Yesss I feel this in so many ways! For all of the sociable things you mentioned, and I know colleagues who have gotten covid bc they were people-pleasing and wanted to make their doctor feel more comfortable (???) by not wearing a mask at their appointment. Their doctors weren't masked. That was a big wake-up call of how badly I needed to work through my people-pleasing lol shoutout to our therapists doing the good work 🥺
@@as-ri5hf Medical settings have been particularly frustrating to deal with, as you’d think they’d be the best about being vigilant with COVID precautions 💀 But yeah can’t relate to wanting to make my doc comfortable haha, I wear a mask to all of my appts. And yes LOVE my therapist haha.
Recovering people pleaser here! I appreciate you sharing this! I find myself struggling with this too! Being Covid Conscious is increasingly more challenging lately, but I find if I frame it in a way to others explaining that I need to protect my health and healing trajectory from Long Covid, people tend to be understanding. (Am I still people pleasing here? Lol) I still have loads of anxiety bringing that up every time though!
@@lesaschultz yeah I definitely feel you on that! And I think that’s moreso stating your needs, which is exactly what people like us need to be doing more haha. Still stressful nonetheless, but I’m finding it gets easier every time 😊
I think it's interesting hearing more about people pleasing and just how it's unfortunately a successful coping method because I think most of the population by default... are raised to be people pleasers and that's why society has gotten to where it's at today 💭💭 don't have much else to add to this bc working rn but yeah interesting to think about I think! Thanks for sharing 🙏
Thanks for watching! I definitely agree, a lot of us have been primed for this behavior, which often ends up being self-sabotaging and leads to so many other issues.
Hey I just found your videos and really dig the format and the subject matter! Commenting here cause I've been drawn to stuff about people pleasing (and apartment tours lmao) since that's something I'm also working on, and I read a book recently called Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents that called me out on it hardcore- it's mostly about parental relationships but it covers a lot of the social avenues where those instinctual people pleaser tendencies get instilled and reinforced, like religion! It also gets waaaayyy deep into the types of interpersonal and self worth issues that come from internalizing a "pleasing" role in life and relationships, which I've found an especially sinister combo with the perceived need for masking as a neurodivergent person too.... it doesn't solve everything but omg! eye opener! anyway i dig the yap sessions and social awareness, keep em up!!
Oo yeah imma need to look into that bc that sounds like my childhood in a nutshell lmaoo. Thanks for giving my channel a shot! The yaps will def keep comin, lord knows I know how to yap hahaha.
Thank you for discussing Covid 🫶🫶🫶
Yesss I feel this in so many ways! For all of the sociable things you mentioned, and I know colleagues who have gotten covid bc they were people-pleasing and wanted to make their doctor feel more comfortable (???) by not wearing a mask at their appointment. Their doctors weren't masked. That was a big wake-up call of how badly I needed to work through my people-pleasing lol
shoutout to our therapists doing the good work 🥺
@@as-ri5hf Medical settings have been particularly frustrating to deal with, as you’d think they’d be the best about being vigilant with COVID precautions 💀 But yeah can’t relate to wanting to make my doc comfortable haha, I wear a mask to all of my appts. And yes LOVE my therapist haha.
Recovering people pleaser here! I appreciate you sharing this! I find myself struggling with this too! Being Covid Conscious is increasingly more challenging lately, but I find if I frame it in a way to others explaining that I need to protect my health and healing trajectory from Long Covid, people tend to be understanding. (Am I still people pleasing here? Lol) I still have loads of anxiety bringing that up every time though!
@@lesaschultz yeah I definitely feel you on that! And I think that’s moreso stating your needs, which is exactly what people like us need to be doing more haha. Still stressful nonetheless, but I’m finding it gets easier every time 😊
I think it's interesting hearing more about people pleasing and just how it's unfortunately a successful coping method because I think most of the population by default... are raised to be people pleasers and that's why society has gotten to where it's at today 💭💭 don't have much else to add to this bc working rn but yeah interesting to think about I think! Thanks for sharing 🙏
Thanks for watching! I definitely agree, a lot of us have been primed for this behavior, which often ends up being self-sabotaging and leads to so many other issues.
Hey I just found your videos and really dig the format and the subject matter! Commenting here cause I've been drawn to stuff about people pleasing (and apartment tours lmao) since that's something I'm also working on, and I read a book recently called Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents that called me out on it hardcore- it's mostly about parental relationships but it covers a lot of the social avenues where those instinctual people pleaser tendencies get instilled and reinforced, like religion! It also gets waaaayyy deep into the types of interpersonal and self worth issues that come from internalizing a "pleasing" role in life and relationships, which I've found an especially sinister combo with the perceived need for masking as a neurodivergent person too.... it doesn't solve everything but omg! eye opener!
anyway i dig the yap sessions and social awareness, keep em up!!
Oo yeah imma need to look into that bc that sounds like my childhood in a nutshell lmaoo. Thanks for giving my channel a shot! The yaps will def keep comin, lord knows I know how to yap hahaha.