How Not to Feel Guilty About Ending a Relationship - by Jodi Aman
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- Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
- When you decide a relationship is not in your highest good, you still might care about the other person and feel guilty about breaking up with them. Watch this quick video to find out why you don’t have to feel guilt about breaking up with someone.
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• How Not to Feel Guilty...
Feeling very guilty. I knew it was the right thing to do for the both of us but still, it sucks breaking someones heart.
It really does man 🤦🏾♂️
Same boy man! It fucking sucks
Same. I keep crying. I wish he broke up with me, instead of me with him.
@@MushLev i kinda agrEE about it being easier to be the one getting dumped in some ways cos being the victim means no guilt. I was so bitter over one of my exes whom i caught cheating on me 3 yrs ago and wasnt even really sorry about it.. but n0w i get it. I had to reCently end a relationship with one of the swEEtest guys i ever met. He wanted to remain friends and keep in touch still but i told him i fEEl it best to cut ties completely, esPecially sinCe im 10 yrs older than him and recently moved back to nj while he is still in la. Didnt want to keep a long distance thing going. Want a fresh start. Learned my leSSon on nEEding to forgive my ex who cheated fr0m this exPerience......things do not always work out
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It fucking hurts man. I still loved her. But I couldn't handle it anymore.. it was the best for the both of us. I know.
Hurting someone that you genuinely like and have feelings for - even though it was not going to work - is very, very difficult. I wish I didn't have to hurt them.
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Does it ever stop? The constant feeling of guilt that dampens every little happiness you feel. I broke up with a guy who never hurt me in any way, the sweetest boy ever. I can't forget his face the last day we met. I hurt him so much, made him cry. Will God ever forgive me for doing it to him. He never did a thing wrong, loved me honestly. Still I wasn't happy n broke up with him.
Damnnn..this is exactly like my story as well Pallavi!! I totally feel you and it hurts real bad thinking about the guy who just fell for the wrong person at the wrong time..they deserve far more better than us..but ahhhh shit..this guilt of how broken he is..is eating me up right to the core😔😩
@DeeDee Ingram Glad that you shared your thoughts too..Im my pov its just that we were too used to their presence, sense of belonging and living in our world of fantasy of that guy being ‘The One’ in the rush for getting in a relationship that it was too late to go back and come to our senses that just being good friends and nothing more than that is actually the best decision ever..it happens nvm we are all humans afterall and this is what guides us to not repeat the same mistakes..realized this late but not better late than never..so enjoy the solo life to the fullest..and let things go with the flow..time heals🙌🏻
God I know I’d rather be dumped 😥
Right now I feel the same as you. I broke up with him. I think it's all my fault to hurt him badly and I think I'm not deserve to be happy. Right now like I'm in the living hell with feeling guilty.
Just broke up with my gf and it was the same situation but we just did not work and I did not want to waist years of her life when I could see it’s not going to work out in 4 months
This is 100% spot on what I need. I hate hurting other people, especially when they didn't do anything wrong, but my heart's just not there.
Yeah you are so wrong for that man
I think it’s so sad that when people fight, that’s their ego and brains fighting, but when they break up, it’s the heart that pays the price
This helped me so much!!! The guilt was slowly eating away at me, and I was beginning to convince myself to go back. You reminded me what I knew to be true when I left: if I was no longer in it the same as him, there was no point and it was the right thing to do if I really cared. I hope he can see it like that one day.
I just broke up last night with my 3 years gf, she loved me good, but we were having very intense fights lately, still I feel like a douche for being the one who said the words, I just don't want to hurt or be hurt
Amen, for some reason things weren't the same after a while. Not the same romantic nor sexual desires even though I wanted it to be there, still confused sometimes
I had never thought I would be here , but here I am ....
Ur words gave me a relief though.
Your words helping
Thankyou
I recently ended an eight year relationship.
We fought almost everyday and at one point i decided to end it for the both of us.
She couldn’t understand it so it broke her heart so bad. I feel terrible right now and I hope she will realize that it was the best for her in the future.
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I loved her. I honestly did but there was something about her that I didn’t feel we were compatible enough. Didn’t pay much mind to it in the beginning of our relationship but then it really weighed heavily on my 1yr and 8 months in. That was way too long to express those feelings if I had them 4 months earlier. She is such a great person and has been through a horrible breakup in the past and I felt like I took away time from her even though we had great times together. My mom loved her and probably will never forgive me for breaking her heart because she had hers broken hard before as well.
I knew down the line the negative thoughts wouldn’t ease up and I would of hated myself even more if we ended up building a family together and then I ended things. I know I made the right decision but moving on from this one won’t be easy. I need to practice self love before I can fully love someone else.
I’m going through something very similar, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one. Thank you for your post.
Yep same here literally knew it from the beginning in a way and I feel so guilty for ignoring it. And we were also a year and 8 or so months in. I never knew who I was. It’s just the fact that maybe I somehow knew it could never work and made him believe that it could for so long and it’s very very difficult.
a very similar thing just happened to me. it was my first relationship and i didn’t want to be honest with myself, but i knew something in it didn’t feel right. i knew we would break up eventually. but i ignored that. and now he’s so hurt and i can’t even comfort him. i feel like such a bad person but i know i’m not.
i also really need to work on loving myself, and i didn’t realize that until kinda recently. i cant fully love someone else if i can’t love myself first. i just miss him though :(
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Hey man any updates on how you’re doing? I’m going through the exact same situation, and just want to know when it all gets better
My husband and I were married for thirty two years. We are separated now due to irreconcilable differences, and the guilt I felt was horrible, it was the worst feeling I have ever felt. Then I found this video. Now, I watch it every time the guilt starts to come back and it has truly helped me through this difficult time. Thank you.
I broke up with my girlfriend because I felt that I couldn’t see a future with her due to issues that bothered me. It been hard for me to recover but I honestly just feel so bad for her because I knew she loved me and cared about me. Im constantly thinking about her feelings and feel so sad I broke her heart. I still care about her and want her to succeed but I just couldn’t continue in a relationship that I wasn’t happy in. Everytime she messages me it hurts me more because I say what she doesn’t want to hear, but I need time on my own. I hope that we can both recover and move on eventually
All I can think of is her face full of tears as I told her I wanted to end it. I’m torn from it, knowing how hurt she was. I KNOW it’s for the best but the flashes of our past good times are constantly bringing me to a mental halt. She’s an amazing person but our relationship wasn’t good for either of us. I only hope time helps me heal fast
this video and the comments are helping. it’s nice to know others have been in the same boat
bro that couldnt have just gone better. we understood eachother and we both need time for work and studying but we still being friends and might get back together at some point. ive just felt so much weight fall off my shoulders. what a time to be alive
Thank you for this video, she (my ex) is an amazing person, but I know the best thing to do, is for both of us to move on, I was giving my 200% and it was not being reciprocated, but I was her support in many ways, and that was making me feel guilty for breaking up with her, although I love her with all my heart . I hope she will be ok, and grow and mature, and reach her dreams and goals, and finds someone that loves her as much as I did, and that she can love to her fullest as well. 🖤
I feel horrible. It ended civil but I know I just put her in her darkest part of life right now. I feel so sorry and I hope I made the right decision. Love hurts
Thank you for this! Ive been feeling guilty about breaking up with someone I care deeply about recently. Im 100% sure its for the best of us both and this video just affirmed it. ☺️
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Looking at y'all comments breaks my heart man. :'(
damn shut the fuck upppp
Right now, this is exactly what I needed. Reading those comments brings relief, knowing I'm not alone in this journey. I stayed in the relationship not because I wanted to, but because breaking his heart was always my first thought. But still, at the end of this either you choose your happiness and your own life that you always dreamed of or being sacrificed for them
thank you for this video , I have been in a relationship for eight years . I feel bad to hurt him or his mum , but it's draining me trying to make things work. I have been going through a rough patch and his reaction was "when are you going to change your ways" ,
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I feel very bad for the girl heart i broke but it was for the better
It’s not good pretending to be full on in the relationship with your partner if you don’t feel like being there! (Note to self)
Right innit..
Thank you, I'm really struggling. But this does make me feel a bit better.
I just broke up with my boyfriend but feel incredibly guilty because it left him homeless. I was very unhappy in the relationship and it started to take its toll on me emotionally and physically. I was constantly weighed down by anxiety and finally reached my breaking point. I gave him notice and even extended him time but he still wasn't able to get steady employment or housing. I feel very awful and guilty that this has lead him homeless. How do I get over that kind of guilt? I did give him many chances in the past to get himself and his life together since it was directly affecting me so I do feel like I had a very valid reason but I can't stop feeling awful about it.
Shawna Springall you are not responsible for that person’s safety or existence
Paul E. I keep feeling as though maybe if I did things differently or gave him more time, he wouldn't of been in this bad of a situation. The problem is that I keep blaming myself and taking all the responsibility for what happened even though it wasn't all my fault. Im also realizing that he was using me a lot in the relationship. I question how much he actually loved me. I think he loved having a free place to stay more than me.
He is a capable adult MAN, and you are not his mommy.
Shawna Springall I am living the exact same situation right now!! I broke up with him yesterday and I feel awful 😞
Now he has to find another place to stay and a job, but I stopped feeling attraction towards him after dealing with his alcohol addiction and seeing him on the couch everyday for years...
I’m literally in a similar position. The only thing about my situation is that I moved all the way from Cali to Baltimore for him and he heavily depends on me for emotional and mental support, a ride to work, to grocery shop, to make/get him food, do his laundry, clean our place, etc. I desperately want to leave. I have been toying around with the idea, even packed my bags in my car to leave a few times but the guilt led me to stay. He’s already extremely depressed and that makes me depressed amongst a series of other things. But I know he’ll spiral, contemplate suicide, not even try to figure out his own way to work, he’ll lose the space we’re renting out and then it’ll be all my fault.
Great point… if it’s not good for me it will not be good for them. If I’m not happy I don’t want to make their life miserable with my sadness
But what if you don’t want them with anyone else?
:(
Why do I miss the person you break up with? Is it normal? I feel guilty and confused about my decision 😕
Yup not easy wars, chilling, and death are the norm because of this type of thing. The human condition is very very serious. Be very careful take your time getting involved with somebody do not get sexually involved until you know you have a strong trust and open connection and communication. Remember your actions speak louder than words.
I feel so guilty for ending it. I'm trying so hard to not let my emotions get the better of me and pick up the phone to call him right now to get back together. There's a grip around my heart and it's squeezing it so tight that it's become difficult to breathe.
But I know this had to be done. I met him in the peek of my eating disorder, and only started recovering as we went into our second year. I'm not the same person, I'm completely different. And I had hopped into the relationship with him only after a month after dumping someone else. I was not ready, and I feel so bad for dragging along for these two years when I should've taken the time to be alone with myself. I tried for months balancing a relationship and working on myself, but I finally caved in.
He had done nothing wrong, he was a great person. Caring, nurturing, funny. But it still wasn't right, and it took me to long to stop pushing away the reality of things jut so I could see this through and hoped things would change for me emotionally towards this, but it didn't.
I'm not the same as I was, and it saddens me to realize that my current self no longer feels compatible with him, despite how great he was. Maybe we were doomed from the start.
Feel you with the loss of breath.. damn even tho you are the one who wants to end it, it can still be so painful.. after spending years into a relationship with an amazing person who turns out that just isn’t right for you..
I want to break up with her because it just feels like our relationship revolves around her. I’m afraid of what she’ll do to herself and because of this I feel so stuck and so alone. I don’t know what to do.
Thank you so much this jut happened today I broke up with my boyfriend and I actually smiled for the first time today after this and it made me happy to know this
Sometimes we need to remind ourself what’s more important our goals and dreams or their goals and dreams and I choose my own goals and dreams it’s so sad to break someone heart but I know it was the best bcuz I am letting the other person to find true love someone that love them the same way they do and even thought I feel bad I know was the best thing for both of us ugh 😫 one day they will understand 🥺
Update please 🙏
I never wanted to break up with my fiancé. But even though we have strong feelings for one another our relationship was suffered because of her drinking. I personally don’t drink because I don’t like it. I don’t have a problem with others drinking as long as it’s done socially and in moderation. But in our case it’s always lead to her using me as an emotional punching bag and as much as I love her, I can’t live my life like that.
Please help !
I am gonna cry literally . So i helped this guy get out of his toxic one sided love (cause his other partner was very abusive and not interested) but he fell for me . I was afraid cause i tried to help but i did more harm . He just got more broken cause i didn't have the same feelings for him . He requested like hell for a lot of days . He cried. I don't know i just feel so bad . Oh god what do i do 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Chloe called me 'Clumsy-Boots',
And Claire said I was dim.
Cheryl took me by the hand,
Then tore me limb from limb.
Cindy thought my handiwork
Left much to be desired,
While Cherry sent me up the creek -
The paddle long retired.
Cathy smashed the dinner plates,
And Connie threw a cup!
Christine bought me jockey shorts,
So Clara cut them up...
One day I'll find a kinder girl
Who sees the kinder 'me':
A lady with a heart of gold.
(Whose name begins with 'C'.)
Its always to remind yourself about how it will benefit them ... to get that guilt away
Thank you so much, Jodi! Your words made me feel a lot better! Greetings from Brazil!
This is a real Game changer !!!! I found this so liberating and is helping me to make a healthier transition in moving on Because it takes courage to let go and move on 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💗💗💗💗💗🙏
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the exaclty same thing happend with me . he was a great guy we had so much in common but had a minute feeling that this was not it. i keep ignoring it for months but was never happy with him. he was head over heels for me but i felt guilty of not feeling the same way so i ended it. but he is soo heartbroken about it which has left me with huge amount of guilt since then that i am not able to love anyone because of the guilt
Thank you. This is exactly what I knew and feel. I needed this affirmation.
I have usually been the one who got cheated on or someone broke up with but I had to break up with someone for the first time and the guilt kills me.
We were together for 10 months and i just ended it yesterday even tho my timing wasn’t right. I just couldn’t handle it anymore and I kept thinking about breaking it off but then I remembered that he’s going through a tough time right now that I should be there for him and i felt that I didn’t want to add to that so i just ignored all these thoughts and i kept it all inside until yesterday I texted him and told him that it’s just not working out and basically that we’re better off without each other and all he said was damn and blocked me. I felt so fucking guilty because he told me the other day that he’s exhausted because of work and that he’s also struggling financially and i felt really really bad i wanted to text him again to say i’m sorry but I couldn’t because i hurt him a lot and nothing i say can fix that. I feel guilty af and I don’t know if i’ll ever forgive myself but i have to because I need to move on
I literally JUST ended it with someone. We dated a couple months but I just wasn't really feeling it. He definitely liked me more than I liked him. I wanted to give it a chance though, and ride it out, because it had been a VERY long time since I'd dated anyone. I knew I was out of practice, so I wanted to see if more feelings would develop on my end. They didn't, and I feel just terrible about it. I know I hurt him. He's hurting pretty bad right now, I know it. And as a result, I'm hurting. He's a great guy and doesn't deserve to have his heart broken! I just don't think we were a good match. Sorry to ramble on, I'm just so sad and upset because I hate hurting people. But I knew that keeping it going would've done no good for either of us.
the exaclty same thing happend with me . he was a great guy we had so much in common but had a minute feeling that this was not it. i keep ignoring it for months but was never happy with him. he was head over heels for me but i felt guilty of not feeling the same way so i ended it. but he is soo heartbroken about it which has left me with huge amount of guilt since then that i am not able to love anyone because of the guilt
I feel entirely guilty :( breaking his heart and I keep going back in forth in my head wether it’s right choice or not and my biggest fear is regretting my choice .... I’m trying to stick with my choice but we live together and I’m trying move out it’s just pricey this hurts so much
How are you doing now ? I’m currently going through this it’s so draining the consent negative thoughts but here I am monthhhhss later still thinking this ?
Still here doing this
I am feeling guilty 😕 everytime we fight we will talk somehow but this time I said I don't like to talk to you and he said ok I won't talk to you again . I too even not wanted to continue this relationship becoz it sucks sometimes but I don't even can't sleep now feeling guilty 😫 for what I have done. God give me some energy
I had to do it because i wasn’t gonna be a good enough boyfriend and thought it was the better for both of us, i feel awful and horrible for her beyond words i can explain
I don't what to do. I'm living with my long term boyfriend that loves me but I'm not really in love with him anymore. I once gave him my everything but he cheated and lied and somehow I stayed hoping for a change. Finally, he did. He changed to the perfect boyfriend the one I always wanted but by then I've already fallen out of love with him. I don't know if I should leave honestly. I want to but it will break him knowing he changed who he was to make me happy. This feeling sucks 😖💔
As somebody who's also been cheated on, I can't recommend breaking up enough. Subjecting yourself to the constant torment and questions that come along with cheating is only going to make things more difficult in the long run. You're clearly a very caring and forgiving person, but unfortunately, it's simply not possible for somebody to "prove" that they've changed and are no longer a cheater.
Once again, you sound like a very caring and kind person who is willing to put themselves through a lot for the happiness of others. Normally, I don't like to say "Oh, break up with him for sure," so I'll always leave that decision to you. However, I will say that it sounds like you've compromised and settled on a lot of your own values and beliefs to appease your partner, and yet they have done surprisingly little to reciprocate that to you. If he's upset by the fact that he made changes to make you happy, then it's clear the changes were not something he was personally interested in and are unlikely to last.
I realize this response is very very late. I hope things have worked out well since. Cheers!
Thank you, this helped a lot, I really hate hurting her but I do think it’s for the best
Just separated from husband. We werent happy after 31 years. The pain I feel for him is killing me. We were so unhappy for years. I just can’t forget his hurt. I just know we were not going to be happy again.ever. I hope he forgives me one day
How are you both now ? I am going through this after breaking up with my partner of 16 years, I feel like such a monster 😢
I’ve explained to my boyfriend of 5 years how I wanted a break, we talked about it and I felt guilty so I dropped the conversation, as more things come into clearing I realize my boyfriend is starting to blame me for his habit of smoking weed. Multiple decisions if not all of them were made entirely by himself..... that’s not the main problem but I feel as though in some level he is blaming me for holding him back, and I feel as though I want to move on and put more focus into myself...... I am okay with being alone but I know how much he loves me and I him. We are in our 20’s and I just want to live my life alone now....... be a bit more desperate. Idk how I will do this or if it’ll even be soon. There are things I haven’t accepted about our future together, and don’t think I ever will. His future looks differently from mine and I realize that I don’t want my part of it to continue the way it has been.
I’m the reason she’s in her darkest point in her life right now and it hurts so much. I love her so much and she’s such an amazing person with a heart I didn’t deserve, I hope one day she’ll heal from me and find someone who’ll give her the love she deserved
Totally right there with you my friend 😔
I feel so guilty for just recently ending something, it wasn’t long but it was a beautiful connection and we loved speaking with one another and spending time together but my heart wasn’t 100% in it and I feel so terrible for how I ended it and I just can’t forgive myself. I had to end it cause I’m not happy with myself or love myself and I can’t give anything because of that but god I feel so bad everyday. I feel like I don’t deserve happiness
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I feel so selfish but I'm still in my mid 20s and hes 45.he doesn't like going anywhere and when he does he seems miserable I had a good life before him,hes Controlling ,obsessive,and won't let me brake up.my quality of life is so bad with him living conditions are bad it feels like prison.
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I broke up with my boyfriend 4 days ago... I feel so guilty because I lost my temper at a certain point and I had been unnecessarly mean... the thing is my boyfriend (well my ex now) has a drinking problem. He would always swith his mood when he is drunk and becomes verbally abusive. He also complains waaaaay too much and smokes weed in a daily basis. I naively thoughy that love would save him (he thought that too, he thought that I was his little angel) but there are some fights you have to do alone. Love was not enough... and deep down in my heart I knew he was not the one for me. I stayed out of empathy... I did not want to break his heart... but few days ago, my mouth just shout the break-up. I could not take it anymore. He lost his job and I thought "enough with the bad luck of this guy!". I know it's mean. I exploded... I was tired. I did not think of it was the right moment, the proper way... I just broke up... and even if I know it was the thing to do, I still feel bad...
I know of a spell caster who can help you get your ex back without any stress or delay. He helped me get mine back..Text Dr William on WhatsApp........
(+1 956-531-2406).you can also contact him via Email. doctorwilliampatrick01@gmail.com .He can also make your ex to listen to what ever you say.Please I advise Message him and be free.....
I'm having second thoughts as well with my girlfriend of 2 years I broke up with two days ago it was completely out of the blue for her, the hardest part is knowing before you break up with them the amount of pain your going to cause them, because when you do break their heart it seems so premeditated and evil. I know I was causing a human pain and knew I had to do it though it crushed me in the process. I love her and I'm so sorry to have broke her heart but I needed to do the right thing and let her move on even if she hates me because I knew it wasn't going to work in end deep down and I couldn't ignore it any more and stood my ground. She continues to text me trying to fix what is beyond saving it just makes me more of the villain every time I say we can't.
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I seriously appreciate this video taking what you say on board is Gold The burden of guilt is crushing and as you probably know debilitating I've spent so many years feeling like the big bad Wolf for pointing things out in a relationship that can be bloody uncomfortable expressing I'm struggling with the whole I deserve to be happy and fulfilled thing I'm 50 and really wanna take ownership of my Life but being assertive brings up guilt Thanxs a Million for this power packed video I just keep watching it !!!😆
I’ve been in a relationship from the time I was 14 until 19 and at 21 I decided that I did not want to be in a relationship because I wanted to find myself as an adult and move into a different chapter alone and he makes me feel so bad for feeling like he can’t be a part of that. He still is not willing to let me go and always wonder am I just being selfish and inconsiderate of him.
Hi my relationship is fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together, I got help from a great man who brought us back together..
He was so nice to me, he bought me candy i like, he always complimented me and he just confessed his love to me, i didn't know what to say, i told him that i don't love him but that i would like to stay friends and he said it was okay, but i saw the pain in his face bc i rejected him, it hurt me too, i never broke a heart before and now i feel so guilty
I'm totally making a video right now to upload based on a few things you said in his video especially the part where you said if it's the right thing for you the truth is it's the right thing for your partner also this is so true I keep telling him I am only being a terrible person by staying with you and keeping you from the life you're supposed to be having it selfish of me to keep staying with you and keeping you from all that you're going to have in the future while also keeping all that stuff for myself I'm only hurting us by staying with you
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I feel like a absolutely terrible person! I started dating a really close friend and we got very close. She is the most amazing woman in the world! Kind considerate everything I would want she treats me exactly how I want to be treated like nobody I have meet but when she started to have real deep feelings for me I got anxiety coz I realised I don't actually want a relationship with her just a deep friendship! I got the courage to break up with her but I feel awful really bad guilt and pain coz I do have love for her and I know she is very upset! I can't get over the guilt
I was fairly upset when my previous gf and I broke up. While it was mostly mutual, we were together for 8 years so it was still hard. I was very bitter at first for what I viewed as wasted time. Around a year later I got in another relationship and it was going great, fast forward a little over 2 months and I was feeling relationship had run it’s course. It was very hard for me to end the relationship, especially because she was not in a great place. I thought back to how I felt about wasting all of the time and decided ending as soon as possible was the best option. It is very hard, but i am able to look back and understand why it took 8 years to break up with my previous gf. I was frustrated in the relationship, but I kept hoping it would work. I could tell for over 2 months she wanted to break up with me but didn’t want to go through with it. Having been on both side of this, I can say it is absolutely understandable to break up with someone and feel terrible. At the same time I know that is the best option. Eventually they will realize it as well. Even knowing this the guilt is eating at me, but it makes it a little easier to know it’s the right thing to do.
This is true! On me!! Of feeling guilty and not guilty of myself
I broke up with my boyfriend because he was unemployed and living off his dads income. I feel bad and it is what really kept me tied to him I think. I did love him it was hard. He had to go on Facebook and tell people I broke up with him because of money which is true. I work a lot and I just want a partner equal to me.
I broke up with my bf because he cheated twice and I thought I could move past it but I can't. It still hurts so much and I know how important trust is and I don't trust him. I feel horrible for breaking up with him.
You actually deserve better, Mary ❤️.... you feeling guilty about leaving such a person just shows how Caring and nice of a person you are...
Thanks so much for sharing this... It really helped me
wawww how 3 minutes can change ur mind!!!!
I appreciate your point. You definitely eased my mind about leaving someone I really cared for.
I'm so sorry but I need to do that bcuz I don't feel the same way anymore, I feel really guilty but I think that's the best thing to do, I guess
feeling really guilty about breaking up.I made a mistake of asking her out too soon.only realized she wasn't the right one after couple of months.it wasn't that serious,we didn't have any physical relation but still it feels bad to break her heart.😐also she works for the same company I work for so its kinda awkward seeing her now n then.it really makes me feel bad when I avoid her n I clearly can see she is still into me.i don't know what to do.
It’s best you did it now rather than 2 1/2 years later like I did. I too made the mistake of asking her out too soon, but I turned a blind eye to it. I just ended it 2 nights ago and I cannot erase the memory of her face filled with tears. It fucking tore me up. I hope time helps you.
@@josefajardo9383 I feel sorry for you.I hope you will feel better as time goes by.I will never repeat the same mistake again..let that be a lesson for us.I hope both of you will heal soon.
My parents forced me to break up. I don't know whether this is good for me bcoz i broke up following what my parents told me. So now I am feeling very guilty without even knowing whether it is good for me or not. What should I do.....
I love my parents a lot and I love her a lot too but they don't like her. I lost hope in my life. Feeling awkward and lost. Sorry for being negative I was never like this. But I couldn't help myself. Lost interest in my existence.
@@Aravindblaze95 You need to grow up and make your own decisions unless you are a child.
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I found this site as a first tool to move on from a controlling mother that bless her does not realize that her lifestyle as child for me created a dependence of looking after her because of her choices as a adult. It frogged me up at 45 I'm only now realizing how much control she has had on me because I as a child was always in fear for her safety security how she was treated etc. It sux that at 45 mum now 71 I have to let he go and get her out of my life in order for me to have a life. It hurts its hard but I gotta go ffs she has been remarried for 18 odd years again always complaining about it but chooses to stay their. Then I get used as the excuse for her ' bad' decisions or something that her action causes is my fault. No friggin more.
And what if you don't know if it was the right thing to do?
this is the most difficult case, fear of regret
I just broke up with my ex boyfriend two days ago and I feel so bad because he’s never hurt me and was the best boyfriend I’ve ever had but I was severely broken and I was always unhappy and miserable but now because of but because I was so broken and traumatized from my past
People who break-up without having the decency and sensitivity to have a conversation with the other person instead of accumulating frustration about various things to the point of no return, deserve to feel guilty. It's the least they can do about their asinine behavior...
It depends on what triggered it. I'm sure you agree that a partner committing adultery, stealing a lot / spending a lot without asking, hitting a child, etc. are acceptable reasons to end things abruptly. Also, a lot of people don't like pointing out small problems; especially, if their partner tends to receive any criticism as a threat to leave. In those cases, the person is far more likely to suck it up until they can't stand it anymore.
That's only if one party makes it easy for the other person to speak
How to tell my partner I want to break up with him because of his penis? I don't want to hurt him, but I want to explain it in a humane way.
just broke up with him like 2 mins ago 😀😀 i feel so so bad but this is for the best
I feel bad about how I handled my anger. I said some things that were cutting. However they said those things first and eventually I stopped censoring myself bc they didn't seem to care.
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I can’t help but think this is overly optimistic. That everyone just finds the best for themselves and does better after heartbreak. Some people get completely destroyed and although I may want to move on it may be a lot harder than just some time for themselves.
Omg you are so on point! Thank you for sharing this.
I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. I'm so heart broken. I love him to death but he didn't have the same feelings... He said to me that he gave me one more chance 4 days ago because we had a misunderstanding. Giving me one last chance, it is like it is already over... Like whenever I would have a probelem and wanted to talk it through, he would just saying bye... This is so fucked up
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I broke up with my boyfriend because we were not compatible and i couldn't take nomore. He refused to come meet me as he had to study for his career which I understood. But it was getting enough. I couldn't stay with the thought that I wont be able to see him till June 2020. He was acting weird and kind of taking me for granted. Saying sttaivhtaway that he cant meet whatsoever. So i broke up. The thing is he didnt stop me. So i thought it was a mutaul one. But then few days later he texted me and insulted me. He bodyshamed me and saying i was trash out of anger. And immediately he apologized amd cried for an hour on the phone. The thing is despite that he insulted me in the way noone has ever before, i still care for him. I dont want to be the reason of someone's sadness. And i feel guilty thinking was I right about breakup? On the other hand ik he also played a role in it. But i keep questioning myself. Its been a week, we are nolonger in contact so we both could move on. But god knows i never meant to hurt him. And now i feel so lonely, i got no friends left. I dont feel happy amd keep thinking if he was here i would be sharing all this with him. I feel guilty when I smile or when i imagine myself to be happy. I feel its wrong. I even feel wrong thinking to upload a picture of me.
Noone listened. Noone understands. Everyone thinks i should hate him because he disrespected me. But i can't. But i have to move on. Because if i dont stand for my self respect today, i never will be able to.
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Feeling so bad , was in a LDR it was great . But then she cheated on me. I forgave her but later the following year she was very busy working and only messaged either once a month or once in two weeks saying sorry I'm busy alot. I felt she didn't want to make enough time to communicate . So I moved on thinking it's over . Met a new girl and old one found out , told me I cheated. It was a mess . I feel like maybe I was in the wrong . And the breakup happened the bad way with her confronting the new gf.😔 I was wrong thinking it was over I guess. And for some reason when a girl stops talking to me for long periods I move on don't know why really.
I needed this. Thank you.
This makes so much sense! Thank you 🙏
Thank you for this video!
I broke up with my girlfriend because something didnt feel right about the relationship and everyone ik kept pressuring me to do it and i know i feel lime i regret it,shes such a great person i fel really bad now
Love is sweet, love is life, true love never die don't give up someone you love all hope is not lost okay
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If the person Cheated, abused you anyway then it is best to move forward. But if the person has been honest with you step-by-step. The person was willing to compromise a couple things as long as it did not compromise your values.Decades ago our grandparents regardless of race or backgrounds work with each other That’s how relationships last longer. Now people leave each other for their own selfish reasons. People quit to look for better things in reality there is none . Communicating with each other.
needed to hear this right now
I feel so bad though. I just know it’s for the best. I was starting to get cold and resentful. Instead of taking it out on them and treating them like shit I just bit the bullet and ended it. Better for him to move on after 8weeks than drag it out for a few more months and end up hating each other and hurting him badly.
I left him because I feel that is the right thing but I feel bad too, what I have to do 🙂
I really did like her but I was so scared. I feel terrible, I really hurt her
Thank you
Relationship is love an trust end a relationships according to your based
I broke up with my first and only girlfriend because she needed too much attention. I gave her so much attention and time even though i was just a kid, a student i felt like i was taking care of a little girl, and she wasn’t satisfied with just my attention, she needed everyone else’s approval. It made me feel like my effort was for nothing. I broke up with her the day after i turned 17. Two years later she’s had multiple boyfriends, goes through them with no intention of staying with them. But she’s also very depressed and sad. She’s become a homophobic too, and very crazy radical. The most common thing I hear however is that she’s depressed and insecure. I feel terrible. In the same time passed my life is going great, but i still feel awful. She was a terrible person and with me entering her life did I just make it worse? I don’t know but i’ll never forget myself. Every time I see a cranky ‘karen’ at Walmart or something, I feel like it’s my fault those people exist. I should’ve never dated her for 10 months. It’s honestly the reason I haven’t dated again, i’m too scared to do the same damage to another girl. God forgive me.
EDIT: I know girls need attention, but I gave her as much as I could and she still wasn’t satisfied.
This was a lesson that you needed to learn. You realized that you do not want nor deserve a girl who is never satisfied with you. 17 may be considered a young age, but a lot happens to a person in 17 years, and she probably had other experiences that led her to be depressed and insecure, so you can’t blame yourself for that. God forgives you and you need to forgive yourself, because you did what you had to do for your own sanity. It won’t serve you to refrain from dating because of this one girl, because now you know what you don’t want in a girlfriend, so you can choose wisely. Time will heal and life goes on, always remember that.
What do you do when your 45yr old man is like a child which forces me (I’m 55) into a mom role? He doesn’t work so I bring all the income and keep everything flowing. It is so dysfunctional and I want to end it every day, it drives me insane! But I love him and he is a wonderful human, so very kind and affectionate, funny, intelligent, respectful. In other words everything that’s good, but I’m really split and don’t know what’s best. Any advice would be brilliant. Thank you 🙏
Hey RandomDustBunny, I just want to say I'm sorry for the struggles you've been going through, and I admire your determination to make the right decision that's best for you and him. My first question to you is to ask if this is a new or recent transformation/observation? Or has this been something you could see since the beginning?
I know somebody who is also incredibly caring, funny, respectful, and overall, a wonderful personality, but seriously lacks personal accountability and initiative. Unfortunately, that is no excuse to forego any sense of drive and self-growth, which has a real impact on the people around him.
If you think that he's stopped trying to invest in himself and his wellbeing because he's complacent/depressed/overwhelmed with where to start due to the relationship, then perhaps it is worth discussing this directly with him to see if he's aware of the issue. For many, they might be aware, but unsure of how to tackle the problem, and perhaps your support and teamwork could help him reach said goals. However, other times, the relationship leads to a sense of self-judgement, insecurity, and a loss of determination in improving yourself. That can't be easy for you to bear witness to, also... If you don't feel as though you guys can work towards a solution together after discussing these feelings, and if it's at the point where it's too much for you to handle emotionally, then like she says in the video, you owe it to yourself to put yourself first. This might be the call-to-action that he needs to reflect and change from his past behaviour.
Sorry that this is so wordy. I guess in summary, I would recommend that you communicate with him as openly as you can so that he doesn't feel blind-sided. At least then, if you guys have taken the necessary steps to try to remedy the issue and still haven't seen success, you can be assured that you've done everything you can to support him and attempt to fix things.
I wish you all the best! My Ex-girlfriend and I dated for over 4 years and experienced so much together. I got diagnosed with a rare Stage 4 cancer 2 years ago and we went through that every step of the way together. We've graduated our university programs, advanced our careers together, experienced so many "firsts" together, but after noticing we simply have a hard time resolving conflicts and communicating about issues, our relationship satisfaction deteriorated quickly and led to a lot of unhappiness. It's been so hard seeing how hurt she's been since the breakup, and my instinct was to support her in moving on. Since then, I've realized that only makes things more difficult. None of this is easy, but thinking about these things is so important and I've very glad to have the chance to speak with you.
Cheers!
@@DolanComic thank you Chris, a lot to think about. Shall I answer you here?
@@RandomDustBunny Sure! Or if you'd prefer, you can send me a Direct Message privately! Always glad to listen :)
Very uplifting video
what if its is not good for me? what if i still miss her ?
She says she only needs me and also that i am perfect for her and deserve her bt after watching your video she broke up .you encourage people to do it spoil a beautiful relationship sometimes there is just some communication lack and it can be solved . She said i am just not clear bt i want only you
Sometimes your little comments can be dangerous till very dangerous for some relationships she never even cared for anyone and i saw her crying for me. These are the only feelings there are ups and down .
I was there and it was great love forever anushka.
Yeah I feel guilty because I broke up with my patner, but I think it's best for the both of us, I wasn't ready as I though I would, and she's ready to have a relationship with me. But I broke things off before it gets too serious and I felt guilty at her because I broke up with her and I still feel guilty now. I just broke up with her last night and I felt guilty.
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Very true... great.. love