I'm currently working through the lovely combination of low frustration tolerance, perfectionism, and basically re-learning how my brain works. I've come a long way, but this year with everything that's been going on, I feel like I've either stalled or I'm going backwards. I get frustrated with myself for not progressing as fast as I had been, and for not feeling as well as I had been. One thing that the people around me keep reminding me of is that I am miles ahead of where I used to be, and like you said, that progress can't be taken away, even if I get knocked back a bit. Thank you for discussing this with us, and I feel a lot more reassured that I'm going to be okay, and that I'll eventually make progress again.
I haven’t relapsed so much as I keep getting physically injured and ill. Feels like my body is betraying me every time I build up momentum on my health journey and it's really frustrating. Thank you for this little chat; I got some perspective if nothing else 💙
thank you rainy, i've been really frustrated lately and it's like you just know how to help🥺 i've been watching your videos for 2-3 years now and your audios always calm me down so thank you💙 much love from 🇸🇪
Relapse gang here. I end not finishing games that are frustrating, i would have given up way too early and I'm the same in life. This month was really low for me after seemingly getting better for a while so i was becoming negative and hateful and frustrated again. I appreciate and grateful for rainy Videos and now I'm gonna attempt to get out of bed 😅
my life is frustrating like this game.. idk i really need to vent rn every chance in my life where there was hope, life happens and the hope gets shattered and life just pulls the giant middle finger to me. i had so many dreams i thought would happen this year but i gone completely backwards and ended up in the worst case scenario ever imagined. Since i have no friends to comfort me, and nobody in my real life emotionally supports me, never caring about how i feel. my parents are the ones who kick me the hardest when im down. esspecially if i failed something and i feel hopeless. i give up on life and im at a dead end now im sharing my story of something that happened to me this year that had ruined me and messed me up mentally. I still cannot eat or sleep over this and i noticed i lost some weight. i failed my university entrance exam for my dream college becuse i didnt meet the requirements to enter into my Creative writing and English degree that id like to study. And whats even worse is that i have to repeat some modules i failed last yr at my old uni which is setting me back from transfering to my dream college. im stuck in my previous university having to do everything all over again. i really wish this was a dream but it's not, it's real life and im in despair. it had made me suicidal numerous times the previous course i did at my old uni was something i did not like because it was something that was not in the creative/artistic field. it was corporate things . my parents forced me to do it even though i didnt like it. seeing that i failed twice, i feel like im the most stupid, lazy, talentless, unimportant person in the world. My exam results just show that im incapable of doing anything right. my honesty towards my parents got me into hot water when i simply told them that they never support me emotionally, ever. my mother raged at me and she gestured to physically attacking me and i flinched. both parents hit the final nail in the coffin by saying very harsh things to me and telling me how much i am just a waste of their money, how they wished they had a different child, comparing me to my sucessful cousins, telling me ill be nobody in the future, and how much im a burden . my parents threatened to kick me out of the house and become homeless when it was raining and cold outside. my mother said to my face: "i will adopt and financially support a girl who is more academically better than you and i will kick you out my house, you f*cking ungrateful lazy fool." while my dad nodded his head and even smirked and he also said some cruel stuff to me while justifying my mother's abuse. then my father goes as far as to bring up my mother's achievements to compare me to her and tell me that i had absolutely achieved nothing while she got many degrees. He mocked me. and that made me go like "WHY BOTHER??" screw school and all this education crap!!!!! my parents give me so much stress and pressure over this stuff. and i cannot stand how much i was told countless times by my parents that i will never amount to anything and that i would be spending my life "flipping burgers at macdonalds" or cleaning people's houses simply because of my mistakes and failures. how is this encouraging really??. are they really not happy with themselves that they have to tear me apart at every opportunity when i needed support the most and project their insecurities onto me,?? And i ask myself why am i obligated to love these people who i did not choose to be born to? And i swear i will never choose them over my dead body, even if i had the opportunity to choose my parents. i literally will never be good enough, ever. im sick of my parents and i dnt need and want their validation anymore. in 2021 when i did grade 12, because i did not meet the academic requirements in for my course i would like to study in, i was requested to take an entrance exam at my dream college so that i can get access to the degree. I felt so confident and hopeful that i would at least pass it with a good mark seeming as it had an English test and i am good in English. Plus i did an interview at the end as well as some psychometric test. I get a message from the university saying that i failed my exam because i did not meet the requirements, and my dream university rejected me and all my faith is shattered. And i can't get over the years of harsh treatment from my parents when i do any mistakes and mess up. they expect me to be some talented A+ student who plays the violin and gets many awards and scholarships. i see myself and think ill never be as competent or smart or talented or anything compared to them thats all i need to say i cnt take the things my life throws at me. this was a really long comment tho
This was very insightful, thank you, Rainy! I think it's wonderful that you brought this game into the discussion, it's so apt! It was very eye-opening to realise that "cauldron progress" (I don't know how else to refer to it) and "player progress" were different, and that though the former may be ephemeral, the latter remains with us and doesn't go away. It's comforting, somewhat. Also, it's wonderful that you re-framed frustration from a feeling that does nothing but bring discomfort into a feeling that signals to us that there is something we need to change with our approach. It's something that I've had to remind myself of very often. This is the most lighthearted and relaxing gameplay of "Getting Over It" I have ever seen in my life! I get that your focus was on teaching us about failure and frustration, but still, amazing. Thank you so much for the video! Hope you have a great day!
As someone whos been struggling with frequent relapses since quarantine started, this video was definitely appreciated! Really helps clear my head about a lot of whats been going on :) Another fantastically nice video, rainy ^^
I'm really glad! Relapse is common in stressful situations, and this is an unprecedented stressful time for many people. When our ability to cope is challenged, we're likely to default back to unhealthy coping mechanisms in our desperation. We can learn more about how we respond to stress, the kind of things that increases our risk (certain people around us, things that remind or trigger us, things that make it easier to relapse, lack of routine or supports) and the kind of things that help us resist or recover. We can try new strategies and identify what works and what doesn't, what we may need to be different. Even though you may experience setbacks with your mountain progress, you're still increasing your player progress and that doesn't go away.
I truly enjoyed this one and I feel like I learned something I needed . With what I'm going through this was the first place I felt safe enough to be vulnerable in and listening to this episode made me feel validated and whole again. Thank you so much.
Thanks! I had a frustrating day, but your lovely video (okay, a bit silly because of the game) made my day :) I guess from now on whenever I fail (again), I will remember this game and won't feel too bad then.
Glad to see you're doing better! We are proud of you for pushing through things, and making it out of them, even if it's difficult to do so. I needed this a lot tonight! It was a nice way to mentally ground myself. 😊
Whilst I have an audio for that, I think it's probably better to view that more realistically. A "good" or "bad" person is a very black and white view. We're all mixtures of virtues and vices, good and bad, strengths and weaknesses. We have goodness in us, we can do good things, we can try to live life in accordance with our values and be the kind of person we want to be. You're not sitting comfortably in the "good person" box, much as you'd like to be, but you're also not stuck in the "bad person" box. You're just a person, and you're trying to be the best person you can be. That's all anyone can really do or be. You aren't static or fixed, you can change and grow, and you're doing that all the time. You can try to steer your growth towards what you consider to be "good" areas, areas that are in line with your values, and course correct when you notice yourself (or your values) shifting.
That was such a nice Video to drink my morning tea to :) I'm really glad that i got to hear a different view on "failing" since it usually has a negative connotation. I'm gonna try to look at relapsing differently from now on and not beat myself up about it so much! Thank you for that, i really appreciate it. Also, as someone, whose first language isn't english: Is "loosey-goosey" actually an expression or did you just make that up? xD
can you please do a series of you trying to beat this game please? i would love to see the usual calm voice yourself go FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU. Sorry rainy but im too sadistic to not want to see that xD
Rainy!!, You're So Wonderful, you put so much effort into videos and omg you're so cool, If I could, I would hug you, okay I will stop fan boying, love ya 💞✌
I thought this was the only asmr channel that I could depend on for not having curse words but i just heard two and now I am devastated. I know it's the norm that everyone curses and swears but i wasn't raised to do so and i feel weird when I hear it. I guess I really don't fit in with anyone. What misery.
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When I saw the thumbnail I immediately though "oh no". The most soothing voice ever experiencing one of the most infuriating games I've ever seen.
My exact same thoughts 😂
*Scared for rainy-day’s sanity*
two seconds in, realised the game, and I'm worried
Rainy you have are so kind hearted its unreal 🥺 we must protect you at all costs .
I'm currently working through the lovely combination of low frustration tolerance, perfectionism, and basically re-learning how my brain works. I've come a long way, but this year with everything that's been going on, I feel like I've either stalled or I'm going backwards. I get frustrated with myself for not progressing as fast as I had been, and for not feeling as well as I had been. One thing that the people around me keep reminding me of is that I am miles ahead of where I used to be, and like you said, that progress can't be taken away, even if I get knocked back a bit. Thank you for discussing this with us, and I feel a lot more reassured that I'm going to be okay, and that I'll eventually make progress again.
I love listening to these long videos while art journalling & stuff. thank you for making them!
Thanks Rainy. I hope everything is going to be okay.
I haven’t relapsed so much as I keep getting physically injured and ill. Feels like my body is betraying me every time I build up momentum on my health journey and it's really frustrating. Thank you for this little chat; I got some perspective if nothing else 💙
This was super calming and really helped me understand and be okay with my failures and relapses. ❤️🌧 sometimes we need a little rain to grow
thank you rainy, i've been really frustrated lately and it's like you just know how to help🥺 i've been watching your videos for 2-3 years now and your audios always calm me down so thank you💙 much love from 🇸🇪
Thank you for creating this video. Your voice is so calming and relaxing to listen to. I'm grateful for the lessons you've shared. Thanks again
Relapse gang here. I end not finishing games that are frustrating, i would have given up way too early and I'm the same in life. This month was really low for me after seemingly getting better for a while so i was becoming negative and hateful and frustrated again. I appreciate and grateful for rainy Videos and now I'm gonna attempt to get out of bed 😅
😬 I'm just going to continue watching and comenting on Rainy's videos because its nice receiving ❤
I love your initial explanation. I need to listen to it a few more times.
my life is frustrating like this game..
idk i really need to vent rn
every chance in my life where there was hope, life happens and the hope gets shattered and life just pulls the giant middle finger to me. i had so many dreams i thought would happen this year but i gone completely backwards and ended up in the worst case scenario ever imagined. Since i have no friends to comfort me, and nobody in my real life emotionally supports me, never caring about how i feel. my parents are the ones who kick me the hardest when im down. esspecially if i failed something and i feel hopeless. i give up on life and im at a dead end now
im sharing my story of something that happened to me this year that had ruined me and messed me up mentally. I still cannot eat or sleep over this and i noticed i lost some weight.
i failed my university entrance exam for my dream college becuse i didnt meet the requirements to enter into my Creative writing and English degree that id like to study. And whats even worse is that i have to repeat some modules i failed last yr at my old uni which is setting me back from transfering to my dream college. im stuck in my previous university having to do everything all over again. i really wish this was a dream but it's not, it's real life and im in despair. it had made me suicidal numerous times
the previous course i did at my old uni was something i did not like because it was something that was not in the creative/artistic field. it was corporate things . my parents forced me to do it even though i didnt like it.
seeing that i failed twice, i feel like im the most stupid, lazy, talentless, unimportant person in the world. My exam results just show that im incapable of doing anything right. my honesty towards my parents got me into hot water when i simply told them that they never support me emotionally, ever. my mother raged at me and she gestured to physically attacking me and i flinched. both parents hit the final nail in the coffin by saying very harsh things to me and telling me how much i am just a waste of their money, how they wished they had a different child, comparing me to my sucessful cousins, telling me ill be nobody in the future, and how much im a burden . my parents threatened to kick me out of the house and become homeless when it was raining and cold outside. my mother said to my face: "i will adopt and financially support a girl who is more academically better than you and i will kick you out my house, you f*cking ungrateful lazy fool." while my dad nodded his head and even smirked and he also said some cruel stuff to me while justifying my mother's abuse. then my father goes as far as to bring up my mother's achievements to compare me to her and tell me that i had absolutely achieved nothing while she got many degrees. He mocked me. and that made me go like "WHY BOTHER??" screw school and all this education crap!!!!! my parents give me so much stress and pressure over this stuff. and i cannot stand how much i was told countless times by my parents that i will never amount to anything and that i would be spending my life "flipping burgers at macdonalds" or cleaning people's houses simply because of my mistakes and failures. how is this encouraging really??. are they really not happy with themselves that they have to tear me apart at every opportunity when i needed support the most and project their insecurities onto me,??
And i ask myself why am i obligated to love these people who i did not choose to be born to? And i swear i will never choose them over my dead body, even if i had the opportunity to choose my parents.
i literally will never be good enough, ever. im sick of my parents and i dnt need and want their validation anymore.
in 2021 when i did grade 12, because i did not meet the academic requirements in for my course i would like to study in, i was requested to take an entrance exam at my dream college so that i can get access to the degree. I felt so confident and hopeful that i would at least pass it with a good mark seeming as it had an English test and i am good in English. Plus i did an interview at the end as well as some psychometric test. I get a message from the university saying that i failed my exam because i did not meet the requirements, and my dream university rejected me and all my faith is shattered. And i can't get over the years of harsh treatment from my parents when i do any mistakes and mess up. they expect me to be some talented A+ student who plays the violin and gets many awards and scholarships. i see myself and think ill never be as competent or smart or talented or anything compared to them
thats all i need to say i cnt take the things my life throws at me. this was a really long comment tho
I am so sorry 😞 I hope you have had some better days since you wrote this 💙
This was very insightful, thank you, Rainy! I think it's wonderful that you brought this game into the discussion, it's so apt! It was very eye-opening to realise that "cauldron progress" (I don't know how else to refer to it) and "player progress" were different, and that though the former may be ephemeral, the latter remains with us and doesn't go away. It's comforting, somewhat. Also, it's wonderful that you re-framed frustration from a feeling that does nothing but bring discomfort into a feeling that signals to us that there is something we need to change with our approach. It's something that I've had to remind myself of very often.
This is the most lighthearted and relaxing gameplay of "Getting Over It" I have ever seen in my life! I get that your focus was on teaching us about failure and frustration, but still, amazing. Thank you so much for the video! Hope you have a great day!
Thank you, I'm really glad you found it so helpful!
i saw the thumbnail and audibly went "oh fuck,,,"
As someone whos been struggling with frequent relapses since quarantine started, this video was definitely appreciated! Really helps clear my head about a lot of whats been going on :) Another fantastically nice video, rainy ^^
I'm really glad! Relapse is common in stressful situations, and this is an unprecedented stressful time for many people. When our ability to cope is challenged, we're likely to default back to unhealthy coping mechanisms in our desperation. We can learn more about how we respond to stress, the kind of things that increases our risk (certain people around us, things that remind or trigger us, things that make it easier to relapse, lack of routine or supports) and the kind of things that help us resist or recover. We can try new strategies and identify what works and what doesn't, what we may need to be different. Even though you may experience setbacks with your mountain progress, you're still increasing your player progress and that doesn't go away.
I truly enjoyed this one and I feel like I learned something I needed . With what I'm going through this was the first place I felt safe enough to be vulnerable in and listening to this episode made me feel validated and whole again. Thank you so much.
Thanks! It's been 3 years we miss you sm hope you're doing well
Thanks! I had a frustrating day, but your lovely video (okay, a bit silly because of the game) made my day :) I guess from now on whenever I fail (again), I will remember this game and won't feel too bad then.
Glad to see you're doing better! We are proud of you for pushing through things, and making it out of them, even if it's difficult to do so. I needed this a lot tonight! It was a nice way to mentally ground myself. 😊
Nice job, thanks for posting this educational audio Rainy, it was very interesting and informative.
Thank you. X
Much love from 🇬🇧 🇦🇺🇬🇧 🇦🇺🇬🇧
One of the problems I’ve had is questioning if I’m actually a good person.
Whilst I have an audio for that, I think it's probably better to view that more realistically. A "good" or "bad" person is a very black and white view. We're all mixtures of virtues and vices, good and bad, strengths and weaknesses. We have goodness in us, we can do good things, we can try to live life in accordance with our values and be the kind of person we want to be. You're not sitting comfortably in the "good person" box, much as you'd like to be, but you're also not stuck in the "bad person" box. You're just a person, and you're trying to be the best person you can be. That's all anyone can really do or be. You aren't static or fixed, you can change and grow, and you're doing that all the time. You can try to steer your growth towards what you consider to be "good" areas, areas that are in line with your values, and course correct when you notice yourself (or your values) shifting.
Rainy Day Audios thank you
That was such a nice Video to drink my morning tea to :) I'm really glad that i got to hear a different view on "failing" since it usually has a negative connotation. I'm gonna try to look at relapsing differently from now on and not beat myself up about it so much! Thank you for that, i really appreciate it.
Also, as someone, whose first language isn't english: Is "loosey-goosey" actually an expression or did you just make that up? xD
Loosey-goosey is a slang term, yep! It means imprecise, disorganized, or excessively relaxed.
Actually, much of what you're describing, is the true point of this game :) .
can you please do a series of you trying to beat this game please? i would love to see the usual calm voice yourself go FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU. Sorry rainy but im too sadistic to not want to see that xD
Um I think this might be a dumb question but do u sell merch like hoodies cause I would love to buy one
Not a dumb question at all! I don't have any merch at the moment, but I'm open to making some if people would want it.
@@rainydayaudios7754 I would definitely buy a beanie or hoodie that says "hello my little rain clouds", or anything that you wanted to create :)
Rainy!!, You're So Wonderful, you put so much effort into videos and omg you're so cool, If I could, I would hug you, okay I will stop fan boying, love ya 💞✌
I love failing :)
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*Markiplier sees title screen*
0:02
*Markiplier ptsd occurs*
I know it's a common topic to joke about, but PTSD is actually quite serious and something that likely affects a lot of rainclouds.
Rainy Day Audios I understand. I have it myself, I know that type of humor isn’t everyones. Sorry about offending you apparently.
I thought this was the only asmr channel that I could depend on for not having curse words but i just heard two and now I am devastated. I know it's the norm that everyone curses and swears but i wasn't raised to do so and i feel weird when I hear it. I guess I really don't fit in with anyone. What misery.