An Easy Hack to Instantly Improve Communication in Babies & Toddlers (No more screaming!)
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
- By avoiding one common mistake you can dramatically improve your baby or toddler’s ability to communicate with you. This will allow your baby to learn to communicate through gestures and eventually talking faster, and reduce their frustration and yours.
By doing this early you’re less likely to have a future toddler who screams or grunts instead of telling you what they need. And if you already have a toddler who’s doing that, you can make this simple change to also help them improve their communication skills.
Even babies who can’t talk yet are able to learn to communicate with us in non-verbal ways if we allow them to. And once your little one has a convenient way to tell you what they want, life becomes easier for both of you.
This change sounds so simple when you hear it, but I think you’ll be surprised by just how effective it is once you put it into practice. Enjoy!
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00:00 - 01:46: Why you should stop anticipating your baby's or toddler's needs
01:47 - 03:22 : The simple hack to improve your baby's or toddler's communication
03:23 - 04:52 : How to use this simple hack
04:53 - 08:24 : Ways to use this hack with your baby or toddler today
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Thanks for watching! Which activity are you going to try "pausing" with first? Don't forget to get your free 0 - 12 months old developmental milestone chart here:
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I would like to teach my baby two languages. Is that possible? He might go to a country that only speaks English. Is it detremental to speak both at early age
Another tip- Do your best to label their feelings clearly and consistently. When they do get upset, say something like "your feeling angry because..." it will help them communicate better when they are upset. At 18 months, my daughter surprised the heck out of me by sitting down with her arms crossed and saying "I'm frustrated" after the dog knocked over her block tower. She continues to be excellent at telling me how she feels. At 2 and a half she can clearly tell us what she is feeling and why, but we're now working on problem solving and helping her calm herself down when she has big feelings, which takes a lot of practice (considering even some adults haven't mastered that one i think she's doing great😄)
Thanks so much for sharing. This is a great tip!
And I get happy when my son at 17 months of age can say “appa” for Apple 🤣🤣 kids are awesome
The biggest problem with this tip is to beable to identify ones own feeling first to then be able to communicateur that to the kid 😆 I don't know how many times as an adult I have been upset and unable to communicat why to my husband (it's mostly frustration at the world because hungry 🙃)
I can't even label my own feelings. I am trying over here.
Emma, Your advice to parents is outstanding!! I've worked with children and counseled parents for many years. I believe insightful advice such as yours, is brilliant and can change the world which is now full of grown up people who never were empathized with. I enjoy tuning into you!. Wonderful!
I think you’re so right giving the advice to parents & guardians to pause. Sometimes, we’re just too busy with our babies that we forget to pause. I remember a few times when I just stay quiet, my 19 month old baby tells me what she wants to play with by going to the item, pointing, & using her words. She’s picked up simple sign language very well. Currently, we’re learning to label our feelings. The biggest is being frustrated, but I try to mix in labels such as happy, excited, sad, worried, etc so she’s not always “frustrated”. I also have a chart with faces of different emotions that she will point to or reenact to let me know how she feels. Another thing, when she’s frustrated, I will say, you seem a little frustrated & she’ll take a deep breath & count to four with her fingers (similar to Daniel Tiger). Then I will ask her if she feels better & her response is yes. After, we think of something smart to do. All of a sudden that frustration is gone. It’s like magic. 🙌🏻 (2nd day trying this method)
I love having grandchildren and when they were little and i couldnt figure out what they want..i used to say show me...and i was shocked how young they were when they understood this and showed me
As a first time mama to a toddler this video is right on time! Very helpful!!! I often forget to slow things down and pause. Thank you Emma for sharing this with us!💜🙏
You are so welcome!
Same. I need this now
You are so heaven sent!!!!!! I have a 14month old who screams everytime I leave him in his cot even to go to the restroom or fix something to eat in the kitchen where he can see me from the bedroom but because I anticipate screaming I put toys in his cot but they don't help as he still screams and now he screams almost the whole day when attention isn't on him, when I'm doing my own thing and randomly leaving me confused
What I really loved about this video is the huge amount of examples given for us to apply the technique. Very useful thank you!
I've found so many of your videos helpful. Thank you!
Thank you ❤
Baby sign language helps also. We found that it was easier for our children to sign than speak. Example: more, drink, eat, and so on.
My 18 month old niece knows baby sign language, it’s so cool! She managed to say through sign language and one of the word she knows (umbrella) to say she wants two umbrellas with dogs on for her birthday!
This is exactly what I’m trying to encourage with my 10 month old, he signs for up but his default is scream 😅 I definitely need to give him more opportunities to ask for what he wants/needs
Hopefully you see improvements soon😊
Thank you!! I think this is what I’m doing wrong! My daughter is 9 months and still not babbling, so glad I know now where I’m going wrong
Thank you Emma! As a Mum of a baby transitioning to toddler-hood this is so helpful. Your videos have helped me on so many occasions to navigate becoming a Mum.
I am so glad you found this video helpful! It's also great to hear that the YT videos have made navigating motherhood a little easier. ❤
This is such a good reminder! Even though this had been my plan since before getting pregnant, things get stressful and loud sometimes. I've been signing with my 16-month-old son since birth but he has taken his dear time with signing back. Now he's mixing up some signs (for example he says "more" instead of "eat" or "milk"). I do try to take the time to find out what he really means but sometimes it's hard...
So true! It can be really hard to slow down when life is just so busy, especially with a toddler. Hopefully this will help!
Emma, you are just so awesome! Thank you very much for your videos. They are always so helpful, informative, clear, and useful and you are always so sincere, sweet, kind and professional. THANK YOU!
Ms. Hubbard, I really appreciate your practical advice. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. I have a darling two month old son, and I'm watching this communication prep video to learn how I should behave when he's 9+ months. I understand that he's changing 'a mile a minute,' and that I need to adapt to him at that same rate.
I will continue watching your channel. Thank you for doing these videos for us (new) parents.
So phantastisch und sehr gut für den Aufmerksamkeit 💞Danke
So helpful 🙏🙏 thanks so much, will definitely try to apply those techniques to improve communication with my 10 months old 🤗
I just want to say you are a godsent.
I have high functioning autism and I was so scared that I wouldn't be a good mum that my hyper-focus completely over compensated by focusing on my baby and her needs. The first 9 months this was great but she ended up screaming - to the point of almost causing hearing damage - any time she wanted anything. My husband couldn't hear properly in one ear for two days because of her high pitched scream, it was that bad!
This content helps me to know what to expect in each phase and to mentally prepare for it. And now what I need to do - let go a little more, something I have trouble with. But knowing it's the right thing to do helps so much!
Because of you people are jealous of my daughter's sleep and wake routines and how relaxed she is in general. She's developing super fast and so smart. Thank you Emma, lots of love from the Netherlands.
Well done mama, you are doing great❤️❤️❤️❤️💪💪💪💪💪💪
Thank you so much for this. I'm watching this at the perfect time as my child is 9mths next week! He's recently begun screaming more and I'm not willing to put up with it at all. This video has helped me understand that he's learning how to communicate and I need to give him the time and resources to do that effectively. Thank you!
You are so welcome!
First baby and I feel so lost sometimes lol this video was really helpful, thank you.
Wish I knew about these videos when I had my son but now I have another baby on the way I can fianlly put this into practice. Thank you!
Perfect timing Emma. My bub just turned 9mos and has started screaming for things he wants. I will start practicing pausing. Thank you!
Wonderful!
So we got our toddler to use words to ask for things she wants, and we also encouraged her to speak calmly and say please. But the problem now, is when the answer is "no" or "wait", instead of understanding that we already answered, she assumes she asked in the wrong way and will continue asking for a good half hour, getting more and more frustrated as her attempts at adding please, etc. don't work.
14 month old is screaming when she needs something . I don’t know what to do . I feel I am not raising her up properly. People are telling me that’s because I am over caring her. Is that true.
I try following all your tips from the start, since my pregnancy period. You are really helping lots of mom who is taking care of babies without their grand parent support. Thanks Ema❤
Responding to your little one’s needs and screams is being a responsive parent and it’s great for your little one. So it sounds like you are doing a great job.
At this age screaming to communicate isn’t usual because they don’t have the words yet to communicate their needs.
Your goal is to teach her these words. So next time your little one screams to communicate something to you say the word you think she is trying to communicate. With time she will start saying these words instead of screaming. You can also ask her to show you what she means if you wear not sure.
Thank God I watched this now my baby turned 9 months yesterday so I will try this. My baby screams at me constantly, I find I'm anticipating him just to avoid being told off😂
😂 We all do this. Hopefully the pausing will encourage your little one to start using gestures. It's also really helpful at this stage to use gestures yourself to model to your little one what they need to do/ what gestures they can use.
@@EmmaHubbard Oh thank you for you reply! I will try this too. Watching this video has made me realise where I have been going wrong. I thought his screaming is because of teething but he does it for everything and I couldn't understand it. After watching this video, I understand that he has been trying to communicate with me and I've been missing his cues . I'm really excited to impliment this and show my husband this video. We've been watching your videos since becoming new parents and they have helped us so much with his developmental milestones. Thank you so much for your videos.
Thank you Emma. You really are a life saver!
You’re welcome! I’m so glad you’ve found my videos helpful
Hello Emma Hubbard !!!Your videos are actually very beneficial…can you please make a video on chewing shirts of toddlers
I found this video at just the right time. My almost 9 month old has taken to screaming quite a bit. Looking forward to seeing if this helps!
How did it go
Did it help?
I feel like you are talking straight to me. Lol My 3rd child is grunting and throwing fits...
😂 Hopefully these tips help!
I actually didn’t knew about this but i had done exactly the same haha my little ones is very good to tell me precisely what she want and if not fast enough she make the sound even louder and more demanding haha my small boss
😂 Sounds like your little one is very good at communicating with you!
Thank u so much.. Watching ur videos regularly.. Love from India🇮🇳 ❤❤❤ Helps a lot..
Hello Emma it’s like you know each stage I go through and the advice I need. Thanks so much
You are so welcome!
Another great video Emma. I will definitely start pausing more and giving my toddler options to encourage more words.
Wonderful!
Amazing video, thanks a lot!!! Everyone should know!
Thank you!
So helpful! Definitely going to try this out! 😊
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you so much for this
No problem 😊
U r really a lifesaver for me. Being first time mom n away from family makes motherhood more challenging. I have been following you for more than a year now n can proudly say that i m doing good for my baby( now a toddler) thanks a ton
This comment has made my day! What I love hearing the most is you are a confident parent and because of this your toddler is thriving! That is all you! 💕
Thanks!
No worries at all! ❤️
First time grandpa, I will watch this at least 5 more times, what great info!!!
Glad you enjoyed it
Even I myself need a pause to respond to my wife’s questions. She thinks I wasn’t listening if I don’t answer quickly enough, but it’s just that I take a little longer than she does. So I can imagine how much more so for someone who is new to language, communication in general, and well… everything! Good advice! Often we don’t even give kids the opportunity to communicate. Without practice, how can they learn?
Sometimes this can be a sign of neuro diversity e.g. dyslexia. My fiancé is dyslexic and his brain processes information (especially language) very differently to mine, so sometimes he needs extra time to interpret and respond to things. He struggles to understand people with strong accents, or speech with a lot of slang / colloquialisms.
@@maddythelion Interesting. I'm definitely not dyslexic, though. And I'm particularly good at understanding strong accents. I just like to think for a few seconds before talking.
thank you!
No worries!
thank you😊
You're welcome 😊
Thank you Emma never realise how effective a simple pause is😁👌also your channel has helped me in my motherhood journey my little one will be one soon and your advice has made it easier 😁
I'm so glad! Also happy 1st birthday to your little one when it arrives. The first year goes so quickly!
We've been doing this with our kids and they were all early talkers and people are often impressed by their broad vocabulary.
I've also noticed that children try to make it easy for themselves when they learn to say "that". I always make a point that they need to tell me the actual name of the object.
Thank you. This is totally doable. But, my toddler only screams (really loudly) in excitement. Should I take that as him trying to communicate about what's making him happy?
I don't know how you know what I'm going through when I'm going through it but I'm not complaining!! Thank you for all you do!!♡
😂 I hope this video helps!
You are the best!!!
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Thanks for sharing ..I have 3 years old Daughter and 4 year old son 😀
No worries at all! I am sure your 3 and 4 year old would keep you busy!
very useful information
Thanks a lot!
Did you say there was a communication/talking developmental chart as well? I could only find the milestones on your site
When can we start using the techniques in this video?
Apply this concept to adults. How many adults lose basic skills due to excessive social media use. That’s a serious thing to think about.
This is super useful! I can totally see myself being the too eager jumping parent. I will definitely apply this.
Glad it was helpful!
Any advices for one year old polyglots. We're speaking German, Croatian and English in our household and it can get confusing for us grown-ups so I can only imagine how hard it is for our daughter. She's 13 months and is not saying clear words yet
Hmm. This is great! But my tots are screaming for fun! I suggested they put their hand over their mouth and scream so it doesn’t hurt out ears so much!
What else might help?
Thank you for your video. My daughter 2.9 months old. She asked me whatever she wants and she listened to me most of the time but the thing is she sings rhymes more easily than talking. How can I push her for more talking? Please Help me on this?
Omg I do this without knowing but I need to do it more
That’s awesome. Sounds like it will be easy for you to do it more often then!
What a great video! My 10 month old just started screaming for things. How do you make them stop hitting you or things? My baby is pretty aggressive and strong… and I ended up almost losing my left eye back in February!
We've started trying to make our boy more aware of his body and things around him. He's only 12-13m, but strong kiddo. We are starting with the face until he gets stronger, since we do play a little rough?
We hold his hand and say, " It's not good to smack mama in the face. You need to be gentle." Similarly around babies and other people's faces. Then demonstrate twice what that might look like while labeling the action as 'gentle.' Seems to have been pretty fruitful. He's now touching babies and faces gently. Could still use a bit of work, but he's doing great.
*demonstrate with his hand on our faces, or with ours on him
@@AceyBleach lol ido the same w my 21 month old since his brother was born when he was 15 months but nope lol he just gets even more aggressive hes gentle to his brother but to us adults nope
My baby is 19 month old. She has only 6 teeth now and she speaks only 5 words. However she communicates every smallest thing absolutely amazingly. Also, she does other milestone tasks perfectly fine. What do I do about her speech. Please help.
I just subscribed ☺
Welcome!
I've been struggling with this! I am also so glad you distinguished what age we should start doing this. I am sometimes stuck in the same anticipating habits as when he was little (he is 12 months now). Anyway, thank you :)
could you please tell me what age she mentions, cant find in in the video, have so little time (new mom) 😅
You are so welcome!
Hi @Victoria Chernukha I would start "pausing" when your little one is around 9 -10 months of age as this is when they usually start to use gestures (pointing, looking in the direction of the item, grunting/babbling) to communicate.
@@EmmaHubbard thank you for replying! your videos really do help 🧡
For premature babies, does this apply for their corrected or actual age? TIA
Any tips on an almost four month old baby who cannot sleep at night unless he’s swaddled? (:
This is interesting to me, having grown up in a home with narcissistic abuse back in a time when we did not have the internet and this personality disorder and its generational formation with lack of communication due to neglect or interaction with parent's faces was known or known as well as it is now. Is there or has there been developed a study of infants and toddlers and the percentage of data of such a young age group: those who were raised in narcissistic families vs those who follow your advice here for healthy communication to be taught early on. I am curious since so many currently in their early 20s even ...after college have little to zero communication skills in the workplace. What happened?
My 3yo screams to show anger & frustration 🤣
How to calm my baby crying for things she is two years, I work every day hardly get time at home with her. How should I get a quality time with her?
My 16 month old doesn’t have a ton of words yet, but she can sign really well. She still yells at me all day for things. I do pause and wait for her to communicate what she’s needing, however it doesn’t prevent her from yelling about everything. Is this normal until she has more ability to communicate?
Trying to reduce screaming, but when we pause, he screams to communicate. I think we'll need to try another approach.
What about toddlers (18mos) who seem to just like to scream for fun?
Any ideas for a 20 month old who is diagnosed with hypotonia. Yet to point but claps when you do. No words yet
This video which covered tips on communication strategies should help. ruclips.net/video/yksO0xiW9DY/видео.html. It would be important to model to your little one what words and gestures to use and also pick up on your little ones non verbal cues.
What about speech delayed toddlers? I'm not sure mine knows what I'm saying.
My baby girl is 9 months ❤️
Oh that's so exciting! This tip should work perfectly too!
Ooh I wish I'd have anticipated my firstborns needs less and done this instead. Now she's turning 3 and talks very much, full sentences, but can't quite communicate yet when she's upset, we have to keep guessing and sometimes "reset" the situations for her. Is it too soon for our almost 7 month old that we start pausing and let her communicate to us?
Hi @larba katariina, it sounds like your 3 year old is doing great. At 3 years of age it is extremely common for children to find it difficult to communicate when they are upset. This ie because their 'thinking' part of the brain switches off and they are using their 'emotional' part of the brain. As she gets older she will start to be able to communicate why she is upset but this does take a long time.
At 7 months of age it is a little too early to expect them to start using gestures but you can start modelling gestures when you talk to her, so that when she is ready to use gestures she knows what gestures to use. For example when she is at your feet and wants to be picked up, you would put your hands up in the air and say "up" and then pick her up. You could start pausing with mealtimes, and just place one piece of food on her plate and then when she has finished wait for her to look at you to request "more" and at this point you would say "more" and give her another piece of food. Hope that makes sense!
@@EmmaHubbard thanks so much! This is reassuring and helpful, will start the modeling and mealtime pausing for our youngest soon
I have 3 months old baby and he cries when he is hungry only when I put him down on the bed we always lay down to breastfeed. So he obviously connects the bed with food but is it normal to cry only then.
What do I do if my 8 month old is already throwing mini tantrums when he drops his toys or wants something? How do I correct this?
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thanks!
Could u pls make video on separation anxiety? My baby will turn on year on29june and after leave him slept on the bed, he woke up after half an hour and cry till i reachout to him. This happens since 4days. If he doesnot see me, he started crying. Could u pls help me?
It is really hard and distressing at times when our bubs become really clingy. I do have a video on this topic which you might find helpful. Here is the link in case you want to watch it. ruclips.net/video/8yXFyxgm09k/видео.html
@@EmmaHubbard thank u. Your videos are boon for me especially for a new mom like me .
What if toddler is screaming to get something which they shouldn't be touching?
my baby screams out loud and she wants me to carry her all the time. what should I do? she's only 5mons old
Not sure about no more screaming, my 2.5 year old screams all the time and I do all of these things 🤔 could it be that he’s just still really jealous of his new brother now 9 months old
How do we handle a tantrum already happening because we didn’t meet a need quickly enough?
In the moment of a tantrum it is too late to correct the concern but it is important to acknowledge your little one's emotions and then comfort them if needed or sit beside them until they have calmed back down. I would try and limit the amount of words that you are using but still be present with them. It is ok for your little one to get upset (although it makes us uncomfortable). Telling them to calm down, or stop doesn't work. Once they have calmed down, maybe a bit later in the day you can revisit the incident and talk about what you all could do next time.
Greay info but the Music is annoyingly intrusive.
What do we do if our toddler screams at our cats. He sees that they don't like it and I guess he finds that reaction very funny.. It is very hard to stop him screaming when he's in that scream crazy mode(
How do you teach a baby to come to you in a store? My baby thinks it’s a game that I chase after him.
teach them signs too
F-T-M how long do we need to pause when talking to them? 5 sec? 1m?
This one is not trying to speak or tell me what she wants. She simply screams. Screams all the time. Screams when things don’t go her way. Screams to get things she wants and we didn’t get her. Screams to get into another room she’s not supposed to be in. Screams because it’s bedtime. Screams because she woke up. Scream. Screams. Screams. I watched this particular video hoping to learn how to get her to not scream so much.
Why do these always seem so obvious when they're explained?
We are seeing total collapse of communication, because women are not patient enough anymore, nor they have time for that anymore, between one job second job at home.
My 22 month old still isn't communicating were waiting on a speech and language therapy appointment now 🥲
I hope you’re able to get the help your little one needs soon ❤️