a lot smarter next time looking for someone who shared the same interests. Been together 45 years, Was it easy? Sometimes yes, others not so much. Came close to divorce once during the midlife crisis after 30 years. Both committed to doing the work and much easier now that we're both retired. Very happy to stay until the lights go out.
Before I retired, a male co-worker expressed his desire to divorce his wife of many years. Last I heard, he is now divorced and abroad. I naturally thought he was happy being a man.
My parents split up one month before their 50th wedding anniversary. My mother was blindsided at 71. My father wanted to "live his best life" which meant spending them into near bankruptcy and sending money to "women" he met online. He now doesn't think my mother should get any type of settlement. Gray divorce is not trivial and it is not all roses and sunshine and wonderful new lives. It is more often than not devastating, especially for women.
I was divorced at 54. Married for 18 years to a man 12 years my senior and he was having his second mid-life crisis. I chose to leave because our life was at an impasse. Five years removed and I have a great life with a lot less stress. I don’t ever see myself married again. Maybe a companion but have to live in separate homes. (Never saw this happening because I had retired early at 53 and was working part time ) still able to work part time and live comfortably. ❤
I’m so tired of the older generations not setting a good example for their children. Instead of practicing gratefulness, good habits, fidelity, loyalty, and commitment, they practice idolization of celebrities, selfishness, and infidelity. It’s no wonder the divorce rate spiked after those movies came out. Those generations had it so good, it was so easy to go to college and buy a house. Yet they can’t see their blessings. Disgusting behavior.
Wow. Blanket statement and judgmental, too. This person from an “older” generation is not the person you’re describing. Get over your mistaken conclusions.
@@Frooshchadfleadeegeehawk-he1tf Clearly I don’t know you so don’t take it personally. Anyone can see the crazy divorce rates, infidelity, exorbitant spending, and selfishness from older generations. People my age can’t buy houses or afford college so please open your eyes
I’m so tired of the younger generations not setting a good example for their children. Instead of practicing gratefulness, good habits, fidelity, loyalty…blah, blah, blah. Disgusting behavior. If you said this about I think you’d go viral for DISGUSTING BEHAVIOR. And the group you offended will take it personally! You can be the pot and the kettle all by yourself.
Why are all these marriage apologists here? If people want to get divorced or not married, let them. You don't know their situation at all to have the audacity to tell them what to do with their life.
More than likely these women made bank off the husbands. Got equity out of homes , took whichever husband had the highest social security payment, split assests including in vestments, and their own money from careers. None of them look like theyll be working cashiering in a supermarket to survive, or end up homeless living in their cars or on the street. Quite the opposite, look well to do. Trust me, if finances were and issue without hubs, theyd stay with him . Money is and always will be THE issue, in life.
@@christinahekbecause they don’t want to. They don’t want to get on the evolution and adaption train. Too many perceived benefits for such types. And those attitudes (among others) are what is holding all of society back. Well… let them stay behind while we wave bye bye from the caboose as they stand dumbfounded and angry on the track. After the goodbye… we can move up the train to the dining car and have a lovely meal, conversation and maybe even a glass of champagne to celebrate. 🎉. Enjoy the ride. 🎉
"In marriage, we have a duty to God, our spouses, the world, and future generations. But we are sinners. A husband and wife need to acknowledge that when the Bible speaks of fools, it is not just speaking about other people, but about them as well." - C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity.
It's upsetting to see any elderly . And her.. 72... gloating about divorce. That's just sad. Someone always hurts more. Sleep in seperate rooms. Clean up after yourself. D9nt leave one another. U will never have anyone like them again or share memories u have with them . At 72. Preditors want your money. Stay together for better sustainability.
Typical womanhater. One husband died and left her widowed. And her last husband was a joint petition, after their son turned 18. The truth is men die earlier, married men less early than single men. And many men leave their wives, when their wives are diagnosed with a chronic condition. The real question is why you had such an emotional reaction to a summarization of her life? Don’t be hysterical.
57 here, divorced 6 months ago after 25 years of marriage. Just got myself a lovely little bungalow with my two dogs. My beautiful daughters aged 22 and 20 doing great, one at university the other working in childcare and having to live with ex just for a while as her job is in the same town he now lives in. Ex hubby moved his new woman and her 25 year old daughter into his new place 3 weeks after us finally ending everything. This year has been hard but bring it on 2025, time for me to come into my own ❤❤❤❤
Married life is the most difficult and most important University in Life. Not everybody is realizing that or do not want to go through all internal work on themselves in a first place. All people are different, but I believe this should be two-way conversations and it is always about both parties responsibilities and willingness to let the other person to have a personal space while keeping common space with shared ideas together. We were born separately , we will die most likely separately, and family is something we could go through together. On a soul level we are all One.
Yuck. My father in law’s girlfriend has been married three times. Women like that really know how to make a relationship work. She expects us to subsidize her life in addition to his life. The answer is no. I hope that these ladies enjoy giving out samples at Costco.
I feel good after my recent divorce. Life can be good alone as well as with a man who is like you and let little things go. I have been dating too many men who were childish. Sadly.
I love someone said a man is not a financial plan. Very true. No man deserves to have to be looked as a ATM. Love and live and then wherever that leads great.
I can't think of a greater time of freedom. Can there be too much freedom? Is responsibility compromised? I don't think so. As long as you live life within certain boundaries. You can drink of course but not to harmful excess, as an example.
It’s easy to thrive to be single when you are healthy and independent. People that throw away relationships simply because they’re bored may regret that decision when they are in a hospital or have to pay for someone to help them or have a conversation.
I hear what you're saying, but the reality is that most older, married women wind up caretaking their husbands until they pass. So that essentially leaves her alone when she needs caretaking.
Decently put, some times people grow apart as they grow older. People come and go in our lives. What matters most is the relationship you have with yourself. #redpill
I guess do what's best for you OR as a team with someone. Its just draining that regardless of the time period, men want "their needs" satisfied without any regard to what "women need". Even when you don't have kids, you're still expected to be "pleasant". People shouldn't be changing their minds like the weather. Work as a team.
I was ever only in relationships for the sex. Seperated now after a 15 year marriage. My intellectual interests were in my work. My emotional interests were in my friendships. Now that I am older the women my age are not attractive to me. Planning in the next year or so to move to a third world country where old/young is perfectly acceptable and I will get back in the swing of things...
I was divorced at 50, best decision, found the love of my life and have been married 12 years now.
57 year old woman here, divorced at 29. Best move I ever made. After a pleasant 9 year relationship after the divroce and subsequent dating I came to the conclusion that going solo was the best choice for me. I am also realistic that men do not want older women and I do not pursue relationships with them. I never thought life could be so content and peaceful.
Yes! Having peace and my sanity is important. Regaining independence and making important decisions. I am not afraid of being alone. I lived alone for 11 years before getting married. I put myself through college when I was single (including graduate school). My finances are good. I don't need a man in my life to make me complete or to support me financially. I did all of this when I was single and I'm still doing it now that I'm divorced. I am a survivor!
I am 68 in Cebu, Philippines. I have college girls fighting over me. I hear sub Saharan Africa is a good place for women my age. Some western women go there and have their pick of young African men that don't have food.
@micclay They’re fighting over a green card.
Ikr,😂 he is an old fool@@karenmassey8354
If you want to be used….
I'm 34 and my parents wonder why I am not married. What is the point when over half of all marriages end in divorce? I don't want to be drained financially and have to work into my 80's because someone has a change of heart 20+ years in.
@@mtgamateurnight absolutly. Marraige is a contract with the state and taxes. It has nothing to do with love. Stand your ground! You dont need to sign a paper to prove love. If you do, it's not love.
I'm over 50, unhappily married, and I think you are absolutely correct!
@@annjohnson8437 im sorry for you. Nobody should have to accept a lifetime of unhappiness for anyone else.
@mtgamateurnight all I think of is, alright alright alright
Well, you have to choose wisely and choose someone with who you have as much in common as possible and have common goals. You also want a person who values marriage and companionship. Long-term commitment and marriage is not always a bed of roses. You do have to compromise because it is no longer just about you. But there is an element of luck that someone doesn't drastically change and make the partnership unlivable. I have been married many years to a wonderful person and I highly recommend it.
Divorced at 56 after 32 years of marriage. He initiated it and I am grateful. I started online dating about a week later lol. I just wanted to get dressed up and go out, meet new people. It was a blast! Unexpectedly, I met a man with whom I connected and we’ve been together ever since (8 years). Never been happier ❤️
Funny story. 😂
@ Cynical much?
Good for you! Life's much too short!
That’s awesome! Congrats
Most relationships last as long as they are tolerated.
So true😂. That's some hard work.
That’s if the couple gets lazy and doesn’t put the hard work in early signs of bumps.
@@DLFfitness1 AMEN!!!!
Don’t compare the reality of gray divorce of celebrities that have a lot of money to the middle class divorce. Often women are left with a very different lifestyle than when they were married. Read the studies before believing it is a ‘better’ life.
Exactly. The average North American female who divorces in middle age will face financial uncertainty unless she planned for this accordingly, has a great career, independent mindset and financial savvy and nest egg. Any major health setbacks can cause even more financial hardship. Women who are widowed fair better usually because they inherit their husband’s estate and not loose half of their net equity in a divorce settlement.
That's why married women should always maintain some mannerr of individual finances as well maintaining a resume.
@@cinemaclassica492 they could be the type of wife no man in his right mind would leave.
I was gonna say this. Many are left with nothing and having to go work at like 70!
@micclay They could be whomever they want to be. Finances exist without a man. No need to cowtow to a man at the expense of your own happiness and identity.
my parents were 50+ and got a divorce.. they should have gotten one sooner but stayed together "for the kids" 🤪
That never works. It just delays the inevitable.
When I stayed with mom, dad was evil.
Then when I stayed with dad, mom was evil.
I was 11 - 16 I guess. Important years.
I’ve never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, still a virgin, lifetime bachelor at age 60.
It fucked me up pretty bad. I’m successful, happy with no regrets though. It is what it is.
It's interesting you say that because I was just telling my mother the other day that I'm soooo glad that she and my dad divorced when I was a little girl instead of staying "for the kids." They've been divorced nearly 30 years after a turbulent marriage and are good friends today. It's common for my dad to come and hang out with me and my mom for holidays and some weekends. I LOVE it this way, and I'm nearly 40 years old. I believe addressing the problem sooner than later is a lot better for "the kids" in the long run.
@@guybeingaguy I wish kids didn't go through that stuff. My son has his issues from our marital mess. We don't have to lead cookie cutter lives, and people who don't marry have energy to be community helpers, life lines for kids, and great uncles/aunts
@@elizabethheyenga9277 I don’t see it as an “issue” because you can’t miss what you never had.
Luckily, I KNEW I was emotionally defective before my 20th birthday. There was no way I was going to be an acceptable husband/boyfriend. I removed myself for everybody’s well being, hers mainly.
I installed an emotional switch a LONG LONG time ago. It’s always off, probably is broken anyways, but served me well all these years.
Do I like it? NO.
It’s the cards I was dealt, I’ve done what I thought and think is right. No regrets🍺👍
As a 36 year old Millennial, I've been in a relationship for nearly 8 years. But I will never marry and I have to say nearly half my high school and college classmates have not married at this point. Marriage was once forced upon everyone. Not anymore. Freedom to love is pure.
Most women still want marriage though so I wonder how that would work for you.But hopefully your partner doesn’t want marriage just like yourself.
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
Why wouldn’t you just marry if you are going to do everything that married couples already do anyway?
@@AnonymousC-lm6tc it is easier to part ways when the relationship runs it's course if there is no legal binding.
I am happily married. There, I said it.
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Lying is not good.
Yay!!!
@@Tony-Steel64over a decade now. She is my best friend. I was sick and lost my job and she still was by my side. 😅
I think it's the best time to get divorced because you raised your family and your work is done.
To all you woman haters making comments…if you listen to the story, the husband is the one who initiated the divorce.
its funny too, because there is more than one woman's story being talked about in the video
@@te9238 there's more men haters than women haters ironic
Who hates women?
Midlife crisis is more commonly acted out by men 😂
I wish my marriage had lasted. Unfortunately, you can’t maintain a relationship when you have to do all the giving with someone who isn’t present or accountable. He was emotionally abusive and misogynistic. He was vicious and mean. Now, I am in my seventies, poor, and disabled by disease. I chose wrong, and I am paying for it. The isolation is devastating. If I were healthy, it would be different.
No one is perfect. Be kind to yourself and perhaps you can find online communities to connect with like book reading groups, etc. to widen your social circle.
Hugs ❤❤❤❤
I was only married once for 34 years. I agree that more seasoned women (50 and over) are getting divorced. My life is so much BETTER now. I like the woman that I have become -- I like having MY OWN time... Doing what I want to do. I am a baby boomer with NO children.
You’re so lucky! I love my child but I would have loved to have my life to myself at this point. If I had the chance for a do over I would not have children. Since childhood back in the day… women are conditioned that having children is the brass ring. I think that was a trap and is not the truth at all.
The wife divorced me at 50. Now at 55 I have seen the world for the first time. It's never too late to regain your freedom.
A man is not a plan.
So true
Amen
STOP WITH THIS HATE AGAINST MEN! One sided report only
Womens perspectives
Stop hating on man
Stop hating on men and stop deleting my posts
Life is short. Do what makes you happy. Who cares what others think? They don’t have to live with your choices, you do.
Amen
Oh but you see, others DO have to live with your choices! Your children, your family and your community pay the price when you decide to get a divorce. Maybe we can find a balance between personal needs and absolute selfishness.
@@Tourianthe children also pay the price when their parents stay in a loveless and toxic marriage. I speak from experience and witnessing this firsthand. Sometimes (often times) divorce is better than seeing your parents argue constantly. Worry about your own bs and stay out of everyone else’s.
@ if you don’t want people replying to comments, don’t publish them
@@Tourian if you don’t want people telling you to stay in your lane then don’t give then a reason to.
nearly 33 years with my man…hope it lasts forever. we spend a lot of time together and hope to continue to do that….we are 62 and 64. I also believe we are a really good example to family, friends and our kids. We love each other and support each other in every facet of life. And by the way, we are opposites in nearly everything.
I agree - I also am in a decades long marriage and it has been wonderful. It's very comforting to have someone who knows you so well.
30 years of marriage and don’t see myself with a divorce. Love my husband, hope he loves me as well 😂😂
Wonderful to hear!
The incredible pain of being faithfully married for 27 years, I was 52 years old, I discovered my husband’s affair with his married coworker. I was in shock. Some days it’s hard. So many triggers of what they did together while ignoring us!
Sorry you went through this. Much love.
Being cheated on is humiliating and hurtful. Other people don't know the pain unless it's happened to you. I know the pain, but in time, I got on with life and ultimately realized he did me a favor.
I know this pain! I’m 8 years since d day and will tell you, the dark days lessen.
My dream is one day we all can come out of the shadows to really discuss this devastation of betrayal trauma. The pain is beyond anything
Same situation. It gets better.❤
I am 63 and blissfully single. Never again will I subject myself to a terrible man
I hate to see people divorce…but there are times when it is necessary.
Left my covert narcissist husband at 54 . Nothing but peace and freedom now !
This couple was my neighbors about 50 years ago, and they were in their 60s married over 40 years, and one day they just split up and divorced.
It really shows how people don't know their neighbors and don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
Reminds me of that line about someone who has been divorced three times: "I'm starting to think it might be me."
Unless you are very rich & still looking exceptional in your 60’s, 70’s, you won’t find any man or woman, so get a hobby, engage with your community, learn to live alone.
Sometimes, enough is enough. You can only take so much.
My parents should have divorced. They are both gone and I am still here working through the toxicity.
That was there toxins not yours, get help to let that go and enjoy the rest of your own life
This should have been expected; women who entered the workforce and built up their own savings and investments eventually wouldn't want to stay in "shell" marriages. There are, of course, happy empty-nesters, but there are also partnerships where the relationship is on life support. People have to decide what works for their emotional, mental, physical well-being; either stay and work on it or move on. Life is short.
These old women are delusional and will never admit they messed up
My boss once told me a lot of couples stay together for the sake of the children. Freedom comes once kids go off to college. That’s when older couples decide to get divorced. 🤷♂️🤔🤷♂️
I am a widow. My child is my benefactor. I accept never being anything else.
I know why you’re never invited to parties.
@@guybeingaguy that is unkind, esp when her comment isn't rude, it's a personal statement
Advice from a woman with 3 marriages, with supporting "evidence" from actors and movies...
She mentioned she was made a widow in one of those marriages.
Dating is rigged today
Who wants to swipe on Tinder or Grindr and just "hook up"? Sounds pretty shallow.
I am 70. I would get divorced if it wouldn’t mess up my kids. My husband doesn’t want to touch me or even compliment me. He won’t even sit down and eat with me. He just wants to watch tv all day.
Give your kids more credit. They love you and want you to be happy above all else.
70 is still young, but your kids must be grown...they'll adapt.
Don’t be on your deathbed saying, well at least I didn’t upset anyone.
Your kids would want you to be happy. You only get this one chance!
Wait to be a widow, people are so much nicer to widows
Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Let's hear it for GRAY divorce 🎉!
Let's hear it for choices!!!
Let’s hear it for people who worked through the challenges and came out stronger and more in love and are sharing their most vulnerable years with the spouse who stood by them through it all.
@@kayi2140 😂
Also if your a widow and married for at least Ten years you can collect your deceased spouse Social Security at 60 as long as your single! 👍
Divorce isn't glamorous. People don't want to die alone
As a bartender, I’ve seen a lot of this trend happen
I have to laugh at humans who can’t commit and live with one person then can’t figure out they are the problem. Of the two groups, married and not, I find the married ones far more tolerable. As a nurse over 30 years, better hope you have a spouse somewhere. Someone who cares about you more than a paycheck. I love to read comments about “compassion” which few people actually have an ounce of more than platitudes. The less likable humans become the more difficult it is to even fake caring for them. You just do the job. And the narcissism and selfish nature of many make them a real job. Nothing wrong with going solo. If you can face your real flaws and work on them outside a partnership then you may end up with people who care about you.
That's me, left at 58, and went through an identity crisis, had to rebuild my life, got through it all and loving my single independent life. Also, embraced my psychic abilities and started my own business and blogging about my journey.
👏❤
I don't see how you all can afford to get divorced so old. It takes both our incomes to live even a moderately comfortable life. When we can't work anymore, it would not be good. Poverty sucks.
But you'll notice they conveniently left out any mention whatsoever of socio-economic status. My guess is that it's the upper-income end of the spectrum which is seeing the highest percentage increases in divorce.
So no one talked about being a grandparent. This is a continuation of the "let's stay married until the kids are settled" idea....many people set the bar for divorce there. Never marry when both are young, that is a recipe of divorce as it is NOT love but infatuation and the angst of adult life.
As a happily never married or lived with a partner and childfree woman at 46, I'm most certainly seeing an influx of my peers go through divorce (sometimes for the 2nd time) and I can categorically say its only recently that I appreciate my life choices and how lucky I am. Unlike many come out of divorce I already have a strong and supportive community and friendship circle, own my own home, financially independent, good career, and often travel. Many people who are divorcing later in life are having to learn these skills for the first time. It's really interesting when I was younger and more susceptible to societal pressure I felt left behind, now often I feel way ahead. Its definitely funny and often unexpected how life turns out.
That’s interesting insight
I am 58...have financial freedom...never married...wont say never say never but it would be nice to have companionship...
How does everyone deal with the fear of being completely alone when you’re divorced and have no kids? Who’s going to look after a person’s interest if one loses their marbles?
Absolutely beautiful women!!
Im indifferent, yeah you can do it but is this really somthing to celebrate?
If one is getting diminished returns in the relationship it seems it would be something to celebrate: freedom and energy better spent on something else. If it’s a “shell” marriage, a positive change is certainly something to celebrate. 🤷🏻♀️
I agree.
They leave once the house is paid off so they get the most equity
I think the happiest people for the most part are married men and single women. I am a 44 year old woman who ended a 10 year relationship (we were engaged) 10 years ago. I am the happiest I have ever been. I love my dogs, my work and hiking and skiing. I knew from a young age that I never wanted to be the marriage + kids type, but I felt so much pressure to "get engaged". I will definitely never marry, but I would like to find a man to partner with again long term. I don't envy friends with husbands and young kids. Their lives just seem so tiring and stressful.
Their lives are full, filled with laughter, wonderous moments, learning, loving, forgiving, growing, and amazement of how incredibly blessed they are to have children and a spouse who loves and supports them. Sadly all of which you will never ever know.
I think I I’ve seen an article about this!!!! Married men and single women are the most happiest people.
@@kayi2140
No guarantee. You don’t know their lives.
Being a skier, you'll find a partner very easily. If you really want to stack the odds in your favour, relocate to a ski town.
@@kayi2140 Sounds like a Hollywood production.
Despite acknowledging that nobody is perfect, the mindset of 'I am right, you are wrong' persists.
Not a good idea. Divorced at 52 I stiil miss the whole family time. I still mis being grandparents together. I still miss sharing the family history with your own husband and father of your children🙏
I don't blame ppl in the age range of 50's for getting divorced. That's like half your life with someone depending on how long one was married for. I'm in my 40's and I feel 40's are left for living. I am divorced and enjoy my single life and want to travel. Ppl are living longer, enjoying their lives, perhaps Thier sex lives. I have noticed I'm my 40's I'm enjoying it like when I was younger... interesting. Live ur life to the fullest ppl
I feel most people conform to society's rules and tenets. I am 55 and never been married. Reason, never found the right guy. I could have been married three times--I would have been divorced three times! If one is not married by the age of 28 something is wrong with that person, LOL..My mum thought I was a lesbian for the longest time. People marry way too young. I tell my 22 year old son, wait until you are at least 30 if you ever want to marry....Most people my age and older do not want to be with anyone----too much drama rama!
Married 1st time at 19, divorced 5 years later when the infatuation wore off. Was a lot smarter next time looking for someone who shared the same interests. Been together 45 years, Was it easy? Sometimes yes, others not so much. Came close to divorce once during the midlife crisis after 30 years. Both committed to doing the work and much easier now that we're both retired. Very happy to stay until the lights go out.
Before I retired, a male co-worker expressed his desire to divorce his wife of many years. Last I heard, he is now divorced and abroad. I naturally thought he was happy being a man.
My parents split up one month before their 50th wedding anniversary. My mother was blindsided at 71. My father wanted to "live his best life" which meant spending them into near bankruptcy and sending money to "women" he met online. He now doesn't think my mother should get any type of settlement. Gray divorce is not trivial and it is not all roses and sunshine and wonderful new lives. It is more often than not devastating, especially for women.
Theres alot of men out there thieir age looking for a nurse and a purse. Liberate on ladies!
The reverse exists too, mostly single moms
Nurse and a purse😂
I was divorced at 54. Married for 18 years to a man 12 years my senior and he was having his second mid-life crisis. I chose to leave because our life was at an impasse. Five years removed and I have a great life with a lot less stress. I don’t ever see myself married again. Maybe a companion but have to live in separate homes. (Never saw this happening because I had retired early at 53 and was working part time ) still able to work part time and live comfortably. ❤
People don't invest in their partner anymore instead everyone is working on investing in things, money, and worldly ambitions. Selfishness.
Not necessarily. What if your spouse is a complete jerk?
@Amy-466 Then we have an understanding that he wasn't the type to invest positively long-term. He shouldn't take his eyes off what's really important.
I’m so tired of the older generations not setting a good example for their children. Instead of practicing gratefulness, good habits, fidelity, loyalty, and commitment, they practice idolization of celebrities, selfishness, and infidelity. It’s no wonder the divorce rate spiked after those movies came out. Those generations had it so good, it was so easy to go to college and buy a house. Yet they can’t see their blessings. Disgusting behavior.
Wow. Blanket statement and judgmental, too. This person from an “older” generation is not the person you’re describing. Get over your mistaken conclusions.
@@Frooshchadfleadeegeehawk-he1tf
Clearly I don’t know you so don’t take it personally. Anyone can see the crazy divorce rates, infidelity, exorbitant spending, and selfishness from older generations. People my age can’t buy houses or afford college so please open your eyes
I’m so tired of the younger generations not setting a good example for their children. Instead of practicing gratefulness, good habits, fidelity, loyalty…blah, blah, blah. Disgusting behavior.
If you said this about I think you’d go viral for DISGUSTING BEHAVIOR. And the group you offended will take it personally! You can be the pot and the kettle all by yourself.
@@Frooshchadfleadeegeehawk-he1tf Lol did my comment ruin your day?
Waow, that sounds like a nice commercial for splitting couples! What about the downsides?
Once the celebrity divorces started, I went ahead and divorced my wife.
A marriage license should be renewed like all licenses.
My dad says this all the time. lol.
Why are all these marriage apologists here? If people want to get divorced or not married, let them. You don't know their situation at all to have the audacity to tell them what to do with their life.
Honestly it seems crazy to me .. might as well stick it out if you aren’t being abused .. there’s nothing better out in the world
Sometimes being alone IS better..
I agree
More than likely these women made bank off the husbands. Got equity out of homes , took whichever husband had the highest social security payment, split assests including in vestments, and their own money from careers. None of them look like theyll be working cashiering in a supermarket to survive, or end up homeless living in their cars or on the street. Quite the opposite, look well to do. Trust me, if finances were and issue without hubs, theyd stay with him . Money is and always will be THE issue, in life.
Why do you assume that these women didn’t have high paying careers of their own?
@@annsgal2025These dudes cannot conceive of women earning their own money.
@@christinahekbecause they don’t want to. They don’t want to get on the evolution and adaption train. Too many perceived benefits for such types. And those attitudes (among others) are what is holding all of society back. Well… let them stay behind while we wave bye bye from the caboose as they stand dumbfounded and angry on the track. After the goodbye… we can move up the train to the dining car and have a lovely meal, conversation and maybe even a glass of champagne to celebrate. 🎉. Enjoy the ride. 🎉
@@annsgal2025 Right? We are not in the 50s! Many women are the breadwinners in their families. I am one of them.
🤷🏻♀️ People have been unhappy for decades and decided to finally stop faking.
Windowing is so much easier and people feel sorry for you….
Situationships are where its at.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying a good scru
3 marriages.She is definitely a winner.
"In marriage, we have a duty to God, our spouses, the world, and future generations. But we are sinners. A husband and wife need to acknowledge that when the Bible speaks of fools, it is not just speaking about other people, but about them as well." - C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity.
It's upsetting to see any elderly . And her.. 72... gloating about divorce. That's just sad. Someone always hurts more. Sleep in seperate rooms. Clean up after yourself. D9nt leave one another. U will never have anyone like them again or share memories u have with them . At 72. Preditors want your money. Stay together for better sustainability.
Her ex is just hurting so bad. Selfish woman.
Typical womanhater. One husband died and left her widowed. And her last husband was a joint petition, after their son turned 18.
The truth is men die earlier, married men less early than single men. And many men leave their wives, when their wives are diagnosed with a chronic condition.
The real question is why you had such an emotional reaction to a summarization of her life? Don’t be hysterical.
And live in misery? Maybe the memories you share with them aren't all that great.
57 here, divorced 6 months ago after 25 years of marriage. Just got myself a lovely little bungalow with my two dogs. My beautiful daughters aged 22 and 20 doing great, one at university the other working in childcare and having to live with ex just for a while as her job is in the same town he now lives in. Ex hubby moved his new woman and her 25 year old daughter into his new place 3 weeks after us finally ending everything. This year has been hard but bring it on 2025, time for me to come into my own ❤❤❤❤
I don’t care ….
People are tired of each other at least they can leave :)
Don’t take people for granted
I’m glad she’s happy!
i love both "it's complicated" & 'first wave club"
Thanks for sharing!!!
Married life is the most difficult and most important University in Life. Not everybody is realizing that or do not want to go through all internal work on themselves in a first place. All people are different, but I believe this should be two-way conversations and it is always about both parties responsibilities and willingness to let the other person to have a personal space while keeping common space with shared ideas together.
We were born separately , we will die most likely separately, and family is something we could go through together. On a soul level we are all One.
Why haven't we learned diversity in media?????????
Yuck. My father in law’s girlfriend has been married three times. Women like that really know how to make a relationship work. She expects us to subsidize her life in addition to his life. The answer is no. I hope that these ladies enjoy giving out samples at Costco.
I feel good after my recent divorce. Life can be good alone as well as with a man who is like you and let little things go. I have been dating too many men who were childish. Sadly.
Do they know these rates across race?
I love someone said a man is not a financial plan. Very true. No man deserves to have to be looked as a ATM. Love and live and then wherever that leads great.
Women are more likely to begin the divorce, not a little.
We are all finally free 🙌
Sounds like a resident of Disneyland 📈
I can't think of a greater time of freedom. Can there be too much freedom? Is responsibility compromised? I don't think so. As long as you live life within certain boundaries. You can drink of course but not to harmful excess, as an example.
Oh wow Newburyport Sign Co.
Gone up 80 per cent since 2010 - online crap.
All of people do stay because of the kids.
DIVORCE IS THE NEW MARRIAGE. CHEAPER❤
It’s easy to thrive to be single when you are healthy and independent. People that throw away relationships simply because they’re bored may regret that decision when they are in a hospital or have to pay for someone to help them or have a conversation.
I hear what you're saying, but the reality is that most older, married women wind up caretaking their husbands until they pass. So that essentially leaves her alone when she needs caretaking.
and for that " end" caretaking, you should waste your "whole" life right?
Decently put, some times people grow apart as they grow older. People come and go in our lives. What matters most is the relationship you have with yourself. #redpill
So much for death do we part
Well if your not happy then leave.life is so short.
I guess do what's best for you OR as a team with someone. Its just draining that regardless of the time period, men want "their needs" satisfied without any regard to what "women need". Even when you don't have kids, you're still expected to be "pleasant". People shouldn't be changing their minds like the weather. Work as a team.
sad
🤤🥴🤤 I take life advice from celebrities because they are famoushhhh 🥴🤢🤤
I was ever only in relationships for the sex. Seperated now after a 15 year marriage. My intellectual interests were in my work. My emotional interests were in my friendships. Now that I am older the women my age are not attractive to me. Planning in the next year or so to move to a third world country where old/young is perfectly acceptable and I will get back in the swing of things...