No, religion isn’t the problem. I’m religious myself. The problem is people who use their religion to force their personal beliefs onto others and demonize those who don’t share those beliefs. That’s what society has the problem with. You live your life and I’ll live mine.
Secularists force their beliefs onto others as well. Look at Communist regimes that ban religion and force the population to submit to the State. And you can't even look outside your window today without being bombarded with woke culture stuff like LGBT, BLM etc. These people hate religion for "forcing their beliefs" yet they do the exact same thing. 😂
Well, kids are expensive though. There is a certain point where it isn't responsible to bring more in if it means going into debt over it. For example, you need a vehicle that will accommodate 6+ kids. Your house can't be a 2 bedroom condo. Not everyone is set up for that life.
Often people with limited means can afford to accommodate their large family by spending less on unnecessary expenses and more on that 6+ kid vehicle. And if you are a part of a church community and in need of a suitable vehicle, often that community can assist since they love big families. I'm not trying to be flippant or dismissive; it's certainly a big responsibility to raise any number of children. But I think the point Abby is making is how a religious community keeps us connected and supporting our neighbors. It takes a village to raise a child.
@@AllisonIntheCity The first thing I said was that you can choose to redirect your spending to accommodate your large family. I also said "* often* that community *can* assist," not that it definitely will and always does. A church community helping each other because they are willing to is not socialism.
I am a follower of Christ. I don't follow religion in America because it is about showmanship. Any one here who is Christian will understand this. I do agree that community is important. The thing that Catechism has gotten right is Pre-Martial Counseling. It teaches couples what to expect in marriage. You get a couple married twenty years or more to mentor couples. Having children is important. It's important to only have how many you can support. Not the state.
I agree with all the points. We need to be more social, and kids are good. However, I don't think you need to be religious for it. There are many drawbacks to religion. For example, it automatically puts people in boxes where one religion hates the other. I don't think that's a healthy thing for us as society. It sometimes leads us to reject facts which are based on science.
Christian mom of 1 with severe medical needs. Married 21 years and im the full time round the clock caregiver. My husband is an engineer and I recently found your channel❤. You are such a breath of fresh air and lovely on the internet. Thank you!
Counterpoint to everything you just said about community and the importance of relationships: the aftermath of the global COVID lockdowns has shown us that there is a (not insignificant) portion of us who are introverts through and though. Lockdowns were a relief for us because we stopped having to participate at a level of sociability that we were ultimately uncomfortable with. We are not unhappy having fewer friends or relationships as we are already at our physical and mental limit of sociability.
Introversion is a mental illness. If you are an introvert (in the sense that you actively choose not to engage in social interactions when the option is there), then you're likely suffering from avoidant personality disorder. The human mind demands interaction and community. Mindlessly consuming media in the hopes that a screen will dull the desire for connection is idiotic. A machine will never replace that.
I am all for having lots of kids and a big family! BUT i just wanted to point out that there are plenty of respectable reasons for not wanting more kids. Not all of the reasons are, and not all people just want to stay out late and get drunk and do things that are not good. You could want to help your community but not want more kids yourself. You could want to focus on your career **because of the joy** that it brings you and others, but again not want more kids yourself. And obviously many more reasons that are still good things.
I loved your takes on all of these. These types of communities are not showcased enough. Thank you for sharing. Having lived in both predominantly religious, family-centered communities and predominantly irreligious, individual-centered communities I've noticed there are clear differences in the general happiness as well as the mental and emotional stability between the two. We are naturally relational creatures and religion or faith provides the why to invest in relationships rather than just in ourselves.
This is a very interesting video, also your hair looks great! I'm not religious, I practice alternative spirituality but I will say religion can be beautiful when it's not abusive or used in a forceful way. Most people who are against religion have dealt with alot of trauma in the name of a certain God or deity, so it makes sense that something that caused one so much pain one is fervently against. But that being said, I'm happy you love your culture so much and you share it with others. It's interesting for sure, plus with the insanity of the world today and everything feeling so off-balance I think we could all use a technology free day and reconnect with nature, ourselves and each other.
The best religion is nobody supposed to speak about his religion publicly because nobody in this planet can prove that his religion is better than the other religion
Hi Abby!! I know a few years back you made some great advice videos about how to be a great host/guest, bridesmaid, etc, and I was wondering if you could make a video about how to be a great neighbor. With you discussing your neighborhood community I’m jealous! Would love to hear your take on how to be a good neighbor!
There are approx 4000 religions in the world and slightly more than 2000 different gods. All these religions cannot be the right one. But they can ALL be equally wrong.
What does it mean for a religion to be the "right one"? Many religions can be a path to God. Judaism understands this but, see C.S. Lewis (perhaps the most well known recent Christian apologist) on the Tao or natural law and how there are similarities among many religions (although Lewis would certainly have said Christianity is the best path to God).
@@marchess286 So why do religions fight each other, Christian vs Muslim vs Hindu. Why do Zionists spit at Christians, why do religions hate each other or at least refer to other religions as heathens with false idols etc, if all religions are seeing the same God. Yet they all think their religion is a loving, good, kind, compassionate religion but then hate other religions. Even if most of them are all believing in the same god this alone does not change the idea that they can still all be equally wrong.
I’m excpecting my 6th child in 8 years. It is challenging. But it’s also grown me as a person more than anything else could. I’m learning patience, humility, selflessness, budgeting, living simply, unsurpassable JOY, how to be more caring, loving, understanding, etc… it’s making me the best version of myself. ❤
I love, love, love the idea of planned community like that. Our church (several of them, now that I think about it) would encourage people to move close to each other. One group had the 10 minute walk rule. I wasn't within the boundary, but I wasn't that far and it was pretty fun. But it seems like this would work better if it's long term house ownership, not just renting. What usually happens is people do this as singles, then get married, and once kids start coming along, instead of staying so they can have your situation of all the kids playing together, the families start moving away, searching for better schools or a bigger home or whatever. It's sad because as a single... I'm always the one left behind. I'd give anything to have kids! I think 4 is perfect. (Especially if it works out with 2 girls/2 boys.) But the more, the merrier! It's so weird that 4 is considered a "big family" these days. I'm only GenX and when I was growing up it was average to have at least 4 kids. My family has only 2, but I remember more from my friends' families. People are so weird today. Children are a blessing!
I love the neighborhood/community for sure. But I’m a mom of 1, and after an absolutely awful pregnancy and horrible PPD/PPA, I only want one kid. Not everyone is the same and unfortunately most of us don’t have the village to help out. My whole family is spread out, my friends all work full time, and while I live in a row home neighborhood, I rarely see any neighbors. I think our world doesn’t always allow for us to live this way.
Good post. I think your comments center around the big benefit of religion (when done right): community, community, community. As somebody who is agnostic and with deeply religious family (you’ve met my mom but not my estranged rabbi brothers), even I can admit that the secular world hasn’t figured out the community thing at anything remotely like the Orthodox Jewish world. My critique centers on two things. By design your commentary missed the thing that “community” is in tension with: conformity. Namely, to get that sense of community you gotta conform to community norms and expectations….which in the case of Orthodox Judaism can be very onerous. Second, one of the benefits you mention (disconnecting from technology for Shabbas) can be taken to be overly extreme. See what happened with disconnecting on October 7th and turning the phones on with a changed world. While I think there is a benefit to disconnecting from technology, I wish it was done more in moderation as opposed to a binary disconnecting/not disconnecting. But other than that stuff, good commentary. I look forward to seeing you and your husband again the next time we come to South Florida.
i’m confused as Jewish people are not supposed to proselytise because Judaism believes that if someone wishes to convert it must be completely their decision, you’re not directly telling people to become jewish, but you are advocating and trying to influence people into become religious because you say it’s so great which seems very agasint your own religion.
@@viktorijabogdanaite5167that’s because they have a view that everything is supposed to happen and that there is reward waiting for them after life. They also have set expectations so a life path is more achievable.
@@viktorijabogdanaite5167the people living in Jonestown thought it was a paradise at first too, and Heaven Gate. Utility doesn't mean truth. This is just the "they're mean spirited, embittered, immoral, evil, unhappy atheists" stereotype.
Around 85% of the world's population identifies as some religion. Society freaking loves religion, Abby. And we are so thankful for all you new content.
A community of real, present human beings (not just on a screen!) is fantastic. I absolutely agree that it's necessary. Didn't we ALL learn this the hard way during the Covid years? But the biblical God, the Messiah, Jesus Christ, does not require a certain number of people to be present before He will hear / answer prayers. Nor can any of our good deeds pay for our sins and allow us into heaven. Only the once for all sacrifice of Jesus, the Messiah can do that.
🌸🌷🌷🌷🌹🌺🌻 they are beautiful habits and religions are certainly fascinating and very respectable but the world is not that nice place we were told 😔🏳️🌎🌍🌏🕊️
All of these things are fairly specific to Judaism, and not religion in general. You shouldn't be afraid to talk about how you love being Jewish, and the uniqueness of Jewish culture. I love it too. No need to be so general about it.
You can take mankind out of religion, you can’t take religion out of mankind. Humans are built to worship something. I myself believe yeshua is the messiah. The G-d of Abraham Isaac and Jacob. However, I do not practice traditional Christianity, I practice messianic Judaism. I deeply appreciate the way Jews live life and worship. I think churches cover and reject the beauty and necessity of Judaism and it was always hidden from me. When I discovered that there are Jews that accept the messiah as yeshua I knew I wanted to be apart of that community. ✡️I also understand the weight of what I say, I understand orthodox do not believe in yeshua, I understand they spit when they hear his name. I understand they think it’s idolatry, I whole heartedly disagree but I also wholeheartedly love Jews
No, religion isn’t the problem. I’m religious myself. The problem is people who use their religion to force their personal beliefs onto others and demonize those who don’t share those beliefs. That’s what society has the problem with. You live your life and I’ll live mine.
Secularists force their beliefs onto others as well. Look at Communist regimes that ban religion and force the population to submit to the State.
And you can't even look outside your window today without being bombarded with woke culture stuff like LGBT, BLM etc. These people hate religion for "forcing their beliefs" yet they do the exact same thing. 😂
Well, kids are expensive though. There is a certain point where it isn't responsible to bring more in if it means going into debt over it. For example, you need a vehicle that will accommodate 6+ kids. Your house can't be a 2 bedroom condo. Not everyone is set up for that life.
Often people with limited means can afford to accommodate their large family by spending less on unnecessary expenses and more on that 6+ kid vehicle. And if you are a part of a church community and in need of a suitable vehicle, often that community can assist since they love big families. I'm not trying to be flippant or dismissive; it's certainly a big responsibility to raise any number of children. But I think the point Abby is making is how a religious community keeps us connected and supporting our neighbors. It takes a village to raise a child.
@@asmrallison so you can not have enough money to raise 6 kids but expect socialism from your church? i thought abby hated socialism?
@@AllisonIntheCity The first thing I said was that you can choose to redirect your spending to accommodate your large family. I also said "* often* that community *can* assist," not that it definitely will and always does. A church community helping each other because they are willing to is not socialism.
@@AllisonIntheCityso you’re saying that socialism and charity are the same thing? What a preposterous comparison to make
@@MarinaMeoli “A group of people pooling their funds to give one person something they need but can’t afford on their own” how is that NOT Socialism…?
You know what I hate about religion? How people impose it on you and use it as a weapon towards others.
Kinda like feminism 😉
This!!
@@jelenabasrak8688 No idea why you're bringing feminism into this lol
@@Sun-phoriait’s like the scary monster under the bed to people like these. They just insert feminism in to everything
Definitely religion abuse
I am a follower of Christ. I don't follow religion in America because it is about showmanship. Any one here who is Christian will understand this. I do agree that community is important.
The thing that Catechism has gotten right is Pre-Martial Counseling. It teaches couples what to expect in marriage. You get a couple married twenty years or more to mentor couples.
Having children is important. It's important to only have how many you can support. Not the state.
I agree with all the points. We need to be more social, and kids are good. However, I don't think you need to be religious for it. There are many drawbacks to religion. For example, it automatically puts people in boxes where one religion hates the other. I don't think that's a healthy thing for us as society. It sometimes leads us to reject facts which are based on science.
So the good part of religion isn’t the religion? Seems like we can just try to have good communities without imaginary friends.
Christian mom of 1 with severe medical needs. Married 21 years and im the full time round the clock caregiver. My husband is an engineer and I recently found your channel❤. You are such a breath of fresh air and lovely on the internet. Thank you!
Counterpoint to everything you just said about community and the importance of relationships: the aftermath of the global COVID lockdowns has shown us that there is a (not insignificant) portion of us who are introverts through and though. Lockdowns were a relief for us because we stopped having to participate at a level of sociability that we were ultimately uncomfortable with. We are not unhappy having fewer friends or relationships as we are already at our physical and mental limit of sociability.
Introversion is a mental illness. If you are an introvert (in the sense that you actively choose not to engage in social interactions when the option is there), then you're likely suffering from avoidant personality disorder.
The human mind demands interaction and community. Mindlessly consuming media in the hopes that a screen will dull the desire for connection is idiotic. A machine will never replace that.
I am an introvert. I can handle two or three minutes of people. Then I am done.
I do all these things and I don't need an imaginary friend to do so.
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I am all for having lots of kids and a big family! BUT i just wanted to point out that there are plenty of respectable reasons for not wanting more kids. Not all of the reasons are, and not all people just want to stay out late and get drunk and do things that are not good. You could want to help your community but not want more kids yourself. You could want to focus on your career **because of the joy** that it brings you and others, but again not want more kids yourself. And obviously many more reasons that are still good things.
I loved your takes on all of these. These types of communities are not showcased enough. Thank you for sharing. Having lived in both predominantly religious, family-centered communities and predominantly irreligious, individual-centered communities I've noticed there are clear differences in the general happiness as well as the mental and emotional stability between the two. We are naturally relational creatures and religion or faith provides the why to invest in relationships rather than just in ourselves.
This is a very interesting video, also your hair looks great! I'm not religious, I practice alternative spirituality but I will say religion can be beautiful when it's not abusive or used in a forceful way. Most people who are against religion have dealt with alot of trauma in the name of a certain God or deity, so it makes sense that something that caused one so much pain one is fervently against. But that being said, I'm happy you love your culture so much and you share it with others. It's interesting for sure, plus with the insanity of the world today and everything feeling so off-balance I think we could all use a technology free day and reconnect with nature, ourselves and each other.
Loved this episode! Perfect timing as I’ve just started to get more in touch with my Judaism and love your episodes on religion! 🌸
Off topic but this haircut really suits you! You look so pretty
I love it too!
Me too! You look so pretty, Abby!
so empowering that you can't even participate in parts of the religion without a bunch of other men to help you out
The best religion is nobody supposed to speak about his religion publicly because nobody in this planet can prove that his religion is better than the other religion
Yeah. I mean we want to be telling people what they can and can't talk about. Who needs freedom of speech
False but ok
Hi Abby!! I know a few years back you made some great advice videos about how to be a great host/guest, bridesmaid, etc, and I was wondering if you could make a video about how to be a great neighbor. With you discussing your neighborhood community I’m jealous! Would love to hear your take on how to be a good neighbor!
It's autumn here in Australia.
There are approx 4000 religions in the world and slightly more than 2000 different gods. All these religions cannot be the right one. But they can ALL be equally wrong.
What does it mean for a religion to be the "right one"? Many religions can be a path to God. Judaism understands this but, see C.S. Lewis (perhaps the most well known recent Christian apologist) on the Tao or natural law and how there are similarities among many religions (although Lewis would certainly have said Christianity is the best path to God).
@@marchess286 So why do religions fight each other, Christian vs Muslim vs Hindu. Why do Zionists spit at Christians, why do religions hate each other or at least refer to other religions as heathens with false idols etc, if all religions are seeing the same God. Yet they all think their religion is a loving, good, kind, compassionate religion but then hate other religions.
Even if most of them are all believing in the same god this alone does not change the idea that they can still all be equally wrong.
That sounds lovely no phone time
Due to men having natural drives and urges, I would say Abby has done more for the Jewish cause just out of sheer hotness. Embrace the meme!
So true! Yep! I have 5 kids and currently expecting my 6th lol I get those same responses.
I’m excpecting my 6th child in 8 years. It is challenging. But it’s also grown me as a person more than anything else could. I’m learning patience, humility, selflessness, budgeting, living simply, unsurpassable JOY, how to be more caring, loving, understanding, etc… it’s making me the best version of myself. ❤
Free palestine
Of Hamas
Free Palestine from hamas
@Abcdefghijajajaja why not free them from both Hamas and Israel?
Reclaim Jerusalem for Christ!!✝️☦️
Isreal is and has always been a a terrorist state.
Judaïsme is a lie
I love, love, love the idea of planned community like that. Our church (several of them, now that I think about it) would encourage people to move close to each other. One group had the 10 minute walk rule. I wasn't within the boundary, but I wasn't that far and it was pretty fun. But it seems like this would work better if it's long term house ownership, not just renting. What usually happens is people do this as singles, then get married, and once kids start coming along, instead of staying so they can have your situation of all the kids playing together, the families start moving away, searching for better schools or a bigger home or whatever. It's sad because as a single... I'm always the one left behind.
I'd give anything to have kids! I think 4 is perfect. (Especially if it works out with 2 girls/2 boys.) But the more, the merrier! It's so weird that 4 is considered a "big family" these days. I'm only GenX and when I was growing up it was average to have at least 4 kids. My family has only 2, but I remember more from my friends' families. People are so weird today. Children are a blessing!
I love the neighborhood/community for sure. But I’m a mom of 1, and after an absolutely awful pregnancy and horrible PPD/PPA, I only want one kid. Not everyone is the same and unfortunately most of us don’t have the village to help out. My whole family is spread out, my friends all work full time, and while I live in a row home neighborhood, I rarely see any neighbors. I think our world doesn’t always allow for us to live this way.
Really enjoyed this, thank you 🌻🌞
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Really good video, Abby. 🌻
Good post. I think your comments center around the big benefit of religion (when done right): community, community, community.
As somebody who is agnostic and with deeply religious family (you’ve met my mom but not my estranged rabbi brothers), even I can admit that the secular world hasn’t figured out the community thing at anything remotely like the Orthodox Jewish world.
My critique centers on two things. By design your commentary missed the thing that “community” is in tension with: conformity. Namely, to get that sense of community you gotta conform to community norms and expectations….which in the case of Orthodox Judaism can be very onerous.
Second, one of the benefits you mention (disconnecting from technology for Shabbas) can be taken to be overly extreme. See what happened with disconnecting on October 7th and turning the phones on with a changed world. While I think there is a benefit to disconnecting from technology, I wish it was done more in moderation as opposed to a binary disconnecting/not disconnecting.
But other than that stuff, good commentary. I look forward to seeing you and your husband again the next time we come to South Florida.
Your hair is so nice!
You look great
i’m confused as Jewish people are not supposed to proselytise because Judaism believes that if someone wishes to convert it must be completely their decision, you’re not directly telling people to become jewish, but you are advocating and trying to influence people into become religious because you say it’s so great which seems very agasint your own religion.
🧹🧼🧽. Spring cleaning here😂. I want a vacuum emoji!!
It’s sad to see people hating on such a lovely and kind woman Abby. Please ignore that.
People are stupid. Yes, ignore them!
Not to be controversial or anything, but I really do believe that religious people of any sort of religion are happier than non-religious.
You're not controversial, that's what most studies say :). Religious people also have more stable marriages
@@viktorijabogdanaite5167 I believe it.
@@viktorijabogdanaite5167that’s because they have a view that everything is supposed to happen and that there is reward waiting for them after life.
They also have set expectations so a life path is more achievable.
@@viktorijabogdanaite5167the people living in Jonestown thought it was a paradise at first too, and Heaven Gate. Utility doesn't mean truth. This is just the "they're mean spirited, embittered, immoral, evil, unhappy atheists" stereotype.
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All of this is SO true!❤
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Around 85% of the world's population identifies as some religion. Society freaking loves religion, Abby. And we are so thankful for all you new content.
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I am spiritual and believe in God but religion isn't for me. I respect religious people and their discipline.
Which God?
The God of Israel is a God of order
A community of real, present human beings (not just on a screen!) is fantastic. I absolutely agree that it's necessary. Didn't we ALL learn this the hard way during the Covid years? But the biblical God, the Messiah, Jesus Christ, does not require a certain number of people to be present before He will hear / answer prayers. Nor can any of our good deeds pay for our sins and allow us into heaven. Only the once for all sacrifice of Jesus, the Messiah can do that.
Hallelujah amen 🙏🏼 yeshua hamashiach ✡️❤️
🌸🌷🌷🌷🌹🌺🌻 they are beautiful habits and religions are certainly fascinating and very respectable but the world is not that nice place we were told 😔🏳️🌎🌍🌏🕊️
All of these things are fairly specific to Judaism, and not religion in general. You shouldn't be afraid to talk about how you love being Jewish, and the uniqueness of Jewish culture. I love it too. No need to be so general about it.
You can take mankind out of religion, you can’t take religion out of mankind. Humans are built to worship something. I myself believe yeshua is the messiah. The G-d of Abraham Isaac and Jacob. However, I do not practice traditional Christianity, I practice messianic Judaism. I deeply appreciate the way Jews live life and worship. I think churches cover and reject the beauty and necessity of Judaism and it was always hidden from me. When I discovered that there are Jews that accept the messiah as yeshua I knew I wanted to be apart of that community. ✡️I also understand the weight of what I say, I understand orthodox do not believe in yeshua, I understand they spit when they hear his name. I understand they think it’s idolatry, I whole heartedly disagree but I also wholeheartedly love Jews
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